***** i know i might have more fake friends but i mean i want people to know who i am and i would like you talk to people like nothing and for it not to be awkward
PowerRangerDuelist me too I thought that like I had to carry the conversation and if i was weird it would all be weird and that I had to start everything and they would just respond. I was like wtf really?
I know this comment is 4 years old, but I need to make a comment. Yes, it is a two way street. Unfortunately, most people I talk to, is a one-way street. Where they don't make any effort. They may ask how I am doing, I'll say I did yadda yadda over the weekend. And then they are like, "oh ok that's cool." without telling me if they did anything interesting themselves. Been that way in school, college, and work....
The curse of being a extroverted introvert. You have the need to connect with people, but you are too socially awkward to do it. It's all about finding friends that are extremely patient.
That's a socially awkward extrovert. An introvert is someone who gains energy from being alone and doesn't need people to recharge. An extrovert is someone who needs to connect with people.
@@alsimanche But the main comment said they need people to connect with so extrovert. Their battery recharges with social interactions but they're too awkward to pursue it.
Me too! I always feel like if someone is hanging out with me it’s like they’re doing an act of charity, or like they’re doing me a favor rather than a mutually beneficial thing.
Steven has never come off to me as an awkward person. Even now, his "awkwardness" seems completely normal to me. He seems like just a generally cool guy. Maybe it's different when he's off camera?
I thought similar; the attention , support, commitment to practise just for practise not for real takes pressure off. There are playful elements, like playacting. Much easier than irl. Still he is doing well!
He’s quite the opposite of awkward. He’s more open and talkative than most people. Unless some people do that to deal with awkwardness because I’d expect an awkward person to talk less.
Going through this experience was life-changing, but not in the way I thought it would be at the beginning of the week. I'm still the same introverted and awkward guy, but the biggest change was learning how to respond in moments where I would normally shut down. My favorite line of the whole video is this: "becoming more social doesn't have to mean becoming someone else." It means being authentic to yourself and the people around you!
+Steven Lim im gonna cry i loved this. based on test friends videos & stuff i genuinely would have never guessed that you weren't super comfortable around new people tbh
+Steven Lim Well said Steven. You're so good in your vlogs though so I'm surprised you find it hard to make friends. This will help a lot of people I'm sure, including myself, thanks for doing this :)
+Steven Lim I found this video extremely informative! I feel awkward even thinking about talking to a person and hopefully this video helps me be more social without feeling anxious. Great job Steven!
i am getting so much anxiety just from watching him but also him getting coached through it is applicable like thank you?? i love this steven is best boy 13/10
I really feel Steven. I'm also the type of person that is really awkward around people and don't know how to start conversations. It's really hard sometimes but I'm getting a little bit better at making friends since I started college.
Most important lesson I've learnt during the time leading up to life in university was to be comfortable with silence, and that genuine friendships take time to form. Never ask questions for the sake of asking to fill up silence. Show that you're fully invested into the conversation and not looking around helps people to open up naturally :) Much support and from a fellow Chai from Malaysia!
since college I've gotten a lot worse lol. I don't talk to anyone and when someone tries to talk to me i dont know what to do. I've also separated myself from my best friends and now I don't have any friends 😅
Same! There's this group of really cool people (not my type to hang out with since I'm more nerdy and junk) that I was afraid to talk to, and surprisingly they were really nice and helped me to voice opinions in class, since I'm very soft-spoken
Even Kelsey who seemed to be the most carefree, confident girl, seemed very awkward when she said hello to Steven. That right there is where you feel isolated, because someone who appears to be able to get on with anybody seems uncomfortable around you.
You think it helps but it really doesn't. Pick a local event and go to it you'll be surprised as to how much fun you will have, whether or not you actually make any friends.
That's what I really like about Steven, he knows his weakness but instead hiding it, he's putting himself out there and turn that weakness into a learning experience! Mad respect to that guy,
they sounded so evil nd judgemental asif they have 'great' personalities and they are just the worst i hate keith and buzzfeed for these no bullying of employees please buzzfeed was so sad I wanted to hug him and be bestfriends with him
The guy has a skill that needs to be developed called social skills, without it, you'll be awkward and ruin flows of the conversations. It's not like they were making fun of him.
When I think of going and talk to someone I think that they are going to think that im weird and like "why is she talking to us" but if a person comes up to me I would be so happy to talk to them...but at the same time I dont know what to talk about and I always feel social awkward
That's why when I introduce myself to someone I asked them their name but I don't offer my name I wait for them to ask me because I imagine that when I say my name is so and so they will be thinking so who cares?
