THE TYPE OF WOMAN MEN ARE INTIMIDATED BY!🤷🏾‍♂️

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  • @bratzsnoopy
    @bratzsnoopy 4 роки тому +2003

    Standards will weed out the wrong men. Let them be intimidated!

    • @thearistocratgrows8651
      @thearistocratgrows8651 4 роки тому +10

      Yes!!

    • @Chantez-gj5dv
      @Chantez-gj5dv 4 роки тому +9

      Facts❤

    • @tsb8769
      @tsb8769 4 роки тому +21

      Choose who you lose by having high standards.

    • @nadirahtherealtor5173
      @nadirahtherealtor5173 4 роки тому +4

      Period!

    • @ksnasol3532
      @ksnasol3532 4 роки тому +6

      Most of the time to be really real the guys women think of as intimidated are just not interested. The guys who are truly intimidated women are even checking for all like that so...

  • @miriamcooper1320
    @miriamcooper1320 4 роки тому +772

    This woman would rather be single than with a man that can't bring in the same loyalty and honor that I do.

    • @christyjimson7380
      @christyjimson7380 4 роки тому +15

      I would give this post 2 thumbs up if I could. I feel the exact same way!!!!!

    • @darrengordon-hill
      @darrengordon-hill 4 роки тому +3

      Fuck is "women's loyalty and honour"??
      🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

    • @Betty_Monroe
      @Betty_Monroe 4 роки тому +8

      Miriam Cooper yaass sis that’s my type!!

    • @rissroo4325
      @rissroo4325 4 роки тому +16

      Don’t settle for loyal. Go for faithful. Loyalty implies that they may stray but come back. Faithfulness implies that they don’t stray in the first place.

    • @sandramullen7804
      @sandramullen7804 3 роки тому +1

      💯 %agree 👍

  • @lady2952
    @lady2952 3 роки тому +117

    If he's intimidated by you, "YOU AIN'T MISSING SHIT" is the bottom line. 🎯

  • @Balancingcodes
    @Balancingcodes 4 роки тому +781

    Many men also suffer from low self-esteem & use women with low self-esteem to attempt to fill these voids, instead of actually doing the work to heal. Many men also marry these types of women as mother figures that they can use, mistreat or neglect that woman's needs the entire "relationship". This can also be vice versa. Women PLEASE practice self-love, have faith & don't settle just for a title or perceived sense of importance, because you "have a man". People can't even "have / own people", you're either in a healthy mutually respectful, loving partnership where you compliment each other or you're in a codependent unhealthy situation where you continue to feed each others insecurities & let fear immobilize either of you from leaving, growing or fulfilling either of your purposes in life; while simultaneously teaching your children how to do the same exact thing... Let's do better in 2020!!

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 4 роки тому +4

      Really good comment. God bless you and yours.

    • @MinadR92
      @MinadR92 4 роки тому +3

      Greatly said! Stay safe and blessed

    • @lastnamefirst9423
      @lastnamefirst9423 4 роки тому +6

      @God's Doll Unfortunately people being unthankful and disloyal are signs that would characterize the attitudes of people these days. We see selfishness at an all time high I m glad you were able to see through his words and discern his true motives. Do you think the attitudes of people in general will ever improve?

    • @sunshinerays8960
      @sunshinerays8960 4 роки тому

      Well said.

    • @thelaw2348
      @thelaw2348 4 роки тому +1

      Truth

  • @pockahantiss
    @pockahantiss 4 роки тому +275

    I always say " my standards aren't high, they're simply realistic-"✌🏾️

  • @scooby1970m
    @scooby1970m 4 роки тому +299

    So true. A man who got his shid together ain't scared of no woman who hanging out on the mountain top cause he back packing with her. We all just need to continue being great!

    • @scooby1970m
      @scooby1970m 4 роки тому +13

      @@jamesbonofffradestin761 speak for yourself, there are plenty of men who want and love strong, independent women, see it all the time, I work with them all the time ie surgeons, doctors etc. That is a blanket statement that can not be proven true

    • @calmsyvibes1010
      @calmsyvibes1010 4 роки тому +2

      are you married?

    • @chocolateprincess8543
      @chocolateprincess8543 4 роки тому

      Yoshiyahu Yisrael There’s no way you’re in the Truth knowing you are a Hebrew Israelite speaking like that .🤦🏿‍♀️ We’re supposed to be the leaders. Don’t be part of the 2/3rds.

    • @phoenixLeoRising333
      @phoenixLeoRising333 3 роки тому

      Factssssss!

    • @dj-savi1528
      @dj-savi1528 3 роки тому +2

      @@scooby1970m I bet they dont like you tho 😂

  • @katarinasimoncicova4766
    @katarinasimoncicova4766 4 роки тому +99

    Confident and mature man will never be challenged and intimidated by a confident and mature woman🙂

    • @bryanaustin5275
      @bryanaustin5275 4 роки тому +6

      Katarína Šimončičová exactly, if a man is confident mature no woman will intimidate him I don’t care what anyone says

    • @j.inkstv
      @j.inkstv 4 роки тому +1

      You're right. So if you're still single, maybe you should be looking inwards instead of blaming others.

    • @davidcadogandc
      @davidcadogandc 3 роки тому +2

      That's exactly what we want, but they are extremely rare and most women fake it after being rejected by the local Chad in so many cases. It's a level of immaturity that quality men won't do without. I would rather be single than have a bitter, used up woman claim that her bitterness and resentment is strength. As for careers in women, quality men are not impressed beyond "do you have some ambition" and "are you looking for a meal ticket?" The CEO of a company is no more attractive than the shop assistant.

    • @mike112693
      @mike112693 3 роки тому +1

      i dont really agree. A good woman challenges a man in a good way but youre right, there's no intimidation. A lot of women and men are not mature but there are a lot of women who think they are mature when they really are not.

