In the UK, "fancy dress" means costumes, like you'd wear for Halloween, so when you said you were contemplating a video showing a week of fancy dressing, I thought: Okay, a little off brand, and a weird time of year to do it, but I'd be here for that 😂
I have been feeling like garbage too. And my best friend has just moved to another state. And the home has just been feeling really empty, so I went out and I adopted a dog. This is not a realistic solution for everybody. Dogs take up space, money, and most importantly time. But in my initial research to add a new pet to my home, I noticed what a crisis some local shelters are in as people are returning animals that they adopted during COVID and can no longer keep and backyard breeders continue to plague my specific community. I felt like I could make it work and I could save a life. So I went out and got a dog over the weekend. And she has been such a calming and centering force in my life.
I need a friend like you. You are so intelligent and well spoken . You have quiet confidence that I really admire and don’t see much in other people. I love watching your videos and can’t wait to see what you will inspire you next.
Thank you for this! I've been feeling like a pile of garbage a lot lately. Since like December off and on. It's been a lot. This is very helpful and comforting, and helps remind me that a lot of us suffer through these times.
I recommended "Stolen Focus" to a few of my therapy clients and we had an informal book club about it. The discussion spawned a number of behavioral experiments in which clients reworked their relationships to their phones and led to really rich observations. I'm with you, Hannah, it is a compelling, readable, and relatable book. For those who aren't sold, watch some of Johann's interviews with various podcasters from the book tour; he's a remarkable story-teller. As are you, Hannah! 😘
I started googling... "Uprooted" is a book based on Polish folklore, but written by an American. I am Polish. I love books. I adore Hannah. Will read for sure!
One obsession in my childhood was basnie ludowe. I still have our family’s book about the journey of Krabat. Maybe I’ll get the audio, although I rarely consume fiction any more.
Ugh so relatable, Hannah!! Thank you for talking to us like we’re fellow human people, rather than giving in to the pressure to present the emotionally manipulating facade of got-it-togetherness. ❤
Love this! Just validating that there is a ton of ACTUAL gloom and doom happening, and garbage mode might be an OK short term response. I'm with you (and all of us) in the issues with screens and bedtime - super helpful to hear your struggles and successes in that. Finally I continue to love 1990 lip on you! Wish I could do a pure brown lippie...
This style of video is my personal favorite of your offerings. I love the messaging and reminder that it's what we do that will most impact our moods; turning away from new shiny trinkets. Happy birthday fellow pisces 🐟
I've been feeling like a pile of garbage every morning for my entire adult life or so. It's been a couple of years, I've been listening to beautiful videos created by amazing people while doing my skincare- makeup and by the time I'm out of the house I know something new, I've put thought into a serious subject, i feel more confident inside and out!
I originally started following you a year ago because I thought we were kindred spirits. This video has proven that to me one-hundredfold. You are a beam of light even when you feel like a pile of garbage. Thank you for sharing this with us. Much love!
I'm a nervous pile of barely sentient jelly waiting on grad school decisions so, I'm here for this video and you are not alone feeling like trash. Everyone - take care of yourselves!
I so appreciate the “realness” of what you shared here, along with what you’ve been doing to get out of the funk. This time of year always seems like a down time and I have been lacking motivation. Thank you for everything you shared!
I've been saying I can feel a lot of negative energy swirling around not just in my world but all over the world. I'm highly sensitive and observant and I can tell. It's hard for me to separate my own energy from others. It's relatable when people admit they're feeling bad. January and February were rough for me, but I decided I would reset at end of February and focus on the present moment day to day and fill that day with things that are good for me, make me happy or soothe me. I've had moments where I can feel the cloud trying to pull me down but generally so far, so good.
I’m so glad you’re a person on the internet. You always seem to pop up with exactly what I need to articulate or conceptualize, and the way you speak is so easy to listen to. I could just listen to you all day
Dear Hannah... thank you. Was just told today that I have a job no more. It wasn't an entire surprise because the project I was working for at a startup was failing for a few months so I didn't take it personally but I am feeling down. It's a form of rejection so I am processing that plus all I need to do to get a new one... yada yada. Saw this video trying to force myself not to actively do anything right now and just sit with what I am feeling while having "the radio" (youtube) on the background. And I feel accompanied.... not to say I need anyone to feel crappy so I can have company. Don't wish it on anyone. But appreciating the company while also appreciating the effort to get started in the "upwards" ladder. Anyways thanks and I appreciated the "chat" we "had" today evening lol lol lol
The impress kiss nails were my answer to not being able to go to a nail salon from 2020-2022 haha! I absolutely adore them. I was always able to get two sets out of one box. Love them!
ok. honestly the thin dark brows are SOOO good on you... I love it the first part of self care that really goes for me is skincare. I'll go... 4, 5 days without washing my face properly. mental health is really rough sometimes :(
PS my husband is going to be SO offended when he finds out im finally reading the deadly education series not on his recommendation, but on yours... sorry honey.,.
Oooooh "dressing for work" even when you're going to be at home. I'm interested to see how you feel after this experiment. I did a "get dressed up--yes, even the shoes" and understanding how that made me feel was really valuable to tuck away for future use.
Thank you so much for your candor! I'm also on the "bottom rung of the ladder" working my way out of a funk and it helps immensely to know other people go through the same thing.
This has been such a brutal winter with very little sun, we’re in it together!! Someday it will be spring 💜 and your necklace is gorgeous, I love it!!!
Daily meditation is life changing. I’ve been using headspace since 2017. I’ve got CPTSD from abuse in childhood. I’m no longer on medication for anxiety/ depression. I no longer have anxiety/ depression and I’m healing from eating disorders without any help at all from the NHS.
