Relief and other emotions over time. As my ex husband aged, had strokes and turned into a different person, it got to a point where I exhausted all my options and still could not get help for him. The situation took a dangerous turn and I had to move out. After a few years in a different state, I thought I had finally processed it all mentally and also he was finally set up in an assisted living situation, so I could relax. Then he took a bad fall and died. It was quite a shock, which I did not expect. I felt relief and remorse all at the same time. But now, a year and a half later, I am at peace.
I have been caring for my now 93 year old mom for 12 years. She has neuropathy, kidney disease and heart failure now. Lots of doctor appointments, blood draws, etc. Haven't had a day off for 12 years, even with two brothers nearby. Lots of stress to say the least. A neighbor down the street is in the same situation and it has driven him to drinking and is now in very bad shape.
For me it’s dealing with rude and Obnoxious medical staff and doctors Insurance reps and social workers. I take care of both aging parents and they have six doctors apiece. A lot of the younger doctors and nurses are very rude
Most are lesbians,,or new agers,,who will tell a lady she can't have a parking sticker,,,then a week later want to cut off both knees,,,she said the risk was worth it,,,no pain pills,,,,I'm old 65 ,,,,they treat me like crap,,cause I'm straight,white,,and poor..I don't hate people as a rule but it doesn't stop them hating me.
i was a caregiver to my late mother I was stress out become depressed very ill with migraines high blood pressure chest pains asthma attacks untiill she died
I'm burnt out,,and Jesus hasn't taken anybody,,,I've help my family for years,,the young,the old,and I forgot one thing ,,,I helped everybody but they just helped them selves...now soon I'll need help and it's not coming..
Caregiving is Alot of work. You feel relief, when Jesus finally takes them.
Asshole
And I feel guilt for looking forward to the day I
Will have relief.
Relief and other emotions over time. As my ex husband aged, had strokes and turned into a different person, it got to a point where I exhausted all my options and still could not get help for him. The situation took a dangerous turn and I had to move out. After a few years in a different state, I thought I had finally processed it all mentally and also he was finally set up in an assisted living situation, so I could relax. Then he took a bad fall and died. It was quite a shock, which I did not expect. I felt relief and remorse all at the same time. But now, a year and a half later, I am at peace.
@shavonneproctor7763 I don't I feel nothing but guilt. It's only been a few days but I cry more about what I said and did then about my mom's passing.
I do everything for them but they don't give a darn about how i might feel. Lord i am just more than a little bit tired
I have been caring for my now 93 year old mom for 12 years. She has neuropathy, kidney disease and heart failure now. Lots of doctor appointments, blood draws, etc. Haven't had a day off for 12 years, even with two brothers nearby. Lots of stress to say the least. A neighbor down the street is in the same situation and it has driven him to drinking and is now in very bad shape.
Im in the same situation now its like everyone says take care of yourself but how when there's no help from anyone but im all they have.
Look at maybe getting some assistance from the county. They might have social workers who can come in and give you a break.
@@HighSierraBob ive tried 1 hour a week just to wash him and they come when they want.
Can you possibly contact another caregiver to come in for a few hours or days to help?
I say (if circumstance allow it) throw her in the nursing home and move on with your life.
Caregiver burnout and depression is a very real and serious thing. Please take care of yourself. You can't pour from an empty cup.
It's nice to finally get a name for this. I always thought I just wasn't strong enough.
For me it’s dealing with rude and Obnoxious medical staff and doctors
Insurance reps and social workers. I take care of both aging parents and they have six doctors apiece. A lot of the younger doctors and nurses are very rude
Most are lesbians,,or new agers,,who will tell a lady she can't have a parking sticker,,,then a week later want to cut off both knees,,,she said the risk was worth it,,,no pain pills,,,,I'm old 65 ,,,,they treat me like crap,,cause I'm straight,white,,and poor..I don't hate people as a rule but it doesn't stop them hating me.
David Wakefield
I wonder why?😳
I like replying to my own reply,,
i was a caregiver to my late mother I was stress out become depressed very ill with migraines high blood pressure chest pains asthma attacks untiill she died
I'm burnt out,,and Jesus hasn't taken anybody,,,I've help my family for years,,the young,the old,and I forgot one thing ,,,I helped everybody but they just helped them selves...now soon I'll need help and it's not coming..
I have done tons for my brother and his family over the years and in return got no help at all. Pathetic!
My friend has caregiver burnout