My Dating History *ALL THE DETAILS*
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- Опубліковано 18 лис 2019
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Hello beautiful friends! I have been wanting to make this video for awhile. I have been very transparent with my previous relationships and what I've learned from them all. I realize it can be hard to piece everything together, so I wanted to just lay out all of my dating history. I think people can be very private about their dating experiences, which I respect, but that is not really my style. I think we grow and learn so much from relationships & that is why I wanted to share my personal stories. ✨
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Matthew 7:1
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Sorry about the sound mistake at about 5:30 😬 yikes, i hope it didn't hurt your ears! What I said was that he said "no we didn't you're lying"
Kian Tilton I thought you were trying to block out something that you accidentally said.. haha!
I replayed it a couple times thinking there was something wrong with my phone haha that’s so funny
I love how frank you are. We live in a society where people have this victim personality where they were always suffering, and they were perfect. And this "Oh the reason it ended was because of them" and never really took a step back and evaluate and think "Hey how did I contribute to this and how much?" It's always "they disrupted my peace", "they wasted my time", always making themselves out to be victims.
being -frank is one thing , but being selective and prudent is another thing.. something which Kian doesn´t understand and obviously neither do you
Great point!
@@torontoash45 something to think on. Not sure exactly what you mean though...I just began watching so maybe I will understand what you're saying after watching.
my intention is not to judge a person ,because i am more flawed than she is. However i think there is a time and a place to talk about personal issues and especially where . On a positive note she is sharing her experiences so others can learn which is good. however sometimes the content is questionable ,so as christians we need to be careful what content would be considered appropriate or not
I think in Kian's context this is true however it's too much of a blanket statement considering the vast dating experiences of some people who may genuinely have had really poor luck in relationships. This is trial and error and as much as we'd all like for people to take accountability, there are A LOT of dishonest and all around awful people out there playing people who are earnestly trying to navigate love/dating/relationships.
Our dating history matches pretty much to the T, but thank you for sharing this; it’s nice to know that not every Christian girl’s story is they waited and immediately found their husband. That’s just not everyone’s story, but I’m glad my story was different because i’ve learned so many lessons. My faith has grown stronger and I most definitely don’t feel the need to settle; I trust that the man God has for me will show up, thank you. 💛
Amen
But also keep in mind that she was not Christian till the last one.
THANK YOU for sharing this!!! Your testimony on healing from each heartbreak is so inspiring!
I’ve been binge watching her vids so much haha💗 Kian is such a light and is the big sis I never had!!
Gosh Kian, I feel like I relate a lot to your relationship with “Greg”. I’ve been struggling with my relationship with my current guy friend and it’s been a lot of on and off and it’s been pretty overwhelming. Thank you for sharing this!!
Wow, this gives me so much hope :') I was reading Proverbs and ended up journaling about my dating history, then your video popped in my mind to watch (I've seen the thumbnail before and was interested). I'm currently in the year of being single after a "relationship" (a friendship) of being the one who used them as my source of self-worth and value. Since that friendship ended, I'm enjoying this time to get closer to God and water the relationships that need the most time and energy (family). Thank you so so much for sharing
I always get so excited when you upload. Your editing is always so aesthetically pleasing!! love u
Love your videos and once again I'm very joyful that there are Christian women like yourself out there. It's not just inspiration but a blessing.
Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty! Love you! & your videos always make my day ☺️💛 watching from Canada 🇨🇦
Thank you Heidi!! Appreciate you watching
I love that “ I played victim. When I know all the responsibility lies with me.” That’s so good. I am in a similar predicament. I can’t even blame him because I kept choosing to stay & should have taken the responsibility to leave. I wish I could have done things so much more differently as well.
My ex emailed me out of the blue. I guess guys just have nothing to do
I also did the single life for over a year, in the past, and it was amazing!! Can’t wait to watch that video of yours :)
I’ve been single since last June and I’ve been able to learn a lot in this process. God definitely saw fit that I took this time to grow as a person and in Him.
thank you so much for sharing this with with us!
I cant wait for your video about being single for a year!
