I'm going to express my frustration and that is it. I am a 25 year old young man looking a wife the *old way* and it's been hard. I want a wife, but everyone at church are older women and families (the younger generation doesn't show up to this kind of church it's smaller and I like it that way). I will never use a useless dating app. And I'm an engineer that works heavy hours. I have no clue where to look and I *HATE* the, "when you least expect it," talk. I don't know where to find good young women at. I really want to be a father soon [It's been a lifelong dream of mine] and I want to be in the best shape I can be for them (Which I feel is now. But the Lord has his timing and I must wait). I go to all of our work events. Some things on the weekends but I feel like all the good women and men are cautious now. So much so that they're hidden in plane sight. I just need a general point in the right direction. I want to be a good husband to a good woman. But, in my frustration. I will still stay obedient to the Lord's plan.
Exact same situation here, I feel you man. And the folks giving "advice" were all with their future spouse OR already married by the time dating apps became a baseline. They don't understand that the dating landscape is massively different (and more broken) now. You aren't from Minnesota or North Dakota by chance? Would love to discuss further
My best advice is to let God by in control. When I first started dating, I used a Christian dating site and I tried to decide on who I found suitable. It didn't work out at all and in my frustration I deleted my account. The coming summer after that, God called me to sign up again and I felt like I didn't want to but I did it anyways, and this time I took things slow and let God be in control. My wife, who didn't believe in online dating at all also felt called to create an account. Within a week of her registering, we were sending emails. We got married last year.
For me, It’s hard of letting go the idolization of marriage or “searching” for my future husband at times. It’s like I’m half content waiting on Gods timing but also being impatient. My non believing mother would constantly encourage dating apps, dating for fun and taunts me for wanting to wait until marriage or sex. I feel the frustration of “Lord when is it my turn?” And “I just want to know what I should be doing in this season?” I would definitely fast and pray for Jesus to ease your frustration and put peace on your heart.
I totally understand and I can relate from you! A lot of men at my church and women as well are definitely older so when you talk about older individuals, I can totally understand. This is really not young people at my church to be honest so if I ever look for a man, a godly guy, I can’t find one in my church because they’re all older and married lol But I do believe that God does have a plan for both of us and that he will send the right person in the right time in our lives. I pray, and I ask God to bless you to open your eyes to the right woman in your life to be married with to honor him. You sound like a genuine guy, even though I don’t know you! God bless. ❤️😊🙏✝️
I got married at 22 and my husband 24. We felt pretty young, but we have definitely grown together. This month we will be celebrating our 6 year anniversary.
@@art_of_enny you can still be living in your parents house and still be your own man. For example, are you living with them because you're saving for a house so you can build a family or are you living with them because you can't do better? And if it's the latter, you gotta work on that.
@@OriginalWoman95unm lol? Second example is a legit example to live with your parents as an adult (we all have our ups and downs) but rhe first? Youre literally saying its ok to mooch off your parents cause you wanna buy a house 😂
@@andreaskarlsson5251 and real parents will help you do that. It's incredibly difficult, though not impossible, to save for a down payment while paying rent especially nowadays. I don't know how to view the word mooch but I didn't say it would be okay for him to not contribute ANYTHING to his parents while there. Ofcourse he will have to help with other bills but I'm just saying, it can be done. Especially if you're raised with two loving wholesome parents who actually want to parent since THEY brought you into this world and love you so much that they want to see you succeed.. not everyone can relate to such an upbringing so they will use words like "mooch" in a context that it doesn't belong in.
I got married at 24 too! I knew I was going to marry my wife after our first date. We waited 10 months and got married. It's the best choice I ever made.
I grew up non-Christian, became Christian a few years after marrying at 28. In my years at our (young and prolific) church, I noticed that young couples DID tend to marry very quickly, going from dating to a wedding in 6-12 months. At first I thought it was strange, then I realized that they were simply following God in their relationships, instead of themselves or each other. Now I find it strange that couples do "married things" (living together, s*x, having kids) for years and years without ever getting married, and then break up to start that cycle over with someone else. We didn't do things God's way at first, and it definitely caused some problems, so I appreciate seeing those young couples following our Father's design for marriage, whether or not it looks weird to those on the outside.
We were 19 (me) and 25. My aunts all told my mom they weren't coming to my wedding because I was getting married too early. All their daughters actually had children first then married in their forties to like a second or third baby daddy. 😢 That was sad. Btw I'm 29 now. My husband is 35. We have 3 kids, I homeschool, he's our primary provider and we just bought a house this year. I love my husband and I can't see me going back and changing anything except how much more I could have loved him in the beginning of our marriage ❤ what an outstanding man I'm blessed with. However, on the days when marriage is not too great, I think about how there are times I don't treat God too good either. I may not read my Bible or spend time with Him as I should, I may cuss, I may be mean and yet He still loves me because He chooses to love me! And I do the same with my husband.
I’m 22 years old and a week from tomorrow will be marrying a godly young lady I met at church. We dated (biblically) for almost 7 months before getting engaged.
Thank You!! I've been searching for someone who relates, who got married so young to agree with what me and my boyfriend believe to be true over our lives for young marriage. We believe God has called us to marriage right out of High School as we both have a calling to ministry and we don't want to even begin without the other person right along side us. Thank for sharing, because now I know there are others out there who have been through very similar situations and been asked the same questions by others.
Married at 22. We have been married for 16 years now. Other than our faith, the biggest success to our relationship has been a willingness to change and adapt as we have gotten older and grown even closer.
@@danielharrison2383 you said you are willing to change and adapt, I literally asked if you will change and adapt if I prove you wrong, don’t pretend like I didn’t read what you wrote, you just don’t wanna answer my question because you don’t actually care about “changing” or “adapting” so you run away from my question
@@roscowbrown3937 I bet that can seem a bit frustrating. I don't believe anyone has run away from any questions that you have asked since this is all online. Beliefs are not rooted in knowledge but merely just a belief. No amount of proving anything would get you the result you desire. I still pray for your healing.
