The Honest Truth of being a Vintage Homemaker
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- Опубліковано 30 лис 2024
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Today's topic is a little more quiet and serious, but I promise at the end of the day I am okay! Life ebbs and flows, and that's normal. I'll be back to my vintage shenanigans soon, but until then I hope you are all safe, warm, and loved
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Kristina
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Hi friends! Lest anyone misunderstand, I am doing fine xo. If you want to know a little more about executive dysfunction and PDA, this comment is for you
Executive dysfunction incudes: problems with starting, organizing, planning, or completing tasks + trouble listening or paying attention + short-term memory issues + inability to multitask or balance tasks. In my everyday life, this means that without a set routine I can often wander around doing little tasks all day without actually completing anything. Think "if you give a mouse a cookie" only going in a circle around the house. I need to wash the dishes - but oh, the rag needs washed! I'll go start the wash, but oh, the dryer is full and the washer is full so I need to change those over. I'll empty the dryer onto the couch, but omg there are toys all over the living room floor, I'll pick them up. I need a bin tho so I'll go get one from the kids' room. The kids' room is messy too, though, so maybe I should get that trash off their floor. But the trash can is full, I gotta empty that. But we have no more garbage bags, oh wait I never did the dishes! BUT OH.. the rag is dirty. AND SO ON FOREVER LOL.
Cleaning routines lay out the entire method for me, so that I don't have to exert the mental energy of figuring it out myself, and face a complete freeze looking at all of the things that have to be done. Did I mention another part of executive dysfunction is triggering a frozen mode when there are too many tasks to be completed? Cuz that's also a thing.
Pathological demand avoidance means if it feels like a demand or there are too MANY demands, fight/flight/freeze is triggered and I cannot do ANYTHING.
There are so many complexities surrounding my own spicy brain, but those are a few that affect my day to day life. Sharing routines is my way to get around them - because content creation is fun!
None of these things can be overcome by "trying harder" or "making habits". Are you aware that often people who are neurodivergent literally cannot form a habit? (habit = a mindless completion of a task you've repeated over and over that exerts no mental energy. Like... breathing. In ND people, any and every repeated task takes mental energy EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.)
Lastly, an interruption of set routine vastly inhibits the ability to get things done. It's as if I'm a video game being constantly reset mid-game, and having to start all over again in order to regain the focus to get things done. Imagine, then, being a spicy-brain-mom with littles. My routines are CONSTANTLY interrupted! (and that's ok!)
This is just a little peek into what daily life is like for me. I hope y'all find it interesting or helpful, especially if you've only just stumbled upon my videos and really want to know why under my table is SO MESSY
Oh also I have five kids, in case you were unaware.
And before you ask, yes they do chores. However, organizing and delegating tasks takes a massive amount of mental energy that, for me, is even more taxing than just doing some things myself. So before you suggest my kids should help, don't. They do what I need and want them to do, and I do what I want to do. End of story.
OK LOVE YOU BYEEEE
Love and support to you Kristen. I love your use of vintage clothes and items in a home you love.
Oh sweet woman! As a 67 year old mother of three children who all had learning differences and ADHD, you just do you. If your husband and your children are all happy and healthy, and nobody has had a meltdown today I consider that a win. I have no idea why people like to leave negative comments on different channels I hear it from other influencers as well and I’m always surprised. My mother always said if you don’t have anything good to say, just don’t say anything and that still true today. Hold your head up high And love on your family. You are very entertaining with the videos that you have and I love to watch you. this season with your children will fly by too soon and you’ll wish they were young again. Speaking from experience. You are a delight and never forget that
I hear you loud and clear. I have ADHD, and PTSD. The event which I believe attributed to my PTSD occurred 10 years ago.(I am a survivor of an attempted homicide involving a firea*m ) People don't understand why I am not cured. My neural pathways were permanently changed. I have found ways to manage sxs, however certain things trigger me, no matter what I do. Couple that with ADHD, and my executive functioning is affected.) I totally emphasize with your situation. I could never understand why the "organizing gene" skipped me. People used to tease me at work because my desk was always a mess. I am more of a big picture person. I'd develop large programs, write grants, get funding, and was a successful Executive Director of a large agency, I knew I was not detail oriented, so I hired great staff members who were. I gave them what they needed to succeed, then let them fly and blossom. One of the biggest perks was seeing one of my staff get promoted. You are so endearing, creative, and unique. If you decide you need a break...take one and come back refreshed. Stay blessed, and bloom where you want to bloom. 🌷🪻🌸💜🕊️
Please don't quit! You are so delightful and unique and beautiful I love your channel. I didn't even know you had ADHD. Me too. I found out in my thirties when my son was diagnosed. It explained so much about all the problems I've had. I'm 62 now and just became a "Nana" My ADHD son just had twins. I don't know how you do five!! You keep hanging in there loving your family and surrounding your self with things you love. Don't let minimalist try to convince you of their idea of beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say! Even messes are beautiful because they are the signs left behind by the most precious people on the planet and can fill you w ith gratitude and joy to be part of their life! Sorry I go on and on! Just don't be hard on yourself and negative people have their own problems, don't worry about how they vent!❤❤❤❤
Try not to worry about what others think. You have a beautiful home, and are also doing a great job. My children are all teenagers now, but my house was exactly like yours when they were little. And I still don’t have it together so it pretty much still is, minus the toys. We just make progress, that’s all that matters. Thank you for this video, I needed to hear it. ❤
The whole reason I subscribed is because you and your house are NOT like the perfect model show homes. There are tons of channels like that but your channel stands alone. We moved away from the city to the country and I can’t tell you how much stress was alleviated from no longer having the pressure of keeping up with the Joneses and consumerism. It takes a strong character to stand strong against the critics and hold firm to your values and beliefs. Don’t lose faith. Your love of family, home, and yourself hold more importance than the material things. All the noise of those critics in the end is empty, vacuous, and meaningless.
