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I did lots of advice from relationships advicer but nothings happen. I can say there’s no secret. Just be your self. If a man likes you he will accept you for who you are. Girls, focus on yourself and focus on your career. The right one will come in a right time.
Just lean back is correct. I've been dating this man for eight months and he is calm, sincere, honest, caring, sexy, sweet, and helpful. Other relationships were like zero to 60 and this is a slow burn and it's wonderful. Turns our drama is not fun. What is fun? Having a man who looks you in the eyes, makes dinner, fixes your lamp, loves old James Bond movies, helps you get dressed after you dislocate your arm -- and is amazingly passionate.
I love this. For some reason your comment made me feel so calm. I recently met a great guy and we’re totally into each other right now so I needed to hear: ‘just relax.’ Congrats and many blessings to you 💕
Your tip about not dropping things to put a guy in your schedule is sooo important! This is a mistake I CONSTANTLY make but I need to realize they’re lucky to spend time with me and it should not just be me adjusting my schedule
Elina darling dropping it like is HOT. You have been hanging around relationship professors. "Lean back" my mind on my money and my money on my mind.PUN wickedest tune. Every respectable guys out there want the best for their lady friend even if there is no relationship among them, simple. Playing it COOL being on the safe side and protecting the interest of the lady.
You know what guys like more than this? Honest communication so they arent constantly guessing, playing games, and wondering if they are wasting their time.
I nearly spat out my food out laughing! I thought this entire comment section was confused and misled but here we have the diamond in the rough. Spot on.
Women want this too. It goes both ways. Sadly, we have too many men who prefer to play games and break hearts than real men who actually prefer honesty. Being honest only gets you hurt, ladies. Don’t pay attention to these altruistic statements made here that only work in a man’s favor. If a man knows you’re honest and you care, you WILL get your heart ripped out eventually. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
@@laundrybasket2689 "I'm going to play this woman and break her heart" said no man ever. Guys just lose interests. Maybe because you aren't interesting or a fun person to be around with? Stop assuming that every guy has some evil intention. Look within yourself.
Women you're too loyal. Don't ever focus on one guy unless he told you its exclusive. Don't assume bc 99.9 times hes roaching you. There are other women you hv no idea about.
I got to phase 4/5 with a guy that I was falling madly in love with. I panicked and asked him 'where is this going' and he pulled back completely. I was so disappointed and heartbroken. I started pulling back myself and he came back (!!!!) We're back around phase 4 again and this time I am letting him chase... completely. It feels so counter intuitive because I am a go getter in life but learning that men/relationships operate under a different set of rules.
Maybe the reason why guys do that is because he also doesn't know and doesn't want to admit he doesn't know it either! He might be falling for u quicker than he realizes. Backing off can be his way of figuring out how much he likes u!
Typical stories of men that tells you the truth and your reaction doubts his intentions for really loving you. Take your time to let him know that you really miss him and that there is no substitute for sharing you bed without him, ask your friends and they will smile ans tell you to take it easy or bunk him for fun and make his head swell. Adult Cartoon story. I respect your honesty madam leila. I feel i heard it in Sir Eric Clapton song.
What happens when a guy behaves like he’s interested, but he won’t ask the girl any personal or normal questions, and he just keeps talking about himself? Run. Run as fast as your legs can take you Girl!!!!! Could you do a video on that? How to not get sucked into a one sided relationship; the three Key eye opening signs that it won’t go well because he’s selfish.. from the very beginning.
Yes, just went through this. My intuition is 100% accurate yet I pushed it aside when I felt some things were not right because I had feelings for him and went with that because I really wanted to enjoy the moments but it ended up when he just used me. I thought to try and I could handle it yet it still hurt. He didn't care a thing about me and was awful to me. I know he is an awful person but I still love him...hoping it will go away soon. It's exhausting! Really, how difficult it is to meet someone compatible, real, genuine...Jeez!
If a person must do so much waiting and delaying time , you might as well be single. My guy my family on the second date and couldnt wait to go back and see me more often because he could see my personality was genuine because of the household I came from.
@@laundrybasket2689 oh no. A few months later he ghosted me , came back a few months later... took me out on date and ghosted me agai .later I found out he was dating someone for 6 months. He was seeing me while they were on a break and then cheated on her with me when I thought he came back reconcile
@@alessandravittorio3153 If he doesn't want a wife, and you want to be one, let him go. Believe the man, he doesn't want a wife. So end it, if that doesn't meet your needs.
@@datingcoachryanpatrick thank you for these words. I think i just need to read it out and hit my head to wake up. This guy i m seeing... For bout 9 mths now... The other day, lon story short, we were in sum tensed phase, arguments ensued, n "clingy" was the reason he gave , and if we shd "figure out again if we wanna continue this." .... ") I donno whether to cry or laugh.
People who act uninterested make me less interested, yes I like to work to get a girl but if she tells me she’s not looking for anything then I’m not gonna be pushy.
Clear sign number one that he's falling or has fallen for you: He eventually tells you (genuinely): "I love everything about you" and shows it. A man who isn't feelin' ya will not make an effort for you at all. No good morning or goodnight texts, no "How was your day?" texts, and might I add that if a man is in love with you, talk is cheap, because he's going to show it in his actions.
Yeehhh, it takes for ages, all those time, all those money, you wasted your body because you have to have sex with them, they dont even love you, but they use you as a product, all those wasted life, and the final answer is no. It is like a lottery.
You are putting your needs in, set boundaries and let him know where your at. Just dont do it all at once or too much. You can read if hes stringing you along. He'll give you his time and show he cares if not. If you have to have sex or he leaves, let him!
I find it hilarious that you think that’s the way we operate. Meanwhile that’s exactly what it’s like for us as men all the time we’re never allowed to be up front and to be honest about how we feel. On top of that whenever we make this argument you guys always want to picture a guy already planning the wedding on the first date.
I love all these videos. My relationship has been going so well. Him and I knew each other for quite some time before dating. I was living the single mom life with and kept going back to my ex. He would get upset everytime but never told me, our mutual friends told me. But watching these videos and actually trying to learn from my mistakes has really help. Thank you!
How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man. Women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way. Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other? Also, males and females are both mentally and physically different from each other, and that would effect the bonding between them.
I feel so jeolous of my sister because she didn't do any chase and still got proposed her for marriage .Also bout the old times where people never thought so much still their relationship lasted for years
Settle down and stop being used for sexual gravitation by cool guys you admire for husband trophies, they might think you enjoy the sex and that was enough satisfaction to get you to pension age. Your sister is your loved one and you should be extremely happy for her happiness.
Because you get the impression you are going to need a degree on this before you can even start thinking about being with someone? In my case I was not bothered with the whole thing because i was not looking for anybody and by now we have made a big mess and go and figure which stage or what to do next...
Ahhh having beauty to attract the guy. Didn’t work for me. Met my boyfriend on an anonymous app, became friends and he turned me down at first. Now he loves me, I guess it be like that sometimes. Says he feel in love with my personality and my looks “grew on him” welp
There are plenty of things that you could be doing- you could be working on yourself mentally, physically, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually etc., for example learning a new skill or language, reading a new book or meal prepping and exercising. You could also be working on renovating your home- making new curtains/cushions, DIY decorations and furniture for example. Being in quarantine doesn’t mean that we should just sit down and stare into space or on our devices.
