How to TRULY become and STAY Fluent in English|The biggest mistake people make when learning English
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Hey Everyone! ) I’m Anna and welcome to my channel. Here, I post some useful information for English learners. I’m from Ukraine and I’ve worked on my English and accent, for the most part, on my own, but you can find out and trace my story by watching my videos. I’ve been studying American pronunciation for a long time, and I still do, and I guess I always will - because it’s not math. Learning a language, it’s a lifetime journey. I know exactly what it takes to become fluent and acquire an accent in a non-English speaking country, and I’ve never even been to one. And I’m sharing this information here - on my channel.
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My dreem is cabin crew jobs..but my english knowledge is not in good ...how is improw english speaking ???
I speak portuguese👍🇧🇷 I don't speak english😢😌 mas estou estudando inglês👍👏👏😍🤩
you're english was extremely fantastic , mind blowing ! where did you learn from ? oops! what just i gonna ask about you probably learnt by living in english ! right of course the people might not be speak in english and they don't need to focus just speak by living in english like america . english countries might be there , no ?
Hi Anna you are very similar to the actress Jenny McCarthy and the voice is also similar in appearance.
Don’t study English, use English to learn things you are interested in. This approach also applies to English exam prep like IELTS, as these exams are checking your English proficiency level.
that''s the way i did it, i am enterested in my personal growth, then what i do is i read all my self help books in english that''s enable me to keep my english speaking skill.
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Don’t study English, use English to learn things you are interested in OMG
Immersion please can you help me about English.. ?
I agree
The secret is: DONT GIVE UP.
You right
@@sukhvirbansal1258 are you studing how lenguague? (Srry my bad english, i started to learn 12 days ago).
How can I don't give up, after 2 years I can't speak fluently
@@el.daneshmam how many time do you give for English
@@el.danesh two years learning every day? I started 12 days ago and i can watch video in english and understand 60%!
Do you trained listening?
As a ESL instructor, I am showing this to my international online students!!!! Wisest language learning advice on UA-cam!!! You are amazing!!! Should been shown in every language school!!! Much love from Toronto!!
Wow, I can't believe I understood every word in every sentence. Very useful and understandable video for everyone.
Yeah she spoke slowly and used simple vocabulary to help us understand her.
@@bruno_miguel. for that reason I could understand 🤣
She is not slowly enough for me.
it's not ur level then :) level up bud)
@@vararux2467 I'm aware about)
I've been trying to learn this language for 5 months by myself at home, isn't easy.. i make mistakes a lot. But first of all my focus is to increase my vocabulary to understand more and more videos. By the way I'm so proud of myself.
For 5 months? Where do you live? What's your first language? That's amazing!
@@josecontreras7153 Thanks buddy. I'm from Brazil. My first language is Portuguese.
@@englishwitheni awesome, I'm gonna subscribe right now
If want to practice in english. We can setup a meeting in this way we both improve our english. It's free of cost and win-win ratio for both of us. Let me know about your opinion.
@@saadkhan-qm8lx sounds great buddy, it'll be incredible
My native language is Spanish, I did my studies in a French speaking country and now here I am working I an English company. I want to become fluent because within the company I receive a lot of phone calls, I have 3 meetings/ week and i think it's very important to me to start speaking fluently.
I haven't been able to learn English fluently for a long time. I tried to learn by studying, but I didn't get much. A short time ago, one of my friends advised me to live English as a life, so I started doing it in a way and felt happy and a lot of understanding. Your words are really nice and useful. You all the thanks and appreciation .💯
I'm also from Ukraine, I'm 40 years old, I have long wanted to learn English and now I found your channel, it motivated me a lot. Thank you very much
Good keep moving
Your English is actually very good I will speak like you 🤗
Obvious, she is native speaker
She isn‘t a native speaker.
@@eliezerbrasilian3881 lol
@@eliezerbrasilian3881 that's flattered to her
@@eliezerbrasilian3881 so?