@ You said that no amount of proving anything will get the answer I desire, so basically, you are are NOT actually willing to change and adapt when you are proven wrong, so you were just Iying when you said that. That was the only point I was getting at, you claim to care about changing and adapting but you just admitted to me that you will never change or adapt even if I prove that you wrong… instead of praying for me, pray for some honesty
@@katiehealy5859 I am 30 years old I understand this but have grown so much if I got married younger I would not be healthy or happier the way I am Right now it’s all about God’s timing. Marriage is not a requirement to see Jesus
My mother pushed me very hard to marry quickly to avoid sex before marriage and I married a covert narcissist. 2 months in a completely different man than the Christian I was sold on came home from work and my life became hell on earth. Never marry fast to avoid sex before marriage, just get more serious about where you spend your time together and accountability. Take your time so you CAN know them better or unlike when it does work out, it can cost you for years even after divorce.
Although I’m only 18, I’ve never dated anyone or kissed a girl… and to see all my friends and family getting a girlfriend or wife is pretty tough. It’s not that I’m being impatient or anything bc I know in God’s timing it will happen, but sometimes I get discouraged you know and need some encouragement.
I am 23 ( my birthday was a few days ago) And? I was in your position When I was 18 and still am and I can say this I absolutely regret waiting for marriage.And I absolutely gret all the years I wasted So i'm done waiting for it
Don’t be discouraged. I went through a lot of pain in relationships and learned the hard way to be patient and wait for God’s timing. It took years of working on myself and trusting in God before i was ready to meet and date my husband. But it all comes with time. Be vigilant, seek Him, and you will not be disappointed
@@djashovelwhy do you regret it? It’s only been a few years and there is still plenty of time for God to work in you and prepare you for just the right spouse. Do not give up on His timing and the plan He has for you instead submit to His changes, clear your life of sin, and when you are READY He will give you your spouse
@m.m.8814 God doesn't give you a spouse and I have been ready for marriage Since I was a teenager And that's a fact for me And if you really want to know that's going to be a long one
Such a testimony! For those that actually wanna wait on sex and get married! Ppl don't believe in doing it quick cuz they usually have sex and spend a lot of time together before marriage.... So marriage is a lot more on the back burner. God knew the urges and wanting to be together will motivate marriage. Also when you have sex you have that bond and if your married your able to see one another all the time. If your not you can't as why I've had break ups and they were hard cuz again two becomes one. All over the place . Time in my life this guy has been on point !! Love his videos ❤❤❤❤
I gave up waiting for marriage recently because It's kind of driven me crazy over the years being alone, but all, so I think it was just a mistake, really I don't want to make my comment to personal or Put a lot of things in it 😅 but I think I should of just Give up waiting for marriage Years ago I think I honestly could have Had a family and kids and a wife or Girlfriend You can Honestly, find Your future partner and it Being the first person you sleep ( girlfriend) Honestly I have heard a lot of people that have had that experience Even people that became teen parents even I wish I could have seen the future and chose differently or Maybe done a few things differently So I wouldn't be in my position right now in life I hope it changes soon
@djashovel yah I mean I know those that have the one already being disobeying God but yah I mean I have and yet I have saved myself again so until I'm married.
Marriage is about faith. You marry the person because you believe they will a good spouse. Dating years on end is in attempt to KNOW this stuff. It will always require faith. Younger people most likely haven't had a bunch of relational trauma. I think quicker is better, certainly compared to hookup culture.
While yeah you can feel that you know, I'm happy I didn't follow thru marrying young with the person i felt "I knew" cause even before marriage he ended up hurting me beyond I ever thought possible. Now I'm waiting and being intentional even if I'm falling "late" to marriage, I'll wait for someone that does loves God and believes in covenant over selfish feelings.
That provided some good perspective, thank you! I wonder, what suggestions would you have for evaluating if one is "ready" or not? I currently don't feel ready, but some of the reasons I find for that is expectations I hold for myself or that others have told me to hold for myself. So, part of me is thinking I need to stop thinking about if I'm "ready" and just focus on being a good steward of the time and opportunities I have, and if in the process I meet a really good gal, then go for it.
I can relate to this. I desire marriage and children very much and I do think I am ready but then sometimes I think my insecurities get the best of me and tell me because I am not "perfect" yet I am not ready for marriage. So it can be hard to decipher if I am "ready" or not.
I believe the Bible and that it is better to get married than to fall into sin, but I feel like the Church is loosing its ability to learn self control and a lot of young Christian couples have terrible terrible self control and those couples get married super quick because they can't control themselves and a lot of those marriages don't last. I know everyone has their struggles, but we are loosing our ability to practice self control as a whole. Relationships are such a good time to learn about each other and your focus can just be on learning about each other and how to love one another and get along.
I loved the part about not needing to get married young. I feel like that’s seen kind of as the ideal for Christians. I’m turning 23 in just a couple of days and don’t feel like I’m ready at all and have to grow in the Lord and as a person first. Also afraid of commitment.
I am 21 and a Christian and I have never been in a relationship or anything close to that. What encouragement do you have for Christian’s who desire a Godly relationship/marriage but it just isn’t happening for whatever reason?
Bro you and your wife are so lucky enough to be and look so beautiful. I have trouble because I am conventionally unattractive and its hard to find true Christian men out there, especially ones who I find attractive looks wise and personality wise. Also Ive been having trouble finding a church because there are so many fake churches in my area. 😢
I don't know if I will be of any help. But I think you are living fake expectations. If you are unatractive better being open to the unatractive, and regarding man the churchs usually have much more single man than single women. In my previous church we had a ratio of around 3 men to 1 woman. In my Cousin church they had 2 girls to 16 guys. And so on. I have never been to a Church where "single women" outnumbered single men. My actual church has like 2x1 ratio. In my previous church there is even a joke around that we have a football team of every demographic of men possible including a team of Bachelors over 40, and that is quite true.
