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This is great! I spent most of my 10 year marriage focusing on his goals and his wants that now that we're getting divorced...I'm stuck figuring out what I want😆 It's a bit scary and overwhelming but extremely exciting to be able to find my own goals and work towards them. This helped point me in the right direction. Thank you!!
Over and over I’ve been told I needed to ask for what I want and set clearer goals...but I had no idea HOW to figure out what I wanted. I’d never heard of this approach before. This is exactly what I needed! Thank you!!
Don't we all love those "waaaay to simple to be true" tools that become alive & magical when implemented? Thank you for this video, Tara! I actually have a family member, who has been stuck in the "what do I REALLY want" mode for years! News flash: this is NOT only an issue of those who are stagnating or struggling but also of those who are seemingly fine, have a career, make money, etc. It is just compounded with guilt they get mirrored back when they dare to bring this up. "What else do you want, what the heck are you complaining about, you are all set..." is a summary of reactions they get. Lately, a spiritual book has offered the solution that if you do not know what you want (hence what to focus on to manifest it) then focus on wanting to know what you want. :) Until this video, this was the most pragmatic advice I have seen. But not anymore! Here you are, with this awesome process! Thank you so much!!
0:36 beautifully said. I remember receiving simple advice from psychologists during my time with a depressive episode. At the time I shrugged it off, I yearned for a more complicated and specific set of answers that were catered to me. But now being out of that depression, and reflecting on that simple advice, I can now appreciate the beauty in its simplicity. And that the application does actually go a really long way. Like and sub just for pointing that out. Thank you
love this...shared on my fb page too, I think many people haven't taken the time to examine this, and now with lockdowns off and on, this is a great time to review! Thank you!
@@TaraWagner it will be really helpful. Just trying to recover a bit from my mothers demise... so finding all jumble in & have some long due commitments... ur questions give that pointers To brain’s RAS🤗
You are just a very cool person. This video was very practical and helpful, and also short enough to digest. Your presentation is very personable. Just overall a great video. Subscribed!
LOOOOOVVEEE THESE STEPS!! Thank you so much for sharing this video 😭💙 I’m a fresh graduate of a major that can take me to many many career directions and I didn’t know how to choose :( I’ll follow your helpful steps to focus on what I really want to do, again, truly thank you 🥺💙💙
I really loved this video and it gave me so many ideas to act upon. At the same time, i found myself putting stuff towards the end that I feel I don't have much control on, for example I put: "I don't like to put so much work into something and get zero results". How would write the opposite of that? I can always put in work but sometimes the result doesn't always come as I can't control it,so it's a tricky one. I hope this makes sense.
Neither. Sometimes it’s just a damn slow process and needs a lot of experimentation. It’s a PITA but it’s normal. What can you do to start “testing” options or ideas?
Great question! In my own experience, I struggled with this when I wasn’t clear in my values and long term vision for my life. Without those it’s hard to choose things that align. It can also be true that we need to experiment to find those things too. Thoughts? Do either of those ring true?
@@TaraWagner yeah, but making a full on decision about something is so hard. and following through. i guess that's what actually worries me , am i able to continue with what i started or just.... give up. almst a year ago i made a very serous decision and i stood by it. and it changed me in someways; just showed that i am cable of something. But i have a tendency of falling back, beacuse i feel i was too hard on a person...
And that’s super normal! But I’d recommend focusing on one thing at a time - make the decision that aligns with your long term goals and values and treat the possibility that you might not finish as a FUTURE decision and cross that road when you get there!
I have no idea what I really want in life thats remotely possible. And even I got my impossible desires Id be lost afterwards knowing what to want next. Im confused. I hate not having a purpose, but there is no purpose.
I hear you. I’ve felt this at one point in life too. Nothing by felt possible or realistic or even that exciting. But I’ve found over time that those experiences can change too. With time and experimentation I found my dharma (calling/duty in life) and am passionate, motivated, and clear. Even the things I have now that I wanted don’t just leave me wanting more. They leave me enjoying what I have. So hang in there. Keep chipping away at it. It’s an “over time” thing not an “overnight” thing. You can get there. But unfortunately none of us get to rush the process. ❤️
@@TaraWagner Yep I see this country being filled with a bunch of yes men until the end . The shots is a next step . We are a country now that is being given orders or a slow painful death . Its becoming the USC United States of China . Do as your told . There is no or else . What is the point to knowing what you want in life as goals if that is what you are trying to get them in ? I am just a Veterans Wife that is all . We got a letter saying after 10 years of sacrifice they want my husband to give up his rights to choice that he defended for everyone and take there shots which would be them calling for him to "serve again ." I want someone to tell me what is the point ? I am hearing they will give no medical treatment to Veterans if they are not vaccinated . I have not found the evidence yet but I can see it from other things that has been said .
