I know this is an older video, but i feel encouraged to say that this is very familiar to me. I buried my mother just a couple months ago in the same manner. No preacher, no velvet covered chairs, an no unnecessary frivolity. This straightforward, non-embellished burial is something that many may not understand, but is typical of a strong-minded, faithful folk, who don't need the artificial softness of a modern burial ceremony to inter their dead. It's not about cost. It's about tradition, culture, and a respect for a simple way of life that was surely her history. RIP my dear lady. I have little doubt the Lord has opened his arms to you.
Grandma don't you get to heaven an start no mess. Will miss how you would sing, my favorite: " Hit the Road Jack " Rest easy Ms. Daisy you will be missed 💞💞
This popped up on my page. I read some comments and decided to share. My Mom lived with me in her last years. She died in my arms. She drilled into my head almost every day that she did not want a huge funeral. After her death we had a small gathering at the funeral home and a small grave side funeral. I spoke about my wonderful mom. So many people loved her. It was after everyone left that i returned to her grave to truly grieve. It is not always what the family wants but the deceased last wishes.
I decided for when my time goes just to tell the surviving family To just do what they can afford and Also do what They want as I will no longer be in my body
@@ajplays7241 What THEY can afford?? The funeral is YOURS. You must arrange to pay the costs of your own burial. Some items include: purchase of cemetery plot, opening and closing of grave, picking up of body and delivery to mortuary, embalming of body, funeral home charge of viewing room for visitation, music, police escort, hearse to deliver body to cemetery, floral arrangements, seats and tent covering over grave, announcement in local newspapers, refreshments / meal for guests. Payment of deceased’s last expenses, nursing home, medications, physicians, closing of his/her residence, notifying Social Security, health insurance providers, banks, post office. This isn’t a comprehensive list and other information may be available. The deceased just don’t jump in a hole in the ground and disappear! Ain’t legal.
I am confused by the negativity. This lady is probably a "no nonsense" kind of lady. Clearly she is way up in age, as there only seems to be family there. When my grandfather passed away, he didn't want anything fancy. He said funerals are for the living, cause he has already gone on to be with my grandmother. He wanted short, sweet and simple. It looks to me like this lady was the same way. Fancy or simple, it doesn't matter to the deceased. Prayers for the family.
A Puerto Rican Singer "Hector Lavoe" sings a song that states; Everything has an end, life will not last forever. Sadly it is our fate to one day pass on to the afterlife and those who do, they will be truly missed and their memories will live in our hearts until we are called as well. Rest in Peace young lady.
Every person has their own preference, but I want a service in my old family country church, prayers and singing. It does not have to be sad, beautiful hymns and prayers of hope and faith. Family and friends at the cemetery gathered for prayer... a burial with no family or friends seems so cold and lonely...😢😢😢
For the people saying this is "undignified" ...if you LISTEN to the video the man in the background says, "we had a nice little service for her". If it is in a rural small town alot of times this is the way things are done. Not everyone wants POMP and Circumstance!
Thank you for sharing! i lost my husband to suicide and thought I would never make it through another day, but while i was grieving , I was going through you tube for answers and help on his suicide and I happened to see this family and their grama and it just bought such joy to my life! Thank you for sharing all those memories, she went out in class, that is how she wanted it I am sure and the family honored her wishes! God be with her and the family! What a wonderful joy your family has been. Thank you all for sharing!🙏🙏🙏
Don RETSAS.......sounds like a Plan to me. I'm thinkin' the same way. Why buy a 10 thousand dollar hole, a 10-15 thousand dollar fancy box, just so some stranger can throw dirt in your face and the family goes and eats 'tater salad when it's over? I never did like cemetery funerals.
Rest in Paradise grandma and God bless ur soul. All these negative comments remember people what goose around comes around. It's this new thing called respect and compassion u would be feeling some type of way if someone disrespected ur deceased loved one.
Wow, there are so many judgmental people making negative comments on this video. Do any of you stop to think that perhaps this sort of burial may be what the deceased person wanted? Believe it or not, some people are actually quite modest and live very private personal lives and do not wish to make a big flashy ceremony out of everything they do, including death. Some people don't want tons of onlookers staring at every rite of passage they go through in life. The reason why some people choose a burial like this are the same reasons some people choose to be married by a county clerk or a judge in a government building, versus in a church or other fancy setting with a hundred or more onlookers and big fanfare. Really, if you can't understand this concept, you don't have any room to be judging the people in this video.
I get your opinion...but why post this video? Modest, private people don't. Maybe that is what people are saying. And, so far there are tons of onlookers.
As a Funeral Director, I am surprised that so many people are experts and are so willing to display their lack of knowledge as well as offer their disrespect for what has been shown in this video.
@@dianekinzel4832 what will determine if a vault is required is cemetery regulations. Law doesn't require a vault but the cemetery may require an "outer burial container ". An outer burial container has load bearing capabilities but may not necessarily seal where as a vault does both.
Now I know my mom’s headstone is crooked & almost buried in the ground. From workers running over it I their contraction. Maybe some flat wood would protect the headstone 🪦 from collapsing into the ground. Do better🙏🏾 Please!!!
