Ya I personally hate this narrator I used to wonder why the comments always trashed this specific narrator but now I know why he’s judgmental he tends to always think even those who did nothing did something wrong honestly just use the yellow and blue narrators not this guy
Story 8: What the hell, Narrator?! A boundary is a boundary is a boundary. Doesn't matter WHEN it was put in place! And the ex-wife trampled all over his boundaries!
Actually had to pause the video and check the comments to see if anyone else was annoyed at narrator's unnecessary, silly opinions. I wasn't disappointed.
Nope nope, hard disagree on that "no secrets in a marriage" thing. This is trauma that could not be expected or accounted for beforehand, and he has just as much a right as ANYONE to keep his trauma to himself until he's ready to talk about it. I swear to God if this is another double standard that changes with the victims gender-
Exactly. No matter what kind of relationship you're in, they're always has to be boundaries of some sort. If your and one partner specifically tells you that one thing and one thing only is off limits, then it should be taken with theutmost seriousness. that the guy's wife not only violated his privacy, but then had the nerve to act like it wasn't a big deal is proof of how untrustworthy she was. If the narrator was trying to see her side in this problem, it's probably because he would do the same thing. Because let's just keep it 100% G, there is NO excuse on this planet for telling your partner "oh, you're not over that rape thing, yet.
@SnowyWolborg I understand him wanting to try and understand her side of things, considering how horrifically baffling what she said was, and we're constantly trying to understand everything around us. Heck, I keep a personal journal where I write down a lot of psychological things that catch my interest. It doesn't make him not wrong, but I wouldn't necessarily say that he would do the same thing. Just that he has an unhealthy view on relationships, and should probably work on that in therapy.
Story 31: gonna softly disagree. If OP is old enough to receive a credit card and get something from a university, they're old enough to not have their parents opening their mail. Yes maybe it's 'legal' if OP is a minor but that doesn't make it 'right'. Minors, obviously to an extent, have a right to privacy. They don't need to be "hiding" anything just because they don't want their parents opening their mail. Unless OP has done something dangerous and/or illegal in the past, there should be trust and respect between a parent and their kid enough not to open each other's mail (unless given case by case permission).
I want to double down on that. Even if OP is a literal child, unless they have history of involving themselves in shady stuff parents should not open it, preiod. If it looks suspicious, then open it with the child and use that as an oportunity to explain potential dangers. Children are still humans and as parents we do not want them to grow up in an environment where they feel they cannot be trusted with anything or are not entitled to basic respect or their privacy. I'll leave aside that OP sounds like a late teen at least. The only justification would be if OP has some serious history.
@@ScumRat42sometimes opinions are unpopular because theyre wrong. Like people having the opinion that the earth is flat or that sons are better than daughters.
STRONGLY disasgree with the narrator's thoughts on story 8. Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean that you have to tell your partner every secret you've ever had. Part of having a good relationship with your spouse is respecting boundaries, and thinking you're owed to be told ALL of your partner's secrets is a MASSIVE red flag. Takes like this are why I like the old narrator rather than this one. Edit: His take on story 57 also sucks. He said that OP is playing the victim more than her mom, which is a really shitty take imo. OP never said that she demanded her mom break up with her abusive partner, she said that as long as they're together, she can't see her grandkids, which is totally different.
I think they both read well and are entitled to their own opinions, and that everyone has the right to define the terms within their relationships. Each of them have given valid insights per particular stories that I've appreciate though.. no one will ever be perfect.
Agree with you it’s one thing to openly have a journal of secret trauma and another thing to have a secret journal. OP was very open while still having boundaries
@@AstralAlpaca I would ask the same, most of his opinions are understandably justified, and some of these stories sounds like the the start of a classic AITA post, and 9 times out of 10. The OP Is genuinely in the wrong.
hard disagree on that. it's okay to keep trauma related secrets from your loved ones if you're not ready to share them. snooping will only worsen trauma and make it harder to recover from. if you can't trust your spouse to respect your wishes even if it means not knowing something they're not ready for you to know, then who CAN you trust?
@@oSamiSrzo they don't every story, but after some of the stories the narrators will give their comments on the story. Unfortunately, this guy has repetitively said some really sexist stuff or was rather victim blame-y. :/ So while I support the other narrators, this one will give really bad opinions sometimes. 😅
@@oSamiSrzo"if a girl is trying to get alone with you she's trying to get in your drawers" was definitely something this dude said 10-20 minutes into their video "when did you see a so called alpha male put in their place" This dude is a sexist dumbass.
@@ScumRat42 or maybe I just don't wanna watch videos I know are gonna actively piss me off? Watching UA-cam is what I do to decompress, I don't wanna be pissed off while trying to relax.
Actually I don’t think it’s healthy for partners to know every single detail about each other’s mental health struggles and trauma. Some things are just private, even in marriage, and sometimes it’s distressing to talk about something and it’s better to save it for therapy, where a professional is there to keep you safe. Really bad take, and it’s honestly kinda concerning
Them Snooping ment you where right not to tell them!!!! Having lived before the relationship and having trauma from it is not like cheating or embaselment of shared funds, it is so absolutely no ones buisness until you are ready talk about it
@@SingingSealRianaYup ! It just shows that he was right in not trusting his partner enough to tell her. There was a reason he didn’t tell her about it, and she made that reason very clear
Assuming OP is an adult living in America it is illegal to open or destroy mail that is not addressed to you. It’s a felony and could result in jail time. It doesn’t matter if she’s still living in her mothers house. That doesn’t give her mother the right to open OP’s mail
Narrators opinion on Story 57 is so forking stupid. Its her child, she can set boundaries if she wants, if she doesnt want her mom to see her kid because of her boyfriend then thats justified, like wtf?
Story 57: Really bad take dude and you have a lot of them in this video. The daughter wasn’t saying the mum had to break up with her partner to see the grandchild she was just saying that the partner can’t be around the grandchild. I use to watch this channels videos all the time and looked forward to watching the newest video but ever since green narrator came on the screen I’ve been avoiding UnderSparked’s videos.
1:52:19 OP explicitly says the partner is abusive and that her mom can see the grandkids as long as he’s not around. is the narrator trying to say stupid stuff ???
