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  • @MericaKennedy-p8g
    @MericaKennedy-p8g День тому +42

    Ashley seems like a great kid, I am surprised she has not started rebelling yet which would be not uncommon under these circumstances

  • @iluvmusic375
    @iluvmusic375 20 годин тому +29

    The first mum has serious anxiety issues and, ironically, she's the one who needs to grow up and deal with her problems and stop taking it out on everyone else.

  • @lillianfoulkes4084
    @lillianfoulkes4084 День тому +30

    Mom, go to a therapist and get some relief from this fear. You’re not crazy. Fear is real and your need some strategies to help you.

    • @kath7007
      @kath7007 18 годин тому

      Well said

    • @michaelbutler4117
      @michaelbutler4117 6 годин тому

      This mom sounds like my mom. Very similar. Except she hasn’t & won’t get help. I had to teach her how to parent & it just hasn’t been very easy. She doesn’t have post traumatic stress disorder & I have generalized anxiety disorder as a result of being codependent on her all because her mouth pops off every time she worries about me not getting ahead in life. I have to call my mom at least 5 times a day every day & she wants me to stay on SSI.

  • @debbiewill4574
    @debbiewill4574 13 годин тому +7

    I have worked with lots of children and lots of parents. One of my most used comments to parents is that we cannot prepare the road for the child - we must prepare the child for the road.

  • @tammywebb1289
    @tammywebb1289 День тому +27

    The first mom is OBSESSED with overprotecting her daughter!

    • @EliRowell-ht7xv
      @EliRowell-ht7xv 20 годин тому

      Sure but once ur kid is kidnapped it's too late to do anything about it then

    • @DarkMoonGeneral
      @DarkMoonGeneral 18 годин тому +1

      @@EliRowell-ht7xv Her being that way will lead to her being kidnapped because it could lead to her rebelling. She has issues she needs to work out. I grew up in the 90s. A time of stranger danger. But I went many places alone because I was TRUSTED. This mother doesnt trust her kid and with her paranoia shes makng it worse.

  • @bessima59
    @bessima59 День тому +10

    My father was overprotective and growing up I was very shy, lacked self confidence and esteem and still are at 65 yrs of age. This mother should step back and give her daughter some breathing space. As for college, she does not need to obey her parents and live at home. She is classified as an adult and can as she pleases. Mother is too over bearing and doing her daughter psychological harm.

  • @ESLINGERART
    @ESLINGERART День тому +31

    When the daughter turns 18 she needs to move out and begin living.

    • @katherineduke3232
      @katherineduke3232 День тому +2

      Not really an option in today's world unless they are able to go military. I wasn't able to and my brother was BARELY able to. He had to get a special permission or whatever because he has mild scoliosis. My little sister definitely couldn't. She has MS. It took years for her and I to work and work before finally able to move out. We lived with her on and off for several years but we were always working AND going to school while under her roof. I plan to implement the same privledge to our children. If they aren't able to fly on their own at 18, they just need to keep pushing forward and not do nothing while under our roof. Get a job, go to school, or get a trade and as long as my home is respected and there is genuine effort, absolutely they can stay for a while. Kicking them out at 18 in the economy we have been stuck in for so many years is basically setting them up for failure. It's a privledge that not everyone is granted so why wouldn't anyone use that privledge in a positive way

    • @ESLINGERART
      @ESLINGERART День тому +4

      @ people absolutely still leave home at 18 not everyone has parents willing to let them stick around or a victim mentality.

    • @theintrovertedaspie9095
      @theintrovertedaspie9095 День тому +1

      Why? Where did this idea come from?

    • @ESLINGERART
      @ESLINGERART День тому +7

      My daughter started working at 16. Last summer at 17 she was able to pay to live on the east coast and take summer classes at a college she is trying on for size. People can still earn money and do whatever they want. I moved out at 18 and haven’t taken money from parents since that time. I am teaching my daughter to have that same independence and drive to go after big goals. It’s very possible if you do not put your mind in a little box of I can’t.