  • @theatrejunkee9229
    @theatrejunkee9229 4 роки тому +82

    Most men are intimidated by the prospect of basic adulting.

    • @brittw9781
      @brittw9781 3 роки тому +3

      😂😂😂...Facts

    • @Acetvn-kg6ty
      @Acetvn-kg6ty 3 місяці тому

      same goes to most women.

    • @Acetvn-kg6ty
      @Acetvn-kg6ty 2 місяці тому

      most women are intimidated when they're being held accountable.

  • @ScaryToRemarry
    @ScaryToRemarry 4 роки тому +535

    When I didn’t know who I was as a man, I preyed on insecure women. When I grew up & became a man, I put away childish things. Now that I am mature & confident, I was able to attract the best wife in the world 🌎
    Confidence attracts confidence.

  • @soundra3229
    @soundra3229 4 роки тому +443

    I was just talking about this with a friend. Why is it that a great majority of men seek out a quality woman to try and get quality cookie without doing the work and trying to get to know her spiritually and mentally. When do you get tired of just blowing a woman’s back out and on to the next one. So boyish and unsafe. I can’t 😒

    • @soundra3229
      @soundra3229 4 роки тому +67

      bigjayking24 What I mean by “doing the work” is taking the time to get to know a woman on a deeper level other than just physical. There’s so much more beauty beyond that.

    • @ashleyhawkins1993
      @ashleyhawkins1993 4 роки тому +21

      bigjayking24 putting in effort

    • @Pretzelgal
      @Pretzelgal 4 роки тому +26

      Sorry, but did anyone see Derrick laugh when he mentioned "trash dick"? 🤣🤣🤣

    • @CorporateQueen
      @CorporateQueen 4 роки тому +34

      I think they want to level up and then can't...and I've found myself sinking to his level ... Horrible error on my part. Won't happen again. But they don't know how to do the work. 🤷🏼
      They want the cookie but haven't got a clue how to make a good dough.

    • @juanitasmith3640
      @juanitasmith3640 4 роки тому +7

      Pretzelgal a lot them insecurities men got be on a deeper level# trash dick lol

  • @alphadogmindset5958
    @alphadogmindset5958 4 роки тому +552

    Too many times we as men, complain about all the lower-level women, yet declare a strong woman about her purpose as a feminist man killer, raise your standards, raise your women, raise your life, ❤🔥❤

    • @5x7m
      @5x7m 4 роки тому +10

      Perfect observation👍🏾

    • @celashadollythomas
      @celashadollythomas 4 роки тому +1

      @@Jambuc829 don't say that about yourself..

    • @celashadollythomas
      @celashadollythomas 4 роки тому +1

      @@Jambuc829 omg please don't I beg of you there's always light at the end of the tunnel pray and keep the faith.

    • @celashadollythomas
      @celashadollythomas 4 роки тому +5

      @@Jambuc829 wow I now breathe a sigh of relief.self love is the very frist romance

    • @crystalrobinson6349
      @crystalrobinson6349 4 роки тому +4

      @@BaseballKing44 you guys are visual creatures it's TRUE let's say you live to see 92 you still kicking you want someone to still love you correct?yes love is not about looks ..its really about the character and integrity of that person

  • @teresadavis528
    @teresadavis528 4 роки тому +47

    I had a guy tell me that he could look at me and tell that it would be too much work. I said "too much work to do what?"
    He said too much work to do rhe right thing in a relationship.

    • @universaleducationsystems2722
      @universaleducationsystems2722 4 роки тому +14

      See he was waiting on you to give in to prove him wrong a headache avoided

    • @shaydominicana305
      @shaydominicana305 4 роки тому +18

      @Teresa Davis..don't feel bad...some of their favorite phrase are , " your bitter" or " your broken" or " your angry" or "boujee". No , I'm neither. Im just single by choice, not option. I don't settle for anything. Crazy out here with some men, not all. They just get mad because you won't bend to their mess.

    • @liaboo943
      @liaboo943 3 роки тому +2

      That's coz he's a dusty!

  • @bellagem1
    @bellagem1 4 роки тому +169

    Hot damn! Needed to hear this! You can’t grow with someone that’s intimidated by a strong woman! Boy bye!

    • @andriantaylor2727
      @andriantaylor2727 4 роки тому

      You Are 😂🤣😂

    • @nimalperera948
      @nimalperera948 3 роки тому +1

      😂You think you're strong woman. Nice joke lmao

    • @shaylaosiadhail9971
      @shaylaosiadhail9971 3 роки тому +2

      @@nimalperera948 Stay intimidated, little man.

    • @nimalperera948
      @nimalperera948 3 роки тому +1

      @@shaylaosiadhail9971 pretend that you're strong if it makes you feel empowered lmao😂

    • @shaylaosiadhail9971
      @shaylaosiadhail9971 3 роки тому

      @@nimalperera948 I personally don’t see a point in ‘feeling empowered’. That’s often short-lived. I’d rather stay neutral in my feelings towards myself.

  • @tawainahollis4770
    @tawainahollis4770 4 роки тому +22

    Just left one who’s intimidated by me. He got really upset when he saw me watching one of your videos 😆😆😆 “Oh, THAT’S who you’re listening to?!” These losers can’t stand you because they KNOW you tell NO LIES!!!! A million thanks!!! This information is saving lives!!!

    • @nayimahbrown4889
      @nayimahbrown4889 4 роки тому

      blame yourself its your fault he left smh

    • @tawainahollis4770
      @tawainahollis4770 4 роки тому +4

      Nayimah Brown Correction: I LEFT HIM.

    • @nayimahbrown4889
      @nayimahbrown4889 4 роки тому

      @@tawainahollis4770 even worse so you got intimidated then because you couldn't take him lashing out on you because you were watching derrick videos lol run forrest run

    • @tawainahollis4770
      @tawainahollis4770 4 роки тому +2

      Nayimah Brown Nah. I left because he wasn’t worth my time and energy. Why are you being an irritant? So unwelcome! Ugh.....

