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Honestly as someone who didn't have a lot of IRL interactions as a kid, even I remember the face of every kid I met when I was young. They were all nice, and awesome. Heck, I'd STILL have the keychain this one girl gave me if I hadn't stupidly lost it in a park while swinging upside down on some monkey bars... but that's life.
“We take bullying very seriously.” When talking to a school counselor. Biggest lie I was ever told. That was some pretty creative bullying, but, those teachers should’ve been ashamed.
I never knew why we called them "Popular Kids" when in reality they were just bullies. And it sucks that kids can be so vicious to each other. I always tried to help other classmates who were getting bullied because it should be the bare minimum to at least show others respect. On the bright side, I recently started working as a summer camp counselor and the kids there were surprisingly kind to each other. It really gives me hope for Gen Alpha.
As a kid I was never bullied severely tbh, I was just called names and isolated, like a LOT. Most kids have their first close friends at 5, but I didn’t until I was around 14.
Weird… when I was in high school the popular kids were just the people who did sports or had really good grades, and only like one or two of them were ever actually mean
I love coming up with "Deep quotes" that are genuine dogshit because if it doesn't come from a famous person its just "oh haha you're so edgy" but sometimes the quotes SLAP
If they trust you, your children will confide this sort of stuff in you. And that's the point where you don't say "oh they're just jealous" or explain it away. You go and start beef with the little cunts' parents, if necessary. Best of luck your children won't experience this sort of thing in the first place!
Glad I wasn’t afraid of a fight as a kid if they think you’re a psycho you’re fine. I accidentally hurt a kid badly once he was a asshole but getting him hospitalized wasn’t exactly what I wanted but I don’t regret it. I pushed him and he ended up getting a cut across his cheek that hat to be stitched. No one bothered me after this and no I didn’t get into trouble or anything I just said sorry or something I don’t remember
Holy shit thats insane. Shame on the teachers for not doing more and extra shame on the kids who did that/ didn't help. But yeah, what the rest of the comments said; that wasn't your fault. You were a kid and still did the most grown up/responsible thing you could at the time. Hope both you and him are doing ok
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you can and can't blame the kinds for being how they are, sometimes its what they experienced through their life that made them how they are and sometimes it being "gotta look tough and be worthy" and sometimes they dont get it, or both. If i were to blame someone i would blame the teachers for not taking care of the situation.
Nothing makes me angrier then hearing adults not stopping things like this. They're ADULTS. This is their job. To protect and teach kids right from wrong, and far too many people lack enough of a spine to do so. I was a bullied kid too and aside from my parents, every other adult has failed me like they did that poor kid. I've been bullied and treating like nothing, so i will never treat someone like that. Anyone reading this? I may not know you, but i can tell you right now...I would stand right in front of you and tell anyone who tries to treat you that way to frick off and i would defend you, cause clearly not enough people are doing it. Just telling someone to stop or defending someone can prevent so much unneeded pain people. Stop letting this happen.
This is my entire reason to become a teacher, because every other teacher failed to help me. The only reason why I had a good “high school” experience was that in my country going to high school is something you have to pass a test and because of that I met so many great new classmates
Kids who get bullied are by default set up for failure. The system has failed every single time. At this point, we can’t rely on anyone but ourselves. The teachers will never help, the school will never help, the authorities will never help. We’ve been played, we’ve been pawned, we’ve been let down and no one will help us. I’ve given up on trying to prevent any bullying that continues to happen to me (although it’s on a much smaller scale nowadays) because reporting bullies doesn’t work. It never works. It hasn’t helped in the past, and it won’t help now. I don’t care anymore. I’ll offer support to anyone being bullied, but trying to prevent it is impossible.
Bullies have no excuse to exist. It's thanks to them that I suffer with mutism which is incredibly hard to break out of. Bullying is traumatising, not just "kids being kids".
I was a bully. I was bullied. I have met a lot of bullies. I don't want to say that you should forgive them, not at all, i don't forgive that one kid who traumatized me for life. They must have been absolutely horrible to you. The point i want to make is that even though you decide to forgive them or not, they WERE kids, they didn't knew morals and they probably were replicating things that they saw/suffered. I don't want to make an excuse, but i do want to say that a kid can't be the devil, there's still little, and it's too extreme to wish for their death. I wish you well, and i'm sorry for the things you had to pass.
I mean wishing death or non existence upon a child is pretty far, it’s generally the fault of the guardians who didn’t teach them right from wrong, exposed them to such violence, or even were violent with them themselves. It’s also the fault of teachers for ignoring of discarding such things, instead of wishing death I’d just wish better guardians and teachers within the child’s environment, I am extremely sorry about what you’ve gone through though, and I wish you all the best
I got bullied for the types of reactions I gave whenever we got hurt. I ended up developing a kind of selective mutism where I couldn't speak or even cry out when I was in pain. It lasted for years after I graduated but I'm alright now
Man this was emotional to listen to... Hearing you tried your best to befriend him and be by his side made my heart melt ❤. I hope people take note from this to try and help others in need!. Growing up I've always gave people benefit of the doubt and try to befriend them if they need company and someone to talk to. hearing shgurr's story here reminds me that there's hope for humanity 😁.
Wow, bullies in the US are actually deranged at times. Pulling a little kid's hair out with duct tape sounds like a scene straight out of a psycho thriller to a European like me, I hope that kid is doing well in life.
For real I always thought the straight up homicidal bullies in Stephen King shit were unrealistic but then I her shit like this and I think damn maybe I just got the tame ones
I really hope the kid is fine now, it must've been horrible to experience all of that. I also want to say that i admire you trying to stand up for him, i really wish more people did that
Well I'm sure the kid got some psychological damage from all of that And in many cases people who have been in the receiving end of severe bullying kinda fell out of society/marginalize usually
@@breklaberif7553 She wasn't even in the circle, she didn't even know what was happening in the circle until after, when they get called inside. out of all videos, idk why you're mad at this one
@@breklaberif7553 she didn’t do either of those things. For one, she was off, away from the group, and two, she never claimed moral high ground, she even said she felt guilty for not doing more. Did you even watch the video??
It sucks to see just how common bullying is. I was bullied pretty bad, mostly emotional and verbal. But it was constant, and got to the point i had to switch schools for the sake of my mental health. Adults need to stop looking as bullying as "kids being kids" . It doesnt matter if thry are kids, they are harming someone in their most cruicial developmental state. It needs to be taken much more seriously.
See the thing about that is that some adults think that way, and other adults only think that way because they don't know the full extent of what's going on to realize it ISN'T just kids being kids. Because from the outside, it blends in really well with kids just being kids. Especially boys who talk shit to each other and hound each other constantly for fun and AREN'T bullying. And a lot of teachers DO at least attempt to intervene, but from a student's standpoint, especially if you're the one who got bullied, it can be easy to view EVERYONE as being either against you or turning the other cheek. You have to remember that a lot of kids getting bullied also aren't in an average clear state of mind either. Even after the fact, one's memory of what went down could be skewed. Of course there are situations where teachers didn't do shit, but if we're commenting on the norm, then I think it's a big more mixed than people are claiming.
@@Axxidous i was bullied. Teachers attempt at dping something eas holdjng a meeting with ALL of the students about not to bully. It did nothing. Instead of confronting the bullies, giving them relrocussions for their actions, they did nothing. I had a dharpened pencil japped into my shoulder by one of my bullies IN FRONT OF THE TEACHER. I got sent to the nurses, he got sent to the principles, but he was back in the class when i got back. They dont give our repercussion for actions, all they do is talk.
@@crystalfox8520 And that’s where the last segment of my comment comes in. I’m not saying they always do something or do the right thing. I’m just saying it’s a pretty mixed bag how teachers and schools react. I had different types of bullying experiences in different schooled where the bullying was worse in some places than others and the responses were overall different. Coincidentally, I also had someone stab me in the arm with a pencil once.
That’s fucking traumatic. I kind of had similar experiences like Andy, feeling alone and everyone was against me. And teachers weren’t really on my side, that’s a sucky feeling. Great that you got this story off your chest.
@@breklaberif7553 Bro talking the most sh when he has a MY LITTLE PONY pfp... The other 11 year olds in your class would pick on you to the end of you days
For some reason this reminded me of a story from when I went to middle school. My middle school had its own set of unpleasant kids but no traditional, tease-everyone-type bullies. If someone was picking on another, it was more for personal reasons than them being an outright bully (which still wasn't right but it's important that I set them apart). Such was the case with someone I knew who I will call Jack. Jack had made an impression on me because he had obvious Irish roots, unlike all the other Latino/Latina/White/Asian kids at our school. His hair was bright orange and his name was obviously Irish (concealing for privacy) and though he was born in the US without an Irish accent, he took his heritage with pride. I had some classes with him including fencing class, his favorite- in said class we learned about medieval stuff, fenced, and even made large wooden shields; it was fun af. He was also a good friend of my best friend’s younger brother, aka the people who lived next to me one house over, so I also knew him better through them. Sometimes I would notice people calling him names in one of our shared classes but he would shrug it off and laugh along so I thought nothing of it. Even at the end of the year his picture had a mistake on it, with a big black picture of a clip art pencil covering the top right corner of his picture, which to this day I cannot decide if it was truly a mistake or if it was a jab at him from the students running the club that edits our yearbooks. The entire school always had this big trip for those graduating 8th grade called the “Washington Trip” where we would fly to other states and look at major landmarks in the United States (this is where the school was at) and we had both signed up for it. I remember clearly on one of the days when we were assigned partners at a history museum in Washington DC to walk and look around at the exhibits. I was paired with Jack, and we walked around completely silently. I had my own set of mental health issues that made me appear mute/extremely shy throughout middle school so I was too nervous to start a conversation or even look him or really anyone in the eyes so we said nothing to each other. There's a reason why this moment stands out to me, which really came forward when I was at my high school orientation. I saw his group of friends in the lines to get their school IDs and asked where he was, only to find out that he had hung himself in the summer. It was then that I thought about the glaring red flags of him being bullied and my failure to talk to him on the Washington trip. For years I blamed myself for not talking to him on that trip and at least trying to be friends. He was such a sweet and seemingly confident kid and the thought that bullies in the shadows drove him to suicide pains me more than anything. I am 20 now- since then I have come to terms with my own mental health issues and realized that I was in no position at the time to try and help anyone (I was also suicidal for reasons other than bullying) but knowing that he could have found a wonderful life with the people who cared for him is excruciatingly sad. I write this in your honor, Jack, for you were gone way too soon. May you find peace, friend.
Oh my god- I'm so sorry for him and you. Bullies need to see that THIS is what can happen when they go too far. Literal suicide. Internet bullies also need to stop because the same effects can happen, and they may go even further and doxx them or some sort so the victim has to move house. The people who doxx people btw. Just stop, you aren't helping the situation you are ruining their life,
I absolutely despise bullies, just people projecting their insecurities and loneliness onto others by harming them and thinking somehow that would make them feel better about themselves is stupid. I hope that when people see this they learn not only how important it is to help others, but how you can cause so much damage to a person’s life just by insulting them, and I hope that changes. Thank u for giving us good times with your vids :]
@@Blueskies2513 exactly trolls are funny but it depends if your taking the trolling to far example spamming exploiting etc for example a yt named Ibella always breaks into others home in brookhaven when trolling in my opinion thats quite funny and it is not taking it to far!
Raise your fists and give them the one two. You want them to stop? You hit them where it hurts even if you get in trouble for it. No one will stand up for you, only you can.
This was really heartbreaking to listen to. I really do hope you don’t blame yourself for not preventing that situation anymore. There was no way you could have known that was going to happen to him and even though you didn’t you made the effort to reach out to him out of your own wishes to help him. As someone who was bullied but never had someone be strong and reach out to me like you did for him makes me believe that he was grateful that you spoke to him even if he was embarrassed in the moment. You truly are a great person. Out of curiosity have you ever tried finding him or his parents through Facebook?
If I was in the situation. Me being me, I would want to help. But would freeze up, if I knew adults and other kids weren’t helping. And the kids were in on it. Though, also me being me. The moment I would see them put duct tape i would. No doubt like charge at them and push them. And yell “WHAT THE FUCK DID HE DO!?!” If this at my school. I would get put on the wall, and the kid would end up losing his hair anyway cause they wouldnt believe me. Cause… I…. Was Just A Kid. I didn’t know any better.
I understand the idea of blaming yourself in hindsight of a situation you could’ve prevented or stopped. It’s a genuine pushback of regret and devastation that lasts a really long time and no matter how much you logically believe it’s not your fault, you can’t believe it out of genuine dismay. With that being said, and not trying to push anything, but no matter what, you were still a kid. Kids have no idea of the bigger picture in what they do, just like those bullies who wouldn’t know about the consequences of bullying and how it could permanently traumatize someone. Even if you didn’t help out that kid in that moment, I’m positive he’d still remember the moments where you were nice before and wanted to be with him so he can have a friend to talk to. Though you weren’t able to stay no matter what, you were still more mature and caring than any other kid back then or now, and that should say a lot about who you are as a person.
@@shgurr2 They were more violent than they should’ve at elementary age, and I’ve seen how the 00’s kids were bullied in my experience lol. But I’m positive those bullies may have grown and understood how horrible they acted because being a human is about making those mistakes to learn from them. We all grow at some point or another and no matter the blame people may have on situations, we can’t help but take what we can to process everything that happened and what to do, whether it’s in ourselves, from how someone may have felt, or from the situation in general.
Even if bullys change, the trauma is still there for the victim. No matter how much they grow as a person, they dont deserve forgiveness for that (imo)
@@Black_Knight_-BK- Whether forgiveness is given to the bully or bullies should be up to the victim(s). The bullies can seek closure, but I don't think that it's up to us to give forgiveness. We can offer empathy to both sides (although moreso to the victims) and support for the victims, but I'm not sure we can say that the bullies can't be forgiven unless the victims feel that way.
@@Black_Knight_-BK- and @Try Hard McGee. I have read an article about an ex-bully. He went out of his way to find his past victims and try to make amends, with mostly bittersweet results. But his most bullied victim, now a married man and living comfortably, refused to contact him. And he couldn't blame him, neither do I. Even when you know someone has changed and is trying to make the best with what they can, it's hard to give forgiveness for a past neither they nor you can change anymore.
It’s actually impressive that those children do cruelty and that is disgusting. A school is supposed to be an environment where a child is supposed to feel safe and yet disappointment is emotionally immeasurable, I’m glad Shgurr that you did made an effort to help the child, you were very brave and upsettingly more competent then the school itself trying to help this kid. But one question that may never be solved to me is that I guess a small portion of humans seem to be cruel by nature. You and many others have the strength to deny cruelty in others, to show kindness despite facing it cruelty yourselves. I am proud.