    • @Nicetrypal69
      @Nicetrypal69 День тому +5

      I moved across the country away from my family at 18. Alone, with no help. I started working immediately and later put myself through university. That was 8 years ago-things have changed since then, but not by that much. It’s definitely possible.

  • @blue_moon6490
    @blue_moon6490 11 годин тому +1

    Ashley is very compassionate and resilient. She loves and respects her mother very much. I am so grateful her mother is getting the help she needs and so is Ashley. Good luck! ❤

  • @alwaysthesleepless1
    @alwaysthesleepless1 20 годин тому +9

    The first mother was overbearing to the point of obsession. Poor 14 year old to have to put up with that.

  • @lillianfoulkes4084
    @lillianfoulkes4084 День тому +8

    It’s very hard not to worry with 300,000children trafficked this past year. It’s also hard to let go and let children develop confidence! But you must do it. There are wonderful people in our world Concentrate on that and teach your children to be aware of what’s happening around them. Be brave moms!

  • @CarolLustgarten
    @CarolLustgarten 22 години тому +11

    Ashley needs to go to college away from home. Live in a dorm and experience life as a normal college kid. Make friends. Get involved in college activities and do well in school and meet cute guys.😊😊😊. Don't allow that mother to control her. Bad news. Not 😣 helpful.

    • @rogertaylor7433
      @rogertaylor7433 13 годин тому +1

      Ashley will be exposed to EVERYTHING different from her home life. If she doesn't get to experience things at home, first, she'll go "hog wild and pig crazy" away from home for college. She WILL end up pregnant, drugged out, and an alcoholic if she goes off to school, like how things are right now. It's what happened to one of my sisters because our mother was super overprotective. I was two years older and lived at home and went to community college each day for my college education. I still ended up screwy, but my sister had it worse going away to Virginia Tech....Horrible.

  • @bethany45101
    @bethany45101 17 годин тому +1

    My mom parented like the first mom and I rebelled constantly as a teenager. It drove me absolutely crazy that she wouldn’t trust me enough. I had absolutely zero privacy or freedom.

  • @gloryakiepper7918
    @gloryakiepper7918 День тому +8

    First mother needs help. Helicopter moms are the worst. At 18 move away.

  • @tasukifan2128
    @tasukifan2128 День тому +7

    Excuse me lady, you need to get help, you are a helicopter parent and need to let you daughter go out on her own, let her make mistakes like missing the bus or go on the wrong one if she’s lost she can go to ether a police officer or some owner of a shop and ask for help. She needs to go out with friends and go to the cinema or go bowling. When I was 13 I went out every Saturday with my friends and we went out shopping and get a nice hot chocolate in the winter time. When I was older my parents told me to be safe and have fun. I never drink, smoke or take drugs. My friend who lived just eight minutes away from my home we always walked half way back to each of our homes and text when we got back to our parents homes. So long story short, let you child go out in the world and get confident

  • @kathybrem880
    @kathybrem880 13 годин тому +1

    Got news for you Phil, I’ve found that to a huge degree this mom is RIGHT!!

  • @janeelfgren
    @janeelfgren День тому +15

    That mom need psyciatric help. She is silly!😡 Poor husband and children to have her under the same roof.👎
    The worse is that she don't seems to understand how sick she is, she only laugh about her stupidity😢
    MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and your family Dr Phil.🌟☃️🎅🤶🧑‍🎄❄️🔔🎄🇸🇪

    • @ESLINGERART
      @ESLINGERART День тому +1

      @@janeelfgren her laugh sounds like an admission of guilt. Some people are immune to help. I can’t imagine the husband that would sign up for this.

