I was a broke ,unhealed , double mined , hot messsssss! I thought he was too good to be true && I broke up with him, then 7 months later we got back together && then 6 months later we got married 😭
I used to think that I had to be perfect in order to be in a relationship, but now I know that I deserve to be loved and accepted for who I am not for who someone wants me to be. I learned that from my past relationship with my ex.
If GOD† loves me as I am, I want my husband to love me as I am. This doesn’t mean I can skate through life without taking accountability, GOD† doesn’t work like that..
I was JUST praying for my future husband and in the middle of my prayer I told God "after I heal though". And then your video comes up. Thank you so much for posting this, I needed to hear it!
I certainly feel like I've met him...but he came in a season where I asked God to keep me ( like I don't want to be "found " by my future husband in this season , and this version of me) even he has been consecrating himself unto the Lord. So I've literally been like uhm?? Abba??? But thankfully we both have received a message of trusting in His timing and not , rushing into anything. So yeah... just intrigued by the timing of this video as well.🤦♀️😂❤
@natanne I kept saying the same thing, the lord cornered me to surrender,I was crying pouring out about how am not ready as I need to heal totally. In the end I totally surrendered to his will and that he can do a quick part healing to upgrade this version of me.😃
Confirmation! A husband is a gift!!!! Not a, you do this first, then I’ll give you a husband. Wow our God is so loving and amazing!!!! God bless you sister!! ❤
Wow. Just 5 days ago I learned that I am unhealed and still grieving my father’s unexpected death from about 14 years ago… he was wrongfully murdered by the police… my Bestfriend. . I was only 11. Can you imagine how this plays out in my intimate and platonic relationships?.. I have a fear of ppl dying, fear of abandonment, rejection etc… I was so down on myself like “you have to be healed in order to be married” and thought I have such a long way to go.. and here I am. THE TIMING IS ONLY FROM GOD†. 😢 WOW thank You Jesus. I’m so thrilled to watch this video.
My friends and sister gave me advice that I don’t have to be perfectly whole to be married. Yes, I should still strive for it but being married is going to show me parts of myself that I didn’t know where there. My sis said “you can’t work on relationship stuff while you’re single”
Thank you so much for the video. The metaphor you said about the pretty woman, career driven woman, and emotionally healed woman resonated with me. "The pretty woman cannot see the good man because she has a lot of options available. Career driven women is too focused on her goals to look for a good man. Emotionally healed woman would not be able to tolerate or give grace to the man in need of healing" It reminded me about how God sees beyond what we sees and His ways and thoughts are higher than ours. I was one of the women who believed "I need to do this goal, be emotionally healed of every trauma, or have my self together" before meeting my husband. After watching the video, I prayed to God to meet him in YOUR time NOT mine. So thank you again for this video.
It’s amazing how we as women have a similar mindset regarding perfection and marriage. Thank you so much for this video! You can tell you spend time with God and your channel is helping so many women me included😊.
C'mon on now with Ecc 9!!! I know that's right! God is sovereign! Super encouraging sis, we are each one of a kind! God uniquely created each and everyone one of us, and if we are not in a season it's because God has made it so. We ought to focus on Him the one who is eternal and will be with us in every season and stage of our lives!! God is so good and He knows what is best! He is the best gift-giver ever ❤🙏🏽
I needed to hear this. I used to think I gotta be perfect and succesful to be in a relationship and forgot that this life with God is a continuous transformation path. Being vulnerable, imperfect and see each other with grace and mercy it´s what´s all about.
Ppl have told the lady I love that they’re surprised she’s still alive from her life situations. She’s still the most beautiful person to me and I’m encouraging her and showing her how to be better mentality and heal. She told me days ago that I made her want to be a better version of herself and I inspire her.
Wow didn’t realize others will be thinking the same.. I had some traumatic things happen in the last year for me, and now I said God maybe I’m not as ready for husband because after going through some life changing events and readjusting I’m just trying to get back to feeling myself ….,but then I heard the Lord say “ ready or not here I come” I said whoa! Okay Lord…. And I’ve been waiting 10 years for a husband, and the lord said you’re as ready as you’re going to get,… so I realized , yeah l will be waiting forever if I had to be as perfect as I’m wishing to be ! Thank you for this ❤it was confirmation for me
Thanks for this. Especially the part of feeling like you need to first accomplish something big or great in your life to be qualified for the gift of marriage.... Such a wrong mentality! God bless you.
I so love that scripture! Ecc 9:11. Thank you for saying this because so many Christian’s looks at over 30 yr old singles and assume something is wrong with them or that they still need to change something to be “worthy” of being given into marriage. It’s so heartbreaking
Wow wow thank you for this sis😭 because all of this living rent free in my head and the anxiety it causes😭. I literally find everything wrong with me and feel I should have this and that so I could be worthy of being loved. Thank you for this woman of God . God sure will do everything and anything to reach to us because we don’t listen when tells us that we are enough and he got us🤍 .
