MOVING TO NIGERIA WAS THE WORST DECISION... | EfikZara

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  • @EfikZara
    @EfikZara  5 років тому +156

    Support my patreon so I can make more Nigeria vids 🤓: www.patreon.com/EfikZara
    Hey y’all! New video all about my colorful experience so far in Nigeria! This is the beginning of a new series of videos that dive into my life as a diasporan in Nigeria.
    Lemme know what you think and as usual, share your opinions down below!

    • @gracegolden9185
      @gracegolden9185 5 років тому

      Are you Efik

    • @xXxTigerEyez
      @xXxTigerEyez 5 років тому +2

      I want to hear all the stories you suggested making a video on

    • @blessingashanti7039
      @blessingashanti7039 5 років тому +10

      You should visit Ghana. It's very positive rated and people love it here!💯🇬🇭❤ some even moved to Ghana 'cause it's so beautiful and peaceful here.

    • @nanapearlpearl2696
      @nanapearlpearl2696 5 років тому +5

      Why don't you move to Atlanta Georgia??? It's so popping for blacks right now and not sure how long it will last. Do your research on it please sis.

    • @XoXoG
      @XoXoG 5 років тому +4

      Please do a video on Runs girls and Yahoo boys

  • @AB-ih7gk
    @AB-ih7gk 5 років тому +1724

    Can we take a moment to appreciate her beauty? It's totally mindblowing 😍

    • @MsRhonika
      @MsRhonika 5 років тому +13

      Yes she is beautiful

    • @salenatauriac4003
      @salenatauriac4003 5 років тому +30

      Yes she looks like a doll!🌹

    • @cinnamon3220
      @cinnamon3220 5 років тому +4

      You can say that again!

    • @miathapapaya
      @miathapapaya 5 років тому +8

      @@MsAli1313 as do most women so why are we holding her to some rare exceptional standards MOST beautiful women cannot meet? Get real

    • @DynamicWater
      @DynamicWater 5 років тому +1

      Salena Tauriac That’s what I thought, a doll.

  • @BlackGeoYoutube
    @BlackGeoYoutube 5 років тому +277

    That afro. When black women wear afros, we are too die for. Gorgeous!

  •  5 років тому +1015

    I feel like leaving from usa/Europe to go back to Africa you need to open your mind and be able to look at things differently.

    • @truthofgod1514
      @truthofgod1514 5 років тому +9

      Go good buy

    • @brendakabanda2181
      @brendakabanda2181 5 років тому +46

      Absolutely, we cannot live like you lived abroad.

    • @desibabe18
      @desibabe18 5 років тому +2

      Canada as well

    • @april_dawn
      @april_dawn 5 років тому +1

      Princess Oniká Are you African?

    • @BuckleBunny
      @BuckleBunny 5 років тому +55

      Different countries in Africa have different experiences. She’s speaking on Nigeria, where she has a family there to guide her and look after her. Her eyes will be opened to what her family tells her.
      Going to Ghana, for example will give you a different exposure.
      She told no lies. You would have have a degree as a computer or structural engineer to do well in Nigeria today.

  • @TheMcKenzieHaus
    @TheMcKenzieHaus 5 років тому +786

    I’m a child of immigrants. My parents are from Haiti. I said to my parents I wanted to visit Haiti and my dad scoffed at me saying “I left that country and I was born there - why do you wanna go?” Lmao 😂

    • @nathalie1922
      @nathalie1922 5 років тому +29

      I agree! I actually wanted to vacation there this year... but do to the recent riots.. I was told to hold off for awhile.

    • @tanisha.r.thomas
      @tanisha.r.thomas 5 років тому +88

      Bahahahahahahah.....my mama said the same thing about me moving from seattle to alabama.
      MAMA: I escaped racism and bigotry just for you to volunteeer to go back there?
      ME: 🙄

    • @hadiyah212
      @hadiyah212 5 років тому +22

      My Dad said the same thing about Jamaica.

    • @Natachafff
      @Natachafff 5 років тому +19

      Just came back from Haiti, took my fiancee with me and he more comfortable than me lol.

    • @gemgem5548
      @gemgem5548 5 років тому +38

      @Sarah R I visited Haiti for the 1st time Dec 2018. I went w/a grp, led by a Haitian. My father's side, Haitian, were surprised that I did this w/o them. I kept asking for YEARS and they kept making excuses. I had a WONDERFUL TIME. I stayed in Cormier & visited the Citadelle, Sans Soucci, local art scene & touristy Amiga Island. I'd go back in the same way that ppl travel to Miami for a long weekend. And NO I don't speak Kreyol.

  • @JustCHICHI
    @JustCHICHI 5 років тому +1534

    if your only experience is Lagos, you will hate Nigeria. The city is classist. If you want to truly understand Nigeria, travel the country, speak to locals. Eat from Bukas. People are incredibly friendly and familial. They will laugh and joke with you as if you're old pals. Whatever you do in Nigeria, for goddsake don't base your disdain for the entire country on your experiences in Lagos (blagh) or a few cities/destinations.
    This is all coming from a quite liberal Nigerian-Canadian with several university degrees under her belt too. Just saying, Nigeria has it's problems, just like every other part of the world.

    • @EfikZara
      @EfikZara  5 років тому +103

      I’ve been to very many states/cities (surprisingly). My least favorite experience was actually in my own state (Akwa Ibom) while some of my favorites were in Niger and Edo... I even enjoy Rivers State.
      I’ve spent significant amounts of time in the majority of the places I’ve visited and my primary residence is in ABJ.
      Lol watch the whole video, don’t just look at the title. I’m a bit disenchanted but I’m not disdainful...
      Either way, this is just the beginning. Stay tuned for the rest of the series ❤️.

    • @JustCHICHI
      @JustCHICHI 5 років тому +179

      @@EfikZara I'm sorry, I really couldn't sit through the whole thing. The combination of the sensationalising title and the first few minutes of the video prompted my very emotional response. I really like you - you're gorgeous, eloquent - I don't mean to approach this video condescendingly. I think you just need to be aware that in a world that's extremely, increasingly anti-African, you need a gentler approach to this conversation, even more so as an English-speaking first-gen American, especially if you want the right people to listen and not close off, as many in the comments seem to have done.

    • @EfikZara
      @EfikZara  5 років тому +124

      ​@Just CHI-CHI Lol and many of the comments have also applauded my honesty... the large majority actually.
      But, you really can't accurately critique without watching the entire video. I personally am not the type to beat around the bush whether the issue concerns America or Nigeria.
      If we can't be brutally honest with ourselves, the world will continue to ridicule us and change will not happen.
      Look at America and the past few years of shocking disgrace... Americans refused to confront the racism, sexism, and other issues that plague the society, pretending to be "post racial" and inclusive, until the world saw the very ugly face of the true America and the previous facade was burnt to an unrecognizable crisp. That’s the result of wearing rose-colored glasses or watering down BIG issues.
      While you are entitled to your opinion and I appreciate you sharing it, I will continue to be honest with myself and the people around me.

    • @JustCHICHI
      @JustCHICHI 5 років тому +126

      @@EfikZara you should always be honest, I'm not saying you shouldnt. In fact, many Nigerians are brutally honest about the state of nigeria. Nigerian vloggers make videos on the topic, constantly (check out Dimma Umeh)
      When you present as American, your criticism comes across with an imperialist undertone. At one point in the video you said "I really wanted to go back to my country because this country dealt with me", meaning you identify more with America than Nigeria. It is impossible to gain a nuanced perspective about a country from the sort of distance you have with Nigeria (i.e a few years of experience and your parents who spent their formative years in America).
      Yes, many are open to your critique. Many are not. You certainly don't have to appeal to the mass, but I see no harm in taking a step back to reassess.

    • @Mimi24177
      @Mimi24177 5 років тому +42

      @@JustCHICHI Everybody talks about don't paint Nigeria in negative light, but say America is trash. It is like this everywhere there is sin. No need to sugarcoat the truth about it. People idolized that land and culture more than the Lord Jesus Christ himself. When God told people from the get that they need to get rid of those cult like traditions. The problem with people today is not being bluntly honest when things are wrong and do not confused that with imperialism. Imperialism is taking control over someone and making everybody feel inferior to them and that they think that they are superior towards everybody else, For example, what the satanic government does to people . That's being imperial, people confusing that with speaking the truth in which a lot of folks refuses and do not like to hear.