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When you said that they ripped his hair out... I was in shock. I just like, looked at the wall for a good minute. Couldn't really take it in. This should never have happened. I'm mad at the adults for not doing anything about it. The kids too. This should never have happened. You are such an angel for standing up for this guy. I hope that he's doing well now
Standing up for guys is very difficult as a girl. I remember when I was a senior one of they guys I hanged out with was being bullied pretty badly. He had people steal his bag one day with his laptop inside and threw it off a three story balcony. He was a really genuine nice guy with some odd quirks and sadly very skinny despite being a good athlete. Also didn't help he was poor. I stood up for him a few times but ended up pulling him aside and saying "do you want me to help you? I can stand up for you and I'll do anything that is needed even if that means fighting these Kids but I understand having a girl help fight your battles can make it worse. If you want me to stay out of it I will just let me know" it was hard because I didn't want to step aside but I didn't want to crush him either. He asked me to stay out of it but the fact I gave him the option seemed to bolster his spirits. He was more confident in general and was always relaxed around me and our group. I hated standing by but I was more then happy to support him in any way I could and provided a safe place to hangout during lunch.
I don't usually talk about it, but when 5:02 hit and she said, "you just hear someone scream." I cried, ngl. (WARNING - The stuff below the expand comment line is quite triggering for some people, espesialy thoughs who have been abused. If you think you could be triggerd DO NOT expand this.) I had a lot of mean people attack me over the years, but one of the worst was a kid I'm going to call Kent (not his real name). I met this kid in my school when he switched over after being expelled from his last. At first, Kent seemed nice, and I enjoyed talking to him, so we became 'friends.' But over time I saw more and more of who this person was. I saw how insane he really was. He would occasionally bring up things involving murder and killing. He was almost obsessed with the idea of killing the people he hated. One day, I was like, I'm leaving. So I told him, like the small stupid child I was, that I cant be friends with him. All at once, his face blanked. He looked crazy, like all of the the friendship before was a mask. He grabbed a mop that was laying on the side of the building and started waking my back with the handle. He hit me over and over and over and I screamed. There were adults RIGHT THERE that could hear me, teachers. They didnt even stop it. So i grabbed a brick and threw it at this monster. It broke his nose, witch gave me time to run away. I ran to a teacher asking them to stop this kid, but they told me ill be fine and that "boys do this stuff all the time." I ran away from the school, fearing my life would be taken and asked a person outside the school if I could borrow their phone. (Keep in mind I was bleeding badly, my back was entirely blood). They agreed and my mom picked me up and took me home. I never went back to that school and I never saw that kid agein. Do not let somebody tell you, "its just a boy thing" it isnt.
I had the exact experience with the circling around the victim, It was horrific to hear the guy cry and scream while I just sat in the classroom doing nothing. I was acquainted to him at that time, and, he was the calmest person I've ever talked to. I regret just sitting there now, and I hope they're alright. Thanks for unlocking that memory.
it's not your fault tbh... it's not our job to help the other kids, it's the fucking adults who have to MOVE. It's really sad how kids have tho help other kids just because the ones with power don't even dare to move their asses....
i've been through that so many times, people are so... absent. they don't help you, just stand there and gawk at you while you're crying. it's as if it's entertainment to them. it's so disgusting.
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It's uncanny how sadistic people can be. Therapy should be more accessible, not only to those wo are getting bullied but to the bullies. Something must be going on if you have that little respect to your fellow humans.
I didn't consider my school bullying experience very "fortunate" until I started hearing stories from so many other people who had it so much worse. Like, the worst I had was getting teased for being overweight, I got punched in the stomach once and had an asthma attack, and I vaguely remember early elementary school I got chased a lot around the playground by older kids. And, in most of those situations, I realized years later why they did that stuff, like all the kids who bullied me were from really rough households, and probably were either neglected or abused themselves. But I've had the hardest time finding a point of view for anyone outside my own bullies for what could cause them to do that, and I always have this heavy gut kinda feeling about, "Well, there must be some reason behind bullies being bullies". But that kinda stuff, mobbing up on other kids and consistently harassing them, I don't think I'll ever find enough reason to justify it. It's beyond exception. I hope wherever they are, the kid you felt for is doing awesome, as well as anyone else out there who dealt with or is currently dealing with intense bullying.
@@BunchaWords It often really is just a matter of abuse causing more abuse. Often, abusive parents were abused by their own parents when they were kids and/or when they were teenagers.
It doesn’t matter if the bullies came from an abusive household. You never take it out of someone else. It’s not an excuse to push other people around. Why should the innocent just take this because someone isn’t okay in a different environment. I will never forgive the things people did to me. And guess what? My family situation wasn’t any better, but did I take it out on others? No.
@@starling1226 Nobody is saying that it makes them being bullies okay and different people have different reactions to trauma. Also, I understand being angry at those who tormented you and I'm sorry that you went through whatever you went through, but it isn't good or healthy to keep hatred for those people in your heart. Forgiveness is important. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you no longer care about what happened to you. It just means that you no longer hold hatred in your heart against the ones who wronged you.
It’s true, you can’t blame the bullies if they came from abusive families. They are just treating others how they were treated. Imagine how they struggled themselves. Hurting others might have been the only way for them to keep from self-harm or suicide.
Every time I hear a story like this I always think to myself “am I a good person?”. I don’t bully anyone but I always wondered if there was a situation where I can help someone would I? (also I mean like an extreme situation). I would like to think I would help but because I’ve never been in a situation like that I don’t know if I actually would And honestly that kind of scares me because I fear that one day I’ll be in that situation and I’ll choose to do nothing
@《IamChaos》 i actually needed to hear this my young(er) heart was hurting thinking i was a bad person always will me. i never really needed people to tell me I was wrong and was a bad person. The moment i mess up i know it and i won’t ever let go of how embarrassing or awful it was. and as a kid who my mom says “was easy to tell she had anxiety from 7 years old” it worsened my health. I try my best to keep my cool and being rude never feels ok even on accident.
instead of asking “am I a good person”, I think it’s better to ask “am I a bad person”. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t do every good thing you could’ve ever done, as long as you’ve never caused any harm, you’ve done great
Nobody on the internet is a good person. Someone will always hate you and think you suck no matter if they know you personally or not. You just have to be happy with who you are
It can be easy to fall into that train of thought, and it's certainly important to try and help others when you see something wrong, but at the end of the day, YOU'RE not the person committing some horrific act. Just because you didn't step in doesn't change the fact that the blood is on the bully's hands, not yours. At the end of the day, it's THEIR fault for being a horrible person. P.S. If you're the adult in the room, like the teachers, it's a whole different story. Your job is to protect the kids, so their blood is on your hands if you don't do something. It's like if a medical professional just watched as a person bled out; you're liable at that point.
as an autistic guy, i get incredibly enraged hearing about kids getting bullied. especially kids like me who are neurodivergent or just smaller more timid people getting hurt by pathetic bullies. and it's even harder being a victim when you try to stand up for yourself and they don't take you seriously. they're the reason i still have trust issues. Andy didn't deserve any of that and hearing about how they tore out his hair makes me so unbelievably enraged and upset. what is wrong with people. thank you for being a nice person, i'm sure he really appreciates it looking back.
Wow, I cannot believe that those boys decided it would be funny to RIP HIS HAIR OUT. I really hope Andy is okay and is in a better place. I cannot believe teachers didn’t do much to defend him. I really hope the bullies one day look back, and think how messed up and mean they’ve been. Because, that is just cruel. People really don’t think of the consequences of their actions and how it may affect people, all for their own pleasure of something to blow steam. So if you are in a bad situation, or have people who’ve hurt you badly.. Never let it out on other people. If you do, you’re no better than the ones who hurt you.
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Up until the part where he was literally attacked, I'm fortunate enough to go to a relatively non violent school, the way you described that kid definitely hit close to home for me. I get bullied a lot for no reason for doing basically nothing, and I'm bullied by a LOT of different people (even sometimes as far as literally being sexually harrased I am not joking but Im not going into detail) and it hurts when I hear others going through the same (and much worse in this case) because I know how helpless it can make someone feel. I'm glad he ended up ok even after all of that stuff. That man is a trooper. Fortunately though my bullies aren't the most popular kids, and the actual popular cool kids are genuinely nice and hang out with me even though they are aware that I'm not that popular or important. I'm lucky to have a support group, and the fact that you tried to be that for him is awesome of you even if it didn't work out. Thats the sign of a good person.
Adds a whole new meaning to "be the change you wish to see" I don't want anyone to feel alone or hopeless so I think even if all you can do is get someone in a bad situation to smile even once or to feel like there's hope then there's a chance. I've learned from my own experience most people just need to hear "I've got your back" or at least have one person they can go to for help.. since the world loves turning a blind eye to the people who are in need.
I know this may be discarded in the comments but I just wanted to say: Shannon, the fact you wanted to help and befriend him really warmed my heart. That was really sweet of you and I’m glad you tried to make his life a little bit better. This is what I try to be like. You shouldn’t feel guilty for what happened to Andy, but I can relate to that feeling a lot. You wanted to help and you’re really thoughtful for asking to be his friend. That makes me proud. I share your feelings in hoping that he is doing well now. We need more people like you. Thank you for sharing this story.
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Honestly, up until the exact incident I thought you could’ve been talking about me. As one of the kids on the swings, I just want to let you know that even though you couldn’t stop the bullying, that small gesture of kindness, sitting on the swing and asking the black sheep if he’s ok… that meant the world to him. Mine was different. The school bully cut sharp plastic across the back of my neck and put me in the hospital for several days. But I had an experience like you gave him right before it- one of the other bullies tore up a drawing of mine and she gave me a ‘replacement’ she drew- and that feeling, of knowing at least one other kid cared about giving me kindness despite all the bullies that hated me… that was enough, that pushed me to come back despite the fear of getting attacked again. That helped me get through it all. So from him to you, thank you for stopping by that swingset. Even if you couldn’t save him, you still did far and away more than anyone else would, and we really appreciate that.
Damn... I hope he's doing well. And hey, I hope you feel better now that you got this story of your chest. Now that you've had this negative experience, you can use it to prevent somethings like this from happening again.
Being bullied younger is hell. I used to get put in a tight headlock by one kid and brutally punched in the ribs by another as I was held down on a table back in 7th grade science class. When I looked over to the teacher and used the last piece of energy I had to reach my hand out, the teacher made eye contact with me and went on to teach the rest of the class as the sounds of my guts getting beaten continued to fill the classroom. All the kids he taught instead of me became successful, rich university kids. I’m still struggling to finish college. Felt like I was dragged to hell for no reason while they got heaven. After I lost all faith in receiving help and humanity at large, I began to fight back in order to survive as my bruises and internal pains were becoming mortally problematic. Oddly enough, whenever I got bullied nothing happened to them, but as soon as I fought back I got immediate detentions. Still worth it since eventually I got a reputation of being the crazy guy who bit someone in the neck (long story) and was finally left alone.
Man that sucks. If you read this and if it helps, there wasn’t anything you could have done in that situation. If you stayed with him on the swingset, they probably would have bullied you too and teased you for “flirting” with him, and considering your past with bullying, you might have ended up like him. Could you have told the teachers or an adult? Sure, but by the sound of it other kids already did, and the situation wouldn’t have really changed. I appreciate you sharing this, i’m sure there are plenty of bully victims who watch your videos, and you’re a big inspiration to a lot of them. Keep being awesome and making this world a little bit brighter
I hope that kid is in a better place physically and mentally. I was abused by my “mom” and consequently became a bully b/c I didn’t know how to cope with the situation. Becoming like my mom scarred me just as much as the extreme abuse itself. Since 11 yrs old, I have vowed to protect those who can’t protect themselves.
I agree with the bullies being garbage statement I had a severe bullying problem myself when I was little it would go from stabbings, doors slamming on my hands ,actually wedgies (one was actually on the flag pole but not very high) I was recorded and put on UA-cam when my lunch was spat on and thrown in the trash to blackmail me I was given notes for me to kms and my family I was called the Antichrist to the next hitler and hundreds of different names and all of this abuse and harassment was because of me being autistic ,teachers started stepping in after the 4th stabbing with a pencil but that was after 5 years of bullying, low key the way the school systems bullying prevention needs a phenix treatment and needs to be COMPLETELY REDONE I only hope that one day this crap stops
The system really does need a change. Because this kind of stuff is just... it's honestly unfair. Actually, if I remember correctly, I once remember a teacher, an actual teacher, who just snapped and made a video and posted it on either Twitter or Facebook lashing out at a student who was Autistic themself (I believe it was a girl) and the teacher got fired for posting that video. Not my school, though I wouldn't place them above having teachers like that, it must've been either one of the schools in my district, either Charter or some other grade, or it was some school in Michigan, Tennessee, Texas or California.
As someone who was bullied in the same manner as “Andy” this is what I figured out at around the age of 11-12. They bullied us horrifically because we are silent and weak and no one not even the adults would protect us. It made us easy targets for a massive amount of people. It sucks it really does but that’s what happened. When I stopped crying and reacting to their taunts and threats- and I started beating up people in a bloody manner if they touched me and grabbed my things it all stopped. The teachers tried to reprimand ME for defending myself constantly I started snapping at the teachers and principle for failing to protect me when I needed them for years. They settled on me going to anger management class for 2yrs and skipping classes anytime I wanted to go there. The popular kids are bullies, you are a bystander honestly speaking and you are no help to us but being a background character in our memory. I’m glad you’re telling his story and raising awareness how wrong doing that to a person is. That is great! Thank you. No you did not save Andy. But you did not letting Andy’s memory die in silence at least. Thank you again.
I hope you’re doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️. Always know that people care, one of them, me! Sending even more support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've never witnessed any bullying, but hearing your story I think it might be that my school's were more proactive at preventing it (at least the adults took action as soon as soon as I said I was wronged) I'd like to think it's because France is better than the US, but there are sadly schools here that don't move a finger either and I can't understand why. I hope that kid was able to find a place he belong ❤️
Nowadays, people bully less than they isolate. Isolation is when people are ostracized and they feel left out. I myself was ostracized for most of my life, ever since preschool until high school.
The more overbearing an school is and the more hours the kids are stuck in it the more prevalent bulling is. Ive always wondered why i had never withnessed any bullying, and i realized it was because my school was super relaxed, and ypu werent forced to actually show up that often. You could just leave. Was it similar like that to you?
I understand how you couldn’t trust them but also wanted what was better for him. Situations like that can be brutal depending how the victim reacts. There’s no telling if he’s a better person now but after you witness someone commit horrid acts, it can be difficult to see them differently. I really enjoyed hearing your story and understand the reasoning. Keep it up shgurr!
