One of the things I have heard someone say when someone notices the scars is “ I got ribs removed so I can suck my own dick” and that has stuck with me as one of the best responses ever. 😂
Talking to cis women about how I hate my chest and expecting them to relate but being met with confusion was for sure a part of the egg cracking for me LOL
I often joked about wishing I could just take them off and put them back on for when I wanted to wear a dress or something (which is next to never) and they’d be like “yeah felt” and I’d be like “…yes but this is me like I can’t even look at myself in the mirror bc they look so weird to me and like make me so uncomfortable” and they’d just laugh and that’s the beginning of me realizing I may not be cis and then I learned about binders and…. Lmfao I’m definitely not cis but idk wtf I am ☠️
I can confirm that I transitioned and went through coming out and changing my name and dealing with transphobia solely for the purpose of going into the bathroom to spy on people.
AS A CIS GAY MAN (speaking from that particular experience) who is very attracted to many trans men, as well as cis men, the amount of TERFs that tell me I’m “Bisexual” is astonishing. Like I’m a homosexual, not a penissexual, thank you. I’m more attracted to the 94.8% of the man who isn’t genitals lmao…
gynecomastia isnt actually as uncommon as people think and the scars for it are the same as top surgery so its honestly a super valid excuse if you dont wanna out yourself as trans
I feel like most trans guys have that convo with our mums like “You know those times when you just don’t want boobs” and then the concerned/ weirded out “no? 😦” reply 💀💀
I am non-binary and pansexual. I don't focus on what's happening in someone's pants. I never have and I am over 50 years old. My strategy is to wait until the right moment presents itself and go with the flow. I suggest you let your partner guide you about what works for them. That being said, the MtF women I have been with have been sort of shy. If they are pre op they may not want you to be focused on down below. Be very patient with someone and if that is off limits, respect boundaries.
One time I had transtape on at a water park for a school field trip and someone asked my friend why I had tape on my chest and she told them I had skin cancer 💀💀😭😭
I never really lie about being trans but I often don't correct people about assuming I'm cis when I don't feel they need to know. Like, I had my water bottle attached to my work vest and was swinging it back and forth. And I had a coworker ask doesn't it hit your balls? And I said no, it doesn't. Lol
Yeah or I’ll lie about things like “ oh why are you so short” or “ why is your voice so high” things like that. If someone was genuinely curious to know more about trans ppl I wouldn’t lie
I mean it's certainly better than the other way around, when you're still in the early stages and don't "pass" well. Back when I was a teenager, I had some guy I didn't know keep pestering me asking why I didn't have an Adam's apple, and I think he could probably put two and two together which is why I felt like asking me was just an attempt to humiliate me.
I hate these questions about height or the Adams Apple. I'm a cis woman and the amount of people asking me why I'm so short or making fun of my height is really concerning, like didn't you learn anything about genes in school my guy 🙄 Btw everyone has an Adam’s apple. However, the Adam’s apple is more prominent and visible in those with higher levels of testosterone, typically cisgender males.
I remember when I was around 12 or so and puberty started (Mind you, I didn't even know what being Transgender was until the age of 17!) one of my friends expressed to me how she felt uncomfortable with the size of her nose, but didn't know how to tell her Mum that she wanted to have surgery to make her nose smaller.. and I remember thinking: Wait, you can have surgery.. To make things smaller? If you can do it with a nose.. I wonder if you can do it with your boobs? So I sheepishly went to my Mum and asked her: "Hey mum, you know how some Women get surgery to make their boobies bigger..? Does it work in reverse?" and my Mum could not stop laughing at all. Little did she know, dysphoria is no joke. (:
dude the “hmm some people get boob jobs… does it work in reverse?” question was the exact same thing I was asking myself around that age, kinda neat to see someone else who had the same experience lol
I'm so glad you talk openly about how your views have changed as you learned more and let go of past insecurities. It's important to show people what growth looks like in a person.
I’m intersex and nonbinary but usually super fem presenting, and recently I met this cis guy on the bus while I was dressed I guess masculine enough for him to feel way too comfortable and he just ranted at me for the whole almost two hour bus ride about women and i was genuinely so taken aback, i don’t really ever pass as a cis woman but usually because I’m so fem cis guys either ignore me or insult me and that experience lowkey made me never want a man to feel comfortable around me again
My parents once told me that testosterone wouldn’t make my voice deeper because it doesn’t give you an Adam’s apple and thats what makes your voice deeper. Which is… so wrong on so many levels
in a.... weird, roundabout way they were almost right about the adams apple thing an adams apple is partially caused by your larynx lowering, which usually also causes a deeper voice though it's also caused by things like how much neck fat you have and since an adams apple and a deep voice are both partially caused by a lower larynx, that's like saying erosion causes wet towels, when really both are often caused by the same separate thing- water
Noah Im just gonna tell you when your love honey ad started happening I was not looking at my phone and then I looked at my phone and realized you were talking about vibrators and I started laughing my ass off cause I fully thought you were talking about the vibes of life not the vibe for pleasure 😂😂
hearing your binder story reminded me a lot of my own childhood, enjoying having flat chest, refusing to wear bras, stuffing a sock in my shorts (sorry if thats tmi), and having a horrible panic attack when my mom told me about periods. finally accepting that i am transmasc has been like a weird fog has lifted off me and i can finally see myself in a new light.
I completely agree I remember when I hit puberty with bras and got my periods I had multiple panic attacks and why I hated my chest everything makes so much sense 🙂
As a straight person who loves music, and who attended Noah's show in Chicago recently, I can attest that the show is terrific. Go if you can, you won't regret it!
Dude I'm a trans man who is currently in high school and so far, you are the main reason why I have the confidence to be a man. You are so cool dude :)💖
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Having a Pan son in a relationship with a trans woman and coincidentally an ex who recently came out as trans, I’m a fervent ally, always ready to fight the cause. I feel like I actually won an argument with a transphobe recently. They were making the tired argument about not feeling safe in the public bathroom if trans women were allowed in. I pointed out that when *I* go to the toilet, what’s definitely NOT going on in my head is wondering what’s in the underwear of the person in the cubicle next to me. If that’s what THEY are obsessing about when they’re in a public bathroom then THEY are most definitely the disturbed one and maybe they should seek some professional help with that.
Related to the drag queen question: There is a concept of drag families where mothers may give part of their name to the daughters (For example Sasha Colby’s Drag daughter being called Kerri Colby). Drag families have existed for a while and continue to exist.
about the window situation: you could just say you've got an irritation and you're using lotion to heal it! i feel like that wouldn't really spark anymore questions and would just kinda end on a "oh"
Apropo the "where are your boobs" mandatory trans man conversation... I have four sisters who are significantly older than me, so some of my earliest memories are of them having periods, birthing children, and nursing. I remember thinking that it was so strange how their bodies were, but "eh, if that's what they want, then I guess it's okay". Like I genuinely thought they chose to have boobs and periods themselves and had no idea the same would happen to me; I assumed that since I had already decided that I never wanted kids that my body would just respect that idea by staying some prepubescent androgynous lump of flesh 😂 Then I got older and obviously realized that wasn't the case, but at that point I still assumed everyone around me felt the same way about their bodies. I assumed that being a girl just meant putting up with all these genuinely distressing physical features that served a purely biological function. The next step was coming to the conclusion that, although girls have insecurities about their bodies, they had no where near the same perception as me. In fact, most of them wanted BIGGER boobs and CURVIER bodies. I was shocked. At that point I just accepted that I was some freak who should never openly admit these bizarre feelings, until I was about 16. Then I bought my first binder in secret, and despite the fact that I was completely against the idea that I was trans, the feeling of having a flat chest was incredible. I told myself that I was just trying it out and that it didn't mean anything about myself (for context, I grew up believing that being trans was an abomination against God and that all trans people were predators). Then one day, my mom and I were driving home and she just asked me all of a sudden, "Are you a lesbian?". I was like, "lol, no, what?" And she said, "Where are you'd boobs then? And why do you never act like a girl?" I was like, "oh, shit" 😅 And that was that moment I knew I couldn't lie to myself or anyone else again. So that's how I came out to my mom, lol. By accident
@Mx. Nixi Nick Haha, not super great. But she just needed time; she came around in the end. She was never as strictly religious as my father, so at least through lots of long discussions and some awkward times, she could finally accept that this was best for me. My dad's another story, but, hey, what can you do but live your life 🤷 Not sure why I felt the need to blurt all this out here, but thanks for your question
@@nathananderson7962 Haha 😂 I remember so many similar occurrences growing up. Some of the things I used to think just seem hilarious to me now that I'm out and comfortable with myself. Hope you've gotten the chance now to find and do what works for you!
bahaha same. i never really got the talk just a vague reference to "wait till you have boobs" then im like "nah that wont happen" and whoops now im trans
It's true. I remember I was in a group of women who were complaining about periods but kind of excluding me from the conversation, probably assuming I'd be judgmental or grossed out. But when I casually threw in a nod and a "I know right??" they were super happy and joined me in. It's nice to have people around who understand you.