    • @chigozieagwuncha2166
      @chigozieagwuncha2166 2 роки тому

      @@tawainahollis4770 One year later, you're wondering why you're still single huh?

  • @Shawnda46
    @Shawnda46 4 роки тому +97

    Guys now days don't like strong independent women period she don't have to be successful she can just be an independent woman that knows her worth and have 0 tolerance for bs

    • @j.inkstv
      @j.inkstv 4 роки тому +4

      That's because most strong independent women have a superiority complex and no man wants to deal with that shit. It's not intimidation, men are just becoming smart enough to protect their sanity. No man wants to be with a women that holds her whole self on "I don't need no man" even if it's the truth. It's the attitude that's intolerable, not intimidating. And unfortunately a lot of independent make a bad name for the rest of yall.

    • @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA
      @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA 4 роки тому +1

      So true u can tell a classy woman even if they havent worked in years im one them and still get hater on wanting me to be ill me lose my cars i had men act worser than the women

    • @teal1010
      @teal1010 3 роки тому +9

      I see your point, however, there's a difference between a strong, independent women and women with a superiority complex.
      A strong independent is confident yet humble takes zero bs from a man!
      A woman with a superiority complex, sees men as less than, is selfish and manipulative!

    • @mike112693
      @mike112693 3 роки тому +2

      a lot of women maybe you included have the wrong view of a strong woman. There's a good type of strong and a bad type of strong. 99% of women think they are the good type of strong lol

    • @Shawnda46
      @Shawnda46 3 роки тому +3

      @@mike112693 i totally agree with you and it's up to the man to understand what type of woman he has

  • @MyMommyDays
    @MyMommyDays 4 роки тому +478

    I find men to be intimidated by women who are "opinionated" Is it just me or do alot of men want you to "mommy" them so you have to be extra sensitive to them and watch what you say? **Just A Thought**

    • @Balancingcodes
      @Balancingcodes 4 роки тому +69

      These are the men with huge egos & try to make you walk on egg shells if you want their affection! Dump them, they are not fully mature yet. But, if you have the time & desire teach them about their egotistical ways, by all means, although I must warn you, this has backfired on me before lol! Peace

    • @jesteroffools1035
      @jesteroffools1035 4 роки тому +46

      Those are usually Narcissist and weak-minded guys you should avoid. Good men like to understand, learn from or debate with a woman's opinion.

    • @darrengordon-hill
      @darrengordon-hill 4 роки тому +6

      Men: DEFINITELY "intimidated" by women.
      Women: Merely have an opinion, POSSIBLY "opinionated".
      What if... men AREN'T "intimidated" and women ARE "opinionated"...
      If he ignores, he's intimidated.
      If he interacts, he's triggered... because he's intimidated??

    • @darrengordon-hill
      @darrengordon-hill 4 роки тому +3

      @@jesteroffools1035
      So you're saying they were raised by single moms??
      Y'all say "narcissist" a lot... but which sex looks in the mirror more?

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 4 роки тому +6

      MyMommyDays They just wanna WATCH television ... not watch what you have to say! LOL

  • @CarlaSophieMar
    @CarlaSophieMar 4 роки тому +118

    Always delivering the truth of the dating "game" 🎯 I value your wisdom!
    It reminds me of a Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's quote... "The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in."
    Ladies, wear your well-earned crown!

    • @reggiemelanin1133
      @reggiemelanin1133 4 роки тому

      And probably you are not their type of women too ...as you think you are the price ...
      Man of mean attract Feminine women Not Ratchet or Hood chicks in their masculine energies .
      You Probably attract the wrong guy ...

    • @calmsyvibes1010
      @calmsyvibes1010 4 роки тому

      are you married?

    • @reggiemelanin1133
      @reggiemelanin1133 4 роки тому +1

      @@calmsyvibes1010 Married with an feminine Woman ..and 3 wonderful Children ..

    • @teal1010
      @teal1010 3 роки тому +1

      @Carla
      "The type of man that would be intimidated by me....."
      Hear, hear!

  • @pjSoCal23
    @pjSoCal23 4 роки тому +99

    Exceptional women bring it all to the table/relationship and expect men to do so in return. We don’t think twice about holding a man accountable for his actions. It should be mutual, the communication, love, loyalty and integrity. If men expect that from us, we will expect that from you. Men should do the work to heal instead of jumping from woman to woman. Try being alone for awhile and reflecting.

    • @pjSoCal23
      @pjSoCal23 4 роки тому +10

      David Alvarez David.. I don’t know your story but if you have been very hurt 😞 then that’s why you might possibly feel that way. I know my heart was broken in a million pieces. I loved a man deeply but I still had to leave him. He wasn’t appreciating me and took me for granted. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I wanted him to get help for his issues but I guess I wasn’t worth it to him. When a woman chooses one man out of billions of men in the world, that’s some pretty deep stuff.

    • @j.inkstv
      @j.inkstv 4 роки тому +2

      You know more women sleep around than men, right?

  • @pumlajenn2162
    @pumlajenn2162 4 роки тому +20

    I've been single for six years now.I am a mom who runs our home , I work and study.I would prefer being single than have to change who I am.I am strong and have no time to conform to what some men expect women to be.

  • @CarlaSophieMar
    @CarlaSophieMar 4 роки тому +245

    All the dislikes are from men that feel "intimidated" by some type of women!
    🤷‍♀️💃😂

    • @Chantez-gj5dv
      @Chantez-gj5dv 4 роки тому +3

      Right

    • @uhmarauhmara7165
      @uhmarauhmara7165 4 роки тому +6

      @Charles Pinkett
      And they dislike you too 😆.

    • @commonsenseamerica1685
      @commonsenseamerica1685 4 роки тому +2

      Maybe its from getting tired of his crap acting like these women do not come with their problems like some of them emasculating.