This story hits close to home. I never saw bullying go as far as what you have described but I have witnessed awful things done to others and have had awful things done to me. It makes it worse when the adults don't even try to do anything or aren't trained to do anything when such harsh bullying is taking place. I'm so glad that my mom decided to homeschool my brother and I when she did so we wouldn't have to deal with that sort of thing anymore. Man... this just hits so different. Makes me think of middle school. Thanks for sharing this story and talking about bullying. Idk why but I feel like I needed to hear it today ❤️
Honestly, your and amazing person for helping him. When I was in... third grade I think, I got bullied a lot because of my autism. Luckily there was a girl in my class who was like you and tried her best to be there for me. I've been bullies my whole life starting in kindergarten, and I'm so lucky that my friends made sure I was never alone.
I don’t know if y’all agree with me, but being isolated is just as bad. You don’t have anyone for you, and if something traumatic happens to you, nobody will care. I’m speaking from experience. When I was 12, I wanted to commit suicide, but nobody gave a crap.
I also have autism but I don't really think that was why I was picked on. I was picked on because I was obnoxious (still am tbh but I know how to hide it better lol)
@@dyingsanity. I didn't have any friends but I had good parents so I was fine. Though I didn't tell them I wanted to kill myself for a long time cause I was afraid that it would make them feel like bad parents.
@@SuperIsaiah I told my parents I wanted to kill myself, and they said "if you kill yourself no one will feel sorry for you, you're a nobody to the world," i think that's what made me decide not to do it.
This story is one of the reasons I signed up to be a substitute teacher. I wanted to prevent the possibility of both student and staff bullying of children. I work in smaller schools because in larger classrooms (30+ kids) it is harder to stop the bullying. There should be laws to prevent huge classroom sizes so teachers can more readily protect students from this. There are laws already, but the larger the class size, the harder it is to protect students. We need more voices like yours. Good luck.
The thing about adults who don't intervene in bullying situations is, they're often bullies themselves. They're the type of person obsessed with the bootstraps narrative the " if anyone is picking on someone it's because the person must be doing something wrong, they must be "asking for it" and the solution is to blame the victim until they change. Adult bullying often takes on a different context. It comes out in the workplace as sexual harassment, on the street as casual racism and religious persecution. Some of the teachers standing off to the side watching this kind of thing think "Good, that kid needs to learn to blend in better, to get a thicker skin, survival of the fittest." Then they go home and see some injustice in the news and and think "Good, that person made a big deal out of nothing, they're a special snowflake that deserved it."
Huh...I definitely don't agree with that. If you had said "some", then maybe. But "often"? No. Nah. Even as someone who got bullied a lot growing up, I would actually relegate a lot of the teachers to being too afraid to handle the situation because they've never actually been in a situation where they should handle bulling from an authoritative position. They, themselves, were likely bullied as kids. So they don't know the solution. So they're either too afraid to approach it, or they literally just approach it in very simple and ineffective ways. Not to mention that intervening usually leads to harsher bullying. I've also seen a lot of situations where teachers and staff DID do something. But they don't cover every situation properly.
@@Axxidous depends entirely on the area and it's demographics. In the south I stick by my use of "often". There's a very sh1tty "you gotta be tough boy!" Schtick that's straight out of cowboy movies that permeates rural schools. I know, I went to two of them. When a child was bullied, even in two cases to the point of su1c1,de. The school teachers were upset but blame one of the cases on the kid being a "weak moraled boy" aka gay and the other on having a single mother and not enough Bible. I stood in the schoolyard while that first boy climbed on top of a building and other students chanted "jump!" at him and the agriculture teacher stood off to the side and did NOTHING.eventusoky he came down but completed his mission at a later date. I still think about the fact that I did nothing. Told no one about that incident but I was the only half black kid in a 95% white school in Texas. I already had a target on my head at all times and couldn't afford to turn the town on me. This was in 2003 so maybe things have changed but now as an adult I hear those same parents and teachers talking and they sound just the same. Many rural southern schools go unsupervised and run like puritan townships complete with shunning and witch hunts by staff and parent alike. If you don't "join the flock" you don't get support and anything that happens to you was "deserved". It's God, Guns, and family in that order. To hell with anyone else.
@@Axxidous More like the administration and'or parents are from hell itself. If you look into teacher stories you'd think every other person on earth is a bully.
As a kid, I was never physically bullied (at school, at least.) I was called names yes and was ostracized from kindergarten to 9th grade, never having any close friends until I was 14, and for a long time I wished someone would just protect me tbh. When I was 11, I became depressed, I even wanted to commit suicide, and not having anyone there for me just made it worse. I became extremely defensive of myself, and I honestly think it’s at least partly because of my childhood trauma.
That's about exactly what happened with me, except I kinda deserved what happened since I was a major smart*ss as a kid and I would always try to prove that I'm smart (when I really wasn't smart). For me the 11 and the 14 are swapped. I made a friend when I was 11 (who's my only friend to this day) and I started getting suicidal at 14. Now I'm graduated, and I'm a Christian so I won't kill myself, but I'm still kind of socially ostracized. But I'm much better off mentally cause I just focus on getting stuff done and don't really have time to think about myself.
@@SuperIsaiah I'm not as socially ostracized now, but I'm still an extremely quiet and introverted kid at 15. I think transferring schools is what helped me, because I could start anew.
I pisses me off how schools fail at this over and over for all their big talk of zero tolerance for bullying. But the thing is it never really ends - teachers were often the "nerds" in school and they still are in a lot of ways. The bullies when they were in school are now adult bullies often raising kids that are bullies. So the teachers / administrators are just as scared of the parent bullies as the victims are of the student bullies. Not that it excuses any of it at all, but I think it's why teachers often fail to act or blame the victim. For example, my mom was a teacher. Once she grabbed a bully's arm to stop him from hitting another younger kid. Bully's mom was a Karen in the worst way and tried to sue her for touching her kid. Fortunately her history with the schools meant her threat didn't go very far. Oh and the bully? Caught a few years later molesting a kindergarten kid in a closet.
Elementary school was the hardest for me. I was never punched or attacked in bullying, it was something else. I remember getting the average snickers and comments, but it was being alone that really took it’s toll. No matter what I did, I would always be the one alone at lunch, always picked last in PE, always sitting at the swings by myself at recess. This went on for most of the 5 years, until something odd happened. A girl came up to my lone table during lunch. She was taller then everyone else, I remember people always joked about her being held back. As expected, the table she left from erupted into laughter and jokes about how she was in love. Even so, she endured them, smiled, and continued talking to me. For once, even if it was just for a little bit, I didn’t feel alone. I remember that to this day, and it still gives me hope. I believe Andy would remember as well. It’s people like you and her that remind everyone that there are always those willing to help.
as a dude who was bullied in middle school it always baffled me how the teachers seemed to do nothing besides the occasional "stop it" i just felt betrayed by teachers i genuinely liked, so i took matters into my own hands that ended in a few broken teeth and a permanent record . we need more people like you shgun be blessed
I hope you’re doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️. Always know that people care, one of them, me! Sending even more support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You did the right thing on trying to reach out to him. Though he may have turned down your offer, perhaps you gave him hope that there are people who want to help. Not everyone has someone who'll stand up for them, I know that for a fact.
Yikes!!! I hope that kid is okay nowadays. And has healed from his traumatic experiences. I always try to look out for people regardless of who they are. Unless they are like,,,, downright evil. I hate how at schools, at least for me, whenever someone is in danger or hurting, they don't allow you to help. Idk if other people have experienced that, but sooo many times I see someone hurt or upset and the staff/teachers stop me from helping. And then they don't even do anything. School system is messed up... Allow people to step in when your too lazy to. I especially hate it when teachers favor students, and when their favorite is in trouble they rush to them in the blink of an eye. But when someone else is in trouble, they write it off as "Oh its just kids being kids!!!" I've been on both ends, being the favorite and seeing other kids get screamed at like there's no tomorrow, while also being tormented by teachers because I'm new to the school. Teachers have a really weird way of treating students, at least in my experience... The lil animation of a cat is adorable. I really like the atmosphere of the commentary-art videos. Your voice is really relaxing and nice to listen to.
STOOPP!!! All these sort of sappy childhood memory story things keep reminding me of my old friend from elementary school who was born missing most of her left forearm. She moved after 2nd grade and I had always wished that someday I could just be lucky as shit and run into and reconnect with her and find out what she's been up to all these years. But I finally managed to find and reconnect with her back last September and she said: "I do remember you! I was actually just thinking about you the other day funnily enough. I remember holding your hand in the way into school and teasing you for bringing activia in your lunch box every day lol. I feel bad about teasing you looking back on it. You were always so nice to me and a lot of other people weren't so nice at that school." and it just melted my heart😭😭😭
Oh my gosh, I feel so bad for that kid :( Also, I want you to know that it wasn't your fault at all. As other people have said, you had no idea that was gonna happen. I hope he and his family are doing okay, and that things get better for them all
Such a good message! When more kids (but especially adults) help out just a little to defend against bullies, it can make the world a kinder, safer place to be. It takes everybody doing their part, so don't feel bad that you couldn't do enough. You did something when most did nothing. Therefore, you're a badass. 💞
Kids: *literally get bullied and tortured to the point where they get depressed, tries to kill themselves, or even shoot up schools* Teachers: I sleep Kids: *packs up .0001 second before bell rings* Teachers: *screams of the damned intensity*
While I myself got bullied a little bit, one of the few moments I will forever cherish from my time in high-school was me standing up for this kid in my gym class. He was in our little misfit group and he was (as far as I know) openly gay, and the other boys were trying to give him shit about it. But I wasn't having that. My shy, timid self went off on those boys and that they shouldn't treat him like that just because he was different. And I tried to get the coach of the class to do something, but all he did was say that it was gym class and we shouldn't be talking about that stuff. That made me so mad, so for the rest of nine week term or however long I had that class, I treated that kid like a friend and I made sure no one picked on him while I was around. And I'm really really proud of myself for that. And I really hope he's out there somewhere living a good life and that he remembers that someone cared about him.
Hearing that story scared me. I know kids can be mean, but damn. I hope wherever he is now, he’s doing well. I feel bad for him, I once got bullied too when I was young.
I have trauma from school due to how I was treated and I wasn't even bullied. I can hardly imagine what it would be like to go through that. I hope he's recovering.
I hope everyone is doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️. Always know that people care, one of them, me! Sending even more support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Shgurr, if you're reading this, just know that you and that kid Andy are not alone. I think the world would be a better place if people just treated each other with respect, even if they don't particularly like that person. People like you are amazing inside and out, and I understand the guilt and shame of feeling like you weren't there with someone, but in reality.. Andy was grateful to have someone who actually cared about what he was going through, and I'm sure he will cherish that forever. Thank you, shgurr. We need more people like you in this world❤
The duct tape thing is genuinely concerning. The sort of people who do that obviously are incredibly messed up and it disappoints me that the guilty did not see greater punishment. Actively physically injuring or mutilating someone isn't just grounds to get someone kicked from a school as to me that just sounds like abuse and is much more serious than I think I could describe.
I was a bullied kid, and I gave up trying at times, I walked out of groups. My best friend said this that I was too cool to be bullied and I was still mad when people hurt others. And you remind me of myself because I never gave up the idea that there are good people out there.
I can somewhat relate. I recently lost a very good friend of mine. His and his brothers life was both taken by their father and it’s just hard to think about it all. I know that there was nothing I could have done about it but I just wish I could have at least spent more time with him.
As a person who got bullied up until 9th grade, i really feel his pain, It's really hurts to know that no one is standing up for you when you cant yourself. people will just say, "stand up for yourself," the problem is, if i stood up for myself, i would get bullied twice as hard, so it doesnt help, and we need other people and intervine and stand up for us. I hope he is doing good and living a happy life.
As soon as you said they were standing in a circle in the corner, I knew exactly what was about to go down. I’ve seen it before. But good lord, ripping someone’s hair out with tape? That’s insane.
This really is the most banger story animation, that you've done beyond everyone shgurr plus y'all know who else likes to share stories she come up with? that's really you shgurr most underrated animator ma'am
The Worst part about bullies is like 90% of the time, they don't see what their doing is wrong. I've known school bullies who used to torment me from Elementary up till early freshman high school and by sophomore year, for some reason, it's like they wanna be your friend for some reason or they mentally BLOCKED all the horrible things they did to you. It honestly impressesses me how some bullies are even aware of what their doing and they don't regret it. That mentallity disgusts me so much. So many of my bullies for some reason mellowed out by junior year and started acting like we were friends and it puzzled me, i never did become friedns with them but the fact that they think they never did anything wrong to me has to be some sort of mental illness of sorts to me.
Have you ever explained this to them? Im sure you could because if what your saying is true then they have mellowed out enough for you to tell them this and you really should. Just like you said,they don’t know what they were doing was wrong, so you hating in silence instead of bringing this problem to their attention is probably just resulting in you not having potential friends. Of course its up to you what you decide to do, however I think these “bullies” were genuinely having fun and want to be your friend and I just dint think calling them disgusting and hating them without confronting them is the right move. Again your choice what you do with your social life, but this message is coming from somebody who few close friends in school are former enemies.
over the summer I've started to watch your videos and your videos have always comforted me and it just hit me that you sound like a friend of mine. I feel pretty comforted by my friends so it was really nice since I cant talk to my friends much. Also besides the friend thing I just really like your videos.
i was also bullied a lot in elementary school, same situation with teachers not doing anything about it no matter how many times it was reported, and the students who didn't even talk to me never said anything about it, it was never to that degree though, mostly pushing, shoving and just making fun of me for literally existing in their presence, so yeah this really hit home and I hope that person is in a good place now
I was bullied frequently for years. I wish more people would've stood up for me. I had little interference. Now people call me toxic and I struggle to keep friends and I have little to no people on my side in arguments (usually I have no one). Bullying sucks. I have no sympathy for bullies.
What an awful experience :(. I've been bullied in Elementary school before and had gum thrown in my hair, but never had to deal with duct tape. You should be proud of yourself Shannon for being a light in Andy's life. When you're living in that kind of darkness and it feels like you have nothing to look forward too except the same grief, you never ever forget the kindness that you're shown. I'm sure, even to this day, he remembers you sitting next to him on his swings. You may have given him a reason to keep going. What he dealt with was awful, but please don't underestimate what you did. Nobody at that age should ever be expected to either deal with that kind of nightmare or help someone else through it -- you guys were just kids! if it's okay to ask, have you tried reaching out to him in recent times? no pressure at all, but if there's anything chance to cross paths with him again and say all the things you wish you could have said to him, or just talk about about what you both experienced, it would be totally worth it. I'm absolutely confident he hasn't forgotten what you did for him. Thank you for sharing the story
I’ve been on both sides of bullying, the friend group I had loved to bully people and they encouraged me to do the same. I’ve never gone to far but I shouldn’t have done it the first place. I did bully them for a while but it just felt wrong. I stopped bullying them and i stopped being friends with that group. I tried and did make it up the that person, we became friends. They still got bullied but I was able to help them instead of hurt them. I deeply regret every bullying at all. You’re a good person, a better person than me. I’m still helping some people who get bullied because sadly it doesn’t stop when you get older. I wish you and everyone in the comments a good day.
