BORN AGAIN VIRGIN: THE UNTOLD TRUTH

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    Hello beautiful friends! I am so excited to be sharing this video. I truly poured my heart into talking about the subject of saving myself for marriage. I think there are a lot of videos about not having sex until marriage or being a virgin until marriage, but there are a lot of us who have had sex and don't know how we fit in. A lot of us are trapped in shame and guilt and don't know how to get out. Some of us feel unworthy of other's forgiveness. I wanted to make this video to speak and relate to all of you. I wanted to give you a raw and honest perspective on being a born again virgin and some of the struggles of waiting until marriage. I love you all very much & would love your support by sharing this video with someone who may need some encouragement.
    VERSES ⇣
    Hebrews 13:4 (marriage should be honored, marriage bed kept pure)
    Galatians 5:19-21 (list of sins)
    1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (lust and controlling + honoring our bodies)
    1 Corinthians 7:8-9 (better to marry than burn with passion)
    Genesis 2:24-25 (sex connects us as one)
    1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (flee from sexual immorality)
    Ephesians 5:3 (no hint of sexual immorality)
    1 John 1:9 (forgiveness and purifying)
    Matthew 5:28 (lust)
    John 8 (story of the stoning)
    James 2:10 ( all sins are equal)
    Matthew 7:1-5 (judging others)
    Romans 3:23 (we all fall short)
    Matthew 12:31 (every sin will be forgiven)
    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." Matthew 7:1-5
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 653

  • @megans6768
    @megans6768 5 років тому +834

    I’m a born again virgin also and my boyfriend now is a virgin and is committed to waiting until marriage. I had the same thoughts you did of feeling unworthy of dating someone who has waiting their whole life but when i told him I’ve had sex before marriage his response was “ i know, God told me and He has been preparing my heart for you.” Do not settle for any less of an answer! You got this sister ❤️

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +81

      WOW thank you so much for this. I am touched. God bless your boyfriend 😭

    • @taunoctua245
      @taunoctua245 5 років тому +21

      @@Kian_Wolfgang I hope you girls used condoms. You do know that men deposit their DNA in you and it gets passed along to offspring, not just your actual marital partner. Look up Chimera and Micro-Chimera. There is a reason that female promiscuity is far more of a taboo.

    • @angelavanoosten1
      @angelavanoosten1 5 років тому +1

      WOW!!

    • @grizzlybear2702
      @grizzlybear2702 5 років тому +88

      A born again virgin is a car thats had its odometer rolled back to hide its true mileages to be sold at a higher price. Id be very pissed off if I paid an exorbitant cost for a car just to find it has a head gasket leak

    • @rude0524
      @rude0524 5 років тому +11

      i pity schmuck nobody wants to buy a used merchandise ... raise the bar people

  • @corykilgore2444
    @corykilgore2444 5 років тому +337

    I personally have come to believe that “wet dreams” are more of an attack from the enemy while we’re in a vulnerable state such as sleeping. A lot of people say it’s just the body doing what it’s gotta do to take care of itself, but I disagree and personally I found that praying over myself, over my mind and heart, and over the entrances of my room before I go to sleep completely stops them from happening.

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +29

      Very interesting! Thank you so much for sharing this!

    • @shawngronseth2357
      @shawngronseth2357 5 років тому +9

      I think this kind of dreams definitely come from our subconscious. Like we can't control what we dream about. It's whatever is in our subconscious. Sometimes, they come from desires that we have and other times it's just our subconscious projecting a dream into our mind. That's my opinion. The source of dreams. Like I don't think we completely understand what the source of dreams are. It's a very difficult thing to study since mris and other medical examinations can't see what we are dreaming.

    • @Evergreenforest33
      @Evergreenforest33 5 років тому +2

      I’m gonna try this thank you god bless!

    • @corykilgore2444
      @corykilgore2444 5 років тому +30

      Shawn Gronseth I use to think that but after listening the testimonies on sleep paralysis and the things that people see in that state (demons/monsters). I now realize how truly vulnerable we are and how the enemy would and could easily attempt to try and take advantage of us. I don’t think it’s all just from our subconscious. I’m associating these dreams as nightmares because that’s what they really are. When I experience them they are damaging my spirit and leaving me feeling violated when I awaken. That’s not from god and certainly not a dream given to me by the Holy Spirit. So it must be demonic/worldly. Either way, I think instead of just considering it as “ohhh heck yea I got a freebie last night in my sleep” we should stand our ground, rebuke the dreams, ask the lord to reveal anything that is unaddressed in our hearts which is causing the open door , ask forgiveness and plead the blood of Jesus overselves at night before we sleep.

    • @corykilgore2444
      @corykilgore2444 5 років тому +1

      KJ Gulyban God bless you too! ✝️

  • @crispinswainstonharrison9042
    @crispinswainstonharrison9042 Рік тому +14

    There is no such thing as a reborn virgin. God is cool, but she can’t change the past.

    • @appleofeden5029
      @appleofeden5029 18 днів тому +1

      EXACTLY

    • @johnnylego807
      @johnnylego807 15 днів тому

      Bingo. I am a God fearing man, I do beleive one can be “Born again in Christ” turned anew, but there is no “going back” on actions already committed, they may seek repentance of those acts, but it does not change the fact that those acts WERE DONE. This whole “born again virgin” is actually rather demonic. It’s lying.

  • @SIGMA_ENIGMA
    @SIGMA_ENIGMA 3 роки тому +16

    I'm a 35-year-old male virgin, because I've kept the promise that I made to God & myself.

    • @blackpill3773
      @blackpill3773 3 роки тому +6

      Don't listen to this bs message cause it can mess up life, fam

    • @blackpill3773
      @blackpill3773 3 роки тому +1

      There's no such thing as born again virgin

    • @IronMan-hh9jf
      @IronMan-hh9jf 8 місяців тому +1

      Don't marry a born again virgin dude! You'll constantly be compared to every single partner she had for your entire life.

    • @joel4960
      @joel4960 5 місяців тому +2

      Get a passport. Or you'll have to settle for a "born again virgin".

    • @APsGTG
      @APsGTG 5 місяців тому

      @@joel4960facts

  • @NanaJaviJay
    @NanaJaviJay 5 років тому +152

    I’ve been a born again virgin since July of this year... I feel slight guilt about sleeping with someone I knew I wasn’t going to marry. Once that relationship ended, my prayer life and communication with God has INCREASED. My ex called me last Friday and said he missed me... since then I’ve been thinking about him, wanting to talk to him just for sex again, and I know this is an attack from the enemy. God has SO much greater for me and I’ve been praying so much for my future husband lately... I feel as though he’s on his way and I’m about to meet him... the enemy knows this and is trying to attack me. I refuse to call my ex back, or contact him in any way, but I miss that affection. I’m just waiting on the man who God sends to me... it’s hard, and I need prayer 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @taunoctua245
      @taunoctua245 5 років тому +22

      Christian Celebate. Born Again Virgin is just being a liar to people.

    • @lordisthetruthrepentandrej5494
      @lordisthetruthrepentandrej5494 4 роки тому +12

      I just prayed for you! you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you

    • @watitduful
      @watitduful 4 роки тому +18

      Agreed Tau. Logically speaking, there’s no such thing as a born again virgin. To be a virgin means ones never had any type of sex with another person. Celibate yes but a virgin no. Once the virginity is gone it’s gone.

    • @yeezus2836
      @yeezus2836 3 роки тому +2

      Stay strong and get on your knees and pray if you ever feel tempted !🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️✨ Be strong and Courageous like the Bible says

    • @NanaJaviJay
      @NanaJaviJay 3 роки тому

      @Nyemah West I love your name! I apologize for taking so long to respond, I have no clue how I’m just seeing it but I thank God for showing this to me right now when I’m in the season where I’ve began to fervently pray for my future husband and I’m being intentionally single yet this time open to dating. The wait can be a little discouraging sometimes, but God’s not in a rush, neither am I. Thank you so much for your encouraging words.

