Yeah, first time watching and she's very self-aware. Just hope this vid wasn't designed to bait the ex but she seems legit. Hope the animals are ok. I couldn't leave them.
Cindy, you're making some really healthy decisions for yourself and you should be SO PROUD. My only advice, as someone who has complex childhood trauma as well, move slow. Don't make rash decisions. If you have a decision, sit on it a little bit and make sure you're doing what is right for you and not reacting out of trauma. Your new therapist will be able to help you traverse this with you. I wish you all the best. Big hugs!
Yeah, I also wrote something like that, just to reflect on new wishes and feelings and not be afraid to change decisions according to what’s happening in life. I have mood swings in such situations, and I know, that there were times, when I could make wrong decisions, although they seemed ok at the time.
[This is such a rant I'm sorry!] edit: I only had realized you had meant to make plans once everything is finalized so i apologize i had thought you meant immediately after! ;-; I'm glad to see the continued progress, although with no disrespect I hope you take my words into consideration and the respect i mean with them. Consideration for others does not mean that you are too dependent,. I know its been a while to think and everything but truly again with no disrespect whatsoever, i think such a big life decision deserves a conversation and consideration with anyone and everyone in the household. I understand how it could feel you have the right [which you do!] to go where you like right now or live anywhere since well you are separated but I think its an entirely different situation to decide to move and the others persons thoughts not matter- Again i really hope this doesn't seem disrespectful i really do mean the best, you can still be independent and take into consideration your partners thoughts on the move or hear them out on how they feel/agree/disagree and I know how this separation can mold your mind into holding some resentment and only caring about yourself [which ISNT bad!] but i think independence is more than just holding your thoughts/best interest over others. As i have the same struggles, I used to care about my pain and how my partner could help fix my pain without really thinking about what pain they may have-had i considered them some things wouldnt feel sour and it doesnt mean i hold them 'higher' than myself. So please don't mistake consideration with dependence on that person I'm a bit worried that the people who pushed you to not think about Andrew at all may have reinforced the idea that considering Andrews feelings first over your own are somehow considered 'only changing for him'. I think its great you wanna move back home! I remember a while back watching how you wanted to but some personal family things kept you there. And obviously, me being a viewer i don't know every detail on what goes on, or your life and i don't wanna disrespect anyone. But moving house, moving jobs etc. i think really should speak to everyone in the household and to at least hear how they feel about the situation/give them proper time to prepare if they do tag along. Maybe once you two [hopefully] communicate more to really sit down and talk about the move? Especially if it hinders/causes a big change in employment? I am not saying that you cant go anywhere without permission at all-consideration and talking about it is all i really mean with this and to give someone your consideration is still your choice entirely, but i think Andrew still deserves to have his emotions on the matter have weight too and make sure he doesnt feel rushed to come to a decision. Either way, I don't think you two necessarily have to be close in location to work, I am in a very long distance relationship myself! I have a dual diagnosis and its been really hard at times, especially being apart. But this truly gives me the time to work on myself before we take that next step. So regardless This isn't me trying to sway the move at all!
Wow. When my fiance left .. it took me years to be finally over it. The sense of realization you got in a couple of weeks is something I only got a few years after because it was too much for me. You’re so strong! You are stronger than you realize
I started watching you during your "he left" video that was recommended to me by youtube. I have to say, you have made the most amazing changes. You can tell this time apart has really improved your perception of yourself. For everyone that has dealt with separation or divorce, that moment you realize that you can do so many things on your own, it is a real moment of self-empowerment. Good for you!
I just found you last night and I'm already fully invested in your journey! It's obvious how strong you are and it's amazing to be able to see all of this in real time. You're like a Phoenix rising from the ashes! Keep going Cindy you're doing amazing and whether you know it or not you're also helping others to see that they can do it too! ❤️
Me too, new subscriber! Sending greetings from New Zealand Cindy you are so easy to watch and listen to and you are doing so well in your journey already. I'm 6 years out of a shock 15 year relationship break up and it took me way longer to get to where you are already. You are doing amazingly.
People who claim your husband should have stayed regardless of how he felt piss me off man. Don't stay in unhealthy dynamics, and I don't wanna make it sound like I judge any of you, I don't know you. But what I'm saying is, sometimes in life you gotta make bold moves. Things that might get you judged, I escaped from toxic relationships myself A LOT (again, not saying they were the abusers or I was the victim, SOMETIMES it was the case, but mostly it was just a toxic dynamic I contributed to as well), I ghosted so many people that were dear to me, because there was just no way of ever talking this out. This is hard to swallow, but sometimes if you love someone, AND YOURSELF, you gotta give both of you a very difficult wake up call. Whether it's being brutally honest or just walking away without a word. Or maybe a combination of both. The fact Andrew is willing to still support you despite all of this I think says a lot about how he never wanted to hurt you (I might be wrong because again, I don't claim to know you better than you know yourselves, but that's how it looks to me)
WOW Cindy, how much you've grown in span of just 2 weeks. I'm so proud! Be your own person, thrive and even if Andrew comes back and you'll accept it, you can still be your own person. Either way, it's amazing to see you happier and more focused on your own future ♥
Cindy, I'm glad to see you're happy, but it seems a little too soon. It's only been 3 weeks since your husband of 15 years left. I find it hard to believe you're truly progressing so quickly, and I'm afraid you're not giving yourself enough time to mourn, which will be worse in the long run. I don't mean to be critical. I genuinely hope the best for you 💕
It's so wonderful to see you thrive, my husband and I used to be very codependent and with the appropriate therapy and time away from each other to find ourselves, we healed and became a stronger couple. Whatever happens, you got this Cindy!! You already made so much progress 💖💖
There's the infectious Cindy laugh and smile we've been rooting for! I just turned 28 the beginning of the month, and I still have no idea how to light a grill, mow a lawn, drive a car all of that 😅 so you're definitely inspiring others to tackle some of their discomforts haha. It seems like those things are never as scary as we build them up to be in our heads
I'm very happy to see you taking your life back bc I've always loved your Sims channel and when I found this channel I felt I've gotten to know more about you and you are an amazing person♡ you are alot stronger than me but watching this video it is helping me more than I can even describe as of rn
I do hope you find yourself again and continue to grow🙈I hope that you can mentally be happy enough to play sims 2 again bc it's inspired me to start over my sims 2 pleasantview and I'm attempting to do an uberhood with your perfect pleasantview as my beginnet bc it'd godsent and I would love some tips and advice on making a good rotation for it all
@@BabyKuzco I also started using spreadsheets for my sims games because of Cindy. I also have been looking forward to her playing again one day when she's in a better place. If that's what she even wants.