Your hobbies, Shaw University has a free 4 week course you can take .. just be sure to cancel before the 4th week ... learn something new .. taking a online class to better yourself is not only keeping you busy .. but it could help you out later on.
I disagree about not being able to play it cool online. 🤣 I Met a guy through a dating site, and he told me I am gorgeous, and I replied with, “you’re pretty easy on the eyes yourself.” He’s actually hot AF, but I didn’t want to seem too eager. lol 🤣🤣 it’s been going on 6 years now. 🤷🏻♀️ And this is pretty misogynistic view: the notion that a woman can “make a man leave.” If he leaves, no matter what the reason is, it just means that he’s not for you. If he’s for you, no matter what you do “wrong” won’t matter. Just like no matter what he does “wrong,” if you’re meant to be with him, you will not be bothered by his actions.
Nope! Don't have any type of sex with a man until A, he requests a monogamous relationship. B. He's spent at least 40 days showing up & proving he's a reliable romantic boyfriend. C until he's in love with you. This is the man who will definitely want to marry you and see you as the prize. Women need to keep their legs closed and create DESIRE in a man. This creates a lasting Bond and respect. He needs to go home and play with himself thinking about you.. just like in the old days. This is what truly creates a love-bond & being his dream girl. I've had a lot of guys ask to marry me without any sex. It works.
Is it okay to go get your sexual needs taken care of by another man in the meantime while you wait for the boyfriend/husband material for the 40 day or more period of time?
@@ida4587 none!!! He needs to be excited the whole time. Just sweet hugs and kisses. Gentle flirtation & he will go home and pleasure himself-- thinking about YOU (instead of porn). Sex & love is mental and its the easiest way to get into his head. Even the top courtesans were aware that creating desire is just as important as beauty.
@@Ginger32 I would say that men can sense the presence of another man. Plus women have a hard time categorizing their emotions. Is it impossible? - no. Its possible, but much, much more unlikely. Anyways, if its done right.. the investment of time is worth it --to land a husband that you really love!
This video broke my heart. My boyfriend and I of over a year now have been having issues lately bc he doesn't put in any effort whatsoever anymore and it makes me question if I should stay or not even though I love him. I just know I deserve better but I don't have the strength to leave. Life sucks lol
Communicate how you feel to him! If he does nothing to change this walk away. 1 year is way too soon to be getting bored or not putting in any effort. If he is making you feel bad more than he uplifts you walk away from him
I can confirm that most of it is true, however, being needy is a no go. Pulling back as said in stage 3 is driving me crazy as I’m typing this. But now I know for sure that I want her. The imagination stage is ongoing through the entire process, it’s not a step. And last tip, the substance tip is really important, nobody want a boring woman right? But that goes the other way around as well. The situation I’m currently in is a dance, pull and push, uncertainty on both sides, but the excitement and the rollercoaster of emotions.. I still don’t know if she likes me and I don’t think she knows I like her. It’s fun and scary at the same time lol.
Of course. I would give anything for true love. Obviously you want to be somewhat attracted. But if the love is there then that's all that matters. Life is to short to pass up real people who care.
Do you fancy him? he may not be your type physically but that doesn't mean he won't turn you on. Having a 'type' is a limitation, sexual attraction can occur with any type. BUT if there's no physical attraction, he's not love affair or relationship / marriage material. The sexual element is what distinguishes these relationships from any others. Love is NOT all that matters, that's a major fantasy myth.
Well some women have stages too! I understand what you’re saying buuut you kinda make it seem like men are so delicate and so vulnerable so ‘needy’ women have to be careful not to scare the little prince away with her feelings.. you are a human being and feeling come with that and yes women tend to be more emotional but if he runs when he sees these you dodged a fool✌🏼..hmm no woman is going to sit around waiting for some confused guy and all his stages to ‘know’ if he’s ready to commit/in love. That’s how some women wait up to years on some guy to finally make up his mind or become exclusive! Smh. If a man really wants to commit he’ll make it crystal clear from the start. Men are hunters. He won’t leave the door open for the next man to steal you away!! Fx does a hungry man ‘wait to know if he’s ready to eat’ when there is food in front of him? No! And not to compare women to food but if he really wants you then he knows Immediately!
Its just a basic guide. You can tell him your feelings just don't come off needy. If you love yourself and have a full life of your own you wont be. So it's easy
Really wanting you in the beginning as a man just equals to really wanna bang and getting physical. For a guy to really know if he wants her to stick in his life and want her as a girlfriend he has to actually get to know her better and see if she's cool, a good fit to him etc. they can't know if they'd want to commit immediately no matter how much you'd like that to be the case, that's only pretty much the case with sex but a commitment is something else entirely and takes more than just good sex generally for 'high quality men' with standards. And the guys that do instantly know that they'd like to commit even though they barely know you aren't going to be attractive to you, they'd be too easy to get.
Can you please elaborate on "love bombing". I'm in a new relationship (less than a month) and he has already spoken about wanting to marry Me, have more children, and has already says he loves me. It scares me, that this doesn't scare me! He's very affectionate and not afraid to share his feelings and emotions. I've never experienced a guy this "open" or affectionate and I love it. What does this all mean?
Marriage, children AND love in the first month? This guy has no clue what he wants. Honestly, I'd be careful. Did he just get out of a relationship? Because it sounds like he's rebounding, potentially. 😬
We've been best friends for 5 years. Never more. We are also long distance friends. He is flying here next week to meet me. I can't wait... no matter if it moves to more or not.
I love you for this vid. At this stage I was ready to start playing games cuz he's in the "silent" stage.. n I was a lil confused but u made it make sense. Hope this goes all the way..
Aaaah, this was the most helpful video ever. Thank you soooo much. Although, how do these stages look like at times like right now where we can only text but not meet?
They end up drawing out a bit longer than usual, but the framework is all still there. He'll be filling in the gaps and making more assumptions (something you can't really control) while he's away from you and can't meet you in person. 🙂
I am so done with guys right now. One of the guy i like him more while the guy i just met 3 days ago he is chase after me. Sending messages through the whole day, i am really losing my interest. I have no idea what is wrong with the guys nowdays. i am just so done with guys
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Hey Ryan, thank you so much for your reply! I actually met this guy today, we had some deep conversation along with pizza, 🍺! Your video is gem, I am so appreciative your effort! Looking forward for more vidoes, please stay safe you and your family 👏
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Khm, I shall ask here for your opinion on something 😊 I had hit off with one guy - our chemistry in texting and in person was great, but I could tell that he didn't have too much interest in who I am, just a question here and there about what I like and my plans. In one texting session in a heat of a moment, he suggested that we have sex, which I refused. He'd been polite at first since then and tried not to be pushy, but became sarcastic and bitchy most of the time later. I was playful whole the time. We don't have contact anymore, on his demand. Was there any actual interest in me?
I had a guy who used to call and text every 30 minutes. He was so needy I couldn't take it. Had to block his number and we weren't even dating!!!!!!!!!!!
How will you turn around the situation if he already knew that you really like him and you as a girl wanted to know if he likes you as well. What’s the best thing to do to find it out without asking him yet?
Thanks Ryan, this is insightful content. How do we go about it if we simply make the common mistakes you have shared and the guy did indeed "walk away" in stage 5? To set some context, everything went really well and the connection was really great we went through stage 1-5 in about 5 weeks' time. He made it clear verbally, on several occasions, that this has positive prospects. But like what you said, in stage 5, he became more aloof and I got a little impatient and might have made it clear that I'm head over heels and wanted this to be serious. He then told me he can't do anything long term and would like to keep it casual. Is there a way to turn things around or should I just take his words and move on?
