What is the False Self?
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- What is the false self? Essentially it is borne out of trauma and the need to find safety in an unsafe environment.
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Dr. David Maloney is a Psychologist and therapist. His has trained in a variety of techniques (person-centered, Gestalt, ACIM, psychodynamic) and works with people on a wide variety of issues. His main areas of expertise are in self-esteem, motivation, and relationships.
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Thanks so much for the great feedback James 🙏
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Thank you so much Ronika 🙏
I take with me 1) the ideas of a tribe (the environment), 2) that we identify strongly with the fs, + your suggestions 1) not to reject it (as I have done I think), 2) to honor it. Very helpful Thanks.
Thanks for sharing Kristina 🙏
I really like to watch your videos, it's the way you speak. I am constantly anxious and depressed, when I watch your videos it's like being comforted by a older brother
Thanks for watching. Very much appreciated 🙏
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Amazing to hear this. I completely agree by the way. Thanks for watching!
I had to read Winnicott's primary text on The False Self and was struggling a lot (in my defense, it is horribly written), and this video helped a lot! 🙂
Will be good to survey personalities in literature, e.g., of Dostoevsky, to explain more the authentic v. false self
thank you this was so helpful!
You're so welcome!
The false self is a defence mechanism to shield the true self from hurt.
Truth in your words 🙏
Yup ! I found this video useful ! Definitely make more videos on this topic. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 😺
Thank you! Will do!
David can you please make a video about procrastination effect on friendships?
For example - Having work to do, then procrastinating by meeting friends however the underlying guilt actually ruins the interaction and the friendship across time.
This has happened to me. Growing ever more dissatisfied with social interactions.
Great idea Kerr. I'll definitely add this to the list for upcoming videos.
Great content!
I sometimes think of all the people who are very successful and are very depressed. Likely that authenticity is missing for them, so they literally cannot enjoy the freedom their success could bring.
Yes, I see when we are false we overvalue and have a drive for something to achieve, prove, show to world and ourselves that we are loved and secure. Compensation is usually sought outside, rather than within towards authenticity.
Very valuable. It's such a common phenomenon and unseen.... leading to lives in illusion. Such topics are very useful, helpful and important. In this i understood that it's usually for safety....
Thanks David
Very welcome!
Is it the same for people with NPD? The statement that the true/authentic self still exists?
Thank you
Welcome!
Very useful! Can you talk about the true self and the false self in regards to Internal Family Systems? Thanks
David could you please make a video on the inner child, what it is and how to locate it?
Great idea James!
What about people with quiet or high-functioning BPD? Do they also have an authentic self if they lack a sense of identity? (speaking for myself). A video about this topic would be really appreciated! Thank you!
Very enlightening. I found this very useful and interesting to look at the false self in that way. Do you think it's ok to keep going with the false self that has been created, if it is working?
We all typically do Dean, to one degree or another. The False Self itself isn't really the problem. As long as there's an awareness that it's not really 'who I am', we avoid inner conflict.
I absolutely loved this definition. But can you explain it by reading the definition of authentic self from Bhagvat Gita and how that authentic self gains its individual authenticity from its past deeds. It is infact an interesting read which will broaden your insights to new possibilities in tackling psychology.
Great suggestion. Thanks so much!
It's hard for me to tell where my false self ends. Like yeah it's overly timid and non-confrontational and defers to others' judgement easily. But is it also tense and shut off, or is it my autism? Is my autism neonatal or a trauma response? So many questions
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Yes... And then it's like a bad mad spirit energies that became "negative" towards everything 😕 and really messing up a lot with life and mindset veiws about everything and what we are effected programmed control believe and also can he fragmented but also stubborn in as fallen towards one-sided negative badly by issues...
THERE YOU GO SLIPPING LOGIC INTO YOUR TALK
Is the false self the inner child?
I wouldn't quite say so. The inner child is the original and enduring need for connection (in my book). The false self develops as a result of this need not being met.
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy David is the inner child the part that kind of yearns and desires love, connection, and intimacy and also the part that feels alone and sad?
That is just the false self saying that, hilarious
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This video is dynamite. Please make more videos about the false self.
Giving positive energy to the false self makes it grow and giving it negative energy makes it shrink (self-mortification). Sam Vaknin advocates the later if false self is too big, but it sounds a bit dangerous. Could you discuss the idea of making the false self grow if it is too small or making it shrink if it is too big?
Great suggestions. Thanks so much for the ideas. I'll definitely discuss the false self in future videos.