@@noirefit5954 Why is she hiding her feelings if not to make the other person think it's all's ok. Even the lady supposed to be correcting her is triggered as well. What a mess they both are.
@@adolphus2002why does a man who doesn’t care about her need to see her hurting or humiliated? Just take the L but at least preserve some dignity. Not everyone deserves to see you sweating over them especially of evidently its not worth it. Do you let anyone and everyone trigger you and see you mad showing your feelings? Most likely that answer is no. Bet you, you pick and choose who has the right to see certain emotions?
@@tytypartridge3135 That's not dignity, that's stupid pride which suppresses and festers internally. There are healthy ways to express hurt. The fact remains that if the man triggers you he will know. Wether you hide it or not. Cos every action you take around him will be to hide it. An experienced man who knows that nobody is an emotional superman will know which buttons to push when he wants to have fun at her expense. Do not suppress; express healthily and leave pride out of it.
I felt her with everything in me but you know what I've noticed women are always made to be accountable even for men and told to keep our worth while the man runs amok and is told he's a man and he's gonna do what men do and it's sickening to be a witness to boys will be boys still today. The grooming we get is the grooming they actually need.
@@mercymusinguzi2516Kitty was right u shouldn't entertain the confusion,mix signals or bare minimum from a person. Treat him accordingly. Until it's official u are single 👌🏾💯
Ladies can you please tell me why yall deal with/sleep with men who you arent married/long time committed too? Is it something yall can’t control or???
Why ain't you playing in your own face if you having sex with somebody that ain't offering you no commitment??? and if that's what both of y'all agree on what are you even crying about
If you tell the man you don't want nothing serious was he supposed to do stay in the house and don't go nowhere with nobody cuz you not being honest about your feelings? sound like you played in your own face
I wouldn't said a word, I saw my boyfriend at the mall with another girl, me and my dad was shopping I looked over the railing and saw him walking with her holding hands, my father grabbed my hand and said you better not cry, he said were going downstairs you walk up to him kiss him on the cheek, introduce yourself to her and tell him I will talk to you later have a good evening and sashae' away with style and grace. My father passed away this Saturday 😢 May he rest with God. I will forever miss him.
Very intelligent father, so happy you had that moment/ words of wisdom from him. So many women don’t/ didn’t have a father to lead them… My condolences
Sorry for your loss, but you daddy is worth calling a father who learn you to value yourself , and let nobody walk on your heart. Mine is still alive a baby believe he is the same
Okay harshly, the ole girl on stage gave it to her. Like Sis, what? Why are you stooping low? Get some self-worth about cha and stand the heck up this is 2024!!
@@cedricemanuel2068She didn’t expose anything but herself. Let’s not pretend that she is a victim in this situation because she’s not. She decided to fuck him, and that’s all there was to it. She doesn’t have the right to be upset because he hasn’t made any commitments to her. Women need to be accountable for themselves when dealing with these type of dudes. A man is only going to do what he knows, and if you don’t boss up and set clear boundaries, you’re going to end up playing yourself. And if you decide to fuck before becoming exclusive, then you have to prepare for the possibility of catching feelings, which is a dangerous game for both men and women.
Phew! The moment women decenter men, become intentional about healing and protecting their peace - life changing! Pour that energy back into yourself. It WILL change your life, Sis.
Nah too much pressure to pretend like we okay is not good either. That’s coming from ego as well. Of course it’s a balance, we have to decide when it’s best for our own peace to speak up and when not to.
@@timharris1675exactly she talking about we stroking their ego by saying something but it’s our own ego that makes us want to act unbothered and unaffected. If you like a man and he with someone else it’s normal to feel hurt. Everybody out here nonchalanting that why we can’t build real connections.
Facts, and all the responses here that are saying "he ain't for you, or he's not worth it", obviously didn't catch that part...even listening and responding from low vibes; like how Mrs Kitt set the stage for all the women though
Would most people feel a way if someone theyre having sex with told them they weren’t messing with anyone else but they were? Because let’s not act like people won’t lie.
Women must learn the power of “you can have her” and really mean it. Leave them with that subpar woman they cant leave alone and it will leave them depressed i promise you 😂
@@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7 i try to give women free game on here all the time lol. Only women with either self esteem, options, or not afraid of solitude will move like this.
@@intentionalhome you have a point but when you do find out he is dealing with someone else like this woman did, the best move you can make is to let him have her. When you know you have no excuse after that.. unless of course you have low self esteem, have no options or afraid to be alone.
I don’t think this young lady should have been shamed. She was already embarrassed and low she didn’t even confront the young man she was speaking of. My heart goes out to the young lady because she clearly has feelings for this guy and set her standards lower than she needed too. We saw the consequences of her actions happen in real time.
Stop with the BS!! That's why these young girls are out here acting a FOOL and looking ridiculous!!! If she had any real shame SHE WOULD NOT HAVE STOOD UP AND PUT HER BUSINESS OUT THERE!!! She THOUGHT she was going to shame him or the other lady and it backfired! This coodling of GROWN FOLKS has to stop!!!
Tripp, advice was on point for the young lady . Never allows someone to love bomb you to get to your vulnerable spot and have access to you without action.
I’m glad kittie sobered up the room real quick. Stop giving a man like that undeserved attention and energy. He knew exactly what he was doing. Walk past him like he never existed and you’ll be just fine.
I'm not entertaining the confusion, mix signals,the bare minimum or inconsistency from a Guy. However I'ma treat him accordingly... And that's ok I owe him nothing until he makes things clear claim me as his own I am single 😘✌🏾🥂💯
What she really should ah e done was got up there and asked a question and a whole different man and let him be sitting in his seat steaming like who tf she sleeping with besides me 😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah and I wish women weren’t judged like, his dumbass is perfectly fine sleeping with another woman but if she had done that, asked a question like she is referring to another dude then his weak ass would have probably declared that she is loose or a hoe. Which she really isn’t. Women have come a long ways but we still get judged by society HARSHLY.
The “oop” at 0:36 was me … but baby spoke nothing but facts . Never let em’ see you sweat baby . Do it in private but never w/ em or in front of em’, especially if they not even meant to be permanent.
It is common sense if he is with another female, and he sees you and walks past, you act like he doesn't exist. This is the reason people need to be single and learn to love themselves first. This is for men's and women's always move in silent. And if they can make you mad, they can control you.
Maybe I'm wrong in what I'm going to say, however.....I feel women give up the cookie too quickly. If you would just take the time, study this person, see how words and actions combine. Wait for things to not be so great to see how this person is going to hold up by you. When you show that personal aspect of yourself to hold no value, to look like nothing more than scratching an itch, that's what it will become for him. Scared of losing him if you don't....you already lost with that mind set. Call me old fashioned, frigid, whatever you want, doesn't matter one iota to me. But you going to show me first WHO you are before anything happens and I will have to love you. If the way I think means I end up alone. So be it. I don't mind my own company. 🙂
It's not about giving it up to fast. It's about knowing what each other wants in other words what type of sexual relationship are the both of you seeking. It's not the best idea to develop emotional attachments to someone you don't know if your sexually compatible with that person.
@@wangtang12no he’s right a lot of women do give up the cookies too fast and it stays blowing up in their faces. We as men can’t keep demanding low body counts yet in the same thought process not dealing with women who withhold sex because they want or require some form of commitment. Like he said, if women wants to avoid fuck niggas, it’s simple, withhold sex, and that action alone will keep her body count low and filter out a lot of men that don’t have good intentions. She may be lonely for a season, but long-term it’ll be in her best interest.
@Reed_______ respect has nothing to do with it. It's about being honest about what type of relationship does an individual wants and being honest about it.
A woman's vagina alone can not keep a man and has no real value. If a woman wants to keep a man, she has to be of value outside of sex. If a woman wants a man to take her seriously, she has to be of value outside of what she offers sexually.
I saw a lot of people on TikTok saying that Kittie was harsh, but she really wasn’t. She gave tough love. She gave truth. The reality is is that you giving your energy to a dude who you not in a relationship with. So you figured that you’d come up to the mic and “embarrass” him, but you embarrassed yourself but trying to put a man on blast who you allowed to disrupt your peace
I disagree; emotional intelligence is just as important. I'm guessing the speaker felt emboldened to do that off of the high energy the audience was giving her.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life , but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t , I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
The gag is ole girl ACCEPTED the driveby peen without stipulations or agreement. Then wanted to be upset AFTER seeing him with someone else because SHE didnt demand more, but left him to his own devices to test random (like her)cookie boxes or work for cookie box manufacturing plant permanent rights.
