I can't believe that they are seriously labelling this as a "unknown" problem. It's obvious that these poor men are strugging with severe depression in a society that doesn't take mental health seriously 💔💔
Definitely depression but a more unique cause. I've heard japan has huge expectations for men. Japan also has a major suicide problem. My only guess is that the societal standards are so high that it causes a lot of stress to keep up and a lot of shame if you feel you arent doing well enough
this pathologizing of depression sometimes leads to further problem I dont like labeling instead saying they have characteristics of it, I've seen better results in how they react Just my experience though have a good day
Asian countries never had a welfare system like lots of european countries. Japan wasn't that extreme before the 90s when the economy got down the first time really bad and people had to worry for their existence and competition increased. The west had this experience fully later 2007/8. Since then it is getting worse as well especially in middle-northern europe. Anonymisation, different workplaces, different people all the time, the difficulty to maintain social circles because of modern mobility and flexibility, sitting in rooms most of the time instead of being outside and more points is simply unhealthy.
That stuff also happens in europe. After my brother failed his university, he just stayed at parentshome and played videogames all day. Barley saw his few friends or left the house, had no job and no education. He now is in his mid 20s...I reached out to him, got him a small job and now a few months later he moves with me in my apartment. He even started doing sport :) still a long way but those people just need a reaching hand.
Your brother's story sounds like my brother's, except it was a friend that helped him find a job. He works as a server in a senior's home now. My mom's still disappointed that he never finished school and didn't find a "real" job. But I can see that he's a lot happier now.
Same here. HK, 20+, failed in university for my pathetic classmate interaction performance. No longer go to lectures and even have problems picking up calls. Only leave house for seeing counselor/CP. Now I try to apply for community college of 2 year hopefully more stress-manageable. And yet honestly, I try not to think about future cause I just don't see myself able to have one. Please stay there and be patient, that MEANS THE WOULD to us.
I'm an American hikikomori for about 10 years. It starts, probably with an inclination towards depression, but ultimately with a failure you can't let go of. Anytime you head back out in the world, all you can think is everyone knows your failure. It makes it easy to repeat that failure, and tell yourself no matter what it will always end in failure. It closes you off, and if you don't immediately spring back, it's so easy to fall in deeper than you imagined it could go. I can't even communicate with people directly over text anymore. Some people in the world want things this way. Unfortunately, i don't imagine my story is going to end as happily as some of these comments, but it does provide some comfort knowing people can get out of it. I don't want to die, but living is just way too much work.
Not a hikkikomori, but I relate very much to the failure mindset. Hope some aspect of your life improves in the coming years. Change can be slow, but one small step is a step : )
Your words on failure ring true. I think people, particularly proud people (and men) tend to over-emphasize their failures in their own minds. There are legitimately terrible failures: having a loved one die (fiance, family, friend), dropping out of university, things of that nature. The trick for failures is to take them as learning experiences, I reckon. That's not to say one won't fall into a slump after experiencing such a thing, but one needs to bounce back.
I 100% oddly enough, know exactly what you are talking about. Every word of it. I am currently living this life ...going on 10 years. However---Discovering this video today will change everything. It was very inspiring and puts to rest the phrase "You are not alone". Thank you for sharing your commentary.
@Lucy Towey That is how patriarchal societies weed out the week and allow the strong to prosper. It's worked pretty well, considering how successful patriarchal societies have been. The real problem is not patriarchy, but the softening of our people. Liberal parenting and the increasing addiction to computers are the main culprits.
@@comicsans1689 I'm gonna stop you right there, patriarchal (and matriarchal) societies have caused true gender issues by enforcing gender norms (e.g. Men shouldn't cry and Women are weak), transgenderism wouldn't exist (at the scale it does) if we didn't enforce gender norms.
@Random Headphone Reviews Gender norms gave order to society, and maximized the strengths of the sexes and to mitigate their weaknesses. To ignore this crucial pillar to the success of our society is ignorant. Transgenderism was not a major issue until the degenerate sexual liberation movement started causing a ruckus. To ignore gender roles is to ignore biology, and will surely lead to our demise. Name a successful society that did not enforce gender norms.
@@comicsans1689 That's not what I meant, gender norms *did* start out because of how Males are different from Females. However somewhere along the way they ended up being oppresive, and things have significantly improved since the peak of legitimate widespread toxic masculinity/femininity. Gender norms can be good (if they make sense biologically), but what's ridiculous is making people hide their emotions or shaming them for liking things that are "boyish" (or "girly"). People from the extreme left (or what people on the internet call "libtards") don't understand gender norms, and have no idea that they are more comforming than people in the middle (i.e. most people), they think that just because someone likes things made for the opposite gender it makes them a trans person (or closeted trans person), when in reality they are confusing personality with gender (which *can* affect personality, but should be considered a separate thing). Also Chu-chu-ru!
@@comicsans1689 That's fucked up, my dude. Why would you think that? Yeah, it was useful back in the day when the work around the house took up a majority of the day, but that's just not the case anymore. Putting pressure on the job working half and hindering the house working half is just stupid if you could let everyone do what suits their life style best. Also, why should transgender people be a major problem? They're like 0,2 percent of society and aside from the fact that they suffer from depression more than what is the norm (due to people like you who describe them as a problem although they're not hurting anyone), they are just like everyone else and thus just as hardworking. I'd advise you to actually talk to trans people before shitting on them.
@@ladydragon7777 These "state bullies" helped about 3000 people escape the isolation and restart their lives. But I'm sure you, a rando on the internet putting down hard-working strangers, know better.
Thank you. Also, guys just wanna be left alone so they can enjoy their peace, but, MEDIA MAYHEM putting them in the spotlight who the whole world now has eyes on them. smh.
I am a female japanese, I live in Japan, and I was a Hikikomori when I was about 28. I studied in England when I was a teenager away from my parents, I think I was very desciplined. I went through a lot of depressions and self denial which is still my issue. I think I'm still Hikikomori a little bit because I've always felt scared to go job hunting, I don't know what made me think that I'm a worthless person in this world. But I've finally realized that thinking in such negative way isn't doing any good to my life and even to society, so I've decided to at least make possitive thinkings, like when I wake up in the morning and go pray at the Shinto Shrine. Before, I did not know how to think possitive, but I do get a lot of help (not a rental sisiter though^_^) and possitive thinking of my future is actually working get out of depressions!!
Good luck in life! You should make a video on social media or UA-cam about your experience. Even sharing this post is helping others, and your written English is fantastic!
My sister is like that in the US. She was bullied and suffers from anxiety and depression. She stays up all night playing video games and then sleeps all day. She has one friend who comes over every couple of weeks, but just has so much social anxiety that she doesn't want to make other friends. I think technology, with all its amazing advances, has enabled people to have this escapism 24/7 if they want it.
Hi Jenn. I'm in the same place as your sister. I've been slowly going outside again (just simple trips to the grocery store or computer center) and have been sending out resumes to some places because I want to get a job and change my current life situation. I hope your sister gets better soon and gets to improve her life.
@@Fanaz10 Because a female can also suffer from anxiety and depression the same as men, you say "oh poor wamenz"? As if gender has any say in who gets a mental illness lmao fuck off.
@@farhabuh886- Hi, Farha! Thanks for replying. I think that's amazing that you've been sending out resumes. It's so hard to break out of that cycle, and I really applaud your efforts! I've seen first hand how difficult that can be. Good luck with everything- sincerely!
It seems like it is some serious mental illness. There is terrible stigma in many Asian cultures when it comes to mental health problems. They need to not only accept the illness but not be ashamed of it and truly treat it.
One of my childhood friends is a hikikomori here in Sweden, he has not left out small town for over 15 years, and only comes out of his apartment to buy food and then never talk to anyone. I have tried to reach out to him but to no avail. Very sad, as I know he is funny and kind.
I remember when I was little growing up in Japan, my cousin committed suicide. It was so devastating. I only found out years later that he was hikikomori. It started because he failed his entrance exams into the college he wanted to go to. I wish they had this ministry back then. He might have recovered. But the family kept it hush hush. 😭
So sorry to hear this. It sounds like it really affected you. My brother also did the same but we do not know what triggered his withdrawal or his eventual suicide many years later. I hope you have found closure....
This just sounds like chronic serious depression and withdrawal. The young man said that life is very unforgiving for the less mentally stong members... i think this can be seen in any society. It's very sad, but good if this approach can help! I think this is actually a very good idea.
@@rastapatchmail2357 Exactly. What they need is a place where these people can hold down a job and have the chance to interact with other people. Once they can hold down a stable job they can easily reintegrate with society. There needs to be help from organisations and their government to address this problem and help them hold jobs.
@@ivangoh5619 yes, i agree. Having self-pride in something like work or similar is very important. It contributes to self-respect and feeling more resilient (i.e. not afraid to put oneself out there). This is not an issue of men being given a hard time by women, it annoys me that people are trying to make this out to be the issue. In the current world, it is very hard for both men and women to be given a chance at a career for example.
I think many experience this kind of reclusive behavior especially when experiencing depression among other things, not just Japanese men. I remember when I would just never leave the house for 2 years straight unless to go to church or to get a smoothie by my house due to postpartum depression. It's interesting how different countries deal with coping societally
From what I've read,not every hikikomori has depression. Many of them have other mental illnesses indeed,however some of them don't really have a clear reason for becoming shut-ins.
Sigh. That's me. Except for the jackass panic-buyers at the store. I was so confused, shocked, frustrated and even a bit angry when the things I had been buying for years were suddenly rarely in stock. Bad manners people! Rrr.
Not completely true. I was isolated firstly because I was recovering from surgery when corona hit, but by then I was used to it. Medical conditions that made me immunosuppressed did the rest.
@@embrikchloraker8186 I'm sure you will do fine! I actually know somone who is transgender and have autism aswell and he came out a short while back, he was so relieved when we were supportive of him and its good to hear that you have friends that are going to move with you! What kind of tech are you gonna work with?
@damn right You are right that reality sucks and I hate it, but games do not rot. There are so much different kinds of games which offer lots of entertainment and things to learn. Unlike our job-system which is basically repeating same thing over and over again. Games offer entertainment which can be much more interesting than dull reality. I think that in future, when games are more sophisticated, then games are going to be the greatest drug humanity has ever created. Games are sucking young and old people in fantasy worlds. They will offer perfect escape from imperfect world. I'm in mid-thirties and I'm not Hikkimori. I have studied/worked whole my life and I like the outdoors but I hate reality. I use all my free times with video games, movies and books. I wish so much that I didn't have to live in this world. I would want to live fantasy worlds. I can't wait that we can invent VR worlds like Sword Art Online or Matrix. When we invent that technology then I'm going I "move" there for sure.
@@lovechild6988 That's kind of the attitude which makes these guys lock themselves in their rooms in the first place but I'm sure you have proof that hikkomories are just leaching off their parent for no good reason and not actually depressed.
Keep calm jeff bezos, Elon musk, mark Zuckerberg were under the same bracket. N now they piling up billions, i know money is not everything but it's most of the things
@@lifeofabarista1580 like its so easy to get rich xD i think its not healthy comparing your circumstances to other people who were in a similar one and got lucky and eventually got out of it, it would just create delusion and bitterness
Heartbreaking to see so many beautiful souls hiding themselves away from society, especially a society with high expectations. Really happy that there are people willing to help out. I wish you all the best
Overtly sensitive individuals like this need support regardless of gender, ethnicity, nationality. ... And if they have a disorder or disabilities even more so. It can be a lonely road and having a hand on a shoulder would do wonders, depending on the individual. Just don't go around hugging some people are so sensitive a touch can send them back to a traumatic event in life. Always ask. A high five would suffice for some and do a world of difference. 😎👍
@@rogerdodger8415 no, i wouldn't do that. Snowflakes are a different thing from just being sensitive, being a snowflake means you're sensitive AND you think you're unique and special, hence the name "special snowflake" People who become social outcasts are like that BECAUSE they received a slap on the face from reality and it made them want to depart from it
Absolutely not, they explained in the video that a hikkikomori could be the result of depression but not necessarily, please don't relate "being alone" with being depressed, specially talking about Japanese society. To westerns is difficult to understand that a lonely person isn't the same as a sad person.
Hikkikomori could be social anxiety or PTSD, not always depression. Or certain people not wanting to be apart of a society that has a "get with it or get lost" mentality
Everyday I learn something new. The rent-a-sister idea is a great one. It gives people who are natural givers and kind-hearted an opportunity to use their talent to help those who need it the most. 😊
indeed. ❤ It is so hard for a grown-up to stay pure- and kind-hearted, especially for people who are not hikimori but live alone. It feels like society treats it as a disadvantage to be kind and pure-hearted to others. After your comment I realize it is a skill honed for a lifetime. It can be used to trailblaze big social change through seemingly simple interactions. And you are right, many many people need it and it is underutilized
@@oddboxpolitics9912 who is talking about taxes? This people clearly need help, but the society does condition people to be some way or another, so it is necessary to make programs and policies to avoid this kind of problems.