Be sure to have a reputable mechanic do a thorough inspection of that car. I used to have a Focus and had to scrap it bc the undercarriage was completely rusted out. Our mechanic said that they’re notorious for that bc they sit so low. Congrats on finding yourself and accomplishing things you didn’t think you could! We believe in you!
BTW Cindy just so you know, when you go to clean the grill I recommend you use a grill stone as opposed to a metal brush. There have been cases of metal bits from the brush getting stuck in the grate, and then ending up in people's food and then they eat it and it can puncture you on the inside. I know it sounds unlikely but it really has happened, and it's so hard to detect when it does cause internal issues. There was a little boy who had terrible ear pain for over a week, and it wasn't until they scanned his entire head that they found he had been punctured in the back of his throat by one of these grill brush bits. They honestly should not even be sold anymore, grill stones are much safer. Sorry for the horror story, but I just want you to be safe!! Good job on the grill!!
I have been part of this channel since the beginning when you showed us your real beautiful hair, I am so proud of what you have become, keep up the good work cindy.
So proud of you, Cindy! My mom who doesn't even speak English and I have been following your journey (she knows you as the lady who taught me about sim taxes lmao) and rooting for you. This is such a wonderful new beginning.
You and Andrew don't have to be "the same person", you can be yourself and complete each other. I think what happened was that you and Andrew became so intertwined that you guys lost the idea of being a individual.
So happy to see you in a positive mindset, Cindy! :D No matter what happens regarding your relationship with Andrew, you got this! Starting over & starting fresh is hard and scary, but it IS possible. Also, loved watching you light the grill LOL. I am also scared of lighting them!
That's awesome! You need a vehicle! And a home. If you decide to try keep it and just redecorate. Here for you on your journey. Sending positive vibes and virtual hugs.
With regards to using fresh vs dried flowers and herbs, dried herbs are actually more potent/concentrated than fresh since the plant matter's cellular structure is more broken down and has less water content (dried herbs also have more surface area). For dried herbs, generally speaking, you can use one-quarter the amount you'd use of fresh herbs. I hope you found this information useful, and I'm glad to see you're well on your way to independence!! Sending love ❤️
You are doing so well! Congratulations. I nearly lost my relationship to codependency burnout early on. It's hard, but continuously working on my issues and building independence has made us an incredible team. My 'husband' and I have been together nearly 20 years. We are not married, do not have a shared bank account, and I did not take his surname, but we gave it to our children, and we are co owners on our home. You don't have to do all the 'normal' things to have a long and happy relationship, so long as theres three independent lives. Mine, his, and the one we share.
I can see it in your face and eyes how uplifted you are. You have handled this challenging time amazingly and are inspiring. I'm really glad your seeing your potential and you haven't even had the guidance of a therapist yet, I bet you will impress them when you do see one.
I didnt want to share at first but incase it helps you to know some of us relate. ...I just left my husband of 11 years last June and he moved out last September. And honestly he was horribly mean and controlling. But I relate to making my "person" an extension of myself even now there are days I panic! Thinking "I NEED him. I need him to live. To breath to. Make my life worth living!" But then I think slowly...our house was a dark shadow of hate and sadness that looked great from the outside in..but felt suffocating when I was living it. I relate so so much to everything you've said.
I just turned 25 & You remind me of my mother and I 6 years ago - my father (moms husband also) was mentally, physically, emotionally & psychologically abusive toward me and kicked me out and my mom finally had enough of it and left his behind and in the very beginning it wasn’t easy for us to learn how to do the things he used to do but once we started figuring it out (fixing our cars, things that went wrong in the house etc.) we started feeling better about ourselves realizing we could do it on our own which is definitely good for me because I still live with her and when I move out I won’t have to rely on a man all the time I’ll be able to do most of it. It’s such a beautiful and amazing feeling. I pray and hope you 2 are able to work it out but you deserve whatever is best for you in the end. 💙 (Hope you see this, I’m is love & miss you over on pleasant sims , can’t wait for the big comeback 🥹)
Cindy!!! I am so proud of you! So many big accomplishments in so little time. I have to say I feel a kinship to you. I am also going through a metamorphosis right now. I am starting a job Wednesday after not working professionally for a few years due to depression. It was scary and hard, but I applied, interviewed, and beat the competition to get the job at this little gift shop. I am incredibly nervous and overwhelmed about starting, but I know this is what is best for me. It will make my life easier and will help me heal from the last four really bad years. We are doing this, one day at a time for the greater good. We got this!!!
being rewarded for conquering a fear with a nice juicy steak is SUCH a win. so much focus must be on other things that you may not have been told lately how AMAZING it is that you've so effortlessly stuck to carnivore! You're so inspiring, way to go Cindy!
So proud of you Cindy! I've been a viewer for a long time and I feel like I've watched you go through so many transformations so I know you can do it 💕.
I used to do the same thing. My relationship didn't work out and we both moved on but now he is happy with a family and I am happy with myself and my life. I'm so thankful for everything that happened and where things are now. YOU GOT THIS!
I resonate so much with what you said about how you both may have become codependent in your relationship. I did the same thing in the relationship I was in from age 22-30. It’s ten years later, I’m happily remarried but my new partner and I have retained our own selves while supporting each other. Also, I’m a huge proponent of a shared home bank account but each person NEEDS their own private account always. 💯 agree with you! So proud of you!!
