Andrew Yang was too good of a candidate for any of us. Rational, innovative, thoughtful, genuine. People like him don’t make it to be the democratic nominee, because they don’t play the dirty games and aren’t power hungry, narcissistic, self interested pricks. Hopefully the fact he even made it to the top 6 in the primaries is a positive sign that things are changing, but we have a long way to go to rid ourselves of the corrupt bullshit that still govern politics at every level. I love and appreciate this guy so much.
@@leonardpearlman4017 maybe when hes like seventy america dont need him anymore, if america still exist anymore, elites will just take their money and move to somewhere else
That’s a problem with politics in this country and it’s irritating af... no moderate minded individual or good hearted souls almost ever makes it, and there is something different from the stuff you heard here to just about anything else you’ll hear in debates. There is something distinct about niceness as a genuine trait and a facade, and sometimes I’ll admit it can be hard to tell the difference. Politicians train their whole lives in some cases to be the best silver-tongued snake in the grass. But again... shame is none of the good ones get anywhere.
"Sure I'm a failure, but at least I'll be a fit failure!" When you're doing so bad in the other aspects of your life, fitness is one of the last things you can cling onto to keep a healthy self-esteem and a healthy mind. Spot on fellas.
yep, its also something that you can control to a large extent yourself if you have enough time and discipline. and it doesnt even require a gym or any other expensive equipment. unlike most other things that are dependent on how much money youve got or someone elses judgement of you.
I would argue that if you have fitness, you are not a failure. You may or may not have money, the relationships you want, or the fulfilling work you want, but you have got something incredibly valuable. Leverage that success to achieve some of those other things. The others are definitely easier when your energy and confidence are up.
The thing is, fitness should be one of the first things all humans cling to and that’s why it’ll always command respect/esteem. Just because someone fails at something, it doesn’t make their entire life a failure. If you’re healthy and fit, you’re still having a successful life in some fashion.
Yang is one of the few Politicians looking after the well being of the future of America’s young men. Most Politicians are looking at our young men and wondering how they can be used for their own profits. It’s Highly unfair and criminal our lack of concern, since young boys are headed for more and more short comings😢
Mari Miller, but if young men like Trump, are they not hopeless? I’m being facetious, it’s society’s duty to educate our people so they can reach their potential. Of course, Andrew Yang is right. But if we don’t listen to him and do what’s right, then we together deserve what’s coming.
richie definitely agree with you there. I have 5 nieces and 1 nephews in their 30’s and they like Trump. The other 2 are not even into politics. Politically they are new, all I can hope for is proof Trump is bad stuff before he destroys their lives🤞😢🤞
A lot of women often say men have it all, but they're thinking about the 20% men that basically get all the spoils. A lot of these women don't even notice/ignore the 80% of men who are failing. There are a lot of lonely men out there struggling.
A woman just saying she wants a man no short than 6 ft in America is 15% of the male population. And if she were to add Income requirement to that list that number could probably a third. so in reality she wants the top 5%.
@@desmondsingh8495 There are so many inequality issues going on in America caused or perpetuated by this top 20% and you're complaining about not being the top choice in dating? either even out the playing field for everyone so wealth isn't as important to most women or date the women who don't care about your status or height. I've seen so many of my male friends complain about this but they want women who are "out of their league" ie women who have way more options so they choose the more attractive or richer guy instead of them.
@@bleach3883 It is not about me not my staying my own lane, when i approach a 5 ft 2 girl who says that i am short, yet i tower over her at 5 8'. But hey bro believe and say what you want.
@@desmondsingh8495 Dating now is literally a numbers game, don't go for girls that have a hard set requirements and eventually you'll find someone who you like that likes you back. Dating is not easy for most people but that's how it's always been. And its generally not a good idea to date anyone, guy or girl that has hard set physical requirements because that tells you what type of person they are. Im not saying that you are, but guys that have a sense of entitlement to dating people because they should "qualify" as tall enough for this person also has worse outcomes too because it makes them stuck instead of moving on and finding someone else. Anyway, I wish you the best.
This is why Andrew's analytical mind, always looking for the root-cause, sets him apart from other politicians. He is the only candidate I know who refers to the 'boy problem' which affects a lot of the issues being raised in society: loss of work, low graduation rates, gun control, etc.
I don't mean to say something controversial or offensive, but the fact that he's a Democrat and speaking up about his concern for the boys seems unusual but is heartening :)
@Langdon Alger I basically said that it is unusual for Democrats to speak up on the topic. If he wasn't a Democrat, then it would just be normal human activity. It's heartening because he's a Democrat. I don't know what the diss is. I didn't say anyone was dumb, so the analogy doesn't match well enough for me to understand what you mean.
@Langdon Alger because people take things the wrong a ton these days, especially in UA-cam comments. You seem to be demonstrating that, unfortunately. I mean what I said in a purely positive way. I'm glad that the boy topic is becoming less of a partisan topic :)
J Snel I don’t know, I think being a kid in the 80s was way better than now in a lot of respects. And when I was in college in the early 90s, I do not recall all the male bashing. I never heard the words “r*pe culture” in college, etc. Granted, I’m female, but I think guys have it harder today. It’s like feminism on cocaine now.
@HMSBlackPrince My mother is a single mother and I am a sperm donor baby. I can definitely relate to the issues that Andrew talks about with boys of single mothers. My extended family, and my time in Boyscouts was intended to fill that "father figure" gap but I never really felt that way until I was old enough not to want a father figure anymore. I would definitely say it affected who I am but I would also say that I don't regret my circumstance. I don't feel like a victim, but I do feel like I am different because of how I think and how I approach things. When people say the atomic family is important, I get that, I can relate to it. I know what I missed out on, but it made me incredibly self reliant.
You know I definitely think that good values come from good ideas and good people. When I think about the struggles my mom faced as a woman in the workplace to support me, I think about my own work ethic. But for a long time, I was nothing but resentful about what other people had that I didn't. I had a scope of the american family, with moms and dads who were even though often separated still existed as a presence in my friends life that I just didn't have. It really did bother me, I really had to get over it to appreciate my mom as a human.
Having a mom and dad household is really a 'Boomer' thing. It's actually part of the "White Culture" that the young people are fighting against. www.newsweek.com/smithsonian-race-guidelines-rational-thinking-hard-work-are-white-values-1518333
@@karljay7473 I don't understand how having two parents at home is part of white culture. Both my parents are African Immigrants, one was born in Europe, and it is a part of our culture to have two parents at home and not having two parents is seen as abnormal. Many cultures across the globe (not necessarily white) value having two parents (mom and dad at home).
I’m about 5 years ahead of the advice Yang gave here. My business failed when I was 19-20. I found an older mentor with a small business and put my heart into his company. I was cocky and didn’t think I had much to learn. Boy was I wrong and I have progressed more in the last 5 years than any other time period in my life. As another fella that had a single mother parent for a good portion of my upbringing, this is fabulous advice.
To all the young men out there, I see you. I hear you. Your struggles are valid. You’re stronger than society will let you believe. Please keep moving forward even if the world has made you feel like the power you may attain is not worthy of praise. I’m sorry we’ve abandoned you or made you believe that your failure comes from weakness while your success comes solely from privilege and not merit. You’re capable and resilient and I believe in you. I’m rooting for you.
Remember 1 thing. Don't get her pregnant. Did I mention another thing? Don't get her pregnant. If she has kids. Run as fast as you can. That piece of ass could never be that good. I've seen to many of my friends get trapped into that. One other thing. They all fart in bed. If you want a great life. Marry a well educated hard working woman. I did.
Shame on men who are older, who saw this coming and did nothing! ( I consider myself part of that shame. ) The younger men needed us to help them and we let them down.
“You’re stronger than society will allow you to believe.” I love that, and I think it is so so true of so many people who feel marginalized or excluded in someway. I know as a person with lifelong disabilities, I often feel this way. By the way, the best advice I would give is, 1). Know what you are capable of, 2). Believe in what you were capable of, 3). And find yourself a mentor or a way to learn the things that will get you where you want to be yourself. And 4). Don’t stop until you feel satisfied.
God I miss Andrew on the trail. I've lost so much hope in humanity the way this election is going.. We need people like this in power. Someone who doesn't want power, but someone who wants to help. Also, I love Chipotle too lol every other day for me :D
@Pandanator That's what I thought about Bernie when he endorsed Hillary! Who'd he endorse this time? Has he passed anything or done anything in the last 3 years? Besides ignore his grandkids? Cause at 10 years old I'd love to see my 78 year old grandpa... But nope he's too busy running for pres and endorsing Joe...
@Pandanator lemme try to break that down. You're not gunning for anyone. But you are gunning for someone. But if you say it your credibility will disappear? So you aren't, bit you are, but if you yourself argue that your not choice actual choice is so laughable that.... whaaaa??? Plz help I'm stronking
Always underdiscussed. We need to focus as a country on changing the system so bringing us all up is encouraged and incentivized as opposed to taking each other down and leaving people behind
Seriously. Our country reveres the military so much, maybe we should adopt their ethos of no man left behind. It boggles my mind how so many people don't care for the people at the bottom, and are perfectly content to let people go without and fend for themselves. Also, we Americans love sports so much right, and a team is only as strong as its weakest player. Why don't we help the weakest players become stronger?
Giving people a hand up, more community based socializing, across races, more ethics based education on treating people with respect and care, less competition (focus on winning) more simply on team building, more education with males on our masculinity and controlling it (less violent)
@@trailrunnah8886 As Americans we have a huge superiority complex. We sell two things. Our military and our myth. The films and media we export have taught everyone globally that we are leaders and that losers get what they deserve but that should absolutely be the furthest thing from the truth. For too long, we've been a social experiment hellbent on constant reaping but time will show that this is just too unsustainable. When people are suffering like they are now and we don't tend to their needs simply because "there's no profit in that," we may one day feel their wrath. The fundamental thing we need to uproot is the idea that there is nothing to gain from helping others because if everyone's situation gets improved then we all get stronger. So FUCK the idea of whatever the media is painting to divide us. Red, blue, black, white. It's ultimately those who created this system that want us to point a gun at each other that are truly bringing about the downfall of this country. We need to see this or we will crash together
@@laserbeamlightning well said! I was talking to an acquaintance last month, he recently returned from living in Australia a few years for school. He was talking about a medication that he needed, and how it was going to cost him about $600 a month here. I said just out of curiosity, what would it have cost you if you were still in Australia? Zero, he said. Then we both went on a rant about the US healthcare system. And we noted that basically the only thing the US does well is build aircraft carriers (etc,). In smaller cases, people seem to be willing to help others up. When it comes to more general terms, or people they don't know, they just have no sympathy. The other day I got a message from a friend of mine that's super conservative, anti medicare-for-all, and Trump's biggest fan. The message she sent me was a link to a GoFundMe account for a friend of the family having medical problems. I was like okay, now that it's somebody YOU know, you worried about people's Medical care. Isn't that rich. As for your last point, yesterday I watched a video by one of these survivalist/prepper guys. It was titled is a Civil War coming, and out of morbid curiosity I watched it to see what kind of insanity he was spreading. Much to my surprise, he was actually pretty measured about the whole thing. He said if you are Republican, the Democrats are not your enemy. Going to fight with protesters is not going to solve any problems. Said if you're a Democrat, Republicans are not your enemy. He said we're all Americans, We're All in This Together. The real enemy, the real force that is trying to divide us, is at the top. ( of course then the video ended with him schilling some flashlight on Amazon, so I take everything with a grain of salt. I think that's why it came up in my feed in the first place, I was researching camping gear)
@@trailrunnah8886 The longer we go on like this, the easier it is hopefully people will be able to see the light: that those up top divide us to conquer and manipulate us. Shut off your mainstream news and look out for each other. Most people in this country are still good. I do believe it. We all want a future for our children. How we attain that is the battle we must face.