@@cristobalcaro3392 Society doesn't condition anyone. People need to learn responsibility in order to function in society. I agree that there should be programmes that exist in order to teach responsible behavior.
@@blazedandconfused477 I don't think they're ready psychologically to marry. First thing they need is to stop playing games or watching TV. Then get a job. Only then think about marrying, even then they should know the person for at least 2 years so it won't end in divorce.
I recently quit Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. I found the relationships to be two-second interactions and they made me feel lonely. I only stay on UA-cam because I learn something new every day. But now I get my socialization needs met by a very small group of people -- in person and for more than two-seconds. In these days of social media and Covid-19 isolation, I am surprised that we aren't all massively depressed. I feel for these Japanese who live in a culture that largely ignores their very real problems.
I go to the local shop once a week. I see my sister-in-law, eight hours a week. I’m very happy and I feel mentally healthier than I was before, I was depressed and suicidal, now I have hope.
@Finn my point. If you walk down to Shibuya (I live in Japan) you're constantly bombarded with imagery of western lifestyles and the celebration of individualism. Then the young people go back home into suuuper conservative, often downright oppressive families where more often than not a young adult is supposed to make the parents proud, first and foremost. Who people are as individuals, what they want and like, doesn't really matter to anyone quite often. That plus a job market that's basically like a pool of sharks and you got a recipe for disaster. Obviously there are many other reasons for the rise of Hikiko as well but those are the basics.
Capitalism always will generate winners AND losers. This is inevitable. Outside of Japan we call them homeless people or housewives. There will ALWAYS be more able body adults then there are jobs, let alone well paying jobs to be happy with. This is because demand determines the supply of jobs and because not all of the revenue a business makes goes to the workers, the buying power of the workers goes down after each cycle of money. The ones accumulating the profits barely spend much of their income on consumer items. The rich spend their money on NEW investments to generate even MORE wealth. With Japan's focus on robotics, this problem will only get worse. Perhaps worker ran cooperatives could stop this, but it's too late to rely on that. This is why North Korea has consistent population growth and birthrates above replacement, but South Korea has birthrates below replacement and world record suicide rates. Capitalism has no room for losers and because not everyone can be a winner, capitalism will slowly eat away at the people inside it.
More like Society: Work hard and be productive Hikikkomori: I give up Parents of Hikikkomori: I will keep supporting you and keep this quiet because this is shameful
$900 a month for 4 hours work that you received no qualification for other than being a female. not bad at all! where are the people who complain about women pay gap?!
___ H How does this have anything to do with the pay gap? The pay gap refers to people doing the same job but getting paid different amounts. It doesn’t refer to men getting paid more than women in general. Thats a different issue.
@@tomasroma2333 I WONT GET POLITICAL !!! I WONT GET POLITICAL !!! I WONT GET POLITICAL !!! I am getting political ... So just saying the "women" pay gap is a MYTH at least in most of the developed world, as women by LAW get paid the same for the same work , in fact in many situations women get paid more for less hours ... and simpler jobs , also men are much more likely to work past time , and also make up the extreme majority of the "dangerous" jobs .
@@tomasroma2333 you are right, it is more about equal opportunity for men and women, that the man hating feminists claim does not exist for women. I am a man, where is my equal opportunity to work 4 hours a month and get paid $900 ?!
This is kinda like peer support in mental health treatment. This is basically agoraphobia and anxiety . I had peer support when my anxiety got so bad I couldn't leave my house. This is actually a very good idea
That was pretty much my life as a teenager girl. I know how it feels so I'd like to volunteer to help those that are going through the same thing. We do have to take mental illness more seriously and we should see the hikikomori as they are, simply people trying to survive in a society that can be very cruel. It's not shameful or ugly and they deserve help and not judgment.
I'm a 6-AP class high schooler who goes to a great school with the best parents ever. My parents would probably let someone live rent-free to throw pencils at me to do homework and be productive since I literally feel like I'm (and probably am) wasting all their effort.
I agree. Our society is very toxic. We are treated as 'men', 'women', 'worker', 'jobless' etc. When truthfully, we are just human who have emotions and limitations
earlysda can you please elaborate on this? How do you know this? What do you mean that Japanese society is telling young men to act like girls? As in to act more sensitive or feminine? I’m genuinely curious about your statement because I don’t know much about current Japanese culture, besides the small amount I’ve learned from YT. I had a friend that told me a lot of “insider” information on Korean culture and the things they won’t tell you. There’s a part of it that they don’t see as “positive” in other’s opinions, so they don’t openly disclose it.
This is depression f***s, but it's defence mechanism, a fight or flight situation, ptsd comes in all forms and it is covid 19 great great grandfather aka panic attacks the most related to death and yet very much alive. So let's have it staying alive hahahahaha staying aLĹllllllllllllliiiiiiiive
The reason Hikikomori is a thing in Japan is because parents let it happen. because they're afraid of the social stigma, they hide the kid, continue to feed him, pay for all their expenses, and so the behavior continues and takes on ridiculous proportions. it's not a "condition" or a special disease, it's depression, often caused by bullying. But whereas in other parts of the world, it would get treated earlier on, in Japan it's just left to fester. that said, I think it's really good people are finally trying to do something about it. those rent-a-sister people are a good thing. and those halfway houses even better. I hope that the phenomenon grows to have more than just that one company doing it. Still, they are trying to fix a problem way too far down the road. What needs to change is parents' attitudes (and Japan's attitude towards mental health) and focus on getting their children help right away. Not after they've locked themselves in a room for 10 years. PS: the voiceovers are awful. just use subs, please.
i agree with with you alot of the social rules and stigmas in japan are old fashioned and out of date and need to go. focusing too much on family honor is useless.
I think you're naive, and ignoring a lot of the video. The parents have tried, their relatives have tried. There's obviously heavy cultural influences that can't be thrown away for sake of tough love. But they're not just going to let their kids starve and be homeless. There's risk of making it worse, risk of suicide and violence. If they ignored it, they wouldn't be hiring these sisters.
emma kai you can disagree with my opinion, but I lived in Japan 9 years and have actually had to deal with situations involving hikikomori children, and really understand the mindset of Japanese people quite well, so “naive” is not really the good adjective to use here, friend.
@@nessaidolslayer3426 What would you do if it was your child? Move to another country? How do you change society when you're struggling for a decent life?
It's very heartbreaking and concerning how millions of people, not only in Japan but in many Asian countries including my home country, forgo or not get proper medical treatments for mental disorders solely due to the social stigma attached to to it. I think the rental sisters are a good initiative, but the lack of formal training is a point of concern, imho, such as the probability of the hikomori getting co-dependent on the 'sister' .
I’m not surprised at all really...I can totally empathise. These days, most people are rude, ignorant and selfish!... it’s much easier and less stressful to just avoid people all together!
@@realpolitics527 You being a student of medical psychology doesn't invalidate my point. Besides, I could claim to be the lead physicist working at NASA and there's no way you'd be able to tell if I'm lying or not.
4:58 "What people misunderstand is that our society is very tough on the weak." Insightful comment - felt very genuine. Of course, we don't interact with "society," only individuals, but perception is reality. I wonder how individuals (and society) could show greater compassion on the weak.
If a person can't fit into society he's viewed as useless, and feels that way too as a result. Even old people, as they retire, their spouse dies, or children leave home, are removed from society. They key here being: feeling useful. Perhaps a greater work could be made around finding something that feels fulfilling for these people. Even if it doesn't fit into the standards of what society views as usefull.
Omg its not about fitting into society or depression and hes not a real Hikikomori he just has daddy issues. Also its funny to think any Hikikomori would let u film them.
which is the main reason my uncles who works in the USA and has a green card would you rather retire here in the Philippines then retire in retirement home.
It only worked because the down and out person was a girl. Guys will marry a woman who has nothing to offer. The Hikikomori guys on the other hand.....
@MishMeesh Yes, I watched the video. The girl got married to her ''brother'' but the guys don't get married to their ''sisters''. Because the ''sisters'' don't fall for down and out men
@@citycrusher9308 The girl was the rental sister introduced earlier in the video. The guy was a Hikikomori. They met because he got help from the organization she worked for.
Their goal is to get them back into society and learn the skills they need for themselfes Unless the patiens refuse or the people really cant pay theyll stay as long as theyre needed and when they arent anymore theyll probably have other friends or are able to help themselfes
"Always" is a bit of an exageration. You, as a counsellor, are building the hikikomori's "social muscle". If you fail, he won't trust you. If you fail a bit later, he will trust only you, but you won't be able to convince him to trust other people. But there is no reason to assume that you can not teach him how to trust others and that he won't be able to let you go once he is standing confidently in his life.
@@blackbeard9217 There is definitely a reason. That reason is to have one person you can trust. You cannot be taught to trust others that you and the person seeming to "teach" you-do not know. You would assume these people are not only "to be trusted" but are the same in regards to trust. You cannot trust other people the same as you would trust a person you trust. You as well as the counselor do not know them. To assume you do, then "teaching" someone else to do so is setting them up for failure as well as disappointment. This is why these Hikikomori will always need their person whose helping them, for their trust, friendship, presence and communion.
People what I meant is for someone who is a great supportive empathetic friend, who of course does this shit for free, this would be a dream job. With all people I have built I could be a billionaire rn. Why are people always looking at things at a negative light. JFC.
Good stuff. I'm kind of in the same situation, only I'm disabled. Not crippled or anything like that. Just been self isolated for so long. I do get out of the house, and am able to drive, I just don't have anywhere to go. Imma try to change for the better in 2019. Not just for myself, but for my family.
Force yourself outside once a day. Even if it's for a small walk around. I'm also disabled and for a long time bedridden. I know how it's easy to just give up or hide. Even though you are disabled you can still build a good life for yourself. Don't give up and love yourself to make small goals that are easy to meet. You deserve to be happy. 🤗❤️
These Rental sisters should given honourary degrees in psychology, and publish their memors into science papers as one of the strategies for the Japanese social policymakers to deal with the aggregate stressors that are allosterically causing Hikikimoris break downs.
The comments show why the effort so often isn't worth it. From this problem to the low birth rate issue, it's just nature readjusting to faze out what isn't working for the planet overall, men.
It's quite easy to find out what's bothering them and it's most often the shitload of pressure to fit into a society that demands perfectionist productivity, strict socal rules to follow by and encourages to be dishonest but polite to each other.
- It's not only men - It's not only young - It's not only a few "hundred thousand" - It's not only "a condition" This is the result of a highly authoritarian society with strict social roles for everybody that overexploits people and doesn't take mental illnesses seriously.
I don't blame them, japanese mentality is a little...stressfull. The pressure to have straight As at school, a high paying job, most jobs wanting you to work long hours and shame you if you leave at your time. (because it makes you inconsiderate of your cooworkers to leave if they are going to stay apparently) Expecting you to marry and have children but also don't help much to develop time to date or try to interact with the opposite gender, stress and poor social skills don't help baby making.
True. I just found out that South Korea is actually worse than Japan in terms of depressed people and rate of suicide. I think on the Global Suicide Rate, Japan is around the mid-30th mark near Belgium and France... while Korea is at the Top 4th place. Yikes. I wonder why people still say Japan is the country of suicides when it is literally false.
@awen hyun it depends on your job. I think it's the same in any country. My job now is from 8:30am to 4:00pm and I don't need to do overtime at all. They give me holidays off and an additional 28 days of vacation leaves every year.
Incidentally the amount of female hikikomori are about the same as men. But it's viewed as positive in Japan for women to want to stay home, and not really a problem....
Because of their dated views.. I really wish Japan would just ... Update their views, morals, etc. Especially on mental illness and sexual harassment. I know it's easier said than done, but Japan's society is a bit dated in certain areas.
@@SessmaruKusanagiGaming Why do all societies have to be the exact same in every area? It's as if there is this expectation that people are being taught about how every society should be.
@Bronze Cop I agree and I'm in the west. Society needs house wives but so often women reject being one. No wonder our birth rates have plummeted. And many people just don't want children anymore either. We are in an artificial society now which has less natural factors while other social service jobs are filling the gap. In Japan they have paid fake sisters, paid fake girlfriends, robots for old people....that seems to be a society that has some social dysfunction.
These type dudes are all over the world, especially in North America and in Europe, especially the UK. Their souls were shattered by bullying when they were growing up.
@@aeris2001Lol! Trump Derangement Syndrome much? Trump Derangement Syndrome = Bringing Trump into every situation, even things he's got nothing to do with. ...hehe
I had a rough childhood, and when I switched households (parents separated, never married) I ended up in a program where a social worker would take me out on day trips a couple times month. If I didn't have that experience, I think I would be a lot worse off in terms of social development. Just a little bit of positive human interaction can be life changing for some people. There's "invisible" people all around. Listen, and uplift.
Love what you said, and thank you for sharing your story. These "invisible" kind people are out there, those who empathize, are willing to listen, and are thoughtful, and hearing their perspectives can be life changing.