While I see where you’re coming from, Trauma takes a long time to heal. Sometimes you are not ready to speak about the details until much much later with those close to you. Once he told her that note book was private that should have been the end of it, she broke his trust and he did the right thing by leaving. If she’s willing to snoop about his trauma and go through his phone WHILE HES SLEEPING what the hell else would that woman do? She sounded like she had too many issues herself with trust and does not need to be in any sort of relationship. Judging by her reaction too it’s clear she didn’t care about his feelings, it wouldn’t have mattered if they discussed it before hand either because according to OP she legit said “I thought you’d be over your trauma by now.” Who says that?
My husband and I have been open with each other about traumatic events in our lives before we met, but nobody should ever feel obligated to share their trauma with anyone, even their spouse. If it's not going to be beneficial to your healing, don't do it.
I really hate when people say "you should never hide anything from your partner" because it often leads to blaming a victim for not telling their partner something that doesnt effect the partner in any way
The polyamory comment sounds like '' i don't understand gay people, there for you don't have the right to get married or have children'' Also THIS IS NOT POLYAMORY!!!! Polyamory comes from both sides.
Yeah. I'm poly. and we're all happy. Healthy communication and everything. Would be a lie to say that it's all sunshine and pink clouds, but no relationship is. And like you said, it's like telling someone they doesn't understand someone's sexuality. Poly is a sexuality, not something you necessarily choose.
For real. As a married polyamorous person with a husband, girlfriend and living with my husband's NB partner as well, the only reason we don't have kids is lack of space and finances. If we had kids, all of us would parent them and they would be the luckiest kids in the world (until they got in trouble lol). My ex bff had this kind of abusive fake poly relationship with her husband. She could have girlfriends and boyfriends and sleep around, but the moment he dipped one toe into the relationship pool she wanted to close the relationship and called cheating. This story is abusive poly, where she didn't ask him but told him she would be sleeping around and if he so much as raised a boundary he was abusing her and the moment he actively tried to find someone suddenly she projects her failures onto him. Boundaries are absolutely healthy and should be agreed upon by both sides before any life changes. My polycule's main boundary is any new partners get tested before anything happens. Secondary boundary is keep our home safe for everyone, anyone new needs everyone's permission to visit. Third boundary is communicate any changes to routine. If you're going out for dinner, let us know so we don't wait up sort of thing. Let us know where you're going so we know what to tell the cops if you don't come home. We're family, we care.
Im gonna say this as politely as possible. Narrator, u were a sheltered child. I know too many people who once they turned 18, had to call multiple agencies because their parents took out credit cards in their names and RUINED their credit before they were old enough to have credit.
Ugh, I was trying to come around on this guy, but I just can’t. Had to go and ruin it bad in this video. Hope the other narrator comes back and I’ll check and see periodically still.
With story 22. That's not poly, that was 'justified' cheating by the wife with a 'words for me but not for thy' attitude. That's why she goes feral when the husband finds love. Poly is about love first and foremost. Me and my husband are poly, we aren't on the same level for somethings. He gets what I can't match with his boyfriend and I'm poly for the leftovers :9 I'm of course welcomed to find a partner but I don't feel the need but enjoy not having to worry about lines between friends and close friends ^^
Story 52: YES! That is an IMMENSE breaking of autonomy and outright RUINING the characters that the players made. If I found out that a DM of mine was pulling that kind of shit, I'd tell the entire group and let them go off on the DM. Not to mention I'd complain to the store and get his license to run AD&D games revoked.
I think what you have an issue with it people getting married, then revealing they are Poly, then pressuring people to be poly. Not people getting into relationships with an understanding that they are both poly. Is that right, or am i wrong?
Narrator really needs to keep his poorly formed opinions to himself. I'll only address the most basic one by saying does it matter if the op is a minor or adult living at home to make it wrong that the mother went to punch them? Also obv they're not a minor. They're in university and had a new credit card. So super illegal and wrong
Are we just going to ignore the fact that story 28 is the plot to Charlie and the Chocolate Factory?? I miss the only narrator, at least his takes made sense
The dude from Trapt will criticize something and then get his panties in a bunch when people call him out. One of the internets biggest crybabies right now.
Oh god, the DnD one. I'm making a separate comment from my original for this. As someone who plays with old college friends, yes! It's a valid reason to get angry. You're supposed to have fun. It's something you prep for and typically play for about 3 hours at a time, unless there is another preset time agreed upon by the group. Everyone has to make sure their schedules line up for it to work. DMs are meant to try and correct the game if it's too hard or too easy, but to purposefully make everyone miserable constantly is enough to make sure no one wants to play anymore.
This narrator is insufferable. "I'm not turning my nose up at it or anything" right after talking about how he shouldn't be acting as if his life is over due to a board game >_>
@Dormaze really though. I could've ranted about how most campaigns also take up an entire year, depending on how long the DM wants to take it. I genuinely don't think they read the comments, and if he does, he's probably just like, "Ooo, engagement." Don't even get me started on his victim blamey commentary. I can't remember which video it was, but he blamed a 9 year old girl for panicking during a home invasion and not calling the cops. It still pisses me off and it's been like, 2 weeks since I've seen that video.