I think young men should pull themselves up by their boot straps. I say that as a man in my 20s. I dropped out of college bc that shit is dumb and builds huge debt with a shit ROI. I started my own business, I went from being brought up in a middle class/blue collar home to being in the top 1% of earners in my age group. Dumbasses follow the herd, think for yourselves. And to top it off: I'm an endurance athlete. 200mi cycling in a day, I run more than a marathon through the mountains regularly. The fuck is wrong with these weak punks that complain n complain n complain and DO NOTHING to change their circumstances
I think a large part of the problem is how taboo it has become to discuss difficulties of being male because we are seen as privileged by all other groups. So to say otherwise risks your reputation and being outcast. As a result, there's not really any support or guidance that justifies or validates your hardships; if anything, your hardships are invalidated and minimized.
Traditional masculinity is a soul crusher. But men who reject it are ridiculed as "p*ssies". Young men need to stop being afraid of challenging old definitions of masculinity that no longer serve them.
@@pennyadrian7774 I don't know about this. I grew up in the south where I was raised on traditional masculinity. I think the main problems in rejecting this macho masculine tradition come from our instinctual and very primal mating preferences in that women implicitly devalue men who act in ways that portray weakness, which, like it or not, is what non-traditional pseudo-masculinity conveys to females' primal subconscious (weakness that is). And nobody wants to be lower on the mating hierarchy, so we are faced with a very biological problem in nature that we have to evolve out of I suppose.
@@pennyadrian7774 You're certainly right that it can be, but in all honesty...in my experience, and I really don't think I'm alone...is that it comes at least as much from the other end of the spectrum. Speaking from experience, feminism does not offer an emotional safe haven for men. I'm not anti-feminist, and I absolutely value equality, but when it comes to feeling de-valued and invalidated, I've heard far less "man up" than I have "spare me your man tears."
This is huge. I am grateful that these discussions are being had by Yang ☯️ It seems like men are being forgotten and uncared for. My peers are not accountable for the bad behavior of people who look like them.
Basically it's the assumption that we don't NEED help. A lot of the progress in gender discussion has done as much to reinforce men's old gender roles. We need to be able to discuss this so that we can better move forward together.
Women are are happy with an average life (get good grades, get decent job, have kid etc.). Ambitious Males have less interest in mediocrity, they want to be Superior to average males by some criteria. This creates a similar reasoning to high stakes gambling, you will probably lose and be below average but if you win you will win big and be above average. Thats why males are falling below the average (which is being filled by women) yet the most successful people in society are generally male.
@@andreschu5670 The problem isn't "Men being forgotten and uncared for" or "Assumptions that men don't need help". The problem is that middle income jobs don't come paired with respect or superiority in society. Jobs solve the problem of financial well being but not the problem of social respect and self esteem. So not only is it harder to get middle income jobs, even when you have one you don't move up any social dominance hierarchy (nobody respects you more). You are just some guy who landed a decent job. The people with respect are the athletes, actors, C.E.O.'s and public figures because their lives aren't predictable the way the 9-5 lives are. This creates a lose/lose perspective in the male mind specifically and they say why bother striving for the middle class at all.
@Preet Dhami he saw the writing on the wall -- all indicative polls were posting terrible numbers for him. Also, do not pretend that any of the morons in the Democrat running at the time actually knew anything (let alone prioritized) about universal income and how to actually fund it
Two things: 1 - Young men are not "failing," they are opting out. They are not even trying. And if they are failing, what exactly are they failing at? Failing to make excess income so that they can support other people? 2 - The reason young men are opting out, is that there is no more reward for "succeeding." Society used to place value on the sacrifices men made to produce income in excess of their own basic needs. This is no longer the case. The scary part, is that society as a whole still NEEDS men to produce excess income, which is why this is even a topic of discussion anywhere.
No, I am failing. I want progress, assets, land to build a future on, to improve and help the next generation to improve. But like many others I feel incapable in my current position or because of myself. I feel behind, I have felt so behind for as long as I can remember. Trying to crawl my way out of the Mathew effect from the beginning.
@@definitelynotcoleyou aren't failing, nor are you incapable. Undoubtedly you did not yet reach certain achievements, yet you may achieve in the future. We live in a world where inconsiderate individuals feel the need to push their standards on other peoples lives, @Brad1156 is a perfect example. Quite frankly I find it incredibly courageous of you to talk about this in such a way. Andrew Yang is giving amazing advice, I hope you are able to find solace in them.
Brad1156 part of the reason men feel like they are failing is because they lack support networks . It tears at many mens’ mental health when other men say things like “don’t cry like a little girl”... meanwhile boys should be allowed to cry. What a derogatory statement that helps no one. Additionally, if you knew what the Mathew Effect is, then you would understand why the “just pull yourself up by the bootstraps and stop crying” argument is ridiculous.
mrasap I couldn’t agree more. Your comment was much more positive than mine, so I am glad someone said it! @CodyChoules the ones who succeed in the end are the ones who keep going! Build a support network, get involved with other people’s projects, and keep going!
Brad1156 I’m a double major in Neuroscience and Data Science with minors in chemistry and math. I’m a bronze, silver, and gold award winner with validation from Congress. I am not weak, and I still agree with @CodyChoules. Being weak minded has nothing to do with the distribution of wealth in the country. The middle class is shrinking and the only people who can save it are the ones who are wealthy/ultra wealthy (aka the ones who hold the majority of power). Those who cannot recognize this and blame the lower level income civilians for this are clearly showing “weak-minded” behavior. To be strong-minded is to support each other at this time rather than pointing fingers and calling each other lazy.
I appreciate your YANG Speaks show because it's informative and made me think of the world in a different way. I also think your ideas give me a educated insight of how the state of the world is in and which direction we are headed towards. I feel like college would never teach these life lessons that will stay with you for the rest of your life. I appreciate you Yang and loving these podcasts.
26 year old male here, and I definitely relate to all this uncertainty stifling my career outlook and commitments (I also have many friends in the same situation). I try to stay in shape physically, meditate, and read as much as I can. I can feel the positive impact that these habits are having on my life. Hopefully I can put it all to good use somewhere/sometime in the future!
"why are men failing in america" is such a broad question. If their talking about degree turnouts well they both know school debt is outrageous. If their talking about single parents, their were more single parents in the late 80s and 90 and the data shows that. When it comes to employment, for sure many young men are aware now that taking a career or job that's less than 6 figures a year will lead towards working until retirement, especially if u have kids. Social media and the bias-cancel culture is obvious harmful evidence. Good role models if you don't have any is a factor. That's such a loaded question, who knows. I was raised by a single mother, but I've had great friends and amazing male/female role models so I think Im aight because of that. I believe Americans live in a great nation now that offers many liberties and freedoms more than ever, I'm grateful to be an American, but the question sure is tough to nail at the core.
The worst part about failing as a young man is that nobody wants to hear it and that hurt the most. The majority do not care nor want to give the time. It's a rough road but I would say you need to learn about/recognize the value of yourself and where it fits in the world (friends, a job, relations with family, neighborhood)
I don't get how fragile today's younger people are. Here's a news bulletin; name 1 thing in life that's fair(hint, you can't). To be an adult is to take responsibility for your life, become self-sufficient. If you have over a handful of people that truly care about you that's more than most people. Maybe what l am saying sounds harsh but it's true. Once you realize that if you improve your own life nobody can stop your achievements than you will acquire empowerment and success willow follow. I think it is healthy to learn about the inequities of history and those that still remain but not to become convinced your life is hopeless and you can't become successful. It's the opposite; throughout history some of the most suppressed individuals have empowered themselves. Acquiring a victim mentality only strips yourself from rising above life's inequities.
I participated in the MRA movement for a little while and the two biggest things I realised about trying to raise awareness for these issues is that, men don't care about men as a group and women care even less.
Be careful, Justin. These Jordan Peterson fanboys are not your friends. And there is a HUGE difference between what young Black men are facing and what young white men are facing. There is a war on young Black men that is largely conducted by white men of all age groups.
This conversation couldnt have come at a better time. It makes me feel far less alone and like I'm the only one who deals with these problems. Love real conversations without a motive being pushed
i failed because i went to college. i failed because i did what i thought i was supposed to do. it was just automatic. i failed because instead of being taught how to narrow my career path, i was gently encouraged to do so while they plunged me into debt teaching me things i didn't need to know. we have a problem in the education system. it sends people into unreasonable amounts of debt, and doesn't try very hard to actually get people into the job market. they just teach, and let you go. my advice. Skip college after graduating high school. figure out a career path. a filler job that you can take while you figure out what you really want to do with your life. then, go to a career focused vocational school with a program designed specifically to get you into that job. after you have money in the bank, and reliable income, THEN you can look at college. do this, unless you already have a plan for your career and truly think you can handle the debt. that's what i would tell my past self.
@Rin This is not something I would generally suggest as a default response, though it may work for some fields. Part of the reason is that a number of critical careers--most notably in the hard sciences--are fairly time-sensitive, and taking a couple years off in the trajectory will seriously dampen your chances. There is another reason too. I say this as someone who, like you, did not really know what I should do in my late teens/early 20s--but this fact is in and of itself problematic and borderline inexcusable. I should also point out that I very, very rarely saw this problem in foreign students. And now? Most of my truly exceptional coworkers are foreign. We've had job applications where there are several dozen applicants, half of which are nominally qualified, and none of which are American. It's not that the pay is too low; my understanding is that similar phenomena are seen even in Industry, so it's not like people are just opting for larger paychecks. My personal suspicion is that something is fundamentally broken with early US education, and that many of the college issues we have are essentially derived from that. Fixing the educational system is obviously not practical for the individual, but it may be worth at least trying to figure out what's broken. One could then find out how to best supplement the existing educational system so our young folk are better prepared to take advantage of the opportunities in higher ed (and better prepared to avoid its traps).
Depending on what you want to do, this could be good advice. Also, in a lot of places high school kids can take college classes at local community colleges for free or almost free. If you're poor and academically inclined, this is 100% the way to go. With about two years of college credits and good grades, you can transfer to a pretty good school and are more likely to get scholarships. (I WISH they had this option when I was young.) One girl got two years free at Harvard like that. Good luck everyone! :)
@@derekholman4484 I think you've got some good insight there. I just wish our teachers were more focused on preparing us for a career and guiding us down the proper path to it, rather than just trying to teach us what they were taught and hoping that somehow that helps us. It's like the intention to help is there, but the focus is all wrong.. and If I could, I wouldn't even know where to begin to fix it. Maybe require more job focused stuff in high school? Have areas in early education where we explore different careers to help us choose a path? Have classes dedicated to familiarizing students with the local job finding resources and the various social safety nets the government offers? .. or.. maybe have high schools partner with employers to help students get an idea of what their job could be like? Idk. It feels like one of those things everyone is going to fight over how to fix so much that Congress will just throw money at it and pretend that will fix it.
@@Rin-qj7zt I think it really boils down to what role one thinks the school should have, and how it should interface with the role of parents. This is of course a highly complex issue, given that some kids are going to be from stable families, some from broken families, etc. etc. If one thinks that the purpose of schools is to provide technical knowledge that parents do not have, then it's a pretty simple matter of pushing the math and science curriculum up a few years (I did pretty well in both in High School, but I was still 2-3 years behind my international counterparts by University). However, it seems to me that this is not the current framework and that, in many respects, schools are trying to take over some of the roles traditionally taken on by parents. A case can definitely be made here for this, especially given the increasing number of households in which both parents work long hours, broken households, etc. Teaching of morality comes to mind. Providing a "safe, nurturing environment" is another. This is a minefield of epic proportions, though, and the chief (but certainly not only) danger is that a number of problematic, modern conceptions of parenting are being reflected in the school environment. What if the "best" role of parents isn't to provide a safe, nurturing environment? What if the role of parents should be to, in the paraphrased words of others, provide a filter through which children are gradually exposed to the world in manageable doses? How would one institutionalize this without turning it into propaganda? Given how this does need to be tailored to the child, how does one scale a 1:1 parent-child dynamic to a 20:1 school dynamic? It's a mess, but I think you're right that one tool in the toolkit does need to be early and semi-regular exposure to the workplace--or more broadly, that practical applications need to be worked in. How exactly this would work is less clear--maybe something modeled after the old ride-alongs with police. Navigating social security/benefits programs could be an excellent section in a US history/government class. I would also argue that children desperately need to learn, early, how to look at situations through multiple lenses so they can try to form their own thoughts.
