Masculine Vs Feminine Energy - The Right Balance For A HEALTHY Relationship | Courtney Ryan
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- Опубліковано 6 лип 2021
- In this video I am talking about masculine and feminine energy. We all have a balance of masculine and feminine energy, but a healthy relationship requires the right balance. Thank you all for watching and let me know in the comments what you think about masculine and feminine energy.
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I think it’s good to have a mix of both energies. Roles can switch as well. Case in point my grandparents. Got married shortly after WW2. My grandfather was the breadwinner while my grandmother took care of the house and the children. Shortly after my grandfather retired, my grandmother got a job in corporate America while my grandfather took care of the house. They were happily married for 63 years.
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That's a really heartwarming story. When you enter a relationship where you truly love one another, the ways your love manifests between you doesn't matter as long as there is balance
Women rarely start out like that
Courtney Ryan A big mistake I see women make is they blame the men for their failings in relationships instead of checking to see if the way they act is respectable. I always have had men be nice to me because I’m nice to them and as a young woman I’m pretty logical in how I act so I connect to men more. I think a huge problem with modern women is they never have been told they are doing wrong or have been humble enough to look in the mirror and work on themselves and their ego is inflated. I think you should have a healthy view of how you see yourself and not thinking you are flawless.
Totally agree!
Agreed I think that is just people in general tho. Both men and women, some of them like to point their fingers somewhere else to blame for their failings rather than self reflect.
Women never hold themselves accountable in relationships. Always blaming the guy for her problems instead of herself.
@@ericv5435 right
@@Iam_Celene Great testimony. Amen hahah
Hi Courtney, I can’t believe how much wisdom you have for someone so young. You remind me of my brother when we were in our 20’s, I always thought he was from the past and had traveled through time because of how much life wisdom he had and I was so inexperienced about life. I am older now and you are so on point about so many things. Thank you for all the help you are giving especially the younger generation.
Just want to say I respect the hell out of people that love their siblings. There is something so refreshing about seeing you speak well about your brother. It just stuck out to me. Cheers.
Femininity is often what leads to beauty and kindness in the world. That's wonderful to have. That's not weak, nor is it something to be ashamed of.
Correct, feminine approach is often more care based and gentle. Hence, when describing the current wave of feminism Joan Rivers used the term "pseudo-masculinity."
The irony of your username vs your comment got me 😂
Yeah but what is not normal is a having a man show too much feminine energy and a woman to show too much masculine energy.
That is what is happening as a result of equality these days.
@@Tyler-gq7on How about "Feminism, the destroyer of THIS world" ?
"If you want a long term relationship follow the simple rule NEVER LIE" 🙂
Or lie that you never lie.....😉🙃
This is key! Just be real...don't do to her what you don't want done to yourself.
*_Isaiah 55.6 Seek the Lord while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near. 7 Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the Lord, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon._*
_Jesus Christ loves you. Repent and be saved. Only Jesus Christ saves. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family...._
@@williammunny9916 How to turn a woman off: Start preaching to her.
Jordan Peterson
You have the most soothing voice it’s a pleasure to hear you speak. Plus you have great topics !!
Can we take a moment to appreciate our girl Courtney for being on the ball with these 🔥 topics
I can't tell you how satisfying it was to hear this. You nailed this topic better than most I've seen on social media, and I'm glad someone with good reach is the one to say it.
That's why my woman was attracted to me and I to her. She balanced everything out and I did the same for her.
Again, THANK YOU for saying it!
Hi Courtney Ryan, you are absolutely right on this video, most of the people will agree with this.
You are one of those high quality women in the world, I am absolutely sure on that !!
God bless you Courtney 🙏 ❤
And keep giving us the right information !!
Courtney just sounds so genuine and kind, and I think that's why she has the following she currently has👍
Great advice again courtney. Thats why I love your channel. Thank you so much for your advice.
Your definition of “opposites attract” seems better than what I thought this whole time. I truly believed it was about having different interests, hobbies and ideas while still being perfect for a long term relationship.