I really need to challenge myself like this in real life. I have this weird mental thing where I think people won't relate to me so I don't really try much :/ The blonde guy that hung out with him at home seems like such a good guy!
I used to think (and I think I do that even now) the same. I used to challenge myself to talking to more people so I could make more friends, because I thought negative about my social skills , but now I don't really do those challenges anymore. I lost motivation or smth even tho i know I want to make more friends. Probably I have evolved but I don't realize that, or there aren't that many situations?...
Start with taking yourself out to lunch or dinner. If you drive,bike or walk only have to talk to waiter if take Uber or taxi will have to do little bit of talking.
The key you need to realize here Steven is that awkward folk tend to make very good friends with other awkward folk. It's just difficult to find them for obvious reasons... Being awkward is the biggest part of what makes you, YOU. Thus you relate and befriend other people in which the largest part of them is alike to the largest part of you.
+NDHatley1 I disagree, I'm super awkward which is why I need someone who's really talkative to be my friend and start conversations. Imagine the awkward silences if both people dont really talk
+Serreh Yeah no that me too. I actually grew up really shy and even though it really takes a lot of effort for me to be outgoing. Now a lot of people think of me as extremely confident and I am, but it was not simple getting here and it took me many years. I think that why I always tend to feel attracted to awkward people because I understand their situation. So now I'm the outgoing friend that helps my other friends get out of their shell and tbh they really have.
For me it's the opposite. It's easiest if there is a purpose. Easy - Bar (because people are there to socialize) Medium - Invite someone over Hard - Get to know your friend crush Very Hard - talk to a stranger
I literally went through the same thing that Steven went through as a child. I thought every girl I talked to only did it out of an act of pity and I hated that so I refused to talk to them. I still have this mentality to this day and I think I should start making a change.
this is.....SO CUTE....... he wants to make friends and improve himself, isn't ashamed to reach out for help....everyone is so supportive...... this vid is so wholesome, it makes me so happy. good luck steven!
Havent watch buzzfeed in awhile. Comparing to this and to who he is now with the Worth it segment, his self esteem and confidence really boosted up. He likes himself better now. So happy for Steven!
Its all in the mind guys, so stop reinforcing the idea that you are awkward. Stop saying it and believing it and rather focus on the opposite spectrum You are smooth, bright, loving, daring, comfortable, calm and peaceful!
+EpicBunty lol i had the most awkward friend always say "it's not awkward unless you make it awkward" but he was home schooled and wasn't really good about social cues. anyways just thought i'd say that some people are just naturally awkward, you can go on fine but you'll have a few to many bumps on the road to finding friends who can understand you. also to put my friend's awkwardness in perspective, he would always talk over everyone else and interrupt people mid story/sentence. also he wasn't able to make eye contact or ever completely relay what he wanted to say. to strangers, people would ask why he's douchey or something along those lines and i just have to explain his personality.
rarykpark But that's something that can be changed, and it can be changed with practice. If you stop believing you are awkward, you will behave less awkwardly.
Naomi Z yup that's true, mindset affects everything but if it doesn't translate to actual change in perceivable behavior then it means nothing. steven here didn't see any benefits until he actually started talking and engaging acquaintances and strangers. my friend has been advised by mutual friends, even one from childhood, that interrupting new people we meet and hang out with isn't the most socially nice thing. he doesn't change his behavior at all and in the end it only hurts him because it alienates more people from him who don't understand him as well as the few of us in his circle of friends that do. edit: just to clarify, we are both agreeing, i don't want this reply to come off as aggressive although i can see that it can be received as so.
I was crying too much throughout this video to really concentrate on it, but I am going to have to re-watch this a few times. Steven is literally me. I can relate to every single thing he said. It is just so relieving to know i'm not the only one out there that feels this way and has such a hard time making friends and being social with people. I want to make friends SO badly, right now I don't have any and it hurts. I put so much pressure on myself that if I do actually end up talking to someone and the conversation doesn't go well, and I don't end up friends with them or whatever, I end up feeling awful and blaming myself for it. What the life coach said about how conversations are a two way street and how they end up isn't entirely on you really hit home with me. Thank you Buzzfeed for making a video on this subject.
i feel you, everything he was saying was so spot on, i also have no friends since i graduated high school and it makes me so frustrated :/ i feel like i cant never connect with people
I relate also. I have a few friends mostly from middle school and one from elementary school years at church. Making friends in high school has always been hard for me. I'm a sophomore and I'm still quiet in 2/4 of my classes. It's really hard especially when everyone pretty much already has their little friend group. I cried during this video too. I was watching and thinking how to apply these tips but I know I'm still too nervous to ever initiate conversation.
