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i deal with bad anxiety, ocd, binge eating and impulsive shopping. i often feel so guilty and beat myself down for it. thank you for this video it makes me feel so seen. also just want to say that i’m so proud of you, keep on keeping on the journey doesn’t end here, you’re greater than your obstacles
Thank you darling, I am so glad this video resonated with you, I knew I couldn’t be the only one dealing with this. I’m so proud of us, we’ve got this 💖
I would listen to some financial advise like Dave Ramsey. Maybe seeing money in a different way will help you stop buying useless stuff and get rid of some anxiety by turning a hobby into a cash flowing small business. Can’t let ocd rule your life. This life isn’t made to be perfect AND THAT’S OK! Take time for yourself.
Thank you for sharing your story. As someone who has been dealing with eating disorders for years now it’s quite a comforting thought to know that you are not alone. Hope that things get better soon. Remember to take it one day at time and that your weight does not define nor determine your value. Sending you all love and hugs from Mexico City.
i've been going to therapy for about four months now, and i most certainly do *not* know everything, and i'm not a therapist; but i have learned a lot of coping skills that i find helpful, or even ones that i don't find helpful but i know others that do. i hope that you might be able to find some of these helpful too! not everything works for everyone, so don't feel down on yourself about whatever you need to do. - go for a walk - do some breathing exercises (if you want to guide your breathing and be able to physically feel it, instead of placing a hand on your chest, place your hand where your *diaphragm* is. this allows the deep breathing to truly make it's way through your body without working as hard) - do a word search - color a picture - draw / doodle / sketch - meditate - try guided meditation (you can find some really good asmr ones on youtube!) - read a book - play a video game - watch a movie/show - do a puzzle - hold an ice cube or glass of cool water (the cold distracts your brain from the current panic that you're feeling, and you focus on the cold) - listen to music - count to ten slowly - play with fidget toys - 5 4 3 2 1 exercise (name 5 things you can see; name 4 things you can touch/physically feel; name 3 things you can hear; name 2 things you can smell; name 1 thing you can taste) - pet an animal - hug a stuffed toy or something soft you love - journal your thoughts (you can also label them as helpful thoughts and unhelpful thoughts; it can help to learn to differentiate between the two) - do yoga - go outdoors for some fresh air; admire the nature around you and name some thing you see! (like leaves, bushes, trees, cars, etc....) - choose a color and name things around you that are that color; you can keep going with as many colors as you'd like! - play the alphabet game/exercise (name things around that start with each letter of the alphabet and do your best to go in letter order/ choose a topic ((examples: music artists, songs, movies, etc.)) and name something in that category that starts with each letter of the alphabet) - looks at photos that make you happy (like cute puppies!) i'll try to add more as a i learn! i hope even one of these can help you ❤️ i'm really proud of you btw, so thanks for being you
As someone who struggles with OCD, Diabetes, chronic pain, and disordered eating, I am so so so glad you opened up. These challenges aren’t addressed enough and this is the only way to break the stigmas you spoke of. Even if you’re on UA-cam you deserve to care for yourself and have your own life! Just know we are here for you, and regardless of how often you post you are still my favorite ASMRtist! Take care of yourself ❤️🌼
I've been struggling with panic attacks and health anxiety for quite a long time and I know how bad it is when your mental health is getting bad. Sending you love and support❤ You got this!
Same ive had anxiety disorder for 15 years now its horrible when you get lots of anxiety and panic attacks like you're going to die but you're not because you're stronger than you know.. youre still here because youre stronger than the anxiety. I know all too well. Last year for me was one of the worst years of my life with everything going on had them often, scary every time I had one case having a panic attack for 4 hours it took me to calm down I also wasn't sleeping well at all and for me thats a trigger. But this year I am doing better I stopped listening to the bs msm, hardly on social media and not letting a dumb virus keep me inside losing my mind. Its hard but sometimes if we can't avoid or thwart off our fears we have to face them head on and it makes us stronger by the end of the day. 😎👍
Thank you so much for opening up ☺️💖. Continuously supporting you. It reminds me that people online are human too and that we are all going through struggles even if people can’t see it ❤️
Yes you are so right! That’s a big part of why I wanted to make this video so people realise we are all human and it’s strangely comforting to know that we are not alone in our struggles xx
hey hun! I've had an ED since I could form memories and Ive gone through many therapies but I wanted to share with you what actually helped me at the end of the day. The ED is a coping mechanism and in therapy all we did was add more coping mechanisms on top of that and gave more attention to food. (I suggest doing talk therapy or EMDR therapy to work through trauma rather than an ED clinic). What truly helped me stop having urges was finding what I actually needed instead. If I do that then the urge isnt there anymore because I've given myself what I was really craving. It may feel like you wanna binge on food but it's only a defense. Doing some deep mediation asking yourself what you need you'll crack eventually and your brain will let you in on what's really going on. For me it was being comforted like from physical touch, and working on my issues with my inner child. I also I changed my thoughts on my own self worth and worked on self love. Now that I see myself with love I know that those behaviors are a form of self harm and it doesn't feel right to do it. Go after the wound that starts you to feel the urge to binge in the first place. And work on your self talk and use words of comfort and compassion even when having a bad day. I've gained some weight recently and am now working on shedding it and this has been the healthiest way I ever have in my life and I cant even imagine how I put my body through what I did earlier before. It feels good to feel growth. The tiring battle of fighting with yourself can finally settle down and you can be your own best friend cause now you'll be making choices for your ACTUAL own best interest. (hopeless me would have never believed this 3 years ago). It may seem cheesy to say the answer is self love but it is. Doesn't happen overnight but the end result with the more loving relationship with yourself is worth it. I am not cured, I still have triggers. But this is how I've been able to live an actual life without being consumed with an ED every second of my life like years before. EDIT: I see you already coming to the conclusion I did about ED therapies. Like they just feed into the cycle of the ED and wonder why it doesnt work (Ive had 3 therapists tell me their cure rate is low and they dont know what they're doing) . You're on the right track. Prioritize loving yourself and healing trauma and you'll get so far. Rooting for you!!