She was right and wrong. There were several ways she could have said that without being so aggressive and attacking that girl. She acted like that shit was personal! The woman was obviously hurt and needed advice. She asked a valid question and didn't call any names or look the man's way. There was nothing foolish about that. She couldn't help the crowds foolish reaction. Sis need to relax and do better in her position.
The delivery could Be argued but what she said was right. That young lady needed that because as a woman we never are get on a platform and discuss actively "f-ing" someone. Baby girl was in her feelings for her to reference him on the least- he was not worth it
As I've always said, give them the very opposite of what they expect, or are trying to accomplish to MY detriment....You will NEVER know my emotional state because I'm conditioned not to react to shenanigans😉❤️🔥
If she had not simply reacted based on emotion, she would have pretended not to see ol’ boy sitting there on a double date and not gone up to the mic at all. Or, she could have at least asked about one of the following: 1) her “man” (making it obvious she’s not talking about dude) 2) the perils of juggling three or four guys at a time 3) finding it difficult to commit to one person 4) recently getting back with her ex and being scared because he’s done a whole 180 for the better 5) whether or not it’s wrong to fake orgasms
She was in the moment. It’s like thinking of a better comeback after you just had a fight 😂. She didn’t process it like you typed it out. And she was most likely upset and triggered too. Just saying.
She did stand up and stood on her business. Don't let her fool with you. You better call him out girlfriend. I would have. She basically just took that whole man side, and made that lady look bad.
I don't get what the "expert" is saying. Seems like the girl was just letting him know you're caught and its over. She just put him on blast like everyone else does these day. That expert was just sassy like she been hurt so many times she no longer good for anyone. She how quick and easy that argumentative offence centered tone came out. Really what dude, after that speech, would even look her way. It's always these people who really don't have anyone who are giving advice. That was not even advice, that was just her anger speaking to the dudes in her past. She tried to lay it on the lady, exhibiting to the other ladies that sometimes your worse enemy is that "sister" giving advice, because she want you to end up just like she is, alone.
I keep seeing people calling the speaker “emotionally intelligent”. Do you all know what that is? Here a hint: Speaking truth without compassion, tact, and consideration for another person’s emotions is not it.
Well sometimes that IS what works imagine getting up and admitting in front of EVERYONE that you are a sidechick me God forbid even if I was dying inside the way I ll snub you you ll glance back to make sure it's me .she should have handle that privately .
I was just listening like I get it, but I don't like the delivery of the message. It came across as she was putting this woman down while giving advice.
What….the host is wrong! Call him out. I disagree with her. Stand on 10 toes. Call a player out. It was a nice way she did it too. No confrontation and left the world know. Good for her not being passive.
Meanwhile…the other woman is laughing at you and will continue to sleep with him thinking that she’s hurting you. And he will play the both of you until somebody grows tf up.
Ol' girl needed a hug because she was rightfully hurt. We are humans and ALL of us have emotions, rather we are tapped into those emotions or not is one thing. There is nothing foolish about expressing your emotions and being human. I wouldn't have shown any emotion publicly...because that is how I naturally operate. However, not everyone operates that way, and that's okay. She is not wrong for expressing her hurt and she doesnt have to think or react how anyone else thinks she should to avoid ''embarrassing herself,'' wtf. We have all been in a situation similar or this exact situation. None of us...even the panelist know, how long she was dealing with that man. Just because she said they were ''fugging'' doesn't mean that it was just a 1 night stand type of situation...we have all said things out of anger. I hope she doesn't allow this situation to turn her bitter, she has a beautiful spirit about herself.
Rightfully, how? No. She played a stupid game and won a stupid prize! Sex is even more dangerous for women bc it puts you at risk for pregnancy (no fool-proof contraceptive) and she has low standards. Men will treat you how you allow. She’s in a situationship, not a real relationship. She didn’t require serious commitment before giving her body so all is fair! Dude is not her man!
The lady who stood up was already emotional. Her feelings were real and raw. I think the response was harsh and embarrassed her more. I would have had someone pass her a note, or said straighten your crown sista, holla at me or someone from my team after the show. Uplift don’t chastise and cause harm
Thank you!! I couldn’t agree more. Where’s the empathy? As if Miss Kittie would’ve wanted someone to speak to her like that publicly! C’mon now! Nobody would’ve felt comfortable in that woman’s position. She genuinely was shocked, devastated, confused and heartbroken. There’s a way to correct someone, and it’s always better if it’s done privately, in my opinion. I would’ve told her, baby come back stage with me and we can speak about this then, and directed the crowd to the next question. In my opinion, all Miss Kittie did was expose herself as an insensitive woman who gladly, publicly put another woman down in order to make herself feel better; and that’s showing that she’s got lower self esteem than the woman she’s speaking on. It’s a damn shame, but people do not think at all anymore, Sis! Even worse, folks will pretend they got it all together and should be giving advice, when they can’t even truly empathize or have the emotional intelligence to privately express her thoughts. Yes ma’am! We should be fixing each other’s crowns. But, emotionally mature woman who truly love and respect themselves, are the only ones capable of doing that. (I know this is a long response, I apologize) But with all that being said, let me just go head and remind you that you’re an incredibly beautiful soul!! Inside and out! Your genuine love and concern for your fellow women is so evident, and you’ve got a genuine heart. What an encouragement you are!! I sincerely pray that you receive all the love, strength, encouragement, patience, devotion, time, money, and sincere compassion that you’ve so freely and genuinely given, one hundred fold! May God keep and bless you and your family, tremendously, in Jesus’ name.
@@emilyjoeblow9755 Thank you so much!! I receive it 🙌🏾You’re an encouragement as well. You just uplifted my spirit! I hope you receive blessings in every aspect of your life. Yes ma’am we are absolutely on the same page with how to encourage and uplift one another. We can see past the sensationalism because of real life experiences. It’s not about clicks and views. It’s about personal growth, evolution, and healing. May God keep his arms around you 💫
I love Kittie! She medicine to the soul. You know how when you’re not feeling well but you don’t want to take medicine because it’s nasty but on the flip side it’ll make you feel better!! Well that’s Kittie, we might not want to hear what she’s saying but her words identify where we are, they penetrate, and heal all at the same time.
Can we please normalize being in a monogamous relationship before sex? It is physically and mentally safer for everyone. “Oh I’m sorry, sex is only available when I’m in a serious relationship.”
That's somewhat unrealistic. To be in a relationship before you find out if both of you are sexually compatible. You need to have sex first before committing
Standing on the promises of Christ my Savior and King-. My self esteem is wrapped up in Him and Him alone! Yes… it’s lonely out here-. But when I see and hear stuff like THIS- I’m glad I’m alone, old and celibate-
This poor woman went out to have a good time and got embarrassed and totally disrespected by this female panelist... that's sad and unfortunate and the wordplay could've been formed way better and the response could've been more on the productive and positive side...
It appears that She was in her feelings about a guy she was "only sleeping" with and thought that women were going to side with her if she exposed him. When in reality she should have kept her business private asked her question and sat down.
she asked her question I just don’t understand why kitty chose to belittle her in the process. If she is OK with putting her business out there, then that is her choice.. the ultimate disrespect and sign that she is overly pressed over the guy is to as soon as she seen him and decide to run up on him or the female cause a commotion would make her go out sad, but she kept her composure, and asked the question as to how she should feel what she should do. so kitty could have given her the same response, but not belittle her and tell her how she should carrie herself that represents the upmost respect for herself.
Remember back in high school, I was 16 at the time me and another girl pulled up to a guy's house at the same time. We both walked to the door and rang the bell and actually had small talk while waiting. He never came outside, I could hear him running inside of the house. Both of us ended up leaving peacefully and kept it real cute with each other😂
What in the entire ****?😂 Yes, you're right. She did make a fool out of herself because that man ain't giving 2 ****s about putting him on blast. That definitely interrupted her soul. Y'all not together boo. Find another man hunny. That was too much😁
"...interrupted her soul" Deep. Imma use that. We can't let any situation or person accomplish that. Sounds like you will be no more good for yourself. Just empty. Stripped of all. No place to retreat to.
Lol, didn’t women encourage each other to date multiple men to figure out what they like??? Lol why does he have to be a clown or a bad person when y’all ARENT DATING 😂😂😂. Just “sleeping together”.
That’s why she looked crazy, cuz honey yall not even committed and you giving him this kind of energy?!? But this is also why you don’t sleep with everyone you’re casually dating either! Dating should not equal to accessing my body. That’s why she mad because she already connected her body to him and now she feels entitled. That’s not how this works, but she gone learn.