  • @MusikGirl23
    @MusikGirl23 День тому +3

    Yup. That was my mom. It didn’t help I am very short due to turner syndrome, I had to fight for every single thing like taking the city bus home in grade 8, when at least half my grade was taking it home in grade 7…(age 12). Or the babysitter after school situation when I was 10…for 15-30 minutes of care. All I did was sit and do homework or read a book…exactly what I would have done at home. My sister who got sidelined with a lot of responsibility on me was actually one of my greatest advocates, she was 4 years older than me and didn’t like having to stick around during spare periods to bus home with me, or pick me up from the sitter’s place. Her overprotective nature until she died when I had just turned 20, drove me crazy, and was definitely more from fear than actual needs..

  • @daphaneshultz5136
    @daphaneshultz5136 17 годин тому +1

    As a mom of 2 grown daughters, you have to give them the tools to trust their instincts and let them out in the world. I stressed that if a little voice inside your head tells you something isn't right to walk or run away. You have to learn to trust that you have taught your children well and let them go. It is ridiculous of how many adult children are dependent on their parents!

  • @Jen-KJV1611
    @Jen-KJV1611 2 години тому

    In this day and age, this mom isn't too far gone. The girl should be thankful her mom keeps her safe and loves her as much as she does. So much bad stuff anymore that kids can't be kids.

  • @dianemoxon9809
    @dianemoxon9809 2 години тому

    Am I the only person that feels deep compassion and empathy for this poor mother? My own personal experience is that certain behaviors can arise from past traumatic experiences. If your brain has kept it as a secret, possibly until you're ready to deal with it, you can be completely unaware of the event that drives your fear. If anybody comes up behind me, and gets close without me being aware, I jump, whirl and even run or strike out. Of course I am pursuing counseling, but was absolutely shocked and disbelieving when I was told that I had PTSD. My family is completely supportive and understanding, they make every effort not to approach me suddenly or from behind, and they have only encouraged me and shown me love and caring. Maybe this mother can pursue counseling and her family can try to be kinder

  • @klover6975
    @klover6975 19 годин тому +1

    Be grateful. At least she cares. It’s a very sick world. She could find ways to relax a little. One day when she has child maybe she will then understand.

    • @DarkMoonGeneral
      @DarkMoonGeneral 18 годин тому +2

      When you get to the point where your kid is that miserable its not caring any more. I get it the world is dangerous but her mother doing this is going to make that childs life worse not better.

    • @KathleenDoyle-og9ug
      @KathleenDoyle-og9ug 16 годин тому +1

      Good God u want the daughter to stay under wraps TILL she has kids pf her own???? U need help also!

  • @MericaKennedy-p8g
    @MericaKennedy-p8g День тому +4

    That 43 YO, no wonder she is divorced. Hubby probably could not take mom’s constant control.

  • @mizzekp
    @mizzekp 12 годин тому

    They did an update episode on Ashley and Teresa when Ashley was 18.
    She was still overprotective and Ashley talked about how much she hated having to deal with it

  • @reynaolvera7526
    @reynaolvera7526 15 годин тому +1

    More like controlling. Rich and entitled. “Weirdos on the bus.” Or regular people who have jobs. Ugh mom needs a job

  • @DarkMoonGeneral
    @DarkMoonGeneral 18 годин тому +2

    I know this video is from a while ago ( I want to say early 2000s) And this mother is a freaking lunatic.
    I grew up in the 90s, and do you know I went pretty much everywhere by myself? My grandma is like if something changes just call me let me know. And we didnt have cellphones we had pay phones. I Rode my bike, went to stores, the libaray , the movies, McDs ect guess what ALONE! Because guess what we were taught to whats that word TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES. The first 'mom' aka the crazy one is going to hold on too tight and her daughter when she come of age may never talk to her again and guess what it will be the mothers fault. I also think the mother was afraid of losing control over her daughter.

  • @nicolettemoore7711
    @nicolettemoore7711 17 годин тому +1

    If more parents parented the same as previous generations the children wouldn't know any different would have consistency and grow up to be fine.