  • @steen275
    @steen275 Рік тому +23

    Born again virgin AKA i got pumped and dumped by a bunch of men and gave away whats precious. But now i want another man to pay, wait and marry for what other men got for free.

    • @steen275
      @steen275 10 місяців тому +4

      @@Star-bp5jj Women always seem to find god at 35 when the men they are all want are going for the younger more fertile more feminine girl.
      And still demand traditionel treatment afterwards ''because now i'm born again virgin''

    • @IronMan-hh9jf
      @IronMan-hh9jf 8 місяців тому +5

      They want to wait till marriage because, they can take half of the guy's savings, even if they cheated on him.

  • @fraunk0018
    @fraunk0018 5 років тому +76

    I just want to say that something God has shown me is the value that comes from waiting to be married to have that intimacy. He had told me that it really builds up your faith to the Lord and your commitment to the person you are with. Because you have allowed God to give you the strength to overcome that temptation to that sin.

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +2

      Wow so so good!! Thank you for sharing Matthew

  • @MaiaJefferies
    @MaiaJefferies 5 років тому +68

    Haven't watched yet but just from the title PROUD OF YOU GIRL

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +2

      Maia Brown thank you! 🙏🏼

    • @MaiaJefferies
      @MaiaJefferies 5 років тому

      @@Kian_Wolfgang I'm born again as well and have the exact same feelings - you are so brave to speak out!!

  • @thegamewin100
    @thegamewin100 2 роки тому +10

    Born again virgin this is so counter productive the point if being a virgin is to not have bedtime fun you can’t change that quit marketing excuses it’s not hard to stay a virgin 🤣🤣

  • @michaelesedafe
    @michaelesedafe 5 років тому +36

    You've gotta read the entire chapter of Colossians 2 and soak in it and seek to understand it because you will need it, especially for this season. As well praise God for your courage!

  • @kamariareis9158
    @kamariareis9158 5 років тому +13

    I’m not only appreciative of the fact that you made this video but proud of you for being so transparent about your journey with sexual sin. This video has encouraged me to start sharing my own testimony. Thank you so much!

  • @naomifeliz9593
    @naomifeliz9593 5 років тому +17

    Always remember, you’re never alone! Even in your weakness you are truly strong bc it’s when ur most capable to lean on Him 💗
    2 Corinthians 12:9-10

  • @vanessasnipe811
    @vanessasnipe811 5 років тому +127

    Wow so transparent. I was a born again virgin (I'm married Now that's why the past tense). I appreciate this even now because there really weren't very many videos like this. My husband was a Virgin and it was so scary telling him but he was so gracious and loving! It was beautiful marrying a guy that saved himself. Very good job with the video

    • @ElephantInTheRoom777
      @ElephantInTheRoom777 2 роки тому

      Absolutely beautiful. Blessings on you both.

    • @Phanter141
      @Phanter141 Рік тому +9

      What a joke

    • @kachowsimpson2886
      @kachowsimpson2886 Рік тому

      @@Phanter141 Seriously. Only a spineless loser would take a chick that's ran through. Especially considering he waited until marriage but took a chick that didn't. Pathetic

    • @crispinswainstonharrison9042
      @crispinswainstonharrison9042 Рік тому +6

      Poor bloke

    • @IronMan-hh9jf
      @IronMan-hh9jf 8 місяців тому +1

      You found your si mp. Good job!

  • @teaganmaillet5651
    @teaganmaillet5651 5 років тому +24

    So many things that I’ve tried to lie to myself about. This is just a clear point that I need to stop lying to myself

    • @sorianojordan7
      @sorianojordan7 5 років тому

      Teagan Maillet this is exactly how I’m feeling right now and wow.. my heart has been touched!

  • @hannahjoy4843
    @hannahjoy4843 5 років тому +88

    I am a born again virgin as well, I am looking to get a purity ring so I’m excited and not embarrassed because Jesus has forgiven me💞 I got baptized for the first time yesterday so I am cleansed and am living for Jesus✝️ I pray for everyone watching this video💞

    • @jerrylopez1294
      @jerrylopez1294 2 роки тому +17

      Too bad your future husband will have to pay full price for what you gave away for free.

    • @hannahjoy4843
      @hannahjoy4843 2 роки тому +12

      @@jerrylopez1294 what past? Jesus wiped my sins away with His blood. My past is dead and gone and I am brand new because Jesus paid the price for me on the cross while I was still a sinner. His blood has washed me clean and I have asked for forgiveness. This is a Christian channel and I pray you will have your eyes opened to see that as Christians we are called to love one another as Christ loves the church.
      Jesus says who I am and He is my husband forever and I am His bride. I do not receive your unkind words because I know my worth is found in Jesus Christ alone.

    • @jerrylopez1294
      @jerrylopez1294 2 роки тому

      @@hannahjoy4843 Jesus forgives you for your sin of being the town bicycle. Any smart man will know that a woman who demonstrates this level of lack of judgment and rationalization of bad behavior is clearly not wife material. But don't worry sweety, I'm sure you will find your Cap'n Save-A-Ho who will play clean up man for your mess.

    • @bentedercksen3914
      @bentedercksen3914 Рік тому +5

      @@hannahjoy4843 lol

    • @chiefs4xsbchamps161
      @chiefs4xsbchamps161 Рік тому +1

      @@hannahjoy4843 Don't listen to the negative people. You are right our King can do anything.

  • @Sarah-ty5ev
    @Sarah-ty5ev 5 років тому +13

    Kian, I really appreciate your openness and honesty in this video! You were so right about people treating sexual sin differently from other sin. To anyone reading this, I want you to know it is never too late to make a change.

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 8 місяців тому

      Well ofcouese people treat sexual sin differently, because different sins have different consequences. Stealing a candybar has lighter emotional consequences then sexual sin or how it affects others like a future spouse. So yes, people are right to treat it different. And its in your best intrest to understand that. Not all Sin is the same. You can say that the wage of sin is death, so in that regard all sin do lead to death but that doesn't mean all sin has same consequences or punishment. God is a fair judge and he would judge people and nations accoring to their sin. Yes God forgives and heals, but lets not down play serious sins that destroys relationship and marriages.

  • @mirac2062
    @mirac2062 Рік тому +7

    There is no such thing as a born again virgin, oh my goodness, I'm a Christian, and I'm pretty sure it doesn't work like that, this has to stop, you gave it up, just live your life, and with God, there's no such thing as a born again virgin, take this off, this is embarrassing, imagine a guy said he's a born again virgin, like honestly. Ladies, your not special when you give it up when under God, please, this is a bad message for women, cause if there virgins, they'll think, if I can lose it, and be forgiven, I can do anything, like no, just keep it till you find a man, and if he sleeps around with other women, it's normal, even in the Bible, there's guys in there that had multiple women, so please, stay with them, unless they are really awful with their attitude. God bless America, there's no such thing, please stop this.