Love when you make trans content. It makes me so happy to get that little reminder that I’m not the only trans person. Your videos always make my day ;) Also I just when to your concert in New York, and it was so freaking AWESOME. Love your music ❤️
Ok so I’m at around 7:00 mark and I just had surgery and can totally relate to the lying thing. we were putting my dogs in the kennels and were talking when I let slip I was getting surgery and immediately the lady was like “oh what surgery?” And I kinda froze until my dad saved my ass (he was there) and said “Oh skin grafts.” My dad is an old man so he knows what surgeries to relate it to and stuff. But anyways the lady starting telling me about how she had skin grafts and stuff and her story and she was really sweet about it lol, I felt kinda bad for lying but I also don’t wanna get outed so I’m real happy my dad said that, he is honestly the best ally I got in my life, he was the first person I ever came out to and he kept my secret until I was ready to socially transition, he’s paid for my surgery and honestly I’m just so thankful that I’ve had him. My mum wasn’t that supportive of me when I came out to her and having him back me up really helped
bi-sexual ally here! just found your channel through this video, and my feed is slowly incorporating more lgbtq members! one fun thing, is going to a uni-sex bathroom in europe, i love that they exist, you get your own room (no peekaboo edges), it has a sink, but the main sink area is just in the middle of all these rooms! no more waiting for your partner outside in the hallway! I started watching luxeria years ago, and she just had facial feminisation surgery, it is beautiful to see someone finally feel comfortable in their skin, and you can see that is how she saw herself this whole time! she also talks about dating, coming out to your date, and all things trans! I remember considering the transition as a teen... problem is i love anyone, and just want to marry my best friend, no matter what they are!
I work at a brothel and more than once has a new worker stated their working name and been told "no, let us pick a better one for you" 😂 is all i could think of during that one bit
As someone who has grown up as a white christian girl from a very strict family, when you videos started showing up I was confused on why I was getting them but just clicked on one, then it happened again and again. They have been so eye opening for me and you are now one of my favorite people to watch :)
I had a very similar situation regarding the discussion of "the surgery" and other people acting like that's a requirement to fully transition. I seen my primary care doctor for the first time since I started transitioning recently, to which she was shocked but like in a supportive way, but then she asked "so are you gonna like, complete the transition? Or are you good where you are?"
I hate the idea that your only "complete" of you get all the surgeries. If someone wants that, cool, but I feel like everyone should be respected as who they are even if they don't want to physically transition at all.
Noah I just wanted to thank you. Your videos have been a huge help to me. I just came out as trans to my parents a few days ago and it went really well. I’m also getting my hair cut short soon and I’m really excited! And any way I just wanted to say thank you and I love your videos. ❤️
As a young teen, I've recently came out to my friends as a trans male. I still haven't told my parents about this, i'm posting this hoping that some of you trans/ or others- could guide me through this. Noah I doubt that you would see this but if you do, thank you for being so sweet and kind, you are one of my fav people to watch and not get tired of. If ANY of you have info that could help me please share them!! also I kinda need a little info on how to flatten my chest, and if any of your experiences have worked, PLEASE SHARE!! Thank you!!
Depending on your situation I would suggest getting a binder if you can or a compression bra also wearing layers helps too like wearing a t-shirt then a sweatshirt over that hope this helps
A binder would be the best option depending on your situation I would suggest gc2b they are one of the best binder companies and it may take a week or so to get it but it’s so worth it
@@toaster9231 gc2b's quality has went down by A LOT so i wouldnt suggest them. my friend got a binder from them and its very stretched out and does not bind their chest at all and fits them like a regular sports bra. gc2b used to be very good until it wasnt. i think their quality dropped about a few years ago but im not 100% sure. i havent heard good things about gc2b in a while
hopefully you seen this now that its been 4 weeks and you may already have some advice but i suggest binding! binders are on the more expensive side though so you can also double up 2 sports bras (one on like normal and one flipped is what i heard works best :)) some of the binder brands i suggest are underworks and spectrum binders but i also heard fytist is very good too plus a few others! i personally have an underworks binder ($40) and it works great on a 36DD chest (only con is the texture but it doesnt bother me at all! its just like a trampoline but its not noticable when its being worn) i also heard spectrum is amazing but their binders are usually about $47-$50. ps. layers are ur best friend, though with it getting hot its harder to layer up
I got a binder from spectrum and it works pretty well. Also if your doing the sizing chart thingy and your ribs fit one but your chest is a bit to big just get it. That's what I did and if I went with the binder that fit my chest instead of my ribs it would be too big. That's just my experience though.
13:54 so drag mothers/fathers are still very much a thing! Mostly they help less established folks get gigs, as well as expand on techniques w/ makeup/costumes. Some people do also have help from their drag communities with finding names :)
Im a trans man. My mom forced me to come out to her when she looked through my phone. She threatened to make me move schools and take me somewhere to “fix” me. Before this is was the ‘perfect’ child. A church going brunette with all A’s. So it hurt me when she found out. Now my hair is a lot shorter and i dress in all mens clothes (ive worn men’s clothes scene i was born pretty much). My mom has broken the bond between us and i hate her for it, i trusted and even loved her. But now its all gone and I want to kill myself. Ive never been this depressed in my entire life. I have a therapist but its not enough. Thanks for reading this. Bye i guess
I can’t pretend to be able to answer all that enough. I’ve been in a few similar places and past it. None of this is your fault. I hope you get to be out comfortably soon. you deserve it.
@@Asathegoopy thank you, i have about 4 years until im 18 so ill just have to wait to get my hair cut and buy a binder. Let me tell you, little comments like this help a lot. Probably more than you’ll ever know
I know things seem super crappy right now, but I promise it gets better. I'm not trans, but my mom was very abusive, so when I left home, I basically went no contact, cuz she was awful. She'd say all these horrible things that had me feeling like the biggest piece of crap in the world. She made me feel like the world would honestly be a better place if i wasn't in it, and it got to a point where I didn't want to be in the world anymore. I'm telling you this because I'm 33 now and things ARE better. I got to go to Noah's concert just last week and I had a blast. I have friends around me that support and love me for who I am, who don't make me feel crappy. And i get to spend my time (well, some of it anyway, when I'm not working) going to concerts and doing things I like. And no one tells me that I shouldn't, or that I'm wrong for liking what I like. I'm sorry your mom sucks. Truly, I am. Not all parents are capable of genuinely loving their children for who they are. And it's hard to accept that. It took me a while to get over the fact that I would never have the mother I wanted. But I'm okay with that now. I don't need her anymore. It took me a while to figure things out and to let go of the IDEA of having a loving mother. I had to mourn the loss of my mom even though she wasn't dead. (Hopefully that makes sense). And it took some time, it hurt for a while. But eventually, it stopped hurting as much, and eventually, I realized that I'm okay with not having a mom. I don't need her to love me, because I can love myself enough to make up for it. My friends can love me enough to make up for it. And I can treat myself the way I always wished my mom would treat me, with love, kindness, understanding, compassion and respect. I know it's really hard when you're still in it. And I know it hurts to have the one person who's supposed to love and support you reject you. But if she can't see how amazing you are, how brave and strong you are, then screw her. If she can't give you the love you deserve, then to hell with her. Give yourself that love, because YOU DESERVE IT. You are WORTH IT. You are valid. You are good enough. YOU MATTER. And I promise you, it will get better. One day you'll wake up and it won't hurt as much. Then after that, one day you'll wake up, and it won't feel crappy at all. One day, you'll get to wake up and feel excited, because on that day, you'll get to go do something you've always wanted to do. (For me, its those days when I get to go see a band I've loved for years and years and always wanted to see). One day you'll get to do that kind of stuff. You'll be able to have a friend come over and you'll watch a stupid movie, and you'll laugh together and things will alright, they'll feel nice and normal, and you won't feel like your whole existence is a mistake anymore. You will get there, I promise you will see that day. You just have to ride out the shitty part of the storm until the rain stops. And I know that's really hard, but it is so, so worth it. YOU are so, so worth it. So just hang on, ok?