  • @17yogabbagabba
    @17yogabbagabba 5 років тому +799

    Wow, Oxford, Cambridge and MIT. Your parents are geniuses. That's awesome.

    • @retroactivecontinuity3622
      @retroactivecontinuity3622 5 років тому +119

      Attending certain colleges don't actually mean much. It's what you do with the knoweldge that would qualify anybody as a 'genius'.

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss 5 років тому +62

      Retroactive Continuity
      Your first statement is true, your second is false.
      Genius has absolutely nothing to do with action. It is inherent. It’s literally how your brain processes… Nothing to do with your body.
      That said, attending those particular institutions does not a genius make, but it is quite likely that each enrollee/attendee/student is incredibly high-scoring in their intelligence quotient.

    • @retroactivecontinuity3622
      @retroactivecontinuity3622 5 років тому +47

      Genius is most certainly NOT 'inherent'... Genius is an accomplishment of a particular task/subject and ANYBODY who train/studies/works sufficiently hard can achieve this.
      IQ scores are NOT set in stone and can be improved/increased by anybody wishing to do so. An IQ test does not, and can not, actually measure your 'intelligence level' - it can only measure how 'well informed' you are. If you got a question about geometry wrong on an IQ test you can simply learn the correct method and then retake the test and score a higher mark. Doing this hasn't 'increased your capacity to learn' or 'boosted' your intellectual capabilities - you have simply become more well informed! Understand?
      There is no test available that can truly measure intelligence as the subject of intelligence itself cannot be easily reduced into logical and testable components.

    • @Xxx-y9d
      @Xxx-y9d 5 років тому +28

      @@retroactivecontinuity3622 Hah the best universities in the world.... They work you hard, they are hard to get into and they push you, a good degree from Oxford has a high worth & says a lot about the individual...

    • @Xxx-y9d
      @Xxx-y9d 5 років тому +26

      @brwnish eyes talking about all these millionaires and billionaires with no degrees etc is a false narrative. The number of individuals with millions in the bank are desperately few, they are called the 1% for a reason. Statistically people who don't have higher education earn less than the average earnings in society.....

  • @alliyahaugust7268
    @alliyahaugust7268 5 років тому +328

    You are one of the prettiest girls I have ever seen sis!

    • @hltco920
      @hltco920 3 роки тому +2

      That's becuase she has predominantly White features.

    • @NKiani
      @NKiani 3 роки тому +2

      @@hltco920 blue eyes are not a white feature. Stop it!

  • @Chellpansa
    @Chellpansa 5 років тому +473

    I'm from South-America and currently studying in the Netherlands. I've seen a couple of videos with this certain title. To those who want to relocate to their homeland/motherland: make sure that you are fully established before you go, especially if your country is dealing with economic crisis and poverty. Before you relocate, make sure you have your own house, car, a good amount of savings and A PLAN, whether it's a job or a business.
    Yes, it's not always fun to live abroad, but one thing I always say: take fully advantage of the opportunities abroad before you leave!!!
    Most people say: you must come back to help your country.
    My answer is how? I'm just an individual. I don't have the ability, power and capacityto change a country. Thats why there is a government It's the government's responsibility to create a better life for citizens. And as far none of us can depend on politicians, make sure you're fully established before you go back home. Home is beautiful, but you must think about your future also.

    • @bibizolele
      @bibizolele 5 років тому +13

      Well said. How every we shoul stop painting our homelands in a negative light after all home is home nometter what. When Kim K went to Armenia she did not document her homeland in such a negative light. ~BM

    • @justiceerimjunior3949
      @justiceerimjunior3949 5 років тому +2

      God bless you for dropping the best comment

    • @sophiaatn5339
      @sophiaatn5339 5 років тому

      Thank you

    • @servicesurprises9162
      @servicesurprises9162 5 років тому +10

      Bibi Mutondo who is Kim k and why take her as an example for anything 🙄

    • @leonaking287
      @leonaking287 5 років тому

      Brilliant. Facts 100%.

  • @ruthnne
    @ruthnne 5 років тому +1538

    The title could have been "Do I regret moving to Nigeria?" Let's remove naija from a negative light for once. Love the video not feeling the title.

    • @GreenBanana675
      @GreenBanana675 5 років тому +190

      It's definitely for clickbait

    • @happinessloading1198
      @happinessloading1198 5 років тому +13

      Yesss!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @owe1255
      @owe1255 5 років тому +332

      Nigeria should remove herself from a Negative light. We shouldn't sugarcoat matters that need to be addressed in our country.

    • @annika9348
      @annika9348 5 років тому +25

      @@owe1255 👏👏👏

    • @isobel64
      @isobel64 5 років тому +63

      let it remove itself from a negative light first

  • @ogechia7125
    @ogechia7125 4 роки тому +61

    As a fellow Nigerian American i understand everything you’re saying in this video. What i would say though is that her experience is not like every Nigerian American. There are Nigerians here in America who congregate and build huge communities here that are very similar to that of Nigeria. Being in this type of community, I feel like I’ve been very exposed to Nigerian mentalities and beliefs. Even though I’ve never been to Nigeria, I’ve been around so many Nigerians that everything you’re saying you experienced was expected. It doesn’t sound like you familiarized yourself with Nigerians at all, before just moving there.
    As for the hustling and barter mentality, i definitely agree that would be annoying. Many Nigerians in Nigeria have the same problem you have with it.
    From the comment section of Nigerians shouting about how privileged and ill fit you are, to the kind of behavior I’ve watched Nigerians have towards outsiders, or even to me (who didn’t live in Nigeria). I know Nigerians can truly make you feel useless in every sense of the word. They want to humble you, before you humble them. The people fighting you in the comments are the people who make Nigerians look bad. How can you be telling person not to articulate a bad experience?? Asking you if you have any solutions or you should not talk? Abeg are you a governor or any “elected” politician? It is not your job to make Nigeria better. No one there takes any accountability!
    Even though you’re saying things Nigerian nationals will also say, you’ll have another group of Nigerians who will shout over you to try to invalidate your experience because you’re “not Nigerian enough”
    With Nigerians, you just have to keep shouting and pushing your way through, or they will run you over, foreign or not.

  • @watchit16
    @watchit16 5 років тому +225

    Why move to Nigeria if you haven't visited several times before?

    • @UdoADHD
      @UdoADHD 5 років тому +1

      watch it cheaper to live

    • @millslite2289
      @millslite2289 4 роки тому +23

      And then she wants to complain...lol makes no sense

    • @user-lu4xp7iv8c
      @user-lu4xp7iv8c 4 роки тому +1

      Mills Billz right like what

    • @Himeko-wv7fu
      @Himeko-wv7fu 4 роки тому +4

      She did visit, and she mainly moved with her family. Life happens, nothing wrong with exploring

    • @FarrahGoez
      @FarrahGoez 4 роки тому +5

      She said in the video that she did visit several times before

  • @17yogabbagabba
    @17yogabbagabba 5 років тому +295

    Damn, I just realized that's all your real hair. Literally hair goals.

    • @leahthomas5003
      @leahthomas5003 5 років тому +16

      HER HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL!!!!!

    • @chrigael5911
      @chrigael5911 5 років тому +1

      @@megancarter8653 boo hoo lol

    • @happywone1570
      @happywone1570 5 років тому +5

      Megan Carter Clearly you haven’t watched her other videos. It is her real hair🙄

    • @happywone1570
      @happywone1570 5 років тому +1

      Megan Carter Not a wig🤫

    • @happywone1570
      @happywone1570 5 років тому +1

      Megan Carter Lol, mission accomplished😉

  • @keishamurrell3095
    @keishamurrell3095 5 років тому +194

    Nigeria Sounds Like America🇺🇸 Poor People Live And Hustle The Same To Survive.

    • @ChideraStephen
      @ChideraStephen 5 років тому +7

      Keisha Murrell the difference is that rules don’t work here

    • @keishamurrell3095
      @keishamurrell3095 5 років тому +21

      @@ChideraStephen Rules don't work anywhere.

