I never felt the famous "ring of fire" when my baby was crowning. It was my first labor, a home delivery, no meds and my baby had a 99% head size. The nurse in the room kept telling me "I know honey, you're feeling the ring of fire and it's totally normal" she said it repeatedly 😠. I finally told her to please stop saying that because I was NOT feeling what she was saying and that was stressing me out. I encourage all women to talk about your positive labor experiences instead of emphasizing the negative moments which are not always true for everyone. It only creates unnecessary fear, especially in first time moms. Labor can be a beautiful event if you really want it to be.
I definitely had the ring of fire in a sense--but it was a relief from contractions. It was a burning sensation but not nearly has severe as I expected. I went into labor underestimating the pain of contractions and overestimating the pain of delivery.
My last baby was a precipitous labor and I gave birth alone in my living room while my other kiddos slept upstairs. As scary as it was initially when I accepted we wouldn't make it to the hospital in time for delivery, it was so much more comfortable and peaceful than my other births just being able to let my body do its thing how it felt best. I delivered her standing and her head came out with a contraction and she was crying before I finished pushing her shoulders out. I nursed her until my parents and paramedics arrived. She was perfect and I didn't tear one bit, I give alot of credit to relaxing and not tensing my muscles in the situation and being able to let my baby and body choose my positioning instead of a doctor.
@@ashleychuks You will be amazing! Your body will do whatever it needs to do in order to get your baby out safely and healthy. I wish you a safe & tear free labor! But you will realize no matter how little or grand the scale of your pain during labor it will somehow instantly leave your mind as soon as you hold your beautiful baby.
Bravo!my due date at 3 weeks,It is my first baby,I don´t want C-section , I will do it natural birth but i have a little bit scarry because i haven´t experience,Can you tell me how i´m prepare myself and my body in these weeks to do easily birth my baby ?thanks
German midwife here: Thank you for this video!! So important for the moms to know this. Especially choosing the right position during birth is so important! Not being flat and horizontal (in supine position on the bed) but upright and in vertical position helps prevent tearing immensely, it also helps bring the baby down much faster and opens up the cervix quicker, due to gravity helping. Thirdly it helps easing the pain, because you are not pushing up (when in supine position you are literally pushing up in the air around you pelvic bones) but when upright you are pushing down, the same direction your baby is heading, which creates less pain. It makes so much sense to choose an upright position! All those movies and videos of women pushing flat on their back with their legs strapped are incredibly unhelpful as a source of information. Please remember this when going into labour and choose positions like standing, squatting, kneeling, all-fours-position or the birthstool. By the way, labouring in water or a water birth are also preventing tears, because the warm water softens the perineal tissue and helps it stretch better!
My last baby was a precipitous labor so I ended up giving birth by myself in my living room while my other kiddos were asleep in their beds 😴 I felt so much more comfortable leaning against something or on all 4s while contracting and I ended up birthing my daughter while standing. Lowered my pants to about my knees which helped to support as I caught her. Then I nursed her until my parents arrived to assist along with the ambulance. I didn't tear at all which I feel has alot to do with not being forced to stay in one (unnatural in my opinion) position.
Thank you for the info! Can you pick your position when you're giving birth at hospital? I'm 6 weeks pregnant, my very first time and I have no idea what to expect tbh.
I had a home birth, no paid meds. Baby came quick, only 9 hours. I didn't tear, and i think that's because i didn't push before i was ready. I felt him come down, then shoot back up a few times before the urge to push was so strong i couldn't ignore it. My biggest tip, don't push when you aren't ready to. Your body will tell you when it is time.
@@rosewolf9355 yes your body gives you the urge to push just like pooping. or many mums even experience Fetal ejection reflex in which you don't even have to push. the baby just pops out with force like the body just does it for you
I m pregnant after a miscarriage last January. Its my first baby so I'm a little scared about miscarrying once again. I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow .. pray for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Praying you have a Healthy Delivery ❤ My first was stillborn, I lost Her last September and I found out on my due date that I’m pregnant again 11weeks Today 🥹✨
Hoping your pregnancy is going well ❤️ I had a miscarriage due to a seatbelt accident last January and I’m now pregnant again, this January. Also so scared of miscarriage, but putting this baby in God’s hands and being as careful as possible.
Amen, I hope you have your rainbow baby this time ❤️ 🥹 I am now almost 21 weeks and my worries about miscarriage have come better... I feel my baby kicking already ❤️❤️❤️
@@brendabenitez7359 I'm actually 2 days away from reaching 30 weeks pregnant.. 🤰it's quite difficult some days but I can definitely say that I'm enjoying the journey... Thank you so much for asking ❤️❤️
Congratulations mommy,my twin boys are 8 years old and now I just found out am 22 weeks pregnant,I have a scan booked later this week to check if it's a singleton or twins
I'm 39 years old 32 weeks and 4 days pregnant with a baby girl first timer too,and I'm so excited and nervous Abt the delivery.But I Know We are covered by the blood of Jesus..
@@vyaptimehra I did. At 39 years old. I stopped trying and gave up and once I didn’t care boom I’m pregnant and it stuck this time. Life is too crazy. It’s better not to want things sometimes lol
A midwife 20 years ago told me to massage my perineum when bathing or showering etc. I have given birth 6x vaginally with the biggest being over 9lb. No tears at all. I don’t know if the massaging helped but I know it hasn’t happened to me. I have also never ‘actively pushed’ I have always allowed the contractions to do the work. One of the other bits of advice I was given was try not to tense up, open your palms when in pain don’t clench the fists.
Thanks for your different videos. I’ve learned a lot. I’m due in 6days I’m scared 😟 first pregnancy 🤰 May the Almighty make it easy for all pregnant mama
I'm 14 weeks and according to the NIPT testing I had done I'm having a girl. This is my first pregnancy my husband and I have been trying for a baby for the last 5 & a half years we was told my husband couldn't have kids so I truly believe this is a miracle baby ❤️🤗
Great advice here! I delivered my daughter without any pain medication and I didn’t tear!!! I breathed my baby down and out!! No pushing necessary. 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@daisyromero2481 on UA-cam there are many trainings on how to do it. I would say it is similar to the breathing technique you use to blow out candles on a birthday cake 🎂
After 10 years of marriage, God bless us with a baby boy. Today I am 38 weeks +3. I have been watching your week to week videos and they are very helpful. My baby is already head down and hopefully don't want C-section. This video was really what I looking for in this phase of my pregnancy. Thanks 😊
Had my first baby delivered virginally on 7 Jan. 2022, and all the nurses said they were surprised with how fast the deliver went, that there was no tearing, and that I delivered naturally. I thought it was just stuff they said at every delivery so took it with a grain of salt, then realized they were being honest after I started telling friends about the delivery and saw they were all amazed as well. I really got lucky! 😬
During my first daughter's labor, I was so worried about tearing and POOPING! Lol I remember the doctor telling me I wasn't pushing enough and I blurted out my 2 fears. They told me not to think about that. I pushed her out a few minutes after that. When I was in the recovery room a nurse that was there during my labor came in and said she wanted to let me know I didn't poop or tear. We couldn't stop laughing.
Im a second time mom but it feels like my 1st! My firstborn was born almost 16 years ago and holy cow! The amount of information available to new mothers is a blessing. Back then it was mostly discussion forums amongst other expectant moms… now I’m overwhelmed with info but super grateful for it all the same. Thank you for posting these videos!