I would like to comment here...in my small mountain town there is a young men's mentorship program run by some 30ish men. They take younger teenage men on hikes and overnight backpacking trips. They gather around campfire and listen and mentor through yoga and meditation. I believe they are doing amazing work for the younger men who are lost and looking for guidance. In today's fast moving society, a slow, understanding, mentoring approach works well for some to be able to learn how to navigate modern life on different terms.
Toddlers in Japan compete to get into the best kindergartens. And then primary-schoolers compete to get into the best intermediate schools, and this goes on to college. Some kids don't want to compete with others. A lot of people in Japan come to realize that cost of _trying_ in such a toxic environment isn't worth the benefit of having done so, and carries with it too much hazardous risk. If the culture is determined to hurt you just for existing, why try to engage it? Hence we have _futōkō_ or school-avoidant children who don't want to engage if doing so risks being bullied, hurt or shamed. We also have _hikikomori,_ or socially-avoidant adolescents and adults. We also have _sōshoku danshi,_ men who are disinterested in engaging with women if doing so means adhering to the highly competitive traditional Japanese custom, again it's just not worth it, and the society has long since decided these people should be disregarded in order to preserve a cruel culture. _Hikikomori_ does not correlate with known mental disorders only because those who've studied it have not bothered to look. In fact, a cross examination across many cases have demonstrated indications of PTSD or autism spectrum or major depression, often they _fulfilled criteria for multiple psychiatric conditions._ Only one in five were _primary hikikomori,_ that is, isolated from society without any indications of other mental disorders. The thing is, these are all based on tiny samplings of less than one-hundred cases. No-one's gathered data across thousands, and it's hindered since families feel compelled to hide _Hikikomori_ to avoid familial shame. So this is a societal problem, one of several phenomena that emerge from a culture that favors competition over cooperation, elitism over inclusion and preservation of institutionalized tradition over regard for the individual.
As additional factor: I would say the way these kids were raised has a lot to do with it. I can see the effect every day in my private life. ...Lots of Japanese men are spoiled by their mothers and have poor relationships with their fathers. Lots of people who did terrible at school do well in life.
"PTSD or autism spectrum or major depression" I have all 3 along with loss, exhaustion, and grief. and I successfully became a HAPPY recluse (even if for only a few months) until several outside ppl forced me to go out and get involved with society again
Not everyone likes dogs. Some people find them extraordinarily annoying. Bringing them one would do the opposite of lifting their spirits and just add stress by leaving them annoyed. Because of social pressure, they’d have to pretend to be polite and nice with the animal since that is what is expected. The person bringing the dog as a ‘benefit’ will almost never have any idea that all they did was frustrate the person more. It’s probably better to ask the person ahead of time if a dog or other annoying creature is something they’d actually want on a particular visit.
@@AnOnlinePerson I didn't take it that an animal would be sprung on them without agreement. A dog that needs walking is ideal. But a visit from a kitten might be wondrous. ...Okay, or ferret, snake, mouse, rat, bird, ant farm..... Anyway, a kitten is a crazy thing, that seems to magically hover on all surfaces at once, including the ceiling. It would lift my spirits, and tire me out at the same time. ....I think I just proved your point. 😖 Ha! Oh well, best wishes! 😊
I kind of agree with both of you. On some standards I could be called a hikikomori. I’m on disability payment due to mental illness and spend a lot of time alone. People exhaust me and I find it easier to be with animals. I don’t have energy to own a dog, but I work as dog walker and sitter. I only do this few times a week now. Used to do it every day, but I got burned out. It can definitely be too much when you are in a fragile condition and barely know how to take care of yourself. But it also lifts my spirits to be out in the nature with an animal that doesn’t judge me and loves me unconditionally.
And cats, apartments in Japan are exceptionally small.
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What rational person wouldn't choose to stay in a warm, quiet, comfortable room instead of going to a Japanese workplace where you get your ass kicked by your seniors, and deal with unreasonably low pay and long hours? Is this really a difficult analysis here?
This issue isn't only in Japan. You could say that I am a recovering female hikikomori. I study part time at a quiet university where there is more support for students. Each week, I see a psychologist & work one whole day. The rest of my free time is spent in my room. Honestly, being around people makes me feel suicidal. From 6 -10 years of age, I was bullied & isolated by my classmates. The isolation happened again from 13 to 15 years of age. The environment that I was raised in was unstable too. My parents also had very high expectations for me. I learned from a young age that it is better to be alone than to be disappointed or heartbroken. I don't want anyones pity but i want people to understand that there are reasons why people turn out this way.
It seems like no matter what the video is about, or how the topic is treated, the comments section is full of people who ignore the topic and just gleefully take the opportunity to bash the BBC. This one is no different. Don't think, just knee-jerk react.
@@Pining_for_the_fjords I'm representing my people and standing against the BBC tyranny of locking up our citizens and seperating children from their mothers over a licence fee none of us want or should have to pay. 90+people went to jail last year over licence fees and 1/10 court cases were for licence fee which costs us a ton. 1 person in jail for not paying for propaganda is unacceptable
It's not selfless if the price is nine thousand dollars a month tho... Seriously, I've never seen any professional therapist charge 2.250 dollars a session.
This is exactly how my nephew was, until I gave him a job with my company, got him out of the house at least 9 hours a day . Working and being around other people has completely changed him...the solution was easier for my nephew than a lot of unfortunate people I see here.
You had the privilege of supplying him with anew start but many people cannot afford that opportunity and its a shame. These people just fall off and the solution is right there, just out of reach. Its cruel.
@@burtonl7239 I have seen fragile mental minds dont being targeted and strong ones being targeted by bullies.... there is always a bigger fish.... specially if the big fish has friends, doesnt matter how strong mentally you are, you are not going to have a nice time.... and this is kids or teenagers we are talking about....
@@sergio446 Not every fragile mind comes into contact with bullies. There aren't that many bullies around. And strong people who get bullied are often because they are trying to break into an existing ecosystem or rise in a hierarchy and the dominant people are trying to put them in their place or defend their position. There is nothing wrong with that. Strong minds internalize the experience and learn from it. Kids and teenagers are exactly what I'm talking about. Often, bullies are insecure in their own way. They don't go out of their way to seek bigger fish. They seek out weaklings. They target people who are often alone and shows characteristics of being timid and submissive. Often, these kids already have fragile minds or disturbed mental health in the first place, like being anti-social or plagued by phobias.
@DiverFictionB salman Actually, I counsel teens and kids for a living. Often I find that the victim's mentality is the cause of his bullying, rather than the bullying being the cause of his mentality.
Im a 25 year old woman and I'm afraid to go outside by myself. I live in a studio apartment. Even taking out the trash makes my heart race. Luckily I work from home. I met my boyfriend from an online dating app and if it wasnt for him I might be like these men in this documentary
That must be very hard for you I suppose. There was a time in my life too when I stayed in my room only. And took no care of myself. I remember I did not wash my hair for a whole month. And that was not a good situation to be in. I did not have it as bad as you. But I hope that things get better for you.
a man would never be able to do what you did. undestand that i am happy that your situation is better, but a woman would never help a man the way a man helped you.
@@DaglessMc Well said. Men are completely on their own when it comes to mental health. That’s one reason why suicide intent is much greater and successful in men.
i like the idea of newstart dormitory, establishing yourself in community and socialising, while also working for its maintenance or improvement seems very interesting, if only there was a similar system for the homeless
sometimes you don't need a counsellor or a doctor, sometimes you just need a friend (obviously not in all cases though before someone says some dumb shit)
The ending is so sweet. i bet the rental sister is a lowkey hikikomori herself. she relates and understands fully what a shut-in individual felt like. what a silver lining conclusion to this video.
The dub is horrible, if dubbing, why not use someone who speaks english natively? Ive never understood the need to dub over sub, especially with such a strong accent. If it is because of the ethnicity, just let us hear the language from the interviewed individuals, slap a sub there. The horrible dub doesnt make it any better, i find it quite offensive too. So yes, subtitles over dub any time.
Fredrik Nygren it’s aimed at people who (like me) listen to it while doing housework. I don’t always have the time to sit down and read subtitles when I could be working.
wow, i have to say i can relate to these men so much. Every day, i am having to completely go against my nature just by functioning "normally". I despise having to go to work, i despise having to even leave the house sometimes, but i do it. I harbour resentments against people who are so effortlessly outgoing and don't even think about such things.
I'm a deep introvert. I, too, force myself out of the house. I'm thankful I mostly work from home now. But I do always feel better when I travel. I'm not sure if it's because it's a different environment, and it forces me to get out and see/experience new things, but it's been really good for me, and help lift my depression. I don't know if that would help you (or anyone else) but thought I'd mention it here. All the best to you.
3 years ago I went through a phase when I shut myself out of the society, because I was suicidal. One year later when I tried to go outside even just to buy a soda, I got serious panic attacks. I was so afraid of being judged that I frose in fear whenever I saw another person. I seriously could not move if I saw anybody. Now things are going good though!
@@1415-m1l social anxiety (for me at least) get more easy by exposure to bad situations. In other words I just practiced on going outside. However I believe that taking too big steps too soon is bad. I started by walking around outside the house, seeing neighbours, and slowly got the confidence to go to a grocery store. Practice and knowing your limits. Only slightly push yourself over them.
These women are doing such amazing work! Well done with such a difficult task. Mental health is extremely taboo in Japan and is never openly addressed. Great job.
Me is opposite, I want to travel and live many experiences as I can with my family and friends (I even want to have money to invite them to travel to other countries) wish I had.
its too bad you weren't born rich....then you could have an effortless life. you could hire mental health counseling too! and someone would cook your meals and clean your house like a useless rich person.
CAn u imagine slowly getting over it and try to become functionaol again and realising u cant get back the time u lost. Try to get THIS FEELING of REGRET. Imagine wake up and realise u lost like a year or a decade of your life for no reason while u were young n healthy, this is the worst part for me.
PS, I don't believe you will waste that time if it has made you more compassionate to others going through difficult periods of life, and gives you a different perspective than most others. Your life is yours for a reson xo
All you can do is go forward. Five more years from now, you can look back and think, “Wow, look at what I accomplished,” or “Wow, what I could have accomplished by now...”
I think you're missing the point when you say "lost". Lost time pursuing what? They probably wouldn't have resigned from society or become passive if there was something worth pursuing from their perspective. Which suggests that society should also do some collective introspection.
I think a big problem is how we don't admit that video games are addictive. Replace the gaming aspect of their life with alcohol or other drug abuse, and you'll get a pretty standard pattern of male depression and anxiety. The fact that you don't die from video games both helps (if you get out, you can get a healthy life back) and hinders progress (you won't easily hit ground zero and get motivated to change).
I was a recluse for about 4 years out of high school. My family was not the kind where we talked about our feelings, or really who talked at all. I don't think I knew how to deal with my emotions, and the computer helped me ignore them and have a little dopamine. I had a friend who was supportive like these sisters. I don't think I would be the person I am today without her. (Just finished my bachelor's degree & have been financially independent for 8 years.) I still sometimes worry I might relapse, so I limit my web time. This is a great service, wish I could be hired to help out!
rental sister sounds better then a therapist! therapists are financially, time limit driven, they talk to you like your a patient rather then a normal person and are mostly unrelatable sometimes not even nice or polite.
nonexistentrose yeah, I have a therapist right now, and she's helping me through a really rough patch in my life. But before her I had some guy who would take calls during my session and debate with me about Trump. It took me a few sessions to relize that the people in the waiting rooms were never the same. He was my first theropist, so I could see how a situation like this could taint someone's view of theropists.
Only if you have a lot of money to stay at home and get everything you need without working, most people just live normally despite the virus, only if you're a crazy paranoid hypochondriac you'd be like that.
Basically social anxiety. With people around me being excessively competitive and constantly making financial status comparisons, I just don't want to leave the privacy and comfort of my home to meet these people.
One of the first questions people ask when meeting someone new is...what is your job... This immediately sets the wheels going as far as categorizing people. I was an entry level office worker... So people assumed I am a loser..but I had a rental property and $150,000 in the bank, I also worked 20 hours on the weekend. I did not consider myself a loser. Anyone who doesn't try to better themselves or hold their own I feel sorry for. I also got a 97percent on my medical billing course.
It's not anxiety - people who immediately start competing with you as soon as they meet you are uncomfortable and awkward to be around. It's an insecurity/anxiety issue on their part, most people are like that and therefore if you are in the minority who aren't you tend to avoid them
Ok I'm 80% sure that the reason Kenta was bullied in school wasn't because of his high voice. I'm pretty sure the other boys in the class were just jealous because he got a lot of attention from the girls in the class. Honestly if I was in his class I would want to be friends with him too, he's a cutie. But that kind of stuff happens everywhere not just Japan. I'm sure everyone could remember a boy from school that got along with a lot of girls and the other boys would bully him or call him gay and stupid stuff like that. It's just pure jealousy.
