This Is How You Know You Are Ready To Marry | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • @adaobiumeji412
    @adaobiumeji412 Рік тому +230

    I will marry the best man on earth, for me. My idea of marriage is bliss, unionism, working together. Best of friends till forever!!!

    • @purposedriven597
      @purposedriven597 Рік тому +4

      Amen
      I stand in agreement with you
      You will

    • @DrAchaWhitney-SandryM
      @DrAchaWhitney-SandryM Рік тому +1

      Amen

    • @rekiyaE
      @rekiyaE Рік тому +2

      Wow! You're so beautiful. 😍 Amen to your heart desires, all the best to you. 🙏💖

    • @michelleadebiyi2341
      @michelleadebiyi2341 Рік тому

      Amen.🎉🙏🏾

    • @sylvabiam1438
      @sylvabiam1438 Рік тому +2

      I admire your optimism, sister. May you also be same to your future husband 😊🙏

  • @ikelynnewilson3705
    @ikelynnewilson3705 Рік тому +97

    I am so blessed. My 6 Yr old daughter asked me, "Mommy do you and Daddy ever fight?" The question made us feel so proud of ourselves and to keep going by God's grace in love and friendship🙏♥️

    • @siphokazii
      @siphokazii Рік тому +10

      This is the question i asked my parents when i was 16, ay school my teacher said all parents fight and it's normal for parents to fight i raised my hand in class and I said my parents do not fight, they made a mockery of me in class and i was so hurt, i went back home and asked my dad whether him and mom ever fight, he said we do have disagreements but we sort them out when we've dropped u off at school and we do it with love always! I held on to that and i swore to self that I'll replicate such a home for my children, in Jesus Name!

    • @adedoyinbadejo679
      @adedoyinbadejo679 Рік тому

      @@siphokazii happy for you

  • @AliveinChrist247
    @AliveinChrist247 Рік тому +121

    How to know you are ready
    1) Your perspective. What you expect is what you accept. You lay the foundation of your marriage from your perspective. My marriage will be sweet. My husband will receive favor because he'll find his good thing 🙏. Make sure your normal is normal. What is your perspective
    Talk dont sulk when u have an issue. Your perspective should be formed from biblical standards
    2) what is your purpose. You need a purpose for life before you pick a partner for life. Knowing your purpose will help you to find a partner that aligns with your purpose.
    3) Knowing the qualities you are looking for. He that finds a wife finds a good thing. Prov 18:22, prov 19:24. God will lead you in the place of value and in the place of service to meet your spouse. God wont lead tou to John, He will lead you to join 🙏 😂. Only God knows your real spec 😂. Separate your needs from your wants. He must speak in tongues oh 😅. When waiting, do what waiters do, serve.

    • @joephfrancis3315
      @joephfrancis3315 Рік тому +3

      Word's of wisdom
      Wish I can copy the text just for a reminder 😊

    • @AliveinChrist247
      @AliveinChrist247 Рік тому +2

      @joeph francis you can rewatch the video and you can actually buy the book

    • @euniceijah3822
      @euniceijah3822 10 місяців тому

      Wow I love the summary sir,thank you for the key points

  • @funkeadewale1773
    @funkeadewale1773 Рік тому +12

    I’ll get married to God’s will for me, a peaceful home, full of God’s grace and knowledge, my marriage will be productive in all spheres 🎉

  • @kCpeak
    @kCpeak Рік тому +20

    My Marriage is definitely going to be role model and mentoring to billions

  • @estellemiche8585
    @estellemiche8585 Рік тому +20

    This is what happened to me actually, God led me to serve.....from there I met someone really special....God is all powerful 🙏

  • @euniceijah3822
    @euniceijah3822 10 місяців тому +3

    My husband will sing my praise,because i will be the best woman for my spouse. A proverbs 31 lady

  • @donpsy7362
    @donpsy7362 Рік тому +7

    I won't send you to John, I will send you to Join!!! Word in season 🙌

  • @Words_of_Life793
    @Words_of_Life793 Рік тому +8

    I expect my marriage to be good and fruitful, blessed, worthy and uplifted in all way round. What I have expected is what I get. My husband is blessed spiritually, financially, emotionally matured. And our children is blessed all the way. Our home shall be a good reference for other people to follow. Our home is blessed and successfully completed to the Glory of God and shame to the devil.
    Thank you Jesus for the manifestation

  • @ananisunday3126
    @ananisunday3126 Рік тому +18

    This is a solid message. Marriage and clarity got simplified here.