    • @DithsHauteSpot
      @DithsHauteSpot 5 років тому +30

      Lol trust me this is not a good comparison. Imagine working an entire month for $100 or less?

    • @damien6314
      @damien6314 5 років тому

      Lol you Rite bout that

    • @Belihoney
      @Belihoney 5 років тому +16

      I think you're reaching because hustling and surviving in Nigeria is a different beast altogether

  • @RonierSmith
    @RonierSmith 5 років тому +8

    I just left Nigeria a week ago. I stayed in Lagos for only 3 days & in IMO Owerri for the rest of the time. That was my first time going to Nigeria. I went to meet my gfs parents and they were absolutely awesome. In my experience the country is so different from the US but I felt right at home. There were a few things that bother me about the country, but all in all I miss being there.

  • @BMM194
    @BMM194 5 років тому +76

    As a jamaican living in the US, I would go live there in a heartbeat over the US 🤣🤣🤣. On a more serious note though, I find a lot of Americans go to their 'countries of origin' and have these ideas of how great it will be based on racial similarities (not saying you in particular, just generally speaking) . I think sometimes people forget that as much as race is key to peoples identity, its different in other countries who tend to rely on culture and nationality. You're bound to experience culture shock but once it wears off, you can get a better idea of the culture and if it suits you to live there. Also have to keep in kind to not compare living in one place to another because whole cultures, economies, everything might be structured differently so what's poverty in the US might be living pretty OK in another country. Thanks for sharing your story!!!!

    • @Only1Triciaxoxo
      @Only1Triciaxoxo 5 років тому +11

      Monique M scamming robbing raping kidnapping evilness butchering prostitution abuse rampant crime etc is not simply “culture shock” its not culture at all.. its just fucked up people with lawless mentality simple as that.

    • @queenfree85
      @queenfree85 5 років тому +24

      @@Only1Triciaxoxo you do know that's rampant in the US too right???? Oh...okay.... ☕🐸

    • @queenfree85
      @queenfree85 5 років тому +1

      Monique M exaaactly...

    • @simonmanley6257
      @simonmanley6257 5 років тому

      check out Diaspora Tallawah UA-cam channel and Facebook page.

    • @Isaactorres60
      @Isaactorres60 4 роки тому +1

      Very very well said Monique!

  • @cbthrockarefaces
    @cbthrockarefaces 5 років тому +293

    Don’t let anyone invalidate your experience..you are entitled to your opinion good or bad.. I wish you luck and I hope things get better:)

    • @jacada4891
      @jacada4891 5 років тому

      The wig is too much

    • @skyeriley6507
      @skyeriley6507 5 років тому +13

      @@jacada4891 that's her natural hair, you can see her natural journey videos and watch her hair grow to this point. She one of the reason my hair is almost waist length. Our textures are the same

    • @PurrsMom
      @PurrsMom 3 роки тому

      @@jacada4891 That's her hair

  • @MarthaFynest
    @MarthaFynest 5 років тому +139

    Can we first of all talk about how ICONIC you look in this VIDEO 😍😍😍💯🔥😍😍😍

    • @rsr3729
      @rsr3729 5 років тому +2

      Martha Fynest .. I was 💯 😅😎👌

  • @fancifrance4039
    @fancifrance4039 5 років тому +21

    Sounds like many countries I have visited. This includes a few European and Asian countries as well. As an American, I prefer to live in Port Harcourt or Abuja in Nigeria. You only have one life, live it well.

  • @naturallyrachel3401
    @naturallyrachel3401 5 років тому +93

    I love your hair it's so voluminous! Your videos are always, very informative and interesting.

  • @Ericafreedom
    @Ericafreedom 5 років тому +18

    My dad is from Nigeria and I’ve been back to Nigeria a couple of times.
    Thank you for sharing!!!!!!!!
    And I was definitely judged!!
    Love my family so much there, however they mostly wanted stuff.
    Which is understandable! Just have to be honest and upfront with family.
    Different culture and entirely different social constructs!

  • @chinwea3028
    @chinwea3028 5 років тому +78

    I completely agree, I’m a British nigerian and people are so selfish and cross boundaries to get what they want from you. I’ve only been here 2 months but I grown in character and understood how deep my morals are. I’m just so glad you’ve posted this. Literally expressing how I feel. I’ve been shocked at how it is but I hope there is a way things could change for the better. The work I do here I believe in it so much as a solution but time will tell

    • @EfikZara
      @EfikZara  5 років тому +8

      Wow, thanks for sharing! I lowkey think that I’m being extra but it’s refreshing knowing that people with similar backgrounds can relate to my own experiences.
      Thank you ❤️

    • @189hosp6
      @189hosp6 5 років тому

      Chinwe..... so many of us are trying really hard to hang tight believing things would get better soon but that's like waiting for Gidot.
      ....And then, it's one step forward, ten steps backwards, nawah oo.

    • @itsmesunchild8805
      @itsmesunchild8805 5 років тому

      Where in Nigeria do you live

  • @lichi1244eva
    @lichi1244eva 5 років тому +106

    You were speaking facts, sis. Naija is HARD af to live in.
    You are STUNNING, btw.
    -fellow Nigerian-American

    • @DawnnAyeshaVance
      @DawnnAyeshaVance 5 років тому

      Please what is a Nigerian American........ American is a citizenship status not a race. Smh

    • @lichi1244eva
      @lichi1244eva 5 років тому +19

      @@DawnnAyeshaVance Nigerian-American reflects dual citizenship. Neither is a race, but no one brought that up anyway. SMH

  • @stepha3415
    @stepha3415 5 років тому +98

    Generally it’s just if you don’t have the Nigerian mentality it’s going to be super hard to live in Nigeria. There’s a lot of issues and honestly you hit every nail on the head.

    • @189hosp6
      @189hosp6 5 років тому +4

      She really did...just as it is...PERIOD.

    • @ChideraStephen
      @ChideraStephen 5 років тому

      Z E M E Y E oh mehn

    • @Izlandprincess1
      @Izlandprincess1 5 років тому +5

      The same applies to some countries in the Caribbean. I'm from Jamaica. As black people we need to put people in power that will allow the country to succeed. And as citizens we need to learn how to work together for the betterment of our countries.

  • @SassyOg123
    @SassyOg123 5 років тому +20

    Love the honesty.. just need a video on the positives too. As someone from a privileged background it is so easy to pick out issues, especially the more rampant and obvious ones. Now let’s try to make people see the good in these countries so they can be helped to change rather than exploited!

  • @kissbare5627
    @kissbare5627 5 років тому +35

    I'm sorry but this chick is one GORGEOUS woman. Showing me black is beautiful. YAS GURl

  • @ashleylala4293
    @ashleylala4293 5 років тому +22

    I cringe every time I hear that word “influencer” and I’m shocked to see so many people throw that word around with a straight face. I’m a grown ass woman, I’m going to do exactly what I want to do and I don’t need anyone trying to influence me to do anything, thankuverymuch! Why would one seek to have power or influence over another?

  • @justpureoge4218
    @justpureoge4218 5 років тому +132

    Zara, you are speaking the TRUTH, Period. Y'all need to stop bashing her. This is just the hard truth about Nigeria. No offense! Not say that there are not good side of things in Naija, but the bad is so absurd and irritating.

    • @Deenique16
      @Deenique16 5 років тому +4

      To each their own. Everyone has their different experiences.

    • @lifebalance870
      @lifebalance870 5 років тому +9

      Every country has its negatives. Nigeria let us not forget is a 3rd world country that is riddled with extreme poverty where those who make it without dabbling in ANYTHING SHADY OR MORALLY UNSOUND deserve medals. All of Afuraka is going through CRUDE / GROSS living conditions that would leave any 1st world country dweller mentally unsound if they experienced it for a single day; they would NEVER wish to LIVE IN it if they had a choice. So people come to Afuraka knowing this, but still experience shock when they get here.
      The world outside Afuraka knows our plight, they benefit from the continent but REFUSE to pay us it's real worth which is why there is poverty which breeds what visitors experience when they come here. Poor people make choices that feed them and most of the time those choices are not about being nice and upright. Try it out sometime, live in squalid poverty for a week or a month or even a year without any handout / assistsnce from the government and come back here to tell us who you have become. It is never good to judge and give strong comment about something that one has never experienced first hand.

