Gracie BULLYPROOF - "Verbal Jiu-Jitsu"
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Gracie Bullyproof is proven system designed to teach children how to deal with persistent bullies. The Gracie Bullyproof program effectively addresses the psychological, verbal, and physical aspects of bullying and has been featured on CNN, NBC, and Oprah.com as one of the only reliable counter-measures to bullying. Unlike other martial arts which teach violent punches and kicks, the Gracie Bullyproof program utilizes non-violent control holds which are only used as a last option against a physically assaultive bully. While other programs may make children more aggressive, the Gracie Bullyproof program promotes non-violence through respect, discipline and compassion.
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If he keeps bullying you, that's when you might have to attack him first. The consequence could be bad, yes, but would you rather be suspended for a couple of days or deal with bullying for months more? Fighting is never good, but sometimes it is the answer. That's the simple fact. Thanks Rener for these awesome videos
Sometimes 'war' is the peaceful solution.
Even if I knew nothing of Gracie Jiu Jitsu, the fact that the Gracie family put out this video, to me, establishes an indescribable amount of respect for the Gracie family and their true motivation for teaching their art that it makes me want to start studying GJJ. Having been bullied many times growing up, this video truly warms my heart. I can't say enough. Much respect to the Gracie family. At the age of 38, my goal now is to start GJJ and not stop until I get my black belt.
How did it go?
He quit 2 clasees in@@TheGunnyBadger03xx
How do I apply this lesson to my wife?
TACKLE!
Say "do you want to divorce me?"
Lol. A wife's bullying is like a war on terror. It lasts for years and you have to win hearts and minds.
Twister
you just have to submit yourself to her wim. its been 4 years so who knows what happened. the only way to survive marriage is by taking a knee. there can be no victory for married men. lol jk
I have been working with troubled kids for years. We have found the best way to counter a bully is to make it clear to the bully that their verbal attacks are insignificant to you. Or that it makes the bully lose face. Most bullies are looking for affirmation of self worth. Still, if a bully cant overpower someone verbally, it usually gets physical. So a child should still be ready to defend him or herself.
I just ordered the DVD set. I can't wait to get it. As a teacher in middle school and as a parent, it gives me a solid solution to a problem. When I say a solid solution I mean a certain sequence in how to handle bullying. Good stuff !!!
I agree. I am a blue belt, which I received from Ryron and Rener. I took kickboxing for 14 months before jiu-jitsu and found that I didn't feel confident in protecting myself. I feel much more confident. My son already knows some moves from watching me at the adult classes. The BullyProof set will teach me how to teach my child in a way that will not turn him off.
this is actually the best advice to give to children who are younger and get bullied too much. i've seen some kid grapplers sparring, they're no joke. but this is a humane way of solving a serious and ongoing issue. may even prevent the kid who's being bullied from getting serious psychological problems later in life. but there's a slight prob with this: bullies usually have a crew that will jump in and grapplin aint gonna help against mad people
These guys are awesome.
They are the "dudes" of Martial Arts. So much wisdom in an an enlightened, enjoyable format.
I wish these guys had their own talk show. "Tackle. "...Tackle." "Tackle." "Wow." Just great.
What if, in response to the challenge, the bully says "Yes I'm challenging you to a fight" and they then tell you a place and time in the future, or if they say "yes and I'll attack you when you are least expecting it" thus still keeping control of the situation. Would it be better to take the challenge itself as an act of aggression and take action in the moment?
No. You learn jiu-jitsu when he brings the fight to you.
@cburcinc I will agree with most of what you said. The gracie brothers also acknowledge this, you would know that if you paid attention. They never said kids are bullied because they can't fight.. This is a direct quote from one of them "When a child is confident and has high self esteem, bullies tend not to pick on them because the bully feels that they dont have that same power advantage or that fear advantage over the victim" The bully proof program was to inspire self confidence.
The school I work at is an Alternative Learning Center. It is a school for criminal children. Where the doors are magnetically locked, drill sergeants and truancy officers roam the halls, teachers carry taser guns and the desk are bolted to the floor. We don't have 4 or 5 bullies in our school, we have 1200. I agree that sometimes you got to lay down the law, but if you START with violence then you credit their ability to bully you emotionally. This is what I've done for a living for 14 years.
