You disappear for a while and let her come to you (and find other girls to improve your game!) - the rules and playground are yours the moment she returns to you!
@@bahaatamer1245 there was this girl who I was close to She liked me but I never made a move on her because she has three kids She's cool though We would go out and have lunch I paid one time she would lay the next and so on so on. She said she didn't want a relationship she just wanted to have fun. So a week later I hooked up with this girl I met at the bar. Next day we run into each other at work and I have a hickey on my neck She saw it and acted different She said something like "you are so" And disnt say anything after that I say I'm so what? Then she says "yiu like to argue, just go away" So I just walked away She acts different around me now
@@MyRockHoMama stay away from single mothers! - unless that's what you desire/shes your ex wife or whatsoever, you're getting yourself into so many things you dont want to be involved in!
guys. If a woman says she has a boyfriend simply move on. No I don’t think it’s sleezy. It’s a HUGE waste of time. it’s rarely ever a “shit test”. She either has a boyfriend or isn’t interested. In the rare case that she actually hooks up why do you need that drama? Just walk down the street or move to the next set and open someone that doesn’t give you that objection at all. Problem solved. Don’t waste your time trying to solve a Rubik’s cube blindfolded if u don’t have to.
i slept with the last chick who said she had a boyfriend... didnt stop her from grinding on me on the dance floor and sleeping with me. her boyfriend called me on my phone though that she used to call him while she was in bed with me.
I'd say still go for it. Usually "I have a bf" means "you're not there yet" whether she has a bf or not. I was fucking this girl for a few weeks and then all of a sudden the last time I tried to smash she "had a bf" lol
As a personal rule if a girl says "I have a boyfriend", I end the set and find someone else. For one, if she's telling the truth, Idk what kinda guy her bf is and it could get dangerous plus drama I don't want to deal with. If she's lying, that means she's clearly not interested in me and I'm wasting my time trying to change her mind when I could be doing a set with a different girl. If a set is going so badly that she uses the phrase as an excuse it's really difficult to fix and often not worth the effort. There will always be other girls and they are likely to be far more receptive.
Yeah 99% of the time when a girl says she has a boyfriend she really does have a boyfriend. The best bet is to move on to the next and find a girl that's single/available.
@T S doesn't mean bad things don't happen. There are lots of emotionally volalite unstable men out there who will act on their impulses and get violent if they catch their woman cheating. Just because todd hasn't got caught doesn't mean it's risk free to do so
@yeahyeahblabla someguy I just laugh when people think these jacked good-looking dudes all slay pussy left and right. A lot of time you can throw a girl at them and have her grinding on them dying to suck their cock and they can’t accept it or find some other way to chode out of it. The people who don’t get how insanely common it is for these good-looking dudes to drop the ball tend to either be: 1) Naturals who didn’t drop the ball a lot themselves so they can’t really relate to the notion that a girl could be giving you ioi’s and you DON’T try to fuck her or believe she wants to fuck you especially if they rolled with an alpha pack like themselves who all were getting laid (or at least bragging/acting like they do and glossing over when the girl is ugly etc like guys often do lol) so they just kind of assume all the other good-looking rich etc dudes were doing the same… or 2) AFCs who never approach or talk to girls or learn game and just listen to the Hollywood stereotypes and blue-pill conditioning because they never go out and collect the data for themselves because it’s scary and painful to go down this journey and a lot easier to just believe everyone else is slaying based on attributes you were unfairly not dealt in your genetics (perfect excuse to never really try, and break all the rules like Tyler and the rest of us who don’t turn heads when we walk into a room). This is also why I say looks are great, they get you some free ioi’s and opens here and there. If you don’t have game, you’ll still fuck it up…so focus on game above all else. Society beats us over the head with how we aren't good enough "as-is" so guys have all these fucked up confidence issues. This is again why I say looks don't really matter infield, 'cause every night out you can see these tall jacked good-looking dudes with shitty internals going home alone because even when a girl DOES like them they have trouble accepting and embracing that and taking it somewhere because they don't believe they're "good enough"…even if they LOOK good they feel like they don't have enough money, or if they have money and look good they feel like they aren't tall enough, etc etc it's all bullshit designed to weed out the guys who give no fucks from the guys who will listen to what society tells them about how to feel about themselves…and of course it drives the whole consumerism culture we live in, 'cause that guy can feel good about himself if he just buys the latest brand name product of such and such, at least for a few weeks, until the newer version comes out and then only LOSERS still use that OLD version. Vicious cycle. My problem with typical Red Pill method of “just get jacked“ is that it's still playing inside society's value system. Even if they get jacked so they can finally feel good about themselves, that's a value system that society put on them so no matter how good they do 1) there will ALWAYS be a better looking guy than them out there, so they can never feel like "the best" because someone will ALWAYS have another inch on their biceps or a more expensive suit etc, and 2) they're still determining their self-worth based on other people's values. That's why I stress go to the gym, sure, but do it for yourself and your own health, not because you think it'll get you girls because as soon as you're doing it "to get girls" you're coming from the wrong frame and starting to build shitty internal wiring.
@@stealth797 just note that you preach about societal conditioning while at the same time buying into the frame that failing to pursue a woman is to be avoided at all costs. They got you exactly where they want you, studying, scheming, discussing strategy, inner game, for what? Validation? An orifice?
Also there's a difference between "I have a boyfriend" in a coffee shop and "I have a boyfriend" in a club in a little black dress. Is she in a hot or cold environment.
yeah but no. as long as the attention is there its all win. just scream something random and shed forget about the world. pure frame imposement. when ure ultra leading and dominant who dfk can stop u and why lmao
Why should that stop her from meeting you? A guy that's most likely way more cool than her chose boyfriend. Think about how much better 'her' life would be meeting you. How much she'd learn meeting you.
You're already the better person. Women are not loyal beings. They can and will fuck other men relationship or not and hide it behind things like boyfriends and "girls nite" outings.
YASSS! The only thing I wish Todd would cover, and perhaps it's further along in The System, is converting pulls to lays. Busting through LMR is my biggest issue, particularly since I'm pulling sober girls off dates that I met via daygame. I don't do nightgame where you have drunk girls from the club at 3 AM. @@stealth797
@@Frederick0220 I found a lot of LMR busting is done by running good comfort game. Plus setting the "premise" (as Todd says) that she is the one chasing you. Other than that the old Mystery Method LMR techniques have helped me too.
What is wrong with this guy? If a girl says she has a boyfriend just leave her alone. If she says she’s not interested, leave her alone. It’s not a hint to try harder!
This kinda crap is how MOST guys get their girlfriends in South America. Usually stealing them from other guys. South American girls ALWAYS HAVE a boyfriend. I know some here in Australia and they ALL have a guy. Even the damn 12 year olds....
@NolanEP84 The video is about girls who already said no because they have a boyfriend. They made their choice after the option was presented. Sure, some girls can be coerced into having sex with you as a new option if you "play a good game", but just know that's a girl who will quickly and easily enjoy her freedom of choice while with you too. "You're not Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now. If that's the type of girl you want, go for it I guess.
Absolutely. This should be called 'Loser Game'. This Todd guy admitted that he got punched out 'protecting a student' in exactly this situation, funnily enough.
How desperate do you have to be, to persist after a girl says she is in a relationship? This is flagrantly low-quality behaviour, masquerading as "alpha". Not one of you would have the balls to look the boyfriend in the eyes after sleeping with his girl.
Personally I won't even fuck with a girl if she really has a boyfriend. I don't want to be the reason another guy feels depressed and broken hearted. But that's just me.