I was in the same situation last year, I know it seems really hard to start a conversation but just say anything. Eventually you will meet someone who can stand your awkwardness and you feel comfortable with 😋 Just keep trying
I really liked that people were so honest about their thoughts on Steven at the beginning. It was probably more helpful to him than people just being nice.
I truly feel like this video (and the k-pop transformation, obviously) helped Steven become a true Buzzfeed star. He's 100% my favorite buzzfeed staff due to being so relatable. He's great.
I have anxiety and I wish I had guts to do something like this! Good luck Steven! xoxo, the girl who still eats lunch in the bathroom alkn and is in college
+~KawaiiKitty~ Awww I wanna cry lol I'm a freshman girl in college too and so many nights are spent alone in my dorm. lol I don't mind a lot of the time but sometimes it sucks. I've really been trying to put myself out there though, and it's been working lately although it's so hard! I still don't have a solid group of friends but I a have a few pretty good ones and I'm sure I'll make more in time.
literally from watching how comfortable he is with andrew and adam on worth it I had no idea he'd ever feel socially awkward. THAT MAKES ME SO HAPPY UHG
I thought at the beginning he hired Keith as a life coach
same.
+Sage Mirei same
same
same
same
I think Steven needs to become friends with himself. He talks about himself so negatively!! He's a cool guy.
PROTIP
+Lindsey Luna omg i cried cause im like this i dont have many friends i just have about 7
***** but i mean like i mean i would like people to be my real friends i know their fake friends
***** i know i might have more fake friends but i mean i want people to know who i am and i would like you talk to people like nothing and for it not to be awkward
honestly!! I'd be friends with hi. and everyone else and buzzfeed tbh 😂 they all seem sooo nice and he seems reaaalyyy sweet
Plot twist: The life coach was the blonde girl who said, "Hi."
I'M
META
HAJAHA
HAAAA
Plot twist: it's actually J.K Rowling
This week we're comparing three different friends at three drastically different price points
U forget mentioned is it worth it ?
Yes all the yes 😂
i'm crying
Glenn ccjiii
Glenn lmllycy
"You visiting LA?" "Yeah, yeah, how about you?" "Yeah me too. Wait no, I live here."
Yaas
+TehPyyRo Or my version, "Hey, what's going on?" "Pretty good, how about you?"
SAME
Meeeeeee
I laughed so hard
"You guys just visiting LA?"
"Yeah, how about you?"
"Oh yea- wait no I actually live here"
Same Steven same
ME
I would so say something like that xD
THATS SO ME OMIGURD
+Karime C. I would actually say something like that.
😂😂 ikr
hes so adorable id be his friend anytime
same❤
Same!
+Killerwhale Same here, as well!
Ikr? Super cute.☺️☺️☺️
+Killerwhale i literary just said "awwwhhhhhhdgsfffffffffffffsajs he's soooooooooooo adorable!" and then i scrolled down and saw your comment lol
Everyone's discussing Zach who was great, but can we look at how supportive and helpful Keith was? Keith was so sweet!
I need Keith as my coach 😋😂 he is really sweet and gives helpful advice
Yeah and he didn’t get impatient with Zach or judge him
Are people in real life that supportive ? I still doubt 🤨
@@Musicisourlive100 yaa mann 🙌🙌
"But then I slowly started to become a huge fan of you"
slowly.
+V D.O. V (BTS) D.O. (EXO)
+Orchid Blossom I was just going to comment that
J hope infires me :3 :3 HOBI
+W'sYTCH it's just that he puts so much emphasis on the "slowly"
best sentence xD
The moment the coach said "It's not your responsibility how the conversation goes" MY MIND EXPLODED
PowerRangerDuelist me too I thought that like I had to carry the conversation and if i was weird it would all be weird and that I had to start everything and they would just respond. I was like wtf really?
Me too man 😅
I know this comment is 4 years old, but I need to make a comment. Yes, it is a two way street. Unfortunately, most people I talk to, is a one-way street. Where they don't make any effort. They may ask how I am doing, I'll say I did yadda yadda over the weekend. And then they are like, "oh ok that's cool." without telling me if they did anything interesting themselves. Been that way in school, college, and work....
*whispers* Zack Evans...