Take time to plead with your heart when you feel that way. Life is not stage show, your approach and method in acting would prove your real intentions whether it stems from fear or love with a trick to pulling his heart strings...don't do it with a player is ready to devour your emotions and leave you wanting in pain of sweat when you have been tricked to fall for in love for games. Modern cities are plaque with so much career minded professionals with less time to find companion that is worthy. Real guys are taken in no time. Women in general, would say that your point is unheard off. Caring guys would turn the table round to please you, in the context of life experiences and style. Your point is really beautiful, but don't try it with guys without a heart or ruthless in a plot with mistake that will make you emotionally damaged with fierce controlling tactics, where your love is unappreciated. I grewup with my mum alone, so i understand your fears...similar to Mr Putin relentless behaviour towards lack of upbringing by his mother and motherly love presence.
Ryan Patrick a great video. Thank you. I would like to know why do men say you are a good woman and find that you are really nice but don't choose you but want to keep you in their lives by being friends.
The 'ol *backup plan* in full effect. If you'd fully value a friendship with him and would benefit from it in some way, go for it; without having any expectation of more. Otherwise, don't just befriend him hoping that something converts later. It's the complete wrong mentality to have with him. 🙂
O Lord. I doubt I'll remember any of that when the time comes. I just heard: dont make a move, wait because men are scared of commitment and they process slowly. I 🤦♀️😕😤😔🙏🙏
I saw your Friendzone video. I dated a guy 3 dates and I guess the learning stage was happening . I told him I liked him.... so I guess I shouldn't have told him that. We never had a 4th date and he said he was unsure of a connection then he wanted to be friends and go from there. I actually felt a strong connection with him and I felt that he did too. It definitely felt mutual. I accepted his friendship and said I would like that. Now he can't stop texting me. What should I do now?
I'm dating a guy that seems perfect but my gut is telling me to run far, far away. We hang out Fridays and he wants me to sleep over but I don't. I'm seriously not texting him and I'm hanging out with other guys because this guy really scares me. I cannot tell if the fear is because he is nice (fear of getting hurt) or if the fear is valid and I should stay away. I don't know what to do. He did say we are exclusive and on date 2 I accused him of cheating cause his body smelled like he had just had sex...he seemed sincere when he said he didn't and he never brought it up again. He even said he was happy I brought up my concerns...it's just weird. I've never dated a guy like this. He didn't get mad or anything. Maybe I just have trust issues.🙈
Hi Ryan! Great video! Keep it up! You`re doing a great job. This "guy-friend of mine"`s gonna have to work his glasses and beard off. Or else, he goes!" Thanks so much. xxx
If I have to do all this, then it's to much work lol. I get it but at the same time, if he doesn't like you being honest then he's not worth it. Be glad people reach out to you and tell you their intentions or feelings or thoughts, no retreat at a good opportunity....
You know now to lookafter yourself and don't blame it on relationships, men fall for caring women not showoffs, you could be so lucky take a caring course online to boost your life skill or work for a charity temporary to understand human interactions based on trust and integrity.
Hey Ryan, I hope you & Brittney are doing well 🙂This was an awesome video, I love your video editing🙂Are you doing it in AE CS6.5? I find it difficult to date men because of my kids, my 19yr old daughter particularly is very possessive of me. Every time she sees me chatting to male friends on FB she pops up on my chat bar. The way she does it, it feels like she's jealous or annoyed that I might be interested in someone or that I'm getting attention from guys. Both her & her sister hate their dad & she's asked me if I'm gonna have anymore kids & I said no. How do I make my kids be okay with me seeing someone? & when is the right time to introduce your kids to your partner? It was easier to hide dating when they were little, but now that they're older they make me feel like I'm looking to start a new life/family without them & I'd never do that, they're my babies. But I think they're convinced I'll do that because that's what their dad has done. But I'm not gonna have anymore kids because of my heart issues, I don't want to die leaving small children behind like my dad did & they don't seem to understand that.
Hey Jax! Thank you 🙂I do all my editing on Final Cut Pro X. It would be great if you could pull your daughters into a family chat and address any questions they have head-on. I'm not sure hold old your other daughter is (besides your 19 y. o.), but if she's close in age, I feel it's important to set expectations with them that mom is going to find her prince and that someday they will find theirs too. It might be beneficial to highlight how some of their behavior feels like it's try to sabotage your happiness and that if mom isn't happy, how is that beneficial to them? It might even be worth going a layer deeper and having the discussion pivot to their dad - they may have been holding in feelings about him for a long time that have been yearning to get out. Some of those feelings might be centered around ideas or even assumptions that just aren't true about him, too, so it would be an opportunity to maybe correct the record, even if it might be difficult for you personally if you're still angry with him, be might be beneficial to the your girls. Just some thoughts 🙂
Hey @@datingcoachryanpatrick I'll check out that Final Cut Pro X, it looks like it's a very good editing program 🙂Thanks for your advice🙂My other daughter is 17, she's not overly worried about what I'm doing she's too busy getting ready to join the police academy. It's more so older daughter, she's always been possessive of me even when she was baby, she'd go bananas if anyone else held her & she has a lot of influence over her sister. Both of them speak to their dad, they were the ones that told me he's married now. I've never said anything bad about their dad to them, other than don't go near him or get into a car with him if he's been drinking. They stopped talking to him last year after he got drunk & sent them highly inappropriate msgs. I told them to report him to the police because of the nature of those msgs, they haven't spoken about him since. It's hard speaking to their dad, he's an alcoholic & he has a short temper + once you do speak to him it's hard to get rid of him. He has the attitude of "I don't want you, but I'm not gonna let anyone else have you". It doesn't matter that he's married, he's been in relationships after we broke up & any time I spoke to him about our kids he tried weaseling his way back into my life. He fell apart after I dumped him for cheating on me, but I dunno what he expected. I walked in on him in our house screwing another woman in our bed 3weeks after I had our 2nd child. It was made worse by the fact the person that raised me was in hospital with a massive stroke & I'd just come back from seeing them & I walked in on that. Tbh I'd rather be single than talk to him to ever again!
So there is this guy who I know for 3 months. We were so connected and had a great chemistry. He really liked me but lately he pulls back himself and we don’t text each other that often(we are far away from each other”. My question is if I should talk to him about the current situation or just let it stay like that?
Omg... I think he is at the imagination stage. He has been a little bit quiet, but he surprised me when he told me he had dreamt about us being together. He kept it playful, and I am sure he did that so that if I was not in the same channel he could just be like haha "funny". I really think he was waiting for me to be single, too and playing detective. He asked directly and I think he made a statement (?) by dedicating a song to me that let's me know he is interested. Now, interested in what? I really think that if it was just physicall his dream would have revealed it, but he described the dream was "cute". I really hope he is not playing games. Men are experts on starting things they are not sure they want or not instead of analyzing everything first. I hate that. It was weird because after he made this clear, he posted a loooot of instagram stories. Seriously, that is not usual.I think he was trying to get my impression, but maybe not. Ugh
Omg I feel you girl! It's hard imagining that someone could like you (for me at least) and sometimes I end up second guessing myself and thinking that I'm just overthinking! I think my guy is at the imagination stage too! He has lately been going off by himself but since we are both young and this would be our first relationship we are definitely both still friends and both to afraid to say anything! And I don't think he's ever thought about having a girlfriend or what that would mean so it's just not really in the cards or something? Ikr honestly men are so confusing, I wish I could just say hey I like you wanna start soemthing? Without freaking him out of making him run away or if he doesn't feel the same way just stay friends.
