“We are not broken!” | Being Aromantic (while not asexual)
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- Fellow aros and curious parties! Welcome back to Being Aromantic (while not aseuxal). I didn’t realize there would be such a response to these videos but I’m so moved at the responses I’ve gotten from posting them so I’m trying to do more to speak specifically to folks comments. By far, this idea of “being broken” is what comes up the most and I 10000% have felt the same and know where yall are at but trust me, we aren’t broken! Just different! Peep the video and let me know what you think!
Thanks so much for watching, please subscribe if you’re interested in more content like this and definitely follow me on IG as it’s where I’m most active!
IG/SC: @Nikhampshire
I'm just realizing I'm aromantic and these videos are a BLESSING. Feeling not alone is so important for us (:
Paloma Perez so happy you found my videos helpful! I LOVE the comments these videos get because people just get so emotional over being connected and not along and not broken. Even just through text you can feel the emotional potency of everyone’s messages!
Thanks so much for watching and commenting! I have some more videos coming soon so def subscribe if you haven’t yet! And follow em on IG as I’m most active over there! Thanks again for the kind words! ❤️
I'm a bi nonbinary aro and I relate so hard to everything you're saying. I get crushes, or fleeting fixations, but the desire to be with them is never sustained. I start feeling claustrophobic and it fizzles out pretty quickly. My longest relationship was around six months, and it only lasted that long because it was long-distance! It's been a relief discovering aromanticism. It was frustrating going through the motions of dating, then being single and wondering why I wasn't eager to be in relationships like everyone else, followed by unsuccessfully trying to explain myself to other people by adopting other terms I thought might fit, and trying to figure it all out alone. It was exhausting for years wondering what was wrong with me and trying to explain myself even after I opted out of dating altogether. It was such a relief to find out about aromanticism. It's been hurtful being accused of being heartless and someone who just wants sex, but like you I've mostly seen the positive in being aro since the moment I learned about it. There's a lot of toxicity in romanticism that gets swept under the rug. To each their own, but it's not for me. I think a lot more people would consider themselves aro if they knew it existed, and a lot of people throughout history who never married and lived alone could probably be considered aro today. Please keep making more videos! They're so affirming.
sosilent thanks so much for watching and sharing! I definitely know how you feel and agree I think there are tooons of aros out there that don’t know it’s an option so they just don’t know they are. I definitely have some more ideas for more videos so subscribe if you haven’t yet to get alerted when they go up! Check me out on IG too as I’m most active there! @nikhampshire! Thanks again for the kind words! ❤️
I was on a date a few days ago. And to be honest I had fun. We had a good talk, the food was nice and we laughed a lot. But when the guy started talking about love and commitment and that he wanted to meet up with me again to do some romantic shit, I felt like he was dragging me under the surface...
this was not the first time I felt that way and of course I think or I thought I was broken. Because obviously something is lacking inside of me. I never experienced any kind of romantic love not even a real crush. So it made me think. „Maybe I am Aromantic?“ Your videos helped me realize that I’m not broken, but just different. And it’s fine. I think I’m starting to accept it and it’s easier than I thought it would be.
Heck ya! Just a little different. And I know it can seem like a lot for some people (check out my video on acceptance) I feel like once you spend a little time with it out in the open its so freeing to just be honest with yourself and how you feel and not feel back about it. I actually love going on dates as long as its just for fun. Like I dont want to fall in love with anyone, I dont want any expectations to come from the date, I dont want it to mean more than what it is to me, just a fun time between to people in that moment, thats all. Sometimes even doing the “romantic” stuff can be fun cuz its like I’m playing a role. Participating in something that I dont normally get to just for the fun of it, but when people do that stuff with real emotion behind it or expect me to do it with that same emotion is when there’s a problem for me. I just made another video called “DATING”! Check it out!
Anyways, thanks so much for watching and sharing your experience! Definitely follow the channel if you’re not yet cuz I got more content on the way!