ITS DISRESPECTFUL WHEN THE FUNERAL DIRECTORS ETC-Rob THE FAMILIES BLIND WITH MANIPULATING THEM TO SPEND THEIR WHOLE INSURANCE POLICY-FOR MEANINGLESS THINGS JUST TO MAKE A PROFIT AND OR COMMISSIONS!
Some people just have no respect for other people decision on how they wanna be buried. When my time comes and I leave this earth I wanna be cremated and my ashes taken to a beautiful place.
@@wallaceraymond2211 we are all praying for you and hope that you will realize how hurtful your comment is under these circumstances & remove it from the other comments ! Bless you !
There is nothing disrespectful about this as this is a typical burial.. As a funeral director, I have seen this process hundreds of times. Usually our burials take place after the family leaves the cemetery and we have a crew come in to close the grave along with several of our staff members to help with the grave closing process. Either way, no disrepect was shown in this video and it could have been exactly what the family wanted.
It’s so interesting to see how different areas do funerals/ burials.I never saw the caretakers lower my Poppo or Nana in the ground. I placed my moms ashes into the ground. Thank you for sharing this. I think your grandma would have loved that last ride. I know I would have.
She was brought to the cemetery in a hearse, you can see it in the beginning of this video, this looks like a cemetery like Forest Lawn in the Hollywood Hills, you cannot bring a vehicle close to the grave site, so this is usually done in big cemeteries.... I don't see this as disrespectful, just merely the way things are done and certain cemeteries......John D. Volkmann FD
This video is typical of the national cemeteries. They do a service near the grave either in a small chapel or weather permitting outside near but not at the grave itself then whisk the casket off to the graveside! (I must say I find this disturbing and yes not dignified at all or perhaps not respectful). These cemeteries are utilitarian and very basic. Only a name plate at the head with birthday, full name and death date. Sometimes an emblem for religious or lodge membership etc. I am old fashion and I find the old cemeteries with beautiful sculpture and beautiful epitaphs far more appealing. My how times have changed! RIP
How old was grandmother 80s 90s. So probably not many friends or relatives alive to visit or help w pallbearers my mother was86 and had to use guys from the funeral home sorry to say but that's how it is ....this seems to be a beautiful spot ! Rest in peace.......
Without a doubt, the most sorrowful, sad, disrespectful burial I have ever seen. Only 4 people other than the gravediggers and the cemetery crew. Not one tear shed, no flowers from her grandchildren...one small flower from the undertaker thrown disrespectfully and that was it. She had no service, no preacher or family saying anything. This is NEVER FINE. This woman clearly had a life that mattered to people as presumably, she is a "Grandma". She lived and loved, she had a lover and children. The " grandchildren " present, all 4 of them, would not be able to breathe air if it wasn't for this woman. No amount of excuses can be given for this disrespect. May she be in Heaven and with her God and her other family members that went before her and loved her. May this lady know peace,. Shame on those families left that did this.
She had larger family ... son and 4 grandkids commented on here. If she was in late 90"s I imagine she had.many decendants.. kids', grandkids. , great grandkids and most likely great greats. Bless her heart. She sounds dightful.
“No, it’s fine - we had a nice service,” the family said when asked if they wanted to say something,,, May she rest in peace; may her family find comfort. May those who are critical of this video learn respect.
I can say with 100% certainty that something very close to this happened at the Haven of Rest Cemetery in Van Zandt County, Texas. I would officiate services in the funeral home chapel, we would have the "graveside" service in the chapel and dismiss. The pall bearers would take the casket to the funeral coach and the funeral directors would drive the deceased to the grave site where the burial would take place. The family and friends would wait in the funeral home chapel for 45 minutes or so, then they would go to the grave. It was strange for me the first few times that I held funerals there but the reasoning was sound. The family didn't have to suffer from extrene temperatures, rain or the occasional sleet or snow. It happens
I'm quite certain that she didnt really mind how her burial went. Shes dead. Gone. It's the living that waste money on expensive caskets and services...
I understand, this is what your loved one wanted, I guess it's just different for my family and I bc,#1. My Grandfather worked at a funeral home, The only way we know, Is Make arrangements, Body to be embalmed,In the meantime, while funeral home is making all the final preparations, We the family 👪 will be receiving family friend at the Loved ones hones,Then few days later, The body will be loaded into a hearse, might be a wake/ viewing the nigh before, Funeral the next day @ the ⛪ , Funeral directors would Pick up the family in limos drive us to the church ⛪, Then to the Grave site, then we go back to either the family home 🏡 for repass. Thanks for sharing.
That is so true my parents were buried in metal coffins that looks pretty and shiny hey we're so heavy I had a heck of a time turn the coffin even with five other people because of my back
Look again. There was a single rose on the casket on the way to the remote grave plot AFTER the funeral service the video does not show. Nobody else's business but the family's. What is tasteless is that the personal video was posted for the ugly ignorant world to see.
Working at the NMCP in Hawaii I am amazed how they perform a flawless interment with two Caretakers. Awesome job! As I see all Cemetery Operations are different but have the same dignified results. - Diesel
This is beautiful, I don't want a funeral. I want to be cremated, ashes taken to the place I grew up and dumped, I want my kids and grandkids there....that's it, brothers and sisters and all there families all live far away so why spend money on what saying goodby, why not visit when I'm alive,ild like that better..... Plus this is my wish....