In my experience, I found that the key to learn not only English, but I believe also anything else, is in learning how to manage hormones of pleasure and motivation, like endorphin and dopamine. How? Making sure to keep the feeling of reward as a result of your studies. When you notice that the production of these hormones will be coming from you studying English specifically, it will give you the feeling of reward you need to keep yourself motivated.
Why is it important? If you don't know how to keep yourself motivated, literally everything will start being boring for you and you'll simply learn way slower than you could, even though you'll still be studying. That's how many people give up; their studies aren't producing the hormones of pleasure and motivation they need.
So that means no matter how great the method you picked is, if you don't manage motivation well, you will take way longer to learn, which of course will decrease the sense of reward with learning the language even more and eventually you'll quit.
For example, you saw someone that studies for many hours and that person says they feel great and motivated, but is studying that many hours gonna keep you motivated like them? If the amount of content you learn from studying hours won't be as great, you might not feel that reward feeling he felt, so I think you should study your own self first to learn if that's the right amount of time for you. If it gets boring, it's going to become a snowball that will end up with you quitting.
Also studying and learning are two different things. Study to understand. Learn what you understood.
But if you want to really improve your English or any other language skills, you need to listen to hours of content that you CARE ABOUT, that you are deeply interested in. Why? This way your main focus will be on absorbing the information that you really want to, and while you do that, you'll get used to every pattern of conversations that people use while communicating through that language. Also what will happen is that the new words you learn (I advise to learn the most common words first), if they are common, you'll automatically hear them in context, very fast and naturally.
Something else I think you need to know is that, all the vocabulary you're learning, even if you use Anki with words in a good context instead of isolated, will have to "move from your analytical kind of mental processing" to total intuition. That means when you say or listen to a sentence, you won't even be thinking about the words' meaning in your native language, you'll naturally link the symbols(which are the words), to the thing itself in the real world, instead of first having to return to another language, which is your mother tongue, to make the connection between the symbol and the object. And that comes when you listen A LOT and every day, but not as a boring activity that will drain your motivation, but as a way of you getting the information you really want to. It could be anything, from entertainment to political live stream conversations, which is the ones I picked for being harder, faster and where I can just listen without worrying about understanding, just getting used to all the patterns of the language and eventually understanding it more and more as I increase my, intellectual, physical and intuitive knowledge of the language.
I'm now learning French, and when think of a little French kid, I know they didn't learn French by, for example, linking the words "la robe", to another language in order to understand, they are directly shown an actual dress. Of course we need to look at the meaning of the things that we can't simply see, but if we rely more than we should on that, all our knowledge will be stored in a sort of "analytical processing region" of our brain and that can't make us speak in a natural way and we'll still not understand most of it either. It must be practiced and listened a lot, so that it becomes intuitive and with no intermediate between the word we learned and the thing it refers to.
Anyways, that's just my point of view, but I think it could be helpful to some people.
I don't know why your comment is so underrated - I think that you made a couple of great points. Thanks for putting your time and effort into typing that out.
I highly agree with the motivation and hormones thing, especially when it comes to learning languages because it's something I experienced on my own. Around 4 years ago language learning became my hobby. I've tried a couple of languages and numerous methods, but I wasn't getting any good at them for some reason. It changed once I discovered the love of my life - Norwegian. After two and a half years of learning, I'm still extremely excited to read another text, listen to another song in this language, or even read about grammatical rules. The huge motivation and enthusiasm are the things that made me fully conversational (and hopefully fluent someday!) in my third language.
I think that the only exception might be English. I wonder how helpful the motivation really is when we're talking about something so mainstream. If you want to engage on the internet, you almost need to know it, and that's why I think that anyone, especially the youngest generation can learn it if they only find their own place in it. I might be a good example of that - I went from A2 to a strong B2 level within two years without any books, just by engaging with a group of people online with whom I shared interests and became friends with. That forced me to use the language for hours a day if I wanted to keep in touch with them. I started recognizing grammatical patterns and acquiring new vocabulary. If I wanted to use a new word, I had to look it up, over and over, until it finally stuck in my long-term memory. It may or may not be a good method (especially if it's the only one being used), depending on the way you look at it, but I like how far I got without thinking about it, nor considering it studying.