“Retroactively scanning for subject-verb disagreements”: as a former English professor, may I say how much I love your attention to grammar? That’s cheering *me* up right now. 🤎
Talk about relatable content. I've had a month of covid-related roller coaster health/skin/energy issues. Not helping that winter is especially tenacious this year in the Midwest. Things that have been cheering me up right now: watching Next in Fashion with my son who is super into men's fashion, baking cakes, Yoga with Adriene 30 day challenge, ending the day with a candlelit bath and playing the drums. I've been slugging with Booda Butter but I LOVE the packaging on that Futurewise. It's so much my aesthetic. As someone who's ADHD is only getting WORSE, I need to read (or listen to an audio book of) Stolen Focus! I think the Yoga with Adriene thing has been so effective for me because it is meant to be done every single day. I really vibed with "remember how much bigger the pile of garbage would be if you weren't doing the things you're doing with selfcare." I would be soooooo effed if I weren't doing the daily yoga. It really helps zap stress.
Yes, yes, 1000x yes!! I'm (somewhat irrationally) so proud of what you accomplished with this one, specifically as it pertains to vulnerability and solving the book conundrum. Just so well done. Love you!
Your recent videos have helped me a lot to understand more why I’m unhappy with my things and myself. I especially appreciated your fantasy self video; that really put things into perspective for me, and has really changed my mindset. You’ve always been a role model for me, as a fairly young person (😭), but your recent discussion about buying less stuff and feeling happy with what you have and working to be who you want to be have really stuck with me. I mean, I’ve always absorbed your advice about buying less beauty, and have actually ended up buying a lot less stuff-I-don’t-need-and-won’t-use, but THIS stuff, this recent stuff, has really hit me where I needed it to-and I just wanted to say thank you ❤
I would encourage those who read Hari's book to also explore the criticisms of his work from neurodivergent communities and also his past breaches of journalistic ethics. Such research may not change overall feelings / opinions and it also doesn't by any means negate all of his points, but I do think it's important to be aware of how some among the groups of people he writes about have received his work.
When I was in my twenties and thirties, I self-medicated by buying beautiful housewares. Lots of them! Other than the brief good feelings about tracking down and purchasing the new beautiful wine glasses, or high-end pots, or another place setting of my china, it didn't help. I needed medication for my chronic depression. So now I'm 60, still medicated, feeling much better, and I have a very well stocked kitchen!
i started watching your no-buy year playlist about a week ago and you've quickly become one of my favourite youtubers. and then i came to this video right when i was wanting something like this. i think i will be reading stolen focus sometime soon because of how you described it.
Your honesty and willingness to share your humanity is touching, and proof that beauty itself shines from within as much as simply something beautiful seen by the eye alone. Thanks for changing my perspective on today!
YESSSS Scholomance love!! That series is one that has stayed with me and changed my way of seeing the world. It's such a moving commentary on greed, classism, community, and how hard it can be to do the right thing but how it's worth it. It's gritty without being overwhelming, and leaves you hopeful. Probably my most highly recommended series in the last couple years.
I also think we have a challenge when the seasons change... it always takes a bit to come out of winter hibernation when we don't feel like spring yet!
I am so grateful for you and your videos. This kind of video is so so needed and appreciated. I’m into over a year and a half of dialectical behavioural therapy with an absolutely remarkable therapist after going through years of mental health struggles and then developing debilitating chronic illness and chronic pain. The compassion and mindfulness aspects to the therapy have done so much to not only help me heal from trauma but to also learn to live a life I find fulfilling ALONGSIDE my illnesses and struggles. You discussing these kinds of things and your own experiences with compassion practices, self care, and mindfulness and how they can literally change the brain and, thus, your life in such meaningful ways is so beautiful, validating, and reflective of the journey I’ve been on. Thank you and take care. ❤❤❤
DBT is so comforting in some ways insofar as learning to structure your thinking differently... especially if you (like I) suffer with BPD. On the flip side it can frustrate in the realization that our brains are often wired to think in a very selfish, myopic way. It has overall, helped me to take on the discipline of learning how to set boundaries on my thinking processes. Good luck in the journey. ..from a fellow Sojourner.❤
@@alicepirola7077 This is lovely! Thank you! I don’t have BPD but I do struggle with depression, anxiety, PTSD/trauma, panic disorder, OCD, and I struggle with grief because of my illnesses (which are also the cause of my PTSD) so I’ve struggled A LOT with a very negative perception of myself/my mind/my body while also feeling EXTREMELY scared, vulnerable, overwhelmed, and protective of myself at the same time, in order to avoid MORE pain/discomfort/trauma. This has lead to many years of me not really living my life out of fear and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness but also being extremely self critical and a perfectionist only with myself. DBT has helped IMMENSELY in terms of helping me reframe many of my fears/thoughts/behaviours, set goals and boundaries, and repair my relationship with myself, and, thus, others. I’m so glad it has helped you too. It’s always good to know that, while we do have to walk our own journey through life, we can do it alongside others. Take care. ❤❤❤
@@meghangerhart643 on the days when you feel like you can't go on, when you feel like no one is there for you, when it hurts just to lift a breath into your lungs, I pray for you. I understand your journey. I have all of the elements of mental health issues that you embody, along with BPD. To say that I understand you would be an understatement. I know in those dark moments when we feel so alone. You are not alone however. There is a great fellowship of humans that suffer in the same manner and are finding our way. I also happen to believe there is a sovereign power that oversees us and knows what we're going through, one that we can lean on during those times. Life is a precious commodity that those of us with these issues, sometimes have to squander. I say this because we are left languishing in bed, in pain and frustration mentally and physically. Reach deep within and find the source of strength that you need sweetie to bring you through and get you around others once again. I plead with you not to shut your life down when you're feeling this way, but rather to reach out. Easier said than done. My prayers, my heart and my empathy go out to you precious one. God bless you. ❤️
Hi beautiful ~ I love your videos! All the beautiful things we get to experience in this life 💖💝💗 but I do struggle with major depression & these videos really help when I’m having a hard day. This popped up on my feed and I find you so calming, real, relatable & motivating. Thanks beauty! I’d love a updated what’s cheering me up right now video! Hope your doing well! 💖
The best books I’ve read so far this year are She Who Became the Sun and The House of Rust. Both live in the category of “fantasy” and “non-American settings,” and though they both also deal with what it’s like to be born a girl and the expectations/limitations that come from that they are quite different. House of Rust really feels unique and unusual in its writing style, approach to plot/character etc. in a way that is just the right amount of challenging. She Who Became the Sun is one of the best trans main characters ever written ❤
We all feel like a pile of trash from time to time but you are always consistently gracing us with quality content 💖 Adore hearing book recommendations from you, more please! What a thoughtful gift, looking forward to the instagram unboxing!