Great insight and breakdown of the two energies--this is really helpful. And it's awesome that you don't worry about being PC because you're spot on with your advice!
VERY well said Courtney! I wholeheartedly agree with every point you made here! I don't think I could've said it ANY better than that from a man's perspective either, so good job on this!...
Not very many women understand things from "both sides" or in multiple perspectives like you do, so keep up the great work! More people, (both guys AND girls, and of ALL ages), need to know and understand this stuff, so hopefully more and more people will watch this video... thumbs up from me!
Great share Courtney. Very needed topic
Thanks. I do think you’re very correct on all points. Balance is key in feminine and masculine energy. This video will help many.
I am glad to view your channel. Something different to interesting in review. Another perspective which one would not think about... great style Courtney!! 👌
100% could not agree more. I'm glad to see another person my age with the same exact take on this topic - something that should be obvious but is controversial to some people. Thanks for being so articulate!
Her voice is a blessing, so stress-relieving.
Your voice Courtney makes me feel at peace 🙏
I'd say I have a good mix of those qualities and is fairly well balanced.
Nice soft start to the day listening to Courtney before you get going with everything that needs to be done.
👏🏼❤️🥰 thank you!
Just Awesome.Really great and informative video as everywhere there is a fight between masculine and feminine energy without any kind of balance.Good work ☺️
I hit the like button before the video even hits 5 seconds because I know her videos are gonna be lit.
I love how you say when we get to choose between which ones they want and then don't you didn't have to be all the time or else the woman leaves him
Your content is always thoughtful and informative you are a wise and beautiful lady. Thanks so much. Best wishes
All great points! It is sometimes hard for people to detach themselves from their professional mode to their personal life. I dated a woman who was very successful and a boss, but I don't want to date a boss. I figured out is someone in the relationship is generally the lead, even though you are equal, someone takes the masculine energy in the relationship. We parted ways, still friends but not in a relationship anymore.
Hi Courtney,
Awesome video regarding the balance of internal energies 🤓! A recent job experience proved to me the importance of being aware of these two energies and how they can intertwine for success. My role was as project leader which you might think would play heavily towards masculine traits (leadership, logical problem solving, etc). However, it turned out that tapping feminine attributes (cooperation and dare I say nurturing behavior) are what truly made the $14M effort involving a 25 person team achieve the successful outcome! Another example of how a healthy "balance" is key to good things in life 😊!!! Thank you for reminding and reinforcing these super important principles!
Cheers,
Dan
I like the format of this video. Talk and displaying text. Helps for more visual vs those who get more from the audio.
Hey, my comment is not specific to this video but more about your videos in general. Thanks for putting this stuff out there, I find your advice authentic and genuine, solid good advice that makes sense. Know that your efforts are really appreciated, and it's really great to have a woman's perspective to help navigate the sometimes bewildering experience of dating. :).
Love the new background!! And your videos!
I use a bit of feminine energy on a first date for the woman to feel comfortable and feel attracted to me. Works like a charm at least untill they relize I`m poor af.
Get your paper up my dude.
Hahaha
@@dragonfist25 easier said than done, my dude.
@@travis6694 Not really. Don’t get mad with the results you don’t get with the work you didn’t do.
@@dragonfist25 if you have to get a shitton of money to attract a woman, they like your money, not you.
I can see a talk show in your future Lady Courtney! Can't wait!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge I’ve learned a lot from watching your videos ✌🏽❤️✊🏽
Most people don't understand that balance is the key, in almost everything and that this is one of the most important things.
Men and women are different and that's ok. Love hearing that said through this. This is a great video for not just guys but for anyone. Finding the balance between masculine and feminine traits is always helpful. Loved that you're getting that message out there. "Hard" values like the masculine traits listed here are always better when tempered with "softer" values like the feminie side. Likewise the feminie traits are strengthened by the masculine.
Courtney
Can you make a VISUAL board of FEMININE/ MASCULINE traits.
