Please, please, please NEVER change a thing about your channel. I come here SPECIFICALLY to see a home I can relate to. A BEAUTIFUL, cozy, NORMAL home. Honestly, your videos are perfect just the way they are.
I have adhd and I can never keep up. I have kids, I homeschool, my husband works away more than he’s home, & I have a lot of animals. Your videos are my favorite and you’re so much more relatable than most people I’ve found on UA-cam. Thank you for being real!
Oh girl same! 3 boys all homeschooling, 1 is 13, my second is 11, and my youngest is 7. My hubby works long hours. The house is needing updating. We rent my mom's home so I can't really change anything since she is the owner. Plus I'm broke right now, hubby lost an amazing job but is working so right before the holidays his commissions are going to be lower than they had been if that hadn't happened. We have multiple cats. Ayyyyyy yi yi. We all have ADHD and I struggle with depression and anxiety. It ain't easy but it's gotta all still get done. You're not alone mama. Don't feel bad, just do your best and forget the rest. Easier said than done I know. Here's a hug from one overwhelmed mama to another. ❤
Those "perfect"creators have rooms their kids arent allowed in except for filming. They are the ones that take their kids to the park and snap cute photos and take them home. What I saw was a lived in house with kids laughing in the background, a little one that needs to be held and you interacting with your kids. What I saw was a GREAT MOM. We love you because you are not pretending to be perfect. You are real.Your videos feel like visiting a friend -do not change for us or anyone else.
I think we all need to listen to the kids laughing and happy in the background. I so miss having little ones but also remember how hard it was to get things done. Instead of tearing each other down we should tell each other that some days are hard but we are doing a great job! And if you don't like how my house looks feel free to show me how to clean it by you coming over and showing me. Kristina, you are doing a wonderful job and your home makes me feel cozy.
Don't worry about the housework. When you're sad or depressed, do something creative. Creativity has always helped me get through whatever tough time life decides to give. Then you will be more prepared for housework.
100% right. And it’s okay to ask your inner circle for help. I’ve done it before and am recovering slowly from a bad period of mental health and things related to that - but it’s about taking care of YOU right now. Eventually, I wanted to do a little housework. Then I wanted to get dressed. Then I wanted to go outside to rake leaves. Then I wanted to do an art project with the leaves. I did. It’s all tied together. But yeah, the dishes aren’t the priority- the human is. And what’s more basic humanity than following any of the million creative inklings that are in our minds - it takes so many forms! Good advice though. I’m a watercolor girl myself but love pen and ink, collage, photography and a million other things. Anyhoo, thanks for your wise comment. 🌺
Absolutely love this video and your pre-amble at the start. I’m a 33 year old male who lives alone and has depression. I’ve had a challenging four years since the pandemic and I haven’t been able to catch my breath. One of my joys is making my home beautiful and special, but lately it’s just been counters piled with to do jobs whilst more pressing matters take the forefront. I’m lucky that I’m a high functioning depressive and my house gets untidy and not dirty or with unhealthy garbage etc. However, I always have grace for others and hope to extend that to myself. It’s so hard when other people don’t have mental health issues and you can’t help seeing how simple things are for them (seemingly). But we can only play the cards we are dealt and try to be a bit better than we were yesterday. Love your content and thank you for sharing!
Nath…how are you holding up?? Doing better? I’m currently doing better. As you’d mentioned, I’m spending time making my home better/more special and hopefully beautiful now that I’m coming out of a LONG period of kinda apathy and depression. Doing some deep cleaning that needed to be done and focusing on making my home a pleasant place for my husband (and family or friends who visit…I’m actually inviting them!) to come home to. He’s made several of my days ☺️by taking the time to express appreciation and gratitude for the extra effort. I started by focusing on self care. Cute shorter haircut which I’d be wanting for months and cleaning out my closet and discovering a bunch of cute stuff I’d forgotten about. Also nutrition- which I neglect during bad periods - skipping meals or eating the very bare minimum but also drinking a bit- I decided to cut the alcohol and focus on delish home cooking which I enjoy. Anyhoo, been scrolling thru past replies and wanted to check in. I don’t really use other social media so I wanted to send another reply! Hopefully you’re also doing well. If you feel like it, let me know! Hugs from California 🌺🌺💗
Well said. It's so important to have grace for yourself and others. Nobody's life is perfect. We only see the shiny surface of other's lives, not the grungy bits. Depression is a slippery slope and it's wonderful to hear that you are high functioning. I am the same or I try to be.
Alls I know is I just saw you had a new video and was like, “Yay! I hope she’s doing another cozy cleaning video!” The haters and know-it-all “perfect” people can go scratch. I don’t know you personally, but you seem to be one of the sweetest and most honest people on UA-cam. Your children are loved and healthy and you obviously care. I think you’re lovely and have a neat, whimsical, and creative vibe which I thoroughly enjoy.
As a Mom of a daughter that has depression, I say good for you! Sometimes it’s a battle to get out of the bed and one step forward is progress! Don’t look at the whole staircase, just take the next step. Your home is precious as is your family. I loved your kind and gentle affirmations at the end of the video. Hugs ❤
For the life of me, I don't understand why people are so negative, critical and mean-spirited. When I look at your home I just see lots of love and charm and happy children. Life is such a struggle so why would strangers add to yours. It's unnecessary and unconscionable. Stay strong and loving and charming. I find you inspiring!
Don’t worry about ‘perfect’, it’s really refreshing to come to a channel where the kitchen (and the rest of the house) is not completely white and sterile and has absolutely no personality at all. Your kitchen looks comfortable and cozy.
I really needed to hear this today. Life is difficult enough with kids, maintaining a home, and your mental health. Why do we need to make it appear as if everything is perfect when it is not. Normalizing imperfections and the reality of a real home is exactly what we need more of! I wish you and your family well. Thank you, Kristina❤
Your home is lovely... My Mum had a plaque up in our old family home and it said, This house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy. I think that sums life up... You are doing great and your kids seem very happy 😊 ❤
Entirely prefer this real life view of a busy household full of children and love. I agree with your 2nd hand/thrifty decorating style/philosophy. Love your cozy and whimsical touches.
There are things MORE IMPORTANT than a clean house, period. It called LIVING. There is a big difference between really living your life to the fullest and just existing. The house can be cleaned, the kids can be cleaned, etc...your family is young and you'll never get these times back, enjoy them. And honestly, feel sorry for those who have nothing but time to spend cleaning. I'm not saying that cleanliness isn't important, but it's NOT the most important aspect of life. Let's face it, kids are actually healthier when they can explore their surroundings and dirt finds them :) A messy home usually means it is full of activity :) So, smile and take a deep breath. You're doing a great job. Kudos,
Hey Kristina, I love seeing your home at any time. It's a blend of your artistic style and the love in your family. Your children will have beautiful memories of living in your house and growing there. I do feel sad that the same old unrealistic expectations of motherhood, womanhood and house management still exist a whole generation since I felt the same pressures. I would like to see your generation exude pride in what you do, and you are doing the hardest job in the world. Forget the 'perfect house' and know that your home is perfectly lovely. I deeply appreciate all your content and heartily respect you. 😘
First of all, you are extremely beautiful! I just found your channel a little bit ago when you are sewing a new fall wardrobe. So cute! Secondly, don't ever let hater comments get to you. These people are hiding behind a screen saying whatever they want because they are hurt and want to hurt others but they would never dare say it to your face. You are doing a fantastic job as a mother and a homemaker! 💗 Hope you have a wonderful night!
I needed this today. God bless you! I’ve been married 46 years. Over the years there have been plenty of seasons where the bare essentials are all I could manage. That’s life. There are emotional challenges, health challenges, life events - stuff happens. It’s normal. Today I’m laying in bed recovering from an acute illness. I had just been trying not to cry and mulling over how to adjust my attitude to face the pileup when I’m back on my feet. Then I found this! Thank you, again!!!
" my house is a mess, Im gonna clean it" AMEN! Let's go, that is all that needs to be said. Never answer your critics. My husband always says, Those who want to have a say in your life, must first love you. If they do not love you then they DO NOT have your best interest in mind. God bless your little house, family and channel. You are lovely and calming to watch and many, many people are being encouraged, entertained, and inspired in one way or another: Yes it is just simple: that we are all on some type of a journey. Thank you for sharing yours.