@@mssheena24 exactly. I’m shocked at how many women actually initiate the sex after dates. I’m the type of guy that prefers for a woman to make the first move in terms of intimacy, and let me tell you, I rarely get past the first date without them trying something 🤦🏾♂️. Like sheesh, I was tryna be a gentleman 😂😂
She definitely played herself! I'm all for dating but sleeping together creates bonds that I don't want or need. I really think she thought the panel/audience was going to be in her favor.
I just said something about this like females test men like this all the time to try to make us jealous one of the test females give us just reversed on her and she didn't know how to control
You’re not supposed to be having sex while multi-dating. You’re supposed to vet and see which one you’re most compatible with and like the most, and drop all the others FIRST AND mutually agree to do the same and be exclusive. Smashing multiple men at once is NOT the move for a self-respecting woman!
When you are a proverbs 31 woman the Lord will give you an Ephesian 5 man in his perfect time because he is the perfect match maker You don’t have to worry what your husband is doing (I say husband because a proverbs 31 woman is a wife not a girlfriend) behind open or closed doors That man will love you physically mentally and spiritually
I agree. I adore Tripp and Kittie more than Kita and everyone else. From the videos I’ve watched on UA-cam and IG, Kita has too much emotion damage. Which there is nothing wrong with having emotions, but she lets her emotions bleed out too quickly by the way she responds to the audience and the other cast members.
Thank you….. I see how everyone is jumping on the bandwagon, however, can someone help me understand how she played herself. None of us know how long she has been dealing with this dude or how long it took her to give it to this dude or even the history. My thing is her calling him out not only helps her to move on, but now helps this new woman or the other woman know he may not be being truthful to her either.. I feel like she would not be respecting herself is if she continues to deal with him after this moment.
I agree and it's something about this kitties lady I don't trust. She seems angry or something. She didn't have to further embarrassed her like that she now gave the guy all the ammo he needed to notfeel at all for what he did. As a therapist I dont see whyshe thought thus was a good idea
Your feelings are fleeting and the world don't have to care about your own personal feelings goofy. They're your feelings so you manage them goofy bop😑
@Superlife1369 his homeboy and two woman. The girl could be homeboy sis and her friend or family. Just jumped to conclusions. I had a girl I smashed one night chase me down in her car in traffic because she saw a woman in my car. I was taking my friend to the hospital smh. Goofy ass women I swear lol.
One thing I want Black women to doing is STOP criticizing each other. I felt that the speaker words were harsh and unnecessary. If anything she should have approached her in a loving manner. There's a way to redirect in love. No one is perfect. We all have played the fool once in life. So, let's talk with each other and not at each other. Most importantly, listen to people. Listening is so underrated these days.😢
We've ALL been dumb at some stage of our lives. HOWEVER, when you know better, you do better. With that all said..... Babyyyy, aint no screwing, unless you choosing. 📌
@@newme1813 oh for sure we all have. But ain't it grand when you get to a place in your life where you control the emotions & the flesh that "outer man" because you control it and not the other way around? I got that peace that surpasses all understanding.
@@lastnamefirst9423 kitty is a therapist who is emotionally balanced and speaks the truth no matter what. Y’all are too emotional and this is coming from a woman. Pls get this shit together 😂
1st of all yes as DJ Khaled famously says -- "CONGRATULATIONS - YOU PLAYED YOURSELF!!" ma'am why put yourself in a bad light? You should have done the Recon, taken note of the situation, and done what he did ACT LIKE YOU AINT KNOW HIM... Then blocked all access to that person. Please don't argue, don't stress because you meant nothing to him but a good time. When he treats you like a placeholder, remove yourself.
See when I think about going back outside, but I see stuff like this....I stop thinking and go check my door to make sure the deadbolt is locked, the chain is hooked, the latch is on, a chair is pushed up under the knob, and the security camera is on. For now!!🤭 I'm good Lord!!! I'll wait!!!!
This is what happens when you are out there just sleeping around. Better to wait until you are married and anyone that does not want to wait. You move on!
The lady at the mic, wearing her emotions on her sleeves. Shouting out full blast as if that is the answer to her ills. A room full of women ready to go lower with her and thankfully they were saved by the host holding her mic.
That speech a bit of a stretch and if ole girl is embarrassing herself you just made it so much worse. All she had to say was “Everyone has free will . how he treats you is how he feels about you. So, now that you see how he feels about you, adjust accordingly”
That needed to be said! Don't let these allow these men to have any control of your emotions especially if he's some guy you sleeping with close that cookie jar and move on!
She should have stood up and asked a question like it was directed for her new man? Act like you didn't even notice him & block him from that day forward! 🤞🏽
If a woman sets high standards for herself, and doesn’t treat sex casually, she can ask for a relationship before sex. You wouldn’t have the heartbreak in this video. Protect your heart and the man will respect you for it. If he doesn’t, then let the player go he’s not your man.
Wow! 🤦♀️I can't believe she just outted and embarrassed herself like that. First off it sounds like he's just her sex partner, so there's no actual commitment which means they both can do as they please. This is the issue with "hook up" culture, men have no issues sleeping around without catching feelings, whereas most women are more emotional, we grow a connection and "hope" the man will "choose" you but in all reality he's using you for sex. Get it together ladies or live with that L in silence. 🤷♀️
I'm confused? All she did was say she seen him here with someone else and he's misleading her. She didn't say she's gonna take him back. So how is that statement means she has low self worth? Cuz he's stepping out & no committing??
I don’t disagree with her, but it’s also ok to allow yourself to experience your emotions and ask for support in doing so. I think that’s the only thing the response lacked.
I don’t know who this lady is, but kudos 👏 We women have to respect ourselves to receive respect. Hope the audience member learns and moves on in peace.
As much as it sounds good what she's saying about disruption of your peace and is correct, these women are still doing this, I pray with her expressing this truth so ascertively she doesn't wind up being like the woman she says women shouldn't be like. In my life I have heard and witnessed so many women speak out of this little hole in our face about what they wouldn't take or do for a man and then turn around and do something more devastating than what they spoke about.. Lord I will just pray for all people that are sleeping with ego seekers... ❤❤❤❤😂
I think when she messed up is saying I’m here with the guy that I’m fucking, which limited herself to just a side piece because she didn’t say her man. So she could’ve been messing with somebody else’s man and didn’t know because she didn’t take the time to get to know him, so she should’ve just played it light. Now, if she was married to him engaged to him, and then saw him there that might’ve been a reason to bring it up, but she should’ve been more strategic with how she brought it up. She should’ve put it in a situation where the question she presented made him look like a fool… Maybe saying I’ve been dating this guy mentioned some things that makes sure he knows it’s him and then say something embarrassing like, his stuff don’t work so well or some other embarrassing fact, and then ask the question how should I break it to him because he seems like a pretty decent guy and I care for him? Or, just take the moment as clarity and move forward with no need to say anything. Especially if, with the speaker said at the end was true, and he saw you and spoke to you like nothing. Then you just eat that and don’t deal with it anymore. Don’t take any calls, no conversation and definitely don’t hook up with him again and don’t, sound bitter. Thank God for the clarity and do better next time.
It's a lot of people here that think because they don't speak they are less toxic. Speaking on someone publicly in this way is an ego trip for her. She didn't pull this lady to the side and say no baby we not going to do that. She got clout off her. The man feeling highly about himself right now because he there with another woman and the lady put her down. She didn't speak real to her. Cause that man in there sweating and the lady is probably just floating because of she would have saw them before that day she probably would have caused a whole real scene and made it ghetto for everyone. The lady acknowledged she was with someone that clearly isnt with her. The low vibe is the man and the woman as well as the people in the comments that thought she read her. When you really vibing high you free to speak without embarrassment you open to the fact that you are in fact human and things aren't always what you expect are thought and you are not afraid to be authentic or fallible...good luck to the weirdos that are saying anything opposite of this.
The corrected and the corrector made the wrong moves. The corrected shouldn’t have even bothered to address the guy at all. Pay him dust. The corrector, if she really cared for the woman, should have pulled her aside and told her all what she said on stage in private. When is all this performative crap going to come to an end?
The woman on the stage talking about self-esteem decided to pour salt on the wound and publicly call her a fool in front of an audience. That was terrible.
She really thought she did something outing him out. But she’s right once you allow someone to know they have power over you they’ll always have the ability to control you. This dude isn’t embarrassed he probably laughing with his home boy. If there was no relationship established then he’s free to do as he pleases and so is she.
I would never embarrass myself further and say anything out lound in public. If I felt some type of way, I would speak my peace to him after then go on my way.
The way y’all always make about the woman is the reason why these men will never feel no type of way. She has a right to feel that way, if it was vice versa y’all wouldn’t be saying this y’all would be calling her all types of whores and women ain’t loyal etc.