YOU ARE THE CUTEST THING STEVEN
IKR
+Shane P Jiiimiiiiiinnn
+SleepSuga girl u know it 😉
I almost nearly teared up when he did that. So precious :'0
+Shane P ARMY hi :D
"you visiting too?"
"uh, yeah yeah, oh wait no i actually live here"
michelle liang 😂
i can NOT stop laughing everytime i repeat it in my head!
That’s something I would do
Me when I try to have a conversation
😂😂 this was so greattttt
I got high-key anxiety just watching him talk to new people...
Scorpia Flueman same
Scorpia Flueman same
Scorpia Flueman same!!!
The curse of being a extroverted introvert. You have the need to connect with people, but you are too socially awkward to do it. It's all about finding friends that are extremely patient.
I am like that too
I'm introverted but I can manage with just a few friends
That's a socially awkward extrovert. An introvert is someone who gains energy from being alone and doesn't need people to recharge. An extrovert is someone who needs to connect with people.
Deebow or i think it's more like an awkward social introvert
@@alsimanche But the main comment said they need people to connect with so extrovert. Their battery recharges with social interactions but they're too awkward to pursue it.
i am like him and i feel so unconfortable watching this
Same
ditto
+minkakemi I felt you, awkwardness. But Zach is really a nice guy.
I feel u
Me too i was squirming hoping he would come out of his shell lol
Buuuuuuutttt.......
If you put Steven with Andrew....
Awkward Steven gone.
Huggy, cute, sweet Steven here.
Andrew created some great goals for steven to overcome his fears!
this video is old... way before worth it and andrew happened to steven
@@iamradhikasharma and steven happened to andrew...
That's why they were MEANT to be like best friends ❤
STEVEN IS ME ON SO MANY LEVELS OH MY GOD
same
same I stg
Ah, true 😭😭
how
Saaammmeee
"i feel like i have to sorta trick them or force them to be my friend" wow i relate to this so hard, it made me feel kind of sad actually
Exactly. Its like they already see that Im being phony and weird
I hate the fact that I relate to this
me too =/
Same
Me too! I always feel like if someone is hanging out with me it’s like they’re doing an act of charity, or like they’re doing me a favor rather than a mutually beneficial thing.
Now he hosts one of the most successful series buzzfeed has ever had. Nothing but respect for Steven
That's what I was thinking. I am so proud haha
How is called?
Valcal It is called Buzzfeed Worth It
Now everybody at BuzzFeed kisses up to him to get on the rotation of co-hosts on Worth It Lifestyle.
EXACTLY
"I don't believe in people" Never have I related to a statement on such a spiritual level
Me too!
Zach is really good at handling awkward situations. He defused the situation really well.
who's Zach
I can't watch this it hurts me. It's like looking in a mirror, I cry. Steve I feel you bro.
Shantall Segovia hi, can I cry with you?
I want to join too!
All I wanted to do was hug him wow
Why
+Toto Babu Why not?
Curious
saaaaaame
He was so awkward around Zach 😂
That conversation with Zack is so weird
"I slowly started becoming a huge fan of you"
"slowly"
LOL
Exactly lol
Funny as hell
Zak a cool dude tho
Zack Evans is so intimidatingly cool.
yeah .... i ship them now ... sorry had ot be mentionned
maybe he's related to Chris Evans O_o
IKR. When Steven went up to him I was like oh god if that was me Id make such a fool of myself. I would not be that brave
YESSSS!! He has this certain way he carries himself that just makes you think "Daaang I wanna be his friend" lol Even his name is cool.
How tall is he?
I always assumed he had loads of friends wow
Same
+Lauren Ng saaame cuz hes so confident on feast mode hunger squad
I always assumed people in Buzzfeed had at least a few very close friends
+Laura Thirty food brings out the best in everyone
+Lily Especially pizza. Who doesn't love pizza.
He and I would be friends. I'm awkward but feel really comfortable around other awkward people.
Same
exactly the same
+Val Joy Haha, me too :P
Ok. Ya'll can be my friends :)
+Val Joy i doo too haha
“I hate bars”
“Why do you hate bars?”
“because there’s people there..”
MOOD
Same not for me
Whispers "Zach Evans" 😂 YESS STEPHEN👌👌👌
*Steven
Extreme man crush!
+soph :3 he does have a girlfriend 😪
so cute
👌
"Then I slowly became a big fan of you. Slowly." -Zack Evans
Sssssssllllloooooowwwwllllyy
I hope he didn't mean that in a mean way
That's just how guys are. Good natured ribbing is a sign of affection.
When did he say that?
