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Time stamps are whack but loved this episode 😇

It made me cry they way he proposed her! Thank you God for Guys who are brave to pursue and honor their lady with their actions and by doing it beyond their expectations!

Randward and I were so honored to share our love story on this podcast! If you want to read our full journey in detail and be encouraged in your own love story, check out my blog: amberroper.com/my-love-story. Don’t forget to subscribe for more updates and encouragement! 💕✨

I enjoyed this episode. I'm currently in a long-distance relationship and I also met my boyfriend at a conference

Such a great episode with a gorgeous couple!! Loved seeing all the ways God was working on them and then eventually pointing them to each other 😁 Even more so gave great perspective on how we never really know what the other person is thinking or how they feel about us and instead of making up stories, we should just ask!

Yes Ranward!! Loved your talk at the 5x7 in Orlando. So fun hearing your story Amber and Ranward.

yeah, romantic dates are a precursor to bonking (dude alleviates chick's anxiety so she can open up to him) - they're for people who are already in a relationship or people who just want a physical relationship. relationship interviews where you bring your resume and all of your background checks are what you need to do if you want to be roommates and co-babysitters (marriage). obviously it's better to live in a parentriarchy (let older, objective people who aren't horny and young determine the future of the family). letting young, horny chicks decide the future of the community is a good way to destroy society (see inner city vs. amish country to understand the difference).

My thinking is if you have to have boundaries then maybe it isn't natural to be friends. And you know the kind of boundaries I am talking about.

I was so grateful to listen to Elyse and Tim's story today. I have really needed some fresh encouragement just lately and to be reminded that God truly is in the detail. I do accept that God's will for me may not include marriage and family, although it is a deep deep desire however. But i absolutely believe, like Elyse said, that God is very much in the detail of our lives in ways we could not imagine. That gives a lot of hope and peace. I cried a lot of tears during this episode. Their story is extremely moving. I'm so grateful to you guys for your ministry, hearts to help and encourage singles and your love for the Lord. Love and and blessings, Miriam xx

After listening to this podcast, do you feel renewed hope in dating?

so SPECIAL!!! i always love it when retroactively we can see God's hands in the details of our stories..

Plenty of good men. No good women. This video is incredibly insulting.

I love Mia. She's a beautiful soul and a lovely face ❤

Honestly, I don't actually disagree with some of these points. I do think there are Christian guys out there that are afraid to make any sort of move towards a Christian girl. But I think social media has a lot to do with that. Just as guys may not know how to interact with a woman because of social media, women are also negatively influenced by social media as well. Adding the fact that a lot of younger guys have lived through the era where just talking to a woman can lead to it being viewed as harassment, causing many of them not to want to make a move as well. Admittedly, I did not watch this entire video, but what I claimed from the parts I did watch, is that men are more the problem than women, and I think it is very unfair to say that.

