People Are Being Lied To and Misled About Marriage!

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  • Опубліковано 28 вер 2024

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  • @Leydo773
    @Leydo773 10 місяців тому +148

    As a married woman I can confirm that this video is 100% true. Main reason I still listen to Tony is because I’ve been taking his advice since before I was married and still get nuggets of wisdom that I can apply to my marriage and life in general.

  • @RITTAAREE
    @RITTAAREE 10 місяців тому +26

    Men aren't excepting flaws now days. You piss them off or confronting them about something you're uncomfortable with they ready to let you go...

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 10 місяців тому +7

      Funny because men say the same about women wanting them to be perfect. Both sides dont want to appreciate each other

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 10 місяців тому +5

      So let them go. Planet got too many humans anyways. Bad company is not better than no company.

    • @RITTAAREE
      @RITTAAREE 10 місяців тому +2

      @@zero1188 from what I'm seeing the men are still going for a certain look of a woman. And women are accepting and moving too fast with the wrong character of a guy. We're out here in relationships with strangers. My cousin told me the boyfriend stage ain't nothing when yal move in that's when it's serious and I don't believe that. He cheats all the time. At this point in my life I have to take several seat lbvs it's piss in the pool and nobody wants to get out smh

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 10 місяців тому +6

      @@RITTAAREE well when it comes to moving in, thing people don’t consider is, when going on dates your mainly meeting the exciting high energy version of the person. But when moving in, your seeing the person on their down time. When they moody or just not in the mood. Its not that people change, its that you never seen the person when they are just living without trying to impress you.

  • @krocker8112
    @krocker8112 10 місяців тому +108

    Man! Anybody else notice the "puppy dog" TG turns into when his wife enters the room? I just love their love! Lol! 🤣 But, good stuff, Tony. I love the sober reality check of marriage. It's not just about sex. For real! So many other caveats and nuances involved. Stay woke, folks! Keep pushing us forward, TG! 😊💯💪🏽

    • @LiftWithTam
      @LiftWithTam 10 місяців тому +7

      I was just going to say this as well! It’s so sweet, he gets so giddy when his wife enters the room, bless them!

  • @anayork3391
    @anayork3391 10 місяців тому +56

    Mr Gaskins, not sure if you’re aware but Balenciaga released an ad campaign featuring children holding teddy bears in bondage harnesses, alcoholic drinks, and other disturbing imagery. It was like a dog whistle to pedos. Most ppl have completely boycotted the brand (no longer buy or wear any of their clothing). Hopefully you’ll see this.

    • @dmariethomas
      @dmariethomas 10 місяців тому +2

      I was just about to comment about this. Thanks for giving him a heads up.

    • @anayork3391
      @anayork3391 10 місяців тому +2

      @@dmariethomas 👍

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 10 місяців тому +8

    Marriage is not for the weak!

  • @uniquelondon1220
    @uniquelondon1220 10 місяців тому +7

    I don't even know any healthy happy couples that are married. smh

    • @brieanaduckett-graves6234
      @brieanaduckett-graves6234 10 місяців тому +1

      I was thinking the same thing…like Yeesh…am I up the creek without a paddle?

  • @LovelyOne0075
    @LovelyOne0075 10 місяців тому +130

    Great video...the one thing I strongly believe at my core is that you can't do marriage without God. The world gives us the fantasy but God gives us the reality.

    • @MyMichellle
      @MyMichellle 9 місяців тому +2

      As a child of God, especially & absolutely! 🙏🏾

    • @mslove2913
      @mslove2913 9 місяців тому +3

      Amen, When it's In you it's In you 🙏🏽

  • @breannn
    @breannn 10 місяців тому +165

    Unfortunately, this is why I feel like marriages will become less and less. Social media has gotten our heads messed up frfr

    • @cynthialewis9404
      @cynthialewis9404 10 місяців тому +3

      Always was interested in knowing how your parents divorcing impacted you.