I only started "actually studying" a few months ago, as I'd like to pass the Cambridge Advanced English test and obviously that's not enough for it at all. Also, good luck with your French!
It's so important speech!!! Meaning like this help me to start learn English well)
Great advice! Make a video of this!!!!!
Thank you very much.
omg love your comment, i share that point of view
i thought you were american until you mentioned ukraine... your english is hella smooth. you must be so proud of yourself ❤ from malaysia btw
I agree with you 😊. To achieve high level it's nessesary to integrate a language in our everyday living.
I practice English in my life and however my family doesn't let me up use it as second language to be rested you get practice English
This is exactly what I have done. I stopped studying grammar more than 6 months ago because I was pretty sure I got it all down. Now what I do is keep practicing it, for example speaking to Americans on a regular basis, writing stuff in english, looking things up in English, studying my favourite subjects in English and what not. Now every person tells me I sound so natural and I'm so happy to hear that.
Her every word is absolutely relatable, especially when she says that skills need to be maintained and you're not gonna last if you feel burdened while learning! Thanks for sharing such insightful content! 🙂👍
I totally agree with you. I always encourage my students to live the language, do the things that they would normally do in their native tongues. But as you say, first, one must surround oneself by these English Speaking habits.
Yesterday I watched your video wich was about break,if brain got tired while learning a language we should take break in order to fresh mind,
True.! I'd like to call it immersion. I live in Korea and we don't normally use English in daily life except for a very few cases. Honestly it is enough to use only Korean language here to get by. But my goal is to use English every day. I simply do reading, listening, writing, and speaking (alone) a lot online. I don't need a native English speaker to practice with because there are so many good English materials on Internet. Of course, if I live with Americans, it'd be better for my English but it's not easy and possible. That's how I can maintain my fluency level by just doing on my own. Whenever my acquaintances or strangers ask me how I'm good at English, I can't fully explain it to them because my lifestyle is totally different from them.! I always indulge in watching and reading stuff written in English whereas they only stick to Korean stuff like tv programs or blog posts. I'm glad a like-minded person exists like you living in a different world. I just love the English language itself and the self-passion has driven me up to this point that I can simply use and understand English every day by myself without any big difficulties. Thank you for sharing your video.!⭐😀
Благодарю, Аня! Интересно тебя слушать.
You actually the only one I see online so far that knows how the humans must learn a new language "live the language" surround yourself by it.
Great video .. thank you Anna
Definitely you have to "live it" .. like you're own native language which is part of your own life...
My goal is to express myself clearly and confidently in conversational English. I used to think that learning this language should focus more on grammar. However, when I tried to speak, I found myself struggling so bad that I started to stutter. Needless to say, I was so disappointed with myself. Then I tried a different approach. I use Tiktok, where I follow many native English speakers. It helps me to familiarize with how they commonly talk, how they converse with one another, and how they construct their sentences. I also surround myself with English content. Trying to acquire this language by myself is difficult but I’m improving slowly but surely.
Can i be your partner in speaking english?
Titok has been baned here
@@theguy883 do you still need a partner in speaking English?
@@smthere5465 ı need
This video is very helpful for those who's are not proficient in English, I think you have given a good idea to learn English skills bcz it's not too much tough , you just talk to around your self not join the academies
What a great advice is this. Thank you so much! Actually, you can do it with all your aims. In this way you will see all your efforts as a way of living instead of just goals.
This video Not just for English
Principle that has been delivered in this video will be applicable to all fields... thank you for the video !! 🤗 so nice of you ☺️
I just finished my B2 training course, afterwards I'm figuring out what's next , son thanks for your piece of advice , I'll keep my current level and even better improving it by being self-taught , greetings from Mexico 😁
it seems to me that I was subscribed to you a couple of years ago, then you had about 100,000 subscribers, and now there are a million. you've become really popular. congratulations to you! and thank you for your content! it is really useful for people learning English
Отличное произношение слов. Я только начинаю изучать английский, но я понимаю слова которые ты произносишь. Спасибо
What you said in this video is just my lifestyle philosophy studying English and Japanese 😊surround by the language doing fun stuff in a natural way. Just watching some tv shows, trying to speak to somebody in a game chat... Listening some songs trying to understand the lyrics...
