I went through this a few months ago, and it did not go well, unfortunately. A friend of mine went along with her husband's decision to have an open marriage, and when I addressed my spiritual concerns with her, she said they didn't see what was wrong with it. Therefore, they weren't going to change it. I told her I could not be around them while this was going on, as her husband had tried to involve me in their open marriage as well. Even though she said she had talked to him about it and told him to leave me out, it was very sad and frustrating that she did not see why I was so bothered and upset. And on the flip side, she was upset that I was "abandoning" her as a friend. It was a very sad and messy situation, but at the end of the day, if your friend's decisions and lifestyle choices are affecting your spiritual well-being, you have to walk away and pray that God will open their eyes.
"But at the end of the day, if your friend's decisions and lifestyle choices are affecting your spiritual well-being, you have to walk away and pray that God will open their eyes." Yes and amen.
One thing my godly mentor told me was "you cannot rebuke someone unless you have first wept over their soul" that changed the way I looked at calling friends out. Approaching it first with prayer and weeping to the Lord astronomically changes your perspective on how to approach her. God bless!!!!
I tried to get back with a dodgy ex. My truest friends called me straight out. I thank them so much for it, even though I was furious with them and screaming. Keep trying with those friends. Your words of truth to a true friend will eventually leave them grateful.
okay I swear on my life that you're psychic. you continue to put out videos relating to situations literally simultaneously as I'm dealing with them. This month, I've been having an extremely difficult time with my best friend because we are going down two very different paths. She's getting into habits that can get her put in jail and I can't keep serving as her safety net. there's just no getting her to listen to me without being harsh at this point. I get so anxious thinking about how she's living her life but at the same time I don't want to parent her.
A few months ago, I had a heart to heart with one of my close friends and had to call her out as she was in a pretty toxic relationship and settling big time. I said it out of love, without any attitude of judgement or accusations, and said it in the nicest way and as understanding as I could be. Unfortunately, even in taking those careful steps, she did not take it well, and since then has not spoken to me and has been avoiding me. At first I was upset that it had resulted like that and was even hurt that she would throw away our friendship just because I was honest with her about something. However, in that moment God comforted me and said that He was proud of me for speaking up, and that now it's between my friend and Him. She might have to learn the hard way now, but at least I did the best I could as her friend to help her. Thank you for making this video Emily
I have always tried to do this for people and I always get the judgement card. If I say something we I'm judgmental but if I don't say something I'm a bad friend I think it's because people just don't want to hear the truth. Sometimes I think I should just let her make her own mistakes.
You are a good friend. This is totally normal. And it comes to a point where you have shared the truth in love, that yes, they must go their own way. You can have peace in your heart, however, that you did all that you could as their friend.
Emily Wilson it's so hard but I can't force anybody to change. I feel so misunderstood but people don't care. Sometimes I feels they can be hypocritical because people say negative things to hurt me.
Hello guys. I want to ask for prayers I live in CDMX Mexico City and we just had a horrible earthquake. The city is a mess and lots of people are still down the buildings! Love you, and thank you Emily for your beautiful work :)
I recently have dealt with this. I told my friend what I thought about her situation and she completely blew up. She was so upset she stoppped talking to me. Thank you so much for this video Emily!
I have been there. My old friend was dating an abusive guy. We had called each other out on stuff over the years. I knew it could and did cost is our friendship. I just didn't want to sit by and know she was being physically abused.
I have a friend, who is settling for a guy who may not care for her. I try to talk to her and to point out some things that she doesn't see. It's hard, because on the one hand she listens to me and says that I'm right but on the other hand, 30 minutes later she changes her mind. But I will continue to do it as long as it is necessary. It's painful for me to see this, because I dealt with a similar type of guy a few years ago and I made the same mistakes and my other friend was trying to help me realise that, but at the beginning I wasn't listening to her. I understand her, that she doesn't see things because of love but I feel like it's my duty as a friend to do my best to help her. Thank you Emily for this video Emily! I think it will encourage people and they will try to talk to friends if they see that they're doing something that it's wrong.
