How rapid hair loss changed my life
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Just a lil video about hair loss, male pattern baldness, losing your hair. Androgenic alopecia. Whatever you want to call it. Balding. Yes, that's another way to say it.
An insane amount of you are asking what my brother did to get his hair back. I’ll post a video to the second channel with the details. Make sure to sub so you don’t miss it, link is in the description.
Edit: Ok the video is up: ua-cam.com/video/sSrDX7-w4ZY/v-deo.html
Thank you. I too immediately got this question when you talked about that.
I'm curious, did it ever cross your mind to do hair transplant? How do you feel about that idea?
PS: You look great with the bold look :p
@@yagamilight64 the problem with hair transplants are one is never enough, you have to keep going back year after year to keep getting it done as although some hair regrows Alot does at first but then stop again so you have to go back, so unless you have tens of thousands of £a /$ every year it's not really a viable option. Lots of celebs who get the hair transplants spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on them over the years, some look better yes but Alot don't really look much better, the hair never grows back thicker it's very wirery, it's about being confident and happy with you! I don't believe throwing money at hair transplants will make anyone any happier to be honest. Just work on yourself get fit and healthy, be confident in your uniqueness there is only one of you make the most of who you really are.
Finasteride probably
Please do share what he did, maybe get him on camera to talk about it, his opinion and why was he proactive, what made him try this method, obviously it worked and he does look like he never shed one single hair :P Thanks dude
Losing my hair as a young man was probably the most soul crushing experience I've ever dealt with.
Its not easy at any point in your life. I'm 43 and my hair is really thin now and its fucking depressing.
@@parnpichate Yeah man, best thing I ever did was shave my head. Much better look for most people imo unless you really don't care either way and just own it.
i understand your pain bro, ive been balding since 16, it is the most humbling experience anyone can ask for
@@ed00001 I am not going bald but for the last three years, I really got stressed with everything in life... I am 27 now and have some grey hairs which was so crushing. I come to terms with it and joke about it (haha, steel hair, gives more armor) but I wished I knew back then what I know now, not stressing about age, accomplishments and what I could have already done and reached with 25.
problem is I have all these red bumps over my head, it's genetic. so if i go bald I'll look disgusting
great video. bald is powerful and strong. oh yeah also we should grab a beer next time i'm in bc. much love xoxo
Seth 😳
I’m so down man, hit me up on Insta, I’ll be watching my DMs
@@betterideas you two could also collab,would be interestig
Can I join too or is this invitation only applicable to UA-camrs who think they're above everyone else because they've got a check symbol next to their name?
@@thetf2channel 😐
So proud of you for having the courage to share your story. Hair loss isn’t an easy topic to talk about, it can be very very awkward and upsetting for many people. ❤
Much more common in men.
This was an incredible video. You nailed the truth super well from the internal anxiety that someone might be battling with if they’re noticing their hair loss. To shaving it all off and realizing that the anxiety was really just you and no one really cares. I’d say that is true because to be honest I thought you looked great at all stages from hair loss to shaving it bald. You were pointing out where you were noticing you were receding and losing it. But from my seeing you I wasn’t even thinking that or seeing that. We see more about ourselves than what others are seeing.
What inclines that shaved look looks good on everyone ??? Why not treat something thats a disorder ?.
Feels so strange seeing a hairloss video by a popular UA-camr that isn't also sponsored by Keeps. I just wanna say I appreciate the novelty here.
don't listen to him. balding matters. the bald are THE MOST discriminated against minority group on the face of the planet. folically-challenged people face hate crimes and ridicule on a daily basis. it maybe on a dating site: "bald = no response", a job interview "when the hat comes off and they see the bald head and send you packing", etc. as chairman of the anti-balding defamation league I'd like all bald individuals to join our movement for equity and respect. we're forming the baldetariat to overthrow and scalp those who oppress us.
@@chrishayes5755 sounding like the paradisers from one punch man
The coping is strong in this one. Imaging trying to deny that everybody cares and values you based on your physical appearance lmao.
It so messed up how keeps adverts act like taking fin isnt a big deal and doent have any sides
@UCj6Pq389GLLdZ2aqPfzuREg Yeah just take Finasteride and fuck up your health like I did !
Best decision I’ve ever made
“I can also tell when it’s raining.. quicker than anyone else.” The way he said it so seriously killed me 💀
He said it as if he were an air bender
Lol
I am 100 × productive when I bounce through the hair light on my head and it shines through.
All those photos he said "you can tell I'm losing hair" I really could not tell, he looked fine to me.
Before shaving I’d spend a good hour strategically placing the hairs for a night on the town and my worst nightmare was when it rained 😂
This video was honestly amazing to watch. I have pretty much the exact same hair loss story as you, except I shaved my head yesterday at 26 years old. My hair also looked “pubey” and I had been in denial for a long time. But now I finally did it, and it feels amazing (although still strange). My friends’ and colleagues’ reactions were also pretty much just “oh cool”, which kind of both disappointed and relieved me.
Amazing video and I really appreciate it. I’m 21 and I got that strong M shaped hairline going on and I definitely know what you meant by being okay on the outside but crippling insecure about it on the inside. Always worrying whether people are noticing my hair and all that. I keep it longer and at this point nobody can really notice the hair loss due to me styling it, but I’ve always had this anxiety whenever I notice a few more hairs in the shower and know that this is eventually going to be untenable and I’ll have to shave before I hit 30. But you’re absolutely right in that there’s literally no need to stress about it because literally no one cares. We amplify our own anxieties and think that the whole world is watching when in reality I don’t even think about anyone else’s hair in that way. It’s just made me feel a lot better about my situation, and I’ll be coming back to watch this video whenever I start to overthink it again. Thanks man.