If a women tells you "i have a boyfriend" it means she either has a boyfriend, or wants to be left alone! Just move on instead of triyng to force your flirting upon her. She is simply not interested. Is it so hard to accept this? This shit right here is just creepy
Here's the thing. We say it because WE'RE NOT INTO YOU. And the only way these guys will accept us saying "no" is if we're the "property" of another man.If we say we're single, they act like we have no right or reason to say no to them. Simply saying we're not interested doesn't work. They'll just ignore it. We have to say we're taken by another man. Because they respect another man more than our right to say no. Even you were like, " How do I GET AROUND her saying no?"
ive been in the game a while now and most of the girls use the "i have a boyfriend" excuse. they all say the same thing. i got so used to it, so i don't even respond to it anymore. i usually just ignore it and keep on with the conversation going. once i establish more comfort on her she never mentions the i have a boyfriend again. most of the time it turns out they actually don't have boyfriend.
Everyone has weak moments. If you are messing with people's relationships like this than you (not the hypocritical "next guy who will do it anyway") you are putting more negativity into the world. More of the despair so many feel over the breakdown of human connection. "Lots of love making but no love"
Assuming you were already flirting with a sexy woman with the intention of pulling her home and getting to fuck, there was no real chance of making the world a more positive place to begin with. It's important to map out fundamental goals with game: 1. Are you out to have a good time? 2. Are you out to find a wife? In the first case, it all revolves around personal enjoyment. Stop trying to intertwine philosophical values with a situation that isn't inherently morally "good" by most standards anyway.
@@vicente3354 Lol you throw philosophical values out the door until her BF ends up being a dude like MMA Fighter War Machine who beats the shit out of you and nearly kills her!
"Everyone has weak moments" Lol a woman whos in a good relationship even at its worse moments would never even entertain the idea of cheating. This is nonsense.
How about realizing that the girl isnt always telling the truth about this. Sometimes, it's an objection not a condition. Plus, you can't make a girl do anything that she doesn't want to do. You can't steal a girl from a guy.
What's the point of having boyfriends and girl friends if you're just going to keep whoring around anyway. Why do your lives revolve around whoring around and never having a lasting relationship? This just seems desperate, not advisable. This kind of behavior shouldn't be promoted just because it is allowed.
Hold up...so in his head, if the girl says she has a boyfriend (even if ACTUALLY does) it doesn't mean you can't have sex with her?...that's just desperation, that ain't loyalty either. Even if she's lying, back away, let them chase you silly.
Love it when Todd puts out a new video. I love his insights. His wisdom is impeccable, it's not just useful for pickup, it's applicable to all aspects of life.
Honestly I dont want a girl that has a boyfriend that's low level shit. As men we should have more respect for ourselves and the masculine principle. Dig the system though.
Agree I am a desirable guy and had attractive women with boyfriends try to hookup with me. Even though it was tempting my values are too strong to do some shit like that plus Karma is a bitch!
This video pretty much shows your lack of respect/integrity Todd for men that have women that have to put up with this crap. No wonder infidelity is out of fucking control today...
Basically the men who agree with this guy believe that if a girl is single, she has no right to say no to them. Fuck her preferences or if she even finds them attractive. She's single, so she has NO reason to say no, apparently.
Dude siriously... What kind of man acts like this if shes in a relationship MOVE ON don't try to wreak it. Disgusting
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Why would you a gal who has a boyfriend? That shows you have respect for other men if you decide to go after another man's girl same goes for women who go after another woman's man
My head hurts 🤦♂️waste of time just move on and be done with it or stay there and keep playing games with both of yourselves. Plus why tf do I gotta change her mood.
At the end of the day you shouldn't be messed with the other man's woman also if the woman value the man she wouldn't be messing around with you so there's a double-edged sword to all this and also if you know she got a boyfriend then you shouldn't probably take it to the next level because you already know what you're getting into from the get-go
Why the fuck are people interested in getting with another man’s girl? Take a girls word for it, and Find a girl who is not taken. There are plenty of single chicks out there. Just a major rule to go by, never mess with another man’s ego, money, or woman. Let’s be respectful and and respectable by other respectable men.
There are not plenty of single chicks out there. If a women is over 20 and single, she either has personal problems or asexual. Its impossible for a young women to be single
@@JamesTKirk-cg4hl my friend. With respect, talk to more 20 something girls and you’ll see plenty are single. Sure to find a virgin is rare, so don’t bank on it. Find a good woman that’s single and if she says she has a man, either she does, or not interested. So either way/ reason, why pursue if there are plenty out there. I promise you there are.
@@kevper96 I talked to a lot of women and so far I'm yet to see one who's single. When they say they have a bf then I have to take their word and hope they really do have a bf, cause it feels like shit when she thinks you're so unnattractive that she comes up with an imaginary bf to repell you. Girl always act like it's inappropriate to like them romantially and you're a creep for wanting more then friendship, while you know for a fact there's some guy out there who they wanna sit on so bad.
Isn't a big part of being attractive being non-needy? And non needy is being completely ok with walking out without the desired outcome, so this is kinda hypocritical
Literally everything this guy said demonstrates two things. Just how shitty some guys are who are willing to overstep boundaries and just how dishonest many women are. If you want the simple form of what he’s talking about psychologically it’s called manipulation. It’s laughable 😂😂😂
I see some comments saying this strategy is sleazy, but then what about these two frames of mind PUAs put out a lot? 1. She's not his, it's just his turn. 2. Never listen to a woman's words, just her actions.
Don't try to sleep with women that have a boyfriend. You are risking a whole world of problems when you could just simply move on to one of the many other available women. I've seen a number of "players" get put in the hospital over these cases.
And what if she really does have a boyfriend; I know if I caught you trying to pick up my girl friend it would be your final mistake as an able bodied human being.
If a giel says "i have a boyfriend" its more than likely bc she does and shes informing you that if youre looking for something she's not offering. If you continue to press her 2 things are most likely to happen: 1) she'll talk to you hoping youre a normal human being that can have a conversation without wanting sex as a result 2) she's now uncomfortable and will entertain you out of fear. There is a chance she's a cheater, but most likely the 2 above are the most likely events to occur. If you're just looking for sex find another woman - most women are single. If youre looking for the challenege join an intramural league or crossfit.
This is bad advice. If she tells you she has a boyfriend...walk away. No girl is worth that headache 1.) The yuk factor...shes banging another dude. Not into another mans germs. 2.) Jealous boyfriend could be a psycho. 3.) She lied to you since not interested. Either case why try to game her? Is the major headache worth sex? Hell no. 4.) What goes around comes back around. If you slept with an unavailable girl...the same will happen to you in time.
What if she has a boyfriend? first of all why pushing someone who is in a relationship and why do you like to have sex with someone who cheats on her boyfriend? Is this an ego thing? Either way she really has a boyfriend or it means she's not into you ..why waste your time.
I know when I'm not interested in a man, I use the boyfriend card as to not be offensive to him. Or when I'm interested in someone else,.. & not him. Just saying! 🙂 Love your gift of conversation and confidence and in your material on you tube
@@Protestan88 So how long do you say you're not interested until he finally takes the hint? We all knew that most girls use the boyfriend ultimatum cause most of the time a simple no doesn't work.
@@mcpheefan21 My advice is don't smile or smirk and focus your attention in every direction but his. Men can hear you say you're not interested but if you're smiling, it's going to fall on deaf ears.
@@Phat_336 Understand woman sometimes its complicated, some women can reject a man at first place and after few weeks when a man comes across them again a woman accept
This is desperate af. Like even if she's lying about having a bf, she's still resorting to LYING to get you out of her face. I've never used the "i have a bf" line to curve a guy. I'm more straight up with the rejection. Even if we're vibing in the club or at a party, etc.., it's still a curve when friends are ready to go and we're leaving. But that's just me. I'm not the wishy-washy type.
