Exactly, the moment the man is not defending you but defending himself and his honor, is the moment he should become single and look for another woman that appreciates him and does not want to tear his feelings down just to boost hers
@@asgardian6638 against other men trying to date her, I'd still "fight" ... but against her interest in dating other men? I know the source of that problem.
A man asks a pretty girl: "Would you sleep with a complete stranger for a million?" "Of course, right away!" "Would you sleep with me for 15 bucks?" "What do you think I am?" "We've already sorted that out, now we're just negotiating the price."
I'm a 75 year-old male. She is absolutely correct; men are simply creatures we hate drama, we hate games, and we hate competition for a woman we are in a relationship with; either she's with us or she's not. Ladies, leave your egos at home.
I remember she wanted to go out and wear something really slutty, to show me off. I said ok, I'm gonna buy everybody drinks the whole night. Lets see who gets hit on first. Honest to god I lost, got hit on by a gay guy 12 minutes in. Cost me a lot of money she had a good time. Fun, we both laughed.
Men of age are full of wisdom and should always be listened to, thanks for pointing out the obvious, but most younger men really don't get it and entertain this type of disrespect and behavor and it never, ever ends well for them.
@@gazsto I don't care what they do, I'm not their keeper or their babysitter. It didn't end badly, it ended because we were both assholes, oh and we agreed on that. Still a funny story.
You usually just have to really listen and observe a bit, even when people are way less upfront with it they do always tell and show everything one needs to know. The exceptions are extremely rare, I've encountered one in my life thus far. People don't listen and don't look though, be it due to being in love, just dense or sloppy. Applies to both genders equally, neither one seems particularly good at it on average. @@0biwan7
The woman I wound up marrying 35 years ago would get irritable with other men that propositioned her when they knew she was with me. She saw that as disrespectful to both of us, like she was cheap and I was beneath them. That she would get angry with them was a BIG point for her, and led to my lifelong trust of her in marriage. She was quite beautiful, so this really wasn’t uncommon, or unexpected. Her respect for me is still one of the reasons I love her so much, at 61 years old.
you are very fortunate, when i was younger i played in bands and weekends and my wife was attractive also and would be approached and she shut them down but she was disrespectful a lot of times and when the time came i left because of that reason. most are in relationships for comfort not because of loyalty or love and sooner or later things go to hell in a hand basked and the worst are stay at home moms and this is proven by female lawyer who talk about divorces.
I was dating a woman maybe 2 years ago, who tried to make me jealous by -in her own words- “finding the ugliest guy in the room and flirting with him” to get me to pay her more attention. Because we were at a party and I was talking to my buddy about sports. HUGE red flag. I told her that doesn’t fly with me. She did it again a couple weeks later and I ended it. Somehow she was surprised.
@@bengraham5699 we had no kids, no shared property, no shared car, no shared credit cards or bank accounts. Our local court had a self divorce program where you don't need a lawyer. Divorce cost me about $200. Made her pay half. All our friends took my side and ditched her. Her own family took my side and gave me money to move. Also, While we were together, she paid off my student loans. Tried to take the money back....to no avail.
@@bengraham5699….perhaps she got the 50/50 split, but the exposure that she gets when everyone finds out about the reasons for the divorce will be much more significant than the value of the 50/50 split. Plus, it’s a huge red flag that he did not ignore and saved himself more grief emotionally and financially down the road.
I broke up with a woman for trying to make me jealous when we were in our early twenties. Years later, she confessed that she was absolutely shocked that it didn't have the desired effect. Oh well.