Your not entirely wrong, i usually get along with girls better than boys and i was bullied for it among other things, even today boys would tease me for it, just last week i was on an MUN Trip and i spent a lot of time with girls than boys, and i was teased for it especially by the macho boys. Boys can be also a jealous lot too
Happened to my friend too! We girls got along with him because he already had a girlfriend and wasn't after any of us, and the platonic attention was amazing compared to most boy's predatory attention. The other boys were extremely jealous that he not only had a girlfriend, but every other girl's attention too and bullied him! Fortunately he was a good student and got to go abroad for his studies, away from the mess.
OK, firstly, this entire video is about the scale of the problem rather than it being some weird foreign quirk. It's a huge issue in Japan (kinda weird considering Japan is all about politeness and respect, but eh). That's why they have a dedicated word for it, when the closest we have is "withdrawal" which is kind of vague. We have it in the West, yes (they even mentioned that in the video), but it's much less common and you rarely hear about actual "hikikomori" behaviour. People will shut themselves in, but not for years at a time. It's also more than agoraphobia and depression; it's a fear of interaction period. Agoraphobics aren't necessarily terrified of other people and depressives are generally more apathetic than miserable/fearful. I'd liken it more to extreme social anxiety than depression.
It's called being a hermit. We have people like this in the US as well. My grandfather and aunt were hermits. My aunt would stay in her house and sing to herself/play video games. This was in the early 90s, she still does this over 27 years later. Lots of people isolate themselves, for a multitude of reasons.
I wouldn't equate the two, Hermit can be for religious reasons or someone who likes to be alone while Hikikomoris are not doing it because they want to.
@@elephantsong7782 what is choice? do people choose to have depression? choose to get bullied? choose to have a high pitched voice? just because no one is literally locking them in their rooms doesn't entirely mean they choose to be locked in.
As a long term resident of Japan (since 2001), I wrote about this phenomenon in my 2009 book about Japan. This could only be an issue in japan. But as Japan began exporting its geek culture in the "cool japan" campaign it launched in 2002, we are beginning to see this internationally. In a nutshell, Japan is a pressure cooker society at every level, from infanthood to death. And some people simply can't cope. What's more social ineptitude in a virtue in Japanese society. Social skills which people take for granted in the west, are simply lacking in Japan. Another factor is the gross leniency of parents here. As a jamaican, I can't even fathom, not even remotely, telling my mother that I didn't want to leave my room. I rescued one of those hikkikomoris back in 2004, he was the brother of one my then girlfriends. Hadn't left his room since elementary school and he was 18 when i met him. So he was there for about 7 years. He was curios about this kokujin, so i got him to go to karaoke with me and sing songs from his favorite band, Spitz. Then i got him to start going to the gym with me at the Kobe YMCA. He then started studying for his university exams and actually got in. His parents tell me they are permanently indebted to me. And check the irony: His sister told me, he would advise her to stop dating the foreigner, because I was dangerous. But this dangerous gaijin saved his life. If you guys are interested, my book is titled, 'Black Passenger Yellow Cabs: A Memoir of Exile and Excess in Japan. Let me know what you think.
speaking of infantile and purile, thats japanese society too. keep in mind, I dont view japan from a far through textbooks. I live here. This has been my home for the last 18 years. I've spent more time in Japan than I've spent in my native Jamaica.
@@quistisobel8832 Get a life. You are the typical keyboard warrior, that sits at home, telling everyone how to live their life, while adding nothing of value to society. I see no issues in @blackpassenger's comment. While you sit a home, doing nothing, he helped a teenager. Why not give his book a try? It might teach you something valuable.
It’s most likely the camera used to film the excerpts used on the templates had different quality than the rest of the video’s camera quality. So a stylistic decision was made to maintain the video quality. It looks like the smaller videos were on a selfie stick honestly, so were shot with an actual smart phone or go-pro or something similar.
What do they call older people that feel this way. I'm 55 and and in the past 2 years stopped interacting with people and barely leave the house. I been forgotten.
It doesnt matter how old you are. You are human and I'm sure you have great qualities that make you an asset to the world, and the world is lesser without you taking your place in it. That goes for everyone reading this as well. I wish you the best, James.
I don't pretend and trying to understand them at their level, she is a gem and certification for a friend is not needed. She does her job well and know what and how to do it.
I can't believe that they are seriously labelling this as a "unknown" problem. It's obvious that these poor men are strugging with severe depression in a society that doesn't take mental health seriously 💔💔
Or agoraphobia
I dont Quite agree...there is a big difference; and those two Conditions have symptoms that intersect and similar.
Ah, we have certified Doctor here
Definitely depression but a more unique cause. I've heard japan has huge expectations for men. Japan also has a major suicide problem. My only guess is that the societal standards are so high that it causes a lot of stress to keep up and a lot of shame if you feel you arent doing well enough
this pathologizing of depression sometimes leads to further problem I dont like labeling instead saying they have characteristics of it, I've seen better results in how they react
Just my experience though have a good day
They act like this is happening only to Japan or Asian countries.
This is basically a global phenomenon now tbh.
deathmire11 true here in North America too
My brothers like this, he basically never leaves the house. My mother brings him all his food and he just lives in his room
Asian countries never had a welfare system like lots of european countries. Japan wasn't that extreme before the 90s when the economy got down the first time really bad and people had to worry for their existence and competition increased. The west had this experience fully later 2007/8. Since then it is getting worse as well especially in middle-northern europe. Anonymisation, different workplaces, different people all the time, the difficulty to maintain social circles because of modern mobility and flexibility, sitting in rooms most of the time instead of being outside and more points is simply unhealthy.
My cousin is like this. Doesn't want to do anything.
Saying fuck you to society is highly relatable
That stuff also happens in europe. After my brother failed his university, he just stayed at parentshome and played videogames all day. Barley saw his few friends or left the house, had no job and no education. He now is in his mid 20s...I reached out to him, got him a small job and now a few months later he moves with me in my apartment. He even started doing sport :) still a long way but those people just need a reaching hand.
Well done from helping him , I wish people looked out for each other way more
Your brother's story sounds like my brother's, except it was a friend that helped him find a job. He works as a server in a senior's home now. My mom's still disappointed that he never finished school and didn't find a "real" job. But I can see that he's a lot happier now.
Well done 👍👍
Same here.
HK, 20+, failed in university for my pathetic classmate interaction performance. No longer go to lectures and even have problems picking up calls. Only leave house for seeing counselor/CP.
Now I try to apply for community college of 2 year hopefully more stress-manageable. And yet honestly, I try not to think about future cause I just don't see myself able to have one. Please stay there and be patient, that MEANS THE WOULD to us.
Thank you for being a good brother 🙏
I'm an American hikikomori for about 10 years. It starts, probably with an inclination towards depression, but ultimately with a failure you can't let go of. Anytime you head back out in the world, all you can think is everyone knows your failure. It makes it easy to repeat that failure, and tell yourself no matter what it will always end in failure. It closes you off, and if you don't immediately spring back, it's so easy to fall in deeper than you imagined it could go. I can't even communicate with people directly over text anymore. Some people in the world want things this way. Unfortunately, i don't imagine my story is going to end as happily as some of these comments, but it does provide some comfort knowing people can get out of it. I don't want to die, but living is just way too much work.
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Not a hikkikomori, but I relate very much to the failure mindset. Hope some aspect of your life improves in the coming years. Change can be slow, but one small step is a step : )
I'm 33, failed at life. No matter what, you are not alone.
Your words on failure ring true. I think people, particularly proud people (and men) tend to over-emphasize their failures in their own minds. There are legitimately terrible failures: having a loved one die (fiance, family, friend), dropping out of university, things of that nature. The trick for failures is to take them as learning experiences, I reckon. That's not to say one won't fall into a slump after experiencing such a thing, but one needs to bounce back.
I 100% oddly enough, know exactly what you are talking about. Every word of it. I am currently living this life ...going on 10 years. However---Discovering this video today will change everything. It was very inspiring and puts to rest the phrase "You are not alone". Thank you for sharing your commentary.
To that blonde dude that was bullied because he chilled a lot with girls. the others were obviously just jealous.
@Lucy Towey That is how patriarchal societies weed out the week and allow the strong to prosper. It's worked pretty well, considering how successful patriarchal societies have been. The real problem is not patriarchy, but the softening of our people. Liberal parenting and the increasing addiction to computers are the main culprits.
@@comicsans1689 I'm gonna stop you right there, patriarchal (and matriarchal) societies have caused true gender issues by enforcing gender norms (e.g. Men shouldn't cry and Women are weak), transgenderism wouldn't exist (at the scale it does) if we didn't enforce gender norms.
@Random Headphone Reviews Gender norms gave order to society, and maximized the strengths of the sexes and to mitigate their weaknesses. To ignore this crucial pillar to the success of our society is ignorant. Transgenderism was not a major issue until the degenerate sexual liberation movement started causing a ruckus. To ignore gender roles is to ignore biology, and will surely lead to our demise.
Name a successful society that did not enforce gender norms.
@@comicsans1689 That's not what I meant, gender norms *did* start out because of how Males are different from Females. However somewhere along the way they ended up being oppresive, and things have significantly improved since the peak of legitimate widespread toxic masculinity/femininity. Gender norms can be good (if they make sense biologically), but what's ridiculous is making people hide their emotions or shaming them for liking things that are "boyish" (or "girly").
People from the extreme left (or what people on the internet call "libtards") don't understand gender norms, and have no idea that they are more comforming than people in the middle (i.e. most people), they think that just because someone likes things made for the opposite gender it makes them a trans person (or closeted trans person), when in reality they are confusing personality with gender (which *can* affect personality, but should be considered a separate thing).
Also Chu-chu-ru!
@@comicsans1689 That's fucked up, my dude. Why would you think that? Yeah, it was useful back in the day when the work around the house took up a majority of the day, but that's just not the case anymore.
Putting pressure on the job working half and hindering the house working half is just stupid if you could let everyone do what suits their life style best.
Also, why should transgender people be a major problem? They're like 0,2 percent of society and aside from the fact that they suffer from depression more than what is the norm (due to people like you who describe them as a problem although they're not hurting anyone), they are just like everyone else and thus just as hardworking.
I'd advise you to actually talk to trans people before shitting on them.
2:21 "I don't pretend. I just try to connect with them on their level." that's social work!
I think the hikkikos want the "sisters" to be much younger. Or in anime masks.
dont japan have social workers?
@@리주민 nah, this one is kind of milf-y.
Yep a state bully treating people like a child telling them how to live their lives.
@@ladydragon7777 These "state bullies" helped about 3000 people escape the isolation and restart their lives. But I'm sure you, a rando on the internet putting down hard-working strangers, know better.
Humans: build stressful depressing and hyper competitive societies of consumption
Also humans: hmm why don’t people want to participate?
Thank you. Also, guys just wanna be left alone so they can enjoy their peace, but, MEDIA MAYHEM putting them in the spotlight who the whole world now has eyes on them. smh.
Exactly....how more people don't see this is so frustrating. It's so obvious, like put 2 and 2 together ffs.
I hear that Lena....
I mean society can’t just turn everything that’s been made on its head. That would be wildly chaotic.
go live in the forest if you're not happy
I am a female japanese, I live in Japan, and I was a Hikikomori when I was about 28. I studied in England when I was a teenager away from my parents, I think I was very desciplined. I went through a lot of depressions and self denial which is still my issue. I think I'm still Hikikomori a little bit because I've always felt scared to go job hunting, I don't know what made me think that I'm a worthless person in this world. But I've finally realized that thinking in such negative way isn't doing any good to my life and even to society, so I've decided to at least make possitive thinkings, like when I wake up in the morning and go pray at the Shinto Shrine. Before, I did not know how to think possitive, but I do get a lot of help (not a rental sisiter though^_^) and possitive thinking of my future is actually working get out of depressions!!
good luck on your journey in this life ❤️
I wish I was your friend.
i hope the best for you! i’m glad you are feeling better
素晴らしい、がんばってね！( ◠‿◠ )
Good luck in life! You should make a video on social media or UA-cam about your experience. Even sharing this post is helping others, and your written English is fantastic!
@@juku_juku i agree
My sister is like that in the US. She was bullied and suffers from anxiety and depression. She stays up all night playing video games and then sleeps all day. She has one friend who comes over every couple of weeks, but just has so much social anxiety that she doesn't want to make other friends. I think technology, with all its amazing advances, has enabled people to have this escapism 24/7 if they want it.
Hi Jenn. I'm in the same place as your sister. I've been slowly going outside again (just simple trips to the grocery store or computer center) and have been sending out resumes to some places because I want to get a job and change my current life situation. I hope your sister gets better soon and gets to improve her life.
oh those poor wamenz again
@@Fanaz10 Pls. don't be an ass.
@@Fanaz10 Because a female can also suffer from anxiety and depression the same as men, you say "oh poor wamenz"? As if gender has any say in who gets a mental illness lmao fuck off.
@@farhabuh886- Hi, Farha! Thanks for replying. I think that's amazing that you've been sending out resumes. It's so hard to break out of that cycle, and I really applaud your efforts! I've seen first hand how difficult that can be. Good luck with everything- sincerely!