Something these girls can use as a guide so that they dont think its a “weakness”.
Thank you for everything you do!
Courtney love how you breakdown and explain things! You're lovely soothing voice is a plus! Great job gurl and keep at it!!🙌🏾💪🏾🙏🏾
Awww thank you so much 😊
*_Isaiah 55.6 Seek the Lord while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near. 7 Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the Lord, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon._*
_Jesus Christ loves you. Repent and be saved. Only Jesus Christ saves. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family...._
Exactly Courtney. Masculine vs feminine does not mean better or worse. They are just different. They are complimentary and we all have varying levels of both at times.
Spot on! ❤️👏🏼
Your hair looks so pretty today Courtney!
Exactly 💯 percent Correct Masculine Simply Appreciation For Femininity so Balanced You're 👏 on Point 💕🔥 its what's missing From A Lot of Relationships
It’s all about balance! ❤️❤️
A Yin and Yang is for sure needed for the long term relationships, men and women are different and that is not a bad thing! Like you said people take on different traits and finding that good balance point is everything!
It's a big topic of men and women expressing "masculine and feminine" energies. I have only heard this wisdom from a few select people in my life. It's a rare topic. I LOVE IT.
I think the better word than equal, is parity. Equal means the same, and men and women are not the same. Parity though, speaks specifically too one's standing in a relationship.
Pls upvote this guys comment
@@DjeDrie I upvoted yours too, hopefully it helps 👍
Feminine energy weak? NEVER! :) We are strong and amazing human beings and I am so proud to be a woman!
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You got it! 🥰❤️
Thanks Courtney , even in a same sex relationship I have seen one person take on the role of the masculine and the other person takes on feminine energy I have also come across women friends who have made themselves into the man they wanted to be with...tough balancing act for professional women
Just stopping by to say hi Courtney gonna watch your video later today😇
I like your videos Courtney they are very interesting... Tq so much👌 for this ✨😍
Political Correctness and equality have mixed up the distinction between the two energies to The extent that nobody know which energy comes from or belongs to which side.
Courtney….. please don’t change as you. No lengthy drawn out intro, just straight to the topic at hand. No provocative pictures for clickbait. No raging feminist perspectives. You have no idea how refreshing you are. May God bless you & your future! Jeremiah 29:11
As you grow I meant to say.
❤️🥰 thank you! I won’t, don’t worry!!
Ngl Courtney's voice is just relaxing
What I keep saying!
The leveler is respect, we can be equal and still play our natural energies
Great topic and video! The only caveat I would add is, for me, the word “equal” when describing partnership is not completely accurate. The way I think of it is having a pilot and co-pilot: it’s good to have both to obtain perspective but if there’s a need to tie break, that would go to the pilot. Traditionally that has been the man when in his masculine but I know some couples don’t necessarily follow that dynamic.
Women today have been taught that the only way to be empowered is to become more masculine and that’s the opposite of what they need. I think they just end up more confused and detached than ever
I discovered your channel a few weeks ago and watched several of your videos on male-female behaviour and relationship issues. If I'm correct, you say you're mid-20s (maybe 26) now in 2021? However, you sound a lot wiser and mature than that age. I'm not saying you're lying but your videos surely present you far beyond that mid-20s age. You make excellent explanation and education in your professionally filmed videos with very feminine character and a sweet voice backed by soft appropriate music. (I noted some others suggesting you make ASMR content.) Keep up the good work.
There is a severe disturbance in masculine and feminine energy especially in western countries. Some call it a war between the sexes. I'm Asian, living in a western country. Although I'm not directly or greatly affected by some of the growing problems and risks white men now face with dating women within their own western homeland, I can clearly see how dating and relationships have been going downhill (deteriorating), and leading to the growing uptake in a philosophy (not a movement) called Men Going Their Own Way (or Wallet) where mostly white men put focus on their own personal development (and preservation of their own assets) whilst distancing themselves from (minimising relations or commitment with) women, and enjoying freedom to do activities or pastimes that bring them happiness or fulfilment.