I have had 6 natural births no pain relief and no tears 😊 I squatted for babies 2-6, didn't know about that with my first, it made a massive difference and makes you feel alot more in control.
I’m pregnant with my first. I’m Due in November with a baby girl! I’m a little scared of labor and birth but watching videos like this bring me a sense of comfort.
I’m 35 weeks pregnant , having a boy, this is my first pregnancy and I’m not so terrified however I’m a bit worried based on what everyone else has to say. Trying to prepare myself mentally as best as possible. Thank you watching from 🇯🇲🙏🏽❤️
Congratulations ❤ I was the same 6 years ago! Enjoy the experience and let your body do the work. Remember to breathe and soak up the precious moments. ❤
Honey, don't worry about what everyone else has to say. Everyone has different experiences and different ideas on what the "perfect" birthing plan is. You do what's going to be most comfortable for YOU because the last thing you want is to be freaking out while giving birth. So you do whatever is going to be most comfortable to YOU and don't worry about anyone else. It's just you and your baby that you need to be concerned about.
From Ghana 🇬🇭 in the west Africa 🥰 28 weeks pregnant and it's my second time been pregnant but lost the first one in 12 weeks and days 😢 have not check the sex yet😊praying for safe delivery on my due date 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I just had my babygirl 3 weeks ago on Valentines Day 💖...wish this video came out sooner lol I had tears with her and with my son last Feb, had to get stitched up both times 🥴...but wouldn't change it for the world im super blessed for my miracle babies, praying for safe deliveries for all the mommy's to be out there!🙏🏽
I just delivered my almost 8 pound baby four days ago with no tearing. I laid on my side up on an incline, and breathe him down and out. I’ve slowly pushed twice to deliver his head, then I stopped pushing and waited for my next contraction to slowly push out his shoulders and then the rest of his body. I worked my best to remain calm, and I believe that staying home and working with my body is what prevented me from tearing. Also, my midwife applied a warm compress to me as I was stretching to help the muscles. We got this ladies!
I am 38 weeks pregnant. This is my second pregnancy after having my first son at 30 weeks. He was 2 pounds 10 ounces. And after many miscarriages and one ectopic that resulted in losing my left Fallopian tube , I am grateful to have made it full term. It is just scary to not know what comes after 30weeks and videos like this are so helpful and educational
I have just under a month left in my first pregnancy, and I am TERRIFIED of labor for a lot of reasons including this one. Thank you so much for posting this video, I can't wait to meet my baby girl but *also* can't wait for the "giving birth" part to be over.
@@Paixpeacehippy whew-eee, lemme tell ya! Being pregnant for 9 months feels like it’s NEVER ENDING TORTURE!! 😩 And taking care of a newborn is MADNESS!!! Giving birth is just… eh, over and done with in so many hours. (15 my first time, 12 my second time) There can be worries and complications-nothing is ever guaranteed concern-free-but it’s all worth it. 👨👩👦👦❤️
I had an 11 hour natural birth. I tore a little. Didn’t even feel it. I also didn’t really feel the ring of fire. I encourage everyone to experience a natural birth and to go with the natural flow of your body. Your body naturally pushes for you when you’re ready. I’m 31 weeks with my second and looking forward to this natural birth as well.
When u are in labour what's comes in mind is getting your baby save and we'll , the things like tearing or position of birth doesn't matter , remember u are half mad how can u even think of something s like tearing or whatsoever?
I'm 33 weeks +2 days, this is my first pregnancy after 9 years of trying with my husband I finally got pregnant after having my tubes dyed to look for abnormalities and the procedure actually unblocked my tubes allowing us to get pregnant. Her due date is March 15, 2023 and we're excited (and terrified!) about her impending arrival!
I'm due in January with my first baby girl 🥰 you've convinced me for sure not to get an epidural, as much as I know it's gonna hurt, I cannot agree more that the physical sensations we experience is our bodies communicating with us, and I don't want to prevent that. Feeling pretty nervous about this because it's approaching so quickly, but I know I can do it! 😅
Stick to your guns. Those shots and IV meds don't stop the pain just make you too drunk to complain. Seriously my unmedicated births were less painful. The pain of cuts and tears last months past delivery.
FTM! 37 weeks & 4 days pregnant with a BOY 💙🍼🧸🥰 my journey has been smooth so far so the plan is to have a smooth labor and delivery as well🤞🏾 thanks for the informative video!
First time momma! Due in September! I’m so nervous about labor and delivery but reading the comments has helped a bit. I can’t wait to hold my baby girl!!!
I'm 20 weeks with my second. I had a small labial tear with my first and it truly wasn't that bad. It would sting when I went pee for a couple weeks, but that was about it. My midwife was massaging my perineum with oil the entire time I was pushing. I believe that helped a whole lot
Im 12 weeks pregnant, this is my second pregnancy after my 9 year old boy so I feel like the first time, but very very different. Hoping all you beautiful moms have a healthy delivery ❤
I’m 34 weeks pregnant and expecting my first baby in early August! We are keeping the gender a surprise💜 this video is very helpful and enlightening 🙌🏼 my goal is to consciously breathe and keep my body relaxed and in-tune with my baby during labour! There are some wonderful midwives here in Ireland who are encouraging these practices in labour too!
depends how old you are and what area you’re in. i was in Co Louth when i got pregnant and i was 18, got treated like shit by the midwives and drs. only nice one who treated me like a normal person was the woman who did my first baby scan. due to circumstances i had to move back to england, my home country, with the baby’s dad, who is fully irish, when i was 18 weeks and i’ve been treated so well by my midwife and most sonographers i’ve seen. one even let us hear our daughters heartbeat for as long as we wanted because we hadn’t heard it until i was 24 weeks at my 3d scan, i never even got the option to hear it in ireland and they wouldn’t give me regular appointments to keep an eye on her yet i got given them immediately here in england our daughter is due December 11th and im almost 30 weeks
I'm 30 weeks now with my 2nd child, I'm a little bit nervous, it's been 9 years since I've had my first born but I know I can do it again! God bless everyone.
Hi Diana , I'm a first time mother , I watched your videos week by week , I would like to thank you for everything , it helped me alot. I gave birth on my due date to my beautiful baby girl❤️ and it was normal birth with no tear. I pasted on your videos to a few friends to watch while they pregnant and I really can't thank you enough😊❣️
Had my baby girl almost 11 months ago now, I didn’t tear fortunately and also no stretch marks. Not planning on having anymore, but I think my labor was kind of easy compared to others experiences that I’ve heard. Thank god😭😂
I’m 31 weeks with my first pregnancy it’s been a predominately miserable experience thanks to Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I’m terrified of labor but can’t wait to meet my baby girl 💓
My doctor checked my “push strength” that was never done to me before. She said she wanted to know how to manage me pushing and she told me to push slowly and she would tell me to stop pushing…it was so smooth
This is my first pregnancy! Im 15 weeks, dont know gender yet. Will find out gender next month! ❤️ Thank you for making this video because I was actually in tears last week thinking about tearing when I give birth because my sis in law told me her birthing story and “ring of fire.”