Nah a boy was fallen for me later, after days I told him i like him 😁we were looking forward but in some kind of acts, it ended before something started, we had a few moments of course.. Is not always like: the game, they want something they cant have by us it ended because so many peoole were between us, everybody was saying something, this was damn bad even he said it was not,it was and I hate it, that thy were doing it so. Still make me sad.
tip number whatever.. don't add each other on social media.. this can be such a messed up thing. just keep it separate so you can both be your own person and it can be private. just say you aren't adding anyone on social media right now. and make sure your profile is private, and anything public looks respectable. you're not keeping secrets, you are honoring the process of a relationship developing naturally and keeping your involvement sacred. so important. don't let social media creep in and pick it apart.
Hi Ryan, I want a guy to like me back, I've liked him for like a year now. I am friends with him and he said maybe a month or 2 ago that he likes me but because of his toxic exes he doesn't feel ready for a relationship. I'm lost for what to do. Help!
Guys need to get over their issue of wanting what they can't have! False, guys would rather be single. NOT TOO MUCH LONGER, SOME GUYS STRING WOMEN ALONG FOR 5-6 YEARS.
nofy bn it’s Human Nature to crave what we cannot have..that will never change. It’s up to us as individuals, to see where that invisible line is that shouldn’t be crossed...it’s called Morals.
Sounds like you waited around about 5 years too long for your answers. Give things six-12 months and you have all your answers, all your signs, and often far sooner, within the 3 months. Ryan is accurate on his timelines, it's guy science. Lol
Ryan: Your introduction portion of your videos is too long. Get to the point. I disagree that a man needs to be "guided along" to a commitment. If he is interested and ready he will commit. Besides, having to guide a man along is work and a man who is work is a turn-off.
So you get the guy and you get to the next step he moves in you love him unconditionally and you find out he is so jealous !!! We are exclusive but his jealousy is getting to me !! A big turn off !! What do I do !!! I have brought it up to him but it goes no where !!
Girls, please don’t overdo playing hard to get, it will work for a time, but if you overdo playing hard to get, he will loose attraction for you, completely, so this method can work against you if you overdo this.
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I did lots of advice from relationships advicer but nothings happen. I can say there’s no secret. Just be your self. If a man likes you he will accept you for who you are.
Girls, focus on yourself and focus on your career. The right one will come in a right time.
Agreed 💯
i totally agree💕
True!
Yup
Agree to this..am so tired
Just lean back is correct. I've been dating this man for eight months and he is calm, sincere, honest, caring, sexy, sweet, and helpful. Other relationships were like zero to 60 and this is a slow burn and it's wonderful. Turns our drama is not fun. What is fun? Having a man who looks you in the eyes, makes dinner, fixes your lamp, loves old James Bond movies, helps you get dressed after you dislocate your arm -- and is amazingly passionate.
Wonderful. 😄 It's those small, thoughtful actions that matter.
Omg I love this
Happy for you! 😍
Aww that’s amazing ☺️ lucky girl!
Original James Bond movies are the best 😌
I love this. For some reason your comment made me feel so calm. I recently met a great guy and we’re totally into each other right now so I needed to hear: ‘just relax.’ Congrats and many blessings to you 💕
Your tip about not dropping things to put a guy in your schedule is sooo important! This is a mistake I CONSTANTLY make but I need to realize they’re lucky to spend time with me and it should not just be me adjusting my schedule
100% Sam 🙌🏼
It's so hard! I do this when I like a guy!
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Lucas Daniel nyc!! Hbu??
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“When in doubt, lean back” love that! So true. Sometimes you just have to play it cool.
So hard!
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@@christinecarver1665 where are you from
Elina darling dropping it like is HOT. You have been hanging around relationship professors. "Lean back" my mind on my money and my money on my mind.PUN wickedest tune. Every respectable guys out there want the best for their lady friend even if there is no relationship among them, simple. Playing it COOL being on the safe side and protecting the interest of the lady.
The 7 stages of men wasting your time lmao
LoL!!!
Yup
Hahahaha
Yup
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You know what guys like more than this? Honest communication so they arent constantly guessing, playing games, and wondering if they are wasting their time.
Thank you, you're right
I nearly spat out my food out laughing!
I thought this entire comment section was confused and misled but here we have the diamond in the rough. Spot on.
Women want this too. It goes both ways. Sadly, we have too many men who prefer to play games and break hearts than real men who actually prefer honesty. Being honest only gets you hurt, ladies. Don’t pay attention to these altruistic statements made here that only work in a man’s favor. If a man knows you’re honest and you care, you WILL get your heart ripped out eventually. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
@@laundrybasket2689 "I'm going to play this woman and break her heart" said no man ever. Guys just lose interests. Maybe because you aren't interesting or a fun person to be around with? Stop assuming that every guy has some evil intention. Look within yourself.
As a guy this is true. Females need to learn how to be straight up. But no they prefer to do the opposite. Nowadays
SINGLE MOMS: having kids IS SUBSTANCE.... seriously, thank you for this shoutout and validation.
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Of course it is babe! 🥰
most men are turned off by the fact that I have kids, but that’s okay, because my kids are my world :)
Women you're too loyal. Don't ever focus on one guy unless he told you its exclusive. Don't assume bc 99.9 times hes roaching you. There are other women you hv no idea about.
Of course, as usual!
Yup. Make sure you want his ass too lol
Cheats are always getting it on...when they plan your life alone without you.
I got to phase 4/5 with a guy that I was falling madly in love with. I panicked and asked him 'where is this going' and he pulled back completely. I was so disappointed and heartbroken. I started pulling back myself and he came back (!!!!) We're back around phase 4 again and this time I am letting him chase... completely. It feels so counter intuitive because I am a go getter in life but learning that men/relationships operate under a different set of rules.
You can never ask the right person the wrong questions.
Maybe the reason why guys do that is because he also doesn't know and doesn't want to admit he doesn't know it either! He might be falling for u quicker than he realizes. Backing off can be his way of figuring out how much he likes u!
Typical stories of men that tells you the truth and your reaction doubts his intentions for really loving you. Take your time to let him know that you really miss him and that there is no substitute for sharing you bed without him, ask your friends and they will smile ans tell you to take it easy or bunk him for fun and make his head swell. Adult Cartoon story. I respect your honesty madam leila. I feel i heard it in Sir Eric Clapton song.
i feel so ready now once this lockdown ends haha
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Good! That's the spirit! 👊🏼
Cornelia K PERIODTTTT
Lol
This is incredible. I had no idea this existed.
Main point: boys only want love if it's torture; Don't say I didn't say I didn't warn ya.
T. Swift has sang more truth than people give her credit for.
Yes boys maybe. I just wish women knew that their is real men out here that don't play these types of games!!
I agree! Men want what’s hard to have and you must never let them know that they have you
Yes!
Thanks Miss Swift ;)
I'm not catching feels.
I'm not catching feels.
I'm not catching feels.
I'm not catching feels.
