No way this man is a life coach, a motivator. Absolutely not! He talks a whole lot but says very little. He makes zero sense and takes no accountability. This interview was cringeworthy. ‘I never made anyone feel uncomfortable.’ Dude, I’m uncomfortable now just watching this!
Right I think every woman and even a lot of men were uncomfortable just watching thru the screen. I know it was real bad actually having to be around him
Tommy irks me acting so exasperated with the women but he never has this energy for the men and their DANGEROUS antics of crossing sexual boundaries with women. Shame on Tommy and RTL!
This is why they continuously get away w/ it. Other men turn a blind eye or approve of it in private. It matters most only when they have daughters it seems.
Girl, he understood those questions. He has become so harden and uses all that “motivational” talk to avoid feeling or addressing it. It’s strategy at this point.
It is reprehensible, unethical , & unacceptable for the producers to compromise the safety of the ladies by requiring that they be alone at anytime with morally bankrupt and narcissist men like Lamar & several of the others on the show. Even if they did a horrible job at vetting the men, they had a considerable amount of time to observe their inappropriate sexual advances & blatant disrespect for them & their boundaries. Not only did they fail to protect them, they vilified those who did not tolerate their behavior.
I was just asking how this man made it through the interview process. 😭. They do not care about the black women safety. The Psyche test is there for a reason, and they just ignore all the red flags for ratings.
At this point, I’m convinced the RTL producers are only interested in creating entertaining television than helping people find true love. Like it’s crazy the people they have casted…as Lamar being one prime example
Ty!!!!!!!!…. This was excellent interview, but Lamar was not grasping the concept of the conversation.. he was definitely not ready to love or they chose him for TV
I completely agree. I seriously believe that he is showing some of the symptoms of psychosis like speaking incoherently & having delusions. He is so out of touch with reality that he almost appears to be experiencing a mental health crisis.
This interview was exhausting!!!! He took absolutely NO accountability for his disgusting, disrespectful behavior. Lamar truly has issues. Whatever his ex wife did to him really scared him! Women beware!!!!
Kojo you are so good at picking up on the tender subjects and the interviewees attempt to evade the feelings! Lamar was driving me nuts with the jumps, contradictions and evasions. I know ppl who always try to put a positive not on a negative truth. Single mom, sounds like she had multiple relationships, 14 schools, 2 marriages, dude you are so wounded so damn wounded!
He needs professional help ASAP, he’s all over the place. God bless him. He’s clearly unstable to the point where it’s borderline concerning and scary.
At the 41 minute mark --- this man is tragically unaware on so many levels, it's out of control. Kojo, you shared an incredibly touching story of how your time in Ghana made you feel and this fool comes back with a whole bunch of NOTHING in response yet says he is a motivational coach??? the math isn't mathing with Lamar.
I really wanted to understand him. He refuses. It’s not about pouring everything out it’s about open-ness. He’s trying to bury so much as himself that he just talks in circles. He can’t have a conversation without confusion.
I was listening to this interview like “yo, I’m listening to a true dyed in the wool mentally deficient person”. There were legit moments in this interview where I had no idea what he was saying. He was stringing English words together into a sentence but the sentences were totally incomprehensible. He showed himself to be a malcontent on the show and he proved it today on LBB.
When he said that he reads the room. 😒😒😒 He didn’t read the room when he was making all of those women uncomfortable. I wouldn’t be his lover OR his friend. I don’t even want to be around someone like him.
Being lonely is a state of mind. You can be in a room full of people and be lonely. You aren't alone but you are lonely. He thinks he's smarter than he is. He is a hot mess.
‘I’m a speaker and approach is very important.’ What??? Lamar please stop talking, spare us all! Take a moment to listen to yourself. Phew, the rambling, the ish!!!
Idk why, but I LOVED the dance intro. It was so cute to see you both dancing to it. I am unsure whether you, Kojo, do it with all RTL guests, but I truly appreciated it here.
Ain’t no way in the world he’s a life coach and youth coach because baby the way he was ducking and dodging accountability is insaneeeeee. Men like this get paid dust from me 😤
@@kingoftsedeq1392 I want to have a different outlook of this man. From what we’ve seen on the show and this interview what’s something good about him?