Second pregnancy 14 weeks pregnant, my first ended in a miscarriage. Saw your 13 week pregnancy video, you said there are very few chances of miscarrige this reduced so much of my anxiety and fear. Thank you Diana
I'm 22 weeks in pregnancy, have been watching ur video everyday and it's helping a lot big Up's to all Mum out there❤️
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26 weeks pregnant with a baby boy ❤️ cannot wait to meet him. I have heard stories about tearing from other moms and it kind of scared me, but watching your video calmed me down 🤗
I had my babies 27 and 30 years ago and followed the advice in a book by a well known midwife called Sheila Kitzinger. She had almost exactly the same advice as you so I wonder if you have ever read her book? Perineal massage started at 28 weeks or so meant that I could deliver 2 10+ pounders with my perineum intact both times. My midwife used the warm compress too. I was kneeling up both times which, I believe, gave a controlled descent. Most importantly, I think, I did not actively push and I didn't have anyone screaming at me to do so. Following discussion with my midwife, we agreed there would be none of that nonsense so I just breathed through the contractions and allowed the head to descend and expand the perineum smoothly and gently. I don't recall any "ring of fire" feeling but it was almost 30 years ago! I firmly believe that, if you allow descent to happen as your body intends, the perineum is prepared for the stretching and you are calm, "ring of fire" is not an issue. My first daughter was 10 pounds 3 ounces and the second, 3 years later, was 10 10. I am tall at 5'9 but was not overweight (158 on the day I had #1 daughter) and was tested several times for gestational diabetes as that's a common cause of big babies. No diabetes; they were just big! If you are pregnant now, please be assured that you CAN deliver with an intact perineum but you need to do the preparation and communicate very clearly with your midwife.
I am pregnant with my second baby! My first son was born in December 2020 at a birth center! I had a completely drug-free birth, but I did have a decent tear with my first son, and would love to prevent that during my next delivery!
I am 26 weeks pregnant now and having a Girl. Bless all pregnant women around the world all who is trying for a baby. Hope this new year bring good news to all. Happy newyear 2024🎉❤
Just found out I’m pregnant! I’m a first time mom so I’m super excited and nervous all at the same time. Wishing a smooth and peaceful pregnancy for all🤍🤍
I am 23 weeks with my first baby. I enjoy your Pregnancy week by week series and have been watching each one since I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks! Thank you for your educational content, watching your videos each week help me embrace the changes my body is making ! 💙💙
Im 15 weeks and 4 days its my first pregnancy havent found out sex yet hopefully they can see at my 16 week appointment ❤️ i hope everyone watching has a healthy pregnancy!
My first pregnancy.. 38 weeks pregnant from Thailand… love all ur videos. In Thailand they like to always recommend c-sections.. so love all the information you share.. super helpful during this time
I have been watching all your pregnancy related videos throughout my pregnancy and love all the advice you have for us 1st time moms. I'm 39 weeks and very excited to meet our baby boy!
Just had my first OB appt. First baby - officially 9 weeks and over the mooooon!! Have been watching your videos for a while but finally feeling confident about baby and excited to deep dive on your vids. Probably too soon to really be thinking about tears, but I want to be prepared all the same!! Thanks for all you do.
This was soo helpful. I had really bad tearing, that took a really long time to stich. However, I did not feel that ring of fire that everyone talks about, even though I no pain medication. Currently pregnant with my second.
Hey Diana! I’m 35 weeks, first pregnancy, having a boy named Jonathan and I’m a fellow PA in family medicine :) thanks for being so knowledgeable and sharing all of this amazing information!
I’m a first time mom at 38 weeks and 3 days, expecting a baby girl! I’m very much ready for her to be born 🤧 I’m also worried about tearing as well, because I plan on going all natural. I am hoping to be on all fours or squatting. I have no idea what to expect, what the pain will feel like, so I’m really not nervous about going into labor. Everything is so unknown, so I’m just going with the flow 🤧
Hiya!! New mama here :) been watching you since the beginning of my pregnancy! I’ll be 28 weeks in 2 days with my beautiful, rainbow baby boy 💙 I love all of your advice and information! It keeps my anxiety/panic prone self calm!
This was by so helpful.. about to deliver my third. Did the perineal massage for my 1st and 2nd and never had a tear. Pray this is same cause the baby might be bigger than my 2kids. Thanks 🙏
Thank you so much for this video! I’m 33 weeks with our first baby, which is a boy! We are beyond excited, but I am super scared for tearing, especially since my doctor has informed me my baby has a big head!😐! I have been seeing a Pelvic Physiotherapist and it has been one of the most rewarding and educational thing I have done. Money Well spent!🥰
I had a very traumatic hospital transfer from my home birth. It was my first pregnancy and we planned to have a minimally assisted, unmedicated home birth with plan B being a call into the hospital a 3 minute drive away if any complications arise. After laboring for 22 hours, we checked baby and my son’s butt was coming down -not his head! We immediately called the hospital, told them we’re on the way with a breech birth. I was pushing in the car! It’s was hectic. There was no cord compression! No meconium present when my waters broke. My sons heart rate was normal throughout labor. We were monitored the whole time and we were fine and everything was documented from the time my contractions had started the day before. I just didn’t feel comfortable having an unassisted breech birth. We arrived at the hospital. They looked between my legs and said: yup! That’s a breech baby. They completely freaked out!!! They tried giving me pitocin, they put me on my back! They said my baby was dying! I told them we just listened to his heart 20 minutes ago- it was normal and we handed them the chart we had. They then tried to hook up the heart monitor but I was pushing. They talked about a C-section but my son was already coming out. I was screaming at them just let me squat and help me push him out! They then -all 4 of them- put their hands inside my vagina- stretched me while the 5th person literally just pulled my son out from his hips! My son was not stuck! They didn’t let me push and didn’t believe anything we said! From everything I’ve read about delivery- including breech - it’s hands off the breech until the shoulders are born. Then you guide the head out! What they did was dangerous! My husband was screaming: you’re gonna kill my son! It was terrifying and the pain I experienced as they pulled me open was immense! My son was born with his eyes open and cried almost immediately! We told them we want delayed cord clamping- they cut him right away. I am now 11 weeks pregnant and my son is 4. I told my current midwife what happened. She was upset but told me the staff was probably scared themselves because many are no longer taught how to deliver a breech. I had all my scans and visits up until 38 weeks. My son was overdue but the last scan he was head down. He turned somehow in the last few weeks. This time. I’m getting the extra scans to ensure this baby stays head down. I still have panic attacks when I think about what was done to me and my son. I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and I was sewn up really tight! I couldn’t have sex for months! I had painful sex for the first 3 years. Terrible experience. I’m praying this pregnancy has a redeeming labor and delivery
Omg I'm so sorry you had that traumatic experience 😢 how was your second delivery? I'm considering doing a water birth but scared of any last minute complications and not getting quick enough to hospital
@@SheLightsUptheDark my second was amazing! Early labor started around 11pm (I thought they were practice contractions as I was 11 days from due date) it was around 6am I realized I was woken up every hour by the cramps. Called my midwife around 7am. We tried seeing if a warm bath would slow things down- nope! So we arrived to the birth center around 10:30 to find out I was 7.5cm dilated! My second baby boy was born in the birthing tub at 3:12 pm - minor tearing no stitches required.
I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first. And everyone is scaring me into an epidural, but I was really hoping for a natural birth. I’m just a little worried for tearing, thank you for this video !