Nowadays, in America, it is better for men to remain single, than to get married and reproduce. For men, marriage and child-rearing have become shackles, chains, and slavery; where women are the slave drivers. Most modern wives, in this country, refuse to share EQUALLY in the conjugal duties of marriage; be it financial responsibilities or domestic responsibilities. In marriage, everything is centered on making the wife happy, regardless of how miserable the husband feels. Women are allowed to be liberated and free to act however they please; while men are forced to carry the cross of traditional masculine gender roles, often ending up nailed to that cross. Wives, in turn, show very little affection, love, respect, or appreciation to their husbands. Even sex becomes just another job for men to do, in order to please their wives. What's more, most modern men can handle their own domestic duties, such as cooking and cleaning. Above all, women and society show almost no appreciation to husbands and fathers, for all the hard work, the sacrifice, and the love, that they show their wives and families. So nowadays, WHAT BENEFIT IS MARRIAGE? For men, marriage has no benefits whatsoever; only stress, fatigue, discouragement, disappointment, despair; and feeling unloved as well as unappreciated. From what I've seen, most modern females (between the ages of 18-39) are selfish, greedy, untrustworthy, irresponsible, disrespectful, narcissistic, cruel, and basically evil. Their yearning for marriage is not rooted in love, but in a selfish desire to fulfill their feminine identity. Hence, the real problem, in this country, is not that there are no good men; the problem is that there are so few good women (between the ages of 18-39). To make matters worse, 50% of marriages end in divorce, with women initiating 80% of divorces. Even worse, if wives commit adultery, or abuse their husbands, they are usually not held accountable for the evil that they do. Many females will use their poisonous tongues, during and after marriage, to kill a man's reputation through slander, gossip, and lies. Worst of all, many ex-wives will deprive fathers and children of having healthy relationships by keeping fathers from having contact with their children. Any female who compels a man to marry her against his will (or who "baby traps" a man), is not acting out of love and devotion. She is acting out of selfishness, greed, manipulation, codependency, insecurity, cruelty, and possibly misandry. My friends, don't let any female deceive you by telling you that having a child together will bring "meaning" to the relationship. IT WON'T! It will only put the relationship to test. These females will often use your children as a tool for manipulation against you. I have seen many good-hearted men have their lives destroyed by evil women who commit such despicable acts. Worst of all, these females rarely have any remorse for the cruelty, the sins, and the evil that they commit. All these things destroy a man's life! Therefore, DON'T BLAME MEN FOR NOT WANTING TO GET MARRIED!

All men should consider the words of St. Paul: "Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you single? DO NOT SEEK A WIFE."(1Corinthians 7:27). Therefore, if you are single, and you choose to stay single, then STAND YOUR GROUND and know that YOU HAVE GOD'S APPROVAL. And if God is for you, no one can be against you (Romans 8:31). What's more, being single means having more time and energy to give to friends, to family, to hobbies, and to God. And this will lead to men having healthier, happier lives. My five bits of advice for young single men are: Trust in God; Work hard; Stay healthy; Stay single; and Get a vasectomy. Do this and you will prosper in all of your ways. God is my witness!

Thank you for making this video. but modern marriage and reproduction are just too much of a risk for men, CHRISTIAN OR NOT. I am a Born-again Christian and I am glad to be single. Even though many fellow believers think I am a rebel, modern men should follow my example by staying SINGLE and becoming STERILE. I have no wife, no kids, no pets, and no regrets. I have reached the peak of SELF-ACTUALIZATION. But lest you think I'm crazy (like my name suggests), PLEASE CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING: FACTS - 50% of all marriages end in divorce. - 80% of all divorces are initiated by women. - Only 10% of divorced fathers get primary custody of their children (thanks to the family court system). - Many women don't treat men the way that they want men to treat them (i.e. these women don't live by the "Golden Rule"). - Many women keep double standards. They place demands and expectations on men that they don't want men to place on them. - In a divorce, men can expect to lose at least half of everything they own, and have worked for. - Many divorced fathers have to fight like hell in order to stay connected to their children (thanks to evil, selfish, cruel, hateful, vindictive ex-wives). - Nowadays, each year more men are victims of domestic violence than women. Males: 4.2 million; Females: 3.5 million. This doesn't even include the emotional abuse that women inflict on men. - If they commit adultery, or abuse their husbands, wives are rarely held accountable for the evil that they do. - After divorce, many men experience severe depression, and sometimes suicide. - Child Support = $600/month (often more). - Vasectomy = $600/once (often less). - There are over 7 billion people in the world, most of whom are impoverished and/or spiritually misguided (Do we really need to make any more?). - More vasectomies = fewer abortions. CONCLUSIONS - If you are a man, then GET A VASECTOMY and STAY SINGLE. It is the most intelligent, logical, rational, responsible, and healthy decision that a man can make. The belief that says, "If you meet the right woman, everything will work out fine", is BOGUS. So forget all the sentimental hogwash about getting married and having children. - This DOESN'T mean that we should hate women. On the contrary, we should love women. And as men, we should treat women the same way that we want women to treat us in return; and we should not place and demands or expectations on women that we don't want women to place on us. - This DOESN'T mean that we should avoid making female friends; avoid romantic relations; avoid intimacy; avoid being in love, or avoid having a steady sweetheart. - It only means that we should avoid reproduction, marriage, and cohabitation.