I was born into a similar situation as Scott. I’m surprised he attributes his success to “the warm hand of government.” I attribute my success to a strong single mother. She didn’t graduate high school until her 40s and raised 3 kids by herself. She said for her, Welfare wasn’t an option. She was capable of providing for herself and her family. This isn’t to demonize those in need, but that was her choice. She now has 3 very successful children. We stand on her shoulders.
@Shawn Hennessy You must be confused. I agree with you, the vast majority of my success is 'big mama's" help. The point was she pulled herself out of poverty and it has had a generational impact. You clearly don't understand irony.
I'd rather be raised by a single mom, than having my dad in the picture when I was a kid. He was usually either working or at the golf course drinking with his buddies 95% of everyday so I would hardly ever see him. But when he was home it was all mental and sometimes physical abuse, if not either of those it was just simply neglect from him. It took many years after I left home to get over the abuse and teach myself to be a man. I wish the best of luck to anyone growing up in a less than decent family. You can create your own life when you leave, just make sure you take care of whatever is still bothering you from your childhood, don't ignore it.
Just as you said, I think a major issue is that a lot of people don't take care of their past. Go see a counselor, a psychiatrist, or even just get in touch with the people in the past and deal with it, because it's nearly impossible to move forward if you don't figure out what's wrong in that past.
I was SO much waiting to see a conversation with Yang and Scott. I was so certain they would get along well and have a killer conversation! So excited to see this clip show up in my feed!!! 🔥🔥
What is interesting as a single mother, is that men criticize instead of just stepping in to help. The same conservatives who are Pro Life also are against giving resources to those women who kept the child.
I'm 41 now. Born in 79. I grew up in a household that was domestically violent. I was also domestically violent. By the time I was 15 I was homeless (1994). I remained homeless until 1999. I was a high-school dropout. By 22 I had married and had two children and gone to work in the oil industry. By 28 I had bought a home, scored a job that paid 220k/year. Then 2008 - The Economic Recession. I lost the job, then the home, then the marriage. In 2009 I joined the Infantry with nothing else to turn to, mostly to avoid being homeless again. I spent 8 years in the military. I used the G.I. Bill to go to college. After getting out of the military I thought I had a job and a place to live lined up. It all fell through. I was again homeless for a short period of time. I have earned two degrees as of this year. I've again remarried, bought a house, and have a job that only pays 60k/year. If it goes south again, I'm just going to park a fucking round in the brain pan. Don't give me this shit about how young men are failing. Don't talk about how "we" aren't doing it right. Come walk a mile in my shoes. There is more to being a man than fucking, having a family, and checking all the boxes, and I'm sick of my existence being framed around those topics.
If it comes to brain pan time, spend a month in my place in Italy. No rent, sun, coffee, workshop and motorcycle. I am definitely not doing it right, and happier for it.
@@josephabraham4058 Also please don't. You are far more valuable than to be defined by those standards- which one hundred percent- there's more to life than that. Always a way to keep moving forward; even with a grimace at life's hardships.
You made 200k in a year and went broke a year later? That's some dumb shit. I respect the hustle but having to start over because of a recession is on you.
Thanks for the advice. Every time I've become resentful I've seen my life slowly come undone, I think later today I will make a list of what I am grateful for.
This is another reason I love Andrew. His candidacy, and now his advocacy, recognized that the problems in this country are more then just material. With this, his plan to give couple marriage counseling vouchers, and his discussions on mental health and are kids, he was one of the few candidates to get it goes deeper then the material problems. Love it
Great thoughts - notice how he puts the onus on the guy to take actions that will benefit his life. That’s something that is lost now, people don’t take responsibility and always blaming others
Notice how he also talks often about UBI and trade schools over college. A whole lot of men are SOL if economic trends continue, motivation and bootstraps aside.
Thank you for mentioning this. Our generation of men is constantly being put down and have no hope for a future. I worry alot about how far you can push men before you get a movement of pissed off men with nothing to lose.
Right? Sometimes life seems impossible. Housing is ridiculously expensive, education is too, and jobs pay crap and hardly give full time hours (at least where I live.) Sometimes I feel like there are no options and no matter what I do I can't break even, let alone get ahead.
@@tavferry3301 I'm 100% in the exact same boat. This system seems designed to keep up spinning on the hamster wheel for our entire life. Every attempt to do something new and escape the rat race has been a wasted effort in the end. And now with 2020, everything feels completely up in the air.
I have a message to any young men who are watching this - I was in your place just 15 years ago. My advice is don't take to heart what people like Scott and Yang say to much. You're being defined as "failing" because you don't want to go into $100,000 plus of debt for an education that likely won't qualify you to work at Starbucks or McDonalds. The reason women do better is affirmative action, diversity and inclusion is a multi billion dollar industry which makes up an awful lot of jobs for female college grads. These women are often drowning in debt. It's not a good way to live - believe me. You guys are fortunate you see you're on UA-cam right now. Every day on UA-cam or stack exchange or the internet in general is a day at university now. You can learn a lot of skills for free. There are many educational qualifications which you can do for a lot cheaper than 4 years of university. Seriously if you're 18 and working in McDonalds you are further ahead in life than you would be if you go to college because chances are you will leave university only to end up working in McDonalds and you're going to be really fucked because you're 22. You lost 4 years of wages and now you're negative $100,000 instead of being +$10 every hour you work at McDonalds. How are you going to start a buisness if you're $100,000 in debt? How are you going to enjoy life if your boss has you by the balls even if you do get a job in the corporate world? Travelling? Ha. Enjoying playing computer games at the weekend. No way. Overtime at weekends is mandatory while the boss goes to the lake and plays with his speedboat on the basis of your hard work. FUCK CORPORATE AMERICA. Let women have it. You don't need it. What you should think about is maybe down sizing your life a little! Do you need to go $70,000 into debt for a new truck when you could get a 1996 Toyota Camry for cash and it would last you for many years and cost you next to nothing? That car is also a thousand times better made than what Ford or Government Motors is making these days. Maybe learn to do your own servicing and repairs instead of paying someone. Do you need a $300,000 McMansion? NO. You can live on a small plot of land in a few hundred square feet like the fucking king you are and have everything you want. Like what do you really need? You can build that yourself do and you can learn the skills you need for free online. Don't believe in the phony bullshit boomers are trying to sell you. Being a man isn't about working yourself into an early grave in the corporate world because you're drowning in debt. If there is a privilege men have its that we're self sufficient and are very easy to please. Women? They need designer clothes, handbags, shoes, Mercedes SUV, a nose job a McMansion, picket fence, Instagram selfies at the club and exotic holiday resorts and a lot of that other shit. You don't! The game is rigged. So don't play. Also no one is coming to save you. Every election is the most important one in history. It isn't. That's more shit they are trying to sell you. Don't let anyone tell you how to be a man because often if they're attacking your masculinity its because they want to sell you something. Focus on what you can control. Don't take any notice of what you can't. If voting changed anything they wouldn't let you do it.
@@JKTProductionzIncNCo YES. Education is a life long process - not some product packaged up and sold to you for $100,000 in debt. Honestly my experience of education was so demoralising that it very nearly did kill my intellectual curiosity. It was only later in adulthood that it returned. Men really have to stick together.
I'm gonna try to come at you from a very pragmatic POV cause I think that's what you're going for here, I mean you're very wrong about women having it easier but I don't wanna focus on that right now. Here's what I'll ask ya, do you think you can work at McDonalds till you're 65 and then have enough to live on after that? Will you even make it to 65? If your answer is yes to any of those questions, would you consider your life fully lived even if it goes that way? If your answer is yes then there's nothing I can say that'll make any difference. If your answer is NO then we can start talking. First of all, you shouldn't have to slave away at McDonalds or for any corporation to be able to just barely survive, we're living in the most technologically advanced world any human has ever lived in, if you live in America then you're living in the richest country in the world so why the fuck are so many people barely surviving, why the fuck are so many people so desperate that if they stopped working for one month, they'd risk losing their shelter, their health and maybe even their lives. Clearly something is wrong with the world, very few men at the top are enjoying the benefits of hundreds of years of technological innovation, innovation that was built on the backs of every human to ever exist. Nothing just comes out of thin air, everything is built on the base of work that came before it and we're at a point as a species where we're producing enough food to feed the entire world easily but still millions of people are hungry. So we need to change the world, can we change it if we just accept the bare minimum, work at McDonalds, and then die after living an entire life on the edge between living and dying? Who's benefitting from you working at McDonalds and accepting minimum wage that isn't enough to live on? Where's all the benefits of your labor going? Who are you serving? not yourself so someone else must be reaping the benefits. We all know who the people enjoying the benefits of our labor are, so how do we stop them? they've bought most our politicians and institutions, they control our lives without us having a say. Can we fight them if we're divided? Can we fight them if everyone just decides to do enough to survive and not give a shit about what happens to the person living next door? Women are half the population, are you gonna overturn the world without their help? Women are not your problem dude, they're suffering just as much or more than you are, the working class outnumber the ruling class and it's time to make that numeric advantage count. Wow that was a long comment, hope I managed to redirect your anger even a little bit cause that anger is valid and you need to point it at the people causing your pain, not the people you see everyday because they're hurting just like you are.
Men aren't failing, we're adapting to a society that increasingly favors women. Our economy is built around services we provide and things we find interesting. We'll always build systems that sustain us long enough to keep doing whatever it is that we want. The next evolution of our society is the digital landscape where anything is possible but under conditions we can control allowing for adventure and novelty. This reality is currently being developed overwhelmingly by men. Everyone that purchases a console or expensive gaming rig, learns to code, makes games. etc is building this landscape and when its done, everyone is going to want in.
This is amazing that this conversation is being had. I do feel like emotional intelligence and self-awareness and self-care needs to be better taught to males specifically. This might be why, as Yang said, males are more exposed to single parent households or are very affected by a "lack of a path forward"
It’s great these guys are talking about this. I’m 55, so I was fortunate, but here in the now, I don’t think it’s the same for young men. They’re treated like they’re non-existent or don’t matter on 2022…….
I'm a 43 year old man with a high school diploma. I have a passion for the automotive industry and would like to pursue a position working on cars. Where does a guy like me go? College is not a viable option when the field is so low paying. Any ideas?
I’ve never felt so understood. As a young man whose tried to start multiple businesses in my twenties and failed. I know what he’s talking about when your confidence is shot and you’re just miserable and feeling like a failure. #yanggang
"Apparently boys are more vulnerable to lack of parental time than girls" I read a paper about this recently. Maybe I can pull it up. But basically they found that the corpus callosum (which connects the two hemispheres) is about 25% smaller in boys and was significantly more vulnerable to further damage due to physical and emotional trauma. I think one of the hypotheses they put forward was that it is smaller and more vulnerable because becoming a boy is inherently a gender transition. So girls' brains got to have time to develop in a fixed environment, while boys' brains have to transition and thus are behind in early development. This isn't a "boys are stoopid" statement to say they have matured less. Rather, it is an extra burden that needs to be taken into consideration. When we coddle the girl but demand the boy be independent right away, what we essentially do is double down on the damage to their corpus callosum amongst other issues. This causes a lot of problems later in life, such as being avoidant and isolating like myself, to being unable to express or process emotions effectively. Basically what they concluded is that, if anyone needed the extra coddling, it would be the boys, to help them feel healthy attachments and better develop empathy.
