“I don’t think we need to spend a crazy amount of time on this one”….. ummmmm what you said about spiritual boundaries set me SO FREE from how I didn’t realize I was majorly crossing spiritual boundaires. TALK MORE! Thank you!
Hi guys, you made some really good points! What I strongly disagree with is sharing your testimony on the first date or on a dating app. It's one of the first things that I ask a guy even on a dating app. Because first I need to make sure they are born again!!! It's super naive to think that everyone who goes to church or marks themselves as a Christian on a dating app is a real follower of Christ and is born again. So what they say as their coming to Christ story is very important. If you want to waste time and go on dates with those who only seem as Christians or you don't really care that much then go ahead and don't ask them...Plus our testimony is about God and His redemptive power in our lives that we should be able to share with any stranger we meet. It's not a super intimate story we should keep for ourselves and share only with those we know well.
I love the video version!! Keep recording it both ways. Thank you both for all your wonderful advice. And thank you telling us that even though you are getting married you will still continue helping singles. That just blesses my heart. Blessings to you and your engagement and marriage.
Was just having this specific conversation with my sister last night & I am so glad to have found this episode today because I need the help in this current dating season I’m in! 🙌🏽😆
Wow, this episode was very insightful and eye-opening. So many gems that also served as fantastic reminders. Your voice and reach is making a difference and impacting so many. Thank You and God bless you both! ❤️
Thank you so much! For that day count of 60-90 days. I've learned to get to know people over time, and it's great to hear this. I also agree on not many texts on authentic answers.
This was so good! I so agree with pretty much everything. It is always hard for me to understand how couples can know so quickly even within 6 months that they want to marry someone. Even when my friend got engaged at 6 months and then married 6 months later, I couldn’t wrap my brain around it and thought it was fast. It seemed to have worked for them and I understand every couple is different but I think it’s good to take your time and really know someone and not even rush being boyfriend and girlfriend so quickly. I’ll definitely share this episode with people.
The 90 days was also interesting since I kind of wanted to do that but thought that maybe that was too long and maybe just take 30-60 days. But that is true with giving it 90 days so it’s easier to see more clearly any red flags that come up.
So good to have some tangible ways to approach dating and building a relationship that goes more in depth than what is often talked about. Y'all don't know how greaful I am! Also, love the video option of the podcast!! 😊
Am I right in thinking you two spoke online for a while before meeting for a first date? Can I ask what did you discuss before meeting and then on first date to still have fun but not let a conversation getting dry. Really interesting as in the past I’ve definitely over shared and jumped in too quickly
I tried dating six times in my life. Every woman I met lied about being saved, what they really wanted from me, and that they cared for me. None were saved, they just wanted money, and they didn't care for me beyond what I could do for them. So I've been single all my life, never made love, and have left the church. I am angry, cynical, and don't believe in love anymore. I am a lost cause...oh and I tried counseling for 20 years and things are exponentially worse now than 20 years ago!
34:29 Emotional
37:27 Physical Boundaries
43:16 Pacing
“I don’t think we need to spend a crazy amount of time on this one”….. ummmmm what you said about spiritual boundaries set me SO FREE from how I didn’t realize I was majorly crossing spiritual boundaires. TALK MORE! Thank you!
haha - thank you so much for the feedback!! we will do more here then!!
Hi guys, you made some really good points! What I strongly disagree with is sharing your testimony on the first date or on a dating app. It's one of the first things that I ask a guy even on a dating app. Because first I need to make sure they are born again!!! It's super naive to think that everyone who goes to church or marks themselves as a Christian on a dating app is a real follower of Christ and is born again. So what they say as their coming to Christ story is very important. If you want to waste time and go on dates with those who only seem as Christians or you don't really care that much then go ahead and don't ask them...Plus our testimony is about God and His redemptive power in our lives that we should be able to share with any stranger we meet. It's not a super intimate story we should keep for ourselves and share only with those we know well.