Who ever said those things to you probably never ave been in your shoes. I personally think you’re doing just fine. I worked,kept house, raised a child with my husband, now I’m a grandmother who is 70 years old. Enjoy the simple things of life. Raise your kids and don’t burn your candle at both ends. slow down the house work will always be there. Love Martha 😊
A big Thank You ❤ and a hug for my cleaning buddy. I never knew a “body double” as you put it would help me so much. You being brave and putting yourself out there has helped a lot of people I am certain. We “visit”’often as a result. You got this. With Love to you and your family. ❤
This video was PERFECT timing. I just went through pregnancy and postpartum also, and I too have ADHD and depression. And I am starting now to clean up the giant mess my house has become since being pregnant and then super depressed during postpartum. Thanks so much for being authentic and real on your channel. It always motivates me to keep going and this video especially made me feel like I’m not alone and feel like I didn’t have to be so hard on myself.
You popped into my feed and I already love you ! I'm a 60 year old mom and grandma. My youngest is 17. My oldest 39 and he and his family live with us. Things are always in Flux and have been in the 40 years I've been raising kids. That's real life. That's reality. P.S. our family is filled with people on the Spectrum/ADHD
Girl, you are not alone. I had COVID, sciatica, and strep throat, and newly diagnosed hypertension back to back. So my house looks like hell. I was obsessed with cleaning and perfection, but then my body started to fall apart. Priorities came into view real quick. Please put your health and wellbeing first. That house can wait. There is only one you. You’re irreplaceable. Please don’t forget that. You can’t care for others if you aren’t caring for you. Much love and peace be with you❤
Wow. I experienced almost the exact same thing!!! Still trying to heal my back and learning that I don’t have to have everything perfect in my home. I can take a breath and leave dog hair on the floor and the world will keep spinning lol
I love that you are normalizing reality in day to day cleaning and decorating. Thank you! It feels good to know that I'm not the only one decorating late for fall and having trouble keeping up with ADHD and SAD being present.
You are definitely not alone, I don't know if I'll get any other rooms fallified before we do our Christmas decor. But that's ok! We are alive and we can make lives simple and only do things that bring us joy (or necessary self-care and home-care tasks.) I've found it really helpful to spot-clean the most used areas and remind myself that other things can be delegated to family, or left for a day when I've got more energy. Sending love!
I'm ony 5 minutes in and all I have to say is, I GET IT! I was raised in a house where you kept everything useful, and kept paper records of everything. I went through a period of depression and anxiety while trying to deal with a very stressful situation. I chose to focus on the situation rather than my environment because it was all I had energy for. The situation has been over for years and I'm still digging through 17 years worth of paperwork, and while it's not pretty it's getting tons better every day. Noone will ever know the extent of someone else's struggles. There's no shame in doing the best you can or in asking for support or help when you can't.
It took me some time to watch. Because I knew it would shift my mind in some ways. I'm that kind of "perfect" and "control freak" wife. I love everything to be good, maybe not perfect, but good. Tidy, clean, homey and welcoming..... 48H before Christmas my mother in law told me "well we're not doing Christmas to my place this year, let's do it to yours". I was like.... how will I manage this, living in a small space with my husband, having 2 sets of plates, 2 sets of everything in the kitchen.... I felt lots of pressure, because as a first time Christmas Eve host, I wanted it to be good.... This morning I was going to shop a few more things (yeah I started yesterday...) but now, I feel more relax. It will not be perfect, it will be with different glasses and plates... but I know that what will be in is the most important and everybody will enjoy it. Thank you for that reminder, thank you for making it easier :)
I just found your channel and subscribed because of how you live, who you are and how amazing you are as a beautiful person! Never change, you are Amazing!
Don't let these trolls spoil one second of your day,look at how a Glaswegian maw deals with her kids,it will give you a right laugh. You're a beautiful looking young woman who works very hard and is super creative,I would love to have a daughter like you. Keep shining and being a creator and eff all those who are critical and cynical, they're not worth bothering with.💕😄💖
I struggle to keep my house tidy and It's the number 1 reason that I rarely create content on my UA-cam channel. I'm a crafter; a spinner, a weaver, a knitter and crocheter, I dye my own yarn and clothing, make journals and much more. As you can probably imagine, I have tons of crafty supplies and equipment with very little storage. My friends and family are very judgy and often tell me to throw it to the tip. My husband started lining our Rumpus Room many years for me to keep my crafts but it nevere got finished and instead became a junk room. I've been trying to go through it all but It's such a big job doing it on my own. I hope one day it will become a craft studio. BTW; your mushroom decor is adorable
A year or so ago my husband kept repeating that he didn’t care if every single dish was out of the sink at the end of the night, or that every toy was in its place. Then I realized I was putting pressure on myself to have everything the way my mother did. But my mom and I have different goals, and my husband pointed out that if I don’t care and he doesn’t care, why do I need to do certain things? Life changing. I still like to start a load of dishes but I no longer stress about perfectly clean counters or floors. Even tho my mother lives her and I’m sure it drives her nuts 😂🙄☺️
Kristina, thank you so much for being brave and showing your real life. As someone who struggles with perfectionism, it warms my heart to see someone share that it’s ok to have mess, struggles, and just to do the best you can in whatever season you’re in. I do feel welcome in your home and I hope that you’re able to recover from the depressive episode and trauma. You’re doing the best you can and it’s enough. ❤ Much love, Cassie
Thank you for doing such a great job of showing the struggle and the beauty of motherhood. I really enjoy watching your videos. They are so beautiful on my eyes, ears and my heart.
I'm shocked to find that I was un-subscribed to your channel. I thought you were taking a sabbatical. I love your channel and your home. Every time I see a strawberry I think of you. I love the way you embrace thrifting a 1950s look for your wardrobe. The rest of us are just trying to find something that only needs a button, hem, or iron-on applique over a hole. You rock! P.S. A 5-gallon utility bucket has a handle which makes carrying wood more convenient.
I don't think I would like to live in those troll's heads...it's been my experience that I will 'step into' the very thing I've judged, and trolls have a wake-up call coming their way. [I'm watching the wind whirl a great number of leaves off the trees - and the sun is shining at the moment, so it's very golden and whimsical]. Some days, 'small wins' are huge - worthy of celebrating even! Thank you for continuing to make content and sharing what's important to you. If someone else thinks something else is more important, they can start their own channel [they obviously have the time].
I love watching you in a real home. I too suffer like you with depression and ADHD. My trauma was the loss of my 50 year old son 2 years ago. Working my way to getting out of the hole is going to take the rest of my life. But watching you inspires this old lady to go one more day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You are not alone. I struggle every day with ADHD and mental health issues too. It’s an everyday battle to try and keep the house clean, and a lot of days I give up before I even start! I admire the hell out of you and what you do, because it inspires me to want to be better!
I feel you with many of the same things you talk about. ADD sucks and I have the same problems plus the loss of my son. You work at your own speed. Thank you for being real and ignore the ignorant people. Love to you and your family.p. S. I love your kitchen ❣️
The wildest thing about this is that I completely agree BUT I simply cannot apply it to myself. One of my very best friends has four kids and every time I go over she always so contrite about her happy disaster. She always says she’s worried about people judging her and, indeed, people have. I always tell her if someone is in her house/judging her then to hell with that person, they’re not worth caring about. And I sincerely believe that. I just can’t stop judging myself. I feel like this is my job and I need to bust tail to make sure everything is perfect. Grace is not my strong suit. I’m so pleased for you that you’re getting there; I hear it makes for a happier life!
I love your videos! Please don’t listen to people who say negative things to you, they are usually jealous and feel the need to tear you down for that reason. They feel small, and bringing others down makes them feel bigger-so they think. You are fantastic!
Kristine I have seen a transformation in your home since I began watching. It's is hard staying home to be a wife and mother and full time homemaker. Especially if you are like me, barely making ends meet. All that falls on our husbands then we feel as wives we need to step up our game to show our appreciation for their long hours. I had 3 boys that my husband and I decided I would be at home. Where by the way I wanted. I suffer from anxiety and depression and fir me working outside was not an option. This was a different world late 80's and economy was tough. It's nearly impossible for families today to feed their children healthy food all the time and stay in budget. I too hauled firewood to heat our home. But I loved it. To conclude you did a great job shifting decor and I too love the thrift store hunt. You take care, and don't put too much pressure on yourself or channel. We real Moms will keep watching because we are encouraged by truth.
The thing is we're all individual and I love that you're giving us your individuality That's kind of what it's all about we're all not supposed to be a cookie cut of each other so thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing it in the way that you do you are very appreciated and it's enjoyable to watch your content keep it coming Thank you❤
You are helping so many people by being so honest. Honesty is so very lacking in most cleaning videos. I love seeing imperfect houses, mine is so far from perfect. It's so very nice to not see a polishing video. The nitty gritty is reality. The cabinets that may not have been moved and cleaned behind, the fridge that does not get moved because its so very heavy, the chairs and couches that are far from new... I could go on and on. I appreciate your videos so much. (hugs) Thank you!! God bless you!
