I had absolutely no skills for entering adult life. Both parents were addicts and both had cluster B disorders. All I knew was how to survive toxicity. So of course I chose badly in all types of relationships. I get a lot out of your videos, I can sense you've been there done that. I am so glad you are here on youtube with an important message from your own experience. I respect Gabor Mate and his message too. I thank you.🦋
You are so awesome! Your knowledge insights me. Validates me. Empowers me. Your direct approach to delivering information is totally fine. I don't feel demeaned, criticized or insulted. I feel informed & hopeful. Thank You!
Staying in an unhealthy relationship will keep you from discovering your true path in life. We have to make healthy choices to walk away not only to save us from heartache, but also to protect our emotional and mental health. 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
You're absolutely right, Kenny. It all begins in childhood. However, I don't think we can blame ourselves for not knowing any better, when we were making mistakes. As you say, we acted on what we were taught. Personally, I didn't know that there was anything available to learn, other than what I was exposed to. Possibly, as for you, through growth, time, & experience, I discovered alternative methods of behaviors to apply to all relationships. Your language is perfectly appropriate, but I commend you for wanting to improve. God bless you & thank you for your very informative & helpful videos.
I’m so grateful for your videos, I no longer have my parents but I became a parent at an older age 43 and I’m going do my best to change the old school ways for my daughter she has a voice and is aloud to feel her feelings, I ask her questions and she’s allowed to ask me questions Your videos have helped me to be a better person to myself and my daughter ❤️
It really is unfortunate. But that's also the reason why I teach my own classes on how to master one's worst day cycles. thegreatnessu.com/p/the-complete-emotional-mastery-method
Thank you for these videos Kenny! I am confused about one thing though. I was wondering where is the line when it comes to a partner not continuing to cross boundaries after they have been spoken a few times already and they have said they won’t do it again? What if it makes me feel unsafe? Whether that be verbally/physically? In comparison to your partner shouldnt need to meet all your needs and thats ok and reasonable?
For example, “they should know already?” Like you mentioned, it’s understandable that they don’t all the time. But I was wondering where is the line for the other partner saying no, quit it, and I’m holding you responsible that if you do this again, this relationship won’t continue… and therefore would be reasonable?
Great question. Everyone gets to decide their own limit and boundary. I know for me if I have spoken to somebody twice about their abusive behavior and they do it a third time. I leave the relationship. In my world if I stay after that, then I’m responsible for choosing to allow myself to be around abusive people. In other words, I accept their behavior and ignore their words. Instead of arguing with them and trying to change them and not accepting the truth of how their behavior has shown me who they are. In my world, when their actions are abusive and continually abusive, if I stay, I’m responsible. Therefore, I choose to leave.
@@kennyweiss oh ok thank you so much Kenny for taking the time to explain this to me. So in the video when you refer to “they should know already,” this would be for normal things in relationships that aren’t abusive in zero way?
@@KieraKavi97 Thesituation you’re describing is different. If we keep asking for a partner to support us in some wayand they choose not to then it’s our job to meet that need ourselves or find a partner who likes to meet that need. The final option is just to recognize it doesn’t matter to them, but it matters to us and therefore it’s our job to continually ask and make the request but recognize they get to say no. Just because it matters to us doesn’t mean it has to matter to them. They get to decide if they want it to matter to them. If we feel that it’s very important to us and want a partner who believes the same thing then we need to pick a partner who shares the same belief. Obviously you have a partner who has a different belief, so you either accept them for who they are or find a different partner who shares your belief .
@@kennyweiss oh ok I understand. Thank you Kenny. So even if my partner says this is not who he is and has reacted and doesnt want to react anymore and wants to be a healthier man, feels regretful, cries so much, does the work but then reacts again weeks later, that means thats a person that won’t be healing like he claims he will anytime soon?
I had absolutely no skills for entering adult life. Both parents were addicts and both had cluster B disorders.