Did they have an understanding that they’re in a relationship? If he lied to her and said yes I’ll be in a relationship with you just to get the box then that’s one thing. She didn’t say that was HER MAN. Men live in reality. If he was just dancing in the sheets with her then he wouldn’t reasonably expect that that was his girl. The woman in here does what every woman does at a certain point and sticks her claws in a man and gets POSSESSIVE and angry.
It's important to stay in control of your emotions, especially when someone tries to provoke you. In this situation, it would have been better for her to acknowledge him calmly, as if she was unbothered, and then block him. This way, she could have avoided unnecessary drama and moved on with her life. When she wants to be bothered with him, unblock. Other then that keep it moving. She let him know who has the upper hand by standing up to that mac and saying that foolishness.
the takes on here are shite sometimes. like don't let him know that his behaviour is horrible and hurt you. no you can tell him his behaviour was horrendous and he hurt you and then walk away. all the mind games that get preached don't do anything but further more mind games.
You're missing the point. That's not her man. That's some dude that she's letting have access to her body without a commitment. She's already played herself. Now, to add insult to injury, she's publicly telling the world that she played herself.
It's sad that so many of us run to flawed people like us looking for answers instead of just going to GOD and truly focus on him to mold you, make you, educate you, inform you of your purpose, and bless you. At the end of the day, it's just speeches that sound good but depend on the circumstances everyone on the panel and the audience can and will fall prey to whomever running game.
Women trippin over sneaky links....the madness needs to stop. The man clearly does not want you or he would have pulled up on the double date with you. Stop giving people your body if you want more from the situation. Trill AC said in another episode...."we think we can change the person or what they want so we engage in the physical relationship knowing we want a real relationship with that man." Accept the fate girl and move on, stop making yourself side chick/sneaky link material. Then come to the mic messy as hell airing dirty laundry. 🤦♀️ I'm embarrassed for her because she thought that man would care
Nah - I am not on board with victim blaming and shaming. Clearly, that man misled and lied to her on some level. Whatever their relationship, she was under the impression it was monogamous (given her reaction). Now, I wouldn't have announced it to a roomful of people like she did, but HE is the problem. She likely referred to him as the man she's f*g out of anger. Maybe she (the speaker) was quick to judge without the backstory. You are not responsible for anyone lying to you, disrespecting you, or betraying your trust. Period. That narrative is so harmful as it perpetuates the cycle of predatory people taking advantage of others, laying blame at their feet and shirking accountability.
Ummm…she said the man she was screwing…not seeing..dating…SCREWING! He owes her nothing, including an explanation. She played herself by agreeing to be his human blow-up doll. He obviously doesn’t see her as gf material so she needs to move on and stop sleeping with men who didn’t think enough of her to commit FIRST!
THANK YOU!!! Because that’s definitely what I thought-it seemed he told her he wasn’t dealing with anyone else so surprise surprise to see him out with someone at the show. I wonder if the responses would be the same if genders were swapped. Anyone would feel a way in her position if they were misled.
@@shalalala868 As I said, she may have referred to him that way out of anger. He may have very well been her boyfriend (as far as she knew) - which is usually exactly how these situations go down. Let's be real. If he gave her the impression that they were monogamous knowing full well he had no intention to do so (and he probably did), then he is a liar and should be held accountable for that much. If they were in agreement that they were in an open arrangement, she would not have reacted this way.
One thing is very clear women like to coddle the emotionally immature whether its the men they date or their friends like this girl. The man made absolutely no commitment to her. She gave more than she got. This was all by her choice. Then she gets mad that he is doing exactly what he has always shown her through no commitment? She said fucking - there is no relationship. Any women knows if you describe a situation like that there are no ties but lust. When the rules of engagement is clear but you refuse to acknowledge it but wanna play the game thinking the other person eill eventually feel the way you do. Stop coddling grown women maming these terrible situationships a thing. She probabby either have loads of friends like people who reacted in the crowd or she's that friend no one can say nothing about when it comes to their situationship.
NEVER LET EM SEE YOU SWEAT. Feel them feelings in private, deal with em, move accordingly
Even if you are? Now who is being dishonest and manipulative.
@@adolphus2002how is that dishonest and who is it manipulating?
@@noirefit5954 Why is she hiding her feelings if not to make the other person think it's all's ok.
Even the lady supposed to be correcting her is triggered as well. What a mess they both are.
@@adolphus2002why does a man who doesn’t care about her need to see her hurting or humiliated? Just take the L but at least preserve some dignity. Not everyone deserves to see you sweating over them especially of evidently its not worth it.
Do you let anyone and everyone trigger you and see you mad showing your feelings? Most likely that answer is no. Bet you, you pick and choose who has the right to see certain emotions?
@@tytypartridge3135 That's not dignity, that's stupid pride which suppresses and festers internally. There are healthy ways to express hurt.
The fact remains that if the man triggers you he will know. Wether you hide it or not.
Cos every action you take around him will be to hide it. An experienced man who knows that nobody is an emotional superman will know which buttons to push when he wants to have fun at her expense. Do not suppress; express healthily and leave pride out of it.
The way the crowd erupted tells me there's a lot of low vibration energy in the room. 🙄 I'm glad she set it straight. 😌
I felt her with everything in me but you know what I've noticed women are always made to be accountable even for men and told to keep our worth while the man runs amok and is told he's a man and he's gonna do what men do and it's sickening to be a witness to boys will be boys still today. The grooming we get is the grooming they actually need.
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The lady that stood up and scanned the audience looking for the man made me laugh though!
@@mercymusinguzi2516Kitty was right u shouldn't entertain the confusion,mix signals or bare minimum from a person. Treat him accordingly. Until it's official u are single 👌🏾💯
Ladies can you please tell me why yall deal with/sleep with men who you arent married/long time committed too? Is it something yall can’t control or???
They will play in your face if you allow it. Sad but true.
That goes both ways. Love you more than you love anyone else.
Why ain't you playing in your own face if you having sex with somebody that ain't offering you no commitment??? and if that's what both of y'all agree on what are you even crying about
true that@@abnorm1984
I agree with you me personally I wouldn’t said anything to him never show your hand
If you tell the man you don't want nothing serious was he supposed to do stay in the house and don't go nowhere with nobody cuz you not being honest about your feelings? sound like you played in your own face
I wouldn't said a word, I saw my boyfriend at the mall with another girl, me and my dad was shopping I looked over the railing and saw him walking with her holding hands, my father grabbed my hand and said you better not cry, he said were going downstairs you walk up to him kiss him on the cheek, introduce yourself to her and tell him I will talk to you later have a good evening and sashae' away with style and grace. My father passed away this Saturday 😢 May he rest with God. I will forever miss him.
My most sincerest condolences to your deepest loss.
🙏🏾 my condolences to you and all that love him. I'm glad you have good memories to hold onto ❤
So sorry for your loss .❤❤❤
Very intelligent father, so happy you had that moment/ words of wisdom from him. So many women don’t/ didn’t have a father to lead them… My condolences
Sorry for your loss, but you daddy is worth calling a father who learn you to value yourself , and let nobody walk on your heart. Mine is still alive a baby believe he is the same
She thought she was putting ole boy on blast, but ended up embarrassing herself and getting told about herself publicly
As she should be (embarrassed).
And you call yourself "Woke"
Period I’m happy Kitty didn’t let the rubbish fly. Like sit yo clown ass down 😂
Okay harshly, the ole girl on stage gave it to her. Like Sis, what? Why are you stooping low? Get some self-worth about cha and stand the heck up this is 2024!!
And this is one test females always play with dudes it just reversed
Y’all not even a couple…so Kittie was right! She should have acted like she didn’t see him.
Right let him know you saw him but then didn’t say anything to him and continue to block and ignore him
Kittie was wrong. She attacked the girl. The girl is hurting. She exposed him.
@@cedricemanuel2068exposing what? Dude still got you pressed and going to smash the other girl. Have self worth and ignore him
I agree
@@cedricemanuel2068She didn’t expose anything but herself. Let’s not pretend that she is a victim in this situation because she’s not. She decided to fuck him, and that’s all there was to it. She doesn’t have the right to be upset because he hasn’t made any commitments to her. Women need to be accountable for themselves when dealing with these type of dudes. A man is only going to do what he knows, and if you don’t boss up and set clear boundaries, you’re going to end up playing yourself. And if you decide to fuck before becoming exclusive, then you have to prepare for the possibility of catching feelings, which is a dangerous game for both men and women.
Kittie is so mentally balanced its crazy she didn’t hop on the bandwagon she told it how it was. We need more women like this fr
There are you don't attract them
@@downbad2874most guys can't handle a woman like Kittie they be too busy trying to deflect
Phew! The moment women decenter men, become intentional about healing and protecting their peace - life changing! Pour that energy back into yourself. It WILL change your life, Sis.