Well, I’m 50 and I was talking to a woman with a good job and such who is 46 and then she said how much she loved the Taylor Swift concert she went with her adult daughter too… And I was like yeah I can’t do this
Respect is first. Literally nothing comes before respect for men. For me personally, even if I sense a little bit of disrespect my radar goes off and I'm on it. I have a zero tolerance rule about it. Been in 6 relationships and I'm currently married almost 8 years. My wife is great but just like I'm not perfect, she isn't either. If she don't ask me for something, I take that as disrespect. She can't tell me to get something, she has to ask. 99% of the time it's "Baby can I have or can you do" she's never loud or yells even when we disagree and I told her during the dating phase that I'm not concerned with other guys trying to talk to her as she's attractive, I'm only concerned with how she handles them and it has to be in a respectful way to me. I shut women down if they get beside themselves. 1 soft rejection to be polite then hard rejection. Also, no giving social media's or phone numbers or such to "get the guy to stop". Hard reject. My mother is a tough woman, my mother has never been badgered or disrespected by men when they try to approach her because of her demeanor even when she passes them up so when I see women acting all scary and don't know how to reject men, it sort of annoys me. My mother is the type to poke you with something if you try to be funny and grab her hand to pull her back as a stranger, it's not advisable and no man has ever tried, just talks.
@@drjonesey5…..yes, I agree with you. Setting boundaries is very important. Along with the boundaries there must also be consequences when those boundaries are violated. Respect is extremely important. Without respect there is no trust. Without trust, there is no love.
That’s true, but something to note with this crowd is that 100% of women sticking up for men in any way online, have a man meeting all their needs, or are desperately trying to get one asap. Practically no single woman is speaking well of men in any way.
@@ThisTallI’m very single, not looking and I stick up for men. I have 4 brothers I love very much! Their wants and needs matter very much to me! I’m extremely protective of them! Two are older and two are younger ❤
After I watched a beloved relative become screwed over by a woman he loved dearly, I joined the bandwagon of women sticking up for men's rights and dignity. Not saying that men are perfect and don't cause issues, but I witnessed a faithful and loyal man have his heart broken, and mine subsequently broke over that.
You said the one thing, the biggest mistake that women make when it comes to men. And that is, thinking that we think, act and feel the same way they do. Huge huge, huge mistake. We are different, compatible, and complementary to each other. But not the same. Not by a long stretch. ✌🏽
@jamesq7954….true, but turn around is fair play. What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander. She doesn’t even have to make a comment, she can almost break her neck trying to watch some guy. Huge red flag. A cheater in the making, if she hasn’t already.
My wife was like that, thank god she left me 10 years ago, I have peace of mind now. By the way the family believes she is developing Alzheimer's, can't wait for her to forget completely about me, I know that sounds harsh but she tried her darndest to drive me nuts.
The part that gets to me is when it's insidious from a covert narcissist and doesn't happen until YEARS have gone by. Aaaaand other things get blamed, or the blanket statement, "I'm not happy, byyyyeeee!" Or "we've grown apart". That one makes me laugh. Done with the games and false promises. Don't tell me forever, if it's more-or-less-forever-ish. I'm not even going to ask about forever again. Being burned on that one twice was enough.
She talks like she’s in middle school or maybe grade school , dragging out her words . Like , whaaaaaat ? Let’s goooooooo . That would do it for me , bye .
The first time I sense a woman is intentionally trying to make me jealous, I just move on. I don't play mind games and I will not tolerate manipulation. Massive red flag in my book.
Same high school girlfriend from previous comment was going to NY with her class for 5 days . Says there will be lots of hot guys in NY . I said probably so , but there’s a lot of hot girls here that I already know , have fun . She wanted me to sign a contract stating I wouldn’t go out with anyone while she was gone ! I didn’t . Needless to say , we broke up shortly after that .
My first wife was all about this. Broke my heart tbh. Looking back I feel incredibly lucky to be out of all that. Thank goodness we didn't have any kids.
A girl once asked me, if i would fight for her. I plainly said, No. She looked at me as if i were from another planet. I said, i would fight through hell, WITH you, but if i give my love unconditionally, why should i fight for your attention? You're a grown up lady, DECIDE what you want, stand by it and fight for your decision. I won't chase you, because there are more than enough girls that would gladly take me and take care of me and i of her without wasting our time and life energy on chasing. Not even talking about the hurt it does to see you flirt with other guys, when I'm out with you. Well, she got it and i moved on because of exactly this fault when she tried it anyways. I was gone in a blink.