  • @ryandeffley7652
    @ryandeffley7652 Рік тому +30

    Someone is selling their used BMW with 200K miles on it. Before hand, they get it professionally detailed and fully serviced so it's "born again".
    Then they use the born again treatment to justify asking 2022 SRP prices. Would any buyer in their right mind pay a new price for that car? Just let that sink in for a second. 🤣

    • @Epicgamerbro2000
      @Epicgamerbro2000 Рік тому +11

      They gonna call you a misogynist 💀

    • @ryandeffley7652
      @ryandeffley7652 Рік тому +6

      @@Epicgamerbro2000 - That would be funny AF considering I just mentioned a generic car hypothetical. 🤣

    • @kingkohli4952
      @kingkohli4952 Рік тому +9

      A bit extreme but i get your overall point, the amount of mental gymnastics and twisting these women are doing so they can be oblivious to their wild past is astonishing, it’s an art thé lengths women would go to dodge any accountability and deflect blame

    • @cocoputhyxo
      @cocoputhyxo Місяць тому

      Ok please explain to me how saying you wanna wait until marriage is like setting miles back on a car??
      Ppl baptize! Aswell as the more you sleep with ppl the more soul ties you collect aka the woman of the well so why cannot stay absentee??? Or celibate? Without judgment? God forgives but I understand you are human you don’t understand forgiveness and judgment isn’t for you but you do so anyway

    • @cocoputhyxo
      @cocoputhyxo Місяць тому

      @@kingkohli4952I don’t think these people deflected they asked forgiveness that’s how it all goes you take accountability and you no longer share your temple. You don’t share it something’s wrong with you boys get laughed alot of it and girls aswell and if you do your a whore can’t make no happy.
      You get old ppl laugh at old ppl you die young now ppl wanna cry smfh

  • @acardoza14
    @acardoza14 5 років тому +61

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I can totally relate. When I first started walking with Christ I was also still having sex with my ex. After that relationship ended I vowed to be celibate and glorify God with my body. In so many ways he told me that my body was special and not to be shared with anyone & that is when I made my decision to leave ALL sexual sin. I’m also a single mom and have also had the doubts of finding a good man who will lead me in purity regardless of my past. I know Jesus is walking on this journey with me & I trust that he will steer me where he wants me to go. ♥️

    • @Sinistercabbage
      @Sinistercabbage Рік тому

      That makes sense, you need a father (cu#k) for another dudes child so you are now pure....NOW you will withold sex...LOL

    • @arkonem2933
      @arkonem2933 Рік тому +1

      LMFAO

    • @MMOfreakOUT1
      @MMOfreakOUT1 3 місяці тому

      So basically you are a virgin who has a biological daughter?

  • @sarabaretto110
    @sarabaretto110 3 роки тому +9

    Im jewish, but i really relate to that feeling of guilt, when i lost my virginity i was an atheist and had depression, was very lost. After being manipuleted by a man in his 40's (me being 17) i found god. I dont know how to stop the guilt but i know i will find someone better for me. And it doesnt matter if your christian of jewish or muslim or atheist, is better to save yourself for the right one, we get that after getting married or making the mistake...

    • @JalieceKeturah
      @JalieceKeturah 3 роки тому

      Hey I know you are Jewish, but Jesus Christ wants to take away your guilt. The Bible says when we ask for forgiveness God forgets about our sin. ❤️ I hope this helps you.

    • @sarabaretto110
      @sarabaretto110 3 роки тому +1

      @@JalieceKeturah i know, theres something similar in my religion, called teshuba, god forgives you if you really regret it and never do it again. When i was an atheist i read the bible and it is a beatiful book, but i belive in what the tora says... all of them have things in common, we can share our feelings about god and our love without being from the same religion, i appreciate it though😊

    • @JalieceKeturah
      @JalieceKeturah 3 роки тому

      @@sarabaretto110 I understand 😊❤️

    • @arkonem2933
      @arkonem2933 Рік тому +2

      lmfaoooo "manipulated", just say you were horny and a hoe. It's good to be honest and a sin to lie ;)

  • @emilymendozaguerrero9620
    @emilymendozaguerrero9620 5 років тому +39

    I’m glad you are touching all the points for those who have or are in the same boat, it’s very sweet of you! It will definitely help someone out there! God Bless you!

  • @leehoward2458
    @leehoward2458 5 років тому +9

    This video was exactly what I needed to hear. It can feel like you’re alone in this journey of repentance and turning away from past sins. Forgiving myself has been the hardest part. God Bless you and Im so excited to hear what God has in store for you. ❤️

  • @kianapirtle3121
    @kianapirtle3121 5 років тому +34

    Call people in not out.

  • @shawngronseth2357
    @shawngronseth2357 5 років тому +9

    One thing that I have done and kind of stumbled into lately is just keeping myself busy in the evenings. Like now that everyone is back into "school year" routines, I've naturally have found things to do most evenings and I've found that that really limits those desires i have when in isolation. They say that you are tempted most and sin most when in isolation. I completely agree with that 100%. 2-3 nights a week I have Christian related activities that I am involved in where I'm either studying the Bible, discussing biblical topics with other people, leading a small group of students, or going to church on Thursday nights. Then like 2 nights a week I'm doing fun things. Sundays I hang out with men from my church at a restaurant and we watch Sunday night football and hang out and talk. Mondays I go play games from 6 until whenever we decide to call it quits. Saturdays I watch college football at night. Sometimes on Thursdays I have me days in the city north of me. I have found that keeping myself out of my apartment for good chunks of the time throughout the week really keep me occupied and busy. I find when im by myself in my apartment is when I get tempted the most. So while I still do struggle and fall I've asked God hey please help me with this so I don't struggle and I had no idea how to get better with it. Like I was like man I feel so alone and isolated inside my apartment then God provided me with things to do so I'm not alone and don't feel the desires that I struggle with as much. Like if you ask God for help he will help you and be like hey do you want help with these struggles? Ok I'm going to provide you with avenues that you can choose over putting yourself in those situations. It's ultimately up to you if you want to choose to take advantage of those avenues because you can easily choose to say no but that's on you. However, if you decide like hey you know, these avenues these things, these activities can really help me suppress those desires that I struggle with. So that's definitely something I suggest fill your schedule with things that you are passionate about, want to do, and are spiritually ultimately healthy for you so that you can avoid putting yourself into those situations where you find that you truly struggle with those temptations the most. I hope that someone who sees this comment needs it and really is impacted by it because for me I still struggle but like if you have enough faith to ask God to help you then he will. Maybe not right away but he will help.

  • @brocolee8373
    @brocolee8373 Рік тому +13

    This concept is so wrong in so many ways and is just a hard coping mechanism for past mistakes.A person can change and be forgiven by God but it doesnt undo what you did in the first place. Everyone is a virgin only once.People are now using this as a failsafe when they want to setlle down after they slept with numerous people in their youth and its honestly just setting up marriages for failure.

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 10 місяців тому +5

      Yes its a failsafe term in order to cope. Is disgusting because it leads others into confusion. If these sexually undisciplined women learned to put their future husband first then maybe they would have a good chance in setting up a good innocent and healthy marriage. No guy worth his value wants to be with a women who been around used by other man and marked.

  • @Mayllie
    @Mayllie 5 років тому +80

    I don’t agree with all your convictions, but I love your intentions. I think that there’s even more beauty in being a born again virgin because you have knowledge of both sides and freely make that choice, your future man will see that as an asset rather than a deficit.

    • @harleighstringer
      @harleighstringer 4 роки тому +7

      that's such a cool way to look at it!

    • @carina9673
      @carina9673 4 роки тому +9

      if you don’t mind me asking.. which part of the video do you not agree with?

    • @ryleereynolds5710
      @ryleereynolds5710 3 роки тому +1

      This made me feel better about myself!!

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 4 місяці тому

      More beauty NOPE, God plan is always the best path. Its ugly when daughters of God are marked by other man through sex. Then the husband has to pay for it... Beautiful is a foolish thing to say.

  • @kendraevans964
    @kendraevans964 4 роки тому +40

    I needed to hear this... I'm technically a virgin but I've done sexual stuff. but sometimes, I feel like I'm the only person who has fallen for sexual sin after I became saved. I've been saved for 2 years but every single time I have done something sexual with a guy, it always ended in heartbreak and I always find myself running back to god while everything on this earth feels like it is broken. thank you soooo much for bringing up the point where you had sex after you became a Christian. I feel like people often think that once you become a Christian, you will be free of sinful behaviors such as sex or anything. but that is as far from the truth as it could possibly get. Since I became Christain, I feel like we should be living examples of Christ. But temptation is extremely real, it's so important to tell other people about your sins so first of all if they are not Christain, they realize that they don't need to match up with the stereotype that Christians are judgemental because we literally have been through similar experiences. Second of all, if we don't share our sins with other Christians, we would not hear about how other people are struggling with the same exact sins, or what they did to overcome it. I'm on a journey every single day to be a better Christian and I slip up.