I OFFER MY EXHORTATION FOR MEN TO STAY SINGLE AND CHILD-FREE. Benjamin Franklin once said, "Those who will trade freedom for security, will eventually end up with neither." There are men who have been cunningly deceived into believing that marriage will bring a sense of security; a secured lifetime companion, a secured lifetime lover, and a secured lifetime helpmate. Thus, they renounce their freedom through marriage. These men often end up experiencing tragedy and disaster. On the other hand, there are a lot of men who have wised up, and realize that modern marriage is a complete disgrace. These men, like me, have firmly resolved to cling tenaciously to their freedom; and to cherish it, protect it, and defend it for the rest of their lives. All I can say is THANK GOD THAT WE LIVE IN AMERICA where we have the freedom to choose how we live our lives! Men are not legally required to get married and reproduce. Even most religious leaders admit that marriage is not for everyone. Nonetheless, it takes courage and strength to take a stand against radical feminism, against gender role expectations, against the system itself; and to be your own man, not a puppet on a string. But we can do all things with the strength that God gives us (Philippians 4:13). I am not advocating that men should withdraw from society, or practice the sin of homosexuality. Nor am I advocating that we should hold malice towards women, or avoid having close female friends. But as men, we cannot wait for women and society to change their way of relating to us; we need to do something for ourselves. The blatant truth is that for men, nowadays, the only way to level the field, in the area of male-female relations, is to GET A VASECTOMY and STAY SINGLE. I made this decision many years ago, and I have no regrets. I encourage all men to follow my example. We've had women's liberation, NOW IT'S TIME FOR MEN'S LIBERATION. It is time that men left the slave plantation of gender roles and gender stereotypes altogether; and that we claimed our God-given freedom. And if God has made us free, then we are free indeed (John 8:36); regardless of what women and society have to say. So let's cast these three demons out of our lives: marriage, cohabitation, and reproduction. And let us "Stand fast in the liberty by which God has made us free, and not be entangled again with the yoke of bondage."(Galatians 5:1). I, personally, would rather die a free man than to live life enslaved or imprisoned. We should heed the immortal words of Patrick Henry: "Is life so dear, or is peace so sweet, as to be purchased at the price of CHAINS and SLAVERY? FORBID IT, ALMIGHTY GOD! I know not what course others may take; but as for me, GIVE ME LIBERTY or GIVE ME DEATH!"🗡

The reason why two people COULD move quickly to marriage is because marriage is not founded on trust or knowing a person, or even love. It's founded on commitment. Problems arise when the people make a marriage choice through infatuation or through evaluation instead of by listening to the Holy Spirit and agreeing with God to choose this person, no matter what. Taking a long time in a relationship doesn't do a person any good if their foundation is on the shaky ground of "I trust you and know you" instead of, "I choose you and trust God." Having the foundation of commitment to the person that you chose with God's help is what makes for success. Something else to consider about your advice, if I had waited to marry until after experiencing conflict as a couple we would still be waiting. We didn't experience being in conflict with each other until we were in our fourth year of marriage after the lack of sleep and stress of caring for kids. Your car analogy is a good one for our situation. The reality is that driving a car, even for a whole year on wide roads with just you as the passenger doesn't tell you all that much, given that you don't know how much money you'll be making in the future or how much you'll learn about mechanics or if you'll still like it as much when the vinyl wears off or how the car will behave once it's 10 years old and you have to take it off road with five passengers. Ben Stuart explained (I thought very well) in his book that there is no "relationship" sphere because a woman is simply your sister in Christ if you are not in a covenant. Trying to give or get privileges beyond that gets you into territory that is reserved for fully committed couples. Thanks for the interesting listen! Sorry this is such a ridiculously long comment. A good question for single people who have Christian parents is, why don't you want your parents to set you up?