My wife says she didn't find my attractive until we were dating for a few months. I've also become less 'put off' by unattractive people when I actually got to know them.
@@Enourmousletters It doesn't sound like a kind thing to say, but I understand. I don't find my husband attractive to this day, but he's familiar and comforting and he's mine. The emotional bond goes much deeper than shallow physicality.
I’m 24 and I hate modern traditions on marriage and romantic relationships. If it was like the old ways I would have found love and been married by now. Life and relationships are confusing these days. I’ve never dated from lack of marriageable ladies to pick from and I will not settle for used goods. I pray I find my wife soon for my sake and I hope you all find your suitable godly life mates too. God bless!
I think the world’s way of relationships is backwards. Today, it’s common to first build the life with your partner and then get married at some point later instead of getting married first and then building the life with the person.
Tomorrow I’m going to ask this girl to be my girlfriend. We have both shown interest in getting married someday. I hope that can happen if God allows it
I got married when I was 23 and my husband was 22 and we’re almost 8 years married now!! Be warned though everyone that even if you save sex for marriage and do all the right things infertility can still strike you! We have a naturally zero chance of getting pregnant! So that’s been devastating but apart from that marriage is awesome and the sex is great I must say hehe
But just think of the positives. With no kids on the way you'll be able to stay in great shape, save a ton of money, and have way more quality time for the both of you. To me that sounds like marriage bliss. 😎
Just being honest. As far as my own mind is concerned, I've been emotionally ready for marriage for 2 decades (I'm 30) dating makes zero sense to me, and so I never manage to actually get into any dating relationship which has the potential for marriage. (Now, openly confess that when I love I worship, and the Lord has been working on me in that area, and for that I'm thankful) Simultaneously, I just don't know how to actually go about it. Either I try and go subtle and slow and it's the fast track to turning her into a living emotional crutch and an idol. Or I just come out with it, confess my love and affection and get rejected because I'm going from zero to wedding bells in 3.28 seconds (in their minds, usually I have thought it out beforehand.) this is usually the better outcome.
Did you have any theological disagreements with your wife when you met her? Did one of you change your perspective? Or was there some compromise? Or did you find someone that, pretty much, agreed with you on everything?
Really happy for you guys!!! but i think marriage really depends on the country or culture that you belong to, i am a catholic living in india and marrriage is taken quite seriously here , the dating culture or hook up culture really dosent exist that much .
Ironically if you look at different countries and Cultures They have different standards of beauty So someone Not really good looking here Can be seen very attractive Is there It's a Thing in the philippines and Also places like jamaica
Also we all have a choice to make, we can chose to do our best to look good in a Godly manor to achieve a level that is worthy of representing God, whatever that is, is unique to you, there is no template for that “level”. Having effort in your life to do things for self improvement (for God) will be attractive to either gender, just let God work on you and SUBMIT to Him when He says something, if He shows you that you need to workout more…. WORKOUT MORE! 😁 if He tells you that you need to pray more, PRAY MORE!!!! You get what I’m saying, I Love you! In Jesus Mighty Name!!!
I’am 30 years old and I used to desire a wife well still do but i’am asking Jesus to remove the desire and gave me the gift of singleness instead as I realized i’am not called to marriage despite my burning passions 😅
I can see why we pray that way sometimes I also a 30 year old single woman I grew up in church have always pursued Christ I desire a godly man for husband but praying the desires away will not be helping either. I used to pray that way as well but now I realize that those desires are there for you to pursue a greater fulfilling purpose with or without marriage in the future. Hope that helps😊
I live in the south 24 isn't young. 😂 To be clear I was 26 but most of our parents got married as teenagers. And among my generation nobody really looks at anything after 19 as to young. Although oddly enough the age of marriage has gone up. Edit: I believe the average in the south is 30 but that's counting the cities
I’m 26 going on 27 and I am not married. As much as i wish i would have been married by now, i know for a FACT that it would have ended terribly. God took me through a very intentional healing process that needed to happen before i was in a place to date. Now, am I “completely healed?” Absolutely not and i never will be ok this side of eternity. However, deep healing needs to begin in a season of singleness before you are in a place to grow with someone else. My option on Christian dating is that we are giving young Christians the run around telling them to “wait on God” or “not to look.” We have a part to play in the dating process!!! We must MOVE on faith in order for God to do anything! If you know for a fact that God has you single for a reason , stay there! But if you have a desire to get married, PURSUE marriage. God is not going to hand it to you on a silver platter.
The problem with waiting to date, especially at 23, is that by the time you *are* ready (you’ve moved out and you’re living alone, you work a full-time job, you have your own car, etc.), you are then going to have to sift through the 99% of women/men who, by around your age or even older, have been dating around and have been through a handful of serious relationships. Even in Christian churches, some attractive women/men in their early-20s are surprisingly jaded and standoff-ish towards a relationship, even when you yourself have adept social skills and take care of yourself. Considering all of that, and in *this* economy… not everyone is going to get the fairytale wife/husband of their youth (looking at you, Proverbs). And I loathe when Christians get online spewing, “Don’t make marriage your idol,” when marriage is literally the symbolic representation for Christ’s love for his church. Like, what do you mean, don’t idolize marriage? We were made to experience love - most importantly, agape love, but love nonetheless. Likely, the reason these people give off those warnings is only because they probably married the wrong people outside the church (before getting saved), got divorced, and then confused themselves as to why their marriages fell apart (i.e., their own poor decision-making). Which is why it’s important to, instead, carry ourselves like this man, regardless of when we get married and to whom.
Those are good points -- but it is still important to note that you should not put anything above God in terms idolising things above your love for Him.