Im pregnant with my 2nd baby at 19 weeks and my first labor was all natural, trust me it’s not as bad as everyone says. My pain tolerance is VERY low and surprisingly it wasn’t bad. Not getting a epidural will help your back pain 100x. Not getting the epidural honestly feels like you need to poop but you can’t. (DONT PUSH TILL YOU ARE AT THE HOSPITAL) after I had my 1st son I felt like I could take so much more pain then I did before. Long story short, Go for it!! Congrats you’ll do great!❤
I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant and I'm binge-watching all your videos (more like listening to them while working lol) I hope you create a podcast! Your content's straightforward, fast, and very educational - I LOVE IT! Thank you so much for putting out these info out there for us to learn from. You're awesome!!
I’m 36 weeks this will be my first child I’ve been thinking so much about labor and ready to meet my baby girl 😀. Towards the end of August. Baby was measuring September 2. I’m glad I found your video helpful information
Hi Diana, I watch your week by week videos. I’m 26 weeks with my first baby, a boy. Thank you for all your knowledge, I’ve learned a lot from you already! Hello from NYC!
24 wks pregnant with 3rd baby. Last baby was born 17 years ago. Not as flexible as I use to be so just gathering information on how to decrease my chances of tearing. It's always good to prepare. Thank you for taking the time to make the video
I am 28 weeks and I am so paranoid about tearing rather than the physical pain I’ll endure. I have midwives instead of a doctor and I am just excited to meet my baby boy 🥲 I pray God covers me in labor and delivery the way he has during my period
I’m 35 weeks today and this is my first pregnancy. I’m having a boy, after 15 years of infertility. God has finally blessed us 💙
Congratulations! I had my son after 11 years of infertility as well. 💙
Congratulations amen! I wish a safe deliver!
Congratulations 🥳 enjoy your lil bundle of blessings 🙏🏽💞
That is beautiful!
So happy to hear. God Bless you and the baby. !. THANKS FOR SHARING.
I never felt the famous "ring of fire" when my baby was crowning. It was my first labor, a home delivery, no meds and my baby had a 99% head size. The nurse in the room kept telling me "I know honey, you're feeling the ring of fire and it's totally normal" she said it repeatedly 😠. I finally told her to please stop saying that because I was NOT feeling what she was saying and that was stressing me out. I encourage all women to talk about your positive labor experiences instead of emphasizing the negative moments which are not always true for everyone. It only creates unnecessary fear, especially in first time moms. Labor can be a beautiful event if you really want it to be.
I definitely had the ring of fire in a sense--but it was a relief from contractions. It was a burning sensation but not nearly has severe as I expected. I went into labor underestimating the pain of contractions and overestimating the pain of delivery.
Same here♥️
@@graceandglamor Are you saying delivery wasn't as bad as the labor?
Ring of fire felt amazing to me, in that second I felt no more pain.
Yes exactly! Love it! I can't wait to get pregnant again, and carry my next baby to full term✝️❤
My last baby was a precipitous labor and I gave birth alone in my living room while my other kiddos slept upstairs. As scary as it was initially when I accepted we wouldn't make it to the hospital in time for delivery, it was so much more comfortable and peaceful than my other births just being able to let my body do its thing how it felt best. I delivered her standing and her head came out with a contraction and she was crying before I finished pushing her shoulders out. I nursed her until my parents and paramedics arrived. She was perfect and I didn't tear one bit, I give alot of credit to relaxing and not tensing my muscles in the situation and being able to let my baby and body choose my positioning instead of a doctor.
What an amazing experience.😃 Thank you so much for sharing that with all of us 🙏💜
@@DianaInThePink well if it takes a village to raise a child, then it should at least take a supportive UA-cam community to get through pregnancy 😅🤗☺
Amazing… I am due in a couple of weeks and trust God for no tears…
@@ashleychuks You will be amazing! Your body will do whatever it needs to do in order to get your baby out safely and healthy. I wish you a safe & tear free labor! But you will realize no matter how little or grand the scale of your pain during labor it will somehow instantly leave your mind as soon as you hold your beautiful baby.
Bravo!my due date at 3 weeks,It is my first baby,I don´t want C-section , I will do it natural birth but i have a little bit scarry because i haven´t experience,Can you tell me how i´m prepare myself and my body in these weeks to do easily birth my baby ?thanks
German midwife here:
Thank you for this video!! So important for the moms to know this. Especially choosing the right position during birth is so important! Not being flat and horizontal (in supine position on the bed) but upright and in vertical position helps prevent tearing immensely, it also helps bring the baby down much faster and opens up the cervix quicker, due to gravity helping. Thirdly it helps easing the pain, because you are not pushing up (when in supine position you are literally pushing up in the air around you pelvic bones) but when upright you are pushing down, the same direction your baby is heading, which creates less pain. It makes so much sense to choose an upright position! All those movies and videos of women pushing flat on their back with their legs strapped are incredibly unhelpful as a source of information. Please remember this when going into labour and choose positions like standing, squatting, kneeling, all-fours-position or the birthstool.
By the way, labouring in water or a water birth are also preventing tears, because the warm water softens the perineal tissue and helps it stretch better!
Sehr gut beschrieben. Dankeschön ❤
My last baby was a precipitous labor so I ended up giving birth by myself in my living room while my other kiddos were asleep in their beds 😴 I felt so much more comfortable leaning against something or on all 4s while contracting and I ended up birthing my daughter while standing. Lowered my pants to about my knees which helped to support as I caught her. Then I nursed her until my parents arrived to assist along with the ambulance. I didn't tear at all which I feel has alot to do with not being forced to stay in one (unnatural in my opinion) position.
Thank you for the info! Can you pick your position when you're giving birth at hospital? I'm 6 weeks pregnant, my very first time and I have no idea what to expect tbh.
This!!!! You’re absolutely correct!
Thank you so much for the information shared. I'd definitely try to remember this when I get into labor soon
I had a home birth, no paid meds. Baby came quick, only 9 hours. I didn't tear, and i think that's because i didn't push before i was ready. I felt him come down, then shoot back up a few times before the urge to push was so strong i couldn't ignore it. My biggest tip, don't push when you aren't ready to. Your body will tell you when it is time.
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Thanks for this info I'm scared because it's my first pregnancy
You knew how to cut the ambilical cord yourself? What about removing the placenta?
I very much want to know, just in case it happens to me?
How does your body tell you when to push? Is it similar when you're constipated and you're pushing out a poop? I'm currently at 30 weeks
@@rosewolf9355 yes your body gives you the urge to push just like pooping. or many mums even experience Fetal ejection reflex in which you don't even have to push. the baby just pops out with force like the body just does it for you
I m pregnant after a miscarriage last January. Its my first baby so I'm a little scared about miscarrying once again. I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow .. pray for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Praying you have a Healthy Delivery ❤ My first was stillborn, I lost Her last September and I found out on my due date that I’m pregnant again 11weeks Today 🥹✨
Hoping your pregnancy is going well ❤️ I had a miscarriage due to a seatbelt accident last January and I’m now pregnant again, this January. Also so scared of miscarriage, but putting this baby in God’s hands and being as careful as possible.
Amen, I hope you have your rainbow baby this time ❤️ 🥹 I am now almost 21 weeks and my worries about miscarriage have come better... I feel my baby kicking already ❤️❤️❤️
How are you doing now?