Hahaha let's not talk about behind my fridge ;) JK But thank you! Honestly I find it much more satisfying to see real homes with actual mess being cleaned than show-home-like spaces with crystal-clean floors being mopped hah! But it's ok, to each their own!
@@WithLoveKristina behind the fridge, and under my stove, those are both such big struggles for me! Please show me a really sticky, mess in a fridge, versus a shiny fridge being "cleaned'! Goodness! Thank you again dear!
I was showing your channel to my husband today. I love you! I'm a mom of 4 pregnant with n°5 so I relate so much with everything you said. You are so gentle and sweet too, I really love you. God bless you ❤
Please don't worry about what other people may think. Do the things that you can do and that make you and your family happy. Life is too short to worry about what others think or say. Their lives are probably a mess. Enjoy your babies and the life that you and your husband have built together. And never apologize for any of it.❤❤❤
Thank you for showing me that its OK to be untidy. You have helped me pick a room and clean. I did start painting my bathroom and I got a bad cold 3 weeks I am still struggling with coughing. So i do have to deep clean my kitchen. Maybe I can start that after I finish my goat milking room and fencing. I am getting 2 Nubin does that lost their kids. I do have to get them checked out by the veterinarian. They need some blood work. I know you have chickens. I would love to see how you raise them and gather eggs. One thing about the people who say nasty things. I wanted you to know that. You have a wonderful husband. Beautiful children. A wonderful home. You are a beautiful lady. And your orange cat is great. Keep up the wonderful content. I would like to buy one of your books. You read the start to one of your books and i loved it. I loved story time when I was a kid. I was always quiet. Email me thank you again.
Oh, thanks... we have been sick and I struggle to keep up a house with work, kids, homeschool. So much guilt I put on myself. I love that you have a real home, not a magazine perfect display. :) makes me feel content with what I have and think of ways to beautify my home rather than with for out of my budgey changes
You just said something that is SO TRUE. You said I find it hard to create videos where I can be honest and also create a video thats beautiful. THIS is where a ton of YTer's fall off and their content is fake and you can just tell they are not happy making videos. BECAUSE whats they are showing the world is not their real lives. Their videos are not being honest. Please stay true to yourself. I think your home is beautiful. Your not alone with the mental health struggles. I struggle and so does my home! Thank you so much for being real and honest.
This is nice to hear. In my day-the 90s, we didn't have this realness out there plus I was many states away from family and friends. I love this support you give and I hope you feel the support back! Yes we love your videos. I am a 1940s gal, but I like your content for the vintage factor and the real factor. Hang in there and take care, Fran
You are a beautiful person when I was growing up my house,was sometimes messy my mum did crafts with us we had hobbies I don't remember caring about the mess just feeling loved and safe
I think you’re very brave. There should be more people like you on social media you’re right everybody’s just too perfect and annoying. I think what you do is wonderful. Don’t let them get to you.
You have a beautiful loving home so natural and cosy it's all so normal and like the rest of us ,you children look happy and healthy and you are a beautiful person don't ever change love Robyn from Australia ❤️
I’m rewatching this video right now. I have been in a depressive and anxiety spiral for a week now. Not because anything bad happened, in fact the opposite. But while I was otherwise engaged, my house became a mess. And the comedown after the adrenaline filled few weeks I’ve just been through is almost debilitating. So I’ve put you on, with a cup of tea and a bowl of porridge and am listening to you for motivation. Sometimes I find it hard to look through the extremities and focus on the important things and you help me with that. Please keep doing what you are doing xxx
I appreciate this video so much because I am an adult with my own child living with my parents due to my disabilities and just not being able to afford to live anywhere else on the little SSI I get, and my mom is one of those people who wants her house to look like nobody lives there and it's a constant source of tension and argument and yelling and just negativity that the house never looks staged for very long. My son is nine and is supposed to just play only in his bedroom apparently.
Depression and anxiety here! I've been completely struggling for about the last year, and I can absolutely sympathize with you. Please, don't worry if things don't look "perfect." Perfection isn't real. I get that you want to create beautiful content, but there's so much beauty in imperfection! When you're not keeping up with the house, you've still been doing really important things: spending time with your loved ones, and looking after your mental health. The progress you've made on that is more beautiful than any picture-perfect home. And your channel IS a warm hug! I only found you a couple months ago, and you've gently inspired me to do better at keeping my one-bedroom, childfree apartment tidier. Is it perfect? No. But like you, it's a lot better than it used to be. I don't know you personally, of course, but after watching your videos, I can honestly say I'm proud of you for looking after yourself.
I once visited a family who had just had a baby about a week or two prior. We were welcomed, but also warned that it was going to be petty untidy. Stepping inside, it was overwhelming to me how much mess and clutter there was. The dishes were washed and that kind of thing, but there were piles of things being stored on the floor, on the table, on every surface, on the counters, etc. At first I felt like it was really messy and they would be better off to fix it, but then my mind changed a lot after considering what they had just been through. They didn't have mental capacity to make their house straight, as far as I am concerned. They had just lost their 14 month old two months prior after fighting for her life ever since she was born. The previous baby had needed 24/7 care, couldn't swallow, couldn't roll around, etc. Just stayed in her crib either at the hospital or at home her whole life. After seeing the bedroom she used to occupy and all the medical equipment, I realized that keeping the house tidy was probably last on their priorities list at the moment, and I certainly didn't blame them after seeing more closely what their struggles had been.
Your videos bring me so much comfort! I struggle with anxiety, and seeing you clean motivates me to clean and bring more peace into my life! 🖤🖤 Love the pumpkins! 🎃🎃
I love your sunny, bright kitchen. And absolutely NO judgement here! I was actually raised in a hoarded household and your house isn't even close to that. And my house gets out of control during different phases. Your home is adorable!
I love coming here. My little house (we moved from SE Oregon back to the Appalachian Mountains) is starting to come together - we down sized and the Cottage Core is strong. Thrifted, facebook marketplace, and fleamarket finds are our 'new' furniture. Items we've collected over years are out to be seen again (we had been living with our son and his kids - breakables were tucked away). We move along at our own pace. The house is clean, not perfect but I'm not ashamed to open the door. I'm glad you found your pace, your joy, and are living a good life taking care of your family your way. Thank you for letting us walk with you for a while.
Never change and stay strong, I wish I had had something like this channel to turn to when my children were small. I felt very alone, this helps me now, even though my children are grown, and gives me inspiration.
I use to be s perfectionist. In my late 30s I had my beautiful intelligent daughter. Her pediatrician told me that she was showing signs. Examples -if she didn't get over 100percent on test, she wasn't happy. She over cane this but used her attention to detail an d mathematics talent caused to Perdue 2 engineering degrees. She is happily married. You're fine, love your best life. Sending you love and hugs😊
First of all, you are doing a great job (and you don't need other people to tell you that)! There are always going to be on days and off days, days when our homes are clean and days when the floors are covered in crap. That being said, having less stuff has saved me so much time and energy over the last year as I began my decluttering journey. I'm also a lover of vintage and antiques and definitely a collector, but I asked myself what made me happier, having more free time or owning a lot of things. I am in no way minimalist but I would say the biggest thing that has made it easier for me is reducing items in my home. This is just an idea from one vintage lover/collector to another and in no way a judgement on you or your lovely home :)
PS forgot to include this, but THANK YOU for showing your home and your life on both the on days and the off days. Don't ever let other people make you feel bad for doing that, I'm so sick of seeing people's "perfect" homes constantly. Seeing your lived in home with happy children just makes all of your followers so happy!
Hi Kristina I love your home and your channel I love that you live in the 50s really enjoy those days it was similar way to live and people were more respectful don't change your videos or channel you are a lovely person take care much love possum ❤❤😊
Yes! love seeing a content creator who looks like me and has a house that’s not perfect. I’m sitting in my very vintage kitchen with chipping paint that I haven’t gotten a chance to repaint and old old linoleum that we will someday update. My family is happy & healthy, and we keep working on it!