You did the best that you could, and that means a lot, Shannon. At the end of the day it's not our obligation to "rescue" those around us - it's just courtesy. (Though indeed I wish kindness was obligatory by law)
This reminds me of my own experiences with bullying. When I was a kid, I lived in this tiny little town out in the middle of nowhere. I struggled and still do struggle with social anxiety, so even when I was a child I could not bring myself to talk to people no matter how hard I tried. Because of that, and the fact that small town hillbilly folk don’t know about nor give a crap about mental health, meant that I got bullied. Yay... Luckily my attitude towards my classmates actually worked and I didn’t get bullied by that many of them. But a few of them were still jerks. The main one that I’ll be talking about will just be called Morgan. Now Morgan was like the stereotypical “popular” kid. She acted stuck up/ fancy, had that slight valley girl accent, would do her best to look pretty, ect. Basically the whole 9 yards. Just picture any of the brats from mean girls and that’s her. She never called me ugly, hit me, threatened me, or anything like that. She just called me weird. Which when I was 5-11 years old I thought that it actually did kind of sting because I never knew why she called me weird. I didn’t know if it was because of my anxiety or because I’m mixed race. But the two things that she did to actually make me mad were as follows. One time I was talking to a friend of mine about how a ball came up and hit me in the face during recess. And this little jerk tells me “well too bad,” in this sassy tone. And the second thing that she said that really ticked me off: I was walking around during recess playing pretend with my friend when Morgan came up to me and called me weird. I wasn’t bothered by it but my friend was. My friend started crying on my behalf because of what Morgan called me. But here’s the kicker and the thing that told me that “popular kids” are a huge myth. When she made my friend cry it was close to summer break. Not only that but one of the teachers stepped in and asked my friend what was wrong. We both told the teacher what Morgan called me. Of course Morgan denied it but something interesting happened. When summer break was over. Everyone in town figured out that Morgan was grounded for an entire year by her mother. I know that it’s probably because I lived in a small town and if rumors spread about someone or their family, they could potentially lose their job. But it just felt so satisfying to see her get into trouble. Yeah, she still bullied me, but at least I have bragging rights to say that I’ve never been grounded for a year. Oh and just to add salt to the wound. Morgan somehow managed to get a chrome book from the school library. But since her mom worked at the school, Morgan couldn’t really keep it a secret for long. So one time the both of them were in the same hallway and her mom saw her carrying one of the chrome books. Her mom immediately got angry and said “You’re not supposed to have one of those,” to which Morgan replied with “I don’t care mom.” So yeah. You can guess who’s punishment was most likely extended. (I’m sorry if she was being mistreated at home but it didn’t give her the right to bully anyone.) As for the second bully I had to deal with. I’m incredibly tempted to drop his name. But I won’t. Simply because I don’t want to stoop down to the same disgusting and wretched level that he, and any other lame pieces of crap like him choose to mope around in. I’ll call him Gerald. Now Gerald was a jock, a basket ball player. I won’t get too specific but, when I moved to a city. I figured out very quickly that he was *FAR* worse than Morgan. He called me ugly, gave me death/ threats, threatened to jump me after school. A whole lot of things. I didn’t only have his rude comments messing up my mental health, but with in the same year of him bullying me, I was also *inappropriately* harassed on a school bus by some little kid who most definitely had abusive parents. (Don’t worry too much, my mom managed to get the police involved with the school bus situation and it was handled. But the police said that aside from banning the kid from the school bus’s the case was classified... which is what makes me think that the parents of the little kid were abusive).To say that my depression and anxiety was god awful during that year would be a HUGE understatement. I was silently suffering internally. It didn’t help that Gerald had given me death threats on my 13th birthday. Because of that. I literally hated being reminded that I was born. My birthday felt like some sick backhanded reminder that I was garbage. And it never stopped feeling that way up until it was my 18th birthday. Geralds damaging words genuinely made me hate the fact that I was born for 5 years. There isn’t really any disciplinary action towards Gerald because he was a jock. And schools deflect negative criticism aimed at their sports teams. But here’s some semi-high notes: at some point I got fed up and kind of stood up for myself, albeit by flipping him off anytime he said anything remotely mean to me. The only times people would talk positively about him was for his basketball skills, if you brought up everything about him everyone would call him a POS. And best of all. When me and the rest of my fellow classmates started to attend high school, all of his athlete friends joined the football team to get scholarships. But the thing is, according to one of his teammates, he was horrible at football and was mainly proficient in basketball. Am I petty? Definitely. But do I think that it’s only right, that karma comes to smack you in the face when you’re being a huge careless jerk? Absolutely, besides, people like those two needed to learn their lesson one way or the other.
“THERE'S NO NEED TO RUSH. IF SOMETHING IS MEANT TO BE IT WILL HAPPEN, WITH THE RIGHT PERSON, IN THE RIGHT TIME, FOR THE RIGHT REASON.” -A Person Of Wisdom.
A quote by a character named the Greenman that I often go back to: “No matter what choice you make, it doesn't define you. Not forever. People can make bad choices and change their minds and hearts and do good things later; just as people can make good choices and then turn around and walk a bad path. No choice we make lasts our whole life. If there's ever a choice you've made that you no longer agree with, you can make another choice.” ― Jonathan Maberry, Dust & Decay
Soulful video, thanks for being strong enough to try to defend the weak, I've stood up for others against bullies and got targeted myself after, but dont regret it one bit. Keep on being awesome!
I relate to girls pressuring me into dating other "weird" kids. I was a kid who had panick attacks all the time, so everyone hated me because they didn't like how much I cried. Some kids were nice to me. Whenever another kid was nice to me Id hang out with them, and usually ya know its the outcast kids. But the sad part is that everyone would end up making rumors. Every single guy I spoke with, whether it was because he had a lisp, or he had a stutter, I would be paired with them and rumors would start that we like eachother and it was stupid. I thought I escaped it once I got out of elementary, and middle school, but it followed me in highschool with this handicapped guy who not only couldn't walk but had a lot of mental issues. People totally rumored about us so much so people thought we were actually dating. I just liked making friends with people I know others kinda shove off as "special" caude they do that to me but others are like "oh so cute the special kids dating ♡" and it feels so fucking gross. Whats worse was the guy actually had a crush on me and I didn't so this pressure then just turned into people encouraging a guy to creepily stalk me, and send strange letters and poems and gifts. I didn't want any of it. But no matter how I made it clear, it never got through to his head. I don't blame him, we both were dumb high school kids with equally hindering, although different, social problems. So, basically high school was the worst of it, because I was so traumatized by the rumors that tbh I feel like not even dating anyone anymore cause I'm too scared to have others talk about me and people I like, like that. But I am a romantic type so.. yeah. Its like a curse I guess.
I’ve been bullied too, and no one stood up to me. But I’m ashamed to say when the bullies started bullying the new girl, I almost felt.. relief, that I was no longer the target. I hated myself for a long time for feeling that way, and I did my best to defend her. Never bully people, people. Please help people you see are suffering
This is emotional to hear. Almost cried. This isn't your fault. That was heartbreaking. Praying for Andy being ok and have a happy and healthy life. Thank you for sharing.🙏🏿💙
That is torture. I don't understand why they would do this, I am appalled no one stepped into this situation, and words like "Torment" and "bullying" does not and *cannot* convey the brutality of this particular event. I also really hope he was able to recover from this, and I just feel terrible for him.
This video really resonates with me. Especially, the fact of teachers and other students not helping anyone. I have been bullied and I hate to say I feel like a bully as… when I finally got stopped being bullied, it’s cause the boys were bullying another kid. And I did nothing to stop it. The kid was foreign and wore hearing aids and the boys would push him around, broke his hearing aids a few times. Eventually, it got bad enough that we were told he was moving back to his home country. And when I was younger I felt bad about not doing anything about it. I told a teacher once, but they did nothing except name drop me as the kid who told the teacher what they were doing, leading to me getting beat up. So, for the year of school he was with us, I just watched as this kid got bullied. Looking back, I wish I was strong enough to stick up for that kid, cause of anyone had done that for me, it would of meant the world to me. Hope your okay wherever you are D. That got incredibly ranty and I’m sure nobody cares. Interesting video Shugrr and I hope you have a nice day whenever you read this Edit : I just wanna add, in the present I try my best to stop bullies and protect people who are being given a hard time. My closest friend is someone I stuck with who was being bullied for his weight and too insecure to say anything about it. Ofc, I know it sounds like I’m trying to compensate. But I’m friends with him not out of guilt, but because he’s honestly cool and a nerd like me and I’d do anything for him. Anyone who takes the time to read this : have a good day and do your best to be kind to the people around you.
It is really nice that the story is told At least just to make a bit of justice for that kids story. I don't know why but it is easier to try to defend others than yourself when you are been bullied
Bullies aren’t just garbage to you, they are garbage period. I wholeheartedly stand by your side, all deserve love and good time, bullies just don’t respect that and frankly no one should tolerate bullies.
I was bullied a LOT as a kid because I was super quiet, so hearing this hit home. Basically, I have (undiagnosed) autism/ADHD so I didn't have many friends back in primary, not to mention it was a SUPER christian school and I realised I was trans in year 4, never told anyone but when I mentioned it to my closest friend she told almost everyone I was some kind of 'freak of nature' and I was 'wrong'. I then came out as bisexual in one of my final years to another friend I had and the same thing fuckin happened. We moved an hour away because of all the harassment (and our house was tiny lmao) and it has kind of continued in my new town but I finally managed to stand up for myself after some dick from out rival school called me the t-slur (almost broke the kids nose! He initiated the fight after I told him to go fuck himself) and I feel a lot more confident. I'm 16 now, and I have an awesome friend group who stick up for me whenever anyone decides to give me grief, and an incredible boyfriend who helped me learn to love myself again over the two years we've been together. I really really hope that 'Andy' is alright now, and I wish em the best in life. I may not know the kid, but I wish I did, truly. Also, Shgurr, you are a saint for trying to help that kid. An absolute saint. I say this from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for helping the kids who didn't quite fit in. You are a role model for people all over the world and such a wonderful inspiration. PS!! if you actually read all that, ilysm
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Something similar happened to me but throughout most of school. Whether you realize it or not you made a difference in his life. Yeah it would've been better had you stayed but you couldn't have known and so many people be bullied are confused when I finally given a little kindness so they don't know how tod react. They may even lash out at you. If your feel you can stay your conviction let them know your there for them and if you able to, stay. It does so much more then you would relise to stay even if they tell you to go. If you say something like, 'I know you may not know me but I know what your going through. I care about you and won't let you take this burden by yourself.' Hug them and don't let them go. They may struggle until finally they open themselves up to you and you see what's behind the walls they've had to put up for so long. Keep being great🤗
I was bullied from the 3rd grade all the way to the end of high school. I know how it feels to go through all that. Did anyone help me out? Sadly, no. I had to get through it each day and I made it, but it was tough. I hope that wherever he is and whatever he's up to that he's doing well. I know how you feel about bullies. I find them to be utter scum and I protected people even when I was being bullied. I remember an instance where a friend of mine was being bullied and I stuck up for him and he was thankful. So was his sister since I knew her as well. I didn't do it for the praise. I wanted him to not have to go through that. I hope he's doing well in life, same with his sister. Still, I wish people would be more pro-active about helping people being bullied and you shouldn't blame yourself because you had no idea that was happening. Much love from a fan.
As someone who was in that kids position, I promise you that he remembers you positively
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Honestly as someone who didn't have a lot of IRL interactions as a kid, even I remember the face of every kid I met when I was young. They were all nice, and awesome. Heck, I'd STILL have the keychain this one girl gave me if I hadn't stupidly lost it in a park while swinging upside down on some monkey bars... but that's life.
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“We take bullying very seriously.” When talking to a school counselor. Biggest lie I was ever told.
That was some pretty creative bullying, but, those teachers should’ve been ashamed.
Yeah people have brought this up a million times but it honestly feels like schools have a zero tolerance policy against standing up to bullies
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I never knew why we called them "Popular Kids" when in reality they were just bullies. And it sucks that kids can be so vicious to each other. I always tried to help other classmates who were getting bullied because it should be the bare minimum to at least show others respect. On the bright side, I recently started working as a summer camp counselor and the kids there were surprisingly kind to each other. It really gives me hope for Gen Alpha.
Just wait till they get older...
As a kid I was never bullied severely tbh, I was just called names and isolated, like a LOT. Most kids have their first close friends at 5, but I didn’t until I was around 14.
Weird… when I was in high school the popular kids were just the people who did sports or had really good grades, and only like one or two of them were ever actually mean
@@RushWheeler fr ppl used to be so much nicer after 3rd grade everything went down hill for me
@@dyingsanity. 16 for me, that was mainly because the outcasts got too afraid of being alone so they decided to squad up and later recruit me
"If you bully the weak, you are the weak." -Me, 2 minutes ago
I love coming up with "Deep quotes" that are genuine dogshit because if it doesn't come from a famous person its just "oh haha you're so edgy" but sometimes the quotes SLAP
"if u bully the weak you are trash to me"
“If one shall bully the weak, thee are none but poo poo head.”
As a parent this is legitimately one of my biggest fears.
If they trust you, your children will confide this sort of stuff in you. And that's the point where you don't say "oh they're just jealous" or explain it away. You go and start beef with the little cunts' parents, if necessary.
Best of luck your children won't experience this sort of thing in the first place!
Just raise your kid to be agressive and disregard authority. This woudnt have happened if this kid had just left school and came back later lol
@@kathrineici9811 private schools can get pretty bad too
@@kathrineici9811 They are not very different. Both can go horribly wrong.
Glad I wasn’t afraid of a fight as a kid if they think you’re a psycho you’re fine.
I accidentally hurt a kid badly once he was a asshole but getting him hospitalized wasn’t exactly what I wanted but I don’t regret it.
I pushed him and he ended up getting a cut across his cheek that hat to be stitched.
No one bothered me after this and no I didn’t get into trouble or anything I just said sorry or something I don’t remember
Holy shit thats insane. Shame on the teachers for not doing more and extra shame on the kids who did that/ didn't help. But yeah, what the rest of the comments said; that wasn't your fault. You were a kid and still did the most grown up/responsible thing you could at the time. Hope both you and him are doing ok
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you can and can't blame the kinds for being how they are, sometimes its what they experienced through their life that made them how they are and sometimes it being "gotta look tough and be worthy" and sometimes they dont get it, or both. If i were to blame someone i would blame the teachers for not taking care of the situation.