@@brendabenitez7359 I'm actually 2 days away from reaching 30 weeks pregnant.. 🤰it's quite difficult some days but I can definitely say that I'm enjoying the journey... Thank you so much for asking ❤️❤️
I’m 23 weeks today and it is my first pregnancy. I am pregnant with identical twin boys!!!❤️😁
Kayla. Congratulations 💜 My sister had identical twin boys too. She loved every second of it. So excited for you
That's exciting! Congratulations.
Congratulations mommy,my twin boys are 8 years old and now I just found out am 22 weeks pregnant,I have a scan booked later this week to check if it's a singleton or twins
Congratulations!!! My friend is too with two identical girls 👧 also her first pregnancy!!☺️😩
Awww congratulations
I'm watching this video not because I'm pregnant, but because I want to educate myself on this topic. Wishing you all well
same here 🤣😅
I'm 39 years old 32 weeks and 4 days pregnant with a baby girl first timer too,and I'm so excited and nervous Abt the delivery.But I Know We are covered by the blood of Jesus..
Amen!! Congratulations 🎉
I’m 39 too 38 weeks pregnant
Heyy did u conceive naturally?
@@vyaptimehra I did. At 39 years old. I stopped trying and gave up and once I didn’t care boom I’m pregnant and it stuck this time. Life is too crazy. It’s better not to want things sometimes lol
@@vyaptimehra I’m 39 years old and 40 weeks pregnant naturally
A midwife 20 years ago told me to massage my perineum when bathing or showering etc. I have given birth 6x vaginally with the biggest being over 9lb. No tears at all. I don’t know if the massaging helped but I know it hasn’t happened to me. I have also never ‘actively pushed’ I have always allowed the contractions to do the work. One of the other bits of advice I was given was try not to tense up, open your palms when in pain don’t clench the fists.
This probably is 10/10 advice
Thank you for this. First pregnancy here, your comment has made me less nervous
wow.
This is great advice ❤
Thanks for your different videos. I’ve learned a lot. I’m due in 6days I’m scared 😟 first pregnancy 🤰 May the Almighty make it easy for all pregnant mama
God bless my nurse. I pushed for 4 hours and she massaged me the entire time so I wouldn't tear.
Omg bless that nurse. its quite rare for them to do that no?
Im 28 weeks today..super excited to meet my baby boy. Praying for a fast dilation, quick labor, unmedicated no tear birth. 🙏
In JESUS NAME... AMEN 🙏🏽
I'm 14 weeks and according to the NIPT testing I had done I'm having a girl. This is my first pregnancy my husband and I have been trying for a baby for the last 5 & a half years we was told my husband couldn't have kids so I truly believe this is a miracle baby ❤️🤗
Congratulations!! I’m 17 weeks with a boy 😊
Great advice here! I delivered my daughter without any pain medication and I didn’t tear!!! I breathed my baby down and out!! No pushing necessary. 🙌🏽🙌🏽
What position?
Yh what position, because when I had my first baby I got tearing 😥but this time around for my second baby I want to be prepared
I just had mine 2 weeks ago I had a water birth and I breathed too it works 💪
How do you breathe ?
@@daisyromero2481 on UA-cam there are many trainings on how to do it. I would say it is similar to the breathing technique you use to blow out candles on a birthday cake 🎂
My husband and I just found out that we're having our first baby two weeks ago! I'm six weeks along and so excited! Thank you for this video!
Congratulations 🎉
After 10 years of marriage, God bless us with a baby boy. Today I am 38 weeks +3. I have been watching your week to week videos and they are very helpful. My baby is already head down and hopefully don't want C-section. This video was really what I looking for in this phase of my pregnancy. Thanks 😊
I'm 37 weeks pregnant ❤
I'm having a baby girl ❤
Had my first baby delivered virginally on 7 Jan. 2022, and all the nurses said they were surprised with how fast the deliver went, that there was no tearing, and that I delivered naturally. I thought it was just stuff they said at every delivery so took it with a grain of salt, then realized they were being honest after I started telling friends about the delivery and saw they were all amazed as well. I really got lucky! 😬
You took grains of salt?
@@faizahwhite4515 it’s figurative speech
I'm from Ukraine, almost 41 week, it is my first pregnancy. Thank you for your videos!
During my first daughter's labor, I was so worried about tearing and POOPING! Lol I remember the doctor telling me I wasn't pushing enough and I blurted out my 2 fears. They told me not to think about that. I pushed her out a few minutes after that. When I was in the recovery room a nurse that was there during my labor came in and said she wanted to let me know I didn't poop or tear. We couldn't stop laughing.
Those are my two biggest fears as well. I think that is probably everyone’s biggest fear. I’m so happy to hear you didn’t do either one! 🎉
You are so lucky. These are my worst fears too. I'm expecting my first baby and I'm so anxious about the delivery.
Im a second time mom but it feels like my 1st! My firstborn was born almost 16 years ago and holy cow! The amount of information available to new mothers is a blessing. Back then it was mostly discussion forums amongst other expectant moms… now I’m overwhelmed with info but super grateful for it all the same. Thank you for posting these videos!
Am pregnant and I feel nice watching this video .love from zambia . Africa 🇿🇲
I have had 6 natural births no pain relief and no tears 😊 I squatted for babies 2-6, didn't know about that with my first, it made a massive difference and makes you feel alot more in control.
how many squat per day？with weights？
Thank you for sharing your amazing experiences 💜
@@yij9010 Squatting while giving birth it allows for gravity to work so less chance of tearing.
Did you get stiches after your births... ?
@@ayeshaimran6958 No never had any stitches with any of my six labours.
I’m pregnant with my first. I’m Due in November with a baby girl! I’m a little scared of labor and birth but watching videos like this bring me a sense of comfort.
Me to I'm due on the 24th of November
And I'm having a girl
I’m due on the 5th with my first child a baby girl!
Me too ,nov 12 baby girl😄
I hope you had a safe and healthy delivery! 😊
watching these helpful videos are turning my fear into excitement
I’m 35 weeks pregnant , having a boy, this is my first pregnancy and I’m not so terrified however I’m a bit worried based on what everyone else has to say. Trying to prepare myself mentally as best as possible. Thank you watching from 🇯🇲🙏🏽❤️
Congratulations ❤ I was the same 6 years ago! Enjoy the experience and let your body do the work. Remember to breathe and soak up the precious moments. ❤
Same here. At 23 weeks. Praying for no tear delivery by God's grace
@@Goudie08 thank you 🙏🏽❤️
🇬🇾🇬🇾 t story's Scare me
Honey, don't worry about what everyone else has to say. Everyone has different experiences and different ideas on what the "perfect" birthing plan is. You do what's going to be most comfortable for YOU because the last thing you want is to be freaking out while giving birth. So you do whatever is going to be most comfortable to YOU and don't worry about anyone else. It's just you and your baby that you need to be concerned about.
I’m 28 weeks, l am 37 and this our first baby. Lord willing,We are having a baby girl 😊
From Ghana 🇬🇭 in the west Africa 🥰 28 weeks pregnant and it's my second time been pregnant but lost the first one in 12 weeks and days 😢 have not check the sex yet😊praying for safe delivery on my due date 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I just had my babygirl 3 weeks ago on Valentines Day 💖...wish this video came out sooner lol I had tears with her and with my son last Feb, had to get stitched up both times 🥴...but wouldn't change it for the world im super blessed for my miracle babies, praying for safe deliveries for all the mommy's to be out there!🙏🏽
did you get dissolveable stitches and wats the process
I just delivered my almost 8 pound baby four days ago with no tearing. I laid on my side up on an incline, and breathe him down and out. I’ve slowly pushed twice to deliver his head, then I stopped pushing and waited for my next contraction to slowly push out his shoulders and then the rest of his body. I worked my best to remain calm, and I believe that staying home and working with my body is what prevented me from tearing. Also, my midwife applied a warm compress to me as I was stretching to help the muscles. We got this ladies!