    • @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA
      @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA 4 роки тому

      Yes indeed$$$$

    • @tolowokere
      @tolowokere 3 роки тому +1

      No, he's telling you what you want to hear. Think about it, even if half of what he's saying is true then the best thing for any woman is to stay alone. Why risk a relationship in the first place?

  • @monicameeks828
    @monicameeks828 4 роки тому +117

    My ex use to put me down and try to make me feel worthless and ugly and almost ruined my self esteem only because he knew I could get better then him and I have thank god.....But it did almost ruin my self esteem but the man I have now loves me for me and he has to be strong mind wise to put up with me lol

    • @19dulce68
      @19dulce68 4 роки тому +4

      You are Beautiful now and the baby as well. God bless You.

    • @monicameeks828
      @monicameeks828 4 роки тому +3

      Thank u shes my grandbaby god bless u too

    • @Betty_Monroe
      @Betty_Monroe 4 роки тому +1

      Monica Meeks congrats to you! That was the devil and he tried it!

    • @monicameeks828
      @monicameeks828 4 роки тому +4

      Thank u I will never ever let another man put me down and make me feel worthless again

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 4 роки тому +2

      Monica Meeks Example of a weak man producing LOW energy. Glad you got with someone better🌷

  • @ndumi-light
    @ndumi-light 4 роки тому +80

    "Don't bring mediocrity and expect to be treated like a King..."
    🔊🔊🔊

    • @trishada-eze1310
      @trishada-eze1310 4 роки тому +3

      Facts! They bring mediocrity when it is allowed, right? That's why women have to know their worth. High value women take note because this video speaks volumes.

    • @ndumi-light
      @ndumi-light 4 роки тому +1

      @@trishada-eze1310 Absolutely!!

  • @christinac25
    @christinac25 4 роки тому +44

    I consider myself a pretty goal driven woman, but I’ve realized I constantly find myself with low self esteem men. As of now, I’m done with the whole “build a man” routine. I found out I was being cheated on, and he said that she was a “work friend” that was suicidal. It broke me, but now I understand a weak man will go for a weak woman. Not in any way downplaying suicide. I thought I could be a role model to him by being on my sh*t, but turns out it only intimidates the insecure. I’ve never been with a man that’s knows who he is or what he wants out of life. I never saw it as settling...until maybe now. :(

    • @ASIAinsomniac
      @ASIAinsomniac 2 роки тому +3

      Girl this just spoke to me!!!! Wow.

  • @violettaalexistarot
    @violettaalexistarot 4 роки тому +13

    I have dated men that have competed with me my entire life. Never understood it. Thanks for this. Shared to twitter.

  • @milachyc88
    @milachyc88 4 роки тому +57

    The greatest advice: look at what excites him the most!! Very true. My opinion is not to look for a man, just work on yourself and know most importantly yourself, and what you worth. And the man will find you. If you have to look extra hard to find a man to date and lowering your standards just to be with that man, that means you didn’t find the right one. As they say, you will settle for the love you think you deserve.

  • @veronicajohnson7971
    @veronicajohnson7971 4 роки тому +67

    I mean...i never really have to comment because you consistently hit. it. on. the head

    • @dlwsport250
      @dlwsport250 4 роки тому +2

      Veronica Johnson PREACH!

    • @veronicajohnson7971
      @veronicajohnson7971 4 роки тому +1

      @@Jambuc829 yes as a woman we gotta figure out what y'all really mean since what you say has to be taken with a grain of salt 🙄

    • @darrengordon-hill
      @darrengordon-hill 4 роки тому

      @@Jambuc829
      No.
      DJax is "The one good man".
      Certainly not just telling egomaniacs it's everyone else's fault...

    • @j.inkstv
      @j.inkstv 4 роки тому

      @@veronicajohnson7971 yall never wondered why Jaxn never seems to have a girlfriend or a wife to talk about?

  • @bink865
    @bink865 4 роки тому +219

    God. All I do is earn a living, house and feed myself, and have friends and hobbies. Basic adult life skills. And this is intimidating to some men.

    • @aliceshakespeare9646
      @aliceshakespeare9646 4 роки тому +8

      it blows my mind

    • @j.inkstv
      @j.inkstv 4 роки тому +2

      Trust me, it's probably not any of that stuff that is making men "intimidated"

    • @melvinklark4088
      @melvinklark4088 4 роки тому +1

      Hwo tf no it's not if it really is your the problem

    • @maryclark8621
      @maryclark8621 3 роки тому

      I totally agree with you I work hard, I like nice things I love to spoil myself I like to look nice I Praise the Lord all day every day for my Health and Blessing...we all make the decision how we want to live our lives, either you sink or swim above water...And will never let a man that’s intimidated by my decision to

    • @mike112693
      @mike112693 3 роки тому +4

      that stuff isn't intimidating. What's intimidating is a woman with unrealistic expectations, complainers, always wanting to be right, nagging, superficial ego from education/work. I'm surprised you got so many likes from your comment because youre delusional if you think what you said intimidates men. Or you just wanted to exaggerate.

  • @Bornspirit1
    @Bornspirit1 4 роки тому +5

    I always wondered why menchild tried to make me jealous. It was so obvious I giggled to myself. You explained that very well He wants to make himself at home in that void. Good thing that’s not a void I have.🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @TheKrista5
    @TheKrista5 4 роки тому +19

    I'm 28 people say I'm picky about the guys or boring because i dont like clubbing. I never drink or smoke I'm not into it. Guys are intimidated by me because I don't fall for lines and I pick up on bs. I rather be single than waste my time.