I'm sorry your bond has been broken, and I hope your mom realizes what she has thrown away in her quest to define, rather than accept, you. You matter. Your experience is valid. You deserve kindness and compassion. And I'd like to believe that your mom will come around. Stay strong 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
@@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicosthank you for replying. It’s really hard with my mom. But things like this (random people taking time out of their own day to help me) really means a lot 💖
I just love the way he talks about all the topics most people are so afraid of talking about, pretending it would be disgusting or problematic…but it’s not and I am grateful he sees it that way too❤❤ to all of you: feel free to do or be what ever you want as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️❤️✨🫂🔞🥹
The only reason I transitioned was to go from being a short man with an extremely high voice to an average height for a woman with a regular voice. Now I’m never misgendered. I had to🤷♀️
I haven't had the chance to use this line yet but my top surgery scars literally go from armpit to armpit so if anyone ever asks me about what happened I am looking forward to just saying "swordfighting" and walking away. Ngl probably gonna flub it, I'm not that cool. "You should see the other guy" would also work.
I love how you did the ad! 😄🔥 I transitioned because I've always felt I was a boy. When I was 5 years old or so, I asked my mum why she didn't "make me into a boy". Later on in life, I told her I was going to start transition, and she told me "I'm glad you figured it out!" She knew way before I even told her 🥰 On the bathroom thing, I can't remember which UA-cam channel said this, but they brought up a good point; if other people want us to use the bathroom that matches our sex assigned at birth, there will technically be even more people confused because those of us who transition will be whipping out our trans peens or sitting on a potty with our fashioned lady parts when we "clearly" (to the bathroom police) seem to be in the wrong bathroom. There's a lot of things that could go wrong there. I hope that didn't offend anyone! I didn't mean to if I did. As for the inappropriateness of certain situations: I love to tell people I trust that I got spayed and watch their brains process that info lol My partner has long hair and always gets asked if they're trans when they're not, just because they know I am and assume they are too. Hair is hair... except when it grows in really thick on my back, then my opinion changes a bit 🤔 I've been asked about my transition all the time, and the first thing I ask them is "How graphic do you want me to be?" then they go away 😏 Sorry for the comment mini-novel, I enjoyed your video and wanted to say things too, didn't realize it was going to be so much!
just so you know, I WILL steal the "how graphic do you want me to be?", just to watch their brain melt also good for you!! your comment made me smile, I needed this
19:58 i have a trans guy friend that is very androgynous, and (spoken from him, i didnt make this up myself) he has had so many different experiences based off of how people perceive him. this is a message he has literally sent me: Cishet Girl: Girls talk around me more Boys ignore me entirely Boys assume they can push me around Lesbian: Targeted by guys Shipped with other people by random "allies" Weird looks Cis guy: Guys talk to me No hostility from guys Girls avoid me (understandable) Invited into social situations more
You really take the trans issues that make the world squirmy and pave the way for us now and for us in the future . I give you mad respect. Keep doing what you're doing. Your best fan, Amity Noel
omg i’m early! hi noah! i was at your concert last week and it was the best night ever, and hugging you at VIP was the best feeling ever!! i hope you’re having a great day
Hey Noah ! Love you you make my day!!❤❤ Edit: I am loving your music atm it’s a vibe ! I know all of the lyrics and honestly it’s just nice to listen to!💞
When he said that he assumes that everyone who watches his videos is trans I was confused for a moment (I'm not trans) but then I realised how much good content people miss out on because of their racism, homophobia, transphobia or any other kind of bias against one type of people. I mean lately I've had a few laughs over "accidental allies" and frankly I've found trans content creators lovely and fun so far, and most of the time I liked their content before even realizing they were trans.
I'm not trans, and I love these videos because I honestly learn so much I never knew about transitioning and transphobia. I feel better able to support and show even more love for my trans friends. Thank you so much for these videos ❤
I briefly saw a therapist (three sessions before I was like, no cannot deal) who was bisexual, she told me our first meeting to try and make me comfortable as like being fellow queer people together. However she knew NOTHING about being trans. She honestly thought you go for a single event that does EVERYTHING. She called it 'The Transformation' which made me feel like a butterfly. Eventually I just asked her, how do you think medical transition worked because the things she said were so strange. So, her version of transitioning medically went like so: You go to a clinic for a week long stay where first they change your genetalia and then do chest surgery like two days apart. Then you have baths??? In very strong hormones that do all of the other secondary sex characteristic things. I just said, no, I'm afraid that's very wrong and quit her therapy there and then because how do you carry on with someone who is so naive trying to do therapy on you?
@@justaperson6922 Yeah, she really didn't get that she didn't know anything and everything she thought she knew was wrong. I did find a new therapist, thank you. I've had him for three years now and he's a specialist in therapy for autistic people so he really helps me use techniques for my trauma and depression work that work for me as an autistic person, rather than trying to use neurotypical tools on me. Which was another problem with that other therapist, she seemed to view therapy as a one size fits all which wasn't great.
i’m not trans, but i really wanna get top surgery. i want to have a chest like a mans, i think the reason is so i appear more genderless. i’d like to confuse people on which gender i am, because i’d like to be seen as neither or both. i don’t really identify as any gender, but i’m leaning more towards masculine than feminine. i have wished before that i was a man, but i’m completely fine with just having no boobs instead
gender expression doesn't always match gender! also I recommend looking into agender and xenogenders. sounds like there could be something that fits you there
video related: my mum had promised me if i had still, "kept up my trans facade" by 14 shed get me a binder.. she put it really weirdly but shes supportive so i suppose she just didnt know how to word it back then, i still got a month before i get the binder hopefully she hasnt forgotten 💀 also the reason i trasnistioned is because when i was 6-8 i would stare at myself in the mirror and try to tear off my "lady parts" bcz i was so dysphoric, long story short, i googled "why do i hate my bewbs & (word for other lady part) " when i turned 11 and a gender dysphoria article came up ive now been out for 2 years :)) tour related: THANK U SO MUCH FOR SIGNING MY FLAG ON APR 15TH (CHICGAGO DATE) I HOPE U LIKED MY DRAWING
Perfection like every vid! Btw I also REALLY love your music so if you could maybe make a vid about your songwriting process that would be AWESOME! No worries if you can’t tho :) ❤❤❤
I'm AFAB non-binary, panromantic, and demisexual. I don't put a lot of thought into what my body looks like or what other people think of it, nor do I feel a strong desire to change it, but I can say with absolute certainty that if I needed a mastectomy for medical reasons I would ask that they take both, completely, and don't rebuild with implants.
13:40 i’ve been researching drag recently, as well as watched some of my favorite content creators (from the misfits gaming channel) get dressed up in drag, and from what i’ve seen drag parents don’t normally name their drag children, the drag children come up with the names themselves, though the drag parent might do it in some situations, i just haven’t seen that
I remember talking to girls and being like “Yeah I just really hate the idea of growing a chest and I get really uncomfortable when people call me a young lady and I’ve thought about changing my name to Alex or something so people can’t tell I’m girl and I like when I get mistaken for a boy” and my dumb ass thought I was CIS If only tiny me would have known what I know now
5:23 I was literally just talking about this earlier- something goofy I want to say when I eventually have these scars, I want to say “oh yeah I had my ribs surgically removed so I can suck my own--“ 😌
I remember when I was about 9 years old I came across a video of yours, it was a cover of a few YUNGBLUD songs and I was amazed by your voice. When I was 10 I had forgotten all about the covers but then I saw another video of yours and I was like “hold on, that voice sounds familiar.” And then I remembered the covers and was like “HOLY SH!T YOUR VOICE. ITS CHANGED SO MUCH” you sounded so male but I could still recognize it. I can always recognize your awesome voice. You’ve come far my dude. Have a nice day/night/whatever❤️(btw you’ve taught me a lot abt trans stuff and made me realize I’m trans, so I just want to say thank you
Kinda early? I love how you helped me realise I was not cis. (Funny story today someone told me they were cisgender and they 'had no gender and didn't exist' they were trying to be transphobic and looked stupid) Btw i realy need that mcr poster
@@SonotmickeY3626 Someone asked me "WTF is "cishet" and stop inventing these sick words" I was like "How can you call it a sick word when you don't even know what it means? It's not even a new word. It's just short for cisgendered heterosexual"
@@SonotmickeY3626 well then they mst agree that trans women are women and trans men are men and instead of seperating them we should just call them men and women. win win :P
@@SonotmickeY3626 Well, i was deciding between telling them or slapping them but it was too funny so I'll let them believe it. Seems like theyre voidgender lmao
Story of how I found out I was trans even tho nobody asked✨: When I was 7 I was like: “When I wanna grow up I wanna look like a boy and use the boy’s bathroom and date girls!” And I dated a girl that same year bc I told her I was a man. Then, 3 years later, my friend told me he was trans and straight and I was like “What is being trans?” So he explains it for me and I’m like: “surely not me, right?” And he looks me dead in the eyes and says “You look pale! Are you okay?” “Yeah I’m fine!” (I still feel the same as when I was 7.) I look things up and I’m like: I’m trans. I’m fine with being trans and my mom is like “it’s because ____ came out, right?” No. My dad said that I was a hippo trying to be an elephant. So now my friend and my boyfriend are the only ones who know that I’m a trans masc bi.