Thank you for sharing your experience
I teared both times, I find the pain when the head is halfway out unbearable and therefore push hard every time.
Wear did the warm compress go?
@@bellefairydust she applied it to the perineal area during crowning and pushing!
hey did you do a water birth? if no then is it safe for you to wait with baby's head in air for next contraction to push the rest out?
Pregnant with our first baby, due sept 5! 35+3 today! Can’t wait to meet this baby boy! Thank you for all your videos, they help so much!
wow....i have same date, i guess we will see on the other side, except mine is a girly
Good luck!!!! My partner is due the same exact day here in Australia!
I’m due the day before with a boy😊
I'm being induced September 5th!!! Congrats to you 💜 with a baby boy as well
Awww September 5th is my birthday! Did you have baby yesterday!!?
I am 38 weeks pregnant. This is my second pregnancy after having my first son at 30 weeks. He was 2 pounds 10 ounces. And after many miscarriages and one ectopic that resulted in losing my left Fallopian tube , I am grateful to have made it full term. It is just scary to not know what comes after 30weeks and videos like this are so helpful and educational
So glad you made it to full term this time. I hope you and your family are doing great 🙂
Thanks to God and mother of perpetual help
So happy you had a second baby miracle!
I have just under a month left in my first pregnancy, and I am TERRIFIED of labor for a lot of reasons including this one. Thank you so much for posting this video, I can't wait to meet my baby girl but *also* can't wait for the "giving birth" part to be over.
How did it go?
How’d it go??
Gotta tell ya… pregnancy SUCKED and taking care of a newborn was SO HARD! Giving birth was the easiest part!
@@oatmealtruck7811how did giving birth easier just asking I’m kinda curious lol 😊
@@Paixpeacehippy whew-eee, lemme tell ya! Being pregnant for 9 months feels like it’s NEVER ENDING TORTURE!! 😩 And taking care of a newborn is MADNESS!!! Giving birth is just… eh, over and done with in so many hours. (15 my first time, 12 my second time) There can be worries and complications-nothing is ever guaranteed concern-free-but it’s all worth it. 👨👩👦👦❤️
I had an 11 hour natural birth. I tore a little. Didn’t even feel it. I also didn’t really feel the ring of fire. I encourage everyone to experience a natural birth and to go with the natural flow of your body. Your body naturally pushes for you when you’re ready. I’m 31 weeks with my second and looking forward to this natural birth as well.
Thank you for sharing your experience 💜
When u are in labour what's comes in mind is getting your baby save and we'll , the things like tearing or position of birth doesn't matter , remember u are half mad how can u even think of something s like tearing or whatsoever?
I'm 33 weeks +2 days, this is my first pregnancy after 9 years of trying with my husband I finally got pregnant after having my tubes dyed to look for abnormalities and the procedure actually unblocked my tubes allowing us to get pregnant. Her due date is March 15, 2023 and we're excited (and terrified!) about her impending arrival!
How has it been going?? Any birthing tips?
I'm due in January with my first baby girl 🥰 you've convinced me for sure not to get an epidural, as much as I know it's gonna hurt, I cannot agree more that the physical sensations we experience is our bodies communicating with us, and I don't want to prevent that. Feeling pretty nervous about this because it's approaching so quickly, but I know I can do it! 😅
I'm also due Jan 15, good luck darling! Don't forget to breath!
You have balls I'm fking terrified
With my epidural I didn’t feel pain but I felt the intense pressure!! so when I felt the pressure I pushed
Stick to your guns. Those shots and IV meds don't stop the pain just make you too drunk to complain. Seriously my unmedicated births were less painful. The pain of cuts and tears last months past delivery.
How did it go?! Also due, but this January wondering about the epidural
FTM! 37 weeks & 4 days pregnant with a BOY 💙🍼🧸🥰 my journey has been smooth so far so the plan is to have a smooth labor and delivery as well🤞🏾 thanks for the informative video!
We have the same edd. Also having a boy
If FTM means female to male, I pity your poor child. May God be with them and save them from your sin.
@@FortitudeInMorale2316 Smh, the ignorance.. FTM stands for “First Time Mom”… My child is blessed and highly favored have a good day! 🙏🏽🧿✨
@@FortitudeInMorale2316 idiots are not needed here
@@brialebanks1072 Calm yourself. Simple mistake to make with the insanity of the world.
FTM, currently 33weeks pregnant...watching and loving your videos from Kenya 🇰🇪...i am learning more from you 😍
First time momma! Due in September! I’m so nervous about labor and delivery but reading the comments has helped a bit. I can’t wait to hold my baby girl!!!
Awww hai fellow first time September mum im due in September too and im afraid too but we will be fine
Hi me too first time mom and my due is also in September!!! Good luck to us mommies!!
@@annventures4712 goodluck to us
Am from Uganda and am 32 weeks
I can't wait to meet my bundle of joy
I'm 20 weeks with my second. I had a small labial tear with my first and it truly wasn't that bad. It would sting when I went pee for a couple weeks, but that was about it. My midwife was massaging my perineum with oil the entire time I was pushing. I believe that helped a whole lot
Does it look normal now?
I am 7 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I just found out I have a subchorionic hemmorage so prayers please. Gods got this one.
25 weeks here in Uganda.
Am super excited to meet our little one.
Thanks for the weekly videos.
Im 12 weeks pregnant, this is my second pregnancy after my 9 year old boy so I feel like the first time, but very very different. Hoping all you beautiful moms have a healthy delivery ❤
I’m 11 weeks pregnant with my second and my son is also 9 and feel the same way. I feel like I’m experienced but not at the same time 😅
I'm 23 weeks pregnant with my first baby. It's a baby girl! I'm nervous and excited! Thank you for this video ❤
after trying for 6 year's i finally pregnant 1 months and two days❤
I’m 34 weeks pregnant and expecting my first baby in early August! We are keeping the gender a surprise💜 this video is very helpful and enlightening 🙌🏼 my goal is to consciously breathe and keep my body relaxed and in-tune with my baby during labour! There are some wonderful midwives here in Ireland who are encouraging these practices in labour too!
Glad to know people still keep the gender a surprise. I think it adds to the excitement and emotions of the delivery day.
35 weeks this week and expecting late August. We’re also keeping the sex of the baby a surprise. Fun times :) Best of luck on your delivery!
I hope you and your baby are doing well!
Sooo what did you have and did you avoid vaginal tearing? Blessings to you!
depends how old you are and what area you’re in. i was in Co Louth when i got pregnant and i was 18, got treated like shit by the midwives and drs. only nice one who treated me like a normal person was the woman who did my first baby scan.
due to circumstances i had to move back to england, my home country, with the baby’s dad, who is fully irish, when i was 18 weeks and i’ve been treated so well by my midwife and most sonographers i’ve seen. one even let us hear our daughters heartbeat for as long as we wanted because we hadn’t heard it until i was 24 weeks at my 3d scan, i never even got the option to hear it in ireland and they wouldn’t give me regular appointments to keep an eye on her yet i got given them immediately here in england
our daughter is due December 11th and im almost 30 weeks
I'm 30 weeks now with my 2nd child, I'm a little bit nervous, it's been 9 years since I've had my first born but I know I can do it again! God bless everyone.