Todd I respect you and most dating coaches advice but for the love of god teaching guys to get women to cheat on their boyfriends by sleeping with you. I get that you may be the "better" option or however you like to frame it in your head. But it's still disgusting. Would you want your girl cheating on you, granted you'll always get to have another but a girl you're good with if she cheated on you because some fucking guy manipulated her into it. Would you be okay with that? This is one of my contentions with the dating industry and why I believe when people say the pua industry is creating sociopaths. People with little to no disregard for how they're affecting the lives of others. Like on the one side it makes people better but on the other hand its shit like this that when used by shit tier men ring things not just for other men but for the women too because those fucking guys are just trying to get with her smash and pass with the justification "if shes gonna cheat with someone may as well be me" maybe I'm to ideal to think that we could not fuck up peoplea relationships ships. 4.6 billion people in the world man. Exponential growth every decade. humans garbage nature to take from other people fucking astounds me. Literally the cause of almost every bad thing in history. And its continually being supported, encouraged and perpetuated. Yes women have the right to sleep with whoever and they're not property. This part of social dynamics is murky at best I personally hate the idea. But dont deny things like this are a two person job. It takes two people to cheat... Its convulated..
got approached by some girls and when I tell them that I got a girlfriend, well I got one. they could have been models or whatever, my answer would be the same because I do not wanna cheat or betray my girl
Ok, but my question is, when she throws at you the "I have a boyfriend" line, how do you discern it from it being a shit test vs. it actually being the truth. From my beginner understanding so far, if she does it very soon right when you initiate that date request, I think that means she either rejects you (she is not attracted to you, at least not yet) or she actually has a boyfriend. If she throws the line at you after you initiate that date, then it sounds more like a shit test? I mean, why would she consent to the date in the first place is she is not attracted to you and/or she has boyfriend which she really likes. Now the question that remains, do you pursue her if she truly has a boyfriend? This depends on her and on you both I guess. If you know you're a high value man and have strong game you can, but there are moral implications here. If she has respect for her boyfriend and isn't promiscuous, she should decide not to engage.
If a woman says she has a boyfriend, she either has a boyfriend and doesn't want you, or is using it as an excuse to get you to leave her alone without hurting your feelings. Whether you think it's okay to lie about having a boyfriend or not, the meaning is the same: not interested. Move on.
As an experienced gamer all you have to to is ignore it. especially when you first approach her and your trying to take her on a insta date. Women are always in the moment so whatever she is feeling in the moment usually her response will be based on her mood. if she feels uncomfortable and she cant trust u in that moment, she will use her defense mechanism to repel you. or pretty much she is telling you that she is not ready. thats why todd says its all about comfort cuz you need to spend time with her so you both can build comfort. once you both establish comfort she will never use it again. most of the girls who i approach and do have boyfriends or they are just not interested they will put their ground and tell you over and over again until you leave her alone. persistence is the key. so when your talking to a girl when you first meet her and she tell you the i have a boyfriend analogy just ignore it and keep talking.
This is gonna come up sooner or later... and perhaps more regularly than you'd like. What do you do when she says, "I have a boyfriend?" systembytodd.com for more.
what's the deal with calibrating and being polarising? like most things in game it's seemingly paradoxical but what's the connection? like order and chaos seem different but they aren't.
Calibrating is making sure you are on the same wave length, communication wise. Without that you are just a weirdo. Polarizing is more about how she sees your role in the interaction
As a 20 year old that unfortunately isn’t moved out yet cant use any of this because no girl has any interest in me. If you have nothing to give/show for, its kinda done for from the beginning
I believe that if a girl likes me and is single she will be so excited to go out with me and she won't talk about having a boyfriend. if she tells me she has a boyfriend I'll believe Her and go for the next honest, single girl. I'll friendzone her and go spend an amazing time with other girls. no time for games :)
It's not a game. We say we have a boyfriend because either we HAVE one, or we want him to leave us alone, and he won't unless he thinks we "belong to" another man. You're smart to realize that if we were interested, WE WOULDN'T SAY WE HAD A BOYFRIEND.
A boyfriend =/= a husband; she's just trying that guy out for size. If she vibes with you more, the fact that she has a boyfriend won't stop her from seeing you. If I gave up every time a girl told me she had a boyfriend, I would have missed out on a lot of good 'opportunities'
This objection/condition thing is BS in that situation. First of all, if a girl tells you "I'm meeting my boyfriend IN 5 MINUTES" she probably don't want anything from you, the only thing you could say there is "Alright, can we meet some other time?" And depending on her answer you'll know where you at. On the other hand "I'm meeting my boyfriend this afternoon or later today" she opens a door and only then you can try to solve this "condition" and see where it leads.. I feel like, in this video, Todd is just trying to have an answer to any problem and not able to do so turns the focus of the conversation and his objection/condition theory when in this situation I think the guy has just been rejected for good and should've walked away. Plenty of fish in the sea.
so far i feel like im the only one pointing this out. Have u guys noticed he sells dating advice to men and women? it feels like those people that sell weapons to both sides of a war. (not in a bad way) just in the way that he benifits them either way.
I find it funny that Todd has an entire video dedicated to how to game in a way that isn't sleazy or negative, doesn't leave the girl in a worse state than when you met, and let's you feel good and proud of how you game. Then he has videos like this, that are all about trying to pull a girl who's in a relationship. Or that story he told where a girl he was hitting on earlier in the night was making out with a different guy and he walks up, pulls her off the guy and starts making out with her. That kinda stuff is so negative and makes the world such a worse place. Honestly, I'm surprised he hasn't gotten his ass kicked a few times for pulling that kinda crap. I used to really like Todd's videos, but after seeing this side of him more and more, and seeing how he now looks like an unhealthy 48 year old even though he's only 36 (seriously the guy has aged 15 years since this video), I don't really want to game like him anymore.
I'am actually just watching some of your videos on Winners game. And it's really great! New to the PUA ''community''. And also, I am reading the Mystery Method. I am i taking the right steps? What should i be doing. Any tips would be awesome =)
You can learn from mystery method a lot but it’s outdated but honestly you wouldn’t really need anything else than Todd’s System because the guy did learn from Mystery years ago and also past the paradigm of only routine style game
The only thing you need to do right now is TAKE ACTION. No book or video will give you first hand experience. Let experience show you what you need to learn.
read mystery method, then magic bullets, get your solid foundation down, then watch people like todd who will fine tune your base knowledge, and update it, and of course take action (most important step)
The 2 type or resistance should be learned well and practice more. Guys misunderstood it for most of the time. Excellent video topic bro! Hope you do more videos like this.🤙
A flat is another name for apartment. He is asking her to come to his place/home. Her excuse for not hanging out was that she had an appointment to view a flat, and he suggested they see his flat.
Someone in his audience said the girl's objection was she was going to look at a flat to rent. Possibly why she was meeting up with her bf. Todd said the somewhat funny somewhat weasely response was to say "I have a flat, you can come check it out. I'm moving out Sunday, after that I won't be here..."
Yo Todd, I hope you have an answer for this problem, related to this video's content: I find many many times that girls, after they give me very good signals and responses, they would still, at some point in the interaction, give me "objections" that I can't seem to surpass. I think those are mostly objections, according to your definition, rather than conditions (purely practical hurdles) although they want to make it seem that way, but are based on them being still not comfortable enough with me. It's typically when I try to move the interaction to something more 'serious' that requires a higher level of commitment, like "let's go have a drink" or, by text, "let's meet for a date", and so on. They always seem to have some excuse not to comply, the likes of oh, I'm waiting for my friends, or I can't leave my friends, I have to work tomorrow, I have to travel tomorrow, or even I tdon't know you enough, etc..... So the question is, how to get them feel comfortable enough with me, when they won't give me time enough to build that comfort?? In short, despite them giving me what I would say very positive signals for some (short) time, corresponding the flirting etc, when shit gets real, they end up chickening out, finding excuses (objections based on emotions of insecurity), and I don't know how to handle it, so frustrating, because I know these are just excuses, and I know it's no use to argue logically with them about it!!! Thanks Todd for all the great content!!!!