“Main Character syndrome” is a real thing. Most people think that everyone is watching and judging their every move when in reality no one really cares…at all. Once I learned that my life improved 10 fold. Thanks for this video man!
The problem everybody know that nobody really cares but it's just too hard to implement in real life
@@user-xg6tv5hl6s exactly
...you're still going bald. It's not for others, it's for you.
Many people care about you, for a little seconds or minutes at least. And those little seconds and minutes can make the difference between you building a depression and/or social anxiety or not.
@@xaviergarcia8342 that’s true. But that’s where becoming the best version of yourself with the cards you’re dealt comes into play.
I swear to god losing hair can fuck your confidence up so much
Having grey hair at teenage too 😭😭
@@fabianski1389 Still better than losing it. You can dye it.
Acne is way more worse especially on nose
@@HighTierHuman0Not really no one cares that much about acne its just a sign of puberty that disappears after time whilst hair loss is something everyone can seee and in my experience losing hair people care about it a lot more than acne.
@@lordwaba3222 acne on nose is something else istg. Was pimples that hurt much. I went to dermatologist and took antibiotics for it
I appreciate you sharing your story. It's a struggle for a lot of men out there especially from countries that really pays a lot of attention on your hair. I don't have any judgement about people who are suffering from hair loss because it's not their fault.
Thank you so so so much for making this video. I've been really depressed about my hair rapidly thinning over the past few days. What you said about it just being genetics really struck a chord in me. We just draw so much of your identity from our hair, that coming to terms with losing it is debilitating. But thinking about it just being genetics and not time fleeting by makes me feel better. Thanks for this.
Man this couldn't come at a better time Joey, I've been balding since 20 but I've held onto it much longer than I should. In 2 weeks I turn 30, the day after I'm finally going to shave it off!
Hi pastor Joe
Never thought I would see here
😀
Love your channel :)
Hahaha I find this comment interesting because I turned 30 this past June and I shaved my head 2 days after! All I can say is that it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I feel like I set myself free and my confidence has had quite the boost as well! Don't be afraid, you'll be surprised how much better you will feel when you do it! Good luck!!
didnt expect to so you here
shave it u belend
As a 20 year old who’s been watching their hair disappear since I was 17, I honestly forget that this isn’t a problem exclusive to me. After a while I started to feel “ less than” or defective. I still haven’t come to terms with what’s happening to me, but I do know that no one deserves to feel this way.
You're definitely not the only one! I know a couple guys who also have receding hairlines. They also look great! You're not worth any less whether you have hair or not. Tbh, every single bald guy I've ever met has been an awesome person. Idk, just remember that your value does not come from your hair.
Fax man, truth is literally every guy goes through this it’s normal. It’s all that testosterone 👊
As a somewhat older woman, I feel the same way you describe. For me the "root" cause is trauma. Unfortunately a lot of people feel this way deep down. It's a hard wake up call to realize you're feeling this way and even harder to rewire your brain/to cope in a healthy way. Thanks for sharing. I hope you're able to find your peace! Know your never alone and keep on learning 🌌💖💫
You should look into microneedling and minoxidil. It's a total gamechanger - grew back most of my hair in the areas i was balding and thickened up the rest significantly.
Monoxidil + Microneedling + Finasteride. You can save your hair if you want to
Thanks a lot for sharing your hair loss journey, This helped me to worry less about my hair loss.
I love how you cracked jokes while sharing like "No bad hair day" & "More aerodynamic", it kept me engaged and happy that you are happy!
Im 18 and I started balding when I was like 14. That is pretty fucking early and it is very visble and I feel very insecure about it. Videos like this give me courage that I will be able to be happy without hair at some point. Thank you for sharing your story. Balding in your teen years can effect your menatl healt greatly.
you can get hair transplant since you're of a legal age, i'd recommend spain, they have the best clinics that work on that
in exactly the same situation as you dude. started balding at 14, pretty noticeable too. Idk where you are but im in the UK, and British schools can be brutal. i never got picked on but someone mentioned it once or twice. i dont think it was in a nasty way, and i shouldve just owned it... but i didnt. Im in college now and im wearing a hair system, its really helped with my confidence, however theres just a part of me that wants to shave it all off. however, going from a hair system to bald.. i feel would shock people? i mean no one knows that im wearing a hair system, but honestly i just want to be bald lmao. i agree that balding in ur teen years can effect ur mental health greatly, however know that ur not alone. we can all be bald together lol
@@darkslayer6642 I’m 16 too it’s the worst thing I would feel so much better if I had a normal hairline, it’s not even that girls don’t like me it’s just you feel ugly and get made fun of when you can’t even stop it
My son starting losing his hair immediately after he completed a 6 month cycle of Accutane for bad acne at the age of 16. He started Accutane at 15 years old with a full head of hair, After completing the 6 months at 16 years old his hair started to shed drastically. At 18 he started Finasteride. That did help the crown, but has not helped the receding hairline. He will be 21 years old next month and has talked about an FEU hair transplant in a year or so. I disagree that "nobody cares". There are a lot of cruel people who will make fun of someone losing their hair - even if you considered them your friend or girl friend.
Why you don't do Hair transplant ?
Great video, we are all each others background characters lol
Great advice. We've all beat ourselves up needlessly before doing what we need to do. Seeing myself on a video and realizing that I had was way past the thinning stage took me directly to a #1 buzz; graduating to slick bald. All of the overthinking was time wasted and consumed way too much energy.
Thank you I needed to hear this. At 18 I've noticed my hair line thinning. I'm 21 rn and my hair is still thick on top, but it looks patchy if I have long hair so I have to keep it short (like a crew cut) so it doesn't look terrible. I miss the days when I was 17 and I was rocking the Jake Gyllenhaal/Jared Leto long hair in HS. Whatever there's worse things in life, I hope all is good with you man 🙏
So many of our worries are about what other people think about us.