What happens when a guy behaves like he’s interested, but he won’t ask the girl any personal or normal questions, and he just keeps talking about himself? Run. Run as fast as your legs can take you Girl!!!!! Could you do a video on that? How to not get sucked into a one sided relationship; the three Key eye opening signs that it won’t go well because he’s selfish.. from the very beginning.
UGH, sounds like a guy I recently met
Yes, just went through this. My intuition is 100% accurate yet I pushed it aside when I felt some things were not right because I had feelings for him and went with that because I really wanted to enjoy the moments but it ended up when he just used me. I thought to try and I could handle it yet it still hurt. He didn't care a thing about me and was awful to me. I know he is an awful person but I still love him...hoping it will go away soon. It's exhausting! Really, how difficult it is to meet someone compatible, real, genuine...Jeez!
Aries men.
Hotwire tip save yourself a headache and stock up on batteries
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Best advice EVER 😂😂
"Remember he's a visitor in your world, not the other way around." OMG...
If a person must do so much waiting and delaying time , you might as well be single. My guy my family on the second date and couldnt wait to go back and see me more often because he could see my personality was genuine because of the household I came from.
That’s awesome! You are very lucky and blessed. This is extremely rare.
@@laundrybasket2689 oh no. A few months later he ghosted me , came back a few months later... took me out on date and ghosted me agai .later I found out he was dating someone for 6 months. He was seeing me while they were on a break and then cheated on her with me when I thought he came back reconcile
Ryan Patrick I need you to do a video stating: "why you are wife material and he still does not choose you"
If he doesn't see what you bring to the table now, he never will. He's just not your guy is all 😬
What if he does NOT want a wife? And: is there just one type of wife (/relationship)?
@@alessandravittorio3153 If he doesn't want a wife, and you want to be one, let him go. Believe the man, he doesn't want a wife. So end it, if that doesn't meet your needs.
@@datingcoachryanpatrick thank you for these words. I think i just need to read it out and hit my head to wake up. This guy i m seeing... For bout 9 mths now... The other day, lon story short, we were in sum tensed phase, arguments ensued, n "clingy" was the reason he gave , and if we shd "figure out again if we wanna continue this." .... ")
I donno whether to cry or laugh.
He’s just not for you. You’re not wife material in his eyes, and that’s OK. Find the one who sees your value.
People who act uninterested make me less interested, yes I like to work to get a girl but if she tells me she’s not looking for anything then I’m not gonna be pushy.
Clear sign number one that he's falling or has fallen for you: He eventually tells you (genuinely): "I love everything about you" and shows it. A man who isn't feelin' ya will not make an effort for you at all. No good morning or goodnight texts, no "How was your day?" texts, and might I add that if a man is in love with you, talk is cheap, because he's going to show it in his actions.
Are you feeling well at all?
Another utuber suggested you always make text interesting not your basic “How was your day”. Set yourself apart.
When in doubt, lean back. I love that! Thank you😊
Pretty pretty pay back time, enjoy the comeback
Video suggestion: what’s the thought process of men regarding long distance relationships
Men have all these stages and we’re supposed to “hang out” hoping to make it through without stating our needs?!? BS
Yea total bs
Yeehhh, it takes for ages, all those time, all those money, you wasted your body because you have to have sex with them, they dont even love you, but they use you as a product, all those wasted life, and the final answer is no. It is like a lottery.
@@keepcreationprocess you dont have to have sex with a guy like that if you arent committed to each other because they'll most likely leave
You are putting your needs in, set boundaries and let him know where your at. Just dont do it all at once or too much. You can read if hes stringing you along. He'll give you his time and show he cares if not. If you have to have sex or he leaves, let him!
I find it hilarious that you think that’s the way we operate. Meanwhile that’s exactly what it’s like for us as men all the time we’re never allowed to be up front and to be honest about how we feel. On top of that whenever we make this argument you guys always want to picture a guy already planning the wedding on the first date.
I love all these videos. My relationship has been going so well. Him and I knew each other for quite some time before dating. I was living the single mom life with and kept going back to my ex. He would get upset everytime but never told me, our mutual friends told me. But watching these videos and actually trying to learn from my mistakes has really help. Thank you!
When did men get so complicated 😅
Men are not this Complicated!
men really aren't this complicated
When social media came into play. Why commit when you can have a different hoe every night of the week?
How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.
Women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way.
Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father.
Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers.
The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view.
How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other? Also, males and females are both mentally and physically different from each other, and that would effect the bonding between them.
I feel so jeolous of my sister because she didn't do any chase and still got proposed her for marriage .Also bout the old times where people never thought so much still their relationship lasted for years
Don't be fooled by the old times. A lot of those couples lasted because of the stigma of divorce and the woman's inability to take care of herself.
Settle down and stop being used for sexual gravitation by cool guys you admire for husband trophies, they might think you enjoy the sex and that was enough satisfaction to get you to pension age. Your sister is your loved one and you should be extremely happy for her happiness.
If someone is really interested, you don't need any tips...just be yourself...
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Keeping it simple TIPS... Forget about more fishes in the sea.
Thanks again, Ryan. Always good to be reminded about the virtue of patience. (And sometimes even that doesn't work...).
Hey Kate! Yup - If this time is teaching us anything, it's definitely patience 😄
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Why do I feel so tired listening to this...
Because you get the impression you are going to need a degree on this before you can even start thinking about being with someone? In my case I was not bothered with the whole thing because i was not looking for anybody and by now we have made a big mess and go and figure which stage or what to do next...
Just change the playback speed to 1.25 or 1.50
Completely agree.. I didn’t know I had so much to learn
@@101Sarahsaurus Men are not that Complicated! I think hes talking about dating little boys. Real men don't play games.
Because obviously getting a guy is hard work and it's awfully tiring ;)
Ahhh having beauty to attract the guy. Didn’t work for me. Met my boyfriend on an anonymous app, became friends and he turned me down at first. Now he loves me, I guess it be like that sometimes. Says he feel in love with my personality and my looks “grew on him” welp
I like this response. Somehow, chemistry kicks in, hope your looks grew on him :-)
I'm not sure about him saying this...hope things are well with you
How can we give an air of busy, preoccupied life when we're in quarantine and we are just at home all day? What am I pretending to do?
Casy this is a very valid question 😅
There are plenty of things that you could be doing- you could be working on yourself mentally, physically, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually etc., for example learning a new skill or language, reading a new book or meal prepping and exercising. You could also be working on renovating your home- making new curtains/cushions, DIY decorations and furniture for example. Being in quarantine doesn’t mean that we should just sit down and stare into space or on our devices.
Your hobbies, Shaw University has a free 4 week course you can take .. just be sure to cancel before the 4th week ... learn something new .. taking a online class to better yourself is not only keeping you busy .. but it could help you out later on.
@@deanna10464 very cool I will check these courses out.Thanks for sharing
You could be in touch with friends and relatives all day on skype, just as busy socially as when not in quarantine.
And this is why I cant deal with dating.
7 reasons for me to stay single.
I disagree about not being able to play it cool online. 🤣 I Met a guy through a dating site, and he told me I am gorgeous, and I replied with, “you’re pretty easy on the eyes yourself.” He’s actually hot AF, but I didn’t want to seem too eager. lol 🤣🤣 it’s been going on 6 years now. 🤷🏻♀️
And this is pretty misogynistic view: the notion that a woman can “make a man leave.” If he leaves, no matter what the reason is, it just means that he’s not for you. If he’s for you, no matter what you do “wrong” won’t matter. Just like no matter what he does “wrong,” if you’re meant to be with him, you will not be bothered by his actions.