Chad and Tyrone don't get any objections. They just get sack time. Chad: Hey, (Girl) let's get together right now and chill. (Girl:) I have a Boyfriend! Chad: I understand and proceeds to walk away. (Girl) Chad, wait I will go with you and chill out. Chad: But what about your Boyfriend status? (Girl): I'll just give him some excuse why I couldn't meet him. Chad: You mean you would do that for me? (Girl): Absolutely Chad! (Hunk)!
nothing wrong with trying to better one self learning the proper intentions and learning to express how we as humans feel inside isnt a bad thing. in this world of zombies and social media learning to connect and draw people in is a good thing. These techniques dont only apply to ONLY women, but to life in general.
@@yeetdeets 'Sex at Dusk' is trash written by an anonymous writer that has been thoroughly debunked. 'Sex At Dawn' is based on real science with citations from all the peer reviewed studies in the book.
The worst case was she will call cops or security guard to kick me out from her.... I experieneced several times when I was younger. As an adult, I am afraid to hang out with ladies so that they will respond to me like shoo, I have a bf, fuck off. Even in business, small group meeting, and etc.
If she says she has a boyfriend but you determine she's lying AND STILL can pull her or there's a "boyfriend" but she's heading out and preferably you can convince her to at least send him a text about what's about to happen to make it legit, great, but any other reason involving a real boyfriend, aren't there "plenty (enough) fish in the sea"? Sometimes these day game vids seem to lack a bit of morality and focus way too much on "the bottom line" of "getting laid". I'm obviously not typical, or one of few who can admit it, but I could care less about JUST getting laid. How about some basic rules like 1) she's of legal age, 2) there is not boyfriend involved, 3) you haven't misrepresented your intentions, and maybe 4) you have some level of minimum familiarity required with the person before you engage in such an intimate activity(respect of feelings)? That said, most of these vids, and I particularly like Todd's have great info on getting to know and court women which is like a lost skill in this day and age. I'd just like to see a bit more morality touched upon in this genre. Dudes just be like 'man, gotta get laid! You get laid? No? Been celebate for over a month/week?? Wtf? You gay?? I'm so horny!' like, relax! There's plenty of time and women to "get laid".
RSD comunity is great but men try to pick up my girlfriend 3-4 times a week and was never successful, the only things that happen is they scare her (even if the dude is looking okay she says she feel intimidated) Cant wait to see someone trying to do that and beat the shit out of someone like that.
The "you're my brother" Excuse and How to Solve It
Lmfao! Why hasn't this gotten more likes?:D
Slow down there Japan
You disappear for a while and let her come to you (and find other girls to improve your game!) - the rules and playground are yours the moment she returns to you!
@@bahaatamer1245 there was this girl who I was close to
She liked me but I never made a move on her because she has three kids
She's cool though
We would go out and have lunch
I paid one time she would lay the next and so on so on.
She said she didn't want a relationship she just wanted to have fun.
So a week later I hooked up with this girl I met at the bar.
Next day we run into each other at work and I have a hickey on my neck
She saw it and acted different
She said something like
"you are so"
And disnt say anything after that
I say I'm so what?
Then she says
"yiu like to argue, just go away"
So I just walked away
She acts different around me now
@@MyRockHoMama stay away from single mothers! - unless that's what you desire/shes your ex wife or whatsoever, you're getting yourself into so many things you dont want to be involved in!
guys. If a woman says she has a boyfriend simply move on. No I don’t think it’s sleezy. It’s a HUGE waste of time. it’s rarely ever a “shit test”. She either has a boyfriend or isn’t interested. In the rare case that she actually hooks up why do you need that drama? Just walk down the street or move to the next set and open someone that doesn’t give you that objection at all. Problem solved. Don’t waste your time trying to solve a Rubik’s cube blindfolded if u don’t have to.
What if she has a HUGE ass and you want a piece but she comes with this objection? The bigger the ass the harder it is to move on.
@@DarkWish98 What if I can actually solve a Rubik´s cube blindfolded?
i slept with the last chick who said she had a boyfriend... didnt stop her from grinding on me on the dance floor and sleeping with me. her boyfriend called me on my phone though that she used to call him while she was in bed with me.
@@makarawash Than you dont need Game ;D Be the local star and let her chase you...
I'd say still go for it. Usually "I have a bf" means "you're not there yet" whether she has a bf or not. I was fucking this girl for a few weeks and then all of a sudden the last time I tried to smash she "had a bf" lol
As a personal rule if a girl says "I have a boyfriend", I end the set and find someone else. For one, if she's telling the truth, Idk what kinda guy her bf is and it could get dangerous plus drama I don't want to deal with. If she's lying, that means she's clearly not interested in me and I'm wasting my time trying to change her mind when I could be doing a set with a different girl. If a set is going so badly that she uses the phrase as an excuse it's really difficult to fix and often not worth the effort. There will always be other girls and they are likely to be far more receptive.
Actually sage advice.
Respect
Yeah 99% of the time when a girl says she has a boyfriend she really does have a boyfriend. The best bet is to move on to the next and find a girl that's single/available.
Smart man!
@T S doesn't mean bad things don't happen. There are lots of emotionally volalite unstable men out there who will act on their impulses and get violent if they catch their woman cheating. Just because todd hasn't got caught doesn't mean it's risk free to do so
2 types of resistance:
- Objection (emotional problem) - Solution: solve emotionally (change her mood not her mind)
- Condition (logical situational/logistical problem) - Solution: solve logically with tangible solutions
@1Scuter watch the video Todd gives examples
@yeahyeahblabla someguy
I just laugh when people think these jacked good-looking dudes all slay pussy left and right. A lot of time you can throw a girl at them and have her grinding on them dying to suck their cock and they can’t accept it or find some other way to chode out of it.
The people who don’t get how insanely common it is for these good-looking dudes to drop the ball tend to either be:
1) Naturals who didn’t drop the ball a lot themselves so they can’t really relate to the notion that a girl could be giving you ioi’s and you DON’T try to fuck her or believe she wants to fuck you especially if they rolled with an alpha pack like themselves who all were getting laid (or at least bragging/acting like they do and glossing over when the girl is ugly etc like guys often do lol) so they just kind of assume all the other good-looking rich etc dudes were doing the same… or
2) AFCs who never approach or talk to girls or learn game and just listen to the Hollywood stereotypes and blue-pill conditioning because they never go out and collect the data for themselves because it’s scary and painful to go down this journey and a lot easier to just believe everyone else is slaying based on attributes you were unfairly not dealt in your genetics (perfect excuse to never really try, and break all the rules like Tyler and the rest of us who don’t turn heads when we walk into a room).
This is also why I say looks are great, they get you some free ioi’s and opens here and there. If you don’t have game, you’ll still fuck it up…so focus on game above all else.
Society beats us over the head with how we aren't good enough "as-is" so guys have all these fucked up confidence issues. This is again why I say looks don't really matter infield, 'cause every night out you can see these tall jacked good-looking dudes with shitty internals going home alone because even when a girl DOES like them they have trouble accepting and embracing that and taking it somewhere because they don't believe they're "good enough"…even if they LOOK good they feel like they don't have enough money, or if they have money and look good they feel like they aren't tall enough, etc etc it's all bullshit designed to weed out the guys who give no fucks from the guys who will listen to what society tells them about how to feel about themselves…and of course it drives the whole consumerism culture we live in, 'cause that guy can feel good about himself if he just buys the latest brand name product of such and such, at least for a few weeks, until the newer version comes out and then only LOSERS still use that OLD version. Vicious cycle.