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Never going to happen in a collective manner😂
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@@jtcooper1033 I agree. One reason I avoid male-centered women.
@jtcooper1033 The key is to prioritize and center self, not others.
I'm so glad I learned to have a poker face, smile, greet someone, exchange pleasantries and keep it pushing.
That part! 🎯
We see through that b.s too😂
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Nah too much pressure to pretend like we okay is not good either. That’s coming from ego as well. Of course it’s a balance, we have to decide when it’s best for our own peace to speak up and when not to.
@@timharris1675exactly she talking about we stroking their ego by saying something but it’s our own ego that makes us want to act unbothered and unaffected. If you like a man and he with someone else it’s normal to feel hurt. Everybody out here nonchalanting that why we can’t build real connections.
She said the guy she’s sleeping with, not her boyfriend. She’s just mad she found out she’s not the only one. She’ll be fine…
Facts, and all the responses here that are saying "he ain't for you, or he's not worth it", obviously didn't catch that part...even listening and responding from low vibes; like how Mrs Kitt set the stage for all the women though
Block, delete number and move on!
Would most people feel a way if someone theyre having sex with told them they weren’t messing with anyone else but they were? Because let’s not act like people won’t lie.
she knew she wasnt the only one
@crosstudioNot till 35-40
He doesn't have her in a situation. She has herself in her own situation
bingo, she is playing the game with him
Women must learn the power of “you can have her” and really mean it. Leave them with that subpar woman they cant leave alone and it will leave them depressed i promise you 😂
EXACTLY!
@@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7 i try to give women free game on here all the time lol. Only women with either self esteem, options, or not afraid of solitude will move like this.
Why she got to be a subpar woman heck the other woman probably has no clue she was being played with as well.
Women need to understand that their privates is their worth. Nothing else matters once you give it to somebody less than. You become less than too
@@intentionalhome you have a point but when you do find out he is dealing with someone else like this woman did, the best move you can make is to let him have her. When you know you have no excuse after that.. unless of course you have low self esteem, have no options or afraid to be alone.
I don’t think this young lady should have been shamed. She was already embarrassed and low she didn’t even confront the young man she was speaking of. My heart goes out to the young lady because she clearly has feelings for this guy and set her standards lower than she needed too. We saw the consequences of her actions happen in real time.
She embarrassed herself, letting everyone know her business. No one needed to know that
@@ToniaAlex13she surely did
Stop with the BS!! That's why these young girls are out here acting a FOOL and looking ridiculous!!!
If she had any real shame SHE WOULD NOT HAVE STOOD UP AND PUT HER BUSINESS OUT THERE!!!
She THOUGHT she was going to shame him or the other lady and it backfired!
This coodling of GROWN FOLKS has to stop!!!
@@ReneaWolfe-i4v👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She said it in such a crass way too... with the F word. That's not dating or a relationship 😮😅!
Tripp, advice was on point for the young lady . Never allows someone to love bomb you to get to your vulnerable spot and have access to you without action.
I’m glad kittie sobered up the room real quick. Stop giving a man like that undeserved attention and energy. He knew exactly what he was doing. Walk past him like he never existed and you’ll be just fine.
Kittie told her wrong too cause he not having the 2 women compete with each other yall gotta stop believing that
I'm not entertaining the confusion, mix signals,the bare minimum or inconsistency from a Guy. However I'ma treat him accordingly... And that's ok I owe him nothing until he makes things clear claim me as his own I am single 😘✌🏾🥂💯
Boppppp it's a bop a thon😂
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 that part for sure
What she really should ah e done was got up there and asked a question and a whole different man and let him be sitting in his seat steaming like who tf she sleeping with besides me 😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah and I wish women weren’t judged like, his dumbass is perfectly fine sleeping with another woman but if she had done that, asked a question like she is referring to another dude then his weak ass would have probably declared that she is loose or a hoe. Which she really isn’t. Women have come a long ways but we still get judged by society HARSHLY.
The “oop” at 0:36 was me … but baby spoke nothing but facts . Never let em’ see you sweat baby . Do it in private but never w/ em or in front of em’, especially if they not even meant to be permanent.
It is common sense if he is with another female, and he sees you and walks past, you act like he doesn't exist. This is the reason people need to be single and learn to love themselves first. This is for men's and women's always move in silent. And if they can make you mad, they can control you.
@robertjackson7568 thanks for sharing 👍 this is real talk here 🙌 👏 appreciate it.
Maybe I'm wrong in what I'm going to say, however.....I feel women give up the cookie too quickly. If you would just take the time, study this person, see how words and actions combine. Wait for things to not be so great to see how this person is going to hold up by you. When you show that personal aspect of yourself to hold no value, to look like nothing more than scratching an itch, that's what it will become for him. Scared of losing him if you don't....you already lost with that mind set. Call me old fashioned, frigid, whatever you want, doesn't matter one iota to me. But you going to show me first WHO you are before anything happens and I will have to love you. If the way I think means I end up alone. So be it. I don't mind my own company. 🙂
It's not about giving it up to fast. It's about knowing what each other wants in other words what type of sexual relationship are the both of you seeking.
It's not the best idea to develop emotional attachments to someone you don't know if your sexually compatible with that person.
@@wangtang12no he’s right a lot of women do give up the cookies too fast and it stays blowing up in their faces. We as men can’t keep demanding low body counts yet in the same thought process not dealing with women who withhold sex because they want or require some form of commitment. Like he said, if women wants to avoid fuck niggas, it’s simple, withhold sex, and that action alone will keep her body count low and filter out a lot of men that don’t have good intentions. She may be lonely for a season, but long-term it’ll be in her best interest.
@@wangtang12It's more about respect than the sex aspect.
@Reed_______ respect has nothing to do with it. It's about being honest about what type of relationship does an individual wants and being honest about it.
A woman's vagina alone can not keep a man and has no real value.
If a woman wants to keep a man, she has to be of value outside of sex. If a woman wants a man to take her seriously, she has to be of value outside of what she offers sexually.
Exactly ladies have some self esteem. That's a damn shame. Never let them see you sweat.
You're talking about whores. Don't expect them to.
She was projecting way too MUCH! I would’ve just asked her why she is using her time to for her on a man who isn’t showing you he deserves it?
I saw a lot of people on TikTok saying that Kittie was harsh, but she really wasn’t. She gave tough love. She gave truth. The reality is is that you giving your energy to a dude who you not in a relationship with. So you figured that you’d come up to the mic and “embarrass” him, but you embarrassed yourself but trying to put a man on blast who you allowed to disrupt your peace
You can give tough love in truth but this lacked care and tact.
I disagree; emotional intelligence is just as important. I'm guessing the speaker felt emboldened to do that off of the high energy the audience was giving her.
@@Prof.SeverusSnape it had nothing to do with the audience. She was passionate
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Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, an outstanding spiritual counselor with the power to restore your relationship with your ex.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
Crazy how I keep seeing this comment under so many relationship videos
Straaaaight up!! It’s best to keep to yourself!
Especially if you see it for WHAT IT IS!!! ❤
The gag is ole girl ACCEPTED the driveby peen without stipulations or agreement. Then wanted to be upset AFTER seeing him with someone else because SHE didnt demand more, but left him to his own devices to test random (like her)cookie boxes or work for cookie box manufacturing plant permanent rights.
Super random you look really cute! 💯 how are you?
She was right and wrong. There were several ways she could have said that without being so aggressive and attacking that girl. She acted like that shit was personal! The woman was obviously hurt and needed advice. She asked a valid question and didn't call any names or look the man's way. There was nothing foolish about that. She couldn't help the crowds foolish reaction. Sis need to relax and do better in her position.
Needed advice on what exactly, what was her question?
@@King_T5I wanna know the same thing. Shawtee wasn't asking no question. She called herself being funny and it back fired into self-realization.
@@King_T5exactly!
The delivery could
Be argued but what she said was right. That young lady needed that because as a woman we never are get on a platform
and discuss actively "f-ing" someone. Baby girl was in her feelings for her to reference him on the least- he was not worth it
It’s called tough love. She gave great advice.😊
Absolutely 💯 Advice to this Woman , Stay Strong 💪🏽, Queens 💚💚💚
I needed to hear this!!!! I definitely played myself in the past.