Raise of hands on how many people are COMFORTABLE when someone is being to aggressive… this man said I never made anyone uncomfortable 🤦🏾♀️this guy is WOW and that’s all have to say… KOJO I love when you laugh so hard it makes me crack up. Yes Lamar thought he could try and put that mask on and thought you wouldn’t see right through him. GREAT interview KOJO you definitely do it the best👏🏾🙌🏾❤️
Msg to Lamar: Please put your Ego aside..be open for Therapy and allow someone to coach/guide You. So you can Heal and Grow into the man that can be Loved mentally and spiritually. Blessings
Kodzo!! Bravo! Clearly Lamar isn’t opened to hearing perspectives that are different from his. Loved how you let him talk himself into ground at the end.
It’s crazy watching him because I have a brother that talks in a similar format [nonsense] & he’s also a Scorpio. This is SAD to watch🤦🏽♀️ Kojo was absolutely correct, this talking format is a Defense Mechanism
My apologies and very respectfully He must deal with a lot of women who have challenges with having standards in men . Can you imagine the conversations and fussing you would be subject to? .
He showed the world, that’s for sure. Perfect example of close your mouth and leave people wondering, open your mouth and remove all doubt. What an embarrassment.
I agree with the comments section…he talks in circles…however he also talks similarly to many (celebrity) men who think they’re dropping nuggets in the manosphere…so im not mad at just not taking anything seriously cause you can’t
This is my third and final comment…Lamar doesn’t listen to anyone but himself. Talking to hear himself talk, as they say. He thinks his “transparency” is refreshing but instead it’s crass and disrespectful. He doesn’t read the room well AT ALL! He doesn’t respond well to accountability AT ALL. I’m soooooooo glad he’s no longer on the show. Ladies hear me clearly…RUN from a man like this!
Things Lamar knows for sure: It is what it is. You hear what you hear. You see what you see. A man is a man. A woman is a woman. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Lamar 🙏🏾
I wonder if Lamar will be clearer on the reunion show. Maybe his frame of mind is distorted because he repeatedly referred to himself as a struggle baby.
when KOJO said he was weaponizing the truth i was like you nailed it....cause i appreciate the fact that his honest about his lifestyle but its as if his HURLING IT RIGHT AT YOU ANDGIVING YOU A CONCUSSION FOR IT...
Kojo was right! He knew exactly what he was doing on the show & he knew exactly what he was doing for this interview!! He knew the character to play and that’s why he didn’t want to go deep because his character would get exposed. So he just kept it in circles….clocked on!
The producers have a considerable amount of scenes that display the negative behaviors and inappropriate actions of Lamar & many of the other men on the show to create enough drama to hold the attention of the audience & to keep them entertained. After watching Kojo’s interview of Lamar, I am more convinced that the manner in which April, Koshiea, & Patricia was misrepresented & maligned was unjustified & shameful. Production focused on finding petty things to assassinate the character of the ladies. Based on the comments of many of the viewers that I have read, I am concerned that they have achieved success at vilifying and shaping their perceptions of them. This could be problematic for them because it could adversely affect their careers & potential relationships, etc.. However, my primary concern is that it is potentially problematic for all Black women who either go on the show or watch it because it perpetuates systemic misogyny. For that reason, I feel compelled to address it. Koshiea was in a no-win situation throughout the season. The producers apparently believe that the predominantly female RTL audience enjoys seeing at least one “combative“ woman each season. They didn’t have a really combative woman this season. It appears as though she was the best one they could find. Compared to previous seasons, she is probably the least combative. The only examples they could show to suggest that she is combative are her interactions with disrespectful, perverted, unremorseful, & gaslighting Alonzo, rude & perverted Lamar, & Alexis, who alleged that Koshiea is sexually promiscuous. She was probably more annoyed because she frequently was the object of sexually inappropriate behavior because of her body. Production implanted it in your brain by frequently showing her intense interactions in promos. They showed the scenes in which she was irritated because she felt that people had been disrespectful or had overstepped her boundaries. They did it to convince people that she is combative and unhinged. Many reviewers said that she needed to control her emotions. People are often encouraged to walk away from a fight or an argument when they feel like they are losing control of their emotions. Apparently many people did not see that she demonstrated her efforts