My problem with typical Red Pill method of “just get jacked“ is that it's still playing inside society's value system. Even if they get jacked so they can finally feel good about themselves, that's a value system that society put on them so no matter how good they do
1) there will ALWAYS be a better looking guy than them out there, so they can never feel like "the best" because someone will ALWAYS have another inch on their biceps or a more expensive suit etc, and
2) they're still determining their self-worth based on other people's values.
That's why I stress go to the gym, sure, but do it for yourself and your own health, not because you think it'll get you girls because as soon as you're doing it "to get girls" you're coming from the wrong frame and starting to build shitty internal wiring.
@yeahyeahblabla someguy that's a limiting belief, go out with someone who knows to talk to women and you'll realize.
Thank you!
@@stealth797 just note that you preach about societal conditioning while at the same time buying into the frame that failing to pursue a woman is to be avoided at all costs. They got you exactly where they want you, studying, scheming, discussing strategy, inner game, for what? Validation? An orifice?
Also there's a difference between "I have a boyfriend" in a coffee shop and "I have a boyfriend" in a club in a little black dress.
Is she in a hot or cold environment.
Retweet^
@@koac3978 😘
those are big facts
yeah but no. as long as the attention is there its all win. just scream something random and shed forget about the world. pure frame imposement. when ure ultra leading and dominant who dfk can stop u and why lmao
Plz explain lol
why are dudes messing around with a another man's woman?
Because we can..??
exactly. im all about fucking bitches but bitches with boyfriends should be left alone. fuck the bitch. you can't do a fellow man like that
Another man's woman... so you're saying women are property?
+乁dragon違 stfu
If she consents to having sex with you then why is that anyone else's business?
Hmm this seems pretty desperate .. If a girl tells you she has a boyfriend why not have the respect to walk away and be the better person?
Desperate...maybe. Pimpish..definitely.
Why should that stop her from meeting you? A guy that's most likely way more cool than her chose boyfriend. Think about how much better 'her' life would be meeting you. How much she'd learn meeting you.
Why was she showing indications of interest in the first place?
@@Adam-kr7sw by existing..?
You're already the better person. Women are not loyal beings. They can and will fuck other men relationship or not and hide it behind things like boyfriends and "girls nite" outings.
There are pick-up artists. Then there are pick-up surgeons. The Toddfather is a pick-up surgeon.
True. The contrast between Todd vs the modern trend of woo woo vague Pickup advice is incredible.
YASSS! The only thing I wish Todd would cover, and perhaps it's further along in The System, is converting pulls to lays. Busting through LMR is my biggest issue, particularly since I'm pulling sober girls off dates that I met via daygame. I don't do nightgame where you have drunk girls from the club at 3 AM. @@stealth797
@@Frederick0220 I found a lot of LMR busting is done by running good comfort game. Plus setting the "premise" (as Todd says) that she is the one chasing you. Other than that the old Mystery Method LMR techniques have helped me too.
Excellent! Appreciate ya. Let me know if you're ever in Chicago. Would be down to daygame with ya. @@stealth797
Hahahha love this comment. The ToddFather hahah
What is wrong with this guy? If a girl says she has a boyfriend just leave her alone. If she says she’s not interested, leave her alone. It’s not a hint to try harder!
And it sucks that so many men respect “I have a boyfriend” so much more than “I’m not interested”. Both mean “leave me alone”!
Don't get with other men's girlfriends. Imagine the lack of self-respect needed for that shit.
This kinda crap is how MOST guys get their girlfriends in South America. Usually stealing them from other guys. South American girls ALWAYS HAVE a boyfriend. I know some here in Australia and they ALL have a guy. Even the damn 12 year olds....
Or just respect people's relationships and boundaries, and move on to someone who's available. Problem solved.
Unless the relationship does not exist!
Jakub Turliński exactly. Lying bitches.
@NolanEP84 The video is about girls who already said no because they have a boyfriend. They made their choice after the option was presented. Sure, some girls can be coerced into having sex with you as a new option if you "play a good game", but just know that's a girl who will quickly and easily enjoy her freedom of choice while with you too. "You're not Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now. If that's the type of girl you want, go for it I guess.
Hence why nice guy finish last
Absolutely. This should be called 'Loser Game'. This Todd guy admitted that he got punched out 'protecting a student' in exactly this situation, funnily enough.
How desperate do you have to be, to persist after a girl says she is in a relationship? This is flagrantly low-quality behaviour, masquerading as "alpha". Not one of you would have the balls to look the boyfriend in the eyes after sleeping with his girl.
The ones that do is up to them if they are faithful or not. Don't blame the guy.
@@rickyticky3350 So you would sleep with your friends' girlfriend then? It's her fault, right?
@@xavier6037noooo friend girlfriend is out of the question cuz of loyalty but a HOT PIECE OF ASS who says i got a bf but we can fuck....I WILL FUCK
Personally I won't even fuck with a girl if she really has a boyfriend. I don't want to be the reason another guy feels depressed and broken hearted. But that's just me.
If you really think like that, then you are a cool guy.
"Women with 2 or more boyfriends are more likely to get promoted at work" ... that works for me..
If a women tells you "i have a boyfriend" it means she either has a boyfriend, or wants to be left alone! Just move on instead of triyng to force your flirting upon her. She is simply not interested. Is it so hard to accept this? This shit right here is just creepy
He's such a huge arsehole the king of arseholes I don't know why he is popular
Do you realise how damaging is using the label creepy? At least try to empathise with our position.
I was a side boy once. It makes you feel like human garbage. Don't do it.
Benny Costello What ? No way best sex ever
Nah, you just didn't gave her good emotions and good sex
being used for sex is horrible, as a male too. Makes you feel low in yourself.
agree with Benny
I'm 36, I'm in interested in getting past the boyfriend excuse.
Not trying to get with a girl who actually HAS a boyfriend.
Go get a job thomas
@@glockbabe9601 I'm at work
@@gambit_toys6554 oh just checking
Thomas...you are fired. Clean out your desk get all you shit and begone in the next 10 mins or I will have security escort you out.
Here's the thing. We say it because WE'RE NOT INTO YOU. And the only way these guys will accept us saying "no" is if we're the "property" of another man.If we say we're single, they act like we have no right or reason to say no to them. Simply saying we're not interested doesn't work. They'll just ignore it. We have to say we're taken by another man. Because they respect another man more than our right to say no. Even you were like, " How do I GET AROUND her saying no?"
ive been in the game a while now and most of the girls use the "i have a boyfriend" excuse. they all say the same thing. i got so used to it, so i don't even respond to it anymore. i usually just ignore it and keep on with the conversation going. once i establish more comfort on her she never mentions the i have a boyfriend again. most of the time it turns out they actually don't have boyfriend.
This in a hot environment
I don't think it's moral to sleep with somebody's partner in non open relationship.
Agree anyone advocating for that shit is a scumbag.
I don't think it's right to sleep with anyone while they're in a relationship, open or not..
@Eli Lis She has to break up with him then going out with another guy , that's the moral way
Everyone has weak moments. If you are messing with people's relationships like this than you (not the hypocritical "next guy who will do it anyway") you are putting more negativity into the world. More of the despair so many feel over the breakdown of human connection.