Hi Diana , I'm a first time mother , I watched your videos week by week , I would like to thank you for everything , it helped me alot. I gave birth on my due date to my beautiful baby girl❤️ and it was normal birth with no tear. I pasted on your videos to a few friends to watch while they pregnant and I really can't thank you enough😊❣️
You just made my day. Thank you so much💜💜💜
Had my baby girl almost 11 months ago now, I didn’t tear fortunately and also no stretch marks. Not planning on having anymore, but I think my labor was kind of easy compared to others experiences that I’ve heard. Thank god😭😂
I’m 31 weeks with my first pregnancy it’s been a predominately miserable experience thanks to Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I’m terrified of labor but can’t wait to meet my baby girl 💓
I’m 33 weeks with my baby girl and I also have hyperemesis gravidarum! We haven’t got much longer to go, we can do this!🙌🏼
I'm 9w4d first pregnancy took us almost 6 years to get pregnant. I'm so terrified for birth but also so excited to meet our baby 🥰❤
Congratulations 💐🎉🎊
My doctor checked my “push strength” that was never done to me before. She said she wanted to know how to manage me pushing and she told me to push slowly and she would tell me to stop pushing…it was so smooth
We are 28 weeks on the way. This is our first pregnancy and we will soon meet our identical twin boys. I cannot wait! 🥰🥰
This is my first pregnancy! Im 15 weeks, dont know gender yet. Will find out gender next month! ❤️ Thank you for making this video because I was actually in tears last week thinking about tearing when I give birth because my sis in law told me her birthing story and “ring of fire.”
So happy to help😃. And congratulations on your pregnancy 💜
Im also 15 weeks and find out gender next month ! Can't wait
@@brittrichards5337 Wishing you the best mama!
@@lashley_xoxo7538 thank you!! You also
I am 21 weeks pregnant having a baby girl. We are naming her Elora and this is my first pregnancy! I am so excited to meet her 😊
Second pregnancy 14 weeks pregnant, my first ended in a miscarriage. Saw your 13 week pregnancy video, you said there are very few chances of miscarrige this reduced so much of my anxiety and fear. Thank you Diana
This one will end in celebration mommy! Hang in there.
@@ziyandakebeni6739 Thank you Ziyanda, I hope so
I'm 22 weeks in pregnancy, have been watching ur video everyday and it's helping a lot big Up's to all Mum out there❤️
26 weeks pregnant with a baby boy ❤️ cannot wait to meet him. I have heard stories about tearing from other moms and it kind of scared me, but watching your video calmed me down 🤗
I had my babies 27 and 30 years ago and followed the advice in a book by a well known midwife called Sheila Kitzinger. She had almost exactly the same advice as you so I wonder if you have ever read her book?
Perineal massage started at 28 weeks or so meant that I could deliver 2 10+ pounders with my perineum intact both times. My midwife used the warm compress too.
I was kneeling up both times which, I believe, gave a controlled descent. Most importantly, I think, I did not actively push and I didn't have anyone screaming at me to do so. Following discussion with my midwife, we agreed there would be none of that nonsense so I just breathed through the contractions and allowed the head to descend and expand the perineum smoothly and gently. I don't recall any "ring of fire" feeling but it was almost 30 years ago! I firmly believe that, if you allow descent to happen as your body intends, the perineum is prepared for the stretching and you are calm, "ring of fire" is not an issue.
My first daughter was 10 pounds 3 ounces and the second, 3 years later, was 10 10. I am tall at 5'9 but was not overweight (158 on the day I had #1 daughter) and was tested several times for gestational diabetes as that's a common cause of big babies. No diabetes; they were just big!
If you are pregnant now, please be assured that you CAN deliver with an intact perineum but you need to do the preparation and communicate very clearly with your midwife.
This is my first pregnancy. I am now 17 weeks pregnant with a baby boy 💕 Great video
21 weeks having a boy my first baby am scared
I am pregnant with my second baby! My first son was born in December 2020 at a birth center! I had a completely drug-free birth, but I did have a decent tear with my first son, and would love to prevent that during my next delivery!
You can if you read my comment above.Thank you.
Is it hurts so much?
I am 26 weeks pregnant now and having a Girl. Bless all pregnant women around the world all who is trying for a baby. Hope this new year bring good news to all. Happy newyear 2024🎉❤
Just found out I’m pregnant! I’m a first time mom so I’m super excited and nervous all at the same time. Wishing a smooth and peaceful pregnancy for all🤍🤍
Congratulations😃💜
I am 23 weeks with my first baby. I enjoy your Pregnancy week by week series and have been watching each one since I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks! Thank you for your educational content, watching your videos each week help me embrace the changes my body is making ! 💙💙
You are so welcome Destiny. Whatever changes your body goes through will all be worth it once you have that little one in your arms
I am 35 weeks pregnant with a baby girl and a first time mom.
Thank you for your videos. I have been learning a lot. ❤
38 weeks today with my rainbow baby girl 🌈♥️ I appreciate your videos thank you!
All the very best, may God bless you and your baby girl 🥰
Hii I'm Alka Fathima from India,I'm 17 week pregnant now. I'm happy to see all of your videos. Thank you for the valuable informations.
This is my first pregnancy!😨 im 27 weeks & 4days, i am having a boy and I love watching your videos!💙
Same girl!!! This is crazy experience
Im 15 weeks and 4 days its my first pregnancy havent found out sex yet hopefully they can see at my 16 week appointment ❤️ i hope everyone watching has a healthy pregnancy!
39 weeks and 3 days pregnant so nearly there! Thanks for all your videos they've been very helpful.
How was delivery?? Am 39w 3D today
My first pregnancy.. 38 weeks pregnant from Thailand… love all ur videos. In Thailand they like to always recommend c-sections.. so love all the information you share.. super helpful during this time
I have been watching all your pregnancy related videos throughout my pregnancy and love all the advice you have for us 1st time moms. I'm 39 weeks and very excited to meet our baby boy!
You will benefit from 'Birth Canal Widening' to 10cm diameter prior to birth. Please see comment above.
Just had my first OB appt. First baby - officially 9 weeks and over the mooooon!! Have been watching your videos for a while but finally feeling confident about baby and excited to deep dive on your vids. Probably too soon to really be thinking about tears, but I want to be prepared all the same!! Thanks for all you do.
I’m 38+4 with my first baby and terrified of tearing!! Thank you for making this video, watching from Chicago.
You are almost there. So excited for you to hold your little one
Don't worry so much about tearing. If you tear you will heal.
Pregnant with my first! 21 weeks and having a boy :) love your channel
Hi! This is my first pregnancy and I am currently 37 weeks!😱💕
Here to watch for my wife she’s 20weeks 🎉❤ May Allah blessed Al the mothers
This was soo helpful. I had really bad tearing, that took a really long time to stich. However, I did not feel that ring of fire that everyone talks about, even though I no pain medication. Currently pregnant with my second.