Anytime I’ve seen your house it looks nice! Your children are always clean and well cared for !! You are a AMAZING, GREAT AND WONDERFUL PERSON!! We have 8 cats , 4 litter boxes and 3 adults living in the house, it’s hard for sure keeping it clean, I say it’s lived in and do the best I can!! Love the videos
I felt this way yesterday! I am a stay at home mom with a 3 yr old boy and I relate to you so much and I’m so glad. Found this video! I was very impressed with your axe welding skills! My son made us watch the beginning over and over lol I was like damn girl! I’ve tried to chop wood before and it isn’t the easiest! Get it girl ❤❤❤❤
When you look back on your life with your kids you won't remember how clean your house was, but you will remember the time spent with the kids and family and looking after yourself. I am a Grandmother now and can look back on what really was and is important.
I love your channel. I love your beautiful dresses, your honesty and how sweet your home is. I can so relate. I am on the other side of the children situation. I have 6 that I raised and now they are all grown. So enjoy yours, it goes fast. Hubby told me what a woman said to him a few weeks ago, "The days are long, but the years are short"! So true. I think about how did 39 years go by so fast? Fortunately, the grown kids are amazing human beings (I must have done something right), the grand kids are awesome and life finally isn't at a dead run anymore. I think I have PTSD from it all sometimes and now have days where I simply am so darn tired of it all. Tired of doing dishes, tired of the clean up, tired of coming up with dinner every day....etc. However, on the flip side, i have a much cleaner house and a lot of time on my hands that I can choose what to do with. Laundry now is NOT an endless battle. It takes me one day per week, to wash, dry, fold and put away mine and husbands clothing. Where before, i was lucky if it wasn't Mount Everest on either the dirty pile or the clean pile. So yeah, it's good! I determined as I was doing it all, having a clean house is nearly impossible if you want to have quality of life and happy kids. Once they are all in school, or of school age. It gets so much easier. Still an upstream battle, but at least you now have a paddle to help with the journey. So be gentle with yourself (and the kids won't remember a messy or dirty house, they will remember the fun and the love)This last year, my back has been bothering me (too much sewing, i think started it) And there was a few days that i had things i wanted/needed to get done. Then my knee started acting up too. I almost had a break down, I let myself cry for few, gathered myself up and determined that I would simply just do the best i could that day!! It worked, it took the pressure off and I actually got quite a bit done. Since then, my mindset is that. "I will just do the best I can today". Some days i move mountains, other days, i call it good with making the bed and taking a shower. Please, stay who you are, don't apologize and stay sweet! With much love! Have a beautiful day!
Kristina, I am new to your channel but I absolutely love it. My little ones are 20 and 22 now but I am a pediatrician who became a widow when they were 9 and 12 so I can relate. You are teaching your children valuable lessons everyday in how to be true to yourself. Stay beautiful. Stay yourself.
What is perfect? That word doesn't exist as such. Life is a daily challenge and the beauty is to face them and try to do better. You are great, you are doing awesome, keep doing what you are doing in your own way, that make you special❤
Came from Sage Lillyman’s link..but I’m subbing with notifications! And I’m excited to catch up on your uploads. So relatable! Looking forward to that since I’m home recovering from some personal things and need to get back into the swing of things..slowly and that’s perfectly okay! Love this philosophy. You’ve got a new fan in California, babe! 🌺
I can relate SO MUCH. Your channel honestly reminds me of “the good old days” of vlogging before everything got quite so polished. It’s still very well done and enjoyable. The cleanings ones are some of my favorite!
No one who *lives* in their house has a perfect house. Like you said, a home is not a showpiece. There's no hope in striving for perfection in housekeeping and homemaking. These are two separate full time jobs. Just aim for *happy* and comfortable because that's really all you need to make a home. You are embodying the principles that I lived by in the 90's when I was raising my kids as a stay at home mom. I also lived more simply, thrifted and made do and mended. I also had undiagnosed/unaware of ADHD issues that made it a struggle to DO all the things. I learned to manage and I applaud your success in doing the same. Side note: I absolutely love that linen, hand embroidered, full apron you have! It's stunning and I want one to embroider for myself! I always end up with cooking stains on my clothes, you'd think I'd already have an apron, but no.
Kristina, you are doing an amazing job. I enjoy watching your channel because you are so authentic and transparent. Your home looks very warm and welcoming. Please continue sharing your wonderful videos with us. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you’re not fitting into a box they have somehow envisioned you in. It would be a beautiful thing if we would all just walk in our own shoes and stop worrying about how someone is walking in theirs. Thank you for all you do to encourage and inspire others. 🍂🍁🍃
Please do not be discouraged. You are creating a home not just a structure. Having several children makes your work even harder. BTW the makeup is great!
Your channel is awesome! you are awesome and your family is perfect ! ❤ I am so tired of people showing perfection on there channels. Your house looks like mine and I love how sweet everything looks in your home. The most important thing I loved in this video was listening to the sound of your children's laughter in the background! KEEP BEING REAL ! YOU ARE SPECIAL! ❤
I love your videos and I’m sorry that others are unkind to you. You are doing a great job and I love how honest and open you are. When I first found your videos I was so lonely and believed that because my home wasn’t “magazine worthy “ that I had ultimately failed as a wife and mother but you have helped me to see that thought was a lie I told myself. That life even with all it’s struggles can be beautiful if you just keep going.
Gday Kristina. Your video is most definitely like receiving a hug & each time you put a video out as well 💙We can see how much love you have & how happy your children are, we do not need to know you personally to hear how happy your children are as we can hear them in the background & in front of the camera 💙I can relate to what you have said & I need to get to some cleaning, tidying, things to donate, things to sell 🙂You are kind, you are graceful, you are loving, you are sweet & endearing & above all you are truth. Thanku so much for sharing & everything you do to bring us your videos when you can. Ana. 🤗🥀
We must remain real, be ourselves!! I dont have these problems but my house is a mess too! It will get done eventually. I cared for my mom her last 2 1/3 years, living eith her and letying my home go so it's all my fault. I accept this and will fix mysrlf. It's just very overwhelming right now. Im dealing with it little by little. I have back problems and knee problems that I deal eith. Don't let anyone get you fown. Keep up the good work and attitude. 🥰🥰
Caring for your mom was important work to be done, it's absolutely ok! We all have our struggles, and like that quote said - we should never speak unkindly about others' homes! Sending hugs xo
You are an awesome person! I love that you show reality at its finest (by that I mean the reality of cleaning with kids and just exist). You are so cool in my eyes because I am coming out of a weird survival mode/depression thanks to my medication. I feel I can function again and your videos has helped me to realize I can do this.
You're doing a great job! Your house looks cute, mess is just what happens when you live in a house :) I really think that the standards for cleaning some people present on the internet are impossible to achive, unless you want to be cleaning 6 hours per day and don't have kids around. So I just accept the mess and try to keep up within my limits of energy and mental health.
As long as you love what you have, that's all that matters. I may not have you decorating astetic but then maybe mine isn't yours. I think your house is cute and has lots of potential. So keep decorating your way and enjoy! Oh, and forget the critics. They are just unhappy people. ❤
I had a small vase on top of my toilet. Inside this vase was ground incense. I also had sea shells and a candle. I get up at night sometimes, and late this one night I finished and flushed, pulling everything down. Small story short......... didn't pick up broken vase etc but until a day in a half.
This is me, thank you for being real. My mental health is getting better. Along with my house. God bless you ! There is always going to be haters no matter what 🙏❤️
Please, please, please NEVER change a thing about your channel. I come here SPECIFICALLY to see a home I can relate to. A BEAUTIFUL, cozy, NORMAL home. Honestly, your videos are perfect just the way they are.
Oh thank you so much, you are so sweet! I will do my best to always bring the cozy reality!
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I have adhd and I can never keep up. I have kids, I homeschool, my husband works away more than he’s home, & I have a lot of animals. Your videos are my favorite and you’re so much more relatable than most people I’ve found on UA-cam. Thank you for being real!
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Oh girl same! 3 boys all homeschooling, 1 is 13, my second is 11, and my youngest is 7. My hubby works long hours. The house is needing updating. We rent my mom's home so I can't really change anything since she is the owner. Plus I'm broke right now, hubby lost an amazing job but is working so right before the holidays his commissions are going to be lower than they had been if that hadn't happened. We have multiple cats.
Ayyyyyy yi yi. We all have ADHD and I struggle with depression and anxiety. It ain't easy but it's gotta all still get done. You're not alone mama. Don't feel bad, just do your best and forget the rest. Easier said than done I know. Here's a hug from one overwhelmed mama to another. ❤
Those "perfect"creators have rooms their kids arent allowed in except for filming. They are the ones that take their kids to the park and snap cute photos and take them home. What I saw was a lived in house with kids laughing in the background, a little one that needs to be held and you interacting with your kids. What I saw was a GREAT MOM. We love you because you are not pretending to be perfect. You are real.Your videos feel like visiting a friend -do not change for us or anyone else.