    • @nayimahbrown4889
      @nayimahbrown4889 4 роки тому

      girl bye
      nobodies intimidated by you....you're just boring stfu

    • @AMcCoy-xs2bd
      @AMcCoy-xs2bd 4 роки тому +1

      I agree. I'm LIT asf and refuse to waist my time on scrubs 💯

    • @TheKrista5
      @TheKrista5 4 роки тому

      @@AMcCoy-xs2bd exactly

    • @TheKrista5
      @TheKrista5 4 роки тому +2

      @@nayimahbrown4889 prayers to you

    • @mcsoto
      @mcsoto 4 роки тому +1

      Nayimah Brown you sound mad as hell! i got some Advil in my purse if you need one.

  • @arianajohnson2679
    @arianajohnson2679 4 роки тому +13

    This is so true! An above average women needs someone who will elevate her!

  • @teresafreemanparker6967
    @teresafreemanparker6967 4 роки тому +19

    Thank you Derek! You're right as usual. Ladies we're not missing nothing from a male boy that is easily intimidated by a real woman who knows what she wants and has values, standards and boundaries.

  • @Chantez-gj5dv
    @Chantez-gj5dv 4 роки тому +37

    When you have been through so much you have no other choice but to be Strong and Confident in what you will not tolerate period.. A real man should value a Woman who knows what she want and if he don't oh well..Let him stay Comfortable settling for less while you Focusing on your Goals and Living Life with no bs especially from someone who don't deserve your Energy nor time

  • @juliannatrure
    @juliannatrure 4 роки тому +6

    It's hard not to think somethings wrong with you when above average men at bars or club will literally stare at you but only 10% will actually approach you. Thankyou for confirming at the end that I'm not missing out on shit, just insecure men that aren't ready for high value women! lol

  • @readingsbyrain4604
    @readingsbyrain4604 4 роки тому +28

    You really are a blessing. I just realized I'm one of the exceptional wemon. People have tried to break me of that to lower myself and my standers so they could run their game and feel powerful breaking me down. Thank you for helping me relize there is nothing wrong with me it's them that needs to grow.

  • @KWill-Cassia
    @KWill-Cassia 4 роки тому +61

    Wow. This message came right on time for me. And one of my friends just reminded me of this same very thing. Those men that look for mediocre and don’t like a challenge because they need to fill a void of not measuring up. How they love to point out our insecurities and flaws by gaslighting. Instead of elevating us and adding to our growth. Smh. 🙏🏾

    • @KWill-Cassia
      @KWill-Cassia 4 роки тому +2

      Eternity With Christ True Indeed.

    • @gymeni
      @gymeni 4 роки тому +7

      A favorite, go-to line of a lot of these losers: “...See, that’s why brothers ain’t trying to be bothered with black women...”

    • @ashleyhawkins1993
      @ashleyhawkins1993 4 роки тому +2

      Divine Empress love your name

    • @KWill-Cassia
      @KWill-Cassia 4 роки тому +1

      ashley hawkins Thank you! 🙏🏾

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 4 роки тому

      Divine Empress They are INSECURE times 💯

  • @Jasmine-eq5gr
    @Jasmine-eq5gr 4 роки тому +30

    This!!! I’ve been told that I am intimidating all my life and I never understood it because I’m cute, fly, fun to be around, goal focused on my health, education and career, etc. You just summarized under 10 mins! Lol. Thank you!!!

    • @chigozieagwuncha2166
      @chigozieagwuncha2166 2 роки тому

      Yeah. You forgot single. You're all these great things plus single.

  • @gr8myndse162
    @gr8myndse162 4 роки тому +22

    YOU GOT THAT RIGHT DERRICK JAXN!!!

  • @SpiritualBabe101
    @SpiritualBabe101 4 роки тому +61

    They are intimidated by the realisation that they will need to LEVEL-UP with the moral support and maintaining as an equal partner. We don't need grown men with juvenile ways, that's a 10-step backwards for us.

  • @debbiehill255
    @debbiehill255 4 роки тому +11

    So true Derrick. Thanks for the conversation. I had parents that gave me this talking years ago and was instilled in me. Thanks to them, I have a good job, home, and 4 wheels. I have been married twice, one husband a womanizer and one a little boy. Another good saying from my mom is, you reap what you sow. I wish the both of my ex’s best of luck, and I kept it moving. Whatever I choose to do next I will do it. Thanks and be safe!!!!!

  • @drealstarsweet
    @drealstarsweet 3 роки тому +3

    I agree!! No bull can come to me! Know your worth ladies and stick to your healthly boundries! Men always try to challenge those boundries. Be strong because a real one will respect them. Real talk! Great message Jaxn!

  • @OmasHouse5976
    @OmasHouse5976 4 роки тому +8

    I found as I became stronger I was no longer attracting the same dregs as before. I was glad for it.
    I'm with a good man and we are very different from most relationships. We are our own individuals and don't cater to societal expectations of spoken promises, pieces of paper tying you together forever, or tradition. We live and support each other as individuals and make no demands. It is a very happy contented relationship. We meet each others needs out of desire not asking/demanding/expectation. Such and easy flow.

  • @ElizabethSotiria
    @ElizabethSotiria 4 роки тому +15

    A man who knows his worth, knows a woman’s worth. A good man doesn’t get intimidated by what he wants & the woman he knows he deserves. ✌🏽

  • @Ma_Cherie1
    @Ma_Cherie1 4 роки тому +23

    To add to this.... We need to pay attention to what kind of women men choose to wife up and/or even entertain. That tells you a lot about him and it took me a long time to learn that. If he settles for mediocre broads he's not gonna recognize what makes the expectional woman different.

    • @j.inkstv
      @j.inkstv 4 роки тому

      What constitutes a mediocre broad?

  • @kaileiavelasquez30
    @kaileiavelasquez30 4 роки тому +45

    We in here

  • @MaiaGodiva
    @MaiaGodiva 4 роки тому +128

    Men are intimidated by looks because he knows she can get better men than him and he knows everytime she steps out the door men are hollering and it takes a level of consciousness to stay in shape or stay beautiful so definitely looks and where shes at in life

    • @SmileyAdventures
      @SmileyAdventures 4 роки тому

      Maia Godiva 🗣🗣🎤🎤Speak!!!!

