Give Your Girlfriend Space & Let Her Come To You

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 788

  • @manclarks4558
    @manclarks4558 5 років тому +857

    I give my girlfriend space she goes out with friends, sees her mum etc, I don't message her, she messages me. I've learned from previous relationships.

    • @seanespecs1226
      @seanespecs1226 4 роки тому +57

      Bro, thanks for this comment now i realize why my girlfriend need a cool off because of our toxic relationship, maybe its time for me to find myself?.

    • @seanespecs1226
      @seanespecs1226 4 роки тому +21

      And she also told me that, she need some time alone... And she don't want me to see her.

    • @seanespecs1226
      @seanespecs1226 4 роки тому +5

      Sorry for my bad grammar.

    • @jonahlevi3178
      @jonahlevi3178 4 роки тому +35

      not gonna text her wish me luck

    • @mcblog8078
      @mcblog8078 3 роки тому +4

      @@jonahlevi3178 good luck bro👍

  • @oliverallen5324
    @oliverallen5324 5 років тому +300

    "To come back, you have to go away."
    -David Lynch

  • @MartyParty2809
    @MartyParty2809 6 років тому +488

    Never put all your eggs in one basket guys if she wants space give it to her she will come running back and if she doesn’t move on plenty more fish in the sea

    • @ronnie9891
      @ronnie9891 4 роки тому +37

      Marty Party2809 there’s also a lot of trash in the sea

    • @pb3864
      @pb3864 4 роки тому +7

      @Southwestern comfort you'll never be in a loving relationship with this mindset. Shitty people get shitty people that's the law of universe.

    • @derrickmoon3296
      @derrickmoon3296 3 місяці тому +2

      She needs space I let her turn into an astronaut

    • @Americanpatriot-zo2tk
      @Americanpatriot-zo2tk Місяць тому +1

      Amen

  • @Myfirstchannel001
    @Myfirstchannel001 5 років тому +642

    Bro I gave her permanent space🤣🤣🤣

  • @optimumJC
    @optimumJC 4 роки тому +391

    I've been in a relationship for almost 2 months. The relationship took off very quickly. I'm having trouble adjusting to the quiet periods now. I don't bombard her with texts and phone calls, even though I very much want to. I suspected she may start to find me unattractive if I show her how needy and vunerable I can be. It's comforting to know this is common for other men. I'm very glad I watched this video. I feel much more confident now with all of this. Thank you

    • @lynndavist
      @lynndavist 4 роки тому +23

      Show her attention and develop healthy attachment.

    • @ahmadjaber3611
      @ahmadjaber3611 4 роки тому +22

      i thought a girl i really liked didn't like me back because i always initiated everything , later i found out she took the notes i wrote her and collwcted them all posted them on the whiteboard in her room

    • @CyberBully100
      @CyberBully100 4 роки тому +5

      Did she ever contact you? I’m in your situation right now

    • @optimumJC
      @optimumJC 4 роки тому +45

      @@CyberBully100 Yes she did. Relationship is going strong

    • @CyberBully100
      @CyberBully100 4 роки тому +4

      Jimmy C good to hear. I’m just wondering if she will come back. She initiated the space. May I ask how long it took for her to contact you?

  • @ethanolalcohol5932
    @ethanolalcohol5932 11 місяців тому +38

    Currently experiencing this with my partner. I panicked as well at first, but after talking to her, we agreed that a break would be the best for our relationship. This is a first for me, but knowing that my girlfriend will trust and appreciate with me more after this is what motivates me. Stay strong bois, we are in this together!!! 💪💪💪

    • @CAE2323
      @CAE2323 9 місяців тому +3

      Hi, Hope you're well! What's the updates?

    • @ethanolalcohol5932
      @ethanolalcohol5932 9 місяців тому

      @@CAE2323 Unfortunately, we talked about it and we broke up

    • @David-eh3ux
      @David-eh3ux 3 місяці тому +2

      Lol😂

    • @viktormolleborn3146
      @viktormolleborn3146 5 днів тому +1

      hows it going man?

    • @ethanolalcohol5932
      @ethanolalcohol5932 5 днів тому

      @@viktormolleborn3146 She initiated the breakup a week after.

  • @hmanfilms
    @hmanfilms Рік тому +26

    Give her space to talk to her friends about you, feel her full range of emotions, wonder and doubt the relationship, and simply come back when she feels comfortable and ready. Women take time to fall in love. They need time space mysterday and some distance for their attraction and love to grow. A strong man is patient and unmovable and they respond well to this.

  • @shessoheavy6130
    @shessoheavy6130 5 років тому +45

    This does work. Remember that women are dynamic and not static like men. That's one of the reasons why we're attracted to them. If women were static like us there would be no attraction. Let her be a woman and she will be very attracted to you.

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 5 років тому +6

      ha ha... so true. most men have the same hairstyle their whole adult life while women can change every couple months.

  • @intzeproduction99
    @intzeproduction99 4 роки тому +139

    I honestly think the best way to approach this is by giving up on her. Tell yourself there's plenty more fish in the sea and JUST MOVE ON. Moving on doesn't necessarily mean that you two won't be together, but at least it gives you time to bring back the Alpha & masculine male you were. Trust me this is the healthiest approach.

    • @christianhenry4173
      @christianhenry4173 Рік тому +12

      Well you'll give up on a wife thinking like that. Men should be risk takers not quitters

    • @eleopoku4409
      @eleopoku4409 Рік тому +2

      @@christianhenry4173facts

    • @MegaAvalonn
      @MegaAvalonn 2 місяці тому

      @@christianhenry4173 Men are people of action, and at the end of the day, that's what makes us attractive to women. What did she expect? For you to just wait around and act like a beta buck, plucking the daisy for weeks, asking "does she love me; does she love me not?" If you're asking your man to "give you space" or "a break" for almost a month, don't act surprised he's going to exercise his charisma and options, if you know what I mean. After all, that's the reason why you fell in love with him in the first place.