Hi, hello...fellow Aro here. I find it fascinating how non-Aromantic people feel that Aros are simply jaded or haven't met the "right one" yet; and the VAST majority of my life I've felt like everyone else was pretending. I could never quite comprehend how when people's relationships got really ugly (for whatever reasons), they couldn't just stop pretending and opt out. Little did I know I was the odd man out and it wasn't that they COULDN'T opt out, it's that they wouldn't. Mind. Blown. Cheers to intellectualizing the idea of love, but never feeling it. 🥂
Growing up, whilst ofter girls had there crushes on boys, I was just not caring and people would call me "a freak." To not have a crush feeling, I never understood it. I didnt start to feel anything like "crushing" until I was 14 but at the same time I didn't like it. I didtn feel anything like that before. I use to say "am I incapable of love?" For many years. Then I fell in love and I after that it changed me. But years went by and relationship after relationship, and after awhile I'd lose interest in them. But I never understood how to tell them because it felt like I was going to hurt them more by saying that. I dont think they would of understood. That's why I tried to avoided dating for awhile. I'd have these really intense emotions towards a person but after a while they disappear. I thought something was wrong with me but I could never find the right words. I knew that I could feel romantic attraction but really, really rarely. I mean whilst this was going on I was still fighting with myself about liking people in general. Girls, boys, NB, etc. I though because I felt love before that I was "cured." I know it sounds so stupid but I really did. I thought I was "fixed." For a long time, I couldn't accept the fact that I couldn't love a person like they could love me. It felt weird when a person said they loved me cause I knew I couldn't do that.It's taken me a long, long time for me to accept it but I'm greyromantic. And I'm proud. I don't wanna change. Not even if I could. I'm with someone who accepts me. And, finally, who understands me. I've come a long way but I have even farther to go. I hope other who feel like this can find something that makes them happier about knowing that there not alone.
fearless_OP _Player wow! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s still so crazy how we all feel so alone dealing with this yet now that we know and can talk to each other we can hear our own stories shared by others. I’m glad you’re doing better and found a partner that understands you! thank you for watching and sharing ❤️
@@nikhampshire thank you for taking the time to read my story. I really appreciate it. :)
The burst of emotion I’d say comes from a sort of honeymoon period, where imagination is most potent. Consider it the spring session of the ecosystem, while it can’t be for the same reason every time, you can still mutually enjoy things. I’d prefer an old love like Carl and Ellie from Pixar’s Up any day.
In the end, I’m not anti social, just anti climatic - which is perfectly bearable.
I'm bisexual and aromantic. I can relate to everything that you're saying. Please, keep doing these videos!! Thank you!! 👍👏👏💚💚
luiza got more on the horizon so subscribe here and follow on IG if you’re on there! Thanks so much for watching! ❤️
Omg saaame. I just came out as aromantic but I'm kind of in denial sometimes because until this point I thought that maybe I'm just scared of having a relationship, maybe there is something wrong with me, but now that I'm finding people like me, it gives me power to accept myself.
Same!! Like the video's title, I thought I was broken, because I was the one actively looking for romantic relationships, I was trying so desperately to *feel* romantic attraction, and even though I dated wonderful men and women, I just couldn't fall in love, I appreciated them and loved them in a friendly way, but not a romantic one, and I felt so bad about myself, especially because I heard a psychologist briefly mentioning that aromantic people doesn't exist and they are just afraid of commitment. That really hurt me and just made me hurt more people trying to feel romantic attraction
Nik, you are so rad. I really appreciate your positivity. I think it's so easy to fall into the trap of only thinking/talking about "aromantic means we DON'T do this and we DON'T feel this and we DON'T have this" because our society focuses so much on romantic love/relationships. But in my daily life, as an aromantic person, I'm not spending all my time thinking about that shit I don't have and pining for it--that's not what it's about, you're absolutely right. I am spending my time the way I want with the people I want to be around, and I'm happy, and it's okay to not have or want what most of the people I know have and want. The glass is half full, and I think it's important to talk about that. So, thank you again for posting this video. The term "aromantic" may be coined as the absence of something, but that doesn't mean we're left with nothing.
