Punishment, shaming, and passive-aggressive manipulation. Thank you for identifying this pattern. This made me think of my daily exercise. Whether it's 1/2 hour of yoga, or 5 minutes on the rower, this is my time and not to be interrupted unless something is on fire, haha. But true. Focusing on my physicality daily helps me feel present in my body, and brighter. It's relaxing and keeps me sharp, mind and body. In case anyone relates, or that is of interest. :)
It doesn’t matter how tactful or polite with your word you are. I tried to frame my boundaries with “I Statements” to reduced conflict and my ex hated it!!! No shame in telling me she didn’t like me being assertive… WTH 🤦♂️???
Boundaries are actions Not words. You don't even have to state your boundaries just do. Like I refuse to go to a narcissist family members house because if her treatment. Never said a word. Just enjoy the peace
I wish I could do that, however that sister keeps on asking what my plans are for Thanksgiving. Not sure what to tell her at this point. And what complicates things is that she is my boss so I have no choice but to talk to her. 🙄
Preparation is paramount!! They will stop and start to repeat offender behaviors. Real slow like a sneaky snake slithering into your personal space 🤔💥 Keep riding the “frustration > aggressive” aftermath and give NO VOICE > NO TIME > NO EYE CONTACT. One life to live ❤
And this is the stage where I’m at with my husband….preparing as he’s not changing, and still seems stuck in his ways of addiction, lying, and cheating. He always changes for a little time before he goes right back to his old, very toxic behavior. 😢
Thankyou with all my heart for helping me start to realise I’m not crazy, I had an abusive father and I now realise a covert narc mother too, she’s always used guilt against me, and because I had no siblings it was a very intense and disturbing upbringing. I have always thought all the trauma was my fault for being a bad kid. But the wool is just starting to come away. When I see families who have boundaries I used to think that they were unkind and not showing love but I now see I’ve got it completely backwards. Thankyou so much for these videos you are helping me so much. Hugs to all those that are broken and trying to heal. You’re not alone ❤️
To learn things late in life is devastating. Had we been taught and raised in our youth, o how life would have been different. Instead we've started the race 30 years behind.
How do I get that $80 a month deal? When I go to your page it says it’s $110 a month. I’m very interested in signing up as I grew up in a narcissistic family, and I believe I’m in a marriage with one now. So any clarification on that monthly price would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
The problem is there should be no need to even have to set boundaries! Must be a mechanism that doesn't exist in thier brains....🤔 like hitting on the therapist is a boundary 😜
People cannot understand “boundaries” that you don’t communicate and deny even exist repeatedly when they ask you about them. Again, read your emails that have me asking what’s going on with the 100% change in behavior toward me and you saying there is no change, problem, issue, rejection, or boundary taking place, and that everything is great, just like before. You did this for most of 2024 while you ignored and punished me in class and during sessions. It is beyond stupid to diagnose and punish your long term client based on this. It is even more stupid to call your client’s honest, accurate, and provable communication “fake news” and constantly post publicly about him being a narcissist. I truly feel sorry for anyone that invests time and money into a working relationship with you.
Punishment, shaming, and passive-aggressive manipulation. Thank you for identifying this pattern.
This made me think of my daily exercise. Whether it's 1/2 hour of yoga, or 5 minutes on the rower, this is my time and not to be interrupted unless something is on fire, haha. But true. Focusing on my physicality daily helps me feel present in my body, and brighter. It's relaxing and keeps me sharp, mind and body. In case anyone relates, or that is of interest. :)
It doesn’t matter how tactful or polite with your word you are. I tried to frame my boundaries with “I Statements” to reduced conflict and my ex hated it!!! No shame in telling me she didn’t like me being assertive… WTH 🤦♂️???
Boundaries are actions Not words. You don't even have to state your boundaries just do. Like I refuse to go to a narcissist family members house because if her treatment. Never said a word. Just enjoy the peace
I wish I could do that, however that sister keeps on asking what my plans are for Thanksgiving. Not sure what to tell her at this point. And what complicates things is that she is my boss so I have no choice but to talk to her. 🙄
right im empath no boundaries
Preparation is paramount!! They will stop and start to repeat offender behaviors. Real slow like a sneaky snake slithering into your personal space 🤔💥 Keep riding the “frustration > aggressive” aftermath and give NO VOICE > NO TIME > NO EYE CONTACT. One life to live ❤
And this is the stage where I’m at with my husband….preparing as he’s not changing, and still seems stuck in his ways of addiction, lying, and cheating. He always changes for a little time before he goes right back to his old, very toxic behavior. 😢
Thankyou with all my heart for helping me start to realise I’m not crazy, I had an abusive father and I now realise a covert narc mother too, she’s always used guilt against me, and because I had no siblings it was a very intense and disturbing upbringing. I have always thought all the trauma was my fault for being a bad kid. But the wool is just starting to come away. When I see families who have boundaries I used to think that they were unkind and not showing love but I now see I’ve got it completely backwards.
Thankyou so much for these videos you are helping me so much.
Hugs to all those that are broken and trying to heal. You’re not alone ❤️
Absolutely TRUE!!! I’m miserable and my stomach is in knots every time I think of him or whenever he calls me. . .
💜keep swimming...
Continue taking one day at a time. ❤
This is exactly what Social Workers, Irish Traffic Cops and Counselor-Therapists due every day in every way; to all of us crime victims.
To learn things late in life is devastating. Had we been taught and raised in our youth, o how life would have been different. Instead we've started the race 30 years behind.
How do I get that $80 a month deal? When I go to your page it says it’s $110 a month. I’m very interested in signing up as I grew up in a narcissistic family, and I believe I’m in a marriage with one now. So any clarification on that monthly price would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
The problem is there should be no need to even have to set boundaries! Must be a mechanism that doesn't exist in thier brains....🤔 like hitting on the therapist is a boundary 😜
People cannot understand “boundaries” that you don’t communicate and deny even exist repeatedly when they ask you about them. Again, read your emails that have me asking what’s going on with the 100% change in behavior toward me and you saying there is no change, problem, issue, rejection, or boundary taking place, and that everything is great, just like before. You did this for most of 2024 while you ignored and punished me in class and during sessions. It is beyond stupid to diagnose and punish your long term client based on this. It is even more stupid to call your client’s honest, accurate, and provable communication “fake news” and constantly post publicly about him being a narcissist. I truly feel sorry for anyone that invests time and money into a working relationship with you.