We’ve all been there ♥️
@@yikes5522 True!! 💯
As I've always said, give them the very opposite of what they expect, or are trying to accomplish to MY detriment....You will NEVER know my emotional state because I'm conditioned not to react to shenanigans😉❤️🔥
If she had not simply reacted based on emotion, she would have pretended not to see ol’ boy sitting there on a double date and not gone up to the mic at all. Or, she could have at least asked about one of the following:
1) her “man” (making it obvious she’s not talking about dude)
2) the perils of juggling three or four guys at a time
3) finding it difficult to commit to one person
4) recently getting back with her ex and being scared because he’s done a whole 180 for the better
5) whether or not it’s wrong to fake orgasms
You're savage 🤩
I see what you did there 😂
Please give her the game, please! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Exactly!
She was in the moment. It’s like thinking of a better comeback after you just had a fight 😂. She didn’t process it like you typed it out. And she was most likely upset and triggered too. Just saying.
She did stand up and stood on her business. Don't let her fool with you. You better call him out girlfriend. I would have. She basically just took that whole man side, and made that lady look bad.
I PERSONALLY NEEDED THIS!!!❤❤❤ Thank you Mrs. Kitty!!❤❤
Although your was to harsh and you delivered a hard blow it is FACTS, REAL and Reality Check Thanks Queen Other Queens needed to be discipline ❤❤
I don't get what the "expert" is saying. Seems like the girl was just letting him know you're caught and its over. She just put him on blast like everyone else does these day. That expert was just sassy like she been hurt so many times she no longer good for anyone. She how quick and easy that argumentative offence centered tone came out. Really what dude, after that speech, would even look her way. It's always these people who really don't have anyone who are giving advice. That was not even advice, that was just her anger speaking to the dudes in her past. She tried to lay it on the lady, exhibiting to the other ladies that sometimes your worse enemy is that "sister" giving advice, because she want you to end up just like she is, alone.
I keep seeing people calling the speaker “emotionally intelligent”. Do you all know what that is? Here a hint: Speaking truth without compassion, tact, and consideration for another person’s emotions is not it.
Well sometimes that IS what works imagine getting up and admitting in front of EVERYONE that you are a sidechick me God forbid even if I was dying inside the way I ll snub you you ll glance back to make sure it's me .she should have handle that privately .
@@justineb1335 Possibly but it’s still not emotionally intelligent. There are better ways to communicate the same strong message.
@@candacelerai I agree
I was just listening like I get it, but I don't like the delivery of the message. It came across as she was putting this woman down while giving advice.
@@chocol8doll Exactly. Embarrassing her for what? Her delivery wasn’t necessary
The funny thing is, dudes that move like that always have women chasing them.
And it will continue
Women want the men that other women want. Lol
I seen alot of karma....I worked in a men's prison and heard alot of sad stories.....these type men get old and played out....
All the time!!
What….the host is wrong! Call him out. I disagree with her. Stand on 10 toes. Call a player out. It was a nice way she did it too. No confrontation and left the world know. Good for her not being passive.
Ladies, we need to hear this harsh truth. We are better than this!
No y'all not bop🤣
I’ve known this for decades 😅
Meanwhile…the other woman is laughing at you and will continue to sleep with him thinking that she’s hurting you. And he will play the both of you until somebody grows tf up.
As soon as she seen him she have blocked him instantly, because when he found some alone time he would have called just to lie to her.
That ain't her man,So he can do what he wants
Right & even if that was her man, he was STILL gonna do whatever he wants!! 💯
Exactly.
Y'all ain't dating,or anything,so if homie out with the crew and some around the way girls,that ain't got nothing to do with you.
She is so articulate and passionate! Love the wisdom she drops
No!
How is she being used?
Ol' girl needed a hug because she was rightfully hurt. We are humans and ALL of us have emotions, rather we are tapped into those emotions or not is one thing. There is nothing foolish about expressing your emotions and being human. I wouldn't have shown any emotion publicly...because that is how I naturally operate. However, not everyone operates that way, and that's okay. She is not wrong for expressing her hurt and she doesnt have to think or react how anyone else thinks she should to avoid ''embarrassing herself,'' wtf. We have all been in a situation similar or this exact situation. None of us...even the panelist know, how long she was dealing with that man. Just because she said they were ''fugging'' doesn't mean that it was just a 1 night stand type of situation...we have all said things out of anger. I hope she doesn't allow this situation to turn her bitter, she has a beautiful spirit about herself.
Rightfully, how? No. She played a stupid game and won a stupid prize! Sex is even more dangerous for women bc it puts you at risk for pregnancy (no fool-proof contraceptive) and she has low standards. Men will treat you how you allow. She’s in a situationship, not a real relationship. She didn’t require serious commitment before giving her body so all is fair! Dude is not her man!
@@shalalala868that same logic could have been given to her more compassionately.
The lady who stood up was already emotional. Her feelings were real and raw. I think the response was harsh and embarrassed her more. I would have had someone pass her a note, or said straighten your crown sista, holla at me or someone from my team after the show. Uplift don’t chastise and cause harm
Thank you!! I couldn’t agree more. Where’s the empathy? As if Miss Kittie would’ve wanted someone to speak to her like that publicly! C’mon now! Nobody would’ve felt comfortable in that woman’s position. She genuinely was shocked, devastated, confused and heartbroken. There’s a way to correct someone, and it’s always better if it’s done privately, in my opinion. I would’ve told her, baby come back stage with me and we can speak about this then, and directed the crowd to the next question. In my opinion, all Miss Kittie did was expose herself as an insensitive woman who gladly, publicly put another woman down in order to make herself feel better; and that’s showing that she’s got lower self esteem than the woman she’s speaking on. It’s a damn shame, but people do not think at all anymore, Sis! Even worse, folks will pretend they got it all together and should be giving advice, when they can’t even truly empathize or have the emotional intelligence to privately express her thoughts. Yes ma’am! We should be fixing each other’s crowns. But, emotionally mature woman who truly love and respect themselves, are the only ones capable of doing that. (I know this is a long response, I apologize) But with all that being said, let me just go head and remind you that you’re an incredibly beautiful soul!! Inside and out! Your genuine love and concern for your fellow women is so evident, and you’ve got a genuine heart. What an encouragement you are!! I sincerely pray that you receive all the love, strength, encouragement, patience, devotion, time, money, and sincere compassion that you’ve so freely and genuinely given, one hundred fold! May God keep and bless you and your family, tremendously, in Jesus’ name.
@@emilyjoeblow9755 Thank you so much!! I receive it 🙌🏾You’re an encouragement as well. You just uplifted my spirit! I hope you receive blessings in every aspect of your life.
Yes ma’am we are absolutely on the same page with how to encourage and uplift one another. We can see past the sensationalism because of real life experiences. It’s not about clicks and views. It’s about personal growth, evolution, and healing. May God keep his arms around you 💫
I love Kittie! She medicine to the soul. You know how when you’re not feeling well but you don’t want to take medicine because it’s nasty but on the flip side it’ll make you feel better!! Well that’s Kittie, we might not want to hear what she’s saying but her words identify where we are, they penetrate, and heal all at the same time.
Can we please normalize being in a monogamous relationship before sex? It is physically and mentally safer for everyone.
“Oh I’m sorry, sex is only available when I’m in a serious relationship.”
That's somewhat unrealistic. To be in a relationship before you find out if both of you are sexually compatible.
You need to have sex first before committing
Love it. I Agree. It will save you heartbreak and soul ties. I am currently four years celibate and waiting until I am in a relationship
@@wangtang12not necessarily
I don’t even know what you’re talking about. Is it just me? 😂
@wangtang12 😮omg. I've never heard of that before, not as being the idea or that it's impossible. Sad. I thought it was the other way around.
Oooppppp. I love the way this beautiful queen speaks such utter facts and truths, even if it hurts she is honest with grace. ❤
Standing on the promises of Christ my Savior and King-. My self esteem is wrapped up in Him and Him alone! Yes… it’s lonely out here-. But when I see and hear stuff like THIS- I’m glad I’m alone, old and celibate-
This poor woman went out to have a good time and got embarrassed and totally disrespected by this female panelist... that's sad and unfortunate and the wordplay could've been formed way better and the response could've been more on the productive and positive side...
It appears that She was in her feelings about a guy she was "only sleeping" with and thought that women were going to side with her if she exposed him. When in reality she should have kept her business private asked her question and sat down.
she asked her question I just don’t understand why kitty chose to belittle her in the process. If she is OK with putting her business out there, then that is her choice.. the ultimate disrespect and sign that she is overly pressed over the guy is to as soon as she seen him and decide to run up on him or the female cause a commotion would make her go out sad, but she kept her composure, and asked the question as to how she should feel what she should do. so kitty could have given her the same response, but not belittle her and tell her how she should carrie herself that represents the upmost respect for herself.
Women are victims that is why you get no victories
@@rolandamcfadden6788Keep asking dumb questions and find out
I agree...asking for advice and expressing your feelings only to be publicly ridiculed with the audience cosigning...that was too much.