Now I know, I put 'achieve goal' above relationships... This video was like a breakthrough moment for me. I felt consumed by this mentality. Honestly, I was in tears and felt sorrow and felt great joy afterwards.
I usually don’t comment on UA-cam videos yet thank you for your obedience and vulnerability. It’s very encouraging that all of God’s daughter are worthy of his perfect gifts . Your checklist is very relatable and who told us we had to have it all done before the promise our thoughts are funny yet his timing is perfect. In his timing the lord will make it happen just learning to enjoy the journey with him 🥳. May God bless your covenant a hundredfold 💕
Amen thank you sis!! ❤️🙏🏽 And if we really think about it many of the checklists we have stem from insecurities not God ever telling us we had to have it done before He gave the promise, His timing is always best 🥰
GIRL!! i was just talking to God about that the other day! before i met my fiancé i was so focused on getting healed and being “perfect” and totally forgot that marriage can also be one of the tools to help me to heal! girl I was so focused on “working on myself” that i almost missed my blessing. I used to say “that can’t be him, i’m not even all the way there yet” as if marriage is for perfect people. girl! 🤣
Thank you for being so honest! I went through similar things while meeting my husband in not being fully healed from my previous relationship and being highly insecure and bringing that into my relationship. Also, I met my husband 2 months after my toxic relationship and God allowed my open wounds to be exposed where He has helped me heal through the love and patience of my husband! ❤
Just realizing from this, I can’t really practice partnership without a partner. The most important thing I can do is decide and commit to being his partner…
SISTEEERRRR THANK YOOUUUU😢😢😢. THE TIMING OF THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE. That has been my mindset, I always tell God to let me be financially stable, have lost weight, and for my life to be at a total impressive state. Today I told God, God will I meet my husband while still in debt? 😢 When I saw this videos title, my draw dropped. Thank you for being obedient talking about this. God bless you immensely ❤❤❤❤
LOL Those three check marks are what I was thinking too. The counterfeit always tries one more time before the promise comes. I related to everything. I’m excited to meet my future husband
I appreciate this soooo much. I just prayed about this regarding if it's okay for us to not be "perfect" before accepting his proposal.Hes further along than me in certain areas and vice versa I to him. I think we both push each other to want to be better versions and after a year we've been working really well together. Its just hard being in late 20s early 30s to not be where our parents were at our age but i would love to grow with him and have a good family
Thank you for this video!!! It really helped me!! I was just thinking I'm gonna need to lose more weight, I need to get out of debt, I need to move out. So many things!! It can be overwhelming but God knows the perfect time. All I can do is try to be in position.
This message is perfectly timed! I have been unconsciously thinking that I need to be accomplished and perfect before my husband finds me. I’m understanding that marriage is a gift and I don’t need to pass any test or requirements for it. It’s all decided by God. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏿
Thank you for being obedient to God for recording this video. I'm currently in my waiting season, and yesterday, i was in a roller coaster of emotions and feeling imperfect over something that happend, so i just went to my room and started crying to God, telling him how would I make it in marriage when I can't even handle a little misunderstanding?🤡 God did say anything, but i worshipped till I felt better. Today in the morning at work, I decided to open my UA-cam, i didn't even know what i was gonan watch and I bump into this video. Mind you, I'm not one to watch relationships stuff. I believe God controls the algorithms. Once again, thank you for your obedience.
❤❤❤Thanks for your obedience in sharing your story because you help me to understand that the mindset I had for marriage was wrong. It doesn’t take two perfect healed people to be joined together!!!
I thank God for this video you have no clue how timely this is in my life! I’ve spent YEARS trying to earn a spouse by believing the wrong mindsets such as these! Blessings to you and your husband in Jesus Mighty Name
Thank you for sharing about not having to be fully healed. I went through a similar experience finding out that the guy that I thought I could trust was seeing someone else the entire time he was pursuing me and I'm still healing from that. I also have felt like I have to have it all together before God gives me a husband. That can be discouraging because there are some things that I feel like I will never be the best at but that's where I have to trust God that I don't have to be perfect.
What I do when I’m a single mom and I still gotta communicate with child’s dad? We are really good with coparenting.. I talk to God about him a lot 😅 child’s dad said some things that hurt me and I gave it to God. Im grateful for all lessons that I have learned within the relationship, we were together for 2.5 years. It’s been almost a year since we broke it off, he’s engaged to another woman. We all get along fairly well but my feelings linger for my child’s dad.. idk how I’ll let it go, I keep praying and praying about it and giving it to God. My child’s dad doesn’t know this as I have respect for his current relationship. I tried online dating and it’s not too bad but then these feelings for child’s dad start to come back, please pray for me🙏🥺
That’s certainly a difficult situation! Definitely keep seeking the Lord about it. In my opinion, since he is already engaged to another woman I would imagine he has moved on from you, so I think it’s best you also move on. If you are unsure of his thoughts or feelings, reach out & have a candid conversation so that it solidifies in you what the relationship will be like moving forward
Thank SO much! I am 35 years old and keep thinking the same thing that I have to be “perfect” in order to find the right spouse. This video resonated so much with me. Thank you for not making feel like I am alone.