YOU’RE DOING SO GOOD!!! There’s a song that helped me reach the mindset you’re starting to get and the lyrics remind me so much of you. I’m REALLY proud of you. 💜
I’ve been silently watching your journey and I’m rooting for you! I’ve been hospitalized for bpd & I relate your struggles so much. You’re doing so good and I hope your future holds magical things and moments for you. You go girl ❤
just wanted to say you're the only youtuber whose videos i can watch in full without getting bored. your energy is so soothing and i'm so happy things are getting better!
Cindy I just wanna thank You for.making this videos, theyve been truly conforting to watch and have helped me motívate myself into doing again what I love and inspiring me in becoming a better version of myself, it's great to see this videos help You and other people as well, I met You through your Sims 2 videos, they we're really conforting as well, hope someday You come back to streaming sims content, i wish You nothing but the Best, love your content.💫 PD: I just started making My own soap thanks to You lol 🤭
Cindy, been following your journey closely and I am so proud of you. Knew that this epiphany would be coming cause I‘ve been there in the past, but never thought it‘d be so soon. Believe me, once you focus on your life, loving yourself and building the life you want to live everything else will fall into place! Sending you love and light from Germany
Literally within the first 3 minutes of this vid you got me squealing and jumping around my room!! You are doing amazing omg!!!! I am in love with this new Cindy, she is gorgeous, she is GLOWING with powerful energy, she is independent, she is a bad b**ch! I love her so much, I love you so much!! You've come so far already and I'm here for it
You are doing such an amazing job, I'm so proud of you! My fiancé suggests that next time while you are waiting for the coals to heat up, put the lid back on with the vents open, that should help the coals get hotter faster. Keep moving forward and showing yourself how incredibly capable you actually are.❤
Cindy!!! Watching you grow and gain strength is amazing!!! Im cheering you on from the side line! Its so amazing to see you push through such hard times and come through fighting! I think i say it from all of us who watch you… GO GURL!!!! 🎉 You got this!! 👏🏼🥳
My son who’s 8 raced downstairs to tell me you had a new video .. he said he wanted to make sure I knew .. bless him… He sometimes does watch with me 🥰
Cindy, I’m happy to see you making progress. You look like a completely different person from a couple days ago and much happier. Though I know you are still hurting from the separation, it’s great to see you taking steps toward independence. Transitioning to being on your own is hard, but you are strong and you can do it. Being around family and friends in Arkansas will likely be good for you. When you feel ready, you can even try something like a weekly volunteer group or other common interest group to help you meet friends and get out of the house a bit. it also gives you something positive to look forward to and focus on. Continue to keep up with your therapy and make sure that you’re not making hasty decisions. Make sure you know that you’re going to sell the house before you make plans around it so you can continue manage your finances and not be stuck with the car payment and a mortgage payment.
This is where the advice comes into play when people say “things get better with time”. It may never seem like it when we are in the eye of the storm but eventually it blows over. It just seems like it never will at first. You may still have some ups and downs ahead of you but you’re stronger now and you won’t be the same you as before. Go Cindy!!!! I feel weird saying the following because ofc who am I to give advice and you don’t even know me KNOW me but I’ve seen many times that having separate bank accounts being a bad thing for couples. Idk first hand. That’s the thing but I’ve seen it said and heard it said onto others and idk why. But I know you have a sense of empowerment but take it maybe a little at a time? I actually thought you would end up liking your freedom and I’m glad you do. There is nothing wrong with depending on another for some things here and there but ya may be doing a whole 180. Actually nvm it makes sense because you did say you don’t even know if you want to get back with him yet or at all. I really think this is good for you Cindy. Sometimes some couple do spend every waking moment with each other and boast how “oh we never get sick of each other. We are best friends and we do everything together. We don’t fight…” but time apart is healthy. Doing things apart is healthy I think. Isn’t it? Having our own hobbies and stuff is healthy. Isn’t it? Idk but I think it is. I just feel like you are speaking out of anger instead of clarity. I really don’t want to upset you with my words Cindy. Don’t want to offend you. No, I don’t say this out of common courtesy. I say this because I’ve been a fan of yours for like 2 plus years now. I’m saying like a friend may say to another. So no, I don’t want to offend you or upset you.
🤗 hugs. I loved seeing you get a car ,grill your own steak and burgers. I know it must feel good to have control of your life. It's exciting and probably addicting. This did push you no matter the outcome. It's nice to have your own plans , he either can go with you and the journey or go live his own life . Lesson is it might hurt but won't break you. You're only getting stronger.
I know real life connections are higher priority, but it would be awesome if you brought your Discord back! Just a nice way to have your community and friends share in your enthusiasm in real time. But that might be a better idea when you move and get settled in.
Excited for you Cindy! I hope driving and everything feels freeing and inspirational for you. I know I felt that way when I got to finally drive myself to college before I graduated haha. I love seeing Gibbons and the pets. 💌 Trying to get space and think about things while stuck in a tiny house together would've probably be really uncomfortable and stressful for you both. I know it still sucks and idk everything and all that, but I hope things work out for the better because of some time apart.
This is that sense of freeing power I spoke about and isn’t it wonderful when you realize all the things you’ve just now come to terms with ?! I’m happy for you so keep it going and live your best life ! You got this !!
Been single for 15 year I be 50 this year .we don't need a man to complete us .I work what's mine is mine I not got to thank no one .X girl power .you go girl X
Ps never been married never want to .yes it gets lonely.but what I got is mine don't have to thank a man at all .I come and go as I want don't have to answer to no one .X
The first few seconds of the video already give off a completely different vibe than before. You seem uplifted with a genuine smile. I’m so happy you’re doing good ❤️
I’m glad to see you’re doing better. But I’m worried that you’re being impulsive. It’s only been 3 weeks and you haven’t seen your therapist. Maybe something to consider.
very inspirational. made me think about the dependency on my partner. you are taking big steps. you should be proud of yourself. there is a saying in Germany: wenn du dich auf andere verlässt, bist du verlassen which translates to: when you rely on others you'll be abandoned so it is really important to learn, how to be your own person, live your own life, be independent and keep yourself nurtured, healthy and happy.