  • @NotoriousChief
    @NotoriousChief 5 років тому +186

    Went through this last month. She pushed me away and she came back in time. It's mentally draining trying to figure what the hell is going on, but just endure. Females don't know what they want and trying to figure it out with them isn't going to help. Give them time.

  • @mizhanadhikary4223
    @mizhanadhikary4223 3 роки тому +127

    I gave my girl so much space that now she thinks she's neil armstrong

  • @sammynaydenov6543
    @sammynaydenov6543 5 років тому +270

    You give me even more anxiety seeing what i do wrong bro

    • @glen432003
      @glen432003 4 роки тому

      Lol

    • @mayarshangkasomwoshi8320
      @mayarshangkasomwoshi8320 4 роки тому +28

      When you dominate her for a long time she will be exhausted, give her time to regain her energy, and no matter how bad you did wrong to her if she knows you love her that's enough they can't deny your love.... 😊

    • @el-huncho7658
      @el-huncho7658 4 роки тому

      Dwl😂😂😂

    • @jamesc4196
      @jamesc4196 4 роки тому

      Ahahah

    • @mayorofthenonsense
      @mayorofthenonsense 4 роки тому +32

      We've all been there dude. Don't beat yourself up, just learn from your mistakes. The more experience you have with women, the more you realise that none of it really matters. The goal is to become a man who is stable and indifferent to the presence of a woman. That doesn't mean you can't enjoy the romance, it just means you can walk away or let them go without fear of being alone.

  • @ActionIsGo1
    @ActionIsGo1 8 років тому +270

    This is such sound advise. You're right, all women will pull away at some point especially in a long term relationship. I've now learned/accepted this after 42yrs of dating. My ego & pride always got in away of accepting this.

    • @ActionIsGo1
      @ActionIsGo1 8 років тому +8

      +Raider Nation I have 4 years of this with the same woman. The mountain doesn't crumbled, but it's getting rocky.

    • @DevelopAttraction
      @DevelopAttraction  8 років тому +94

      I think as men we always struggle with pride and ego issues. Even if we know the storm is coming, it's hard to accept it when it arrives.

    • @ActionIsGo1
      @ActionIsGo1 8 років тому +8

      +Chris Canwell Very true. I'm dealing with a tough one (woman). I think she has an imbalance of female and masculine energy. I'm definitely more Alpha.

    • @ActionIsGo1
      @ActionIsGo1 8 років тому +8

      +Raider Nation Yep I've been doing this one and off for 4 yrs now. She's a tough one.
      Thanks for the support.

    • @ImranPangilinan
      @ImranPangilinan 7 років тому +2

      ActionIsGo1 same here lol

  • @MM-oh3uq
    @MM-oh3uq 6 років тому +176

    Well it depends, your girlfriend is maybe going through a tough time at work or something like that and she needs a space from everything and everyone. This happened to me and i told her that she can take a space. After around 4-5 days she came back and everything is okay now. The thing is that if you give her space and not chase her she’ll see you as a strong man

    • @questionableangleryee4705
      @questionableangleryee4705 6 років тому +15

      FilthyMark same bro, shes been going through shit.. and i feel like shit rn, hopefully she comes back.. been 3 days

    • @MM-oh3uq
      @MM-oh3uq 6 років тому +7

      CHAD Vang Don’t worry dude she will, just focus on something else

    • @questionableangleryee4705
      @questionableangleryee4705 6 років тому +28

      FilthyMark been a month now, giving up bro, moved on focusing on myself now

    • @saaa642
      @saaa642 6 років тому +1

      Same shit to me rn bros , I get mad and she gets upset and she tell me she needs space and I said ok kool my bad for being a dick , but didn’t realized she was going through tuff time at home and with her family passing idk I feel such a tool , she had every right to leave me or give up on me feel bad

    • @deanstrong2870
      @deanstrong2870 6 років тому +1

      @Filthymark! Bro, I'm going through a tough one. I argued with her an it was my fault. She said she needed space. But it's been 4 weeks, an each of those weeks I've sent her text. She had responded but very blunt. I tried calling her last week. She didn't answer so I left her a message. Should I just wait now? Or did I already ruin it?

  • @psychoandfbi
    @psychoandfbi 6 років тому +279

    If she pulls away, 90 percent of time she’s gonna monkey branch you. Remain calm, go out with ur boys and be social. Get to know more girls and keep them. Keep going out and don’t even think about her. If u stay put and wait, u are waiting for nothing. Date some girls and it she comes back, u have a choice of selection and she will have to compete the girls for u.
    Make yourself the prize, never wait for a girl - it is never worth the wait.

    • @DevelopAttraction
      @DevelopAttraction  6 років тому +76

      jb I love that statistic you pulled out of nowhere 😂

    • @MASKEDMAN712
      @MASKEDMAN712 6 років тому +22

      jb this is so true man. You have to keep your life moving. Being stagnant is a very depressing thing to do. Have to keep being social & enjoying life. The right one will fight to have you in her life.

    • @stevenho8888
      @stevenho8888 4 роки тому +1

      This advice is gold

    • @SmokiieStop
      @SmokiieStop 4 роки тому +3

      It is never worth the wait
      I like that

    • @lucas.stimes
      @lucas.stimes 4 роки тому +1

      jb big facts

  • @anthonyaferrara
    @anthonyaferrara 7 років тому +345

    When your girlfriend "pulls away and vanishes" it means that she is cheating. Let her go, never speak to her again, and concentrate on finding someone who is stable, appreciative, and respectful. Do not ever tolerate a woman "vanishing". Have some self-respect and "vanish" on her forever..

    • @DirtyRB30
      @DirtyRB30 7 років тому +50

      VoiceOfAmerica this happened to me. gave her all the space in the world by leaving her

    • @bigneiltoo
      @bigneiltoo 7 років тому +33

      You are a wimp who never had a real girlfriend.