    • @ElonNicole
      @ElonNicole 10 місяців тому +12

      What’s meant for people will find them, when they’re ready. Folks who are supposed to be married still will be.

    • @mike619
      @mike619 10 місяців тому +3

      Facts!

    • @purposedpatience6597
      @purposedpatience6597 10 місяців тому +1

      🎯🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯💯

    • @prosperousnatasha8153
      @prosperousnatasha8153 10 місяців тому +2

      Take your mind back

  • @SheemsOfficial
    @SheemsOfficial 10 місяців тому +11

    Man when I say Tony keep it REAL!!!!!😂😮‍💨 please don’t change we need this !

  • @anissa2361
    @anissa2361 10 місяців тому +6

    Yess! The conversation is so important because people put sex on a pedestal when that us the icing on the cake not the main point if marriage.

  • @brown_beauty7499
    @brown_beauty7499 10 місяців тому +12

    Tell them again Tony!! Sex does not define a relationship! Some days you or your partner may be going through a stressful week. Yes and your partner could come down with a life threatening disease. Trust me sex will not be on your mind! And the relationship not based solely off sex can still be happy. Because the day your partner gets sick or pregnant and that relationship is based mainly ofd sex. Trust and believe they'll be looking for their fix elsewhere!

  • @sidehustlevikki1066
    @sidehustlevikki1066 10 місяців тому +16

    Your content is so practical and real. Most of us single ppl have absolutely no reliable or meaningful content to watch or healthy marriages to even look up to. Most of the content I see from married ppl only show the good fairytale side of marriage. Single ppl are sharing what they think works, and most of us don’t even have access to a healthy married couple in our day to day lives to seek counsel from. Keep doing the lord’s work 😊

  • @ElonNicole
    @ElonNicole 10 місяців тому +7

    A lot of my family members are in happy, healthy marriages. Beautiful for them

  • @travelnurseneenee
    @travelnurseneenee 10 місяців тому +6

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 the side bar disclaimer

  • @ellee.444
    @ellee.444 10 місяців тому +12

    The pee convo💀😅 Lol "I don't care if you do drink water all day it still stank, Absolutey not finna pee on me or my floor" 😂😂😂😂 EXACTLY quit being nasty

    • @ieshjust16
      @ieshjust16 10 місяців тому +1

      right and all I drink is water, so I know that is disgusting

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 10 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @MJWife07
    @MJWife07 10 місяців тому +4

    I love how you look at your wife. You can tell that’s your “dream girl”❤

  • @mslove2913
    @mslove2913 10 місяців тому +11

    I feel if sex is like food in a marriage then your marriage is based off lust or self gratification.
    I believe people need to pray for Wisdom like Solomon. I prayed for it myself and trust me my mother call me for advice and I am not married. Nor is she, however, praryer is powerful! When I listen to TG it is either confirmation and or I am learning to see things from a different perspective. God Bless All🙏🏽
    -May I add, I have chosen not to be married, I am believing in God for A "Real Man of God," nothing less🙏🏼

  • @jessepera2457
    @jessepera2457 10 місяців тому +6

    Uncle Tony you are refreshingly counter culture! I will not stray from this wisdom you take the time to give us! You are saving lives because you are saving our minds! Thank you! Sending you gratitude!

  • @karenbailey921
    @karenbailey921 10 місяців тому +3

    🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ Tony, Tony, say it, Louder 📢 love your messages. 💙🙏🏼

  • @flowers7951
    @flowers7951 10 місяців тому +2

    👍Yes speak Tony 🤺 fight against 👏 the nonsense and delusions 💯

  • @mariahtolliver
    @mariahtolliver 10 місяців тому +10

    I should’ve passed away 6 yrs ago if sex was that important 😂

    • @njc9776
      @njc9776 9 місяців тому

      😂

  • @Love_Lacie
    @Love_Lacie 10 місяців тому +5

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Tony always says what needs to be said. We are getting terrible advice out here. It sounds wrong too so very grateful to have good married folks that share❤