I think we all need to listen to the kids laughing and happy in the background. I so miss having little ones but also remember how hard it was to get things done. Instead of tearing each other down we should tell each other that some days are hard but we are doing a great job! And if you don't like how my house looks feel free to show me how to clean it by you coming over and showing me. Kristina, you are doing a wonderful job and your home makes me feel cozy.
I agree, and thank you! You are so sweet! xo
That was my favorite part! The kids. It goes so fast. Mine is now too quiet some days now!
Don't worry about the housework. When you're sad or depressed, do something creative. Creativity has always helped me get through whatever tough time life decides to give. Then you will be more prepared for housework.
100% right. And it’s okay to ask your inner circle for help. I’ve done it before and am recovering slowly from a bad period of mental health and things related to that - but it’s about taking care of YOU right now. Eventually, I wanted to do a little housework. Then I wanted to get dressed. Then I wanted to go outside to rake leaves. Then I wanted to do an art project with the leaves. I did. It’s all tied together. But yeah, the dishes aren’t the priority- the human is. And what’s more basic humanity than following any of the million creative inklings that are in our minds - it takes so many forms! Good advice though. I’m a watercolor girl myself but love pen and ink, collage, photography and a million other things. Anyhoo, thanks for your wise comment. 🌺
Absolutely love this video and your pre-amble at the start. I’m a 33 year old male who lives alone and has depression. I’ve had a challenging four years since the pandemic and I haven’t been able to catch my breath. One of my joys is making my home beautiful and special, but lately it’s just been counters piled with to do jobs whilst more pressing matters take the forefront.
I’m lucky that I’m a high functioning depressive and my house gets untidy and not dirty or with unhealthy garbage etc. However, I always have grace for others and hope to extend that to myself. It’s so hard when other people don’t have mental health issues and you can’t help seeing how simple things are for them (seemingly). But we can only play the cards we are dealt and try to be a bit better than we were yesterday.
Love your content and thank you for sharing!
Thank you for that, Nath. I can definitely relate 🌺love from California
Nath…how are you holding up?? Doing better? I’m currently doing better. As
you’d mentioned, I’m spending time making my home better/more special and hopefully beautiful now that I’m coming out of a LONG period of kinda apathy and depression. Doing some deep cleaning that needed to be done and focusing on making my home a pleasant place for my husband (and family or friends who visit…I’m actually inviting them!) to come home to. He’s made several of my days ☺️by taking the time to express appreciation and gratitude for the extra effort.
I started by focusing on self care. Cute shorter haircut which I’d be wanting for months and cleaning out my closet and discovering a bunch of cute stuff I’d forgotten about. Also nutrition- which I neglect during bad periods - skipping meals or eating the very bare minimum but also drinking a bit- I decided to cut the alcohol and focus on delish home cooking which I enjoy.
Anyhoo, been scrolling thru past replies and wanted to check in. I don’t really use other social media so I wanted to send another reply! Hopefully you’re also doing well. If you feel like it, let me know! Hugs from California 🌺🌺💗
Well said. It's so important to have grace for yourself and others. Nobody's life is perfect. We only see the shiny surface of other's lives, not the grungy bits. Depression is a slippery slope and it's wonderful to hear that you are high functioning. I am the same or I try to be.
Alls I know is I just saw you had a new video and was like, “Yay! I hope she’s doing another cozy cleaning video!”
The haters and know-it-all “perfect” people can go scratch. I don’t know you personally, but you seem to be one of the sweetest and most honest people on UA-cam. Your children are loved and healthy and you obviously care. I think you’re lovely and have a neat, whimsical, and creative vibe which I thoroughly enjoy.
That opening is *chefs kiss*! I love a good wood chop in a dress moment.
hahahaha I need to do more of them
As a Mom of a daughter that has depression, I say good for you! Sometimes it’s a battle to get out of the bed and one step forward is progress! Don’t look at the whole staircase, just take the next step. Your home is precious as is your family. I loved your kind and gentle affirmations at the end of the video. Hugs ❤
For the life of me, I don't understand why people are so negative, critical and mean-spirited. When I look at your home I just see lots of love and charm and happy children. Life is such a struggle so why would strangers add to yours. It's unnecessary and unconscionable. Stay strong and loving and charming. I find you inspiring!
You are so sweet, thank you!
Don’t worry about ‘perfect’, it’s really refreshing to come to a channel where the kitchen (and the rest of the house) is not completely white and sterile and has absolutely no personality at all. Your kitchen looks comfortable and cozy.
I really needed to hear this today. Life is difficult enough with kids, maintaining a home, and your mental health. Why do we need to make it appear as if everything is perfect when it is not. Normalizing imperfections and the reality of a real home is exactly what we need more of!
I wish you and your family well. Thank you, Kristina❤
Your home is lovely...
My Mum had a plaque up in our old family home and it said,
This house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy.
I think that sums life up...
You are doing great and your kids seem very happy 😊 ❤
Thank you Kristina for opening up your home and sharing your heart! The kitchen looks adorable and I’m impressed with your wood chopping girl!! 😃🍁
hahaha ya girl grew up on a farm with three older brothers, I figured I had to keep up somehow ;) Thank you!
Pulling the fork out of the freshly swept pile of crap, I feeeel that 😂😂 I love these cleaning videos.
That! Omg I’m always pulling out itty bitty bits like legos and I apparently need more forks 😂 Aaaah the life 😂
LOL I’m glad I’m not alone in this 😂😂😂
Entirely prefer this real life view of a busy household full of children and love. I agree with your 2nd hand/thrifty decorating style/philosophy. Love your cozy and whimsical touches.
There are things MORE IMPORTANT than a clean house, period. It called LIVING. There is a big difference between really living your life to the fullest and just existing. The house can be cleaned, the kids can be cleaned, etc...your family is young and you'll never get these times back, enjoy them. And honestly, feel sorry for those who have nothing but time to spend cleaning. I'm not saying that cleanliness isn't important, but it's NOT the most important aspect of life. Let's face it,
kids are actually healthier when they can explore their surroundings and dirt finds them :)
A messy home usually means it is full of activity :) So, smile and take a deep breath. You're doing a great job. Kudos,
Haha I agree. Mess will wait, these years with littles are so fleeting! xoxo
Hey Kristina, I love seeing your home at any time. It's a blend of your artistic style and the love in your family. Your children will have beautiful memories of living in your house and growing there. I do feel sad that the same old unrealistic expectations of motherhood, womanhood and house management still exist a whole generation since I felt the same pressures. I would like to see your generation exude pride in what you do, and you are doing the hardest job in the world. Forget the 'perfect house' and know that your home is perfectly lovely. I deeply appreciate all your content and heartily respect you. 😘
First of all, you are extremely beautiful! I just found your channel a little bit ago when you are sewing a new fall wardrobe. So cute! Secondly, don't ever let hater comments get to you. These people are hiding behind a screen saying whatever they want because they are hurt and want to hurt others but they would never dare say it to your face. You are doing a fantastic job as a mother and a homemaker! 💗 Hope you have a wonderful night!
Oh thank you so much, that is so sweet of you to say!
It's your authenticity that I come here for. I hate to hear that you have been having a hard time. I am always wishing the best for you.
I needed this today. God bless you!
I’ve been married 46 years. Over the years there have been plenty of seasons where the bare essentials are all I could manage. That’s life. There are emotional challenges, health challenges, life events - stuff happens. It’s normal. Today I’m laying in bed recovering from an acute illness. I had just been trying not to cry and mulling over how to adjust my attitude to face the pileup when I’m back on my feet. Then I found this! Thank you, again!!!
I wanted you to know I have found great comfort and kinship from the space you have created. Thank you so much - you really have helped me
" my house is a mess, Im gonna clean it" AMEN! Let's go, that is all that needs to be said. Never answer your critics. My husband always says, Those who want to have a say in your life, must first love you. If they do not love you then they DO NOT have your best interest in mind. God bless your little house, family and channel. You are lovely and calming to watch and many, many people are being encouraged, entertained, and inspired in one way or another: Yes it is just simple: that we are all on some type of a journey. Thank you for sharing yours.
Who ever said those things to you probably never ave been in your shoes. I personally think you’re doing just fine. I worked,kept house, raised a child with my husband, now I’m a grandmother who is 70 years old. Enjoy the simple things of life. Raise your kids and don’t burn your candle at both ends. slow down the house work will always be there. Love Martha 😊
A big Thank You ❤ and a hug for my cleaning buddy. I never knew a “body double” as you put it would help me so much. You being brave and putting yourself out there has helped a lot of people I am certain. We “visit”’often as a result. You got this. With Love to you and your family. ❤
Body doubling is SO helpful isn't it? Sending you love, too!