Now, I will say that there's a difference between saying "get over it" and "don't worry, you're fine". WIth "Get over it" you are telling them their feelings don't matter. But what my sister does for her kids, is that when they get hurt, they will look at her, and she will be like "You're fine!" and maybe kisses the part they hurt, it helps them freak out a lot less. It makes me wonder if we are doing our girls a disservice if we overplay our coddling for things like injuries and fear. Teach girls that there isn't so much to be afraid of, and we get more women like the Squad.
I witnessed this happen to my friend. His only sibling, a sister, got all the attention from their parents going to ice skating contests and stuff while he was left at home with nothing but a computer. Now his parents say he is so obsessed with his computer and failing school and wonder why that happened.
@@user-qu5js9vw9o I've seen that argument before, but the studies regarding girls maturing earlier than boys were primarily physiological and neurological rather than psychological. Though I don't doubt there are ways in which girls are given extra responsibility. It's hard to tell from my own experience as my sisters were both older than me. It's hard to tell if the extra responsibility was because they were girls or because they were older. And then it also depends on what you mean by coddling. We do still largely treat young girls as more "frail", "pure", and "cuddly" in this regard. Keeping in mind of course that there is tons of variance and the difference is less and less as we progress.
What I've observed is that people tend to "raise" their girls, and are more hands off with their boys. What I keep telling boy-moms is that--sorry to use this word--but boys are more fragile than girls! Women go through crazy stuff and seem to land on their feet for the most part (like cats). For men, it seems like once they lose their way, it's a lot harder for them to get back on their feet. Boys need to be raised as much as girls AND parents of both genders need to let their kids have independence whenever possible so they can build confidence. If women lack confidence, they'll probably get along ok because people don't expect much from women but if a man lacks confidence, it can really send the trajectory of his life in a bit of a tragic way because of how others will treat him. :/
Best advice a successful man gave to me - Always strive to improve - Never open up to women, dont let your guard down - Keep your head down, but expectations high Iv followed these for years and my life really has improved very much.
Nomasti The African Warlord It is hard, but it’s realistic. As young men grow up and meet women. They will learn this the hard way. Learn to deal with your own problems and fix them.
@@sharky2606 So in other words, you are more willing to follow someone you think has authority rather than rely upon reason and evidence. The evidence is very clear that children raised by single mothers are far more likely to be in poverty, run afoul of the law, and end up in broken marriages themselves. Our inner cities are living laboratories and the results are obvious to anyone that can read and observe. But I know; it's easier to just follow someone you think knows something, without having to engage your own brain.
@@mikebetts2046 What evidence? What are you supporting your facts with? How is Scott Galloway an Authorative figure? Yea, I'm gonna ignore someone who's claiming facts without presenting an ounce of evidence to support those "facts" and follow someone who has CREDIBILITY while advocating for policies that go directly against his best interests.
@@sharky2606 That is why I said "... anyone that can read and observe". Apparently you are incapable of doing a simple search or reading what is there. 63% of all youth suicides, 70% of all teen pregnancies, 71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers, 80% of all prison inmates, and 90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes. Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007 Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994) Children brought up in single mother homes are: 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape, 20 times more likely to end up in prison, 32 times more likely to run away from home. Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002 Another article I found after looking an extra minute. pdfs.semanticscholar.org/0e3d/640709c889472858054c8fe3df01cca051d8.pdf Anyone that is interested in seeing the statistics could spend just one minute on the internet and find plenty of evidence.
It is! I'm a woman but I feel the same pressures. It's just a result of living in a bad economy IMHO. It's too hard to survive on the meager wage of a blue collar job and it's hard to find capital to start your own business. There's not much room to move anywhere career-wise.
Isn't "floundering" a better term/discussion than "failing"? I feel like the term "failing" implies the label "failure" is applied permanently. Mr. Yang's advice is great but I would not agree with following one person, but learning to go with the flow and be grateful.
Young people were always marginalized, because the old had more time to get ahead. It's a natural process. At what point of history did the young have more money than the old ? The old slowly fade away and spend away, till the young take their place as middle aged people.
@Judd Yes, that is basically the counter to the argument that raising minimum wage harms the economy. It used to be much higher if you adjust for inflation. Also, more people having disposable income goes right back into the economy, helps plenty of businesses that way.
@@libertyprime9307 Exactly. The world my 22yo daughter lives in has far less chance for her to make economic advancement, get health care coverage, afford college, get a job that can pay the rent comfortably without having to have four roommates, and more. Most jobs were ones people would stay at for many years. I needed grants/loans and a PT job to afford college, but I was able to get my four-year degree. My daughter has great grades, but sees no affordable path beyond a two-year degree. None of the jobs she's likely to get at this stage offer health coverage. Most jobs are not long-term, even many of the computer jobs (welcome to the gig economy). Whereas I was just barely able to afford a crappy apartment on my own when I first moved out, she isn't looking at moving out without having at least two roommates. She lives with us, just so she can stay on our health coverage. Young people today definitely do have things a lot tougher than when I was the same age.
The guys who have houses today, that I know, have two, three reenlistments in the military. They were " C+ " GPAs in High School & did sports. Living in " fly over states, " "Hazard pay", taking academic/leadership classes, avoiding the " divorce poison " we're the keys to homeownership.
Andrew, I hope you are energizing our Democratic Party like you are here and on many other platforms. I hope you will have a permanent position in our new administration after the November win! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and sharp intellect on various subjects and challenges.
Forex and crypto stock made me rich in a young age am not saying it easy to do but thats why am here to help you guys and give you true advice from my heart,
Adequate orientation or knowledge about bitcoin trade or any other crypto currency is a key to a profitable and a successful investment. I can unequivocally say that forex and crypto trading is one of the most profitable and lucrative business for every investors with the right expert.
@@aurthurrhodes8827 that's true, most people today have been having a lot of failures in forex and crypto sector because of poor orientation and lack of experience
I wish I was a billionaire. I would have funded his run for presidency alone if I had to - he has a very logical approach to thinking about things that we need today.
I don't believe in the "warm hand of government", whatever that means. I believe in the duty of government to create an environment where individuals can thrive and create value.
It starts with hot asphalt. Then superhot fission cores. Gov is the weak link. Opportunity is the key. Has nothing to do with lazy work ethic. Nobody wants to be a slave to a sleazy capitalist who already found his/opportunities.
Andrew Yang was too good of a candidate for any of us. Rational, innovative, thoughtful, genuine. People like him don’t make it to be the democratic nominee, because they don’t play the dirty games and aren’t power hungry, narcissistic, self interested pricks. Hopefully the fact he even made it to the top 6 in the primaries is a positive sign that things are changing, but we have a long way to go to rid ourselves of the corrupt bullshit that still govern politics at every level. I love and appreciate this guy so much.
You've struck at a much bigger problem in politics in general.
thats the lesson, being right and just dont make you rule, being ruthless does
Maybe when Yang is like seventy America will finally be ready for him!
@@leonardpearlman4017 maybe when hes like seventy america dont need him anymore, if america still exist anymore, elites will just take their money and move to somewhere else
That’s a problem with politics in this country and it’s irritating af... no moderate minded individual or good hearted souls almost ever makes it, and there is something different from the stuff you heard here to just about anything else you’ll hear in debates. There is something distinct about niceness as a genuine trait and a facade, and sometimes I’ll admit it can be hard to tell the difference. Politicians train their whole lives in some cases to be the best silver-tongued snake in the grass. But again... shame is none of the good ones get anywhere.
"Sure I'm a failure, but at least I'll be a fit failure!"
When you're doing so bad in the other aspects of your life, fitness is one of the last things you can cling onto to keep a healthy self-esteem and a healthy mind. Spot on fellas.
yep, its also something that you can control to a large extent yourself if you have enough time and discipline. and it doesnt even require a gym or any other expensive equipment. unlike most other things that are dependent on how much money youve got or someone elses judgement of you.
we're getting as many marathons in lets get it boys
I would argue that if you have fitness, you are not a failure. You may or may not have money, the relationships you want, or the fulfilling work you want, but you have got something incredibly valuable. Leverage that success to achieve some of those other things. The others are definitely easier when your energy and confidence are up.
The thing is, fitness should be one of the first things all humans cling to and that’s why it’ll always command respect/esteem. Just because someone fails at something, it doesn’t make their entire life a failure. If you’re healthy and fit, you’re still having a successful life in some fashion.
Health is out greatest wealth!
Yang is one of the few Politicians looking after the well being of the future of America’s young men. Most Politicians are looking at our young men and wondering how they can be used for their own profits. It’s Highly unfair and criminal our lack of concern, since young boys are headed for more and more short comings😢
Too bad that the majority of voters are old and white. They're only care about medicare and race.
Agreed!
Mari Miller, but if young men like Trump, are they not hopeless?
I’m being facetious, it’s society’s duty to educate our people so they can reach their potential. Of course, Andrew Yang is right. But if we don’t listen to him and do what’s right, then we together deserve what’s coming.
richie definitely agree with you there. I have 5 nieces and 1 nephews in their 30’s and they like Trump. The other 2 are not even into politics. Politically they are new, all I can hope for is proof Trump is bad stuff before he destroys their lives🤞😢🤞
Hồ Chí Minh this is why I love Covid19 guess who it’s killing. These people refuse to wear a mask good let em get sick and die.
Jesus this man should have been our next president
Yep.
Totally true. The World will be so much better if we have more people like Andrew Yang and work together with him.
Jesus would be really nice, but I prefer Yang.
Even this sentence is an enormous understatement.
Too bad the only people that vote are over 50
A lot of women often say men have it all, but they're thinking about the 20% men that basically get all the spoils. A lot of these women don't even notice/ignore the 80% of men who are failing. There are a lot of lonely men out there struggling.
"The same men who are oppressing you are oppressing EVERYBODY!" I sometimes shout. Complain with me!
A woman just saying she wants a man no short than 6 ft in America is 15% of the male population. And if she were to add Income requirement to that list that number could probably a third. so in reality she wants the top 5%.
@@desmondsingh8495 There are so many inequality issues going on in America caused or perpetuated by this top 20% and you're complaining about not being the top choice in dating? either even out the playing field for everyone so wealth isn't as important to most women or date the women who don't care about your status or height. I've seen so many of my male friends complain about this but they want women who are "out of their league" ie women who have way more options so they choose the more attractive or richer guy instead of them.
@@bleach3883 It is not about me not my staying my own lane, when i approach a 5 ft 2 girl who says that i am short, yet i tower over her at 5 8'. But hey bro believe and say what you want.
@@desmondsingh8495 Dating now is literally a numbers game, don't go for girls that have a hard set requirements and eventually you'll find someone who you like that likes you back. Dating is not easy for most people but that's how it's always been. And its generally not a good idea to date anyone, guy or girl that has hard set physical requirements because that tells you what type of person they are. Im not saying that you are, but guys that have a sense of entitlement to dating people because they should "qualify" as tall enough for this person also has worse outcomes too because it makes them stuck instead of moving on and finding someone else. Anyway, I wish you the best.
This is why Andrew's analytical mind, always looking for the root-cause, sets him apart from other politicians. He is the only candidate I know who refers to the 'boy problem' which affects a lot of the issues being raised in society: loss of work, low graduation rates, gun control, etc.
I don't mean to say something controversial or offensive, but the fact that he's a Democrat and speaking up about his concern for the boys seems unusual but is heartening :)
@@ascensionblade democrats.... republicans..... two heads of the same 🐍. Stop drinking the coolaide.