May Grandma rest in peace. watching this video understable she outlived a lot of people and probably family members but honestly I would have thought se would have a better & warmer send off than what I was seeing?
I suspect that the "Modern Burial System" (just watched that) will bring the dirt back in one mass, but need to take safety precautions until they have a chance. I suspect that cemeteries are also looking for ways to cut labor costs - another unskilled labor job gone. But I did have a chill as he drove over the graves.....
Look i aint got no life insurance if god was to call me home it would be up to what my mom dad and my daughter wants to burry my body. I ve seen alot of nice funeral but i must say if . my family decides to cremate me then so be it. And it is said that when you die you aint. There nomore your body is only a home for ya spirit
I'm surprised they left the vault lid off. You'd think they would have completed the job. What if it rains? You don't want water inside the vault? Usually the funeral director stays until the vault is sealed as a witmess to the completed burial.
Automation . i guess i always think of the old movies where the men lower the casket down on ropes with family and friends around then a preacher says" ashes to ashes and dust to dust" and a prayer. Next family and friends shovel dirt over the casket. Guess that was just in the old movies, :)
This is new to me. Ours is a bit more Hearse to grave with pall bearers and a short service with the coffin mounted above the gravesite. The coffin is lowered into the gravesite after the attendees leave. This is a bit more mechanical than I'm used to.
Have you ever tried backing up with a trailer attached? Sometimes you can't be that precise and occasionally will need a bit of a tweak. Even if someone has the experience with backing up does not quite get it perfect.
for security purposes,, why didn't the cemetery workers finish closing the grave. if there was a cement burial vault in the ground prior to the lowering of the casket, they should have put the cement cover in place and then finish closing her grave with the fill dirt,, that would make sure that nobody can come back and lift the plywood and interfere with her casket.
Patty Ann...I agree...I would be mortified if the casket was in a hole and the workers came back and covered it with dirt...in a year's time, the casket would rust through and Grandma would be exposed to dirt and worms...repulsive!!!😢😢😢😢 John Keating, Centennial, Colorado
This is probably what she wanted. Who knows. I had a lady died a cross between the street from me. she didn't want no funeral no graveside service and buried the next day after she died. It's let to the one that died . They have go by her wishes. What in the Living will. so please don't judge we don't know their circumstances don't know what's in their living will.
If you look on the vehicle, it is a national cemetery. Committal (graveside) services are usually held at a pavilion and then the casket is taken to the burial place.
My father n mom are buried in a National Cemetery..at the end of the service held at the little Pavilion, the remains are taken back to the hearse and the hearse drives to the gravesite..years ago, the cemetery mentioned above used those golf cart things to transport the remains to gravesite..I found it cold n uncaring at the time but I understand their reasoning now..RIP ma'am..
Here is to allow the haters of this video...I am 63 years old and never met my Grandparents in NYC, we were on welfare in Peoria, Illinois. To all of you fortunate to have Grandparents...tell them that you love them!! ❤❤❤😢😢😢😢😢 John Keating, Centennial, Colorado
Note that the title is "Grandma's Burial", not "Grandma's Funeral". I'm sure they had a lovely sendoff for her, or perhaps will have a nice memorial service at a later date. Often, and you will see it in obituaries, the "interment will be private." A few family members, probably her kids, were there, as was the funeral director, as required, just to verify she was properly interred. This is the "behind the scenes" stuff that wouldn't happen at a graveside service anyway. They would wait until everyone is gone. The only problem I had with this is Granma's last ride had to be a bumpy one in that trailer.
A civil war veteran passed away here in upstate New York 2 weeks ago and absolutely no family in the world left , let me tell you what ? About 4,OOO people from all over the state showed up at the cemetery and graveside service !
Dan MakesSense Lets think about that. Civil war was in the 1860’s. 100 years later would be 1960’s. I’m sure a veteran of the Civil War was not born in the 1860’s. In the early 2000’s the veteran would be at the minimum 140. Maybe you have the war confused.
Many of the elderly have outlived their friends. That may be why there is no one at her funeral, or no pall bearers. I'd say all the rude comments here are far more disgraceful than the fact her casket was pulled to her gravesite the way it was.
Are you family, or are you guessing? Maybe you are talking about the three or so people that were there. Hardly capable of performing pallbearer service. Unless you have something to add I stand by what I said. It is sad that some of us leave this life the way we do. But this is hardly disgraceful. If you think this is disgraceful you ain't seen shit. Some of the less fortunate in our society are treated far worse. At least she has a nice casket, nice grave site, and a few people there to see her off. Many are not so lucky.
RangerHawk I live near a cemetery and I've seen a lot of burials. A hearse takes the deceased to a chapel for the burial prayers, but when the mourners go home the cemetery staff takes the casket to the grave in a pick up truck or a dump truck.
@@bobnagel6449 exactly correct. The mourners dont stay there and watch the actual internment. Jewish culture is different. Each mourner throws a shovel full of earth on the coffin.