This is brilliant! This cuts through the bullshit, no shouting, no arguing, no squaring up, just "do you want to fight me or not?" Much better than the "just ignore him" advice you usually get from touch feely social worker types who probably get bullied themselves. I'd use a slightly different follow up line though, i'd say "if you want to fight me then do something, or are you a pussy?" So either he has to fight you or he ends up losing face. That would draw the line better IMO.
I wish I knew juijitsu back in highschool.
I wish I knew Jujitsu back in nursery, elementary, and high school. In college due to the workload and the payments, there's usually no bulljive.
These guys are amazing! So simple but yet so effective. Look a bully in his eyes and ask "Are you challenging me to a fight?" Bullies pick on kids they believe are weak. If they feel you can fight and might hurt them. They will back down 95% of the time. You might have to defend yourself. Only once to gain a reputation. Then you will never be bothered again.
Physical dominance is borne of MENTAL dominance.
Fundamentally the concept is right, bring out and confront what's being insinuated in the background with put downs, however of course- you have to be ready to fight and have a reasonable chance. Interesting idea also BTW to apply this at work with business bullies (and then be ready to 'fight' the business way)...
yes, i suppose a kid's competency in a martial art would instill a level of confidence in fighting ability. i'm glad to see that bullying isn't quite as hot of a media topic now-a-days.
THIS is the kind of martial arts that my parents should have tried to get me into as a kid.
So, how many lesson should I follow in a week to become confident in my bjj skills?
@ojay67 Has anyone responded to you? I can tell you that the original term "Ju-Jutsu" means "art of giving way". Ju means "gentle". Jutsu means "art". The Gentle Art is what practitioners coin it. Please understand that in this case, gentle is not necessarily weak.
that was truly awesome. thank you
Ok that was very cool, and these guys have to be the most animated Gracies ever, they make Barney look borring.
These guys are grt role models 2 kids!!
We are going to enroll in the Bullyproof problem. Sadly, talking to the parents only made things worse. Their child "would never" and "we don't believe you." They are so interested in saving face and keeping up appearances, they deny deny deny, even though their kid isn't allowed in other people's houses, and other parents see the behavior. The only solution is for my kid to be bullyproof.
What if the Bully also trains jiu-jitsu or MMA ? Also I'm not convinced by the premise that the bully doesn't want to fight. When I was at highschool the bullies loved to fight. In fact my observation is that it is a significant size advantage that gives people the power to be a bully. Smaller individuals who aren't that tough are rarely bullies. Why because as soon as they started to bully someone they would get their butt kicked.
As my coach used to tell me "regardless of how this fight goes, you will respect me when it's done". Bullies pick on people because they can get away with it. If you stand up to them and put up a fight they now see that there is actual trouble involved when they bully you. Regardless if they beat you or not they now know there is going to be an struggle on their part and the insults will no longer be worth it.
Tough luck on that one, Good luck with that. *Slowly backs away hoping Silva don't see me*
This is absolutely awesome!
The comment made me LOL. This is why I love the Gracies, they bring hilarious (stupid) people together. xD No but really, you're all awesome.
@UklaTheMokk It's never to late, we've got a guy in our gym, he's 54 and about to receive his purple belt, go for it, it's truly fun, and the Gracie family is highly respectable.
These lessons work well for 1st person perspectives; but 2nd and 3rd person, it can be mitigated. I did it when I was younger, and would simply say:
"You are irrelevant to me, but your friend will need you around all the time if he wants to stay safe."