    • @tlovely1628
      @tlovely1628 14 годин тому

      Your comment assumes that children only just began to be molested, kidnapped, or murdered.

  • @Babushkatt
    @Babushkatt 12 годин тому

    The little girls face and then immediate look to her mom after hearing the other ladies situation is still happening when shes 43 omg lol

  • @landonmiles97
    @landonmiles97 Годину тому

    Gotta be honest, I went to community college for two years and lived at home. It was great. No bills or worries about what to cook for dinner. But, still, first mom was… a lot.

  • @deborahdennehy9937
    @deborahdennehy9937 14 годин тому

    I felt very sorry for the elderly lady watching out for her daughter (43), as she had once been caught by burglers & understandable for her but obviously also needed help as well as the other lady with her daughter aged 14. Life can be very difficult at times. I could write a book about my life & children - but off limits unfortunately.

  • @CarlaPreston.
    @CarlaPreston. 21 годину тому

    My mom was also over protective of me as I was a very sickly child. It was only when I was 27 that I found out I have turners syndrome. Clumsiness is one of the symptoms.

  • @Daleeather1975
    @Daleeather1975 День тому +2

    The first mother is going
    to loose her daughter. So why doesn’t the daughter go to do self defend classes. Definitely change all her passwords to stops her over Protectiveness
    and or the daughter will
    get rebellious. Maybe put
    a Shock collar on the mother.

    • @KathleenDoyle-og9ug
      @KathleenDoyle-og9ug 16 годин тому

      Lol whats the shock collar going to do? Unless the daughter can control it to sap her mom when shes hovering!😅

  • @CarolLustgarten
    @CarolLustgarten 22 години тому +2

    So happy happy 😊 I never had kids.😊😊. It is a full time chore taking care of myself. 😊😊

  • @MericaKennedy-p8g
    @MericaKennedy-p8g День тому

    Amazing what trauma can do and affect a person for years without help.

  • @gracegeltmacher9878
    @gracegeltmacher9878 9 годин тому

    I couldn't put up with this mother this woman is 43 years old and the mother isn't letting the daughter live her own life it just makes me sick to see how insecure these mothers are

  • @landonmiles97
    @landonmiles97 Годину тому

    Gotta be honest, I went to community college for two years and lived at home. It was great. No bills or worries about what to cook for dinner. But, still, first mom was a little much.

  • @bridgetlyons876
    @bridgetlyons876 18 годин тому +1

    What an adorable girl in first story.

  • @psalm421
    @psalm421 День тому +1

    I’d love to see an update with this first mom

  • @ZeroFrogsHere
    @ZeroFrogsHere 11 годин тому

    Wouldn't be surprised if the first kid hit 16-17 and completely rebelled. That mother is projecting her anxiety issues onto her kids and needs serious help

  • @Rat_Queen86
    @Rat_Queen86 12 годин тому

    The first mom at least acknowledges that there is an issue and she wants to change

  • @gracegeltmacher9878
    @gracegeltmacher9878 9 годин тому +1

    LET HER GROW UP INSTEAD OF CODDLING HER 😡 IF YOU KEEP IT UP SHE WILL RESENT YOU

  • @loveislove-le5nj
    @loveislove-le5nj День тому +1

    My parents were leaving me home alone when I was 10, and I was on the bus by middle school.

  • @Theresa-r8y
    @Theresa-r8y 17 годин тому

    I still do this. He’s 25 and hasn’t lived with me since he was 18. Yikes!!!