If Grandma was buried at Riverside National Cemetery, then the final “graveside” prayers would have been said at one of the “committal” areas. My parents are buried at Calverton National Cemetery on Long ai
Long Island. It is the largest National Cemetery in the VA system, and I remember reading somewhere that it is the second largest cemetery in the world. If you are visiting in the late afternoon, you can even see deer roaming the property. It really is quite peaceful.
She was at the National Cemetery in Riverside, CA. She was laid to rest with my dad who served in the Air Force for over 20 years. This was just the burial, we did have a funeral service a couple of days before. We couldn't do it all on the same day because there was no time slots at the cemetery.
Either old grandma didn't have any close friends to be 6 pall bearers or that was a cheap way to get the casket over the grave, kinda like one of those electric vacumn cleaners that works like you're asleep.
As much as folks do not wish a large funeral , I do not think that it is proper for no one to attend the final "lay to rest " even when we are born there is more than one that usually comes to see the new born , thus more than the employee's of the cemetery should be present upon the final lay to rest. God rest on the final return.
No one ever likes to lose a loved one. RIP madam. Know that people will think of you often. I do have a question out of curiosity more than anything. Do they use this method often to take the person to their final resting place? Never seen this method before.
Soviet Onion 72 The grounds keeper loosens the strap offered by the lowering device, takes both ends of it and slowly starts rubbing and sliding under the casket until it gets loose..if that’s even a good explanation.. But other lowering devices offer different methods which are much easier..
Also, the grave liner or vault have raised "feet" that the casket sits on. Just high enough to get the lowering straps out. If no liner or vault is required at a particular cemetery, small blocks of concrete,plastic, or wood directly on the earth underneath, are used for the same purpose.
When they Bury they like this most the time they have their funeral the evening before around 7 p. m. at the funeral home. then they take them and bury them the next morning with a family and a few friends. you got to go by people's wishes what's in the living will.Gosh
Didn’t you hear what is obviously a family member say “we had a really nice memorial service” and since this is a National cemetery they do not offer graveside services.
I know this is an older video, but i feel encouraged to say that this is very familiar to me. I buried my mother just a couple months ago in the same manner. No preacher, no velvet covered chairs, an no unnecessary frivolity. This straightforward, non-embellished burial is something that many may not understand, but is typical of a strong-minded, faithful folk, who don't need the artificial softness of a modern burial ceremony to inter their dead. It's not about cost. It's about tradition, culture, and a respect for a simple way of life that was surely her history. RIP my dear lady. I have little doubt the Lord has opened his arms to you.
Thankyou for being their for grandma Daisey God Bless you, what Joy she brought to so many
That casket seemed so beautiful riding through the sunshine.
Bouncing along
Grandma don't you get to heaven an start no mess. Will miss how you would sing, my favorite: " Hit the Road Jack " Rest easy Ms. Daisy you will be missed 💞💞
This popped up on my page. I read some comments and decided to share. My Mom lived with me in her last years. She died in my arms. She drilled into my head almost every day that she did not want a huge funeral. After her death we had a small gathering at the funeral home and a small grave side funeral. I spoke about my wonderful mom. So many people loved her. It was after everyone left that i returned to her grave to truly grieve.
It is not always what the family wants but the deceased last wishes.
I decided for when my time goes just to tell the surviving family To just do what they can afford and Also do what They want as I will no longer be in my body
I totally agree I was brought up with my grandmother saying funerals or for the living and not the deceased
@@ajplays7241 What THEY can afford?? The funeral is YOURS. You must arrange to pay the costs of your own burial. Some items include: purchase of cemetery plot, opening and closing of grave, picking up of body and delivery to mortuary, embalming of body, funeral home charge of viewing room for visitation, music, police escort, hearse to deliver body to cemetery, floral arrangements, seats and tent covering over grave, announcement in local newspapers, refreshments / meal for guests. Payment of deceased’s last expenses, nursing home, medications, physicians, closing of his/her residence, notifying Social Security, health insurance providers, banks, post office. This isn’t a comprehensive list and other information may be available. The deceased just don’t jump in a hole in the ground and disappear! Ain’t legal.
@@e.conboy4286 Good Lord you really showed your butthole on that one didn't you.
😢 is so sad 😭😭😭 and I am so sorry about it
Rest in the arms of Jesus , Grandma. We will all see you again one day.
I love the care and the dignity of which they take care of your Grandma
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Just as she wanted she left us good memories thanks to the family for sharring
Thank you for sharing. Respect for cemetery workers. And yes this is a simple burial but u do as loved one wished or what family can afford. RIP
I am confused by the negativity. This lady is probably a "no nonsense" kind of lady. Clearly she is way up in age, as there only seems to be family there. When my grandfather passed away, he didn't want anything fancy. He said funerals are for the living, cause he has already gone on to be with my grandmother. He wanted short, sweet and simple. It looks to me like this lady was the same way. Fancy or simple, it doesn't matter to the deceased. Prayers for the family.
What negativity? Two workers quietly doing their jobs. . .any perceived negativity, well, death kind of usually has that effect on people.