But most of the time they aren't thinking about us at all 🤣
The funniest part is that it's actually truth most of the time. People DO care how you look, that's why people are given nicknames based on the looks a lot, that's why whenever you see something odd about a person you instantly spot it, that's why you are automatically repulsed by ugly crooked yellow teeth or bad case of facial acne and so on.
Looks determine how easy and successful your life will be.
"🤣"
@@Copemaxx This makes no sense
By your logic if I want to become a succesful engineer it would mean that I would need to be good looking
@@factory_enslavement by my logic you would have far easier time making it a success in engineering if you were beautiful in comparison to being ugly.
It's not even debatable tbh, the fact that looks matter have been proven by extensive research of psychologists from different countries.
Those who are trying to deny it are either soft to accept that they are ugly or don't want to admit to beauty privilege
@@Copemaxx Sorry to say that but you're kinda dumb if you think like that
Do you really think that every job in this world requires for you to be good loking?
Especially in a job where you have to be good in order to succed
Some of you really have this obssession over how beautiful or how ugly someone is
No one gives a shit about how you look
As a student no teacher will give me higher grades if I'm good looking, or to anyone else
They will evaluate me over what I wrote on paper
“Be nicer than necessary to everyone you meet. Everyone is fighting some kind of battle.” ~Socrates
except people are too eager to confuse that with weakness.
@@ShaferHart True
@@ShaferHart Or opportunity to take advantage
But like he said "people think about themselves" and likely aren't caring about your battle either.
@@ShaferHart maybe, but that's out of your control. They can confuse your kindness for whatever they want.
Do try and clear it up but dont let your personal virtue be destroyed just because you presume people will take advantage of your virtuous nature.
I have had friends going bald pretty young. One in particular held on way to long and was combing over. I honestly believed he held on because people took made fun of his balding and he didnt want to admit defeat. Just don't poke fun at male pattern baldness, you dont know how much it can effect people when they are at home alone, staring into the mirror thinking "why me?". Also, you never know when it could eventually come for you. Someone i know, who always poked fun at my aforementioned friend, is currently showing major signs of balding. Safe to say, he is very quiet about the siuation.
@@mahadhosh6400that justifies bullying?
@@mahadhosh6400Fin for the win. So many toilet seat heads in my family both sides. Im a horrific goblin mofo. If I lost my hair id be taking a ride on the suislide.
@@mahadhosh6400 so is it their fault or did they choose to have such genes?
@@user-og4fm6rj5y Fin will f you up sooner or later, good luck.
Finally I feel like I'm not alone in this. Officially lost my squared hairline while I was in middle school. Got mistaken for a 40 year old in my freshman year of college, and then completely shaved my head by my second year of college. Every change of your hair that you described is exactly what I've gone through. Definitely lost the genetic lottery, but I'm happier now that I'm bald.
Literally same dude. Shaved my second year of college at 19. Glad to find some bald brethren 😤
"Definitely lost the genetic lottery" Because of your hair? Calm down
@@GAMER123GAMING honestly if you are short , if you lose your hair or if you have a very ugly face by nature … yeah you lost the genetic lottery because it isn’t something you can improve yourself.
Well having a genetic illness is worse but there it is beyond losing .
See for exemple I get fat very easily but through training I was able to reach and maintain fitness . I’m a little slow but not through studying I got a good job and culture .
I’m balding … well it sucks I can literally do nothing about it . I’m short 5’7 we’ll it’s not terrible but once again I can’t improve that .
So yeah …
Why not Finasteride? Im on it and I can guarantee my hair would look horrific without it. Ill be on it for life.
I just watched this video randomly, but what you said at the end is so true man, and more people need to realize that other people don't think about them as much. I also looked at Seth's comment here, and just realized that I never paid attention to the fact that he was bald. Like I could see it of course, but I never really thought "Oh this guy is bald", I just watched his videos without having the status of the hair on his head in mind, and enjoyed his content.
yeah, i thought he just had a buzz cut and it looked good and thought no more of it
As a man with all his hair I look at bald men and think you look either like silly babies or old farts before your time.
This is actually extremely inspiring and eye-opening for someone who is also losing their hair. Thank you for your honesty and insights. Genuinely, this made my night so much better.
I’m blessed my family has pretty good hair Genetics my dad went by kind of early but he was already in his mid-30s but a lot of it has to do with diet because a lot of Americans have bad diets and are lacking minerals and vitamins
So nice to hear this..lossing my hair so much currently did almost everything to stop it.. but now ive decided that now if I'll go bald soon i will embrace it❤
As someone who has been shaving their head for a few years now, at 37 years old. I will tell you, at least for me, all the hair treatments, all the care in the world, ended up being more of a hassle than it was worth. And honestly, in my case, aside of hair transplant (which I haven't tried), nothing really worked, so it ended up being mostly a pain in the ass (and also pretty expensive).
Now, shaved I feel so much more relaxed. Not gonna tell anyone how to live their lives, but acceptance is generally pretty great for your mental health.
thats a great comment man. I got SMP so I shave my head im glad i didnt get a hair transplant
Stop eating meat. It destroys testosterone that helps hair growth.
Yep, I felt the same actually. Rogaine was working for me for about 6-8 months or so, but eventually I noticed the hair loss started right back up even while using it. It's expensive and also kills your hair anyway making it brittle and fried. Just not worth it.
Also I'm pretty positive (like 99%) that hair loss treatment doesn't actually work when your hair loss is due to genetics (male pattern baldness). I never tried Propetia, but my doctor also mentioned that it may not even work if my hair loss condition is genetics, not a medical condition. I decided not to go with it either because of some nasty side effects reported with it. Would rather lose my hair than risk it, it seems like a pretty dangerous drug.