This video was PERFECT timing. I just went through pregnancy and postpartum also, and I too have ADHD and depression. And I am starting now to clean up the giant mess my house has become since being pregnant and then super depressed during postpartum. Thanks so much for being authentic and real on your channel. It always motivates me to keep going and this video especially made me feel like I’m not alone and feel like I didn’t have to be so hard on myself.
Hugs mama, going through PPD is so incredibly hard. You are doing enough, I hope you know that. ❤️❤️❤️
@@WithLoveKristina 💜💜💜
You popped into my feed and I already love you ! I'm a 60 year old mom and grandma. My youngest is 17. My oldest 39 and he and his family live with us. Things are always in Flux and have been in the 40 years I've been raising kids. That's real life. That's reality.
P.S. our family is filled with people on the Spectrum/ADHD
Girl, you are not alone. I had COVID, sciatica, and strep throat, and newly diagnosed hypertension back to back. So my house looks like hell. I was obsessed with cleaning and perfection, but then my body started to fall apart. Priorities came into view real quick. Please put your health and wellbeing first. That house can wait. There is only one you. You’re irreplaceable. Please don’t forget that. You can’t care for others if you aren’t caring for you. Much love and peace be with you❤
Wow. I experienced almost the exact same thing!!! Still trying to heal my back and learning that I don’t have to have everything perfect in my home. I can take a breath and leave dog hair on the floor and the world will keep spinning lol
I love that you are normalizing reality in day to day cleaning and decorating. Thank you! It feels good to know that I'm not the only one decorating late for fall and having trouble keeping up with ADHD and SAD being present.
You are definitely not alone, I don't know if I'll get any other rooms fallified before we do our Christmas decor. But that's ok! We are alive and we can make lives simple and only do things that bring us joy (or necessary self-care and home-care tasks.) I've found it really helpful to spot-clean the most used areas and remind myself that other things can be delegated to family, or left for a day when I've got more energy. Sending love!
I'm ony 5 minutes in and all I have to say is, I GET IT! I was raised in a house where you kept everything useful, and kept paper records of everything. I went through a period of depression and anxiety while trying to deal with a very stressful situation. I chose to focus on the situation rather than my environment because it was all I had energy for. The situation has been over for years and I'm still digging through 17 years worth of paperwork, and while it's not pretty it's getting tons better every day. Noone will ever know the extent of someone else's struggles. There's no shame in doing the best you can or in asking for support or help when you can't.
Kristina you have the kind of home that most people would enjoy spending the afternoon with a cup of tea and freshly baked goods.
It took me some time to watch. Because I knew it would shift my mind in some ways. I'm that kind of "perfect" and "control freak" wife. I love everything to be good, maybe not perfect, but good. Tidy, clean, homey and welcoming.....
48H before Christmas my mother in law told me "well we're not doing Christmas to my place this year, let's do it to yours". I was like.... how will I manage this, living in a small space with my husband, having 2 sets of plates, 2 sets of everything in the kitchen.... I felt lots of pressure, because as a first time Christmas Eve host, I wanted it to be good.... This morning I was going to shop a few more things (yeah I started yesterday...) but now, I feel more relax. It will not be perfect, it will be with different glasses and plates... but I know that what will be in is the most important and everybody will enjoy it.
Thank you for that reminder, thank you for making it easier :)
Your videos do feel like a warm hug❤
Awww I'm so glad!
You are beautiful and inspiring! You are so warm and real! Your home is cozy and inviting. ❤
Thank you so much!
I just found your channel and subscribed because of how you live, who you are and how amazing you are as a beautiful person! Never change, you are Amazing!
Don't let these trolls spoil one second of your day,look at how a Glaswegian maw deals with her kids,it will give you a right laugh.
You're a beautiful looking young woman who works very hard and is super creative,I would love to have a daughter like you.
Keep shining and being a creator and eff all those who are critical and cynical, they're not worth bothering with.💕😄💖
I struggle to keep my house tidy and It's the number 1 reason that I rarely create content on my UA-cam channel. I'm a crafter; a spinner, a weaver, a knitter and crocheter, I dye my own yarn and clothing, make journals and much more. As you can probably imagine, I have tons of crafty supplies and equipment with very little storage. My friends and family are very judgy and often tell me to throw it to the tip. My husband started lining our Rumpus Room many years for me to keep my crafts but it nevere got finished and instead became a junk room. I've been trying to go through it all but It's such a big job doing it on my own. I hope one day it will become a craft studio.
BTW; your mushroom decor is adorable
A year or so ago my husband kept repeating that he didn’t care if every single dish was out of the sink at the end of the night, or that every toy was in its place. Then I realized I was putting pressure on myself to have everything the way my mother did. But my mom and I have different goals, and my husband pointed out that if I don’t care and he doesn’t care, why do I need to do certain things?
Life changing. I still like to start a load of dishes but I no longer stress about perfectly clean counters or floors. Even tho my mother lives her and I’m sure it drives her nuts 😂🙄☺️
Lol, the cat when you were fixing the couch cover! 😂
Kristina, thank you so much for being brave and showing your real life. As someone who struggles with perfectionism, it warms my heart to see someone share that it’s ok to have mess, struggles, and just to do the best you can in whatever season you’re in. I do feel welcome in your home and I hope that you’re able to recover from the depressive episode and trauma. You’re doing the best you can and it’s enough. ❤ Much love, Cassie
Thank you for doing such a great job of showing the struggle and the beauty of motherhood. I really enjoy watching your videos. They are so beautiful on my eyes, ears and my heart.
I'm shocked to find that I was un-subscribed to your channel. I thought you were taking a sabbatical. I love your channel and your home. Every time I see a strawberry I think of you. I love the way you embrace thrifting a 1950s look for your wardrobe. The rest of us are just trying to find something that only needs a button, hem, or iron-on applique over a hole. You rock!
P.S. A 5-gallon utility bucket has a handle which makes carrying wood more convenient.
I don't think I would like to live in those troll's heads...it's been my experience that I will 'step into' the very thing I've judged, and trolls have a wake-up call coming their way. [I'm watching the wind whirl a great number of leaves off the trees - and the sun is shining at the moment, so it's very golden and whimsical]. Some days, 'small wins' are huge - worthy of celebrating even! Thank you for continuing to make content and sharing what's important to you. If someone else thinks something else is more important, they can start their own channel [they obviously have the time].
I love watching you in a real home. I too suffer like you with depression and ADHD. My trauma was the loss of my 50 year old son 2 years ago. Working my way to getting out of the hole is going to take the rest of my life. But watching you inspires this old lady to go one more day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Dori I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. Grief is so hard to work through. Sending you much love.
You are not alone. I struggle every day with ADHD and mental health issues too. It’s an everyday battle to try and keep the house clean, and a lot of days I give up before I even start! I admire the hell out of you and what you do, because it inspires me to want to be better!
Having depression, pain and having a clean house/room is such a struggle. I had to have my friend come over and help me.
I feel you with many of the same things you talk about. ADD sucks and I have the same problems plus the loss of my son. You work at your own speed. Thank you for being real and ignore the ignorant people. Love to you and your family.p. S. I love your kitchen ❣️
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son, Terry. Sending you love.
@@WithLoveKristina Thank you
The wildest thing about this is that I completely agree BUT I simply cannot apply it to myself.
One of my very best friends has four kids and every time I go over she always so contrite about her happy disaster. She always says she’s worried about people judging her and, indeed, people have. I always tell her if someone is in her house/judging her then to hell with that person, they’re not worth caring about. And I sincerely believe that.
I just can’t stop judging myself. I feel like this is my job and I need to bust tail to make sure everything is perfect. Grace is not my strong suit. I’m so pleased for you that you’re getting there; I hear it makes for a happier life!
I love your videos! Please don’t listen to people who say negative things to you, they are usually jealous and feel the need to tear you down for that reason. They feel small, and bringing others down makes them feel bigger-so they think. You are fantastic!
Kristine I have seen a transformation in your home since I began watching. It's is hard staying home to be a wife and mother and full time homemaker. Especially if you are like me, barely making ends meet. All that falls on our husbands then we feel as wives we need to step up our game to show our appreciation for their long hours.
I had 3 boys that my husband and I decided I would be at home. Where by the way I wanted. I suffer from anxiety and depression and fir me working outside was not an option. This was a different world late 80's and economy was tough. It's nearly impossible for families today to feed their children healthy food all the time and stay in budget. I too hauled firewood to heat our home. But I loved it.