  • @jennifern.5305
    @jennifern.5305 Рік тому +23

    I agree completely. But Christian’s are being gaslighted now a days. We’re being told our expectations are unrealistic/rigid/antiquated. Sometimes even our unwillingness to do things the way the world is doing it is interpreted as some form of relational inability. Messages like this are important because it helps affirm that our beliefs are not out of touch- but actually produce good fruit

    • @oluwatobithomas1946
      @oluwatobithomas1946 Рік тому +5

      Stand your ground. Do not be discouraged, the Lord is your strength and He will give you the man who will have the same or even better purity standards than you. God will honor your obedience.

  • @OdinakaSylvester
    @OdinakaSylvester Рік тому +14

    More wisdom and anointing Pastor K..

  • @anuoluwapoesther2491
    @anuoluwapoesther2491 Рік тому +3

    I will have the best marriage
    My home is blessed of the Lord

  • @Deloreproperties
    @Deloreproperties Рік тому +6

    I want to start attending these programmes live and direct

  • @clarechika450
    @clarechika450 Рік тому +7

    God is your strength sir and thank you for all your teachings. God bless you and your wife ❤️

  • @georgeinalegwu-gc6qo
    @georgeinalegwu-gc6qo Рік тому +2

    Absolutely am blessed with the powerful message I never knew that marriage have some unique principles

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 Рік тому +8

    Amen Preacher
    We attract our expectations

  • @catherineagolu5992
    @catherineagolu5992 Рік тому +2

    Wow watching from Uganda Thank you so much Sir my perspective about marriage changed ever since I started listening to you two years ago. Thank you thank you am looking forward to a blissful marriage

  • @anexceptionalchild
    @anexceptionalchild Рік тому +1

    I will marry right and marry the best man.
    Thank you so much pastor Kingsley.

  • @perrymorgan4793
    @perrymorgan4793 Рік тому +1

    I see marriage as a blessing of two different entities intentionally working together to create and show forth God's example of love. I believe in a marriage where Christ is the head, and when Christ leads everything falls in place.

  • @akongosylvia1665
    @akongosylvia1665 8 місяців тому

    Thank you pastor for this wonderful message watching from Uganda....i declare that i will have a blissful marriage in Jesus name Amen 🙏🙏🙏

  • @gloriaokenwa
    @gloriaokenwa Рік тому +1

    Thank you Pastor K for this message
    I was blessed

  • @ifybrave8180
    @ifybrave8180 Рік тому +2

    Word of great wisdom for some that are ready to be a better person ❤❤

  • @MadameKween
    @MadameKween 6 місяців тому

    Great teaching. This will help my relationship.

  • @lifeinsights7695
    @lifeinsights7695 Рік тому +3

    What a powerful msg. Thank you sir

  • @atohtenguhsamuella7769
    @atohtenguhsamuella7769 5 місяців тому

    May you live long sir. Such à blessing🎉🎉🎉

  • @rosemarytuzie3733
    @rosemarytuzie3733 Рік тому

    That’s very true well said. Thank you so much. God bless you and more grace. Watching from china.

  • @blessingifeanyi7685
    @blessingifeanyi7685 Рік тому

    Thank you pastor Kingsley for enlightening me on this topic

  • @winniemugaliza6676
    @winniemugaliza6676 Рік тому

    Wow thank you so much, this is just the word for me this season 🥰🙏🙏

  • @givensaquaye563
    @givensaquaye563 Рік тому +5

    This was great; very timely. Is there a full message for this

  • @nalubegalydia42
    @nalubegalydia42 8 місяців тому

    More grace and healthy sir

  • @michelleadebiyi2341
    @michelleadebiyi2341 Рік тому +4

    I loved this.👏🏾

  • @GiftyDavid-vs9vf
    @GiftyDavid-vs9vf Рік тому

    Thank you so much sir, I am blessed

  • @rhemamusic6502
    @rhemamusic6502 Рік тому

    4.46 Im also picky with the kinda people I tell about my parents marriage for over 25 years without quarrelling

  • @mfonoffong8708
    @mfonoffong8708 Рік тому

    Perspective is your expectation.
    Check your perspective

  • @spurrer
    @spurrer Рік тому

    Powerful teaching

  • @ogunberoselline6743
    @ogunberoselline6743 Рік тому

    God you know who I will like today and forever please God please Choice right for me in life