Thank you for this video and I appreciate the Bible scriptures as well. This touched my heart because I feel and think about all these things you spoke on and more the enemy started playing with my mind telling me I’ll be single just like my mom and grandma and I’ve been praying against that I had this dream to be married and have my family since I was a little girl always playing “house” Just here to say thank you for this encouragement 💓
I needed this,the lord has been telling me that am getting into a relationship for marriage sooner than i desired . I felt am not yet ready as i needed to heal totally and fully settled materially, financially ,career and business. This has really blessed and encouraged me because my blessings are knitted in my husband.
Thank you for this word. I literally ask God to show me a video of a woman who was her single season and got married not still waiting. You gave me hope today. God bless you.
This really is healing. My dad would say “when you do/say/act like _____ you being really ugly & it’s a turn off to men” or “no good man would want to be with you because you look like______” Or “you’re a ____ so you’ll marry a ______” Or “look at what you say/do/look like, why would a good man want you when there are other out there that are better than you. You bring nothing to the table.” Sometimes my mom would say I was still single because I’m fat and because I’m a black woman I have to work harder. I know I’m not 100% perfect in what I say, do, feel, and look like. I know I got an extra 125 pounds that isn’t active to 99% of men. But knowing that it’s still a 1% chance a man will notice me despite my flaws makes me feel less ugly. I have no plans on staying the same, but knowing that there’s a chance I don’t have to fix everything to get a man is comforting.
First of all, you must cancel and rebuke every ungodly word curse spoken over your life by your parents! Contrary to what THEY might think you have to remind yourself about what GOD has said about you in His WORD! Let God be true and EVERY MAN a liar! We don’t go by what the world says. You are a WIFE! Point blank period! You are a gift to a man God has made for you and you are established and rooted in the love of Christ. Don’t ever let anyone including your parents speak into you what God has never said about you regarding who you are. We honor our parents but they are not the Lord Jesus Christ. Cancel any agreement you made with what they have said about you. You know you have weaknesses, and you know you need to change. That’s a good thing! But only God can help us by His power to be better. He understands your needs and where you fall short that’s why we need Him. So lean on Jesus and not what your parents have to say. And pray for your parents because they obviously have some problems going on within themselves which is why they speak to you that way. Let God deal with the matter of their hearts, forgive them and continue to be blessed.
@@DionneMarie7 thank you. This had me crying after reading the first sentence, reminding me to fight & not let the enemy walk all over me. I do love my parents, but Jesus is my Lord! Thank you for encouraging me & reminding me Jesus has the final say. May God bless you like He did Jabez in 1 Chron 4:9-10. That you will be honored & your territory enlarged, that The Lord will continue to keep you from harm & free of pain.
Yesterday I just had a discussion with my bf and it happen a bit often but I like to analyze myself even if I feel I asked him why he got mad (when in my mind he was being the negative) because it happen often sometimes I feel that we are not the “right pair” and I want to end but after we talk I noticed that was a mistake in my subconscious that made me think that he was being negative when he was just being logic ( he was mad at me but he made me understand that it’s ok have this issues and that he is with me to help me heal, I was still sad but he hugged me and told me that I can do it ) this feeling was not just emotion it was determination to be better, and I just love him and respect him even more for this, relationship is not easy to maintain is really necessary patience, calm, not act when the emotions are hitting, and have a partner that wanna make you better that see your uniqueness behind your weaknesses. I don’t want anyone else I will marry this Man, and make him see the wonderful Man he is. ❤
That is such a wonderful quality to have in a partner, and he is right it is okay to have these issues! Being able to work through them in a healthy way helps deeper the relationship and create a beautiful bond 💕
I came from a rlly hard relationship wich me and my ex fell into lust, he was emotionaly ansent and I was so insecure about mysef. This showed me how weak I am and make me extremelly self aware of my flaws. Now I feel like, if I want a man of God, I have to be trully a woman of God, but in a unhealthy way, yk? Like I HAVE to be perfect, to be fully spiritual, to be beautifull to deserv any kind of love and its exausting, but your video gave me a little hope and relief that I dont have to be perfect to deserve love, thank you
I've been told this my entire life in one way or another, but I never bought into the idea that you had to be perfect to be in a healthy relationship. I know so many people who were still getting themselves together when they got married, but I hate that it's being used to gaslight Christian singles and make us feel unworthy of God given relationships.