Oh my God Hanahh that Chantecaille Lotus Collection 😳😮. After seeing you wear it i opened the lot and boy oh boy! I never ever thought I’d find such a powder! I’d given up. I don’t know why I took the leap, you just spoke the exact words I’ve been thinking about the collection and how it might be the exception to the rule. It sooooo is. You’re going to have to pull that collection from my cold dead hands! On another note, the new volure rouge collection from Chanel has some amazing reds. I was given a gift and have now already bought another. Beautiful, easy to wear colours with a supposed matte finish but it’s so satin and creamy feeling and lasts. It beat out Dior for me (and that’s saying something)! Hope you feel better. ❤
Hi Hannah! Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing how you've been feeling. It's so refreshing, and I feel you. I hope the garbage feeling dissipates ASAP. I can't wait to pick up Stolen Focus. I'm wondering if it will also help my 8th grade English teacher husband process his students not being able to focus.
Also been feeling like hot garbage for a few days and feeling sorry for myself because of it. Thank you, Hannah, for sharing your highs and lows with us. ❤
Ooooh, not me clicking on this video as I sit in a sick little lump on the couch, my intrepid fever punching right through that DayQuil Severe, as I avoid looking at the novel I’m trying to write because it’s making me exhausted and sad…hah. You’re a hero. ❤
I‘ve had a pile-of-garbage few days and I just snapped myself out of it earlier today. Totally vibing with this video. Will definitely snag a copy of the attention book! That’s been a huge struggle for me lately.
Ugh. Winter in MN is hard and March is the longest month for sure! Your video couldn't be more timely. Haircut scheduled for this evening. Praying that I like it!
i looove Estelle glass!!! i almost got a pair of champagne ones in the color you chose or a similar one. i have an affinity for glass in general and mainly held back for lack of space. but if i ever needed some in the future it would definitely be that brand 😍 garbage feelings can come and go so long as we remember they are not our truth or any true semblance of ourselves. i’m excited to check out that book! i too long for a daily meditation practice 🤪
So glad to have had this video from you Hannah. Apparently many of us have been feeling similarly and this video was exactly what we needed, myself included. Thank you for sharing ❤
Ah yes, desperately needed a video in this vein right now! I've been waiting a couple of days for apartment maintenance to complete a not insignificant repair; it's always surprising to what degree frustration with a living space can bleed into every other aspect of life. I haven't yet totally eliminated screentime in bed, but downloading a solitaire mahjong app and the relaxation of matching tiles over the stimulation of the endless scroll has helped me so much in getting to sleep. Never heard of "Stolen Focus" before, but it's absolutely going on the to-read list!
I can't remember if, when you recommended Gideon the Ninth, you had recommended the physical book or the audiobook, BUT I WILL SHOUT FROM THE ROOFTOPS ABOUT HOW GREAT THE AUDIOBOOK IS! Moira Quirk is the best narrator I have ever listened to- I have laughed out loud in so many inappropriate situations because of how much energy and weirdness she brings to Tamsyn Muir's writing. It's truly a match made in heaven. Thank you for introducing me to the books 😍🙌
I like this idea of getting dressed up every day- I'm a WFH web dev who recently *decimated* their wardrobe down to a much smaller selection of essentials and my day-to-day outfit consists of lounge/pj pants, a band tshirt and a blanket. Maybe I should crack out something a little bit more exciting to give myself a perk. You should definitely make a video about "Dressy Hannah" vs "Casual Hannah", I'd love to see some outfits, why you chose it for that particular day and an accompanying makeup look. ... and I have you to thank for encouraging me to whittle down my wardrobe and makeup collections (ah, those depressed and impulsive 3am online shopping sessions...!) and to save money buy buying more wisely and less frivolously. Although, having said that, I'm STILL absolutely clawing at the walls for the Salt NY Sneaky Balm which has evaded our British grasp so far! We have almost identical skin type and tone so you're my go-to for complexion recommendations. I hope the fug clears soon. Spring is on the way :)
Huge storm in Western MASSACHUSETTS today. No electricity, no heat, no flushing. Chose to use up precious phone charge to watch this. Thank you HLP. BTW I am maintaining my no buy commitment since January 1! When I went into Home Goods I just felt overwhelmed and sick rather than excited and greedy....I guess this is progress!
I’ve been dragging myself from task to task during the day and feeling zero satisfaction at the end of the task. I thought it was because the weather is always gray and cold (UK), but now I think it’s something to do with this time of year. It seems like a lot of people have been feeling this way. I don’t like to refer to myself or feeling about myself like garbage…I would rather use the word unmotivated 😅. The fantasy self video plus this have been great, thanks!