Same ❤
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100% THIS
Same here👍
I lived in the country and the city moved around me and I can't afford to move now
"Mess is morally neutral and the crumbs on my floor does not mean I'm a bad mother." This video made me literally cry. I am also a neurodivergent stay at home mom with a lot of kids and I really needed to hear your video today. Thank you.❤
The crumbs on the floor means you have fed your family & have had food to do so!! 🎉🎉
When she said "mess is morally neutral and you are doing a good job" I actually paused the video and wrote that down. It's my new kitchen mantra.
@@kimberlarsen8422I think tomorrow I will write that down myself, because I really stress if everything in my house is not pristine clean, yet I never think that way about others.
It’s just a pressure I’ve put on myself.
I now have too many health issues in my old age.
I love books too. I keep mine down to just two bookcases full. If I bring a book home, I must give a book away.
I do that on anything I bring home. It helps me a lot.
Girl, I am 45, married, childless, have a house with plenty of space, make 6 figures, and have no one but me and my husband to care for and my house is still a bloody overwhelming mess at times because life is just so busy and chaotic and I have a chronic mental illness that just kind of laughs at any med we throw at it. I currently have a sinkful of dishes, no clean forks, 3 baskets of laundry to fold and put away, and I can't see my dining room table because it's covered with a bunch of mail and other miscellaneous stuff that needs to be put away. I cannot even imagine what it would be like if I had little humans to deal with. You're doing just fine :)
Thank you for sharing that. Sometimes I feel like if my family had more money or a big house everything would be “perfect”. I struggle so bad with homemaking.
Your message and family life are so genuine, beautiful, & inspiring. Nothing fake.
Thank you, Kristina, and God bless you!🕊
When I get frustrated with my less than perfect vintage kitchen, I remind myself that it is a "Working Kitchen". It holds all the things I need to cook and budget and that working kitchen allows me to stay home and care for my family. It works hard right alongside me.
Most important thing is spending time with your little ones , the house work will always be there . Little ones grow up so fast .❤
Now that I'm on my last baby, I feel this even more
that is so true they grow up fast enjoy the time you have, dont worry about what others think and dont let the mess overwhelm you.
I have a picture on my bedroom wall, that i fell in love with after my first son was born. (He is now 37). ' Quiet down cobwebs, dust - go to sleep . I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep'. I had the same kind of home you do. (I still do - grandchildren now). 4 children in 5 years. Lots of laughs, some tears, Lego, Barbies, crayons, etc. Loved it. They did, too! Keep doing what you're doing, the way that you want. Try to stay strong ( and if you can't - call a friend or family member and vent - it can help a bit.). Sorry that I was so long-winded.
I love that poem! Thank you for sharing❤
My grandmother calligraphied this for my mother when she had me (I'm the oldest), and now I have it on my wall!
That is beautiful@@emilyperea
I am a 51 year old minimalist/library assistant/grandma and I have to say your mess doesnt bother me at all. I was the exact same person about 25 years ago! Seasons come and seasons go, as you get older you learn to let go of a lot of those comforts. I come here to your channel often because I love the vintage flair and I also love seeing the sweet connection you have with your little ones! Keep keeping it real, I promise you are doing a great job as long as you keep picking up those babies and giving those great big nurturing hugs❤️
Thumbs up for the hugs and thumbs up to the library assistant 👋
I feel this in my bones!
Soon after my husband and I moved into this house (smaller than what we had, but a much bigger yard and shop area) we started to remodel, and then the world stopped because he was diagnosed with cancer. Everything is in a state of mess that I find hard to cope with, but am far to physically and mentally exhausted from caring for him to deal with at the end of the day.
Cabinets in various stage of being replaced, boxes of our things still unpacked, the furniture all moved to one side of the house so we could paint and replace appliances.
Dishes stack up constantly, and my poor husband is weak as a kitten from the radiation and chemo, and I'm exhausted from driving 3 hours, to get him there and back.
I love your channel, it keeps me from going crazy
🙏hope hubs gets thru his treatment soon. 🙏
@@cland1232 thank you!!!!
Your husband is your priority right now and sounds to me you are prioritising correctly so please rememeber that and that even though you may not feel like it you are doing an amazing job! .i wish him ever success with his treatment and that you can both tackle all that needs tackling soon, together with renewed zest! Many blessings to you! 🤗
@@efects7429 Thank you !
Father God please help this lovely woman and her husband. I ask You to eradicate that cancer, heal the effects of chemo, and strengthen and bless both of them. Please fill them both with Your love and energy. I ask this in the name of Jesus, amen.
When I look at your home, I see a lovely, happy, loving space where the children are well cared for and loved unconditionally. I see 2 parents who are in sinc with their family as their priority. So what if there are dishes in the sink and toys all over and laundry piling up. Welcome to real life. And that's what I love about your channel - it's real and honest. You aren't trying to be anything other than what you truly are. That is so rare these days, whether on social media or in real life. I am filled with wonder how you manage anything with 5 children and all that entails on a daily basis. You and your husband should be congratulated on what a great job you're doing, rather than being criticized for having too much stuff (and it's great stuff!!). I too am a neurodivergent maximalist. I get a lot of grief, mainly from family as I'm pretty much a hermit, but so what. You're very brave, and I admire you so very much.