  • @kokoalaska9888
    @kokoalaska9888 10 місяців тому +6

    One of the realest videos you ever done… Not “ lock jaw”😂😂😂. But your right.😐 Most of the married men that try to holler always say” we only together for the kids” or “ we never have sex anymore”…. Dirty dogs

  • @lisadear4400
    @lisadear4400 10 місяців тому +6

    I have Hidrinitis and it’s incurable and causes scars lumps,bumps and is very painful. Mostly on inner thighs. Under and any closed body parts. It’s problematic an embarrassing. Love me from the inside out please 😢

  • @elizabethsakyi1531
    @elizabethsakyi1531 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for allowing God to use you always. We need these kind of messages no one else is discussing marriage from the correct perspective.

  • @2B-Steele
    @2B-Steele 10 місяців тому +6

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣There’s days has taken me out🤣🤣🤣😂🤣

  • @cocotruffles9815
    @cocotruffles9815 9 місяців тому +1

    49:25 i had a man stop talking to me because he could “sense” i wasn’t into fitness aka he thought i was fat. I am a dress size 6. This was a BLACK MAN & we’ve only been on two dates…he’s 35 single no kids and never been married. He came off really superficial and unrealistic

  • @hopejones4479
    @hopejones4479 10 місяців тому +5

    PREACH, Tony! 🙌

  • @officialwatchamber
    @officialwatchamber 10 місяців тому +15

    This is some real teaching right here! I listened from start to finish! So much wisdom. So much transparency. Loving the content TG! From the short videos, to the talks with tony, to your more in-depth content! The word is going forth 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @alishamonique7384
    @alishamonique7384 10 місяців тому +3

    Thank you, Tony! This is so true!

  • @razbliss3367
    @razbliss3367 10 місяців тому +7

    Yes, Thank you Tony

  • @s.johnson1772
    @s.johnson1772 10 місяців тому +2

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 “Lord Forgive Me” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I Fully understand 😩😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣🤣 Jesus be sick of me sometimes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @lenamayo6894
    @lenamayo6894 10 місяців тому +3

    You’re hilarious 😂😂😂 and speak the truth all in one! The woman on the phone because she gotta take out the trash😂😂 Dodo, on the chest! 🤣you be having me dying laughing Mr. Gaskins! Keep up the good work 👍🏾👏🏾

    • @mizzmilagros
      @mizzmilagros 10 місяців тому +2

      I swear I be cracking up! 😂

  • @sbrightpink
    @sbrightpink 9 місяців тому

    You be breaking it down in BITS not pieces ok😂😂😂😂too real

  • @stephaniebell8223
    @stephaniebell8223 8 місяців тому

    Oh wow lol she really said that? She's talking about herself bc that's crazy smh.

  • @Princessfrmalmighty
    @Princessfrmalmighty 9 місяців тому +4

    Well i should have been dead years and years ago if sex was like life. smh

  • @theevolvingblackwoman
    @theevolvingblackwoman 10 місяців тому +2

    You speak some truth right here

  • @samanthaharris5404
    @samanthaharris5404 10 місяців тому +1

    You going to get a rash 😂 . I almost fell off my bed. You’re speaking facts per usual.

  • @GreenestOne
    @GreenestOne 10 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much for this video.

  • @dorothymatthews6690
    @dorothymatthews6690 10 місяців тому +5

    Great advice Tony! Im learning more and more that character is the key. Thank you!

  • @mablem.9094
    @mablem.9094 10 місяців тому +22

    This message is extremely healthy for both men and women. This help / teache men not only discipline but also the real meaning of sex. Thank you. I watched a video, today, that you made 2 years ago. Around the last 45 minutes of the video I received confirmation from your ministry that was told to me, telepathically, that I would receive. Keep it real and stay on track. You’ll probably have your church or ministry center pretty soon. One never knows ☺️☺️.