Oh boy... My husband's ex wife is a professional victim. During their divorce, she stated that he was physically and verbally abusive, SAed her, and neglected their kids, which was her excuse for being unfaithful. She was caught in a lie on the stand, but it was disregarded. She stated he was stalking her for work (is a lineman) on the same block. There was a CPS case open before their divorce because SHE was neglecting their baby while he was working and he would come home on his lunch break to change and feed his screaming infant while she slept with the baby monitor turned off. She violates their order and claims that it's his fault since he "tells everyone she's a bad mother" which translates to telling them the truth, as she tells doctors the wrong information and gives wrong dates to make their ailments seem like they start in our care, even if she has no ability to know that info. She accused me and their dad of sexual abuse and stated the kids were telling her these things, while both kids were barely verbal and the older one was even in speech therapy... We were cleared twice by CPS, but she pulled the 4yo out of school after we visited him (in which she then decided to stand 30 feet away, call police for a kidnapping, and then didn't point us out at all. My husband had to walk up to the officers, tell him who he was, and they had no idea, as they were told he was in the truck and they were looking for him. We were sitting on the ground, within school grounds, and watching cat videos) and refused to bring them back to school and truancy had to come to her home and she said she was unenrolling him. Now we have an ordered hearing in December because her attorney kept refusing mediation and filing continuances, including being "on another hearing" during our last court date and we couldn't have our case heard. She's going to ultimately lose custody and is emotionally abusing the kids and saying if they live with us, they will never see her again, along with awful punishments like being locked in the dark or having hot sauce or mustard put on their tongue. CPS is sadly useless, as even after the older one knocked to come out of a bathroom during a child interview, because "he didn't know if it was locked". Our caseworker stated that it almost made her cry, and then stated there were no safety concerns.. I can't wait for this court date, and neither can they or their dad. We are all hoping to get full custody and supervised visitation with her. These kids are so strong, and I'm proud of them for telling us what they have.
Story 31: A stalement?! Buddy, don't open other peoples mail, there can be sensitive financial information in there, I have a wonderful relationship with my mom and I don't want her seeing where all my money goes. Not to mention that opening other peoples mail is a crime (not sure if its still a crime when your in the same household, but the fact that ts a crime elsewhere should make this dubious) Obviously different if your a minor, but this is not at all equal! and implying that the Ops hiding something when there mom is being that controlling is kinda gross. I think your mostly right on things and your opinions are interesting but hard no on that and story 8
holy shit story 32 as well, my god that commentary reeks of someone who doesn't get it, obviously they should bond as siblings but Op definitely has the right to be annoyed, let the other narrator here please.
Story 31: I will disagree w the narrator bc... mail addressed to OP for a reason you know? Because it's for HER and it's more than okay to NOT want anyone read it w/o permission And there's always a chance that issue didn't existed if mom asked "oh, can I look?" instead of opening the letter and then trying to HIDE IT And yes, I see much bigger issue with mom trying to hide that she opened the letter than with OP not wanting third person to stick their noses in her mail
In story 8 i want yall to think ling and hard about why op didnt tell his wife his trauma THEN his wifes reaction and being angry he didnt tell her. This man lives in an unsafe environment with a controlling wife who would absolutely use this mans trauma against him
Ok good I'm not alone in thinking the narrator needs to educate themself on mental health and boundaries in relationships. That ... was really bad. Okkk... Now narrator ALSO needs to educate themself on poly relationships. DUDE stop ruining your vids with your shitty opinions. Seriously. Just take 5 minutes to google if you "don't get it." Consensual poly relationships are just as valid as traditional marriage. That story was not the same thing, which you would've known if you knew anything about poly relationships. Annnnnd the mail bullshit- No, an adult can NOT open a child's mail. WOW. I'm done.
Half of this commentary just seems like narrator wants to pick a fight with the storytellers or is just doing a very poor job of playing devil's advocate... Other comments have made the point much better than I can, but especially the one about not being able to keep secrets in a relationship gets at me.
...wtf don't tell poly people they can't get married. My husband and I are poly and we follow the rules we set for each other and we are doing great. Stop judging just because you aren't poly
Wow, these stories are wild! It's incredible how people can play the victim and deflect blame when they've clearly messed up. From the business owner to the family drama, it’s like a masterclass in denial. It’s frustrating to see how their actions impact others and then they act shocked when the consequences hit them. The entitlement and refusal to take responsibility are truly mind-boggling! Thanks for sharing these-definitely a reminder that accountability is key
Ah...it takes a long long time to learn everything about someone. Also if someone is uncomfortable to talk about something no you don't have to tell the person your married to. Like while I have told my husband I had a hard childhood im not going to go into detail about the nightmare I have of my brother r wording me. That's just not necessary
It’s not okay to say that poly people shouldn’t get married or have kids. I usually enjoy these videos, but between that, the boundary violation of the wife reading the journal, and the mom (illegally) reading the mail, the opinions in this one are just gross.
Oh, by far its my STBEX claiming she's the victim of abuse when it was her who actually started doing physical violence on me and then bolted when she was confronted about how its actually assault regardless of her being a woman.
I had a wife who liked snooping on my phone too. I never had anything to hide from her. She would get mad at me for talking to my mom about various arguments or forgetting to tell her about stuff, so I started getting mad at her for going through my phone. I told her it had nothing to do with going around behind her back, but because I felt like I couldn't have a conversation with my own mother.
My older sister. To a very, very scary degree. There are lot of moments, but the one that sticks with me the most was the time she took my mom's car without asking and picked up her boyfriend, WHO WASN'T ALLOWED AT THE HOUSE. She hit the mailbox. It was loud enough that I stood up and watched out the living room window to check it out. She came up to the porch with him as my little sister ran to go tell mom what had happened. I watched as my sister looked to her boyfriend, said "I got this covered. Don't know say anything." And then she proceeded to FORCE herself into hyperventilating and pinched her leg hard enough to start crying. She busted in the door before I could even process what was going on and started wailing at the top of her lungs on a woe is me, don't be mad rant. I was so shocked and grossed out that I just stood there. I could tell that she knew that I knew she was faking it because she gave me such a nasty look, but our mom ate it up.
Story 31: it can be deduced that op is in fact an adult, she mentions attending university and receiving a credit card in the mail... I can't speak on other parts of the world but open someone's mail is a federal crime where I live... Obstruction of Correspondence is what it's called... Only know this because my mom would pull the same stunts but took it a step further and would activate the cards I received in the mail and I was clueless until I contacted the bank...
Story 2, I ended having to replace my dash cam since the previous one died a couple of months ago. So far, my previous dash cam proved useful once while I was leaving work and nearly proved useful a second time a month later on the interstate when a semi with a trailer merged into my lane not even clearing me as I was half way down the trailer just to make an exit even though the driver had a massive cap just behind the car that was behind me. Glad I was paying attention to the turn indicator on the trailer as it was passing cuz that turned on at the last possible second before the guy merged into my lane. Had to downshift my car from sixth gear to fourth gear to prevent an accident (going from 60 to 45 mph, plus my car is a manual). This also happened after work since I worked night shifts at the time. I do want to point out the previous and current dash cams are front and back dash cam and sit on both front and rear windshields of my car.