  • @akainmaureen2843
    @akainmaureen2843 8 місяців тому +1

    I will get married to the best man because am a good person. with good character

  • @mrwacko507
    @mrwacko507 Рік тому

    Pastor Kinsley you too much abeg👏🏽

  • @ugwuchisom3584
    @ugwuchisom3584 Рік тому +1

    I will marry the best kind of man for me.
    I and My man will be best of friends and we would come together letting our guards down to settle whatsoever issues that arises.It’s gonna be a home of pure bliss.
    And I wish same for you too💙

  • @Thelivingtruth7441
    @Thelivingtruth7441 Рік тому

    For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. Only the deceivers shall be deceived.

  • @gascomania7102
    @gascomania7102 Рік тому +1

    More wisdom, more grace pastor.

  • @farinjoy4894
    @farinjoy4894 Рік тому

    God bless is here and it for me

  • @angelarosas7414
    @angelarosas7414 Рік тому +1

    Amen google teaching , Phoenix AZ, USA 🇺🇸

  • @Quisha
    @Quisha Рік тому

    Wow !!!!!!! I am actually fired up

  • @captainjumbo9767
    @captainjumbo9767 Рік тому

    Am always bless listening to you sir and give me hope that I will have a good marriage

  • @florebonzi4497
    @florebonzi4497 Рік тому +1

    Hello from Burkina faso 😊

  • @AbelBlog
    @AbelBlog Рік тому +6

    As quite often, many things that are said in this message are good, but there are important points of correction and I will focus on one.
    Nothing guarantees that God will reveal the life purpose of a believer before marriage. So it's not good to impose that believers should find their life purposes before marriage.
    I have seen churches were they impose that and they are stumbling block to many young people who lie and make up a fake life purpose because they want to get into marriage. Many women even claim hypocritically that they are waiting for a purpose partner, and yet they are waiting for a wealthy or financially stable man.
    Take for instance Abraham and Sarah. They got married before God called them and revealed them their life purposes and changed their names to be aligned to their lives purposes. That's a confirmation that God doesn't always reveal life purpose before marriage. And more even many of us are not more devoted than Abraham was. He was the friend of God.
    So not knowing life purpose shouldn't keep young people from marrying young.
    I believe that if two children of God try to be together and God hasn't planned them to marry each other, God will peacefully orchestrate things to not make their marriage possible. Because we cannot miss who God has planned for us to get married. God controls what we can't control. Remember Jonah who even though he was disobedient tried to run away from God's will but God orchestrated circumstances to bring him back in his will. How much more when we are obedient.
    Today unfortunately because of this wrong teaching that originated in the US, there is a generation of women who don't want to get married young and serve the man with their beauties; they claim they are waiting for their purpose partner. We never see the apostles recommend such things. And finally when they depreciate physically, they get in marriage and cannot bring enough natural favors that God placed in their bodies to pleased their husbands; marriage is bitter.
    This teaching is deadly; it has created a lot of hypocrisy and problems in relationships. It has made many women hypergamous. They hide behind purpose partner to promote hypergamy; looking for a man romantically, spiritually, professionally ideal for the least.
    Another godly couple; perhaps the best couple in the whole scriptures that got married without knowing their life purposes was Joseph and Mary. Assuming that their life purpose was the most important thing they had to do: raise the child Jesus; they didn't know it until after they were engaged. When God started to reveal their life purposes through the angel, they were surprised and they almost got separated. That means they didn't know their life purposes before being engaged.
    This teaching has created a generation of young religious people fornicators or who live in personal sexual sins for the least (sexual sins are abounding more than ever even among religious people). Because young people are kept starving sexually out of marriage and the temptation to compromise is too high that only very very few escape sexual sins (including sexual thoughts).
    This teaching has destroyed black communities starting in America. Men are starved sexually by wicked black American women who claim to wait for their Boaz, their purpose partner, their kingdom partner, etc...
    And their beauties end up being for entertaining people on social networks. Relationships are a great mess in black America because of such evil teachings. Beware! don't follow their examples.
    Please show me even where one apostle teach young people to find their purpose or calling before finding life partner? I don't know anywhere apostles teach such things. But I know many places apostles encourage young people to marry young lest they fall into sexual temptations. Because marriage was given to help people live a discipline godly life for children of God. And we need that help even before we find our life purpose. We cannot let young people starve sexually and tell them to wait their purpose partner. Young people should rather try to discover anyone GOD HAS EMPOWERED TO GIVE THEM MARITAL HELP AMONG BELIEVERS. And if God has ordained their union HE will allow it to happen. If he hasn't ordained it, HE will not allow it to happen. That doesn't mean there will be a problem.
    Wrong teachings of this sort are generally fully based on the old testament. You have o know that not everything in the old testament is aligned with the new covenant. So you always have to examine the old testament through the lenses of the new testament. There was not even a church in the old testament; so believers didn't have the responsibility to love and help each other as Jesus loved us. They didn't have the holy spirit to help them; they practiced dowry. Look for instance how Jacob worked like a slave to get married to his wives. Many old testament practices were not perfected aligned with the new. So be careful when yo use old testament stories to derive marital principles.
    It's also because of this wrong teaching that people want to divorce when they are going through some issues in their marriage. Because they think that they haven't found their purpose partner and they have made a bad choice.
    That's why apostle Paul recommends somewhere that single widow women (I generalize to every believer) is free to marry who they wish in the Lord. Because he knows that God's plan will still be fulfilled in their lives and they cannot miss their purpose partners even while trying to marry who they wish in the Lord.