This was a such an important video to make! I am so sorry people are so rude, mean, and thoughtless! Your channel is EXACTLY what mothers need (especially if they love a vintage lifestyle). I wish your videos had been around when my son was little. I felt so bad about the job I was doing, but just couldn’t manage to accomplish anymore. Your channel takes reality and offers some inspiration and tricks to improve it. Thank you for putting your reality on UA-cam. Please don’t stop. We need you.
This video was a warm hug. Those of us who love your content love it because you are real, and you welcome us into the warmth of your home.
I'm so sorry people were being less than kind and so judgmental. Your videos about being so open about struggling with being a homemaker and keeping a clean house really mean a lot to me, because I struggle too, and I'm sure they do to a lot of other people. People just suck in general, it's a sad fact. I think your content is so important. I've seen videos of homemakers wanting their minimalist houses to look "like no one lives there" and you are like a breath of fresh air. I love your home, it looks so cozy with well-loved second hand things and full of kids running around and laughing and playing in the background. That to me is what a home should be like. I love your videos and I hope you never stop making content. When you have kids or pets, nothing is ever going to be clean all the time. Housework is just perpetually trying to keep it from getting "bad" lol. Sometimes all you can do is the bare minimum to survive, and that's OK.
My house is also not like the ones shown online. It’s small, needs work, and is messy with kids and pets. But someone once said that in a few quick years, you’ll miss the mess. And it’s true. When kids are grown and gone, you’ll look back at these times lovingly. I love your videos!! ❤️❤️thanks for the encouragement!!
Ah Kristina, you are such a breath of fresh air. I lOVE your channel because it depicts REAL family life. No facade, no falseness, just REAL 🥰. Will yr Kids when they are older remember a mum and dad who adore them, who had fun with them, let them have their toys and crayons out as kids, or a stressy mum trying to keep a spotless, minimalistic home. Why do we all put so much pressure on ourselves to be the perfect mum, wife, daughter, successful at work and in relationships. I wish we wouldn't. We are all doing the very best we can and that shd just be enough. Please don't ever stop doing what you do Kristina. I think u are doing an AMAZING job. My hubby and 2 kids are autistic, so I do understand the complexities of a neurodivergent brain. You ARE AMAZING, pls ignore the critics. Sending love 'n hugs from the UK 🫂🤗Xx
I came to your channel because UA-cam showed me one of your cleaning videos where I saw a house like mine. It was real, with more than a couple crumbs and some dishes out of place. With cupboards that aren’t brand new or drab chic, but have character and some scuffs. It was the first time EVER viewing a cleaning video that seemed real, not overly staged or the kind that make me feel worse about my house. I’ve been here ever since and I am so thankful to you for making this content. There are plenty of us out here who want something real and like us. I’m so sorry that people are such jerks. Please keep being you (and, selfishly, I also want you to keep making the content you make). ✨
I like that you encourage other people! You're so good. And the critics should note that anytime a child comes for a hug, they get one. And a chat. And kisses. What a marvelous mom you are.
I love your channel even more after this. The main thing I admire so much about you is how real you keep it. Being a mother is hard. Homemaking is real, demanding work. All the while still trying to be your own person and show your children that life doesn’t stop after you have kids. You do such a wonderful job at all of it. Homes inevitably get messy when you’re living in them lol. I feel like that is a give in. Being someone who also struggles with depression and very bad anxiety, I understand how much your mind can get in your own way when trying so hard to do every day things.
I love your home, style and attitude. You are lovely and so is your channel. If people can’t relate, perhaps they should make room for those of us who do and who appreciate you. 💕
When I was a young Mother I was told by a district Nurse.."Better to have a messy house with a happy family, than a spotless house with unhappy people in it!" Those people that sit and criticize you probably live in messy houses..Heck I work from home, my washing pile would scare you to death!..😊 I love your videos and the fact that you feel real..and I'm a woman of middle age..so I've seen a bit..Keep going the way you are..Pox on them!..😊
I don't know where to begin. First, of all, I LOVE your channel BECAUSE you are honest and real about what is going on in your life. I sure wish I had been able to find some souce of encouragement such as yourself to help me get through my days as a young mother. I felt such a failure because I could not keep my house clean, stay on top of the laundry, etc. Besides that, you're fun! Second, I just cannot understand how people can leave mean, rude or negative remarks. Henry James - Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.❤
so agree with all you wrote: and my dear father's last words were: be kind to each other... all mothers and homemakers can benefit from your honest and wise words. thanks for sharing kristina!
the fact that you're showing the cleaning tips in real time is what i love most - the vintage routines are just added interest. 🥰 and it's also nice to see how someone works through "the grind" that has the same ADD issues...❤️❤️❤️
I'm really glad you're here for it!