Hit story 8, and I'm done with the video. I'm not giving anymore of my watch time. As a person who has had a lot of trauma in their childhood, my long-time boyfriend does not know all of it and would NEVER read it if I had a journal like that. When you're preparing for marriage, you talk about finances, kids, how you want to raise the kids, and general values. You DO NOT HAVE TO DISCLOSE YOUR TRAUMA. The husband did enough by letting her know it was there and going to therapy.
Really not liking this narrator. Obviously I don't know anything about him or is life but he comes across as someone who's not had to deal with much hardship. As for the D&D the game imagine playing soccer and one of the players just picks up the ball and run with it. Or you think you're playing no contact or flag football and one play does a flying tackle. If you don't all play within agreed rulesets it's just not fun. Some guys try to play a game master as I have to make them lose to i can have fun. Toxic GMs ruin games and friend groups.
don’t normally dislike videos, but had to on this one. I have no problems with narrator’s voice or reading style, I really like this channel a lot, but this narrator is really laying it on with the judging, victim blaming, and just overall lack of attention to the story he was just reading. Not the first video that he’s doing it either. Hope he gets switched out.
The worst case I’ve seen of someone trying to play the victim was when enough people ended up believing in that person to elect them as president of the United States of America.
Hey narrator, you realize it's illegal in many countries (including yours) to open other people's mail, right? It doesn't mean someone is "hiding something." Your opinions are getting increasingly more terrible. You clearly don't understand polyamorous relationships, or trauma. That one OP did not owe his wife the details of his trauma.
Might be time for me to find a new Reddit stories channel. It’s fine to have opinions on the stories you read.. it’s not fine to crap on other people’s lifestyles just because you don’t get it. Sometimes consenting adults do things other adults don’t understand but that doesn’t make it wrong and certainly doesn’t mean those adults shouldn’t have children or get married.
For Story 52: seems like OP was probably fairly new to D&D and the lead (DM) was being unfairly cruel and sadistic to (probably) a batch of other new players just to watch them suffer. and to have not only you, but a party's worth of people to have so much time and energy wasted just to have some guy be a prick to all of y'all over a game must've been somewhat heartbreaking to people just trying to enjoy their hobby. Edit: For others that don't understand.. it can take groups days, weeks, even months to plan, prepare, and play through a Single game of D&D.
I honestly don’t mind if the narrator has opinions I disagree with, this channel gives us long videos with no reposts and that’s what matters Granted it is funny to see the comments collectively boo him
HARD disagree on story 8, sounds like the wife was aware of the previous abuse as she knew about the therapy. But just bc you’re married to someone does NOT mean you have to share everything, especially things such as dark thoughts surrounding SA. The wife was totally insensitive and disgusting for even saying that. Glad she’s an ex wife.
19 minutes ago! Oh yeah, that’s gotta be a record. Love this channel man, I listen to it while I’m getting ready, doing homework etc and it is super fun to!
2:15 sounds like the lady wasn't paying attention, hit their car, and decided to be selfish and entitled more than she staged an insurance fraud incident 😜
This narrator’s takes made me have to stop watching.. it’s illegal to open someone else’s mail btw. The person writing was obviously an adult since they ordered a CREDIT CARD 💀
Man, how I miss the other narrator. This guy is just a little too judgemental for me.
I feel like they should switch around the narrator every couple of videos (im not trying to hate)
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Respect, this one is rude and victim blaming
Ya I personally hate this narrator I used to wonder why the comments always trashed this specific narrator but now I know why he’s judgmental he tends to always think even those who did nothing did something wrong honestly just use the yellow and blue narrators not this guy
Story 8: What the hell, Narrator?! A boundary is a boundary is a boundary. Doesn't matter WHEN it was put in place! And the ex-wife trampled all over his boundaries!
Actually had to pause the video and check the comments to see if anyone else was annoyed at narrator's unnecessary, silly opinions. I wasn't disappointed.
Nope nope, hard disagree on that "no secrets in a marriage" thing.
This is trauma that could not be expected or accounted for beforehand, and he has just as much a right as ANYONE to keep his trauma to himself until he's ready to talk about it. I swear to God if this is another double standard that changes with the victims gender-
Exactly. No matter what kind of relationship you're in, they're always has to be boundaries of some sort. If your and one partner specifically tells you that one thing and one thing only is off limits, then it should be taken with theutmost seriousness. that the guy's wife not only violated his privacy, but then had the nerve to act like it wasn't a big deal is proof of how untrustworthy she was.
If the narrator was trying to see her side in this problem, it's probably because he would do the same thing. Because let's just keep it 100% G, there is NO excuse on this planet for telling your partner "oh, you're not over that rape thing, yet.
@SnowyWolborg I understand him wanting to try and understand her side of things, considering how horrifically baffling what she said was, and we're constantly trying to understand everything around us. Heck, I keep a personal journal where I write down a lot of psychological things that catch my interest. It doesn't make him not wrong, but I wouldn't necessarily say that he would do the same thing. Just that he has an unhealthy view on relationships, and should probably work on that in therapy.
Story 31: gonna softly disagree. If OP is old enough to receive a credit card and get something from a university, they're old enough to not have their parents opening their mail. Yes maybe it's 'legal' if OP is a minor but that doesn't make it 'right'. Minors, obviously to an extent, have a right to privacy. They don't need to be "hiding" anything just because they don't want their parents opening their mail. Unless OP has done something dangerous and/or illegal in the past, there should be trust and respect between a parent and their kid enough not to open each other's mail (unless given case by case permission).
I want to double down on that. Even if OP is a literal child, unless they have history of involving themselves in shady stuff parents should not open it, preiod. If it looks suspicious, then open it with the child and use that as an oportunity to explain potential dangers. Children are still humans and as parents we do not want them to grow up in an environment where they feel they cannot be trusted with anything or are not entitled to basic respect or their privacy. I'll leave aside that OP sounds like a late teen at least. The only justification would be if OP has some serious history.