Hey Diana! I’m 35 weeks, first pregnancy, having a boy named Jonathan and I’m a fellow PA in family medicine :) thanks for being so knowledgeable and sharing all of this amazing information!
I’m a first time mom at 38 weeks and 3 days, expecting a baby girl! I’m very much ready for her to be born 🤧 I’m also worried about tearing as well, because I plan on going all natural. I am hoping to be on all fours or squatting. I have no idea what to expect, what the pain will feel like, so I’m really not nervous about going into labor. Everything is so unknown, so I’m just going with the flow 🤧
22 y.o. , 34th week, first pregnancy in a foreign country (US) .... excited!!
Hiya!! New mama here :) been watching you since the beginning of my pregnancy! I’ll be 28 weeks in 2 days with my beautiful, rainbow baby boy 💙 I love all of your advice and information! It keeps my anxiety/panic prone self calm!
I am so happy I can help. Congratulations on your rainbow baby 👶 💜💜💜
This was by so helpful.. about to deliver my third. Did the perineal massage for my 1st and 2nd and never had a tear.
Pray this is same cause the baby might be bigger than my 2kids.
Thanks 🙏
I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and it’s my first pregnancy I’m so glad your channel popped up, very helpful and informative ❤️
How do u come to know that you have boy in Womb 😮
Thank you so much for this video! I’m 33 weeks with our first baby, which is a boy! We are beyond excited, but I am super scared for tearing, especially since my doctor has informed me my baby has a big head!😐! I have been seeing a Pelvic Physiotherapist and it has been one of the most rewarding and educational thing I have done. Money Well spent!🥰
I had a very traumatic hospital transfer from my home birth. It was my first pregnancy and we planned to have a minimally assisted, unmedicated home birth with plan B being a call into the hospital a 3 minute drive away if any complications arise.
After laboring for 22 hours, we checked baby and my son’s butt was coming down -not his head!
We immediately called the hospital, told them we’re on the way with a breech birth.
I was pushing in the car! It’s was hectic.
There was no cord compression! No meconium present when my waters broke. My sons heart rate was normal throughout labor. We were monitored the whole time and we were fine and everything was documented from the time my contractions had started the day before. I just didn’t feel comfortable having an unassisted breech birth.
We arrived at the hospital. They looked between my legs and said: yup! That’s a breech baby.
They completely freaked out!!!
They tried giving me pitocin, they put me on my back! They said my baby was dying! I told them we just listened to his heart 20 minutes ago- it was normal and we handed them the chart we had.
They then tried to hook up the heart monitor but I was pushing. They talked about a C-section but my son was already coming out.
I was screaming at them just let me squat and help me push him out!
They then -all 4 of them- put their hands inside my vagina- stretched me while the 5th person literally just pulled my son out from his hips!
My son was not stuck! They didn’t let me push and didn’t believe anything we said!
From everything I’ve read about delivery- including breech - it’s hands off the breech until the shoulders are born. Then you guide the head out!
What they did was dangerous! My husband was screaming: you’re gonna kill my son! It was terrifying and the pain I experienced as they pulled me open was immense!
My son was born with his eyes open and cried almost immediately! We told them we want delayed cord clamping- they cut him right away.
I am now 11 weeks pregnant and my son is 4.
I told my current midwife what happened. She was upset but told me the staff was probably scared themselves because many are no longer taught how to deliver a breech.
I had all my scans and visits up until 38 weeks. My son was overdue but the last scan he was head down. He turned somehow in the last few weeks.
This time. I’m getting the extra scans to ensure this baby stays head down.
I still have panic attacks when I think about what was done to me and my son.
I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and I was sewn up really tight! I couldn’t have sex for months! I had painful sex for the first 3 years.
Terrible experience.
I’m praying this pregnancy has a redeeming labor and delivery
Omg I'm so sorry you had that traumatic experience 😢 how was your second delivery? I'm considering doing a water birth but scared of any last minute complications and not getting quick enough to hospital
How terrible, I'm sorry you had such a traumatic experience.
So sorry you went through this.. how did the second labor and delivery go?
@@SheLightsUptheDark my second was amazing! Early labor started around 11pm (I thought they were practice contractions as I was 11 days from due date) it was around 6am I realized I was woken up every hour by the cramps. Called my midwife around 7am. We tried seeing if a warm bath would slow things down- nope! So we arrived to the birth center around 10:30 to find out I was 7.5cm dilated! My second baby boy was born in the birthing tub at 3:12 pm - minor tearing no stitches required.
Amen
I'm 16 week today and it's my first pregnancy.. I can't wait to see my baby. Wish me good lucl🙏🥰
I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first. And everyone is scaring me into an epidural, but I was really hoping for a natural birth. I’m just a little worried for tearing, thank you for this video !
Im pregnant with my 2nd baby at 19 weeks and my first labor was all natural, trust me it’s not as bad as everyone says. My pain tolerance is VERY low and surprisingly it wasn’t bad. Not getting a epidural will help your back pain 100x. Not getting the epidural honestly feels like you need to poop but you can’t. (DONT PUSH TILL YOU ARE AT THE HOSPITAL) after I had my 1st son I felt like I could take so much more pain then I did before. Long story short, Go for it!! Congrats you’ll do great!❤
@@_Theyloveejayy_ it’s definitely reassuring hearing this from other moms. Thank you so much ! 🥰
Trust your instincts momma!! Don’t let the OBs and medical staff scare you into procedures!!
How did it go?
My son was 8lbs 11oz and no tears at all!!
6 months pregnant with our first. Have been watching your videos throughout this pregnancy. Will be a surprise baby!
I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant and I'm binge-watching all your videos (more like listening to them while working lol) I hope you create a podcast! Your content's straightforward, fast, and very educational - I LOVE IT! Thank you so much for putting out these info out there for us to learn from. You're awesome!!
I’m 36 weeks this will be my first child I’ve been thinking so much about labor and ready to meet my baby girl 😀. Towards the end of August. Baby was measuring September 2. I’m glad I found your video helpful information
Thank you so much. And here's to a safe delivery
Hi Diana, I watch your week by week videos. I’m 26 weeks with my first baby, a boy. Thank you for all your knowledge, I’ve learned a lot from you already! Hello from NYC!
Am 26 weeks too it's a girl
24 wks pregnant with 3rd baby. Last baby was born 17 years ago. Not as flexible as I use to be so just gathering information on how to decrease my chances of tearing. It's always good to prepare. Thank you for taking the time to make the video
I am 31 yo and this is my first pregnancy at 31 weeks!! I am so excited but def. getting mentally prepared 🤓 Thank you for all the info ❤💜
I am 40 weeks and 5 days pregnant, I'm gonna get induced and imma work on my breathing 🙏 I'm praying and hoping for the best.
FTM 26 weeks with a baby girl. Tearing is one of my bigger fears so love this video 😄
You can do this
I had an 11 hour natural birth. I tore, didn’t even feel it. I wouldn’t worry either way.
@@feliciasjourney The only worry I would have is being more loose
I am 28 weeks and I am so paranoid about tearing rather than the physical pain I’ll endure. I have midwives instead of a doctor and I am just excited to meet my baby boy 🥲 I pray God covers me in labor and delivery the way he has during my period
God won't do anything, he is a man! Is you the Goddess giving birth and your body is designed for it!
Not yet pregnant but want to gain knowledge before I take that journey