@@WithLoveKristinaI ❤❤ all ur video's: Kleanin Thriftin Sewin Kookin food Makin Desserts Etc.Etc. I have read sum of the komments an they made me kry. There R alot of US that kare bout U , ur family an ur Well being. I hope U don't QUIT. I wood miss watchin U B kuz Ur soo down 2 Earth Sweet Karin an have an awesome Laugh. PLZ PLZ DON'T LET THOSE TROLLS WIN. Wat doesn't kill U "ONLY " MAKES U STRONGER. MAY GOD BLESS U AN UR FAMILY.❤❤❤😊😊😊
@@WithLoveKristina me, too!! it really does help to know that we don't struggle alone...🥰🥰
Fellow ADHD vintage homemaker and content creator here. This was a great video to watch while dealing with dishes that had piled up. 💜
Yay! I’m so glad you utilize it that way, that’s what I do with cleaning content too!
me too, adhd
I don't understand why others are criticizing you. Keep your head up. I appreciate your content.
I subscribed because you are REAL. You are honest and vulnerable and it's so refreshing. Thank you for sharing your struggles with us! I am neurodivergent too and your channel helps me to feel less alone. ❤
My mother gave me the best advice when I had my own babies. ‘Don’t spend your life worrying about the housework.’ It’s so true. We really need to just live and not set such high expectations on ourselves.
Personally, I love your channel because it is so comforting to know I am not the only one who struggles with these things. My home is not perfect and that is okay. I hope you don't quit ❤
This is exactly what i love most about your channel! I’m a Homeschooling mom of five, a homesteader, part time tutor and music teacher, and I have an autoimmune disease. I LOVE vintage/antiques, sewing, fashion, reading, gardening, and history. Your channel, more than any other that has those topics, encourages me and I can actually relate to your content. There is beauty and something good in the little things, even if they seem not good enough to others or ourselves. Keep going, the world, and women need to see and hear this message.
I watch this channel SPECIFICALLY because it is not excessively curated. It’s how busy people live.
I come from a long line of poverty (my ancestors came from coal mining camps on my maternal side and sharecropping on my paternal side), and I personally grew up in a very poverty-stricken urban neighborhood made up primarily of first-generation immigrants. I guess maybe because of that, I absolutely love seeing people scrape together and create a full, expressive, personality-rich life for themselves despite assorted challenges. My favorite aesthetic ever is old photographs from the Great Depression of poor people who have decorated their shacks and made themselves pretty clothes, quilts, etc. It makes them so human and relatable.
My partner grew up in an upper class community overseas, and when we first started dating, I was so nervous to introduce him to my family and upbringing (despite being fiercely proud of them) because I knew it would be so much more rough and low-class than anything he was used to. But he was undeterred, and over the years we’ve been together (coming up on our 14th anniversary now) and the years he’s spent mingling in my neck of the woods, he has told me that he strictly prefers the sorts of communities I hail from to the sorts of communities he hails from. He enjoys the authenticity, empathy, resourcefulness, and artistry of people who struggle and who are not ashamed of that struggle. It has made him more adventurous himself and made him feel safe prioritizing self-fulfillment and human connection, rather than status like so many of his peers (who are now starting to hit mid-life crises and wondering why they are still miserable and lonely despite doing everything “right”).
I certainly don’t mean to say that you live like you’re scraping through the Great Depression (a couple decades off!), but the honesty of your content gives me fuzzy, childlike feelings and makes me cozy-peaceful-safe, like my grandma’s warm bear hug and a hot chocolate in a strawberry jam jar on a snowy day.
No need to explain to people who will never understand bc they have never been in your shoes. Your videos are real and you have purpose. Don't give up because your values are higher than theirs. XOXO 💋
Your fine- this is LIFE! It is obvious you cleaned your home. When your toddlers leave toys in kitchen because they are now in another room playing with different toys- have then come get the toys they left in the kitchen. It's a start to help you. Nothing wrong with having them learn to pick up after themselves. Your doing just fine and as your children age you will have it down to a science- but YOUR science for your home! This is the first time have seen you- I see NOTHING wrong! Don't know how many are in your family or anything about you. You worked at a great pace. You would be shocked as to how many judge you and either don't have any children or maybe like me one or two. OR they have maids ! BTW: 42 year marriage, 2 children, now grown adults with children of their own.
As a mother who also struggles with add. I find it wonderfully refreshing to have content like yours. ❤
The dishes can wait, hugging that baby is what is most important. Cute apron. I like that you home exudes a living and loving family. You are amazing!
I love watching your channel precisely because I so relate to your neurodivergence and how it affects your day to day. What you share is so helpful. And I love your house just the way it is. Can’t imagine why people are so critical or why they think everyone has to be a minimalist!
You are doing just fine. You are loved and valued. I so appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. AND, you have an adorable family and home. 🌻🍄
Kristina, There is a huge difference between a house and a home. You have created a home. I have only commented a few times over the years. I watch you silently and love what a beautiful person that you are. You are authentic and that means so much. My brain understands yours. If someone isn’t neurodivergent they have no concept of what it’s like. Your commentary in this video made me want to stand up and applaud!!! The people that matter watch and support you. We understand and appreciate your realness. Thank you. Continued Blessings and Support. ~Love&Light♥️Carli
It's so hard to be vulnerable, and I can't imagine how hard it is to be vulnerable again and again to an audience - thank you for sharing with us the parts of your life that you do, and always proud of the progress that you've made, and shared along the way.
This is why I love your channel. Its real. I also have ADHD and love in CHAOS. However, I am a good person. I would much rather be me than someone who is tidy but cruel to others who are not. Please don't ever stop these videos, it's so helpful for do many of us. It takes us feel seen. Pristine, I hope that you are feeling loved, because you are x
I don't know if you'll ever see this, but if you do. I want you to know every video I've ever watched just makes me happy. I feel like I'm hanging out with my best friend. We don't know each other but you are so relatable, and I enjoy all your videos. I'm a new mom and my house being messy is overwhelming, but you always remind me I got this. You are truly my source of inspiration. Love you girl ❤
This is incredibly sweet of you to say. I'm so glad my channel gives off bestie vibes! I want everyone to feel like they can grab a cup of coffee or tea and just hang out virtually with me so I love that!