    • @Tatianarain
      @Tatianarain 5 років тому +12

      Yeah she is. I moved to Nigeria in 2016 for Nysc. I would say I am pretty comfortable but I have noticed that staying here would put a limit on all the experiences I would like to have and things I would like to achieve. Nigeria has its good parts but the traffic, mentality of people, constantly getting judged for being a single 20 something year old woman, has taken its toll on me. Let's not even mention the dating options. Most Nigerian men in Nigeria are quite misogynistic, immature and are not willing to be providers especially if they know you are from the abroad. Even the "educated " ones. Nigeria is one country where u can find a man fine as wine but once he opens his mouth, issa different story

    • @justiceerimjunior3949
      @justiceerimjunior3949 5 років тому +3

      My dear we all know, is becoming too much this has been their best title every time i regret moving to Nigeria,is Nigeria the worst country on earth?

    • @hopefullady5051
      @hopefullady5051 5 років тому +1

      Wait. did you copy your comment from my reply on a sports video? Wowww

  • @tonyagetsreal8905
    @tonyagetsreal8905 5 років тому +70

    Yes was dating a Nigerian man. I had to put him in his place. So I assume how the women must cater to them Etc ,Not me.

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp 5 років тому +20

      Lmao. Girl that's how they are. Few are humble. As long as he caters back and isnt disrespectful you'll be good

    • @thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249
      @thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249 5 років тому +3

      Kufre Akpan
      Yikes.

    • @sylviababajide7660
      @sylviababajide7660 5 років тому +11

      Men down women especially with history of Polygamy cheating is the nasty normal

    • @michellec.9905
      @michellec.9905 5 років тому +5

      My Dear, Naija men take things too far abi. Boundaries mean nothing to them oo

    • @therealist2866
      @therealist2866 5 років тому +5

      Such stupid stereotyping on this thread. There are dumb men EVERYWHERE, and if you meet one keep it moving. Of course if you only meet dumb men, time to familiarize yourself with a MIRROR!

  • @jesslocd
    @jesslocd 5 років тому +10

    For those of us that haven't been to Nigeria, can you do a video showing us around? Maybe like a day in Nigeria or a few of your favorite places? We'd love to see the area.

  • @lulumusik99
    @lulumusik99 5 років тому +63

    I hear you girl, you need to understand it's all cultural shock. As someone born and raised in Nigeria moving to the United states for college took me off. I felt the world was out to get me. I didn't understand and still can't understand how people live here. Bashing Nigerian really isn't no good. You weren't raised there so you just can't fit in. Life in Nigeria especially lagos Nigeria is all about survival of the fittest. The poor get poorer the rich is getting poor and your uncle Buhari is just the devil. As much as you hate it and feel a certain type of way towards it for some others its home and we wouldn't trade anything for it, despite it bad governance and economy.

    • @suppraze4616
      @suppraze4616 5 років тому +8

      Lulu Musik well isn’t that a good thing then?? When someone isn’t familiar to a environment, they’re able to point out the flaws in it. It might be home and you wouldn’t trade anything for it but I would trade it all for a stable government with active economy ....

    • @lulumusik99
      @lulumusik99 5 років тому +10

      @@suppraze4616 yes she points out facts that are true about the country the economy and all..., but did she talk about ways to improve it? No. I feel for someone to give an honest opinion about a country that she claim she is not bashing, she should also at least states ways it could be improved.the media already makes Alot of African countries look like the end place of the world. We need solutions not critic. As an African American that she is, she is using the negative stereotypes of Nigeria to get video for channel who I assume are mostly viewed by Americans who feel a type of way towards African. Go to her channel check out the most viewed content anything with Nigeria in it or any thing that as a negativity attach to it.

    • @temi6730
      @temi6730 5 років тому +9

      Gbam! Nigeria is home to me

    • @derickemmy997
      @derickemmy997 5 років тому +5

      If she can't stay
      She should go back to where she came from

    • @tashao3904
      @tashao3904 5 років тому +17

      @@lulumusik99 both of her parents are Nigerian. She is not AA. African American is a term used for the people in America of the African diaspora that do not know which country or tribe they come from in Africa. If anything she is Nigerian American.

  • @SorayaSun92
    @SorayaSun92 5 років тому +69

    Honestly i wanted to cry towards the end of your video, you looked and sounded so sad and lonely. I pray that your days will be better from now on and that god gives you the strength to get through this time.

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому +5

      SorayaSun92 ikr when she said she had no friends I could feel her loneliness and pain 😭😭😭😭😭

    • @ReplyMNO
      @ReplyMNO 5 років тому +3

      Nigerians will find that odd, because it is hard to be alone physically in Nigeria. Trust me , there is always 5 to 6 indidviduals around you everywhere, not to mention the random drop-in of friends and family at all time to visit. A certain switch has to happen in her mind. She has to verbalise to her self at some point, "This is my home and I will enjoy it here and learn all it has to show me."
      It is mind over matter. I had to do the same after almost 3 decades of being away when i went for an extended visit. It was a lot of fun there. I did not want to come back to the U.S . When she said "chop life", she was not kidding. Chop life is to enjoy life. It is the things that are different that will throw most westerners for a loop. Can you be without electricity at random for 6 hours or more any day all week. You actually have to think philosophically about how you want to live and work out all your what if' scenerios at some point beforehand. It is not a place for those who are unwilling to do that. The upside is you can make a lot of money monetising those solutions you worked out. It is not a place for the superficial.

  • @TheeMademoiselle
    @TheeMademoiselle 5 років тому +49

    You are gorgeous 🙀😍😍😍 ok, let me pay attention to the video 😭...

    • @EfikZara
      @EfikZara  5 років тому +7

      Ahaha thank you so much! I love your vids 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

  • @Raetalkss
    @Raetalkss 5 років тому +64

    When I saw the title I was like ooh not Zara tooo. I would like to move to Nigeria, like you I visited quite late in my life. I went to Nigeria for the first time in 2016 for 2 weeks, returned in 2017 for 2-3 month then went back this year for 3 weeks. OH GURL this time round I was filled with joy and anger! I could not understand how a country like Nigeria was so rich yet so poor! There is is a serious need of development, a large majority are sadly living in poverty. Instagram does not fully evidence the extent of the issue but tends to gloss over how undeveloped Nigeria is. I just feel to cry. I have been to 5 West African nations and Nigeria is my fave! It is so vibrant, the people, customs, culture and ideas are just some of why I love the nation! I was born and bred in the West gurl they way I am so British I love my crumpets and talking about the weather and call everyone mate. LOOL However, I am very Nigerian and this is why I see the need to invest and build my country. Nigerian needs folk like us who have had exposure to both cultures ( I am told this anytime I go). Thanks so much for sharing this, it is another confirmation as to why I need to move to Nigeria. Also there is a vegan restaurant called veggie victory in VI it is in freedom park defo check it out .

    • @ifeomakojoosaekete8879
      @ifeomakojoosaekete8879 5 років тому +7

      Rae Talks please stay where you are. don't come back to say you hate Nigeria too

    • @Raetalkss
      @Raetalkss 5 років тому +5

      @@ifeomakojoosaekete8879 Lool Nigeria loading :D

    • @msgirly6827
      @msgirly6827 5 років тому

      Heey you sound like me. Is there i way we could get in contact to talk more? Like snapchat or something?

    • @temi6730
      @temi6730 5 років тому +2

      @Rae Talks I love your comment the most. Nigeria needs us and itself. From the UK 👋

    • @Raetalkss
      @Raetalkss 5 років тому +1

      @@msgirly6827 You can check my channel I have listed all my social media accounts there :D

  • @goudjomichel
    @goudjomichel 5 років тому +30

    One of the few girls that looks as pretty in videos as in picture😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @MimiChristopher
    @MimiChristopher 5 років тому +16

    These videos have been so helpful. I just moved to Lagos and I’ve been vegan since 2015 but decided to be a strict vegetarian here because I found it very difficult to eat out and maintain my diet. I would love a video on your vegan lifestyle.

