Build self-respect, conquer nice guy syndrome, establish and communicate your boundaries. Become the man people respect and admire (& women desire). Stop being a pleaser, start being a leader in 12 weeks: www.olivercowlishaw.com/pleasertoleader/
Good job making these videos. There are too many energy drainers out there. Ive been a people pleaser and a door mat most of my life. Enough is enough, there's only soo much you can take
I've been really enjoying this video series of yours. Subscription earned. For me, de-nicing has meant dropping the old default program of "everyone is welcome to come in, and it's my job make everyone feel comfortable to be around me". The new program is: "I am valuable and many people consider it a benefit to have me around. I only give that gift to those who demonstrate they are worthy of it by respecting me and my boundaries. People who don't, get the gift of my absence instead." The pre-program is: make yourself valuable by accomplishing difficult but esteemable life goals.
Yes, Great video on a nasty subject...and reflecting on the Narcissist and spouse in my family with their Oscar winning fake humility, niceness and subtle/fullon intimidation..The only solution in my case is Zero contact.
Build self-respect, conquer nice guy syndrome, establish and communicate your boundaries.
Become the man people respect and admire (& women desire).
Stop being a pleaser, start being a leader in 12 weeks: www.olivercowlishaw.com/pleasertoleader/
Good job making these videos. There are too many energy drainers out there. Ive been a people pleaser and a door mat most of my life. Enough is enough, there's only soo much you can take
I've been really enjoying this video series of yours. Subscription earned. For me, de-nicing has meant dropping the old default program of "everyone is welcome to come in, and it's my job make everyone feel comfortable to be around me". The new program is: "I am valuable and many people consider it a benefit to have me around. I only give that gift to those who demonstrate they are worthy of it by respecting me and my boundaries. People who don't, get the gift of my absence instead." The pre-program is: make yourself valuable by accomplishing difficult but esteemable life goals.
I appreciate your simple and direct style.
Thank you, I appreciate this approach that is easy to understand and easy to follow.
I already feel shifts as I apply your advice in my everyday life.
Love this video
Yes, Great video on a nasty subject...and reflecting on the Narcissist and spouse in my family with their Oscar winning fake humility, niceness and subtle/fullon intimidation..The only solution in my case is Zero contact.
its about aura
Just from one straight man to another. You are bloody handsome and I am jealous!
Haha thanks mate
I don't divulge my personal affairs or financial details or Next Question : )
That's a solid example of a strong personal rule. I like it.
How does one become more manly & assertive/ direct ? Stop being so soft / nice ?? Especially dating women
I don't think these things are really actually subtle