Woohoo! YOU GO GIRL 🎉 I'm in awe of the changes you've made in just a few weeks. I can tell you're more at peace by the way you're acting. I've been following you for three years and I think this is the most confident I've ever seen you in a video. You rock! Also congrats on the car! I can't wait to see how the process goes, I've been thinking about using carvana myself. I love how talkative Gibbons is in the vid. He's so cute 😻
I'm amazed at your insight today. I came across your channel a few weeks ago when you posted your distress over your relationship issues. Watching your progression is amazing. Keep to the path you are on & nothing can stop you. You are tapping into your inner strength & nothing is more beautiful. You are strong, resilient, & adaptive, and that makes you more than a survivor, it makes you the author of your destiny. You have this. 🤗
I’m so happy for you Cindy!!! Came for the Sims content long ago, stayed for your vlogs ☺️ And again as a vet student, thanks for clarifying on Gibbons diet. Glad to know he’s getting the best care ❤️
while you were saying you were so proud of yourself for trying to do something that scares you - i was cooking with chicken which is something i always feel anxious about! i did it and it was delish, and your speech really made me feel great
Love all the progress ❤❤❤ I bought my car from Carvana in November. I really like the overall process considering the difference between vehicle search and application. There was a few delays on the delivery and a little frustration with that (I’m in NY) but they delivered on time on the second delayed date and they were very professional and provided a nice folder with all info. Best of luck with it and congrats!
Your hair is looking so good and healthy!!! Also I am so proud of you. The change over the past few weeks has been so noticeable to me. I have been a quiet watcher these past few weeks, but fully rooting for you all this time. Your content has been so helpful to me for years. It will still be hard, you will still have those moments of grief. But you *can* do it on your own. Regardless of Andrew, you will be okay. And again I am so incredibly proud of you!!!!
You have grown sooo much in these last weeks it’s so inspiring! And I’m so happy that ur feeling so good about ur growth and I can feel the strength you have and how ur only gonna continue to get stronger and independent I always tell myself when I’m not in control it is what it is and what’s gonna happen is gonna happen and I can do my best to go the direction I want but I can’t push to hard cause I find the harder I push in a direction not destined the harder I end up falling all these vlogs make me want to grow stronger too ! It’s so amazing to see u so energetic and happy and see ur warming smile I’m so happy :)
Good for you. I was going to say, don't set yourself up thinking if he sees the video or anything else that he would come back, because you would set yourself up for feeling like you failed again. So, good for you. You really do need to do that anyway with your finances and things, that way it would help you either way.
IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! You’re doing to well and I’m so happy for you ♥️ I know it was a while ago, but you were asking for song recommendations, and I feel like I have the perfect song for you. It’s helped me more than once: Last Hope - Paramore.
What an amazing revelation, Cindy! So proud of you! I think also acknowledging that you weren't a sole actor in the relationship, and that responsibility lies in both of you, is a huge step forward too. Here's to becoming your own person!
You’re getting better and better! Whatever happens Cindy, you’re making yourself a better woman for whoever is in your future! I wish I didn’t live in Indiana. I would love to be your friend irl. Having support in your life is just… incredible. But regardless, I’m proud of you! And I hope my donations help!
I just started watching your channel and I have to say I am so freaking proud of you !!! You have gotten so far in a short time and you are healing yourself and that is the smartest thing anyone can do. Be a strong independant woman 🎉🎉🎉
carvana is more of a problem because sometimes they don't get the car titles before they sell them, that's what happened with my aunts car and the car she bought was reported as stolen so she is currently in that lawsuit with them from NC. Idk if it's over yet or what but I know dealerships near you will also deliver them and so will CarMax. I'm currently looking at a new car and the dealership that is about 30 minutes away will deliver it to me for free and they delivered one to me for a few days for a test drive so it was nice. So if the Caravan doesn't work out you can also check regular dealerships or Carmaxes! So happy for you getting a car though and such
I'M SO PROUD OF YOU CINDY !!! ✨️💟
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Same! As someone with BPD this is just so amazing to see! She gives me so much hope! Such a strong woman! Aaah I could scream of happiness 💕🥹👑
Yeah, first time watching and she's very self-aware. Just hope this vid wasn't designed to bait the ex but she seems legit. Hope the animals are ok. I couldn't leave them.
Cindy, you're making some really healthy decisions for yourself and you should be SO PROUD. My only advice, as someone who has complex childhood trauma as well, move slow. Don't make rash decisions. If you have a decision, sit on it a little bit and make sure you're doing what is right for you and not reacting out of trauma. Your new therapist will be able to help you traverse this with you. I wish you all the best. Big hugs!
Yes. I hope she isn’t speaking out of anger instead of clarity.
Yeah, I also wrote something like that, just to reflect on new wishes and feelings and not be afraid to change decisions according to what’s happening in life. I have mood swings in such situations, and I know, that there were times, when I could make wrong decisions, although they seemed ok at the time.
This right here because it can undo progress.
