This video is very insightful especially when you were talking about having the right perspective on your future husband. I personally struggle with that, it’s like I just wanna skip to that part of my life and be over with the singleness part. But when you said how we should be focused on becoming a good wife for that future husband, that really made me take a step back and think, “Wow, I can’t believe this whole time I’ve been waiting for that special person but I should’ve been focusing on how I can better my relationship with God and myself so that if/when I do get married I’ll be a good wife, but also if I never do get married I’ll still be fulfilled by God.” So, thank you for helping me see that. I’m definitely gonna go check out the other video you have on that topic!
Julie R yes such an amazing takeaway Julie! The waiting period only seems hard because all we’re doing is waiting. But we should really call it a preparation period! 🥰
Wonderfully said julie! 💖 i also relate to your realization and comment so much. I just wish i had a christian friend or mentor who could help me along the way. I wish i had a friend like Kian🥺
As a guy, I would agree...Don't live together with significant other. Make a real commitment not a make believe one. As far as getting a guy, clearly attraction is there plays a role. But don't make yourself too easy to get or you won't be respected as you should. Just little looks or hints once in a while makes a man work harder for you! Never date outside your faith, that really does cause issues down the road. My take on how long to date is the best part of a couple of years. The reason I say this is so you can see all of their emotions and see them more than once so you know what you can expect if you do get married. Never allow physical abuse or cheating EVER!!!
I respectfully disagree with your views on finding "the one." For a few reasons. For one, remember that scripture says that God knows all of our days, before we even stepped foot on earth (Psalm 139:16). Yes, we have free will, but God directs our steps (Proverbs 16:9). Even though we have free will, God has a way of orchestrating circumstances to influence our choices. Also, if there is such thing as "the one" God is certainly more than capable of orchestrating our lives so we meet the person He intended for us to marry. So, how do people end up marrying the wrong person? - you said it: free will. Is free will a bad thing? Not necessarily and not always. But, this goes to show that while we have free will, we also have the free will to ask God in prayer to choose our mate for us, since He knows us better than He knows ourselves. That person whom He created for us IS our soulmate, I believe. But, we have to be willing to submit and surrender that to Him, trusting He will make the right choice.
Hi Kian! I just discovered your channel through your love story with Kyle. You are a ray of sunshine with an incredible passion for Jesus and it's so refreshing to see ♡ Thank you for being you!
kian! went back to watch your old videos and was curious if the lombard poster behind you means you grew up in the Chicago suburbs. if so, super cool because I did too :)
Yay!!!!! Was looking for you to be posting yesterday :-) I hope you have an amazing weekend. You’ve inspired me so much to be real and not just 100% over the top wannabe perfect Christian and just accept myself as I am. 💕💕💕💕🙏🏼
I love these videos so much! I have this crush on my friend and sadly I don't think that it's the right timing. Always praying and writing letters to my future husband. Thank you for this video, Kian!! 💓💓
Thanks Kian for all the insights. Keep Jesus the center of your life and everything you desired will fall in place as you grow each day dear. Keep that love light 💡 shining bright hallelujah glory to Jesus 🙏🇬🇺🇺🇸
I look at the story of ruth a little differently. She was focused on working and helping her mother-in-law. Boaz saw her working and inquired about her. Then she made herself available and waited for him to react and tell her what to do. That's my perspective though ☺️ I think there can come success from boldness as well!
I wouldnt want to move in with a boyfrien because that would mean sinning agaist god everyday and if a guy loves me he is not going to jeopardize my relationship with jesus. i would never pressure a guy to married but also he shouldn't pressure me for sex.
New subscriber here. Im so glad I found your channel. This is helping me a lot to go through my first ever break up. My ex cheated on his gf with me. I didnt know he was living in with someone. We were in a LDR. I’ve watched your Break up advice video and I couldn’t agree more with what you said. my ex is a Christian and was baptized. Your struggle at 18:12 was my struggle too. He was basically what you were describing.
I ve been single 2 years celibate but i had sex once😒 then i continued being celibate. And i really want a guy who will respect that. I dont believe in the one.