    • @julianahewanleifoh428
      @julianahewanleifoh428 Рік тому +2

      Every human being whether male or female was created, first of all, for an individual purpose that serves the Lord. It's important we put that purpose of serving God or doing His will first before anything else. So when one becomes aware of themselves, it's important to know what the will of God is concerning their life...(Do not be unwise but understanding what the will of God is, Ephesians 5:17). As we walk and grow in that path that God has shown us, (I have said grow because understanding purpose can be a journey), he begins to lead us to make important decisions that helps or aligns with that purpose. So the understanding of what we are called to do, our assignment as given by God, and his purpose for our lives will then determine our decisions including marital choice. No matter how well intentioned we are, if we put two people whose purposes do not align, the marriage might not work. Two cannot work together except they be agreed.. (Amos 3:3). So the understanding of ones purpose is important, we don't have to get the full picture at once or immediately but whatever God has shown us should be enough to guide our path in making the choices we have to make going forward in life. The problem is, a lot of people discover their purpose late because the subject is not preached to them or taken seriously. They want to do everything and then come back to purpose. It should be in this order, find or understand purpose and from there, make important life decisions. May God help us all.

    • @AbelBlog
      @AbelBlog Рік тому +1

      ​@@julianahewanleifoh428 Your problem is that you give too much power to human initiative. The fact that someone wants to find his/her purpose doesn't mean that God will absolutely reveal that to the person before his/her marriage.
      How do you explain that even Abram and Sarai didn't know their life purposes before they got married.
      But God who has supreme control directed them to each other.
      God is supreme. We have to stop worrying about things we cannot control and let him direct us in our purpose. The need for marriage might come much earlier before God reveal our life purpose clearly to us or before we are mature enough to engage in it.
      And like I said in the comment, if you consider someone that God hasn't ordained for you, he is not going to allow the marriage to happen. Because as the scriptures say, we are his workmanship created unto good works prepared in advance. And I believe marriage is part of those good works. And if the marriage of children of God is prepared in advance, they cannot miss it. If they try to consider someone that God hasn't ordained for them, God will not allow it to work. God knows even our places of residence before we are born; I believe he knows even our life partner before we are born.
      So the fear of missing our life partner is not a good fear; it's not justified by scriptures. It comes form not being able to believe in the supremacy of God' plan.
      Study the life of Mary and Joseph for instance. God had ordained that Jesus be born in Bethlehem.
      Around the time Jesus was about to be born, Mary and Joseph didn't even try to fulfil that prophecy. But God orchestrated a sequence of unusual events that led to Jesus being born in Bethlehem. It was God's hand controlling circumstances to implement what he had ordained about the birth of Jesus.
      Likewise, God's hand works to implement our marriage as he has ordained; whether we know our purpose or we are ignorant about it like Mary and Joseph were about Jesus birth place.
      Sincerely, young Christians shouldn't stay there burning sexually and waiting for life purpose, while they can consider someone and commit their choice to the Lord and if it's the Lord plan for them he will establish it. That's why the apostle tells us that it's better to marry than to burn. If your recommendation was true, he was going to say that it's better to wait for life purpose while burning than to marry without knowing life purpose.