    • @kingfemmo
      @kingfemmo 5 років тому +1

      Try the Veggie Victory vegan/vegetarian restaurant at Freedom Park, 1 Hospital Road, Lagos Island, Lagos, Nigeria.

    • @kano3030
      @kano3030 5 років тому

      You're a beautiful Sistah! 😎

  • @idarae.7025
    @idarae.7025 5 років тому +53

    Everyone is saying stop putting nigeria in a negative light but let’s be real here nigeria has always kinda been in a negative light 🙄 Nigeria is great if you’re rich not middle class but rich. Hardly will you actually hear a rich person complain about nigeria lol. Nigeria mostly doesn’t give a person the opportunity to explore and if you don’t have THICK skin you won’t survive lol I definitely think that’s one of the reasons Nigerians flourish so much abroad 😂 our culture is great the food and everything but if I had the chance to Japa to somewhere different I would immediately. My advice is if you ever want to live in Nigeria on your own and your parents aren’t giving you money prepare yourself for tears frustration and also joy lol andddd this is just my opinion

    • @clare_jordin
      @clare_jordin 5 років тому

      I'm from Kenya and I can definitely RELATE. Everything you've said is spot on

  • @luizsaha
    @luizsaha 5 років тому +248

    Your beauty is like an amazing work on Photoshop done by an expert

  • @vanessalee9208
    @vanessalee9208 5 років тому +12

    The Continent of Afrika shouldn't have any 3rd world countries within it, because the continent is EXTREMELY RICH in resources. Afrikans literally have wealth under their feet, and they are some of the poorest people in the world. This is a sick situation!!

    • @JordanCann
      @JordanCann 5 років тому +4

      Vanessa Lee are you sure the Arabs, whites and Asians didn’t suck it dry?

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому

      If you have nothing constructive or new to say

    • @vanessalee9208
      @vanessalee9208 5 років тому +2

      What else is there to say other than what I said? My statement is fact.

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому

      Vanessa Lee no your statement is another general statement said in almost every video pertaining to Africans. It has no nuance and Brings nothing new to the conversation aside from look how poor Africa failed

  • @priestessyemayayansathewat2032
    @priestessyemayayansathewat2032 5 років тому +114

    How can anyone focus on anything you say ever?
    You are devastatingly gorgeous.

    • @hatter5834
      @hatter5834 4 роки тому +4

      I feel like that is a very belittling comment. She seems like a very smart woman. Her beauty should not discount the importance of her personality or what she has to say.

  • @preciosaarlisia
    @preciosaarlisia 5 років тому +7

    I love how honest and unapologetic you are! It is really hard to find people who are honest no matter the topic. It’s a great quality and you are such a beautiful person inside and out. New subie 😊

  • @theonlyidono
    @theonlyidono 5 років тому +13

    Hey Zara! It's so incredible hearing that you're a Violinist and Composer! OMG I got stuck after that.😂 I'm a musician too. Your struggle finding solid work here is all too real for me, and I live here. I'd really love to listen to your work! Is there a link to your music, please?

  • @xrystal89
    @xrystal89 5 років тому +26

    It's amazing that we will write out a whole dissertation about the problems surrounding other ethnic groups/nations and receive thunderous applause for it. I mean, we can cuss out Becky's entire lineage and hear nothing but, "tell'em sis/yes Queen/stand up and speak on it King!" However, whenever it comes to our people and the issues we need to address, suddenly everyone wants to hush hush. Be gentle; be kind; don't talk about it too much, what's talking about it and complaining about it going to do? Gee, I don't know, perhaps more people should read up on how civil movements and revolutions start. Here's a hint, it usually starts with a conversation began by people who are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Leaders have never minced words when they told us that we're killing our brothers, hurting our sisters, damning our children to a hopeless future, and spitting in the face of our ancestors who suffered and died believing that their sacrifice meant that we would never see days like the ones we're living now. Our people have been fed a lie that in order to have we must take from each other; we've been fed that lie because colonizers know that if we ever get on one accord, we'll realize that there is food enough in the big house for all of us to eat than there are scraps that they throw to us to keep us distracted, fighting and to keep us from taking back what centuries of propaganda has stolen.

  • @enaruvie
    @enaruvie 5 років тому +6

    I left Nigeria years ago but I can totally relate to your first hand experience with the survivor mentality.
    I am very certain I would NOT be able to live in Nigeria. Do not get me wrong. I LOVE my country. but I am older and don’t have patience for the bribing or the tardiness.
    Much of what we love is what we hate. It gets in your soul and once you go you cannot forget it. We just wish in many ways for improvement and a more egalitarian society. That said where does this utopia exist? We all have face challenges wherever we live.
    I hope you enjoy your stay there. There is much to to and fall in love with.

  • @tartoratoator
    @tartoratoator 5 років тому +104

    I’m Nigerian and unfortunately this is factsss😭, this country is just SAD. Yes and those stupid brands 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @OlamideAdelaNCC
      @OlamideAdelaNCC 5 років тому +11

      Who is dedicated to improving things for the next generation? Are we strong enough to bare the struggles, but not creative enough to solve all of Nigeria's issues? Nigerians are brilliant and creative. I believe we can do anything we dedicate ourselves to. #MAKEAFRICAGREATAGAIN 🚀🌟

    • @deloresdavis4378
      @deloresdavis4378 5 років тому +1

      You know what this woman says is true.why don't you leave this sad country and go back to witchcraft. Africa.have a nice trip.

    • @tartoratoator
      @tartoratoator 5 років тому +1

      Olamide Adela yes we can 💪🏾

    • @tartoratoator
      @tartoratoator 5 років тому +2

      Delores Davis if you read my reply well I’m 💯 percent sure I agreed with what she said so idg your comment tbh

    • @henrybell191
      @henrybell191 5 років тому +4

      I’m Liberian, y’all better appreciate Nigeria. It gets worse lol.

  • @rinitutu_162
    @rinitutu_162 5 років тому +36

    Stay strong sis. The change needs to start with us.

    • @189hosp6
      @189hosp6 5 років тому

      I like her altitude... but please, hang tough in Nigeria, its the only way.

    • @ChideraStephen
      @ChideraStephen 5 років тому

      Rinitutu indeed

  • @blessedchild8282
    @blessedchild8282 5 років тому +8

    I laughed at first when I came across your videos 2 years ago... I prayed you realize these stuff you’re talking about now!!!
    You’re a strong woman... stay strong 💪
    You conquered Nigeria... so you can face anything in life hun...

  • @didiash
    @didiash 5 років тому +74

    What do you want to do with violin in nigeria????🤔🤔🤔🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @azanianbantu
      @azanianbantu 5 років тому +2

      didiash
      😂😭

    • @jimbo5770
      @jimbo5770 5 років тому +32

      This is the comment I've been looking for. Half of the people in Nigeria don't even know what a violin is. To us it's just oyibo ginter :D

    • @sassywendy
      @sassywendy 5 років тому

      Many things

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I laughed too hard

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому +14

      jimbo5770 I didn’t want to say it because I like her but she basically has no real job or career

  • @igeo.449
    @igeo.449 5 років тому +5

    Hello, I'm Nigerian, born and bred in Nigeria and I really really really love this great nation, may all who are bedevilling her be repent so that the country can have a breath of fresh air. Great country, Great people!.

  • @omyamarie
    @omyamarie 5 років тому +78

    I’m scared to ever talk to a born and raised African man 🤦🏽‍♀️, I know American men have their days or what ever but it seems as if African men are wayyyy more forceful but I’m not going to let one person ruin it for all.
    Edit: I like how some of y’all are giving me great insight on how some people are and being genuine about it, but have y’all ever thought maybe that’s all I have ever been around so excuse me for speaking my truth on what I have been around thank you... it’s all about learning and being genuine so like I said before nothing is ever going to stop me from talking to ANY race even if he is born and raised in Africa. So to any African men if I made you feel any type of way I do deeply apologize especially sense American men have their flaws too.

    • @EfikZara
      @EfikZara  5 років тому +34

      Giiiirl not all! Just like every culture, there are good eggs and bad ones. Definitely don’t let one person spoil it for you but also don’t let anyone take you for a ride.