Dawg, i like how everyone seems to breeze past the fact the mom tried to hit her kid in the face?
Hard disagree on half of the narrator's opinions. He also isn't paying attention to the details mentioned IN THE STORY. Getting so frustrated
I 100% agree with you.
Me too! He's so freaking off base that I wish he'd just stop giving his opinion at this point.
We were rooting for you! We were all rooting for you! How dare you! Learn something from this! Everyone’s making fun of you for your bad takes again!
Also, I’m sorry you not mentioning the fact that the partner in story 57 is abusive when you were giving your “two cents”….girl
Classic case of someone having a different opinion than you so they must be wrong. Maybe you should learn something from THIS
@@ScumRat42 not when everyone agrees that their opinion is irrelevant and wrong 😂😂
@@alleyreeder2292 it’s called having an unpopular opinion. If it could be wrong it wouldn’t be called an opinion
@@ScumRat42sometimes opinions are unpopular because theyre wrong. Like people having the opinion that the earth is flat or that sons are better than daughters.
Dude just read the stories, don’t comment, your takes the definition of victim blaming
Yeah... I usually like those commentaries, but this time they were often infuriating.
STRONGLY disasgree with the narrator's thoughts on story 8. Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean that you have to tell your partner every secret you've ever had. Part of having a good relationship with your spouse is respecting boundaries, and thinking you're owed to be told ALL of your partner's secrets is a MASSIVE red flag. Takes like this are why I like the old narrator rather than this one.
Edit: His take on story 57 also sucks. He said that OP is playing the victim more than her mom, which is a really shitty take imo. OP never said that she demanded her mom break up with her abusive partner, she said that as long as they're together, she can't see her grandkids, which is totally different.
I think they both read well and are entitled to their own opinions, and that everyone has the right to define the terms within their relationships. Each of them have given valid insights per particular stories that I've appreciate though.. no one will ever be perfect.
Agree with you it’s one thing to openly have a journal of secret trauma and another thing to have a secret journal. OP was very open while still having boundaries
Yeah, the narrator is kinda retarded
You know there are atleast a dozen channels that read reddit posts out loud
@@sarahm8695 yeah, the narrator is kinda dumb here lol.
getting passively pissed off by the narrator's opinions
Woah why
@@AstralAlpaca I would ask the same, most of his opinions are understandably justified, and some of these stories sounds like the the start of a classic AITA post, and 9 times out of 10. The OP Is genuinely in the wrong.
Yeah ngl sometimes he makes me so mad
he lacks knowledge on certain topics but still makes an opinion on them.
hard disagree on that. it's okay to keep trauma related secrets from your loved ones if you're not ready to share them. snooping will only worsen trauma and make it harder to recover from. if you can't trust your spouse to respect your wishes even if it means not knowing something they're not ready for you to know, then who CAN you trust?
I actively click away whenever I hear this dude's voice because I know he's gonna say something that I'm gonna hate
Well, if it makes you feel any better, he's just reading reddit posts.. nothing in these videos are his actual opinions
@@oSamiSrzo they don't every story, but after some of the stories the narrators will give their comments on the story. Unfortunately, this guy has repetitively said some really sexist stuff or was rather victim blame-y. :/ So while I support the other narrators, this one will give really bad opinions sometimes. 😅
@@oSamiSrzo"if a girl is trying to get alone with you she's trying to get in your drawers" was definitely something this dude said 10-20 minutes into their video "when did you see a so called alpha male put in their place"
This dude is a sexist dumbass.
Yeah click away when someone disagrees with you. You live in an echo chamber
@@ScumRat42 or maybe I just don't wanna watch videos I know are gonna actively piss me off? Watching UA-cam is what I do to decompress, I don't wanna be pissed off while trying to relax.
I miss the one narrator so much, this guy is so judgmental
Actually I don’t think it’s healthy for partners to know every single detail about each other’s mental health struggles and trauma. Some things are just private, even in marriage, and sometimes it’s distressing to talk about something and it’s better to save it for therapy, where a professional is there to keep you safe. Really bad take, and it’s honestly kinda concerning
Them Snooping ment you where right not to tell them!!!!
Having lived before the relationship and having trauma from it is not like cheating or embaselment of shared funds, it is so absolutely no ones buisness until you are ready talk about it
@@SingingSealRianaYup ! It just shows that he was right in not trusting his partner enough to tell her. There was a reason he didn’t tell her about it, and she made that reason very clear
Absolutely.
Assuming OP is an adult living in America it is illegal to open or destroy mail that is not addressed to you. It’s a felony and could result in jail time. It doesn’t matter if she’s still living in her mothers house. That doesn’t give her mother the right to open OP’s mail
Narrators opinion on Story 57 is so forking stupid. Its her child, she can set boundaries if she wants, if she doesnt want her mom to see her kid because of her boyfriend then thats justified, like wtf?
Story 57: Really bad take dude and you have a lot of them in this video. The daughter wasn’t saying the mum had to break up with her partner to see the grandchild she was just saying that the partner can’t be around the grandchild. I use to watch this channels videos all the time and looked forward to watching the newest video but ever since green narrator came on the screen I’ve been avoiding UnderSparked’s videos.
1:52:19 OP explicitly says the partner is abusive and that her mom can see the grandkids as long as he’s not around. is the narrator trying to say stupid stuff ???
While I see where you’re coming from, Trauma takes a long time to heal. Sometimes you are not ready to speak about the details until much much later with those close to you. Once he told her that note book was private that should have been the end of it, she broke his trust and he did the right thing by leaving. If she’s willing to snoop about his trauma and go through his phone WHILE HES SLEEPING what the hell else would that woman do? She sounded like she had too many issues herself with trust and does not need to be in any sort of relationship. Judging by her reaction too it’s clear she didn’t care about his feelings, it wouldn’t have mattered if they discussed it before hand either because according to OP she legit said “I thought you’d be over your trauma by now.” Who says that?