Now that won't work completely when it comes to 2 best friends, but if there is someone who doesn't really have anyone like that to lean on; it ends up being an even more degrading trip down the bully lane. Sometimes initiating a measured level of conflict is the only proper answer; which ended up happening to me when a wrestler put me in a reverse full nelson.
yes, I know what you mean bullys do try to do this kind of thing when you ask them that, my mom told me to ask the same thing because I got bullied alot because she was a traveling nurse so I had to change schools alot, after the first time I asked a bully to fight and they laughed at me I told my mom, and she said ask him again tommorrow and while hes laughing punch him, so I did, he didnt fight me actually he told the teacher! but, my point is physical confrontation is the only way to stop it
@SSWarrior77Channel
Long term solution = Learn Gracie Jiu-Jitus
Short term solution = Use verbal jiu-jitsu and if he challenges you then fight him. Even if you get beaten up keep fighting back, like Rylon says bullies will bully you if you make it easy, even if he's stronger than you he won't keep bullying you if he has to keep getting into fights every time he does.
Being a fighter is not only about fighting people you can beat up, but fighting people who can beat you up. Never back down.
Cheers to that, brother!
1. I started driving so that stopped my being chased and getting beat up in Chicago (for racist attacks back in the 1980s, age 10- 16)
2. At 30 I challenged a coworker to a fight.. and neither one of us wanted to stay 3 hours or come in 3 hours early so we could fight...but he also told another co-worker: "What if?" meaning what if he lost against me.. he stopped bothering me then.
What if the bully is better in fighting than you... and btw it doesnt mean he will attack you right after they accept the challange.... but they might put up thier hands and say "cmon lets fight" or something like that
bullies project fear by physical violence so when you ask that magical question they would have already scaled your physical strength witch makes the question nothing but a taunt that make the bully pick on you more and more with enjoyment.
Bully doesn't want to fight? I disagree. I was a bully and beat the crap out of some classmates. One was bigger, but I was much faster. I would rain blows on him or jump on his back to rear naked choke him. The reason I stopped was because someone told him to fight back. In one case, I wrestled one guy and it was apparent someone taught him something. In another, I insisted that the guy fight me back. He was timid, but finally hit me back. I praised him. He is now a Police Sergeant in Chicago.
i couldnt stop laughing when i read your comment. so true
kind of a slippery slope... in schools now .... could lead to either a group beat down or worse they pull a weapon.. I can see someone saying that and then they get shot in the chest or stabbed
dude just hyper extending the joints can cause a lot of pain and stress, so at that point you would either submit or get injured. Most of the time being in a very uncomfortable situation would make you tense and nervous that you will be left with absolutely no choice but to cooperate. It's in human psychology. Still, you'd rather talk the bully out rather than be forced to that situation.
In kindergarten a kid bullied me for awhile and I went the route telling yard duty, my teacher, etc. and nothing worked. So my dad asked me if I was bigger than him and I said yes, dad told me to punch him. I was such a nice kid it just never occured to me to beat up a kid for hassling me, even if he was smaller. Well kicking his ass worked!
Rest of school years I was always too tough a target for a bully, always an easier one. the weak get hassled by the immature/unconfident, such is life.
Much respect to you guys and everyone here. However, I disagree on this approach in schools with a lot of gang violence, or where kids have access to weaponry. Here, confrontation may lead to death.
Otherwise, I love the strategy.
lmfao. epic comments mate. love ya work. 'everyone understands violence'.
yep, its some universal shit.
So true when Ryron said "The bully never wanted to fight." Most of the time bullies DON'T want to fight. Why else would they pick on someone they perceive to be smaller, weaker, and less likely to stand up for themselves?
you guys should have a fucking TV show
@cburcinc buddy the concept of gracie bullyproof is to teach kids how to defend themselves if needed. it boost the kids self esteem and makes them more social. no we dont want the kids to hit the gym we just want them to be involved with this program and jiu jitsu. its obvious youv never done jiu jitsu because you have no idea how much more confident it makes you and how much more social you become.
Every school I know has a "NO TOLERANCE" policy against fights. Whether you or the bully start the fight, BOTH students will be expelled. Most of the time, the bully has less to lose over an expulsion than the "A" student.
So, you are going to let some kid keep kicking your butt or make you feel like a weed growing in a cow manure field. Sometimes 'war' is the peaceful solution.