Nope! Don't have any type of sex with a man until A, he requests a monogamous relationship. B. He's spent at least 40 days showing up & proving he's a reliable romantic boyfriend. C until he's in love with you. This is the man who will definitely want to marry you and see you as the prize.
Women need to keep their legs closed and create DESIRE in a man. This creates a lasting Bond and respect. He needs to go home and play with himself thinking about you.. just like in the old days. This is what truly creates a love-bond & being his dream girl. I've had a lot of guys ask to marry me without any sex. It works.
You should make a UA-cam channel to give more tips. When you mean no sex, does that include nothing at all? (no oral for example)
Is it okay to go get your sexual needs taken care of by another man in the meantime while you wait for the boyfriend/husband material for the 40 day or more period of time?
@Ryan Patrick.......
@@ida4587 none!!! He needs to be excited the whole time. Just sweet hugs and kisses. Gentle flirtation & he will go home and pleasure himself-- thinking about YOU (instead of porn). Sex & love is mental and its the easiest way to get into his head. Even the top courtesans were aware that creating desire is just as important as beauty.
@@Ginger32 I would say that men can sense the presence of another man. Plus women have a hard time categorizing their emotions. Is it impossible? - no. Its possible, but much, much more unlikely. Anyways, if its done right.. the investment of time is worth it --to land a husband that you really love!
im already on the seventh stage, for almost a year now 😂😂 should i keep waiting, coach?
I'm picturing guys watching these and being like "OH NO HE'S EXPOSING US"
that's cute... however, we don't really mind 😏
I should've leaned back more and I will lean back more from now on. I never knew it was so important.
After seeing this I can see where I went wrong with a few guys 😂
This video broke my heart. My boyfriend and I of over a year now have been having issues lately bc he doesn't put in any effort whatsoever anymore and it makes me question if I should stay or not even though I love him. I just know I deserve better but I don't have the strength to leave. Life sucks lol
Communicate how you feel to him! If he does nothing to change this walk away. 1 year is way too soon to be getting bored or not putting in any effort. If he is making you feel bad more than he uplifts you walk away from him
This is probably the MOST useful video I've seen on dating here on the interwebs.
Thank you for actually getting to the points and explaining stuff, not just teasing and stringing along for some pay for link.
Subscribing for sure.
I can confirm that most of it is true, however, being needy is a no go. Pulling back as said in stage 3 is driving me crazy as I’m typing this. But now I know for sure that I want her. The imagination stage is ongoing through the entire process, it’s not a step. And last tip, the substance tip is really important, nobody want a boring woman right? But that goes the other way around as well.
The situation I’m currently in is a dance, pull and push, uncertainty on both sides, but the excitement and the rollercoaster of emotions.. I still don’t know if she likes me and I don’t think she knows I like her. It’s fun and scary at the same time lol.
Suggestion of video: he’s really not my type physically, but we get along so great. Is that relationship possible?
Of course. I would give anything for true love. Obviously you want to be somewhat attracted. But if the love is there then that's all that matters. Life is to short to pass up real people who care.
If he doesn’t turn you on, you’re trading the chemistry. Depends on if your primary love language is physical touch also
Do you fancy him? he may not be your type physically but that doesn't mean he won't turn you on. Having a 'type' is a limitation, sexual attraction can occur with any type. BUT if there's no physical attraction, he's not love affair or relationship / marriage material. The sexual element is what distinguishes these relationships from any others. Love is NOT all that matters, that's a major fantasy myth.
Well some women have stages too! I understand what you’re saying buuut you kinda make it seem like men are so delicate and so vulnerable so ‘needy’ women have to be careful not to scare the little prince away with her feelings.. you are a human being and feeling come with that and yes women tend to be more emotional but if he runs when he sees these you dodged a fool✌🏼..hmm no woman is going to sit around waiting for some confused guy and all his stages to ‘know’ if he’s ready to commit/in love. That’s how some women wait up to years on some guy to finally make up his mind or become exclusive! Smh. If a man really wants to commit he’ll make it crystal clear from the start. Men are hunters. He won’t leave the door open for the next man to steal you away!! Fx does a hungry man ‘wait to know if he’s ready to eat’ when there is food in front of him? No! And not to compare women to food but if he really wants you then he knows Immediately!
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Its just a basic guide. You can tell him your feelings just don't come off needy. If you love yourself and have a full life of your own you wont be. So it's easy
Really wanting you in the beginning as a man just equals to really wanna bang and getting physical. For a guy to really know if he wants her to stick in his life and want her as a girlfriend he has to actually get to know her better and see if she's cool, a good fit to him etc. they can't know if they'd want to commit immediately no matter how much you'd like that to be the case, that's only pretty much the case with sex but a commitment is something else entirely and takes more than just good sex generally for 'high quality men' with standards. And the guys that do instantly know that they'd like to commit even though they barely know you aren't going to be attractive to you, they'd be too easy to get.
You are totally right. It is as simple as that.
Can you please elaborate on "love bombing". I'm in a new relationship (less than a month) and he has already spoken about wanting to marry Me, have more children, and has already says he loves me. It scares me, that this doesn't scare me! He's very affectionate and not afraid to share his feelings and emotions. I've never experienced a guy this "open" or affectionate and I love it. What does this all mean?
Hes playing
That's a red flag smh
I've had that experience.
A man who is serious will take his time and figure you out before he gives you a commitment
Read up about narcissistic personality disorder it sounds awfully like love bombing. Good luck!
Marriage, children AND love in the first month? This guy has no clue what he wants. Honestly, I'd be careful. Did he just get out of a relationship? Because it sounds like he's rebounding, potentially. 😬
Something is *definitely* up, for sure 👍🏼
Hm id say I am in stage 5. He already ran away to collect his thoughts. Made me sad. Then he came back. Been going great so far
We've been best friends for 5 years. Never more. We are also long distance friends. He is flying here next week to meet me. I can't wait... no matter if it moves to more or not.
Recently discovered this channel, I'm totally binge-ing on Ryan...such great energy...love it...
I love you for this vid. At this stage I was ready to start playing games cuz he's in the "silent" stage.. n I was a lil confused but u made it make sense. Hope this goes all the way..
Great advice, thanks Ryan! The hot tips are really helpful and the reminder to slow your roll and have patience is always good advice. 🙌🙌🥰
Sure, Jeannine! Good to see you! Yup - slow your roll every time 😁
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WHERE'S THE VIDEO OF HOW TO GET OVER A GUY WHO HURT YOU???? I'M WAITING RYAN
Aaaah, this was the most helpful video ever. Thank you soooo much. Although, how do these stages look like at times like right now where we can only text but not meet?
They end up drawing out a bit longer than usual, but the framework is all still there. He'll be filling in the gaps and making more assumptions (something you can't really control) while he's away from you and can't meet you in person. 🙂
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thank you so much. I guess I just have to be patient, then.
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You what Tracy? No SIR that was too early, let the meadow clear the air stream.
When a man truly loves you, he will love the demons out of you. 😂
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I'm a guy and I can 100% say this is true
Oh, i believe it!! It can be pretty scary how much a guy can love!
That will come to a halt eventually though. You’ve been warned.
@@JaviereInniss Are you still “loving the demons” out of your girl? Or did you dump her yet?