  • @charityloffree8262
    @charityloffree8262 4 роки тому +26

    I’ve been a born again virgin since last month, March 2020! It’s very hard, but it’s so rewarding and I don’t regret it and I’m excited to see what God has planned for my future❤️

    • @charityloffree8262
      @charityloffree8262 4 роки тому +1

      @AnnieU it is thank you! ❤️

    • @snowfrosty1
      @snowfrosty1 Рік тому +6

      hate to break it to yab but MOSt men in our respective societies who are atleast worth something won't like you or want little to do with yah. You won't deserve them & i hope you can come to terms with this.

    • @kingkohli4952
      @kingkohli4952 Рік тому +8

      @@snowfrosty1 this video of born again virgin is the highest form to foolish men basically a trap to exploit men. Your past absolutely matters. Bible say save yourself from marriage NOTHING about born again virgin

    • @ITech2005
      @ITech2005 Рік тому +1

      Born again virgin since last month? lmfao 😂 Women think they can just ho around then snap their fingers and get the same benefits as the women that we're saving themselves. Doesn't work like that ma'am.

    • @caroline8932
      @caroline8932 10 місяців тому

      ​@@kingkohli4952but God also said do not condemn others and that's the exact same thing you are doing. You may wait till marriage, but you are not pure, and that has shown in your words.
      God loves you.

  • @brigid2286
    @brigid2286 5 років тому +22

    YES! so great to see a video about born again virgin, I am exactly the same and i always watch videos of christian virgins which is great but does make me sad cause i did go through a season where i thought i was less christian for not being a virgin even though i was saved later than others :) thank you so making this video!

  • @brandongregory7945
    @brandongregory7945 5 років тому +15

    Thank you for encouragement! I'm also a born again virgin in the season of singleness. But for good reason. I'm not seeking to have fun with someone. I'm seeking marriage that pleases God. Knowing that their are beautiful, godly women like you who are choosing to be holy rather than of this world. Encourages me to keep doing the best that I can to be like christ and to sin not. It makes me super happy knowing that God gives us instructions that we CAN keep....
    Leviticus 21:13-15
    [13]And he shall take a wife in her virginity.
    [14]A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.
    [15]Neither shall he profane his seed among his people: for I the LORD do sanctify him.
    In return of the fruit that u gave to me, hopefully this fruit helps u while going through the season of singleness :)
    1 Corinthians 7:32-35,37-38
    [32]But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
    [33]But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
    [34]There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
    [35]And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
    [37]Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
    [38]So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
    Look for someone that will put god before ANYTHING. Even their own family. (Matthew 10Matthew 10:34-37
    [34]Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
    [35]For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
    [36]And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.
    [37]He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.)

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 4 місяці тому

      Explain to me what a born again virgin is ?

  • @WavesofLoneliness
    @WavesofLoneliness Рік тому +6

    I’m sorry to not water down the truth here, but there is no such thing as a “born again virgin.” Stop coping. Stop being delusional. And accept responsibility for your past mistakes. You don’t have to let them define you. Just own up to them and stop pretending that they don’t exist. People that gave up their virginity before marriage are now practicing abstinence until marriage (or celibacy until death). Not to mention, a “born again virgin” IS NOT BIBLICAL. Find me just ONE verse in the Bible that supports this comical idea of a “born again virgin”. Also, it’s okay that you can’t call yourself a virgin. As Christians, we don’t define ourselves by our virginity. Jesus defines us. Praise Jesus for his Truth and Word.

    • @joel4960
      @joel4960 2 місяці тому

      "BAV" cheapens the sacrifice made by true virgins. Think of the effect on adolescent girls: why stay celibate before marriage when I can hook up with 30 different Chads in college, then repent and call myself a 'BAV'. I can tell my husband if it bothers him, he's a Pharisee.

  • @bellag2864
    @bellag2864 3 роки тому +5

    You're a great role model for Christian women, I'm in my 30s and I'm learning from you as I'm healing from alot of abuse and mistakes in my past. I love your channel than you so much for being such an open book and transparent!

  • @diykaiya2656
    @diykaiya2656 5 років тому +49

    Praise God! 🙌 I’m glad that you understand that Jesus forgave you and any guilt is from the enemy! We all have sinned and no sin is above another. All sin is wrong. However we are so blessed to have a savior, Jesus Christ! I believe that God is going to use you in so many ways and this video will help so many see that they too can become a born again virgin

  • @sophiamariah6486
    @sophiamariah6486 4 роки тому +5

    You are a beautiful woman of God. I just found your channel and I love how raw and vulnerable you are. Our life is a testimony of God's goodness, faithfulness, and redemption. It is beautiful to be able to BOLDLY share our love story with Jesus that He is continuing to write. God bless you and your new covenant!

  • @somethinggood9267
    @somethinggood9267 5 років тому +34

    PS i dont remember how i found your channel, but im really glad i did!!

  • @rorisangphasha1129
    @rorisangphasha1129 4 роки тому +5

    About the negative comments, I believe that if someone is genuine about wanting to guide you out of a specific sin, they should be doing more prayer than anything.. A lot of us are quick to call someone out on something we believe is wrong but will never mention that person when praying.. How sad 💔

  • @Ohheyitskayy
    @Ohheyitskayy 5 років тому +23

    You are amazing Kian! Your journey is so beautiful! Thank you for this encouraging video:)

  • @kastoops2
    @kastoops2 4 роки тому +6

    "If you are afraid to share that? What kind of men are you dating?" 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 TRUTH!!!
    I love this video and all your videos I've watched, honestly. Keep helping and inspiring 💝

    • @kachowsimpson2886
      @kachowsimpson2886 Рік тому +2

      @yezdan799 men with self respect lmao

    • @arkonem2933
      @arkonem2933 Рік тому +1

      Ask the same question to the man. "If a woman shares she has had premarital sex what kind of woman are you dating?" I'd say that's way way way more valid, you fucking nutjob hahahah

  • @unpopulardollsdontreadrepl8453
    @unpopulardollsdontreadrepl8453 3 роки тому +9

    It is just called CELIBACY...don't use fancy words to trap men into marriage and increase your SMV.

  • @ahmedv1016
    @ahmedv1016 3 роки тому +5

    You ladies have to understand that man's not god an god not man's .....god may forgive but man's don't forget

  • @rockbay79
    @rockbay79 Рік тому +5

    I have always felt that I may have lost the love of my life to this "Born Again Virgin" belief. I'll try to keep this short. When I was 16 years old and just entering the 11th grade, I had a real pretty friend who was a year ahead of me in school being a Senior. I considered her a friend because we had shared several years of Art Class together. About a month into the school year, she came to me and basically asked me out. I accepted and for the next two weekends we just rode around in our cars and really talked and connected. This goes on for three months and I'm trying my best to sleep with her. Finally, on New Year's Day we make love. From this point on for the next 8 months we are inseparable. She really starts going to church a lot and dragging me with her. Then, out of the blue, she came over to my house one Sunday after evening church, I did not attend on this day. We walked outside to her little car, and she started to cry and tell me that she had got "saved" at church and we would need to go our separate ways! Well, I was at a loss of words. She stopped seeing me, calling me, I mean nothing! A month later after she graduated High School, she started to attend a Faith-Based Community College. Another full year goes by, and I hear nothing from her. Because of her breakup from me my Senior year sort of sucked, I missed her so much. Anyway, at this point, she attends my High School graduation. (Special note: Her younger sister was in my graduating class as well). After this graduation, she came up to me and compliments how nice I look in a suit. I told her she looked fabulous in her dress. Like I say, she really was a beautiful girl at 5 feet tall and 105 pounds! We proceed outdoors and I ask her would she share this special evening with me just talking? She said yes. As we rode around, I let slip how I had missed her. She replied the same. We came to a red light, and I leaned over and kissed her very passionately. We could just both feel the love we shared hundreds of times before. Later that evening we ended up on a lake side camping area making love for the very last time. The next morning, she called me and said she had made a mistake, and this was the reason she could not see me anymore. She felt our love and attraction was too strong. She never once spoke to me about marriage! After she was saved, she totally changed. I turned 21 years old, and she 22. At this point in life, I had joined the U.S. Air Force and was moving on with my life. My Mother sent me a local newspaper from my old hometown and printed in it was an announcement of her marriage to man, I slightly knew, that attended her family church. I tell these things to express how odd love can be. You see, this love my girlfriend and I shared began way back in 1977. Today, I am 61 years old. All of this time, I think of her every day and all the wonderful moments we shared. I have not spoken to her since our last time together. The man she married passed away at age 50. She remarried to another man in her church. She went on to have 3 children with her first husband. Deep down I still have a very strong love for her. But I do understand that the memories I have of her were beautiful moments of very passionate love making. But to her, I feel she now views those moments as very sinful because we were not married. The girl I see today is a totally different person than the girl I fell in love with many years ago. I just feel that she too, wanted to be a Born-again virgin and that version of her could not exist with me in the picture. At the very least, thank you Lisa, for all the memories!