I agree! I’ve seen so many people get together who had many issues and worked it out together with God, having the correct heart posture is more important than having it all together because growth and improvement will be a natural byproduct
If one wait to be fully healed to do someone, trust me you can live 100 years without getting fully healed. Coz once you heal on one thing another comes up. Sometimes you might even think that you have healed completely but once you meet someone you realize you have never healed or that person finds that you have many wounds you didn't heal from while you thought you have healed. So it's better to show your wounds to God and let him do things His own way because God's ways are not your ways, God's plans are different from yours. Sometimes you can say I will wait to heal fully but then God has planned that the partner you will meet will be the one to help you in your journey to heal. Sometimes we are like I need this and this to be done before I get married or before I do this thing, and such mentality makes getting worried for nothing and stop the Will of God in our lives. Three top things that are necessary in a Christian life is trusting Jesus as your Lord and Savior, doing everything for the glory of God and Let the will of God be done in Your life (I would say all the things are summed up in those three)
Thank you so much for this video. I have met the man for me, but similar vulnerabilities have been getting in the way of being at peace with the timing of the relationship. Your message has changed my outlook about my relationship. Thank you once again. ❤
I was having a similar discussion with my Mom. I have an attitude and not a negative one but I can over exaggerate some conversations or reactions. I told my Mom the same thing, I’m definitely improving but I can’t say I’m fully perfect until I’m in a circumstance that puts me to the test. My Mom did give great advice and I’m working on it.
Thank you so much for this reading. As a single person all I keep hearing is that I need to be perfect in order to meet my person. I need to be healed,I need to be happy,I need to have everything together. Thank you so much,I needed to hear your words.🤍✨
I needed this for réal !! And I Wish my bf would watch this too so he can see that he do not has to be that perfect while we are together… he’s distant right now because he want to “figure things out” by himself and it hurts me that he do not talk to me.. may God guide him. May God bless you for this revelation 🙏🏽🤍
I was a broke ,unhealed , double mined , hot messsssss! I thought he was too good to be true && I broke up with him, then 7 months later we got back together && then 6 months later we got married 😭
Awww sis congratulations on your marriage🥹 it’s so crazy how the wrong mindset can have us push our blessing away, but what’s for you is FOR YOU 🙏🏽 ❤️
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Now this is a testimony! congrats!!
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I used to think that I had to be perfect in order to be in a relationship, but now I know that I deserve to be loved and accepted for who I am not for who someone wants me to be. I learned that from my past relationship with my ex.
There’s no better feeling than being loved as you are 😊
If GOD† loves me as I am, I want my husband to love me as I am.
This doesn’t mean I can skate through life without taking accountability, GOD† doesn’t work like that..
I know that. I never said that. If I ever do something wrong, I go to God and ask forgiveness and I apologize to whoever I hurt.
I was JUST praying for my future husband and in the middle of my prayer I told God "after I heal though". And then your video comes up. Thank you so much for posting this, I needed to hear it!
Happy to hear that! We are on God’s timeline not our own! He’s so good to us 🥰
I certainly feel like I've met him...but he came in a season where I asked God to keep me ( like I don't want to be "found " by my future husband in this season , and this version of me) even he has been consecrating himself unto the Lord. So I've literally been like uhm?? Abba??? But thankfully we both have received a message of trusting in His timing and not , rushing into anything. So yeah... just intrigued by the timing of this video as well.🤦♀️😂❤
@natanne I kept saying the same thing, the lord cornered me to surrender,I was crying pouring out about how am not ready as I need to heal totally. In the end I totally surrendered to his will and that he can do a quick part healing to upgrade this version of me.😃
God was just telling me you don’t have to be fully healed. You have to be healed enough ❤ and this is just a comforting confirmation
Confirmation! A husband is a gift!!!! Not a, you do this first, then I’ll give you a husband. Wow our God is so loving and amazing!!!! God bless you sister!! ❤
I know I needed to see this because I been going back and forth like God I’m not perfect this man gonna find everything wrong with me 😂
You can say that again
Girl, I know that feeling 😂
Girl this is me all of this in my head 😭😂
Girl this is me right now. Anxiety going crazy 😭
I so relate with this!😂
God put us at the right place and in the right time let us meet the right people and give us the right words to say thank you Jesus ❤❤❤❤❤
AMEN 🙏🏽🥰 love this prayer
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Amen and Amen🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Wow. Just 5 days ago I learned that I am unhealed and still grieving my father’s unexpected death from about 14 years ago… he was wrongfully murdered by the police… my Bestfriend. . I was only 11.
Can you imagine how this plays out in my intimate and platonic relationships?.. I have a fear of ppl dying, fear of abandonment, rejection etc…
I was so down on myself like “you have to be healed in order to be married” and thought I have such a long way to go.. and here I am. THE TIMING IS ONLY FROM GOD†.
😢 WOW thank You Jesus. I’m so thrilled to watch this video.
My friends and sister gave me advice that I don’t have to be perfectly whole to be married. Yes, I should still strive for it but being married is going to show me parts of myself that I didn’t know where there. My sis said “you can’t work on relationship stuff while you’re single”
I literally was having these thoughts and then this video pops up 🥺💖 God really is always watching over us.