Johnathan Arrowsmith I appreciate the support and love homie! Too often these comments are full of troubled folks that are confused and hurting and while I remember dealing with that, I’ve honestly thought of being aro as more of a positive than a negative. Granted I’m a fairly positive person in general but I’m also pragmatic and being aro just seems like such a benefit in so many regards haha. Being able to fall in love sounds like such a gamble in a casino no less. Like odds are you’re gonna lose a lot more than you’re gonna win! So like financially as well, I keep my ass out of the casino and my funds just build haha.
Thanks again man! Subscribe if you haven’t yet! More videos on the way!
'The term "aromantic" may be coined as the absence of something, but that doesn't mean we're left with nothing.'
Beautifully put!
ALWAYS at sleepovers all the girls talks about their crushes and they always asked who i like and i always said ‚no one‘ but they don’t believed me and said ‚no u MUST like someone you just dont want to say who‘ and then i started to feel broken like i rly have to like someone, but i couldn‘t. I still can‘t btw and doesn’t like the idea of getting in a relationship. But these videos are rly helping me :D thx so much for that content 😊
Oh boy,
I've only recently found comfort in the aromatic community; meaning I've finally found out and come to the conclusion that this is in fact who I am.
For a bit of backstory I've always figured the reason I felt this way or lack of was because of childhood trauma.
I grew up with an verbally abusive dad, enduring four years of it. After the fact my self worth and ego where in peices. I just assumed I was too scared to be hurt- so I forced myself into relationships.
Not like I dated every person who I crossed paths with, I just started searching.
For an entire year; this may not seem like a long time but honestly for a teen it felt like it- I found out about aromatic and LGBTQ.
Coming out to my mom as Bisexual was hard, while she TOLERATED it she wasn't supportive.
I fear she won't be as tolerant with me being aro- simply because she's always assumed she'd see me get married, have kids and such and I'm afraid of disappointment.
But I'm sure I'll live thru it- this video along with alot of your other ones were very informal and just interesting.
Thank you for letting me ramble ^^'
Snippet damn. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had such a hard time but hang in there. The world is so much bigger than you can really perceive as a teenager and there’s so many people out here that share your experience and will stand with you and support you. I hope your wrong and your mom will accept you. Honestly aro’s can still have kids if that’s a life choice you still want! But yea, it can be tough with parents as they have their own expectations for their kids and deviating from that can be a lot. Just be patient and let her know you hope you can still rely on her for support because she’s important to you. But know if she’s reluctant you’re still worth love and support to be yourself and there’s plenty of us out here to show you that love and support! Thanks for sharing your story and watching my video! ❤️
I have a whole story - two weeks ago i found out one of my polyamorous friends was in fact aromantic and i hadnt misheard. This lead me to educating myself about aromanticism since i had imagined it was the absolute end of the spectrum aka not wanting any intimate relationships, only platonic friendships! This made me think.. wait what the heck even is romantic attraction if aromantics can still be in relationships. So I thought and researched and talked until i made a google form, got 40 long responses to read, still no idea. I did mostly get mad at the mononormative answers.
Last night after a long day of apologizing and talking to the people i hurt with being legit autistic with my questions that sounded arophobic I started thinking.. wait a second am I aromantic too!?!?!? shiiettt, spent over 2 hours thinking and doing internet quizzes.
And here I am, watching your full playlist on my friend's tv, relating wayyyyy to hard for my comfort.. i do still feel maybe like i'm broken, definitely did before your videos, but this made me feel better
No idea how I'll continue my cool 19 year old polyamorous aroallo life, but yea I get to stop overthinking my crushes and knowing that it's just me wanting closeness
Life is weird.