Nothing makes me angrier then hearing adults not stopping things like this. They're ADULTS. This is their job. To protect and teach kids right from wrong, and far too many people lack enough of a spine to do so. I was a bullied kid too and aside from my parents, every other adult has failed me like they did that poor kid. I've been bullied and treating like nothing, so i will never treat someone like that. Anyone reading this? I may not know you, but i can tell you right now...I would stand right in front of you and tell anyone who tries to treat you that way to frick off and i would defend you, cause clearly not enough people are doing it. Just telling someone to stop or defending someone can prevent so much unneeded pain people. Stop letting this happen.
agreed, and the same for you
This is my entire reason to become a teacher, because every other teacher failed to help me. The only reason why I had a good “high school” experience was that in my country going to high school is something you have to pass a test and because of that I met so many great new classmates
@@kavo1460 Please become a teacher then, because we need more people like you who wouldn't let this happen.
Kids who get bullied are by default set up for failure. The system has failed every single time. At this point, we can’t rely on anyone but ourselves. The teachers will never help, the school will never help, the authorities will never help. We’ve been played, we’ve been pawned, we’ve been let down and no one will help us. I’ve given up on trying to prevent any bullying that continues to happen to me (although it’s on a much smaller scale nowadays) because reporting bullies doesn’t work. It never works. It hasn’t helped in the past, and it won’t help now. I don’t care anymore. I’ll offer support to anyone being bullied, but trying to prevent it is impossible.
And when you actually defend yourself you get reprimanded
Bullies have no excuse to exist. It's thanks to them that I suffer with mutism which is incredibly hard to break out of. Bullying is traumatising, not just "kids being kids".
I was a bully. I was bullied. I have met a lot of bullies.
I don't want to say that you should forgive them, not at all, i don't forgive that one kid who traumatized me for life. They must have been absolutely horrible to you.
The point i want to make is that even though you decide to forgive them or not, they WERE kids, they didn't knew morals and they probably were replicating things that they saw/suffered. I don't want to make an excuse, but i do want to say that a kid can't be the devil, there's still little, and it's too extreme to wish for their death.
I wish you well, and i'm sorry for the things you had to pass.
I mean wishing death or non existence upon a child is pretty far, it’s generally the fault of the guardians who didn’t teach them right from wrong, exposed them to such violence, or even were violent with them themselves. It’s also the fault of teachers for ignoring of discarding such things, instead of wishing death I’d just wish better guardians and teachers within the child’s environment, I am extremely sorry about what you’ve gone through though, and I wish you all the best
What is mutism?
@@sothisishowusernameswork.2043basically thhe person doesn’t speak
I got bullied for the types of reactions I gave whenever we got hurt. I ended up developing a kind of selective mutism where I couldn't speak or even cry out when I was in pain. It lasted for years after I graduated but I'm alright now
Man this was emotional to listen to... Hearing you tried your best to befriend him and be by his side made my heart melt ❤. I hope people take note from this to try and help others in need!. Growing up I've always gave people benefit of the doubt and try to befriend them if they need company and someone to talk to. hearing shgurr's story here reminds me that there's hope for humanity 😁.
we need more like this. I've met a few people that do the same but not nearly enough ahh
@@shgurr2 worrd! :0
After being (brutally) bullied myself I’ve tried to be the same example for others after all if you help someone you help everyone
this just hurts
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Wow, bullies in the US are actually deranged at times. Pulling a little kid's hair out with duct tape sounds like a scene straight out of a psycho thriller to a European like me, I hope that kid is doing well in life.
its not just the us its because of the way schools are ran all together
I’ve heard similar things in the UK
I can confirm similar in New Zealand, as well.
We just have shit stolen over here like mugged on campus
For real I always thought the straight up homicidal bullies in Stephen King shit were unrealistic but then I her shit like this and I think damn maybe I just got the tame ones
I really hope the kid is fine now, it must've been horrible to experience all of that.
I also want to say that i admire you trying to stand up for him, i really wish more people did that
Well I'm sure the kid got some psychological damage from all of that
And in many cases people who have been in the receiving end of severe bullying kinda fell out of society/marginalize
usually
Bro she stood back like everyone else in the circle and claims a moral high ground
@@breklaberif7553 She wasn't even in the circle, she didn't even know what was happening in the circle until after, when they get called inside. out of all videos, idk why you're mad at this one
@@breklaberif7553 she never claimed moral high ground
@@breklaberif7553 she didn’t do either of those things. For one, she was off, away from the group, and two, she never claimed moral high ground, she even said she felt guilty for not doing more. Did you even watch the video??
It sucks to see just how common bullying is. I was bullied pretty bad, mostly emotional and verbal. But it was constant, and got to the point i had to switch schools for the sake of my mental health. Adults need to stop looking as bullying as "kids being kids" . It doesnt matter if thry are kids, they are harming someone in their most cruicial developmental state. It needs to be taken much more seriously.
facts. I got bullied for two years in 4th and 5th grade and it has affected my self image and how insecure I am for the rest of my life
See the thing about that is that some adults think that way, and other adults only think that way because they don't know the full extent of what's going on to realize it ISN'T just kids being kids. Because from the outside, it blends in really well with kids just being kids. Especially boys who talk shit to each other and hound each other constantly for fun and AREN'T bullying.
And a lot of teachers DO at least attempt to intervene, but from a student's standpoint, especially if you're the one who got bullied, it can be easy to view EVERYONE as being either against you or turning the other cheek. You have to remember that a lot of kids getting bullied also aren't in an average clear state of mind either. Even after the fact, one's memory of what went down could be skewed.
Of course there are situations where teachers didn't do shit, but if we're commenting on the norm, then I think it's a big more mixed than people are claiming.
@@Axxidous i was bullied. Teachers attempt at dping something eas holdjng a meeting with ALL of the students about not to bully. It did nothing. Instead of confronting the bullies, giving them relrocussions for their actions, they did nothing. I had a dharpened pencil japped into my shoulder by one of my bullies IN FRONT OF THE TEACHER. I got sent to the nurses, he got sent to the principles, but he was back in the class when i got back. They dont give our repercussion for actions, all they do is talk.
@@crystalfox8520 And that’s where the last segment of my comment comes in. I’m not saying they always do something or do the right thing. I’m just saying it’s a pretty mixed bag how teachers and schools react. I had different types of bullying experiences in different schooled where the bullying was worse in some places than others and the responses were overall different. Coincidentally, I also had someone stab me in the arm with a pencil once.
Adults who think it’s just “kids being kids” need to burn in the darkest pits of hell
That’s fucking traumatic. I kind of had similar experiences like Andy, feeling alone and everyone was against me. And teachers weren’t really on my side, that’s a sucky feeling. Great that you got this story off your chest.
Cry about it
@@breklaberif7553 you sound SO so cool right now! Hilarious! You really showed them! Hope you love that attention you ordered
Tbh I was physically abused by teachers so much I don't trust them around kids.
@@breklaberif7553 Bro talking the most sh when he has a MY LITTLE PONY pfp... The other 11 year olds in your class would pick on you to the end of you days
@@breklaberif7553 Man really thinks he’s doing something lmao
For some reason this reminded me of a story from when I went to middle school. My middle school had its own set of unpleasant kids but no traditional, tease-everyone-type bullies. If someone was picking on another, it was more for personal reasons than them being an outright bully (which still wasn't right but it's important that I set them apart). Such was the case with someone I knew who I will call Jack. Jack had made an impression on me because he had obvious Irish roots, unlike all the other Latino/Latina/White/Asian kids at our school. His hair was bright orange and his name was obviously Irish (concealing for privacy) and though he was born in the US without an Irish accent, he took his heritage with pride. I had some classes with him including fencing class, his favorite- in said class we learned about medieval stuff, fenced, and even made large wooden shields; it was fun af. He was also a good friend of my best friend’s younger brother, aka the people who lived next to me one house over, so I also knew him better through them. Sometimes I would notice people calling him names in one of our shared classes but he would shrug it off and laugh along so I thought nothing of it. Even at the end of the year his picture had a mistake on it, with a big black picture of a clip art pencil covering the top right corner of his picture, which to this day I cannot decide if it was truly a mistake or if it was a jab at him from the students running the club that edits our yearbooks. The entire school always had this big trip for those graduating 8th grade called the “Washington Trip” where we would fly to other states and look at major landmarks in the United States (this is where the school was at) and we had both signed up for it. I remember clearly on one of the days when we were assigned partners at a history museum in Washington DC to walk and look around at the exhibits. I was paired with Jack, and we walked around completely silently. I had my own set of mental health issues that made me appear mute/extremely shy throughout middle school so I was too nervous to start a conversation or even look him or really anyone in the eyes so we said nothing to each other. There's a reason why this moment stands out to me, which really came forward when I was at my high school orientation. I saw his group of friends in the lines to get their school IDs and asked where he was, only to find out that he had hung himself in the summer. It was then that I thought about the glaring red flags of him being bullied and my failure to talk to him on the Washington trip. For years I blamed myself for not talking to him on that trip and at least trying to be friends. He was such a sweet and seemingly confident kid and the thought that bullies in the shadows drove him to suicide pains me more than anything. I am 20 now- since then I have come to terms with my own mental health issues and realized that I was in no position at the time to try and help anyone (I was also suicidal for reasons other than bullying) but knowing that he could have found a wonderful life with the people who cared for him is excruciatingly sad. I write this in your honor, Jack, for you were gone way too soon. May you find peace, friend.
Christ...
That just went dark _real_ fast
Oh my god- I'm so sorry for him and you.
Bullies need to see that THIS is what can happen when they go too far.
Literal suicide.
Internet bullies also need to stop because the same effects can happen, and they may go even further and doxx them or some sort so the victim has to move house.
The people who doxx people btw.
Just stop, you aren't helping the situation you are ruining their life,
Some people in the world are absolute human garbage and always will be.
i lost faith in this world and a couple tears too…
I absolutely despise bullies, just people projecting their insecurities and loneliness onto others by harming them and thinking somehow that would make them feel better about themselves is stupid. I hope that when people see this they learn not only how important it is to help others, but how you can cause so much damage to a person’s life just by insulting them, and I hope that changes. Thank u for giving us good times with your vids :]
they are basically trolls, but not funny
@@Blueskies2513 exactly trolls are funny but it depends if your taking the trolling to far example spamming exploiting etc for example a yt named Ibella always breaks into others home in brookhaven when trolling in my opinion thats quite funny and it is not taking it to far!
Yeah, same.
@@Grandma_Senpaire That too
Raise your fists and give them the one two. You want them to stop? You hit them where it hurts even if you get in trouble for it. No one will stand up for you, only you can.
"People with no morals often considered themselves more free, but mostly they lacked the ability to feel or to love."
- Charles Bukowski
This was really heartbreaking to listen to. I really do hope you don’t blame yourself for not preventing that situation anymore. There was no way you could have known that was going to happen to him and even though you didn’t you made the effort to reach out to him out of your own wishes to help him. As someone who was bullied but never had someone be strong and reach out to me like you did for him makes me believe that he was grateful that you spoke to him even if he was embarrassed in the moment. You truly are a great person. Out of curiosity have you ever tried finding him or his parents through Facebook?
If I was in the situation. Me being me, I would want to help. But would freeze up, if I knew adults and other kids weren’t helping. And the kids were in on it. Though, also me being me. The moment I would see them put duct tape i would. No doubt like charge at them and push them. And yell “WHAT THE FUCK DID HE DO!?!” If this at my school. I would get put on the wall, and the kid would end up losing his hair anyway cause they wouldnt believe me. Cause… I…. Was Just A Kid. I didn’t know any better.
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I agree with this.
@@cookiecrumbs9515 didnt read it
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"We all live on this floating rock in space, all right? We all trying to have a good time, so lets make a good time." This quote is everything 🙏🏼
I understand the idea of blaming yourself in hindsight of a situation you could’ve prevented or stopped. It’s a genuine pushback of regret and devastation that lasts a really long time and no matter how much you logically believe it’s not your fault, you can’t believe it out of genuine dismay.
With that being said, and not trying to push anything, but no matter what, you were still a kid. Kids have no idea of the bigger picture in what they do, just like those bullies who wouldn’t know about the consequences of bullying and how it could permanently traumatize someone. Even if you didn’t help out that kid in that moment, I’m positive he’d still remember the moments where you were nice before and wanted to be with him so he can have a friend to talk to. Though you weren’t able to stay no matter what, you were still more mature and caring than any other kid back then or now, and that should say a lot about who you are as a person.
Holding grudges over the bullies doesnt help anything either. like you said, they were dumb kids
@@shgurr2 They were more violent than they should’ve at elementary age, and I’ve seen how the 00’s kids were bullied in my experience lol.
But I’m positive those bullies may have grown and understood how horrible they acted because being a human is about making those mistakes to learn from them. We all grow at some point or another and no matter the blame people may have on situations, we can’t help but take what we can to process everything that happened and what to do, whether it’s in ourselves, from how someone may have felt, or from the situation in general.
Even if bullys change, the trauma is still there for the victim. No matter how much they grow as a person, they dont deserve forgiveness for that (imo)
@@Black_Knight_-BK- Whether forgiveness is given to the bully or bullies should be up to the victim(s). The bullies can seek closure, but I don't think that it's up to us to give forgiveness. We can offer empathy to both sides (although moreso to the victims) and support for the victims, but I'm not sure we can say that the bullies can't be forgiven unless the victims feel that way.
@@Black_Knight_-BK- and @Try Hard McGee. I have read an article about an ex-bully. He went out of his way to find his past victims and try to make amends, with mostly bittersweet results. But his most bullied victim, now a married man and living comfortably, refused to contact him.
And he couldn't blame him, neither do I. Even when you know someone has changed and is trying to make the best with what they can, it's hard to give forgiveness for a past neither they nor you can change anymore.
It’s actually impressive that those children do cruelty and that is disgusting. A school is supposed to be an environment where a child is supposed to feel safe and yet disappointment is emotionally immeasurable, I’m glad Shgurr that you did made an effort to help the child, you were very brave and upsettingly more competent then the school itself trying to help this kid.
But one question that may never be solved to me is that I guess a small portion of humans seem to be cruel by nature. You and many others have the strength to deny cruelty in others, to show kindness despite facing it cruelty yourselves. I am proud.
I hope you’re doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️. Always know that people care, one of them, me! Sending even more support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
When you said that they ripped his hair out... I was in shock. I just like, looked at the wall for a good minute. Couldn't really take it in. This should never have happened. I'm mad at the adults for not doing anything about it. The kids too. This should never have happened. You are such an angel for standing up for this guy. I hope that he's doing well now
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Same here I liked i didn't expect to hear that I just froze and then just started to cry. like holy shit
that was same reaction i squirmed outta disgust cuz wtf is wrong with people??