@@WIZA327 Propecia is literally used for genetic baldness. Your doctor is out of their mind.
@@jacobanderson6952 it still doesn't always work for everyone. It also has some potentially nasty side effects. Imagine if you took it, still lose your hairs, and destroy your sex life. Not worth it, imo.
It's surprising how cleanly and calmly you talked about the most tensed issue of my life when you experienced it. Loved the way you put it forward. Thank you so much for the confidence you gave.
Love and respect from half globe afar.
he made peace with it. at some point people have to come to terms with things. when i see the tricks that Desi uncles have to maintain thinning hair because it ends up being as fluffy and thin like cotton candy. it makes me feel bad . Growing up in India Baldness is a thing especially in the south.
Thanks for making this video, I relate to it too much sadly. I got really worried about it and buzzed my hair last year to see what it'd look like and honestly I feel like I look better with hair. If my hairline recedes any more I'm going bald, and that's okay. You're right though, no one cares more than you do.
Get on minox and finasteride asap
@@Copemaxx I’ll ask my doctor.
@@GhostSickness good choice brother, it doesn't matter which path you choose, but you should know your chances and feel awesome in your skin!
@@Copemaxx Wowowowow! Check out side effects first! They can be pretty heavy!
@@krasky side effects of bald head can be even more severe
Top guy.
Going bald in your teens must be hard to deal with.
You are an inspiration.
Can you address your botox, skincare etc? Your skin has improved a whole lot! In the old videos you have significant forehead wrinkles and now your skin is absolutely glowing! would love to see a video on skin x
@@Alias...001 what does that have to do with skin improvements and wrinkle disappearing?
@@Alias...001 right
I can relate so much with this video that is almost like it was made for me. The first time someone said my hair was receding I was 17 and my hair was a big part of my looks and appearance. I ignored it hoping it would stop naturally but of course that didn't happen. I was on and off shaving my hair and letting it grow from age 19 to age 22 and then I just let it grow again, used a lot of fade in the sides and long on top to try to make it less apparent but it only worked for a small window. I had self esteem issues and lack of confidence because I always was so self conscious and concerned about my hair, but had issues to be open to accept that I had to do something. At age 24, around my 25th birthday a colleague snapped a picture of me from a distance with my head a little bit down and the only thing I could see was the amount of skin in the top of my head. THAT was the moment I knew I had to simply let go.
One thing that bothered me, and still does for an extent, is that during all this process where I was on and off with my hair, although people do not actively care how I look, your baldness is kind of the low hanging fruit to make jokes or snarky comments. Sometimes it hurts even though you know it was not the intention. I think this made me more empathetic towards other things regarding appearance I would make fun of in the past, because now I know how that can hurt.
Thanks for this video, I really needed this. It is a great definition of the acceptance we all have to accept in our lives (for different things).
Joao, damn that's early . i had a school friend , i noticed is bald pattern on a very specific day. we playing handball and he breezed past me and i could see a missing patch of hair on top. because the hair around was thin i knew right away that he was balding. we were only 14 . its crazy. and he was the recipient of bald related jokes. complete strangers would call him either fantomas or a bald headed vulture.
@@PHlophe Some people will really start at a very young age and sometimes you just think it will stop or that it is just a phase. It is weird to explain because it is so obvious and I think that this video really does a good job in explaining what goes through your head during the process.
Complete strangers or acquaintances that I really don't see for a long time will call me stuff because it is so obvious. I came to the conclusion that my lack of hair is probably the first thing people notice about me, it is like a defining feature of my appearance. Realizing that and knowing how some comments or jokes can be hurtful, I noticed that I should never make fun of peoples features even though it is obvious and easy, because I have no idea what they go through in their minds to deal with that.
If you can, always remember this and your friend and do the same. Cheers.
From one bald guy to another, this was a great take on baldness - I love all your videos man, keep dropping those knowledge bombs!
I love you!! Thank you! You were talking about what I’m going in right now! Bro you were talking and my inner voice was saying “yes yes this is me that’s what I’m going through” !
I wish the "nobody cares" mentality was true. Im constantly asked about my bald head. Jokes made about me. Girls flat out reject me based on my bald head. I wish it wasnt a thing. But it is.
Shit man that really motivated me, I did 100 push ups, 100 sit ups, 100 Squads and 10Km of running every single day and started balding in the end. Despite my godlike body I was quite insecure over my baldness, so thanks for this video🙂
did you eat a banana tho?
Try not to punch people
And no AC or heat?
saitama?
Try microneedling with finasteride. That suppose to help
His hair when it was balding literally looked fine. Dude is hyper analyzing himself saying it looked terrible and I'm just like. But it looks fine lol
It doesn't, because you know it's the beginning of the end
Yeah definetely, if I met him I wouldn't even have realized he was balding
Yeah it's never a big deal, just get over it bruh looks fine lol,... Until it happens to you.
I'm watching as typing and I don't ever hear him saying "it looked horrible! I was a big freak show!!" he literally said it doesn't look that great, and doesn't look fresh etc. and yes you could say it's "fine" and sure, it is, it's passable. But for an early 20s guy to be that receded, it's showing what's coming next.
But this guy is a very rare case, he actually looks good bald, it might even suit him more than before (or definitely when it was thinning and as he said, pubey). I'm sure some of you will deny this to virtue signal but most guys look like a thumb, and also they all look the same. Usually if an average guy looks OK with hair, he's going to look considerably worse without it.
One important thing he mentions is how he looks older, major plus point for shaving your head, even though balding makes you look even older in most cases, it's still better than being a baby face with no hair. That's just confusing for the mind.