    • @omyamarie
      @omyamarie 5 років тому +1

      EfikZara Very true yes ma’am!

    • @nouraclaudina4163
      @nouraclaudina4163 5 років тому +23

      I’m born in Luxembourg. (Europe) My husband is an born and raised in Africa from Cameroun (north) he is Muslim and he is the best man I ever met. He is kind treats me like a princess, very supportive, ambitious, super intellectual and more. He is also traditional that’s why I’m with him. I learned a lot since I’m with him. I used to be the one to teach my exes some things.

    • @BIGDADDY-qe4pk
      @BIGDADDY-qe4pk 5 років тому

      @@Philtabit49 😤

    • @BIGDADDY-qe4pk
      @BIGDADDY-qe4pk 5 років тому

      😏

  • @asuadirolf
    @asuadirolf 5 років тому +132

    Spent almost 2 minutes saying -- let's jump right into it. I got bored and left.

    • @MD-722
      @MD-722 5 років тому +8

      🤣

    • @ChideraStephen
      @ChideraStephen 5 років тому +2

      Ruth Kimbrough-Bent dead

    • @deltaforce6288
      @deltaforce6288 5 років тому +1

      Lol

    • @susandaye8146
      @susandaye8146 5 років тому +15

      Yes it is very boring .never heard much about Nigeria.a lovely lady ,but boring as hell.talks to fast.

    •  5 років тому +12

      I clocked out at 1:18. I don’t mind long videos, but I won’t stay if your setup is boring.

  • @tommartin1579
    @tommartin1579 5 років тому +3

    Why are so many people commenting on her beauty - yeah she is absolutely stunning - but are these people actually listening to what she is saying??

  • @toyinajewole8850
    @toyinajewole8850 5 років тому +12

    I live in Lagos, Nigeria and I kept saying "Testify, sistah" throughout. You did keep it 100% and I appreciate that. Thanks for an amazing video. I want to see the one on runs. I need to hear your perspective

  • @deebles9296
    @deebles9296 5 років тому +20

    I lived in Abuja from South Africa. I would like the tea on Nigerian women. Comic!!!😁 May God continue to bless you. If you are tired come and visit South Africa before leaving for the US.

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому +1

      Deb The Architect lol how was your experience? Especially with us Nigerian women, please be honest

    • @deebles9296
      @deebles9296 5 років тому +11

      @@Love25648 My fellow African, my experience differed across the social spectrum. I interacted with women who beg at night with children on their backs, to women flying to Paris for breakfast. I know for sure that the future is in our women's hands, if we can learn to collaborate and support each other. I also met a lot of young professionals who studied in obodo Oyibo😉 and are working really hard to impact society. We should be less defensive as African women..and know that not ALL WOMEN want your man😁 (Oga: The bread basket). Very hopefull though. Nigeria taught me to appreciate everything I have.😍 My eyes are "shining"😜

    • @thandisilec835
      @thandisilec835 5 років тому

      master planner yes, she honestly should try South Africa, enough of developed world& developing world struggles to build character but not break you like Nigeria seems to do with ppl who are non Nigerian& unfamiliar with the ways of living there. She should try both Johannesburg for its African hustle cosmopolitan vibe & Cape Town for the absolute best in outdoorsy relaxed city living, wine& possibly one of the most beautiful cities in the world. Try Durban for its non pretentious authentically SA self with infused culture& warmest beaches in SA

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому +3

      Thandisile C why are you advertising South Africa when you people dislike Nigerians

    • @deebles9296
      @deebles9296 5 років тому +1

      @@Love25648 Africans in general suffer from discriminating fellow Africans due to ignorance, and unfortunately our education systems don't teach Africans to embrace and collaborate with one another. The system used is SEGREGATE AND CONQUER. The media should broadcast stories of Africans WORKING TOGETHER AND WINNING!!!

  • @MsClever26
    @MsClever26 4 роки тому +1

    Just found your channel, I'm Caribbean so I have no clue what you speak of but I am intrigued (actively learning) with Africa as a continent since my ancestors (slaves) came from there. From a neutral perspective, it would have been nice hearing the positives+negatives and not just what is wrong in Nigeria. Kudos for being in touch with your source and trying to make it work. Hopefully, your experience and perception improves over time

  • @Lordofvenlo
    @Lordofvenlo 4 роки тому +3

    We see what you did there. Weldone. I moved to the Netherlands 🇳🇱 when I was 9 and I know how messed up situations can be in Nigeria as a whole...but to speak of a nation as iconic as Nigeria in such condenscending manner, tone and approach, says alot about you personally.
    I am not dismissive of your claims and experience while you lived in Lagos, no...what am saying is we all see what you did there. Nice one sis. 🤗

  • @rae8669
    @rae8669 4 роки тому +1

    Great Video, its good to share experiences for people who see Nigeria on instagram or go on holiday and think its amazing - I moved to Nigeria from UK in 2014-2016 at the age of 24- It was crazy experience but Im so glad I did it because it opened up great opporunites when i moved back to london with the contacts I had made. I also lived in Ghana briefly and I must say Ghana is easier for repats to deal with. Or a decent 9-5 in Abuja.

  • @tartoratoator
    @tartoratoator 5 років тому +125

    Fake people everywhere, trying to live fake lives. Everyone is just fake 🚶🏾‍♀️ and I don’t mean she is fake oh😂

    • @nanapearlpearl2696
      @nanapearlpearl2696 5 років тому +7

      Right and when your not fake you see the world through a boring lense.

    • @nsoromma7
      @nsoromma7 5 років тому +4

      Right! Unattractive!

    • @OlamideAdelaNCC
      @OlamideAdelaNCC 5 років тому +1

      Fake it until you make it. Haven't you heard? 😉

    • @ultradevon04
      @ultradevon04 5 років тому +5

      I'm lost lol. . . .

    • @noonereally6254
      @noonereally6254 5 років тому

      Devon Henry same

  • @oririona5462
    @oririona5462 5 років тому +20

    Why would you move to Nigerian when you’ve never had a taste of the hard life how did you think you were going to survive those of us who grew up in Nigeria have life experience than you who have spent all your life outside Nigeria

    • @karolkupec2044
      @karolkupec2044 4 роки тому +2

      Right on grate advice

    • @richardchikwendu3277
      @richardchikwendu3277 3 роки тому

      You can survive in nigeria when you are well qualified

    • @oririona5462
      @oririona5462 3 роки тому +1

      @@richardchikwendu3277 what are you talking about how many well qualified are roaming the streets jobless when Mr Mr who you know is still alive

  • @iceill3425
    @iceill3425 4 роки тому +3

    Everything you mentioned that happened in Nigeria, HAPPENS RIGHT HERE IN THE U.S. !!!

  • @daffyqa
    @daffyqa 5 років тому +13

    Sis, I usually support everything African, but this was a hard watch. Good luck.

  • @sharonisaac445
    @sharonisaac445 5 років тому +5

    Thanks for being honest, Iam born in us of carribean parents, Dominica, and it's harder back home, but it's easier to make a life here in US. Will support u vids. God bless, Iam with you in regards to living ones best life❤

  • @honeymoon2766
    @honeymoon2766 4 роки тому +4

    I love hearing about privileged black girls 😁. When you were talking about your parents education and parenting style I was proud, and I don't even know them. Thank you for that little dose of inspiration ❤.

  • @adesuwavanessa8899
    @adesuwavanessa8899 5 років тому +34

    All y'all say is "worst decision" going back to Nigeria. Please can y'all stay in your so call "wonderful country" and leave Nigeria alone. Am Nigerian im so sick and tried of y'all slamming Nigeria as a country, yes Nigeria is hard and the government is corrupt but can I hear the good side of Nigeria please!!!!

    • @adesuwavanessa8899
      @adesuwavanessa8899 5 років тому +6

      @Donna Tal you saying Stfy real shows how low you are. Grow up child and oh have a wonderful day becky

    • @onyejuruwanicole
      @onyejuruwanicole 5 років тому +1

      adesuwa Vanessa THANK YOU ADESUWA GOD BLESS U...na becos them never blow like them dimma

    • @adesuwavanessa8899
      @adesuwavanessa8899 5 років тому

      @Miss Tori people make videos on social media and ask for likes,comments etc. First of all, i never said anything bad or wrong,just wanted to hear the good side of a country that she has no kind words for. Secondly baby girl, i can MUKFN say whatever i want and where i choose to ok? So don't come @ me side ways cos this will not end well for you.