"Our society is very tough on the weak." -- oh, that's such a good quote.
@david burrus: I believe in that approach too, but it clearly doesn't work all the time. If it did we wouldn't have this problem.
that's going to be motto of Tokyo Olympics 2020: "very tough on the weak"
@david burrus yeah no, the middle east has your dream life, yet its a cesspool of gobshite
@@cossaizy6309 really? What do you know about the middle east?
@@srivatsanraghavachar6583 i live in it...
At the end, they only need a friend who cares and accepting them, even for money...
That's deep...
A female who doesn't treat them like s***.
Lingga Bastara so sad
I guess it could be said that a breakdown of healthy relationships can send people into that state.
people call this "a condition" is an insult. Completely horsesh$t
It seems like it is some serious mental illness. There is terrible stigma in many Asian cultures when it comes to mental health problems. They need to not only accept the illness but not be ashamed of it and truly treat it.
One of my childhood friends is a hikikomori here in Sweden, he has not left out small town for over 15 years, and only comes out of his apartment to buy food and then never talk to anyone. I have tried to reach out to him but to no avail. Very sad, as I know he is funny and kind.
Have you tried to just visit? Sounds like he's usually home, so that might be a start.
Please continue to message him and talk with him. Your friend needs you ❤️
I remember when I was little growing up in Japan, my cousin committed suicide. It was so devastating. I only found out years later that he was hikikomori. It started because he failed his entrance exams into the college he wanted to go to. I wish they had this ministry back then. He might have recovered. But the family kept it hush hush. 😭
I feel sorry 🙏
That family needs to get their ass kicked for ignoring him
My condolences, Melissa. 😢
💛 May he Rest In Peace. 💛
So sorry to hear this. It sounds like it really affected you. My brother also did the same but we do not know what triggered his withdrawal or his eventual suicide many years later. I hope you have found closure....
We need a “Friendship” version of Tinder! It’s really hard to make friends in metropolitan cities 🤷🏻♂️
Ok. I'll get my son to work on it.
worth a shot
@J H that's true though :D
There is a Friendship version of Tender, it's called, "The Letter Exchange" !!!
In 3d country it's easy to have friend
This just sounds like chronic serious depression and withdrawal. The young man said that life is very unforgiving for the less mentally stong members... i think this can be seen in any society. It's very sad, but good if this approach can help! I think this is actually a very good idea.
Why is it that a female who is getting paid for one hour of compassion a week is the solution?
@@rastapatchmail2357 Exactly. What they need is a place where these people can hold down a job and have the chance to interact with other people. Once they can hold down a stable job they can easily reintegrate with society. There needs to be help from organisations and their government to address this problem and help them hold jobs.
Saw a boy
@@ivangoh5619 yes, i agree. Having self-pride in something like work or similar is very important. It contributes to self-respect and feeling more resilient (i.e. not afraid to put oneself out there). This is not an issue of men being given a hard time by women, it annoys me that people are trying to make this out to be the issue. In the current world, it is very hard for both men and women to be given a chance at a career for example.
@@lauraj4435 It's much harder as a man in the current climate to compete in the job marketplace especially for white collar jobs.
Very dangerous job. The sisters deserve much more praise.
They are deeply depressed, this isn’t a new illness, it is just ignored in Japanese society and I don’t think assigning them a “name” helps.
blowing trees bro what?? women don’t exist for your sexual pleasure
@blowing trees Go to hell or sth
So Japanese would rather not believe in mental health issues but act desperate to help their children?
I can relate to them but I'm hateful towards myself and the journey ahead of me
I don't think this problems is just in Japan but all over the world ....
"i asked her to please smile forever next to me" that's such a lovely way of phrasing it.
I think many experience this kind of reclusive behavior especially when experiencing depression among other things, not just Japanese men. I remember when I would just never leave the house for 2 years straight unless to go to church or to get a smoothie by my house due to postpartum depression. It's interesting how different countries deal with coping societally
More accurately how the countries don't deal with it.
Oh Nami surprised 😲 to see you here. Thank you for sharing your story!
From what I've read,not every hikikomori has depression. Many of them have other mental illnesses indeed,however some of them don't really have a clear reason for becoming shut-ins.
Exactly ‼️
NamiiCho church?
You know you are one of them when you barely noticed any change in your life when Corona came.
Sigh. That's me. Except for the jackass panic-buyers at the store. I was so confused, shocked, frustrated and even a bit angry when the things I had been buying for years were suddenly rarely in stock. Bad manners people! Rrr.
Yep. I had the best time during the pandemic.
literally me lol. Ain't gone out in a decade and some gubmint orders me to stay in doors are they dumb lol
Not completely true. I was isolated firstly because I was recovering from surgery when corona hit, but by then I was used to it. Medical conditions that made me immunosuppressed did the rest.
@@embrikchloraker8186 I'm sure you will do fine! I actually know somone who is transgender and have autism aswell and he came out a short while back, he was so relieved when we were supportive of him and its good to hear that you have friends that are going to move with you! What kind of tech are you gonna work with?
Hikkimoris are the backbone of Top Rankers in League of Legend
Lol, you're 1000% correct!
@@jr_san Yup, almost in every other game too. Imagine the amount of time they put into a video game, probably 12 hours+ a day.
damn right ur comment applies to literally every hobby that exists
@damn right You are right that reality sucks and I hate it, but games do not rot. There are so much different kinds of games which offer lots of entertainment and things to learn. Unlike our job-system which is basically repeating same thing over and over again. Games offer entertainment which can be much more interesting than dull reality. I think that in future, when games are more sophisticated, then games are going to be the greatest drug humanity has ever created. Games are sucking young and old people in fantasy worlds. They will offer perfect escape from imperfect world.
I'm in mid-thirties and I'm not Hikkimori. I have studied/worked whole my life and I like the outdoors but I hate reality. I use all my free times with video games, movies and books. I wish so much that I didn't have to live in this world. I would want to live fantasy worlds. I can't wait that we can invent VR worlds like Sword Art Online or Matrix. When we invent that technology then I'm going I "move" there for sure.
Yoosung is one of them😂
Hikkomori is something that is going to get worst more we dismiss mental health. Not just in Japan but everywhere, especially now.
If I had my own room I would lock myself inside it........
Mental health my ass! Bum's living of people.🐂💩
@@lovechild6988 That's kind of the attitude which makes these guys lock themselves in their rooms in the first place but I'm sure you have proof that hikkomories are just leaching off their parent for no good reason and not actually depressed.
No one will care until one poor depressed guy has one bad day
These young men just need to do a dopehamin fast and exercise.
I think I’m a hikikomori. Here in America they call us losers though.....
ahahahaha, same in Australia - i've recognized myself becoming an isolated, insulated loner....
in brazil but in here i have a good reason..everyone is dumb
😂😂
Keep calm jeff bezos, Elon musk, mark Zuckerberg were under the same bracket. N now they piling up billions, i know money is not everything but it's most of the things
@@lifeofabarista1580 like its so easy to get rich xD
i think its not healthy comparing your circumstances to other people who were in a similar one and got lucky and eventually got out of it, it would just create delusion and bitterness
Damn, I loved that last story about former hikikomori getting married. So touching
Yes, that was so sweet.
Heartbreaking to see so many beautiful souls hiding themselves away from society, especially a society with high expectations. Really happy that there are people willing to help out. I wish you all the best
Kenta looks like he's ready to cry... I want to hug him... This hurts my heart.
I think that he mostly looked like that because his contacts were irritating his eyes, I could be wrong though.
With a face like yours, you'd drive him out of his room and into his closet!
Overtly sensitive individuals like this need support regardless of gender, ethnicity, nationality. ... And if they have a disorder or disabilities even more so. It can be a lonely road and having a hand on a shoulder would do wonders, depending on the individual. Just don't go around hugging some people are so sensitive a touch can send them back to a traumatic event in life. Always ask. A high five would suffice for some and do a world of difference. 😎👍
@@LadyCoyKoi Yeah, overly sensitive individuals (aka snowflakes) need a good slap on the face, as a dose of reality.
@@rogerdodger8415 no, i wouldn't do that. Snowflakes are a different thing from just being sensitive, being a snowflake means you're sensitive AND you think you're unique and special, hence the name "special snowflake" People who become social outcasts are like that BECAUSE they received a slap on the face from reality and it made them want to depart from it
So basically it's people with depression hiring councillors
Yes , exactly
Absolutely not, they explained in the video that a hikkikomori could be the result of depression but not necessarily, please don't relate "being alone" with being depressed, specially talking about Japanese society. To westerns is difficult to understand that a lonely person isn't the same as a sad person.
Yep, i think it is less intimidating... Doesn't make one feel like they have a disease or something
I was going to say rent a girl not going out not getting any
Hikkikomori could be social anxiety or PTSD, not always depression. Or certain people not wanting to be apart of a society that has a "get with it or get lost" mentality
Everyday I learn something new. The rent-a-sister idea is a great one. It gives people who are natural givers and kind-hearted an opportunity to use their talent to help those who need it the most. 😊
indeed. ❤ It is so hard for a grown-up to stay pure- and kind-hearted, especially for people who are not hikimori but live alone. It feels like society treats it as a disadvantage to be kind and pure-hearted to others. After your comment I realize it is a skill honed for a lifetime. It can be used to trailblaze big social change through seemingly simple interactions. And you are right, many many people need it and it is underutilized
900 dollars for 4 hours of work lmao
They’re just depressed man. If society wasn’t so harsh then everyone would be happier
You can't blame 'society'. The solution is to provide a responsible path for these individuals, not raise taxes.
@@oddboxpolitics9912 who is talking about taxes? This people clearly need help, but the society does condition people to be some way or another, so it is necessary to make programs and policies to avoid this kind of problems.
@@cristobalcaro3392 Society doesn't condition anyone. People need to learn responsibility in order to function in society. I agree that there should be programmes that exist in order to teach responsible behavior.
I think its the opposite. If living was harsher, it would be less if an issue.
OddBox Politics you’re telling me society doesn’t set ridiculous standards
All they need is a real friend! Be extra nice to someone who needs it. Sometimes people just need some kindness and understanding.
I agree kindness and love really goes along way. It saved my life from suicide
It's hard to find kindness these days. I can't even go out of my room without getting bashed by criticises from my family. 😔😔
It seems that they need a female who can at least accept $225 an hour to be compassionate. Pretty sad.
If you like them so much why don't you just marry them?
@@blazedandconfused477 I don't think they're ready psychologically to marry. First thing they need is to stop playing games or watching TV. Then get a job. Only then think about marrying, even then they should know the person for at least 2 years so it won't end in divorce.
"Living your life more slowly and thoughtfully"....a solution to help the anxiety generation.
yes, balancing is key
More thoughtfully? Those with anxiety think too much already.
This generation doesn't have the same access to drugs and free open sex as the generation in the 50s and 60s did.
Too much technology separating people and too much work.
Less expectation. just have simple short plan and go do it baby step
I recently quit Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. I found the relationships to be two-second interactions and they made me feel lonely. I only stay on UA-cam because I learn something new every day. But now I get my socialization needs met by a very small group of people -- in person and for more than two-seconds. In these days of social media and Covid-19 isolation, I am surprised that we aren't all massively depressed. I feel for these Japanese who live in a culture that largely ignores their very real problems.
I go to the local shop once a week. I see my sister-in-law, eight hours a week. I’m very happy and I feel mentally healthier than I was before, I was depressed and suicidal, now I have hope.
There's always hope.
It's easier without hope facebook.com/starchenkoarthur/posts/10163269829850066
How are you? Are you feeling better?
How Hikikkomori became a thing:
Society: Be yourself!
Also society: Ehm, no, not like that
TRUE
Society: Be yourself!
--> Blue pill
Also society: Ehm, no, not like that
-->Black pill
gregor santospif basedcel
@Finn my point. If you walk down to Shibuya (I live in Japan) you're constantly bombarded with imagery of western lifestyles and the celebration of individualism. Then the young people go back home into suuuper conservative, often downright oppressive families where more often than not a young adult is supposed to make the parents proud, first and foremost. Who people are as individuals, what they want and like, doesn't really matter to anyone quite often. That plus a job market that's basically like a pool of sharks and you got a recipe for disaster. Obviously there are many other reasons for the rise of Hikiko as well but those are the basics.
Capitalism always will generate winners AND losers.
This is inevitable.
Outside of Japan we call them homeless people or housewives.
There will ALWAYS be more able body adults then there are jobs, let alone well paying jobs to be happy with. This is because demand determines the supply of jobs and because not all of the revenue a business makes goes to the workers, the buying power of the workers goes down after each cycle of money.
The ones accumulating the profits barely spend much of their income on consumer items. The rich spend their money on NEW investments to generate even MORE wealth.
With Japan's focus on robotics, this problem will only get worse.
Perhaps worker ran cooperatives could stop this, but it's too late to rely on that.
This is why North Korea has consistent population growth and birthrates above replacement, but South Korea has birthrates below replacement and world record suicide rates.