They're not adults. They're self-entitled walking corpses
I was relieved. I mean that's really bad too but for a few moments I thought he was stabbed. So...
Standing up for guys is very difficult as a girl. I remember when I was a senior one of they guys I hanged out with was being bullied pretty badly. He had people steal his bag one day with his laptop inside and threw it off a three story balcony. He was a really genuine nice guy with some odd quirks and sadly very skinny despite being a good athlete. Also didn't help he was poor. I stood up for him a few times but ended up pulling him aside and saying "do you want me to help you? I can stand up for you and I'll do anything that is needed even if that means fighting these Kids but I understand having a girl help fight your battles can make it worse. If you want me to stay out of it I will just let me know" it was hard because I didn't want to step aside but I didn't want to crush him either. He asked me to stay out of it but the fact I gave him the option seemed to bolster his spirits. He was more confident in general and was always relaxed around me and our group. I hated standing by but I was more then happy to support him in any way I could and provided a safe place to hangout during lunch.
What grade was that
@@spicymeatballs2thespicening grade 11, second last year of highschool of that helps
Kids are brutal, those bullies went way to far with that “prank” and them thinking he’s below them is so wrong I wish him well❤️
Kids are cruel, Jack, get in touch with your inner child - Sundowner
I don't usually talk about it, but when 5:02 hit and she said, "you just hear someone scream." I cried, ngl.
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I had a lot of mean people attack me over the years, but one of the worst was a kid I'm going to call Kent (not his real name). I met this kid in my school when he switched over after being expelled from his last. At first, Kent seemed nice, and I enjoyed talking to him, so we became 'friends.' But over time I saw more and more of who this person was. I saw how insane he really was. He would occasionally bring up things involving murder and killing. He was almost obsessed with the idea of killing the people he hated. One day, I was like, I'm leaving. So I told him, like the small stupid child I was, that I cant be friends with him. All at once, his face blanked. He looked crazy, like all of the the friendship before was a mask. He grabbed a mop that was laying on the side of the building and started waking my back with the handle. He hit me over and over and over and I screamed. There were adults RIGHT THERE that could hear me, teachers. They didnt even stop it. So i grabbed a brick and threw it at this monster. It broke his nose, witch gave me time to run away. I ran to a teacher asking them to stop this kid, but they told me ill be fine and that "boys do this stuff all the time." I ran away from the school, fearing my life would be taken and asked a person outside the school if I could borrow their phone. (Keep in mind I was bleeding badly, my back was entirely blood). They agreed and my mom picked me up and took me home. I never went back to that school and I never saw that kid agein.
Do not let somebody tell you, "its just a boy thing"
it isnt.
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're doing better now! ❤️
@@gabriellagehman3220 oh I am. Thanks for the consideration. I hope you have a great day.
@@440hurtz4 You too!
I had the exact experience with the circling around the victim, It was horrific to hear the guy cry and scream while I just sat in the classroom doing nothing. I was acquainted to him at that time, and, he was the calmest person I've ever talked to. I regret just sitting there now, and I hope they're alright. Thanks for unlocking that memory.
That’s the bystander effect in action. Don’t worry, it happens to everyone
@@guyferrari8124 yh it's horrible honestly as no one wants to be dragged into it aswell I gotta congratulate anyone that does stand up for someone
it's not your fault tbh... it's not our job to help the other kids, it's the fucking adults who have to MOVE. It's really sad how kids have tho help other kids just because the ones with power don't even dare to move their asses....
i've been through that so many times, people are so... absent. they don't help you, just stand there and gawk at you while you're crying. it's as if it's entertainment to them. it's so disgusting.
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It's uncanny how sadistic people can be. Therapy should be more accessible, not only to those wo are getting bullied but to the bullies. Something must be going on if you have that little respect to your fellow humans.
I didn't consider my school bullying experience very "fortunate" until I started hearing stories from so many other people who had it so much worse. Like, the worst I had was getting teased for being overweight, I got punched in the stomach once and had an asthma attack, and I vaguely remember early elementary school I got chased a lot around the playground by older kids. And, in most of those situations, I realized years later why they did that stuff, like all the kids who bullied me were from really rough households, and probably were either neglected or abused themselves. But I've had the hardest time finding a point of view for anyone outside my own bullies for what could cause them to do that, and I always have this heavy gut kinda feeling about, "Well, there must be some reason behind bullies being bullies". But that kinda stuff, mobbing up on other kids and consistently harassing them, I don't think I'll ever find enough reason to justify it. It's beyond exception.
I hope wherever they are, the kid you felt for is doing awesome, as well as anyone else out there who dealt with or is currently dealing with intense bullying.
P.S.: The cat animation is super cute, I hope that makes it into a proper video
@@BunchaWords It often really is just a matter of abuse causing more abuse. Often, abusive parents were abused by their own parents when they were kids and/or when they were teenagers.
It doesn’t matter if the bullies came from an abusive household. You never take it out of someone else. It’s not an excuse to push other people around. Why should the innocent just take this because someone isn’t okay in a different environment. I will never forgive the things people did to me. And guess what? My family situation wasn’t any better, but did I take it out on others? No.
@@starling1226 Nobody is saying that it makes them being bullies okay and different people have different reactions to trauma. Also, I understand being angry at those who tormented you and I'm sorry that you went through whatever you went through, but it isn't good or healthy to keep hatred for those people in your heart. Forgiveness is important. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you no longer care about what happened to you. It just means that you no longer hold hatred in your heart against the ones who wronged you.
It’s true, you can’t blame the bullies if they came from abusive families. They are just treating others how they were treated. Imagine how they struggled themselves. Hurting others might have been the only way for them to keep from self-harm or suicide.
Literally watching an animated character animate a scene, while also telling a story. That's crazy talent.
Pretty sure she drew that and then separately recorded herself telling the story
Every time I hear a story like this I always think to myself “am I a good person?”. I don’t bully anyone but I always wondered if there was a situation where I can help someone would I? (also I mean like an extreme situation). I would like to think I would help but because I’ve never been in a situation like that I don’t know if I actually would And honestly that kind of scares me because I fear that one day I’ll be in that situation and I’ll choose to do nothing
I wanna help every time that happens but I can't help but feel they'll beat me up too
@《IamChaos》 i actually needed to hear this my young(er) heart was hurting thinking i was a bad person always will me. i never really needed people to tell me I was wrong and was a bad person. The moment i mess up i know it and i won’t ever let go of how embarrassing or awful it was. and as a kid who my mom says “was easy to tell she had anxiety from 7 years old” it worsened my health. I try my best to keep my cool and being rude never feels ok even on accident.
instead of asking “am I a good person”, I think it’s better to ask “am I a bad person”.
It doesn’t matter if you didn’t do every good thing you could’ve ever done, as long as you’ve never caused any harm, you’ve done great
Nobody on the internet is a good person. Someone will always hate you and think you suck no matter if they know you personally or not. You just have to be happy with who you are
It can be easy to fall into that train of thought, and it's certainly important to try and help others when you see something wrong, but at the end of the day, YOU'RE not the person committing some horrific act. Just because you didn't step in doesn't change the fact that the blood is on the bully's hands, not yours. At the end of the day, it's THEIR fault for being a horrible person.
P.S. If you're the adult in the room, like the teachers, it's a whole different story. Your job is to protect the kids, so their blood is on your hands if you don't do something. It's like if a medical professional just watched as a person bled out; you're liable at that point.
as an autistic guy, i get incredibly enraged hearing about kids getting bullied. especially kids like me who are neurodivergent or just smaller more timid people getting hurt by pathetic bullies. and it's even harder being a victim when you try to stand up for yourself and they don't take you seriously. they're the reason i still have trust issues. Andy didn't deserve any of that and hearing about how they tore out his hair makes me so unbelievably enraged and upset. what is wrong with people. thank you for being a nice person, i'm sure he really appreciates it looking back.
Wow, I cannot believe that those boys decided it would be funny to RIP HIS HAIR OUT. I really hope Andy is okay and is in a better place. I cannot believe teachers didn’t do much to defend him. I really hope the bullies one day look back, and think how messed up and mean they’ve been. Because, that is just cruel.
People really don’t think of the consequences of their actions and how it may affect people, all for their own pleasure of something to blow steam.
So if you are in a bad situation, or have people who’ve hurt you badly.. Never let it out on other people. If you do, you’re no better than the ones who hurt you.
@lambchop99 that’s an exception
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Up until the part where he was literally attacked, I'm fortunate enough to go to a relatively non violent school, the way you described that kid definitely hit close to home for me. I get bullied a lot for no reason for doing basically nothing, and I'm bullied by a LOT of different people (even sometimes as far as literally being sexually harrased I am not joking but Im not going into detail) and it hurts when I hear others going through the same (and much worse in this case) because I know how helpless it can make someone feel. I'm glad he ended up ok even after all of that stuff. That man is a trooper. Fortunately though my bullies aren't the most popular kids, and the actual popular cool kids are genuinely nice and hang out with me even though they are aware that I'm not that popular or important. I'm lucky to have a support group, and the fact that you tried to be that for him is awesome of you even if it didn't work out. Thats the sign of a good person.
Awe, that poor kid. :(
Sending hugs via the internet to ware ever he is now! Hope is is in a much better place.
Adds a whole new meaning to "be the change you wish to see" I don't want anyone to feel alone or hopeless so I think even if all you can do is get someone in a bad situation to smile even once or to feel like there's hope then there's a chance. I've learned from my own experience most people just need to hear "I've got your back" or at least have one person they can go to for help.. since the world loves turning a blind eye to the people who are in need.
I know this may be discarded in the comments but I just wanted to say:
Shannon,
the fact you wanted to help and befriend him really warmed my heart. That was really sweet of you and I’m glad you tried to make his life a little bit better. This is what I try to be like. You shouldn’t feel guilty for what happened to Andy, but I can relate to that feeling a lot. You wanted to help and you’re really thoughtful for asking to be his friend. That makes me proud. I share your feelings in hoping that he is doing well now. We need more people like you. Thank you for sharing this story.
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Honestly, up until the exact incident I thought you could’ve been talking about me. As one of the kids on the swings, I just want to let you know that even though you couldn’t stop the bullying, that small gesture of kindness, sitting on the swing and asking the black sheep if he’s ok… that meant the world to him.
Mine was different. The school bully cut sharp plastic across the back of my neck and put me in the hospital for several days.
But I had an experience like you gave him right before it- one of the other bullies tore up a drawing of mine and she gave me a ‘replacement’ she drew- and that feeling, of knowing at least one other kid cared about giving me kindness despite all the bullies that hated me… that was enough, that pushed me to come back despite the fear of getting attacked again. That helped me get through it all.
So from him to you, thank you for stopping by that swingset. Even if you couldn’t save him, you still did far and away more than anyone else would, and we really appreciate that.
Damn... I hope he's doing well. And hey, I hope you feel better now that you got this story of your chest. Now that you've had this negative experience, you can use it to prevent somethings like this from happening again.
Being bullied younger is hell. I used to get put in a tight headlock by one kid and brutally punched in the ribs by another as I was held down on a table back in 7th grade science class. When I looked over to the teacher and used the last piece of energy I had to reach my hand out, the teacher made eye contact with me and went on to teach the rest of the class as the sounds of my guts getting beaten continued to fill the classroom.
All the kids he taught instead of me became successful, rich university kids. I’m still struggling to finish college. Felt like I was dragged to hell for no reason while they got heaven.
After I lost all faith in receiving help and humanity at large, I began to fight back in order to survive as my bruises and internal pains were becoming mortally problematic. Oddly enough, whenever I got bullied nothing happened to them, but as soon as I fought back I got immediate detentions. Still worth it since eventually I got a reputation of being the crazy guy who bit someone in the neck (long story) and was finally left alone.
Man that sucks. If you read this and if it helps, there wasn’t anything you could have done in that situation. If you stayed with him on the swingset, they probably would have bullied you too and teased you for “flirting” with him, and considering your past with bullying, you might have ended up like him. Could you have told the teachers or an adult? Sure, but by the sound of it other kids already did, and the situation wouldn’t have really changed.
I appreciate you sharing this, i’m sure there are plenty of bully victims who watch your videos, and you’re a big inspiration to a lot of them. Keep being awesome and making this world a little bit brighter
I hope that kid is in a better place physically and mentally. I was abused by my “mom” and consequently became a bully b/c I didn’t know how to cope with the situation. Becoming like my mom scarred me just as much as the extreme abuse itself. Since 11 yrs old, I have vowed to protect those who can’t protect themselves.
I agree with the bullies being garbage statement I had a severe bullying problem myself when I was little it would go from stabbings, doors slamming on my hands ,actually wedgies (one was actually on the flag pole but not very high) I was recorded and put on UA-cam when my lunch was spat on and thrown in the trash to blackmail me I was given notes for me to kms and my family I was called the Antichrist to the next hitler and hundreds of different names and all of this abuse and harassment was because of me being autistic ,teachers started stepping in after the 4th stabbing with a pencil but that was after 5 years of bullying, low key the way the school systems bullying prevention needs a phenix treatment and needs to be COMPLETELY REDONE I only hope that one day this crap stops
relatable, I didn't know I was autistic till this year xD People bully what they dont understand
@@shgurr2 heer heer I’m just glad There’s people out there who do understand tbh
I’m also Autistic and know what it’s like to have others treat u like that
The system really does need a change. Because this kind of stuff is just... it's honestly unfair. Actually, if I remember correctly, I once remember a teacher, an actual teacher, who just snapped and made a video and posted it on either Twitter or Facebook lashing out at a student who was Autistic themself (I believe it was a girl) and the teacher got fired for posting that video. Not my school, though I wouldn't place them above having teachers like that, it must've been either one of the schools in my district, either Charter or some other grade, or it was some school in Michigan, Tennessee, Texas or California.
That is not bullying that is borderline assault
As someone who was bullied in the same manner as “Andy” this is what I figured out at around the age of 11-12. They bullied us horrifically because we are silent and weak and no one not even the adults would protect us. It made us easy targets for a massive amount of people. It sucks it really does but that’s what happened. When I stopped crying and reacting to their taunts and threats- and I started beating up people in a bloody manner if they touched me and grabbed my things it all stopped. The teachers tried to reprimand ME for defending myself constantly I started snapping at the teachers and principle for failing to protect me when I needed them for years. They settled on me going to anger management class for 2yrs and skipping classes anytime I wanted to go there. The popular kids are bullies, you are a bystander honestly speaking and you are no help to us but being a background character in our memory. I’m glad you’re telling his story and raising awareness how wrong doing that to a person is. That is great! Thank you. No you did not save Andy. But you did not letting Andy’s memory die in silence at least. Thank you again.