"Lots of love making but no love"
Assuming you were already flirting with a sexy woman with the intention of pulling her home and getting to fuck, there was no real chance of making the world a more positive place to begin with. It's important to map out fundamental goals with game:
1. Are you out to have a good time?
2. Are you out to find a wife?
In the first case, it all revolves around personal enjoyment. Stop trying to intertwine philosophical values with a situation that isn't inherently morally "good" by most standards anyway.
@ People that put foul energy into this universe Karma will take care of that ass sooner or later.
100% this. Bunch of fucking scumbags here
@@vicente3354 Lol you throw philosophical values out the door until her BF ends up being a dude like MMA Fighter War Machine who beats the shit out of you and nearly kills her!
"Everyone has weak moments" Lol a woman whos in a good relationship even at its worse moments would never even entertain the idea of cheating. This is nonsense.
Wow please kids, grow up and respect people. If someone doesn't want to sleep with you, don't try and manipulate them. My god this is gross.
If they end up sleeping with you of their free will, doesn't that mean they want to sleep with you?
There's been plenty of women in my life who've fallen in love with me who didn't like me at first, let alone want to sleep with me.
best comment ever.
@@stealth797 where are all dis wymen now? exaclty. case closed.
found the normie.
Dont do this. Just simply find a different girl.
Or just let her get on with it and speak to another girl...
just leave that girl alone, she had a bf. If ur her bf, ur gonna be proud of her..
What about having morals if she actually does have a bf lol
Todd is doing this for science... You can use this for whatever you want or not use it at all
@Yoshiyahu Yisrael sure buddy
How about realizing that the girl isnt always telling the truth about this. Sometimes, it's an objection not a condition.
Plus, you can't make a girl do anything that she doesn't want to do. You can't steal a girl from a guy.
This country has no moral mate, women especially have no morals
It's a dog eat dog world, kid
What's the point of having boyfriends and girl friends if you're just going to keep whoring around anyway. Why do your lives revolve around whoring around and never having a lasting relationship? This just seems desperate, not advisable. This kind of behavior shouldn't be promoted just because it is allowed.
Welcome to America
Hold up...so in his head, if the girl says she has a boyfriend (even if ACTUALLY does) it doesn't mean you can't have sex with her?...that's just desperation, that ain't loyalty either. Even if she's lying, back away, let them chase you silly.
He is the biggest jerk I've ever seen
Love it when Todd puts out a new video. I love his insights. His wisdom is impeccable, it's not just useful for pickup, it's applicable to all aspects of life.
Indeed, it's about the understanding of why things are the way they are and how to deal with that truth.
Honestly I dont want a girl that has a boyfriend that's low level shit. As men we should have more respect for ourselves and the masculine principle. Dig the system though.
Agree I am a desirable guy and had attractive women with boyfriends try to hookup with me. Even though it was tempting my values are too strong to do some shit like that plus Karma is a bitch!
Lost respect for Todd here, if she has a boyfriend why would you continue to hit on her?
Because you want her? tf you mean
Why do you NEED to still pursue her if she says she's already in a relationship. I mean is there a shortage of women going on?
Me: I have a boyfriend
Him: So can't have friends?
Me: (pulls out phone) *I DoN't kNOw Let'S AsK*
This video pretty much shows your lack of respect/integrity Todd for men that have women that have to put up with this crap. No wonder infidelity is out of fucking control today...
😐 yes, “I have a boyfriend” is a dealbreaker fellas, there’s plenty of fish
Basically the men who agree with this guy believe that if a girl is single, she has no right to say no to them. Fuck her preferences or if she even finds them attractive. She's single, so she has NO reason to say no, apparently.
Guy: (sneezes)
Girl: I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!
Guy: And I have allergies.
VALUE VALUE VALUE
Dude siriously... What kind of man acts like this if shes in a relationship MOVE ON don't try to wreak it. Disgusting
Why would you a gal who has a boyfriend? That shows you have respect for other men if you decide to go after another man's girl same goes for women who go after another woman's man
Why respect other men? You think that would give you some karmic advantage for when another dude hits up your girl? No!
@@emirmaslo4054 i would leave it alone
My head hurts 🤦♂️waste of time just move on and be done with it or stay there and keep playing games with both of yourselves. Plus why tf do I gotta change her mood.
At the end of the day you shouldn't be messed with the other man's woman also if the woman value the man she wouldn't be messing around with you so there's a double-edged sword to all this and also if you know she got a boyfriend then you shouldn't probably take it to the next level because you already know what you're getting into from the get-go
Why the fuck are people interested in getting with another man’s girl? Take a girls word for it, and Find a girl who is not taken. There are plenty of single chicks out there. Just a major rule to go by, never mess with another man’s ego, money, or woman.
Let’s be respectful and and respectable by other respectable men.
There are not plenty of single chicks out there. If a women is over 20 and single, she either has personal problems or asexual. Its impossible for a young women to be single
@@JamesTKirk-cg4hl my friend. With respect, talk to more 20 something girls and you’ll see plenty are single. Sure to find a virgin is rare, so don’t bank on it. Find a good woman that’s single and if she says she has a man, either she does, or not interested. So either way/ reason, why pursue if there are plenty out there. I promise you there are.
@@kevper96 I talked to a lot of women and so far I'm yet to see one who's single. When they say they have a bf then I have to take their word and hope they really do have a bf, cause it feels like shit when she thinks you're so unnattractive that she comes up with an imaginary bf to repell you. Girl always act like it's inappropriate to like them romantially and you're a creep for wanting more then friendship, while you know for a fact there's some guy out there who they wanna sit on so bad.
Isn't a big part of being attractive being non-needy? And non needy is being completely ok with walking out without the desired outcome, so this is kinda hypocritical
Literally everything this guy said demonstrates two things. Just how shitty some guys are who are willing to overstep boundaries and just how dishonest many women are. If you want the simple form of what he’s talking about psychologically it’s called manipulation. It’s laughable 😂😂😂
Taking on one sticking point at a time is perfect for teaching. Simply Gold Todd.
I see some comments saying this strategy is sleazy, but then what about these two frames of mind PUAs put out a lot?
1. She's not his, it's just his turn.
2. Never listen to a woman's words, just her actions.
Woman use the boyfriend card to show they are not interested. Letting you down easy.
Don't try to sleep with women that have a boyfriend. You are risking a whole world of problems when you could just simply move on to one of the many other available women. I've seen a number of "players" get put in the hospital over these cases.
paul mooney ppl die because of things like this. Todd is just borderline crazy for putting up this video.
paul mooney How bad were they? Sorry for asking.
And what if she really does have a boyfriend; I know if I caught you trying to pick up my girl friend it would be your final mistake as an able bodied human being.
Ripping off another man's girl is rather sleazy (and risky)
"Me too"
wtf i approached over 7 gurls this week they all tell me the same phrase...i have a boyfriend like wtf
If a giel says "i have a boyfriend" its more than likely bc she does and shes informing you that if youre looking for something she's not offering. If you continue to press her 2 things are most likely to happen: 1) she'll talk to you hoping youre a normal human being that can have a conversation without wanting sex as a result 2) she's now uncomfortable and will entertain you out of fear.
There is a chance she's a cheater, but most likely the 2 above are the most likely events to occur. If you're just looking for sex find another woman - most women are single. If youre looking for the challenege join an intramural league or crossfit.
This is bad advice. If she tells you she has a boyfriend...walk away.
No girl is worth that headache
1.) The yuk factor...shes banging another dude. Not into another mans germs.
2.) Jealous boyfriend could be a psycho.
3.) She lied to you since not interested. Either case why try to game her? Is the major headache worth sex? Hell no.
4.) What goes around comes back around. If you slept with an unavailable girl...the same will happen to you in time.