    • @ohmymzthanny1
      @ohmymzthanny1 7 років тому +2

      VoiceOfAmerica fact

    • @sara78130
      @sara78130 6 років тому +1

      100 turee

    • @nileshkumar7546
      @nileshkumar7546 6 років тому +1

      VoiceOfAmerica I'm agree with you

  • @WilloWillameena
    @WilloWillameena 6 років тому +68

    I do my thing and you do your thing.
    I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
    And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
    You are you, and I am I,
    and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
    If not, it can't be helped.
    (Fritz Perls, 1969)

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 5 років тому +3

      perfect, love it! I was with this woman who always had expectations of how every situation should ideally be and when they werent fulfilled she would have a freak out. had the mentality of a spoiled brat teenager. I told her what it says in this quotation many times in my own words but she would never accept the wisdom of it. having expectations of others only leads to unhappiness.

  • @tyhub7455
    @tyhub7455 11 місяців тому +3

    my girl has alot of bpd symptom's. throughout the years i was gaslighted, emotionality abused, and blamed for everything. i eventually found my self holding alot of my loving, outgoing, and intimate traits back. when she had a breakthrough and got alot better, i couldent trust that it was for real this time. she felt her progress dident matter, she felt unloved and worthless. but her progress dose matter, it was just gonna take some time for me to come out of my shell again. Now she left and i think shes gonna hit rock bottom when she realizes what she lost. I wish her godspeed in her recovery and I hope she comes back when she has accepted the fact that she needs help and i cant fix her. remember guys, you cant fix a broken woman. you can support, lover her through it, and forgive the mistakes but if you try and fix her it will destroy you and leave you high and dry.

  • @isaacsmith3529
    @isaacsmith3529 5 років тому +20

    Plant the seed first - show confidence and appreciation for her, and you’re okay going in the life.
    many people think they can just disappear and they’ll come running back.

  • @Rexxtasy
    @Rexxtasy 5 років тому +82

    You're saying that how much it hurts me, I have to act like it's okay! It is incredibly hard! I cant eat, sleep etc! I wanna drink etc.

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 5 років тому +25

      gain some self confidence. keep yourself busy with other things. enjoy the freedom and lack of stress.

    • @akashhazarika2782
      @akashhazarika2782 4 роки тому +10

      But you'll have to be a man brother. It's not easy but do your stuff it'll be easy. Have options in life. Don't be a helpless kid, real woman never appreciate that.

    • @a7medal-harrasi936
      @a7medal-harrasi936 4 роки тому +11

      i have to fight myself to stop myself from texting her

    • @Giovanni-01
      @Giovanni-01 3 роки тому +4

      You can drink...water, it's good for you.

    • @bobu459
      @bobu459 3 роки тому

      damn thats me as well basket case

  • @raymondlamar1156
    @raymondlamar1156 5 років тому +31

    To deal with it is to never talk to her again for what ;she says I need space then u give her space then she calls you what is there to talk about anymore all words have been said after that . I can't even feel love any more because of women confusion

  • @brianstrickmaker926
    @brianstrickmaker926 4 роки тому +33

    Lets be real here. Womens emotions change during the course of their menstrual cycle. Its almost clockwork. When that time of the month approaches their personality begins to shift a few days before it hits. Then, during that week or so, thats when they always pull away. Finally, a couple of days afterwards they go back to being their "normal" self for three weeks and then it repeats..

    • @dannywholuv
      @dannywholuv 2 роки тому

      Yes.
      Its called Hypergamy.

    • @digitalsamurai42
      @digitalsamurai42 4 місяці тому +1

      This 100%. Also they are attracted to different types of behaviors and men during these phases.

    • @MegaAvalonn
      @MegaAvalonn 2 місяці тому

      The period is just an excuse. I've had past girlfriends who claimed their period was ongoing for a month as an excuse. I guess she figures we can't count? lol. Trust me, the only "period" she's experiencing is in another man's bed.

  • @platicascontony
    @platicascontony Рік тому +18

    Marry a girl who is grateful to have you and show sincere appreciation.
    Let the girl choose you, do your part in staying in good shape and dress nice, but that's it. Don't chase the butterfly, instead cultivate your garden and the butterfly will come by itself. When you are out there been social you will notice the girl that gives you attention the most, she is choosing you, let them choose you. If you decide to go for a girl make sure is the one that gives you the most attention everything else will flow and be easy for you because she had already chosen you. The most successful relationship is when the girl chooses you and not the other way around. ('Attract don't chase)

  • @musabaloyi1282
    @musabaloyi1282 3 роки тому +17

    Your tone is soothing, it calms me down when i feel like all with her is vanishing, and what you say is true and real. Thanks man

  • @JC-ps2zy
    @JC-ps2zy 4 роки тому +49

    Thanks for the advice. I gave my girl the space she needed and now I havent heard from her for months. Its been bliss hahahahah

    • @wolfman231
      @wolfman231 3 роки тому

      Did she come back? It took 2 years for one of mine!

    • @JC-ps2zy
      @JC-ps2zy 3 роки тому +9

      @@wolfman231 oh she came back :) they always do. She knows her place now

    • @govno7
      @govno7 3 роки тому +3

      @@wolfman231 u took her back after 2 years? would never accept such kind of women, it would be satisfying to reject her no better feeling in the world

    • @Reptile1997
      @Reptile1997 3 роки тому +2

      @@JC-ps2zy holly cow, she came back after how much time?

  • @rabondostamatha935
    @rabondostamatha935 4 роки тому +21

    "If you can't change your girl,
    Change your girl".....

  • @Mcdowells
    @Mcdowells 5 років тому +13

    What people need to realize is it may not be right then but be rest assured 85% usually come back...it's just whether or not you want them when they do.