Yeah, he's defo overthinking it, he actually looked good even with that late progression of hair loss
I agree, in my view his head and jawline makes him kinda like Jason Statham
This made my anxiety go away thanks
Same story here, just that it already started a few years earlier than in your case. I've worn a buzzcut since I was 16, bc there were basically no more hairstyles left that wouldn't look weird with thos huge temples. What you said at 4:47 "I attached a part of my identity to my hair..." really struck a chord with me, because for me it was just the other way around: I've built my identity with a bald head, since I didn't have any left in my young adulthood, and I think that is the main reason why it never really bothered me that much!
Thanks for sharing!
"I literally can't have a bad hair day. I can walk faster because of better aerodynamic. I can also tell when it's raining quicker than anyone else."
Nice. Perspectives.
Glass half full mindset xD.
He’s basically a god now
@@delavocado_s3709 that was so funny :D
Basically a god
Next level cope
Second time watching this video because tomorow is the day! I feel so much better to have you put into words those feelings and unconscious thoughts I felt and though throughout my balding process. Thank you!
A bit late to the party, but I struggled big time with hairloss starting about 8 years back (28 atm) and my crown basically looked like a graveyard. I started to use a shaver, not being ready to go completely bald and it eased my stress a bit for some time. However, as time progressed, my hairline became worse and I felt that a shaver just wasn't good enough for my mental health. Just some week back I tried going completely bald using a razor and it was the best decision I've made for my head and mental health.
Very good video!
Yeah I was the same. Started thinning at 16-ish and was completely bald by mid 20s. I didn't care much cause my identity wasn't wrapped up in my appearance and you're right, no one cared. I got just as much attention from women as well after I started shaving my head as before. It's not hard to build hair loss up to be a huge deal because having hair is seen as "less attractive" and I think society teaches men that subliminally, so when we lose our hair it's more stressful because we feel less worthy.
The only friend that makes fun of my hair loss also has hair loss lol so can relate.
Can’t believe you are 25! Not because you don’t look 25 more so because of your impressive bounty of wisdom!
later in the video he say he is 30 so i'm not sure...
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@@frederic6998 i think it was a joke but i'm not sure
@@xixi2395 share with me.
Nature's so unfair to men.. it's rough man I'm 15 and bald
my 24th birthday is this week, and I've been buzzing my hair for almost 2 years now. This video really helps me, hearing your story, in accepting myself and really moving forward with this aspect of my life.
You're 25?! You "look" older not because of your looks but because the immense amount of wisdom you have. Major respect.
Yeah he just looks like a wise person if you get what I mean
Yeah sure, but he still looks physically older than 25
He also looks like he’s pushing 40
Don't sugarcoat
But he looked older before he even started talking
Youre one hundred percent correct. People are far too self absorbed to give more than a passing thought about our appearance. The same goes when you do public speaking. Why be afraid? No one is paying attention anyhow. If the hair loss bothers someone that much then there are options out there. Don't like the options? Then leave it alone or shave it off. That's it guys. Do something or do nothing and be ok with that decision. Life is short. Wasting it on nonsense is not a decision youll be happy with later on.
Wow, that last part you said about no one really thinks about you most of the time and you are generally a background character made me reflect so much on why I worry about my aspect. Thankyou so much sir
Such a great topic, this is a huge area that I've known many people get held back by. Thank you for sharing your story, powerful!
thank you for this and having the confidence to even post this its just inspiring hearing someone else deal with the similar problem other young men are facing; ending was very well worded
It’s open many women minds too about this issue. The cultural validation of the past was horrible.
I just hit the bullet a week ago (28 yo) and I admit I'm still having a hard time coping with it, even though people around me said it looks good. Hair was a big part of my confidence, personality even, since I was very young. So going from long hairstyles to bald is being hard to swallow and this video gave me great and helpful perspective. I'll see this as a new chapter, where there's one less silly thing that I'll spend my energy obsessing over and focus on improving myself in areas I have control over. Thanks for the inspiring video.
I feel you, man. I used have a very full, thick head of hair until I reached my early 20's. All of a sudden my temples receded and the top of my head gradually started to thin out. I'm about to be 30 real soon and I noticed a slight bald pattern by my crown as well. It's genuinely soul crushing, especially when it happens so soon in your life. I don't think I'll ever bite the bullet though. I'll never be comfortable with a bald head. A buzz cut is as far as I'll go. Short by the sides and slightly longer on top is the way I roll. I'll probably shave it all off when I go completely bald on top, but I don't think that will happen..
.hopefully. Nobody in my family receded that badly. Only the temples and crown.
Your long hair might be the reason for your hair loss depending on what hairstyles you rocked (I’m not saying long hair itself but if your putting it up with hair ties). Having tight long hairstyles puts strain on your hairline which can lead to hair loss after many years studies shows.
Just shaved my head, after watching this video. Literally all my friends were like ”oh, cool” or not saying anything and everything went on like everything was normal. Crazy how I used to frett this and the reaction was nearly non existent!! Feel so much more confident now. Thanks for the video and being an inspiration man.
They think you look weird.
Shaving your head bald when you're not balding is different from shaving bald when you are. Because when it starts to regrow it look gross and weird. Vs when a normal guy regrows it, it just looks like he's quirky
I actually can’t picture you with hair. You rock the style you have now, wether it’s a choice or not 😊🙏🏾💪🏽
It's never a choice and it's laughable with this bald cafe type of guys pretending it is.
I really Love how you explained ♥️
Love you bro!!! This really motivate me🤗
I'm balding at 17, gotta say that it really is the absolute worst thing that could happen to a person apart from some sort of terminal diagnosis. I started treating it about a month ago, lets hope I see some regrowth.