Rooting for you too gf! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your advice and I’m so sorry that your ED has taken up so much of your life but I thank you for sharing with us the wisdom you have gained throughout your own journey 💗
Honestly. Your amazing. And recently I have never felt so alone.. so this video has made me feel more comfort then I have in a really long time. :,) thank you shivvy. I hope you know your amazing and deserve the world.
Literally crying as I’m watching this. It’s so heartwarming to hear that I am not the only one with this problem. I struggle with binge eating too, for many years now actually. And my family thinks I’m just weak and don’t have the will power to control myself. But I feel that it’s deeper than that, I’m not weak and as you said this is almost like a coping mechanism, an addiction. I find myself eating excessively whenever I feel self doubt, insecure, unlovable. I almost punish myself with food. It’s so twisted but it’s the truth. I hate myself for it afterwards and I say I will stop but find myself repeating this pattern the next day or a few days later. It’s so exhausting and crippling. Thank you for sharing. You have started a very important conversation and I hope it helps many people just like myself find a way out of this and truly realize that there is no shame in having this problem and seeking help. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dear ASMRtists and ASMR community, I just wanna say how grateful I am to know you and find this great creative outlet. You guys are doing amazing work and helping out so many people. I really hope you know how much impact you have on other people's lives. You help us battle demons like depression and anxiety and are always there for us in our darkest times. I think you should know how much we love you all for not only the service you provide but also for being a great human being and helping others. Wether it be suicide prevention videos, tsundere/yandere videos or just regular triggers they are all amazing and require a lot of effort to make. You've taught us to take care and love ourselves and sometimes literally saved lives. I hope you understand the effect of your videos on people and at the end of the day, THANK YOU for EVERYTHING. You guys are hardworking and like a jewel in ocean. I hope you have a good day and i hope this brightens up your day a little. Yours Truly, Gyrus
With u nd ur presence,this corner feels safe.. especially with this topic when everyone jz make deconstructive faces on discussing 'bout mental health!!! Especially "anxiety" nd depression
I definitely have a problem with food. I relate with you when you said food is the highlight of your day. Food is the only that makes me happy. Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you and I'm proud of how strong you are.
thank you for sharing this with us. i also had some of the symptoms and i didnt know alot of people had it too. i got worried when i didnt see u posting anything in 2 weeks. please take care of your mental health its very important
thank you so so much for sharing your experiences! it was actually extremely helpful. i feel like there’s a lot of discourse about anorexia and bulimia but not much about binge eating/over eating. i’ve always known that i have an unhealthy relationship with food because of the way my parents raised me and because i know i definitely have some undiagnosed mental health issues. i learned a little bit about binge eating disorder in a psych class in college and the way they described it, i didn’t completely relate to, so i never thought i had an eating disorder. but with everything you said, like the secrecy, the adrenaline rush, eating not counting if someone else is around, and the grazing unhealthy food all day rather than eating an insane amount in a short amount of time (which is how it was described in class and what i didn’t relate to), i think i probably do have an eating disorder. like just typing that is very relieving for me like something just clicks. every single thing you said in this video i was just like “YESSS”. i would love to talk more about it but there’s only so much space in the comment section! if anyone knows about any online support groups specifically for binge eating i think i would be interested! and i’m really glad you helped me realize i have an eating disorder at this time because we’re heading into thanksgiving here in america and then the rest of the holidays which can be a big trigger. but for me i think it’s like you said. food is the symptom/coping mechanism for me, not the trigger. some of my triggers are spending time with family and finances, both of which are big themes during the holidays! anyway, i could go off on so many tangents, but i just wanted to thank you again for making this video. it was so helpful for me.
Hey gf! I know this is a very belated reply but I’m so glad this video made something click for you, it’s so strange hey how we rarely hear about BED when it is the most common ED! I am part of a Facebook group ‘Binge Eating Disorder Weight loss Support’ - I can’t completely endorse it because a lot of the posts may be triggering/depressing but I find the replies and words of encouragement from members are where the little nuggets of wisdom are ✨ Feel free to message me on IG always(just know I’ll probably reply late as usual 🤪) xx
so happy you made this video, your vulnerability on the subject will help others struggling with mental illness (myself included) thanks so much, shivi!! :))
Thanks for sharing! It helps a lot of people who can relate. I started drinking in high school, just weekends out with friends, then weekends and weekdays out in college, at home with flatmates, at home by myself, during the day, in the morning, some periods more of this, some less of this, but it was always there, very present, but it eventually took over and I was practically bed-ridden drinking all day every day unable to eat (extreme nausea), drinking not for a buzz but just to keep the blood alcohol level up so withdrawals didn't kick in. Horrible un-life. Thankfully I made the decision to quit (a decision I had made many times before, and tried to no avail) after a really bad health scare and it stuck, been sober 2.5 years. Moral of the story for readers is, booze is nice but if you find yourself enjoying it a bit too much, making it central to going out or having fun or even just coping, it'll easily snowball and you'll get to that point of having to drink all day because your body can't function without it. It's a hell of confusion, memory loss, physical illness, loss of job, friends, everyone... keep an eye on your intake!