I am so done with guys right now. One of the guy i like him more while the guy i just met 3 days ago he is chase after me. Sending messages through the whole day, i am really losing my interest. I have no idea what is wrong with the guys nowdays. i am just so done with guys
Breaks are a blessing. It might help change the whole landscape of the guys you meet if you take a month or two off 👍🏼
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Hey Ryan, thank you so much for your reply! I actually met this guy today, we had some deep conversation along with pizza, 🍺! Your video is gem, I am so appreciative your effort! Looking forward for more vidoes, please stay safe you and your family 👏
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Khm, I shall ask here for your opinion on something 😊 I had hit off with one guy - our chemistry in texting and in person was great, but I could tell that he didn't have too much interest in who I am, just a question here and there about what I like and my plans. In one texting session in a heat of a moment, he suggested that we have sex, which I refused. He'd been polite at first since then and tried not to be pushy, but became sarcastic and bitchy most of the time later. I was playful whole the time. We don't have contact anymore, on his demand. Was there any actual interest in me?
I had a guy who used to call and text every 30 minutes. He was so needy I couldn't take it. Had to block his number and we weren't even dating!!!!!!!!!!!
How will you turn around the situation if he already knew that you really like him and you as a girl wanted to know if he likes you as well. What’s the best thing to do to find it out without asking him yet?
Thanks Ryan, this is insightful content. How do we go about it if we simply make the common mistakes you have shared and the guy did indeed "walk away" in stage 5? To set some context, everything went really well and the connection was really great we went through stage 1-5 in about 5 weeks' time. He made it clear verbally, on several occasions, that this has positive prospects. But like what you said, in stage 5, he became more aloof and I got a little impatient and might have made it clear that I'm head over heels and wanted this to be serious. He then told me he can't do anything long term and would like to keep it casual. Is there a way to turn things around or should I just take his words and move on?
Take time to plead with your heart when you feel that way. Life is not stage show, your approach and method in acting would prove your real intentions whether it stems from fear or love with a trick to pulling his heart strings...don't do it with a player is ready to devour your emotions and leave you wanting in pain of sweat when you have been tricked to fall for in love for games. Modern cities are plaque with so much career minded professionals with less time to find companion that is worthy. Real guys are taken in no time. Women in general, would say that your point is unheard off. Caring guys would turn the table round to please you, in the context of life experiences and style. Your point is really beautiful, but don't try it with guys without a heart or ruthless in a plot with mistake that will make you emotionally damaged with fierce controlling tactics, where your love is unappreciated. I grewup with my mum alone, so i understand your fears...similar to Mr Putin relentless behaviour towards lack of upbringing by his mother and motherly love presence.
Ryan Patrick a great video. Thank you. I would like to know why do men say you are a good woman and find that you are really nice but don't choose you but want to keep you in their lives by being friends.
Same experience!! My man dumped me last week. I know I'm wife material and he knows it to😔 but I still got dumped.
He has options and doesn't want to burn bridges with you.
@Rachel Marie it is so confusing to me.
The 'ol *backup plan* in full effect. If you'd fully value a friendship with him and would benefit from it in some way, go for it; without having any expectation of more. Otherwise, don't just befriend him hoping that something converts later. It's the complete wrong mentality to have with him. 🙂
Exactly! No need to be burning bridges 👌🏽
Ryan is the true guy with only ladies channel responding to his verses on relationships. Bigup Ryan
O Lord. I doubt I'll remember any of that when the time comes. I just heard: dont make a move, wait because men are scared of commitment and they process slowly. I 🤦♀️😕😤😔🙏🙏
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I saw your Friendzone video. I dated a guy 3 dates and I guess the learning stage was happening . I told him I liked him.... so I guess I shouldn't have told him that. We never had a 4th date and he said he was unsure of a connection then he wanted to be friends and go from there. I actually felt a strong connection with him and I felt that he did too. It definitely felt mutual. I accepted his friendship and said I would like that. Now he can't stop texting me. What should I do now?
This was v helpful, I need to watch this a couple more times!!!
Hey
Yes, my husband fell in love with controlling me and definitely not true love
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Am so excited about my life qnd future and i can't wait for this lockdown to be over. great video
I feel ready to my bf.. Yes.. After lock down.. I'm excited to see him again.. I miss my love.. So much..
It's a date..
Him showing off got us in a car crash and i loved every second of it 😂😂😂😂
Wow please mend your broken bones JOKING RIGHT. LOL
How many times did you say oops because of the facts in the video?
Me: Three times. I'm glad that my bf stayed.
Ryan you are too good !! It's all so real and authentic content shared by you ❣️❣️
I'm a new subscriber your video is different that makes us see man's points of view. Love that 😘
Why did i just find this? I already messed my potential few days ago T.T
I'm dating a guy that seems perfect but my gut is telling me to run far, far away. We hang out Fridays and he wants me to sleep over but I don't. I'm seriously not texting him and I'm hanging out with other guys because this guy really scares me. I cannot tell if the fear is because he is nice (fear of getting hurt) or if the fear is valid and I should stay away. I don't know what to do. He did say we are exclusive and on date 2 I accused him of cheating cause his body smelled like he had just had sex...he seemed sincere when he said he didn't and he never brought it up again. He even said he was happy I brought up my concerns...it's just weird. I've never dated a guy like this. He didn't get mad or anything. Maybe I just have trust issues.🙈
You should give it a shot 😏
You are the toxic one, and I’m suspicious of him for not running for the hills after you accused him of cheating on date 2
Wth It cannot be this complicated to get a man. If so I’ll stay single just watching this made me tied !!😁
As a guy, it's not that complicated. Just be open and honest. Easy
Great content Ryan. Hope you and Britney stay safe and healthy ☺
Thanks Nic! You guys too! 🙌🏼
Hi Ryan! Great video! Keep it up! You`re doing a great job. This "guy-friend of mine"`s gonna have to work his glasses and beard off. Or else, he goes!" Thanks so much. xxx
If I have to do all this, then it's to much work lol. I get it but at the same time, if he doesn't like you being honest then he's not worth it. Be glad people reach out to you and tell you their intentions or feelings or thoughts, no retreat at a good opportunity....
Good video. Liked and subscribed.
these videos are honestly just interesting to me 😭men got us beat when it comes to being complicated
I love ur videos so much I like them before even watching them cuz I know u won't let me down! tnx Ryan
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Thank you so much this will help me since I'm searching for love new subbie from South Africa
Awesome video Ryan. Great tips.. I'm looking forward to next Monday's video. Have an awesome day
Thanks Jen! Have a great week! 🙂
@@datingcoachryanpatrick You are very Welcome Ryan. Stay safe 🙂💙
Amazing tips hopefully my long distance relationship is working I always watch your video thanks
Awesome! Thanks for watching Jumaica! 😄
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Another very informative view on what Men wish & want, I often used to say I wish I knew then what I know know. Thank you. Kate
You know now to lookafter yourself and don't blame it on relationships, men fall for caring women not showoffs, you could be so lucky take a caring course online to boost your life skill or work for a charity temporary to understand human interactions based on trust and integrity.