A Puerto Rican Singer "Hector Lavoe" sings a song that states; Everything has an end, life will not last forever. Sadly it is our fate to one day pass on to the afterlife and those who do, they will be truly missed and their memories will live in our hearts until we are called as well. Rest in Peace young lady.
Every person has their own preference, but I want a service in my old family country church, prayers and singing. It does not have to be sad, beautiful hymns and prayers of hope and faith. Family and friends at the cemetery gathered for prayer... a burial with no family or friends seems so cold and lonely...😢😢😢
I do not know circumstances, but bless this person; may they rest in peace.
For the people saying this is "undignified" ...if you LISTEN to the video the man in the background says, "we had a nice little service for her". If it is in a rural small town alot of times this is the way things are done. Not everyone wants POMP and Circumstance!
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I am sorry for your loss. May God bless you and your family with angel wings. Fly high beautiful person with the angels.
Thank you for sharing! i lost my husband to suicide and thought I would never make it through another day, but while i was grieving , I was going through you tube for answers and help on his suicide and I happened to see this family and their grama and it just bought such joy to my life! Thank you for sharing all those memories, she went out in class, that is how she wanted it I am sure and the family honored her wishes! God be with her and the family! What a wonderful joy your family has been. Thank you all for sharing!🙏🙏🙏
When i leave this world I am having an UNATTENDED CREMATION No People & No flowers.
Why?
@@shanes1905 Simple choice.
Don RETSAS.......sounds like a Plan to me. I'm thinkin' the same way. Why buy a 10 thousand dollar hole, a 10-15 thousand dollar fancy box, just so some stranger can throw dirt in your face and the family goes and eats 'tater salad when it's over? I never did like cemetery funerals.
Rest in Paradise grandma and God bless ur soul. All these negative comments remember people what goose around comes around. It's this new thing called respect and compassion u would be feeling some type of way if someone disrespected ur deceased loved one.
Wow, there are so many judgmental people making negative comments on this video. Do any of you stop to think that perhaps this sort of burial may be what the deceased person wanted? Believe it or not, some people are actually quite modest and live very private personal lives and do not wish to make a big flashy ceremony out of everything they do, including death. Some people don't want tons of onlookers staring at every rite of passage they go through in life. The reason why some people choose a burial like this are the same reasons some people choose to be married by a county clerk or a judge in a government building, versus in a church or other fancy setting with a hundred or more onlookers and big fanfare. Really, if you can't understand this concept, you don't have any room to be judging the people in this video.
Thank you! Exactly! People are so ignorant.
I get your opinion...but why post this video? Modest, private people don't. Maybe that is what people are saying. And, so far there are tons of onlookers.
Very good I like the way you put that young lady !###
Obrbob194, you are the ignorant one.
lonnie d Exactly---about 96, 205 viewers so far. Ginny Miller and her rant about modesty. Give me a fucking break lol
As a Funeral Director, I am surprised that so many people are experts and are so willing to display their lack of knowledge as well as offer their disrespect for what has been shown in this video.
Barrett Doyle does everyone have to have a vault?
@@dianekinzel4832 what will determine if a vault is required is cemetery regulations. Law doesn't require a vault but the cemetery may require an "outer burial container ". An outer burial container has load bearing capabilities but may not necessarily seal where as a vault does both.
Now I know my mom’s headstone is crooked & almost buried in the ground. From workers running over it I their contraction. Maybe some flat wood would protect the headstone 🪦 from collapsing into the ground. Do better🙏🏾 Please!!!
ITS DISRESPECTFUL WHEN THE FUNERAL DIRECTORS ETC-Rob THE FAMILIES BLIND WITH MANIPULATING THEM TO SPEND THEIR WHOLE INSURANCE POLICY-FOR MEANINGLESS THINGS JUST TO MAKE A PROFIT AND OR COMMISSIONS!
Some people just have no respect for other people decision on how they wanna be buried. When my time comes and I leave this earth I wanna be cremated and my ashes taken to a beautiful place.
Thank you for sharing this, mournful time. God bless your family.
Sir..wich country this...bicoz i dont no....? Im- from ..sri 🇱🇰 lankan ...
@@dilrufernandodilru3826 This is in the USA
god bless your shit.
@@wallaceraymond2211 we are all praying for you and hope that you will realize how hurtful your comment is under these circumstances & remove it from the other comments ! Bless you !
There is nothing disrespectful about this as this is a typical burial.. As a funeral director, I have seen this process hundreds of times. Usually our burials take place after the family leaves
the cemetery and we have a crew come in to close the grave along with several of our staff members to help with the grave closing process. Either way, no disrepect was shown in this video and it could have been exactly what the family wanted.
It’s so interesting to see how different areas do funerals/ burials.I never saw the caretakers lower my Poppo or Nana in the ground. I placed my moms ashes into the ground. Thank you for sharing this. I think your grandma would have loved that last ride. I know I would have.