In 2021 I’ve gone through so much. When I was young I was always a binge eater, I’d try to hide it from anyone. I was also recently diagnosed with anxiety and depression the past year which was/is terrifying. It’s always nice to see someone talk about their experiences and I know it’s tough. So thank you for talking about all this. I found when I’m bored and alone I crave to binge. So I’ve been trying to stay busy and around people but it’s always going to be apart of me. Anyways I love your videos. Your voice is so calming.
I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had such a difficult year Ben & I can imagine how scary it must be to get those diagnoses but I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you’re not going through this alone and I’m so proud of you for taking the step to get diagnosed - it’s not easy! I can definitely relate with the boredom/being alone leading to binging and while it’s good to learn some of our triggers we can’t always prevent life from throwing another obstacle our way so I think acceptance is something I’m really trying to take on board. Take care of yourself, lots of love to you 💕
Thank you, find what you have opened up about relatable , and have struggled with this BED since I was 15 :(, over exercising and fasting after, out of shame, no one really knows I have an ED because of my appearance, and from other ppls pov im healthy, but the sad thing is that I binge sometimes 6 days a week at night time then the next day i'm really sad, the root cause is probably my mum abandoning me, & feeling like i have no one to open up to about it :(, (hope this is not triggering)
Not triggering at all darling, thank you for sharing - I know it’s not easy to open up about these things but there is nothing to be ashamed of okay? I’m sending you lots of love 💗
This was a really relatable and helpful video, not because I have an ED, but because I have GAD and OCD and know what it’s like to have to have rituals, sort of. I also know what it’s like to have an illness where the symptoms so closely resembles laziness, etc. It feels so cruel right? I can’t fathom why our brains are so good at tricking ourselves. To the point where things feel surreal and like waking up from a dream. But despite this I do have joys in my life and good friends and a good family. I hope everyone has those joys in their life as well, no matter how small or trivial ❤️
We live in difficult times. There is a lot of overwhelming stuff out there. One of my coping mechanisms is I don't have a TV as television would make me feel rubbish. In terms of food I tend to go to small shops like the fishmonger, the butcher, the greengrocer, rather than supermarkets. I rarely get anything ready made as it often makes me feel ill as you described, so my way around it is to cook a massive curry which can take a while, but because I'm in control of the ingredients I can decide how much spices, salt etc. Finding friends is hard. My social life is non existent. Social media is pretty dreadful. I have no idea what the solution is. I don't think there is one. It's a tricky thing finding balance and the right kind of social life that doesn't provoke anxiety. There are a lot of activity groups but the odd thing is one tends not to find what one's looking for or so I found. It's like I'd join a group and have this empty feeling within which then as you say prompts one to try and fill up with food which of course doesn't quite do it. It's a nightmare we all share. Humans are experts at putting on a cool exterior, and we end up getting fooled by our own reflection.
I’m a former bulimic and I still binge eat. I’ve been listening to this podcast about binge eating where they talk about how binge eating is just due to urges that come from the “animal brain” to help you survive due to habit or consistent dieting and not anything deeper than that like people normally tell you. Of course this isn’t true for everyone, but I know this is true for myself because sometimes I’d binge eat for no reason. It talks about how you have the power to trump your animal brain, of course it’s not that simple, but it was actually super helpful to listen to.
Yes definitely sometimes I would binge eat for ‘no reason’, it’s probably something physiological or it’s just that I haven’t been eating at regular times or am hungry but don’t have healthy food prepared. Any chance you remember what the podcast was? Xx
Awe hey its ok Shivi just take it easy and do whatever you can to deal and vent when you need to. I hope you feel better and am sure you'll get better and am sure you can overcome this Shivi. My mom is also a binge eater but a little different she stress eats when she's anxious or worried about something she will binge eat if there's a test she has to have or way back I got into some trouble years ago so she ate 2 packs of oreos in the process. Sounds horrible but yeah we all have our flaws you know? We all do things probably not healthy or helpful for us sometimes. With me I have anxiety disorder have had it for 15 years now I've had good, mediocre and bad years. Last year was one of the worst in my life so I would get attacks often and loss of sleep and not going out out of fear. This year much better I spoke to someone, ignored the bs media that loves to scare people and just said screw it I can work again in the real world or live inside in fear of a dumb virus and let msm, social media etc rule my life So i said *no*. And been working now back for nearly a month now and doing better, making money. I understand the not working gig I was out for almost two years then the pandemic hit and delayed that. I suffered anxiety and depression being inside not wanting to do anything, go anywhere one reason why I turned to asmr even though I've been a fan since gentle whispering and even before her with Bob Ross days so I searched for tons of asmr channels. Therapy definitely helps you vent, release my bad energy while gaining helpful advice. You look great Shivi 👍 sometimes you have to take a breather, get help from others and pamper yourself talking to yourself via positive advice helps. Everything you said sounds very similar to my case just with a different issue. Always here for you if you'd like I'm up for chatting anytime if you need to talk. Have a great week and love your vids and positivity. It'll be ok☺❤😃👍
I think there’s alot of variety and value to how different people approach the problem, but I like that you have a realistic behavioral solution to a compulsive or emotional problem by doing something social and active. I really thing that is a great outlook. I have my own struggles and family who deal around this as well as my own methods and thoughts for what might help depending on the circumstance other people are in. Life can look different to different people so solutions are not always the same, but I do promise there is always hope and always a way to adapt. Be open, but respect your assertion on solutions. If she does an update, hopefully I’ll leave a more helpful comment.