All I knew was how to survive toxicity. So of course I chose badly in all types of relationships. I get a lot out of your videos, I can sense you've been there done that. I am so glad you are here on youtube with an important message from your own experience. I respect Gabor Mate and his message too. I thank you.🦋
I’m sad you had to experience that but happy to hear that my videos are helping you
You are so awesome!
Your knowledge insights me. Validates me. Empowers me.
Your direct approach to delivering information is totally fine.
I don't feel demeaned, criticized or insulted.
I feel informed & hopeful.
Thank You!
Staying in an unhealthy relationship will keep you from discovering your true path in life. We have to make healthy choices to walk away not only to save us from heartache, but also to protect our emotional and mental health.
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
You're absolutely right, Kenny. It all begins in childhood. However, I don't think we can blame ourselves for not knowing any better, when we were making mistakes. As you say, we acted on what we were taught. Personally, I didn't know that there was anything available to learn, other than what I was exposed to. Possibly, as for you, through growth, time, & experience, I discovered alternative methods of behaviors to apply to all relationships. Your language is perfectly appropriate, but I commend you for wanting to improve. God bless you & thank you for your very informative & helpful videos.
You are very honest and speak truth! No you are doing a good job. Thanks!-
Thank You . I appreciate all of this.
You are so welcome
I’m so grateful for your videos, I no longer have my parents but I became a parent at an older age 43 and I’m going do my best to change the old school ways for my daughter she has a voice and is aloud to feel her feelings, I ask her questions and she’s allowed to ask me questions Your videos have helped me to be a better person to myself and my daughter ❤️
I’m so happy to hear that. Thank you
I wish they taught this in schools..
Most people don't have a clue.
It really is unfortunate. But that's also the reason why I teach my own classes on how to master one's worst day cycles. thegreatnessu.com/p/the-complete-emotional-mastery-method
You’re the greatest Kenny.
Perfectly said
Absolutely!
Thank you for these videos Kenny! I am confused about one thing though. I was wondering where is the line when it comes to a partner not continuing to cross boundaries after they have been spoken a few times already and they have said they won’t do it again? What if it makes me feel unsafe? Whether that be verbally/physically? In comparison to your partner shouldnt need to meet all your needs and thats ok and reasonable?
For example, “they should know already?” Like you mentioned, it’s understandable that they don’t all the time. But I was wondering where is the line for the other partner saying no, quit it, and I’m holding you responsible that if you do this again, this relationship won’t continue… and therefore would be reasonable?
Great question. Everyone gets to decide their own limit and boundary. I know for me if I have spoken to somebody twice about their abusive behavior and they do it a third time. I leave the relationship.
In my world if I stay after that, then I’m responsible for choosing to allow myself to be around abusive people.
In other words, I accept their behavior and ignore their words. Instead of arguing with them and trying to change them and not accepting the truth of how their behavior has shown me who they are.
In my world, when their actions are abusive and continually abusive, if I stay, I’m responsible. Therefore, I choose to leave.
@@kennyweiss oh ok thank you so much Kenny for taking the time to explain this to me. So in the video when you refer to “they should know already,” this would be for normal things in relationships that aren’t abusive in zero way?
@@KieraKavi97
Thesituation you’re describing is different. If we keep asking for a partner to support us in some wayand they choose not to then it’s our job to meet that need ourselves or find a partner who likes to meet that need.
The final option is just to recognize it doesn’t matter to them, but it matters to us and therefore it’s our job to continually ask and make the request but recognize they get to say no.
Just because it matters to us doesn’t mean it has to matter to them. They get to decide if they want it to matter to them.
If we feel that it’s very important to us and want a partner who believes the same thing then we need to pick a partner who shares the same belief.
Obviously you have a partner who has a different belief, so you either accept them for who they are or find a different partner who shares your belief .
@@kennyweiss oh ok I understand. Thank you Kenny. So even if my partner says this is not who he is and has reacted and doesnt want to react anymore and wants to be a healthier man, feels regretful, cries so much, does the work but then reacts again weeks later, that means thats a person that won’t be healing like he claims he will anytime soon?
Amen
Lol @ serial killer