  • @abbypiotrowski4633
    @abbypiotrowski4633 4 роки тому +6

    I am really struggling with this. I am so early in my journey with Christ and even though I recently felt convicted to give my life to him, I am struggling with how to transform my values and everyday practices to reflect my love and belief of him. I still feel so much guilt and confusion around my sinful habits, as I want to change but it’s so hard to make all the changes we feel convicted to make over night. Thank you for speaking on this and if you feel see this please pray for me, I’m feeling so weak and lost today.

    • @Fierclyfabulous
      @Fierclyfabulous 4 роки тому +1

      Turn to Jesus.... every day read your bible and pray when you are struggling. Jesus will bring you through!!! Do you have Christian friends? If so look to them. If not I’d be more than happy to be a friend to you. Jesus loves you more than you know! He is slow to anger abounding in steadfast love.

    • @ajosebabafemi8290
      @ajosebabafemi8290 3 роки тому +2

      This is me as well honestly I have no friends but I read my bible and pray everyday
      Really thing to be freed from porn and masturbation atm day 3 so far man all praise to god

  • @ebunnyrose
    @ebunnyrose 8 місяців тому +3

    The negative comments are from people who do not know truly know the Lord. She is not saying that she is a true virgin and never committed sexual sin again. She is saying that she is forgiven of her sexual sin and has chosen not to commit that sin now that she has given her life over to the lord.

    • @APsGTG
      @APsGTG 5 місяців тому +3

      Being forgiven of sexual sin does not warrant the “virgin” name then. You’re a born again celibate, not a born again “virgin”. Not that that’s a bad thing, but deceiving doctrine of “virginity” is not good. You can’t change the past deeds you did with your temple, so don’t falsely take on the name of it.
      Accept your past and embrace the blood of Christ to be washed of it. To take the “virgin” name is to subtly deny that it ever happened and thus doubt the power of Christ to rebirth you. You don’t need to cling to the virgin status if you already lost it because God has got you! He’ll give you what you need so be honest about what you’ve done! Deceiving yourself and others around you with a false name is not the way to go about it. I say this to edify you. May God bless you sister I love you ✝️❤️

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 5 місяців тому

      Oh give it a break. When you confronted me in another comment that what I had said did not align with Gods word, I called you out for it by proving your claim using scripture. You never replied back... All you showed me is that you lack wisdom in the word and you were mad at me because the truth triggered you. Get real.

    • @Royan712
      @Royan712 Місяць тому

      Sex is marriage in the bible.

  • @makaylahawes9603
    @makaylahawes9603 4 роки тому +2

    thank you so much for this video. I am so grateful that God has put you in a position to vocalize about this topic. So many Christians do not want to talk about this subject and because of that so many of us struggle in secret with this. I have been saved since a young age, but I did not begin to get serious about my relationship with God until about a year ago. It has come with many advances, but I have of course fallen short many times. This video gives me so much hope moving forward and has helped me to know that I am not alone. I just ask that whoever is reading this would please pray that I do not stumble into anymore sexual sin. God bless you and I am so blessed to have stumbled across your channel!

    • @arkonem2933
      @arkonem2933 Рік тому

      lmfao makayla just don't be a hoe, it's literally that simple. Don't pray for anything, just control your hoe urges. Simple as that

  • @anonanon5978
    @anonanon5978 2 роки тому +7

    I want to be newborn virgin again, too. But being newborn virgin again does come with memoryloss of my past boyfriends and adventures in bed ?

    • @MMOfreakOUT1
      @MMOfreakOUT1 3 місяці тому +2

      Surely you people are not serious?

  • @mackenziekort3860
    @mackenziekort3860 5 років тому +4

    I NEEDED this!! Your light is shining and impacting more lives than you know. I look up to you so much💛

  • @jerrylopez1294
    @jerrylopez1294 2 роки тому +15

    Ya know, when you roll back the odometer on a used car and try to sell it as new, that's a Felony....

    • @PanicAtTheDisco0011
      @PanicAtTheDisco0011 Рік тому +1

      Well it sure is a good thing that people aren’t cars. Many people come to Christ later in life, after they’ve made various mistakes. Have some grace.

    • @jerrylopez1294
      @jerrylopez1294 Рік тому +10

      @@PanicAtTheDisco0011 God can forgive and give Grace… doesn’t mean the Men need to accept women as wives who have not kept themselves pure. Not our responsibility to be Captain Sav-A-Ho.

    • @PanicAtTheDisco0011
      @PanicAtTheDisco0011 Рік тому +1

      @@jerrylopez1294 Thankfully, her husband and many other men don’t think the way you do. We’re called to forgive as God has forgiven us. Praying for you.

    • @jerrylopez1294
      @jerrylopez1294 Рік тому +7

      @@PanicAtTheDisco0011 Forgiving people and making stupid decisions are two completely different things

    • @jerrylopez1294
      @jerrylopez1294 Рік тому +3

      @@PanicAtTheDisco0011 “Many other Men” as in Gumps, Simps, Cucks and Betas…. Real men don’t marry trash

  • @HannaPramholt
    @HannaPramholt 4 роки тому +3

    There's actually an interesting thing about nasty comments. So it takes about 8 seconds for all the parts of our brain to get involved in a choice. So when people leave hate comments , that usually happens in a state where their whole brain isnt involved. The parts where we feel empathy and understanding is one of the slower parts and will kick in after 7-8 seconds. People are so fast at leaving bad comment online that many of them haven't thought it through, and many can't even remember what they said .
    It's just a really cool thing to keep in mind 💕

  • @Mateogreat
    @Mateogreat 5 років тому +9

    its tough these days to wait i'm waiting and have been dumped by multiple women from my church because i told them no sex

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +13

      Just have peace that they are not the women for you. At the end of the day it only takes one ☺️

    • @LouiseBitumba
      @LouiseBitumba 5 років тому +1

      The right girl will wait, trust in God

    • @jesustryingheh6864
      @jesustryingheh6864 4 роки тому +1

      Stay head strong and let God guide you.

  • @madeasimmons9746
    @madeasimmons9746 Рік тому +3

    If a woman has dated men, she likely has kissed or hugged them... remember that, guys

  • @dennisami
    @dennisami 5 років тому +13

    Brave for you to talk about it.
    As a guy i practice nofap. im like day 108 now, i think dreams are not bad they just to heal you.
    Nofap is for girls too!
    Bless you!

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +3

      Wow keep going strong! So amazing to hear about men pursuing purity.