[This is such a rant I'm sorry!] edit: I only had realized you had meant to make plans once everything is finalized so i apologize i had thought you meant immediately after! ;-;
I'm glad to see the continued progress, although with no disrespect I hope you take my words into consideration and the respect i mean with them. Consideration for others does not mean that you are too dependent,. I know its been a while to think and everything but truly again with no disrespect whatsoever, i think such a big life decision deserves a conversation and consideration with anyone and everyone in the household. I understand how it could feel you have the right [which you do!] to go where you like right now or live anywhere since well you are separated but I think its an entirely different situation to decide to move and the others persons thoughts not matter- Again i really hope this doesn't seem disrespectful i really do mean the best, you can still be independent and take into consideration your partners thoughts on the move or hear them out on how they feel/agree/disagree and I know how this separation can mold your mind into holding some resentment and only caring about yourself [which ISNT bad!] but i think independence is more than just holding your thoughts/best interest over others. As i have the same struggles, I used to care about my pain and how my partner could help fix my pain without really thinking about what pain they may have-had i considered them some things wouldnt feel sour and it doesnt mean i hold them 'higher' than myself. So please don't mistake consideration with dependence on that person
I'm a bit worried that the people who pushed you to not think about Andrew at all may have reinforced the idea that considering Andrews feelings first over your own are somehow considered 'only changing for him'. I think its great you wanna move back home! I remember a while back watching how you wanted to but some personal family things kept you there. And obviously, me being a viewer i don't know every detail on what goes on, or your life and i don't wanna disrespect anyone. But moving house, moving jobs etc. i think really should speak to everyone in the household and to at least hear how they feel about the situation/give them proper time to prepare if they do tag along. Maybe once you two [hopefully] communicate more to really sit down and talk about the move? Especially if it hinders/causes a big change in employment? I am not saying that you cant go anywhere without permission at all-consideration and talking about it is all i really mean with this and to give someone your consideration is still your choice entirely, but i think Andrew still deserves to have his emotions on the matter have weight too and make sure he doesnt feel rushed to come to a decision. Either way, I don't think you two necessarily have to be close in location to work, I am in a very long distance relationship myself! I have a dual diagnosis and its been really hard at times, especially being apart. But this truly gives me the time to work on myself before we take that next step. So regardless This isn't me trying to sway the move at all!
Wow. When my fiance left .. it took me years to be finally over it. The sense of realization you got in a couple of weeks is something I only got a few years after because it was too much for me. You’re so strong! You are stronger than you realize
I started watching you during your "he left" video that was recommended to me by youtube. I have to say, you have made the most amazing changes. You can tell this time apart has really improved your perception of yourself. For everyone that has dealt with separation or divorce, that moment you realize that you can do so many things on your own, it is a real moment of self-empowerment. Good for you!
Same! I was like, "OH, that's a relatable video title"
I just found you last night and I'm already fully invested in your journey! It's obvious how strong you are and it's amazing to be able to see all of this in real time. You're like a Phoenix rising from the ashes! Keep going Cindy you're doing amazing and whether you know it or not you're also helping others to see that they can do it too! ❤️
Omg....SAME!!!!
She should get a phoenix tattoo!
Me too, new subscriber!
Sending greetings from New Zealand
Cindy you are so easy to watch and listen to and you are doing so well in your journey already.
I'm 6 years out of a shock 15 year relationship break up and it took me way longer to get to where you are already.
You are doing amazingly.
So happy y'all found her and join us in cheering her on! ❤
Well said; welcome, we're a large & supportive community, grown from gamers, pet lovers, & natural homemaker enthusiasts 💛
That thumbnail is amazing!!! 🔥🔥😃🔥🔥
Agreed!!!
People who claim your husband should have stayed regardless of how he felt piss me off man. Don't stay in unhealthy dynamics, and I don't wanna make it sound like I judge any of you, I don't know you. But what I'm saying is, sometimes in life you gotta make bold moves. Things that might get you judged, I escaped from toxic relationships myself A LOT (again, not saying they were the abusers or I was the victim, SOMETIMES it was the case, but mostly it was just a toxic dynamic I contributed to as well), I ghosted so many people that were dear to me, because there was just no way of ever talking this out. This is hard to swallow, but sometimes if you love someone, AND YOURSELF, you gotta give both of you a very difficult wake up call. Whether it's being brutally honest or just walking away without a word. Or maybe a combination of both. The fact Andrew is willing to still support you despite all of this I think says a lot about how he never wanted to hurt you (I might be wrong because again, I don't claim to know you better than you know yourselves, but that's how it looks to me)
Exactly this! I think people are forgetting that Cindy isn’t the only one that matters in a situation like this.
Exactly this! I think people are forgetting that Cindy isn’t the only one that matters in a situation like this.
WOW Cindy, how much you've grown in span of just 2 weeks. I'm so proud! Be your own person, thrive and even if Andrew comes back and you'll accept it, you can still be your own person. Either way, it's amazing to see you happier and more focused on your own future ♥
Cindy, I'm glad to see you're happy, but it seems a little too soon. It's only been 3 weeks since your husband of 15 years left. I find it hard to believe you're truly progressing so quickly, and I'm afraid you're not giving yourself enough time to mourn, which will be worse in the long run. I don't mean to be critical. I genuinely hope the best for you 💕
It's so awesome to see you prioritizing you and your independence Cindy! You got this!!!
It's so wonderful to see you thrive, my husband and I used to be very codependent and with the appropriate therapy and time away from each other to find ourselves, we healed and became a stronger couple. Whatever happens, you got this Cindy!! You already made so much progress 💖💖
Geez Cindy you progressed and came to such healthy conclusions so quickly. You are seriously inspiring me. Keep it up! I am so proud of you.
There's the infectious Cindy laugh and smile we've been rooting for!
I just turned 28 the beginning of the month, and I still have no idea how to light a grill, mow a lawn, drive a car all of that 😅 so you're definitely inspiring others to tackle some of their discomforts haha.
It seems like those things are never as scary as we build them up to be in our heads
I'm very happy to see you taking your life back bc I've always loved your Sims channel and when I found this channel I felt I've gotten to know more about you and you are an amazing person♡ you are alot stronger than me but watching this video it is helping me more than I can even describe as of rn
I do hope you find yourself again and continue to grow🙈I hope that you can mentally be happy enough to play sims 2 again bc it's inspired me to start over my sims 2 pleasantview and I'm attempting to do an uberhood with your perfect pleasantview as my beginnet bc it'd godsent and I would love some tips and advice on making a good rotation for it all
I'm also convinced to also use your sims 2 spreadsheet but gosh it kinda scares me
@@BabyKuzco i'm using it and it hasn't conflicted with anything at all (i have a lot of mods)
@@BabyKuzco I also started using spreadsheets for my sims games because of Cindy. I also have been looking forward to her playing again one day when she's in a better place. If that's what she even wants.
Be sure to have a reputable mechanic do a thorough inspection of that car. I used to have a Focus and had to scrap it bc the undercarriage was completely rusted out. Our mechanic said that they’re notorious for that bc they sit so low.