to exercise control and walked away each and every time that she was shown in those intense situations because she is still being criticized. People demonized April & accused her of bragging about her academic achievements too much when she was only shown once, to the best of my memory, discussing them while dining with Lamar. Even our kind UA-camr, Kojo, was so anxious to find fault that he created a definition of the word “interrogated”and appeared to apply it to April with the intent of making her appear as though she had engaged in inappropriate or unethical behavior. She merely asked Lamar questions that people typically ask when they are trying to get to know someone. His interview with Kojo clearly demonstrated that he didn’t want to answer those questions regardless of whether they were asked by April or Kojo. She was also criticized & called arrogant & obnoxious when she called herself a boss bitch as she walked away without being confrontational from perverted, rude, & disrespectful Lamar. Did she really do or say something in that scene that should cause people to believe that she is a bad person? 🤔 After watching Lamar, Alonzo, Will, Jonathan, & some of the other men for several weeks, it should be clear why Patricia didn’t think there was anyone there who was a good match for her. Yet, she is still being attacked on UA-cam & throughout social media & described as being “guarded” and “unhealed”. Is it fair to harshly judge a person that you saw for only a few minutes on a show that was produced, filmed, & edited to manipulate the audience’s perception of its cast members? 🤔 Black women should recognize that the show is not designed to serve or promote much of what is in their best interests. Each season, we have seen production promote the marginalization and compromising of the women and their intelligence, self-worth, emotions, accomplishments, self awareness, integrity, & potential to develop amicable relationships with other women on the show. Black women must work at least twice as hard to succeed. We should encourage each other & be happy to see self-confident, intelligent, goal oriented, & successful Black women. None of us would want to go on a reality show to find love & be criticized, despised, demonized, and become demoralized. Please don’t do it to others.
I missed this live, and boy, is this hilarious.. Who is he coaching and counseling.. 😂 😅 He will never disrespect a woman.. 😂 Oh myyy.. Not Texas, just you.... I hope not..
The live chat is not having it! Thank you Littleblackbook91 for trying to reintroduce Lamar. He has not healed fully from his past and so is not open to the process. Thank you also for sharing a bit of yourself and expressing emotion! Yes you are very logical and I think that's what makes your platform different from the rest (not messy).
He wants April to read the room concerning her questioning him about past relationships, but he can’t read the room when his sexual comments are making people uncomfortable 🥴
Wth?? My brain cells are so FRIED!! He was saying a whole lot of NOTHING. I couldn’t even finish it, but I’ll like this video based on your patience Kojo. Again, you’re the goat!!
I thoroughly enjoyed this interview!!! There were so many nuggets dropped along the way. Lamar's caricature, although unpleasant to admit represents a part of the culture (Pookie and Ray Ray) that we know exists in the black dating pool. We also know they are successful with some women even though the culture doesn't like to admit it. I respect Lamar for being brave enough to showcase this stereotype for that reason. He was strictly being tv because he knew the caliber of women on this show would never talk to a Lamar (Pookie) Also the verbal volleying between Kojo and Lamar was chefs kiss. ❤
Kudos Kojo 🙌 Your interviews are therapeutic for me. You did effortlessly well 👏. My take; 1. Man accepted he wasn’t on the show because he is ready to love so he let him on the show? Are they helping people find love or looking for characters to help their agenda? 2. Fact that the man had to keep reiterating that he is a LIFE COACH, and a this and that coach, is trying so hard to be what you are not. 3. He argued with Kojo over why he went on and on about sex, held his grounds on this is who i am and that’s it and yet accepted in the end that he learned that he might have come on too strong and could have used a better approach. 4. He has been so sure that none of the women felt uncomfortable around him because no one ever feels uncomfortable around is bizarre. 5. He lives in his world of i am intelligent and i am all that. But as a coach he should know being intelligent is no indication that you KNOW IT ALL. He kept listening to kojo, yet he was hearing himself. Pheeeew
No way this man is a life coach, a motivator. Absolutely not! He talks a whole lot but says very little. He makes zero sense and takes no accountability. This interview was cringeworthy. ‘I never made anyone feel uncomfortable.’ Dude, I’m uncomfortable now just watching this!