I would also argue that those who have not been in a relationship nay be unaware of how relationships should operate. Thankfully, there’s always time to learn and grow. And you’re right, and majority of my friends have already gone through multiple relationships since in middle school. I’m personally sick of hearing people online say you’re “expired” after 25, because that’s typically the age where you finish your education, have a career, have your own housing, ect. You can do all that and still not be in a relationship lol! The reality is not everyone marries their high school sweetheart. The rest of us have to become self sustaining adults to find another self sustaining adult to be a partner to.
I gave up waiting for marriage recently because It's kind of driven me crazy over the years being alone, but all, so I think it was just a mistake, really I don't want to make my comment to personal or Put a lot of things in it 😅 but I think I should of just Give up waiting for marriage Years ago I think I honestly could have Had a family and kids and a wife or Girlfriend You can Honestly, find Your future partner and it Being the first person you sleep ( girlfriend) Honestly I have heard a lot of people that have had that experience Even people that became teen parents even I wish I could have seen the future and chose differently or Maybe done a few things differently So I wouldn't be in my position right now in life I hope it changes soon
You know, honestly, I would have liked to marry when I was a teenager or when i was 20 ( i am 23 right now and my Birthday was a few day's ago) and I wish I didn't wait for marriage and Did things differently and God didn't help at all Didn't tell me anything Didn't even Lead me to Different things that would have saved these past years of emotional pain So i'm done waiting for marriage, and I am definitely not going to believe God has a wife for me or the usual christian stuff people say
Man, if you want a wife and a family I want to encourage you to seek out a godly woman Don't abandon the hope that led you in the past You don't have to find a perfect person, or "the one", but find someone who you can live your life with, and who wants to be with you, and marry them quickly There will be a much better future and marriage for you if you save yourself for it Praying for you brother
@@djashovelYou should be grateful God has made you go through these moments of hardship, because now your heart has been truly exposed. How did you claim to love God if you only loved him when he made you feel happy? Even if God gave you this wife, you'd just leave her after 6 months because you felt unhappy. You don't deserve her. Neither do you deserve God, but he still loves you. Even now when you spit on his face. You should repent. Go back to Christianity 101. The basics. Learning to trust God again
This makes me feel better. Me and my husband got engaged after 9 months of dating and shortly after we got married at 9 and 1/2 - 10 months. He was 28 and I was 22. My parents were not very supportive, they were saying I was too young and I don’t know what I want.
I definitely understand patents not being supportive of your relationship. It's really hard, but trust that God's plan is happening for you and no one can prevent His will. I'm so happy you and your husband got married young. ❤
This feels a little confirmation bias-y, no? Like there was a way to justify everything he wanted from his interpretation of scripture. I thought Paul it was better to never marry. Interesting how we can always find what works for our benefit and on the flip side, pick the correct enemies to “hold accountable” that doesn’t directly affect our lives. Just some food for thought 🤗🤗
Paul told his fellow disciples it would be better FOR THE CHURCH if they didn't marry, as a wife and family would naturally pull them away from discipleship and evangelism. You really thought you were calling out people who cherry-pick while doing it in your own post? 😂
@@evage99 But that still is cherry picking, you’ve decided that is the best interpretation of that scripture for your needs. Same as all of these scriptures: 18:22 Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable. Timothy 2:12. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;[a] she must be quiet "'Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard. Some of these are easy to agree with without looking into context, other ones need entire hermeneutical studies to justify. The math isn’t mathing for me 🤗🤗🤗 And just because you said Paul said god said doesn’t make it any more true than what Mohammed said Allah said or Joseph Smith said god said. I’m not saying any of these things are right or wrong, but something about the original video prompted these thoughts. Peace and love
I'm going to express my frustration and that is it. I am a 25 year old young man looking a wife the *old way* and it's been hard. I want a wife, but everyone at church are older women and families (the younger generation doesn't show up to this kind of church it's smaller and I like it that way). I will never use a useless dating app. And I'm an engineer that works heavy hours. I have no clue where to look and I *HATE* the, "when you least expect it," talk. I don't know where to find good young women at. I really want to be a father soon [It's been a lifelong dream of mine] and I want to be in the best shape I can be for them (Which I feel is now. But the Lord has his timing and I must wait). I go to all of our work events. Some things on the weekends but I feel like all the good women and men are cautious now. So much so that they're hidden in plane sight. I just need a general point in the right direction. I want to be a good husband to a good woman. But, in my frustration. I will still stay obedient to the Lord's plan.
Exact same situation here, I feel you man. And the folks giving "advice" were all with their future spouse OR already married by the time dating apps became a baseline. They don't understand that the dating landscape is massively different (and more broken) now. You aren't from Minnesota or North Dakota by chance? Would love to discuss further
My best advice is to let God by in control. When I first started dating, I used a Christian dating site and I tried to decide on who I found suitable. It didn't work out at all and in my frustration I deleted my account. The coming summer after that, God called me to sign up again and I felt like I didn't want to but I did it anyways, and this time I took things slow and let God be in control.
My wife, who didn't believe in online dating at all also felt called to create an account. Within a week of her registering, we were sending emails. We got married last year.
For me, It’s hard of letting go the idolization of marriage or “searching” for my future husband at times. It’s like I’m half content waiting on Gods timing but also being impatient. My non believing mother would constantly encourage dating apps, dating for fun and taunts me for wanting to wait until marriage or sex. I feel the frustration of “Lord when is it my turn?” And “I just want to know what I should be doing in this season?” I would definitely fast and pray for Jesus to ease your frustration and put peace on your heart.
@@dbikeryamaha125 I'm in a similar position as the guy you commented on, and I live in Minnesota.
I totally understand and I can relate from you! A lot of men at my church and women as well are definitely older so when you talk about older individuals, I can totally understand. This is really not young people at my church to be honest so if I ever look for a man, a godly guy, I can’t find one in my church because they’re all older and married lol But I do believe that God does have a plan for both of us and that he will send the right person in the right time in our lives. I pray, and I ask God to bless you to open your eyes to the right woman in your life to be married with to honor him. You sound like a genuine guy, even though I don’t know you! God bless. ❤️😊🙏✝️
I got married at 22 and my husband 24. We felt pretty young, but we have definitely grown together. This month we will be celebrating our 6 year anniversary.