I used to be made fun of in my life many times from guys I considered to be my friends. It was really hard for me, because it wasn't a nice way of making fun. And I always tried to stop it by challenging them, but they just played it of by telling me I couldn't defend myself with words and that I had no sense of humour, which made me look even more stupid. I guess I got rid of this problem by not getting angry so easily anymore, but in other situations you're approach can be helpfull I guess.
its in the proving grounds and refining stages right now... so its either in pre fail or pre win right now
Theoretically (I'm not being bullied), what if the bully says "no, I'm not challenging you" and then keeps bullying you? Since the bully never attacks you you can't do anything.
Then ask them to walk by a corner away from their friends and yours and ask them as of you're asking for help, "hey I need to talk to you about something. And don't look at them in the eye yet. Say " hey man I need you to help me out with something." And let them ask you what's up a few times, make them work for it. Then drop the bomb, look straight at them and say "I need you to stop making fun of me, I need you to stop calling me names, I need you to stop pushing me." Then when they joke around, dance around, maybe bully you more, stand your ground and don't stop staring at them. Then say "do you understand me yes or no." If yes then awesome, repeat this process if it continues. If they say no then ask "then are you challenging me to a fight?"
I'd switch role and play the part of the bully and start going Rickson Gracie on them.
This is the only type of Jiu Jitsu black belt that Chael Sonnen will ever have.
@bighefjeff If you're having problems at work, it's a little more complicated (in legal terms), because you're not underage. You might have better results simply warning the bully you're gonna sue (and go ahead and sue in case he doesn't stop) or something.
Anyway, replying the question doesn't change a thing. ANY answer but yes will, for practical matters, equal no, specially if someone else watch the discussion.
@neabzmma Haha, you can look it up on barns and noble or any other bookstore.
No!! Getting physical first is NOT best. You can't stereotype bullies. There are some with negative behavior models, abusive homes, those trying to hide their own shame, some needing attention, some who bully out of hate, etc. Some are loners, some come in packs. The only consistent factor is they are seeking social position. The best place to start is to discredit any position they attain from bully behavior. If they can't get position from verbal or physical abuse, the bullying will stop.
Well shit, son, you sure got them.
@bighefjeff Two ways out. "Yes, I'm challenging you". Or "No. I'm asking you a question, are you deaf? I asked if you want to fight me, not told you that I want to fight you, clean out your ears."
"If you want to fight me I'm not afraid of you" still has fear embedded within the sentence. I wonder if "If you want to fight me I will hurt you" might have more power?
Wow, this clearly shows the capacity that Jiu Jitsu has in adptation to new scenarios. In Brasil there's none of this "do you wanna fight me?" bs. Mofos wronged you, meet at the end of school day and kick his ass. I guess that you say that so you can claim defense and not be liable when the school/parents/law comes after you. When I was a kid, the recipe was simple: baiana>montada>costas>mata-leao
@1381bloccmonsta
Why not Red?
but what about if the bully know Jujitsu or other kind of way how to fight ?
thts more scared because He`s more preparate than You .
How I should be mental againts that ?
@cburcinc Not just to build self confidence but at the same time teach them self defense so they can protect and defend themselves if the bullying ever becomes physical. Being able to stand up and defend yourself from injury in a physical confrontation is an invaluable asset for a child to have. I'm sorry buddy but you just can't teach social skills, you either have them or you don't. Its not that easy.
But you sure can teach a kid to protect himself, which builds self confidence.
@cburcinc the confidence that person displays when they learn bjj is unparralleled....people can tell you're not afraid of them and generally won't even bother you.. why do you think they had strong social bonds with their brothers and friends? maybe because of......TRAINING???!!! why wouldn't you want your child to know effective and practical self-defense? Martial arts teaches way more than physical skills. The lack of friends or social skills can also be solved through training!
what does jiujitsu mean?
But why is the logo on the t-shirt in the middle?
+Ballsdeep Singh It just doesn't look that good.
+burana96 it's so the logo can still be seen when worn under your Gi
+Logan Yuen You make a fair point sir.
they could always just ignore your words and continue to pester you
@logybomb: that is unlikely when you have made it clear to them and all the other kids you are down to fight but they are afraid of you. bully will always go for easiest target. not the kid punking him out.