Right I think every woman and even a lot of men were uncomfortable just watching thru the screen. I know it was real bad actually having to be around him
I KNOW Kojo went into deep prayer and fasting before this interview
Most life coaches are troubled
Tommy irks me acting so exasperated with the women but he never has this energy for the men and their DANGEROUS antics of crossing sexual boundaries with women. Shame on Tommy and RTL!
Yep he don’t care he’s getting a check and is high in his notoriety. You see it in the way he wants them to clap when he walks in the room.
Coach You Did This One!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
YOU TOLD HIM THE TRUTH COACH💯💯
This is why they continuously get away w/ it. Other men turn a blind eye or approve of it in private. It matters most only when they have daughters it seems.
Bro, Lamar failed to answer so many questions. He wasn’t able to comprehend some of the questions. I couldn’t take him seriously
Girl, he understood those questions. He has become so harden and uses all that “motivational” talk to avoid feeling or addressing it. It’s strategy at this point.
He’s so hurt he has no clue. He doesn’t need to be dating. He needs to be in therapy. But he thinks he knows it all. He’s lost
You gotta be on POINT and savvy to be interviewed by Kojo! chileeeee
"He wasn't able to comprehend" . Lamar is ignorant, period.
How did this man make it through the interview process 😢
It’s so sad to watch a grown person embarrass himself
Because they're looking for hurt ppl on the show. More drama, more viewers, higher ratings.
LITERALLY said this out loud before I saw your comment!!!
Production plant 😒
He failed the psych tests but they wanted him to bring the drama
It is reprehensible, unethical , & unacceptable for the producers to compromise the safety of the ladies by requiring that they be alone at anytime with morally bankrupt and narcissist men like Lamar & several of the others on the show. Even if they did a horrible job at vetting the men, they had a considerable amount of time to observe their inappropriate sexual advances & blatant disrespect for them & their boundaries. Not only did they fail to protect them, they vilified those who did not tolerate their behavior.
They may learn only after situations go through legal proceedings of some sort. Otherwise it’s entertainment and fodder for the production and crew.
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You said a truthful, mouthful. This man did not understand the assignment.
You stated this perfectly!!!
Lamar is the epitome on NOT Ready to Love!!
I was just asking how this man made it through the interview process. 😭. They do not care about the black women safety. The Psyche test is there for a reason, and they just ignore all the red flags for ratings.
No way they do a psych interview on these cast mates. I need Iyanla to vet these people so they can “Do their work”
Would love to see a dating show hosted by Iyanla lol. "Iyanla fix my love life"
Am I the only one having difficulty with this man’s answers? He’s going in circles.
Exactly like what is he talking about
I’m dizzy
He has not answered one question Kodjoe asked. 🤷🏾♀️
I had to do an intermission because listening to him is exhausting!!!!
The producers need to be examined, because this man should have NEVER been on the show!
At this point, I’m convinced the RTL producers are only interested in creating entertaining television than helping people find true love. Like it’s crazy the people they have casted…as Lamar being one prime example
Duh. It’s called ratings. That’s the only thing they care about.
Kojo, you absolutely killed this interview. You were calm, calculated, intentional and fast with picking up on the bs..let’s be real here.
Ty!!!!!!!!…. This was excellent interview, but Lamar was not grasping the concept of the conversation.. he was definitely not ready to love or they chose him for TV
He also kept a good tone in his voice. 😂
Like I TF Said, this man needs to be INVESTIGATED!!
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Absolutely! Nothing would suprise me Cway
I hope there will be a panel on this, and you will be a part of the discussion.
I completely agree. I seriously believe that he is showing some of the symptoms of psychosis like speaking incoherently & having delusions. He is so out of touch with reality that he almost appears to be experiencing a mental health crisis.
Girl you were right he’s a dirty old man. Kojo did a great interview though. But Lamar is a dusty point blank period
I wouldn’t let Lamar coach my Madden PS5 team.
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Lamar is a victim of ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT.