Now you’re happily engaged I remember when you were wanting to give up on dating haha xo
loved getting to tag along on quite a few of theseee hehe. love this, love you 💕
hahaha I love you!! miss you so much
A few of your old videos like this one and your testimony video I haven't watched because I feel like it will remind me of my own similar mistakes but I actually decided it would be good to just start moving past it and watch these
We are the same in the sense that we love getting all the details so I just love this part of you
Aw so glad I found your channel today! What you said at 19:15 resonates so much. I came to the same conclusion definitely need to be with someone who has a growth mindset and is self-aware. I literally said that exact same thing aha.
God has the most amazing plan for us all! love your story
Thank you for sharing this video because I think that it will help a lot of other people heal. The more people that share, the less people that feel alone! :)
Thank you fir posting this video Kian! It truly is amazing how God works. It gives me hope while going through my own recent break-up that God has everything in control. All those heartbreaks brought you and Kyle together, God knew what he was doing! 🤍
I love your content kian
"and how I'd never do it again"
Just watched "we moved in together" video before this one haha. Just goes to show we have no idea where Gods taking us in life! I appreciate the little nuggets of advice throughout this video💖
The advice that Kian offers is terrible.. No understanding of true christian principals such as modesty or holiness . She talks about filthy , in appropriate things which should not be mentioned among saints.. Jillian Read your Bible
@@torontoash45 I agree that the first place we should always go for advice is to the Lord! I would encourage you to try and be more kind and respectful in your criticisms towards others online. As christians it's important to hold one another accountable and encourage one another to grow closer to Christ, but that can be done in a loving way! Show others love the way Christ first loved us!
@@torontoash45 why are you so adamant in judging Kian?
omg this video is much appreciated, but hiii new subscriber here! i just came across ur channel and then i noticed the map behind you (lombard IL) and i’m from naperville!! i was just like omg awww, so immediately subscribed. gonna binge watch all your vids during quarantine 🤍
grow up Woman .. Kian is a typical christian with no biblical understanding of things like Modesty or Holiness . That is why the church today is all messed up and confused.. Because they do what they think is right and not what the bible says
@@torontoash45 and you do what it says right. Loving others🙄🙄
Wow just finde your Chanel, and i'm already in love with it.
Whew God will take you through a test to lead to a testimony 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Every time I watch one of your videos I feel I could sit with you chat and be good friends :)
You’re awesome thanks for sharing!!!!
Where is this sweater from? I’m obsessed!
Thank you for your video ❤
Thank you so much for sharing 🧡♥️🙏🏽
Kian! Loved this. Can't wait to see the video on what you learned being single for a year! I actually just uploaded a video on why being single is so valuable 💛
That's amazing!! I'll check it out
Kian is not a person you want to follow. She has no understanding of biblical principals such as modesty or holiness..just a person claiming to be a christian which she might be ..but her fruits speak for themselves
Bee R. Why are you so full of hate? She did these things before she was a Christian like she pointed out multiple times. She doesn’t claim to be perfect nor does she need to be perfect. If you would be a Christian you would know that the only one who can judge her is God and that it isn’t your place to talk bad about her.
@@torontoash45 are you so holy than she is🙄🙄
before you criticize others learn to write english correctly
Thanks for sharing! Something cathartic about telling about your past romantic history....it's like a purge lol. I kinda want to do my own version of this even though I don't make videos XD ANYWAY my question for you Kian is, where did you go on your foreign exchange? Super curious to know where you went and for how long! Maybe you could do a video on that and show us some photos x
Thanks for sharing!!!😘
Youre soo lucky with guys, you get easily get attracted, mine im kinda shy and, maybe reserved i think so haha, truly blessed watching all your dating gistory so cool love love love!