I went to ur concert last night (Burnsville, MN) and omg it was so much fun!!! One of the best concerts ive been to! Your videos helped me a TON during a tough time, so thanks
i finally bought my tickets for tour! i will be seeing you on the 30th and expect a present because i love you so much and i may have made an art piece dedicated to you that i wanted to give you. i am so exited to see you! ive been watching your videos even more as comfort these past days because my asthma got worse so my doctors have recommended i not wear my binder for a couple weeks so ive been feeling very dysphoric going around with boobs for around 2 weeks. so thanks Noah!
1:18-2:06 I HAD THE EXACT SAME EXPERIENCES DOWN TO EVERY DETAIL OMG!!! It’s so cool to see another trans guy go through the exact same stuff I did as a kid, especially since I’m a younger trans guy (still a minor). It just makes me look up to you even more
Speaking about your mum commenting about flatchestedness. Mine never mentioned with the binder, probably cuz she knew about it, but I've been on T for a year now and she pointed out that my chest has flattened out, which it has, but I was like Thanks Yes IKR! Cuz it's so wild cuz I was told T wouldn't make much difference with that, but it has with mine, probably cuz I was already small before, but now I'm small in a mascer way, to the point mum pointed it out. Wild. Like I probably don't need my binders at this point? Except when I'm feeling really selfconscious about what does poke out, (especially when it's windy on a warm day where I'm only wearing a shirt) which tbf is the exact same amount or less than my 2 cis brothers chests does but dysphoria doesn't like logic ..Although it could also be half me readjusting my posture lol
4:51 I would LOVE this question because then I could say something like a bear attack and I fought it off with my bear hands(get it?), or a shark or SOMETHING. I physically cannot wait
8:07 So I have not transitioned yet, but I would honestly probably transition to prove my dad wrong because he’s literally said to me “ oh people are only trans when they transition” like tf??
Oh my god! I love your necklace/choker, I think it's really cute. Do you remember where you got it from? I'd love one for myself. I think it really works with the rest of my jewelry! Also, I'm gonna be going to your concert on April 23rd; I can't wait, I'm literally so excited!
What I understand the least about the bathroom conundrum is that people think women would feel comfortable with trans men walking into the bathroom. Imagine a man walking into the girl bathroom, saying “oh no, I am here because I have XX chromosomes”. Meantime he has a frickin beard and chest hair. That is way creepier to me than seeing (what looks and acts like) a woman awkwardly run to the stall or reapply makeup.
Not me answering "yeah, I've been feeling good" when the Noah asked if we are feeling good vibrations thinking it was just a pause in the video to "chat"
One of the things I have heard someone say when someone notices the scars is “ I got ribs removed so I can suck my own dick” and that has stuck with me as one of the best responses ever. 😂
It's so brazenly ridiculous that I feel like no one is gonna comment further. So yeah, hilarious and it works
@@bottomofastairwell And it's not like they'll ask you to prove it by demonstration lol
LMAOOOOOOOOOO STOP
jsefjhsgjkfjkafk lmao
Dam I need to use that!!!! You are so smart!!!! 😊😁😆😆😅
Talking to cis women about how I hate my chest and expecting them to relate but being met with confusion was for sure a part of the egg cracking for me LOL
I often joked about wishing I could just take them off and put them back on for when I wanted to wear a dress or something (which is next to never) and they’d be like “yeah felt” and I’d be like “…yes but this is me like I can’t even look at myself in the mirror bc they look so weird to me and like make me so uncomfortable” and they’d just laugh and that’s the beginning of me realizing I may not be cis and then I learned about binders and…. Lmfao I’m definitely not cis but idk wtf I am ☠️
@@Thatgenderconfused3mo oh my gosh 😂
my mom agrees with me, so thats something
I think every girl hates there “chest” either too big too small or they don’t want them or they want some
@@ren8554 yes correct but would you ever consider having them yeeted Is the big teller lmaooo
"i saw transgernderism and thought it would be a fun hobby" LOL
I can confirm that I transitioned and went through coming out and changing my name and dealing with transphobia solely for the purpose of going into the bathroom to spy on people.
@hoof beats I know right
Ohh... you too??? 😆😅🤣
"Get out of town, groomer!"
"Sure. I can see you through my telescope anyway."
@@CoMorbiditty I love your username!
Yes, all that anxiety and stress over not being or feeling accepted, just to make the cissies uncomfortable
AS A CIS GAY MAN (speaking from that particular experience) who is very attracted to many trans men, as well as cis men, the amount of TERFs that tell me I’m “Bisexual” is astonishing. Like I’m a homosexual, not a penissexual, thank you. I’m more attracted to the 94.8% of the man who isn’t genitals lmao…
you like men, and also men? You must be bisexual!
5.2% of a man is a penis confirmed
Yeah, more and more, I'm convinced terfs are unhealthily obsessed with genitals 🙄
So real as a cis lesbian but w women
Exactly the same about my attraction to men except I’m a trans woman
gynecomastia isnt actually as uncommon as people think and the scars for it are the same as top surgery so its honestly a super valid excuse if you dont wanna out yourself as trans
Especially if you're a gym bro (but in that case people assume you were on roids)
Yeah lmao, my cousin had it to the point where he was ALSO wearing a binder
@@InsertMyChineseUsername having big pecs isn’t the same as gynecomastia though. Gynecomastia is the development of breast tissue in men, not muscle
@@ferninthehouseyeah but it's a very common side effect of steroids
@@ferninthehouse steroids cause increases in estrogen, therefore causes the development of breasts
noah: whats the vibe?
me: i want to die
noah: **pulls out vibrator**
read 😭 i choked on my tea
LMAO HELP
I CHOKED ON A REESES PIEECES LMAOOOO
I wasn’t even expecting the vibrator he pulled it outta no where 😭😭
I’m crying I have a friend named Noah and this was way too jarring to read 💀💀
I feel like most trans guys have that convo with our mums like “You know those times when you just don’t want boobs” and then the concerned/ weirded out “no? 😦” reply 💀💀
its not typical to not want boobs??
I feel like that too, but I'm a woman and not trans.
@@fr33f4l4st1ne from what I’ve heard most cis women like their boobs, at least to some extent.
my ma is genderfluid and didnt want boobs at first, so no, but i did go silent when i got my first period and had to do charades to tell aer, lol
Me wishing I could take them off like they were just some random accessory
I am non-binary and pansexual. I don't focus on what's happening in someone's pants. I never have and I am over 50 years old. My strategy is to wait until the right moment presents itself and go with the flow. I suggest you let your partner guide you about what works for them.
That being said, the MtF women I have been with have been sort of shy. If they are pre op they may not want you to be focused on down below. Be very patient with someone and if that is off limits, respect boundaries.
I love seeing genderqueer older people, it reminds me that we do age past a certain amount and we continue to exist.
@@captaincaspian42 I love ageing because it has made me care less about others opinions. That's for your delightful comment back.
Mental disorder
Hello fellow older queer ( I'm hitting 40 ) ! It's always nice to run into people who remember that non of this started in 2010 .
lm trans gay 50+ too. Awesome to meet all of ya!!