I had a girl I was dating tried to shame me by comparing me to her ex. I told her "he may be better but I think I'm smarter, because he was with you for two years before he couldn't put up with you anymore. Ive only know you two weeks and I know that in the next two mins I will never see you again."
I'm 58 and have seen this kind of behavior from women pretty much my entire life. I TRUST NO ONE! Nor in business! Not in relationships and not in friendships! To many men have forgotten the bro code and too many women have never learned the word loyalty! And if you look at the statistics of men that are raising and paying for kids that aren't theirs and they don't even know it, you would understand!
Back in my early 20’s a girl I was dating said that if she only dated me, it was like we were married and she wasn’t ready to be married. She told me that she was going to see another guy the next night. Never spoke with her again.
We need to redefine these terms. Dating means exclusivity in my mind. Dating is the track to marriage. If you just want to fuck around and play house, that's fine, that's a totally different thing. I date women I want kids with. I fuck around with the rest.
If you are trying to make me jealous. You are showing me that you are not loyal. So I will not be loyal. You are here to enrich my life. If you're toxic; Thank you, next.
Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4-year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.
Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6-year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.
I can't even remember how many women I have ditched because she has tried the jealousy game. First sign of this, i am out, instantly. No second chance.
Smart men don't compete with each other especially after the early stages are over, her not committing is a red flag. I got shit to do can't be wasting my time on useless competition on someone who is clearly not that into you... That is a waste of time and energy...
The other thing they’ll do is fish for compliments. Drives most of us crazy. Women get compliments like they’re going out of style. When you’re fishing for a compliment, it reeks of desperation.
I have commited my love to only 2 women in my life. When I lost the first one to her cheating life, I lost 15 years to avoiding ANY other relationship. Then the second one took ten years to prove my love for her. When she was taken from me by a heart attack less than ten years later, I lost 15 more years buried in loneliness. I'm now 78 and still lonely because I fear what the loss of me will do to the next woman I love. My energy has been taken.
I too lost my lady when she was 58. Such a good wife. Warm, loving, helpful, honest and LOYAL! I know I can never replace her. My present gf does try however. But I understand exactly where you are. We had a small yorkiepoo he gravitated to me after her death. I could not have made it without him
Don't give up! Recognize you have worth & value & are worthy of respect. Be more discerning & thank God when you find out early that she plays games. Bars are not a good place to find a good woman. Focus on yourself & hobbies or outdoor activities. There are CoED MEET UP groups online for mountain biking, hiking, kayaking, etc. Just go and see them as new friends. Some meetup groups are not geared toward introductions & potential dating. That makes it easier to just have fun with no pressure. There are some very interesting people you can meet for friendships. I find there are better chances of meeting a potential partner thru friendships. Everybody seems to have a friend of a friend who is single and open to dating. I call it hanging out. Or making new friends. Just having an adventure. Every day is an adventure! When I've gone to meet up groups that are for dating, there is a sense of pressure, and some people seem very anxious to meet someone. I have made that mistake once or twice. Awkward! Kind of desperate. That is not the kind of energy you wanna give off, of course. If you just show up to see what's going on, you might have fun if you don't feel like you have to meet someone. I have also enjoyed deepening my faith by going to church. I make new friends by showing up a little early or staying after the service to help clean up. The best place to make friends at church is by going to regular Bible Study small groups. Baptist churches are very active. Some groups meet at church and others might meet at a married couple's home. Some Bible Studies are for young adults, others might be for couples, or a men's group that provides encouragement and support and mentorship, or women's group, or seniors, etc. Church always has something going on. Some get involved in helping the community. Like serving dinner to a battered women's shelter or a homeless shelter or helping a senior with yard work for a day. These all provide focused activities that are in becoming a better version of yourselves. Some Bible Studies will focus on a particular topic for 4 - 6wks. Others might read and study a book of the Bible. Like 1 Samuel or Luke. I just wanted you to know that God sees you and knows what kind of woman you need. You will find her when you least expect it and when you are not looking. And when we aren't actively looking, we don't give off any kind of desperate or needy energy. That energy can turn off most people, even if they initially find you attractive. God bless you with an amazing woman who will love and appreciate and respect you as her husband. Trust GOD. Surrender your life to Jesus...