Yesss thxu for this!! This happened with my ex bf and I relate alotttt to ur comment thxu hunny 😛 ❤
The narrator has a good voice, but such bad takes that they're actively obnoxious.
the narrator would be great if he would read and not add comments
Narrators voice is fine but his opinions really are low key rage bait
They're opinions
@@AstralAlpaca and it’s the commenters’ opinion that they’re bad opinions
My husband and I have been open with each other about traumatic events in our lives before we met, but nobody should ever feel obligated to share their trauma with anyone, even their spouse. If it's not going to be beneficial to your healing, don't do it.
I really hate when people say "you should never hide anything from your partner" because it often leads to blaming a victim for not telling their partner something that doesnt effect the partner in any way
Imagine telling people who are in relationship forms you don't understand to not have children.
A lot of them shouldn't
@@WeWillAlwaysHaveVALIS That goes for married people too.
The polyamory comment sounds like '' i don't understand gay people, there for you don't have the right to get married or have children''
Also THIS IS NOT POLYAMORY!!!! Polyamory comes from both sides.
Yeah. I'm poly. and we're all happy. Healthy communication and everything. Would be a lie to say that it's all sunshine and pink clouds, but no relationship is.
And like you said, it's like telling someone they doesn't understand someone's sexuality. Poly is a sexuality, not something you necessarily choose.
For real. As a married polyamorous person with a husband, girlfriend and living with my husband's NB partner as well, the only reason we don't have kids is lack of space and finances. If we had kids, all of us would parent them and they would be the luckiest kids in the world (until they got in trouble lol). My ex bff had this kind of abusive fake poly relationship with her husband. She could have girlfriends and boyfriends and sleep around, but the moment he dipped one toe into the relationship pool she wanted to close the relationship and called cheating. This story is abusive poly, where she didn't ask him but told him she would be sleeping around and if he so much as raised a boundary he was abusing her and the moment he actively tried to find someone suddenly she projects her failures onto him.
Boundaries are absolutely healthy and should be agreed upon by both sides before any life changes. My polycule's main boundary is any new partners get tested before anything happens. Secondary boundary is keep our home safe for everyone, anyone new needs everyone's permission to visit. Third boundary is communicate any changes to routine. If you're going out for dinner, let us know so we don't wait up sort of thing. Let us know where you're going so we know what to tell the cops if you don't come home. We're family, we care.
Im gonna say this as politely as possible. Narrator, u were a sheltered child. I know too many people who once they turned 18, had to call multiple agencies because their parents took out credit cards in their names and RUINED their credit before they were old enough to have credit.
When you dont have something nice to say, don't say anything at all
Ugh, I was trying to come around on this guy, but I just can’t. Had to go and ruin it bad in this video. Hope the other narrator comes back and I’ll check and see periodically still.
With story 22. That's not poly, that was 'justified' cheating by the wife with a 'words for me but not for thy' attitude. That's why she goes feral when the husband finds love. Poly is about love first and foremost. Me and my husband are poly, we aren't on the same level for somethings. He gets what I can't match with his boyfriend and I'm poly for the leftovers :9 I'm of course welcomed to find a partner but I don't feel the need but enjoy not having to worry about lines between friends and close friends ^^
... The D&D one makes me pissed off so badly that I showed my therapist who plays D&D this, and he was upset about it!!
Is nobody going to talk about how story 28 is literally Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
Story 52: YES! That is an IMMENSE breaking of autonomy and outright RUINING the characters that the players made. If I found out that a DM of mine was pulling that kind of shit, I'd tell the entire group and let them go off on the DM. Not to mention I'd complain to the store and get his license to run AD&D games revoked.
I think what you have an issue with it people getting married, then revealing they are Poly, then pressuring people to be poly. Not people getting into relationships with an understanding that they are both poly. Is that right, or am i wrong?
You’re right and I actually stopped the video at that point.
This was a rough one on opinions for the narrator
Story 28 is very clearly referencing Charlie and the Chocolate Factory/Willy Wonka
Yeah...
Narrator really needs to keep his poorly formed opinions to himself. I'll only address the most basic one by saying does it matter if the op is a minor or adult living at home to make it wrong that the mother went to punch them? Also obv they're not a minor. They're in university and had a new credit card. So super illegal and wrong
58:35 voice over dude sounds like he'll be in one of these stories in the future once he has kids.
Are we just going to ignore the fact that story 28 is the plot to Charlie and the Chocolate Factory?? I miss the only narrator, at least his takes made sense
Not everyone is "playing the victim". Just because you're accused of it doesn't mean it's true
The dude from Trapt will criticize something and then get his panties in a bunch when people call him out. One of the internets biggest crybabies right now.
Oh god, the DnD one. I'm making a separate comment from my original for this. As someone who plays with old college friends, yes! It's a valid reason to get angry. You're supposed to have fun. It's something you prep for and typically play for about 3 hours at a time, unless there is another preset time agreed upon by the group. Everyone has to make sure their schedules line up for it to work. DMs are meant to try and correct the game if it's too hard or too easy, but to purposefully make everyone miserable constantly is enough to make sure no one wants to play anymore.
This narrator is insufferable. "I'm not turning my nose up at it or anything" right after talking about how he shouldn't be acting as if his life is over due to a board game >_>
@Dormaze really though. I could've ranted about how most campaigns also take up an entire year, depending on how long the DM wants to take it. I genuinely don't think they read the comments, and if he does, he's probably just like, "Ooo, engagement." Don't even get me started on his victim blamey commentary. I can't remember which video it was, but he blamed a 9 year old girl for panicking during a home invasion and not calling the cops. It still pisses me off and it's been like, 2 weeks since I've seen that video.
Oh boy... My husband's ex wife is a professional victim. During their divorce, she stated that he was physically and verbally abusive, SAed her, and neglected their kids, which was her excuse for being unfaithful. She was caught in a lie on the stand, but it was disregarded. She stated he was stalking her for work (is a lineman) on the same block. There was a CPS case open before their divorce because SHE was neglecting their baby while he was working and he would come home on his lunch break to change and feed his screaming infant while she slept with the baby monitor turned off.
She violates their order and claims that it's his fault since he "tells everyone she's a bad mother" which translates to telling them the truth, as she tells doctors the wrong information and gives wrong dates to make their ailments seem like they start in our care, even if she has no ability to know that info. She accused me and their dad of sexual abuse and stated the kids were telling her these things, while both kids were barely verbal and the older one was even in speech therapy...