Thank you for defining the dating vs relationship stages! Getting into dating again recently and after a date or two w a guy I felt he was unintentionally pressuring me and moving too fast and acting like we were in a relationship already, but I felt bad and weird for not being in the same mindset. I ended up breaking it off after a second date bc of that and some other things. But this definitely gives me some good timelines and guidelines for continuing to date

Dating is a social construct designed by people who never ever ever ever used the words social construct

As a Christian who is struggling with pornography, I found this resource to be very helpful. I want to please God and do what is right, but I have felt chained to the addiction to pornography. As Josh exposes the truth about the pornographic industry and how God views it, it is helping me to walk away from this "death trap" created by the enemy. Thank you Joshua Broome for being transparent about your life story. It is a blessing to everyone who struggles with this.

Not sure I agree with Josh's statement about what separates humans from animals at 39:00 - 39:15. If animals don't have a conscience or the ability to think or reason, then how are we able to train them? Anyone who has ever owned a dog (especially if they cared enough about it, to train it) would easily be able to recognize that these animals display not only the ability to think and reason, but also display a wide range of emotions similar to humans. According to the Bible, humans are distinguished as being created in the image and likeness of God, which is not true for animals. This fact can be described in many ways, but for the sake of time, I'll just mention the most obvious aspect, which is our position/rank. God has given us authority and dominion to exercise over all the earth and every living thing on it, which is a reflection of His position in the universe and all that exists. Jesus is the most clear and direct reflection of this reality and He perfectly exemplifies what this looks like and He models for us what this is to look like while being under the authority of God our Father.

Thank you for putting a name for “open” and “closed” singleness, this helps me process my singleness journey much better.

Just be single. Don't worry about meeting a partner

Could you guys do an episode where you talk about what happens when we fix these chemical imbalances with pills instead of relationship correction and therapy? I want to hear more about what we can do to go from the insecure attachment style to secure attachment style

Thanks both. It would be fascinating to know how you practically apply this wisdom to long distance where you met online but live in different countries. Especially coming from the mission world. Everything logistically less convenient as you can imagine 😅

Es increíble haber encontrado y escuchado este testimonio justo en este momento. Muchas gracias

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So many good points in this episode! Im focusing on making singleness content this February and one of the biggest things I plan on emphasizing is being friends with people first. I used to be one of those people who wanted to date and get married fast. But I realize that there is so much beauty in being friends first including getting to know someone without the pressure of intimacy which often puts on rose colored glasses and can be dangerous. I am also leaning towards the idea that love is a choice because I realize that though God may designate us to be with someone, but that person also has free choice. So if they don't choose you as well, the relationship cannot work. this is becoming a lot more clear to me as of lately.

Assuming you know better than God. Run people.

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When are we going to acknowledge that dating apps are simply creating bad behavior (in both men and women)? Group photos are good, just put an arrow to you, or an emoji over the others' faces. Shows you have friends. Research shows that smiling men do not get swiped on as much. They're perceived as less attractive for whatever reason. Love JJ's point -- you cannot change the culture or why others get on the apps. Good stoic advice JJ!

I’m a sample size of one in the Pittsburgh area and I am absolutely appalled by how many “Christian” women are living in fornication and will often JOKE ABOUT IT!! I’m at the point where I’m fine being single.

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Is this the app that redeems all of the single Christian Gen-z’s dating life? 👀👀

is that JP dating app?

No red flags. I am hiding this channel!

And again barely scraping the actual issue. Essentially no mentorship and community to step into 31:40 “dont shame men into becoming great men” after a half hour of shaming and cutting men

@17:00 lol “I hope you don’t see a criticizing heart” after 17 mins of criticism

This video is absolute trash 🗑️... Why don't they announce the girls body counts and age who "desire marriage?". Yeah... That shows what's really up... And the Bible NEVER mentions ANYTHING about "dating." False Consumer Christianity!!!