Thank you for expressing your own weirdness so the rest of us don't feel as alone ❤❤❤
I feel you! Haha the journey to self discovery is always interesting! I’m so glad you found my videos helpful and thanks for sharing your experience and watching! Def not broken or alone! ♥️
So aromantic but not asexual presents differently in women. There's this concept called compulsive heteronormativity (comphet) That's where women are raised to highly value validation by men for their self-worth. And this can make us think we are hetero-romantic/heterosexual. But for me, I'll have a "crush" on a guy. And I get strong feelings of wanting to get him to like me. But once he reciprocates my feelings, I don't have those "feelings" anymore because I finally got his validation. I don't think I've ever had romantic feelings for men but I thought I did due to comphet. But I'm positive I have sexual feelings for them.
as a greyromantic, i appreciate this video
I actually remember 2 years ago someone left you an angry IG comment about “being a fuckboy that hoes around with no accountability and labeling it aromantic” & saying it was fake, and you replied with THE upmost class about it, especially for a total stranger taking out her personal aggressions toward you for your life.
Yea I remember that. It happens sometimes but I understand peoples ignorance and their experiences can misguide them so I try not to let that shit get to me. I know myself and know better than that. Gotta lead with love as much as possible!
Thankyou so so much .... I'm an aromantic person but not asexual and I didn't knew that people are like this or even I am like this and I thought that May be I'm a horrible heartless person .... then it just came into my head one day that is this character aromanticism ... I googled it up found one of your videos and it made sense ... Thankyou so much ...
Love to hear this! Honestly I think there’s so many of us out there that are confused and hurt because of that confusion so its been a pleasure putting content out there to reach folks and help them understand themselves better and know they ain’t alone!
Thank you so much for your videos. I'm a lesbian, non-monogamous and I just found out that I'm aromantic. You make me feel so seen. I used to equate my sexual attraction with romanticism, but now I finally see that it is not.
I am interested in someone defining "romantic attraction" better. If you look at definitions of different types of attraction, the other types are well defined, but romantic attraction isn't. It is often a self referential definition like "romantic attraction is when you have the desire to connect with someone romantically". I don't think I'm aro... but I'm something that isn't what characters in movies are...I am trying to figure it out...
Jenette Turpin I hear you. As an aro person I cannot really define what romantic attraction./love is cuz I dont feel it. I can only give you what it seems like from the outside perspective. It seems to be some kind of love that is (typically) exclusionary? Like when you are romantically “in love” with someone that individual connection is stronger than it is for anyone else? That doesn’t happen for other types of love. Like I love all my family and if there’s a new cousin born or my brothers have kids I’ll love them just as strongly. I love all my friends a ton but I can still meet new friends and love them just as much. Romantic love seems somehow exclusionary. Its unique in that sense. And because it’s exclusionary it maybe feels more intense for those experiencing it. I dunno if any of this is helpful just my thoughts on it. Why would you say you dont think you’re aro?
Thats litterally the worse definition you can give. The one thing just do NOT do for definitions is use the word you're defining!
I also discovered I’m aromantic. I’m just now coming to terms with it after 4 years of confusion. I’m just tired of pretending to like people out of obligation. I do this because I don’t want to be seen as a bad person. However, sex has unfortunately so far been my only motivation to date anyone. I’m dating someone right now, been with him for 5 years but I found out about myself while being with them. I honestly don’t know what to do about this. Your videos had really help me understand myself better in knowing my feelings. Thank U!! 🥰🥰 (sorry if this is too long)
najee jones not too long at all! I love hearing people’s stories! 5 years is an insane amount of time to me haha as I’m romance repulsed this I could never get past a few weeks ! So are you happy in your relationship? Do you wanna stay in it or does this realization make you want to end it?
Nik Hampshire I was never really a relationship person, so I’m just going to end it. The real problem is me and this person had good memories together and he’s a good person. He would not want to be friends with me after it ends. Five years is a long time to be around somebody and I do care about him just not like “that”. I don’t have that many friends to begin with so if I loose this person too, I’m going to be more isolated from the world around me.
najee jones damn. I definitely know that feeling and it defiantly sucks. Breaking up with someone sucks and losing someone you care about sucks. It all sucks. I’d suggest maybe showing him one of my videos so maybe he’ll have a frame of reference for what you want to discuss? I don’t have much to say to help other than to be true to yourself and to your partner. Pursue whatever will make you happiest. Good luck ❤️
Nik Hampshire Thank you!! 🥰❤️ Maybe I should do that.