Food has always been my personal addiction too, though pornography is not far behind. I have always felt that my eating was my way to fill an emotional void. I honestly don't think addiction is a complicated thing, and in one sense all addiction is about compensating for some emotional absence or emptiness, in my view. Naturally, with drugs or alcohol that addiction actually becomes a physical need, and goes beyond the emotional issue. But what brought on the heavy drinking or drug use in the first place was probably emotional craving. I'm 63 now, and I've pretty much always been overweight. The few times in my life I actually shed a lot of weight without really trying were times when I entered a relationship where my emotional needs were being met. So, at least for me, it's not about diet, it's not about exercise, and it's not about regimentation or willpower. It is simply about filling that void. If that hole is filled, the entire problem just evaporates on its own. Thank you Shivi for sharing your story. That took a lot of guts, and I acknowledge and appreciate your strength, honesty and openness. Keep being thoughtful and sweet. Cheers!
Call Me Quiet ASMR You are so brave to share your experiences with us. I suffer with anxiety attacks and low mood, especially after filming a video for my channel. My head tells me it's crap and I feel it won't do well but I still put it up in the hope my thoughts were wrong. I have not managed to film for a few months now. I just have not felt able to. I am planning on coming back but my efforts so far have failed. Unfortunately for me my anxiety attacks are due to my past and abuse I incurred from my ex partner. My most recent wobble was due to a fan I had on my Only Fans. This person managed to take my content and do things that have caused me to close my channel down. I went from 50 fans to 0 because it all became too much. Take all the time you need to heal sweetheart and stay as strong as you can. We are all here for you ❤ xx
I can definitely relate regarding the stress of uploading a video - it’s hard when we judge how successful our video is on the comments and views when they’re not always a true indicator of the effort/thought that went into them. Thank you for sharing and being so open in your comment, I hope things are getting better for you and that you’re taking the time to heal yourself xx
Trigger warning just in case this is too graphic but I don’t think it is just being safe I guess I technically Benj eat and I don’t know if it’s As severe as yours but I do use food as a coping mechanism when I’m feeling sad or depressed or I had a crappy day because I’m like oh I need to treat myself but it’s not very healthy also I feel like I’ve been in a rut lately for the past couple days or so I’ve been feeling like crap mentally and I’m feeling tired all the time. And I don’t know what I could do to get out of it so any help would be nice
I can relate, it’s so hard to get yourself out of the cycle. Honestly cleaning is super helpful for me as it’s something you can control and gets you moving too. I hope you are doing better since you wrote this, sending love 💕
Not everything on life is happiness. There are times we all pass through dark and uncomfortable moments. The key to get through tough times in life is by praying and placing everything in the Hands of God. He is always with opens arms with humanity and He'll certainly help you with everything your facing with 🙌🏻 😇. I'm sure you'll will make it and greetings from Puerto Rico. 😁
You know I've been a subscriber of yours for a while now and I would have never thought that you had a eating disorder, i assumed that you were healthy as mule. I know that this video was made 2 months ago so I was wondering has your situation gotten any better?
I’d say we need to focus on the present rather than the past. Don’t find coping mechanisms, find the root of the problem and try to work on it slowly. One thing that I’ve found is that financial literacy can solve some problems. It gives you something to focus on, makes your feel better as in more knowledgeable and that you can take care of something for yourself. Listen to Dave Ramsey’s baby steps on UA-cam. I personally have a small eBay business and it has been such a blessing of escape for me. I feel so good doing it and I don’t have to feel guilty as this is a good coping mechanism. I have the work on the causes daily. When you don’t have that guilt, that’s a huge weight lifted away. Take care and God bless.
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i deal with bad anxiety, ocd, binge eating and impulsive shopping. i often feel so guilty and beat myself down for it. thank you for this video it makes me feel so seen. also just want to say that i’m so proud of you, keep on keeping on the journey doesn’t end here, you’re greater than your obstacles
Thank you darling, I am so glad this video resonated with you, I knew I couldn’t be the only one dealing with this. I’m so proud of us, we’ve got this 💖
I would listen to some financial advise like Dave Ramsey. Maybe seeing money in a different way will help you stop buying useless stuff and get rid of some anxiety by turning a hobby into a cash flowing small business. Can’t let ocd rule your life. This life isn’t made to be perfect AND THAT’S OK! Take time for yourself.
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I have severe ocd as well, hang in there buddy, the key is knowing that our intursive thoughts are not us and we are the victims
Thank you for sharing your story. As someone who has been dealing with eating disorders for years now it’s quite a comforting thought to know that you are not alone.
Hope that things get better soon. Remember to take it one day at time and that your weight does not define nor determine your value. Sending you all love and hugs from Mexico City.
Thank you so much Andy! Sending you lots of love and strength - we’ve got this 💖
i've been going to therapy for about four months now, and i most certainly do *not* know everything, and i'm not a therapist; but i have learned a lot of coping skills that i find helpful, or even ones that i don't find helpful but i know others that do. i hope that you might be able to find some of these helpful too! not everything works for everyone, so don't feel down on yourself about whatever you need to
do.
