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What I've experienced is when I stick up for myself and just state my needs, people do not argue with me, they accept what I say, they sense my self respect and I am proud of myself for the effort, enjoy the rewards. Its encouraging and self perpetuating. Its magical. I don't feel like a loser.
Its sad that men even need to go through all of these stages. I appreciate that you talk about your personal situations and I watched your video talking about what you went through in your toxic relationship. Its so sad that girls will treat nice guys like garbage then go after bad boys. My first relationship was so horrible for me I still question myself for being with someone who had zero remorse for me and how someone could be so evil and take advantage of someone who did nothing but cared about them. Women are cruel, but it made me a better man and only good came after I got through the worst of it
Same story here. My View is people who have the need to treat other like garbage hate themselfs. They also hate the fact that you like them, because deep down they know how fucked up they are and it just doesnt add up in their little head, so they automatically think you must be dumber then they are, because they fooled you. They used manipulation, lies and false advertising and you bought their BS. And people pleasing makes this even more amplified
No more Mr. nice guy is a must read for a recovering nice guy. My ex would always tease me by saying "Get mad" even at some of the smallest things and I never understood why. Once she left me and I started really seeing myself for who I am it finally mad sense. I still have major issues with approaching women but that's more fear of succeeding. Limerance is also problem that I think nice guys end up having to deal with as well.
That was not my experience once I embraced my boundaries, once I put my foot down of what I will not tolerate in my life, people don't regard me with respect they push and fight against me making boundaries
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🛠 12-Week Pleaser-to-Leader Program
Become the authentic, confident, assertive and unapologetic leader others respect and admire. More info at: www.olivercowlishaw.com/pleasertoleader/
🎯 1-on-1 Nice Guy Recovery Session
In a single transformative call, we’ll dive deep into your "nice guy" challenges, help you understand the root of them, and map out your journey from people-pleaser to confident leader: calendly.com/ocowlishaw/clarity
🧘 Free 5-Day "Kill The Nice Guy" Mini Course
5 days of practical exercises, tools and tips to conquer your inner nice guy and become a confident, authentic man with high standards and the backbone to assert them: www.olivercowlishaw.com/free-mini-course/
What I've experienced is when I stick up for myself and just state my needs, people do not argue with me, they accept what I say, they sense my self respect and I am proud of myself for the effort, enjoy the rewards. Its encouraging and self perpetuating. Its magical. I don't feel like a loser.
That's incredible, Mike.
@ stage 2 rn, im enjoying the journey and have started implementing boundaries in my every day life
Its sad that men even need to go through all of these stages. I appreciate that you talk about your personal situations and I watched your video talking about what you went through in your toxic relationship. Its so sad that girls will treat nice guys like garbage then go after bad boys. My first relationship was so horrible for me I still question myself for being with someone who had zero remorse for me and how someone could be so evil and take advantage of someone who did nothing but cared about them. Women are cruel, but it made me a better man and only good came after I got through the worst of it
Same story here. My View is people who have the need to treat other like garbage hate themselfs. They also hate the fact that you like them, because deep down they know how fucked up they are and it just doesnt add up in their little head, so they automatically think you must be dumber then they are, because they fooled you. They used manipulation, lies and false advertising and you bought their BS. And people pleasing makes this even more amplified
You nailed it! I am in stage 4, struggling.
Keep going, mate.
No more Mr. nice guy is a must read for a recovering nice guy.
My ex would always tease me by saying "Get mad" even at some of the smallest things and I never understood why. Once she left me and I started really seeing myself for who I am it finally mad sense.
I still have major issues with approaching women but that's more fear of succeeding.
Limerance is also problem that I think nice guys end up having to deal with as well.
That makes sense, mate.
Limerance and anxious attachment style sound closely linked.
That was not my experience once I embraced my boundaries, once I put my foot down of what I will not tolerate in my life, people don't regard me with respect they push and fight against me making boundaries
That's absolutely expected. You're in the integration phase. Hold fast to your boundaries, brother. Let people who don't respect them go.
@OliverCowlishaw at this point that may be everyone I know
If you can set an assertive boundary with your neighbours dog that would be marvellous 😂
Hahaha oh, man. That would be the dream. When it's not construction works in the apartment below it's something else.