  • @0nlyHammers
    @0nlyHammers 3 роки тому +20

    Gave my girlfriend space, she got in a relationship with someone else and had been with him for over 2 years :)

    • @shazerj6067
      @shazerj6067 3 роки тому +1

      Hahahahahahhahaha wow bro lucky you hahahahahahahaha

    • @0nlyHammers
      @0nlyHammers 3 роки тому +1

      @@shazerj6067 yeah, I felt like a huge clown who got walked all over and not in a hot way, all that time waiting patiently for THAT to happen

    • @aleksandarmihajlovic6718
      @aleksandarmihajlovic6718 3 роки тому +5

      bro move on, she is not worth it! focus on yourself

    • @0nlyHammers
      @0nlyHammers 3 роки тому +4

      @@aleksandarmihajlovic6718 I have been focusing on myself and building up my life, and I want to meet someone new though at this point I don't know if it's even worth trying because I've developed inner hatred towards the whole experience, I know if I meet a genuine woman things would change, but where and how do I do that?

    • @GoceDelcevMKD
      @GoceDelcevMKD 3 роки тому +4

      @@aleksandarmihajlovic6718 she probably had the replacement already no contact is the best way

  • @coryturner9140
    @coryturner9140 3 роки тому +8

    Move on with your life, she either reaches out and realizes how much you mean to her or she will move on. Either way, prepare yourself to never talk again and focus on yourself and you’ll be fine..

  • @jellegiesen4889
    @jellegiesen4889 3 роки тому +6

    Am giving my gf space now. Trust me, you'll feel so much better with just not texting and being clingy towards her. Just work on yourself, exercise, set goals. I'm still in the break. I sure hope we can move on with each other but I cant do anything about it now.

  • @apartmanin8145
    @apartmanin8145 3 роки тому +12

    Who loves you doesn!t leave you.

  • @iNightxx
    @iNightxx 7 місяців тому +1

    Give her space before she asks for it. My current girlfriend reaches out to me 80-90% of the time… in the first 2 months we would sometimes go a day without speaking and she realised that if she wants to chat to me she’s going to have to text me because if not I’ll just be busy on my purpose. I will send her a “have a good day baby” message once a week when she doesn’t expect it but the rest of the time she’ll initate daily. In the last 2 months she hasn’t gone one day without initiating. So when she texts me I know she wants to chat and I’ll chat to her a bit before I tell her “I’ll chat later baby I’m off to gym or work or whatever. Don’t text her first and you can save yourself from having to do the “space” thing because you’re allowing her to come to you when she wants your attention.

  • @jamesgrossman6995
    @jamesgrossman6995 2 роки тому +6

    I majorly pissed off my gf the other night and we’ve only been dating two months. She’s not communicating with me and all the love is completely gone. As much as I want to reach out to her that comes off as weak. I’m just going to do my own thing and let her come to me. If she truly misses me and wants to make the relationship work she’ll get in touch. Thanks for the video

  • @str8gamer964
    @str8gamer964 5 років тому +157

    This is why you should always keep a side chick

  • @Little_Roger
    @Little_Roger 4 роки тому +5

    I wish i had seen youe video just one week ago 😓😓😓
    She wanted space and i gave her.... But after 2 weeks i got impatient and asked her either to continue or just broke up if you dont have any feelings..... She broke up....
    I was depressed for last 1 week and now after this video, ive learned my mistake,.....
    Thanks a lot boss, you're awesome

    • @Luciusaurelius
      @Luciusaurelius 4 роки тому +2

      How long were you guys together for man? Same thing is happening with my girl, I will be giving her her space next year atm she’s living with me and has told me she needs space. So I’m willing to give it to her. I’m glad I’m reading all these comments because it is helping me learn from mistakes of others. Cheers bro.

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 5 місяців тому +1

    Her pulling away is a gift in another way. it's a sign you're too close to her too often. Give her space every day and she won't have to pull away. Do your own thing and leave her alone especially while she's at work.

  • @exxodas
    @exxodas 4 роки тому +27

    Chris have you considered doing other topics? i.e. workspace issues, dealing with a death, parents getting old, etc. I think you’d make a great coach for many of life’s other problems in addition to relationships.

  • @cesxrdavila5999
    @cesxrdavila5999 6 років тому +35

    This advice literally got me laid

  • @andrewhooves3988
    @andrewhooves3988 4 місяці тому +2

    My lady has been struggling with her mood and work stress. She’s been getting help getting her shit together. This video is so correct. A week or two ago, she thanked me for giving her space.
    Saw her last night and I can tell she is about to pull away again but this time she gave me a head’s up. Can’t get butthurt about it. This counter-intuitively shows understanding
    Translation for nice guys betas like me: give her the autonomy and freedom and she’ll thank you for it.

  • @Mikeh2077
    @Mikeh2077 4 роки тому +4

    Well, I’m not sure if I’m doing the right thing or not, but she’s an Aquarius to the core and values her freedom in a relationship. She’s been feeling sick the last couple days and is going through a lot right now. I’m stepping back and giving her space. I hope she comes around soon. If not, then lesson learned.

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 2 роки тому +7

    This is good advice. She not my girlfriend yet but I made the mistake of getting ahead of myself. I guess guys have to do it to get themselves interested in a girl. Now I'm laying low and even doing no contact at times. I think we are a near perfect match and hopefully over time she will see it without me having to convince her. Plus if you wait for her to come to you, you know she'll be all in not just doing you a favor.

    • @seedo201
      @seedo201 2 роки тому +1

      How did it go?

  • @samwise9122
    @samwise9122 Рік тому +2

    If they go cold once pull away, If they continue to go cold find a girl that won’t.

  • @maxtechmax
    @maxtechmax Рік тому +2

    HOW THE HELL ARE YOU ALWAYS ON POINT? YOU REALLY ARE THE MAN.

  • @patricksachs3655
    @patricksachs3655 4 роки тому +43

    " A woman is ALWAYS going to pull away from you at some point". Um. no she won´t, unless she is no longer interested in you. . When she says she "needs a break (from you) to think" or "she has doubts about the relationship" she´s no longer in love/attracted and never will be again. Most likely, there´s another guy lurking in the wings when she says that. Be respectful, but cut her loose for the good of both.