    • @djvn229
      @djvn229 5 років тому +1

      Just keep asking the lord for strength! And answers. God bless

    • @taunoctua245
      @taunoctua245 5 років тому +1

      @@Kian_Wolfgang Never heard of MGTOW monks, many of whom are Christians? Some fap and others practice no fapping.

    • @Lemons19902010
      @Lemons19902010 4 роки тому

      Currently doing NoFap as a single Christian woman pursuing purity!

    • @normbeattie3547
      @normbeattie3547 4 роки тому +2

      The Bible does speak about being born again as Christians. It says nothing about anyone who has lost their virginity through sin being able to be born again as a virgin. once virginity is lost, it cannot be restored.. Norm Beattie, B.A., Cert Teach, Grad.Dip. min., O.St.John., Sydney., N.S.W., Australia. may God bless you in all your service to him.

  • @sonilove2190
    @sonilove2190 5 років тому +6

    I think it's really true that we all are on the same journey but our pace is different. We all don't get born again and leave sin at once. Others get convictions as they go on with the journey of salvation. I'm grateful you talked about that. God bless you and see you through Kian.

  • @taylorflynn9028
    @taylorflynn9028 2 роки тому +1

    Love the transparency. It definitely is a huge struggle we all deal with. But I’d like to share this verse for those of you who may be on the fence about waiting till marriage.
    “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
    ‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭6:18-20‬ ‭

  • @kikodicaffe4187
    @kikodicaffe4187 5 років тому +5

    Hi!im from Romania. Im very glad that you made this video and im happy i found you on youtube .The subject you're talking abiut in this video it's a real problem for our generation even if we want to accept that or not.May God give you wisdom, more and more and hope youll grow bigger and greater on on your faith🤗

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +1

      Thank you so much for watching and encouraging me! I appreciate you so much

    • @kikodicaffe4187
      @kikodicaffe4187 5 років тому

      @Emela Rusen are you still living here?if you do,where?this is so fun😂😂😂

    • @kikodicaffe4187
      @kikodicaffe4187 5 років тому

      @Emela Rusen dascalcristina,give me yours to

  • @paoladuarte1512
    @paoladuarte1512 4 роки тому +4

    God poured so much grace and wisdom on you to share this. Thank you so much

    • @paoladuarte1512
      @paoladuarte1512 4 роки тому

      And i have watched so many youtubers talk about this but never felt identified with any of them like I am now watching this video

  • @samijo936
    @samijo936 5 років тому +4

    This is so good! You hit everything spot on! I resonate with you and your life so much! I'm married now, but I also went through all of this after turning to the Lord when I was 23. Thank you so much for your candor and transparency! This video is going to help so many people! I just shared it on my Facebook account. I hope it will help anyone who watches it.

  • @Hephzibah40
    @Hephzibah40 5 років тому +13

    Thank you Kian! God is using you in big ways! I can definately speak for myself by saying you are a blessing to my life! I have been through this (similar subject) and truly needed to hear this today! Praise God for you! I am sharing this! God bless your dating I pray you find your Boaz! Oh.. if you look up a couple books I know of but still need to read!.. Joshua Eze "The Purpose of Freedom" it says in the title fine print "how to untie soul ties and uproot strongholds" ..and theres another book my cousin told me about "Strongman's his name, what's his game? An authoritative Biblical approach to Spiritual Warfare" By Drs. Jerry and Carol Robeson. These books are gems to me on this fight.. I have yet to get the second one nor have I finished the first. But I will. Here's to hoping this helps somebody! God bless you all❤

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing these recommendations. I am so happy God is using my videos in your life Jennifer!

  • @marielarocha4835
    @marielarocha4835 5 років тому +5

    I was in the same shoes as you ! When some one loves you they will be accept you regardless of your past ! God saves us and forgives us , who are we not to forgive one another .. We as believers and followers of Christ we must forgive one another and never judge ones past !

  • @HarryPotterfan22222
    @HarryPotterfan22222 4 роки тому +23

    So glad that I have found your channel! During this pandemic I have decided to no longer neglect my Bible, and I have began reading it properly for the first time, and I am taking in the meaning. I always knew I wanted to improve my faith in the future, but I kept putting it off, and ignoring my sins. One of the main things was sex. From the beginning of me starting university, I began being promiscuous and did not care about waiting for marriage. I only know now that from doing those things that I was harming myself. I was trying to fill a whole within myself, but now I realise that only God can fill that whole, and I know that what he says is best for us. I did have a boyfriend, but the relationship was shallow, I felt that it was mostly about sex. Now I know that avoiding doing anything sexual with people I date will allow me to find happiness and a will create a stronger bond with my future husband.

    • @arkonem2933
      @arkonem2933 Рік тому +2

      Can't turn a hoe into a wife. You played yourself.

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 4 місяці тому

      Future husband might have a lot of pain to deal with now. Its best to be each others very first bond... so sad

    • @HarryPotterfan22222
      @HarryPotterfan22222 4 місяці тому

      @@Star-bp5jj Don't care anymore, don't want a husband if he can't accept it. I'd rather have cats

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 4 місяці тому

      @@HarryPotterfan22222 Absouletey agree with you, you need a man that will accept all of you. You dont deserve a life of headaches and pain, but I just feel so bad because of what you have given away.
      More happens during sex than just a momentary experience of pleasure. When we are intimate, chemicals are released in our brains that bond us together. Vasopressin is primarily released in male brains and oxytocin primarily in females. However, when we bond then break the bond by sleeping with others, we damage our capacity to bond strongly to the next person. It’s similar to how sticky a piece of tape is. The first time you apply it to a surface, it bonds strongly. But if you take it off and apply it to another surface, it’s less adhesive. Soon, it’s barely sticky at all. This is where baggage comes from previous sexual experience. Its shared love
      This is why God said to only be intimiate with one person. Itsa gift to the husband.
      If you read the old testament, sex was also a way of a marriage vow, their marriage vow was through intercourse, the the blood on the first night was symbolic of a seal because Blood always symbolized a promise or covenant, and when Jesus shed his blood for us, he saved us so that he can now live inside of our hearts. Sex is a shawdow of our relationship with God as weird as that sounds. Thats why we the church are refered to as the bride.
      Sex is extremely spiritual, extremely symbolic, and very fragile. Its hurts people deeply when shared..
      I feel bad for your future spouse because they might be hurting bad, a Jealous sharp pain in the heart, they might feel like a first time special moment is gone, The temple has been shared, or feel like a gift for a husband has been given away...I feel bad for you, because it hurts both people, and I can only assume how it has bothered your mind at times. Its very sad to see daughters of God being marked by other man. Then later on Both the wife and the husband begin to hurt deeply in the heart because both understand other man know you, know you in a special way.......

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 4 місяці тому

      @@HarryPotterfan22222 I absolutely agree with you. You need a husband that will accept all of you. You dont deserve a lifetime of headaches. I just feel so bad because its like aduaghter of God was marked by other man, this one in a lifetime special moment is gone and the gift was given to someone else.. then the husband and wife feel deep pain in their heart becuase other man know you in a speical way.. its so sad.

  • @Alexander44665
    @Alexander44665 Рік тому +7

    One cannot become a born again virgin.