Capitalism has no room for losers and because not everyone can be a winner, capitalism will slowly eat away at the people inside it.
More like
Society: Work hard and be productive
Hikikkomori: I give up
Parents of Hikikkomori: I will keep supporting you and keep this quiet because this is shameful
Renting someone to be friends.
It sounds so weird
When they say .” I am going to visit the hikikamori.” Like its some kind of creature .
$900 a month for 4 hours work that you received no qualification for other than being a female. not bad at all! where are the people who complain about women pay gap?!
___ H How does this have anything to do with the pay gap? The pay gap refers to people doing the same job but getting paid different amounts. It doesn’t refer to men getting paid more than women in general. Thats a different issue.
@@tomasroma2333
I WONT GET POLITICAL !!!
I WONT GET POLITICAL !!!
I WONT GET POLITICAL !!!
I am getting political ... So just saying the "women" pay gap is a MYTH at least in most of the developed world, as women by LAW get paid the same for the same work , in fact in many situations women get paid more for less hours ... and simpler jobs , also men are much more likely to work past time , and also make up the extreme majority of the "dangerous" jobs .
@@tomasroma2333 you are right, it is more about equal opportunity for men and women, that the man hating feminists claim does not exist for women. I am a man, where is my equal opportunity to work 4 hours a month and get paid $900 ?!
This is kinda like peer support in mental health treatment. This is basically agoraphobia and anxiety . I had peer support when my anxiety got so bad I couldn't leave my house. This is actually a very good idea
That was pretty much my life as a teenager girl. I know how it feels so I'd like to volunteer to help those that are going through the same thing. We do have to take mental illness more seriously and we should see the hikikomori as they are, simply people trying to survive in a society that can be very cruel. It's not shameful or ugly and they deserve help and not judgment.
Did you have friends or people who you could rely on?
I'm a 6-AP class high schooler who goes to a great school with the best parents ever. My parents would probably let someone live rent-free to throw pencils at me to do homework and be productive since I literally feel like I'm (and probably am) wasting all their effort.
Severe manic depression turned into extreme social anxiety. A society over stressed with success has created a generation of terrified men.
That's terrifying
I agree. Our society is very toxic. We are treated as 'men', 'women', 'worker', 'jobless' etc. When truthfully, we are just human who have emotions and limitations
Michael: And Japanese society is also basically telling young boys that they need to behave like girls, which makes the problem worse.
capitalism's fault
earlysda can you please elaborate on this? How do you know this? What do you mean that Japanese society is telling young men to act like girls? As in to act more sensitive or feminine? I’m genuinely curious about your statement because I don’t know much about current Japanese culture, besides the small amount I’ve learned from YT. I had a friend that told me a lot of “insider” information on Korean culture and the things they won’t tell you. There’s a part of it that they don’t see as “positive” in other’s opinions, so they don’t openly disclose it.
THIS IS DEPRESSION!! 😭
Horribly obvious. Look at their faces. They need love, exercise and a lot of sunlight.
Mick Lin Japan and other developed nations have problems with admitting mental illness
Yes but its probably not just that
Not necessarily. I enjoy staying inside away from people and that makes me happier, actually.
This is depression f***s, but it's defence mechanism, a fight or flight situation, ptsd comes in all forms and it is covid 19 great great grandfather aka panic attacks the most related to death and yet very much alive. So let's have it staying alive hahahahaha staying aLĹllllllllllllliiiiiiiive
The reason Hikikomori is a thing in Japan is because parents let it happen. because they're afraid of the social stigma, they hide the kid, continue to feed him, pay for all their expenses, and so the behavior continues and takes on ridiculous proportions. it's not a "condition" or a special disease, it's depression, often caused by bullying. But whereas in other parts of the world, it would get treated earlier on, in Japan it's just left to fester.
that said, I think it's really good people are finally trying to do something about it. those rent-a-sister people are a good thing. and those halfway houses even better. I hope that the phenomenon grows to have more than just that one company doing it.
Still, they are trying to fix a problem way too far down the road. What needs to change is parents' attitudes (and Japan's attitude towards mental health) and focus on getting their children help right away. Not after they've locked themselves in a room for 10 years.
PS: the voiceovers are awful. just use subs, please.
i agree with with you alot of the social rules and stigmas in japan are old fashioned and out of date and need to go. focusing too much on family honor is useless.
I think you're naive, and ignoring a lot of the video. The parents have tried, their relatives have tried. There's obviously heavy cultural influences that can't be thrown away for sake of tough love. But they're not just going to let their kids starve and be homeless. There's risk of making it worse, risk of suicide and violence. If they ignored it, they wouldn't be hiring these sisters.
emma kai you can disagree with my opinion, but I lived in Japan 9 years and have actually had to deal with situations involving hikikomori children, and really understand the mindset of Japanese people quite well, so “naive” is not really the good adjective to use here, friend.
@@nessaidolslayer3426 What would you do if it was your child? Move to another country? How do you change society when you're struggling for a decent life?
It's very heartbreaking and concerning how millions of people, not only in Japan but in many Asian countries including my home country, forgo or not get proper medical treatments for mental disorders solely due to the social stigma attached to to it. I think the rental sisters are a good initiative, but the lack of formal training is a point of concern, imho, such as the probability of the hikomori getting co-dependent on the 'sister' .
They're doing a great service. I could see how someone would fall into their situation, and it deserves note.
I’m not surprised at all really...I can totally empathise.
These days, most people are rude, ignorant and selfish!... it’s much easier and less stressful to just avoid people all together!
Martin Ekert Agreed
@@jayanths1221 As a student of medical college psychology, i wish what you said was true. I really do. But sadly your statement is false.
@@realpolitics527 You being a student of medical psychology doesn't invalidate my point. Besides, I could claim to be the lead physicist working at NASA and there's no way you'd be able to tell if I'm lying or not.
@@jayanths1221 you implied they didn't work, you don't know that.
I don't avoid people but people are scum and probably should be avoided
@@thelord5349 How did you know people are scum if you've never even met them?
4:58 "What people misunderstand is that our society is very tough on the weak." Insightful comment - felt very genuine. Of course, we don't interact with "society," only individuals, but perception is reality. I wonder how individuals (and society) could show greater compassion on the weak.
If a person can't fit into society he's viewed as useless, and feels that way too as a result. Even old people, as they retire, their spouse dies, or children leave home, are removed from society. They key here being: feeling useful.
Perhaps a greater work could be made around finding something that feels fulfilling for these people. Even if it doesn't fit into the standards of what society views as usefull.
Omg its not about fitting into society or depression and hes not a real Hikikomori he just has daddy issues. Also its funny to think any Hikikomori would let u film them.
which is the main reason my uncles who works in the USA and has a green card would you rather retire here in the Philippines then retire in retirement home.
They end up bullying or ripping them off.
shallow wahmen, false promise of career even with a degree and other meaningless nonsense
I was not expecting the love story at the end! They're super cute together!!
It only worked because the down and out person was a girl. Guys will marry a woman who has nothing to offer. The Hikikomori guys on the other hand.....
@@citycrusher9308 ...what? Did you even watch the video?
@MishMeesh
Yes, I watched the video. The girl got married to her ''brother'' but the guys don't get married to their ''sisters''. Because the ''sisters'' don't fall for down and out men
@@citycrusher9308 The girl was the rental sister introduced earlier in the video. The guy was a Hikikomori. They met because he got help from the organization she worked for.
lol u fucked up
The reality is that he'll always need you now that you've deeply bonded with him.
Their goal is to get them back into society and learn the skills they need for themselfes
Unless the patiens refuse or the people really cant pay theyll stay as long as theyre needed and when they arent anymore theyll probably have other friends or are able to help themselfes
"Always" is a bit of an exageration. You, as a counsellor, are building the hikikomori's "social muscle". If you fail, he won't trust you. If you fail a bit later, he will trust only you, but you won't be able to convince him to trust other people. But there is no reason to assume that you can not teach him how to trust others and that he won't be able to let you go once he is standing confidently in his life.
@@blackbeard9217 There is definitely a reason. That reason is to have one person you can trust. You cannot be taught to trust others that you and the person seeming to "teach" you-do not know. You would assume these people are not only "to be trusted" but are the same in regards to trust. You cannot trust other people the same as you would trust a person you trust. You as well as the counselor do not know them. To assume you do, then "teaching" someone else to do so is setting them up for failure as well as disappointment. This is why these Hikikomori will always need their person whose helping them, for their trust, friendship, presence and communion.
If you write Hikikomori in Chinese the word would be "繭居族", which means "person who living in a cocoon".
That...
Makes sense sort of
I always say I wanna live in a bubble. That hits hard
@yoi GGG you should read "Die Verwandlung" by Kafka.
Read your comment as person living in coconut lmao
When the four corners of this cocoon collide
You’ll slip through the cracks hoping that you’ll survive
i dont know why western medias repeatedly report about hikikomori things, it happens all over the world, not only in Japan.
I think it's the fact that they've named the problem, in the west we have no name for such a specific reclusion...
@@blowitoutyourcunt7675 incel or hermit
I know they only use the Japanese hikikomori Name Not the English one Of Neet
@@Sp1n1985 incel is a bit too harsh the more equivalent is Neet
They gave it a name, plus it's an excuse for journalists to get a free trip to Japan
Sigh.
Imagine being a friend who helps someone build themselves and be happy and be paid!!!!
THAT IS MY DREAM JOB!
imagine being nice and supportive
Would be nicer to offer assistance for free, not every family can afford to pay
@@momojojo1933 agree but it will take alot of their time so maybe just make it cheaper
I mean it’s better if it was from a friend and free at least knowing that someone cares about u ps I know therapist exists
People what I meant is for someone who is a great supportive empathetic friend, who of course does this shit for free, this would be a dream job. With all people I have built I could be a billionaire rn.
Why are people always looking at things at a negative light. JFC.
If you are hikikomori reading this, I just want to cheer you on. Living in society is extremely difficult. But you can get through this❤
Japan: rent a sister.
Alabama: it's free real estate...
Really? Free real estate?
@@nuri2318 yes, uncultured swine
*S W E E T H O M E A L A B A M A*
@@no-cx5ro no
Also Alabama: but it's ALSO a free wife if you rent a sister. Jk.
Good stuff.
I'm kind of in the same situation, only I'm disabled. Not crippled or anything like that. Just been self isolated for so long. I do get out of the house, and am able to drive, I just don't have anywhere to go.
Imma try to change for the better in 2019. Not just for myself, but for my family.
Wishing you all the best 😎😊
Sorry 🙏🏾
Good luck with it.
I understand you
Force yourself outside once a day. Even if it's for a small walk around. I'm also disabled and for a long time bedridden. I know how it's easy to just give up or hide. Even though you are disabled you can still build a good life for yourself. Don't give up and love yourself to make small goals that are easy to meet. You deserve to be happy. 🤗❤️
These Rental sisters should given honourary degrees in psychology, and publish their memors into science papers as one of the strategies for the Japanese social policymakers to deal with the aggregate stressors that are allosterically causing Hikikimoris break downs.
They should also concider therapy like the professional "Cuddlers' that operate here.
You think the social policymakers care? Some comments here are so naiive lmao
Bro there just random people trying to make a buck. It's like saying give someone the title of a doctor because they know how to apply first-aid.
The comments show why the effort so often isn't worth it. From this problem to the low birth rate issue, it's just nature readjusting to faze out what isn't working for the planet overall, men.
It's quite easy to find out what's bothering them and it's most often the shitload of pressure to fit into a society that demands perfectionist productivity, strict socal rules to follow by and encourages to be dishonest but polite to each other.
- It's not only men
- It's not only young
- It's not only a few "hundred thousand"
- It's not only "a condition"
This is the result of a highly authoritarian society with strict social roles for everybody that overexploits people and doesn't take mental illnesses seriously.
I agree, and: Society don't "take mental illnesses seriously", simply because society IS the cause of this disharmony too!
Fuck capitalism
We need communism😾
Yes
@@practice-righteousness it’s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly SICK society
I don't blame them, japanese mentality is a little...stressfull. The pressure to have straight As at school, a high paying job, most jobs wanting you to work long hours and shame you if you leave at your time. (because it makes you inconsiderate of your cooworkers to leave if they are going to stay apparently) Expecting you to marry and have children but also don't help much to develop time to date or try to interact with the opposite gender, stress and poor social skills don't help baby making.
It's not only Japan... India, China are the same. Probably Korea.
@@akashdeb5201 korea just might be worse than japan, they arrive at school at 5:00 AM and get our of school at night time.
My brother is like this and he is American
True. I just found out that South Korea is actually worse than Japan in terms of depressed people and rate of suicide. I think on the Global Suicide Rate, Japan is around the mid-30th mark near Belgium and France... while Korea is at the Top 4th place. Yikes. I wonder why people still say Japan is the country of suicides when it is literally false.
@awen hyun it depends on your job. I think it's the same in any country. My job now is from 8:30am to 4:00pm and I don't need to do overtime at all. They give me holidays off and an additional 28 days of vacation leaves every year.