She was brought to the cemetery in a hearse, you can see it in the beginning of this video, this looks like a cemetery like Forest Lawn in the Hollywood Hills, you cannot bring a vehicle close to the grave site, so this is usually done in big cemeteries.... I don't see this as disrespectful, just merely the way things are done and certain cemeteries......John D. Volkmann FD
This video is typical of the national cemeteries. They do a service near the grave either in a small chapel or weather permitting outside near but not at the grave itself then whisk the casket off to the graveside! (I must say I find this disturbing and yes not dignified at all or perhaps not respectful). These cemeteries are utilitarian and very basic. Only a name plate at the head with birthday, full name and death date. Sometimes an emblem for religious or lodge membership etc. I am old fashion and I find the old cemeteries with beautiful sculpture and beautiful epitaphs far more appealing. My how times have changed! RIP
@@ricktomlinson5481 My thoughts exactly Rick
If I'm not mistaken this sounds like Riverside National Cemetery in Riverside,CA
How old was grandmother 80s 90s. So probably not many friends or relatives alive to visit or help w pallbearers my mother was86 and had to use guys from the funeral home sorry to say but that's how it is ....this seems to be a beautiful spot ! Rest in peace.......
Without a doubt, the most sorrowful, sad, disrespectful burial I have ever seen. Only 4 people other than the gravediggers and the cemetery crew. Not one tear shed, no flowers from her grandchildren...one small flower from the undertaker thrown disrespectfully and that was it. She had no service, no preacher or family saying anything. This is NEVER FINE. This woman clearly had a life that mattered to people as presumably, she is a "Grandma". She lived and loved, she had a lover and children. The " grandchildren " present, all 4 of them, would not be able to breathe air if it wasn't for this woman. No amount of excuses can be given for this disrespect. May she be in Heaven and with her God and her other family members that went before her and loved her. May this lady know peace,. Shame on those families left that did this.
She had larger family ... son and 4 grandkids commented on here. If she was in late 90"s I imagine she had.many decendants.. kids', grandkids. , great grandkids and most likely great greats. Bless her heart. She sounds dightful.
How do you know this isn't what she wanted?
Time to be born, time to live, and time to die. Memories will live on forever
No nonsense, direct burial. I'm sure it is what she wanted and we must respect her wishes.
“No, it’s fine - we had a nice service,” the family said when asked if they wanted to say something,,,
May she rest in peace; may her family find comfort.
May those who are critical of this video learn respect.
I can say with 100% certainty that something very close to this happened at the Haven of Rest Cemetery in Van Zandt County, Texas. I would officiate services in the funeral home chapel, we would have the "graveside" service in the chapel and dismiss. The pall bearers would take the casket to the funeral coach and the funeral directors would drive the deceased to the grave site where the burial would take place. The family and friends would wait in the funeral home chapel for 45 minutes or so, then they would go to the grave. It was strange for me the first few times that I held funerals there but the reasoning was sound. The family didn't have to suffer from extrene temperatures, rain or the occasional sleet or snow. It happens
Ashes to Ashes, dust to dust....
I'm quite certain that she didnt really mind how her burial went. Shes dead. Gone. It's the living that waste money on expensive caskets and services...
Rest in God's good love dear one 🌹
So sorry for the loss of your loved one 🙏🏾🕊🕊🕊🕊
Rest In Heaven Grandma
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this is so uncalled for. i bet you one thing there will be none of my family done like this poor old lady
Maybe this is what she wanted.
Amazing that's what I want to see
Love you, grandma
Burial is a biggest lesson we can learn from. But with this burial, just 4 students were out there!
God blessed all!It’s my grandma
Some cemeteries have policies that indicate that the burial prayers be done in a chapel, followed by the gravediggers burying the body as seen here.
It's OK, Grandma used the "Express Lane", Ani't No Body Got Time For That !
I understand, this is what your loved one wanted, I guess it's just different for my family and I bc,#1. My Grandfather worked at a funeral home, The only way we know, Is Make arrangements, Body to be embalmed,In the meantime, while funeral home is making all the final preparations, We the family 👪 will be receiving family friend at the Loved ones hones,Then few days later, The body will be loaded into a hearse, might be a wake/ viewing the nigh before, Funeral the next day @ the ⛪ , Funeral directors would Pick up the family in limos drive us to the church ⛪, Then to the Grave site, then we go back to either the family home 🏡 for repass. Thanks for sharing.
Even if I had a million dollars I'd just want something small for those that will truly grieve me.
That is so true my parents were buried in metal coffins that looks pretty and shiny hey we're so heavy I had a heck of a time turn the coffin even with five other people because of my back
It's sad to not to see many people there to put her in her final resting place. It looks so cold , no flowers anywhere 😢
Many people don't want flowers, including me. Send a donation to the animal shelter for me. I would not see flowers.
Look again. There was a single rose on the casket on the way to the remote grave plot AFTER the funeral service the video does not show. Nobody else's
business but the family's. What is tasteless is that the personal video was posted for the ugly ignorant world to see.
Some families don't have alot left, when my time comes I'll only have 2-3 family members Max
R.I.P grandma!
She is
It really suxxxx that we all wind up like this!
cruisinthefifties when Jonathan craig end up like this I don't want no memories of the p.o.s.
@Robert Gardea Why would you assume anything like that?
No, this isn't in the south. This cemetery is Riverside National Cemetery, a VA cemetery in southern California.
May she R.I.P. God Bless.....
King or pauper, the end is the same.
Aint that the truth!