Our Father is always looking out for us 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you so much for the video. The metaphor you said about the pretty woman, career driven woman, and emotionally healed woman resonated with me. "The pretty woman cannot see the good man because she has a lot of options available. Career driven women is too focused on her goals to look for a good man. Emotionally healed woman would not be able to tolerate or give grace to the man in need of healing" It reminded me about how God sees beyond what we sees and His ways and thoughts are higher than ours.
I was one of the women who believed "I need to do this goal, be emotionally healed of every trauma, or have my self together" before meeting my husband. After watching the video, I prayed to God to meet him in YOUR time NOT mine. So thank you again for this video.
It’s amazing how we as women have a similar mindset regarding perfection and marriage. Thank you so much for this video! You can tell you spend time with God and your channel is helping so many women me included😊.
Yes we unknowingly take on a huge pressure that God didn’t intend for us carry. He has it all under control 🙏🏽 & I’m so happy to hear that 🥺❤️ ty!
I know right . This is how I feel and the said part is that it causes anxiety.
C'mon on now with Ecc 9!!! I know that's right! God is sovereign! Super encouraging sis, we are each one of a kind! God uniquely created each and everyone one of us, and if we are not in a season it's because God has made it so. We ought to focus on Him the one who is eternal and will be with us in every season and stage of our lives!! God is so good and He knows what is best! He is the best gift-giver ever ❤🙏🏽
I want a relationship where we can be imperfect together and know what to do.. where to go and how to grow at that time. Growing together 🌳💛
I needed to hear this. I used to think I gotta be perfect and succesful to be in a relationship and forgot that this life with God is a continuous transformation path. Being vulnerable, imperfect and see each other with grace and mercy it´s what´s all about.
Ppl have told the lady I love that they’re surprised she’s still alive from her life situations. She’s still the most beautiful person to me and I’m encouraging her and showing her how to be better mentality and heal. She told me days ago that I made her want to be a better version of herself and I inspire her.
That is so beautiful. God bless you for being a good example.
Wow didn’t realize others will be thinking the same.. I had some traumatic things happen in the last year for me, and now I said God maybe I’m not as ready for husband because after going through some life changing events and readjusting I’m just trying to get back to feeling myself ….,but then I heard the Lord say “ ready or not here I come” I said whoa! Okay Lord…. And I’ve been waiting 10 years for a husband, and the lord said you’re as ready as you’re going to get,… so I realized , yeah l will be waiting forever if I had to be as perfect as I’m wishing to be !
Thank you for this ❤it was confirmation for me
Thanks for this. Especially the part of feeling like you need to first accomplish something big or great in your life to be qualified for the gift of marriage.... Such a wrong mentality! God bless you.
Thank you for this, i always thought i had to be perfect, and that brokenness meant unworthy
I so love that scripture! Ecc 9:11. Thank you for saying this because so many Christian’s looks at over 30 yr old singles and assume something is wrong with them or that they still need to change something to be “worthy” of being given into marriage. It’s so heartbreaking
Wow wow thank you for this sis😭 because all of this living rent free in my head and the anxiety it causes😭. I literally find everything wrong with me and feel I should have this and that so I could be worthy of being loved. Thank you for this woman of God . God sure will do everything and anything to reach to us because we don’t listen when tells us that we are enough and he got us🤍 .
Now I know, I put 'achieve goal' above relationships... This video was like a breakthrough moment for me. I felt consumed by this mentality. Honestly, I was in tears and felt sorrow and felt great joy afterwards.
I usually don’t comment on UA-cam videos yet thank you for your obedience and vulnerability. It’s very encouraging that all of God’s daughter are worthy of his perfect gifts . Your checklist is very relatable and who told us we had to have it all done before the promise our thoughts are funny yet his timing is perfect. In his timing the lord will make it happen just learning to enjoy the journey with him 🥳. May God bless your covenant a hundredfold 💕
Amen ❤
Amen thank you sis!! ❤️🙏🏽 And if we really think about it many of the checklists we have stem from insecurities not God ever telling us we had to have it done before He gave the promise, His timing is always best 🥰
Everything resonates so well with me.
I'm even tired of still trying to be perfect🥰. I just have to let God do his thing for me.
GIRL!! i was just talking to God about that the other day! before i met my fiancé i was so focused on getting healed and being “perfect” and totally forgot that marriage can also be one of the tools to help me to heal! girl I was so focused on “working on myself” that i almost missed my blessing. I used to say “that can’t be him, i’m not even all the way there yet” as if marriage is for perfect people. girl! 🤣
Thank you for being so honest! I went through similar things while meeting my husband in not being fully healed from my previous relationship and being highly insecure and bringing that into my relationship. Also, I met my husband 2 months after my toxic relationship and God allowed my open wounds to be exposed where He has helped me heal through the love and patience of my husband! ❤
Sister in Christ! This video popping into my feed is Divinely timed as I await to marry my Kingdom Spouse❤ Thank you SO much.