Go bald, grow a beard and get jacked. Rock the Kratos look.
@@phalanx8437 and a girl will still go out with a guy with good hair and no muscles. Just stop coping.
@@phalanx8437 This is the way
@@siemniak Stop crying and start improving your life
@@siemniak it's not about getting a fucking girl it's about being comfortable with who you are
As a guy who is starting to lose his hair, this kind of videos are great to feel less alone. You see your friends with a full head of hair and you think damn am i wrong or something? Then you find this, and you realize that no, youre not, you are perfectly normal and nobody really cares that much about your hair. Thanks for sharing your story, its really helpful
Thank you for this video. I’ve tried to explain to family members how much of an impact it can actually have but it’s understandably hard to get if you don’t go through it. Appreciate the video and all the others
More power to you Joey ❤
Changed my life. God damn it, you're the best. ❤️
Love this video. Losing my hair a bit and you’ve made me feel MUCH better about it.
Walking faster does sound like a pretty great benefit to be fair!
You got me on the more aerodynamic thing. Bring on the baldness!
Very well stated - "Most people don't care how we look like. We are a background character in their stories and we shouldn't put ourselves into mental distress for the things that we cannot control"
This is actually false how you look actually even affects whether you get promoted, respected, make friends, get a gf. How you look doesn't matter when it's just random strangers and your walking through without bothering anyone but it certainly matters greatly when your trying to get something from this world be it a job, gf, friends etc. That's the reality
@@loverofhumanityHi, I don’t want to write a book here but I just wanted to react briefly about what you said.
Of course, you’re right, in our actual society, our external apparence is important, way too much in my opinion but it is what it is… But your apparence isn’t just what nature gave you, apparence isn’t just the quality of your hairline or the fact that you have hair or not. Your apparence is way more than that, it’s about how you take care of your body, about the way you dress (linked to your personality and to the situation), about wearing a beard or not, about your eyes, about your facial features… But most importantly, it’s about how comfortable you are in your body and how you carry yourself in front of other. When a guy or girl is confident and is shining because he or she truly love him/herself and learned to know what he/she is worth as a person, there is nothing more beautiful than that. So if something as natural and common as male pattern baldness is a barrier for someone to give you a job or being your friend or whatever, it’s deeply sad and I don’t want to deal with that person.
Anddd as usual with me, I still ended up writing a nove…so thank you for listening to me and I wish you a great day!
@@loverofhumanity Sure, but if these people love and like you for the person you are, why worry about your external appearance?
@@loverofhumanityAgree
@@romaing7967 very well said.
Damn two videos in a couple days, so much new content!
We're blessed! His videos are 🔥
woahhh..."changed my life" instead of "ruined my life" we GETTIN FANCY
hahahahaha this is the best thing that you said man: people sitting down at a Christmas dinner thinking about Joey's receding hairline. Man, you've made my day.
Sometimes we put ourselves to mental distress because of some complexes of not being able to accept that it is thinning each day to the point most of it will be gone. The moment person accepts it is way better, especially if it's too late (like also in my case). Greetings
Cheers!
That was really helpful my friend
10/10 video. I'll just say tho, you actually had good family and friends. I had family who pressured me and tried to get me to grow it back, particularly my mom. Trying to get me to hold on longer and making it harder to just accept this new self.
It did help that I was starting school and meeting completely new people. I could just have my identity as 'the bald guy' to these completely new people and it was very easy to accept. Girls also continued liking me, which was a pleasant surprise.
Some people around you will react weirdly, as some of my family did. New people won't give AF.
Joey, nearly all of those shots where you say your hair looks really thin and its disappearing look good to me - I definitely think you over thought it!
Balding definitely feels 100× worse than it looks
This was a very good video. I went through with this at 27 years of age... when I should have done it at 24 when I first noticed a thin spot on the top of my head. I definitely clinged onto whatever I had for way, way too long. The worst part was that I had really long hair. Getting rid of it all was definitely such a liberating feeling and a huge boost to my self confidence. As you said, everyone just had one fleeting comment about it and nothing changed, I was just way happier with myself in the mirror. The only thing I do not like is that I have to shave my head weekly, but I'll take that any day instead of feeling bad about my hair daily. Also whenever I feel bad or nostalgic about having hair, I just think about my idols like Brian Shaw.
Interesting story, especially considering I had the opposite experience. While you said looking older during your youth had its benefits, I've always looked younger than my age which caused me some hardships (being a target for bullies, people not taking me seriously at my first few jobs, women having little interest because they want older looking men). Thats only started to change recently at age 28.
I feel you. I am 27 and a short guy. A lot of people still thinks that I am like 18-20 years old.
I'm 22 but every single person I ever meet thinks I'm 30+ and even if I'm a cheerful guy in public I'm fucking dead inside now and honestly hair loss isn't even my main concern since I learnt 3 weeks ago I had a testicular condition now I can't even bear myself to talk to a girl as I feel such as a broken piece of human even if I was into mma and can bench 225 for reps
Now I'm playing the harp and taking care of my friends male and female alike with their problems but yeah I'm feeling like life is basically behind and now I'm just chilling cause it doesn't even have to be sad, I can just be neutral about it that's more or like stable
Finally been waiting for this one since you mentioned it on the stream.
I feel like a receding hairline looks more mature/ "manly" and can be managed better than balding at the crown. That is rough. You don't really see it until it's too late, but everyone else notices it constantly (or so you think).
My advice: unless you're financially and mentally prepared to pop pills or use creams, just SHAVE IT. You'll thank yourself later.
Anyone who doesn't want to be apart of your life if you don't have hair, never was going to stay anyways
I am 24 and I battled with self-esteem because of the same issue as well. After two years of so much stress and feeling low, I accepted that whatever was to happen, I was going to be happy. Since I accepted it, I am very happy and don't even think about it one bit. As you have said "no one really care about how you look". Thank you for sharing.