this video felt like a virtual hug
I'm actually having a really hard time, I'm afraid to accept that I can't feel romantic attraction but while watching this... I don't know, I feel understood. Keep doing these videos, ur awesome
愛mitsuri I’m glad it felt that way cuz it really is about sharing perspective and love (as a friend 😅😂) but for real, it can be a little strange to accept but I really feel like once you get past it life just makes so much more sense and being aro can be such an advantage in a lot of ways! I’m so glad you watched my video and commented and felt the love! I definitely have more videos coming so subscribe if you tryna catch them! Hope you feel better soon! ❤️
I dont even know if Im aro since I have some social anxiety preventing me from trying it out, but what you are talking makes so much sense. I dont know but I feel like all that romantic stuff is bullshit for me and the only thing I have experienced so far is sexual attraction (through crushes etc.).
Thanks for sharing, you've got good vibes
BringWaffles thanks for watching and saying so
im so thankful for your videos. one year ago i realised that i might be aromantic and i just felt so bad with myself???but then i figure it out that its just who i am and i need to accept it. i want to say that im so sick of media and society trying to forcing everyone to be in romantic relationships!! we can be happy without it and we are definitely not broken!!
I’m greyromantic and I’ve felt romantic attraction once. Kinda makes me question my identity.
These past years I have been trying to find the right person for me... But every time I notice that I have absolutely no romantic attraction towards that person.... And I really hate to have the talk that it can't go any further than friendship... I feel like the bad guy ever time 😑 I discovered last year that I am aromantic but still I try and every time it ends the same..the brain is a really difficult thing to understand 😅🙂
Fanny Lithén I think if you’re having “the talk” mid dating its tough. I ALWAYS have “the talk” before i get involved with anyone so they can consider what I’m capable of and offering and they can make an informed decision if they want to get involved in as much that I’m able to offer. I’ve run into far less problems with people this way as I dont get involved with anyone looking for more than I’m able to offer. I even recently found another aromantic person that I’ve been seeing for the past few months. Its amazing! We both aren’t in love and just enjoy hanging out together and whatnot! So you can still find comparable partners just gotta put a little work in at the start to see if your compatible! Thanks for watching and sharing! Best of luck finding partners!
I remember when I was a kid, my classmates were having crushes and love interests. Eventually, I got dragged in and was asked who I have a crush on and honestly, I couldn't answer. Even when they tried to guess who, I still didn't feel it connect. Even when pretending, I still didn't feel a deep/intimate love to anyone.
Growing up, I focused more on studying than intimate relationships, and my classmates saw that about me. I assumed that that's why I didn't have any strong feelings for my male classmates.
But, high school came around and two of my close friends had a crush on a guy, and some of my classmates, too, already had intimate feelings / relationships. Still, I assumed my lack of intimate feelings is because of my focus on school. Then, I heard about Aromantics and I was like, "oh. That's me."
It's nice to know that there are other people who feel the same. Especially in a society so indulged in romantic media.
Hey bro! Good to see you again (sorry the typos, native spanish speaker here).
I find really helpfull to post sometimes on Reddit about this, besides seeing your awesome videos! I didn't had the feeling of been broken, but sadly I felt like kind of a robot, or sometimes like "shallow", "bad" (even "psycho" passed throught my mind before). The thing is that, after I undertand what was happening, and since I don't want to hurt people (and I love people in other ways), now I feel that I have more control over this, and that I can have healthy approaches to others... So I can care about others. And that is what I think, is the reason that demonstrates why precisely we're not broken, and we can be good people like anybody else.
That makes me think about how important is to understand these concepts, and how important is the information, and education. People like you that dare to speak is something that helps a lot! Believe me! A lot!
Helena Puig yooo! So funny you say this because I’m actually working on a video about not being a robot right now! Haha I almost talked about not being a robot in this video but decided it’s worth it’s own video so that’s going to be the next topic! Great minds think alike! Thanks so much for watching and commenting! ❤️❤️❤️
You’re so fucking right and yes most of romantic relationships are toxic and most of them will end . This reminds me of a scene from Rick and Morty where Rick tells Morty that love it’s just a chemical interaction in the brain to trick us into breeding. Which yes comes with a lot of drama and heartbreak and pain. For me I think of love as an evolutionary error that beneficial at some point but no longer is. The risk of getting your heart broken it’s really not worth it, the waste of your time is not worth it either
I've dated out of my culture, race and even sex.