    • @mayorofthenonsense
      @mayorofthenonsense 4 роки тому +20

      Depends on your definition of 'pull away', as this can mean many things. If she is openly expressing doubts about you and the relationship, then yes, any form of healthy relationship based on mutual attraction is over. Women only ever speak directly when they've made up their minds and don't see any alternative.
      However, if she simply becomes more distant and wants space without giving you a singular concrete reason, then that can mean anything, and you shouldn't assume she's gone for good. Women are emotional beings and they can still want space from someone they are attracted to for no real reason. Don't overthink it.
      But in any case, the response should remain the same no matter what: you saying "ok". She'll either come back with enthusiasm or she won't come back at all, and no amount of stressing and fretting is going to change that.

    • @jamesolson2039
      @jamesolson2039 3 роки тому +3

      Personally this is like the 3rd time my girl has left me. And every time I care less. This time she left and it was the bull random and bull shit excuse I ever. Maybe she won’t come back and from the first 2 times I learned she is a crazy ass women.
      Maybe I need to just move on but having 2 kids makes it hard.

    • @Reptile1997
      @Reptile1997 3 роки тому

      @@jamesolson2039 bro you had 2 kids with her, but know only now she's a crazy ass woman ? smh

    • @sriramprarmy
      @sriramprarmy 3 роки тому +1

      Bro people will miss you when you are looking good and doing good! When you succeed no matter how your breakup (except Physical abuse,etc and some exceptions) they will always try to come to you and they regret leaving you!

    • @jondough3339
      @jondough3339 2 роки тому

      Wrong

  • @Reborn._w0lrd12
    @Reborn._w0lrd12 Рік тому +2

    My man was spittin facts in this video 🤷🏿‍♂️🤷🏿‍♂️

  • @Mmm-wb8sd
    @Mmm-wb8sd Місяць тому +1

    Me and my “ex” “broke up” a year ago. When i was with her I constantly wanted her to change and give me more of her time and effort but it never happened. We only saw each other once every few weeks and it was so draining because I felt like we were so closed off from each other

  • @iixstilesxii
    @iixstilesxii Місяць тому

    His voice on these “space” topics is so comforting tbh

  • @toronto416.
    @toronto416. 4 роки тому +7

    6months have passed and she still gone!

  • @АлексейЛесуков-ч3ь
    @АлексейЛесуков-ч3ь 7 років тому +70

    Me and my girlfriend had an argument a month ago and we haven't seen each other and now she just told me that she needs a space? I said after one month? WTF? specially when we normally see each other once a week because of her job so that doesn't make sense I'm not a fool I told her that I think it's better to break up, no deal, maybe she is dating someone else and she wants to keep me on hold? Hell no.... I'm not insecure but I'm not stupid..

    • @ImranPangilinan
      @ImranPangilinan 7 років тому +7

      Виктор Рамазанов yep and generally workspace creates all other sorts of nasty shit. Right now I am in an early stages of a relationship wherein there is a power struggle between my GF and me... she tries to make me weak and needy. Too bad I have been single for like since I was born lol... she caved in and tweeted some drama 2 weeks later and I talked to her xD

    • @jackbrewster8942
      @jackbrewster8942 5 років тому

      what happened man?

    • @TheLaamo
      @TheLaamo 5 років тому

      Kudos to you brother.

    • @dirtydiana3
      @dirtydiana3 4 роки тому

      Put u on hold..made my day

  • @minamikiuseki9836
    @minamikiuseki9836 6 років тому +9

    My gf said this to me, We've been together for 3years, but because I'm focus on learning dev, i don't have much time to bond with her, I tell her before that there will be sometimes that i may not be there for her but as long as that I'm free, ill make sure i text and greet her. Then last night she said she needed space, and want me to be as her friend I couldn't believe at first, so I texted her and keep asking for forgiveness and keep asking her why, I told her that all that I'm working on is for the both of us, I just don't know what to do I couldn't sleep, even though honestly I see this as my fault, she shouldn't say that to me, then a while ago, I give her the space she needs. Its just lonely to see that the person you get inspiration at, is the one who eventually leave you just like that.
    (Pardon me guys, English is not my native lang.)

  • @Suzuki-py6jk
    @Suzuki-py6jk 6 років тому +17

    Your the best coach! Straight to the point, clear! Love your video's!

  • @sorcereous
    @sorcereous 2 роки тому +2

    Been going out with my gf for 6 years. Almost got married back in 2018 but we postponed it. Still not married now. From 2018, 3 breaks and we always found our way back. Now shes stressed out because of family issues. I also learned from previous "incidents". I give her space and time and when she contacted me, I replied as if nothing happens.

  • @UnExplorateur
    @UnExplorateur 6 років тому +45

    Like women, men also have emotions and they are weak when it comes to their love. Because they love them madly. They can go any extent to win their love. And they can't lose the love that easily. So, they will become weak and nervous. It's no different. Everyone on this earth act the same way, if you love her too much. How can one let her go, when she says she needs some space. And I don't understand what does it mean by saying needs some space. How can you ask for space, when you want to be together for life. How can you feel your life and my life as different. We should live one life of togetherness. That's called true love. True love doesn't ask for space. If you love someone, you can't leave him/her. I still can't keep myself off from my girl. I still love her so much. But she kept saying all the time.. she needs space... And I am helpless... I can't control my emotions.. and focus on my work...

    • @veenodgaming1197
      @veenodgaming1197 6 років тому +11

      Santosh Kumar Myana it’s all good bro,same situation same here soo this time I am giving her time (it has been 3 days I haven’t texted her) let’s see how it goes ! Cheers !!

    • @GojiraNippon
      @GojiraNippon 5 років тому +2

      just give her time Bro.. she will come more attracted to you back even tho you love her so much.. be patient

    • @Dubzero_2015
      @Dubzero_2015 5 років тому +1

      Bro tell me what happen? I'm going threw this family crisis..shes not just my girl shes the mother of my kids, and she wants space because I lied to her, yes it's bad but she tol me she needs space so I've givin it to her, it's been 12 days so far...with in the time we've talked, texted, I went over for dinner a couple times, an we even went shoppin together for the kids? What all does this mean? Do I still have her? Will I lose my family? Any advice would be great....shes just more distant than normal an is short with talk, I'm staying positive an praying ev every night for better vibes an outcomes.