Literally same here!! I’ve loved growing with my husband- it’s been 6 years for us too! Best decision
@@savanahbbb happy 6 years to us :)
Got married when I was 20 after 3 months of knowing my wife. 18 years and 3 kids later, it was a wonderful decision to commit my life to a godly woman
Woahhh
It’s interesting cos I’m 21 and still under my parents 😂
@@art_of_enny you can still be living in your parents house and still be your own man. For example, are you living with them because you're saving for a house so you can build a family or are you living with them because you can't do better? And if it's the latter, you gotta work on that.
@@OriginalWoman95unm lol? Second example is a legit example to live with your parents as an adult (we all have our ups and downs) but rhe first? Youre literally saying its ok to mooch off your parents cause you wanna buy a house 😂
@@andreaskarlsson5251 and real parents will help you do that. It's incredibly difficult, though not impossible, to save for a down payment while paying rent especially nowadays.
I don't know how to view the word mooch but I didn't say it would be okay for him to not contribute ANYTHING to his parents while there. Ofcourse he will have to help with other bills but I'm just saying, it can be done. Especially if you're raised with two loving wholesome parents who actually want to parent since THEY brought you into this world and love you so much that they want to see you succeed.. not everyone can relate to such an upbringing so they will use words like "mooch" in a context that it doesn't belong in.
I got married at 24 too! I knew I was going to marry my wife after our first date. We waited 10 months and got married. It's the best choice I ever made.
I grew up non-Christian, became Christian a few years after marrying at 28. In my years at our (young and prolific) church, I noticed that young couples DID tend to marry very quickly, going from dating to a wedding in 6-12 months. At first I thought it was strange, then I realized that they were simply following God in their relationships, instead of themselves or each other. Now I find it strange that couples do "married things" (living together, s*x, having kids) for years and years without ever getting married, and then break up to start that cycle over with someone else. We didn't do things God's way at first, and it definitely caused some problems, so I appreciate seeing those young couples following our Father's design for marriage, whether or not it looks weird to those on the outside.
I got married at 21, he was 23. Two years later, happy as ever
Im thinking of doing the same thing!
We were 19 (me) and 25. My aunts all told my mom they weren't coming to my wedding because I was getting married too early. All their daughters actually had children first then married in their forties to like a second or third baby daddy. 😢 That was sad.
Btw I'm 29 now. My husband is 35. We have 3 kids, I homeschool, he's our primary provider and we just bought a house this year. I love my husband and I can't see me going back and changing anything except how much more I could have loved him in the beginning of our marriage ❤ what an outstanding man I'm blessed with. However, on the days when marriage is not too great, I think about how there are times I don't treat God too good either. I may not read my Bible or spend time with Him as I should, I may cuss, I may be mean and yet He still loves me because He chooses to love me! And I do the same with my husband.
I’m 22 years old and a week from tomorrow will be marrying a godly young lady I met at church. We dated (biblically) for almost 7 months before getting engaged.
Thank You!! I've been searching for someone who relates, who got married so young to agree with what me and my boyfriend believe to be true over our lives for young marriage. We believe God has called us to marriage right out of High School as we both have a calling to ministry and we don't want to even begin without the other person right along side us. Thank for sharing, because now I know there are others out there who have been through very similar situations and been asked the same questions by others.
Married at 22. We have been married for 16 years now. Other than our faith, the biggest success to our relationship has been a willingness to change and adapt as we have gotten older and grown even closer.
so, if I demonstrated that the Bible is false, Would you change and adapt your viewpoint?
@ I can tell you didn't even read what I wrote so I will do you one better. I pray that your heart heals.
@@danielharrison2383 you said you are willing to change and adapt, I literally asked if you will change and adapt if I prove you wrong, don’t pretend like I didn’t read what you wrote, you just don’t wanna answer my question because you don’t actually care about “changing” or “adapting” so you run away from my question
@@roscowbrown3937 I bet that can seem a bit frustrating. I don't believe anyone has run away from any questions that you have asked since this is all online. Beliefs are not rooted in knowledge but merely just a belief. No amount of proving anything would get you the result you desire. I still pray for your healing.
@ You said that no amount of proving anything will get the answer I desire, so basically, you are are NOT actually willing to change and adapt when you are proven wrong, so you were just Iying when you said that. That was the only point I was getting at, you claim to care about changing and adapting but you just admitted to me that you will never change or adapt even if I prove that you wrong… instead of praying for me, pray for some honesty
Thank you for talking so openly about this! It adds so much clarity and I appreciate it A LOT!!!!!!!! ✝️
I’m a 25 year old woman and I understand this struggle
@@katiehealy5859 I am 30 years old I understand this but have grown so much if I got married younger I would not be healthy or happier the way I am
Right now it’s all about God’s timing. Marriage is not a requirement to see Jesus
It’s especially harder as a woman being single past your early twenties because you’re anxious about your biological clock ticking.
My mother pushed me very hard to marry quickly to avoid sex before marriage and I married a covert narcissist. 2 months in a completely different man than the Christian I was sold on came home from work and my life became hell on earth. Never marry fast to avoid sex before marriage, just get more serious about where you spend your time together and accountability. Take your time so you CAN know them better or unlike when it does work out, it can cost you for years even after divorce.
Although I’m only 18, I’ve never dated anyone or kissed a girl… and to see all my friends and family getting a girlfriend or wife is pretty tough. It’s not that I’m being impatient or anything bc I know in God’s timing it will happen, but sometimes I get discouraged you know and need some encouragement.
I am 23 ( my birthday was a few days ago)
And?