Y recently realised that watch some comedians without subtitles can be very challenging and I really recommend it.
I definitely relate to that motto "live the language" since I moved to the U.S. and it made me use English to talk to my friends, schools that I went and kept using English to native English speakers. Yes I still have lots to learn but I keep on progressing :)
That was an informative and inspiring video Anna.
Can you talk English with me .I want to speak English .I have no friend talk English with me.
@@mokhtarsiddique2070 what kind of stuff do you want to talk about?
@@mokhtarsiddique2070 he bro tell me and i dont have friend and I need in same person
Pl send your insta id
🤗🤗🥰🥰💕💕
Totally agree with you 😍 Don't study but LIVE with it 😍. The BEST advice I've ever HEARD from English People I watched ☺
This is the best video i have ever seen about learning English from hundred thousand video on UA-cam, not because it tell you that don't study English, no, it tell you study at the right way.
Thank you
As on of Koreans , I still feel convenient express my thoughts in English because I make it a rule to use English as part of my life. I have been practicing english for 15 years. I have tried to talk to foreigners and joined lots of different gatherings such as meet-up. Finally I can see some fruits from my achievements. But there is still a long way to go. While I wrote this, I discovered my typos. Wring is another challenging tasks in English, recommending engish diary on a daily basis .Never fail to give up!
In my opinion, I’m not an expert in the English language, but as a nonnative English speaker/user, I feel like this: if I focus on my mother tongue or my native language, I absorbed it in natural way mainly by using my ears (mainly hearing) at the beginning, but subsequently, I gradually gained skills/abilities of it by reading/ listening or by practicing the language or by doing studies related to my mother tongue. Once I achieve a particular goal, I could say that I’ve learnt it. So, studying implies “what activities we practice to achieve our language goals”. (This is not to be against you but my opinion! In fact, I really love watching your videos here) Good Luck…
You are right absolutely. I must live in english.
you are one of the most brilliant human being i have ever watch in you tube especially about this topic on studying and learning
You're the one who always say the best things.❤
Thank you for this video! I am from Ukraine too and I incredibly understand you. Now I am using the same approach and recreate the english environment myself.
Wow thank you for the info. I am a Filipino and at my age, Now I understand, all I need is living with people who speak this language and need to hear that everyday ☺️😊
¡Qué bien! Yo pensaba lo mismo, pero pensaba que estaba mal. Pero gracias a Dios encontré este video para tener más seguridad. Ahora lo aplicaré en mi vida. Muchas gracias. 🥰
your English level shows that you are truly in your method and this works for anyone. thank you for your recommendation.
Great advice, I'm feeling more positive after watched this video
Thanks for advices, watching from India🇮🇳😘🙏
I have no words for your english, May god always bless you & much obliged for sharing great experience
Nice point of view, I totally agree with you.
You are my role model.. Thank you dear ❤️
The hard thing about learning English is that it's not my favorite language, but I have no other option because knowing English is important in the job market
I totally agree with you, thanks for sharing your experience.👍
Wow, you're SO right here! It's so HARD to convince English "students" they're not actually "studying" the language
I like the accent, every word is pronounced clearly.
Your English speaking fluency is another level 🔥 I love it ❤️
Truer words were never spoken! I'm Brazilian and fluent in English, in a level that is very hard to see around here, and you explained so well how I've done for over a decade. The simple answer is: I live English. Thank you!