MegaUnfunny 3:52
Zack was so sweet to Steven! I hope they kept their friendship up after this :)
"I don't know what people really do when they hang out,"
*slowly nods*
Aww 'I really wanna talk to Zack evans' my heart melted
He is so adorable. When he said he wanted to be friends with Zack omg. It was so cute.
This has really changed my opinion of some of the buzzfeed employees..
same
Ikr
+Emma Jane Curran like what
Who?
+tayra e I thought they were all friends haha
Steven has never come off to me as an awkward person. Even now, his "awkwardness" seems completely normal to me. He seems like just a generally cool guy. Maybe it's different when he's off camera?
I thought similar; the attention , support, commitment to practise just for practise not for real takes pressure off. There are playful elements, like playacting. Much easier than irl. Still he is doing well!
He’s quite the opposite of awkward. He’s more open and talkative than most people. Unless some people do that to deal with awkwardness because I’d expect an awkward person to talk less.
@@bobjoe5520 some awkward people talk more because of how nervous they get. Their brain just kind of rambles on
Going through this experience was life-changing, but not in the way I thought it would be at the beginning of the week. I'm still the same introverted and awkward guy, but the biggest change was learning how to respond in moments where I would normally shut down. My favorite line of the whole video is this: "becoming more social doesn't have to mean becoming someone else." It means being authentic to yourself and the people around you!
+Steven Lim Good for you! I feel the same way a lot of the time!
+Steven Lim im gonna cry i loved this. based on test friends videos & stuff i genuinely would have never guessed that you weren't super comfortable around new people tbh
+Steven Lim Well said Steven. You're so good in your vlogs though so I'm surprised you find it hard to make friends. This will help a lot of people I'm sure, including myself, thanks for doing this :)
+Steven Lim You're not the only one Steven, I feel the same way.
+Steven Lim I found this video extremely informative! I feel awkward even thinking about talking to a person and hopefully this video helps me be more social without feeling anxious. Great job Steven!
I want Steven to be my friend. Seriously.
SAME
yeah, steven is the coolest guy.
Anj Clifford Same
Anj Clifford Same!!
steven is awesome
FRIEND CRUSHES ARE SO REAL
And hurt more than romantic crushes lol
"Sorry I'm way out of your friend leauge."
im wondering if stephen and zac are still friending out
"I only see you as a stranger." Stranger Zoned 🤣
PanDiDo 005 NOOOOOO
i am getting so much anxiety just from watching him but also him getting coached through it is applicable like thank you??
i love this
steven is best boy 13/10
I am Steven
Kory Mann you’re so pretty omg
Me too. Omg I’m trying to do the same as him. Like findings friends are so hard like how do people do this 😂
S A M E
414 Stevens' 😂
Amber Neumann make that 562 Stevens 😂
I love that Steven has his own series with Buzzfeed's two other most awkward employees, lol.
Katrina and how that series is arguably Buzzfeed's most successful and popular one to date
Andrew and adam?
the problem with me is I imagine how a conversation will go and when I go to talk to them it goes different situations and I panic
SAME
Oh my god, this happens to me a lot.
+alex lara GAH I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN, like when i image it im like super funny but in reality i just sound like a creep xD
saaame
Dear lord I hate when that happens Dx
"I assume everybody hates people like I do." Truth!!!
I really feel Steven. I'm also the type of person that is really awkward around people and don't know how to start conversations. It's really hard sometimes but I'm getting a little bit better at making friends since I started college.
Victoria Chai I agree, Steven is me. good luck in college
Ha! same! XD
just read books on making conversation, "how to talk to anyone" etc. Learn tricks easy!
Most important lesson I've learnt during the time leading up to life in university was to be comfortable with silence, and that genuine friendships take time to form. Never ask questions for the sake of asking to fill up silence. Show that you're fully invested into the conversation and not looking around helps people to open up naturally :)
Much support and from a fellow Chai from Malaysia!
since college I've gotten a lot worse lol. I don't talk to anyone and when someone tries to talk to me i dont know what to do. I've also separated myself from my best friends and now I don't have any friends 😅
steven is such a delicate little butterfly
true
my name's steven
spot the reference gO I HAVE FAITH IN THE PHANDOM
+Ava Roberts I'm actually really surprised as he seems like he would be so good at making friends in his vlogs.
😂😂
He's so cute too 😍
Zach is like the nicest person what the hell
He looks cool tho it's intimidating lmao
schmutzzfink ikr he is such a precious bean
This is so weird to watch now, since Steven is like the most popular and successful guy on Buzzfeed.