Your approach to homemaking is so refreshing! It can get tiring and discouraging to constantly see perfect homes, perfectly dressed (in perfect vintage or reproduction clothing) and groomed (perfect makeup and hair) homeowners, with their perfect children talk about how to keep a house and make a home. On one hand, it can be inspirational, but on the other hand, it's not realistic. I live alone, and my apartment has never looked perfect since I moved in; I still have a bookcase in the corner waiting to be put together (to be fair, when it arrived, all the pre-drilled holes for the pegs and screws were the wrong size, and I don't have the tools to fix it and build the darn thing!), piles of books and half-done sewing projects all over, etc. And I don't have kids who live here with me! You are doing just fine, paying attention to the most important thing: your own health and your family!
It is realistic for some. I actually had someone tell me once that if your house is too clean and orderly then I must be messing up in some other part of my family life. Umm... no. It goes both ways. I do homeschool and I have 4 little kids. I am very blessed for both. But I also work hard to make things nice for my family with the time I have. Messiness is NOT always morally neutral when sloth or intentional over-busy-ness is at the heart. We all have a different capacity, yes finances, yes family sizes, home ages, styles, etc.
I am a new subscriber and I adore your vintage content and family life.I admire your realistic,creative,down to earth and positive approach to life.Your house is so warm and inviting and filled with so much love.Your children are so beautiful and you are the best mum.Your kids will grow up with so many wonderful memories they will always cherish.❤
Don't let those people mess with you. I admire your dedication to creating and posting your content and I've found the cleaning routines very helpful for me and I'm in my 7th decade! Your home is full of love and joy, that cones from You. You lead your children and husband to find joy and comfort in the home. You are doing a great job.
I’m here BECAUSE I love your honest portrayal of life. Most of all, I love your ethical stance. All of us need company (and honesty) in our struggles, not the shame of measuring ourselves against a seemingly perfect -but clearly fake- curated life.
You are a voice of reason in a sea of unattainable standards. Being present for ourselves and our families is the most important thing. Thank you for your content! ❤
My kids are all older teens and up now. My house is still kind of messy because I homeschool and work part time and we live here. We appreciate coziness and having a fun evening whether the dishes need done or not. When all my kids were at home and young, my house was a blooming mess a lot of the time. I was usually overwhelmed. I have always been glad social media wasn't added to the pressure I felt to get my act together. I didn't know then (15 to 20 years ago) that I have a lot of anxiety all the time (I thought I worried too much). I didn't know that I was an off the chart empath and that everyone else's feelings were keeping me on alert, especially trying to please people who disapproved of what I did and how I did it (I thought I was responsible for how they felt). I hope you realize, Kristina, that you are helping the moms who are where I was then. Now I am almost 50 and able to sort my feelings better. I can "shut off" voices in a way that I just couldn't in my 20s and even 30s. Maybe I am getting old and cranky lol. But I would have benefited from hearing someone say that I was a lot more than my sink full of dishes, and it would have been a big plus to hear it said by someone in red lipstick and a chiffon scarf :)
This video is so powerful. It's nice to know I'm not alone in some of these struggles. This brought tears to my eyes, thank you so much. I hope you have a great rest of your week
I can SO relate! Many thanks for sharing parts of your life. You are not alone!!! Be encouraged - I appreciate your authenticity.
I love your channel! You are real, living a real life. It makes me feel normal
You're doing great! Your house has character and your vintage routines are a good reminder that we needn't reinvent this wheel, we can add in the conveniences that electricity brings to hometending, but those old routines and approaches work. You're an inspiration to so many other people, especially others of us who are neurodivergent. Thank you for being you and for sharing yourself and your life. Your videos never fail to bring light and joy to my life.
I stumbled onto your channel yesterday and don't remember exactly how, but am so glad I did. I love that you are a real person, dealing with real everyday problems, joys and situations. You are doing a wonderful job!
I'm here for a long time now, without ever commenting... but today i wanted to say that you're doing great, you're a really caring and passionate person for your family and we have the chance to share this with you. The mess, the toys, the kids stuffs and all, that what makes you who you are. We have no right to judge that. And if we don't like it, then don't watch. Being cruel just to be cruel is really lame and useless in my opinion... I love what you do, don't ever let them tell you that you're wrong or not good enough. We are here because of all of your little "flaws" and mess around
Keep being you Kristina, you are real living a real and true life. Enjoy every moment you can with your young family. I'm now almost 72 years old my kids are grown with little ones of their own, my house is neat and quiet with just me the hubs and 2 cats and I really miss my little boys and all their mess and chaos. Time flies is not just a saying but truth, and people who judge you need to take a good hard look at their own lives. Love ya!
YOU are doing a great job! Cleaning, decorating, homemaking are not “moral or immoral”. Homemaking is a path for me, not a podium to boast on. I support your efforts and honesty. ❤
I am in my 50s, 7 years ago I finally moved into the first house I consider my final home (untill I need to scale down becourse of age😅). All other homes has been "temporary" and usualy I have had to much stuff. Now that I have room for most of it I am gratefull I lived with the disadvanteges and still have everything that means something to me. And now after 7 years ALLMOST everything has found their place and I am slowly getting sorted what I prioritize to have in my life. I could not have done that before, and I am glad I did not try.