  • @gracegeltmacher9878
    @gracegeltmacher9878 9 годин тому +1

    Man I'll tell you something now I didn't have that kind of a mom I had the total opposite I know she loved me but this is too much these mothers are way too much way too much I didn't have a close relationship with my mom at all until she got sick and died when she got sick I went down to where she lived for 2 weeks and was with her but we were never close and these mothers are just ridiculous they live their life now they need to let their children live theirs that's the problem you lived your life lady like the other lady lived her life how you need to let your kids live their lives

  • @cupcakesrgreat78
    @cupcakesrgreat78 День тому +4

    I was strict in comparison to today's standards, not overbearing. I did occasionally go through their text messages, Facebook messages, etc... I didn't read all their messages with their friends, just scanned through them to make sure there was nothing alarming. I do remember telling my kids that my responsibility to protect them absolutely supercedes their right to privacy.

    • @MeowLikesGuns
      @MeowLikesGuns День тому +2

      im sorry but if theyre past the age of 16 you should give them some privacy

  • @freyamccauley
    @freyamccauley День тому +1

    Dr Phil didn't help by agreeing to her fear.

  • @gracegeltmacher9878
    @gracegeltmacher9878 9 годин тому

    Yeah keep cuddling your kid we'll see how far that gets you

  • @slimgym45
    @slimgym45 День тому +3

    That mom always assumes the worst is going to happen. She is so insufferable 😩

  • @RKlove88
    @RKlove88 21 годину тому

    Mom needs to find a hobby! Good grief! I get protecting our kids but she's ridiculous!

  • @WickedBoston444
    @WickedBoston444 День тому +1

    Socialize our children I was allowed to do nottttthing no jr high dances there would be drugs etc....smh fkd me up!

  • @Daleeather1975
    @Daleeather1975 День тому

    The second over protective is a controlling and will cause the daughter to
    block Her mother.

  • @mssmiles0503
    @mssmiles0503 День тому +2

    The first mom and the daughter are annoying.

  • @rabbitcaroline666
    @rabbitcaroline666 23 години тому

    That obsession is child abuse.

  • @gracegeltmacher9878
    @gracegeltmacher9878 9 годин тому

    SHE'S GOING TO RESENT YOU SO ENJOY

  • @TheGeniusStyle
    @TheGeniusStyle День тому

    Dr Phil you got to revisit Jesse Lee Peterson. This is what he's trying to teach people.

  • @sarahm8695
    @sarahm8695 День тому +1

    Props to the first mom to realize that she needs help and understanding that she's being unreasonable and accepting help. She's not a bad mom in my book, she just needs help and therapy

  • @Timo-v5l
    @Timo-v5l 16 годин тому

    Yea how about putting some pants on? That would be step 1 in protecting yourself or your 14 yo daughter.

  • @tisketisja5528
    @tisketisja5528 23 години тому +1

    How horible to live in a country where you have to be scared walking down the street or where you're kids cant play outside. That god I live in Europe. My kids can play outside and I dont have to be scared to walk down the streets even after dark

    • @sandradee1579
      @sandradee1579 14 годин тому

      This has nothing to do with living in the US. The issue here is the mother's need for control teen & adult daughters. I've got family in Europe, not all sections are safe there either? There's no Utopia.

  • @SantanaCampbell
    @SantanaCampbell 9 годин тому

    GOD JUSTIFIES OVERPROTECTIVE MOMS FOREVER!

  • @AotearoaAnge
    @AotearoaAnge День тому +4

    Really?? Weirdos on the bus?? Look in the mirror, lady. 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @ellababin765
    @ellababin765 День тому +1

    The child molester a crescent away would make any mom super paranoid!!!!!!

  • @EricaMariah
    @EricaMariah 11 годин тому

    Mom needs a man

  • @RachelMacKrell5109
    @RachelMacKrell5109 День тому +3

    Why does a 14 year old have emails?

    • @shelm-b8p
      @shelm-b8p День тому +3

      If wouldn’t have email then she wouldn’t have gotten her homework during Covid.
      I find that question funny.
      So your kid is not allowed to write her friends and family?

    • @mariealar6886
      @mariealar6886 17 годин тому

      Very old episode . It first aired in 2006 .