I have this one friend that I wish I had called out so many times, and if I had only had the courage I might have been able to save her a lot of pain. I was scared of losing her as a friend, and I realize now that I probably wouldn't have and I will never make that mistake again. She has called me out before, and I am so grateful for it. One of my other very good friends has been there for me and just listened to my problems, understood where I was coming from, accepted my mistakes, and told me when I am making those mistakes again. It is amazing to have a friend that cares enough to call you out when you are making a mistake. I realized I know very well when I am making bad decisions, but it takes someone calling me out on it to stop making those bad decisions. Thank you so much for this video, it was much needed :)
I was thinking about this because my friend was doing something she knew she wasn't supposed to do and I did know what to do. I needed this to help me. Thank you so much for this!!
Wow. This video is so timely. Yesterday I got coffee with a friend of mine and she opened up to me that she is no longer a Christian. It broke my heart.
I have been watching your videos for a few months now and I just wanted to say I love them!! And you are an amazing woman, as a Catholic myself it is so reassuring to see women speaking the truth! Thank you so much for all the advice!
Thank you so so much for ministering to young women like me! You are truly doing God's work and helping so many of us through the everyday situations we come across today as young women! I really needed this, thank you.
I made some questionable friends who were bad influences on me in high school and I only came to my senses when a friend of mine blatantly told me the truth. It was done a bit harshly, and it hurt to hear at first, but I'm thankful, because it made me realise that those girls never really cared about me. It could have been done with more love (and tact!) but I suppose sometimes bluntness is appropriate. I do agree that being gentle but firm is the best way though: and honesty, always.
So helpfull. A friend of mine is in a relationship with a jelous,egoist,manipulitive guy, who think that my friend is an his property. Is always upset for stupid things, my friend cant even go out with male friends or goodbye them with an hug,a really common things in Italy, he even says "she is mine,and if her male friends cant understand this i'm going to make a huge mess with them". He is crazy !! No one is property of any one...I really dont know how can I say to her that he is the wrost guy ever :c
A few years ago I was dating a guy who really wasn't that great of a person. At first he seemed really nice and funny but as time went on, my friends and family could see he really wasn't for me. My cousin approached me and told me so sweetly that I didn't need to stay with someone who wasn't right for me. She said that although he's a nice person (which he wasn't, she was just being sensitive) there was someone better for me to end up with. Now she is dating someone who is manipulative and it is getting serious. It hurts me to see her so blinded by what she thinks is love. I have tried to bring this up, but she cut me out for months and I am afraid that the same thing will happen if I try again.
This was exactly what I needed today. I even searched what the bible said about this in my devotion this morning! Thanks for being obedient to holy spirits voice girl! 💗
This is such great timing for how I feel right now. One of my good friends, who is a guy, is settling for a young woman who is emotionally manipulating him, leading him on, and taking away his peace. I don't know if I should talk to him and work up the courage to let him know that he deserves someone who truly cares for him. I don't want him to interpret this as me being interested in him as more than a good friend either. My best friends have already called him out on his poor decisions since he has been with this person, but he refuses to listen. If you have any suggestions, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks!!
Emily, thank you so much for this video and for your ministry speaking life to us women. I have seen time and time again the Holy Spirit clearly speaking through you and thank God for the words He speaks through you and for using you to edify us as believers. On that note, I wanted to message you somehow, but I cannot figure out how. Anyway, this video was much needed for me. I have a friend who I know I need to confront and time is of the essence as she is engaged to a man who is leading her down the wrong path. I should have confronted her sooner and I'm afraid it might be too late, but your video reassures me that it is not. I ask that you and anyone reading this may pray for her and I in Jesus name that He may give me the courage to speak up before it is too late, that God would speak through me, and that she would be open to hear and her heart would be softened to hearing and choosing the Truth. Thank you again for your heart for the Lord and for your ministry. You have no idea how much your words have spoken to me throughout many of your videos. ♥️
I have a question that I need an answer to but this might be a long question with explanation: How do I get along with my mother in law and sister in law when they are negative, toxic, manipulative human beings? My sister in law and mother in law are very alike in many ways. They love to act loving and sweet but behind closed doors they are very manipulative and will do whatever it takes to get you to do what they want. They can't see that they are the ones that are pushing people away. They are the type of people who do something extremely rude and mean then get offended and "hurt" that I get my feelings hurt and I call them out on it(I try to maturely and kindly) My husband and I are fairly newly married and it's been hard on my husband to see me not get along with his family(he knows it's their fault) but at the same time sometimes I feel like he expects EVERYTHING from me and nothing from them. He expects me to just fake like them and just be nice while they are not nice to me. They always like to come at me with their toxic behavior while my husband is at work rather than while he's around so he has a hard time believing they're as bad as I say they are bc in front of him they are sweet and nice. This is majorly shortened and summed up. It's been going on for a year. HELP! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I just discovered a sister in Christ is pregnant from an ungodly boyfriend, and I feel so bad because I had felt from God to talk to her about that, since I had a non Christian boyfriend once and I knew that wasn't good for her, but I kept postponing it until now, and I don't know what to tell her since it's too late. Please give me an advice! I wanna visit her today or tomorrow.