One time I had transtape on at a water park for a school field trip and someone asked my friend why I had tape on my chest and she told them I had skin cancer 💀💀😭😭
Freak out and act like someone tape you in the middle of the night and you couldn’t get it off because they glued it
I cackled for about 5 minutes at this one
@@cookie_dog212 Oop
I never really lie about being trans but I often don't correct people about assuming I'm cis when I don't feel they need to know. Like, I had my water bottle attached to my work vest and was swinging it back and forth. And I had a coworker ask doesn't it hit your balls? And I said no, it doesn't. Lol
Yeah or I’ll lie about things like “ oh why are you so short” or “ why is your voice so high” things like that. If someone was genuinely curious to know more about trans ppl I wouldn’t lie
Technically the truth lol
I mean it's certainly better than the other way around, when you're still in the early stages and don't "pass" well. Back when I was a teenager, I had some guy I didn't know keep pestering me asking why I didn't have an Adam's apple, and I think he could probably put two and two together which is why I felt like asking me was just an attempt to humiliate me.
@@SaruCharmed such a stupid argument lmao, a lot of guys don’t have huge Adam’s apples especially teenagers
I hate these questions about height or the Adams Apple.
I'm a cis woman and the amount of people asking me why I'm so short or making fun of my height is really concerning, like didn't you learn anything about genes in school my guy 🙄
Btw everyone has an Adam’s apple.
However, the Adam’s apple is more prominent and visible in those with higher levels of testosterone, typically cisgender males.
I remember when I was around 12 or so and puberty started (Mind you, I didn't even know what being Transgender was until the age of 17!) one of my friends expressed to me how she felt uncomfortable with the size of her nose, but didn't know how to tell her Mum that she wanted to have surgery to make her nose smaller.. and I remember thinking: Wait, you can have surgery.. To make things smaller? If you can do it with a nose.. I wonder if you can do it with your boobs? So I sheepishly went to my Mum and asked her: "Hey mum, you know how some Women get surgery to make their boobies bigger..? Does it work in reverse?" and my Mum could not stop laughing at all. Little did she know, dysphoria is no joke. (:
@Ville I only exclusively commit fatherless behaviour
@finnisqueer My fatherless behavior is transitioning solely to be my own father /s
dude the “hmm some people get boob jobs… does it work in reverse?” question was the exact same thing I was asking myself around that age, kinda neat to see someone else who had the same experience lol
@Ville stop talking about yourself on another persons story, this moment is not about you.
@Ville POV: you're ville (also fatherless) commenting shit on UA-cam because you have no life
As an ace person i seriously dont care wHaTs iN yOuR pAnTs as long as you have a sense of humour and a good fashion sense 😂😂
I can relate to this
As an aroace person I'm just hoping your nice and allright with constantly getting freindzoned because that's what I'm here for
Real
What if it’s a sword
Yessss
I'm so glad you talk openly about how your views have changed as you learned more and let go of past insecurities. It's important to show people what growth looks like in a person.
I’m intersex and nonbinary but usually super fem presenting, and recently I met this cis guy on the bus while I was dressed I guess masculine enough for him to feel way too comfortable and he just ranted at me for the whole almost two hour bus ride about women and i was genuinely so taken aback, i don’t really ever pass as a cis woman but usually because I’m so fem cis guys either ignore me or insult me and that experience lowkey made me never want a man to feel comfortable around me again
Carry your battle-axe around (what kind of person doesn't have an axe?). That should fix things.
@@Biceratops i actually do carry around an antique forged hammer when I walk around at night is that close lol
Hearing your brain thoughts going through this whole hypothetical conversation is amazing
as someone with a similar thought process, I'm glad you find it interesting!
My parents once told me that testosterone wouldn’t make my voice deeper because it doesn’t give you an Adam’s apple and thats what makes your voice deeper. Which is… so wrong on so many levels
in a.... weird, roundabout way they were almost right about the adams apple thing
an adams apple is partially caused by your larynx lowering, which usually also causes a deeper voice
though it's also caused by things like how much neck fat you have
and since an adams apple and a deep voice are both partially caused by a lower larynx, that's like saying erosion causes wet towels, when really both are often caused by the same separate thing- water
Noah Im just gonna tell you when your love honey ad started happening I was not looking at my phone and then I looked at my phone and realized you were talking about vibrators and I started laughing my ass off cause I fully thought you were talking about the vibes of life not the vibe for pleasure 😂😂
same lmao
DUDE SAME
I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE 😭
Same I quickly skipped that bit lol
hearing your binder story reminded me a lot of my own childhood, enjoying having flat chest, refusing to wear bras, stuffing a sock in my shorts (sorry if thats tmi), and having a horrible panic attack when my mom told me about periods.
finally accepting that i am transmasc has been like a weird fog has lifted off me and i can finally see myself in a new light.
I completely agree I remember when I hit puberty with bras and got my periods I had multiple panic attacks and why I hated my chest everything makes so much sense 🙂
As a straight person who loves music, and who attended Noah's show in Chicago recently, I can attest that the show is terrific. Go if you can, you won't regret it!
3:31 you had NO RIGHT to hit me with the ✨ally✨ whilst my mouth was full of water
Dude I'm a trans man who is currently in high school and so far, you are the main reason why I have the confidence to be a man. You are so cool dude :)💖
Due to the funny likes amount code(69 likes), I am not morally able to like your comment, therefore I shall like it manually, as such:👍. Have a pleasant day/night.
Having a Pan son in a relationship with a trans woman and coincidentally an ex who recently came out as trans, I’m a fervent ally, always ready to fight the cause. I feel like I actually won an argument with a transphobe recently. They were making the tired argument about not feeling safe in the public bathroom if trans women were allowed in. I pointed out that when *I* go to the toilet, what’s definitely NOT going on in my head is wondering what’s in the underwear of the person in the cubicle next to me. If that’s what THEY are obsessing about when they’re in a public bathroom then THEY are most definitely the disturbed one and maybe they should seek some professional help with that.
Noah: Hay check this lil guy out! * *FREAKING VIBRATES YOU* *
The unexpected vibration sound right against the mic made me burst out laughing bc im 27 with the maturity of a 12 yearold
When I watched this vid, it cut to a holiday ad with a picture of a young kid right when Noah did that...
Related to the drag queen question:
There is a concept of drag families where mothers may give part of their name to the daughters (For example Sasha Colby’s Drag daughter being called Kerri Colby). Drag families have existed for a while and continue to exist.
It is a common theme for drag families. Although I personally did not take on my drag mom's last name.
that's so fucking sweet...
about the window situation: you could just say you've got an irritation and you're using lotion to heal it! i feel like that wouldn't really spark anymore questions and would just kinda end on a "oh"
OTOH, you could just shut your curtains before you do that!
Stop tell me why my dumbass lie was to tell them that you’re rubbing your stomach because you’re hungry 💀
Apropo the "where are your boobs" mandatory trans man conversation... I have four sisters who are significantly older than me, so some of my earliest memories are of them having periods, birthing children, and nursing. I remember thinking that it was so strange how their bodies were, but "eh, if that's what they want, then I guess it's okay". Like I genuinely thought they chose to have boobs and periods themselves and had no idea the same would happen to me; I assumed that since I had already decided that I never wanted kids that my body would just respect that idea by staying some prepubescent androgynous lump of flesh 😂 Then I got older and obviously realized that wasn't the case, but at that point I still assumed everyone around me felt the same way about their bodies. I assumed that being a girl just meant putting up with all these genuinely distressing physical features that served a purely biological function. The next step was coming to the conclusion that, although girls have insecurities about their bodies, they had no where near the same perception as me. In fact, most of them wanted BIGGER boobs and CURVIER bodies. I was shocked. At that point I just accepted that I was some freak who should never openly admit these bizarre feelings, until I was about 16. Then I bought my first binder in secret, and despite the fact that I was completely against the idea that I was trans, the feeling of having a flat chest was incredible. I told myself that I was just trying it out and that it didn't mean anything about myself (for context, I grew up believing that being trans was an abomination against God and that all trans people were predators). Then one day, my mom and I were driving home and she just asked me all of a sudden, "Are you a lesbian?". I was like, "lol, no, what?" And she said, "Where are you'd boobs then? And why do you never act like a girl?" I was like, "oh, shit" 😅 And that was that moment I knew I couldn't lie to myself or anyone else again. So that's how I came out to my mom, lol. By accident
Oh shit. How did she take the news?
@Mx. Nixi Nick Haha, not super great. But she just needed time; she came around in the end. She was never as strictly religious as my father, so at least through lots of long discussions and some awkward times, she could finally accept that this was best for me. My dad's another story, but, hey, what can you do but live your life 🤷 Not sure why I felt the need to blurt all this out here, but thanks for your question
My first baby trans moments were me just thinking "I'm not trans, but wouldn't it just be so awesome to buy a binder and eventually get a mastectomy?"