I got a call BS on this one. You're telling children to use this "verbal" jujitsu, assuming that they have "mastered" BJJ? You do see the hole in this logic right?
I fucking wish I knew that line. It would have saved me a lot of turmoil.
@GsxR750Speedemon almost always someone who picks a fight with you, aren't experienced reason being is because if you are an experienced fighter, u don't need to bully to feel confidant. As long as u have been training and know what to do then you will be fine. Also people involved in the martial arts learn discipline and respect towards others. Watching ufc and mma and bjj doesnt mean someone will know what they are doing, you will only know what you're doing if you actually do a martial art.
@mathdreamerpi if you want a solution to the problem put your kids in gracie Jiu-jitsu or a martial art dont put them in Karate, Taekwondo, kungfu, etc because these martial arts take to long to learn to use effectively, chances are just the fact that people know your child is learning jiu-jitsu is enough that they wouldnt want to fight/tease them, jiu-jitsu is a great martial art for kids becasue after even 3 or 4 lessons you have learned much more than in a year of karate
Sounds good, but unless bullies have changed in the last 40 years, I suspect the answer remains as it always has been.
You will get no respect until and unless you make them bleed. Quick and overwhelming is best.
@OVERCAPITALIZE Didn't think anyone else would have heard of this. It's funny how Judo is so overlooked.
When you fight the bully, it would be very strange for him to continue the bullying. It's human nature. It's humans primitive instinct to fight. The confrontation will steer him away.
They will say yes because they're already confident they can beat the 'receiver',
and nowadays peaple will recognise the trigger signs and just push the receiver reach that melting point whenever they can and just leave them to burn, then bring more bullies for when they want to challenge the bullied,
It happened to me like that, when I said 'I'm not scared of you' I got jumped by 13 kids in a rush gang, they said I could join after being rushed but I just thought that was too similar to cannibal gangs in akra that my dad used to talk about that roamed akra at night about the time my dad left Ghana, in 1955: so I didn't befriend them then.
What actually worked after 2 years or three of bullying was
This:
Bully is messing with my stuff knocking pencils of my table one by one in class,
So
I just swiped everything off his table while saying
"who do you think you are!"
And just sat back and stared at him in the eyes like "your ridiculous" for three seconds.
He just burst out laughing and repeated "who do you think you are! " that I responded to the threat but NOT in a way that he could re-establish dominance from the past e.g in physical confrontation which he would win, but in his own silly game of looking for a reaction and knocking stuff off the desk.
So the idea is, understand their game, whether it's looking for a reaction or respect (usually the physical tough ones)
Then play their game in order to win.
It's hard to understand and play thier game but if you do that you can earn thier respect enough for them to leave you alone, forever.
Anyone who isn't in your day to day life you can just say 'don't waste my time.'
What is the alternative? Just soak up the abuse? You haven't trained jiujitsu if you think that in a couple of months you aren't able to handle yourself with any untrained individual.
@nikki171923
Yes, I agree with you that the bully will often be cunning in their responses and keep the upper hand by laughing at you.
These guys are very positive and have some good points, but their seems to be great importance on mastering the ju-jitsu before you can back off a bully. Normally a bully has some distinct physical AND MENTAL advantage over you. I never did solve the bully puzzle. THis is a great idea that could work as the foundation for a more complete system of anti-bully.
"you're...stupid" hahaha
yes, ive never had problems with a bully after being physical with them even if they were bigger than me ( in one case there was almost a 90 pound difference )
Wut if the bully knows even more jiu jitsu than the one being bullied and is a champion in muay Thai too?
I appreciate the value in a "resolution sentiment". But in today's school systems, as backwards and messed up as they are, ANY "altercation" gets, "BOTH" students in trouble "period"... Let's not teach kids how to be "physical" unless it is "absolutely" the last resort...
Instead, urge all kids to pick up a well known verbal JuJitsu known as NLP(neuro-Linguistic-Programming). THIS is truly verbal JuJitsu. Control someone without them even knowing they're being controlled!
what if he's much bigger than me ?