Angie Garcia I'm not Emily Obviously, but I think it's important for you to know that it's never too late! Anyone can still choose to come to Christ, no matter what the past holds. Keep being her friend, and keep trying. She's probably struggling with this as well, and the best thing you can do is be her friend first, and encourage her to make good choices from here on out. It's likely she'll be even more hurt if you treat her like her life is ruined, because she likely already wrestles with that fear each day.
should I call a guy friend out and tell him that I feel emotionally used? We are just friends but then he dumps his heart on me and then doesn't ask about my feelings. I feel hurt/ used but I don't think he realizes it. I don't know if I should tell him because it might ruin our friendship and make him depressed. what should I do???
So if I have a friend who is not a sister in Christ yet, who has a habit of pushing people a way and is going through a hard time. Would you suggest writing a letter? I am definitely praying for her and I love her, but I am 4 hours away and we are in two different places in life. Thank you!
I have a friend that has moved away , and we havent talked all summer , really not since Easter. I have been processing things that have occurred between us, how I’ve felt neglected and I am trying to forgive their actions . I am realizing some things in her life I’ve been jealous of and feel as if it has become a boulder between us. Which I am working on Should I open up about this to her or just pray ?
I went through this a few months ago, and it did not go well, unfortunately. A friend of mine went along with her husband's decision to have an open marriage, and when I addressed my spiritual concerns with her, she said they didn't see what was wrong with it. Therefore, they weren't going to change it. I told her I could not be around them while this was going on, as her husband had tried to involve me in their open marriage as well. Even though she said she had talked to him about it and told him to leave me out, it was very sad and frustrating that she did not see why I was so bothered and upset. And on the flip side, she was upset that I was "abandoning" her as a friend. It was a very sad and messy situation, but at the end of the day, if your friend's decisions and lifestyle choices are affecting your spiritual well-being, you have to walk away and pray that God will open their eyes.
"But at the end of the day, if your friend's decisions and lifestyle choices are affecting your spiritual well-being, you have to walk away and pray that God will open their eyes." Yes and amen.
One thing my godly mentor told me was "you cannot rebuke someone unless you have first wept over their soul" that changed the way I looked at calling friends out. Approaching it first with prayer and weeping to the Lord astronomically changes your perspective on how to approach her. God bless!!!!
I tried to get back with a dodgy ex. My truest friends called me straight out. I thank them so much for it, even though I was furious with them and screaming. Keep trying with those friends. Your words of truth to a true friend will eventually leave them grateful.
okay I swear on my life that you're psychic. you continue to put out videos relating to situations literally simultaneously as I'm dealing with them. This month, I've been having an extremely difficult time with my best friend because we are going down two very different paths. She's getting into habits that can get her put in jail and I can't keep serving as her safety net. there's just no getting her to listen to me without being harsh at this point. I get so anxious thinking about how she's living her life but at the same time I don't want to parent her.
Mary H EXACTLY WHAT I WAS JUST THINKING lol
divine providence works it out every time
A few months ago, I had a heart to heart with one of my close friends and had to call her out as she was in a pretty toxic relationship and settling big time. I said it out of love, without any attitude of judgement or accusations, and said it in the nicest way and as understanding as I could be. Unfortunately, even in taking those careful steps, she did not take it well, and since then has not spoken to me and has been avoiding me. At first I was upset that it had resulted like that and was even hurt that she would throw away our friendship just because I was honest with her about something. However, in that moment God comforted me and said that He was proud of me for speaking up, and that now it's between my friend and Him. She might have to learn the hard way now, but at least I did the best I could as her friend to help her. Thank you for making this video Emily
I have always tried to do this for people and I always get the judgement card. If I say something we I'm judgmental but if I don't say something I'm a bad friend I think it's because people just don't want to hear the truth. Sometimes I think I should just let her make her own mistakes.
You are a good friend. This is totally normal. And it comes to a point where you have shared the truth in love, that yes, they must go their own way. You can have peace in your heart, however, that you did all that you could as their friend.