Remember back in high school, I was 16 at the time me and another girl pulled up to a guy's house at the same time. We both walked to the door and rang the bell and actually had small talk while waiting. He never came outside, I could hear him running inside of the house. Both of us ended up leaving peacefully and kept it real cute with each other😂
It hurts in the moment. You cry, you feel how you feel, and then you dust yourself off, say not again, and you move differently from there.
What in the entire ****?😂 Yes, you're right. She did make a fool out of herself because that man ain't giving 2 ****s about putting him on blast. That definitely interrupted her soul. Y'all not together boo. Find another man hunny. That was too much😁
Yet if it was her on the show with a man they would so stfu
@@downbad2874 🤣
"...interrupted her soul"
Deep.
Imma use that.
We can't let any situation or person accomplish that.
Sounds like you will be no more good for yourself. Just empty.
Stripped of all.
No place to retreat to.
I bet he did care. The one that he really wanted, was the one who was there with. Quite sure it ruined his night.
Lol, didn’t women encourage each other to date multiple men to figure out what they like??? Lol why does he have to be a clown or a bad person when y’all ARENT DATING 😂😂😂. Just “sleeping together”.
That’s why she looked crazy, cuz honey yall not even committed and you giving him this kind of energy?!? But this is also why you don’t sleep with everyone you’re casually dating either! Dating should not equal to accessing my body. That’s why she mad because she already connected her body to him and now she feels entitled. That’s not how this works, but she gone learn.
@@mssheena24 exactly. I’m shocked at how many women actually initiate the sex after dates. I’m the type of guy that prefers for a woman to make the first move in terms of intimacy, and let me tell you, I rarely get past the first date without them trying something 🤦🏾♂️. Like sheesh, I was tryna be a gentleman 😂😂
She definitely played herself! I'm all for dating but sleeping together creates bonds that I don't want or need. I really think she thought the panel/audience was going to be in her favor.
I just said something about this like females test men like this all the time to try to make us jealous one of the test females give us just reversed on her and she didn't know how to control
You’re not supposed to be having sex while multi-dating.
You’re supposed to vet and see which one you’re most compatible with and like the most, and drop all the others FIRST AND mutually agree to do the same and be exclusive. Smashing multiple men at once is NOT the move for a self-respecting woman!
When you are a proverbs 31 woman the Lord will give you an Ephesian 5 man in his perfect time because he is the perfect match maker
You don’t have to worry what your husband is doing (I say husband because a proverbs 31 woman is a wife not a girlfriend) behind open or closed doors That man will love you physically mentally and spiritually
Kittle always on point and speak off facts not hurt like Kita does
I agree. I adore Tripp and Kittie more than Kita and everyone else. From the videos I’ve watched on UA-cam and IG, Kita has too much emotion damage. Which there is nothing wrong with having emotions, but she lets her emotions bleed out too quickly by the way she responds to the audience and the other cast members.
I feel the message; don’t like how sister was belittled for feeling and expressing her feelings.
Feel, process, and execute.
We MUST do all 3. 🥰
Thank you….. I see how everyone is jumping on the bandwagon, however, can someone help me understand how she played herself. None of us know how long she has been dealing with this dude or how long it took her to give it to this dude or even the history. My thing is her calling him out not only helps her to move on, but now helps this new woman or the other woman know he may not be being truthful to her either.. I feel like she would not be respecting herself is if she continues to deal with him after this moment.
I agree and it's something about this kitties lady I don't trust. She seems angry or something. She didn't have to further embarrassed her like that she now gave the guy all the ammo he needed to notfeel at all for what he did. As a therapist I dont see whyshe thought thus was a good idea
Your feelings are fleeting and the world don't have to care about your own personal feelings goofy. They're your feelings so you manage them goofy bop😑
@@lastnamefirst9423delusional
This summation though brief is in itself by far more valuable and constructive than what the panelist said.
How she even know he with thar girl. Just making a fool out of herself.
Why did she know he was going with any other female to an event?
@Superlife1369 his homeboy and two woman. The girl could be homeboy sis and her friend or family. Just jumped to conclusions. I had a girl I smashed one night chase me down in her car in traffic because she saw a woman in my car. I was taking my friend to the hospital smh. Goofy ass women I swear lol.
B"H
She did the right thing by outing him, the commentator was being extra and insensitive.
She made a fool of herself he didn’t care
What did she accomplish by outing him? Not a thing. The one he was with now thinks she is some kinda winner.
Both are pathetic.
That's why some women will always be used!!! Grow up! She said they were "fu*king" not dating!
What's wrong with ya'll? Where your mama at????
I'm glad she said something too. Because the other woman knows now that he's messing around on her, so good I'm glad she called him out.
One thing I want Black women to doing is STOP criticizing each other. I felt that the speaker words were harsh and unnecessary. If anything she should have approached her in a loving manner. There's a way to redirect in love. No one is perfect. We all have played the fool once in life. So, let's talk with each other and not at each other. Most importantly, listen to people. Listening is so underrated these days.😢
Sis is here speaking facts, this is what accountability and being honest with yourself looks like
We've ALL been dumb at some stage of our lives. HOWEVER, when you know better, you do better. With that all said.....
Babyyyy, aint no screwing, unless you choosing. 📌
Stay classy at ALL times! 💯
AT ALL TIMES yes yes. Poor thing, bet she forgot this wasn't just going to stay in that conference room, but hit the internet hard.
@@UniqueFind702 right! That's when you KNOW that the emotions are ruling OVER LOGIC!
We've all been there, in some capacity of life! 💯
@@newme1813 oh for sure we all have. But ain't it grand when you get to a place in your life where you control the emotions & the flesh that "outer man" because you control it and not the other way around? I got that peace that surpasses all understanding.
@@UniqueFind702 facts! I love it!
So why she go further to the point of putting her down and not put HIM in check TOO...that was OD...smh
Because she the one that got up there and ask the question and embarrassed herself tf 😂
@@AckeeandSaltfishwow you ignorant
Yeah I don't believe kitties likes women and has some anger in her
Putting him in check for doing what? Some of you women are so simple minded.
@@lastnamefirst9423 kitty is a therapist who is emotionally balanced and speaks the truth no matter what. Y’all are too emotional and this is coming from a woman. Pls get this shit together 😂
1st of all yes as DJ Khaled famously says -- "CONGRATULATIONS - YOU PLAYED YOURSELF!!" ma'am why put yourself in a bad light? You should have done the Recon, taken note of the situation, and done what he did ACT LIKE YOU AINT KNOW HIM... Then blocked all access to that person. Please don't argue, don't stress because you meant nothing to him but a good time. When he treats you like a placeholder, remove yourself.
See when I think about going back outside, but I see stuff like this....I stop thinking and go check my door to make sure the deadbolt is locked, the chain is hooked, the latch is on, a chair is pushed up under the knob, and the security camera is on. For now!!🤭 I'm good Lord!!! I'll wait!!!!
This is what happens when you are out there just sleeping around. Better to wait until you are married and anyone that does not want to wait. You move on!
I love her….say it louder for the people in the back
... But the people in the back are smoking crack 👍
The lady at the mic, wearing her emotions on her sleeves. Shouting out full blast as if that is the answer to her ills. A room full of women ready to go lower with her and thankfully they were saved by the host holding her mic.
That speech a bit of a stretch and if ole girl is embarrassing herself you just made it so much worse. All she had to say was “Everyone has free will . how he treats you is how he feels about you. So, now that you see how he feels about you, adjust accordingly”
💯
That needed to be said! Don't let these allow these men to have any control of your emotions especially if he's some guy you sleeping with close that cookie jar and move on!
Thank you so much Kittie for your tough love for us women! I really needed to hear this!
SMH. Somebody don't know a single law of power. Silence is golden in these situations.
I would've went by the table & said 'Hey' & called him by name just like nothing... & continued on w/my life😂!
She should have stood up and asked a question like it was directed for her new man? Act like you didn't even notice him & block him from that day forward! 🤞🏽
If a woman sets high standards for herself, and doesn’t treat sex casually, she can ask for a relationship before sex. You wouldn’t have the heartbreak in this video. Protect your heart and the man will respect you for it. If he doesn’t, then let the player go he’s not your man.
💯💯💯 to the woman who addressed her foolishness!!!
Sad. There sshould have been better support for the woman.
Thank you feminism 😂
Wow! 🤦♀️I can't believe she just outted and embarrassed herself like that. First off it sounds like he's just her sex partner, so there's no actual commitment which means they both can do as they please.