I'm impressed to your exact pronunciation.👩❤️👨👨❤️
I am very glad to watch your video 😊
from Saudi Arabia
Thanks for the tips , I’m B2.2 currently but my goal is to be C1 in 9 months , so now let’s work to reach this level haha 🤙🏻
I have been learning and studying more than 20 years, after a little time I give up, after this video, I will try to live any language, I believe that I will succeed with this process
After listening your voice now I now fluent in English ❤️your pronunciation and vocabulary is too high ❤️❤️🔥
Great advice - my motto has always been ‘live the language’ but whilst I can say it, you are living proof that it’s the best way to go about it. Really admirable! Congratulations!!
Thank you ☺️
@@EnglishFluencyJourney thanks for Learning me English
@@EnglishFluencyJourney
Good afternoon. How can I contact you about coaching sessions?
Thanks in advance for your answer
@Ponchi vin I need to Improve
hi 10q
I agree with everything you said in this video, i had started studying English with an American teacher i’ve known for 7 years but i dropped out as soon as i realized her lessons were all about passing a test, i’m not studying English for fun or simply because i want to pass a test, i’m studying this language because i want to reach fluency one day and speak it as well as my first language
Girl just explained quantum leap. I love it!
Oh good. Your prononciation is so clear that I was able to catch the various words.
Thanks for sharing Informations
Very clear speaking 🗣️
That's what I have done in my life since I fell in love with the English language. I live it with the way I want.
I did not think English is your second language until you mentioned it in this video.
Some very handy tips provided in this video on how one could become fluent in any language (not only English).
I am very glad to watch your video 😊
I've been actually doing what you've in this video and trust me it works. I love in a place where nobody speaks English but I somehow created a routine of watching English content. Thinking back how I started to learn English, frankly I didn't even remember it. To be honest, I don't speak much, but my listening skills has experienced gradual improvement. I don't have to memorize sentences, the words just flows through my mouth like a native speaker. My current goal is to improve my speaking skills and understand native speakers in noisy environment. Never cease to learn!
Bro just by watching English content you learnt English
Can you speak now?
Yes!
I want to learn english gramer &speaking . But what i start first (gramer or spoken ).what i do learn these.please help me ?🥺
Thank you for this video. One of my mistake i study and memorize more words day by day.. then sometines i forgot.. i think the best way to learn english is to embrace yourself to english language and also try to apply it.. im one of your huge fan every video that you had i already watch.. someday ill become fluent in english.. again thank you for the motivation giving to us.. to keep going we really inspired.
I actually impressed by watching your english videos.you speak english very clear and i can able to understand the word that used throughout the video.thanks.❤️
You are an amazing person. You've not been to America yet but surprisingly, you've learnt the American English successfully. It's really wao!!!
I hope there are many English learners watching your videos, which are so useful and inspiring.
Wishing you further success!!
Wow so she's ukrainian 😲
. ز ن ززززواننممةا4
hi
Thanks for the tips miss Anna. I just started learning English by myself. It has been 3 day's since I've started to watch English videos, reading English books etc. I watch motivation videos also for person like me that has a low level confidence especially speaking English, it's really helps a lot.
Would you be my speaking partner?
Thank you for the sharing. I am a Engish teacher from Indonesia
This is legitimate! Since I am conscious that my English is not very excellent. It is better to live somewhere where English is spoken as a first language than to constantly study it. Like being around intellectual people, you will eventually become one.
Thank you Anna For sharing your ideas. As a nonnative english speaker it was really hard for us to communicate with other people , but as time goes by since it was my 1 week of learning Speaking English, I think my speaking and writing ability progressing a lot compared before. I kept on reading books, Listening to podcast, watching news, listening to stories and conversation of other native speakers. My goal is to become fluent in English , Since I am a teacher I need to kept on practicing english speaking . . . Again Thank you greetings From Philippines 🇵🇭🇵🇭❤️❤️❤️
The some to you 🎉
You are the best NATIVE speaki🥰
Absolutely agree with every word you said
Thank you very much for your videos! I learn English with you
If I had known about you before I wouldn’t have done so many mistakes and spent years on them
She's absolutely correct. If you start thinking in english that's when you really start learning english.
I totally agree. Study helps but is not enough to reach a confident level of conversation. Anna, you are great!