@@domdrty why are you even on this channel if that's what you think? I said something positive. Don't be toxic.
@Langdon Alger I basically said that it is unusual for Democrats to speak up on the topic. If he wasn't a Democrat, then it would just be normal human activity. It's heartening because he's a Democrat.
I don't know what the diss is. I didn't say anyone was dumb, so the analogy doesn't match well enough for me to understand what you mean.
@Langdon Alger because people take things the wrong a ton these days, especially in UA-cam comments. You seem to be demonstrating that, unfortunately. I mean what I said in a purely positive way.
I'm glad that the boy topic is becoming less of a partisan topic :)
I'm Gen X. We have excelled at failing for years. Noone even talks about us. I was raised by Nintendo and Cable. 😁
You lucky SOBs didn’t have social media to broadcast your shortcomings.
You also had the best music
J Snel I don’t know, I think being a kid in the 80s was way better than now in a lot of respects. And when I was in college in the early 90s, I do not recall all the male bashing. I never heard the words “r*pe culture” in college, etc. Granted, I’m female, but I think guys have it harder today. It’s like feminism on cocaine now.
Is it weird that I thought you meant Cable from the X-Force comics? 🤣
You're not a failure, the baby boomer generation screwed everything up and now have to work in old age. They aren't giving up the good jobs.
Yes me too... X=gen. And we don’t care about opinions. We have cred and bonafides.
As a young man Andrew gives me a lot of hope and inspiration to rise above this dark spiral our country is going in.
40 percent of kids grow up in single parent households? Holy shoes.
The greatest threat to western civilisation are single moms
@HMSBlackPrince My mother is a single mother and I am a sperm donor baby. I can definitely relate to the issues that Andrew talks about with boys of single mothers. My extended family, and my time in Boyscouts was intended to fill that "father figure" gap but I never really felt that way until I was old enough not to want a father figure anymore. I would definitely say it affected who I am but I would also say that I don't regret my circumstance. I don't feel like a victim, but I do feel like I am different because of how I think and how I approach things. When people say the atomic family is important, I get that, I can relate to it. I know what I missed out on, but it made me incredibly self reliant.
You know I definitely think that good values come from good ideas and good people. When I think about the struggles my mom faced as a woman in the workplace to support me, I think about my own work ethic. But for a long time, I was nothing but resentful about what other people had that I didn't. I had a scope of the american family, with moms and dads who were even though often separated still existed as a presence in my friends life that I just didn't have. It really did bother me, I really had to get over it to appreciate my mom as a human.
Having a mom and dad household is really a 'Boomer' thing. It's actually part of the "White Culture" that the young people are fighting against. www.newsweek.com/smithsonian-race-guidelines-rational-thinking-hard-work-are-white-values-1518333
@@karljay7473 I don't understand how having two parents at home is part of white culture. Both my parents are African Immigrants, one was born in Europe, and it is a part of our culture to have two parents at home and not having two parents is seen as abnormal. Many cultures across the globe (not necessarily white) value having two parents (mom and dad at home).
I’m about 5 years ahead of the advice Yang gave here. My business failed when I was 19-20. I found an older mentor with a small business and put my heart into his company. I was cocky and didn’t think I had much to learn. Boy was I wrong and I have progressed more in the last 5 years than any other time period in my life. As another fella that had a single mother parent for a good portion of my upbringing, this is fabulous advice.
you ran a business at 19?
Fuck the feminists, blame em', they're the reason why young men are miserably failing.
To all the young men out there, I see you. I hear you. Your struggles are valid. You’re stronger than society will let you believe.
Please keep moving forward even if the world has made you feel like the power you may attain is not worthy of praise.
I’m sorry we’ve abandoned you or made you believe that your failure comes from weakness while your success comes solely from privilege and not merit.
You’re capable and resilient and I believe in you. I’m rooting for you.
Remember 1 thing. Don't get her pregnant. Did I mention another thing? Don't get her pregnant. If she has kids. Run as fast as you can. That piece of ass could never be that good. I've seen to many of my friends get trapped into that. One other thing. They all fart in bed. If you want a great life. Marry a well educated hard working woman. I did.
Shame on men who are older, who saw this coming and did nothing! ( I consider myself part of that shame. ) The younger men needed us to help them and we let them down.
“You’re stronger than society will allow you to believe.” I love that, and I think it is so so true of so many people who feel marginalized or excluded in someway. I know as a person with lifelong disabilities, I often feel this way. By the way, the best advice I would give is, 1). Know what you are capable of, 2). Believe in what you were capable of, 3). And find yourself a mentor or a way to learn the things that will get you where you want to be yourself. And 4). Don’t stop until you feel satisfied.
God I miss Andrew on the trail. I've lost so much hope in humanity the way this election is going.. We need people like this in power. Someone who doesn't want power, but someone who wants to help.
Also, I love Chipotle too lol every other day for me :D
😭😭😭 on point
May want to look into unity2020. Some slight hope in these times
@Pandanator That's what I thought about Bernie when he endorsed Hillary! Who'd he endorse this time? Has he passed anything or done anything in the last 3 years? Besides ignore his grandkids? Cause at 10 years old I'd love to see my 78 year old grandpa... But nope he's too busy running for pres and endorsing Joe...
@Pandanator Who are you gunning for this time around?
@Pandanator lemme try to break that down. You're not gunning for anyone. But you are gunning for someone. But if you say it your credibility will disappear? So you aren't, bit you are, but if you yourself argue that your not choice actual choice is so laughable that.... whaaaa??? Plz help I'm stronking
Always underdiscussed. We need to focus as a country on changing the system so bringing us all up is encouraged and incentivized as opposed to taking each other down and leaving people behind
Seriously. Our country reveres the military so much, maybe we should adopt their ethos of no man left behind. It boggles my mind how so many people don't care for the people at the bottom, and are perfectly content to let people go without and fend for themselves.
Also, we Americans love sports so much right, and a team is only as strong as its weakest player. Why don't we help the weakest players become stronger?
Giving people a hand up, more community based socializing, across races, more ethics based education on treating people with respect and care, less competition (focus on winning) more simply on team building, more education with males on our masculinity and controlling it (less violent)
@@trailrunnah8886 As Americans we have a huge superiority complex. We sell two things. Our military and our myth. The films and media we export have taught everyone globally that we are leaders and that losers get what they deserve but that should absolutely be the furthest thing from the truth.
For too long, we've been a social experiment hellbent on constant reaping but time will show that this is just too unsustainable. When people are suffering like they are now and we don't tend to their needs simply because "there's no profit in that," we may one day feel their wrath.
The fundamental thing we need to uproot is the idea that there is nothing to gain from helping others because if everyone's situation gets improved then we all get stronger. So FUCK the idea of whatever the media is painting to divide us. Red, blue, black, white. It's ultimately those who created this system that want us to point a gun at each other that are truly bringing about the downfall of this country. We need to see this or we will crash together
@@laserbeamlightning well said! I was talking to an acquaintance last month, he recently returned from living in Australia a few years for school. He was talking about a medication that he needed, and how it was going to cost him about $600 a month here. I said just out of curiosity, what would it have cost you if you were still in Australia? Zero, he said. Then we both went on a rant about the US healthcare system. And we noted that basically the only thing the US does well is build aircraft carriers (etc,).
In smaller cases, people seem to be willing to help others up. When it comes to more general terms, or people they don't know, they just have no sympathy. The other day I got a message from a friend of mine that's super conservative, anti medicare-for-all, and Trump's biggest fan. The message she sent me was a link to a GoFundMe account for a friend of the family having medical problems. I was like okay, now that it's somebody YOU know, you worried about people's Medical care. Isn't that rich.
As for your last point, yesterday I watched a video by one of these survivalist/prepper guys. It was titled is a Civil War coming, and out of morbid curiosity I watched it to see what kind of insanity he was spreading. Much to my surprise, he was actually pretty measured about the whole thing. He said if you are Republican, the Democrats are not your enemy. Going to fight with protesters is not going to solve any problems. Said if you're a Democrat, Republicans are not your enemy. He said we're all Americans, We're All in This Together. The real enemy, the real force that is trying to divide us, is at the top.
( of course then the video ended with him schilling some flashlight on Amazon, so I take everything with a grain of salt. I think that's why it came up in my feed in the first place, I was researching camping gear)
@@trailrunnah8886 The longer we go on like this, the easier it is hopefully people will be able to see the light: that those up top divide us to conquer and manipulate us. Shut off your mainstream news and look out for each other. Most people in this country are still good. I do believe it. We all want a future for our children. How we attain that is the battle we must face.
Not paid enough, no benefits, housing is too expensive, and education is too expensive.
Servicing the boomers in restuarants>>> then to Renting from boomers, is like transferring your earnings back in an endless loop back to boomers.
@Brad1156 ok boomer
I think young men should pull themselves up by their boot straps. I say that as a man in my 20s. I dropped out of college bc that shit is dumb and builds huge debt with a shit ROI. I started my own business, I went from being brought up in a middle class/blue collar home to being in the top 1% of earners in my age group. Dumbasses follow the herd, think for yourselves.
And to top it off: I'm an endurance athlete. 200mi cycling in a day, I run more than a marathon through the mountains regularly. The fuck is wrong with these weak punks that complain n complain n complain and DO NOTHING to change their circumstances
Keep blaming It on the generation. Nothing wrong about negative rates, assets hyperbubbles, UBI and coronavouchers. That's all totally normal...
MrZozue ...wonder what generation has been in control of everything through all of these normal crises. 🤔
I think a large part of the problem is how taboo it has become to discuss difficulties of being male because we are seen as privileged by all other groups. So to say otherwise risks your reputation and being outcast. As a result, there's not really any support or guidance that justifies or validates your hardships; if anything, your hardships are invalidated and minimized.
Traditional masculinity is a soul crusher. But men who reject it are ridiculed as "p*ssies". Young men need to stop being afraid of challenging old definitions of masculinity that no longer serve them.
@@pennyadrian7774 Amen.
@@pennyadrian7774 I don't know about this. I grew up in the south where I was raised on traditional masculinity. I think the main problems in rejecting this macho masculine tradition come from our instinctual and very primal mating preferences in that women implicitly devalue men who act in ways that portray weakness, which, like it or not, is what non-traditional pseudo-masculinity conveys to females' primal subconscious (weakness that is). And nobody wants to be lower on the mating hierarchy, so we are faced with a very biological problem in nature that we have to evolve out of I suppose.
@@pennyadrian7774 But I do see the merits of your position. I just wish it was that easy.
@@pennyadrian7774 You're certainly right that it can be, but in all honesty...in my experience, and I really don't think I'm alone...is that it comes at least as much from the other end of the spectrum. Speaking from experience, feminism does not offer an emotional safe haven for men. I'm not anti-feminist, and I absolutely value equality, but when it comes to feeling de-valued and invalidated, I've heard far less "man up" than I have "spare me your man tears."
Yang is a pretty great human being 👍 So glad he's one of us.
Im glad he's human too. It would be a waste of a good brain in the body of a squirrel.
This is huge. I am grateful that these discussions are being had by Yang ☯️
It seems like men are being forgotten and uncared for. My peers are not accountable for the bad behavior of people who look like them.
Basically it's the assumption that we don't NEED help. A lot of the progress in gender discussion has done as much to reinforce men's old gender roles. We need to be able to discuss this so that we can better move forward together.
Women are are happy with an average life (get good grades, get decent job, have kid etc.). Ambitious Males have less interest in mediocrity, they want to be Superior to average males by some criteria. This creates a similar reasoning to high stakes gambling, you will probably lose and be below average but if you win you will win big and be above average. Thats why males are falling below the average (which is being filled by women) yet the most successful people in society are generally male.