- go for a walk
- do some breathing exercises (if you want to guide your breathing and be able to physically feel it, instead of placing a hand on your chest, place your hand where your *diaphragm* is. this allows the deep breathing to truly make it's way through your body without working as hard)
- do a word search
- color a picture
- draw / doodle / sketch
- meditate
- try guided meditation (you can find some really good asmr ones on youtube!)
- read a book
- play a video game
- watch a movie/show
- do a puzzle
- hold an ice cube or glass of cool water (the cold distracts your brain from the current panic that you're feeling, and you focus on the cold)
- listen to music
- count to ten slowly
- play with fidget toys
- 5 4 3 2 1 exercise (name 5 things you can see; name 4 things you can touch/physically feel; name 3 things you can hear; name 2 things you can smell; name 1 thing you can taste)
- pet an animal
- hug a stuffed toy or something soft you love
- journal your thoughts (you can also label them as helpful thoughts and unhelpful thoughts; it can help to learn to differentiate between the two)
- do yoga
- go outdoors for some fresh air; admire the nature around you and name some thing you see! (like leaves, bushes, trees, cars, etc....)
- choose a color and name things around you that are that color; you can keep going with as many colors as you'd like!
- play the alphabet game/exercise (name things around that start with each letter of the alphabet and do your best to go in letter order/ choose a topic ((examples: music artists, songs, movies, etc.)) and name something in that category that starts with each letter of the alphabet)
- looks at photos that make you happy (like cute puppies!)
i'll try to add more as a i learn! i hope even one of these can help you ❤️ i'm really proud of you btw, so thanks for being you
This is not only very brave, but potentially so helpful to people. Great to have you back ❤️
As someone who struggles with OCD, Diabetes, chronic pain, and disordered eating, I am so so so glad you opened up. These challenges aren’t addressed enough and this is the only way to break the stigmas you spoke of. Even if you’re on UA-cam you deserve to care for yourself and have your own life!
Just know we are here for you, and regardless of how often you post you are still my favorite ASMRtist! Take care of yourself ❤️🌼
I've been struggling with panic attacks and health anxiety for quite a long time and I know how bad it is when your mental health is getting bad. Sending you love and support❤ You got this!
health anxiety is the worst :( you're not alone, sending you lots of love and support as well
@@an-sofietemst850 thank you♡♡♡
Same ive had anxiety disorder for 15 years now its horrible when you get lots of anxiety and panic attacks like you're going to die but you're not because you're stronger than you know.. youre still here because youre stronger than the anxiety. I know all too well. Last year for me was one of the worst years of my life with everything going on had them often, scary every time I had one case having a panic attack for 4 hours it took me to calm down I also wasn't sleeping well at all and for me thats a trigger. But this year I am doing better I stopped listening to the bs msm, hardly on social media and not letting a dumb virus keep me inside losing my mind.
Its hard but sometimes if we can't avoid or thwart off our fears we have to face them head on and it makes us stronger by the end of the day. 😎👍
@@MKF30 Sending you support!!
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Thank you so much for opening up ☺️💖. Continuously supporting you. It reminds me that people online are human too and that we are all going through struggles even if people can’t see it ❤️
Yes you are so right! That’s a big part of why I wanted to make this video so people realise we are all human and it’s strangely comforting to know that we are not alone in our struggles xx
hey hun! I've had an ED since I could form memories and Ive gone through many therapies but I wanted to share with you what actually helped me at the end of the day. The ED is a coping mechanism and in therapy all we did was add more coping mechanisms on top of that and gave more attention to food. (I suggest doing talk therapy or EMDR therapy to work through trauma rather than an ED clinic). What truly helped me stop having urges was finding what I actually needed instead. If I do that then the urge isnt there anymore because I've given myself what I was really craving. It may feel like you wanna binge on food but it's only a defense. Doing some deep mediation asking yourself what you need you'll crack eventually and your brain will let you in on what's really going on. For me it was being comforted like from physical touch, and working on my issues with my inner child. I also I changed my thoughts on my own self worth and worked on self love. Now that I see myself with love I know that those behaviors are a form of self harm and it doesn't feel right to do it. Go after the wound that starts you to feel the urge to binge in the first place. And work on your self talk and use words of comfort and compassion even when having a bad day. I've gained some weight recently and am now working on shedding it and this has been the healthiest way I ever have in my life and I cant even imagine how I put my body through what I did earlier before. It feels good to feel growth. The tiring battle of fighting with yourself can finally settle down and you can be your own best friend cause now you'll be making choices for your ACTUAL own best interest. (hopeless me would have never believed this 3 years ago). It may seem cheesy to say the answer is self love but it is. Doesn't happen overnight but the end result with the more loving relationship with yourself is worth it. I am not cured, I still have triggers. But this is how I've been able to live an actual life without being consumed with an ED every second of my life like years before.
EDIT: I see you already coming to the conclusion I did about ED therapies. Like they just feed into the cycle of the ED and wonder why it doesnt work (Ive had 3 therapists tell me their cure rate is low and they dont know what they're doing) . You're on the right track. Prioritize loving yourself and healing trauma and you'll get so far. Rooting for you!!