To conclude you did a great job shifting decor and I too love the thrift store hunt.
You take care, and don't put too much pressure on yourself or channel. We real Moms will keep watching because we are encouraged by truth.
I love these videos from you! They always make me want to tidy up b/c it feels like cleaning with a friend once you get started.
The thing is we're all individual and I love that you're giving us your individuality That's kind of what it's all about we're all not supposed to be a cookie cut of each other so thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing it in the way that you do you are very appreciated and it's enjoyable to watch your content keep it coming Thank you❤
You are helping so many people by being so honest. Honesty is so very lacking in most cleaning videos. I love seeing imperfect houses, mine is so far from perfect. It's so very nice to not see a polishing video. The nitty gritty is reality. The cabinets that may not have been moved and cleaned behind, the fridge that does not get moved because its so very heavy, the chairs and couches that are far from new... I could go on and on. I appreciate your videos so much. (hugs) Thank you!! God bless you!
Hahaha let's not talk about behind my fridge ;) JK But thank you! Honestly I find it much more satisfying to see real homes with actual mess being cleaned than show-home-like spaces with crystal-clean floors being mopped hah! But it's ok, to each their own!
@@WithLoveKristina behind the fridge, and under my stove, those are both such big struggles for me! Please show me a really sticky, mess in a fridge, versus a shiny fridge being "cleaned'! Goodness! Thank you again dear!
I was showing your channel to my husband today. I love you! I'm a mom of 4 pregnant with n°5 so I relate so much with everything you said. You are so gentle and sweet too, I really love you. God bless you ❤
Please don't worry about what other people may think. Do the things that you can do and that make you and your family happy. Life is too short to worry about what others think or say. Their lives are probably a mess. Enjoy your babies and the life that you and your husband have built together. And never apologize for any of it.❤❤❤
Thank you for showing me that its OK to be untidy. You have helped me pick a room and clean. I did start painting my bathroom and I got a bad cold 3 weeks I am still struggling with coughing. So i do have to deep clean my kitchen. Maybe I can start that after I finish my goat milking room and fencing. I am getting 2 Nubin does that lost their kids. I do have to get them checked out by the veterinarian. They need some blood work. I know you have chickens. I would love to see how you raise them and gather eggs. One thing about the people who say nasty things. I wanted you to know that. You have a wonderful husband. Beautiful children. A wonderful home. You are a beautiful lady. And your orange cat is great. Keep up the wonderful content. I would like to buy one of your books. You read the start to one of your books and i loved it. I loved story time when I was a kid. I was always quiet. Email me thank you again.
Oh, thanks... we have been sick and I struggle to keep up a house with work, kids, homeschool. So much guilt I put on myself. I love that you have a real home, not a magazine perfect display. :) makes me feel content with what I have and think of ways to beautify my home rather than with for out of my budgey changes
You just said something that is SO TRUE. You said I find it hard to create videos where I can be honest and also create a video thats beautiful. THIS is where a ton of YTer's fall off and their content is fake and you can just tell they are not happy making videos. BECAUSE whats they are showing the world is not their real lives. Their videos are not being honest. Please stay true to yourself. I think your home is beautiful. Your not alone with the mental health struggles. I struggle and so does my home! Thank you so much for being real and honest.
This is nice to hear. In my day-the 90s, we didn't have this realness out there plus I was many states away from family and friends. I love this support you give and I hope you feel the support back! Yes we love your videos. I am a 1940s gal, but I like your content for the vintage factor and the real factor. Hang in there and take care, Fran
You are a beautiful person when I was growing up my house,was sometimes messy my mum did crafts with us we had hobbies I don't remember caring about the mess just feeling loved and safe
I think you’re very brave. There should be more people like you on social media you’re right everybody’s just too perfect and annoying. I think what you do is wonderful. Don’t let them get to you.
You have a beautiful loving home so natural and cosy it's all so normal and like the rest of us ,you children look happy and healthy and you are a beautiful person don't ever change love Robyn from Australia ❤️
I’m rewatching this video right now. I have been in a depressive and anxiety spiral for a week now. Not because anything bad happened, in fact the opposite. But while I was otherwise engaged, my house became a mess. And the comedown after the adrenaline filled few weeks I’ve just been through is almost debilitating. So I’ve put you on, with a cup of tea and a bowl of porridge and am listening to you for motivation. Sometimes I find it hard to look through the extremities and focus on the important things and you help me with that. Please keep doing what you are doing xxx
What a charming kitchen. And THANK YOU SO MUCH for not speed cleaning. It’s such a comfort to clean slowly along with you. 🥰
I appreciate this video so much because I am an adult with my own child living with my parents due to my disabilities and just not being able to afford to live anywhere else on the little SSI I get, and my mom is one of those people who wants her house to look like nobody lives there and it's a constant source of tension and argument and yelling and just negativity that the house never looks staged for very long. My son is nine and is supposed to just play only in his bedroom apparently.
Depression and anxiety here! I've been completely struggling for about the last year, and I can absolutely sympathize with you.
Please, don't worry if things don't look "perfect." Perfection isn't real. I get that you want to create beautiful content, but there's so much beauty in imperfection! When you're not keeping up with the house, you've still been doing really important things: spending time with your loved ones, and looking after your mental health. The progress you've made on that is more beautiful than any picture-perfect home.
And your channel IS a warm hug! I only found you a couple months ago, and you've gently inspired me to do better at keeping my one-bedroom, childfree apartment tidier. Is it perfect? No. But like you, it's a lot better than it used to be. I don't know you personally, of course, but after watching your videos, I can honestly say I'm proud of you for looking after yourself.
I once visited a family who had just had a baby about a week or two prior. We were welcomed, but also warned that it was going to be petty untidy. Stepping inside, it was overwhelming to me how much mess and clutter there was. The dishes were washed and that kind of thing, but there were piles of things being stored on the floor, on the table, on every surface, on the counters, etc. At first I felt like it was really messy and they would be better off to fix it, but then my mind changed a lot after considering what they had just been through. They didn't have mental capacity to make their house straight, as far as I am concerned. They had just lost their 14 month old two months prior after fighting for her life ever since she was born. The previous baby had needed 24/7 care, couldn't swallow, couldn't roll around, etc. Just stayed in her crib either at the hospital or at home her whole life. After seeing the bedroom she used to occupy and all the medical equipment, I realized that keeping the house tidy was probably last on their priorities list at the moment, and I certainly didn't blame them after seeing more closely what their struggles had been.
Your videos bring me so much comfort! I struggle with anxiety, and seeing you clean motivates me to clean and bring more peace into my life! 🖤🖤 Love the pumpkins! 🎃🎃
I love your sunny, bright kitchen. And absolutely NO judgement here! I was actually raised in a hoarded household and your house isn't even close to that. And my house gets out of control during different phases. Your home is adorable!
I love coming here. My little house (we moved from SE Oregon back to the Appalachian Mountains) is starting to come together - we down sized and the Cottage Core is strong. Thrifted, facebook marketplace, and fleamarket finds are our 'new' furniture. Items we've collected over years are out to be seen again (we had been living with our son and his kids - breakables were tucked away). We move along at our own pace. The house is clean, not perfect but I'm not ashamed to open the door. I'm glad you found your pace, your joy, and are living a good life taking care of your family your way. Thank you for letting us walk with you for a while.
I love all your videos, but these are always my favorite! A perfect untouchable home doesn’t feel like home to me. Your home does. ❤
Never change and stay strong, I wish I had had something like this channel to turn to when my children were small. I felt very alone, this helps me now, even though my children are grown, and gives me inspiration.
I use to be s perfectionist. In my late 30s I had my beautiful intelligent daughter. Her pediatrician told me that she was showing signs. Examples -if she didn't get over 100percent on test, she wasn't happy. She over cane this but used her attention to detail an d mathematics talent caused to Perdue 2 engineering degrees. She is happily married. You're fine, love your best life. Sending you love and hugs😊
First of all, you are doing a great job (and you don't need other people to tell you that)! There are always going to be on days and off days, days when our homes are clean and days when the floors are covered in crap. That being said, having less stuff has saved me so much time and energy over the last year as I began my decluttering journey. I'm also a lover of vintage and antiques and definitely a collector, but I asked myself what made me happier, having more free time or owning a lot of things. I am in no way minimalist but I would say the biggest thing that has made it easier for me is reducing items in my home. This is just an idea from one vintage lover/collector to another and in no way a judgement on you or your lovely home :)
PS forgot to include this, but THANK YOU for showing your home and your life on both the on days and the off days. Don't ever let other people make you feel bad for doing that, I'm so sick of seeing people's "perfect" homes constantly. Seeing your lived in home with happy children just makes all of your followers so happy!