Emily Wilson it's so hard but I can't force anybody to change. I feel so misunderstood but people don't care. Sometimes I feels they can be hypocritical because people say negative things to hurt me.
Hello guys. I want to ask for prayers I live in CDMX Mexico City and we just had a horrible earthquake. The city is a mess and lots of people are still down the buildings! Love you, and thank you Emily for your beautiful work :)
Ana Real Praying
Prayers right away for you and all affected by the quake Ana!
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praying and also Ana your joy shines through the screen! spread it please throughout your city the love and Joy of Jesus Christ
I recently have dealt with this. I told my friend what I thought about her situation and she completely blew up. She was so upset she stoppped talking to me. Thank you so much for this video Emily!
Keep your heart up. It is sooo hard - but you truly never know what seeds your honesty and charity may have planted in her heart and life.
I have been there. My old friend was dating an abusive guy. We had called each other out on stuff over the years. I knew it could and did cost is our friendship. I just didn't want to sit by and know she was being physically abused.
I have a friend, who is settling for a guy who may not care for her. I try to talk to her and to point out some things that she doesn't see. It's hard, because on the one hand she listens to me and says that I'm right but on the other hand, 30 minutes later she changes her mind. But I will continue to do it as long as it is necessary.
It's painful for me to see this, because I dealt with a similar type of guy a few years ago and I made the same mistakes and my other friend was trying to help me realise that, but at the beginning I wasn't listening to her. I understand her, that she doesn't see things because of love but I feel like it's my duty as a friend to do my best to help her.
Thank you Emily for this video Emily! I think it will encourage people and they will try to talk to friends if they see that they're doing something that it's wrong.
I have this one friend that I wish I had called out so many times, and if I had only had the courage I might have been able to save her a lot of pain. I was scared of losing her as a friend, and I realize now that I probably wouldn't have and I will never make that mistake again. She has called me out before, and I am so grateful for it. One of my other very good friends has been there for me and just listened to my problems, understood where I was coming from, accepted my mistakes, and told me when I am making those mistakes again. It is amazing to have a friend that cares enough to call you out when you are making a mistake. I realized I know very well when I am making bad decisions, but it takes someone calling me out on it to stop making those bad decisions. Thank you so much for this video, it was much needed :)
I reallyyy could've used this video in high school. Love your videos!
Was thinking all day about how to approach my friend for a conversation we're having tomorrow. Thank you so much for this!!! Gods timing is amazing
I was thinking about this because my friend was doing something she knew she wasn't supposed to do and I did know what to do. I needed this to help me. Thank you so much for this!!
Wow. This video is so timely. Yesterday I got coffee with a friend of mine and she opened up to me that she is no longer a Christian. It broke my heart.
I have been watching your videos for a few months now and I just wanted to say I love them!! And you are an amazing woman, as a Catholic myself it is so reassuring to see women speaking the truth! Thank you so much for all the advice!
Thank you so so much for ministering to young women like me! You are truly doing God's work and helping so many of us through the everyday situations we come across today as young women! I really needed this, thank you.
You are fantastic. This video came on the exact day that I began to think about how to confront one my best friends.
I made some questionable friends who were bad influences on me in high school and I only came to my senses when a friend of mine blatantly told me the truth. It was done a bit harshly, and it hurt to hear at first, but I'm thankful, because it made me realise that those girls never really cared about me. It could have been done with more love (and tact!) but I suppose sometimes bluntness is appropriate. I do agree that being gentle but firm is the best way though: and honesty, always.
So helpfull. A friend of mine is in a relationship with a jelous,egoist,manipulitive guy, who think that my friend is an his property. Is always upset for stupid things, my friend cant even go out with male friends or goodbye them with an hug,a really common things in Italy, he even says "she is mine,and if her male friends cant understand this i'm going to make a huge mess with them". He is crazy !! No one is property of any one...I really dont know how can I say to her that he is the wrost guy ever :c
A few years ago I was dating a guy who really wasn't that great of a person. At first he seemed really nice and funny but as time went on, my friends and family could see he really wasn't for me. My cousin approached me and told me so sweetly that I didn't need to stay with someone who wasn't right for me. She said that although he's a nice person (which he wasn't, she was just being sensitive) there was someone better for me to end up with. Now she is dating someone who is manipulative and it is getting serious. It hurts me to see her so blinded by what she thinks is love. I have tried to bring this up, but she cut me out for months and I am afraid that the same thing will happen if I try again.