What if she has a boyfriend? first of all why pushing someone who is in a relationship and why do you like to have sex with someone who cheats on her boyfriend? Is this an ego thing? Either way she really has a boyfriend or it means she's not into you ..why waste your time.
I know when I'm not interested in a man, I use the boyfriend card as to not be offensive to him. Or when I'm interested in someone else,.. & not him. Just saying! 🙂
Love your gift of conversation and confidence and in your material on you tube
Very childish and immature reaction. Just say that you're not looking for a date or relationship.
@Kleo yeah, except she edited her reply after getting called out for her dishonesty...
@@Protestan88 So how long do you say you're not interested until he finally takes the hint? We all knew that most girls use the boyfriend ultimatum cause most of the time a simple no doesn't work.
@@mcpheefan21 My advice is don't smile or smirk and focus your attention in every direction but his. Men can hear you say you're not interested but if you're smiling, it's going to fall on deaf ears.
@@Phat_336 Understand woman sometimes its complicated, some women can reject a man at first place and after few weeks when a man comes across them again a woman accept
This is desperate af. Like even if she's lying about having a bf, she's still resorting to LYING to get you out of her face. I've never used the "i have a bf" line to curve a guy. I'm more straight up with the rejection. Even if we're vibing in the club or at a party, etc.., it's still a curve when friends are ready to go and we're leaving. But that's just me. I'm not the wishy-washy type.
I wonder how relevant this advice will be when technology drastically reduces the number of available men?
The hell are you trying to get at?
You can't just leave this comment and not elaborate.
@ I think he means sexbots..er maybe near perfect virtual reality where you can't tell the difference anymore.
That would be cool. I hope they make a female cyborg where we don't have to depend on the human female. They all have bf anyways.
Todd I respect you and most dating coaches advice but for the love of god teaching guys to get women to cheat on their boyfriends by sleeping with you. I get that you may be the "better" option or however you like to frame it in your head. But it's still disgusting. Would you want your girl cheating on you, granted you'll always get to have another but a girl you're good with if she cheated on you because some fucking guy manipulated her into it. Would you be okay with that? This is one of my contentions with the dating industry and why I believe when people say the pua industry is creating sociopaths. People with little to no disregard for how they're affecting the lives of others.
Like on the one side it makes people better but on the other hand its shit like this that when used by shit tier men ring things not just for other men but for the women too because those fucking guys are just trying to get with her smash and pass with the justification "if shes gonna cheat with someone may as well be me" maybe I'm to ideal to think that we could not fuck up peoplea relationships ships. 4.6 billion people in the world man. Exponential growth every decade.
humans garbage nature to take from other people fucking astounds me. Literally the cause of almost every bad thing in history. And its continually being supported, encouraged and perpetuated. Yes women have the right to sleep with whoever and they're not property. This part of social dynamics is murky at best I personally hate the idea. But dont deny things like this are a two person job. It takes two people to cheat...
Its convulated..
if my girl is so weak she sleeps with another guy just cuz hes good with words shes not my girl anymore lol
@@epiram she did you a favor tho. You don't want a wife like that in the future
@@rickyticky3350 yeah true. Why are women upset at this they do realize they are the ones who can choose whether to cheat or not right
Don't be the guy who makes women cheat. You'll just create more bitter women and men, and contribute to the destructing of the modern dating market.
You don't "make" a woman cheat people need to drop this word and stop associating it with cheating you just give them a choice and let them make it.
Thanks toddy. I will never have a girlfriend ever again
World class advice
got approached by some girls and when I tell them that I got a girlfriend, well I got one. they could have been models or whatever, my answer would be the same because I do not wanna cheat or betray my girl
change her mood, if emotional objection
fix her problem, if legitmate condition
Ok, but my question is, when she throws at you the "I have a boyfriend" line, how do you discern it from it being a shit test vs. it actually being the truth. From my beginner understanding so far, if she does it very soon right when you initiate that date request, I think that means she either rejects you (she is not attracted to you, at least not yet) or she actually has a boyfriend. If she throws the line at you after you initiate that date, then it sounds more like a shit test? I mean, why would she consent to the date in the first place is she is not attracted to you and/or she has boyfriend which she really likes. Now the question that remains, do you pursue her if she truly has a boyfriend? This depends on her and on you both I guess. If you know you're a high value man and have strong game you can, but there are moral implications here. If she has respect for her boyfriend and isn't promiscuous, she should decide not to engage.
If a woman says she has a boyfriend, she either has a boyfriend and doesn't want you, or is using it as an excuse to get you to leave her alone without hurting your feelings. Whether you think it's okay to lie about having a boyfriend or not, the meaning is the same: not interested. Move on.
As an experienced gamer all you have to to is ignore it. especially when you first approach her and your trying to take her on a insta date. Women are always in the moment so whatever she is feeling in the moment usually her response will be based on her mood. if she feels uncomfortable and she cant trust u in that moment, she will use her defense mechanism to repel you. or pretty much she is telling you that she is not ready. thats why todd says its all about comfort cuz you need to spend time with her so you both can build comfort. once you both establish comfort she will never use it again. most of the girls who i approach and do have boyfriends or they are just not interested they will put their ground and tell you over and over again until you leave her alone. persistence is the key. so when your talking to a girl when you first meet her and she tell you the i have a boyfriend analogy just ignore it and keep talking.
@@rickyticky3350 How do you discreet that she has a bf and keep talking to her? what is there to say to get her to change her mind?
What if she sends CHOOSING SIGNALS you aproach her and says "i have a boyfriend"
Just say "ah well sorry then" and move on to find the lucky lady ;)
This is gonna come up sooner or later... and perhaps more regularly than you'd like. What do you do when she says, "I have a boyfriend?"
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wtf, this is wrong, how about we respect her bf and have some morals?
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what's the deal with calibrating and being polarising? like most things in game it's seemingly paradoxical but what's the connection? like order and chaos seem different but they aren't.
Calibrating is just adjusting to the situation. You're not going to act the same way you would in a nightclub, as you would in a coffee shop.
Calibrating is making sure you are on the same wave length, communication wise. Without that you are just a weirdo. Polarizing is more about how she sees your role in the interaction
Yo guys, women have feelings as well
Shhhh it's a secret. We are supposed to suppress those things called emotions
Nah woman just want a good man. Men have the deeper feelings.
How to solve it, is just don't do it.
His eyes are dead. Just like his character.
John Doe i notice this too whats up with that??
As a 20 year old that unfortunately isn’t moved out yet cant use any of this because no girl has any interest in me. If you have nothing to give/show for, its kinda done for from the beginning
I believe that if a girl likes me and is single she will be so excited to go out with me and she won't talk about having a boyfriend. if she tells me she has a boyfriend I'll believe Her and go for the next honest, single girl. I'll friendzone her and go spend an amazing time with other girls. no time for games :)
It's not a game. We say we have a boyfriend because either we HAVE one, or we want him to leave us alone, and he won't unless he thinks we "belong to" another man. You're smart to realize that if we were interested, WE WOULDN'T SAY WE HAD A BOYFRIEND.
Moving on when she has a boyfriend is building good karma 😁 Karma exists
Todd is like a scientist 😜😜
He for all intents and purposes is a behavioural psychologist
A boyfriend =/= a husband; she's just trying that guy out for size. If she vibes with you more, the fact that she has a boyfriend won't stop her from seeing you. If I gave up every time a girl told me she had a boyfriend, I would have missed out on a lot of good 'opportunities'
This objection/condition thing is BS in that situation. First of all, if a girl tells you "I'm meeting my boyfriend IN 5 MINUTES" she probably don't want anything from you, the only thing you could say there is "Alright, can we meet some other time?" And depending on her answer you'll know where you at. On the other hand "I'm meeting my boyfriend this afternoon or later today" she opens a door and only then you can try to solve this "condition" and see where it leads.. I feel like, in this video, Todd is just trying to have an answer to any problem and not able to do so turns the focus of the conversation and his objection/condition theory when in this situation I think the guy has just been rejected for good and should've walked away. Plenty of fish in the sea.