    • @rizumu-8937
      @rizumu-8937 11 годин тому

      @@shelm-b8pwow, i’m a ‘98 baby but you really have 0 grasp on the reality back then. email is how people used to communicate, like writing a letter to your friend with a pen and paper but electronically… hence the term “e-mail”

    • @shelm-b8p
      @shelm-b8p 9 годин тому

      @@rizumu-8937Aren’t you confusing me with the original post?
      I am absolutely pro email. My daughter had email right away because her family lives in Germany and Ecuador. Of course email is the way to go.
      Btw I also never restricted any social media but rather talked about what to watch out for. She is now 25 and still we discuss everything. I believe that’s the way on how to keep your kids safe.

  • @lukazszudarski2527
    @lukazszudarski2527 15 годин тому

    People are suppose to get hurt. That’s how you are suppose to grow.

  • @TheGeniusStyle
    @TheGeniusStyle День тому +1

    This is the reason Jesuses mother Mary is looked up To.
    Let your kid go. Even if you see how dangerous the world is.
    If you don't they'll fail at doing what God needs them to do.

    • @DarkMoonGeneral
      @DarkMoonGeneral 18 годин тому

      Your comment would have been perfect. Til you mentioned god. He she or it isnt real. And he she or it isnt a matter here. We are talking about REAL people not cloud god. .

  • @lizespinoza1756
    @lizespinoza1756 День тому +1

    I have a 13yrs old 14yrs old boys and 17 year old girl sorry not sorry my kids don't go anywhere with out me.. the only time they away from me or when they are in school I don't care how anyone feels about it

    • @sandradee1579
      @sandradee1579 13 годин тому

      You're suffocating them by doing that? You're denying them independent & social time with their teen friends because you're always in their space. You've got to know your boundaries.

  • @christinengo9153
    @christinengo9153 День тому +1

    That skirt is too short for her age

  • @deanfish-jr6xv
    @deanfish-jr6xv 11 годин тому

    Psychotic women

  • @lorrainebarry7184
    @lorrainebarry7184 День тому

    a lot of children her age go missing I'm with the mother some kids are just allowed to do their own thing and bad things do happen social media has made this world dangerous or maybe her mother like myself had something awful happen to her as it did me and if that has happened to the mother she doesn't want the same to happen to her daughter if you have been through that experience then your instincts is protect your children more so than somebody that hasn't experienced something bad happen to them when they were a child it's not that she doesn't trust her daughter she doesn't trust what could happen to her daughter I hope this explains why the mother is like it

    • @livingin1984
      @livingin1984 День тому +1

      I mean this respectfully, use proper grammar. Your lack of any punctuation makes your comment really hard to read.
      Sorry, you have experienced trauma. I hope you seek help. That said, being like that first mother is a great way to make your child rebel and that makes them a bigger target for predators. There is a balance in protecting your child and allowing them to experience the world and grow. Not allowing them to do anything and telling them "the boogy man WILL get you" is setting them up for failure to become responsible, productive members of society and/or for crippling paranoia. Or its going to make them do the exact opposite of what you say, become naive (they wont believe bad things happen, just that you exaggerate) which makes them more vulnerable.

  • @danabelden4492
    @danabelden4492 День тому

    Omg yes I know and going threw it

    • @freyamccauley
      @freyamccauley День тому

      Stop blaspheming. Use your mothers name.

  • @michelleowens2282
    @michelleowens2282 День тому

  • @kauaiank4537
    @kauaiank4537 День тому +1

    That mother the first mother has very crazy eyes I bet you she's a Karen in the derogatory term.
    That mommy psychological help as well as she's going to ruin her relationship with her child the worst the child will tell her nothing in kids should be able to tell their parents anything you want your child to tell you things

  • @Jayson-v54g
    @Jayson-v54g День тому +2

    Can we blame her for being over protective With all the predators and phycos in the world?! This little girl doesn't realize just how dangerous our world really is!! ❤ Let her watch the Elizabeth smart story and let's see her reaction then!!