I haven't read Naomi Novak's newest series but now I can't wait! If you like things in the tenor of Uprooted, I definitely suggest the Winternight trilogy by Katherine Arden, based on Russian fairytale but dark and beautiful!
I had buyer’s fatigue over Christmas. I realized that when I did buy items after that time it was to get a small dopamine hit of ‘something good is coming.’ Now I am trying to implement more actions that give me that same feeling. Still experimental. Under construction.
First, the literal pile of garbage bags as the background in your thumbnail is iconic 👍 I've been feeling like a piece of trash lately too. It's a constant struggle. Petting or playing with one of my cats is a form of mindfulness for me. They're so far removed from my problems that they immediately shift my focus to the present moment and nothing else. Also... I'm planning on purchasing a sunrise alarm clock so I can keep my phone out of the bedroom too 😊 I hope it helps! Anyway, thank you for posting this video ❤
I wanted to do a workout and yoga today but instead I just felt lazy af 😂 so I took a shower and did a gentle yoga practice today and I am just lounging around 😂 winning 🤭🦋🥳
I got them in store so was unable to use your affiliate link, but if the good people of Kiss are reading the comments please know Hannah influenced me to buy the imPRESS nails and they are indeed wonderful.
I would love a video playing with makeup and getting dressed inspired by your new glassware or lewk designed to welcome your new glassware. 😂😅 just a random thought that popped into my head as you were talking about pulling yourself together in time for your new glasses.
Hannah, I feel the same way. Having my birthday recently actually made me feel way worse even though I have friends and family that care about me. Thank you for making this video. I think being on my phone less may help. So obvious but needed to hear it. Thank you.
Amber smoke was an excellent choice! If I ever had the opportunity to have Estelle glassware I’d for sure opt for either that color or that blush tone they have. I hope to see pretty pictures on your Instagram with them soon!
The promise of life changing happiness with the purchase of new stuff.... yeah, I hit Rouge again with Sephora before February was over. Not to mention all the indie and direct purchases. Didn't help. Great video and a good reminder that I need to stop because it doesn't help.
I'm seriously thinking of starting an online twelve step program for makeup and skincare addicts. Would you be interested? Am I being rude by proposing such a thing on a popular influencer's channel?
Some excellent book recommendations!!!!! I’ve been very down lately as well not getting things done like I wanted! My dad just passed away I had a hysterectomy I’m on medical leave from work and seeing a psychologist some days are better than others my husband of 31 years isn’t really compassionate my kids have all moved so I’ve got empty nest I try to walk,shower,read and sometimes do my makeup on a better day! My issue is I turn to spending money I shouldn’t and I’m trying so hard not to!!! I hope you get to feeling better and I’d love to see an unboxing of your new wine glasses!
I had spinal surgery back in February, so I have been feeling like the biggest, smelliest pile of garbage. I've just had to accept it because it's what my body needs to heal. I think I'm going to play with makeup this afternoon after my online therapy. Thank you for sharing some books, I have not been reading new books as of late, because I primarily read(I listen to audiobooks, but it's still a version of reading) as I'm falling asleep & I've been listening to my comfort books on repeat. I need to add a chapter of a new book & then switch to my comfort books. BTW, that lipstick is an amazing color on you & I loooove that necklace with that top.
i'm sitting here trying to get myself feeling less like garbarge before i have to get on a train and playing around with eyeshadow. i think you would like the nyx jumbo pencil in iced mocha - it's a perfect non-orangey bronze for like, $10
In the UK, "fancy dress" means costumes, like you'd wear for Halloween, so when you said you were contemplating a video showing a week of fancy dressing, I thought: Okay, a little off brand, and a weird time of year to do it, but I'd be here for that 😂
That how my son would live his life if he got to choose his outfit every day. He’s 5 though so it makes more sense haha
Oh me too ❤😂
I was just sitting there thinking about how terrible I felt, so this is well timed!
I thought it was just me! I have been feeling so off
Me too!
Same.
omg thank you for this video. I totally relate right now
Wow same
I have been feeling like garbage too. And my best friend has just moved to another state. And the home has just been feeling really empty, so I went out and I adopted a dog. This is not a realistic solution for everybody. Dogs take up space, money, and most importantly time. But in my initial research to add a new pet to my home, I noticed what a crisis some local shelters are in as people are returning animals that they adopted during COVID and can no longer keep and backyard breeders continue to plague my specific community. I felt like I could make it work and I could save a life. So I went out and got a dog over the weekend. And she has been such a calming and centering force in my life.
I need a friend like you. You are so intelligent and well spoken . You have quiet confidence that I really admire and don’t see much in other people. I love watching your videos and can’t wait to see what you will inspire you next.
Thank you for this! I've been feeling like a pile of garbage a lot lately. Since like December off and on. It's been a lot. This is very helpful and comforting, and helps remind me that a lot of us suffer through these times.
Same, same. Every time my head things it wants to be happier, my body breaks down and gets sick. I’m exhausted and I just want sunshine and spring.
I recommended "Stolen Focus" to a few of my therapy clients and we had an informal book club about it. The discussion spawned a number of behavioral experiments in which clients reworked their relationships to their phones and led to really rich observations. I'm with you, Hannah, it is a compelling, readable, and relatable book. For those who aren't sold, watch some of Johann's interviews with various podcasters from the book tour; he's a remarkable story-teller. As are you, Hannah! 😘
Yes! I'm a therapist too and I simply adore Hari!
I’m going to listen to this. I know my concentration has been destroyed by my phone 💔
I am excited to read it!