The feeling about being broke and needing to fix my way of "loving" has always lingered.
It's so frustrating, I want a life long partner but don't feel fulfilled. It's so strange to explain how my emotions work!
Thankfully my love depends on family, friends and my career.
I know how frustrating it can be to figure out exactly what you want, what that looks like and then finding a person that actually matches with it. Hang in there tho! Good to hear your love is anchored in your family friends and career! Thats what its all about for me too and its v fulfilling! Thanks so much for watching and leaving a comment
@@nikhampshire
Thanks, really trying to hang in there! :)
Do you have Instagram I can follow too?
@@stephanieh5478 I do but its more about my day to day life and work as a model photographer influencer etc instead of about aro stuff specifically like my YT. You’re still very welcome to follow me there. Same name: @nikhampshire
I feel like this but I do feel like it's related to trauma and depression. I would love to have a relationship but those feelings never develop. I'm not asexual tho hehe (dirty laugh)
I’ve had people ask me if it’s the same if the reason you feel this way (or don’t feel this way in this case) is because of trauma. My initial thought on it is to say it’s not the same. Because if trauma can cause it then I fear people will think trauma always causes it and that people can be “cured” or “fixed”. As a person that was just born this way and is having to sort of prove their existence in conversation, being born this way seems like it’s an important part of it. That being said I’m not the end all be all of aromanticism and I don’t want to gatekeep so id never say a person cannot claim their aro if their reason for being so is trauma especially if one relates to what I’m saying. Better we all rally together than draw lines to divide ❤️
@@nikhampshire Absolutely. This is only my experience with trauma and depression. I wasn't born this way. I had a relationship when I was 20 and was heed over heels. Never since . I'm 43 now. The feelings just never develop although I love family and friends really intensely. I can totally understand there are people who were just born that way though. I'm happier when I just don't analyse it and accept it instead of feeling that part of me is broken and needs fixed. We "work differently" in that area is a good way to put it 🤩
Same.
This is totally my experience. I couldn't follow through with "happily ever after" and felt like a failure. I never felt "broken" but often asked "what's wrong with me?", everyone else can do this. Once I discovered the term...I knew this described me and felt happy. Now I'm in a long term, fulfilling relationship with myself.
I wish I had these videos when I first came out, thank you, you're a legend
I'm currently binging all your videos cos I'm kinda just coming to terms with probably being aro and it's one of the most terrifying things, especially as I'm pretty sure I'm not ace as well, so thank you for making all of these!! they're really really helpful!!
Thank you for these videos!! I'm so glad I found you and you shared these with me because I've literally felt broken and like something was wrong with me my entire life and thought noone else possibly feel this way! You're a blessing 🙏🏾
Man, thanks again for sharing your experience. I felt broken for so many years and only now I'm starting to feel good again. I've been through therapy and hurtful break ups because I just couldn't understand what the hell was going on with me.
I felt alien and just plain ungrateful. It's impressive how finding out about aro made it all almost disappear. It's really eye opening, especially coming from a person such as you who is aro but not ace, which is how I feel about it all.
I have the atrraction and desire for other people, but not the desire to have the romantic part of it all and it just felt like I am a scumbag, just a bad person when I'm not. I tried to be very straightforward, but without the understandment of what I am, it's really impossible to explain how you feel without being labeled as a person who wants only the easy part.
Thanks again.
I relate to this so much my dude. Definitely have faced that “player” accusation but usually only from people who don’t know me. Anyone who knows me for more than 5 minutes kind of immediately dismissed that notion which I’m appreciative of.
Understanding and accepting that I was aro was so freeing and really eased a lot of my concerns about my own feelings and relationships. I hope you find the same comfort! Thanks for watching and sharing!