Incidentally the amount of female hikikomori are about the same as men. But it's viewed as positive in Japan for women to want to stay home, and not really a problem....
Because of their dated views.. I really wish Japan would just ... Update their views, morals, etc. Especially on mental illness and sexual harassment.
I know it's easier said than done, but Japan's society is a bit dated in certain areas.
Fuck this shit
I thought females hikikomori are much less. According with other Sources.
@@SessmaruKusanagiGaming
Why do all societies have to be the exact same in every area? It's as if there is this expectation that people are being taught about how every society should be.
@Bronze Cop
I agree and I'm in the west. Society needs house wives but so often women reject being one.
No wonder our birth rates have plummeted. And many people just don't want children anymore either. We are in an artificial society now which has less natural factors while other social service jobs are filling the gap. In Japan they have paid fake sisters, paid fake girlfriends, robots for old people....that seems to be a society that has some social dysfunction.
These type dudes are all over the world, especially in North America and in Europe, especially the UK. Their souls were shattered by bullying when they were growing up.
Lol! No, they are just spoilt and lazy.
@@justme4014 fuck off Trumptard
@@justme4014 f**k off Trumptard
@@aeris2001Lol! Trump Derangement Syndrome much? Trump Derangement Syndrome = Bringing Trump into every situation, even things he's got nothing to do with. ...hehe
@@justme4014 act like a Trumptard, you get called a Trumptard, Trumptard, lol
I had a rough childhood, and when I switched households (parents separated, never married) I ended up in a program where a social worker would take me out on day trips a couple times month. If I didn't have that experience, I think I would be a lot worse off in terms of social development. Just a little bit of positive human interaction can be life changing for some people. There's "invisible" people all around. Listen, and uplift.
Love what you said, and thank you for sharing your story. These "invisible" kind people are out there, those who empathize, are willing to listen, and are thoughtful, and hearing their perspectives can be life changing.
I would like to comment here...in my small mountain town there is a young men's mentorship program run by some 30ish men. They take younger teenage men on hikes and overnight backpacking trips. They gather around campfire and listen and mentor through yoga and meditation. I believe they are doing amazing work for the younger men who are lost and looking for guidance. In today's fast moving society, a slow, understanding, mentoring approach works well for some to be able to learn how to navigate modern life on different terms.
Toddlers in Japan compete to get into the best kindergartens. And then primary-schoolers compete to get into the best intermediate schools, and this goes on to college. Some kids don't want to compete with others. A lot of people in Japan come to realize that cost of _trying_ in such a toxic environment isn't worth the benefit of having done so, and carries with it too much hazardous risk. If the culture is determined to hurt you just for existing, why try to engage it?
Hence we have _futōkō_ or school-avoidant children who don't want to engage if doing so risks being bullied, hurt or shamed. We also have _hikikomori,_ or socially-avoidant adolescents and adults. We also have _sōshoku danshi,_ men who are disinterested in engaging with women if doing so means adhering to the highly competitive traditional Japanese custom, again it's just not worth it, and the society has long since decided these people should be disregarded in order to preserve a cruel culture.
_Hikikomori_ does not correlate with known mental disorders only because those who've studied it have not bothered to look. In fact, a cross examination across many cases have demonstrated indications of PTSD or autism spectrum or major depression, often they _fulfilled criteria for multiple psychiatric conditions._ Only one in five were _primary hikikomori,_ that is, isolated from society without any indications of other mental disorders. The thing is, these are all based on tiny samplings of less than one-hundred cases. No-one's gathered data across thousands, and it's hindered since families feel compelled to hide _Hikikomori_ to avoid familial shame.
So this is a societal problem, one of several phenomena that emerge from a culture that favors competition over cooperation, elitism over inclusion and preservation of institutionalized tradition over regard for the individual.
"Toddlers in Japan compete to get into the best kindergartens" Whaaaah??
As additional factor: I would say the way these kids were raised has a lot to do with it. I can see the effect every day in my private life. ...Lots of Japanese men are spoiled by their mothers and have poor relationships with their fathers.
Lots of people who did terrible at school do well in life.
"PTSD or autism spectrum or major depression"
I have all 3 along with loss, exhaustion, and grief. and I successfully became a HAPPY recluse (even if for only a few months) until several outside ppl forced me to go out and get involved with society again
Thanks for this informative comment 👍
I heard it starts even earlier. The best sperm competes to impregnate the egg in the uterus.
Kenta has a good voice for voice acting.
Someone should tell him that, since he was made fun of for his voice, I think that would contribute to turning around his perception of himself
Ikr, he seemed like a pretty cool guy, I'd hang out with him :)
I prefer subtitle rather than a dub..
Me too
Yeah, they overlap the original record with the dub resulting this weird sounding testimonies.
Same
LOL I thought this was a joke about weebs then I realized you were being serious 😂
This aint an anime u weeb
Dogs would also be great therapy for them. They have such a great way to lift your spirits and get you outside and enjoy nature.
Not everyone likes dogs. Some people find them extraordinarily annoying. Bringing them one would do the opposite of lifting their spirits and just add stress by leaving them annoyed. Because of social pressure, they’d have to pretend to be polite and nice with the animal since that is what is expected. The person bringing the dog as a ‘benefit’ will almost never have any idea that all they did was frustrate the person more.
It’s probably better to ask the person ahead of time if a dog or other annoying creature is something they’d actually want on a particular visit.
@@AnOnlinePerson I didn't take it that an animal would be sprung on them without agreement.
A dog that needs walking is ideal. But a visit from a kitten might be wondrous. ...Okay, or ferret, snake, mouse, rat, bird, ant farm..... Anyway, a kitten is a crazy thing, that seems to magically hover on all surfaces at once, including the ceiling. It would lift my spirits, and tire me out at the same time.
....I think I just proved your point. 😖 Ha! Oh well, best wishes! 😊
I kind of agree with both of you. On some standards I could be called a hikikomori. I’m on disability payment due to mental illness and spend a lot of time alone. People exhaust me and I find it easier to be with animals. I don’t have energy to own a dog, but I work as dog walker and sitter. I only do this few times a week now. Used to do it every day, but I got burned out. It can definitely be too much when you are in a fragile condition and barely know how to take care of yourself. But it also lifts my spirits to be out in the nature with an animal that doesn’t judge me and loves me unconditionally.
And cats, apartments in Japan are exceptionally small.
What rational person wouldn't choose to stay in a warm, quiet, comfortable room instead of going to a Japanese workplace where you get your ass kicked by your seniors, and deal with unreasonably low pay and long hours? Is this really a difficult analysis here?
This issue isn't only in Japan. You could say that I am a recovering female hikikomori. I study part time at a quiet university where there is more support for students. Each week, I see a psychologist & work one whole day. The rest of my free time is spent in my room. Honestly, being around people makes me feel suicidal. From 6 -10 years of age, I was bullied & isolated by my classmates. The isolation happened again from 13 to 15 years of age. The environment that I was raised in was unstable too. My parents also had very high expectations for me. I learned from a young age that it is better to be alone than to be disappointed or heartbroken. I don't want anyones pity but i want people to understand that there are reasons why people turn out this way.
So what do you think it is about people that makes you feel suicidal?
The good thing is that not everyone is a bully at least.
lol @ female hikikomori. It's like saying femcel or whatever - such thing does not exist.
@trollNamed;23
What the fuck are you talking about. Also is this a troll sock puppet account? Nice name idiot.
I have so much sympathy for you. Much love sent your way.
@@Fanaz10 what's you're deal bro? Why is it impossible for you to think that females may have depression and anxiety?
It seems like no matter what the video is about, or how the topic is treated, the comments section is full of people who ignore the topic and just gleefully take the opportunity to bash the BBC. This one is no different. Don't think, just knee-jerk react.
We will stop once our people are free from BBC tyranny
@@thelord5349 Who are you representing with the word 'we', and what 'tyranny' are you referring to?
@@Pining_for_the_fjords I'm representing my people and standing against the BBC tyranny of locking up our citizens and seperating children from their mothers over a licence fee none of us want or should have to pay.
90+people went to jail last year over licence fees and 1/10 court cases were for licence fee which costs us a ton.
1 person in jail for not paying for propaganda is unacceptable
The Lord Do you have some up to date data from a reputable source, e.g. Reuters?
@@BlueCrashFigurineHoldingWumpa just Google it and stop being lazy
Those two women are providing a truly humane service. Hope more of those women can help.
It's a non threatening friendship. Someone selfless. We all need this
It's not selfless if the price is nine thousand dollars a month tho... Seriously, I've never seen any professional therapist charge 2.250 dollars a session.
@@giovanab.3347 the report clearly states that it is about 900 USD a month, not 9000
Great stuff but the iPhone borders in some shots are just horrid.
FR LMAOO
seriously, what the person who decided that was a good idea was smoking?!
@@zbridgjpxupzm meth duh why else would anyone use apple garbage... no one does it sober
unguidedone apple may not be the best company but the OS is far superior to that of any Android device
Hahaha I read this comment and when I looked up I saw it
This is exactly how my nephew was, until I gave him a job with my company, got him out of the house at least 9 hours a day .
Working and being around other people has completely changed him...the solution was easier for my nephew than a lot of unfortunate people I see here.
Bless you, you are very kind-hearted. Unlike judgmental society, they will pass easy condenscending judgement.
Doesn't always work that way for others
You had the privilege of supplying him with anew start but many people cannot afford that opportunity and its a shame. These people just fall off and the solution is right there, just out of reach. Its cruel.
I would love to be able to work for my uncle or another family member.
Very kind of you.
Ok but if the reason of Isolation is Social Anxiety then its hard to get someone out.
What these men really need is love and support from family and friends and also a therapist.
She married him. That was a twist! I'm happy for them!
It should be called rent a wife.
@@mysteries6894 No. They've just happened to found love and camaraderie after meeting first in the New Start facility. He wasn't her client at all.
Nah he got a free rental sister deal.
@me what? No link. Watch the whole video then you'll get it.
Bully can seriously damage your mental health
Chances are, you already have a fragile mind in the first place. That's why bullies seek you out. They are attracted to betas.
@@burtonl7239 I have seen fragile mental minds dont being targeted and strong ones being targeted by bullies.... there is always a bigger fish.... specially if the big fish has friends, doesnt matter how strong mentally you are, you are not going to have a nice time.... and this is kids or teenagers we are talking about....
@@sergio446 Not every fragile mind comes into contact with bullies. There aren't that many bullies around. And strong people who get bullied are often because they are trying to break into an existing ecosystem or rise in a hierarchy and the dominant people are trying to put them in their place or defend their position. There is nothing wrong with that. Strong minds internalize the experience and learn from it.
Kids and teenagers are exactly what I'm talking about. Often, bullies are insecure in their own way. They don't go out of their way to seek bigger fish. They seek out weaklings. They target people who are often alone and shows characteristics of being timid and submissive. Often, these kids already have fragile minds or disturbed mental health in the first place, like being anti-social or plagued by phobias.
@DiverFictionB salman Actually, I counsel teens and kids for a living. Often I find that the victim's mentality is the cause of his bullying, rather than the bullying being the cause of his mentality.
@@burtonl7239 so you blame the victim
Im a 25 year old woman and I'm afraid to go outside by myself. I live in a studio apartment. Even taking out the trash makes my heart race. Luckily I work from home. I met my boyfriend from an online dating app and if it wasnt for him I might be like these men in this documentary
That must be very hard for you I suppose. There was a time in my life too when I stayed in my room only. And took no care of myself. I remember I did not wash my hair for a whole month. And that was not a good situation to be in. I did not have it as bad as you. But I hope that things get better for you.
3 out of 4 suicides are men. It's much worse for men because society looks down on it.
I feel you
a man would never be able to do what you did. undestand that i am happy that your situation is better, but a woman would never help a man the way a man helped you.
@@DaglessMc Well said. Men are completely on their own when it comes to mental health. That’s one reason why suicide intent is much greater and successful in men.
i like the idea of newstart dormitory, establishing yourself in community and socialising, while also working for its maintenance or improvement seems very interesting, if only there was a similar system for the homeless
So a rental sister is like a female counselor who comes to you instead of going to their office?
Here in the states, we just shame men who won't splurge on a quarter of million dollar shanty.
kind of. I believe the gouvernment should support them with better mental counselor education tho!
except they don't have any training or qualifications and are just there to befriend and help, so no, not like a counselor
sometimes you don't need a counsellor or a doctor, sometimes you just need a friend (obviously not in all cases though before someone says some dumb shit)
More accurately it would be a call girl you don't get to fuck.
The ending is so sweet. i bet the rental sister is a lowkey hikikomori herself. she relates and understands fully what a shut-in individual felt like. what a silver lining conclusion to this video.
BBC DO SUBTITLES NOT DUB PLEASE
this video isn't aimed at weebs
Angel Carvalho lol, no it’s not it’s aimed at illiterate people :)
Go back to your sword art online you weeb
The dub is horrible, if dubbing, why not use someone who speaks english natively? Ive never understood the need to dub over sub, especially with such a strong accent. If it is because of the ethnicity, just let us hear the language from the interviewed individuals, slap a sub there. The horrible dub doesnt make it any better, i find it quite offensive too. So yes, subtitles over dub any time.