A long time ago I thought that I found the love of my life, we got married and had a daughter, built a life together starting from nothing, but after 30 years of marriage I came home to an empty house. No reason was given why she left so I filed for divorce and we parted ways. It happened to me without warning. Moral of the story, everything might be good now, but things can change overnight, literally!
I remained single (my choice) but most of my mates (some men, some women) are all divorced. Very few I have known have gone the distance.... Sad but that's the way life is these days.
@@rogershore3128 Been there. Back in the 60's when I was a teenager I saw adult men that had gotten married and had children only curse the day they ever got married. Their wife divorced them and take the house and children away from them and still make the man pay for everything. She would falsely accuse him of hitting her and s exually assaulting his own children. Try getting a job or finding a place to live with that on your record. She would turn his children against him. They learned to hate and loathe their very own father who is paying for their well being. He was only allowed to have government supervised visits of his children because of the false s exual assault charges filed on him by his deceitful shrew of a wife. She took out a restraining order against him and he couldn't go within two miles of the house he was still paying for because of the false assault charge she filed against him of hitting her. She moves her _new boyfriend_ into the house he is still paying the mortgage on. He has to pay unreasonable child support to her. She gets to keep the better car. She gets half his bank accounts, his investments and property, and his retirement. All of this based on only her word and her word alone with no proof of anything. The family courts just believe her and don't even want to hear anything the man has to say in his defense. I am in my seventies now, married twice, once for three years and again for one year, and been single all but four years of my life, got a vasectomy years ago, never had any children and living a very good and happy life. Guys, do yourselves a favor and stay single, don't get married, and don't have any children. There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. Heck, she is encouraged to break it and rewarded when she does. Men risk everything and have little or nothing to gain by getting married. Women risk nothing and have much and everything to gain by getting married. Men get divorced to get rid of something. Women get divorced to get something.
A woman said to me “I'm with someone but you can take me off him if you play your cards right.” She visibly recoiled from the look of disdain I gave her.
I would have asked her, "What the fuck is wrong with you?" And walked away showing nothing in my expression but disgust. Not anger, not sadness. Just disgust. Women hate that more than anything. And it would really make her evaluate her life choices. Fr though, I hope she's a changed woman now.
Threats are a dangerous game, and sometimes have the opposite of the intended effect. Rather than frighten, threats can enrage. Remember Yamamoto's quote after Pearl Harbor : “I fear all we have done is to awaken a sleeping giant and fill him with a terrible resolve.”
I had one try that with me once. She admitted, eventually, that she Tried to play games to make me jealous and want her more. She had no idea how infuriating that was and how repulsive she became to me for doing that. I pity the poor bastard that ended up with her.
I thought her lame excuse of "It was a joke!" to back track on her SNAFU was funny. Then try to take control over her FU by ordering him to drive off. I hope this dude had the good sense to dump her as soon as she was safely out of his car. And if she sic's her friends on him (which they always do), cuss them all out, and threaten them with a Restraining Order for harassment if they continue.
I'd not dump her instantly without being sure she had a safe way to get home. But, once out of my car when I got her home (or to her friends) it would be the last time together (except possibly if she has stuff at my place and there is a trip to get it).
Women will prefer being in Chad's harem for the chance to prove she is special and the hope she will be picked. Men never choose the to be in some girl's harem. Ever.