You're right Anna. I think that speaking English confidently and fearlessly is the best way to experience English. Live it up and speak English by getting involved within its culture in an English-speaking country, that's my biggest goal. Thanks a lot for your advice once again, I follow your channel and I love your helpful videos, see you later. 🥰
You're doing great! Keep practising :)
I am a native English speaker who really needed to hear this to help with my own english and other languages that im studying and will study
Yes you are right ma'am exactly. I'm thinking the same and I also prefer this suggestion to my students as well as to English language learners.once again I agree 💯❤
I cannot agree more, recall that when I was just starting my English journey within an online video game, which is called "The Lord of the rings online". It was tremendous fun and I have learned to talk with my foreign friends without even noticed it.
i did exactly what youre saying and I couldn't be more happy with that decision. now I don't really make an effort to learn I just absorb vocabulary without even knowing only because I read, watch and listen in English everyday, it just feels second nature. its the best thing can do if you really want to make actual progress (fast)
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Thank you for the video and for the advice! It's very helpful for me because I'm learning and the way you show us to improve our English level is amazing!
Absolutely right and awesome way of explaining.
This is a good video. Well done!
I think it depends on the motivation of a person. Distractions and laziness are the reasons why I think examination and other studying methods are still generally helpful to keep the progress up.
"It's not about motivation, it's about discipline"
procrastination is my problem, when i feeling bad i loss😥
@@WanderingFear if you have motivation, you don't need discipline and pushing yourself as hard - it comes out naturally.
@@forg6641 motivation is something temporary, you have it and suddenly it goes away, it is more important to have determination, discipline and create good habits that will allow you to achieve your goals :)
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THANK YOU YOU INSPIRED ME TOBE FLUENT IN ENGLISH .
YOU GIVE ME TIPS TO BE FLUENT SOON INSHALAH
Thank you so much to show your point of view...I never had tought like this...you really give me hope by now. 🎉
Thanks Anna! I've been studying English for many years and I was thinking about the same thing, then I decided to think about the things around me just in English and I change my way of seeing the world. The process isn't so easy, that's because I live in a country that the native language isn't the English, but I think that my skills become better after this decision of thinking and living the English and your videos have been helping me in this process!
Thanks Anna! You're an excellent teacher!
I am English lover could we talk each other
If want to practice in english. We can setup a meeting in this way we both improve our english. It's free of cost and win-win ratio for both of us. Let me know about your opinion.
@@HarpreetSingh-eh9iv bro can you talk with me i am also search a frind
@@saadkhan-qm8lx bro can you talk English
@@mokhtarsiddique2070 okay
Yes, surround us with English. This is the easiest way to improve our English speaking skill. First of all you need to get out of your comfort zone. There will be some starting problems. But later it will be smooth for you. Probably, people living in non-native English countries struggles a lot. We need to use social media and other resources to be fluent in English.
Yes bro I want need a partner which is talk to me english
You mentioned incredibly practical tips, and it was excellent.
You're completely right ✅ 🙌.
That's for your video!!! It was so useful Everybody who are on the same page, we can do it! Keep your chin up!!!
Yes 💪🏻
I'm crying right now, but, these tears are from joy. Because I was available to understand you so well, that I don't even need the subtitles. Thank you so much for this video and your helpful advice. From now on, I will live my English.
You made me laugh I mean like you have finally found someone who speak English and understood.
@@riowinaryo18_86 is that bothering you? Is it my problem ok! Have nice day.
You're right, before my exams I began to listen to english movies, etc. That was about 4 years ago. Now I can understand a lot of it. But I have to practice speaking more often. Youre videos are really nice to watch and good practice👍🏻😊
Se te entiende todo y me encanta tu acento
Hello,Ihave experience in the field of languages. I speak French and Arabic very well. A little English. Speech summary. Shy people do not learn. We all made mistakes in speech. Others laughed at us. Study two hours a day and review what you have written for an hour in the early morning. repeat repeat...
I love your accent, your channel, and you always look amazing!!!
Thank you ☺️
I totally agree. Very useful video. Thank yor and good luck for you and your family