You are so welcome!😊
Just realizing from this, I can’t really practice partnership without a partner. The most important thing I can do is decide and commit to being his partner…
SISTEEERRRR THANK YOOUUUU😢😢😢. THE TIMING OF THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE. That has been my mindset, I always tell God to let me be financially stable, have lost weight, and for my life to be at a total impressive state. Today I told God, God will I meet my husband while still in debt? 😢
When I saw this videos title, my draw dropped. Thank you for being obedient talking about this. God bless you immensely ❤❤❤❤
God’s goodness is beyond what we can comprehend, so glad the pressure is off ❤️🫶🏽
Hi, Career-driven and healing woman here. This is my confirmation to stop pushing that good man away. Thank you. 😩😩😩
LOL Those three check marks are what I was thinking too. The counterfeit always tries one more time before the promise comes. I related to everything. I’m excited to meet my future husband
I figured someone may relate to those checkmarks 😂 and yes the enemy tried it! But as the Bible says God sits in heaven & laughs 😌
No more counterfeits for me ! 😂😂 I met one at church and God has healed me after .. 10 months ! And that was recently !!
I appreciate this soooo much. I just prayed about this regarding if it's okay for us to not be "perfect" before accepting his proposal.Hes further along than me in certain areas and vice versa I to him. I think we both push each other to want to be better versions and after a year we've been working really well together. Its just hard being in late 20s early 30s to not be where our parents were at our age but i would love to grow with him and have a good family
Thank you for this video!!! It really helped me!! I was just thinking I'm gonna need to lose more weight, I need to get out of debt, I need to move out. So many things!! It can be overwhelming but God knows the perfect time. All I can do is try to be in position.
Exactly sis, do your best and let God handle the rest, His grace is sufficient! 💕
Yes It really can be overwhelming. I was like is there enough hours in the day to learn everything to be ready 😢😅. I just pray for God's grace
@@sincerelynellymartin thank you for sharing!!
@@yolz555 Yeassss
This message is perfectly timed! I have been unconsciously thinking that I need to be accomplished and perfect before my husband finds me. I’m understanding that marriage is a gift and I don’t need to pass any test or requirements for it. It’s all decided by God. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏿
Girl I can't believe this popped up, I just prayed about this today. Thank you so much for the encouragement and for keeping it real!
Thank you for being obedient to God for recording this video.
I'm currently in my waiting season, and yesterday, i was in a roller coaster of emotions and feeling imperfect over something that happend, so i just went to my room and started crying to God, telling him how would I make it in marriage when I can't even handle a little misunderstanding?🤡
God did say anything, but i worshipped till I felt better.
Today in the morning at work, I decided to open my UA-cam, i didn't even know what i was gonan watch and I bump into this video. Mind you, I'm not one to watch relationships stuff. I believe God controls the algorithms.
Once again, thank you for your obedience.
Thank you for sharing this. Our mindsets can really block the blessings especially if we self sabotage.
I love this message. I received this revelation some time ago. The beauty of partnership is it’s granted when we need it most.
❤❤❤Thanks for your obedience in sharing your story because you help me to understand that the mindset I had for marriage was wrong. It doesn’t take two perfect healed people to be joined together!!!
Yes sis, we are on a lifelong journey 😊❤️
All the confirmations in these comments is wild🙌🏾🙌🏾God is so good!!!!
I thank God for this video you have no clue how timely this is in my life! I’ve spent YEARS trying to earn a spouse by believing the wrong mindsets such as these! Blessings to you and your husband in Jesus Mighty Name
Thank you for the blessings, amen!! No more earning mentally, we abide in Gods wonderful grace 💕😊
Thank you for sharing about not having to be fully healed. I went through a similar experience finding out that the guy that I thought I could trust was seeing someone else the entire time he was pursuing me and I'm still healing from that. I also have felt like I have to have it all together before God gives me a husband. That can be discouraging because there are some things that I feel like I will never be the best at but that's where I have to trust God that I don't have to be perfect.
What I do when I’m a single mom and I still gotta communicate with child’s dad? We are really good with coparenting.. I talk to God about him a lot 😅 child’s dad said some things that hurt me and I gave it to God. Im grateful for all lessons that I have learned within the relationship, we were together for 2.5 years. It’s been almost a year since we broke it off, he’s engaged to another woman. We all get along fairly well but my feelings linger for my child’s dad.. idk how I’ll let it go, I keep praying and praying about it and giving it to God. My child’s dad doesn’t know this as I have respect for his current relationship. I tried online dating and it’s not too bad but then these feelings for child’s dad start to come back, please pray for me🙏🥺
That’s certainly a difficult situation! Definitely keep seeking the Lord about it. In my opinion, since he is already engaged to another woman I would imagine he has moved on from you, so I think it’s best you also move on. If you are unsure of his thoughts or feelings, reach out & have a candid conversation so that it solidifies in you what the relationship will be like moving forward
Thank SO much! I am 35 years old and keep thinking the same thing that I have to be “perfect” in order to find the right spouse. This video resonated so much with me. Thank you for not making feel like I am alone.