If a woman approaches with that engaged line, the online proper thing to do is tell her you know her fiancé, and will be telling him about this tomorrow, so she’s got until then to come clean to him. Actually knowing the fiancé is not required.
Nah, ask her name at first. Chat to her abit. Then say I'd never be interested in someone who wants to cheat. Thanks for your name so I can track down your fiance and let him know. She won't tell him almost certain. Better to let him know yourself.
I have a bad luck of attracting women who are already in relationships. If they hit on me, I walk away. I won't be part of the problem even if I'm single.
Same here. Walking away will keep you alive. A lot of these types of women date the most toxic guys ever, and they can get violent out of jealousy. Lots of guys in prisons and cemeteries because of this. Stay safe.
Big facts. To think that King Solomon in the Bible had a lengthy section of Proverbs he wrote down about adulterous women and how they lead to the grave. Sorry if you aren't Christian just making an observation.
We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are OUR rules: Please note… these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE! 1. Breasts are for looking at and that is why we do it. Don’t try to change that. 1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down. 1. Saturday = sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be. 1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way. 1. Crying is blackmail. 1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: * Subtle hints do not work! * Strong hints do not work! * Obvious hints do not work! * JUST SAY IT! 1. ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question 1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for 1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor 1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days 1. If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us 1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one 1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done, not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself. 1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials. 1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions and neither do we. 1. ALL men see in only 16 colours, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a colour. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is. 1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that. 1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle. 1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, expect an answer you don’t want to hear. 1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine, Really 1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as: * Sex, * Sport, * Cars, * or Computers 1. You have enough clothes. 1. You have too many shoes. 1. I am in shape. Round is a shape.
AND ; when you ask a woman how she is , and you know something is wrong , if she says fine ! What that means is : F - fucked up . I - insecure N - neurotic E - emotional That’s just the way it is !
I agree with most of these, There are a few I don't, though. I'm not interested in sports, she's _way_ into baseball. I didn't like it when we were first going out; now years later, I like it for itself, although it still annoys her that I'm not a fan of any team. I've learned that when she complains, I should just listen and agree with her on how bad the situation is, unless she specifically asks for help. It helps the relationship, and raises the chance that I'll get what _I_ want. Finally, I know the names of obscure colors, but that's because 1. I used to work in a men's clothing department, and knowing things like that came in handy, 2. it helps me win arguments about things like what color to paint the walls, and 3. I like knowing obscure things.
I am a nerd. So, I might be thinking, "I wonder how slavery worked in the Byzantine Empire?", or "Multiverse can't exist, can it?", or "What was the best joke in Airplane? Let me think about that."
As a 38yr old man, im done with games.. the hinting game, the jealous game, the flirting game, the reverse psycholigy, no acountability for these stupid games.. STOP IT! Tell me what the F*** you want or get out of my way. Period. Emily, you rool girl! 👏👏👏👏
A few years ago, I went to the mermaid parade in Coney Island. I met a girl. We hung out all day. After the parade, she was getting really touchy feely and asked me if I wanted to go out with her. I said sure. As we were leaving the parade to go do something, 2 of her girlfriends showed up, reminded her that she was engaged to be married, and took her away.
I hope someone clued the fiancé in on what he was getting himself into before he tied the knot. Yeah, her friends kept from cheating this time, but the odds are high she'll cheat on her husband after the ceremony later on.
A ha -- bet you anything the girl is considered by her friends to be the screwup of the group, because most of the time they won't intervene. The last time I went to the mermade perade, a girl I had just started hanging out with announced the we were going to have sex that night. Some women do this -- I hate it because I need space, yo.
@@jessejordache1869…yes, I agree with you. When you’re in your 20’s, hookups and 1 nighters are very common. But when a girl makes a statement like the 1 did to you, I’d walk away telling her, “thanks, but no thanks”, as I don’t want any left over surprises from her, period.