I definitely relate to the last relationship. We were together for 2 years and although we both grew up in the same church we definitely were unequally yoked. Went he went to college he went off kilter whereas I was deepening my faith. So long story short I comprised on a lot of things and became his source of happiness and it was just a bad situation. Anyway, I’m still in the healing process, we broke officially 1 month ago
Thanks for sharing!! I’m 7mo single and planning to date differently next time around... Before, I agreed to date guys whom I thought had potential (if they were Christian and we had chemistry), but I was still getting to know them while dating. Usually at the 10-week mark, I’d realize that either we weren’t a good fit (or he’d say so), or that I didn’t have real feelings beyond curiosity. (Curiosity can give you butterflies just the same!! Especially if you idolize the *idea* of being in a solid romantic relationship, which I definitely did) Then a friend told me “Be pickier on the front end. It’s better than getting to the end and being like ‘I wasn’t sure exactly how I felt in the beginning, but now I’ve officially decided that I don’t like you.’ And, if you’re not ready to be romantic with the guy yet, tell him. He can live with a crush. Don’t feel pressured to jump into ‘being the perfect girlfriend’ and cultivating emotions that you’re not ready to have yet.” And that’s exactly what I had been doing!🤦🏻♀️ so... I’m waiting now, and even if/when someone comes along, I’ll still wait a little more😂
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Omg, I had a Greg not too long ago! I know it was my decision to be with him but at the same time at that moment it felt like I really had no other choice. Now that I think back to it I feel kinda sick. I learned a lot from that relationship, and gained a stalker too lol
Do you think by making a timeline of your dating life vs your single life helped you to better understand yourself and what you are looking for?
walking through life with our Heavenly Father!
Thank you for your video. I am a new Christian，since I did baptism I was feeling so deeply into the relationship with God. I am trying the dating apps for the past two weeks just to fulfil the needs of dating, I started to feel hard of messy around with those guys who just looking for sex partners.
Being single might be hard, be yourself and enjoy the relationship with God, God will guide you to the true love. Amen
I think you said the real name of one towards the end by mistake. You said Greg which wasn't a name you mentioned before
Why do you use a tracking link in the description?
Love your videos from Kenya..what camera do you use..
Thank you! I use the Canon 80D
You’re in Lombard ?!?! I live in the chicago suburbs too !:)
Your relationship with Tanner sounds a lot like my current relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. The fact that he’s a lot less goal oriented kind of drives me nuts, but I/we thought we’d get married after 6 months of dating and I think that’s what has kept us going for so long. Please pray for me if you get a second! Breaking up with someone is so hard, even when it’s for the hope of one day having a God glorifying marriage. Thank you for sharing!!
I am going through this right now! I just broke things off with someone who I know wasn't who God wanted for me. I know that I made the right decision, but it has been tough for sure.
sameee dated for 3 years then just realized that's not what I needed
Any advice on how to get over your "Tanner"? Amazing guy yet didn't work out..?
What really helped me was knowing that I wasn't right for him and he wasn't right for me. I was trying to force him to change and therefore not truly loving him. I had faith that there was someone else who aligned with my goals and morals better. That set us both free ☺️
Also, dating apps are not NEEDED but trust in God that he will position you in front of your husband , in the right place and right time 💓
Falling for someone that quickly is infatuation not true love. That is a big difference.
I agree that is a person is getting upset EVEN if you are prioritizing them and being considerate then yes it can be an issue. However, if the partner is not being considerate or prioritizing them then I understand that person being upset. If they are casually dating then do your own thing, but if in a relationship there is more consideration and prioritization.
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
love you from ethiopia
Loved this you should do a follow up video of how each relationship brought you to Christ ♥️
What were the exact song names and singers? Especially the second one? 🙈
Break up 1- ‘Should’ve Said No’ by Taylor Swift
Break up 2- ‘Better Man’ by Little Big Town, and ‘Hope She Cheats’ by Tory Rines
Break up 3- “I don’t F*** with you” by Big Sean
No song for break up 4 and 5
@@gerryvyti4256 Thank you very much :)
Your videos are helping me in my wait 😊I 100% believe that God needs to be in every decision you make in the process !! When you are unsure , ask God to reveal if he’s the one and he will in HIS perfect timing 😍
Well.. I can't really relate, because I have been single all my life .. but I feel like I could figure out who I am because I didn't have a boyfriend influencing me in any way.. but happy that you found Jesus, guy 🙏
I HAD A BF JUST LIKE GREG WOW
Definately similar.. except my ex that super pursued me was the first significant one and I put him on the back burner slot through our years before he took his own life I was so mean to him emotionally you know.. and I was a Christian backslidden a lot back and forth and this last relationship really opened my eyes and heart to Jesus.. it's crazy cuz he wants a Christian girl one day.. super long story hes not right with God right now.. but I keep telling him he deserves what he wants.. God wants to bless his children all we have to do is repent from sins.. love you so much Kian.. thank you for opening up makes me feel less alone.. ps I lived with the last one too and it's been about a year too.. lol
You drove a dude to taking his own life by essentially being emotionally abusive? You sure sound like someone worthy of commitment lol
@@1st_b yea wtf was that...