    • @doradebosco
      @doradebosco 4 роки тому +7

      @@Jambuc829 Nothing is more attractive in a man than one who is self-assured and doesn't compare himself to others. Even if someone isn't model material if they keep fit and take care of themself that's enough.

    • @ksnasol3532
      @ksnasol3532 4 роки тому +2

      @@Jambuc829 Why did you give up trying to talk to women? What did you do to attract them?

    • @9188jenni
      @9188jenni 3 роки тому +1

      @@Jambuc829 you need to work on your self esteem.

    • @calvinriver9834
      @calvinriver9834 3 роки тому +1

      Some men are Intimidated by look. The others who aren't and seek to have the nerve to approach me are straight up dusties. The kind that are on a new term 50/50.
      It's funny how men desire beauty/youth in a woman. Then once they capture this woman, some try telling them they no longer want them wearing this or that.
      Like, She was good for the catch but not good to be displayed. Ain't no way a woman should dim her aura/shine for insecure weak minded men, who knows deep down that they don't deserve you.
      In my 25years on earth, I've had two men tell me that they don't deserve me & the were honest and truly knew it.
      They know you would attract better qualified prospects.

  • @shanicespigner8349
    @shanicespigner8349 3 роки тому +5

    You just said everything that I experience in my relationship. Facts. I am only interested to men you have challenges in their life. You got my attention. 💯

  • @LisalovesMichael
    @LisalovesMichael 4 роки тому +2

    Right on point.... The sad part is many men are intimidated by us. Not every man appreciates or understands.. . Their loss....

  • @dioneiakunz4836
    @dioneiakunz4836 3 роки тому +3

    This is so true. I walk into a room and my date looks for the exit immediately. Lol!! A queen consciousness female has this very unique energy that owns a space without even trying. Bravo sir. This videos is just perfect!!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @karlikarl7593
    @karlikarl7593 4 роки тому +24

    I cannot begin to tell you how much I love this 😍 Thank you for showing a profound sense of understanding for women like this 🙏🏽

  • @Sarah-gn3wz
    @Sarah-gn3wz 4 роки тому +17

    This one was so good had to watch it twice! More men need to do more soul searching & healing. Because looks like more of them aren't into the leveling up business as women are. 🙏🏽

  • @idearing
    @idearing 4 роки тому +91

    Lord I swear, Derrick is talking about me. I'm that intimidating women. I get that a lot.

    • @SmileyAdventures
      @SmileyAdventures 4 роки тому +5

      Yup me too lol I’m not afraid to say it but the truth is the truth! Keep your foot on their neck beautiful🕺🏽

    • @lashawndawells7306
      @lashawndawells7306 4 роки тому +2

      Facts! Now instead of taking it as a compliment I’ll know what it really means 🚩 🚩

    • @bigvalley4987
      @bigvalley4987 4 роки тому +5

      David Alvarez Unfortunately, you have to be that type of Woman he described to understand.🤔 It mean from interpretation. Just keep your standards at a level, so snakes will not be able to slither in your garden.☑️

    • @darrengordon-hill
      @darrengordon-hill 4 роки тому

      Nah, you're just ugly and mad at the world for having ugly parents.

    • @yeisolana
      @yeisolana 4 роки тому +1

      deadass

  • @gymeni
    @gymeni 4 роки тому +26

    Every man needs to hear this.

  • @cynthiabanks-holman6952
    @cynthiabanks-holman6952 4 роки тому +8

    Smh, WOW! I just had this convo last night. My ex says Im "dominate", "intimidating", "a force to be reckoned with"...shrugs-OKAY! As a woman we do our best to break curses, build supportive foundations, wealth standards and traditions for ourselves and our families. They want to come to our "tables" if you will broke busted and disqusted "eating up/eating away" at what IM BUILDING, in his pajamas. ...foh, leveling up is apparently not an option for these type of "male". These are not men, they try to make you seem as if youre the problem-it doesn't take all of that, you're doing too much. Smh, Ive had enough of lonely/tearful days trying to figure these clowns out. I'm not mad, Im just finished.

  • @Aponii50
    @Aponii50 4 роки тому +4

    I am single and believe me it isn’t solely due to wanting to be. I have been told several times that I’m intimidating and look like I’m high maintenance. Now if you read that statement carefully, I was told I look like I’m high maintenance. I guess that translates that he’s broke or intimidated due to his own insecurities. How can someone judge you when they haven’t even talked to you or dared to get to know you? I don’t get it.

  • @nataliesuki
    @nataliesuki 4 роки тому +7

    Needed to hear this. I'm on the right path. I'm not dimming myself for anyone

  • @Bizzybeen003
    @Bizzybeen003 4 роки тому +10

    Derrick! You spoke a word on today!! Thank you!

  • @TheStacyusher
    @TheStacyusher 3 роки тому +3

    Damn...that was straight to the heart. Put my dry spell in perspective. I like to think of myself as a high quality woman but in the past my belief in me has wavered. I have gone from toxic relationship to toxic relationship.
    Now I know what I want, what I don’t want and what BS looks like from a mile away.
    I’ll hold out for the man that will finally be able to elevate me instead of trying to drag me down.
    And if I stay single that’s great to. I’m enjoying the time to focus on my business and life dreams.

  • @ashleyharrison6442
    @ashleyharrison6442 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you for saying this my ex constantly says I’m intimidating and I could’ve never understand it and his excuses as to why I am never made sense now it’s makes sense 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @savonnafoxchamp5371
    @savonnafoxchamp5371 4 роки тому +2

    Wow. This is me. Men are intimidated by me. Well spoken. I’ve been trying to figure this out for awhile now. Thank you.