Ad Mirer Tru so true
I grew up in the Northwest n I was taught "IF U HAVENT ANYTHING. NICE TO SAY KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT" just saying
Actualy no it's not because to me there is one King..king jesus
Working at the NMCP in Hawaii I am amazed how they perform a flawless interment with two Caretakers. Awesome job! As I see all Cemetery Operations are different but have the same dignified results.
- Diesel
This is beautiful, I don't want a funeral. I want to be cremated, ashes taken to the place I grew up and dumped, I want my kids and grandkids there....that's it, brothers and sisters and all there families all live far away so why spend money on what saying goodby, why not visit when I'm alive,ild like that better..... Plus this is my wish....
May Grandma rest in peace. watching this video understable she outlived a lot of people and probably family members but honestly I would have thought se would have a better & warmer send off than what I was seeing?
REST AND PEACE TO HER FAMILY AND BROHER AND SISTER AND DAUGTHER 😿😿😿😿😿
I suspect that the "Modern Burial System" (just watched that) will bring the dirt back in one mass, but need to take safety precautions until they have a chance. I suspect that cemeteries are also looking for ways to cut labor costs - another unskilled labor job gone. But I did have a chill as he drove over the graves.....
Get over it, they drive over the graves when they cut grass too.
Look i aint got no life insurance if god was to call me home it would be up to what my mom dad and my daughter wants to burry my body. I ve seen alot of nice funeral but i must say if . my family decides to cremate me then so be it. And it is said that when you die you aint. There nomore your body is only a home for ya spirit
I'm surprised they left the vault lid off. You'd think they would have completed the job. What if it rains? You don't want water inside the vault? Usually the funeral director stays until the vault is sealed as a witmess to the completed burial.
If it's her wish to be buried that way so be it ,rest I. Peace.
Automation . i guess i always think of the old movies where the men lower the casket down on ropes with family and friends around then a preacher says" ashes to ashes and dust to dust" and a prayer. Next family and friends shovel dirt over the casket. Guess that was just in the old movies, :)
Geez! You don't even get a little elbow room.
This is new to me. Ours is a bit more Hearse to grave with pall bearers and a short service with the coffin mounted above the gravesite. The coffin is lowered into the gravesite after the attendees leave. This is a bit more mechanical than I'm used to.
Sad that so few were there to say Goodbye 😞😞😞
Because most of our grandmother’s friends and close family had already passed. She was in her late 90’s.
I just losted my grandma February 4th this year 2019 so I know how this family feels it's hard
I'm sorry for your loss. I know you loved her very much.
The solemnity of the moment was accentuated by the deceased getting wedged into their final resting place with a shovel.
Have you ever tried backing up with a trailer attached? Sometimes you can't be that precise and occasionally will need a bit of a tweak. Even if someone has the experience with backing up does not quite get it perfect.
@@garyjene9146 Does anyone remember where we parked Grandma?
So sorry for your loss of your grandma 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am used to people carrying the casket to the grave. This was different to see.
This is a national cemetery, with 228,000 burials. Big place, more like an assembly line.
Grandma's Last Ride Around The Block..🤧. LoL..😁😁😁😁😁. R.I.P...🌷
Sorry for ur loss
WTF??? Driving all over the graves!!!!!!! ????
for security purposes,, why didn't the cemetery workers finish closing the grave. if there was a cement burial vault in the ground prior to the lowering of the casket, they should have put the cement cover in place and then finish closing her grave with the fill dirt,, that would make sure that nobody can come back and lift the plywood and interfere with her casket.
Patty Ann...I agree...I would be mortified if the casket was in a hole and the workers came back and covered it with dirt...in a year's time, the casket would rust through and Grandma would be exposed to dirt and worms...repulsive!!!😢😢😢😢
John Keating, Centennial, Colorado
Rest in perfect peace blessed soul .......!!!!
This is probably what she wanted. Who knows. I had a lady died a cross between the street from me. she didn't want no funeral no graveside service and buried the next day after she died. It's let to the one that died . They have go by her wishes. What in the Living will. so please don't judge we don't know their circumstances don't know what's in their living will.
Wow this cemetery doesn't allow flowers on no graves. I wouldn't put my love one at a cemetery like this
If you look on the vehicle, it is a national cemetery. Committal (graveside) services are usually held at a pavilion and then the casket is taken to the burial place.
My father n mom are buried in a National Cemetery..at the end of the service held at the little Pavilion, the remains are taken back to the hearse and the hearse drives to the gravesite..years ago, the cemetery mentioned above used those golf cart things to transport the remains to gravesite..I found it cold n uncaring at the time but I understand their reasoning now..RIP ma'am..
Have done several hundred funerals, this is the first one I have ever seen being done this way .. efficient
No disrespect, I think getting pulled out there one last time would be kinda fun really...
I lost my grandma 34 years ago
so sorry for your loss
Thanks for sharing rip
Here is to allow the haters of this video...I am 63 years old and never met my Grandparents in NYC, we were on welfare in Peoria, Illinois.
To all of you fortunate to have Grandparents...tell them that you love them!! ❤❤❤😢😢😢😢😢
John Keating, Centennial, Colorado
Prayers and condolences to the Grandmas family and friends
Why was the vault lid not placed into the grave? Why was the dirt not thrown in on top of the vault?