I just recently had a girl at work wanting to get with me and she was living with a guy she had been dating for almost 4 years. Helps take care of his kids when he gets them on the weekend. I was like nope, no thanks. I’m engaged, but even if I was single I would have let her pass on by.
@@davidj.leavitt7176 To be fair, I had already decided I really liked her, although it was only our second time hanging out (I think). But you might be right anyway: she had borderline personality disorder and it took me a long time to get over the whole thing, because we went out for five years. Either way, things are better spontaneous: when hooking up, I'd prefer it not be on a date certain.
They don't necessarily look for commitments, as they might not feel they need them and might feel they love leading exciting love lives running through woman after woman. They don't commit because they don't have to.
@nobodyknows3180 I think they just understand that cow ownership isn't recognised by cows. My point is that you can only get hit on by so many women in committed, supposedly happy relationships before you get too jaded about such relationships to want one yourself.
wow, i just found your channel, your intuity is phenomenal. Been single for 21 years now for the very reasons you talk about. First marriage i was cheated on, put me off relationships for life.
There are some things that you just don't joke about, and that is one of them. Women need to understand that a man's world is a world of respect. When you show us disrespect, or a lack of loyalty, you're gone. Your value to us greatly decreases.
Well, if her boyfriend drops her, as he should, she'll have plenty of time to self-examine and reflect. Although that might not be one of her strong suits.
"im engaged....change my mind".....I literally could not think of a worse opening from a woman.... I'd immediately respond with "nah im good...hope you have a nice wedding"
I would not probably come with such an answer on the spot but it could, or should sound like that: 'Nope, you're not engaged too much. There is nothing to change because your mind is not set. Grow up.'
Some are neurodivergent and can say innocent stuff. Make sure you know the difference. Some women point stuff because it's interesting to them. Doesn't mean they are playing games. I know I make comments on people while being out doesn't mean anything but how I like to share what I find interesting. Some people are wired differently.
Some women play games. Some women say what they see. If my GF said 'he's cute' to me I'd ask 'which one' and then have a conversation about what makes him cute. We do the same with dogs and cars - it's just a converation, but we might actually get a car or dog. Coming home with a cute guy is in a league which I'm not playing in. Are we not allowed to have opinions and share them honestly? (theoretically........yes. But we all know that humans have feelings, so take care of those too)
It doesn't kill our attraction. It just makes her a poor investment. Also women don't understand that men are programmed and raised to honor women's choices. If she chooses another man the programmed response is to walk away and let her do whatever she wants. Furthermore, the more she hurts you by doing this, the better the chance you are going to immediately withdraw your emotions from her completely, and kill her in your mind, so that she can't do this to you again. I've had women put me into competition with other men and my response is always the same "They can have you. Goodbye forever".
"withdraw your emotions from her completely, and kill her in your mind, so that she can't do this to you again" THAT is something they're very ignorant about. We do that. It's why we don't talk to other women about our exes, they all died tragically. "But what about so and so, I saw her yesterday" Nope, dead, in my world, and it was a tragic painful event, don't ask me to describe it, it's too horrible. lol.
Very true about the first one. Men don't care to play these games. It goes one step further, too: This is so basic that if a woman still does it she is disqualified because she either does not care what men want and does it anyway or she does not know because she has not put even the tiniest amount of thought into it.
My father told me long time ago if you meet them at the bar leave them at the bar.. and yep he was so correct.. i learned the hard way but i definitely told him thanks for trying to save me from misery
You are ABSOLUTELY correct. When a woman makes it obvious that no other man has a chance with her, we couldn’t be more proud to have her, and treat her like a princess. Part 2. She ALWAYS flips it back on me when I (rarely) call her out in the slightest, and try to hold her accountable for her actions. She has apologized maybe twice in 12 years. And both times it was like an amazing relief, and weight lifted off my shoulders, instant respect and appreciation for her.