Congrats on finding yourself and accomplishing things you didn’t think you could! We believe in you!
I always feel like im on a Factime call with you when watching your vlogs!
BTW Cindy just so you know, when you go to clean the grill I recommend you use a grill stone as opposed to a metal brush. There have been cases of metal bits from the brush getting stuck in the grate, and then ending up in people's food and then they eat it and it can puncture you on the inside. I know it sounds unlikely but it really has happened, and it's so hard to detect when it does cause internal issues. There was a little boy who had terrible ear pain for over a week, and it wasn't until they scanned his entire head that they found he had been punctured in the back of his throat by one of these grill brush bits. They honestly should not even be sold anymore, grill stones are much safer. Sorry for the horror story, but I just want you to be safe!! Good job on the grill!!
I have been part of this channel since the beginning when you showed us your real beautiful hair, I am so proud of what you have become, keep up the good work cindy.
So proud of you, Cindy! My mom who doesn't even speak English and I have been following your journey (she knows you as the lady who taught me about sim taxes lmao) and rooting for you. This is such a wonderful new beginning.
Glad to hear you’re moving forward after some self-reflection!
Your community is behind you all the way! ❤️
You and Andrew don't have to be "the same person", you can be yourself and complete each other. I think what happened was that you and Andrew became so intertwined that you guys lost the idea of being a individual.
So happy to see you in a positive mindset, Cindy! :D No matter what happens regarding your relationship with Andrew, you got this! Starting over & starting fresh is hard and scary, but it IS possible. Also, loved watching you light the grill LOL. I am also scared of lighting them!
That's awesome! You need a vehicle! And a home. If you decide to try keep it and just redecorate. Here for you on your journey. Sending positive vibes and virtual hugs.
I found your channel a few days ago and have been binging videos. You are so real and it's refreshing. Keep your head up and congrats on the car!!
I am so proud of you! No matter what happens with your marriage, you are becoming a better YOU!
With regards to using fresh vs dried flowers and herbs, dried herbs are actually more potent/concentrated than fresh since the plant matter's cellular structure is more broken down and has less water content (dried herbs also have more surface area). For dried herbs, generally speaking, you can use one-quarter the amount you'd use of fresh herbs. I hope you found this information useful, and I'm glad to see you're well on your way to independence!! Sending love ❤️
You look so much happier and healthier, I hope things work out for you in the end
You got this💪🙏🏻. Congratulations on your new car.🤗
It is extremely valuable to treat this situation as a lesson and an opportunity for growth. Well done, Cindy
Good on you girl keep the singing going your a star⭐⭐
You are doing so well! Congratulations. I nearly lost my relationship to codependency burnout early on. It's hard, but continuously working on my issues and building independence has made us an incredible team. My 'husband' and I have been together nearly 20 years. We are not married, do not have a shared bank account, and I did not take his surname, but we gave it to our children, and we are co owners on our home. You don't have to do all the 'normal' things to have a long and happy relationship, so long as theres three independent lives. Mine, his, and the one we share.
I can see it in your face and eyes how uplifted you are. You have handled this challenging time amazingly and are inspiring. I'm really glad your seeing your potential and you haven't even had the guidance of a therapist yet, I bet you will impress them when you do see one.
I didnt want to share at first but incase it helps you to know some of us relate.
...I just left my husband of 11 years last June and he moved out last September. And honestly he was horribly mean and controlling. But I relate to making my "person" an extension of myself even now there are days I panic! Thinking "I NEED him. I need him to live. To breath to. Make my life worth living!"
But then I think slowly...our house was a dark shadow of hate and sadness that looked great from the outside in..but felt suffocating when I was living it.
I relate so so much to everything you've said.
I just turned 25 & You remind me of my mother and I 6 years ago - my father (moms husband also) was mentally, physically, emotionally & psychologically abusive toward me and kicked me out and my mom finally had enough of it and left his behind and in the very beginning it wasn’t easy for us to learn how to do the things he used to do but once we started figuring it out (fixing our cars, things that went wrong in the house etc.) we started feeling better about ourselves realizing we could do it on our own which is definitely good for me because I still live with her and when I move out I won’t have to rely on a man all the time I’ll be able to do most of it. It’s such a beautiful and amazing feeling. I pray and hope you 2 are able to work it out but you deserve whatever is best for you in the end. 💙 (Hope you see this, I’m is love & miss you over on pleasant sims , can’t wait for the big comeback 🥹)
Cindy!!! I am so proud of you! So many big accomplishments in so little time. I have to say I feel a kinship to you. I am also going through a metamorphosis right now. I am starting a job Wednesday after not working professionally for a few years due to depression. It was scary and hard, but I applied, interviewed, and beat the competition to get the job at this little gift shop. I am incredibly nervous and overwhelmed about starting, but I know this is what is best for me. It will make my life easier and will help me heal from the last four really bad years. We are doing this, one day at a time for the greater good. We got this!!!
being rewarded for conquering a fear with a nice juicy steak is SUCH a win. so much focus must be on other things that you may not have been told lately how AMAZING it is that you've so effortlessly stuck to carnivore! You're so inspiring, way to go Cindy!
This whole journey is more relatable than you know. Thank you for being so vulnerable! 💜
So proud of you Cindy! I've been a viewer for a long time and I feel like I've watched you go through so many transformations so I know you can do it 💕.
Ford focus was my first car!! Lasted 10 years and I never had major expenses with it. Good cars. Congratulations Cindy!
I used to do the same thing. My relationship didn't work out and we both moved on but now he is happy with a family and I am happy with myself and my life. I'm so thankful for everything that happened and where things are now. YOU GOT THIS!
I resonate so much with what you said about how you both may have become codependent in your relationship. I did the same thing in the relationship I was in from age 22-30. It’s ten years later, I’m happily remarried but my new partner and I have retained our own selves while supporting each other. Also, I’m a huge proponent of a shared home bank account but each person NEEDS their own private account always. 💯 agree with you! So proud of you!!