Rooting for you too gf! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your advice and I’m so sorry that your ED has taken up so much of your life but I thank you for sharing with us the wisdom you have gained throughout your own journey 💗
I’m so proud of you and I love you so much and wish you the best!🤍✨☁️
Also you are so beautiful inside and out
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Honestly. Your amazing. And recently I have never felt so alone.. so this video has made me feel more comfort then I have in a really long time. :,) thank you shivvy. I hope you know your amazing and deserve the world.
shivi, you’re my comfort youtuber and you sharing this means so much and is so validating. love you so much 💗
Literally crying as I’m watching this. It’s so heartwarming to hear that I am not the only one with this problem. I struggle with binge eating too, for many years now actually. And my family thinks I’m just weak and don’t have the will power to control myself. But I feel that it’s deeper than that, I’m not weak and as you said this is almost like a coping mechanism, an addiction. I find myself eating excessively whenever I feel self doubt, insecure, unlovable. I almost punish myself with food. It’s so twisted but it’s the truth. I hate myself for it afterwards and I say I will stop but find myself repeating this pattern the next day or a few days later. It’s so exhausting and crippling. Thank you for sharing. You have started a very important conversation and I hope it helps many people just like myself find a way out of this and truly realize that there is no shame in having this problem and seeking help. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dear ASMRtists and ASMR community, I just wanna say how grateful I am to know you and find this great creative outlet. You guys are doing amazing work and helping out so many people. I really hope you know how much impact you have on other people's lives. You help us battle demons like depression and anxiety and are always there for us in our darkest times. I think you should know how much we love you all for not only the service you provide but also for being a great human being and helping others. Wether it be suicide prevention videos, tsundere/yandere videos or just regular triggers they are all amazing and require a lot of effort to make. You've taught us to take care and love ourselves and sometimes literally saved lives. I hope you understand the effect of your videos on people and at the end of the day, THANK YOU for EVERYTHING. You guys are hardworking and like a jewel in ocean. I hope you have a good day and i hope this brightens up your day a little.
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You’re really brave. Thank you for sharing your story.
With u nd ur presence,this corner feels safe.. especially with this topic when everyone jz make deconstructive faces on discussing 'bout mental health!!! Especially "anxiety" nd depression
I definitely have a problem with food. I relate with you when you said food is the highlight of your day. Food is the only that makes me happy.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you and I'm proud of how strong you are.
thank you for sharing this with us. i also had some of the symptoms and i didnt know alot of people had it too. i got worried when i didnt see u posting anything in 2 weeks. please take care of your mental health its very important
thank you so so much for sharing your experiences! it was actually extremely helpful. i feel like there’s a lot of discourse about anorexia and bulimia but not much about binge eating/over eating. i’ve always known that i have an unhealthy relationship with food because of the way my parents raised me and because i know i definitely have some undiagnosed mental health issues. i learned a little bit about binge eating disorder in a psych class in college and the way they described it, i didn’t completely relate to, so i never thought i had an eating disorder. but with everything you said, like the secrecy, the adrenaline rush, eating not counting if someone else is around, and the grazing unhealthy food all day rather than eating an insane amount in a short amount of time (which is how it was described in class and what i didn’t relate to), i think i probably do have an eating disorder. like just typing that is very relieving for me like something just clicks. every single thing you said in this video i was just like “YESSS”. i would love to talk more about it but there’s only so much space in the comment section! if anyone knows about any online support groups specifically for binge eating i think i would be interested! and i’m really glad you helped me realize i have an eating disorder at this time because we’re heading into thanksgiving here in america and then the rest of the holidays which can be a big trigger. but for me i think it’s like you said. food is the symptom/coping mechanism for me, not the trigger. some of my triggers are spending time with family and finances, both of which are big themes during the holidays! anyway, i could go off on so many tangents, but i just wanted to thank you again for making this video. it was so helpful for me.
Hey gf! I know this is a very belated reply but I’m so glad this video made something click for you, it’s so strange hey how we rarely hear about BED when it is the most common ED! I am part of a Facebook group ‘Binge Eating Disorder Weight loss Support’ - I can’t completely endorse it because a lot of the posts may be triggering/depressing but I find the replies and words of encouragement from members are where the little nuggets of wisdom are ✨ Feel free to message me on IG always(just know I’ll probably reply late as usual 🤪) xx
Thank you Quiet. You're #1 in my book, and braver than the fearless.
I hope your mental health improves, I personally made the choice to start going to therapy this week. Good luck on your journey!
Omg I am so so proud of you! I know how hard it is to make that first step so big congratulations 🙏💖✨
I love it when you call us baby cakes, so wholesome and lovely
so happy you made this video, your vulnerability on the subject will help others struggling with mental illness (myself included) thanks so much, shivi!! :))
You're amazing Shivi. We're here for you, as much as you are for us. Take care of yourself ❤
Thanks for sharing! It helps a lot of people who can relate. I started drinking in high school, just weekends out with friends, then weekends and weekdays out in college, at home with flatmates, at home by myself, during the day, in the morning, some periods more of this, some less of this, but it was always there, very present, but it eventually took over and I was practically bed-ridden drinking all day every day unable to eat (extreme nausea), drinking not for a buzz but just to keep the blood alcohol level up so withdrawals didn't kick in. Horrible un-life. Thankfully I made the decision to quit (a decision I had made many times before, and tried to no avail) after a really bad health scare and it stuck, been sober 2.5 years. Moral of the story for readers is, booze is nice but if you find yourself enjoying it a bit too much, making it central to going out or having fun or even just coping, it'll easily snowball and you'll get to that point of having to drink all day because your body can't function without it. It's a hell of confusion, memory loss, physical illness, loss of job, friends, everyone... keep an eye on your intake!
This is really brave. Thank you for sharing! Pls Keep being gentle with yourself in this season 💛
In 2021 I’ve gone through so much. When I was young I was always a binge eater, I’d try to hide it from anyone. I was also recently diagnosed with anxiety and depression the past year which was/is terrifying. It’s always nice to see someone talk about their experiences and I know it’s tough. So thank you for talking about all this. I found when I’m bored and alone I crave to binge. So I’ve been trying to stay busy and around people but it’s always going to be apart of me. Anyways I love your videos. Your voice is so calming.