Wow, I am at work third shift. And was just crying about this and this popped up!
Thank you for this video and I appreciate the Bible scriptures as well.
This touched my heart because I feel and think about all these things you spoke on and more the enemy started playing with my mind telling me I’ll be single just like my mom and grandma and I’ve been praying against that I had this dream to be married and have my family since I was a little girl always playing “house”
Just here to say thank you for this encouragement 💓
I’m glad someone is finally talking about this! Thank you! 🙏🏾
I was just praying about this again last night. Your list is my list 😩😅.. i receive this as being for me.. perfect timing. Thank you for this!
This is so timely I could cry. Thank you Jesus and thank you Nelly ❤
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This blessed me! Very encouraging and confirming. Thank you for your obedience!
I needed this,the lord has been telling me that am getting into a relationship for marriage sooner than i desired . I felt am not yet ready as i needed to heal totally and fully settled materially, financially ,career and business. This has really blessed and encouraged me because my blessings are knitted in my husband.
Thank you for this word. I literally ask God to show me a video of a woman who was her single season and got married not still waiting. You gave me hope today. God bless you.
I love that ❤️
This was SO encouraging! Thank you woman of God for this timely message! 🥰
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This really is healing. My dad would say “when you do/say/act like _____ you being really ugly & it’s a turn off to men”
or “no good man would want to be with you because you look like______”
Or “you’re a ____ so you’ll marry a ______”
Or “look at what you say/do/look like, why would a good man want you when there are other out there that are better than you. You bring nothing to the table.”
Sometimes my mom would say I was still single because I’m fat and because I’m a black woman I have to work harder.
I know I’m not 100% perfect in what I say, do, feel, and look like. I know I got an extra 125 pounds that isn’t active to 99% of men.
But knowing that it’s still a 1% chance a man will notice me despite my flaws makes me feel less ugly.
I have no plans on staying the same, but knowing that there’s a chance I don’t have to fix everything to get a man is comforting.
First of all, you must cancel and rebuke every ungodly word curse spoken over your life by your parents! Contrary to what THEY might think you have to remind yourself about what GOD has said about you in His WORD! Let God be true and EVERY MAN a liar! We don’t go by what the world says. You are a WIFE! Point blank period! You are a gift to a man God has made for you and you are established and rooted in the love of Christ. Don’t ever let anyone including your parents speak into you what God has never said about you regarding who you are. We honor our parents but they are not the Lord Jesus Christ. Cancel any agreement you made with what they have said about you. You know you have weaknesses, and you know you need to change. That’s a good thing! But only God can help us by His power to be better. He understands your needs and where you fall short that’s why we need Him. So lean on Jesus and not what your parents have to say. And pray for your parents because they obviously have some problems going on within themselves which is why they speak to you that way. Let God deal with the matter of their hearts, forgive them and continue to be blessed.
@@DionneMarie7 thank you. This had me crying after reading the first sentence, reminding me to fight & not let the enemy walk all over me.
I do love my parents, but Jesus is my Lord!
Thank you for encouraging me & reminding me Jesus has the final say.
May God bless you like He did Jabez in 1 Chron 4:9-10.
That you will be honored & your territory enlarged, that The Lord will continue to keep you from harm & free of pain.
Yesterday I just had a discussion with my bf and it happen a bit often but I like to analyze myself even if I feel I asked him why he got mad (when in my mind he was being the negative) because it happen often sometimes I feel that we are not the “right pair” and I want to end but after we talk I noticed that was a mistake in my subconscious that made me think that he was being negative when he was just being logic ( he was mad at me but he made me understand that it’s ok have this issues and that he is with me to help me heal, I was still sad but he hugged me and told me that I can do it ) this feeling was not just emotion it was determination to be better, and I just love him and respect him even more for this, relationship is not easy to maintain is really necessary patience, calm, not act when the emotions are hitting, and have a partner that wanna make you better that see your uniqueness behind your weaknesses. I don’t want anyone else I will marry this Man, and make him see the wonderful Man he is. ❤
That is such a wonderful quality to have in a partner, and he is right it is okay to have these issues! Being able to work through them in a healthy way helps deeper the relationship and create a beautiful bond 💕
I so appreciate your honesty and transparency❤️
I came from a rlly hard relationship wich me and my ex fell into lust, he was emotionaly ansent and I was so insecure about mysef. This showed me how weak I am and make me extremelly self aware of my flaws. Now I feel like, if I want a man of God, I have to be trully a woman of God, but in a unhealthy way, yk? Like I HAVE to be perfect, to be fully spiritual, to be beautifull to deserv any kind of love and its exausting, but your video gave me a little hope and relief that I dont have to be perfect to deserve love, thank you
I’m not even 1 minute into the video🤣🥴I kid you not…. I wrestle with this very thing! And up pops this video! God is so kind🙌🏾❤️🙌🏾
The BBL segment 😂❤! I feel so seen🙏🏾🥹 thank you for this sis
Of course 🤣🫶🏽💕
Let's talk about it 👏🏼
Thank you so much for this video! ❤️🩹
This was a beautiful take! Thank you for sharing this perspective ❤
This was right on time. 🙏🏽
I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing. You better come with those Bible verses!