@@auditoryproductions1831 that seems generalizing and reductionist.
@@auditoryproductions1831 but not wholly inaccurate.
@@andreschu5670 The problem isn't "Men being forgotten and uncared for" or "Assumptions that men don't need help". The problem is that middle income jobs don't come paired with respect or superiority in society. Jobs solve the problem of financial well being but not the problem of social respect and self esteem. So not only is it harder to get middle income jobs, even when you have one you don't move up any social dominance hierarchy (nobody respects you more). You are just some guy who landed a decent job. The people with respect are the athletes, actors, C.E.O.'s and public figures because their lives aren't predictable the way the 9-5 lives are. This creates a lose/lose perspective in the male mind specifically and they say why bother striving for the middle class at all.
If this man would’ve been the primary for the Democrats, we would be seeing a new president this November. Really saddened by this.
He was. He wasn't elected because he's Asian.
That’s the point, the Zionists want Trump so they put a shitty democratic candidate up
@Preet Dhami he saw the writing on the wall -- all indicative polls were posting terrible numbers for him. Also, do not pretend that any of the morons in the Democrat running at the time actually knew anything (let alone prioritized) about universal income and how to actually fund it
@Preet Dhami He's a man of his words, he said he would endorse whoever the Nominee was
Instead the establishment went with a corrupt career politician with dementia and a political hack who slept her way to the top. Perfect.
Two things:
1 - Young men are not "failing," they are opting out. They are not even trying. And if they are failing, what exactly are they failing at? Failing to make excess income so that they can support other people?
2 - The reason young men are opting out, is that there is no more reward for "succeeding." Society used to place value on the sacrifices men made to produce income in excess of their own basic needs. This is no longer the case. The scary part, is that society as a whole still NEEDS men to produce excess income, which is why this is even a topic of discussion anywhere.
No, I am failing. I want progress, assets, land to build a future on, to improve and help the next generation to improve. But like many others I feel incapable in my current position or because of myself. I feel behind, I have felt so behind for as long as I can remember. Trying to crawl my way out of the Mathew effect from the beginning.
@@definitelynotcoleyou aren't failing, nor are you incapable. Undoubtedly you did not yet reach certain achievements, yet you may achieve in the future. We live in a world where inconsiderate individuals feel the need to push their standards on other peoples lives, @Brad1156 is a perfect example.
Quite frankly I find it incredibly courageous of you to talk about this in such a way. Andrew Yang is giving amazing advice, I hope you are able to find solace in them.
Brad1156 part of the reason men feel like they are failing is because they lack support networks . It tears at many mens’ mental health when other men say things like “don’t cry like a little girl”... meanwhile boys should be allowed to cry. What a derogatory statement that helps no one. Additionally, if you knew what the Mathew Effect is, then you would understand why the “just pull yourself up by the bootstraps and stop crying” argument is ridiculous.
mrasap I couldn’t agree more. Your comment was much more positive than mine, so I am glad someone said it! @CodyChoules the ones who succeed in the end are the ones who keep going! Build a support network, get involved with other people’s projects, and keep going!
Brad1156 I’m a double major in Neuroscience and Data Science with minors in chemistry and math. I’m a bronze, silver, and gold award winner with validation from Congress. I am not weak, and I still agree with @CodyChoules. Being weak minded has nothing to do with the distribution of wealth in the country. The middle class is shrinking and the only people who can save it are the ones who are wealthy/ultra wealthy (aka the ones who hold the majority of power). Those who cannot recognize this and blame the lower level income civilians for this are clearly showing “weak-minded” behavior. To be strong-minded is to support each other at this time rather than pointing fingers and calling each other lazy.
I appreciate your YANG Speaks show because it's informative and made me think of the world in a different way. I also think your ideas give me a educated insight of how the state of the world is in and which direction we are headed towards. I feel like college would never teach these life lessons that will stay with you for the rest of your life. I appreciate you Yang and loving these podcasts.
26 year old male here, and I definitely relate to all this uncertainty stifling my career outlook and commitments (I also have many friends in the same situation). I try to stay in shape physically, meditate, and read as much as I can. I can feel the positive impact that these habits are having on my life. Hopefully I can put it all to good use somewhere/sometime in the future!
"I will prepare and some day my chance will come." --Abraham Lincoln
28 here am trying to go strong still idk what gonna happen in the next few years I just hope I make it.
We’re “failing” because we refuse to get in 100k in school debt, 300k in mortgage debt and work our lives off until we’re 65.
Thank God you said man!
"why are men failing in america" is such a broad question. If their talking about degree turnouts well they both know school debt is outrageous. If their talking about single parents, their were more single parents in the late 80s and 90 and the data shows that. When it comes to employment, for sure many young men are aware now that taking a career or job that's less than 6 figures a year will lead towards working until retirement, especially if u have kids. Social media and the bias-cancel culture is obvious harmful evidence. Good role models if you don't have any is a factor. That's such a loaded question, who knows.
I was raised by a single mother, but I've had great friends and amazing male/female role models so I think Im aight because of that. I believe Americans live in a great nation now that offers many liberties and freedoms more than ever, I'm grateful to be an American, but the question sure is tough to nail at the core.
carmineglitch True 🤔
Don't give in boys!
Agree with this except it unfortunately won't be anywhere near as low as 65 for us.
The worst part about failing as a young man is that nobody wants to hear it and that hurt the most. The majority do not care nor want to give the time. It's a rough road but I would say you need to learn about/recognize the value of yourself and where it fits in the world (friends, a job, relations with family, neighborhood)
True and wholesome advice! I've been feeling like that for some time now.
Thank you friend!
I don't get how fragile today's younger people are. Here's a news bulletin; name 1 thing in life that's fair(hint, you can't). To be an adult is to take responsibility for your life, become self-sufficient. If you have over a handful of people that truly care about you that's more than most people.
Maybe what l am saying sounds harsh but it's true. Once you realize that if you improve your own life nobody can stop your achievements than you will acquire empowerment and success willow follow.
I think it is healthy to learn about the inequities of history and those that still remain but not to become convinced your life is hopeless and you can't become successful. It's the opposite; throughout history some of the most suppressed individuals have empowered themselves. Acquiring a victim mentality only strips yourself from rising above life's inequities.
I participated in the MRA movement for a little while and the two biggest things I realised about trying to raise awareness for these issues is that, men don't care about men as a group and women care even less.
I’m a mum to sons, I have a brother a husband and a father. Than you for addressing this issue
Low blow
Non-glamorous but solid understated advice
This was really good! People never talk about this and i'm glad at least someone is aware of this crisis.
Ever heard of Jordan Peterson? Been saying this for years and took a lot of flak for it.
@@b.r3228 He's a good man too. I'd love to see a crossover episode!
Be careful, Justin. These Jordan Peterson fanboys are not your friends. And there is a HUGE difference between what young Black men are facing and what young white men are facing. There is a war on young Black men that is largely conducted by white men of all age groups.
@@pennyadrian7774 You are quite literally delusional.
B. Reich Have you heard of Dr. Warren Farrell. Learn about his work. He studies this issue extensively
Yangspeaks is underrated. I'm glad they put up short clips now bc sometimes i rlly don't feel like watching a 2 hr podcast
You touched on 2 of my favorite subjects. Apprenticeship .... it used to be a cornerstone .... appreciation , gratefullness.
This conversation couldnt have come at a better time. It makes me feel far less alone and like I'm the only one who deals with these problems. Love real conversations without a motive being pushed
i failed because i went to college. i failed because i did what i thought i was supposed to do. it was just automatic. i failed because instead of being taught how to narrow my career path, i was gently encouraged to do so while they plunged me into debt teaching me things i didn't need to know. we have a problem in the education system. it sends people into unreasonable amounts of debt, and doesn't try very hard to actually get people into the job market. they just teach, and let you go.
my advice. Skip college after graduating high school. figure out a career path. a filler job that you can take while you figure out what you really want to do with your life. then, go to a career focused vocational school with a program designed specifically to get you into that job. after you have money in the bank, and reliable income, THEN you can look at college.
do this, unless you already have a plan for your career and truly think you can handle the debt. that's what i would tell my past self.
they have to teach this in high school
@Rin This is not something I would generally suggest as a default response, though it may work for some fields. Part of the reason is that a number of critical careers--most notably in the hard sciences--are fairly time-sensitive, and taking a couple years off in the trajectory will seriously dampen your chances.
There is another reason too. I say this as someone who, like you, did not really know what I should do in my late teens/early 20s--but this fact is in and of itself problematic and borderline inexcusable. I should also point out that I very, very rarely saw this problem in foreign students. And now? Most of my truly exceptional coworkers are foreign. We've had job applications where there are several dozen applicants, half of which are nominally qualified, and none of which are American. It's not that the pay is too low; my understanding is that similar phenomena are seen even in Industry, so it's not like people are just opting for larger paychecks. My personal suspicion is that something is fundamentally broken with early US education, and that many of the college issues we have are essentially derived from that. Fixing the educational system is obviously not practical for the individual, but it may be worth at least trying to figure out what's broken. One could then find out how to best supplement the existing educational system so our young folk are better prepared to take advantage of the opportunities in higher ed (and better prepared to avoid its traps).
Depending on what you want to do, this could be good advice. Also, in a lot of places high school kids can take college classes at local community colleges for free or almost free. If you're poor and academically inclined, this is 100% the way to go. With about two years of college credits and good grades, you can transfer to a pretty good school and are more likely to get scholarships. (I WISH they had this option when I was young.) One girl got two years free at Harvard like that. Good luck everyone! :)
@@derekholman4484 I think you've got some good insight there. I just wish our teachers were more focused on preparing us for a career and guiding us down the proper path to it, rather than just trying to teach us what they were taught and hoping that somehow that helps us. It's like the intention to help is there, but the focus is all wrong.. and If I could, I wouldn't even know where to begin to fix it.
Maybe require more job focused stuff in high school? Have areas in early education where we explore different careers to help us choose a path? Have classes dedicated to familiarizing students with the local job finding resources and the various social safety nets the government offers? .. or.. maybe have high schools partner with employers to help students get an idea of what their job could be like? Idk. It feels like one of those things everyone is going to fight over how to fix so much that Congress will just throw money at it and pretend that will fix it.
@@Rin-qj7zt I think it really boils down to what role one thinks the school should have, and how it should interface with the role of parents. This is of course a highly complex issue, given that some kids are going to be from stable families, some from broken families, etc. etc. If one thinks that the purpose of schools is to provide technical knowledge that parents do not have, then it's a pretty simple matter of pushing the math and science curriculum up a few years (I did pretty well in both in High School, but I was still 2-3 years behind my international counterparts by University).
However, it seems to me that this is not the current framework and that, in many respects, schools are trying to take over some of the roles traditionally taken on by parents. A case can definitely be made here for this, especially given the increasing number of households in which both parents work long hours, broken households, etc. Teaching of morality comes to mind. Providing a "safe, nurturing environment" is another. This is a minefield of epic proportions, though, and the chief (but certainly not only) danger is that a number of problematic, modern conceptions of parenting are being reflected in the school environment. What if the "best" role of parents isn't to provide a safe, nurturing environment? What if the role of parents should be to, in the paraphrased words of others, provide a filter through which children are gradually exposed to the world in manageable doses? How would one institutionalize this without turning it into propaganda? Given how this does need to be tailored to the child, how does one scale a 1:1 parent-child dynamic to a 20:1 school dynamic?
It's a mess, but I think you're right that one tool in the toolkit does need to be early and semi-regular exposure to the workplace--or more broadly, that practical applications need to be worked in. How exactly this would work is less clear--maybe something modeled after the old ride-alongs with police. Navigating social security/benefits programs could be an excellent section in a US history/government class. I would also argue that children desperately need to learn, early, how to look at situations through multiple lenses so they can try to form their own thoughts.