This is the issue with "hook up" culture, men have no issues sleeping around without catching feelings, whereas most women are more emotional, we grow a connection and "hope" the man will "choose" you but in all reality he's using you for sex. Get it together ladies or live with that L in silence. 🤷♀️
She needed that reality check 👀 as long as she learned from her shit. Every woman does not possess Grace in poise 😂 Hopefully she learned that night.
Why she projecting what she went thru on that women who knows if that was the case fr?
I'm confused? All she did was say she seen him here with someone else and he's misleading her. She didn't say she's gonna take him back. So how is that statement means she has low self worth? Cuz he's stepping out & no committing??
You and me both because I definitely got what you did from her calling him out.
I don’t disagree with her, but it’s also ok to allow yourself to experience your emotions and ask for support in doing so. I think that’s the only thing the response lacked.
I don’t know who this lady is, but kudos 👏
We women have to respect ourselves to receive respect. Hope the audience member learns and moves on in peace.
She gave him too much power over her!
As much as it sounds good what she's saying about disruption of your peace and is correct, these women are still doing this, I pray with her expressing this truth so ascertively she doesn't wind up being like the woman she says women shouldn't be like. In my life I have heard and witnessed so many women speak out of this little hole in our face about what they wouldn't take or do for a man and then turn around and do something more devastating than what they spoke about.. Lord I will just pray for all people that are sleeping with ego seekers... ❤❤❤❤😂
Y'all the weaker vessels
I think when she messed up is saying I’m here with the guy that I’m fucking, which limited herself to just a side piece because she didn’t say her man. So she could’ve been messing with somebody else’s man and didn’t know because she didn’t take the time to get to know him, so she should’ve just played it light. Now, if she was married to him engaged to him, and then saw him there that might’ve been a reason to bring it up, but she should’ve been more strategic with how she brought it up. She should’ve put it in a situation where the question she presented made him look like a fool… Maybe saying I’ve been dating this guy mentioned some things that makes sure he knows it’s him and then say something embarrassing like, his stuff don’t work so well or some other embarrassing fact, and then ask the question how should I break it to him because he seems like a pretty decent guy and I care for him?
Or, just take the moment as clarity and move forward with no need to say anything. Especially if, with the speaker said at the end was true, and he saw you and spoke to you like nothing. Then you just eat that and don’t deal with it anymore. Don’t take any calls, no conversation and definitely don’t hook up with him again and don’t, sound bitter. Thank God for the clarity and do better next time.
It's a lot of people here that think because they don't speak they are less toxic. Speaking on someone publicly in this way is an ego trip for her. She didn't pull this lady to the side and say no baby we not going to do that. She got clout off her. The man feeling highly about himself right now because he there with another woman and the lady put her down. She didn't speak real to her. Cause that man in there sweating and the lady is probably just floating because of she would have saw them before that day she probably would have caused a whole real scene and made it ghetto for everyone. The lady acknowledged she was with someone that clearly isnt with her. The low vibe is the man and the woman as well as the people in the comments that thought she read her. When you really vibing high you free to speak without embarrassment you open to the fact that you are in fact human and things aren't always what you expect are thought and you are not afraid to be authentic or fallible...good luck to the weirdos that are saying anything opposite of this.
The corrected and the corrector made the wrong moves. The corrected shouldn’t have even bothered to address the guy at all. Pay him dust. The corrector, if she really cared for the woman, should have pulled her aside and told her all what she said on stage in private. When is all this performative crap going to come to an end?
The woman on the stage talking about self-esteem decided to pour salt on the wound and publicly call her a fool in front of an audience. That was terrible.
She really thought she did something outing him out. But she’s right once you allow someone to know they have power over you they’ll always have the ability to control you. This dude isn’t embarrassed he probably laughing with his home boy. If there was no relationship established then he’s free to do as he pleases and so is she.
I would never embarrass myself further and say anything out lound in public. If I felt some type of way, I would speak my peace to him after then go on my way.
The way y’all always make about the woman is the reason why these men will never feel no type of way. She has a right to feel that way, if it was vice versa y’all wouldn’t be saying this y’all would be calling her all types of whores and women ain’t loyal etc.
Did they have an understanding that they’re in a relationship? If he lied to her and said yes I’ll be in a relationship with you just to get the box then that’s one thing. She didn’t say that was HER MAN. Men live in reality. If he was just dancing in the sheets with her then he wouldn’t reasonably expect that that was his girl. The woman in here does what every woman does at a certain point and sticks her claws in a man and gets POSSESSIVE and angry.
Exactly the comments are disgusting
@fuhyou3223 These are questions we will never get answered bc the panelists was too busy berating instead of asking...
@@lastnamefirst9423 exactly
@@lastnamefirst9423 exactly
That part! i’m not doing the same thing’s i wa doing in 2023. it’s 2024 and i refuse to let my narcissistic baby daddy disturb my peace period
This one clip showed me everything i needed to see. When it was messy the crowd erupted. When she spoke that real crickets.
bp are immature and love drama - why else do people spend their entire lives hating the other gender instead of enjoying life
It's important to stay in control of your emotions, especially when someone tries to provoke you. In this situation, it would have been better for her to acknowledge him calmly, as if she was unbothered, and then block him. This way, she could have avoided unnecessary drama and moved on with her life. When she wants to be bothered with him, unblock. Other then that keep it moving. She let him know who has the upper hand by standing up to that mac and saying that foolishness.
the takes on here are shite sometimes. like don't let him know that his behaviour is horrible and hurt you. no you can tell him his behaviour was horrendous and he hurt you and then walk away. all the mind games that get preached don't do anything but further more mind games.
You're missing the point. That's not her man. That's some dude that she's letting have access to her body without a commitment. She's already played herself. Now, to add insult to injury, she's publicly telling the world that she played herself.
He don't care stoopid😂
It's sad that so many of us run to flawed people like us looking for answers instead of just going to GOD and truly focus on him to mold you, make you, educate you, inform you of your purpose, and bless you. At the end of the day, it's just speeches that sound good but depend on the circumstances everyone on the panel and the audience can and will fall prey to whomever running game.
Exactly and He will never embarrass you like this woman did. I get what she was saying but her delivery was TRASH.
Agreed💯
Agreeed ❤
Women trippin over sneaky links....the madness needs to stop. The man clearly does not want you or he would have pulled up on the double date with you. Stop giving people your body if you want more from the situation. Trill AC said in another episode...."we think we can change the person or what they want so we engage in the physical relationship knowing we want a real relationship with that man." Accept the fate girl and move on, stop making yourself side chick/sneaky link material. Then come to the mic messy as hell airing dirty laundry. 🤦♀️ I'm embarrassed for her because she thought that man would care
Nah - I am not on board with victim blaming and shaming. Clearly, that man misled and lied to her on some level. Whatever their relationship, she was under the impression it was monogamous (given her reaction). Now, I wouldn't have announced it to a roomful of people like she did, but HE is the problem. She likely referred to him as the man she's f*g out of anger. Maybe she (the speaker) was quick to judge without the backstory. You are not responsible for anyone lying to you, disrespecting you, or betraying your trust. Period. That narrative is so harmful as it perpetuates the cycle of predatory people taking advantage of others, laying blame at their feet and shirking accountability.
Ummm…she said the man she was screwing…not seeing..dating…SCREWING! He owes her nothing, including an explanation. She played herself by agreeing to be his human blow-up doll. He obviously doesn’t see her as gf material so she needs to move on and stop sleeping with men who didn’t think enough of her to commit FIRST!
THANK YOU!!! Because that’s definitely what I thought-it seemed he told her he wasn’t dealing with anyone else so surprise surprise to see him out with someone at the show. I wonder if the responses would be the same if genders were swapped. Anyone would feel a way in her position if they were misled.
@@shalalala868 As I said, she may have referred to him that way out of anger. He may have very well been her boyfriend (as far as she knew) - which is usually exactly how these situations go down. Let's be real. If he gave her the impression that they were monogamous knowing full well he had no intention to do so (and he probably did), then he is a liar and should be held accountable for that much. If they were in agreement that they were in an open arrangement, she would not have reacted this way.
I love that woman!! She's so great
One thing is very clear women like to coddle the emotionally immature whether its the men they date or their friends like this girl. The man made absolutely no commitment to her. She gave more than she got. This was all by her choice. Then she gets mad that he is doing exactly what he has always shown her through no commitment? She said fucking - there is no relationship. Any women knows if you describe a situation like that there are no ties but lust. When the rules of engagement is clear but you refuse to acknowledge it but wanna play the game thinking the other person eill eventually feel the way you do. Stop coddling grown women maming these terrible situationships a thing. She probabby either have loads of friends like people who reacted in the crowd or she's that friend no one can say nothing about when it comes to their situationship.