This was exactly what I needed today. I even searched what the bible said about this in my devotion this morning!
Thanks for being obedient to holy spirits voice girl! 💗
This is such great timing for how I feel right now. One of my good friends, who is a guy, is settling for a young woman who is emotionally manipulating him, leading him on, and taking away his peace. I don't know if I should talk to him and work up the courage to let him know that he deserves someone who truly cares for him. I don't want him to interpret this as me being interested in him as more than a good friend either. My best friends have already called him out on his poor decisions since he has been with this person, but he refuses to listen. If you have any suggestions, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks!!
Emily, thank you so much for this video and for your ministry speaking life to us women. I have seen time and time again the Holy Spirit clearly speaking through you and thank God for the words He speaks through you and for using you to edify us as believers.
On that note, I wanted to message you somehow, but I cannot figure out how. Anyway, this video was much needed for me. I have a friend who I know I need to confront and time is of the essence as she is engaged to a man who is leading her down the wrong path. I should have confronted her sooner and I'm afraid it might be too late, but your video reassures me that it is not. I ask that you and anyone reading this may pray for her and I in Jesus name that He may give me the courage to speak up before it is too late, that God would speak through me, and that she would be open to hear and her heart would be softened to hearing and choosing the Truth.
Thank you again for your heart for the Lord and for your ministry. You have no idea how much your words have spoken to me throughout many of your videos. ♥️
I have a question that I need an answer to but this might be a long question with explanation:
How do I get along with my mother in law and sister in law when they are negative, toxic, manipulative human beings?
My sister in law and mother in law are very alike in many ways. They love to act loving and sweet but behind closed doors they are very manipulative and will do whatever it takes to get you to do what they want. They can't see that they are the ones that are pushing people away. They are the type of people who do something extremely rude and mean then get offended and "hurt" that I get my feelings hurt and I call them out on it(I try to maturely and kindly)
My husband and I are fairly newly married and it's been hard on my husband to see me not get along with his family(he knows it's their fault) but at the same time sometimes I feel like he expects EVERYTHING from me and nothing from them. He expects me to just fake like them and just be nice while they are not nice to me. They always like to come at me with their toxic behavior while my husband is at work rather than while he's around so he has a hard time believing they're as bad as I say they are bc in front of him they are sweet and nice.
This is majorly shortened and summed up. It's been going on for a year. HELP!
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i said a lot and she said that she sees what i see and that she knows he isn’t the right guy and that she knows her worth but that she’s not settling
This reminded me of my friend Sarah Anne, she’s calling people out left and right 😂❤️but in a good way of course!
I just discovered a sister in Christ is pregnant from an ungodly boyfriend, and I feel so bad because I had felt from God to talk to her about that, since I had a non Christian boyfriend once and I knew that wasn't good for her, but I kept postponing it until now, and I don't know what to tell her since it's too late.
Please give me an advice! I wanna visit her today or tomorrow.
Angie Garcia I'm not Emily Obviously, but I think it's important for you to know that it's never too late! Anyone can still choose to come to Christ, no matter what the past holds. Keep being her friend, and keep trying. She's probably struggling with this as well, and the best thing you can do is be her friend first, and encourage her to make good choices from here on out. It's likely she'll be even more hurt if you treat her like her life is ruined, because she likely already wrestles with that fear each day.
Love your vids! You always look so beautiful btw. I think your hairstyle is very flattering 😊
should I call a guy friend out and tell him that I feel emotionally used? We are just friends but then he dumps his heart on me and then doesn't ask about my feelings. I feel hurt/ used but I don't think he realizes it. I don't know if I should tell him because it might ruin our friendship and make him depressed. what should I do???
Tysm for this beautiful video! :)
So if I have a friend who is not a sister in Christ yet, who has a habit of pushing people a way and is going through a hard time. Would you suggest writing a letter? I am definitely praying for her and I love her, but I am 4 hours away and we are in two different places in life. Thank you!
Can I do this with a guy friend as well?
I have a friend that has moved away , and we havent talked all summer , really not since Easter. I have been processing things that have occurred between us, how I’ve felt neglected and I am trying to forgive their actions . I am realizing some things in her life I’ve been jealous of and feel as if it has become a boulder between us. Which I am working on Should I open up about this to her or just pray ?