Fredrik Nygren it’s aimed at people who (like me) listen to it while doing housework. I don’t always have the time to sit down and read subtitles when I could be working.
wow, i have to say i can relate to these men so much. Every day, i am having to completely go against my nature just by functioning "normally". I despise having to go to work, i despise having to even leave the house sometimes, but i do it. I harbour resentments against people who are so effortlessly outgoing and don't even think about such things.
do you still harbour resentments?
I'm a deep introvert. I, too, force myself out of the house. I'm thankful I mostly work from home now. But I do always feel better when I travel. I'm not sure if it's because it's a different environment, and it forces me to get out and see/experience new things, but it's been really good for me, and help lift my depression. I don't know if that would help you (or anyone else) but thought I'd mention it here. All the best to you.
3 years ago I went through a phase when I shut myself out of the society, because I was suicidal.
One year later when I tried to go outside even just to buy a soda, I got serious panic attacks. I was so afraid of being judged that I frose in fear whenever I saw another person. I seriously could not move if I saw anybody. Now things are going good though!
How did you get better? Just with time?
@@1415-m1l social anxiety (for me at least) get more easy by exposure to bad situations.
In other words I just practiced on going outside. However I believe that taking too big steps too soon is bad. I started by walking around outside the house, seeing neighbours, and slowly got the confidence to go to a grocery store.
Practice and knowing your limits. Only slightly push yourself over them.
i am so proud of that man at the end! built a life
These women are doing such amazing work! Well done with such a difficult task. Mental health is extremely taboo in Japan and is never openly addressed. Great job.
My dream is to become financially stable enough to be a hikikomori for the rest of my life.
Fuck yeah
Me is opposite, I want to travel and live many experiences as I can with my family and friends (I even want to have money to invite them to travel to other countries) wish I had.
its too bad you weren't born rich....then you could have an effortless life. you could hire mental health counseling too! and someone would cook your meals and clean your house like a useless rich person.
It will be so good
@@alessandrosavoncelli I think we all wish we could be rich, overpriveledged rich people.
"future wife... Ayako, the rental sister."
me: whaaaaaat!
Sweet home Alabama
O-onii-chan my kokoro isn-
I'll leave
One of the few situations where "she's not my blood-related sister!" is a valid excuse.
Nani!!!
Anthony Suarez exactly thats what I’m saying
CAn u imagine slowly getting over it and try to become functionaol again and realising u cant get back the time u lost. Try to get THIS FEELING of REGRET. Imagine wake up and realise u lost like a year or a decade of your life for no reason while u were young n healthy, this is the worst part for me.
Wishing you lots of luck in your recovery process and in your life!
PS, I don't believe you will waste that time if it has made you more compassionate to others going through difficult periods of life, and gives you a different perspective than most others. Your life is yours for a reson xo
@@bodyofhope thank u
All you can do is go forward. Five more years from now, you can look back and think, “Wow, look at what I accomplished,” or “Wow, what I could have accomplished by now...”
I think you're missing the point when you say "lost". Lost time pursuing what? They probably wouldn't have resigned from society or become passive if there was something worth pursuing from their perspective. Which suggests that society should also do some collective introspection.
Who knew hikikomoris are saving everyone lives right now?
In what universe is this even remotely true?
XD
Electrickoolaid A In Isekais.
@@aplaguedoctor406 Ours unfortunately.
Hes talking about the pandemic dude.
@@aplaguedoctor406 In a universe where a Covid19 Pandemic exists; the one we're in right now
I think a big problem is how we don't admit that video games are addictive. Replace the gaming aspect of their life with alcohol or other drug abuse, and you'll get a pretty standard pattern of male depression and anxiety. The fact that you don't die from video games both helps (if you get out, you can get a healthy life back) and hinders progress (you won't easily hit ground zero and get motivated to change).
I was a recluse for about 4 years out of high school. My family was not the kind where we talked about our feelings, or really who talked at all. I don't think I knew how to deal with my emotions, and the computer helped me ignore them and have a little dopamine. I had a friend who was supportive like these sisters. I don't think I would be the person I am today without her. (Just finished my bachelor's degree & have been financially independent for 8 years.) I still sometimes worry I might relapse, so I limit my web time. This is a great service, wish I could be hired to help out!
Happy for you 💌
rental sister sounds better then a therapist! therapists are financially, time limit driven, they talk to you like your a patient rather then a normal person and are mostly unrelatable sometimes not even nice or polite.
Nicole Wyatt shout out to these sisters they seem so generous and understanding!!
sometimes you cant be nice to recover people.
nonexistentrose yeah, I have a therapist right now, and she's helping me through a really rough patch in my life. But before her I had some guy who would take calls during my session and debate with me about Trump. It took me a few sessions to relize that the people in the waiting rooms were never the same. He was my first theropist, so I could see how a situation like this could taint someone's view of theropists.
shrinks and psychology in general are complete cancer and a waste of time and money.
@@hockeymasktime1918 Wow rude
She's saying hikikomori are often sensitive people. This makes a lot of sense to me
Seeing their relationship gives me so much hope. I needed this
2020: the year where everyone's a hikikomori.
I went for a walk today. Felt so weird. Sunshine almost blinded me. jk. but almost not really
Wish It was for everyone, so society would have to do something about it. But no, only some "priveleged" people are able to stay at home.
@༒ ʙŁΔcʞXʀαʙBιτ how u do that?
Only if you have a lot of money to stay at home and get everything you need without working, most people just live normally despite the virus, only if you're a crazy paranoid hypochondriac you'd be like that.
Basically social anxiety. With people around me being excessively competitive and constantly making financial status comparisons, I just don't want to leave the privacy and comfort of my home to meet these people.
same here
Yeah, and for men, the pressure is overwhelming to define themselves by their financial success.
Tristan Teo totally understand
One of the first questions people ask when meeting someone new is...what is your job... This immediately sets the wheels going as far as categorizing people. I was an entry level office worker... So people assumed I am a loser..but I had a rental property and $150,000 in the bank, I also worked 20 hours on the weekend. I did not consider myself a loser. Anyone who doesn't try to better themselves or hold their own I feel sorry for. I also got a 97percent on my medical billing course.
It's not anxiety - people who immediately start competing with you as soon as they meet you are uncomfortable and awkward to be around. It's an insecurity/anxiety issue on their part, most people are like that and therefore if you are in the minority who aren't you tend to avoid them
Ok I'm 80% sure that the reason Kenta was bullied in school wasn't because of his high voice. I'm pretty sure the other boys in the class were just jealous because he got a lot of attention from the girls in the class. Honestly if I was in his class I would want to be friends with him too, he's a cutie. But that kind of stuff happens everywhere not just Japan. I'm sure everyone could remember a boy from school that got along with a lot of girls and the other boys would bully him or call him gay and stupid stuff like that. It's just pure jealousy.
Your not entirely wrong, i usually get along with girls better than boys and i was bullied for it among other things, even today boys would tease me for it, just last week i was on an MUN Trip and i spent a lot of time with girls than boys, and i was teased for it especially by the macho boys. Boys can be also a jealous lot too
Maybe it's because they thought you were gay.
Happened to my friend too! We girls got along with him because he already had a girlfriend and wasn't after any of us, and the platonic attention was amazing compared to most boy's predatory attention. The other boys were extremely jealous that he not only had a girlfriend, but every other girl's attention too and bullied him!
Fortunately he was a good student and got to go abroad for his studies, away from the mess.
@@nohomo4774 good guess but actually no
how would you know?
That is very sweet ❤
To be a rental sister
Hikikomori need support
3:18 Wtf, being friends with all the girls basically means you’re a king
Yeah, Ikr?
it can be either he is popular or a little bit feminim. Im guessing he's the latter because he got bullied.
The other boys got jealous. That's why they bullied him.
that issue is littered in homophobia and perhaps jealousy
Yep king of the gays
It's called depression and agoraphobia. We have it in USA too
OK, firstly, this entire video is about the scale of the problem rather than it being some weird foreign quirk. It's a huge issue in Japan (kinda weird considering Japan is all about politeness and respect, but eh). That's why they have a dedicated word for it, when the closest we have is "withdrawal" which is kind of vague. We have it in the West, yes (they even mentioned that in the video), but it's much less common and you rarely hear about actual "hikikomori" behaviour. People will shut themselves in, but not for years at a time.
It's also more than agoraphobia and depression; it's a fear of interaction period. Agoraphobics aren't necessarily terrified of other people and depressives are generally more apathetic than miserable/fearful. I'd liken it more to extreme social anxiety than depression.
Japanese know what depression and agoraphobia are, yet they believe the hikikomori problem is distinct enough to warrant its own term.
"Let me make this about myself."
We get it, it's everywhere.
Geez.
Japan just has it worse. Their culture just doesn’t mesh well with the modern world.
david burrus
So the mentally ill aren’t real people? They are people, just as you and me are.
It's called being a hermit. We have people like this in the US as well. My grandfather and aunt were hermits. My aunt would stay in her house and sing to herself/play video games. This was in the early 90s, she still does this over 27 years later. Lots of people isolate themselves, for a multitude of reasons.
lime light yeah, I think hikikomori is a subset of being a hermit. It's like calling a square a rectangle.
I wouldn't equate the two, Hermit can be for religious reasons or someone who likes to be alone while Hikikomoris are not doing it because they want to.
tim luo it is coz they want to..their choice
Gang stalkers
@@elephantsong7782 what is choice? do people choose to have depression? choose to get bullied? choose to have a high pitched voice?
just because no one is literally locking them in their rooms doesn't entirely mean they choose to be locked in.
omg the unexpected love story at the end melted my heart ❤
As a long term resident of Japan (since 2001), I wrote about this phenomenon in my 2009 book about Japan. This could only be an issue in japan. But as Japan began exporting its geek culture in the "cool japan" campaign it launched in 2002, we are beginning to see this internationally. In a nutshell, Japan is a pressure cooker society at every level, from infanthood to death. And some people simply can't cope. What's more social ineptitude in a virtue in Japanese society. Social skills which people take for granted in the west, are simply lacking in Japan. Another factor is the gross leniency of parents here. As a jamaican, I can't even fathom, not even remotely, telling my mother that I didn't want to leave my room. I rescued one of those hikkikomoris back in 2004, he was the brother of one my then girlfriends. Hadn't left his room since elementary school and he was 18 when i met him. So he was there for about 7 years. He was curios about this kokujin, so i got him to go to karaoke with me and sing songs from his favorite band, Spitz. Then i got him to start going to the gym with me at the Kobe YMCA. He then started studying for his university exams and actually got in. His parents tell me they are permanently indebted to me. And check the irony: His sister told me, he would advise her to stop dating the foreigner, because I was dangerous. But this dangerous gaijin saved his life. If you guys are interested, my book is titled, 'Black Passenger Yellow Cabs: A Memoir of Exile and Excess in Japan. Let me know what you think.
It sounds really interesting. I'll check it out. 🐱
@@KabobHope thank you
@@quistisobel8832 not trying to promote my book, its ten years old. promotion was a decade ago.
speaking of infantile and purile, thats japanese society too. keep in mind, I dont view japan from a far through textbooks. I live here. This has been my home for the last 18 years. I've spent more time in Japan than I've spent in my native Jamaica.
@@quistisobel8832 Get a life. You are the typical keyboard warrior, that sits at home, telling everyone how to live their life, while adding nothing of value to society. I see no issues in @blackpassenger's comment. While you sit a home, doing nothing, he helped a teenager. Why not give his book a try? It might teach you something valuable.
What is the point of using those iPhone template??
I found them disturbing but it might be seen as a way to catch attention among the current audience.
It’s most likely the camera used to film the excerpts used on the templates had different quality than the rest of the video’s camera quality. So a stylistic decision was made to maintain the video quality. It looks like the smaller videos were on a selfie stick honestly, so were shot with an actual smart phone or go-pro or something similar.
Because ...product placement?
@@Zootycoonman223 indeed those parts were filmed with her phonecamera, to maintain video quality throughout the video..
Why, if the creator liked it would that be wrong?
What do they call older people that feel this way. I'm 55 and and in the past 2 years stopped interacting with people and barely leave the house. I been forgotten.
I'm sorry about that. Maybe try connecting with people who have similar interests as you? Do you work?
It doesnt matter how old you are. You are human and I'm sure you have great qualities that make you an asset to the world, and the world is lesser without you taking your place in it. That goes for everyone reading this as well. I wish you the best, James.
It's called Mid Life Crisis..
Sign up to do some volunteering- gardening, charity shop, food bank, anything. You will meet new people and feel good
Maybe adopt a kid if you're financially stable. Many children need help. If you do get a kid, get the sweetest, smartest one you can find.
I don't pretend and trying to understand them at their level, she is a gem and certification for a friend is not needed. She does her job well and know what and how to do it.