@@nathananderson7962 Haha 😂 I remember so many similar occurrences growing up. Some of the things I used to think just seem hilarious to me now that I'm out and comfortable with myself. Hope you've gotten the chance now to find and do what works for you!
bahaha same. i never really got the talk just a vague reference to "wait till you have boobs" then im like "nah that wont happen" and whoops now im trans
I'm dating trans guy and i don't understand people who don't wanna date trans person it's sooo good because he understand me in the "girl" things
hmmmmm
It's true. I remember I was in a group of women who were complaining about periods but kind of excluding me from the conversation, probably assuming I'd be judgmental or grossed out. But when I casually threw in a nod and a "I know right??" they were super happy and joined me in. It's nice to have people around who understand you.
Love when you make trans content. It makes me so happy to get that little reminder that I’m not the only trans person. Your videos always make my day ;) Also I just when to your concert in New York, and it was so freaking AWESOME. Love your music ❤️
NOAH I WENT TO YOUR GIG LAST NIGHT AND YOU GOT MY FLOWERS IT WAS SO AWESOME ONE OF THE BEST NIGHTS OF MY LIFE
I love your pfp
Ok so I’m at around 7:00 mark and I just had surgery and can totally relate to the lying thing. we were putting my dogs in the kennels and were talking when I let slip I was getting surgery and immediately the lady was like “oh what surgery?” And I kinda froze until my dad saved my ass (he was there) and said “Oh skin grafts.” My dad is an old man so he knows what surgeries to relate it to and stuff. But anyways the lady starting telling me about how she had skin grafts and stuff and her story and she was really sweet about it lol, I felt kinda bad for lying but I also don’t wanna get outed so I’m real happy my dad said that, he is honestly the best ally I got in my life, he was the first person I ever came out to and he kept my secret until I was ready to socially transition, he’s paid for my surgery and honestly I’m just so thankful that I’ve had him. My mum wasn’t that supportive of me when I came out to her and having him back me up really helped
bi-sexual ally here! just found your channel through this video, and my feed is slowly incorporating more lgbtq members! one fun thing, is going to a uni-sex bathroom in europe, i love that they exist, you get your own room (no peekaboo edges), it has a sink, but the main sink area is just in the middle of all these rooms! no more waiting for your partner outside in the hallway! I started watching luxeria years ago, and she just had facial feminisation surgery, it is beautiful to see someone finally feel comfortable in their skin, and you can see that is how she saw herself this whole time! she also talks about dating, coming out to your date, and all things trans! I remember considering the transition as a teen... problem is i love anyone, and just want to marry my best friend, no matter what they are!
@NotVille_Stop
I work at a brothel and more than once has a new worker stated their working name and been told "no, let us pick a better one for you" 😂 is all i could think of during that one bit
Watching this right after coming out to my mom, she accepted me and i have never felt this euphoric before :]
Hell yeah! Congrats on coming out, I hope you're doing good ^^
As someone who has grown up as a white christian girl from a very strict family, when you videos started showing up I was confused on why I was getting them but just clicked on one, then it happened again and again. They have been so eye opening for me and you are now one of my favorite people to watch :)
I had a very similar situation regarding the discussion of "the surgery" and other people acting like that's a requirement to fully transition. I seen my primary care doctor for the first time since I started transitioning recently, to which she was shocked but like in a supportive way, but then she asked "so are you gonna like, complete the transition? Or are you good where you are?"
I hate the idea that your only "complete" of you get all the surgeries. If someone wants that, cool, but I feel like everyone should be respected as who they are even if they don't want to physically transition at all.
Noah I just wanted to thank you. Your videos have been a huge help to me. I just came out as trans to my parents a few days ago and it went really well. I’m also getting my hair cut short soon and I’m really excited! And any way I just wanted to say thank you and I love your videos. ❤️
I hope this can be me two
congratulations! coming out is super scary and im glad your parents took it well
Congrats!
Congrats! I'm glad it went well for you. And I bet you're gonna look awesome with your new haircut
Oooh, good luck with your new haircut!
As a young teen, I've recently came out to my friends as a trans male. I still haven't told my parents about this, i'm posting this hoping that some of you trans/ or others- could guide me through this. Noah I doubt that you would see this but if you do, thank you for being so sweet and kind, you are one of my fav people to watch and not get tired of. If ANY of you have info that could help me please share them!!
also I kinda need a little info on how to flatten my chest, and if any of your experiences have worked, PLEASE SHARE!!
Thank you!!
Depending on your situation I would suggest getting a binder if you can or a compression bra also wearing layers helps too like wearing a t-shirt then a sweatshirt over that hope this helps
A binder would be the best option depending on your situation I would suggest gc2b they are one of the best binder companies and it may take a week or so to get it but it’s so worth it
@@toaster9231 gc2b's quality has went down by A LOT so i wouldnt suggest them. my friend got a binder from them and its very stretched out and does not bind their chest at all and fits them like a regular sports bra. gc2b used to be very good until it wasnt. i think their quality dropped about a few years ago but im not 100% sure. i havent heard good things about gc2b in a while
hopefully you seen this now that its been 4 weeks and you may already have some advice but i suggest binding! binders are on the more expensive side though so you can also double up 2 sports bras (one on like normal and one flipped is what i heard works best :)) some of the binder brands i suggest are underworks and spectrum binders but i also heard fytist is very good too plus a few others! i personally have an underworks binder ($40) and it works great on a 36DD chest (only con is the texture but it doesnt bother me at all! its just like a trampoline but its not noticable when its being worn) i also heard spectrum is amazing but their binders are usually about $47-$50. ps. layers are ur best friend, though with it getting hot its harder to layer up
I got a binder from spectrum and it works pretty well. Also if your doing the sizing chart thingy and your ribs fit one but your chest is a bit to big just get it. That's what I did and if I went with the binder that fit my chest instead of my ribs it would be too big. That's just my experience though.
3:40 i love you but the last thing i was expecting was for you to whip out a vibrator 😭 (i genuinely choked on my tea)
13:54 so drag mothers/fathers are still very much a thing! Mostly they help less established folks get gigs, as well as expand on techniques w/ makeup/costumes. Some people do also have help from their drag communities with finding names :)
Im a trans man. My mom forced me to come out to her when she looked through my phone. She threatened to make me move schools and take me somewhere to “fix” me. Before this is was the ‘perfect’ child. A church going brunette with all A’s. So it hurt me when she found out. Now my hair is a lot shorter and i dress in all mens clothes (ive worn men’s clothes scene i was born pretty much). My mom has broken the bond between us and i hate her for it, i trusted and even loved her. But now its all gone and I want to kill myself. Ive never been this depressed in my entire life. I have a therapist but its not enough. Thanks for reading this. Bye i guess
I can’t pretend to be able to answer all that enough. I’ve been in a few similar places and past it. None of this is your fault. I hope you get to be out comfortably soon. you deserve it.
@@Asathegoopy thank you, i have about 4 years until im 18 so ill just have to wait to get my hair cut and buy a binder. Let me tell you, little comments like this help a lot. Probably more than you’ll ever know
I know things seem super crappy right now, but I promise it gets better.
I'm not trans, but my mom was very abusive, so when I left home, I basically went no contact, cuz she was awful. She'd say all these horrible things that had me feeling like the biggest piece of crap in the world. She made me feel like the world would honestly be a better place if i wasn't in it, and it got to a point where I didn't want to be in the world anymore.
I'm telling you this because I'm 33 now and things ARE better. I got to go to Noah's concert just last week and I had a blast. I have friends around me that support and love me for who I am, who don't make me feel crappy. And i get to spend my time (well, some of it anyway, when I'm not working) going to concerts and doing things I like. And no one tells me that I shouldn't, or that I'm wrong for liking what I like.
I'm sorry your mom sucks. Truly, I am. Not all parents are capable of genuinely loving their children for who they are. And it's hard to accept that. It took me a while to get over the fact that I would never have the mother I wanted.
But I'm okay with that now. I don't need her anymore. It took me a while to figure things out and to let go of the IDEA of having a loving mother. I had to mourn the loss of my mom even though she wasn't dead. (Hopefully that makes sense). And it took some time, it hurt for a while.
But eventually, it stopped hurting as much, and eventually, I realized that I'm okay with not having a mom. I don't need her to love me, because I can love myself enough to make up for it. My friends can love me enough to make up for it. And I can treat myself the way I always wished my mom would treat me, with love, kindness, understanding, compassion and respect.