We were cleared twice by CPS, but she pulled the 4yo out of school after we visited him (in which she then decided to stand 30 feet away, call police for a kidnapping, and then didn't point us out at all. My husband had to walk up to the officers, tell him who he was, and they had no idea, as they were told he was in the truck and they were looking for him. We were sitting on the ground, within school grounds, and watching cat videos) and refused to bring them back to school and truancy had to come to her home and she said she was unenrolling him.
Now we have an ordered hearing in December because her attorney kept refusing mediation and filing continuances, including being "on another hearing" during our last court date and we couldn't have our case heard. She's going to ultimately lose custody and is emotionally abusing the kids and saying if they live with us, they will never see her again, along with awful punishments like being locked in the dark or having hot sauce or mustard put on their tongue.
CPS is sadly useless, as even after the older one knocked to come out of a bathroom during a child interview, because "he didn't know if it was locked". Our caseworker stated that it almost made her cry, and then stated there were no safety concerns..
I can't wait for this court date, and neither can they or their dad. We are all hoping to get full custody and supervised visitation with her. These kids are so strong, and I'm proud of them for telling us what they have.
Did he really say that he is in the middle on the marriage secret thing?
I'm willing to take others opinions, but this is just dumb
Story 31: A stalement?! Buddy, don't open other peoples mail, there can be sensitive financial information in there, I have a wonderful relationship with my mom and I don't want her seeing where all my money goes. Not to mention that opening other peoples mail is a crime (not sure if its still a crime when your in the same household, but the fact that ts a crime elsewhere should make this dubious) Obviously different if your a minor, but this is not at all equal! and implying that the Ops hiding something when there mom is being that controlling is kinda gross. I think your mostly right on things and your opinions are interesting but hard no on that and story 8
holy shit story 32 as well, my god that commentary reeks of someone who doesn't get it, obviously they should bond as siblings but Op definitely has the right to be annoyed, let the other narrator here please.
Why you victim blaming so much omg 💀
Story 31: I will disagree w the narrator bc... mail addressed to OP for a reason you know? Because it's for HER and it's more than okay to NOT want anyone read it w/o permission
And there's always a chance that issue didn't existed if mom asked "oh, can I look?" instead of opening the letter and then trying to HIDE IT
And yes, I see much bigger issue with mom trying to hide that she opened the letter than with OP not wanting third person to stick their noses in her mail
In story 8 i want yall to think ling and hard about why op didnt tell his wife his trauma THEN his wifes reaction and being angry he didnt tell her. This man lives in an unsafe environment with a controlling wife who would absolutely use this mans trauma against him
They Roasting you in the comments (I agree with them, most of your taked this video were outright terrible)
Ok good I'm not alone in thinking the narrator needs to educate themself on mental health and boundaries in relationships. That ... was really bad.
Okkk... Now narrator ALSO needs to educate themself on poly relationships. DUDE stop ruining your vids with your shitty opinions. Seriously. Just take 5 minutes to google if you "don't get it." Consensual poly relationships are just as valid as traditional marriage. That story was not the same thing, which you would've known if you knew anything about poly relationships.
Annnnnd the mail bullshit- No, an adult can NOT open a child's mail. WOW. I'm done.
Half of this commentary just seems like narrator wants to pick a fight with the storytellers or is just doing a very poor job of playing devil's advocate... Other comments have made the point much better than I can, but especially the one about not being able to keep secrets in a relationship gets at me.
These narrators gotta learn to shut up
...wtf don't tell poly people they can't get married. My husband and I are poly and we follow the rules we set for each other and we are doing great. Stop judging just because you aren't poly
Oh no, it's Mr Hot Take again
Especially on Story 31. Mr Hot Take strikes again, siding with the abuser.
Starting to really dislike this narrator for his TERRIBLE takes on situations.
Pff story 28 it's pure cinema! Like a movie or something pretty sure the kid's name is Charlie 😂
Definitely, Willy Wonka!!! At least a twisted background story of Charlie's family.
Narrators take on story 8 is bull.
Wow, these stories are wild! It's incredible how people can play the victim and deflect blame when they've clearly messed up. From the business owner to the family drama, it’s like a masterclass in denial. It’s frustrating to see how their actions impact others and then they act shocked when the consequences hit them. The entitlement and refusal to take responsibility are truly mind-boggling! Thanks for sharing these-definitely a reminder that accountability is key
Ah...it takes a long long time to learn everything about someone. Also if someone is uncomfortable to talk about something no you don't have to tell the person your married to. Like while I have told my husband I had a hard childhood im not going to go into detail about the nightmare I have of my brother r wording me. That's just not necessary
How does this narrator ALWAYS manage to have awful takes on these stories?!
It’s not okay to say that poly people shouldn’t get married or have kids. I usually enjoy these videos, but between that, the boundary violation of the wife reading the journal, and the mom (illegally) reading the mail, the opinions in this one are just gross.
Oh, by far its my STBEX claiming she's the victim of abuse when it was her who actually started doing physical violence on me and then bolted when she was confronted about how its actually assault regardless of her being a woman.
The way I DASHED to the comments after Story 8. This narrator sucks, they need to fire him or something lol.
59:11 bro said "idk if you're kod still at home" op also mentioned "credit card" do you think a child can order a credit card ?
I had a wife who liked snooping on my phone too. I never had anything to hide from her. She would get mad at me for talking to my mom about various arguments or forgetting to tell her about stuff, so I started getting mad at her for going through my phone. I told her it had nothing to do with going around behind her back, but because I felt like I couldn't have a conversation with my own mother.
Sometimes, the narrator's takes piss me off.