Great book recommend, or say the two part Oprah’s Soul podcast she did with johann Hari is a great start.
I started googling... "Uprooted" is a book based on Polish folklore, but written by an American. I am Polish. I love books. I adore Hannah. Will read for sure!
Now you got my attention. Glad you brought up this detail. Dziekuje :)
It is so good!
One obsession in my childhood was basnie ludowe. I still have our family’s book about the journey of Krabat. Maybe I’ll get the audio, although I rarely consume fiction any more.
Ugh so relatable, Hannah!! Thank you for talking to us like we’re fellow human people, rather than giving in to the pressure to present the emotionally manipulating facade of got-it-togetherness. ❤
Love this! Just validating that there is a ton of ACTUAL gloom and doom happening, and garbage mode might be an OK short term response. I'm with you (and all of us) in the issues with screens and bedtime - super helpful to hear your struggles and successes in that. Finally I continue to love 1990 lip on you! Wish I could do a pure brown lippie...
This style of video is my personal favorite of your offerings. I love the messaging and reminder that it's what we do that will most impact our moods; turning away from new shiny trinkets.
Happy birthday fellow pisces 🐟
I've been feeling like a pile of garbage every morning for my entire adult life or so. It's been a couple of years, I've been listening to beautiful videos created by amazing people while doing my skincare- makeup and by the time I'm out of the house I know something new, I've put thought into a serious subject, i feel more confident inside and out!
This needs to be a series! So refreshing and non-selly compared to so many sitdown GRWMs
I originally started following you a year ago because I thought we were kindred spirits. This video has proven that to me one-hundredfold. You are a beam of light even when you feel like a pile of garbage. Thank you for sharing this with us. Much love!
Only HLP could make a graphic of trash bags look somehow chic!
I'm a nervous pile of barely sentient jelly waiting on grad school decisions so, I'm here for this video and you are not alone feeling like trash. Everyone - take care of yourselves!
Good Luck!
I so appreciate the “realness” of what you shared here, along with what you’ve been doing to get out of the funk. This time of year always seems like a down time and I have been lacking motivation. Thank you for everything you shared!
A lot of the joy of the glassware is that Cymbre sees you and understands what you will like (both the thing and the experience of choosing) ❤
I've been saying I can feel a lot of negative energy swirling around not just in my world but all over the world. I'm highly sensitive and observant and I can tell. It's hard for me to separate my own energy from others. It's relatable when people admit they're feeling bad. January and February were rough for me, but I decided I would reset at end of February and focus on the present moment day to day and fill that day with things that are good for me, make me happy or soothe me. I've had moments where I can feel the cloud trying to pull me down but generally so far, so good.
Being an empathetic person can be exhausting 😢
I’m so glad you’re a person on the internet. You always seem to pop up with exactly what I need to articulate or conceptualize, and the way you speak is so easy to listen to. I could just listen to you all day
Dear Hannah... thank you. Was just told today that I have a job no more. It wasn't an entire surprise because the project I was working for at a startup was failing for a few months so I didn't take it personally but I am feeling down. It's a form of rejection so I am processing that plus all I need to do to get a new one... yada yada. Saw this video trying to force myself not to actively do anything right now and just sit with what I am feeling while having "the radio" (youtube) on the background. And I feel accompanied.... not to say I need anyone to feel crappy so I can have company. Don't wish it on anyone. But appreciating the company while also appreciating the effort to get started in the "upwards" ladder. Anyways thanks and I appreciated the "chat" we "had" today evening lol lol lol
The impress kiss nails were my answer to not being able to go to a nail salon from 2020-2022 haha! I absolutely adore them. I was always able to get two sets out of one box. Love them!
ok. honestly the thin dark brows are SOOO good on you... I love it
the first part of self care that really goes for me is skincare. I'll go... 4, 5 days without washing my face properly. mental health is really rough sometimes :(
PS my husband is going to be SO offended when he finds out im finally reading the deadly education series not on his recommendation, but on yours... sorry honey.,.
Oooooh "dressing for work" even when you're going to be at home. I'm interested to see how you feel after this experiment. I did a "get dressed up--yes, even the shoes" and understanding how that made me feel was really valuable to tuck away for future use.
The Estelle glassware is beautiful, and I loved her little story about her grandmother's collection.
Thank you so much for your candor! I'm also on the "bottom rung of the ladder" working my way out of a funk and it helps immensely to know other people go through the same thing.
I’m shedding tears of happiness and gratitude thanks to your authenticity, and I’m only a few minutes into the video. Thank you so much! ❤💯🙏
This has been such a brutal winter with very little sun, we’re in it together!! Someday it will be spring 💜 and your necklace is gorgeous, I love it!!!
Daily meditation is life changing. I’ve been using headspace since 2017. I’ve got CPTSD from abuse in childhood. I’m
no longer on medication for anxiety/ depression. I no longer have anxiety/ depression and I’m healing from eating disorders without any help at all from the NHS.
I saw the title and immediately clicked on it. I have been in a dark hole for weeks. Thanks for your transparency❤
“Retroactively scanning for subject-verb disagreements”: as a former English professor, may I say how much I love your attention to grammar? That’s cheering *me* up right now. 🤎
perfect timing wow how did you read my mind that i feel like garbage!!
Very much needed someone reminding me that little purchases aren't just going to make everything better to day. Thanks :)
There's something so satisfying about getting completely absorbed in a book & just ripping through it!