I wish i live in USA and my kid can go to Gracie bjj
@nikki171923 For example (to carry on to what you're saying)
"then don't waste my time"
"If you dont want to fight me then stop giving me shit because im done with it"
then if they do say something smart ass I would just start the fight
@nikki171923 I understand what you're saying but sometimes you just gotta throw the first punch and fight the bully if they want to or not
assault charges? fines? school expelled? ect.
When it comes to Bully's like child abusers, there is one thing I can see coming a mile a way and that is a coward who would wet themselves if they ever met up with a Real Fighter, like a Trained Martial Artiste, I think that if you can teach kids to see through A bully then you can teach them that they don't have to be afraid of these Cowards! Because that is all a Bully is a Coward!
what if he says yes and ask u to make the move first?
Start before he finished speaking.
@holywar911
1st the winner of the fight is the one that avoids the fight
2nd fighting is the last thing you have to do but first you have to try to do things to make the bully stop if not then you fight
You r like the teachers the poor little kids run to when they get bullied. The teachers try to stop it but they dnt really have a clue, like he said in the vid, once the teachers back is turned the bullying starts again.
Trust me, i've seen it so many times. Once somebody stands up for themslves PHYSICALLY the bully shits himself and picks on someone else. Now i know the bullys may have tough home lives, this hwever aint an excuse and if ya do the crime ya gotta do time.
Sorry for being ignorant. I'll learn to read at some point, thanks for that. I think you have to relax your 'taking things literally-meter', if you replace 'perfect' with the word 'have some experience' then I don't see how the alternative which is no experience can be worse (whether you agree with their salesmanship or not). If you are afraid that kids will be lured into a false sense of security- maybe, but they have a chance to end the misery which I think will happen even if they lose.
you should never take your eyes off your adversary and you should always know with whom you are dealing dont ever dout therm they will keep doing it untill they succeed in destroying you stop the abuse before it stops you
In my experiance getting physical is usually best. Bullys only bully the weak ones, it sucks, but thats just the way it is. They know they can get away with it.
Now the bullys are very clever in selecting their target, they are actually unaware of themselves even doing it.
I have heard a lot of stuff like "talk to them" or "tell the teacher". Fuck. That. Shit You eed tyo suck it up and knock the fuck out that bully. Everyone understands violence.
Verbal Jiu Jitsu... there was Verbal Judo before that.... O_O
@muzik313 if it's 9 times out of 10, then learning bjj isn't necessary. these guys attempting to sell 'gracie bullyproof" is a humorous angle though.
this is not verbal judo man. this is so mainstream to negotiations with stronger opponents . you may want to search negotiating with godzilas or the classical getting past no.
LMFAO!!
You say "Are you challenging me to a fight?" to a girl, and they will counter by laughing at you and likely repeating it back to you in a mocking tone, repeating it back to anyone who will listen. Or they spaz out and go "Oh my GOD, I was just KIDDING!!! Can't you take a freaking JOKE!?!" and then spin your words around when they go tell a teacher and make YOU look like the bully. Girl bullies are too clever to fall for that line.
Another thing is, while I do believe this is a good program for the average child, I don't know how it will help the child that is being picked on by the entire class. And sadly, there are children unfortunate enough to be in that situation. No matter what they say, there will always be someone to figure out how to use it against them. Strength in numbers at its absolute worst.
I suggest you tell your parents/teacher/administration at the school in that case, there isn't such thing as a "taddle-tale", tell the adults the truth, and if they don't do anything shame on them, and know when you graduate, no one remembers, you probably won't even see them ever again in your life, if ANYTHING you'll get a better job then them in life, because you're paying attention while they make fun of you. No worries, it'll bite them in the butt.
grassinigrassini Yaaas
It's very hard to pay attention when you're being made fun of.
just hit them
+FireMinstrel I had a girl throw a haymaker at me when I was a kid (caught her while playing cops and robbers), I ducked the punch and walked away. Later I head that I had been beaten up by a girl. Another girl came up later that day and asked me if it hurt when she punched me...
@bighefjeff Probably say, No i am not challenging you to a fight. But if you are challenging me I am not scared of you.
Wow.