    • @user-sp5ck4fs1n
      @user-sp5ck4fs1n 5 років тому +2

      Adesuwa Vanessa so you’re basically saying you don’t want to hear anything bad about your country when people experience bad things because you’re tired of being insulted because that’s where you are from. You are basically ignoring the problem for your own pride...

    • @adesuwavanessa8899
      @adesuwavanessa8899 5 років тому

      @@user-sp5ck4fs1n look i said can i hear the good side also not just the horrible experience she had, cos I know she must have experience nice things aslo ok? So about People getting insulted,that happen all over the world,there is police brutality,racism,gang violence,corruption,prostitution and a mentally disable person as a president all in America. But i bet people still talk greatly about America. You can't describe a whole country with it disadvantages, where are the advantages are sis??????

  • @tiddablacksaav8634
    @tiddablacksaav8634 5 років тому +2

    2nd to Yemen on the poverty issue. Saving enough money to truly live free is not impossible. Being a black man in America is continually draining, depressing, and honestly it puts me in a state of hopelessness. No matter how hard I work, at both my jobs, it will never be enough to leave! That drowning feeling is unbearable. Somehow I'm bearing it all... maybe Nigeria isn't it. But America never was, and never will be. God bless you tho sis. Be safe out there, and the fro with the red lips.... 🎯🎯🎯💯🙏 it's a hit

  • @07Lalli
    @07Lalli 4 роки тому +3

    Hun if you haven’t already, please do a video on the beautiful things about Nigeria!

  • @ishallovercomekia
    @ishallovercomekia 5 років тому +6

    Your video popped up in my recommendations. I had to look at it cause GURRRLLL YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND THAT HAIR IS EVERRRYYYTHING !!!I tell you
    👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @amberdenisetv1232
    @amberdenisetv1232 4 роки тому +4

    Thanks for the truth! I am american, but I always fantasized about going to africa because it just seems like a place that i would feel more accepted than i do as a black woman in the united states! Given everything that is happening here to black americans it no longer feel like my home it feels like a prison at times. 😩 so seeing this has kinda gave me a reality check that not everything that glitters is gold!

  • @adekunleolaitan2329
    @adekunleolaitan2329 5 років тому

    Places to go if you are in Lagos :
    Get Arena :
    Go cart driving.
    Johnny Rockets:
    Cafe/go cart driving.
    Art cafe :
    Self explanatory .
    Miniso:
    Shopping;bangs makeup, etc.
    Hans&Rene:
    Icecream!!!!!!,donuts etc.
    Krispy Kreme:
    They're in almost every country.
    Bistro 7:
    Food and rental.
    Upbeat centre:
    Trampolines, food!!!!!!!!,etc.
    Creme slices:
    Icecream, muffins, etc.

  • @owe1255
    @owe1255 5 років тому +14

    I totally feel you, it is almost impossible to have integrity in Nigeria, especially it the big cities. I am privileged to have few family members that I trust in Benin, Lagos, and Ondo. We have a handful that are still very honest and sincere despite the consequences. Nevertheless, native born and raised Nigerians will attest to and support what you have said. We need to make a change in our country.

  • @Diakasow
    @Diakasow 5 років тому +26

    it seems to me like you went to Nigeria with a whole lot of expectations. I just moved back from Guinea ( born in NYC and raised in Conakry/Baltimore) and i was criticising everything and everyone when I got here. loosen up and don't take everything so serious ! do you have a video of things you enjoyed in nigeria ?

    • @Diakasow
      @Diakasow 5 років тому

      @cardashian77 but I said video lol

    • @Who-Dunnit
      @Who-Dunnit 5 років тому +4

      She talked mostly about living and working there, not going on holiday to have fun. She should be taking things seriously. Money and living aint no joke. Besides, she's not saying things that show she's presumptuous. Barter culture, hustle nature, standard low pay. These are the kinda things you want to know about before you transplant your whole life somewhere. (and yeah she'll probably make a video about the fun stuff in Nigeria too)

  • @addiethebaddie1987
    @addiethebaddie1987 5 років тому +32

    You are breathtaking sis! Stay strong, I know it's not easy to live in Nigeria, one day we will get our S@#$ together.

  • @K9Trixx
    @K9Trixx 5 років тому +31

    Maybe your blue eyes made it hard for you to fit in.

  • @2008topshelf
    @2008topshelf 5 років тому +11

    EfikZara, this topic is a gold mine. I'd like to forward a subject or two for your insights over the next few months. maybe you'll have some downtime to give your thoughts.

  • @teep5046
    @teep5046 5 років тому +2

    OMG, everything that you've mentioned in this video is so true. I've visited Nigeria a few times, and just returned from Nigeria and Ghana about three weeks ago. It's amazing how much the Nigerians love popping bottles and showing out given the circumstances. This is a country of the have's and the have not's personified! It's a tough place to make friends due to the opportunistic nature of the people, as a result of poverty... It's a shame, because I really do feel like the Nigerians are brilliant and resilient people, but they suffer due to govt. corruption.

  • @abbys1481
    @abbys1481 5 років тому +31

    Wow you went to school to study violin. I didn’t even know that was a thing. Must have been so interesting

    • @JoyJoy-oc7su
      @JoyJoy-oc7su 5 років тому

      abby S what a stupid comment 🙄

  • @NatalieBrownMusic
    @NatalieBrownMusic 5 років тому +2

    Awwww MD, I lived there for 8 years. I moved to Uganda 3.5 years ago with my husband. He lived in Kenya till he was 15 and left and moved US then Canada for 30 years. Not once did he go back to EA during that time. Nigeria (Lagos) sounds a lot like Uganda (Kampala). We have both encountered issues integrating into the culture, me from an expat perspective and him from a returning diasporan perspective. It's really interesting to hear your perspective. It is really amazing how dumb some people perceive North Americans (no matter ethnicity) to be... like we are the dumbest, most gullible people on earth! We run an integrated marketing firm here and the bargaining thing is real. I feel you so much on that struggle. You just have to keep tweaking your business model. What works in America will just not work in African countries. You cannot cut and paste has been our lesson. Keep pushing and you will thrive!! There are so many amazing positives living in African countries. Just gotta find a way to deal with the differences in culture. All the best!!

  • @citrises
    @citrises 5 років тому +5

    My sister leaves here :( its not easy, I always worry for her, unfortunately, she was never able to get her papers to live in the UK with us. I pray it gets better

  • @danielkofiboadux
    @danielkofiboadux 5 років тому +1

    I’m a Ghanaian and moved to America for a year now I understand your experience but trust me to love and understand the benefits of moving to Africa as a diaspora you should have move to Ghana first . I will be going back home this year August and will share some informations about moving to Ghana and even in Africa on my channel . kindly let me know if you interested and we can do maybe a video call thank you . That hair popping and you look elegant!!

    • @PRINCESSGEMINI1987
      @PRINCESSGEMINI1987 5 років тому

      Why should she move to Ghana? Right now everyone is moving to Ghana. Her roots are in Nigeria.

  • @Traewing
    @Traewing 5 років тому +70

    The West is responsible for a lot of poverty in Nigeria. It's the 7th largest oil producer in the world but one of the poorest countries. Food for oil is the West's welfare system.
    True politicians all over the world can be bribed. But until we go back home and advocate sovereignty we are doing the ancestors no justice. Market is about supply and demand. How can the violin bring change to Nigeria? How does your work bring enlightenment? I think you are dope and brave at the same time. But I feel you are missing the mark with your purpose, talent and skill.
    As Africans born and raised in the West we have a unique preview of Why? Why Africa with the richest resources has the most oppression. What you are also missing is the touchback. Are you so far removed that you can't give a discount to teach a child or share your gift. You have a unique opportunity to build a great music industry in Nigeria. Learn music business laws their and distribute. If you taught one child for free (understudy) and they taught one child you would not only become famous on Nigeria but America as well. Missing the mark.
    Real Africans are entrepreneurs and tradesmen. You should partner with carpenters to manufacture (violins to start) and build your own industry. With all that being said... I'm proud of you...I bless your endeavors...and I pray you take this advice with love. I would love for you to talk about many of the topics you mentioned. I will subscribe to support you. But I want to see you grow...this channel and in life helping Nigerians. With no expectations grow and do things no one has ever seen. And as your big sister, get some martial arts lessons cause no one should be compromising your personal space...lol. I love you Sis. Live your best life!