I was in your position When I was 18 and still am and I can say this I absolutely regret waiting for marriage.And I absolutely gret all the years I wasted
So i'm done waiting for it
Don’t be discouraged. I went through a lot of pain in relationships and learned the hard way to be patient and wait for God’s timing. It took years of working on myself and trusting in God before i was ready to meet and date my husband. But it all comes with time. Be vigilant, seek Him, and you will not be disappointed
@@djashovelwhy do you regret it? It’s only been a few years and there is still plenty of time for God to work in you and prepare you for just the right spouse. Do not give up on His timing and the plan He has for you instead submit to His changes, clear your life of sin, and when you are READY He will give you your spouse
@m.m.8814 God doesn't give you a spouse and I have been ready for marriage Since I was a teenager And that's a fact for me
And if you really want to know that's going to be a long one
You need to be stacking your money and having fun. Don't fixate on a relationship. Trust me.
Such a testimony! For those that actually wanna wait on sex and get married! Ppl don't believe in doing it quick cuz they usually have sex and spend a lot of time together before marriage.... So marriage is a lot more on the back burner. God knew the urges and wanting to be together will motivate marriage. Also when you have sex you have that bond and if your married your able to see one another all the time. If your not you can't as why I've had break ups and they were hard cuz again two becomes one. All over the place . Time in my life this guy has been on point !! Love his videos ❤❤❤❤
I gave up waiting for marriage recently because It's kind of driven me crazy over the years being alone, but all, so I think it was just a mistake, really
I don't want to make my comment to personal or Put a lot of things in it 😅 but I think I should of just Give up waiting for marriage Years ago
I think I honestly could have Had a family and kids and a wife or Girlfriend
You can Honestly, find Your future partner and it Being the first person you sleep ( girlfriend) Honestly I have heard a lot of people that have had that experience Even people that became teen parents even
I wish I could have seen the future and chose differently or Maybe done a few things differently So I wouldn't be in my position right now in life
I hope it changes soon
@djashovel yah I mean I know those that have the one already being disobeying God but yah I mean I have and yet I have saved myself again so until I'm married.
@djashovel yah everyone's situation is different but yah we just get impatient but it will happen it just has too
Btw cute cat on your car haha 😂
Marriage is about faith. You marry the person because you believe they will a good spouse. Dating years on end is in attempt to KNOW this stuff. It will always require faith. Younger people most likely haven't had a bunch of relational trauma. I think quicker is better, certainly compared to hookup culture.
Thanks!
While yeah you can feel that you know, I'm happy I didn't follow thru marrying young with the person i felt "I knew" cause even before marriage he ended up hurting me beyond I ever thought possible.
Now I'm waiting and being intentional even if I'm falling "late" to marriage, I'll wait for someone that does loves God and believes in covenant over selfish feelings.
That provided some good perspective, thank you! I wonder, what suggestions would you have for evaluating if one is "ready" or not? I currently don't feel ready, but some of the reasons I find for that is expectations I hold for myself or that others have told me to hold for myself. So, part of me is thinking I need to stop thinking about if I'm "ready" and just focus on being a good steward of the time and opportunities I have, and if in the process I meet a really good gal, then go for it.
I can relate to this. I desire marriage and children very much and I do think I am ready but then sometimes I think my insecurities get the best of me and tell me because I am not "perfect" yet I am not ready for marriage. So it can be hard to decipher if I am "ready" or not.
Married at 24 met my husband in June married in November.
If God says yes there’s no need for a long engagement. I love my husband.
I was 17 when my wife and I married. That was 25 years ago. Worth.
how was that legal
@ninjakungfucat8617 what sort of question is that? A lot of states allow marriage at 16 years old.
@@josh_finalI wish I got married when I was a teenager
that's incredibly young for nowadays lol
@samfranklin659 I wish I got married as a teenager
I believe the Bible and that it is better to get married than to fall into sin, but I feel like the Church is loosing its ability to learn self control and a lot of young Christian couples have terrible terrible self control and those couples get married super quick because they can't control themselves and a lot of those marriages don't last. I know everyone has their struggles, but we are loosing our ability to practice self control as a whole. Relationships are such a good time to learn about each other and your focus can just be on learning about each other and how to love one another and get along.
I loved the part about not needing to get married young. I feel like that’s seen kind of as the ideal for Christians. I’m turning 23 in just a couple of days and don’t feel like I’m ready at all and have to grow in the Lord and as a person first. Also afraid of commitment.
Congratulations, I pray you both become close and fruitful in your relationship with God and each other 🎊
I feel this deeply great vid
Thanks for sharing Bro. God bless you
I am 21 and a Christian and I have never been in a relationship or anything close to that. What encouragement do you have for Christian’s who desire a Godly relationship/marriage but it just isn’t happening for whatever reason?
Are you presbyterian?
Keep seeking God. Matthew 6:33-34 🧡
Bro you and your wife are so lucky enough to be and look so beautiful. I have trouble because I am conventionally unattractive and its hard to find true Christian men out there, especially ones who I find attractive looks wise and personality wise.
Also Ive been having trouble finding a church because there are so many fake churches in my area. 😢
I don't know if I will be of any help. But I think you are living fake expectations. If you are unatractive better being open to the unatractive, and regarding man the churchs usually have much more single man than single women. In my previous church we had a ratio of around 3 men to 1 woman. In my Cousin church they had 2 girls to 16 guys. And so on. I have never been to a Church where "single women" outnumbered single men. My actual church has like 2x1 ratio. In my previous church there is even a joke around that we have a football team of every demographic of men possible including a team of Bachelors over 40, and that is quite true.
Ask the holy Spirit to guide you to the right church 👍
My wife says she didn't find my attractive until we were dating for a few months. I've also become less 'put off' by unattractive people when I actually got to know them.
@@Enourmousletters It doesn't sound like a kind thing to say, but I understand. I don't find my husband attractive to this day, but he's familiar and comforting and he's mine. The emotional bond goes much deeper than shallow physicality.