Talk about relatable content. I've had a month of covid-related roller coaster health/skin/energy issues. Not helping that winter is especially tenacious this year in the Midwest. Things that have been cheering me up right now: watching Next in Fashion with my son who is super into men's fashion, baking cakes, Yoga with Adriene 30 day challenge, ending the day with a candlelit bath and playing the drums. I've been slugging with Booda Butter but I LOVE the packaging on that Futurewise. It's so much my aesthetic. As someone who's ADHD is only getting WORSE, I need to read (or listen to an audio book of) Stolen Focus! I think the Yoga with Adriene thing has been so effective for me because it is meant to be done every single day. I really vibed with "remember how much bigger the pile of garbage would be if you weren't doing the things you're doing with selfcare." I would be soooooo effed if I weren't doing the daily yoga. It really helps zap stress.
Yes, yes, 1000x yes!! I'm (somewhat irrationally) so proud of what you accomplished with this one, specifically as it pertains to vulnerability and solving the book conundrum. Just so well done. Love you!
Your recent videos have helped me a lot to understand more why I’m unhappy with my things and myself. I especially appreciated your fantasy self video; that really put things into perspective for me, and has really changed my mindset. You’ve always been a role model for me, as a fairly young person (😭), but your recent discussion about buying less stuff and feeling happy with what you have and working to be who you want to be have really stuck with me. I mean, I’ve always absorbed your advice about buying less beauty, and have actually ended up buying a lot less stuff-I-don’t-need-and-won’t-use, but THIS stuff, this recent stuff, has really hit me where I needed it to-and I just wanted to say thank you ❤
I would encourage those who read Hari's book to also explore the criticisms of his work from neurodivergent communities and also his past breaches of journalistic ethics. Such research may not change overall feelings / opinions and it also doesn't by any means negate all of his points, but I do think it's important to be aware of how some among the groups of people he writes about have received his work.
When I was in my twenties and thirties, I self-medicated by buying beautiful housewares. Lots of them! Other than the brief good feelings about tracking down and purchasing the new beautiful wine glasses, or high-end pots, or another place setting of my china, it didn't help. I needed medication for my chronic depression. So now I'm 60, still medicated, feeling much better, and I have a very well stocked kitchen!
Oh I’m jotting down all those book recommendations for sure!!
i started watching your no-buy year playlist about a week ago and you've quickly become one of my favourite youtubers. and then i came to this video right when i was wanting something like this. i think i will be reading stolen focus sometime soon because of how you described it.
Yes! The Kiss Impress nails are amazing! They make me feel less like garbage ☺️
Your honesty and willingness to share your humanity is touching, and proof that beauty itself shines from within as much as simply something beautiful seen by the eye alone. Thanks for changing my perspective on today!
YESSSS Scholomance love!! That series is one that has stayed with me and changed my way of seeing the world. It's such a moving commentary on greed, classism, community, and how hard it can be to do the right thing but how it's worth it. It's gritty without being overwhelming, and leaves you hopeful. Probably my most highly recommended series in the last couple years.
I also think we have a challenge when the seasons change... it always takes a bit to come out of winter hibernation when we don't feel like spring yet!
I am so grateful for you and your videos. This kind of video is so so needed and appreciated. I’m into over a year and a half of dialectical behavioural therapy with an absolutely remarkable therapist after going through years of mental health struggles and then developing debilitating chronic illness and chronic pain. The compassion and mindfulness aspects to the therapy have done so much to not only help me heal from trauma but to also learn to live a life I find fulfilling ALONGSIDE my illnesses and struggles. You discussing these kinds of things and your own experiences with compassion practices, self care, and mindfulness and how they can literally change the brain and, thus, your life in such meaningful ways is so beautiful, validating, and reflective of the journey I’ve been on. Thank you and take care. ❤❤❤
DBT is so comforting in some ways insofar as learning to structure your thinking differently... especially if you (like I) suffer with BPD. On the flip side it can frustrate in the realization that our brains are often wired to think in a very selfish, myopic way. It has overall, helped me to take on the discipline of learning how to set boundaries on my thinking processes. Good luck in the journey. ..from a fellow Sojourner.❤
@@alicepirola7077 This is lovely! Thank you! I don’t have BPD but I do struggle with depression, anxiety, PTSD/trauma, panic disorder, OCD, and I struggle with grief because of my illnesses (which are also the cause of my PTSD) so I’ve struggled A LOT with a very negative perception of myself/my mind/my body while also feeling EXTREMELY scared, vulnerable, overwhelmed, and protective of myself at the same time, in order to avoid MORE pain/discomfort/trauma. This has lead to many years of me not really living my life out of fear and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness but also being extremely self critical and a perfectionist only with myself. DBT has helped IMMENSELY in terms of helping me reframe many of my fears/thoughts/behaviours, set goals and boundaries, and repair my relationship with myself, and, thus, others. I’m so glad it has helped you too. It’s always good to know that, while we do have to walk our own journey through life, we can do it alongside others. Take care. ❤❤❤
@@meghangerhart643 on the days when you feel like you can't go on, when you feel like no one is there for you, when it hurts just to lift a breath into your lungs, I pray for you. I understand your journey. I have all of the elements of mental health issues that you embody, along with BPD. To say that I understand you would be an understatement. I know in those dark moments when we feel so alone. You are not alone however. There is a great fellowship of humans that suffer in the same manner and are finding our way. I also happen to believe there is a sovereign power that oversees us and knows what we're going through, one that we can lean on during those times. Life is a precious commodity that those of us with these issues, sometimes have to squander. I say this because we are left languishing in bed, in pain and frustration mentally and physically. Reach deep within and find the source of strength that you need sweetie to bring you through and get you around others once again. I plead with you not to shut your life down when you're feeling this way, but rather to reach out. Easier said than done. My prayers, my heart and my empathy go out to you precious one. God bless you. ❤️
Hi beautiful ~ I love your videos! All the beautiful things we get to experience in this life 💖💝💗 but I do struggle with major depression & these videos really help when I’m having a hard day. This popped up on my feed and I find you so calming, real, relatable & motivating. Thanks beauty! I’d love a updated what’s cheering me up right now video! Hope your doing well! 💖
Omg I’m reading the locked tomb series now. So good. I’ll def check this series
Oooo!!! My brother was really enjoying the scholomance!
thank you for this video. Lately I've been feeling like a pile of garbage and this really helped. hugs!