YOU’RE DOING SO GOOD!!! There’s a song that helped me reach the mindset you’re starting to get and the lyrics remind me so much of you. I’m REALLY proud of you. 💜
I’ve been silently watching your journey and I’m rooting for you! I’ve been hospitalized for bpd & I relate your struggles so much. You’re doing so good and I hope your future holds magical things and moments for you. You go girl ❤
You're kicking butt cindy! ♡♡♡
Yess girl!!! I’m so proud of you ❤️
I'm really proud of you Cindy,I'm really glad you're becoming more and more independent
you're one badass lady
keeping you in my thoughts
I’m gonna join the choir - SO FREAKING PROUD OF YOU!!! Cindy, you are so strong and brave. Big inspiration to me ♥️
You're inspiring me to start therapy, and you're looking so much better now Cindy ❤ I am proud of you, from the bottom of my heart.
just wanted to say you're the only youtuber whose videos i can watch in full without getting bored. your energy is so soothing and i'm so happy things are getting better!
Last year I realized you are one of the strongest people in the world, and you keep proving me right ❤
Cindy I just wanna thank You for.making this videos, theyve been truly conforting to watch and have helped me motívate myself into doing again what I love and inspiring me in becoming a better version of myself, it's great to see this videos help You and other people as well, I met You through your Sims 2 videos, they we're really conforting as well, hope someday You come back to streaming sims content, i wish You nothing but the Best, love your content.💫
PD: I just started making My own soap thanks to You lol 🤭
So glad to see you doing better and finding more independence. Looking forward to seeing you slowly blossom.
Cindy, been following your journey closely and I am so proud of you. Knew that this epiphany would be coming cause I‘ve been there in the past, but never thought it‘d be so soon. Believe me, once you focus on your life, loving yourself and building the life you want to live everything else will fall into place! Sending you love and light from Germany
Literally within the first 3 minutes of this vid you got me squealing and jumping around my room!! You are doing amazing omg!!!!
I am in love with this new Cindy, she is gorgeous, she is GLOWING with powerful energy, she is independent, she is a bad b**ch! I love her so much, I love you so much!! You've come so far already and I'm here for it
You look beautiful inside and out❤ This is amazing!!! Proud of you!
You are doing such an amazing job, I'm so proud of you! My fiancé suggests that next time while you are waiting for the coals to heat up, put the lid back on with the vents open, that should help the coals get hotter faster. Keep moving forward and showing yourself how incredibly capable you actually are.❤
Keep going girl 🥹 proud of you ! But also don’t feel bad about being upset and feeling emotions ! Everything you’re going through is super normal ! 💓
Cindy!!! Watching you grow and gain strength is amazing!!! Im cheering you on from the side line! Its so amazing to see you push through such hard times and come through fighting! I think i say it from all of us who watch you… GO GURL!!!! 🎉 You got this!! 👏🏼🥳
Go you! So awesome to see your growth!
My son who’s 8 raced downstairs to tell me you had a new video .. he said he wanted to make sure I knew .. bless him…
He sometimes does watch with me 🥰
that's soo cute!!
New Cindy! New Life
Cindy, I’m happy to see you making progress. You look like a completely different person from a couple days ago and much happier. Though I know you are still hurting from the separation, it’s great to see you taking steps toward independence. Transitioning to being on your own is hard, but you are strong and you can do it. Being around family and friends in Arkansas will likely be good for you. When you feel ready, you can even try something like a weekly volunteer group or other common interest group to help you meet friends and get out of the house a bit. it also gives you something positive to look forward to and focus on.
Continue to keep up with your therapy and make sure that you’re not making hasty decisions. Make sure you know that you’re going to sell the house before you make plans around it so you can continue manage your finances and not be stuck with the car payment and a mortgage payment.
All the pieces are coming together! So proud of you ❤
Small but sure steps. Take the small wins and happy lil moments no matter how long they last. You'll get there.
This is where the advice comes into play when people say “things get better with time”. It may never seem like it when we are in the eye of the storm but eventually it blows over. It just seems like it never will at first. You may still have some ups and downs ahead of you but you’re stronger now and you won’t be the same you as before. Go Cindy!!!! I feel weird saying the following because ofc who am I to give advice and you don’t even know me KNOW me but I’ve seen many times that having separate bank accounts being a bad thing for couples. Idk first hand. That’s the thing but I’ve seen it said and heard it said onto others and idk why. But I know you have a sense of empowerment but take it maybe a little at a time? I actually thought you would end up liking your freedom and I’m glad you do. There is nothing wrong with depending on another for some things here and there but ya may be doing a whole 180. Actually nvm it makes sense because you did say you don’t even know if you want to get back with him yet or at all. I really think this is good for you Cindy. Sometimes some couple do spend every waking moment with each other and boast how “oh we never get sick of each other. We are best friends and we do everything together. We don’t fight…” but time apart is healthy. Doing things apart is healthy I think. Isn’t it? Having our own hobbies and stuff is healthy. Isn’t it? Idk but I think it is. I just feel like you are speaking out of anger instead of clarity. I really don’t want to upset you with my words Cindy. Don’t want to offend you. No, I don’t say this out of common courtesy. I say this because I’ve been a fan of yours for like 2 plus years now. I’m saying like a friend may say to another. So no, I don’t want to offend you or upset you.
As someone who constantly afraid of doing things out of my comfort zone, this video was seriously encouraging. Proud of you Cindy
🤗 hugs. I loved seeing you get a car ,grill your own steak and burgers. I know it must feel good to have control of your life. It's exciting and probably addicting. This did push you no matter the outcome. It's nice to have your own plans , he either can go with you and the journey or go live his own life . Lesson is it might hurt but won't break you. You're only getting stronger.
I know real life connections are higher priority, but it would be awesome if you brought your Discord back! Just a nice way to have your community and friends share in your enthusiasm in real time. But that might be a better idea when you move and get settled in.