It's coming
Note that the title is "Grandma's Burial", not "Grandma's Funeral". I'm sure they had a lovely sendoff for her, or perhaps will have a nice memorial service at a later date. Often, and you will see it in obituaries, the "interment will be private." A few family members, probably her kids, were there, as was the funeral director, as required, just to verify she was properly interred. This is the "behind the scenes" stuff that wouldn't happen at a graveside service anyway. They would wait until everyone is gone. The only problem I had with this is Granma's last ride had to be a bumpy one in that trailer.
This made me cry!
A civil war veteran passed away here in upstate New York 2 weeks ago and absolutely no family in the world left , let me tell you what ? About 4,OOO people from all over the state showed up at the cemetery and graveside service !
Dan MakesSense Lets think about that. Civil war was in the 1860’s. 100 years later would be 1960’s. I’m sure a veteran of the Civil War was not born in the 1860’s. In the early 2000’s the veteran would be at the minimum 140. Maybe you have the war confused.
Many of the elderly have outlived their friends. That may be why there is no one at her funeral, or no pall bearers. I'd say all the rude comments here are far more disgraceful than the fact her casket was pulled to her gravesite the way it was.
She had grandchildren, nieces, nephews.
Are you family, or are you guessing? Maybe you are talking about the three or so people that were there. Hardly capable of performing pallbearer service. Unless you have something to add I stand by what I said. It is sad that some of us leave this life the way we do. But this is hardly disgraceful. If you think this is disgraceful you ain't seen shit. Some of the less fortunate in our society are treated far worse. At least she has a nice casket, nice grave site, and a few people there to see her off. Many are not so lucky.
RangerHawk amen true story...
RangerHawk I live near a cemetery and I've seen a lot of burials. A hearse takes the deceased to a chapel for the burial prayers, but when the mourners go home the cemetery staff takes the casket to the grave in a pick up truck or a dump truck.
@@bobnagel6449 exactly correct. The mourners dont stay there and watch the actual internment. Jewish culture is different. Each mourner throws a shovel full of earth on the coffin.
If Grandma was buried at Riverside National Cemetery, then the final “graveside” prayers would have been said at one of the “committal” areas. My parents are buried at Calverton National Cemetery on Long ai
Long Island. It is the largest National Cemetery in the VA system, and I remember reading somewhere that it is the second largest cemetery in the world.
If you are visiting in the late afternoon, you can even see deer roaming the property.
It really is quite peaceful.
It could be the way the funeral home or the cemetery place does it that way. If it's a small town too.
If you listen to the video the person in the background said "We had a nice service for her"..
She was at the National Cemetery in Riverside, CA. She was laid to rest with my dad who served in the Air Force for over 20 years. This was just the burial, we did have a funeral service a couple of days before. We couldn't do it all on the same day because there was no time slots at the cemetery.
No grandma :( ;( F I pay my respect
Now I miss my grandma who's still alive :(
Either old grandma didn't have any close friends to be 6 pall bearers or that was a cheap way to get the casket over the grave, kinda like one of those electric vacumn cleaners that works like you're asleep.
Yes. They are money hungry.give people a break.they just lost there loved one.
I'm sorry to say... I also dont know why I'm watching this video but it's something different of the funeral and very interesting....
As much as folks do not wish a large funeral , I do not think that it is proper for no one to attend the final "lay to rest " even when we are born there is more than one that usually comes to see the new born , thus more than the employee's of the cemetery should be present upon the final lay to rest. God rest on the final return.
What they didn't have enough money for a real service what a shame so disrespectful
No one ever likes to lose a loved one. RIP madam. Know that people will think of you often. I do have a question out of curiosity more than anything. Do they use this method often to take the person to their final resting place? Never seen this method before.
Id like to know how do they get the straps back after lowering the casket down?
Soviet Onion 72 The grounds keeper loosens the strap offered by the lowering device, takes both ends of it and slowly starts rubbing and sliding under the casket until it gets loose..if that’s even a good explanation.. But other lowering devices offer different methods which are much easier..
Also, the grave liner or vault have raised "feet" that the casket sits on. Just high enough to get the lowering straps out. If no liner or vault is required at a particular cemetery, small blocks of concrete,plastic, or wood directly on the earth underneath, are used for the same purpose.
When they Bury they like this most the time they have their funeral the evening before around 7 p. m. at the funeral home. then they take them and bury them the next morning with a family and a few friends. you got to go by people's wishes what's in the living will.Gosh
Sad. RIP Grandma.
Didn’t you hear what is obviously a family member say “we had a really nice memorial service” and since this is a National cemetery they do not offer graveside services.
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I'm sorry, but I wonder who did the graveside services of my mother's, father's, and husband's military funerals at a national cemetery then? R.I.P.
Am I missing something ? Doesn't the casket get placed in a vault then covered with the vaults top followed by the earth being replaced ?
Nope, they just leave them in a hole covered with plywood now
@@Vanlifer76 The material shortages have impacted dirt supplies. Hate to see it.
A vault is at the request of the family. If the cemetery allows it.