Is your DATE a NARCISSIST? (EXCERPT with Conor Ryan, Eyes Wide Open Podcast)

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  • @HSBsoulsurfer
    @HSBsoulsurfer Рік тому +16

    Sam NAILED it. And I no longer recognise my own gender of women, here in America. They have become so masculinized and MEAN. Ive given up on having "friends".

    • @auaticamazon
      @auaticamazon Рік тому +2

      And men have become passive and feminine

  • @addzrma
    @addzrma Рік тому +8

    After I grew up with Narsisstic older sister and no father at all. I am Empath. 2 relationships with Narssist. The last one Narssist open my eyes and than I could see the truth.
    Very sad but every video what I saw about them is true.

  • @Adhara740
    @Adhara740 Рік тому +7

    Good video

  • @kathyglass2922
    @kathyglass2922 10 місяців тому +3

    Im sorry, I didnt have a choice to not assume a man's role. Women have to assume a man's role because men are not stepping up. I'm a kind person, empathic, etc. I was much less cynical before marriage, so he says. I ended up making more money than my husband, and I have to repair things around the house because he wont or can't. (And he brags to others about how much more I know about a house than him) I had to step up and assume the role he would not. I wish men would step back into their role. Like many women, I'm tired of doing it all.

    • @knightofkorbin888
      @knightofkorbin888 6 місяців тому

      If you only knew our reality. If you zoomed out of your perspective what I believe may surprise you is you are deceived into believing the gynocentric scam (you identified yourself) isn't the cause of your issues.
      Clearly who is responsible for the destruction of men from childhood is not viewed accurately since their POV is ignored. Which is why you blame their individual choices completely. Ignorant of how this end result is not caused by their own design nor attributing choices. Despite this being the gospel truth sold to you for your independence.
      You would clearly see future men are prohibited from trespassing over into the competition to reclaim their potential powers, historical legacy, traditions, home, identity, titles, arts, inventions, and roles from modern women in any social or public environment context.
      Because western women control contained city/suburban environments with children, organizationally and systematically they've desolated and ravaged men's access channels and gatekeep their old spaces to keep them out. Your shaming that men failing to step up is unfair. They're commanded to submit and suppress any motivation to become men. They're demoralized by how if their dreams are not being destroyed; those dreams are delayed because they do not matter as much as girl's self-development supported completely to the detriment and exclusion of future men by your social order. Refusing to allow them to enter in and reclaim their potential development. You give men duties when their destinies are being destroyed by the deception failure is coded in their gender's nature. Fixed failure-latent prophecies dooming them to condemnation by default.
      For example, until 14, I regularly was going to the library as a kid. I would consider reading outside of school studying my main source of education over being thrown into compulsive intergender schools which only one teacher in all 12 years of school saw me as their student. The rest of my teachers were only "my" teachers superficially.
      I'm not welcome at libraries anymore. What did I do? What did someone at the library do? Legally, we both showed up to the same place and I was tired of being suspiciously viewed as a danger, threat, and invader whose definitely there to endanger women and children. Or so I recognized I was assumed. I enjoyed going to the library until I was regarded as a man and stopped because of the prejudice I received for the body I was born inside not matching the body now associated with reading books.
      I hated being the enemy at public libraries largely ruled over by women who viewed me as their enemy because I was not born one of them and they could not wrap their minds around a man they did not want in the library going anyways. I'm not returning to the library now because being seen as a man means you're not seen as a human. Men do not belong in libraries or any environment where they become men when women are in authority of those spaces because they wanted to fill those spaces and positions.
      I don't expect you to believe me and I wouldn't blame you for lacking awareness of this fact. We're all prisoners of our personal experience.
      The societal push was for decades and is to make women the all new all different Man. The overman. Pushing out men as the defective obsolete Man. Women wanted female supremacy and to leave all men feeling dumb, dim-witted, decadent, defective, weak, inferior, and failures quick, fast, and in a hurry. Automatically hammering in the idea they're unworthy of what made them men; and that's why they should leave it all to women. Whether language, literacy, science, writing, art, intelligence, families, houses- If this work and role is a pillar of human civilization; there's a woman better than you who deserves that work and role.
      If you and many women are overburdened; that's because you wanted to carry all of them by yourselves. Convincing men you're better at carrying your own burdens without them. You're struggling from the deception of your gender's superiority complex and overestimation of your capabilities at the full dehumanization of men.
      In other words, the reason men are self-destructing or degenerating is because women want to replace them. Women like you believe you need to replace them; while perpetuating the message they're not needed. While you are indispensable. You've stolen their identity and are keeping up the act as counterfeit men. Believing your successfulness at pretending you are men is good for the species future instead of further deteriorating humanity. The planet needs men and women. Not women who want to be men to overcompensate for men's failures (which did not occur independent of women then or now). Creating a societal cycle repeatedly reproducing those failures in modern women's faithlessness towards men. If women wanted to depend on men; they would entrust him by depending on him in faith. Modern women are horrified of depending on men and view that as a risk to themselves. This is the core foundational problem separating the dysfunctional relationship between men and women. The female gender in western societies divorced men as a gender and doesn't want to remarry because the gender collectively does not believe in redemption. Opting to marry yourselves or each other. That's why women are obsessed empowering each other (especially girls) while lack interest in empowering their fellow Man. Feminism is the paternal husband of the cultural/domestic matriarchy.
      Women mistrust men to be men and refuse to accept their role as women. Preferring the safety of technologically becoming synthetic counterfeits of all of the best men themselves while waging unending wars on renegades, annihilating the worst of them, and controlling the rest of them as Overmen instead of Women. Women desire to be Men and redefine themselves as Men. Making men feel like imposters for being men since that doesn't match the new definition. Which limits them to how women perceive them in their limited perspective. As an adversary, abusive, evil narcissistic, losers, and problematic for women.
      I forgot to mention that men are conditioned to view your behavior as feminine instead of manly. Technically women say both, which I agree with in the sense I agree that's what women believe. Men however believe they're either in their role or yours. Intersectional roles ultimately ends in one person fulfilling the role delegated to them.
      That's why men originally took these roles. Teaching both future men and women to fulfill the same roles when oral tradition was how knowledge spread was superlatively easy but practically absurd. Teaching both certain specific skills for them to both specialize in separate sets of valuable skills was a lot smarter than telling them to pick and choose the skills for themselves. That could lead to a majority of a generation lacking certain skills and sharing common weaknesses wanting the same strengths for themselves without thinking of their community's relationship balance of complimentary team members.
      I hope in writing this explanation I did not convey I despised you or many women like yourself. I wish you understood telling or perceiving men as immature all of the time is counterproductive and an unrealistic expectation since women are responsible for defeating men's ambitions. The only way forward is to inspire and encourage men to dream of living as men. Not "discipline," judgment, prescriptive instruction, therapy, or advice. Make being a man appealing again. Men were not the one's who made being men unappealing nor next to impossible. Which I don't expect you to believe but trace back the factors in the timeline of causation and effects from the 1800s to present day and the answer becomes clear thousands women want men to be men. But they refuse to allow them to become men and sabotage them often by their impatience, merciless attitude of apathy towards future men, and total absence of compassion not to men who are failures but by the perception men are failures. Which drags down future successful men by convincing them they're beholden to the reputation of men being failures.
      Quite evident in the 2020s, I'm seeing women pushing for subjugating young men. Enslaving them effectively with a clear conscience under the patronizing disguise of helping them for their mental health. Diseasing these men in the 1990s, 2000s, 2010s they consider them renegades now as after demoralizing them; the time has come to force the cure to their poison onto them. Reprogramming and rehabilitating them without being criminals technically. That's why they push in the medical industry to institutionally incarcerate their enemies for controlled environment assimilation of roaming bands of renegades in their cities and suburbs. Some who are hiding from western society. Imprisoned in environments force feeding them personal narratives, vision, image, supervision, management, and controlling views which may tragically succeed at making them compliant slaves working once more. Stuck in inhospitable inhuman conditions and undesirable labor.
      Men cannot become the men women want to define themselves as now because if you were honest that's in the image of aristocratic upper class men. Nor can men become who women expect them to be without understanding why men were sophisticated originally anymore. Nor knowing the process of how the inventions and their inventors whose mark, becoming obscured around us, were developed.