No one can deside how much stuff an other person needs or wants.
Still watching your content for YOU!❤
Thank you for saying what I needed to hear 25 years ago. The feelings of inadequacy are still there, and I've been an empty nester of 3 for 5 years. And there are still crumbs on my floor. Thank you for showing real life and not the illusion of the perfectly curated life. There is no way I could live with that kind of pressure, and honestly, I don't want to.
Keep on trucking GF! You are doing fine . Don't let a few thoughtless people get you down. Some don't intend to be mean, others it is fully intentional. You will triumph in the end.
Well said, Kristina. You can only be yourself. And in reality, it is hard for most of us in your phase of life to keep a clean and orderly home. Unfortunately, there are always going to be the haters, the unkind comments from people who just have nothing better to do. I love that your channel is growing, and the fact that it is should tell you a lot. People enjoy you and your content. Most people!😊
You are such a unique lady! I really enjoy seeing you live what you love, thank you for sharing. You are also a great storyteller with such a gentle voice!💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
Every time I see your videos, I think: "I wish I could stop by and visit here. It looks like such a fun, loving place with great parents and great kids and so many interesting items to see and things to do!" (But I'm in Detroit, so it would be a bit of a trip...) You're doing a wonderful job, Kristina!
Omgoodness ❤me too. I love how you actually see a real home and a loving mother taking care of her children ❤. 😊
I’m not neurodivergent but I always appreciate real life and all that comes with it. I often find myself in a real life situation where we clean up the house because that’s where we live, love and be.
Yes! I often feel like the houses that are perfect must not be very lived in!
You do make me feel less alone. I’m only a minute in but had to pause to comment. As a fellow neurospicy stay at home mamma with a slightly battered (saying that with immense love) vintage home (1930s semi detached brick in northern England) I FEEL YOU. I also feel immensely seen by this channel, comforted by a friend and like I have a partner in my general mess. Your vintage cleaning routine videos with their structure, honesty and grace are why I subscribed and why I’m here. I appreciate you, your beautiful home, the sweetness of your family and all that you do. THANK YOU 💖 *edit: I meant to say, we’re also low income and your budget makeover videos helped me so much and inspired me to make small changes, that we could manage and afford, and to not wait until we could do everything before loving, appreciating and decorating our home. 🥰
I value your channel for all of the reasons you have listed and more. I am 41 and was diagnosed neurodivergent last year. I now have four children, with a 10 year gap between the baby and the child that used to be my youngest and after parenting for almost 16 years, I can say that your channel would have saved me many hours of tears and self-loathing. What you do is beautiful. Please keep doing it if it is not detrimental to you.
You are amazing! Five kids, neurodivergent, add, and still producing wonderful videos etc. You run your home like a HOME. Love is first and foremost. I hear you when you say it’s hard and mentally it takes a toll. I don’t know what you deal with emotionally and mentally….but from someone who looks so forward to your videos and watches them on repeat at times…..I (and many others) see and feel your love for your family and your gift of creating. Thank you for showing REAL life. You are doing so good!!!! (And I LOVE your house. Everything in it is loved and wanted, and no one should judge you for that!) ❤
I am 58 yrs. old, have had my kids and they are grown. I have a routine but enjoy your channel as I think and believe you are never too old to learn something new that might change something and make it easier or just something new. I also love vintage and would love to do more (decor and dress) so I enjoy watching how you incorporate it into your home and life. I had no idea regarding all that you struggle with, and these are new to me. thank you for your willingness to share and make others aware. I think I came by my cleaning and organizing just as part of who I am, but my mom did keep a nice house. I say i think it is a natural thing for me as I would always organize my Grandmother's ''junk drawer" every summer we would go and stay for the summer. Anyway, I think those who criticize need to mind their own business and look up the word jurisdiction. When I would see my house messy, dishes overflowing, kids stuff everywhere, dirt etc... on the floors. I thank God for a house/home that I can clean, dirt on the floors, cause I have a floor, dirty clothes, at least we have clothes. Dirty dishes means you had food to feed your family and so on and so forth. You are doing a great job and anyone who looks back can see you are making progress. Not everyone wants to be a minimalist nor should they. I say I am a mediumist. HAHA. I have over the years reduced and curated my home, but I sill have stuff and I enjoy my things. Again, do what you can and the routines are very interesting. I had no idea some where so detailed. Again, you are doing a great job. Hang in there. Blessings.
As the mother of 6 children, on the other side of it all. My youngest will be 22 in May, oldest 40 (yikes) in April. I am here to tell you that the MOST important thing, is to love those children and keep them alive. Everything else is details. NO ONE will remember the mess in the kitchen or the crumbs on the floor. Children are young once and the most important part is to make them feel loved and cared for. A clean house is next to impossible with multiple small children around. As they get older it does get easier (but even with a couple of 20 something year olds there are still messes!) My house is now cleaner and less cluttered, I still have some messy closets and a ridiculous garage but I am slowly catching up on life and the absolute overwhelm, being out numbered and nonstop "fight or flight" mode I was in for years on end. Take each day, one at a time and enjoy the little things. A clean house is nice, but terribly overrated some days!
I'm so happy I found our channel recently. It's comforting to see other people struggle, and your aesthetic is lovely. Your look and your home are adorable, and your content manages to inspiring be and relatable. Keep going, girl, because you're doing great! I was raised by and have worked as a professional housekeeper, and I promise you, most people, especially with young children, have homes like just like yours. My house also gets cluttered and messy even with my background and no kids. Life is a struggle for everyone. God bless you and your family!