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Exactly
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Im screaming 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Jesus take the wheel 😅😅😂😂😂
The irony 😅
I’m convinced his traumatizing childhood produced a severe mental breakdown and is STILL experiencing it 😮
He’s exhausting!
VERY
Utterly exhausting!!!
This interview was exhausting!!!! He took absolutely NO accountability for his disgusting, disrespectful behavior. Lamar truly has issues. Whatever his ex wife did to him really scared him! Women beware!!!!
Kojo you are so good at picking up on the tender subjects and the interviewees attempt to evade the feelings! Lamar was driving me nuts with the jumps, contradictions and evasions. I know ppl who always try to put a positive not on a negative truth. Single mom, sounds like she had multiple relationships, 14 schools, 2 marriages, dude you are so wounded so damn wounded!
🫨😮WHHAAATTTTT ISSS HEEE TALKINGGGG ABOUTTTT?????
NOTHING😂😂😂
Please, someone interpret for us, because we are having a very difficult time keeping up with what he’s saying!!!!
I thought it was just me
He needs professional help ASAP, he’s all over the place. God bless him.
He’s clearly unstable to the point where it’s borderline concerning and scary.
At the 41 minute mark --- this man is tragically unaware on so many levels, it's out of control. Kojo, you shared an incredibly touching story of how your time in Ghana made you feel and this fool comes back with a whole bunch of NOTHING in response yet says he is a motivational coach??? the math isn't mathing with Lamar.
God please give me kojo's patience, it's admirable 🙏🏾
I really wanted to understand him. He refuses. It’s not about pouring everything out it’s about open-ness. He’s trying to bury so much as himself that he just talks in circles. He can’t have a conversation without confusion.
Yeah he thinks people can look at him and understand he’s in pain.
I was listening to this interview like “yo, I’m listening to a true dyed in the wool mentally deficient person”. There were legit moments in this interview where I had no idea what he was saying. He was stringing English words together into a sentence but the sentences were totally incomprehensible. He showed himself to be a malcontent on the show and he proved it today on LBB.
He’s unwilling to revisit his past hurt. He is not healed.
When he said that he reads the room. 😒😒😒
He didn’t read the room when he was making all of those women uncomfortable.
I wouldn’t be his lover OR his friend. I don’t even want to be around someone like him.
He’s a motivator, a coach. He respects woman and doesn’t make anyone feel uncomfortable……according to him! Total delusion at its best.
Can’t wait for the debrief!
10 mins into this interview and im absolutely lost. Smh
me too
Being lonely is a state of mind. You can be in a room full of people and be lonely. You aren't alone but you are lonely. He thinks he's smarter than he is. He is a hot mess.
I need Dr. Phil do recommend an analyst to do a brain scan to make sure all his receptor’s are connecting.
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He is exactly what Coach said… A JOKE 🤦🏾♀️. He’s so full of it!
I'm sorry for anyone he coaches. He will lead them down the wrong path!
‘I’m a speaker and approach is very important.’ What??? Lamar please stop talking, spare us all! Take a moment to listen to yourself. Phew, the rambling, the ish!!!
He’s covered his wounds, but they are still open. 🙏🏾
So true
I can see why this man was divorced twice. He kinda scare me in this interview with his nonsense.
First time Kodjoe gave up. Wheeeew. He is not an actor.
Idk why, but I LOVED the dance intro. It was so cute to see you both dancing to it. I am unsure whether you, Kojo, do it with all RTL guests, but I truly appreciated it here.
He never answered a question.
No words for this brother🤦🏾♀️that’s who he is!
I’m embarrassed for him
Every season there’s a comedic relief person. Last season there was the guy who played the saxophone wearing the scarf. 😅🎉
Habibi
Your right there always is
He’s not even funny .. abrasive and made ALL of the women uncomfortable. It wasn’t pleasant to watch
The difference is Habibi knew he was full of it and not quite right.
Ain’t no way in the world he’s a life coach and youth coach because baby the way he was ducking and dodging accountability is insaneeeeee. Men like this get paid dust from me 😤
Youth coach !?!? (haven’t seen the video yet) That is madness
He's a good good man!
Just horrible.