Angela Van Oosten thank you so much Angela! I don’t use twitter at all but definitely considering making one in the future if that’s how you enjoy connecting 💛
Im not going to persue any guys. Nothing good comes from that. I feel im open to dating but i haven met anybody i like that much. Or at all.i kust wish i could meet a guy that finds me intresting and that is corious to get to know me. I consider my self to be intresting person. And i get turned off when a guy finds me cute but dont care about "me" inside.
@@Kian_Wolfgang well would you look at that your birthday is next week so let me the first to wish you happy birthday in Advance. Do you have any plans? By the way kindly check out Katie Reines here on UA-cam as she specialises in all things nutrition and health related matters.
This video is very insightful especially when you were talking about having the right perspective on your future husband. I personally struggle with that, it’s like I just wanna skip to that part of my life and be over with the singleness part. But when you said how we should be focused on becoming a good wife for that future husband, that really made me take a step back and think, “Wow, I can’t believe this whole time I’ve been waiting for that special person but I should’ve been focusing on how I can better my relationship with God and myself so that if/when I do get married I’ll be a good wife, but also if I never do get married I’ll still be fulfilled by God.” So, thank you for helping me see that. I’m definitely gonna go check out the other video you have on that topic!
Julie R yes such an amazing takeaway Julie! The waiting period only seems hard because all we’re doing is waiting. But we should really call it a preparation period! 🥰
Wonderfully said julie! 💖 i also relate to your realization and comment so much. I just wish i had a christian friend or mentor who could help me along the way. I wish i had a friend like Kian🥺
As a guy, I would agree...Don't live together with significant other. Make a real commitment not a make believe one. As far as getting a guy, clearly attraction is there plays a role. But don't make yourself too easy to get or you won't be respected as you should. Just little looks or hints once in a while makes a man work harder for you! Never date outside your faith, that really does cause issues down the road. My take on how long to date is the best part of a couple of years. The reason I say this is so you can see all of their emotions and see them more than once so you know what you can expect if you do get married. Never allow physical abuse or cheating EVER!!!
James Cowan thanks so much for your opinion James! I appreciate it 😊
Yes amen
James Cowan why can’t you date outside your faith lol? I’m an atheist but it seems illogical to restrict myself so much.
@@hello--_-5188 because we are called to be equally yoked.
Love this Kian!! I’ve been married for 12.5 years and sent this video to my nieces who are in the dating phase of life! God Bless you! 💗
Congrats on your beautiful marriage and thank you for sharing with your nieces!
Im Muslim and I can relate so much to you. I was raised to honor myself and my body altho ppl find that weird nowdays.
GIRL, your hair is sooooooo beautiful! Can you make a vídeo of your haircare routine + styling? :D
Denise Freitas thank you so much! I don’t do a whole lot but if you watch my beauty favorites video I talk about my favorite products 😊
I respectfully disagree with your views on finding "the one." For a few reasons. For one, remember that scripture says that God knows all of our days, before we even stepped foot on earth (Psalm 139:16). Yes, we have free will, but God directs our steps (Proverbs 16:9). Even though we have free will, God has a way of orchestrating circumstances to influence our choices. Also, if there is such thing as "the one" God is certainly more than capable of orchestrating our lives so we meet the person He intended for us to marry.
So, how do people end up marrying the wrong person? - you said it: free will. Is free will a bad thing? Not necessarily and not always. But, this goes to show that while we have free will, we also have the free will to ask God in prayer to choose our mate for us, since He knows us better than He knows ourselves. That person whom He created for us IS our soulmate, I believe. But, we have to be willing to submit and surrender that to Him, trusting He will make the right choice.
I was about to make a comment about this but you explained this very well!
I Totally agree with you!
It’s interesting to read this now and I would say.....God found “the one” for Kian ❤️. Could be you were right 😉
I love your honesty and your growth!
Thank you!
She should do a reaction video to this after being married... update on her feeing about “the one”
Hi Kian! I just discovered your channel through your love story with Kyle. You are a ray of sunshine with an incredible passion for Jesus and it's so refreshing to see ♡ Thank you for being you!
I love that you are with almost every question "i'll do a video about that" haha
Angela Van Oosten 😂😂 I did that a lot in this video lol
@@Kian_Wolfgang yeah u did haha! Excited about what is coming
I know right!!! I agree always more expanding in every topic!