  • @lyfemullins4519
    @lyfemullins4519 10 місяців тому +1

    All I can say is that God is looking down on his creation, shaking his head in disbelief.😮😮😮

  • @wandak1889
    @wandak1889 10 місяців тому +2

    I noticed that a lot of people who give relationship advice either taking other people’s content and twisting things up. The make sex the foundation of everything

  • @AtlantaAngel84
    @AtlantaAngel84 9 місяців тому +2

    Tony, I appreciate your transparency, especially as a millennial, I find your content refreshing and real. I don’t even listen to those unrealistic creators, I hope one day you and this psychologist out of Atlanta are able to collab, he is also married and teaching about healthy and realistic love. I just laugh at Cheesecake Factory being considered low budget when it is in wealthy areas 😂. I have had Allen Iverson hold the door open for me at the Cheescake Factory so I ain’t worried about the toxic podcast people 😂.

  • @shannonmonaallathat
    @shannonmonaallathat 10 місяців тому +3

    We appreciate u Tony. Keep going 💯✝️💪🏽

  • @KOEKOEWITHASMILE
    @KOEKOEWITHASMILE 10 місяців тому +5

    25:49- 26:25 is truth marriage is beautiful to Imperfect people coming together under God's union I believe God is pruning us to love our spouse like Jesus loves us for his glory, then In between that life happens
    I could explain more

  • @gwendolynbradford4922
    @gwendolynbradford4922 9 місяців тому

    Tony you are a sho nuff REALIST!😂🤣😂🤣

  • @shirley5030
    @shirley5030 9 місяців тому

    Well said. Also married, and you have mindfully and firmly articulated elements of genuine marriage.

  • @queenkeesh8660
    @queenkeesh8660 10 місяців тому +1

    I agree it effects you unconsciously in ur daily conversations

  • @chloelageaux769
    @chloelageaux769 10 місяців тому +2

    Great advice!!!

  • @travelnurseneenee
    @travelnurseneenee 10 місяців тому +5

    i wish i had married friends--i don't really have friends but if i did, i'd prefer to have successfully married ones

  • @meiyaslaughter4944
    @meiyaslaughter4944 10 місяців тому +1

    come on tony put it into perspective (opening doors and cooking) that’s good ‼️

  • @atmedia9882
    @atmedia9882 9 місяців тому

    This is hilarious! lol

  • @melanietheloyal1988
    @melanietheloyal1988 10 місяців тому +1

    27:30-29:00...hilarious but so true teach us brother.

  • @0Enidan0
    @0Enidan0 9 місяців тому

    Tony, this was amazing content. Please make more videos like this!!

  • @gerijohnson3850
    @gerijohnson3850 10 місяців тому +3

    Preach Tony! ❤❤❤

  • @MeshaAmor
    @MeshaAmor 10 місяців тому +6

    I’m just listening 👂

  • @georgiejohnson8978
    @georgiejohnson8978 9 місяців тому

    Amen speak 🙏🏾🙌🏽

  • @TB-fk4qm
    @TB-fk4qm 10 місяців тому +3

    Facts! 💯💯💯💯💯

  • @bravebruises
    @bravebruises 6 місяців тому

    💯

  • @gillobrown
    @gillobrown 10 місяців тому +2

    Tony just say it😅

  • @Valinda1
    @Valinda1 10 місяців тому +4

    This message is So PROFOUND!! Truly thank you for continuing to Give us Godly Wisdom!! I’m a single divorced woman n even being married I didn’t realize what a healthy marriage took.. but grateful I’m getting the teaching and understanding now, for my NEXT❤️‍🩹

  • @beefaye6861
    @beefaye6861 10 місяців тому +6

    In here 👏

  • @marialacerda6593
    @marialacerda6593 10 місяців тому

    98% of the old man thinks the same.Jazabel spirit on the PNS.,😭

  • @AnnDonley
    @AnnDonley 9 місяців тому

    😂 😂😂 I grown hairs

  • @sbrooks904
    @sbrooks904 9 місяців тому

    i wonder how many men agree with this lmfao

  • @jhonyaejtv217
    @jhonyaejtv217 9 місяців тому

    I’m asking does it matter if the parent/parents don’t like your spouse….and is that grounds for divorce? I’m currently married newly married at that but I’m asking because I don’t want to give up on my marriage.