Thank you for this video. I relate to you in almost every way. I also have adhd, have lots of kids, have a house with no storage, and have lots of stuff in a tiny house. I have people tell me all the time I need to get rid of things or I need to clean more. I do struggle to keep things clean but the thing is I do clean it just don't stay clean. I clean almost everyday and I have children and a husband who comes right behind me and gets it dirty. Yes my mental health does go down hill because of it sometimes. So thank you for your video. Thank for letting me know I am not a bad mom for not always picking everything up as soon as it gets on the floor. Thank you for making me not feeling like a bad mom for not always doing the dishes. Thank you for not making me not feeling like a bad mom for not always getting all the laundry done. Being a stay at home mom is not easy. I wish you all the blessings in the world. ❤
Thank you for sharing this, and please keep doing You. I will never understand people who insist making horrible comments on videos that are obviously not for them. There is an immeasurable amount of content on UA-cam alone: move along and find the channels that are for you, no need to pass rude, useless judgement!!
I like your honesty and I love all of your cool vintage things , it's a realistic house with kids and humans who live in it
Your content resonates with the adhd moms in the thick of it. What a beautiful message of hope. We are here, cheering you on because there is space for you on this platform representing the women who are doing their best with the circumstances they have been given ❤
Maximalists unite! I am a maximalist and I love my aesthetic. It’s not for everyone but I know what I love and enjoy and that is what matters surround yourself with those who enjoy the same things. That’s why I am here. I love your channel. 💗💗💗💗💗
You have made me feel like a real wife and mother. I have always felt like I’m on the outside looking in and invisible. Wow, the knowledge that it’s okay and NORMAL to not live in a museum is astounding.
I raised three children with a hair salon business in my home. Because of financial reasons, we never ever ate out. I cooked all the meals and basically did all of the household duties with the exception of vacuuming. I also homeschooled for three years. You just do the best you can. I think the important thing is that your children feel loved. When they grow up they’re not going think about how perfect your house looked. They’ll remember how you made them feel. You’re a very good mother and you’re a good housekeeper too! Don’t worry about the naysayers. What counts is what your family thinks about you and no one else. There were many days I cry all day. I never felt like I was doing enough. But now, many many years later, I’m proud of the mother that I was. Now my house is clean most of the time and I miss the mess of having children. Sending you a hug Christina.
I love your kitchen! It brings back some cherished memories of my grandma's kitchen. Any esthetic that doesn't allow for individualism is just a fad. I love minimizing my possessions to make life simpler for me. It should not be for the purpose of copying a trendy style of big houses painted white, (unless someone loves that style.) I enjoy your channel and your style of decorating. I envy your sewing talent too.
Oh sweetie, you have your hands full and you are doing great. When I was a kid our house was usually a mess but we had fun. My home had kids and fun. I tried too hard to keep it perfect and regret every moment I didn’t play with my kids. I am 76 and my house is not perfect but I enjoy my life. Don’t worry so much. I love your house and your family.
I love your channel. It's a breath of fresh air and reminds me it's ok to struggle. With a toddler at home and a too-small house and one small income... it's a mental break. Thank you.
Dear Kristina,
Sorry about the insensitive people - sometimes I think they're really talking to themselves, or just spouting out the last bit of advice that helped them, without thinking it through. Anyway, taking them with huge grains of salt helps.
So let me tell you what I love about your videos:
I love how you often make yourself beautiful, even though there may be no other adults around to appreciate it. I've taken to doing that when I think of it - it's a nice boost to really like what I see when I look in the mirror; it makes me feel good.
I love your "crowded" look, especially those full bookshelves. You are an excellent organizer. I have always prided myself on being able to fit many things efficiently in a small space (why waste space?). And I hate when people tell me to throw things out. They are telling me to throw out my history, things that I love, things that are useful (maybe not right now, but I refuse to waste an item that I know I will need in future because of someone else's idea of "order".
I love your voice. It's a joy to listen to.
I love how you repond to your children - the way you pick them up, and how they respond to you. It tells me your love is strong.
I love your calmness. We might not be calm all the time, but it is a crime to kick oneself for inconstant perfection. It's taken me many decades (I'm 67) to recognize perfection as simply not a thing, to be able to laugh at my mistakes, to smile, say, "Oops", and go about fixing things if they need to be fixed. In the meantime, I get a mug of coffee, put my feet up, and breathe.
I love your gorgeous colors, I love your unique style, I could go on, but this note is getting super long.
My point is that you are bringing sense and order and companionship to me (and considering how many subscribers you have) to many others.
So far as your own household, I think it's marvelous. I think that those who want to change it, want to make things better for you - despite that good intention, we all have to find our own way, and that's just how it is - a lot of people don't realize that.
So, thanks Kristina. I'm loving your videos.
With Love,
Cathy
I admire your realism! This is life!
I can definitely say you are exactly the content creator that I needed, as a fellow neurodivergent mother with small kids. 💕
Loved this. You made me feel less alone for sure. I hope you’re well-and I’m looking forward to more “realism and reassurance” ❤
I'm so glad!