Its anyone who is so tunnel focus locked in and excusing/justifying toxic behaviour and selfish ambitions. Whether a believer or non-believer, human beings are wired to survive and mirrored/echoed back their existence but if someone is completely disregulated in their fight or flight mode... the impulsivity in trying to make themselves feel better and believe that they're good by destroying someone else's peace of mind and their autonomy/dignity because it literally means nothing to them other than ONLY what makes THEM feel good in moment and be seen as nice/honorable/respectable by others who they crave admiration from just because NPD is a very big shame based disorder... this is where it gets dangerous. Being mindful of discerning someone who may be a wolf in a sheeps costume vs a lion within a meek lamb serving the Lord... I know people who are very gentle and serving but then when envy or pride/comparison steps in... all knives are out. A girl with a very biblical name asked for my credit card and did some crazy thing with it to provide for people at the church to be seen gracious/hospitable/to show off cooking skills/to be seen as a provider as a way of validation before. She sings/worships/prays/reads the Word/serves/very honorable to parents and gentle in her speech/studious and intelligent. It blew my mind what she is capable of... and her long letter response to cover up her tracks incase anyone reads it so she walks away with any scrape of dignity to not be exposed in any way when it was all addressed with love. People reveal themselves pretty early on little by little... its what people do with their insecurities, lack of self control, self awareness, their hidden shadows or social experience and awareness in it that brings great harm with selfish ambitions to cover up their shame. The traumas and dynamics they've grown u with unhealed. Its so good to give grace to people of God and not to go around judging labeling everyone as narcs... but its also wisdom to not give your heart away to someone who is showing signs of duality. Friend or potential spouse. Let the Lord refine them and love/pray from healthy distance.

This video is more proof of why men are leaving the "church" in droves thus causing the "lack of men". The amount of man shaming, progressivism, liberalism, feminism and lack of accountability for women are why we left and won't date the women that go to said churches. Us Christian men are living bible lives and expect Christian women to do the same. You can't cover yourself in tattoos, run up a body count and have liberal views and expect to get a good Christian man. Show me a proverbs 31 woman and she will get a good Christian husband problem is pure virtuous Christian women don't exist anymore. Most good strong Christian men if they are still going to church are going to the traditional churches and are looking for traditional women while most women are going to liberal progressive churches then wonder why there are only weak liberal boys there. GOD told us men in the bible the type of women to marry and the kind to avoid and told us if we can't find one of the good ones then we are better off single and that is what we are doing. So maybe you people should read the bible and see if all these single "christian" women your talking about are maybe part of the problem.

I need her. It's different.

I disagree with the first two audios except that we are at an equilibrium when it comes down to por**graphy & other few factors like screen time rather than facing more rejection and experimental communication and so forth. But what I do analyze a lot specially with Christian churches is that they lack to expose female nature and the symptoms of hypergamy. One side is to deduct male response and reactivity, but on the other side, a lot of Christian leaders specially pastors do lack to expose the nature of hypergamy and statistical data based on divorce rates, who initiates them mostly, family court laws, alimony laws, etc. These are factors to discuss as well, but it always seems one sided discussions of... Men are weak, they're not on their masculine role, they're not achieving higher education, they're not being **vulnerable**, they're not this or that or whoever.. yet, we never ask the why? Why are we reacting such way? There has to be a common demonic influence as to why. Lets remember this, at the garden of Eden, Eve retaliated against God just like Lucifer did HAVING EVERYTHING!! THAT A HUMAN BEING CAN IMAGINE, yet... still wasn't enough. Let's just let that sink in. We lack to understand and study male and female nature.

You never actually define vision, what do you mean by that? It sounds like you're addressing goals. How often do you see vision and ambition conflated and how would you recommend learning about the vision of people you're talking to/ dating

Thank you so Much for this episode I hope this is part one!