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I've never witnessed any bullying, but hearing your story I think it might be that my school's were more proactive at preventing it (at least the adults took action as soon as soon as I said I was wronged)
I'd like to think it's because France is better than the US, but there are sadly schools here that don't move a finger either and I can't understand why.
I hope that kid was able to find a place he belong ❤️
Nowadays, people bully less than they isolate. Isolation is when people are ostracized and they feel left out. I myself was ostracized for most of my life, ever since preschool until high school.
bullying is a worldwide concept i'm afraid :( kids deserve better.
@@dyingsanity. God same! Social isolation is absolute torture.
@@musicalhearts2879 Yet, it is overlooked, and no one seems to talk about it.
The more overbearing an school is and the more hours the kids are stuck in it the more prevalent bulling is. Ive always wondered why i had never withnessed any bullying, and i realized it was because my school was super relaxed, and ypu werent forced to actually show up that often. You could just leave. Was it similar like that to you?
The fact teachers, parents and other students don't take a stronger stance and efforts to stop bullies, always blows my mind.
I understand how you couldn’t trust them but also wanted what was better for him. Situations like that can be brutal depending how the victim reacts. There’s no telling if he’s a better person now but after you witness someone commit horrid acts, it can be difficult to see them differently. I really enjoyed hearing your story and understand the reasoning. Keep it up shgurr!
This story hits close to home. I never saw bullying go as far as what you have described but I have witnessed awful things done to others and have had awful things done to me. It makes it worse when the adults don't even try to do anything or aren't trained to do anything when such harsh bullying is taking place. I'm so glad that my mom decided to homeschool my brother and I when she did so we wouldn't have to deal with that sort of thing anymore. Man... this just hits so different. Makes me think of middle school. Thanks for sharing this story and talking about bullying. Idk why but I feel like I needed to hear it today ❤️
Honestly, your and amazing person for helping him. When I was in... third grade I think, I got bullied a lot because of my autism. Luckily there was a girl in my class who was like you and tried her best to be there for me. I've been bullies my whole life starting in kindergarten, and I'm so lucky that my friends made sure I was never alone.
I don’t know if y’all agree with me, but being isolated is just as bad. You don’t have anyone for you, and if something traumatic happens to you, nobody will care. I’m speaking from experience. When I was 12, I wanted to commit suicide, but nobody gave a crap.
I also have autism but I don't really think that was why I was picked on. I was picked on because I was obnoxious (still am tbh but I know how to hide it better lol)
@@dyingsanity. I didn't have any friends but I had good parents so I was fine. Though I didn't tell them I wanted to kill myself for a long time cause I was afraid that it would make them feel like bad parents.
@@SuperIsaiah I told my parents I wanted to kill myself, and they said "if you kill yourself no one will feel sorry for you, you're a nobody to the world," i think that's what made me decide not to do it.
This story is one of the reasons I signed up to be a substitute teacher. I wanted to prevent the possibility of both student and staff bullying of children. I work in smaller schools because in larger classrooms (30+ kids) it is harder to stop the bullying. There should be laws to prevent huge classroom sizes so teachers can more readily protect students from this. There are laws already, but the larger the class size, the harder it is to protect students. We need more voices like yours. Good luck.
The thing about adults who don't intervene in bullying situations is, they're often bullies themselves. They're the type of person obsessed with the bootstraps narrative the " if anyone is picking on someone it's because the person must be doing something wrong, they must be "asking for it" and the solution is to blame the victim until they change.
Adult bullying often takes on a different context. It comes out in the workplace as sexual harassment, on the street as casual racism and religious persecution. Some of the teachers standing off to the side watching this kind of thing think "Good, that kid needs to learn to blend in better, to get a thicker skin, survival of the fittest." Then they go home and see some injustice in the news and and think "Good, that person made a big deal out of nothing, they're a special snowflake that deserved it."
Huh...I definitely don't agree with that. If you had said "some", then maybe. But "often"? No. Nah. Even as someone who got bullied a lot growing up, I would actually relegate a lot of the teachers to being too afraid to handle the situation because they've never actually been in a situation where they should handle bulling from an authoritative position. They, themselves, were likely bullied as kids. So they don't know the solution. So they're either too afraid to approach it, or they literally just approach it in very simple and ineffective ways. Not to mention that intervening usually leads to harsher bullying. I've also seen a lot of situations where teachers and staff DID do something. But they don't cover every situation properly.
@@Axxidous depends entirely on the area and it's demographics. In the south I stick by my use of "often". There's a very sh1tty "you gotta be tough boy!" Schtick that's straight out of cowboy movies that permeates rural schools. I know, I went to two of them. When a child was bullied, even in two cases to the point of su1c1,de. The school teachers were upset but blame one of the cases on the kid being a "weak moraled boy" aka gay and the other on having a single mother and not enough Bible.
I stood in the schoolyard while that first boy climbed on top of a building and other students chanted "jump!" at him and the agriculture teacher stood off to the side and did NOTHING.eventusoky he came down but completed his mission at a later date.
I still think about the fact that I did nothing. Told no one about that incident but I was the only half black kid in a 95% white school in Texas. I already had a target on my head at all times and couldn't afford to turn the town on me. This was in 2003 so maybe things have changed but now as an adult I hear those same parents and teachers talking and they sound just the same.
Many rural southern schools go unsupervised and run like puritan townships complete with shunning and witch hunts by staff and parent alike. If you don't "join the flock" you don't get support and anything that happens to you was "deserved". It's God, Guns, and family in that order. To hell with anyone else.
@@Axxidous More like the administration and'or parents are from hell itself. If you look into teacher stories you'd think every other person on earth is a bully.
@@crazydragy4233 If you only look into that, yeah. Perception is reality. But perception can be altered.
@@Axxidous Well I think in the end we can all agree there are far too many bullies out there either way
As someone who was bullied in school from a visual disability I’m so happy to hear that you were one of the people who looked out for others
As a kid, I was never physically bullied (at school, at least.) I was called names yes and was ostracized from kindergarten to 9th grade, never having any close friends until I was 14, and for a long time I wished someone would just protect me tbh.
When I was 11, I became depressed, I even wanted to commit suicide, and not having anyone there for me just made it worse. I became extremely defensive of myself, and I honestly think it’s at least partly because of my childhood trauma.
Hope you're doing better now
@@soleil706 thank you.
That's about exactly what happened with me, except I kinda deserved what happened since I was a major smart*ss as a kid and I would always try to prove that I'm smart (when I really wasn't smart).
For me the 11 and the 14 are swapped. I made a friend when I was 11 (who's my only friend to this day) and I started getting suicidal at 14. Now I'm graduated, and I'm a Christian so I won't kill myself, but I'm still kind of socially ostracized. But I'm much better off mentally cause I just focus on getting stuff done and don't really have time to think about myself.
@@SuperIsaiah I'm not as socially ostracized now, but I'm still an extremely quiet and introverted kid at 15. I think transferring schools is what helped me, because I could start anew.
@@dyingsanity. Glad to hear you’re doing better now. I hope u have an amazing life from here on out
I pisses me off how schools fail at this over and over for all their big talk of zero tolerance for bullying. But the thing is it never really ends - teachers were often the "nerds" in school and they still are in a lot of ways. The bullies when they were in school are now adult bullies often raising kids that are bullies. So the teachers / administrators are just as scared of the parent bullies as the victims are of the student bullies. Not that it excuses any of it at all, but I think it's why teachers often fail to act or blame the victim. For example, my mom was a teacher. Once she grabbed a bully's arm to stop him from hitting another younger kid. Bully's mom was a Karen in the worst way and tried to sue her for touching her kid. Fortunately her history with the schools meant her threat didn't go very far. Oh and the bully? Caught a few years later molesting a kindergarten kid in a closet.
Elementary school was the hardest for me. I was never punched or attacked in bullying, it was something else. I remember getting the average snickers and comments, but it was being alone that really took it’s toll. No matter what I did, I would always be the one alone at lunch, always picked last in PE, always sitting at the swings by myself at recess. This went on for most of the 5 years, until something odd happened. A girl came up to my lone table during lunch. She was taller then everyone else, I remember people always joked about her being held back. As expected, the table she left from erupted into laughter and jokes about how she was in love. Even so, she endured them, smiled, and continued talking to me. For once, even if it was just for a little bit, I didn’t feel alone. I remember that to this day, and it still gives me hope. I believe Andy would remember as well. It’s people like you and her that remind everyone that there are always those willing to help.
as a dude who was bullied in middle school it always baffled me how the teachers seemed to do nothing besides the occasional "stop it" i just felt betrayed by teachers i genuinely liked, so i took matters into my own hands that ended in a few broken teeth and a permanent record . we need more people like you shgun be blessed
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You did the right thing on trying to reach out to him. Though he may have turned down your offer, perhaps you gave him hope that there are people who want to help. Not everyone has someone who'll stand up for them, I know that for a fact.
i hope the kid is okay and way better now , and you are really sweet trying your best to make him feel better !
Yikes!!!
I hope that kid is okay nowadays. And has healed from his traumatic experiences.
I always try to look out for people regardless of who they are. Unless they are like,,,, downright evil.
I hate how at schools, at least for me, whenever someone is in danger or hurting, they don't allow you to help.
Idk if other people have experienced that, but sooo many times I see someone hurt or upset and the staff/teachers stop me from helping. And then they don't even do anything. School system is messed up...
Allow people to step in when your too lazy to. I especially hate it when teachers favor students, and when their favorite is in trouble they rush to them in the blink of an eye. But when someone else is in trouble, they write it off as "Oh its just kids being kids!!!"
I've been on both ends, being the favorite and seeing other kids get screamed at like there's no tomorrow, while also being tormented by teachers because I'm new to the school. Teachers have a really weird way of treating students, at least in my experience...
The lil animation of a cat is adorable. I really like the atmosphere of the commentary-art videos.
Your voice is really relaxing and nice to listen to.
As a victim of bullying, this is really sad to me. Just love thy neighbor peeps
I am also a victim.. mostly from my brother, but this one kid never came back to school because he lied that I punched him when he did it to me!
And yes we all should Love thy neighbors even when they bully u
STOOPP!!! All these sort of sappy childhood memory story things keep reminding me of my old friend from elementary school who was born missing most of her left forearm.
She moved after 2nd grade and I had always wished that someday I could just be lucky as shit and run into and reconnect with her and find out what she's been up to all these years.
But I finally managed to find and reconnect with her back last September and she said:
"I do remember you! I was actually just thinking about you the other day funnily enough. I remember holding your hand in the way into school and teasing you for bringing activia in your lunch box every day lol. I feel bad about teasing you looking back on it. You were always so nice to me and a lot of other people weren't so nice at that school." and it just melted my heart😭😭😭
Oh my gosh, I feel so bad for that kid :(
Also, I want you to know that it wasn't your fault at all. As other people have said, you had no idea that was gonna happen. I hope he and his family are doing okay, and that things get better for them all
Such a good message! When more kids (but especially adults) help out just a little to defend against bullies, it can make the world a kinder, safer place to be. It takes everybody doing their part, so don't feel bad that you couldn't do enough. You did something when most did nothing. Therefore, you're a badass. 💞
Kids: *literally get bullied and tortured to the point where they get depressed, tries to kill themselves, or even shoot up schools*
Teachers: I sleep
Kids: *packs up .0001 second before bell rings*
Teachers: *screams of the damned intensity*
While I myself got bullied a little bit, one of the few moments I will forever cherish from my time in high-school was me standing up for this kid in my gym class. He was in our little misfit group and he was (as far as I know) openly gay, and the other boys were trying to give him shit about it. But I wasn't having that. My shy, timid self went off on those boys and that they shouldn't treat him like that just because he was different. And I tried to get the coach of the class to do something, but all he did was say that it was gym class and we shouldn't be talking about that stuff. That made me so mad, so for the rest of nine week term or however long I had that class, I treated that kid like a friend and I made sure no one picked on him while I was around. And I'm really really proud of myself for that. And I really hope he's out there somewhere living a good life and that he remembers that someone cared about him.
Hearing that story scared me. I know kids can be mean, but damn. I hope wherever he is now, he’s doing well. I feel bad for him, I once got bullied too when I was young.
I have failed 5 bullies, making them stay in the same grade while everyone else graduates, it's a shame how exploitable their stupidity is
I have trauma from school due to how I was treated and I wasn't even bullied. I can hardly imagine what it would be like to go through that. I hope he's recovering.
This is whats happening to me right now, im trying to transfer too a new school. Not even getting bullied yet its still awful, the system is crazy
I hope everyone is doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️. Always know that people care, one of them, me! Sending even more support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I hope you’re doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️
Shgurr, if you're reading this, just know that you and that kid Andy are not alone. I think the world would be a better place if people just treated each other with respect, even if they don't particularly like that person. People like you are amazing inside and out, and I understand the guilt and shame of feeling like you weren't there with someone, but in reality.. Andy was grateful to have someone who actually cared about what he was going through, and I'm sure he will cherish that forever. Thank you, shgurr. We need more people like you in this world❤
I almost never got bullied or saw anyone else get bullied in school, I wish more people could relate.
The duct tape thing is genuinely concerning. The sort of people who do that obviously are incredibly messed up and it disappoints me that the guilty did not see greater punishment. Actively physically injuring or mutilating someone isn't just grounds to get someone kicked from a school as to me that just sounds like abuse and is much more serious than I think I could describe.
I was a bullied kid, and I gave up trying at times, I walked out of groups. My best friend said this that I was too cool to be bullied and I was still mad when people hurt others. And you remind me of myself because I never gave up the idea that there are good people out there.
I've been in a similar situation, and I remember that the teachers were all terrified of the bullies.
I can somewhat relate. I recently lost a very good friend of mine. His and his brothers life was both taken by their father and it’s just hard to think about it all. I know that there was nothing I could have done about it but I just wish I could have at least spent more time with him.
As a person who got bullied up until 9th grade, i really feel his pain, It's really hurts to know that no one is standing up for you when you cant yourself. people will just say, "stand up for yourself," the problem is, if i stood up for myself, i would get bullied twice as hard, so it doesnt help, and we need other people and intervine and stand up for us. I hope he is doing good and living a happy life.
As soon as you said they were standing in a circle in the corner, I knew exactly what was about to go down. I’ve seen it before. But good lord, ripping someone’s hair out with tape? That’s insane.
🥺🥺🥺 Thank you so much for sharing this story. It’s important.
Hi ell you are a big inspiration to me
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This really is the most banger story animation, that you've done beyond everyone shgurr plus y'all know who else likes to share stories she come up with? that's really you shgurr most underrated animator ma'am
No
"If you bully the weak, you're garbage. I'm sorry, but you're garbage"
No, no. No need to apologize for calling the garbage what it is....