  • @kingkohli4952
    @kingkohli4952 Рік тому +4

    There’s no such thing as BORN AGAIN VIRGIN in Christianity this is a made up word to absolve any accountability. God told us to SAVE OURSELVES FOR MARRIAGE, yes if you TRULY REPENT YOUR SIN god will FORGIVE your SIN but that doesn’t mean you are oblivious to your past and consequences of your bad choices in your past.
    ” the right one will not care about your past” so many men are exploited using these kinda statements by women. The ” right one ” isn’t responsible for your choices YOU are so don’t put it on ” right one ” for judging your past CHOICES.
    Current trend of women sleeping around in their young for years and wanting to ” settle ” down when they are 30 or single mothers and they are ” born again virgins ” all of of a sudden and their past don’t matter? Women slept with man for money, a man you met hours ago, aman you don’t even know his last name but your husband should wait years to have access to you? And what happens when you cheat in marriage will you become born again virgin wife?
    When you repent your sin and accept god you will be forgiven and spiritual purity with god can be restored but the damage you have done to your body (your temple) will still effect you so YOUR PAST DOES MATTER because a grapist and a serial kiler may repent and get forgiveness from god but still will be judged for his past choices. Yes he may not be the same person but he is more likely to do those things again then a man that never do those. Who would you choose among a Christian man and a Christian man with past record of bad behaviour, wrong choices or who has a record? YOU WILL BE JUDGED for your PAST.
    Yes Jesus will wash your sins but you will still have a record finding it hard to get a decent job over a man with out a record , he still will face the consequences and it will AFFECT YOU
    just like WOMEN with PROMISCUOUS past may repent and wash her sins but she still will be a woman who ruined her body, her pics will be on internet for ever, and your pair bonding ability is gone YOU will face the consequences of your bad choices and m’en by ignoring these altogether you will also deal with all these just because you choose to marry her so HER PAST MATTERS and if you have a choice between a woman who’s saving herself for marriage who’s actually a VIRGIN over a ” born again virgin ” because a woman who choose to give herself for money or FUN is more likely to do it again over because when you ACCEPT god you will also encounter Satan and your past, your weaknesses are a weapon to him.
    Please don’t twist bible so you can be ” PURE” and justify your promiscuous past,there’s no such thing as BORN AGAIN VIRGIN.
    ” Born again virgin " ” I deserve everything ” ” my past don’t matter ” ” the right one will not care about your past” these are the talk points liberal promiscuous women who sleep around.
    Yes I am not perfect and I will be judged accordingly especially when choosing me as a partner, I accept my sin and will try to never commit them again and I Don’t DESERVE ANYTHING but what GOD GIVES me. I accept my bad choices and I am accountable for my past.
    This channel is basically how to have 0 responsibility, you are not wrong no matter what and endless excuses to dodge accountability or any responsibility of your bad choices, never say what you are doing is sin or hold you accountable ( translation for don’t judge). Just accept god and repent and your past don’t matter anymore. The ” right one ” you are referring also love god and reads bible and knows that ” born again virgin ” don’t exist and the right one is absolutely RIGHT for not wanting to marry a man who didn’t save herself for marriage or has such past or the born again virgin, because right one also looks for a woman to be a mother of his children so your wild past with your empowering pics of yourself on internet for whole world to see will definitely affect the right one so yes your past absolutely matters and so does your inability to save yourself for marriage.

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 8 місяців тому

      Exactly !!!!! This is Truth and Reality. This is a comment I posted earlier.
      Though our sins are no longer counted against us, they are still very real and still carry with them earthly consequences. Once an act is done, it’s done. It is, therefore, not possible to claim physical born-again virginity, just as it is not possible to reverse the consequences of any other sins we commit. What we can be done with tho are the guilt feelings associated with having had premarital sex.
      No such thing as born again virgin, its not supported by scripture, just a made up word for people who lost it to cope. Just say your abstaining.
      Second all sin is not the same ! Wise People treat sexual sin differently, because different sins have different consequences. Stealing a candybar has lighter emotional consequences then sexual sin or how it affects others like a future spouse. So yes, people are right to treat it different. And its in your best intrest to understand that. Not all Sin is the same. You can say that the wage of sin is death, so in that regard all sin do lead to death but that doesn't mean all sin has same consequences or punishment. God is a fair judge and he would judge people and nations accoring to their sin. Yes God forgives and heals, but lets not down play serious sins that destroys relationship and marriages.Sexual sin messes people up, and has lasting consequences. Not the same as stealing a candy bar out a store. So not all sin is the same, it stupid to think that way because your own life decisions are predicated on the fact that some decsions have better or worse implications then others.
      In the You said to the virgins you feel you left out because some of us became christians later on in life, but then you says a year after being saved you were having sex with your boyfriend. This is a problem, the people that truly feel left out is the Virgins who go through the pains of waiting and practing self control, while bening shamed and feeling pressure and watching the world sleep around. Its the virgins feeling left out. You got saved and choose to sleep again, sound like you had a blast and now regretting. I think you should own up to it and have some accountability. I sense alot of non virgins feel resentment to virgins, umm you made your choice, but the Virgins who practice self discipline should be allowed to feel good about what they have to give, they worked for it, its a gift to your future spouse, it should be recognized and honored. God holds virginity in high regard when it comes to a union of two people, so dont tell me I'm sitting on a high horse when I have the right to be gald I followed the wisdom of God and it Benefit my life. If your angry or offended have some humility and acceptences of your mistakes.
      You see the problem with you American christians women is that you lack self control in this area, the western girl and man will take what is so special and meaningful and lose it, saved christians sharing something so holy with a bunch of people and then when they regret and feel hurt they get upset and resentful to Virgins Christians, and start making terms up like Born again Virgin. Nope your born again, but your not a virgin, that ship has sailed away. I spoke the truth, if your offended then be offended, im sick of the sex culture now regretting and trying to still be virgins again while having a sour bent towards real virgins. Jesus was loving and he was extremely driect, he didnt compromise the truth for your feelings. remember that.

  • @tabithaakoto3353
    @tabithaakoto3353 5 років тому +4

    Your such a sweet heart. I thank the Lord for your transparency. I’m praying I can be just as courageous some day to talk about this . May the Lord bless you. Your doing great sweetie ❤️

  • @Randive
    @Randive 2 роки тому +5

    You can’t be a born again virgin by definition. What?

  • @Alex.M.S.
    @Alex.M.S. 5 років тому +5

    Sex is actually the act of marrying someone in truth. It is a blood covenant made when virginity is lost, as God created it to be. That is the moment the two become one flesh. It is also the moment we say "yes" in front of God. Adultery is when we only look and lust after another, joining our flesh is so much deeper than that. There will always be a soul tie with everyone we had sex with. We have to repent and pray for all soul ties to be broken before we get married because if we don't we will still have a spiritual wife/husband and we will be sinning against her/him.

  • @silavlis233
    @silavlis233 3 роки тому +1

    what i do like about your testemony is that you share your failure after you wer born again and it didn´t stop God working on your life. That´s a real christian life. Though we still sin, we are lifted up by Him. There is no perfection, but there is hope and restoration during the jorney.

  • @Sophie-yl8ob
    @Sophie-yl8ob 5 років тому +6

    Thanks for opening up about this. So important!! ✨

    • @Kian_Wolfgang
      @Kian_Wolfgang  5 років тому

      Of course! Wouldn't have it any other way

  • @CateOtanes
    @CateOtanes 5 років тому +4

    You are so sweet Kian. Thank you for sharing. You will find the man who will love you and accept for who you are. God bless you girl ❤️❤️

  • @apojackful
    @apojackful 3 роки тому +5

    At the end of the day this is not just celibacy?
    I can be forgiven and become a pacifist but if I killed a man im still a murderer or am i missing something?

    • @kingkohli4952
      @kingkohli4952 Рік тому +5

      What You are missing is they don’t want to be accountable or held responsible for their mistakes

  • @romariosmith422
    @romariosmith422 2 роки тому +4

    Born again virgin? Okkkkk. Ain't no such thing. Why people always try to make up all these freaking nonsense.

  • @MyColdCoffee21
    @MyColdCoffee21 3 роки тому +1

    I'm watching this after your wedding and dating journal with Kyle, definitely the grace of God is surrounding you guys, hope you the best!

  • @nachocheese3382
    @nachocheese3382 2 роки тому +1

    Just looking at this from the male perspective. If anyone here is a born again virgin, I would hope you would still be honest with your future husband the (person you plan on spending the rest of your life with) about your past.

  • @johnathonjackson1305
    @johnathonjackson1305 2 роки тому +6

    No way to become a virgin again

  • @MichelleCN_
    @MichelleCN_ 4 роки тому +2

    Proverbs 24 (KJV)
    16 For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief. Even though you fell after you we saved, you rose back up. Great message. God Bless!!