    • @officialjsmilez1273
      @officialjsmilez1273 5 років тому +1

      Hey can you contact me I believe a solution to what your saying

    • @Relrellz
      @Relrellz 5 років тому +7

      Well the leaders in the East aren't doing their jobs well.

    • @Traewing
      @Traewing 5 років тому +1

      Official JSmilez how do I contact you. Not on snap.

    • @Traewing
      @Traewing 5 років тому +5

      Rel Rellz if it takes an entire village to raise one child, then tell me what will it take to raise a nation from being oppressed by colonizers.

    • @karenwhitman4877
      @karenwhitman4877 5 років тому +5

      When are you going to stop blaming the west and take responsibility for yourselves?

  • @kemi1uk1
    @kemi1uk1 5 років тому +3

    I love Nigeria so much but the system can be very frustrating though, how I just wish we have good leaders!....I enjoy watching and I will be following you on this journey...

  • @louisemoses3200
    @louisemoses3200 5 років тому +5

    I moved back in 2008 from the UK and experienced the same things. I had hoped to live there forever but had to return after 9 months. I still visit usually every year, amazing country in so many ways, but there's so much work to be done.

  • @kosiazom
    @kosiazom 5 років тому +10

    Whether you were born here or not it is still your country as you rightly said, America isn't your country it is where you were born and you have rights but imma tell you this as someone who was born in the US and bred in both place, America has a way of reminding you that this is not your country. My grandmother always said and I will never forget "No matter how bad your country is (Nigeria) it is still your country and the older I get I see what she is saying . So this "My country" you are talking choose one cuz unfortunately my dear you'll never be able to serve 2 masters. If Naija is wahala-ing you just find your way back to "your" country it's that simple

    • @Love25648
      @Love25648 5 років тому +4

      Amen o I’m shocked only a first generation is calling America her country

    • @queenbee690
      @queenbee690 5 років тому +1

      She was born and raised here but most inwardly see her as African still. Including myself. I have spent 13 months in Africa. No matter how much DNA I've done and "Akwaaba" I get, they said I be go dey too long. I'm 100% black American back to the boat and I've been told several times in my life why don't I go back to Africa. At the time I had never been.. LOL.. oh well (shrugs) and I cannot wait to take myself Black self back to the Motherland, for good! Africa is not for the faint in heart but I love it....

  • @kathleenadeshoga8415
    @kathleenadeshoga8415 5 років тому +46

    Thank you for sharing you experience. Would definitely want to hear more about vegan lifestyle. And eyyy shout out to a fellow Marylander 😂

  • @raphaelaadannia3085
    @raphaelaadannia3085 5 років тому +20

    Can y'all stop with this nonsense click bait. Stop putting Nigeria in a negative way

    • @236ar
      @236ar 4 роки тому +1

      Raphaela Adannia stfu I can relate to all she saying. I hope your forced to pick leaf or trees off the floor since u want to bash her tf wrong with u

  • @alexduncan6200
    @alexduncan6200 5 років тому +6

    Omg you are so beautiful, I'm sure you've heard that a lot! And your hair frames your face perfectly!

  • @IamLolaGrace
    @IamLolaGrace 5 років тому +2

    I LOVE your Steez! and as a Nigerian-American myself, I can relate with you on so many levels! I love this video and I def. look forward to joining you on your journey! Keep doing your thing Efik! You are TOO real and I just love it!

  • @daniellehoreau7721
    @daniellehoreau7721 5 років тому +9

    Oh...when she says African-American she means it very literally and modern. My family was brought here in the slave trade. I do like learning about the stories of others though.

  • @tvdavis
    @tvdavis 5 років тому

    Wow! You came up under suggested videos. I just got to work and had your video playing in the background as I turned on my other computers, etc. Overheard you talking about your parent's education, turned around and saw you. Thought: "She's stunning, well-traveled, and smart! This is the kind of content I like." Subbed!

  • @inspirationsbygail2181
    @inspirationsbygail2181 4 роки тому +3

    Kudos on being highly-educated and highly-talented. What blessings!

  • @jaim6580
    @jaim6580 5 років тому +2

    I can imagine. Thanks for your uncut raw truth. I believe you can do anything you set your mind to no matter where you are. Stay true to YOU! #PhenomenalWoman!

  • @tayiraogu1463
    @tayiraogu1463 5 років тому +3

    Lol girl, I feel you. I moved to Nigeria too. Love it, hate it. Very backward, still a paradise. I can't deal!

  • @augustaadewale7880
    @augustaadewale7880 4 роки тому +1

    @EfikZara You did a good job breaking the whole situation down, I get weak when I think on these things!

  • @etta-jujudlulane7164
    @etta-jujudlulane7164 5 років тому +7

    I'm South African and because our economy is better a lot of Nigerians and Zimbabweans come here for opportunity. When they get here SOME of them sell drugs to survive which is sad but it's not cool . My aunt married a Nigerian guy because when he was here in South Africa he told her he was a teacher, until she went to Nigeria to live there and found out he had multiple other wives. And forced her take take care of HIS kids. Whilst abusing her she managed to escape though. Another family friend married a Nigerian man and he killed her by pouring battery acid on her . I can not make this up. Nigerians aren't bad I acknowledge that not all of them are drug dealers and criminals however, it's sad what bad living conditions and struggle bring out of people .

    • @brendabee2745
      @brendabee2745 5 років тому

      I don't see how Zimbabweans fit in a video about Nigeria

    • @bluephonixe7371
      @bluephonixe7371 5 років тому +1

      angel dlulane please could you also say how many Nigerians have been publicly killed in xenophobic South Africa 🇿🇦.

    • @princesschi7689
      @princesschi7689 5 років тому

      I'm so sorry. In Nigerian I could never imagine myself doing that

    • @etta-jujudlulane7164
      @etta-jujudlulane7164 5 років тому +1

      @@bluephonixe7371 I'm not sure about publicly because nobody willingly watches people get murdered but that is true there is a huge xenophobia issue in South Africa. Fore the most part it goes unnoticed which sad because People don't report about it enough

    • @etta-jujudlulane7164
      @etta-jujudlulane7164 5 років тому +1

      @@princesschi7689 ❤❤❤

  • @nanarmushyan2351
    @nanarmushyan2351 5 років тому +2

    I clicked on the recommendation to watch...MESMERIZED BY HER STRIKING BEAUTY I finally flippin realized that I didn't even have the volume up!... Wow! Gorgeous...Holy Canoli... 💎
    EDIT: just NOTICED I can't spell.lol ...corrected it.

  • @jackiespence
    @jackiespence 5 років тому +10

    Great realistic video. Same story in Jamaica. Thanks! When will you return to the US?

  • @watchit16
    @watchit16 5 років тому +2

    I think should have started of by saying her parents are Nigerians and she was born in the US instead of making out she had no connection with Nigeria but decided to move there.

  • @ANastyBoyTV
    @ANastyBoyTV 5 років тому +4

    This is such a sad video, I regret watching it. I also think you need to move to America in peace and quiet, and let Nigerians be. In this video alone, you have touted nearly a hundred tropes about Nigeria. Hopefully, someday, you’ll learn the errors of your ways.

  • @monitoler5721
    @monitoler5721 5 років тому +1

    I’m pleasantly surprised at how interesting this was. Please make videos on all the topics you mentioned. Nigerian women, yahoo yahoo, night life, chopping life, being vegan and all that. We want ALL the tea sis ❤️❤️

  • @gee-gee9715
    @gee-gee9715 5 років тому +7

    I seen nigeria twice so far in my life .and will return ...to live i cant see but always my first choice in vacation