The best books I’ve read so far this year are She Who Became the Sun and The House of Rust. Both live in the category of “fantasy” and “non-American settings,” and though they both also deal with what it’s like to be born a girl and the expectations/limitations that come from that they are quite different. House of Rust really feels unique and unusual in its writing style, approach to plot/character etc. in a way that is just the right amount of challenging. She Who Became the Sun is one of the best trans main characters ever written ❤
Spinning silver (also my Naomi Novak) is really brilliant. It is a standalone book, but for me is all the more excellent for it.
Sending positive and compassionate vibes.
The smoked amber wine glasses are a perfection.
We all feel like a pile of trash from time to time but you are always consistently gracing us with quality content 💖 Adore hearing book recommendations from you, more please! What a thoughtful gift, looking forward to the instagram unboxing!
House in the Cerulean Sea brought me out of my garbage. Such a lovely read!
Oh my God Hanahh that Chantecaille Lotus Collection 😳😮. After seeing you wear it i opened the lot and boy oh boy! I never ever thought I’d find such a powder! I’d given up. I don’t know why I took the leap, you just spoke the exact words I’ve been thinking about the collection and how it might be the exception to the rule. It sooooo is. You’re going to have to pull that collection from my cold dead hands!
On another note, the new volure rouge collection from Chanel has some amazing reds. I was given a gift and have now already bought another. Beautiful, easy to wear colours with a supposed matte finish but it’s so satin and creamy feeling and lasts. It beat out Dior for me (and that’s saying something)! Hope you feel better. ❤
Hi Hannah! Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing how you've been feeling. It's so refreshing, and I feel you. I hope the garbage feeling dissipates ASAP. I can't wait to pick up Stolen Focus. I'm wondering if it will also help my 8th grade English teacher husband process his students not being able to focus.
Also been feeling like hot garbage for a few days and feeling sorry for myself because of it. Thank you, Hannah, for sharing your highs and lows with us. ❤
Ooooh, not me clicking on this video as I sit in a sick little lump on the couch, my intrepid fever punching right through that DayQuil Severe, as I avoid looking at the novel I’m trying to write because it’s making me exhausted and sad…hah. You’re a hero. ❤
Thank you for the recommendation on the nails, I love them! I have never felt more girly with very little effort.
I‘ve had a pile-of-garbage few days and I just snapped myself out of it earlier today. Totally vibing with this video. Will definitely snag a copy of the attention book! That’s been a huge struggle for me lately.
Ugh. Winter in MN is hard and March is the longest month for sure! Your video couldn't be more timely. Haircut scheduled for this evening. Praying that I like it!
Naomi No back has become one of my favorite authors in the last 2 years!
i looove Estelle glass!!! i almost got a pair of champagne ones in the color you chose or a similar one. i have an affinity for glass in general and mainly held back for lack of space. but if i ever needed some in the future it would definitely be that brand 😍
garbage feelings can come and go so long as we remember they are not our truth or any true semblance of ourselves.
i’m excited to check out that book! i too long for a daily meditation practice 🤪
So glad to have had this video from you Hannah. Apparently many of us have been feeling similarly and this video was exactly what we needed, myself included. Thank you for sharing ❤
Laying in bed with my heating blanket and a headache, so excited to see this video and enjoy the exhalation that is this channel !
I literally just had an anxiety attack ten minutes ago and then saw this as my first recommendation lol thank you, Hannah.
Ah yes, desperately needed a video in this vein right now! I've been waiting a couple of days for apartment maintenance to complete a not insignificant repair; it's always surprising to what degree frustration with a living space can bleed into every other aspect of life.
I haven't yet totally eliminated screentime in bed, but downloading a solitaire mahjong app and the relaxation of matching tiles over the stimulation of the endless scroll has helped me so much in getting to sleep. Never heard of "Stolen Focus" before, but it's absolutely going on the to-read list!
LOVE johann hari. chasing the scream is a personal favorite, covering the war on drugs.
Thank you for the book recommends. Really enjoying your content!
Thank you for making this video Hannah! I just ordered Uprooted and Stoolen Focus, cannot wait to read them.❤
I can't remember if, when you recommended Gideon the Ninth, you had recommended the physical book or the audiobook, BUT I WILL SHOUT FROM THE ROOFTOPS ABOUT HOW GREAT THE AUDIOBOOK IS! Moira Quirk is the best narrator I have ever listened to- I have laughed out loud in so many inappropriate situations because of how much energy and weirdness she brings to Tamsyn Muir's writing. It's truly a match made in heaven. Thank you for introducing me to the books 😍🙌
I like this idea of getting dressed up every day- I'm a WFH web dev who recently *decimated* their wardrobe down to a much smaller selection of essentials and my day-to-day outfit consists of lounge/pj pants, a band tshirt and a blanket. Maybe I should crack out something a little bit more exciting to give myself a perk.
You should definitely make a video about "Dressy Hannah" vs "Casual Hannah", I'd love to see some outfits, why you chose it for that particular day and an accompanying makeup look.