@@nikhampshire Cheers! Yeah, I'm starting to feel better about myself now. Will keep on looking and will try to let people know how I feel to make it also easier for them. Wish you all the best!
I struggle alot with feeling broken as an aromantic so thank you
Is it just you and me? The only guys? When I search aromantic discussions, it's always paired with AFAB and asexual. I can't even find other AMAB Aros. Maybe it goes unnoticed in the case of guys, because it's easy to fake a marriage in this society. Or because Aro is a gay stereotype "You people aren't capable of love."
I didn't even notice until I was 50. I thought I was just *forgetting to date*, because it was inconvenient while being broke in the city. You're the only one discussing it. In the entire internet.
Haha it is quite rare to find on here. Definitely one reason I felt so drawn to create some content cuz I knew it couldn’t just be me lol. Im glad you found the channel man!
i was assigned male at birth. I'm aro but grey ace so sometimes im not ace. i'm nonbinary, though.
almost there (amab & not fully asexual), but not (not a guy, still kinda asexual).
i haven't met any Aromantic person outside of the Internet, of any gender :(
Thank you for sharing your experience! Many points resonated as I am starting to identify as Aromantic.
I tend to be very happy with my friends and love extensively; those connections can sometimes be sufficient. Other times, I am very interested in people and want to learn more about them. I still like to be with people and feel attractions but the romantic part just doesn't seem to click. So far, it is a bit complex to balance the feeling of wanting a relationship but not feeling romantic. This part must come easier with extensive communication!
I get the questions all the time, "What's your sexuality?" But I never really wanted to go by a label, I was just being me. I don't like to classify myself but I think it's important for people that I connect with to hear a label.
Hey Nick! Is it okay to say you're pretty/beautiful? Because you really are, Shah. I came across your aromatic video a good while ago and glad to see another video from you.
Also wanted to chat and say that I've never felt what others consider 'romantic attraction' but I did have a strong infatuation with a girl once in kindergarten then when I was middle school that i never cared to seek out. Sometimes I feel that I may be confused [I consider myself pan/greyromantic/demisexual] yet I still find myself questioning everything, so I occasionally take those terrible aro quizzes online and go on an aro/ace video binge.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your journey, youre someone i can relate to when I'm unsure of things
Compliments are always most welcome so THANK YOU! 😁 as for your experience, no two people are the same so it’s not always easy to find a label that fits exactly and tbh, the labels are all that important. It’s like music, you can do your best to pinpoint what genre a band is but all that matters is what how the music makes you feel! It doesn’t matter what “genre” of ace or arrow you are, it’s more important to figure out how you feel about different aspects of relationships and know what works best for you!
Thanks so much for watching and sharing! ❤️
@Gabriela Castaneda Barriga not sure if you were responding me to me or nick
@Gabriela Castaneda Barriga ahhh. Okay! Yea its very hard but ive come to the current acceptance that im aromantic as of now since i feel like i align most truely with that.
Would you ever consider a queer platonic partnership (with sex and non monagamous) or co-parenting with a friend?
I'm asking because I want to know options for aros while not asexual.
i've been in a qpr, sex involved and polyamorous (im aromantic)
I feel this so fuckin much
Iris McLaughlin that’s why I made it! Thanks for watching and the comment! Hopefully you’re feeling the acceptance and pros of being aro and not still the “broken” part! ❤️
I AM SUBSCRIBING. I need an aromantic youtuber in my life…
Sorry, mildly spamming you with happy comments, and saying thanks way too much.
(but, really, thanks again for these videos)
Thanks for these videos 🤗
This is nice👌
Florina Pl thanks so much! 😁
i feel broken
I feel you. It can really suck. But check out some of my other videos here and look up some of the aro Facebook aro groups and engage with the community. I swear there’s a comfort in knowing others that feel the same as we do and recontexualizing what we find to be “normal” or “right” and make us feel more comfortable and confident in who we are. There’s a lot of pros to being Aro ♥️
Hope you find your way to accepting and knowing you are not broken! ♥️
Interesting
Skeptical Mantis thanks!