I always got my receipts !!!! 😂❤️
I've been told this my entire life in one way or another, but I never bought into the idea that you had to be perfect to be in a healthy relationship. I know so many people who were still getting themselves together when they got married, but I hate that it's being used to gaslight Christian singles and make us feel unworthy of God given relationships.
I agree! I’ve seen so many people get together who had many issues and worked it out together with God, having the correct heart posture is more important than having it all together because growth and improvement will be a natural byproduct
If one wait to be fully healed to do someone, trust me you can live 100 years without getting fully healed. Coz once you heal on one thing another comes up. Sometimes you might even think that you have healed completely but once you meet someone you realize you have never healed or that person finds that you have many wounds you didn't heal from while you thought you have healed. So it's better to show your wounds to God and let him do things His own way because God's ways are not your ways, God's plans are different from yours. Sometimes you can say I will wait to heal fully but then God has planned that the partner you will meet will be the one to help you in your journey to heal. Sometimes we are like I need this and this to be done before I get married or before I do this thing, and such mentality makes getting worried for nothing and stop the Will of God in our lives. Three top things that are necessary in a Christian life is trusting Jesus as your Lord and Savior, doing everything for the glory of God and Let the will of God be done in Your life (I would say all the things are summed up in those three)
I didn’t even realise I was thinking this until I saw your video!! Thank you so much Sis for your vulnerability ❤
I love the honesty! Yass testimony!
Oh the Lord is speaking to me on to night
I could hear you talk for hours! So much godly wisdom 😊 thank you for this advice!
I really needed this ! Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏾
Listening to this HEALED a part of me 😭 Thank you for this, Nelly. ❤
Girl!! This is so good! 😭❤️❤️
Soo much clarity and understanding from this video m.
This is the content we need !!! Real honest authentic content❤ love this boo!
Thank you so much for this video. I have met the man for me, but similar vulnerabilities have been getting in the way of being at peace with the timing of the relationship. Your message has changed my outlook about my relationship. Thank you once again. ❤
I needed this message! I’m in tears.❤
Sooo good! And so encouraging! Thank you!
God bless you, sis! Thank you for that ❤
Awesome words of encouragement, your transparency & story is powerful!💕👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
IM CURIOUS HOW MANY HERE WITHHELD FROM SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?
With all due respect, I think you should mind your own biscuit, and leave other women's biscuits.
I only have eyes for you, you are the only one for me such reaffirming words beautiful and kind. Thank You JESUS thank You LORD
Wow, this amazing. God knows I needed to hear this . Perfect timing ❤🙏🏽 thank you sister !
Wow! This was so on time…This was such a great video and it truly helped me. ❤🙏🏿
Yes yes ye yes to all of it. This is so encouraging
6:44 is so spot on
This is so comforting thank You LORD JESUS.
Thank you for sharing, May God bless you.
Thank you for sharing this. My mind is renewed!
Great video! Thank you for sharing ❤
Awwwwww this is so beautiful. God is so wonderful
I was having a similar discussion with my Mom. I have an attitude and not a negative one but I can over exaggerate some conversations or reactions. I told my Mom the same thing, I’m definitely improving but I can’t say I’m fully perfect until I’m in a circumstance that puts me to the test. My Mom did give great advice and I’m working on it.
Grateful to see this
Thank you so much for this reading.
As a single person all I keep hearing is that I need to be perfect in order to meet my person.
I need to be healed,I need to be happy,I need to have everything together.
Thank you so much,I needed to hear your words.🤍✨
Thank you sista🫶🏽 this was good. & I needed to hear this 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽 this waiting season is tough but you’ve encouraged me through a few of your videos
I needed this for réal !! And I Wish my bf would watch this too so he can see that he do not has to be that perfect while we are together… he’s distant right now because he want to “figure things out” by himself and it hurts me that he do not talk to me.. may God guide him. May God bless you for this revelation 🙏🏽🤍
My boyfriend is like how you were but his making progress now, I just give him space and he comes back to talk to me.
All of this was beyond timely.. Keep going off Sis in Jesus Name! 💯💥🙏👏💪
Wow!! I think the same thing. Thank you for helping me break limits.
Beautiful advice! I’m a new subscriber and I love your videos! 😊
Thanks for subbing! Yayy🥰🥰
Thank you for this….❤️ the pressure has been lifted 🙌🏾
Wow.... this was so encouraging sis thank you ❤