  • @joanjohnson9821
    @joanjohnson9821 10 місяців тому +7

    you're just being too real

  • @fitgirlism3038
    @fitgirlism3038 10 місяців тому +12

    The other thing is...when you grow up in a two parent household...and you hear people talk about marriage? Folks sound so delusional.
    All singles are not delulu. ROFL! If you watched your parents stick together for 40 years through death, grief, illness, job loss, crazy kids, etc...I think you are better prepared for reality.

  • @CrochetStudent36
    @CrochetStudent36 10 місяців тому +35

    EVERYBODY NEEDS TO HEAR THIS!!! I'm sending this to my married Sister!!! You should change this title to include married folk too!!! ✊🏾❤️✊🏾❤️✊🏾❤️

  • @noahplays3698
    @noahplays3698 10 місяців тому +1

    😅😅😅😅

  • @MayfairJones
    @MayfairJones 10 місяців тому +66

    I'm Married. I take the Trash out More than my Husband. My husband does 90% of all the Cooking. Im a great cook & he has no problem with taking out the trash and he does. Do whatever is best for YOUR marriage.

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 10 місяців тому +12

      This. People think marriage is masculine and feminine BS. In reality people do what works

    • @Princessfrmalmighty
      @Princessfrmalmighty 9 місяців тому +1

      That's the way it should be.

  • @joycewatt800
    @joycewatt800 10 місяців тому +82

    6:36
    Too many relationships are built on sex and they fail as a result. Trust AND believe it takes MORE than sex to sustain and maintain a loving relationship.

  • @dericaj
    @dericaj 10 місяців тому +79

    I love how easily and willingly distracted you are when Mrs. Gaskins steps in the room 😂. I love how you give her your full attention and interest no matter what you’re fussing at us about! Go Mr. & Mrs. G!

    • @PCF09
      @PCF09 10 місяців тому +6

      Yeah his face and tone changes and everything 🤣😆🙌

  • @estheri5944
    @estheri5944 10 місяців тому +61

    You are one of the few people I listen to about relationships. I have completely tuned out of all these social media relationship and dating hot takes. They are way too toxic and a bunch of petty and irreverent conversations

  • @springchoyces4715
    @springchoyces4715 10 місяців тому +57

    Keep teaching us, Tony! Thank you. Naturally, everyone won’t listen but some are taking notes and will be the next generation of marriages that push the Kingdom forward!

  • @ericbush6124
    @ericbush6124 10 місяців тому +11

    Sex is overrated what's not overrated is a Love built on God's Standards Communication Understanding Empathy a Great Marriage sex is 10% and Mr Gaskins all the said above getting married for sex in for rude awakening

  • @TrishC5280
    @TrishC5280 10 місяців тому +30

    Tony too kind 🤣🤣🤣 "she pretty to somebody" 😆😆😆

  • @joycewatt800
    @joycewatt800 10 місяців тому +28

    24:49 -
    25:50
    C’mon now. Amen
    Talk about it!
    Married 15 years and still going…….by the grace of God🙏🏾

  • @latoniasmith7164
    @latoniasmith7164 10 місяців тому +46

    Good message Tony. People don’t seem to care about character anymore. It’s all superficial right down to the credit score. Things like credit score and cooking skills can be improved.

  • @ladykadiijha
    @ladykadiijha 10 місяців тому +14

    Thank you Tony
    A man I dated for while told me he only wanted head no sex, sex doesn't satisfy him but he would do it one time to get a child.
    Sounded suspect to me
    I am Glad I LEFT quick

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 10 місяців тому +7

      DL fo sho 😂🎉

  • @Es_Elle
    @Es_Elle 8 місяців тому +5

    A chilvarous man with Godly character and a good credit score (financial maturity) is wonderful! Seeing an elderly man still open the door for his elderly wife is heart-warming. These days, many men will let a door close in your face and not even look back. Women claim that they can talk like a man, be a man, a father, etc., and so REAL men are giving you the treatment as a man. No, thanks!
    Ladies, please be sure to thank a man for each act of chilvary. Let's not take it for granted!