My first boyfriend lucho colombian guy i dated in highschool. He was 7 years older than me. He never cheated on me and i though i loved him we lived toguether 3 years in richmond hill. But he was shady and he was deported to colombia. Thats it.
Second guy my ex husband i met during a vacation and i only gave him a chance cus he is the guys the persued me so hard he would take the bus for 5 hour across the border to visit we married withing 5 month and where married for 10 uears. Honestly he was convinient to me he work hard he was responsible and he could be anoying but guy barely ever talked he is like a mute. So, thats why we lasted so long.😂 We divorced and thats it. In the past year kind of had a thing with a friend. We just had physical attraction. Thats my dating history😂😂
Kar3n why did you divorce? Was he bad?
@@marcelleines5176 well marcell i think he started developing mental problems and he cheated on me i found him in the bed with the daughter of one of my friends and after that i was discussted by him. I asked him for divorce 2 months later.
Kar3n you did right. Happy you are free and happy
Both of "Chad's" breakup songs were in my long process breaking up with my ex...
Those Chad's will really get ya 😅
I’m more of a TFLer
I’m naming my daughter after you, mind you I’m 18 and not pregnant, but one day
Kian pepper can be her nickname
Ooo edit: you're not boring
Hahah thank you!
What she said.
24:05 min you just hit the nail on the head. I’m dating this guy that treats me right but he is too emotional where I’m ending up comforting him a lot. I thought I would like it but I’m slowly losing respect for him. 😬 I need my man to find his strength through Jesus and not his woman.
Him cheating on you is not your responsibility, girl! You aren't at fault for anything.
I know that! But I shouldn't have stayed with him after he cheated. It was my responsibility to respect myself and set my standards and leave the relationship.
Kian Tilton Oh, gotcha! That makes sense.
Your first bf sounds like mine to a T
Dislikes are from ex boyfriends and their fake accounts 😀
Yeessss Taylor swift
It’s kind of you to “take the responsibility” for your exes actions (kinda like a “cheat on me once, shame on you; cheat on my twice, shame on me situation). But really--you loved the guy, so you thought giving him a second chance might have worked....and you gave him the opportunity to prove that he could be a good boyfriend. There’s nothing wrong with giving a second chance. His actions were still his responsibility. First time around and second. In fact, he should take the double blame for betraying you AFTER you gave him the grace in the second chance. Forgiveness is extremely important- but shifting blame on yourself- not fair to yourself. Xoxo
I have never consider me to be a victim becouse even when the guys i gone out with made mistakes ive been a rowdy girl. If anything now that i accepted jesus in my life next guy am with is gonna have what nobody else did. A well behaved miss karen.
One word immature. Girl..
why are u making this video lmfao
Many Young Christians with little or no theological training are drawn to videos like this ! Which are questionable in nature. Kian want to come off as a new babe in Christ. Perfect , I think that is excellent and i am not one to judge anyone. However we have to be careful not to glamorize or promote topics which are not constructive or edifying to the christian faith. . Kian has to mature more in the faith
I will tell you what's going on... It's about coming to terms with and having peace about your past. Even after being born again we have to deal with forgiveness and healing from past relationships.
Her video helped me analyse how peaceful I am with my past too.
Sure, it might not be your cup of coffee.. so please go to the channels that you enjoy instead of lingering on content you can't relate with.
what i can`t relate with are dealing with stupid people who feel they need to post stupid comments like yours
@@torontoash45 Oh now you show your real face. I just pray that you're able to find peace today 🙏
my only peace comes from ignoring people like you
I definitely relate to the last relationship. We were together for 2 years and although we both grew up in the same church we definitely were unequally yoked. Went he went to college he went off kilter whereas I was deepening my faith. So long story short I comprised on a lot of things and became his source of happiness and it was just a bad situation. Anyway, I’m still in the healing process, we broke officially 1 month ago
I hope you’re doing better. God bless you 💕💕