No limits at all! This channel and my work is made up of many great men, even though I primarily market to women. They don't even seem to mind being called boss lady from time to time. 😂
🤣🤣🤣 A man complaining that the world isn't gender neutral enough 🤣🤣🤣. I'm so glad that there's a channel that proudly puts women first! Not that men aren't welcome 😉
Ha! Great question. While women are pretty amazing I totally understand and get it. Women and men both face confusion and need direction. What is said in this video can most certainly be for any gender. :)
If you're ready to find closure on 2020, and set new intentions for 2021, start here: xotara.us/guidingword P.S. Be sure to jump on my free training, “How to Use a Holistic Approach to Create a Profitable Business Without Burning Yourself Out”. Learn more and reserve a seat here: xotara.us/training
This is great! I spent most of my 10 year marriage focusing on his goals and his wants that now that we're getting divorced...I'm stuck figuring out what I want😆 It's a bit scary and overwhelming but extremely exciting to be able to find my own goals and work towards them. This helped point me in the right direction. Thank you!!
I'm so glad to hear it's helpful! Good luck on this next chapter of your life!
Over and over I’ve been told I needed to ask for what I want and set clearer goals...but I had no idea HOW to figure out what I wanted. I’d never heard of this approach before. This is exactly what I needed! Thank you!!
Yayyy! I’m so glad to hear this!
Hi. You were very lucky you had someone on your side.
Don't we all love those "waaaay to simple to be true" tools that become alive & magical when implemented? Thank you for this video, Tara! I actually have a family member, who has been stuck in the "what do I REALLY want" mode for years! News flash: this is NOT only an issue of those who are stagnating or struggling but also of those who are seemingly fine, have a career, make money, etc. It is just compounded with guilt they get mirrored back when they dare to bring this up. "What else do you want, what the heck are you complaining about, you are all set..." is a summary of reactions they get.
Lately, a spiritual book has offered the solution that if you do not know what you want (hence what to focus on to manifest it) then focus on wanting to know what you want. :) Until this video, this was the most pragmatic advice I have seen. But not anymore! Here you are, with this awesome process! Thank you so much!!
So true. Having things is different than having the right things to bring fulfillment!
0:36 beautifully said. I remember receiving simple advice from psychologists during my time with a depressive episode. At the time I shrugged it off, I yearned for a more complicated and specific set of answers that were catered to me. But now being out of that depression, and reflecting on that simple advice, I can now appreciate the beauty in its simplicity. And that the application does actually go a really long way. Like and sub just for pointing that out. Thank you
And thank you for adding this to the convo!
From all videos I have seen regarding this topic, this is one of the shortest but best once. Thank you very much!!
Aw shucks - thanks!
What would be “amazeballs”? Love that. I really really loved your video. Thank you
My pleasure! I’m so glad to hear that!
You helped me a lot! Thanks from Brazil!
Glad to know that! ❤️
Thanks I was aware I have to write and figure it out.... But didn't know what and how to start from.... Definitely gonna try this....
You got this!
Wow this is life changing. I can’t believe I’ve gone through life not knowing these things.
Great! I'm so glad that this information was helpful!
love this...shared on my fb page too, I think many people haven't taken the time to examine this, and now with lockdowns off and on, this is a great time to review! Thank you!
My pleasure!
You are fantastic! thank you for putting it for free! much love!
Yay! Glad you enjoy it!
This is very good advice. I wasn't thinking about something this specific but I really like it!
I’m glad to hear it!
All ur videos r so guiding... I just wish u come up with a journal or workbook with all theses prompts & guides...🤗💕💕💕
That's a great idea! I'm glad you're enjoying them.
@@TaraWagner it will be really helpful. Just trying to recover a bit from my mothers demise... so finding all jumble in & have some long due commitments... ur questions give that pointers To brain’s RAS🤗
You are just a very cool person. This video was very practical and helpful, and also short enough to digest. Your presentation is very personable. Just overall a great video. Subscribed!
Woo hoo! Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Let us know what video you watch next. :)
LOOOOOVVEEE THESE STEPS!! Thank you so much for sharing this video 😭💙
I’m a fresh graduate of a major that can take me to many many career directions and I didn’t know how to choose :(
I’ll follow your helpful steps to focus on what I really want to do, again, truly thank you 🥺💙💙
❤️❤️❤️
Super interesting method of finding out what you want to do. Gonna test It out on my spouse who is usually negative towards her future goals.
Good luck!
This is too useful,thanks a lot
Glad to hear that!
Your smart! Thanks so much
Aww thanks!
I'm stuck at step 1.what would be AMAZING
Take your time! Answers like these are NOT (and probably shouldn’t be) the kind that come quickly! It is your life after all!
I really loved this video and it gave me so many ideas to act upon. At the same time, i found myself putting stuff towards the end that I feel I don't have much control on, for example I put: "I don't like to put so much work into something and get zero results". How would write the opposite of that? I can always put in work but sometimes the result doesn't always come as I can't control it,so it's a tricky one. I hope this makes sense.