  • @30isFAB
    @30isFAB 4 роки тому +3

    I will not minimize myself for the sake of a man. Be a king, level up or kick rocks. We're either growing and elevating one another or nothing at all.

  • @teal1010
    @teal1010 3 роки тому +4

    So true!
    Men who don't have high standards, can't appreciate, respect, admire or relate to a women that has high standards.
    Respectfully, leave them where they are!

  • @crystalrobinson6349
    @crystalrobinson6349 4 роки тому +10

    You will know when you meet the right one it will be a unshakable feeling and like Derrick says he will fortify your purpose and feed it.

    • @josephBC3652
      @josephBC3652 4 роки тому +1

      Hello my queen now that's very spiritual now that's a real man 💪

  • @AD-cs6rp
    @AD-cs6rp 4 роки тому +18

    Dying to your old self. Yes

  • @arbiepink
    @arbiepink 4 роки тому +11

    I’m sooo glad you spoke on this and I enjoyed reading your book. There were so many things I can relate to. My interest has definitely changed and I enjoy men who have stimulating conversations on how they overcame challenges and areas where they want to continue to grow. Substance, ambition, and complimenting each other is everything and some!!!!

  • @healingwisdom6727
    @healingwisdom6727 4 роки тому +3

    *"You ain't missing shit that you need in your life..."*
    Felt that, I need to remember this for people in general, but esp men

  • @asiak8611
    @asiak8611 4 роки тому +5

    All I can say is, AMEN👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @eboniculberson-henry9793
    @eboniculberson-henry9793 4 роки тому +2

    This is so true! Some men really need to step up their game. I was just having this conversation with an old friend about this very same thing. Great blog!!

  • @paipai2052
    @paipai2052 3 роки тому +2

    Told him I shouldn’t have to pick up his dishes and his friend’s dishes. Then he turns around and say my problem is I’m the type of woman that thinks she has all the power in this house. Boy bye.. go to your mama.

  • @6686Andrea
    @6686Andrea 4 роки тому +7

    wow you totally just describes me that's pretty awesome this is the second video I've seen of yours and yeah I've been sharing it on my Facebook because I'm tired of the BS I'm working on my Master's I'm looking into buying my first house in the year and I am too busy for your average Joe's so thank you

  • @neiceystanford7819
    @neiceystanford7819 4 роки тому +5

    I feel like you put into better words what I been telling myself when I reflect on my couple of exes. Two very different men but neither could hold on to me for different reasons, Non of which was cheating. There was always just a level of mediocrity that I couldn’t always quite put my finger on, that I refuse to accept. And then I would cut it off clean. Thank you for finding the right words to explain it. I always love your videos because we think so much alike. I have not and refuse to ever be in a lot of the situations you describe but when I watch your videos they make me so happy to see that I was right in believing myself...you confirm that I have never overreacted but that I just haven’t found someone who is right for me. They are right for someone, but someone average, someone else.

  • @rialove6943
    @rialove6943 4 роки тому +15

    Omg 🥺 you spoke to my heart. I always say it’s like they want me to be broken. Fact that I have it all together and is beautiful at the same time don’t do well for the guys I seem to like. I often say well seems like this is an accomplished woman dilemma.

  • @Betty_Monroe
    @Betty_Monroe 4 роки тому +14

    If u scared of success, I can’t fks with you! I dnt get comfortable and always striving to be greater than I currently am. Skies the limit! I always wanted a guy I could build with. U need to be motivated and a hustler just like me

    • @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA
      @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA 4 роки тому +1

      100 salute the way a person carries themselves is the number one key it dont matter where u stay are what u have

  • @brearatliff
    @brearatliff 4 роки тому +6

    I look forward to every video because I feel like you're the big brother every woman needs. I can't even begin to express how much this video hits home - but also makes me even more diligent about staying focused and loving myself fully while waiting for THE real one.

  • @irafashanadia9424
    @irafashanadia9424 4 роки тому +12

    I love how short and direct his videos are ❤️

    • @mshalcomb09
      @mshalcomb09 4 роки тому

      I agree! He's not the only man sharing truths and knowledge but he's one of the only ones I've found who have managed to do so succinctly!
      Derrick Jaxn keeps it generally short, simple and to the point!

  • @minskybrown8634
    @minskybrown8634 4 роки тому +1

    Its great when your internal work is crystal clear and evident to all. What can you do, but glow and sparkle. Who would not want to ride with that. Cheers Derrick!!

  • @klijhachamberlain7654
    @klijhachamberlain7654 3 роки тому +1

    Replaying over and over that last part!!! How a man attaches himself to the void of a woman (that’s all ready there) who’s value of his presence is how much pain he can cause her... Jesus!!!!!

  • @miapdx503
    @miapdx503 4 роки тому +3

    I hear this all the time! I heard it as an Aries...we're too *strong.* That you would even speak on this! Much respect 😐

    • @vanessalandry9763
      @vanessalandry9763 3 роки тому +2

      As a fellow Arian Sis...I hear the same stuff, too strong! But oh well, I just know MY WORTH is what I call it!💯

  • @natalieclase1603
    @natalieclase1603 4 роки тому +4

    Thanks so much for these words of affirmation. It’s great to know that there are still people who believe in higher and better for everyone and hold us accountable to believe in ourselves that we can get it. I appreciate you Mr. Jackson

  • @pearlglobarnes1289
    @pearlglobarnes1289 4 роки тому +1

    That was very good. Sisters know your worth, and that you are enough. Blessings to all of us.

  • @amymorale1379
    @amymorale1379 4 роки тому +2

    Your right. Got to be with someone that you can work, learn and improve with in ever aspect of life inside and out. Have meaningful conversation on various subjects. Build and grow. Exercise and eat right too.

  • @thekaerichtexas
    @thekaerichtexas 4 роки тому +3

    Yes I'm come to this realization by being unsuccessful in dating....the men I was "interviewing" weren't prepared for the job. They didn't measure up to what I had going....and I think this is what a lot of single women face but they settle or get tired of being lonely. That's not my testimony, I cut men off real quick when I see they don't got what I need.