I love the video version!! Keep recording it both ways. Thank you both for all your wonderful advice. And thank you telling us that even though you are getting married you will still continue helping singles. That just blesses my heart. Blessings to you and your engagement and marriage.
thank you!! it is fun to see the relational dynamic isnt it?!
Was just having this specific conversation with my sister last night & I am so glad to have found this episode today because I need the help in this current dating season I’m in! 🙌🏽😆
oh we LOVE this!! It's such an important conversation and what a gift that it met you in your current season!!
Wow, this episode was very insightful and eye-opening. So many gems that also served as fantastic reminders. Your voice and reach is making a difference and impacting so many. Thank You and God bless you both! ❤️
wonderful!! thank you for the feedback!!
Finally! I was waiting for the vidcast version!
hope you enjoy!!
Thank you so much! For that day count of 60-90 days. I've learned to get to know people over time, and it's great to hear this. I also agree on not many texts on authentic answers.
yes, we definitely through experience recommend waiting- character shines over time!
This was so good! I so agree with pretty much everything. It is always hard for me to understand how couples can know so quickly even within 6 months that they want to marry someone. Even when my friend got engaged at 6 months and then married 6 months later, I couldn’t wrap my brain around it and thought it was fast. It seemed to have worked for them and I understand every couple is different but I think it’s good to take your time and really know someone and not even rush being boyfriend and girlfriend so quickly. I’ll definitely share this episode with people.
The 90 days was also interesting since I kind of wanted to do that but thought that maybe that was too long and maybe just take 30-60 days. But that is true with giving it 90 days so it’s easier to see more clearly any red flags that come up.
@@sarapinkandpurple yes!! orange flags can become green or red over that amount of time!
So good to have some tangible ways to approach dating and building a relationship that goes more in depth than what is often talked about. Y'all don't know how greaful I am! Also, love the video option of the podcast!! 😊
Truly loved this discussion!!! Thank you Kait and JJ. SOOOO helpful and bursting the Christian bubble 😂♥️
thank you for the kind words!!! we hope it encouraged you!!
Wow apparently I have had no real emotional or spiritual boundaries in early dating. This is really helpful. Sounds a lot more healthy. Thank you!
absolutely! neither do most people. but you don't know what you don't know, i am happy you have learned now!
I am loving this discussion between you guys!!
great!!
These answered so many questions!!
so glad it helped!! feel free to share!!
Y’all have such a healthy mindset and good advice! Thank you for this!
thank you for the kind feedback!! what stuck out for you?!
I just want to know where the men like this are because I cant ever find ones who are open, vulnerable and comfortable talking about this stuff.
they are out there!! some just need to be called up!!
Know, trust, rely, commit. Nice!
Aww and so cute lol 😂
Thank you so much for posting! I appreciate the **wisdom** you are both sharing in this podcast.
you are welcome girl!! good seeing you on here :) what was your favorite part of this epidsode?!
love this! great podcast
wonderful! i am glad you enjoyed!!
This was awesome!
glad you enjoyed katherine!!
Very insightful, thank you!
thank you Séfary!!!
Love the video ! ❣️❣️
great!!
Am I right in thinking you two spoke online for a while before meeting for a first date? Can I ask what did you discuss before meeting and then on first date to still have fun but not let a conversation getting dry. Really interesting as in the past I’ve definitely over shared and jumped in too quickly
A total blessing 💗
Hard to see red flags when you’re wearing rose colored glasses in those first two months!
amen!
Anyone on here interested in hanging out??
I tried dating six times in my life. Every woman I met lied about being saved, what they really wanted from me, and that they cared for me. None were saved, they just wanted money, and they didn't care for me beyond what I could do for them. So I've been single all my life, never made love, and have left the church. I am angry, cynical, and don't believe in love anymore. I am a lost cause...oh and I tried counseling for 20 years and things are exponentially worse now than 20 years ago!