That makes complete sense. :)
How about, "If I plan and set goals effectively I get closer to achieving them, in my own timing."
Good stuff. I like step two a lot.
That's a great one! Often times we want to figure it out, we just have a hard time deciding where to begin.
Thank you Tara
You are most welcome! What did you find most helpful from this video?
I don't know if I'm so stupid or because I have BPD
but still I don't know what I want
Neither. Sometimes it’s just a damn slow process and needs a lot of experimentation. It’s a PITA but it’s normal. What can you do to start “testing” options or ideas?
@@TaraWagner I don't know lol
@@TaraWagner I know what I want now!
I want to try to live on countryside on farm something like that
thank you so much!
What if you want is always changing? I have that problem!!
Great question! In my own experience, I struggled with this when I wasn’t clear in my values and long term vision for my life. Without those it’s hard to choose things that align. It can also be true that we need to experiment to find those things too. Thoughts? Do either of those ring true?
@@TaraWagner yeah, but making a full on decision about something is so hard. and following through. i guess that's what actually worries me , am i able to continue with what i started or just.... give up.
almst a year ago i made a very serous decision and i stood by it. and it changed me in someways; just showed that i am cable of something. But i have a tendency of falling back, beacuse i feel i was too hard on a person...
And that’s super normal! But I’d recommend focusing on one thing at a time - make the decision that aligns with your long term goals and values and treat the possibility that you might not finish as a FUTURE decision and cross that road when you get there!
Pl guide as how to motivate self & track 2-3 long term projects?
Have you ever looked into utilizing ClickUp? Check out this video, I think it will be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/SYktbpKcVp0/v-deo.html
@@TaraWagner will check... currently I am just using paper & pen ..& notion....thanks a lot
I'm so excited to apply loa in my life😍 I'm sure I'll get my wishes fulfilled 😍 but, I don't know what I want😒
How did this process help you?
Thanks.
And I like your eyes 😍😂
Why thank you! 😍
useful!
I have no idea what I really want in life thats remotely possible. And even I got my impossible desires Id be lost afterwards knowing what to want next. Im confused. I hate not having a purpose, but there is no purpose.
I hear you. I’ve felt this at one point in life too. Nothing by felt possible or realistic or even that exciting. But I’ve found over time that those experiences can change too. With time and experimentation I found my dharma (calling/duty in life) and am passionate, motivated, and clear. Even the things I have now that I wanted don’t just leave me wanting more. They leave me enjoying what I have. So hang in there. Keep chipping away at it. It’s an “over time” thing not an “overnight” thing. You can get there. But unfortunately none of us get to rush the process. ❤️
@@TaraWagner Thanks. I hope it comes quickly. Its been decades of searching and Im running out of time.
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Haha a comment will do just fine too. :)
@@TaraWagner it worked now haha. Thank you so much 😊
Understanding mind power the premise of Chinese kung fu is the understand the mind before we understand the body to know what one wants
This video is to help women figure out what they want to eat.
#nailedit
Hey I'm just starting out on this journey and would love to coach women in their purpose, and pointers and can we collaborate one day ? 😆
If I put it in writing it would cost me everything I have had my whole 44 year long life . So No I can not bring my self to say it.
In my experience what we fear will happen and what will actually happen are rarely the same thing.
@@TaraWagner Yep I see this country being filled with a bunch of yes men until the end . The shots is a next step . We are a country now that is being given orders or a slow painful death . Its becoming the USC United States of China . Do as your told . There is no or else . What is the point to knowing what you want in life as goals if that is what you are trying to get them in ? I am just a Veterans Wife that is all . We got a letter saying after 10 years of sacrifice they want my husband to give up his rights to choice that he defended for everyone and take there shots which would be them calling for him to "serve again ." I want someone to tell me what is the point ? I am hearing they will give no medical treatment to Veterans if they are not vaccinated . I have not found the evidence yet but I can see it from other things that has been said .
Why limit your great strategies and help to only woman? Guys need help figuring out what we want too🙄
No limits at all! This channel and my work is made up of many great men, even though I primarily market to women. They don't even seem to mind being called boss lady from time to time. 😂
🤣🤣🤣 A man complaining that the world isn't gender neutral enough 🤣🤣🤣. I'm so glad that there's a channel that proudly puts women first! Not that men aren't welcome 😉
Is this a feminist channel?(question) cause she's just mentioning women as if men don't feel lost, or don't know what they want too
Ha! Great question. While women are pretty amazing I totally understand and get it. Women and men both face confusion and need direction. What is said in this video can most certainly be for any gender. :)
@@TaraWagner Thank you for clarifying
No prob. I do WORK with mostly women, but I love when good men (and others) are part of the convo too! You're always welcome here.
I don't like your gesture
Which one?
Brilliant!!!
Awesome, thanks!