My older sister. To a very, very scary degree. There are lot of moments, but the one that sticks with me the most was the time she took my mom's car without asking and picked up her boyfriend, WHO WASN'T ALLOWED AT THE HOUSE. She hit the mailbox. It was loud enough that I stood up and watched out the living room window to check it out. She came up to the porch with him as my little sister ran to go tell mom what had happened. I watched as my sister looked to her boyfriend, said "I got this covered. Don't know say anything." And then she proceeded to FORCE herself into hyperventilating and pinched her leg hard enough to start crying. She busted in the door before I could even process what was going on and started wailing at the top of her lungs on a woe is me, don't be mad rant. I was so shocked and grossed out that I just stood there. I could tell that she knew that I knew she was faking it because she gave me such a nasty look, but our mom ate it up.
Story 31: it can be deduced that op is in fact an adult, she mentions attending university and receiving a credit card in the mail... I can't speak on other parts of the world but open someone's mail is a federal crime where I live... Obstruction of Correspondence is what it's called... Only know this because my mom would pull the same stunts but took it a step further and would activate the cards I received in the mail and I was clueless until I contacted the bank...
Story 2, I ended having to replace my dash cam since the previous one died a couple of months ago. So far, my previous dash cam proved useful once while I was leaving work and nearly proved useful a second time a month later on the interstate when a semi with a trailer merged into my lane not even clearing me as I was half way down the trailer just to make an exit even though the driver had a massive cap just behind the car that was behind me. Glad I was paying attention to the turn indicator on the trailer as it was passing cuz that turned on at the last possible second before the guy merged into my lane. Had to downshift my car from sixth gear to fourth gear to prevent an accident (going from 60 to 45 mph, plus my car is a manual). This also happened after work since I worked night shifts at the time. I do want to point out the previous and current dash cams are front and back dash cam and sit on both front and rear windshields of my car.
Hit story 8, and I'm done with the video. I'm not giving anymore of my watch time. As a person who has had a lot of trauma in their childhood, my long-time boyfriend does not know all of it and would NEVER read it if I had a journal like that. When you're preparing for marriage, you talk about finances, kids, how you want to raise the kids, and general values. You DO NOT HAVE TO DISCLOSE YOUR TRAUMA. The husband did enough by letting her know it was there and going to therapy.
Really not liking this narrator. Obviously I don't know anything about him or is life but he comes across as someone who's not had to deal with much hardship.
As for the D&D the game imagine playing soccer and one of the players just picks up the ball and run with it. Or you think you're playing no contact or flag football and one play does a flying tackle. If you don't all play within agreed rulesets it's just not fun. Some guys try to play a game master as I have to make them lose to i can have fun. Toxic GMs ruin games and friend groups.
don’t normally dislike videos, but had to on this one. I have no problems with narrator’s voice or reading style, I really like this channel a lot, but this narrator is really laying it on with the judging, victim blaming, and just overall lack of attention to the story he was just reading. Not the first video that he’s doing it either. Hope he gets switched out.
respectable dislike
@@UnderSparkedcan you get rid of him please? Every other narrator is likeable, but this guy isn't.
That sure is a take on the mom opening her mail story.
Everyone thinks their family isnt rich lol. "We owned two fuly paid off homes"
That second story is why I have a dashcam.
Honestly every mom is the same as story 16 they all probably sould get therapy
Regarding first story about the car crash and insurance fraud:
Folks, make sure to check if having a dash cam is lega, where i live its illegal.
The worst case I’ve seen of someone trying to play the victim was when enough people ended up believing in that person to elect them as president of the United States of America.
Hey narrator, you realize it's illegal in many countries (including yours) to open other people's mail, right? It doesn't mean someone is "hiding something." Your opinions are getting increasingly more terrible. You clearly don't understand polyamorous relationships, or trauma. That one OP did not owe his wife the details of his trauma.
Might be time for me to find a new Reddit stories channel. It’s fine to have opinions on the stories you read.. it’s not fine to crap on other people’s lifestyles just because you don’t get it. Sometimes consenting adults do things other adults don’t understand but that doesn’t make it wrong and certainly doesn’t mean those adults shouldn’t have children or get married.
For Story 52: seems like OP was probably fairly new to D&D and the lead (DM) was being unfairly cruel and sadistic to (probably) a batch of other new players just to watch them suffer. and to have not only you, but a party's worth of people to have so much time and energy wasted just to have some guy be a prick to all of y'all over a game must've been somewhat heartbreaking to people just trying to enjoy their hobby.
Edit: For others that don't understand.. it can take groups days, weeks, even months to plan, prepare, and play through a Single game of D&D.
I honestly don’t mind if the narrator has opinions I disagree with, this channel gives us long videos with no reposts and that’s what matters
Granted it is funny to see the comments collectively boo him
Bro 29 was literally Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
Story 28 sounds oddly familiar... I bet the factory owner gave the son a job at his factory too and all is well...
HARD disagree on story 8, sounds like the wife was aware of the previous abuse as she knew about the therapy. But just bc you’re married to someone does NOT mean you have to share everything, especially things such as dark thoughts surrounding SA. The wife was totally insensitive and disgusting for even saying that. Glad she’s an ex wife.
And it’s not even a secret, she was aware of the abuse and journal. This opinion is honestly just shocking
19 minutes ago! Oh yeah, that’s gotta be a record. Love this channel man, I listen to it while I’m getting ready, doing homework etc and it is super fun to!
Please tell me you are not saying that victims of SA are required to disclose that fact as a prerequisite to marriage?
No offense but i strongly dislike this narrator, hes kinda...judgy
Story 16 is literally my stepmother
2:15 sounds like the lady wasn't paying attention, hit their car, and decided to be selfish and entitled more than she staged an insurance fraud incident 😜
53:11 story 28 is just Charlie and the chocolate factory and it’s annoying me that nobody has noticed
I don't think it's that no one noticed, they just didn't mention it.
I hate the Woman in Story 59
Hahaha spotted the Charlie and the Chocolate factory bit...i was thinking it sounded lilke Grandpa Joe to but then the cabbage soup 🤣
Story 28: Classic story lol
Game name?
This narrator is way too ignorant/unattentive to voice the strong opinions/judgments he has.
This narrator’s takes made me have to stop watching.. it’s illegal to open someone else’s mail btw. The person writing was obviously an adult since they ordered a CREDIT CARD 💀
Whats the game?
Story 31 the op says it’s a university I’d and a credit card so they are an adult
Under 10, FINALLY!!
My mother