Hi Kristina I love your home and your channel I love that you live in the 50s really enjoy those days it was similar way to live and people were more respectful don't change your videos or channel you are a lovely person take care much love possum ❤❤😊
Well, I love your realness. This is real life.
I think reality is much more beautiful in many ways, if I'm honest. Thank you Michelle!
Yes! love seeing a content creator who looks like me and has a house that’s not perfect. I’m sitting in my very vintage kitchen with chipping paint that I haven’t gotten a chance to repaint and old old linoleum that we will someday update. My family is happy & healthy, and we keep working on it!
Anytime I’ve seen your house it looks nice! Your children are always clean and well cared for !! You are a AMAZING, GREAT AND WONDERFUL PERSON!! We have 8 cats , 4 litter boxes and 3 adults living in the house, it’s hard for sure keeping it clean, I say it’s lived in and do the best I can!!
Love the videos
I felt this way yesterday! I am a stay at home mom with a 3 yr old boy and I relate to you so much and I’m so glad. Found this video! I was very impressed with your axe welding skills! My son made us watch the beginning over and over lol I was like damn girl! I’ve tried to chop wood before and it isn’t the easiest! Get it girl ❤❤❤❤
When you look back on your life with your kids you won't remember how clean your house was, but you will remember the time spent with the kids and family and looking after yourself. I am a Grandmother now and can look back on what really was and is important.
I love your channel. I love your beautiful dresses, your honesty and how sweet your home is. I can so relate. I am on the other side of the children situation. I have 6 that I raised and now they are all grown. So enjoy yours, it goes fast. Hubby told me what a woman said to him a few weeks ago, "The days are long, but the years are short"! So true. I think about how did 39 years go by so fast? Fortunately, the grown kids are amazing human beings (I must have done something right), the grand kids are awesome and life finally isn't at a dead run anymore. I think I have PTSD from it all sometimes and now have days where I simply am so darn tired of it all. Tired of doing dishes, tired of the clean up, tired of coming up with dinner every day....etc. However, on the flip side, i have a much cleaner house and a lot of time on my hands that I can choose what to do with. Laundry now is NOT an endless battle. It takes me one day per week, to wash, dry, fold and put away mine and husbands clothing. Where before, i was lucky if it wasn't Mount Everest on either the dirty pile or the clean pile. So yeah, it's good! I determined as I was doing it all, having a clean house is nearly impossible if you want to have quality of life and happy kids. Once they are all in school, or of school age. It gets so much easier. Still an upstream battle, but at least you now have a paddle to help with the journey. So be gentle with yourself (and the kids won't remember a messy or dirty house, they will remember the fun and the love)This last year, my back has been bothering me (too much sewing, i think started it) And there was a few days that i had things i wanted/needed to get done. Then my knee started acting up too. I almost had a break down, I let myself cry for few, gathered myself up and determined that I would simply just do the best i could that day!! It worked, it took the pressure off and I actually got quite a bit done. Since then, my mindset is that. "I will just do the best I can today". Some days i move mountains, other days, i call it good with making the bed and taking a shower. Please, stay who you are, don't apologize and stay sweet! With much love! Have a beautiful day!
I just wanted to say I love your home and would live in it exactly as it is any day.
This is so sweet Courtney, thank you!
Kristina, I am new to your channel but I absolutely love it. My little ones are 20 and 22 now but I am a pediatrician who became a widow when they were 9 and 12 so I can relate. You are teaching your children valuable lessons everyday in how to be true to yourself. Stay beautiful. Stay yourself.
What is perfect? That word doesn't exist as such. Life is a daily challenge and the beauty is to face them and try to do better.
You are great, you are doing awesome, keep doing what you are doing in your own way, that make you special❤
Came from Sage Lillyman’s link..but I’m subbing with notifications! And I’m excited to catch up on your uploads. So relatable! Looking forward to that since I’m home recovering from some personal things and need to get back into the swing of things..slowly and that’s perfectly okay! Love this philosophy. You’ve got a new fan in California, babe! 🌺
I can relate SO MUCH. Your channel honestly reminds me of “the good old days” of vlogging before everything got quite so polished. It’s still very well done and enjoyable. The cleanings ones are some of my favorite!
No one who *lives* in their house has a perfect house. Like you said, a home is not a showpiece. There's no hope in striving for perfection in housekeeping and homemaking. These are two separate full time jobs. Just aim for *happy* and comfortable because that's really all you need to make a home. You are embodying the principles that I lived by in the 90's when I was raising my kids as a stay at home mom. I also lived more simply, thrifted and made do and mended. I also had undiagnosed/unaware of ADHD issues that made it a struggle to DO all the things. I learned to manage and I applaud your success in doing the same.
Side note: I absolutely love that linen, hand embroidered, full apron you have! It's stunning and I want one to embroider for myself! I always end up with cooking stains on my clothes, you'd think I'd already have an apron, but no.
Please do not change! I appreciate the realness, your genuineness.
Kristina, you are doing an amazing job. I enjoy watching your channel because you are so authentic and transparent. Your home looks very warm and welcoming. Please continue sharing your wonderful videos with us. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you’re not fitting into a box they have somehow envisioned you in. It would be a beautiful thing if we would all just walk in our own shoes and stop worrying about how someone is walking in theirs. Thank you for all you do to encourage and inspire others. 🍂🍁🍃
Please do not be discouraged. You are creating a home not just a structure. Having several children makes your work even harder. BTW the makeup is great!
Your channel is awesome! you are awesome and your family is perfect ! ❤ I am so tired of people showing perfection on there channels. Your house looks like mine and I love how sweet everything looks in your home. The most important thing I loved in this video was listening to the sound of your children's laughter in the background! KEEP BEING REAL ! YOU ARE SPECIAL! ❤
I love your videos and I’m sorry that others are unkind to you. You are doing a great job and I love how honest and open you are. When I first found your videos I was so lonely and believed that
because my home wasn’t “magazine worthy “ that I had ultimately failed as a wife and mother but you have helped me to see that thought was a lie I told myself. That life even with all it’s struggles can be beautiful if you just keep going.
Gday Kristina. Your video is most definitely like receiving a hug & each time you put a video out as well 💙We can see how much love you have & how happy your children are, we do not need to know you personally to hear how happy your children are as we can hear them in the background & in front of the camera 💙I can relate to what you have said & I need to get to some cleaning, tidying, things to donate, things to sell 🙂You are kind, you are graceful, you are loving, you are sweet & endearing & above all you are truth. Thanku so much for sharing & everything you do to bring us your videos when you can. Ana. 🤗🥀
Your stove is flipping beautiful.
We must remain real, be ourselves!! I dont have these problems but my house is a mess too! It will get done eventually. I cared for my mom her last 2 1/3 years, living eith her and letying my home go so it's all my fault. I accept this and will fix mysrlf. It's just very overwhelming right now. Im dealing with it little by little. I have back problems and knee problems that I deal eith. Don't let anyone get you fown. Keep up the good work and attitude. 🥰🥰
Caring for your mom was important work to be done, it's absolutely ok! We all have our struggles, and like that quote said - we should never speak unkindly about others' homes! Sending hugs xo
@@WithLoveKristina Xoxo
You are an awesome person! I love that you show reality at its finest (by that I mean the reality of cleaning with kids and just exist). You are so cool in my eyes because I am coming out of a weird survival mode/depression thanks to my medication. I feel I can function again and your videos has helped me to realize I can do this.
You're doing a great job! Your house looks cute, mess is just what happens when you live in a house :) I really think that the standards for cleaning some people present on the internet are impossible to achive, unless you want to be cleaning 6 hours per day and don't have kids around. So I just accept the mess and try to keep up within my limits of energy and mental health.
As long as you love what you have, that's all that matters. I may not have you decorating astetic but then maybe mine isn't yours. I think your house is cute and has lots of potential. So keep decorating your way and enjoy! Oh, and forget the critics. They are just unhappy people. ❤
I had a small vase on top of my toilet. Inside this vase was ground incense. I also had sea shells and a candle. I get up at night sometimes, and late this one night I finished and flushed, pulling everything down. Small story short......... didn't pick up broken vase etc but until a day in a half.
This is me, thank you for being real. My mental health is getting better. Along with my house. God bless you ! There is always going to be haters no matter what 🙏❤️