I was born into a similar situation as Scott. I’m surprised he attributes his success to “the warm hand of government.”
I attribute my success to a strong single mother. She didn’t graduate high school until her 40s and raised 3 kids by herself.
She said for her, Welfare wasn’t an option. She was capable of providing for herself and her family. This isn’t to demonize those in need, but that was her choice.
She now has 3 very successful children. We stand on her shoulders.
That was one of the most ridiculous statements I've heard. The hand of government is anything but warm.
@Shawn Hennessy You must be confused. I agree with you, the vast majority of my success is 'big mama's" help.
The point was she pulled herself out of poverty and it has had a generational impact. You clearly don't understand irony.
I agree with Yang. My son's struggled much more than my daughter for the reasons Yang suggested.
I'd rather be raised by a single mom, than having my dad in the picture when I was a kid. He was usually either working or at the golf course drinking with his buddies 95% of everyday so I would hardly ever see him. But when he was home it was all mental and sometimes physical abuse, if not either of those it was just simply neglect from him.
It took many years after I left home to get over the abuse and teach myself to be a man.
I wish the best of luck to anyone growing up in a less than decent family.
You can create your own life when you leave, just make sure you take care of whatever is still bothering you from your childhood, don't ignore it.
Tell that to the people in prison.
Huh
Just as you said, I think a major issue is that a lot of people don't take care of their past. Go see a counselor, a psychiatrist, or even just get in touch with the people in the past and deal with it, because it's nearly impossible to move forward if you don't figure out what's wrong in that past.
What you're saying is relevant. An abusive father is as much a negative influence as an absent father and sometimes worse.
You have the awareness to realize what you need to do to succeed. Most people just cannot.
I have found that person. He's a business analyst and our ceo. I'm glad I met him.
if i were to talk to my younger self 20 years ago...i would tell myself to learn about money, educate myself better, and not to be afraid of failure.
Why would your friends stop calling you just because you've failed to create a company?? They were not real friends then!
I was SO much waiting to see a conversation with Yang and Scott. I was so certain they would get along well and have a killer conversation! So excited to see this clip show up in my feed!!! 🔥🔥
Forget about the Democratic Party. Create a People's Party and let him be the face of that.
This sistem can't aloud..Only if we change current sistem..
Look up Articles of Unity
What is interesting as a single mother, is that men criticize instead of just stepping in to help. The same conservatives who are Pro Life also are against giving resources to those women who kept the child.
that would make single motherness even more appealing
I’m not paying for your kid
I'm 41 now. Born in 79.
I grew up in a household that was domestically violent.
I was also domestically violent.
By the time I was 15 I was homeless (1994).
I remained homeless until 1999.
I was a high-school dropout.
By 22 I had married and had two children and gone to work in the oil industry.
By 28 I had bought a home, scored a job that paid 220k/year.
Then 2008 - The Economic Recession.
I lost the job, then the home, then the marriage.
In 2009 I joined the Infantry with nothing else to turn to, mostly to avoid being homeless again.
I spent 8 years in the military. I used the G.I. Bill to go to college.
After getting out of the military I thought I had a job and a place to live lined up. It all fell through.
I was again homeless for a short period of time.
I have earned two degrees as of this year.
I've again remarried, bought a house, and have a job that only pays 60k/year.
If it goes south again, I'm just going to park a fucking round in the brain pan. Don't give me this shit about how young men are failing. Don't talk about how "we" aren't doing it right. Come walk a mile in my shoes. There is more to being a man than fucking, having a family, and checking all the boxes, and I'm sick of my existence being framed around those topics.
Ever watch Fight Club? That movie sums it all up.
If it comes to brain pan time, spend a month in my place in Italy. No rent, sun, coffee, workshop and motorcycle. I am definitely not doing it right, and happier for it.
@@jackdeniston9326 I'm jealous.
@@josephabraham4058 Also please don't. You are far more valuable than to be defined by those standards- which one hundred percent- there's more to life than that. Always a way to keep moving forward; even with a grimace at life's hardships.
You made 200k in a year and went broke a year later? That's some dumb shit. I respect the hustle but having to start over because of a recession is on you.
Thanks for the advice.
Every time I've become resentful I've seen my life slowly come undone,
I think later today I will make a list of what I am grateful for.
I’d argue that society is failing and that it’s simply a question of ones perspective.
We have always failed, the modern world has shined a spotlight on it now
Thank you guys for not telling that more Feminism and more Feminising men is the solution.
This is another reason I love Andrew. His candidacy, and now his advocacy, recognized that the problems in this country are more then just material. With this, his plan to give couple marriage counseling vouchers, and his discussions on mental health and are kids, he was one of the few candidates to get it goes deeper then the material problems. Love it
Great thoughts - notice how he puts the onus on the guy to take actions that will benefit his life. That’s something that is lost now, people don’t take responsibility and always blaming others
Notice how he also talks often about UBI and trade schools over college. A whole lot of men are SOL if economic trends continue, motivation and bootstraps aside.
Thank you for mentioning this. Our generation of men is constantly being put down and have no hope for a future. I worry alot about how far you can push men before you get a movement of pissed off men with nothing to lose.
The struggle is real, but what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!
Really impressed that he actually gave a really good answer to a non-campaign issue with some gems 4:40 - 7:00.
What's happening to all young men in America has been happening to young African American men since the 1970s.
I think this country as failed young men not the other way around.
Exactly this!
Today I'm grateful for Andrew. Thank you for being a continual voice of reason in such trying times.
Great topic. This podcast is definitely undersubscribe. Andrew Yang is a gem of a human being and leader.
This is a big concern for me my son is 21 in college and he constantly feels he is failing. I also was a single mother. I hope I didn't fail him.
probably more he doesn't feel like what he does matters then you failing him.
Thanks for saying something.
Andrew Yang! Never heard him before, but I will take him seriously from now on. Great Advice!
He ran for president of the USA 🤔
"And now you have an economy that's punishing, and uninviting". That is even an understatement at this point.
The Covid economy.
Right? Sometimes life seems impossible. Housing is ridiculously expensive, education is too, and jobs pay crap and hardly give full time hours (at least where I live.) Sometimes I feel like there are no options and no matter what I do I can't break even, let alone get ahead.
@@tavferry3301 I'm 100% in the exact same boat. This system seems designed to keep up spinning on the hamster wheel for our entire life. Every attempt to do something new and escape the rat race has been a wasted effort in the end. And now with 2020, everything feels completely up in the air.
The problem with young men is that is so hard to find a mentor in the Trades that is willing to train you.
Young boys require an upstanding male for quidance; early responsibility, respect and empathy for others. GOV cannot play this role.
Andrew Yang for president. Idc if he tells me to vote Biden. No way! I’m not voting trump either.. Yang has the solutions. They don’t.
im writing my dad in for president
Any write in vote would work in favor of the guy from the apprentice
We get Biden in and then bully his administration and Congress to listen to Andrew
Writing Yang or voting Trump. No way in hell I'm voting Biden.
@@cBake0 Joe already is sounding like Yang...they seem to be in close contact.
I have a message to any young men who are watching this - I was in your place just 15 years ago. My advice is don't take to heart what people like Scott and Yang say to much. You're being defined as "failing" because you don't want to go into $100,000 plus of debt for an education that likely won't qualify you to work at Starbucks or McDonalds. The reason women do better is affirmative action, diversity and inclusion is a multi billion dollar industry which makes up an awful lot of jobs for female college grads. These women are often drowning in debt. It's not a good way to live - believe me. You guys are fortunate you see you're on UA-cam right now. Every day on UA-cam or stack exchange or the internet in general is a day at university now. You can learn a lot of skills for free. There are many educational qualifications which you can do for a lot cheaper than 4 years of university.
Seriously if you're 18 and working in McDonalds you are further ahead in life than you would be if you go to college because chances are you will leave university only to end up working in McDonalds and you're going to be really fucked because you're 22. You lost 4 years of wages and now you're negative $100,000 instead of being +$10 every hour you work at McDonalds.
How are you going to start a buisness if you're $100,000 in debt? How are you going to enjoy life if your boss has you by the balls even if you do get a job in the corporate world? Travelling? Ha. Enjoying playing computer games at the weekend. No way. Overtime at weekends is mandatory while the boss goes to the lake and plays with his speedboat on the basis of your hard work. FUCK CORPORATE AMERICA. Let women have it.
You don't need it. What you should think about is maybe down sizing your life a little! Do you need to go $70,000 into debt for a new truck when you could get a 1996 Toyota Camry for cash and it would last you for many years and cost you next to nothing? That car is also a thousand times better made than what Ford or Government Motors is making these days. Maybe learn to do your own servicing and repairs instead of paying someone. Do you need a $300,000 McMansion? NO. You can live on a small plot of land in a few hundred square feet like the fucking king you are and have everything you want. Like what do you really need? You can build that yourself do and you can learn the skills you need for free online.
Don't believe in the phony bullshit boomers are trying to sell you. Being a man isn't about working yourself into an early grave in the corporate world because you're drowning in debt. If there is a privilege men have its that we're self sufficient and are very easy to please. Women? They need designer clothes, handbags, shoes, Mercedes SUV, a nose job a McMansion, picket fence, Instagram selfies at the club and exotic holiday resorts and a lot of that other shit. You don't!
The game is rigged. So don't play. Also no one is coming to save you. Every election is the most important one in history. It isn't. That's more shit they are trying to sell you.
Don't let anyone tell you how to be a man because often if they're attacking your masculinity its because they want to sell you something.
Focus on what you can control. Don't take any notice of what you can't. If voting changed anything they wouldn't let you do it.
This. Go learn things for the love of it. Not for jusy some mcjob. And keep trying to improve youraelf and help your brothers in need.
@@JKTProductionzIncNCo YES. Education is a life long process - not some product packaged up and sold to you for $100,000 in debt. Honestly my experience of education was so demoralising that it very nearly did kill my intellectual curiosity. It was only later in adulthood that it returned.
Men really have to stick together.
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I'm gonna try to come at you from a very pragmatic POV cause I think that's what you're going for here, I mean you're very wrong about women having it easier but I don't wanna focus on that right now. Here's what I'll ask ya, do you think you can work at McDonalds till you're 65 and then have enough to live on after that? Will you even make it to 65? If your answer is yes to any of those questions, would you consider your life fully lived even if it goes that way? If your answer is yes then there's nothing I can say that'll make any difference. If your answer is NO then we can start talking. First of all, you shouldn't have to slave away at McDonalds or for any corporation to be able to just barely survive, we're living in the most technologically advanced world any human has ever lived in, if you live in America then you're living in the richest country in the world so why the fuck are so many people barely surviving, why the fuck are so many people so desperate that if they stopped working for one month, they'd risk losing their shelter, their health and maybe even their lives.
Clearly something is wrong with the world, very few men at the top are enjoying the benefits of hundreds of years of technological innovation, innovation that was built on the backs of every human to ever exist. Nothing just comes out of thin air, everything is built on the base of work that came before it and we're at a point as a species where we're producing enough food to feed the entire world easily but still millions of people are hungry. So we need to change the world, can we change it if we just accept the bare minimum, work at McDonalds, and then die after living an entire life on the edge between living and dying? Who's benefitting from you working at McDonalds and accepting minimum wage that isn't enough to live on? Where's all the benefits of your labor going? Who are you serving? not yourself so someone else must be reaping the benefits.
We all know who the people enjoying the benefits of our labor are, so how do we stop them? they've bought most our politicians and institutions, they control our lives without us having a say. Can we fight them if we're divided? Can we fight them if everyone just decides to do enough to survive and not give a shit about what happens to the person living next door? Women are half the population, are you gonna overturn the world without their help? Women are not your problem dude, they're suffering just as much or more than you are, the working class outnumber the ruling class and it's time to make that numeric advantage count.