I know it's really hard when you're still in it. And I know it hurts to have the one person who's supposed to love and support you reject you.
But if she can't see how amazing you are, how brave and strong you are, then screw her. If she can't give you the love you deserve, then to hell with her. Give yourself that love, because YOU DESERVE IT. You are WORTH IT.
You are valid. You are good enough. YOU MATTER.
And I promise you, it will get better. One day you'll wake up and it won't hurt as much. Then after that, one day you'll wake up, and it won't feel crappy at all. One day, you'll get to wake up and feel excited, because on that day, you'll get to go do something you've always wanted to do. (For me, its those days when I get to go see a band I've loved for years and years and always wanted to see). One day you'll get to do that kind of stuff. You'll be able to have a friend come over and you'll watch a stupid movie, and you'll laugh together and things will alright, they'll feel nice and normal, and you won't feel like your whole existence is a mistake anymore.
You will get there, I promise you will see that day. You just have to ride out the shitty part of the storm until the rain stops. And I know that's really hard, but it is so, so worth it. YOU are so, so worth it. So just hang on, ok?
I'm sorry your bond has been broken, and I hope your mom realizes what she has thrown away in her quest to define, rather than accept, you. You matter. Your experience is valid. You deserve kindness and compassion. And I'd like to believe that your mom will come around. Stay strong 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
@@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicosthank you for replying. It’s really hard with my mom. But things like this (random people taking time out of their own day to help me) really means a lot 💖
I just love the way he talks about all the topics most people are so afraid of talking about, pretending it would be disgusting or problematic…but it’s not and I am grateful he sees it that way too❤❤ to all of you: feel free to do or be what ever you want as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️❤️✨🫂🔞🥹
“I’m like 99% sure I’m autistic”
Me too man, me too.
Me too
Me too
The only reason I transitioned was to go from being a short man with an extremely high voice to an average height for a woman with a regular voice. Now I’m never misgendered. I had to🤷♀️
Are you okay with being seen as a woman? /gen
@@justaperson6922I'm sure their joking
Don't look in someone's else's pants unless they want to talk about it. It's fine to be cis and it's also fine to be trans. God is love. ❤️🌈
I haven't had the chance to use this line yet but my top surgery scars literally go from armpit to armpit so if anyone ever asks me about what happened I am looking forward to just saying "swordfighting" and walking away.
Ngl probably gonna flub it, I'm not that cool. "You should see the other guy" would also work.
I love how you did the ad! 😄🔥
I transitioned because I've always felt I was a boy. When I was 5 years old or so, I asked my mum why she didn't "make me into a boy". Later on in life, I told her I was going to start transition, and she told me "I'm glad you figured it out!" She knew way before I even told her 🥰
On the bathroom thing, I can't remember which UA-cam channel said this, but they brought up a good point; if other people want us to use the bathroom that matches our sex assigned at birth, there will technically be even more people confused because those of us who transition will be whipping out our trans peens or sitting on a potty with our fashioned lady parts when we "clearly" (to the bathroom police) seem to be in the wrong bathroom. There's a lot of things that could go wrong there. I hope that didn't offend anyone! I didn't mean to if I did.
As for the inappropriateness of certain situations: I love to tell people I trust that I got spayed and watch their brains process that info lol
My partner has long hair and always gets asked if they're trans when they're not, just because they know I am and assume they are too. Hair is hair... except when it grows in really thick on my back, then my opinion changes a bit 🤔
I've been asked about my transition all the time, and the first thing I ask them is "How graphic do you want me to be?" then they go away 😏
Sorry for the comment mini-novel, I enjoyed your video and wanted to say things too, didn't realize it was going to be so much!
just so you know, I WILL steal the "how graphic do you want me to be?", just to watch their brain melt also good for you!! your comment made me smile, I needed this
@@ponilo99 Use it all you want! 👍 It's fun I promise 😁
The fingers coming over the stall divider thing at 8:22 made me literally snort with laughter
4:20 HA JOKES ON YOU IM ASEXUAL, nah but my adhd would love doing the voice thing and rubbing my head with it lol
19:58 i have a trans guy friend that is very androgynous, and (spoken from him, i didnt make this up myself) he has had so many different experiences based off of how people perceive him. this is a message he has literally sent me:
Cishet Girl:
Girls talk around me more
Boys ignore me entirely
Boys assume they can push me around
Lesbian:
Targeted by guys
Shipped with other people by random "allies"
Weird looks
Cis guy:
Guys talk to me
No hostility from guys
Girls avoid me (understandable)
Invited into social situations more
"I'm like 99% sure im autistic" me too noah 😭😭
You really take the trans issues that make the world squirmy and pave the way for us now and for us in the future . I give you mad respect. Keep doing what you're doing. Your best fan, Amity Noel
6:25 "I know it's not, but I like to feel special" Mood
omg i’m early! hi noah! i was at your concert last week and it was the best night ever, and hugging you at VIP was the best feeling ever!! i hope you’re having a great day
Hey Noah ! Love you you make my day!!❤❤
Edit: I am loving your music atm it’s a vibe ! I know all of the lyrics and honestly it’s just nice to listen to!💞
When he said that he assumes that everyone who watches his videos is trans I was confused for a moment (I'm not trans) but then I realised how much good content people miss out on because of their racism, homophobia, transphobia or any other kind of bias against one type of people. I mean lately I've had a few laughs over "accidental allies" and frankly I've found trans content creators lovely and fun so far, and most of the time I liked their content before even realizing they were trans.
I'm not trans, and I love these videos because I honestly learn so much I never knew about transitioning and transphobia. I feel better able to support and show even more love for my trans friends. Thank you so much for these videos ❤
I briefly saw a therapist (three sessions before I was like, no cannot deal) who was bisexual, she told me our first meeting to try and make me comfortable as like being fellow queer people together. However she knew NOTHING about being trans. She honestly thought you go for a single event that does EVERYTHING. She called it 'The Transformation' which made me feel like a butterfly. Eventually I just asked her, how do you think medical transition worked because the things she said were so strange.
So, her version of transitioning medically went like so: You go to a clinic for a week long stay where first they change your genetalia and then do chest surgery like two days apart. Then you have baths??? In very strong hormones that do all of the other secondary sex characteristic things.
I just said, no, I'm afraid that's very wrong and quit her therapy there and then because how do you carry on with someone who is so naive trying to do therapy on you?
Yeah that's wierd if she knows you're trans she could've at least done some research. Did you find a new therapist?
@@justaperson6922 Yeah, she really didn't get that she didn't know anything and everything she thought she knew was wrong. I did find a new therapist, thank you. I've had him for three years now and he's a specialist in therapy for autistic people so he really helps me use techniques for my trauma and depression work that work for me as an autistic person, rather than trying to use neurotypical tools on me. Which was another problem with that other therapist, she seemed to view therapy as a one size fits all which wasn't great.
That's so scifi! I wish it worked like that lol
@@ismolatham4393 I'm glad you found someone who can help you talk through stuff!
Please keep doing these videos...
I love the positive vibes!
i’m not trans, but i really wanna get top surgery. i want to have a chest like a mans, i think the reason is so i appear more genderless. i’d like to confuse people on which gender i am, because i’d like to be seen as neither or both. i don’t really identify as any gender, but i’m leaning more towards masculine than feminine. i have wished before that i was a man, but i’m completely fine with just having no boobs instead
Maybe Agender could fit you?
Maybe do some research about being agender (no pressure)
you don't have to be trans to change your appearance to make you more comfortable! you do you
gender expression doesn't always match gender! also I recommend looking into agender and xenogenders. sounds like there could be something that fits you there
This sounds like me when I was a teen in the 80's. I suggest you talk to someone, maybe a therapist, and explore what your feeling.
I clicked on the video as soon as it popped up as normal. Love your channel. Wish I could see you on the tour but I'm in the uk.
He's doing a UK tour this summer!
Yes! Thank you for the info
video related: my mum had promised me if i had still, "kept up my trans facade" by 14 shed get me a binder.. she put it really weirdly but shes supportive so i suppose she just didnt know how to word it back then, i still got a month before i get the binder hopefully she hasnt forgotten 💀
also the reason i trasnistioned is because when i was 6-8 i would stare at myself in the mirror and try to tear off my "lady parts" bcz i was so dysphoric, long story short, i googled "why do i hate my bewbs & (word for other lady part) " when i turned 11 and a gender dysphoria article came up
ive now been out for 2 years :))
tour related: THANK U SO MUCH FOR SIGNING MY FLAG ON APR 15TH (CHICGAGO DATE) I HOPE U LIKED MY DRAWING
Just a scottish or irish person saying "THE SURGERY" sent me nearly peeing myself😂
Ooo the love honey sponsorship I love them and the mullet is giving
I wish I could wear a binder. Thanks for sharing the fun stuff!