Wow!! That is all I can say to this video. It’s raw, it’s real & it’s the reason I watch your channel. Keep being YOU!! You are unique & perfect just as you are 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you for this beautiful and supportive video. It makes me so sad that anyone would watch your content expecting you to be anyone but who you are in your gorgeous, cozy, creative home that is full of love. Our family of five lives in a two bedroom apartment. You can bet that even at its cleanest our home is bursting at the seams!Not all homes work the same way or look the same way and thank goodness for that! Thanks for the variety you offer! ❤
I love your channel. You're open, honest, wonderful. Thanks for reaching out to others that are or may be struggling. You remind us to be proud of who we are and celebrate the little accomplishments each and every day.
Love this! Adhd housewife here too. I hear everything you say.
Don’t quit. You’re doing a great job. ❤
Your videos are so cozy, I always save them to watch right before bed. So relaxing
Thank you for being authentically you ❤️ That's why I enjoy your channel.
I enjoy your channel, I love watching you clean and organize and make things. I even think your voice is awesome lol it’s not annoying I enjoy listening to it. Please do not let these trolls who say negative things stop you from filming. I’m sure it’s only 5% of the viewers maybe 10% and remember you can never please everyone and they can always choose to Unfollow you. You have 45K who follow you for a reason so, keep your head up!❤
You are original, authentic, honest, kind, creative, and I find it a joy to watch your channel. Your treasures are lovely and you have exactly as many as is correct for yiu. Sending hugs and metta. ❤️
Thank you for posting your cleaning routines and being open with your struggles. I grew up in a small and very-lived in home, and never quite learned how to clean or keep up with chores. Watching your videos - your lifestyle that resembles my childhood - has helped me figure out how to tackle my own house
This is a beautiful and warm video. Thank you for your honesty and truthfulness. Your home is absolutely lovely (I love Vintage anything anyway), it's so cosy and looks positively lived in. There is not just nothing wrong with that, in my opinion it is something worth striving for. A lot of people try, but you have succeeded. The things you own are truly beautiful and desirable. They definitely don't tell me that you have 'little money'. They tell me you have impeccable taste. Please don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I completely get what you are describing! I watch cleaning and tidying routines because it helps my brain settle down and work along side you. Thank you for offering it to folks like me, who really need it!
Duuuuude! I love you, I love your channel, your full bookshelf and five kids! I’m neurospicy too, and I needed this today.
We all have those times. Sometimes things go haywire. Other people don't live in your shoes so don't let others make you feel bad
Some of the comments are hard to ignore because they strike that deep set sense of shame I carried for a LONG time - before I knew I was neurodivergent. Doing my best to leave them be, though!
I really found this video comforting. I'm a homemaker and swing back and forth between a clean and kept up house, to a big mess. I have three kids and two big indoor dogs...things get messy fast... and I don't want to spend every second of my life cleaning. I have kids to cuddle with and read a book to, dogs to walk, tea parties with imaginary friends to attend. Making quality memories with each of my babies comes first.
My kids are grown and I am so much worse at cleaning my house than when they were all here. I have been diagnosed with ADHD and the more we learn about it the more I realize that having someone else around helps me do better with chores. Now that I am widowed there really isn't anyone here to inspire me so I go where my friends are. I volunteer at a museum, help at my church, am involved with a theater group and we are currently in a performance cycle. I also hold offices with my local, district, and state American Legion Auxiliary. I get a lot done in a week, but dishes, laundry, and cleaning the toilet are about it for the cleaning I do. At home I find something to watch (UA-cam) while I knit, sew, or do other crafts. I make a lot of Christmas gifts and birthday gifts (4 daughters, lots of sons-in-law, 10 grandkids, friends) and I have done lots of hand-sewing on costumes, oh, and there is a craft fair coming up! My grandma was born with "make do and mend" skills - or so it seemed - so I was taught to look for the potential in everything so my house is crammed full of things with potential to become something creatively useful if I would just take the time....
Like you, people have long told me that I have too much stuff. Odd they never say that to store owners or libraries. I am changing. I am releasing things of my husband's that I don't know how to use especially if it makes me sad to see it and remember what all he would be fixing were he still here. But this is not the instant process people seem to think it should be.
God gave me lots of talents and helped me gain many skills and I am glad He taught you to say that "mess is morally neutral" because that helps me with the parts of life where I have so few skills.
Thank you so much for this video. Your description of Executive Dysfunction, wow, I didn't know there was a name for what I do and why I'm so tired after a day of doing lots yet nothing seems to have actually got done then feeling frustrated and defeated. THANK YOU.
I think your house is lovely ❤ It’s warm and inviting and I love that people actually LIVE there. As a maximalist with a squirrels need to gather all the milk glass, lol…I appreciate that your home isn’t the obviously fake homes so lauded on UA-cam. Thank you for keeping it real. When are people going to realize that having possessions doesn’t make you a bad mom just as not having possessions doesn’t make you a good mom?
You’re not alone! I go through decluttering and downsizing, but I’m an avid maximalist. My boyfriend half jokes about my “clutter”. I think it’s most important to make a space that’s comfortable and makes you happy. Of course you should aspire to make a home that’s healthy for yourself and your family, but that has nothing to do with you having a lot of belongings. Your videos are so inspiring (and even convinced me to buy a physical copy of ‘America’s Housekeeping Book’)! Your “messes” and amount of tchotchkes, decorations, crafts, etc. matches mine so you’re very relatable. Keep making your videos. You have one big supporter in this homemaker. 💖🏡🍳🧹
You are looking good i have struggled all my life to keep a house and I find you inspiring
I love your home. It reminds me of growing up, especially when it's messy lol.