Excited for you Cindy! I hope driving and everything feels freeing and inspirational for you. I know I felt that way when I got to finally drive myself to college before I graduated haha. I love seeing Gibbons and the pets. 💌
Trying to get space and think about things while stuck in a tiny house together would've probably be really uncomfortable and stressful for you both. I know it still sucks and idk everything and all that, but I hope things work out for the better because of some time apart.
This is that sense of freeing power I spoke about and isn’t it wonderful when you realize all the things you’ve just now come to terms with ?! I’m happy for you so keep it going and live your best life ! You got this !!
Been single for 15 year I be 50 this year .we don't need a man to complete us .I work what's mine is mine I not got to thank no one .X girl power .you go girl X
Ps never been married never want to .yes it gets lonely.but what I got is mine don't have to thank a man at all .I come and go as I want don't have to answer to no one .X
The first few seconds of the video already give off a completely different vibe than before. You seem uplifted with a genuine smile. I’m so happy you’re doing good ❤️
23:39 that’s awesome 👏
be proud of ur achievements
I’m glad to see you’re doing better. But I’m worried that you’re being impulsive. It’s only been 3 weeks and you haven’t seen your therapist. Maybe something to consider.
so so proud of you. You've got this xx
the transformation that you’ve made in such a short time is really inspiring
very inspirational. made me think about the dependency on my partner. you are taking big steps. you should be proud of yourself. there is a saying in Germany: wenn du dich auf andere verlässt, bist du verlassen
which translates to: when you rely on others you'll be abandoned
so it is really important to learn, how to be your own person, live your own life, be independent and keep yourself nurtured, healthy and happy.
Woohoo! YOU GO GIRL 🎉 I'm in awe of the changes you've made in just a few weeks. I can tell you're more at peace by the way you're acting. I've been following you for three years and I think this is the most confident I've ever seen you in a video. You rock!
Also congrats on the car! I can't wait to see how the process goes, I've been thinking about using carvana myself.
I love how talkative Gibbons is in the vid. He's so cute 😻
Proud of you for learning to start your grill on your own! 💙
I'm amazed at your insight today. I came across your channel a few weeks ago when you posted your distress over your relationship issues. Watching your progression is amazing. Keep to the path you are on & nothing can stop you. You are tapping into your inner strength & nothing is more beautiful. You are strong, resilient, & adaptive, and that makes you more than a survivor, it makes you the author of your destiny. You have this. 🤗
cindy, your strength and perseverance is nothing short of inspiring!! i am rooting for you girl!! 💗💗
I’m so happy for you Cindy!!! Came for the Sims content long ago, stayed for your vlogs ☺️ And again as a vet student, thanks for clarifying on Gibbons diet. Glad to know he’s getting the best care ❤️
while you were saying you were so proud of yourself for trying to do something that scares you - i was cooking with chicken which is something i always feel anxious about! i did it and it was delish, and your speech really made me feel great
Love all the progress ❤❤❤ I bought my car from Carvana in November. I really like the overall process considering the difference between vehicle search and application. There was a few delays on the delivery and a little frustration with that (I’m in NY) but they delivered on time on the second delayed date and they were very professional and provided a nice folder with all info. Best of luck with it and congrats!
Your hair is looking so good and healthy!!! Also I am so proud of you. The change over the past few weeks has been so noticeable to me. I have been a quiet watcher these past few weeks, but fully rooting for you all this time. Your content has been so helpful to me for years. It will still be hard, you will still have those moments of grief. But you *can* do it on your own. Regardless of Andrew, you will be okay. And again I am so incredibly proud of you!!!!
Put yourself first! It’s much easier to have relationships with other people (romantic or not), when you are your own priority and they are theirs 😊 ❤
IM SO PROUD!!!! CONGRATS ON THE CAR!!!
New follower here! I’m excited to see the salve making process!
I can tell that you are feeling more positive as your face is so much brighter which is so good to see. Go you Cindy you are doing amazing.
You have grown sooo much in these last weeks it’s so inspiring! And I’m so happy that ur feeling so good about ur growth and I can feel the strength you have and how ur only gonna continue to get stronger and independent I always tell myself when I’m not in control it is what it is and what’s gonna happen is gonna happen and I can do my best to go the direction I want but I can’t push to hard cause I find the harder I push in a direction not destined the harder I end up falling all these vlogs make me want to grow stronger too ! It’s so amazing to see u so energetic and happy and see ur warming smile I’m so happy :)
Good for you. I was going to say, don't set yourself up thinking if he sees the video or anything else that he would come back, because you would set yourself up for feeling like you failed again. So, good for you. You really do need to do that anyway with your finances and things, that way it would help you either way.
IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! You’re doing to well and I’m so happy for you ♥️
I know it was a while ago, but you were asking for song recommendations, and I feel like I have the perfect song for you. It’s helped me more than once: Last Hope - Paramore.
One door closes another one opens. Happy to know you are finding yourself,
What an amazing revelation, Cindy! So proud of you! I think also acknowledging that you weren't a sole actor in the relationship, and that responsibility lies in both of you, is a huge step forward too. Here's to becoming your own person!
You’re getting better and better! Whatever happens Cindy, you’re making yourself a better woman for whoever is in your future!
I wish I didn’t live in Indiana. I would love to be your friend irl. Having support in your life is just… incredible. But regardless, I’m proud of you! And I hope my donations help!
I just started watching your channel and I have to say I am so freaking proud of you !!! You have gotten so far in a short time and you are healing yourself and that is the smartest thing anyone can do. Be a strong independant woman 🎉🎉🎉
Seeing your smile in the beginning made me so happy to see🥺💜🌙
carvana is more of a problem because sometimes they don't get the car titles before they sell them, that's what happened with my aunts car and the car she bought was reported as stolen so she is currently in that lawsuit with them from NC. Idk if it's over yet or what but I know dealerships near you will also deliver them and so will CarMax. I'm currently looking at a new car and the dealership that is about 30 minutes away will deliver it to me for free and they delivered one to me for a few days for a test drive so it was nice. So if the Caravan doesn't work out you can also check regular dealerships or Carmaxes! So happy for you getting a car though and such
Congrats on your new car, Cindy!! Love seeing you embrace your adventurous side!