This gave me second hand encouragement to talk to other people
Yesss
Same! There's this group of really cool people (not my type to hang out with since I'm more nerdy and junk) that I was afraid to talk to, and surprisingly they were really nice and helped me to voice opinions in class, since I'm very soft-spoken
Even Kelsey who seemed to be the most carefree, confident girl, seemed very awkward when she said hello to Steven. That right there is where you feel isolated, because someone who appears to be able to get on with anybody seems uncomfortable around you.
Oh, indeed. From this video that girl seemed like she would rather avoid him altogether:/
Lmao....I just realized that...but Steven way more social now I feel from his vids
I almost cried when I saw that part 😂 & your comment fully explained why I felt that way
exactlyy
yup das me
5:37 "I just automatically asume that everyone hates people... like I do" xD Literally me
me and my friend XD
Paige Hemmings xD
rawrrr xD
Basic
me too XD
Its cute how he bought beer for his friend even tho he himself doesnt like beer
"Say something inconsequential."
"Like I love you?"
😂😂😂
Nah Brah i died
@@joshhause692 bruh I'm typing this from my coffin cause I'm already ded
I'm identifying with Steven soo hard right now. Socializing is HARD man.That's why there's...internet.
You think it helps but it really doesn't. Pick a local event and go to it you'll be surprised as to how much fun you will have, whether or not you actually make any friends.
Ms. Faceless A
Ms. Faceless The internet actually just makes it even harder imo.
+Azazul Soulmeister it does
The question is... What is hard about it?
This video gives me such a huge respect and admiration for Zach.
IKR? We need to see more of Zach, sans the other Try Guys.
I think she meant the other Zach, the blonde one.
Same asf maan need to do what he’s doing
That's what I really like about Steven, he knows his weakness but instead hiding it, he's putting himself out there and turn that weakness into a learning experience! Mad respect to that guy,
The way they talked about him in the beginning was sad
I know😢
it, especially since he's basically the guy version of me
they sounded so evil nd judgemental asif they have 'great' personalities and they are just the worst i hate keith and buzzfeed for these no bullying of employees please buzzfeed was so sad I wanted to hug him and be bestfriends with him
Kelly kay its sad!!! and I can feel the way they feel about him too, because i notice that when I'm around people and i am basically Steven too
The guy has a skill that needs to be developed called social skills, without it, you'll be awkward and ruin flows of the conversations. It's not like they were making fun of him.
I get an extreme fuzzy feeling seeing Zachary being really nice to Steve.
Same...when he told him: "I became a fan of you" I felt as if I were Steven and I was so relieved xD
"slowly"
A year and a half later and Steven has a ton of new friends lol. He’s changed so much and you can see it in his videos. 🖤
When I think of going and talk to someone I think that they are going to think that im weird and like "why is she talking to us" but if a person comes up to me I would be so happy to talk to them...but at the same time I dont know what to talk about and I always feel social awkward
me too
Dude you described how I feel so accurately! Thank you
That's why when I introduce myself to someone I asked them their name but I don't offer my name I wait for them to ask me because I imagine that when I say my name is so and so they will be thinking so who cares?
Now he has the most successful show on Buzzfeed. Inspiring and proud.
Mind blown, I thought everyone at buzz feeds was friends with each other 😀💥
saaame
+Awesomesauce i guess its like any other work place, a few people you like, few you hate and you don't even mind the rest
me too haha
+Awesomesauce I feel so sad if Steven felt this way through all the videos and stuff too
+Awesomesauce I would think about it that way that there are working so many people at buzzfeed that you can't know or be friends with anyone :p
"I just assume that everybody hates ppl like I do" 😂
Me me me me me
"I assume that everybody hates people like I do" this is such a mood
Steven you're the best 😂
steven: are you just visiting LA?
girl:Yeah, how about you?
steven: yeah me too.... no actually i live in LA.
*i can literally feel the awkwardness*
That was so cute. Stephen is actually me
Steven*
+winnelle Hey Stephen
me too
But Steven isn't you; You are Winnelle
Stephen is me
I really need to challenge myself like this in real life. I have this weird mental thing where I think people won't relate to me so I don't really try much :/
The blonde guy that hung out with him at home seems like such a good guy!
HUMBLE BEAST227 I actually had someone tell me straight to my face that she'd be bored if she stayed with me :(
I used to think (and I think I do that even now) the same. I used to challenge myself to talking to more people so I could make more friends, because I thought negative about my social skills , but now I don't really do those challenges anymore. I lost motivation or smth even tho i know I want to make more friends. Probably I have evolved but I don't realize that, or there aren't that many situations?...