Wow that was a long comment, hope I managed to redirect your anger even a little bit cause that anger is valid and you need to point it at the people causing your pain, not the people you see everyday because they're hurting just like you are.
Women are certainly forgiven easily for their mistakes. Any time I f**k up at work I get in trouble. They seem to get away with everything.
Men aren't failing, we're adapting to a society that increasingly favors women. Our economy is built around services we provide and things we find interesting. We'll always build systems that sustain us long enough to keep doing whatever it is that we want. The next evolution of our society is the digital landscape where anything is possible but under conditions we can control allowing for adventure and novelty. This reality is currently being developed overwhelmingly by men. Everyone that purchases a console or expensive gaming rig, learns to code, makes games. etc is building this landscape and when its done, everyone is going to want in.
This is amazing that this conversation is being had. I do feel like emotional intelligence and self-awareness and self-care needs to be better taught to males specifically. This might be why, as Yang said, males are more exposed to single parent households or are very affected by a "lack of a path forward"
It' s amazing it's been had 9 years after " men on strike " was published.
It’s great these guys are talking about this. I’m 55, so I was fortunate, but here in the now, I don’t think it’s the same for young men. They’re treated like they’re non-existent or don’t matter on 2022…….
Im 23 no dad in the house.
Haven't got my shit together since i was 18
I'm a 43 year old man with a high school diploma. I have a passion for the automotive industry and would like to pursue a position working on cars. Where does a guy like me go? College is not a viable option when the field is so low paying. Any ideas?
Finally. My two favorite political people coming together.
He makes you feel so safe, like he just wants everyone to be okay and happy
I’ve never felt so understood.
As a young man whose tried to start multiple businesses in my twenties and failed. I know what he’s talking about when your confidence is shot and you’re just miserable and feeling like a failure.
#yanggang
@Charmang Lee Much respect for the guts to get up, dust yourself off, and start another business even after failure.
Get a job bro.
Thanks for talking about this.
"Apparently boys are more vulnerable to lack of parental time than girls"
I read a paper about this recently. Maybe I can pull it up. But basically they found that the corpus callosum (which connects the two hemispheres) is about 25% smaller in boys and was significantly more vulnerable to further damage due to physical and emotional trauma. I think one of the hypotheses they put forward was that it is smaller and more vulnerable because becoming a boy is inherently a gender transition. So girls' brains got to have time to develop in a fixed environment, while boys' brains have to transition and thus are behind in early development. This isn't a "boys are stoopid" statement to say they have matured less. Rather, it is an extra burden that needs to be taken into consideration.
When we coddle the girl but demand the boy be independent right away, what we essentially do is double down on the damage to their corpus callosum amongst other issues. This causes a lot of problems later in life, such as being avoidant and isolating like myself, to being unable to express or process emotions effectively. Basically what they concluded is that, if anyone needed the extra coddling, it would be the boys, to help them feel healthy attachments and better develop empathy.
Now, I will say that there's a difference between saying "get over it" and "don't worry, you're fine". WIth "Get over it" you are telling them their feelings don't matter. But what my sister does for her kids, is that when they get hurt, they will look at her, and she will be like "You're fine!" and maybe kisses the part they hurt, it helps them freak out a lot less. It makes me wonder if we are doing our girls a disservice if we overplay our coddling for things like injuries and fear. Teach girls that there isn't so much to be afraid of, and we get more women like the Squad.
I witnessed this happen to my friend. His only sibling, a sister, got all the attention from their parents going to ice skating contests and stuff while he was left at home with nothing but a computer. Now his parents say he is so obsessed with his computer and failing school and wonder why that happened.
Usually girls are less coddled and forced to grow up faster and take care of the males
@@user-qu5js9vw9o I've seen that argument before, but the studies regarding girls maturing earlier than boys were primarily physiological and neurological rather than psychological.
Though I don't doubt there are ways in which girls are given extra responsibility. It's hard to tell from my own experience as my sisters were both older than me. It's hard to tell if the extra responsibility was because they were girls or because they were older.
And then it also depends on what you mean by coddling. We do still largely treat young girls as more "frail", "pure", and "cuddly" in this regard. Keeping in mind of course that there is tons of variance and the difference is less and less as we progress.
What I've observed is that people tend to "raise" their girls, and are more hands off with their boys. What I keep telling boy-moms is that--sorry to use this word--but boys are more fragile than girls! Women go through crazy stuff and seem to land on their feet for the most part (like cats). For men, it seems like once they lose their way, it's a lot harder for them to get back on their feet.
Boys need to be raised as much as girls AND parents of both genders need to let their kids have independence whenever possible so they can build confidence. If women lack confidence, they'll probably get along ok because people don't expect much from women but if a man lacks confidence, it can really send the trajectory of his life in a bit of a tragic way because of how others will treat him. :/
Yes I have a 17 yr old and we feeling it. Trust Yang to keep it real. ❣️
Best advice a successful man gave to me
- Always strive to improve
- Never open up to women, dont let your guard down
- Keep your head down, but expectations high
Iv followed these for years and my life really has improved very much.
Never opening up sounds pretty miserable
just dont open up to the wrong person, you'll get taken advantage of, some people are nice but some are cruel
Nomasti The African Warlord It is hard, but it’s realistic. As young men grow up and meet women. They will learn this the hard way.
Learn to deal with your own problems and fix them.
AY I truly respect you. You are good man. You make me think and I crave it.
“I’m worried the warm hand of government isn’t big enough...” -hilarious how ironic that statement is.
By and large, young men raised by single mothers in conjunction with the government are a basket case.
@@mikebetts2046 I think I'll take Scott's take on it, who has credibility, over a rando with no references
@@sharky2606 So in other words, you are more willing to follow someone you think has authority rather than rely upon reason and evidence.
The evidence is very clear that children raised by single mothers are far more likely to be in poverty, run afoul of the law, and end up in broken marriages themselves. Our inner cities are living laboratories and the results are obvious to anyone that can read and observe.
But I know; it's easier to just follow someone you think knows something, without having to engage your own brain.
@@mikebetts2046 What evidence? What are you supporting your facts with? How is Scott Galloway an Authorative figure? Yea, I'm gonna ignore someone who's claiming facts without presenting an ounce of evidence to support those "facts" and follow someone who has CREDIBILITY while advocating for policies that go directly against his best interests.
@@sharky2606 That is why I said "... anyone that can read and observe". Apparently you are incapable of doing a simple search or reading what is there.
63% of all youth suicides,
70% of all teen pregnancies,
71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers,
80% of all prison inmates, and
90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes.
Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007
Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994)
Children brought up in single mother homes are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide,
9 times more likely to drop out of high school,
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances,
14 times more likely to commit rape,
20 times more likely to end up in prison,
32 times more likely to run away from home.
Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002
Another article I found after looking an extra minute.
pdfs.semanticscholar.org/0e3d/640709c889472858054c8fe3df01cca051d8.pdf
Anyone that is interested in seeing the statistics could spend just one minute on the internet and find plenty of evidence.
In my job I was close to the head of HR. She told me that 65% of all job applicants failed there drug test. I was shocked.
The resemblance between Scott and Tom Perez are uncanny.
Scott has better teeth lol
This is a great subject, thank you both for taking it on.
Society has changed, young men used to work in factories but now we're expected to find our own paths or become entrepreneurs. It's a hard change.
It is! I'm a woman but I feel the same pressures. It's just a result of living in a bad economy IMHO. It's too hard to survive on the meager wage of a blue collar job and it's hard to find capital to start your own business. There's not much room to move anywhere career-wise.
Women worked in factories too, you know.
Hey Andrew! Whenever you want to bike the trails, camp the back lakes, or snowboard the slopes hit me up! 🤙
Isn't "floundering" a better term/discussion than "failing"? I feel like the term "failing" implies the label "failure" is applied permanently. Mr. Yang's advice is great but I would not agree with following one person, but learning to go with the flow and be grateful.
Mr. Yang, PLEASE run again! Our country needs you!!!
Young people were always marginalized, because the old had more time to get ahead.
It's a natural process. At what point of history did the young have more money than the old ?
The old slowly fade away and spend away, till the young take their place as middle aged people.
Pretty sure they're saying even relative to how prior generations were doing at, say 20's/30's, this current gen is doing worse by some metrics.
@Judd Yes, that is basically the counter to the argument that raising minimum wage harms the economy. It used to be much higher if you adjust for inflation.
Also, more people having disposable income goes right back into the economy, helps plenty of businesses that way.
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Exactly. The world my 22yo daughter lives in has far less chance for her to make economic advancement, get health care coverage, afford college, get a job that can pay the rent comfortably without having to have four roommates, and more. Most jobs were ones people would stay at for many years.
I needed grants/loans and a PT job to afford college, but I was able to get my four-year degree. My daughter has great grades, but sees no affordable path beyond a two-year degree. None of the jobs she's likely to get at this stage offer health coverage. Most jobs are not long-term, even many of the computer jobs (welcome to the gig economy). Whereas I was just barely able to afford a crappy apartment on my own when I first moved out, she isn't looking at moving out without having at least two roommates. She lives with us, just so she can stay on our health coverage.
Young people today definitely do have things a lot tougher than when I was the same age.
Great conversation!
Yang Gang Gang
The guys who have houses today, that I know, have two, three reenlistments in the military. They were " C+ " GPAs in High School & did sports.
Living in " fly over states, " "Hazard pay", taking academic/leadership classes, avoiding the " divorce poison " we're the keys to homeownership.
Andrew Yang. The only person I've seen so far worthy to become the president of our nation.
How is this podcast produced? In particular, how do you fit the gallery view of the speakers to the screen?
Damn. I miss this guy. Please run for mayor of NYC.
Andrew, I hope you are energizing our Democratic Party like you are here and on many other platforms. I hope you will have a permanent position in our new administration after the November win! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and sharp intellect on various subjects and challenges.
At least Mr. Yang had a plan to pay for giving away money. Truly the smartest guy in the room. Andrew Yang 2024 🇺🇸
the culture in my high school in 1962 was to denigrate students who strived esp. if you were not doing well. That has not changed.
Forex and crypto stock made me rich in a young age am not saying it easy to do but thats why am here to help you guys and give you true advice from my heart,
Adequate orientation or knowledge about bitcoin trade or any other crypto currency is a key to a profitable and a successful investment. I can unequivocally say that forex and crypto trading is one of the most profitable and lucrative business for every investors with the right expert.
@@aurthurrhodes8827 that's true, most people today have been having a lot of failures in forex and crypto sector because of poor orientation and lack of experience
everyone thinks btc is kinda easy but they're always nervous to start
chosing to invest in Bitcoin is the best decision anyone can make.with the right approach, it works.
People are ignorant of the profitability in bitcoin Investment and that had been their major issues limiting their Investment
great dialogue and information. keep the wisdom coming.
Can we still vote for Yang?
sadly not
No he dropped out
Write in votes count. I am going to write in Yang/Tulsi
Good advice. The issue of the dynamics that lead to men not feeling very successful is pervasive, but too much overlooked.
I wish I was a billionaire. I would have funded his run for presidency alone if I had to - he has a very logical approach to thinking about things that we need today.
many more billionaires than you are funding other people my friend. don't worry, they all have the same idea
Thank you for bringing this to light
I don't believe in the "warm hand of government", whatever that means. I believe in the duty of government to create an environment where individuals can thrive and create value.
It starts with hot asphalt. Then superhot fission cores. Gov is the weak link. Opportunity is the key. Has nothing to do with lazy work ethic. Nobody wants to be a slave to a sleazy capitalist who already found his/opportunities.
As a mom of 4 sons with little to no safety net... THANK YOU! absolutely!