@@kingoftsedeq1392 I want to have a different outlook of this man. From what we’ve seen on the show and this interview what’s something good about him?
@@kingoftsedeq1392😂😂😂 I forget what movie that is from.
A man who lays it on this thick really does not like himself. Can’t help but feel pity for him.
This gotta be the interview of the year cause BRUH 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤣🤣 this some 🥷🏿🥷🏿ish
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this interview was ROUGH to watch🤦🏽♀️
Def some 🥷🏿🥷🏿💩
Raise of hands on how many people are COMFORTABLE when someone is being to aggressive… this man said I never made anyone uncomfortable 🤦🏾♀️this guy is WOW and that’s all have to say… KOJO I love when you laugh so hard it makes me crack up. Yes Lamar thought he could try and put that mask on and thought you wouldn’t see right through him. GREAT interview KOJO you definitely do it the best👏🏾🙌🏾❤️
This is what happens when bringing your true, authentic self goes left.😢
Poor Kojo. This man is insufferable😂😂
I’m convinced that RTL producers are ONLY interested in creating a show because the quality of the content they’re producing has gone down.
Msg to Lamar: Please put your Ego aside..be open for Therapy and allow someone to coach/guide You. So you can Heal and Grow into the man that can be Loved mentally and spiritually. Blessings
Thank You Kojo for holding his feet to the fire! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
He is a lost cause 🤦🏽♀️
he likes to hear himself talk? said a whole lot of NOTHING
Kodzo!! Bravo! Clearly Lamar isn’t opened to hearing perspectives that are different from his. Loved how you let him talk himself into ground at the end.
I listened to the first 30 mins while cleaning up and he don’t sound sober at all.
Lamar needs so much help! 🙏🏾 He is too abrasive and is probably use to dealing with street style/ ghetto/ hood women.
What is he trying to say? Lots of words, just a lot of words.🤦🏽♀️
Kodjo you got mad skills. You kept it real man.
Lamar is proof that RTL is scraping the bottom of the barrel looking for people to be on the show.
Don’t save him, he don’t wanna be saved!!
It’s crazy watching him because I have a brother that talks in a similar format [nonsense] & he’s also a Scorpio. This is SAD to watch🤦🏽♀️
Kojo was absolutely correct, this talking format is a Defense Mechanism
The odd thing is, majority of the Scorpios I’ve known, have Ben very smart and articulate.
**have been
There it goes…. He claims 12 years old and its very evident and certainly clear now. This aligns with 12yo behavior
I.e all that going to the arcade mess
My apologies and very respectfully He must deal with a lot of women who have challenges with having standards in men . Can you imagine the conversations and fussing you would be subject to? .
Kojo,
The way you busted out laughing at this joker was priceless. You could not keep it together through his b.s.😂
He showed the world, that’s for sure. Perfect example of close your mouth and leave people wondering, open your mouth and remove all doubt. What an embarrassment.
I say he needs to provide proof that he went to college. Who’s with me? 😅
I totally agree!!!
Kojo asks a question
Lamar provides an answer
Me: WTHEEF is he talking about??!! 🤯🤯🤯🥹🥹🥹
If a person has to stress a million times there's no disrespect, there's definitely disrespect present.🤦🏿♀️
I agree with the comments section…he talks in circles…however he also talks similarly to many (celebrity) men who think they’re dropping nuggets in the manosphere…so im not mad at just not taking anything seriously cause you can’t
I thought the Damonte interview was bad. Whew! You know it’s a problem when Kojo is quiet.
Wtf did I just watch 😬
I’m only 15 mins in and have a headache
A hot mess!😂
He does not comprehend. He just has a lot of verbal vomit. He is saying nothing!!! 🤨
This is my third and final comment…Lamar doesn’t listen to anyone but himself. Talking to hear himself talk, as they say. He thinks his “transparency” is refreshing but instead it’s crass and disrespectful. He doesn’t read the room well AT ALL! He doesn’t respond well to accountability AT ALL. I’m soooooooo glad he’s no longer on the show. Ladies hear me clearly…RUN from a man like this!