Start with taking yourself out to lunch or dinner. If you drive,bike or walk only have to talk to waiter if take Uber or taxi will have to do little bit of talking.
Introvert, in my room, all alone, under a weighted blanket, taking notes.
Haha have you left yet?
I am the female version of Steven...
Same
Same x 2
I am Steven.
+F Gouveia Steven is ACTUALLY me, like 500%. I feel attacked
Same.
The key you need to realize here Steven is that awkward folk tend to make very good friends with other awkward folk. It's just difficult to find them for obvious reasons... Being awkward is the biggest part of what makes you, YOU. Thus you relate and befriend other people in which the largest part of them is alike to the largest part of you.
Same
+NDHatley1 I disagree, I'm super awkward which is why I need someone who's really talkative to be my friend and start conversations. Imagine the awkward silences if both people dont really talk
+Serreh Yeah no that me too. I actually grew up really shy and even though it really takes a lot of effort for me to be outgoing. Now a lot of people think of me as extremely confident and I am, but it was not simple getting here and it took me many years. I think that why I always tend to feel attracted to awkward people because I understand their situation. So now I'm the outgoing friend that helps my other friends get out of their shell and tbh they really have.
+Serreh You are soo right!
+Serreh You are soo right!
Shyly admitting that he wants to be friends with Zach is the most pure thing I have witnessed in this world.
For me it's the opposite. It's easiest if there is a purpose.
Easy - Bar (because people are there to socialize)
Medium - Invite someone over
Hard - Get to know your friend crush
Very Hard - talk to a stranger
Steven doesn't even seem awkward to me. He seems to make good conversation. Go Steven!
Steven is me
same
i am a lonely guy
can we talk with each other
I feel like Keith was a better life coach than the actual life coach
Yesssss! Haha! I was just thinking that!
keith : walk upto somebody, say something very inconsequential.
steven : like i love you. :D
looollll
I relate to everything that Steve is going through
same i feel like im abnormal
aww I feel sorry for you.
Same😩 wanna be friends?
Same 🙁😭
I literally went through the same thing that Steven went through as a child. I thought every girl I talked to only did it out of an act of pity and I hated that so I refused to talk to them. I still have this mentality to this day and I think I should start making a change.
Seriously this is the best buzzfed video so far!!
ikr
Just wanted to say really like it Dp
Really! I was just saying to myself "That was super cool!"
TRUE ITS SO RELATABLE
+Devon G. Agreed :(
this is.....SO CUTE....... he wants to make friends and improve himself, isn't ashamed to reach out for help....everyone is so supportive...... this vid is so wholesome, it makes me so happy. good luck steven!
"say something very inconsequential"
"like i love you?"
Look at how much steven has improved! From being socially awkward to traveling the world with andrew and adam in Worth It. So proud of u steven!!!
He doesnt seem awkward at all though. I usually blush and stutter something something in a high pitched voice
'I actually don't like beer. Do you have a bottle opener? I don't'
Georgia H HAHAHA sooooo awkward
Georgia H I was so done when I heard that! 😂☠️
Now I'm motivated to attempt to socialize but it's 3:00 AM, so. 😂
ha same tho
ive given up. 45 yr old married loner and i crack myself up all the time, play guitar, etc. screw it! lol
+raleighman3000 how'd you get married then if you've given up on socializing?
+Annie married 20 yrs now. no need.
same
Havent watch buzzfeed in awhile. Comparing to this and to who he is now with the Worth it segment, his self esteem and confidence really boosted up. He likes himself better now. So happy for Steven!
lol I never would have expected this! Steven is my favorite!😂🤙🏻
Its all in the mind guys, so stop reinforcing the idea that you are awkward. Stop saying it and believing it and rather focus on the opposite spectrum
You are smooth, bright, loving, daring, comfortable, calm and peaceful!
Well that was awkward...j/k - Even the word 'awkward' is awkward!
lol
+EpicBunty lol i had the most awkward friend always say "it's not awkward unless you make it awkward" but he was home schooled and wasn't really good about social cues. anyways just thought i'd say that some people are just naturally awkward, you can go on fine but you'll have a few to many bumps on the road to finding friends who can understand you.
also to put my friend's awkwardness in perspective, he would always talk over everyone else and interrupt people mid story/sentence. also he wasn't able to make eye contact or ever completely relay what he wanted to say. to strangers, people would ask why he's douchey or something along those lines and i just have to explain his personality.
rarykpark
But that's something that can be changed, and it can be changed with practice. If you stop believing you are awkward, you will behave less awkwardly.