    • @godwinadams8957
      @godwinadams8957 5 років тому +1

      Juan Narvaiz She's probably punishing you.

    • @Dubzero_2015
      @Dubzero_2015 5 років тому

      @@godwinadams8957 just got your response thanks for the advise an the inner motive for me to remain positive... I'm not sure bro what's still going on, she's still distant and is making me very impatient but I havent quit on my beliefs or family...things are still hard for me and this might be her way of punishment til she says okay let's workit.. but what are some things I can do to rebuild my trust?

  • @deanstrong2870
    @deanstrong2870 4 роки тому +3

    Chris! Thankyou! I gave her a week with no contact an she got back to me 🙏

  • @SK-le1gm
    @SK-le1gm 6 років тому +6

    You are totally right, dude. Like, take a vacation to Europe. Something. Live a little, Don’t haunt her like a ghost

  • @Jasoncalvo7
    @Jasoncalvo7 7 років тому +43

    Excellent advise. Cheers. This is what I needed to hear.

  • @lildavehannah7349
    @lildavehannah7349 2 роки тому +3

    My wife loves going out of town with her co worker.I barely get to spend time with her I feel like she loves her friends more than me 😥

  • @katker
    @katker 7 років тому +60

    Chris.. you prevented me from acting like a bitch. I shall name a child in your honor. Lmao. Jk, but seriously... thank you

  • @adjr9313
    @adjr9313 2 роки тому +1

    I did it voluntarily and she didn’t have to ask for space. We have been dating for about 1.5 years. Not even 24 hours she texts me. Dont ignore her keep it short and sweet.

  • @RedroomStudios
    @RedroomStudios 5 років тому +10

    this is generally good advice. never let them see that you care too much. however in my case... I am so strong and unemotional that my ex hated that I am not emotional. it was always me showing emotion that got her back.

    • @godwinadams8957
      @godwinadams8957 5 років тому +2

      RedroomStudios Wow... Relationship is not a one way street. What I'm understanding here is that doing the opposite of what the girl is used to is what usually gets them back. For example, if you're too emotional, doing the opposite of that and walking away will get her back. If you're usually cold and distant, doing the opposite of that by showing emotions will get her back.

  • @DINORING123
    @DINORING123 3 роки тому +7

    You really called me out when you said the guy can be 6’5 and muscular (my exact build, not super muscular but lean) and looks tough in the gym and on the outside, but on the inside I’m insecure and very needy…

  • @abdullahrashid6118
    @abdullahrashid6118 4 роки тому +10

    God was sick of how his creation acted around eachother, so he sent this guy to get some sense in our heads 😂

  • @Avation.Experience
    @Avation.Experience 5 років тому +6

    I needed this I’m dating a Pisces after 5 yrs I found out they NEED THEIR SPACE and she always told me that she wants to be with me n love me even after everything I put her threw.she recently told me she needs space from me I never would allow it because I was insecure but now I have allowed the space and I’m finding things out about myself I never knew. But now I’m becoming confident from watching this video that she will be back but not keeping my hopes to high. I mean we do have twins together so who knows maybe she will come back to make this family work

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 5 років тому +1

      stay strong brother... whether she comes back or not things will work out. life goes on.

  • @ibuprofen303
    @ibuprofen303 5 років тому +18

    Never knew Jimmy Carr was a relationship advisor.

    • @Don-pk2uy
      @Don-pk2uy 4 роки тому

      So fucking funny 🤣

  • @benhartart9487
    @benhartart9487 3 роки тому +1

  • @ReverseCycoIogy
    @ReverseCycoIogy 6 років тому +17

    Yo my wife wanted to legal separate. I gave the biotch space instead of bombarding her questions of where she’s been and stuff. Instead I approached her more softly and said, look I’m letting you go, but wherever you go don’t bring the kids with you if you’re cheating, I want to be here with the kids. For the first time, I felt so free and open and she was having a conversation with me with less grudge than before. I asked her what’s the benefits of legal separation? She thought about it for a minute and then said well maybe we don’t have to be legally separated. So this space thing is working. Gonna keep up in being nice and not worrying what she’ll do or doing. I’m just gonna give her hints that what she’s doing are hurting the kids so hopefully she doesn’t bust that nana too much. Eventually we’ll be back together banging again. I mean we still sleep on the same bed, so that’s a positive.

  • @stevenrisen2269
    @stevenrisen2269 3 місяці тому

    Panicked and lost frame,and almost lost her.. I did no contact and waited till she contacted me. Now i stand my ground and will never lose frame again,I call the shots . She follows me now. It was the hardest few months but stay solid as a mountain and never give up or show fear and never let anything she does effect you. She needs a lion, not a pussycat..no simps allowed.

  • @Mikeh2077
    @Mikeh2077 4 роки тому +3

    Made that mistake last time, not gonna do it again. Haven’t heard from her since last week, if she comes back, great. If not, I’m free regardless.

  • @jefgoathead2756
    @jefgoathead2756 5 років тому +2

    She broke up with me but she answered my phone call but she is mad .she said she is busy and she said ,she will call me back and she won't

  • @tnxdot2565
    @tnxdot2565 2 роки тому +2

    My gf told me she needs time to take care of herself and find herself. She told me she will come back as a better person to me. She just dont want me to see her sad and waste my time on her. I kinda overreacted and thought it was a broke up then we broke up. Although, she told me that she will come back and let me know...
    Im in no contact for 5 days. She loves me so much and me too.. we are so connected to each other. She is true to her own words and so honest.
    But, Will she ever come back guys? I miss her so much but im focusing on the letters i have to send her next week, the one i promised but is this a bad timing to send her these?

    • @utrillice
      @utrillice 2 роки тому

      Hey did everything turn out alright for you man? I'm in a similar situation rn and I don't know what to do.