@@evage99You don’t find your husband attractive? Goodness, I couldn’t imagine your husband finding this comment.
I’m 24 and I hate modern traditions on marriage and romantic relationships. If it was like the old ways I would have found love and been married by now. Life and relationships are confusing these days. I’ve never dated from lack of marriageable ladies to pick from and I will not settle for used goods. I pray I find my wife soon for my sake and I hope you all find your suitable godly life mates too. God bless!
I think the world’s way of relationships is backwards. Today, it’s common to first build the life with your partner and then get married at some point later instead of getting married first and then building the life with the person.
i like the facial you made when you said you need to experience single life😂
Brother, may I know your haircare routine please?
Excellent video
Tomorrow I’m going to ask this girl to be my girlfriend. We have both shown interest in getting married someday. I hope that can happen if God allows it
I got married when I was 23 and my husband was 22 and we’re almost 8 years married now!! Be warned though everyone that even if you save sex for marriage and do all the right things infertility can still strike you! We have a naturally zero chance of getting pregnant! So that’s been devastating but apart from that marriage is awesome and the sex is great I must say hehe
But just think of the positives. With no kids on the way you'll be able to stay in great shape, save a ton of money, and have way more quality time for the both of you. To me that sounds like marriage bliss. 😎
Ever considered adopting? Something me and my girlfriend hope to do as there's many kids who lack a safe and loving place to call home.
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Just being honest. As far as my own mind is concerned, I've been emotionally ready for marriage for 2 decades (I'm 30) dating makes zero sense to me, and so I never manage to actually get into any dating relationship which has the potential for marriage. (Now, openly confess that when I love I worship, and the Lord has been working on me in that area, and for that I'm thankful) Simultaneously, I just don't know how to actually go about it.
Either I try and go subtle and slow and it's the fast track to turning her into a living emotional crutch and an idol.
Or I just come out with it, confess my love and affection and get rejected because I'm going from zero to wedding bells in 3.28 seconds (in their minds, usually I have thought it out beforehand.) this is usually the better outcome.
Where are You from?
He looking like Moses ❤❤ but yay finally the story of his marriage
Did you have any theological disagreements with your wife when you met her? Did one of you change your perspective? Or was there some compromise? Or did you find someone that, pretty much, agreed with you on everything?
Really happy for you guys!!! but i think marriage really depends on the country or culture that you belong to, i am a catholic living in india and marrriage is taken quite seriously here , the dating culture or hook up culture really dosent exist that much .
Well, everyone.There does mostly arrange marriages and it's a very a traditional and Conservative country
Am Single and am enjoying it's Benefits
Flexing on all the non good looking people out there praying for better looks and luck. 😂
Ironically if you look at different countries and Cultures They have different standards of beauty So someone Not really good looking here Can be seen very attractive Is there
It's a Thing in the philippines and Also places like jamaica
Yeah they're called passport bros. @@djashovel
Also we all have a choice to make, we can chose to do our best to look good in a Godly manor to achieve a level that is worthy of representing God, whatever that is, is unique to you, there is no template for that “level”. Having effort in your life to do things for self improvement (for God) will be attractive to either gender, just let God work on you and SUBMIT to Him when He says something, if He shows you that you need to workout more…. WORKOUT MORE! 😁 if He tells you that you need to pray more, PRAY MORE!!!! You get what I’m saying, I Love you! In Jesus Mighty Name!!!
@@HeroC14It's actually called doing your research and actually knowing customs and cultures of Countries
@@remyhalscott9598 Really good advice. Do your best, and work with what you have.
I’am 30 years old and I used to desire a wife well still do but i’am asking Jesus to remove the desire and gave me the gift of singleness instead as I realized i’am not called to marriage despite my burning passions 😅
I can see why we pray that way sometimes I also a 30 year old single woman I grew up in church have always pursued Christ I desire a godly man for husband but praying the desires away will not be helping either. I used to pray that way as well but now I realize that those desires are there for you to pursue a greater fulfilling purpose with or without marriage in the future. Hope that helps😊
@ he could do it every thing is possible with Jesus
To be honest it doesn’t help sorry 😄
@@cosminbryant1243 exactly
@@cosminbryant1243 haha well his strength his made know in our weakness so if we ask for strength he can help …
I live in the south 24 isn't young. 😂 To be clear I was 26 but most of our parents got married as teenagers. And among my generation nobody really looks at anything after 19 as to young. Although oddly enough the age of marriage has gone up. Edit: I believe the average in the south is 30 but that's counting the cities
Got married at 34 years young. One time only, that's it. 5 years later we're still as deep in love. The right one is out there for everyone.
If the right one was out there for everyone there wouldn't be so many people living out their (often) sad lives alone. 😎
My husband and I got married 6 months after we met. The best decision of my life. I couldn’t be happier, and I know I can say the same for him.
I’m 26 going on 27 and I am not married. As much as i wish i would have been married by now, i know for a FACT that it would have ended terribly. God took me through a very intentional healing process that needed to happen before i was in a place to date. Now, am I “completely healed?” Absolutely not and i never will be ok this side of eternity. However, deep healing needs to begin in a season of singleness before you are in a place to grow with someone else.
My option on Christian dating is that we are giving young Christians the run around telling them to “wait on God” or “not to look.” We have a part to play in the dating process!!! We must MOVE on faith in order for God to do anything!
If you know for a fact that God has you single for a reason , stay there! But if you have a desire to get married, PURSUE marriage. God is not going to hand it to you on a silver platter.