I agree with you.. if you want to dating make sure you full being single first.. God bless you..
Kian, really loved your perspective in this video!!!! Thanks for sharing ❤
LizMargaret thank you for watching Liz! 💛
I just love you! You always make me smile especially the ending of vid lol.. thank you Kian! Very helpful tips to hold on to!
kian! went back to watch your old videos and was curious if the lombard poster behind you means you grew up in the Chicago suburbs. if so, super cool because I did too :)
Yay!!!!! Was looking for you to be posting yesterday :-) I hope you have an amazing weekend. You’ve inspired me so much to be real and not just 100% over the top wannabe perfect Christian and just accept myself as I am. 💕💕💕💕🙏🏼
So sorry for the late upload, I was having trouble with exporting the video! Aw that's beautiful, thank you for sharing that with me 💛
I love these videos so much! I have this crush on my friend and sadly I don't think that it's the right timing. Always praying and writing letters to my future husband. Thank you for this video, Kian!! 💓💓
Thanks Kian for all the insights. Keep Jesus the center of your life and everything you desired will fall in place as you grow each day dear. Keep that love light 💡 shining bright hallelujah glory to Jesus 🙏🇬🇺🇺🇸
Little did she know that, 2 months later, she'd meet Kyle 😂😂💘💝
Kian just a suggestion... please enhance the video volume, even though I have it in 100% is pretty low
sooo good thank you for this!!
Err on the side of right 😊. I love how you addressed everything so graciously.
Love your honesty
I think your ready when the desire is there cause with no desire it's difficult to commit.
Kenneth Muiruri healthy desire is great! I’m talking about the feelings of craving a relationship desperately, but like I said everyone is different 😊
@@Kian_Wolfgang I won't dispute, my experience may differ from yours and that's okay...Also, Keep up the good work you're doing 👍
Well Ruth chased boaz . Ruth 3:1-12 she was bold lol she took it by force !! .
I look at the story of ruth a little differently. She was focused on working and helping her mother-in-law. Boaz saw her working and inquired about her. Then she made herself available and waited for him to react and tell her what to do. That's my perspective though ☺️ I think there can come success from boldness as well!
@@Kian_Wolfgang amen cool (: thnx for the response
Try being single for 15 years ☺️
Kian, i cant remember or find the video that mentions it. What is the video that you recommended for "rules on christian dating" or something
I wouldnt want to move in with a boyfrien because that would mean sinning agaist god everyday and if a guy loves me he is not going to jeopardize my relationship with jesus. i would never pressure a guy to married but also he shouldn't pressure me for sex.
New subscriber here. Im so glad I found your channel. This is helping me a lot to go through my first ever break up. My ex cheated on his gf with me. I didnt know he was living in with someone. We were in a LDR. I’ve watched your Break up advice video and I couldn’t agree more with what you said. my ex is a Christian and was baptized. Your struggle at 18:12 was my struggle too. He was basically what you were describing.
I ve been single 2 years celibate but i had sex once😒 then i continued being celibate. And i really want a guy who will respect that. I dont believe in the one.
I love your vids so much! Do you have twitter?
Angela Van Oosten thank you so much Angela! I don’t use twitter at all but definitely considering making one in the future if that’s how you enjoy connecting 💛
Sweet ,, lovely
Im not going to persue any guys. Nothing good comes from that. I feel im open to dating but i haven met anybody i like that much. Or at all.i kust wish i could meet a guy that finds me intresting and that is corious to get to know me. I consider my self to be intresting person. And i get turned off when a guy finds me cute but dont care about "me" inside.
how old r u kian?
I am 24, but turning 25 October 13th! 🙃
@@Kian_Wolfgang well would you look at that your birthday is next week so let me the first to wish you happy birthday in Advance. Do you have any plans? By the way kindly check out Katie Reines here on UA-cam as she specialises in all things nutrition and health related matters.
Jarod ORla I am going to Denver the following weekend to celebrate 🙌🏽
Kian your maturity in your disposition is admirable have you read any books by Lisa Bevere?
But yeah you're right, church girls can be scary. Lol
Wanna be my wife?
🅾🅼🅶 Kian is so cute 😍 💕
Btw I'm new here hun 😘
Hi welcome!! So happy to have you 🥰