Jordan Peterson: Have Your Child Socialized at 4 Years Old
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- Опубліковано 28 гру 2019
- Original source: • 2017 Personality 17: ...
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As well as his book: 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos
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All those lockdown children are gonna be fun to be around some day 🙃
Oh.....oh no!
True!
yeah but they all have the same problem so there's no gap
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This is a particularly valuable lesson that any parent of small children should listen to.
I wasn’t socialized properly at 4 and now I lack social skills. Thanks mom and dad
As Stefan Molyneux has said " take a little time to mourn the loss, and move on" (in the sense of overcoming that weakness)
Im with ya. My parents aren't social and Im an only child so I never got socialized with other kids, my parents were super protective. I still struggle with communication and socialization issues as an adult.
Now that you've identified the problem (your lack of social skills), you can work on it and practice.
Not a good idea might dislocated your optic nerve. There's lots of time. Grade 4. Socialize with them at 4.
I was the kid that would get into fights, and the teachers would have me sit with them away from other kids. This lesson has taught me a good bit about why I don't fit in anywhere.
I'm trying to figure out if I was probably socialised as a kid, or cause I've isolated myself for my entire life
I was socialised teriibly, many adults hated me when i was a child. Answers a lot of things.
Fuck, now i literally remember when i was young my parents never taught me anything about being friendly, having friends, so i just would be quiet
I was literally awkard when i was 6 years old bro
The first time I saw other children was in school when I was 6... I always played alone. Now I am a 29 year old virgin
Welcome to the club...
I see this clearly in inclusive public schools at all levels. Poorly socialized kids are simply left in the social dust. They are nearly always disagreeable toward pretty well everyone and everything. No such thing as bad kids, just bad parents.
Disagree. Budding psychopaths are a thing, and can be identified via brain scan as early as the age of three. Yes, most monsters are made by horrible parents, but there are a rare few who are literally born evil.
Not true.
Would love to see him talk about this in regards to autistic children.
Great comment. I actually find it really hard to watch this video as he is basically saying if they are not socially accepted at the age of 4, they are in trouble.
Autism and other developmental delays are not conducive to this. I’m a fan of Peterson but like a lot of his theories they are based on best case scenario’s what about challenged children, there is no allowance given here for delays and this sort of message is dangerous to parents going through that journey as you basically beat yourself up for not being able to reach this unrealistic goal.
@@darkmatter7301 I agree.. When I first heard this message in my mid 20s I was discouraged. Found out a few years later that I am Autistic and that helped me get back up... Not sure how to navigate this now that my daughter is reaching 4 years old.
Wow.... Ok I will try this tomorrow morning. Thank you
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I'm 22 and lately with lectures like this I've been getting some wild revelations on why I was an outcast my entire life. My parents haven't bothered to socialize me which puts everything into perspective. I also like how he says that you are always way behind other peers and always playing a catch up game. Life gets its meaning from strong relationships with other people, but what if you can't make those relationships at all due to falling extremely behind? Subjectively and objectively I honestly don't see my life as something that is worth living.
As much as our culture would have us think we are disposable & replaceable, we are not. Each individual human life has immeasurable value. You cannot tell your future. History proves that people cannot declare that because their life has gone such & such a way, that their future will follow in that same way. It is arrogant for you to make such a declaration. People failed you. That sucks. Now what? Look back only for the brief purpose of identifying something you may need to change. If you are grown, it is all up to you now. There is more information available at our fingertips than ever before.
Forgive others. Forgive yourself if needed. Put cushions & helps in place for yourself in areas you are weakest. Go forward. Work hard. Rest well. When you fall (and you will fall) get up and move forward one foot in front of the other.
Typically most parents try their best for their children but you must understand they are also adults with other responsibilities. Also, they may not know what exactly a child need. Each child have their own personality too. There are many variables so it is impossible to get it 100% correct.
For my own experience, as a child I live through poverty, my parents value education, as long as I am in school and not hungry, to them, things are fine. I never experienced hunger because of my parents sacrifices. They would be hungry before the kids. Yes, they did not socialize me because they were working hard to bring food to the table. Yes, my life would be more successful if I have the social skill in my early year. But overal, I am a college graduate with very stable job that pay well so I do not have to worry about the next meal. They did well overall as parents. Maybe look at all the things they did for you instead of 1 thing you think they did wrong. Try improving your social skill. You are still young and can learn.
When you are a kid you think your parents are the most powerful people in the world then you grow up and realise they are just people, people who make mistakes nobody knows everything we all have our own disfunctions
How you doing these days?
@@raisingarrows2321 very poorly
Learning so much Especially being a first generation American !