    • @julianahewanleifoh428
      @julianahewanleifoh428 Рік тому

      Like you said, if it's not the will of God, he will prevent the marriage from happening...Maybe those ladies who are waiting for a kingdom partner or purpose partner have been hindered by God from going ahead with some of the relationships that have come their way, because as soon as they find someone they are attracted to or asking their hand in marriage, they are free to marry that person but be sure God will interrupt it if it's not His will for them? So let's excuse some of these women if their bodies and beauty become less attractive. They really wanted to marry whoever they wished early but God did not let it work and as such have to wait. So people don't say they are just waiting and wasting, they now say, they are waiting for a purpose partner. Let's remember, marriage is not compulsory or a requirement to make heaven, if it becomes too complex, Paul says one can decide to be celebate and live all their life in service to God.

  • @ttfamikel791
    @ttfamikel791 Рік тому

    Awesomeness

  • @etimbuknathan1397
    @etimbuknathan1397 Рік тому +3

    Please sir are all this your books online?

  • @She-Analyst
    @She-Analyst Рік тому

    The volume for this video is low😢.. Please can you guys work on it 🙏

  • @missnuti
    @missnuti Рік тому +1

    Please how do I get your books in Ghana?

  • @nabbanjaruthfaith2084
    @nabbanjaruthfaith2084 Рік тому

    Praise God family..am desperately looking for pr. 's books any one to direct me please 🙏 ..thank you

  • @burabarinwako3566
    @burabarinwako3566 Рік тому +2

    Please how do I get the book

    • @elenam9435
      @elenam9435 Рік тому

      All of them are in the description box.

  • @funmilayo3241
    @funmilayo3241 Рік тому

    Wow 🙌🙌

  • @Omowunmi
    @Omowunmi Рік тому

    How can I get the book?

  • @Grace-y6o9
    @Grace-y6o9 Рік тому

    @18:40😂😂😂😂

  • @davefx_
    @davefx_ Рік тому

    Mr and Mrs

  • @funmilayobright
    @funmilayobright 8 місяців тому

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @funmilayobright
    @funmilayobright 8 місяців тому

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @enemuogabriel1650
    @enemuogabriel1650 Рік тому +2

    Is your normal; normal.
    Perspective

  • @victornafwa2471
    @victornafwa2471 Рік тому

    The analogy about the two 'Mike's' is not a good one in Christian context.

  • @emmanuel3405
    @emmanuel3405 Рік тому +2

    Pastor Kingsley change your preaching, if you want to preach let it be about rapture let people know that Jesus is coming soon. Their blood will be hand. Heaven is real and hell fire is real.

    • @israelkenny1268
      @israelkenny1268 Рік тому +7

      Hmm. I feel the body of Christ is complete 'cos of the five fold ministries. And I think pastor K is saving people from HELL here on earth already as a preacher. The problems of every country today started with some families long agai with wrong perspective about life, so if you ask me, he is right on track preaching the right kind of gospel while we allow other men of God to also preach through the dimensions they've been engraced with.

    • @chinakablessingchizaram3
      @chinakablessingchizaram3 Рік тому +4

      If you listen well, he is doing just that. He is preaching about Jesus and good Christian living in marriage, which will lead anyone who pays attention and follows, to heaven.

    • @bonfacenjuguna654
      @bonfacenjuguna654 Рік тому +5

      Are you saying we should only have English teachers in school 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @lucyampofo7214
      @lucyampofo7214 Рік тому +2

      A lot of people are going to hell because of marriage. We need teachings on these things dear.

    • @chinyereabel1380
      @chinyereabel1380 3 місяці тому

      He's serving the purpose of God in his life by preaching and counselling abt marriage

  • @funmilayobright
    @funmilayobright 8 місяців тому

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