Hey, thank u soo much bro for giving balding men some confidence about themselves.
I'm 18 and my hair loss has really been eating me up for the last year. I will visit a skin doctor next week, I had blood tests done but in that regard theres nothing wrong with me (and even this doctor was very surprised about how bad my hair is). I reeeeaaaallly hope he'll find some solution, because i consider my hair a big part of me, my personality. I can't describe how soul crushing it is to always have think about my hair. I haven't cried once probably in the last 3 year, but I recently did because of my hair loss.
My plan is, if it doesn't get better, to shave it off when i'm done with school and entering uni. But still there are so many things holding me back - will my girlfriend still like me? I mean i'm a personality kinda guy and maybe i'm a trash human being for this, but I wouldn't like how she would look without hair, so in my mind it's her absolute right to think the same way.
I honestly don't even know why i'm writing this, it's just that I don't really wanna talk to anyone about how I really feel about this. I mean I showed my dad how it looks (you kinda can't see it bc i have pretty long hair) but he said it's fine and I don't wanna be a bitch about this. And I'm not a "boys aren't allowed to cry" kinda guy and I wasn't raised like this, I just rarely get emotional by stuff.
So yeah that's my story i guess. Stay strong 💪
Bald female and bald male is not equally bad
I'm actually surprised that you are 25 not because of your looks but because of your content, well I'm 29 and feel a bit more dumber. Anyway few days I started balting as well, getting ready for my 30s with no hair.
Right? Dude’s just so smart and wise you’d think he’d have more years of life experience under his belt. I thought he was in his early 30s.
Exactly, as someone who is 30, I thought he was older than me, with all those damn good videos and ideas. I love this channel.
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I thought he was around 40.
@@nathandrake9129 Yeah he looks older than me wtf.
As someone who is experiencing hair loss, a receeding hairline etc, my whole life has turned upside down. I worry about it day and night.
It's a nightmare and it is a horrific nightmsre if you are young. So try to build your confidence and start shaving you hair to bring more confidence, try the various hair remedies and you know what the last option is.
What about hair transplant?
@@flance911 i don't think you should go for it in your 30 s because if you go for it in your early days it will not work as the hair has not receded completely that's why.
@@pratikanand2995 I don't understand - why?
@@flance911 because the chances of it being a successful transplant in long time is less as you know the hair is still receding if you think about it if the temples have receded and you get a transplant of that part , now you think all is well as everything is fixed. Sadly no by time your crown will also start losing hair now you are receding from all the places except the temple. It will not give a good look and your money is wasted that's why it is advised not to get a transplant until you are 30.
I actually struggled quite a lot with this issue this year as I grew out my hair over the pandemic and it started to shed quite bad after having COVID. Due to the long hair it is/was quite visible after taking showers as I always had a "ball" of lost hair after it in the drain.
I finally bit the bullet and started taking Finasteride 1mg this week as I'm in stage 1 or maybe start of stage 2, with receeded temples but most of it shedding of my crown.
Today is the 4th day and it's so far so good. No side effects (or at least not side effects I'd notice) and it feels like my testosterone increased quite a lot. I hope it will continue like that without getting Gyno or something else and I'm excited to see the results in about half a year.
I wonder how many other aspects of life this can apply to. I can think of a few for myself. Great video and wonderful perspective
With our insecurities we can either accept them and overcome them, or let them define us.
I know which one I would choose
I mean they do define you, the comment you made only applies to yourself, as in you define urself to them. But to others, trust me I’d knlw, they associate you with ur appearance. The way you look is “you” to everyone elsewhere
Thank you for this video as I can relate so very much. I also look way older than I am, and my hairline has been going and going for about 6 years, I'm currently 16 and have 2 years of highschool left, and I do not want to shave it in that timespan, but that's definitely my final plan after highschool. I feel shy about it because even though people got used to it and noone cares now, it still sometimes affects me as there are some people who harass me for it. Anyway, thanks, and you look amazing bald! Can't wait to join you. Hopefully I'm not forced to shave it before I graduate highschool.
I’m losing my hair at 19, I’m currently debating letting it go or starting some sort of treatment for it. But at the same time, I kinda like that I’m losing it, for the sole fact that it motivates me to learn some skills since the value of my looks are slowly leaving. In a funny way this sort of lit a fire under my ass to get my shit straight, and have more things to be proud of than just my looks.
Debating the same for a while now, but Im 21. I really dont want to do so much work just to maintain my hair. I also dont want to get a transplant because Im just 21. How many more surgeries am I gonna need, and why would I postpone the inevitable right? Idk, some random thoughts. Quite tempted to keep shaving it off i guess.
@@musabilhan 21 here too and my hair is shedding alot
@@musabilhan Just get a hair piece. Its cheap, effective and non-medical. Girls get to wear high heels, pushup/padded bras, breast surgery, makeup, fake eyelashes, fake eyebrows, fake nails, dye their hair, style their hair, hair extensions, wear weaves, get botox, lip injections, face lifts, and nose jobs. Nothing wrong with leveling the playing field back in our favor a little bit
@@musabilhanso what did you do?
@@kerem7188 I've been using derma roller and caffeine shampoo since a bit after the comment. Nothing noticable yet, but my plan is to see what happens with this combo in 5 month mark. If it doesn't help I'll try derma roller and minoxidil combo for 5 months as well. If that doesn't work either then I'll keep my hair around until my hairline gets noticibly bad, but it won't be a huge problem for me if I keep my hair long. Because my type of balding is not reclining of the hairline, but the thinning of the hair and decreasing of the hair density on the top. And honestly I can rock the bald look so I feel quite ok with whatever happens
My hairline always looked receded when I was young. By the time I was 24, I was balding at the crown as well as receding. I’m 43 now and I’ve been shaving my head since I was 28-29? I’ve never gotten used to being bald, even though I’ve been so for almost half my life - it’s soul-crushing.