I dated a woman once , sent her number to me , I called 3 times , got no , so I dropped it . A few months later she asked our mutual friend how I was doing . She was told to forget it , I got a puppy ! I loved that dog dearly !
Nailed it. I told my ex that I'm not into competition, after suspecting there were others. I stated quite frankly, "I'm not going to be one of several dudes on your tryouts bench." So she began hiding her other male interests from me instead.
One thing I believe you get wrong is the whole “men seek a high value woman” thing. We are not that mercenary. We seek someone who we love to be with. We don’t rank women and choose the one with the highest value on a scorecard. Attraction doesn’t work that way. Seeking high value is reserved for our careers.
“High value” is what the woman offers to a relationship. Is she someone who is compatible, wants to build a relationship and family. Will she support you with your career? Will she be a good mother to your children, or does she have a past that will embarrass you and your kids one day?
Met a woman for coffee one time and when she sat down immediately put her phone on the table in front of her, mine was clear off to the side. Then says, okay, I’m here. Tell me why I should agree to a second date with you. I said, you know how people can give off certain vibes and right away you know they aren’t the one for you? There’s no point in going any further with this meeting, have yourself a good day. Buh bye. Her mouth dropped open and didn’t say anything as I walked away. Women at the next table gave me a thumbs up…😅
I once dated a girl (blond, outspoken not really my type) who turned heads whenever we went out. One Friday evening after a long hard week (I was in the commercial asphalt business at the time) I took a shower, hopped in my car (I had a black Vette) and arrived about 20 minutes late. I knocked on her front door, the door swings open, she said "you're late" and turned around and walked back towards her kitchen. So, I allowed myself in, apologized and did my best to make her laugh. 1st attempt, no luck so we left to go to dinner at a very nice place that she had chosen. We aren't even 8 minutes from her house cruising around 50 mph and she's complaining once again about me being late and that she doesn't like waiting. At this point, I'm tired, I'm burned from working in the sun all week and I wasn't having it so, I looked in my rearview mirror (no immediate traffic in front of me or behind me) braked hard, swung a u-turn and drove her back to her house, reached across her, pushed her door open and said, lets try again next week and I left. A few days later, she shows up at my house on a Wednesday evening in a fur coat and a teddy (lingerie) underneath and a bottle of wine.She told me that nobody has ever treated her like that and it turned her on even more. LOL We ended up hanging out together for another few months until the novelty of dating a shallow, superficial model type wore off. I'm a brunette man but at this point in my life, I like being single.
Thankyou for stating this and making it seemingly only a general thing and not an absolute truth (same with men being assholes as those definitely exist) (Sorry for the wording with 'seemingly' As I/we honestly can barely trust women anymore on any level whatsoever, it's too bad/it's a pity (idk english is not main language) but partially this is why men consciously/purposefully evade interaction with women of all metrics Getting sexist degrading like this on a regular basis where if we speak up, we are apparently awful We'd rather live and die alone than endure the mindgames and standardised(as it is standard in western society to be sexist towards men) emotional abuse gaslighting etc So thankyou for speaking out as there are not a lot of women who react (positively) on men's advocate channels
Accountability on your ideas, speaking slow and word by word, no bad intention...That's few of the things why i like you.👍 Hail from Istanbul, with all the best.🙏✨
Women had been told again and again, that they have no idea how difficult it is for a guy to even approach women. Approaching and getting into a relationship itself is ALREADY a brutal competition, men shouldn't need to waste more time and effort in competition to KEEP the relationships. Once a relationship is established, the competition is over for men, so they don't want to waste more time and energy on more useless competitions. Men are willing to use their time and energy to keep a relationship, not more competition. If a woman still makes a man compete after relationship is already established, what she's telling him is that they're not in a real relationship, or he's not good enough to keep her.
I never knew a man that tried to make a woman jealous. But many women do this thinking jealousy will force him to make a move. I always found it more attractive when a woman was straight up with me about her intentions or feelings.