I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had such a difficult year Ben & I can imagine how scary it must be to get those diagnoses but I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you’re not going through this alone and I’m so proud of you for taking the step to get diagnosed - it’s not easy! I can definitely relate with the boredom/being alone leading to binging and while it’s good to learn some of our triggers we can’t always prevent life from throwing another obstacle our way so I think acceptance is something I’m really trying to take on board. Take care of yourself, lots of love to you 💕
@@CallMeQuietASMR thank you and I hope everything looks up for you ♥️ mental health is no joke.
You are brave for sharing with us, Shivi. I hope things look up for you soon, Bubba. We love you.
Thank you for sharing with us! As someone else with BED I so rarely hear it talked about; blesses and best healing wishes to you ❤️
Thank you, find what you have opened up about relatable , and have struggled with this BED since I was 15 :(, over exercising and fasting after, out of shame, no one really knows I have an ED because of my appearance, and from other ppls pov im healthy, but the sad thing is that I binge sometimes 6 days a week at night time then the next day i'm really sad, the root cause is probably my mum abandoning me, & feeling like i have no one to open up to about it :(, (hope this is not triggering)
Not triggering at all darling, thank you for sharing - I know it’s not easy to open up about these things but there is nothing to be ashamed of okay? I’m sending you lots of love 💗
Your presence helps me enough already. Your like my online therapist somehow.
Really appreciate you sharing your story quiet. That's why I'm a proud Patreon member!
Thank you for being brave enough to share. If you need someone to talk to, you can xx
This was a really relatable and helpful video, not because I have an ED, but because I have GAD and OCD and know what it’s like to have to have rituals, sort of. I also know what it’s like to have an illness where the symptoms so closely resembles laziness, etc. It feels so cruel right? I can’t fathom why our brains are so good at tricking ourselves. To the point where things feel surreal and like waking up from a dream. But despite this I do have joys in my life and good friends and a good family. I hope everyone has those joys in their life as well, no matter how small or trivial ❤️
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You are a good soul indeed!
Ya it is true many ppl have similar experiences. I believe you can grow and get past this! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for sharing, sending lots of love!! 🥰 always remember your health comes first
you are so awesome shivvi thanks for making such awesome content all the time :) we all appreciate it
It's a weird feeling being so relaxed by someone's voice, while at the same time they're talking about something you dislike about yourself!
Thanks for sharing and caring Shiva! 🙏🏼💜
thanks for being here 💕
Really hope ur doing ok!! ❤️❤️
This is beautiful the whole thing, great vid shiv
We live in difficult times. There is a lot of overwhelming stuff out there. One of my coping mechanisms is I don't have a TV as television would make me feel rubbish. In terms of food I tend to go to small shops like the fishmonger, the butcher, the greengrocer, rather than supermarkets. I rarely get anything ready made as it often makes me feel ill as you described, so my way around it is to cook a massive curry which can take a while, but because I'm in control of the ingredients I can decide how much spices, salt etc. Finding friends is hard. My social life is non existent. Social media is pretty dreadful. I have no idea what the solution is. I don't think there is one. It's a tricky thing finding balance and the right kind of social life that doesn't provoke anxiety. There are a lot of activity groups but the odd thing is one tends not to find what one's looking for or so I found. It's like I'd join a group and have this empty feeling within which then as you say prompts one to try and fill up with food which of course doesn't quite do it. It's a nightmare we all share. Humans are experts at putting on a cool exterior, and we end up getting fooled by our own reflection.
This is amazing! You are so brave to talk about this x
I’m a former bulimic and I still binge eat. I’ve been listening to this podcast about binge eating where they talk about how binge eating is just due to urges that come from the “animal brain” to help you survive due to habit or consistent dieting and not anything deeper than that like people normally tell you. Of course this isn’t true for everyone, but I know this is true for myself because sometimes I’d binge eat for no reason. It talks about how you have the power to trump your animal brain, of course it’s not that simple, but it was actually super helpful to listen to.
Yes definitely sometimes I would binge eat for ‘no reason’, it’s probably something physiological or it’s just that I haven’t been eating at regular times or am hungry but don’t have healthy food prepared. Any chance you remember what the podcast was? Xx
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Just love and support for you dear Shivi. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Awe hey its ok Shivi just take it easy and do whatever you can to deal and vent when you need to. I hope you feel better and am sure you'll get better and am sure you can overcome this Shivi.
My mom is also a binge eater but a little different she stress eats when she's anxious or worried about something she will binge eat if there's a test she has to have or way back I got into some trouble years ago so she ate 2 packs of oreos in the process.
Sounds horrible but yeah we all have our flaws you know? We all do things probably not healthy or helpful for us sometimes. With me I have anxiety disorder have had it for 15 years now I've had good, mediocre and bad years. Last year was one of the worst in my life so I would get attacks often and loss of sleep and not going out out of fear. This year much better I spoke to someone, ignored the bs media that loves to scare people and just said screw it I can work again in the real world or live inside in fear of a dumb virus and let msm, social media etc rule my life So i said *no*. And been working now back for nearly a month now and doing better, making money. I understand the not working gig I was out for almost two years then the pandemic hit and delayed that.