    • @uthayachandranthathushan3952
      @uthayachandranthathushan3952 Рік тому

      Did she came back?

    • @jimdaniel4412
      @jimdaniel4412 Рік тому

      Is bull and I bet you found out is another dude. Shes not sad just with you

  • @paulhymans2354
    @paulhymans2354 3 роки тому +6

    Great advice. However, when the request for space comes, as I’ve just experienced, it comes without notice and is a bit of shock to say the least.

  • @dandanthefireman1006
    @dandanthefireman1006 Рік тому +2

    She pulled away, then came back after 5 days saying she is dealing with house and family issues. I told her to not rush with respond, to take her time sorting out these things and to let me know if she needs any help. She pull away again now for 8 days. I think me telling her not to worry about these things and giving her space has made her lose more attraction for me even more :(

    • @slimjimmichael
      @slimjimmichael Рік тому +1

      Have things improved? House and family issues are a big stressful thing and I know how it can really interfere with our emotions.
      If you haven't heard from her, and if you haven't reached out by now it doesn't hurt asking how she is doing and saying something like "I hope that things are going better

    • @dandanthefireman1006
      @dandanthefireman1006 Рік тому +1

      ​@@slimjimmichael Hey bro yes she suprisingly came back after 10 days again telling me that she is sorry for taking so long and that she is dealing with a lot of stress in her life currently at work but still wants to see me and asked me out. Then she told me how she was thinking about me and didnt forget me. I joked with her and told her it's no problem, that I hope she is okay and she shouldn't stress about me. That she should take her time and not add any more stress.
      She pull away again lmao at this point I think I must be a fool for tolerating this crap bro. At some point I almost blocked her 😂😂😂
      It seems so strange that before all this, she was blasting my phone everyday and every night.

    • @slimjimmichael
      @slimjimmichael Рік тому

      @DanDanTheFireman it's good she still thinks about you and reached out. Like I said, family matters/health and work, all that is stressful.. I think it doesn't hurt to reach out to her from time to time, especially if you fancy her. Unless you don't care for her anymore you can keep to yourself and not reach out.
      She isn't purposely ignoring or ghosting you though so I wouldn't get upset at her. But like I said, if you aren't growing apart from her then you can continue to try to forget her. Otherwise, reach out again and make an effort. If things between you both done seem magical anymore, or she seems like she isn't interested in you then you can move on yourself. At least then you know you tried and you won't have any regrets.

    • @Sonsho
      @Sonsho Рік тому +1

      How did it go brother? :D

    • @dandanthefireman1006
      @dandanthefireman1006 Рік тому +2

      @@Sonsho Well not much happened since then brother. She came back and lost a family member and it just went downhill from there. She was never the same and I could never do anything to help her. She deleted all of her social media after that. Its been 2 months since I head from her but I'm hoping she is doing okay. I on the other hand have continued moving on with my life. Its a shame but it is what it is.

  • @brettkoch6618
    @brettkoch6618 5 років тому +9

    Is it possible to get her back after 3 months? I’ve been in NC and she has always come back! This time it seems different.

  • @sameerali850
    @sameerali850 3 роки тому +1

    My girlfriend & i were in long distance relationship from 5 years but suddenly when this covid comes up i mean from this year she got changed she have don BREAKUP on the month of October but after a week she apologized it & told me that she is going through a phase in life where she can't sacrifices her career for this love she will marry but she will not sacrifice her career for me i understood & we came back then i felt that there was not much of a priority is been given by her as it used to b 5 years ago in the beginning when everything was fresh & new i left her today but unfortunately i love her i messaged her & I apologized her that it was a mistake i never wanted to leave her, but the she told that i need some space i want to live a bit alone let me live alone a bit. What does it mean? What will happen now? Please help

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 2 роки тому +1

    I have a question. If she's not your girlfriend yet so she doesn't have my phone number or very few ways to get in touch with me, how will she do it? She's shy so I can't see her saying something to me in person when I see her or coming to my job hoping to run into me. She would rather be alone forever before making that courageous step. So how will she contact me or will she send me signals that she's ready for us to spend more time together?

  • @treylnmiller285
    @treylnmiller285 6 років тому +8

    Forget space it’s neither you with me or you not

  • @shivanshsharma7834
    @shivanshsharma7834 4 роки тому +3

    Being emotional is not weak

  • @shaneracheea337
    @shaneracheea337 6 років тому +3

    My gf was my best friend for 1 year and a half ,she told me that she had feeling for me and now we are a couple.Everything was good,but she moved on to france for 3 months. 4 days ago,we were planning to settle in france.Then suddenly, she went visiting paris and I was acting strange,it was probably jealousy and I kept telling her that she got another man etc (insecurities). and yesterday she told me that she is losing interest and she dont know where she is with her feelings and I told her if she want to break up ,she told me no. she keep calling me but its not the same as before.I dont even know what to tell her. please help.

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 5 років тому

      oh the joys of long distance relationship... they hardly ever work.

    • @Alya.Mcorney
      @Alya.Mcorney 4 роки тому

      Why did she move to Paris ? Tell her what u think

  • @nathanielola3462
    @nathanielola3462 2 роки тому +1

    The only thing I'm being afraid of is,
    If I go no contact, Im afraid that she may think that I had given up on her,
    and also I'm fearing that she might think that I'm neglecting her 😢

  • @MVPlayer123
    @MVPlayer123 4 роки тому +6

    This happened to me three days ago I just feel sick to my stomach because I feel like there someone else.. I gave her space but I can’t stop thinking if she met a new guy

    • @parttimeninja3436
      @parttimeninja3436 4 роки тому

      Update bro?

    • @MVPlayer123
      @MVPlayer123 4 роки тому +2

      El Ralf still on nocontact. Day 13. But I been feeling a lot better

    • @parttimeninja3436
      @parttimeninja3436 4 роки тому

      YAAASolid im suffering same way you did. 2 weeks of NC feeling slightly better for the past few days but the anxiety and depression comes back when I saw her exchanging dm's with a guy that she used to slept with before, Im having headaches just overthinking things.