It is important to get in touch with your feelings...or something like that.
The topic made me think of Corey Wayne when he talks about these 2 energies. I would love to see you do a reaction to one of his videos!
The new place looks great btw, lots of light
Wayne's views on masc and fem energies are much more directed at stereotypes of how men and women should all be. I appreciate that Courtney's views are more enlightened.
You're a Genius I look at is as Yin & Yang a balance of hard and softness Great video so on the money as always 👍⭐
There's a bunch to digest here, but one of the interesting things to think about is the concept of polarity. If you get with the right girl and demonstrate good masculine traits of confidence, strength, logic and assertiveness mixed with masculine kindness and sexual energy you can definitely move her into her feminine energy and it's a wonder to behold when that happens and you see your effect on her and her on you. You also need to recognize and appreciate the traits of feminine energy because as Courtney says they aren't really celebrated by society nowadays and that's a real shame. Nurturing and caring in particular are things I really appreciate in my wife in the way she cares for our children, and her sense of interdependence, everything is WE with her.
And understanding the sexual aspect of this is really important too. A big part of a romantic relationship is tapping into your and her polarity in terms of "bedroom dynamics". Again your masculinity in terms of natural dominance and hers in terms of female submissiveness has a big role to play in this and again without going into details (but let's just say that most women want the man to take charge and lead her through the experience) if you get this balance right you can create a really deep bond with her.
Like back in the old days women was like so nice feminine and like Just have a good personality and healthy relationship, fast forward to now ( not all women) most women they look in a man for status money and a man that take cares of needs crazy I’m grateful I’ve found this channel man this is like a blessing
Well... women a lot of times had to put up with a lot of bad things in their marriage, and a lot of times they were not even listened to since it was the men to hold the "power" in the relationship. Fortunately things impoved for women A LOT in the last 50 years but please don't think that women were more feminine back in the days, they couldn't just be anything else. I understand where you come from, I am a woman and I don't like nowadays women, I don't like how they easily blame everthing on men, and I don't like how they treat men most of the times. I also don't agree with the people that say that the straight men had everything better in the past, because it means they have zero knowledge of human history. Let's just try to understand each other better!
@@f.m.8999 right
I like your explanation of feminine energy.
Feliz Miercoles Courtney! 🌹
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The key word here is ...." Well Rounded ". Men and women should be able to be . Assertive, Aggresive , Neutral , Compassionate , ....When they have to be .
Both of these energies complement each other, like Yin & Yang.
We also have both of these energies inside us. A man who is unable to relate well with women is often not in touch with his feminine side. The same applies for women who are not in touch with their masculine side.
Really interesting vid. I tend to not generalise with regards character traits of the sexes. That said, I totally agree that either sex can hold the same values and character traits BUT that "generally" women tend to be more nurturing and indirect while men "tend" to be a bit (lot) more direct.
As for "opposites attract" - I think about it from the perspective of teamwork and contributing towards balancing each other out. In a team you'll pick people with different skills and will respect their ability to be a goalie vs a striker vs defence vs midfield-all-rounder, etc., ... We should carry that same respect for different skills, viewpoints and approaches into our personal relationships :)
I also see many men who demonstrate the stereotypical "manliness" that you mention but when they demonstrate their nurturing, patient, indirect sides too, while initially respected, it's generally only a matter of time before those traits are seen as a weakness, taken advantage of and walked over. Especially if one party is emotionally lazy (i.e. isn't open to change within themselves and just wants the other person to simply enable / endorse their inflexible approach). Typically it happens over time - which I think is why so many men in unhappy relationships make statements along the lines of "she was so manipulative and changed me over time without me knowing it." In contrast, because men are generally more direct, we often hear women say "he's so aggressive" when a man has given instant direct feedback rather than taking several days / weeks / months / years 🤣
People do seem to either fully respect that diversity or see it as a weakness. I think the key is in identifying where your partner sits in that regard. (I'm still trying to figure out how to do that. Actually - I think a series of chats about "how to test your partner's character" would be a really useful set of tools. I think you've already done one but there are so many different attributes to look into. You have a great presentation style and you give a lot of balanced consideration to your content so I'm pretty sure you'd create a really useful tool-set if you decided to do it. Just a thought).