Things Lamar knows for sure:
It is what it is. You hear what you hear. You see what you see. A man is a man. A woman is a woman.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Lamar 🙏🏾
I wonder if Lamar will be clearer on the reunion show. Maybe his frame of mind is distorted because he repeatedly referred to himself as a struggle baby.
when KOJO said he was weaponizing the truth i was like you nailed it....cause i appreciate the fact that his honest about his lifestyle but its as if his HURLING IT RIGHT AT YOU ANDGIVING YOU A CONCUSSION FOR IT...
He looking for his 15 minutes lol laying out his resume 😅
He was lucky to be in April’s presence. 😅
Yes and thankfully the cameras were also there at the same time. No telling what else he would’ve said or done.
Lamar is exhausting. They put him in with knowing he failed the psych tests!!!! He loves this attention
Kojo was right! He knew exactly what he was doing on the show & he knew exactly what he was doing for this interview!! He knew the character to play and that’s why he didn’t want to go deep because his character would get exposed. So he just kept it in circles….clocked on!
The producers have a considerable amount of scenes that display the negative behaviors and inappropriate actions of Lamar & many of the other men on the show to create enough drama to hold the attention of the audience & to keep them entertained. After watching Kojo’s interview of Lamar, I am more convinced that the manner in which April, Koshiea, & Patricia was misrepresented & maligned was unjustified & shameful. Production focused on finding petty things to assassinate the character of the ladies. Based on the comments of many of the viewers that I have read, I am concerned that they have achieved success at vilifying and shaping their perceptions of them. This could be problematic for them because it could adversely affect their careers & potential relationships, etc.. However, my primary concern is that it is potentially problematic for all Black women who either go on the show or watch it because it perpetuates systemic misogyny. For that reason, I feel compelled to address it.
Koshiea was in a no-win situation throughout the season. The producers apparently believe that the predominantly female RTL audience enjoys seeing at least one “combative“ woman each season. They didn’t have a really combative woman this season. It appears as though she was the best one they could find. Compared to previous seasons, she is probably the least combative. The only examples they could show to suggest that she is combative are her interactions with disrespectful, perverted, unremorseful, & gaslighting Alonzo, rude & perverted Lamar, & Alexis, who alleged that Koshiea is sexually promiscuous. She was probably more annoyed because she frequently was the object of sexually inappropriate behavior because of her body. Production implanted it in your brain by frequently showing her intense interactions in promos. They showed the scenes in which she was irritated because she felt that people had been disrespectful or had overstepped her boundaries. They did it to convince people that she is combative and unhinged. Many reviewers said that she needed to control her emotions. People are often encouraged to walk away from a fight or an argument when they feel like they are losing control of their emotions. Apparently many people did not see that she demonstrated her efforts to exercise control and walked away each and every time that she was shown in those intense situations because she is still being criticized.
People demonized April & accused her of bragging about her academic achievements too much when she was only shown once, to the best of my memory, discussing them while dining with Lamar. Even our kind UA-camr, Kojo, was so anxious to find fault that he created a definition of the word “interrogated”and appeared to apply it to April with the intent of making her appear as though she had engaged in inappropriate or unethical behavior. She merely asked Lamar questions that people typically ask when they are trying to get to know someone. His interview with Kojo clearly demonstrated that he didn’t want to answer those questions regardless of whether they were asked by April or Kojo. She was also criticized & called arrogant & obnoxious when she called herself a boss bitch as she walked away without being confrontational from perverted, rude, & disrespectful Lamar. Did she really do or say something in that scene that should cause people to believe that she is a bad person? 🤔
After watching Lamar, Alonzo, Will, Jonathan, & some of the other men for several weeks, it should be clear why Patricia didn’t think there was anyone there who was a good match for her. Yet, she is still being attacked on UA-cam & throughout social media & described as being “guarded” and “unhealed”. Is it fair to harshly judge a person that you saw for only a few minutes on a show that was produced, filmed, & edited to manipulate the audience’s perception of its cast members? 🤔
Black women should recognize that the show is not designed to serve or promote much of what is in their best interests. Each season, we have seen production promote the marginalization and compromising of the women and their intelligence, self-worth, emotions, accomplishments, self awareness, integrity, & potential to develop amicable relationships with other women on the show. Black women must work at least twice as hard to succeed. We should encourage each other & be happy to see self-confident, intelligent, goal oriented, & successful Black women. None of us would want to go on a reality show to find love & be criticized, despised, demonized, and become demoralized. Please don’t do it to others.