... and I have you to thank for encouraging me to whittle down my wardrobe and makeup collections (ah, those depressed and impulsive 3am online shopping sessions...!) and to save money buy buying more wisely and less frivolously. Although, having said that, I'm STILL absolutely clawing at the walls for the Salt NY Sneaky Balm which has evaded our British grasp so far! We have almost identical skin type and tone so you're my go-to for complexion recommendations. I hope the fug clears soon. Spring is on the way :)
You sold me at wizard school. Cannot wait to read this series!
I am in the same mood. Will try to pull myself out of it. And I like the necklace with this shirt- it "clashes" in the most beautiful way.
You have such a healthy mindset and good relationship with yourself. It’s so admirable!
Love how honest your videos are when it comes to life in general
I love Naomi Novik! I read Uprooted first, and I loved it so much that I devoured everything she’s ever written.
Huge storm in Western MASSACHUSETTS today. No electricity, no heat, no flushing. Chose to use up precious phone charge to watch this. Thank you HLP. BTW I am maintaining my no buy commitment since January 1! When I went into Home Goods I just felt overwhelmed and sick rather than excited and greedy....I guess this is progress!
Loved this video - loads of thoughts bubbling up. As well as fancy dressing would loooove to see an updated knitwear collection 😊
The nails look great! Thanks for the tip.😊
I’ve been dragging myself from task to task during the day and feeling zero satisfaction at the end of the task. I thought it was because the weather is always gray and cold (UK), but now I think it’s something to do with this time of year. It seems like a lot of people have been feeling this way. I don’t like to refer to myself or feeling about myself like garbage…I would rather use the word unmotivated 😅. The fantasy self video plus this have been great, thanks!
I haven't read Naomi Novak's newest series but now I can't wait! If you like things in the tenor of Uprooted, I definitely suggest the Winternight trilogy by Katherine Arden, based on Russian fairytale but dark and beautiful!
I had buyer’s fatigue over Christmas. I realized that when I did buy items after that time it was to get a small dopamine hit of ‘something good is coming.’ Now I am trying to implement more actions that give me that same feeling. Still experimental. Under construction.
First, the literal pile of garbage bags as the background in your thumbnail is iconic 👍
I've been feeling like a piece of trash lately too. It's a constant struggle. Petting or playing with one of my cats is a form of mindfulness for me. They're so far removed from my problems that they immediately shift my focus to the present moment and nothing else. Also... I'm planning on purchasing a sunrise alarm clock so I can keep my phone out of the bedroom too 😊 I hope it helps! Anyway, thank you for posting this video ❤
I wanted to do a workout and yoga today but instead I just felt lazy af 😂 so I took a shower and did a gentle yoga practice today and I am just lounging around 😂 winning 🤭🦋🥳
I got them in store so was unable to use your affiliate link, but if the good people of Kiss are reading the comments please know Hannah influenced me to buy the imPRESS nails and they are indeed wonderful.
I would love a video playing with makeup and getting dressed inspired by your new glassware or lewk designed to welcome your new glassware. 😂😅 just a random thought that popped into my head as you were talking about pulling yourself together in time for your new glasses.
Hi Hannah! Would you mind doing a video showing how you dye your brows? 😊 Please and thank you!
She did one during her No Buy Year. It is an older video, and she is incredibly cute. :)
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Hannah, I feel the same way. Having my birthday recently actually made me feel way worse even though I have friends and family that care about me. Thank you for making this video. I think being on my phone less may help. So obvious but needed to hear it. Thank you.
Happy Belated Birthday 🎉🥳Hannah!!!!!!!!!!!! ♥
Amber smoke was an excellent choice! If I ever had the opportunity to have Estelle glassware I’d for sure opt for either that color or that blush tone they have. I hope to see pretty pictures on your Instagram with them soon!
I just love your videos. I think it really is that authenticity thing. Thank you for being real and inspiring 😊
The promise of life changing happiness with the purchase of new stuff.... yeah, I hit Rouge again with Sephora before February was over. Not to mention all the indie and direct purchases. Didn't help. Great video and a good reminder that I need to stop because it doesn't help.
I'm seriously thinking of starting an online twelve step program for makeup and skincare addicts. Would you be interested? Am I being rude by proposing such a thing on a popular influencer's channel?
love your content hannah you're the best
Some excellent book recommendations!!!!! I’ve been very down lately as well not getting things done like I wanted! My dad just passed away I had a hysterectomy I’m on medical leave from work and seeing a psychologist some days are better than others my husband of 31 years isn’t really compassionate my kids have all moved so I’ve got empty nest I try to walk,shower,read and sometimes do my makeup on a better day! My issue is I turn to spending money I shouldn’t and I’m trying so hard not to!!! I hope you get to feeling better and I’d love to see an unboxing of your new wine glasses!
I have reread Uprooted like 3 times over the years and somehow missed that Novik released this Scholomance series. So excited to learn about this!
Just did a quick beat with u right now. Today is day number 3 of not consuming and will go to na for the first time today. Thank you 🙏.
I had spinal surgery back in February, so I have been feeling like the biggest, smelliest pile of garbage. I've just had to accept it because it's what my body needs to heal. I think I'm going to play with makeup this afternoon after my online therapy. Thank you for sharing some books, I have not been reading new books as of late, because I primarily read(I listen to audiobooks, but it's still a version of reading) as I'm falling asleep & I've been listening to my comfort books on repeat. I need to add a chapter of a new book & then switch to my comfort books.
BTW, that lipstick is an amazing color on you & I loooove that necklace with that top.
Thank you Hannah, I love your book recommendations. One is already in my shopping basket 😀
i'm sitting here trying to get myself feeling less like garbarge before i have to get on a train and playing around with eyeshadow. i think you would like the nyx jumbo pencil in iced mocha - it's a perfect non-orangey bronze for like, $10