  • @moniakarpuk3344
    @moniakarpuk3344 4 роки тому +2

    I love that you are trying to be transparent! For me its the biggest experience 🥰

  • @VictoriaDiNatale
    @VictoriaDiNatale 3 роки тому +1

    I cried my eyes out. You are a blessing to so many.

  • @whitneyraeann3804
    @whitneyraeann3804 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for posting. I felt like I was all alone❤️

  • @diananess5094
    @diananess5094 5 років тому +2

    I was saved before my husband was before we got married. We were not equally yolked, however I did fall back on my faith and sinned sexually, but we both realized that if we both wanted a strong marriage with the foundation of Jesus being the center of our married we just stopped, we went almost a year before we said I do. We committed to being strong and that proofed how strong we were and how we were putting god first.
    I believe temptation comes from the devil and definitely not from god, if I’ve felt guilt I have heard the lord talk to me that what I was doing is wrong, is this bad feeling in my heart, so I repent and I learned not to continue repeating those same sins. Thank you for this video.

  • @milieu675
    @milieu675 Рік тому +5

    This is oxymoronic and dumb. There is no undo button.

  • @conductingintomfoolery9163
    @conductingintomfoolery9163 4 роки тому +3

    You had sex your not a virgin plain and simple is a sin for a reason

  • @somethinggood9267
    @somethinggood9267 5 років тому +2

    I seriously just wanna thank you for making this video , i know its gonna bless so many people : ) i appreciate the honesty and maturity and desire to please God you bring to it!!!! Beautiful!

  • @RickyVis
    @RickyVis 5 днів тому

    Being forgiven for a sin does not change the wordly effects that sin caused. If you murder someone you can be forgiven but the victim is still dead and remains dead.

  • @unfading_beauty
    @unfading_beauty 4 роки тому +1

    GURL yes. I find myself snapping to the truth of your videos All. The. Time. Love it! Grace and peace 💕

  • @faithdoblado6511
    @faithdoblado6511 5 років тому +9

    i love these real talks!!❤️

  • @watitduful
    @watitduful 4 роки тому +2

    Regarding the idea that all sins are the same is heretical. For example, if I steal a piece of candy from a grocery store I can return it before eating it or I can go back and pay what I would’ve owed for it and make it right. On the other hand, if I were to sleep with my best friend’s wife or murder someone those things are more serious as I’m not able to take back what I’ve done. I can’t erase the sexual episode I had with my best friend’s wife nor can I bring back the person I murdered. Now, I can still change my heart and seek repentance even in those cases but the severity of the sins in comparison are clearly different.
    “If anyone sees his brother committing a sin not leading to death, he shall ask, and God will give him life-to those who commit sins that do not lead to death. There is sin that leads to death; I do not say that one should pray for that. All wrongdoing is sin, but there is sin that does not lead to death.“
    1 John 5:16-17

  • @giannaatkinson1098
    @giannaatkinson1098 4 роки тому +3

    I can totally relate so much to watching tv shows that make your mind toxic and impure. Thank you for talking about this subject!

  • @rhemaosaigbovo520
    @rhemaosaigbovo520 4 роки тому +2

    I like how real you are. And love that you use verses

  • @Elietattoos
    @Elietattoos 5 років тому +2

    Kian you are so bold. Thank you for your transparency, you are an inspiration and will help so many young women. God bless you big hug ♥️♥️♥️

  • @oreocarlton3343
    @oreocarlton3343 4 роки тому +5

    And sin is not equal, no way you can compare swearing to murder...

  • @dayanaloredo8008
    @dayanaloredo8008 5 років тому +4

    Kian , girl thank you for making this video . This was very encouraging to me , I can relate to your story

  • @DominicGrindrod
    @DominicGrindrod 2 роки тому +7

    No hymen, no diamond. There’s no such thing as a “born again virgin”.

    • @0113Naruto
      @0113Naruto Рік тому +3

      Right, i understand asking for forgiveness, but virginity will never come back lol. The fact that we are accepting this from our churches is insanity.

  • @dylainacrowe8407
    @dylainacrowe8407 5 років тому +12

    I’m fleeing from it all. Even kissing because it all starts with a kiss.
    So glad I found this video. Thank you for sharing! #singlemom

  • @freedbyfaith487
    @freedbyfaith487 5 років тому +2

    I’m so happy you made this video. This was really amazing. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty! God Bless!

  • @777Noz
    @777Noz 3 місяці тому

    Not attacking just educating in love. Keep seeking, being obedient and study the scriptures!

  • @jrobin4576
    @jrobin4576 5 років тому +9

    Great video. I agree with your points. And I believe the holy spirit does too, However I consider myself celibate until marriage not a B. A virgin. Our virginity cannot be restored. Let's accept it and Celebrate that we made the decision to do better moving forward. W/ love.

    • @taunoctua245
      @taunoctua245 5 років тому +4

      You clearly have the Holy Spirit speaking to you, because there is not such thing as a Born Again Virgin. You either are a Virgin or not.

  • @joel4960
    @joel4960 5 місяців тому +3

    0:51 It's not that you are unworthy of a true virgin. But i can tell you that if you marry a true virgin it is likely always in the back of his mind that he feels it wasn't worth the wait because he has a wife who didn't wait for him.

  • @rmbladle6193
    @rmbladle6193 5 років тому +4

    I am virgin but I still struggle with porn 🤦🏽‍♀️
    Do not have to worry about your past, and personally I do not mind dating with someone who has already had sex. I do not mind about it.... It is also the fact for many girls I know...and boys are more easy going than girls

    • @taunoctua245
      @taunoctua245 5 років тому

      Men get boner shamed by the Church at puberty. At some point you get mad about it, and let go of the shame and dogma. MGTOW has crept into the Teen Male Community now, so that men less fap.

  • @funandfam2154
    @funandfam2154 5 років тому +7

    Kian, you don’t need anyone to forgive you. When you were saved, you were already forgiven. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

  • @kea4899
    @kea4899 4 роки тому +4

    " I need a teammate who is willing to wait with me" AMEN sister

    • @1st_b
      @1st_b 4 роки тому +4

      Isn't that pretty rich coming from someone who didn't wait though

    • @kea4899
      @kea4899 4 роки тому

      @@1st_b she know her faults and she repented from what I heard. God doesn't hold any grudge on us for our sins. So we don't have the right to judge hers. 😊 that's completely between her and God.

    • @kea4899
      @kea4899 4 роки тому

      @Young Victor what I am saying , God tells us to forgive and to love our brothers and sisters because this covers a multitude of sins. I choose to forgive her and show love and compassion to her. According to me, she's changed, repented. That's what the gospel is about- change. God turned her life around and now she is using it for good - to encourage others around her. But its up to you whether or not you are going to forgive her as God did or judge her for her sins. We are not God. If God had forgiven her, so WILL I.

  • @Imaginenigma77
    @Imaginenigma77 5 років тому +6

    You're so authentic and beautiful and I really appreciate your boldness in sharing this. You seem like such an awesome person and someone I would totally friend!! ;) lol

  • @andrade5470
    @andrade5470 5 років тому +3

    Prayer and fasting elevates your frequency. Love is at a high vibration. When you get the taste for high vibes like love, peace, joy, you loose the taste for lower vibrations. Fruits are high vibing nutrient dense foods that dont lower your vibration. Modern processed / animal sourced foods can lower it at times. So an 80% fruit diet is good for that.

    • @lauraelizabethbrown
      @lauraelizabethbrown 4 роки тому +2

      I don't want you to take this the wrong way...please take this in love: but you're mixing New Age thinking with Christianity which simply cannot be done. You cannot serve two masters, you can only serve one or the other. Also go look at Steven Bancarz channel for more information on this subject: ua-cam.com/users/stevenbancarzSSM