    • @MVPlayer123
      @MVPlayer123 4 роки тому +1

      El Ralf i feel you bro.. its best if you remove her off social media and work on yourself. Thats what i been doing. She actually blocked me the day she broke up with me but she recently unblocked me but haven’t added me back. To me that shows that she a little curious on what im doing. So Just give it time and things will be better

    • @parttimeninja3436
      @parttimeninja3436 4 роки тому +1

      YAAASolid I hope so bro its kinda hard to adjust in this kind of situations and now my gf is trying to make me jealous to another guy I almost contact her to clarify some things but I hold my ground and continued the NC rule everyday is getting harder and harder but I know we will get through this.

  • @caveman354
    @caveman354 2 роки тому

    How can I give her space? Should I contact NASA or Elon Musk?

  • @ratnadeepnandi6205
    @ratnadeepnandi6205 3 роки тому +1

    your videos always provide mental peace.

  • @HyperionKing
    @HyperionKing 6 років тому +36

    I blocked her on all social media and blocked her number

    • @jasminepoteat4799
      @jasminepoteat4799 6 років тому +2

      Hyperion_King_ why?

    • @stardust9072
      @stardust9072 6 років тому +6

      And she's gone forever...

    • @TOONAMAX
      @TOONAMAX 6 років тому +18

      Used to make this mistake. Blocking and deleting is a sign of weakness. Now if she’s calling 150 times a day then you can probably block her.

    • @romerodavid3622
      @romerodavid3622 3 роки тому

      She gonna back with them cheeks busted

  • @mrdaniel6137
    @mrdaniel6137 Рік тому +1

    Is it okay for her to tell you she needs space for at least 2 weeks when you are both in a long distance relationship and you have last been together almost a year?

    • @ethanolalcohol5932
      @ethanolalcohol5932 11 місяців тому

      Yeap, its pefectly fine. You just gotta trust in her and be patient.

  • @jaynguyen1491
    @jaynguyen1491 Рік тому +1

    Ye she married and have 3 kids now. Thanks broh

  • @condor8442
    @condor8442 Рік тому

    My girl is confusing , I give her space , she goes quite , I go see her she missed me . Two days later she doesn’t want to talk again , I give her space again, I have no idea what to as she spends all her free time with her mate

  • @jimmoefoe1471
    @jimmoefoe1471 4 роки тому +1

    She's called me 4 times and I don't want to pick up the phone, what do I do?

  • @drjsantos15able
    @drjsantos15able 6 років тому +1

    Ex gf broke up with me 3 months ago, since we lived together we had to split up our assets like a divorce. I did no contact for the last month, during that time I found out someone started talking to her the day of the break up, 3 weeks after the break up the calls stopped. I got a feeling she is seeing someone now, not sure if it's the same person as the calls. We basically live next to each other, saw another car there this weekend that I have never seen before, anxiety went thru the roof. We workout at the same gym, I had lost 30 pounds since the break up. That's been my life for the last 3 months. Not sure what to do next, everyone says move on. Still love her tho.

    • @daebak7370
      @daebak7370 5 років тому

      What were the signs leading up to the breakup? Was she cold?

  • @chriscliburn4650
    @chriscliburn4650 5 років тому +3

    I am dealing with a break up now I am trying to give her space now and she broke up with last Tuesday

  • @jessekirksey1980
    @jessekirksey1980 6 років тому +3

    This is something that work on women. If this happen to me it's but I'm not coming back. Somebody needs to be strong when the other is weak. As a human I'm not going to be strong all the time so I need God to give her strength to stick around vice versa.

  • @kevinkoperniak7062
    @kevinkoperniak7062 2 роки тому +1

    Many times “space” is code for breaking up.

  • @simonescarantino5568
    @simonescarantino5568 2 роки тому +1

    I have a question, I dated this girl and we end up spending the night together, we’re keeping in touch but due to covid we didn’t see each other for a month.
    Now the day we should met is close and she’s starting to disappear. Should I do the same and leave her space without asking about her coming over or not?

  • @johnnyrainey5635
    @johnnyrainey5635 4 роки тому +5

    Hahahahahahahaha this guy was like "we don't understand their motives, but here is what we DO KNOW"

  • @Trivette_williams
    @Trivette_williams 5 років тому +3

    I want to pull away from my gf for a couple days just to give her some space. But i wanna know what to tell her when she asks me why i am pulling away.

    • @animeboy4301
      @animeboy4301 4 роки тому

      Just say u were doing work and u wanted to give her space

  • @DarinDmarkovic1
    @DarinDmarkovic1 4 місяці тому

    We’ve had several fights where she doesn’t talk to me for a day or two, and I let her reach out to me when she’s ready. Usually less than that, this time it’s been all week. It sucks but i have to let her even if it’s forever

  • @sureshkulkarni7834
    @sureshkulkarni7834 5 років тому +3

    One thing is this that whenever I see down quickly in eye contact with my girlfriend. From next day she actually distancing from me why? This is happened with me too much times but I didn't get any solution. Please tell

  • @tsaipraneeth9188
    @tsaipraneeth9188 Рік тому

    My girlfriend got her dream job and she got very busy and that is affecting the relationship I spoke to her about it and she said she realised that but she can't do anything as her career is more important to her cause she worked really hard for it. What should I do?

  • @someone3662
    @someone3662 3 роки тому

    I need personal time and space were her words. She did not say that she breaks up with me. 4 days of no contact after 3 fantastic months... Should I ask if she's breaking up or continue with the no contact strat? I believe a closure is needed. It's the least she can do.

  • @serendiptyzhasktv1071
    @serendiptyzhasktv1071 2 роки тому

    can you make a video about girlfriend having depression and wanting to broke up

  • @billiemonge961
    @billiemonge961 Рік тому

    My girlfriend and i have been in no contact for 6 months. Our relationship was good but her father separate us. Our relationship was split because of her father. Now I don't know what to do, i love her but i don't know if i will wait or move on its been a long time