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I haven't been socialized before 4 due to my parents being afraid I'd die due to the big head. My social life sucks. I just can't socialize properly. Can anything be done about it?
Very insightful. I have a 7yr old cousin who is a mess. Whenever he comes visiting we lock our doors
Don't be rude to him for God sake, atleast try to make his dad realise about what needs to be done,
@@MrRrrr698 and tell them what? How to raise their kid? That if the kid demands for things and bosses them around they should put they foot down? Bruh how you think that’s gonna go
@@jayaseto what's the other option then🤔?? , Atleast telling the truth no matter how hard it is you have saved a little soul from getting destroyed, atleast advise them to take him to a child psychologist or counsellor, he's still a kid atleast something can be done .
@@MrRrrr698 I am sorry brother. This I am not getting involved. My conscious is clear. & wisdom dictates when my advice would bear no fruit.
@@jayaseto okay as you wish , nothing bad but you could've saved a little soul.
Are siblings enough for socializing?
No, because they are family.
I don’t think so bcuz I have like 7 siblings and I’m still sorta anti social among my peer group. 🤦🏽♀️
No enough, can help you talk with kids your own age. I barley and very rarely interacted with kids my own age cause I was an only child.
Pee on other children he likes it
No a big No. I'm the current example of it
Where can I listen/watch the full lecture?
Yes
I wasnt properly socialize by my parents when i was younger and i dont want mh kids to go through the same stuff i had to i had to learn how to socialize on my own and lord knows im still learning
Don't have kids until you are absolutely sure you've developed into something that our society seems as normal. If you don't fix your own stuff and deal with your traumas you will pass all of that onto your kids who will have an absolute miserable life.
You can always adopt a kid
I’m sorry to hear that
6:07 Child socialization over the stages of development.
My 2,5 year old is really well behaved and to be honest, I have no idea what I did well 😁
Adderall saved my life at 34 years old but wish I could have prevented it at 4
He just funking described my cause of being antisocial 😳😳😳😳, he just described my childhood, he just described my relationship with my father 😳😳
Well, this explains a lot about my past. Guess I'm just going to live life in my terms. If other people don't like it, they can send their complaints to the hometown of "the kid who drive their dad to kill himself." Forget the fact he died on Halloween during a fucking prank that I didn't learn about until I was in my 30. Never trust a human, just use them to get what you want.
So is there no hope?
Tell me if you found any answers 😅
@@MrRrrr698 There is none
@@CTC77 how?? And why??☹️☹️
This message doesn't offer much hope to a lot of people.. This was the most discouraging message I've ever heard from Petersen but I haven't lost hope
I am asking for an advice - I have a four year old and he is super anti social, and only wants his mother. What books, courses can anyone recommend that I can get him socialised after 4 years as well. Please advise!
1. Martial arts. Martial arts. Martial arts.
Forget about books. The atmosphere around martial arts is amazing for child development. Forget about the martial art itself, although I would pick something like boxing or jiu jitsu. What matters is the men and woman that kid will be around. The atmosphere of hard work, discipline, humility, and kindness. It will feel like a family after a while. Not only will the kid learn to defend themselves in school, but will also learn they don't have to fight either if they don't want to. Having a martial art makes you feel safe on your own without parents. Every kid should do martial arts. Every kid.
2. Kids wanting their mother at 4 years old is not uncommon, but don't let them do it. The kid is looking for safety and security, it's comfort. But allowing the kid to run to mommy to feel safe all the time is not correct. Put the kid in different situations where he is forced to socialize, and when he does something wrong, TALK to the kid about it and what they can do to improve, and have him do it again and again and again until he makes friends.
The only thing that matters is if the kid gets practice and if you're there to encourage him to practice and learn to play. The only way it fails is if you're not there. Ask me how I know.
Please force him to spend time with kids in his neighborhood ,in kindergarten school, with his cousins. Raise him to make friends. If you think his mother is being around him all the time let him break away from his mother's extra unnecessary infatuation with him. Remind him positively that friends and talking with kids his age is very necessary and important.
I salute you that you're taking time to treat your kid unlike others in the comments section who knows kids like him but don't want to help them and on top of that berating them like bullies. And everything will be fine
This video needs to be shown to disciplinary and punishment judicial and justice system for children and teen criminal behavior but let's be honest democrats won't use this method and would blame every system we have in place to dismantle and rebuild to """"""their liking """""""
At least In China we understand what needs to be done to get our children disciplined
There's great wisdom in what past ancestral teachings of children and youth say and are records of time
They want the world to remain in misery
This is complete bullshit. It does not take into consideration neurodivergent kids or different personalities. No, a child is not there to perform to make you happy or comfortable. How about we start having grown ups do this first.
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