The Worst part about bullies is like 90% of the time, they don't see what their doing is wrong. I've known school bullies who used to torment me from Elementary up till early freshman high school and by sophomore year, for some reason, it's like they wanna be your friend for some reason or they mentally BLOCKED all the horrible things they did to you. It honestly impressesses me how some bullies are even aware of what their doing and they don't regret it. That mentallity disgusts me so much. So many of my bullies for some reason mellowed out by junior year and started acting like we were friends and it puzzled me, i never did become friedns with them but the fact that they think they never did anything wrong to me has to be some sort of mental illness of sorts to me.
Have you ever explained this to them? Im sure you could because if what your saying is true then they have mellowed out enough for you to tell them this and you really should. Just like you said,they don’t know what they were doing was wrong, so you hating in silence instead of bringing this problem to their attention is probably just resulting in you not having potential friends. Of course its up to you what you decide to do, however I think these “bullies” were genuinely having fun and want to be your friend and I just dint think calling them disgusting and hating them without confronting them is the right move.
Again your choice what you do with your social life, but this message is coming from somebody who few close friends in school are former enemies.
This opened up a raw nerve for me. Thank you for sharing.
over the summer I've started to watch your videos and your videos have always comforted me and it just hit me that you sound like a friend of mine. I feel pretty comforted by my friends so it was really nice since I cant talk to my friends much. Also besides the friend thing I just really like your videos.
i was also bullied a lot in elementary school, same situation with teachers not doing anything about it no matter how many times it was reported, and the students who didn't even talk to me never said anything about it, it was never to that degree though, mostly pushing, shoving and just making fun of me for literally existing in their presence, so yeah this really hit home and I hope that person is in a good place now
I was bullied frequently for years. I wish more people would've stood up for me. I had little interference. Now people call me toxic and I struggle to keep friends and I have little to no people on my side in arguments (usually I have no one). Bullying sucks. I have no sympathy for bullies.
What an awful experience :(. I've been bullied in Elementary school before and had gum thrown in my hair, but never had to deal with duct tape. You should be proud of yourself Shannon for being a light in Andy's life. When you're living in that kind of darkness and it feels like you have nothing to look forward too except the same grief, you never ever forget the kindness that you're shown. I'm sure, even to this day, he remembers you sitting next to him on his swings. You may have given him a reason to keep going. What he dealt with was awful, but please don't underestimate what you did. Nobody at that age should ever be expected to either deal with that kind of nightmare or help someone else through it -- you guys were just kids! if it's okay to ask, have you tried reaching out to him in recent times? no pressure at all, but if there's anything chance to cross paths with him again and say all the things you wish you could have said to him, or just talk about about what you both experienced, it would be totally worth it. I'm absolutely confident he hasn't forgotten what you did for him. Thank you for sharing the story
I’ve been on both sides of bullying, the friend group I had loved to bully people and they encouraged me to do the same. I’ve never gone to far but I shouldn’t have done it the first place. I did bully them for a while but it just felt wrong. I stopped bullying them and i stopped being friends with that group. I tried and did make it up the that person, we became friends. They still got bullied but I was able to help them instead of hurt them. I deeply regret every bullying at all. You’re a good person, a better person than me. I’m still helping some people who get bullied because sadly it doesn’t stop when you get older. I wish you and everyone in the comments a good day.
You did the best that you could, and that means a lot, Shannon. At the end of the day it's not our obligation to "rescue" those around us - it's just courtesy. (Though indeed I wish kindness was obligatory by law)
This reminds me of my own experiences with bullying. When I was a kid, I lived in this tiny little town out in the middle of nowhere. I struggled and still do struggle with social anxiety, so even when I was a child I could not bring myself to talk to people no matter how hard I tried. Because of that, and the fact that small town hillbilly folk don’t know about nor give a crap about mental health, meant that I got bullied. Yay... Luckily my attitude towards my classmates actually worked and I didn’t get bullied by that many of them.
But a few of them were still jerks. The main one that I’ll be talking about will just be called Morgan. Now Morgan was like the stereotypical “popular” kid. She acted stuck up/ fancy, had that slight valley girl accent, would do her best to look pretty, ect. Basically the whole 9 yards. Just picture any of the brats from mean girls and that’s her. She never called me ugly, hit me, threatened me, or anything like that. She just called me weird. Which when I was 5-11 years old I thought that it actually did kind of sting because I never knew why she called me weird. I didn’t know if it was because of my anxiety or because I’m mixed race. But the two things that she did to actually make me mad were as follows. One time I was talking to a friend of mine about how a ball came up and hit me in the face during recess. And this little jerk tells me “well too bad,” in this sassy tone. And the second thing that she said that really ticked me off: I was walking around during recess playing pretend with my friend when Morgan came up to me and called me weird. I wasn’t bothered by it but my friend was. My friend started crying on my behalf because of what Morgan called me. But here’s the kicker and the thing that told me that “popular kids” are a huge myth. When she made my friend cry it was close to summer break. Not only that but one of the teachers stepped in and asked my friend what was wrong. We both told the teacher what Morgan called me. Of course Morgan denied it but something interesting happened. When summer break was over. Everyone in town figured out that Morgan was grounded for an entire year by her mother. I know that it’s probably because I lived in a small town and if rumors spread about someone or their family, they could potentially lose their job. But it just felt so satisfying to see her get into trouble. Yeah, she still bullied me, but at least I have bragging rights to say that I’ve never been grounded for a year.
Oh and just to add salt to the wound. Morgan somehow managed to get a chrome book from the school library. But since her mom worked at the school, Morgan couldn’t really keep it a secret for long. So one time the both of them were in the same hallway and her mom saw her carrying one of the chrome books. Her mom immediately got angry and said “You’re not supposed to have one of those,” to which Morgan replied with “I don’t care mom.” So yeah. You can guess who’s punishment was most likely extended. (I’m sorry if she was being mistreated at home but it didn’t give her the right to bully anyone.)
As for the second bully I had to deal with. I’m incredibly tempted to drop his name. But I won’t. Simply because I don’t want to stoop down to the same disgusting and wretched level that he, and any other lame pieces of crap like him choose to mope around in. I’ll call him Gerald. Now Gerald was a jock, a basket ball player. I won’t get too specific but, when I moved to a city. I figured out very quickly that he was *FAR* worse than Morgan. He called me ugly, gave me death/ threats, threatened to jump me after school. A whole lot of things. I didn’t only have his rude comments messing up my mental health, but with in the same year of him bullying me, I was also *inappropriately* harassed on a school bus by some little kid who most definitely had abusive parents. (Don’t worry too much, my mom managed to get the police involved with the school bus situation and it was handled. But the police said that aside from banning the kid from the school bus’s the case was classified... which is what makes me think that the parents of the little kid were abusive).To say that my depression and anxiety was god awful during that year would be a HUGE understatement. I was silently suffering internally. It didn’t help that Gerald had given me death threats on my 13th birthday. Because of that. I literally hated being reminded that I was born. My birthday felt like some sick backhanded reminder that I was garbage. And it never stopped feeling that way up until it was my 18th birthday. Geralds damaging words genuinely made me hate the fact that I was born for 5 years.
There isn’t really any disciplinary action towards Gerald because he was a jock. And schools deflect negative criticism aimed at their sports teams. But here’s some semi-high notes: at some point I got fed up and kind of stood up for myself, albeit by flipping him off anytime he said anything remotely mean to me. The only times people would talk positively about him was for his basketball skills, if you brought up everything about him everyone would call him a POS. And best of all. When me and the rest of my fellow classmates started to attend high school, all of his athlete friends joined the football team to get scholarships. But the thing is, according to one of his teammates, he was horrible at football and was mainly proficient in basketball.
Am I petty? Definitely. But do I think that it’s only right, that karma comes to smack you in the face when you’re being a huge careless jerk? Absolutely, besides, people like those two needed to learn their lesson one way or the other.
“THERE'S NO NEED TO RUSH. IF SOMETHING IS MEANT TO BE IT WILL HAPPEN, WITH THE RIGHT PERSON, IN THE RIGHT TIME, FOR THE
RIGHT REASON.” -A Person Of Wisdom.
A quote by a character named the Greenman that I often go back to: “No matter what choice you make, it doesn't define you. Not forever. People can make bad choices and change their minds and hearts and do good things later; just as people can make good choices and then turn around and walk a bad path. No choice we make lasts our whole life. If there's ever a choice you've made that you no longer agree with, you can make another choice.”
― Jonathan Maberry, Dust & Decay
Soulful video, thanks for being strong enough to try to defend the weak, I've stood up for others against bullies and got targeted myself after, but dont regret it one bit. Keep on being awesome!
I relate to girls pressuring me into dating other "weird" kids. I was a kid who had panick attacks all the time, so everyone hated me because they didn't like how much I cried. Some kids were nice to me. Whenever another kid was nice to me Id hang out with them, and usually ya know its the outcast kids. But the sad part is that everyone would end up making rumors. Every single guy I spoke with, whether it was because he had a lisp, or he had a stutter, I would be paired with them and rumors would start that we like eachother and it was stupid. I thought I escaped it once I got out of elementary, and middle school, but it followed me in highschool with this handicapped guy who not only couldn't walk but had a lot of mental issues. People totally rumored about us so much so people thought we were actually dating. I just liked making friends with people I know others kinda shove off as "special" caude they do that to me but others are like "oh so cute the special kids dating ♡" and it feels so fucking gross. Whats worse was the guy actually had a crush on me and I didn't so this pressure then just turned into people encouraging a guy to creepily stalk me, and send strange letters and poems and gifts. I didn't want any of it. But no matter how I made it clear, it never got through to his head. I don't blame him, we both were dumb high school kids with equally hindering, although different, social problems. So, basically high school was the worst of it, because I was so traumatized by the rumors that tbh I feel like not even dating anyone anymore cause I'm too scared to have others talk about me and people I like, like that.
But I am a romantic type so.. yeah. Its like a curse I guess.
I’ve been bullied too, and no one stood up to me. But I’m ashamed to say when the bullies started bullying the new girl, I almost felt.. relief, that I was no longer the target. I hated myself for a long time for feeling that way, and I did my best to defend her. Never bully people, people. Please help people you see are suffering
This is emotional to hear. Almost cried. This isn't your fault. That was heartbreaking. Praying for Andy being ok and have a happy and healthy life. Thank you for sharing.🙏🏿💙
That is torture.
I don't understand why they would do this, I am appalled no one stepped into this situation, and words like "Torment" and "bullying" does not and *cannot* convey the brutality of this particular event. I also really hope he was able to recover from this, and I just feel terrible for him.
It haunted me for so long cuz of how the parents and teachers just excused it as kids being kids... like no this is wrong how come none of you care???
I totally know how you feel ❤️ don’t blame yourself Shannon, I hope that he got the help he needed and that he’s in a better place than back then
This video really resonates with me. Especially, the fact of teachers and other students not helping anyone. I have been bullied and I hate to say I feel like a bully as… when I finally got stopped being bullied, it’s cause the boys were bullying another kid. And I did nothing to stop it. The kid was foreign and wore hearing aids and the boys would push him around, broke his hearing aids a few times. Eventually, it got bad enough that we were told he was moving back to his home country. And when I was younger I felt bad about not doing anything about it. I told a teacher once, but they did nothing except name drop me as the kid who told the teacher what they were doing, leading to me getting beat up. So, for the year of school he was with us, I just watched as this kid got bullied. Looking back, I wish I was strong enough to stick up for that kid, cause of anyone had done that for me, it would of meant the world to me. Hope your okay wherever you are D.
That got incredibly ranty and I’m sure nobody cares. Interesting video Shugrr and I hope you have a nice day whenever you read this
Edit : I just wanna add, in the present I try my best to stop bullies and protect people who are being given a hard time. My closest friend is someone I stuck with who was being bullied for his weight and too insecure to say anything about it. Ofc, I know it sounds like I’m trying to compensate. But I’m friends with him not out of guilt, but because he’s honestly cool and a nerd like me and I’d do anything for him. Anyone who takes the time to read this : have a good day and do your best to be kind to the people around you.
It is really nice that the story is told At least just to make a bit of justice for that kids story. I don't know why but it is easier to try to defend others than yourself when you are been bullied
Bullies aren’t just garbage to you, they are garbage period. I wholeheartedly stand by your side, all deserve love and good time, bullies just don’t respect that and frankly no one should tolerate bullies.
I was bullied a LOT as a kid because I was super quiet, so hearing this hit home.
Basically, I have (undiagnosed) autism/ADHD so I didn't have many friends back in primary, not to mention it was a SUPER christian school and I realised I was trans in year 4, never told anyone but when I mentioned it to my closest friend she told almost everyone I was some kind of 'freak of nature' and I was 'wrong'. I then came out as bisexual in one of my final years to another friend I had and the same thing fuckin happened. We moved an hour away because of all the harassment (and our house was tiny lmao) and it has kind of continued in my new town but I finally managed to stand up for myself after some dick from out rival school called me the t-slur (almost broke the kids nose! He initiated the fight after I told him to go fuck himself) and I feel a lot more confident.
I'm 16 now, and I have an awesome friend group who stick up for me whenever anyone decides to give me grief, and an incredible boyfriend who helped me learn to love myself again over the two years we've been together.
I really really hope that 'Andy' is alright now, and I wish em the best in life. I may not know the kid, but I wish I did, truly. Also, Shgurr, you are a saint for trying to help that kid. An absolute saint. I say this from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for helping the kids who didn't quite fit in. You are a role model for people all over the world and such a wonderful inspiration.
PS!! if you actually read all that, ilysm
I hope you’re doing good. Sending support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️. Always know that people care, one of them, me! Sending even more support, love, and hearts! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Something similar happened to me but throughout most of school.
Whether you realize it or not you made a difference in his life.
Yeah it would've been better had you stayed but you couldn't have known and so many people be bullied are confused when I finally given a little kindness so they don't know how tod react. They may even lash out at you.
If your feel you can stay your conviction let them know your there for them and if you able to, stay. It does so much more then you would relise to stay even if they tell you to go.
If you say something like, 'I know you may not know me but I know what your going through. I care about you and won't let you take this burden by yourself.'
Hug them and don't let them go.
They may struggle until finally they open themselves up to you and you see what's behind the walls they've had to put up for so long.
Keep being great🤗
I was bullied from the 3rd grade all the way to the end of high school. I know how it feels to go through all that. Did anyone help me out? Sadly, no. I had to get through it each day and I made it, but it was tough. I hope that wherever he is and whatever he's up to that he's doing well. I know how you feel about bullies. I find them to be utter scum and I protected people even when I was being bullied. I remember an instance where a friend of mine was being bullied and I stuck up for him and he was thankful. So was his sister since I knew her as well. I didn't do it for the praise. I wanted him to not have to go through that. I hope he's doing well in life, same with his sister. Still, I wish people would be more pro-active about helping people being bullied and you shouldn't blame yourself because you had no idea that was happening. Much love from a fan.