Naomi Z
yup that's true, mindset affects everything but if it doesn't translate to actual change in perceivable behavior then it means nothing. steven here didn't see any benefits until he actually started talking and engaging acquaintances and strangers. my friend has been advised by mutual friends, even one from childhood, that interrupting new people we meet and hang out with isn't the most socially nice thing. he doesn't change his behavior at all and in the end it only hurts him because it alienates more people from him who don't understand him as well as the few of us in his circle of friends that do.
edit: just to clarify, we are both agreeing, i don't want this reply to come off as aggressive although i can see that it can be received as so.
I was crying too much throughout this video to really concentrate on it, but I am going to have to re-watch this a few times. Steven is literally me. I can relate to every single thing he said. It is just so relieving to know i'm not the only one out there that feels this way and has such a hard time making friends and being social with people. I want to make friends SO badly, right now I don't have any and it hurts. I put so much pressure on myself that if I do actually end up talking to someone and the conversation doesn't go well, and I don't end up friends with them or whatever, I end up feeling awful and blaming myself for it. What the life coach said about how conversations are a two way street and how they end up isn't entirely on you really hit home with me. Thank you Buzzfeed for making a video on this subject.
Female?
i feel you, everything he was saying was so spot on, i also have no friends since i graduated high school and it makes me so frustrated :/ i feel like i cant never connect with people
I relate also. I have a few friends mostly from middle school and one from elementary school years at church. Making friends in high school has always been hard for me. I'm a sophomore and I'm still quiet in 2/4 of my classes. It's really hard especially when everyone pretty much already has their little friend group. I cried during this video too. I was watching and thinking how to apply these tips but I know I'm still too nervous to ever initiate conversation.
+Toto Babu female?
I was in the same situation last year, I know it seems really hard to start a conversation but just say anything. Eventually you will meet someone who can stand your awkwardness and you feel comfortable with 😋 Just keep trying
I really liked that people were so honest about their thoughts on Steven at the beginning. It was probably more helpful to him than people just being nice.
Yes feedback is so key! Sometimes we don't know what we don't know
I connect with Steven on a spiritual level xD anyways anyone noticed the "social PROTIP"???
PROTIP
PROTIP!
Aahhh Phandom , where you at??👍👍👍
PROTIP
PROTIP
Ayyy where are my fellow introverts at?
Hey waddup! 😃
Hell yea! ✋
Here
there's a difference between being introverted and shy
I'm not😔.
But that's perfectly fine😛!
I truly feel like this video (and the k-pop transformation, obviously) helped Steven become a true Buzzfeed star. He's 100% my favorite buzzfeed staff due to being so relatable. He's great.
"I got beer! You like beer?"
"Yeh I do!"
"I actually don't like beer."
Steven, never change.
My anxiety went through the roof when keith suggested going to a bar and talking to a stranger!
Ab CD Haha, socially awkward introverts unite!
I felt the same way until people started buying me drinks.
Zach was so nice to Steven. Yay.
Hey dad
+jeff peake For real I agree.
Holy schnitzel that was lovely I wanna be friends with u
Amy omf ily
Yoooo Amy
AMEHHHH
MOMMY
+Amy Ordman awwww thanks. I would love to be ur friend
omg i never saw this before. i love steven. best find of the week!!! ... 2 years later!
I couldn't stop smiling when Zach said he was cool, he was so surprised and it just made me really happy!
Favorite buzzfeed video so far. I can totally relate especially with having people to my place.
Really?
+Toto Babu really?
Same I never have people over its embarrassing when people bring it up
yupp
Omg yes! I thought I was the only one who felt like him
I have anxiety and I wish I had guts to do something like this! Good luck Steven!
xoxo,
the girl who still eats lunch in the bathroom alkn and is in college
PROTIP
+~KawaiiKitty~ Awww I wanna cry lol I'm a freshman girl in college too and so many nights are spent alone in my dorm. lol I don't mind a lot of the time but sometimes it sucks. I've really been trying to put myself out there though, and it's been working lately although it's so hard! I still don't have a solid group of friends but I a have a few pretty good ones and I'm sure I'll make more in time.
Same with me i dont have many people i am Close with
+Vampire Princess in in highschool is college different than high school
Socially
+~KawaiiKitty~ I totally get you, I spend many meals alone
literally from watching how comfortable he is with andrew and adam on worth it I had no idea he'd ever feel socially awkward. THAT MAKES ME SO HAPPY UHG