“Social skills on top…” Oh my!! Are we supposed to believe him or our lying eyes?
I'm glad I'm not the only one confused. I paused for 45 minutes & came back....still confused & scratching my head 🤔🤔🤔
Dismiss Casting. Immediately! Jeeeeezch
He’s not difficult , he thinks he smarter than he actually is…If he was intelligent he would know LBB telling him to stop clowning 🤡…
I missed this live, and boy, is this hilarious.. Who is he coaching and counseling.. 😂 😅 He will never disrespect a woman.. 😂 Oh myyy..
Not Texas, just you....
I hope not..
Nobody. He is not coaching anyone. Watching him gives me anxiety and then I hear his words…….😖
@@TheTrustedBanker He is a running red flag... Like who married this man... Mercy....
They definitely did right by eliminating him. Wtf are we watching?!? lol
He shouldn't have been on the show in the first place.
This was painful watching Habibi 2.0!!! Ghetto Jesture
I'm getting drunk vibes... is he intoxicated?
The live chat is not having it! Thank you Littleblackbook91 for trying to reintroduce Lamar. He has not healed fully from his past and so is not open to the process. Thank you also for sharing a bit of yourself and expressing emotion! Yes you are very logical and I think that's what makes your platform different from the rest (not messy).
He’s probably hoping to spin this RTL appearance into a Manosphere podcast.
He does not sound like an Emotionally Mature Male..Not even close to being a Man
He wants April to read the room concerning her questioning him about past relationships, but he can’t read the room when his sexual comments are making people uncomfortable 🥴
This man made me laugh halfway through the interview just by his cadence alone. Kudos to Kojo for using analysis on Lamar's behavior.
Wth?? My brain cells are so FRIED!! He was saying a whole lot of NOTHING. I couldn’t even finish it, but I’ll like this video based on your patience Kojo. Again, you’re the goat!!
51:29 in and I haven't heard a response that made sense yet..
I would really love to hear some input from either of his ex wives. I hope they make an appearance on social media.
They too scared.
I wonder if they are as close as he paints them to be. He kinda has an inflated view of things
That would be very informative 😂
I thoroughly enjoyed this interview!!! There were so many nuggets dropped along the way. Lamar's caricature, although unpleasant to admit represents a part of the culture (Pookie and Ray Ray) that we know exists in the black dating pool. We also know they are successful with some women even though the culture doesn't like to admit it. I respect Lamar for being brave enough to showcase this stereotype for that reason. He was strictly being tv because he knew the caliber of women on this show would never talk to a Lamar (Pookie) Also the verbal volleying between Kojo and Lamar was chefs kiss. ❤
Kudos Kojo 🙌 Your interviews are therapeutic for me. You did effortlessly well 👏.
My take;
1. Man accepted he wasn’t on the show because he is ready to love so he let him on the show? Are they helping people find love or looking for characters to help their agenda?
2. Fact that the man had to keep reiterating that he is a LIFE COACH, and a this and that coach, is trying so hard to be what you are not.
3. He argued with Kojo over why he went on and on about sex, held his grounds on this is who i am and that’s it and yet accepted in the end that he learned that he might have come on too strong and could have used a better approach.
4. He has been so sure that none of the women felt uncomfortable around him because no one ever feels uncomfortable around is bizarre.
5. He lives in his world of i am intelligent and i am all that. But as a coach he should know being intelligent is no indication that you KNOW IT ALL.
He kept listening to kojo, yet he was hearing himself.
Pheeeew
I often wondered how my face look when I AIN'T TRYNA HEAR THE BS and I saw it on Kojo's face in this interview 😒😅🤣
LMAOOO
We need to see the wives...who these women Harpo?!!
Lord have mercy 😮😳
Watching this love was wild - they tore him up in the comments 😂😭 I was like “ah weh Di bloodclart diss👀 no man this cyan real”