  • @Laugreano-k3o
    @Laugreano-k3o Рік тому +14

    My boyfriend was in emotional incest with his mother.
    He is kind of afraid to have a serious girlfriend because then his mother will be sad and guilt trip him. He is very kind to me and to other people, sometimes even people pleaser.
    He thinks that he is a narcissist because he had a couple of girlfriends which he devalued after love bombing at the beginning. I told him that this process is just fear of commitment and then he devalued and broke up.
    What do you think, I'm pretty sure that he will overcome this (he is slowly progressing in separation) but sometimes he seems very sad, especially after watching your videos. I hope that he will not read the comments haha.
    Thank you Sam.

    • @HSBsoulsurfer
      @HSBsoulsurfer Рік тому +10

      RUN, don't walk- RUN!!! The universe did you a favor. Do NOT try him a 2nd time when he tries again. Get someone healthy. You will be treated like complete garbage, ending when the mentally ill mother finally warps his view so badly of you that he throws you to the curb like yesterday's takeout boxes. 0/10, do not do.

    • @auaticamazon
      @auaticamazon Рік тому +7

      Why would you want a boyfriend with these serious issues. Do u rescue people ?

    • @kathyglass2922
      @kathyglass2922 10 місяців тому +3

      I'm pretty sure you need to run! You got a wounded boy on your hands.
      A man needs to be individuate from his mother. He needs to be his own person as a young adult and separate. Break her heart and move out, grow up, choose his own career, etc.
      It's a matter of time before, no matter what you do... he will see you as he sees his mother and will do and say to you what he won't say to his mother.
      Another funfact is that he won't be able to say no to all her requests, even after you marry. "Come paint my wall, fix my roof, keep me company, etc."
      And he will likely position you to fight with her. He will likely try to get you to fight for him with his mother.
      Better yet. Look at how his father treats his mother. Because no matter how you are, that is how he will end up treating you.
      At some point, you'll need him to be a man. When you have babies, you'll want a man with you, not a wounded child. You'll need someone to bring in sufficient income so you can care for the kids. You need to make the choice as to whether working is the right decision and when you should work. Hormones will make you want to be with your baby. At some point, you may need him to help drop them off at preschool, pick up diapers on the way home from work, and help when the baby is sick. Someday, with a newborn, you may find you didn't get a chance to shower all day. You'll need help. No woman can do both the man and the woman's role without sacrificing something important.
      At that time, when you really need him to step up and care for his family, he will see you just like he sees his mother now as a demanding woman.
      Girl, run.