Keep up the great work 👍
I like how you focus on the internal characteristics. How do you look at feminine/masculinity from a strictly cultural view?
For instance pants are traditionally worn by men, but I do not think they make a woman masculine. At one time men and women were robes and sandals, but today robes, dresses, skirts etc are traditionally worn by women?
Nail polish originated in Babylon some 3000 years BC. Men wore it.
Society does not bat an eye when a woman wears pants, but often scoffs of a cisgender heterosexual man paints his nails.
What are your thoughts regarding these things?
I don’t think I would use masculine and feminine energy to describe these attributes but I can see the idea is to simplify the framing of cortina focused approaches. In a nutshell you want to be supportive and nurturing, you want to recognize the importance of emotions, security, comfort, and the hierarchy of needs, but you also need to be aware that humans are emotional creatures and thus lack logical reasoning, you need to realize humans overwhelmingly personalize issues even if it is not their own stake, and that because humans tend to identify a mix of factors to their own identity they will be defensive because being wrong can hurt their own sense of security and foundation. So you also need to be able to withdraw, isolate emotion from yourself and the arguments of others, as well as create space, and know how to balance assertiveness with active listening and feedback. And of course you need to know where to draw limits and reality such as reasonable and sustainable goals. Could go on but I’m good.
Aye i love the new setup Courtney. It looks like you in a million dollar office haha. You moving up in the world 😁🙌💖 I think this topic of a healthy balance of masculine and feminine energy is important.
I think it's ok for a guy to have some feminine energy (caring, considerate, humble, loyal) Just like i feel a female can have some attractive masculine energy like (straightforward, assertive, quick thinker, ambitious)
I agree with you that a man must display masculine energy as in believing in himself, being strong minded, protective, a provider and knowing what he wants so a woman can feel feminine. So yeah i don't mind some masculine traits in a woman as long as it isn't excessive. Sorry for the long message but at least i watched the whole video 😅 Have a great day!
Totally agree, Georgio! Thanks for the million dollar office compliment! 😂👏🏼 you’re the best
You are spot on
Dang Courtney, that shirt compliments that hairstyle 💯💯
Hey Courtney, I have a suggestion for your next reaction video. You should do one of Coach Corey Wayne. He has been on the relationship scene on UA-cam for over a decade. He has good teachings.
Hey Courtney, great video! Was wondering can you please do a reaction to one of Corey Wayne’s videos. He’s the main person I go to to learn about dating & relationships. He talks a lot about masculine and feminine energy and his wisdom is truly profound. Would be great to hear your views on it 🙂
All the guys at our karate school have beautiful women because you learn humility mixed with extreme confidence in your abilty
I have no idea how I came across this video or who this young lady is but she is speaking truth on this issue. In fact, I don’t think this subject gets the respect and attention it deserves. Feminine energy is not a metaphor, it is very real and palpable. A man can literally feel it when in the presence of a woman who is able to generate feminine energy, it’s an incredibly powerful energy that can literally have a physical effect on a man. They say music can sooth the savage beast, feminine energy is like music to a man and has a very similar effect. Feminist have it wrong, a woman’s true power is her feminine side.
I realise this is why my marriage failed I leaned too much to the into the feminine, trying to please as I saw being masculine as being too aggressive because of how my self limiting beliefs have defined me.
David Deida wrote about this in The way of the superior man. I love how he describe gender roles and energies, it all makes sense. Unlike alot of the gender hysteria we hear today.