You kinda look like the portraits we have of Jesus
The problem with waiting to date, especially at 23, is that by the time you *are* ready (you’ve moved out and you’re living alone, you work a full-time job, you have your own car, etc.), you are then going to have to sift through the 99% of women/men who, by around your age or even older, have been dating around and have been through a handful of serious relationships. Even in Christian churches, some attractive women/men in their early-20s are surprisingly jaded and standoff-ish towards a relationship, even when you yourself have adept social skills and take care of yourself. Considering all of that, and in *this* economy… not everyone is going to get the fairytale wife/husband of their youth (looking at you, Proverbs).
And I loathe when Christians get online spewing, “Don’t make marriage your idol,” when marriage is literally the symbolic representation for Christ’s love for his church. Like, what do you mean, don’t idolize marriage? We were made to experience love - most importantly, agape love, but love nonetheless. Likely, the reason these people give off those warnings is only because they probably married the wrong people outside the church (before getting saved), got divorced, and then confused themselves as to why their marriages fell apart (i.e., their own poor decision-making). Which is why it’s important to, instead, carry ourselves like this man, regardless of when we get married and to whom.
Those are good points -- but it is still important to note that you should not put anything above God in terms idolising things above your love for Him.
@ Very good point, praise be to God.
I would also argue that those who have not been in a relationship nay be unaware of how relationships should operate. Thankfully, there’s always time to learn and grow.
And you’re right, and majority of my friends have already gone through multiple relationships since in middle school. I’m personally sick of hearing people online say you’re “expired” after 25, because that’s typically the age where you finish your education, have a career, have your own housing, ect. You can do all that and still not be in a relationship lol! The reality is not everyone marries their high school sweetheart. The rest of us have to become self sustaining adults to find another self sustaining adult to be a partner to.
@ Also very true.
I gave up waiting for marriage recently because It's kind of driven me crazy over the years being alone, but all, so I think it was just a mistake, really
I don't want to make my comment to personal or Put a lot of things in it 😅 but I think I should of just Give up waiting for marriage Years ago
I think I honestly could have Had a family and kids and a wife or Girlfriend
You can Honestly, find Your future partner and it Being the first person you sleep ( girlfriend) Honestly I have heard a lot of people that have had that experience Even people that became teen parents even
I wish I could have seen the future and chose differently or Maybe done a few things differently So I wouldn't be in my position right now in life
I hope it changes soon
I have to wait 5 years 😐
Only 5............
How do you know..
You know, honestly, I would have liked to marry when I was a teenager or when i was 20
( i am 23 right now and my Birthday was a few day's ago) and I wish I didn't wait for marriage and Did things differently and God didn't help at all Didn't tell me anything
Didn't even Lead me to Different things that would have saved these past years of emotional pain
So i'm done waiting for marriage, and I am definitely not going to believe God has a wife for me or the usual christian stuff people say
but you are still young unlike me
Man, if you want a wife and a family I want to encourage you to seek out a godly woman
Don't abandon the hope that led you in the past
You don't have to find a perfect person, or "the one", but find someone who you can live your life with, and who wants to be with you, and marry them quickly
There will be a much better future and marriage for you if you save yourself for it
Praying for you brother
Do what you want, but where are you gonna end up in the long run? Just trust God man
@SylerPlayz no I am done with faith and he has to show me the future and ever possible choice and outcome and ever Possibility
@@djashovelYou should be grateful God has made you go through these moments of hardship, because now your heart has been truly exposed. How did you claim to love God if you only loved him when he made you feel happy? Even if God gave you this wife, you'd just leave her after 6 months because you felt unhappy. You don't deserve her. Neither do you deserve God, but he still loves you. Even now when you spit on his face. You should repent. Go back to Christianity 101. The basics. Learning to trust God again
This makes me feel better. Me and my husband got engaged after 9 months of dating and shortly after we got married at 9 and 1/2 - 10 months. He was 28 and I was 22. My parents were not very supportive, they were saying I was too young and I don’t know what I want.
I definitely understand patents not being supportive of your relationship. It's really hard, but trust that God's plan is happening for you and no one can prevent His will. I'm so happy you and your husband got married young. ❤
Young and quick is the best way to do it! 👍 I missed the boat for that so my only hope is to marry a young woman quickly. 😎
😂
There are no more christian men out there. Ive been waiting my whole life for a christian man.
Interesting.......... I've noticed the same but with women. 😎
Nah, we're still out here. And we're trying to find women as well
There are. But you’re most likely looking in the wrong place. Or, consider that you attract what you reflect
Women should have zero excuse to find a man. What you are saying is, I’m not attracted to any of the Christian men that are available. Just be honest
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This feels a little confirmation bias-y, no? Like there was a way to justify everything he wanted from his interpretation of scripture. I thought Paul it was better to never marry. Interesting how we can always find what works for our benefit and on the flip side, pick the correct enemies to “hold accountable” that doesn’t directly affect our lives. Just some food for thought 🤗🤗
Paul told his fellow disciples it would be better FOR THE CHURCH if they didn't marry, as a wife and family would naturally pull them away from discipleship and evangelism. You really thought you were calling out people who cherry-pick while doing it in your own post? 😂
@@evage99 But that still is cherry picking, you’ve decided that is the best interpretation of that scripture for your needs. Same as all of these scriptures:
18:22 Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.
Timothy 2:12. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;[a] she must be quiet
"'Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.
Some of these are easy to agree with without looking into context, other ones need entire hermeneutical studies to justify. The math isn’t mathing for me 🤗🤗🤗
And just because you said Paul said god said doesn’t make it any more true than what Mohammed said Allah said or Joseph Smith said god said.
I’m not saying any of these things are right or wrong, but something about the original video prompted these thoughts. Peace and love
Unrelated but my hair has finally gotten to Isaac’s length, a lifelong pipe dream.
Oh also good vid.
Dating? Lol 😆
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Does anyone think she's a little immodestly dressed in the thumbnail?
No she is fine it's just you
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Married at 24 met my husband in June married in November.
If God says yes there’s no need for a long engagement. I love my husband.
I agree, never waste your time getting to know somebody before you marry, next we should give licenses to people without teaching them to drive
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