Plenty of fish in the sea, but no fish in the sea who want me.
Did you watch the whole video?
You've got to be downright disrespectful to go down this road. It's called preying. That's what it is.
This guy is a sociopath, but clearly not a smart one putting this shit out for the public to see. One day a smarter sociopath will fuck him over.
so far i feel like im the only one pointing this out.
Have u guys noticed he sells dating advice to men and women? it feels like those people that sell weapons to both sides of a war. (not in a bad way) just in the way that he benifits them either way.
I find it funny that Todd has an entire video dedicated to how to game in a way that isn't sleazy or negative, doesn't leave the girl in a worse state than when you met, and let's you feel good and proud of how you game. Then he has videos like this, that are all about trying to pull a girl who's in a relationship. Or that story he told where a girl he was hitting on earlier in the night was making out with a different guy and he walks up, pulls her off the guy and starts making out with her.
That kinda stuff is so negative and makes the world such a worse place. Honestly, I'm surprised he hasn't gotten his ass kicked a few times for pulling that kinda crap. I used to really like Todd's videos, but after seeing this side of him more and more, and seeing how he now looks like an unhealthy 48 year old even though he's only 36 (seriously the guy has aged 15 years since this video), I don't really want to game like him anymore.
lots of his advice can be used for good, but I'll never believe that a self described PUA isn't a sociopathic sleaze bag
Sociopathy masquerading as a 'virtue'...
Lol scaredy snowflake
Fuck wit deserves lead in that cap. Dishing out chaos like a damn wahmen. Real MEN desire comfort and stability.
I usually just move on
Been the shoulder to cry on twice
Love triangles fucking suck, they're not for me
First most important question- is he a marine? (aka will he kill us if we get caught)
I'am actually just watching some of your videos on Winners game. And it's really great! New to the PUA ''community''. And also, I am reading the Mystery Method. I am i taking the right steps? What should i be doing. Any tips would be awesome =)
Are you from Sweden.
You can learn from mystery method a lot but it’s outdated but honestly you wouldn’t really need anything else than Todd’s System because the guy did learn from Mystery years ago and also past the paradigm of only routine style game
The only thing you need to do right now is TAKE ACTION. No book or video will give you first hand experience. Let experience show you what you need to learn.
read mystery method, then magic bullets, get your solid foundation down, then watch people like todd who will fine tune your base knowledge, and update it, and of course take action (most important step)
@@davidangelo3025 German/Sweden! @DavidAngelo
Just don't cry when the shoe is on the other foot if she really has a boyfriend 😂
Hey Todd. Can you make a video on How to change her mood?
That's just like asking, "How do I do game?" LOL
The 2 type or resistance should be learned well and practice more. Guys misunderstood it for most of the time.
Excellent video topic bro! Hope you do more videos like this.🤙
Anri Davids sorry, I don’t talk to a girl to figure out a magical puzzle.
Gold again. I don't get the "come to my flat" joke, can anyone explain?
A flat is another name for apartment. He is asking her to come to his place/home. Her excuse for not hanging out was that she had an appointment to view a flat, and he suggested they see his flat.
Someone in his audience said the girl's objection was she was going to look at a flat to rent. Possibly why she was meeting up with her bf.
Todd said the somewhat funny somewhat weasely response was to say "I have a flat, you can come check it out. I'm moving out Sunday, after that I won't be here..."
Yo Todd, I hope you have an answer for this problem, related to this video's content: I find many many times that girls, after they give me very good signals and responses, they would still, at some point in the interaction, give me "objections" that I can't seem to surpass. I think those are mostly objections, according to your definition, rather than conditions (purely practical hurdles) although they want to make it seem that way, but are based on them being still not comfortable enough with me. It's typically when I try to move the interaction to something more 'serious' that requires a higher level of commitment, like "let's go have a drink" or, by text, "let's meet for a date", and so on. They always seem to have some excuse not to comply, the likes of oh, I'm waiting for my friends, or I can't leave my friends, I have to work tomorrow, I have to travel tomorrow, or even I tdon't know you enough, etc..... So the question is, how to get them feel comfortable enough with me, when they won't give me time enough to build that comfort?? In short, despite them giving me what I would say very positive signals for some (short) time, corresponding the flirting etc, when shit gets real, they end up chickening out, finding excuses (objections based on emotions of insecurity), and I don't know how to handle it, so frustrating, because I know these are just excuses, and I know it's no use to argue logically with them about it!!! Thanks Todd for all the great content!!!!
Chad and Tyrone don't get any objections. They just get sack time. Chad: Hey, (Girl) let's get together right now and chill. (Girl:) I have a Boyfriend! Chad: I understand and
proceeds to walk away. (Girl) Chad, wait I will go with you and chill out. Chad: But what about your Boyfriend status? (Girl): I'll just give him some excuse why I couldn't
meet him. Chad: You mean you would do that for me? (Girl): Absolutely Chad! (Hunk)!
This is Advance level game, thanks Todd
I feel like a piece of shit watching this type of advice, but hey, be ready for everything
Monogamy isn't natural for humans. I'd recommend reading the book "Sex At Dawn".
@@stealth797 And then read "Sex at Dusk: Lifting the Shiny Wrapping from Sex at Dawn" to undo the effect of bad pop-science.
nothing wrong with trying to better one self
learning the proper intentions and learning to express how we as humans feel inside isnt a bad thing. in this world of zombies and social media learning to connect and draw people in is a good thing. These techniques dont only apply to ONLY women, but to life in general.
@@yeetdeets 'Sex at Dusk' is trash written by an anonymous writer that has been thoroughly debunked. 'Sex At Dawn' is based on real science with citations from all the peer reviewed studies in the book.
how sleazy
This is gross, Todd
Me: Hey, you there?
Girl: I have a boyfriend
Me: Congrats, I was just going to ask if you had studied for the test -_-
The worst case was she will call cops or security guard to kick me out from her.... I experieneced several times when I was younger. As an adult, I am afraid to hang out with ladies so that they will respond to me like shoo, I have a bf, fuck off. Even in business, small group meeting, and etc.
If she says she has a boyfriend but you determine she's lying AND STILL can pull her or there's a "boyfriend" but she's heading out and preferably you can convince her to at least send him a text about what's about to happen to make it legit, great, but any other reason involving a real boyfriend, aren't there "plenty (enough) fish in the sea"? Sometimes these day game vids seem to lack a bit of morality and focus way too much on "the bottom line" of "getting laid". I'm obviously not typical, or one of few who can admit it, but I could care less about JUST getting laid. How about some basic rules like 1) she's of legal age, 2) there is not boyfriend involved, 3) you haven't misrepresented your intentions, and maybe 4) you have some level of minimum familiarity required with the person before you engage in such an intimate activity(respect of feelings)? That said, most of these vids, and I particularly like Todd's have great info on getting to know and court women which is like a lost skill in this day and age. I'd just like to see a bit more morality touched upon in this genre. Dudes just be like 'man, gotta get laid! You get laid? No? Been celebate for over a month/week?? Wtf? You gay?? I'm so horny!' like, relax! There's plenty of time and women to "get laid".
This guy is the definition of moral corruption
RSD comunity is great but men try to pick up my girlfriend 3-4 times a week and was never successful, the only things that happen is they scare her (even if the dude is looking okay she says she feel intimidated) Cant wait to see someone trying to do that and beat the shit out of someone like that.