Im only 14 so my parents still pay for most of my stuff and they wouldn't let me also i can't come out kuz my brain is mushy-
Perfection like every vid! Btw I also REALLY love your music so if you could maybe make a vid about your songwriting process that would be AWESOME! No worries if you can’t tho :) ❤❤❤
“YeAh dUhH, wHy D’yA tHiNk I’m AsKiN’ aBoUt Ya’ WiLlY?”
*that’s probably why you’re single*
my egg cracked the moment I had to spend a week in a boy's dorm at a summer camp. the socks stood up by themselves. never. again.
I'm AFAB non-binary, panromantic, and demisexual. I don't put a lot of thought into what my body looks like or what other people think of it, nor do I feel a strong desire to change it, but I can say with absolute certainty that if I needed a mastectomy for medical reasons I would ask that they take both, completely, and don't rebuild with implants.
ur so real for that, if im losing one they can take the other while theyre at it
20:16 I loved that book! I read it like five times in a week when I had it out of the library!
13:40
i’ve been researching drag recently, as well as watched some of my favorite content creators (from the misfits gaming channel) get dressed up in drag, and from what i’ve seen drag parents don’t normally name their drag children, the drag children come up with the names themselves, though the drag parent might do it in some situations, i just haven’t seen that
My mom when i got my first binder 2:44 literally the most relatable crap ever
I remember talking to girls and being like “Yeah I just really hate the idea of growing a chest and I get really uncomfortable when people call me a young lady and I’ve thought about changing my name to Alex or something so people can’t tell I’m girl and I like when I get mistaken for a boy” and my dumb ass thought I was CIS
If only tiny me would have known what I know now
5:23 I was literally just talking about this earlier- something goofy I want to say when I eventually have these scars, I want to say “oh yeah I had my ribs surgically removed so I can suck my own--“ 😌
I remember when I was about 9 years old I came across a video of yours, it was a cover of a few YUNGBLUD songs and I was amazed by your voice. When I was 10 I had forgotten all about the covers but then I saw another video of yours and I was like “hold on, that voice sounds familiar.” And then I remembered the covers and was like “HOLY SH!T YOUR VOICE. ITS CHANGED SO MUCH” you sounded so male but I could still recognize it. I can always recognize your awesome voice. You’ve come far my dude. Have a nice day/night/whatever❤️(btw you’ve taught me a lot abt trans stuff and made me realize I’m trans, so I just want to say thank you
the voiceover of noah saying "where are ur titties" caught me so off-guard for no reason LMAO
i should've guessed since the music was differnet
T_T
Kinda early? I love how you helped me realise I was not cis. (Funny story today someone told me they were cisgender and they 'had no gender and didn't exist' they were trying to be transphobic and looked stupid)
Btw i realy need that mcr poster
That's not very cisgender of them
Lmao
@@SonotmickeY3626 Someone asked me "WTF is "cishet" and stop inventing these sick words"
I was like "How can you call it a sick word when you don't even know what it means? It's not even a new word. It's just short for cisgendered heterosexual"
@@DinosaurNick 😭 they are so ignorant
So they don’t think we should use trans women/trans men or cis women/cis men,just women and men 😊
@@SonotmickeY3626 well then they mst agree that trans women are women and trans men are men and instead of seperating them we should just call them men and women. win win :P
@@SonotmickeY3626 Well, i was deciding between telling them or slapping them but it was too funny so I'll let them believe it. Seems like theyre voidgender lmao
Just saw you in Chicago on Satueday and it was AMAZING! I love your shows SO much and I will always see you when you come! Hope you liked the flag!
Oh my goodness you were in Kansas City 12 days ago and I didn’t even know I missed it!!!
Story of how I found out I was trans even tho nobody asked✨:
When I was 7 I was like: “When I wanna grow up I wanna look like a boy and use the boy’s bathroom and date girls!” And I dated a girl that same year bc I told her I was a man. Then, 3 years later, my friend told me he was trans and straight and I was like “What is being trans?” So he explains it for me and I’m like: “surely not me, right?” And he looks me dead in the eyes and says “You look pale! Are you okay?” “Yeah I’m fine!” (I still feel the same as when I was 7.) I look things up and I’m like: I’m trans. I’m fine with being trans and my mom is like “it’s because ____ came out, right?” No. My dad said that I was a hippo trying to be an elephant. So now my friend and my boyfriend are the only ones who know that I’m a trans masc bi.
Why were u dating at 7 😭
I did not expect my dead name in this but i loved how u said it ngl- ((love ur vids
11:19 thank you Noah for showing me the other Noah
I went to ur concert last night (Burnsville, MN) and omg it was so much fun!!! One of the best concerts ive been to! Your videos helped me a TON during a tough time, so thanks
Before you said that you were trans, I thought you were cis! Nice glow up, dude. It makes my heart smile when I see lgbtq+ representation!
i finally bought my tickets for tour! i will be seeing you on the 30th and expect a present because i love you so much and i may have made an art piece dedicated to you that i wanted to give you. i am so exited to see you! ive been watching your videos even more as comfort these past days because my asthma got worse so my doctors have recommended i not wear my binder for a couple weeks so ive been feeling very dysphoric going around with boobs for around 2 weeks. so thanks Noah!
Loved the video, these tiktoks are hilarious and so are you. Wishing you a good tour!!
OH MY GODDD THE ALBUMS BEHIND U UGHH U HAVE SUCH GOOD TASTE IN MUSIC SJCKVMEJLISJD
HAHAHHA THE RANDOM STOPPING THE VIDEO TO TALK ABOUT A VIBRATIOR HAS ME DYING 😂😂😂
1:18-2:06 I HAD THE EXACT SAME EXPERIENCES DOWN TO EVERY DETAIL OMG!!! It’s so cool to see another trans guy go through the exact same stuff I did as a kid, especially since I’m a younger trans guy (still a minor). It just makes me look up to you even more
hii noah you have really helped me to find my true self thank you so much.
Toronto's show was AMAZING!!!!!! Thank you again for adding us to your stops!!!
Speaking about your mum commenting about flatchestedness. Mine never mentioned with the binder, probably cuz she knew about it, but I've been on T for a year now and she pointed out that my chest has flattened out, which it has, but I was like Thanks Yes IKR! Cuz it's so wild cuz I was told T wouldn't make much difference with that, but it has with mine, probably cuz I was already small before, but now I'm small in a mascer way, to the point mum pointed it out. Wild. Like I probably don't need my binders at this point? Except when I'm feeling really selfconscious about what does poke out, (especially when it's windy on a warm day where I'm only wearing a shirt) which tbf is the exact same amount or less than my 2 cis brothers chests does but dysphoria doesn't like logic
..Although it could also be half me readjusting my posture lol
4:51 I would LOVE this question because then I could say something like a bear attack and I fought it off with my bear hands(get it?), or a shark or SOMETHING. I physically cannot wait
8:07
So I have not transitioned yet, but I would honestly probably transition to prove my dad wrong because he’s literally said to me “ oh people are only trans when they transition” like tf??
Thats a stupid quote from ur dad. Also luv ur pfp
@@MarshMelo12 Thank you!!
I care about the wellbeing of animals and hate to see them with those monsters!
Also I love urs too❤️❤️
As expected, learned a few things and laughed many times.
*SOLID Content!* thank you
Oh my god! I love your necklace/choker, I think it's really cute. Do you remember where you got it from? I'd love one for myself. I think it really works with the rest of my jewelry! Also, I'm gonna be going to your concert on April 23rd; I can't wait, I'm literally so excited!
I LOVE THE MCR ALBUMS ON YOUR WALL
What I understand the least about the bathroom conundrum is that people think women would feel comfortable with trans men walking into the bathroom. Imagine a man walking into the girl bathroom, saying “oh no, I am here because I have XX chromosomes”. Meantime he has a frickin beard and chest hair. That is way creepier to me than seeing (what looks and acts like) a woman awkwardly run to the stall or reapply makeup.
Not me answering "yeah, I've been feeling good" when the Noah asked if we are feeling good vibrations thinking it was just a pause in the video to "chat"