Why is this in my yt reco 😅 I’m single but yeah fine
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I’m just gonna watch this for future references 🤣 nothing much better to do anyway
Hey Ryan, I hope you & Brittney are doing well 🙂This was an awesome video, I love your video editing🙂Are you doing it in AE CS6.5? I find it difficult to date men because of my kids, my 19yr old daughter particularly is very possessive of me. Every time she sees me chatting to male friends on FB she pops up on my chat bar. The way she does it, it feels like she's jealous or annoyed that I might be interested in someone or that I'm getting attention from guys. Both her & her sister hate their dad & she's asked me if I'm gonna have anymore kids & I said no. How do I make my kids be okay with me seeing someone? & when is the right time to introduce your kids to your partner?
It was easier to hide dating when they were little, but now that they're older they make me feel like I'm looking to start a new life/family without them & I'd never do that, they're my babies. But I think they're convinced I'll do that because that's what their dad has done. But I'm not gonna have anymore kids because of my heart issues, I don't want to die leaving small children behind like my dad did & they don't seem to understand that.
Hey Jax! Thank you 🙂I do all my editing on Final Cut Pro X. It would be great if you could pull your daughters into a family chat and address any questions they have head-on. I'm not sure hold old your other daughter is (besides your 19 y. o.), but if she's close in age, I feel it's important to set expectations with them that mom is going to find her prince and that someday they will find theirs too. It might be beneficial to highlight how some of their behavior feels like it's try to sabotage your happiness and that if mom isn't happy, how is that beneficial to them? It might even be worth going a layer deeper and having the discussion pivot to their dad - they may have been holding in feelings about him for a long time that have been yearning to get out. Some of those feelings might be centered around ideas or even assumptions that just aren't true about him, too, so it would be an opportunity to maybe correct the record, even if it might be difficult for you personally if you're still angry with him, be might be beneficial to the your girls. Just some thoughts 🙂
Hey @@datingcoachryanpatrick I'll check out that Final Cut Pro X, it looks like it's a very good editing program 🙂Thanks for your advice🙂My other daughter is 17, she's not overly worried about what I'm doing she's too busy getting ready to join the police academy. It's more so older daughter, she's always been possessive of me even when she was baby, she'd go bananas if anyone else held her & she has a lot of influence over her sister.
Both of them speak to their dad, they were the ones that told me he's married now. I've never said anything bad about their dad to them, other than don't go near him or get into a car with him if he's been drinking.
They stopped talking to him last year after he got drunk & sent them highly inappropriate msgs. I told them to report him to the police because of the nature of those msgs, they haven't spoken about him since. It's hard speaking to their dad, he's an alcoholic & he has a short temper + once you do speak to him it's hard to get rid of him. He has the attitude of "I don't want you, but I'm not gonna let anyone else have you". It doesn't matter that he's married, he's been in relationships after we broke up & any time I spoke to him about our kids he tried weaseling his way back into my life. He fell apart after I dumped him for cheating on me, but I dunno what he expected. I walked in on him in our house screwing another woman in our bed 3weeks after I had our 2nd child. It was made worse by the fact the person that raised me was in hospital with a massive stroke & I'd just come back from seeing them & I walked in on that. Tbh I'd rather be single than talk to him to ever again!
So there is this guy who I know for 3 months. We were so connected and had a great chemistry. He really liked me but lately he pulls back himself and we don’t text each other that often(we are far away from each other”. My question is if I should talk to him about the current situation or just let it stay like that?
Omg... I think he is at the imagination stage. He has been a little bit quiet, but he surprised me when he told me he had dreamt about us being together. He kept it playful, and I am sure he did that so that if I was not in the same channel he could just be like haha "funny". I really think he was waiting for me to be single, too and playing detective. He asked directly and I think he made a statement (?) by dedicating a song to me that let's me know he is interested.
Now, interested in what? I really think that if it was just physicall his dream would have revealed it, but he described the dream was "cute".
I really hope he is not playing games. Men are experts on starting things they are not sure they want or not instead of analyzing everything first. I hate that.
It was weird because after he made this clear, he posted a loooot of instagram stories. Seriously, that is not usual.I think he was trying to get my impression, but maybe not. Ugh
Omg I feel you girl! It's hard imagining that someone could like you (for me at least) and sometimes I end up second guessing myself and thinking that I'm just overthinking! I think my guy is at the imagination stage too! He has lately been going off by himself but since we are both young and this would be our first relationship we are definitely both still friends and both to afraid to say anything! And I don't think he's ever thought about having a girlfriend or what that would mean so it's just not really in the cards or something? Ikr honestly men are so confusing, I wish I could just say hey I like you wanna start soemthing? Without freaking him out of making him run away or if he doesn't feel the same way just stay friends.
So happy I found your videos randomly!! Thank you for what you do! ❤️🧡
When men get you or get what they want, they’re done with you. Lol
hhhhhhh 🤣🤣 you have an intention of treachery right from the beginning ,
He has been trying to get me to come to his home. Although it’s early, I prefer he come to my home. M brother lives with me so I feel more secure.
Nah a boy was fallen for me later, after days I told him i like him 😁we were looking forward but in some kind of acts, it ended before something started, we had a few moments of course.. Is not always like: the game, they want something they cant have by us it ended because so many peoole were between us, everybody was saying something, this was damn bad even he said it was not,it was and I hate it, that thy were doing it so. Still make me sad.
Love your videos! Thank you so much for all this info 💕
tip number whatever.. don't add each other on social media.. this can be such a messed up thing. just keep it separate so you can both be your own person and it can be private. just say you aren't adding anyone on social media right now. and make sure your profile is private, and anything public looks respectable. you're not keeping secrets, you are honoring the process of a relationship developing naturally and keeping your involvement sacred. so important. don't let social media creep in and pick it apart.
Great addition!
Extremely helpful video! I love how well-organized it was. Thank you for this! :D
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Hi Ryan, I want a guy to like me back, I've liked him for like a year now. I am friends with him and he said maybe a month or 2 ago that he likes me but because of his toxic exes he doesn't feel ready for a relationship. I'm lost for what to do. Help!
Guys need to get over their issue of wanting what they can't have! False, guys would rather be single. NOT TOO MUCH LONGER, SOME GUYS STRING WOMEN ALONG FOR 5-6 YEARS.
nofy bn it’s the women’s fault for letting them string you along If he’s not interested move on to the next one there are plenty of other options
If a guy was being honest, he never wants to be alone. 👍🏼
Mounds of options indeed 👌🏽
nofy bn it’s Human Nature to crave what we cannot have..that will never change. It’s up to us as individuals, to see where that invisible line is that shouldn’t be crossed...it’s called Morals.
Sounds like you waited around about 5 years too long for your answers. Give things six-12 months and you have all your answers, all your signs, and often far sooner, within the 3 months. Ryan is accurate on his timelines, it's guy science. Lol
Thanks Ryan. Your video is amazing. I will make no mistake.
Let the guy pursue u remember ladies u are the prize
I can do all that but if we don't match we don't
Ryan: Your introduction portion of your videos is too long. Get to the point.
I disagree that a man needs to be "guided along" to a commitment. If he is interested and ready he will commit. Besides, having to guide a man along is work and a man who is work is a turn-off.
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So you get the guy and you get to the next step he moves in you love him unconditionally and you find out he is so jealous !!! We are exclusive but his jealousy is getting to me !! A big turn off !! What do I do !!! I have brought it up to him but it goes no where !!
Girls, please don’t overdo playing hard to get, it will work for a time, but if you overdo playing hard to get, he will loose attraction for you, completely, so this method can work against you if you overdo this.