I suffered anxiety and depression being inside not wanting to do anything, go anywhere one reason why I turned to asmr even though I've been a fan since gentle whispering and even before her with Bob Ross days so I searched for tons of asmr channels.
Therapy definitely helps you vent, release my bad energy while gaining helpful advice.
You look great Shivi 👍 sometimes you have to take a breather, get help from others and pamper yourself talking to yourself via positive advice helps. Everything you said sounds very similar to my case just with a different issue. Always here for you if you'd like I'm up for chatting anytime if you need to talk. Have a great week and love your vids and positivity. It'll be ok☺❤😃👍
So much love for you and for sharing this 💕🤍✨
you deserve the world love
I’m so proud of you girl! 👏
I think there’s alot of variety and value to how different people approach the problem, but I like that you have a realistic behavioral solution to a compulsive or emotional problem by doing something social and active. I really thing that is a great outlook. I have my own struggles and family who deal around this as well as my own methods and thoughts for what might help depending on the circumstance other people are in. Life can look different to different people so solutions are not always the same, but I do promise there is always hope and always a way to adapt. Be open, but respect your assertion on solutions. If she does an update, hopefully I’ll leave a more helpful comment.
I smiled hard when you said "hey baby cakes".
Thank you so much for this video ❤️❤️❤️
Food has always been my personal addiction too, though pornography is not far behind. I have always felt that my eating was my way to fill an emotional void. I honestly don't think addiction is a complicated thing, and in one sense all addiction is about compensating for some emotional absence or emptiness, in my view. Naturally, with drugs or alcohol that addiction actually becomes a physical need, and goes beyond the emotional issue. But what brought on the heavy drinking or drug use in the first place was probably emotional craving.
I'm 63 now, and I've pretty much always been overweight. The few times in my life I actually shed a lot of weight without really trying were times when I entered a relationship where my emotional needs were being met. So, at least for me, it's not about diet, it's not about exercise, and it's not about regimentation or willpower. It is simply about filling that void. If that hole is filled, the entire problem just evaporates on its own.
Thank you Shivi for sharing your story. That took a lot of guts, and I acknowledge and appreciate your strength, honesty and openness. Keep being thoughtful and sweet. Cheers!
Call Me Quiet ASMR You are so brave to share your experiences with us.
I suffer with anxiety attacks and low mood, especially after filming a video for my channel. My head tells me it's crap and I feel it won't do well but I still put it up in the hope my thoughts were wrong.
I have not managed to film for a few months now. I just have not felt able to.
I am planning on coming back but my efforts so far have failed.
Unfortunately for me my anxiety attacks are due to my past and abuse I incurred from my ex partner.
My most recent wobble was due to a fan I had on my Only Fans. This person managed to take my content and do things that have caused me to close my channel down. I went from 50 fans to 0 because it all became too much.
Take all the time you need to heal sweetheart and stay as strong as you can. We are all here for you ❤ xx
I can definitely relate regarding the stress of uploading a video - it’s hard when we judge how successful our video is on the comments and views when they’re not always a true indicator of the effort/thought that went into them.
Thank you for sharing and being so open in your comment, I hope things are getting better for you and that you’re taking the time to heal yourself xx
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This helped alot
love ur vids keep it up!
Thank you!
I agree with this so much.
Trigger warning just in case this is too graphic but I don’t think it is just being safe I guess I technically Benj eat and I don’t know if it’s As severe as yours but I do use food as a coping mechanism when I’m feeling sad or depressed or I had a crappy day because I’m like oh I need to treat myself but it’s not very healthy also I feel like I’ve been in a rut lately for the past couple days or so I’ve been feeling like crap mentally and I’m feeling tired all the time. And I don’t know what I could do to get out of it so any help would be nice
I can relate, it’s so hard to get yourself out of the cycle. Honestly cleaning is super helpful for me as it’s something you can control and gets you moving too. I hope you are doing better since you wrote this, sending love 💕
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👁👄👁 hey there baby cakes😊
Just in time for a good night's sleep 😴
Feeling extra cozy in quiet's corner of the universe. 🌌
Hi! It’s Zach here! I subscribed to my 3rd account! My birthday is tomorrow ❤️
Not everything on life is happiness. There are times we all pass through dark and uncomfortable moments. The key to get through tough times in life is by praying and placing everything in the Hands of God. He is always with opens arms with humanity and He'll certainly help you with everything your facing with 🙌🏻 😇. I'm sure you'll will make it and greetings from Puerto Rico. 😁
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People, who binge eat Quiet are afflicted with low self-esteem.
You know I've been a subscriber of yours for a while now and I would have never thought that you had a eating disorder, i assumed that you were healthy as mule. I know that this video was made 2 months ago so I was wondering has your situation gotten any better?
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Just eat sensibly Quiet be sensible about it.
The Queen, has returned. *Boom* The Lion King credits roll. That means only one thing. SCHLEEP!
I love you’re video!
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I’d say we need to focus on the present rather than the past. Don’t find coping mechanisms, find the root of the problem and try to work on it slowly. One thing that I’ve found is that financial literacy can solve some problems. It gives you something to focus on, makes your feel better as in more knowledgeable and that you can take care of something for yourself. Listen to Dave Ramsey’s baby steps on UA-cam. I personally have a small eBay business and it has been such a blessing of escape for me. I feel so good doing it and I don’t have to feel guilty as this is a good coping mechanism. I have the work on the causes daily. When you don’t have that guilt, that’s a huge weight lifted away. Take care and God bless.
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What is this strange new upload time? 😄
Hahahah idek at this point 🤷♀️