  • @chapellezag1840
    @chapellezag1840 4 роки тому +11

    I SO wait for these insights. Thanks again Derrick.

  • @mejustbeingme1207
    @mejustbeingme1207 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you Derrick. I love you so much. My problem is that I dont know how to stop helping people who would never help me if I needed them. I'm just a giver. I render help and then I can't get rid of them. I dont know how to say no and I feel bad if I try to be mean ... Help lol

  • @abbyrenaissance6727
    @abbyrenaissance6727 2 роки тому +3

    This was very encouraging to hear! It’s easy to feel bad about being the odd one left out, never approached, and still single. This, however, helped shift my perspective, I pray I don’t lose this mindset as we face another round of cuffing season 😬

  • @lucyalexander3607
    @lucyalexander3607 4 роки тому +3

    I haven't been asked out on a date in six years. I've been told numerous times by my married male friends that many man consider me to be too intimating to date. I make six figures. I have two college degrees. I've been told numerous times that I'm beautiful. I don't have low self-esteem. The ones that finally tell me that they liked, tell me after they've moved like 6000 miles away. And they say they didn't speak up because they were scared. Thanks. That doesn't help the situation. I have given up on dating and now I just focus on being a single parent to my child.

    • @antoinitaviolette4140
      @antoinitaviolette4140 4 роки тому

      Lucy Alexander what a good life! Many of my best days were with 'my children and me.' Intense, though very satisfying.
      Stay focused, and keep your good standards.

  • @user-tk4qd8dj1p
    @user-tk4qd8dj1p 4 роки тому +5

    That last part was so helpful. Thank you.

  • @janetjay4430
    @janetjay4430 4 роки тому +1

    You're awesome. You have really helped me breakup and try to move away from the narrsassite, manipulator ex that I had in my life. He betrayed me, lied to me repeatedly, was unfaithful to me and denied and excused it. I had enough and chose ME and broke up with him. Thanks for all you do. Xo

  • @TinaMarieJ
    @TinaMarieJ 3 роки тому +1

    Wow going through a divorce and this ENTIRE VIDEO gave me total LIFE!!! Thank you! ❤️

  • @jenwendy7
    @jenwendy7 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you! I needed to hear this so I could stop trippin'. Makes so much sense the a man is more intimidated by the growth he'll need to undergo as opposed to viewing myself as intimidating, which only serves to diminish my self esteem. The last man in my life flat out told me he just didn't want to do what it takes to grow (in his case stand up to his mom and live his own life - man was in his 40's y'all). I have Don't Forget Your Crown as well as I Still Deserve It. The perspective in both are so refreshing and pushes me to keep feeling strong. Thank you for caring so much about women and our experiences. Stay safe and love to you and your family. ❤

  • @sandramullen7804
    @sandramullen7804 4 роки тому +5

    Very true. I've just dumped such a man... 😂

  • @sistermuhammad498
    @sistermuhammad498 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you !! I’ve been saying this for YEARS !! Ever since women have been waking up, working on their trauma and brokenness, I’ve been asking who will we mate with !!?? Like we’re training for the marathon while many men don’t want to acknowledge they may NEED to take a daily walk up and down the block.. Derrick PLEASE help us get the message to our men. $$$ + penis (alone) = no longer bait (even though, yes we still want both) we want a higher level of emotionality, thinking etc. You’re such a breath of fresh air !!

  • @velvamccall4866
    @velvamccall4866 3 роки тому +1

    So refreshing to know that there are African American men out there that speak with common sense, and so true and dead on the nail as to what you said, My Hat off to you

  • @dclarke1896
    @dclarke1896 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you. I needed to hear that today! 😊💯

  • @stephaniesterling9740
    @stephaniesterling9740 4 роки тому +3

    I absolutely love this video. You hit the nail on the head. This is something I run into alot with me because they find me intimidating.

  • @keitumetsehendricks5857
    @keitumetsehendricks5857 4 роки тому +1

    Okay Team Jaxn! What’s happening!? 😍🔥 💯 I’m a 24 year old women in Cape Town, South Africa... thank you for reminding me my worth, Derrick, thank you for continuously affirming young women that we deserve the whole world and more...

  • @menuofgrace
    @menuofgrace 4 роки тому +1

    THANK YOU! Nice to hear truth and positivity after wasting time listening to Coach Greg Adams with a friend going through the ringer from a distasteful and bitter divorce from a typical female. Blessings sir and be well.

  • @elizabethmartin1607
    @elizabethmartin1607 4 роки тому +3

    It takes a Unique/Exceptional Man to teach us in such a Clever way! I can't stop listening. I have to get ur book! Yaaaaaay! Thanks again! YAAAAAAY!

  • @lilliangrace6997
    @lilliangrace6997 4 роки тому +19

    Ummmm intimidation sounds like lack of parenting and self exposure. This sounds like someone whom has yet to invest in himself. No one wants to be a parent to a mate. Tf

  • @7bsmiles113
    @7bsmiles113 3 роки тому +1

    "You ain't missing shit that you needed in your life." I needed that 🤣

  • @maishachowdhury1993
    @maishachowdhury1993 4 роки тому +2

    I have two degrees and a steady job. I make sure I look good and work out. I have a sense of humour and motivate myself. If I want something -I get it myself. I've always been told by guys that they are intimidated by me and they leave.
    I just haven't met my king yet 👋

    • @antoinitaviolette4140
      @antoinitaviolette4140 4 роки тому +1

      Maisha Chowdhury keep taking good care of yourself: you'll never regret it.
      Let God always show you better.

    • @maishachowdhury1993
      @maishachowdhury1993 4 роки тому +1

      @@antoinitaviolette4140 Thank you, darling. Much appreciated