  • @deaudrey85
    @deaudrey85 10 місяців тому +26

    This video deserves way more likes
    This is one of the most realest videos Tony has ever posted!! And I’m here for it

  • @universallove878
    @universallove878 10 місяців тому +23

    So glad this conversation was provided. Thank you😊

  • @donnajeffreys8252
    @donnajeffreys8252 10 місяців тому +11

    🏆 Best marriage advice award goes to Mr Tony Gaskins Jr ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 👏🏽👏🏽HALLELUJAH ❤❤ how much is their character worth ? Y'all worried about the wrong things...

  • @lavonnepatterson1327
    @lavonnepatterson1327 10 місяців тому +29

    I’m laughing so hard trying to stay focused on the message! 😂😂😂😂

  • @starlash-a
    @starlash-a 10 місяців тому +23

    Wow. I’m 24 and this is helping me. I never knew this was wrong lol

  • @haleycamille
    @haleycamille 10 місяців тому +14

    That smack and eye roll 😂😭

  • @nursesrock4264
    @nursesrock4264 10 місяців тому +16

    😂😂😂 I felt so immature when the diarrhea caught me off guard..😂😂

  • @GLeon-ov9yu
    @GLeon-ov9yu 10 місяців тому +15

    This content is fantastic. Thank you so much for this anointed message. Much needed. 🙏🏼

  • @GreenestOne
    @GreenestOne 10 місяців тому +11

    Too many people believe the idea that marriage should be “a sleepover with your best friend everyday.” It’s a childish mindset that people have not grown out of

  • @teresaroquemore670
    @teresaroquemore670 10 місяців тому +7

    No fairytale it’s work

  • @JWspoon7408
    @JWspoon7408 10 місяців тому +8

    Parents have been married 31 years and my mom takes the thrash out and dad cleans the house. These traditional roles are totally obsolete when it comes down to it. Keep teaching the real Tony

  • @doneshahastings9216
    @doneshahastings9216 10 місяців тому +8

    Hello from the UK Mr Gaskins . I think people confuse sex with intimacy. that's what I think people confuse. thank you for your raw straight forward lessons it saved my life. God bless you , your beautiful wife and you amazing boys💛

  • @lequishaferrell9731
    @lequishaferrell9731 10 місяців тому +10

    I love how when your wife comes into the room you just stop what you doing and give her all your attention and that smile that's on your face is priceless. That's how it's suppose to be

  • @purpleprincess8998
    @purpleprincess8998 9 місяців тому +6

    I just LOVE how you talked to your wife when she came into the room. You can SEE the love and adoration you have for her! Just beautiful! And everything you said is ON POINT! Also, PLEASE keep your Southern accent. It’s beautiful, down-to-earth, sometimes comical (when intended) and refreshing. God Bless You Tony Gaskins!

  • @itsb2968
    @itsb2968 10 місяців тому +6

    Good morning
    The dating scene is horrible, and I’m 39. I refused to settle. Tony can you just start a match group and hook me up with someone ?🤣 serious though, I live in GA

    • @itsb2968
      @itsb2968 10 місяців тому +5

      A lot of singles with no sense make it hard for singles with sense! 👏🏾

  • @jeweladiele4664
    @jeweladiele4664 10 місяців тому +7

    I love taking out the trash. At least it is an accomplishment I can see done and makes a HUGE difference in my space.Done. take the task off the list...many times before my son gets up or gets to it
    (Hubbyof 40yrs deceasedRIP❤)

  • @leesantana8205
    @leesantana8205 10 місяців тому +7

    His face lights up when he sees his wife. I love it!!!

  • @joycewatt800
    @joycewatt800 10 місяців тому +11

    10:32
    Lol 😂but true. Time moves on and so does life and IF we live long enough our bodies WILL change.