I really like your all contents.. thanks
Thank you! ❤️
I'm glad you were honest about the PC culture because to be honest it's not worth dating anymore until things change. Feminine/Masculine Energy and PC Culture are getting mixed, like someone mentioned in another comment here.
Have you change your setup location or camera or lens something?? Because this video looks lit bit different and nice more than before your video quality is improved nice to see this lit change 👌
I love her wisdom
Courtney did you do some adjustments in the studio?
It never had this light before 😅
Also, awesome video 😄
This is why mom and dad has been the basis of child raising for thousands of years and the safest place for children being mom generally being feminine provided the comfort and dad being generally masculine provided security.
That polarity of masculine and feminine traits has historically been the bargain in marriage relationships and parenting.
My sense is that the combination of these tendencies are not static. They change in individuals over time. It could be hormonal.
Great video, looks and notes. Could you make a video on how a man can be more feminine, connect and understand women?
Any advice on my situation?
This girl I like at work told a mutual friend of ours that she thinks I’m nice but wouldn’t go out with me because she felt she would have to babysit me if we dated like she does at work??? I don’t get why she would feel like she needs to babysit me if we dated (or at work since we get along and talk to each other), it’s not like I wouldn’t let her have her freedom and space when she wants it. How do I tell her that without coming off desperate? Kinda odd don’t you think?
Its a balance there are time you have to be supportive and there are times to be assertive for both genders. But dont compromise the frame of masculinity and femininity.
Yin and Yang symbol. We have the one polarity that is dominant as well as the opposing dot
Well said👌
There's a great book that explains all this a must read for men but very insightful for women. It's called the way of the superior man by David Deida
“Hey you gotta be more confident!”
“Hey you gotta be more yourself!”
Well I can’t do both, you have to pick one.
Hahaha relatable
Females always say be yourself while telling you to adapt
@@cbrown6848 the whole be yourself thing is overrated.
you pick be confident, then you find out who you were always really meant to be.
@@JoeMercersWay neat idea
I was expecting to hear stereotypes about how "men should be this way and women should be that way" in order to have romance. (Some people actually took it like that in the comments.) I'm glad your approach is a lot more sophisticated and aware that these energies are universal and it's about overall balance, not gender-based formulas.
@deadvoguestar That's a good thing, right?
Hi Courtney Ryan. I'm a single with zero experience in the dating scene. Would I be likely have a better chance with women, as I'm the type of guy who would love to connect with them on an emotional level, giving her my undivided attention (e.g putting my phone away and listening attentively when she is speaking to show that I genuinely care about what she's saying), and being affectionate?
5:20 I feel that's very difficult..
I feel that doing a sudden 180 like that will only be possible if the partner is VERY masculine
Courtney, you are made for this. Thanks for putting in all the work, and your comment section speaks to your unique approach doesn’t it, you come across as humble, self-assured and genuinely caring, well done.
Question for you if I may, if I am lacking in a certain masculine trait, should I work on that or find a woman that has that trait already?
Hello humans. Lately I feel I've been living at 1/2 my conscience potential because of going thru life accidentally experiencing my own feminine "power" or thought patterns, feelings whatever label you espouse to the dynamic that suits you. Thru meditation and intention I've been actively working on balancing these aspects of myself. I'm having a better life and my relationships across the board have improved, without trying. I hope someone can connect with this comment.
Wow you blew up since last time I was over here
Courtney Ryyyyaan.
Hey Courtney, can you make a video about what you think about girls that post bikini pics, and if its something to worry about in a relationship, is there a balance between some pics and a lot of pics?
Love that you say it like it is, e.g. not PC but worthwhile to say that the genders are different.
Now 'scuse me while I get called simp in the comments for agreeing with you, Courtney 🙃
Does this equate to dominant vs submissive, or not necessarily? I definitely consider myself, and am pretty confident, that I'm submissive, which goes against the "norm" in society.
Love your Chanel! Can you do a video on break ups. Best way to break up with someone.
I could do that!
I feel like I can't trust a never disagreeable woman. It can get on your nerves. Balance is important.