Thanks, Ed! Such is life, right? I’m sorry for you too, it’s a crappy thing to deal with.
this makes me feel better. My hair has been receding since I was 15. Luckily it hasn't receded much since I was 18 but now I've been buzzing my head since I was 24 and I feel much more confident!
I was on the edge of my seat waiting the whole video for that Keeps sponsorship. They really missed an opportunity here!
I actully waited for it. But I was surprised and honestly I liked the video because it did not have an ad. What keeps does, Its just predatory
@@elbertcortes nah fam get started on fin keep that hair
@@deanthelemur1716 Ofc, but why buy it at a marked up price from a middleman when you can just go to the doctor get a prescription and get it for way less
I started losing my hair when I was 16 years old, and I hid it (or tried to) for a while. I didn't want anyone to know because I feared what it would be like going through high school being bald (already wasn't the most accepted person in my class). On the day after my high school graduation I shaved it off completely, and it felt liberating. Honestly regret trying to hide it at all, kind of robbed myself of normal high school years.
I'm doing the same thing and I'm 17 :')
Finally a neutral, real story. No commercial, no product involved etc.Grats on climbing your mental path and getting in peace with yourself :)
Great to see that you had the courage to open yourself to something that was a problem for you, this will surely inspire and help lots of people! By the way you look great bald, literally better than with hair in my opinion ahah
oh man, this hits so close to home. still building up the courage to just shave it off
Don't worry bruh, do it when you feel it's right. I shaved mine off at 18, just about a month before quarantine. Was just sick of overthinking about it. Just felt toxic. So that was the best time for me really.
You'll find yours :)
I just shaved mine. Just so tired of trying to hide it. I didn’t choose to lose my hair but at least I have the choice to shave it and stop wasting energy thinking about it 🤙
@@omfgmedic69yes sir! 🤝🏿
@@omfgmedic69 good mindset
My husband is also bald and went through the same thoughts and stages you did. He actually found that being bald helped him career-wise. People seem to think he was older and therefore more knowledgeable. This led to more respect/money/roles/money. Plus I swear there is a secret bald guys club. It's a thing!
Also - just figured out youre in BC!! Me too! Good to see Canadian influencers making a big splash. Congrats 😁
So, your husband told on us. Did he show you the secret handshake? If so we might have to take care of you as well.
Omg the ending had me rolling 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for this video man! It’s seriously ruined my life losing my hair.. wish I could be one of those guys who doesn’t care. when I had hair girls would ask me out to work lunch and drinks on weekends and one day it just stopped. My confidence plummeted and for a guy losing his personality with hair it makes for a horrible time to be around me. For 8 years now I haven’t had the courage to even ask a girl out. My friends wouldn’t ask me out to bars on the weekends anymore to meet woman and although not super mean about they would bring it up behind my back sometimes. I’ve not reached for that new job title since I’d rather work from home in my safe job to not show my baldness.. missed weddings & big events because I wasn’t able to wear a hat… it’s detrimental guys.. I don’t mean to bitch because people have far worse problems but my god losing my hair young has really screwed my personality up.. I’m bitter/quiet and much less personable.. I know I’m bitching but it might help someone else going through this that their not alone. I’m working out way more now and trying to control other parts of my body that can change to feel a bit better about myself.
Same, bro. Hairloss made me start working out and canceled my dating life.
It's rough - no man wants to lose his hair - but it will get better as the years go by because you will be joined by more and more men who look just like you do! BTW, the best comment I saw in a Reddit thread on baldness was from a woman: "My boyfriend is bald and fat. And I love him." Says it all, really.
@@bertramwinslowiii2119 lol, bro. Im 30 and literally 90% of men my age have decent hairs on top of their heads. How am I gonna compete against that when 90% of women cut you off from their list solely based on that, lol? xD The difference in your dating life experience and women interaction generally between being good looking (hair) and being an ugly dog (no hair) is fucking stunning.
I'd rather give up on dating than date bald.
@@michaelboston5589 90%? Really? I know lots of guys in their 20s who are balding already. And I'm convinced women are much more attracted by intelligence, sensitivity, kindness, sense of humour, honesty, etc. than they are by what is (or isn't) on a man's head. Especially as they get into their 30's. And one of those "choosy" women could marry a man with a full thick head of hair - a few years later he's bald! What's she gonna say, "I'm divorcing you because you lost your hair"?
@@bertramwinslowiii2119 Women are attracted to confidence and sense of humour the most, as personality traits. But every woman has a looks threshold that you need to pass to have a chance with her (or money/social status threshold, depending on the woman and her preferences). And yes, bro, 90%. Im talking about people who lost so much hair that they need to shave it off, not about people with minor/mild balding as u said, lol, because there's a huge difference in those 2 things.
“it’s not really something i’ve thought about much”
proceeds to explain his mental and emotional changes as a result of hair loss, and motivates everyone in the process
Beatiful video mate
holly sheit this video is right what I needed! Going through the same
Your hair lasted so much longer than mine. I was fully bald when I was 19. I would have cried with joy to have hair like yours in college.
Damn talk about bad genetics
@@Typidica That's not even the half of my bad genetics hahaha
@@daivboveri bruh you went through very much!
That sucks man i thought I had less hair for a 19 yr old
@@daivboveri "Not even the half of my bad genetics"
I hope to god the other half is not something regarding a micropenis. Because that would just be unfair..
Thanks for the reality slap I needed
Thank you dude this video has helped me out a lot.