The move there is "If he'd make you happy, go to him, my only goal is making you happy..." Because if she wants to leave, she'll leave, so let her. Just be sure to allow another better woman to outcompete her for you.
Both do it, I've definitely known guys that throw the engaged thing aswell, which for me just screams that he'll cheat on anyone in the end 😂. But it's more a flex to see in woman (imo)
Literally embarrasses him by saying out loud that another man is cute, but when he responds to it by calling the guy over it's "Stop, you're embarrassing me."
About the women who want men to compete for them. I think its ironic when younger women think its insecure when men dont want to compete when i find the people who often compete for the women the most insecure because they have a need to prove themselves
they get indoctrinated with this toxic stuff. And people don't change their worldview anymore after ~20 years. They r stuck with that toxic worldview for the rest of their lives.
My mother taught me from a very young age to always believe what women say and, unfortunately for me as an impressionable child, I did. This lead to a painful struggle of trying to reconcile her words with her actions. Unstable people, but especially women (and they are the many), cannot stand when you watch what they do and value it over what they say. You want to find out the kind of woman a woman is? Watch her closely and observe what her actions tell you. Do this long enough and she herself will be unable to help but tell you who she really is. It's like some kind of unwritten rule that the unhinged, after exhausting all pretense, will admit to their delusion as a means of justifying their behavior. "I love you, I love you" eventually turns into "I never loved you, in fact I hate you and I always have" if you simply stand your ground long enough.
@mpclepto182 5 why’s to get to the root. Once you’ve annoyed them with the same question they finally give the real answer. The trick is asking the same question differently so they don’t catch on they just fire off at the hip the real answer.
The women that try to make guys jealous do it to feel more desirable. Narcissistic, immature behavior. Had a friend in my 20’s that had a gf like that. She got upset he talked to another girl in front of her - who was the gf of another friend - so she tried to get me to sleep with her to make him jealous. Bros before 304’s and I told him immediately what she did and why, and that he should dump her immediately. He did. Several months later we find out she got knocked up by an acquaintance she hooked up with still trying to make him jealous.
Do a video on a woman saying, in defending being caught in a lie,."Well, if you didn't know the truth, why does it matter?" This has happened with two different couples, both in serious relationships until caught in a lie, and the lie did not involve other men. Both situations dissolved the relationship due to a lack of trust, or even why it was important. In both cases, the women were heartbroken but still could not understand why it mattered.
I'd be gone the second i found out. If I was put into a competition like that to begin with I wasn't good enough then. If my efforts were never enough in the past, they'll never be enough in the future.
I've had a hard and fast rule: Dump me, or play jealousy games with me, even once, and it is totally, irrevocably and completely over. In exchange, I hold myself to the same standard. It's served me well.
When your SO flirts with others in front of you, it's a blatant sign of discrespect! And yes, we don't want to compete for one that supposedly chose us in the beginning! Perfect message Emily!
I have seen a lot of your vids and shorts, you have got nothing wrong. I find it amazing you understand men so well, most women don't get these things even into old age.
My ex wife is exactly like the second woman, even when she was having an ongoing affair it was all my fault. I worked too much and didn't show her enough attention... now she's also trying to keep my kids from me. Stay single fella's!!!
My first wife did that but after five months separated, she asked me to take custody of the kids, two pre schoolers. That was forty years ago and I got the better of the deal for sure. Raising those two were the joy of my life. With any luck you will get the same as she finds out how hard it is and bails out. I never got child support and it was hard, but so worth it. I required her to put in the papers and the court record that I was better able to raise the kids so she could not go back later trying to change it.
Sounds like my ex, but I later pieced together clues (I had chosen to overlook at the times) of not the 2 BFs she had when we broke up, but at least 3 others during the 12 yr marriage.
Making a man jealous this way and expecting him to pursuing her harder is like rudely insulting someone and expecting them to take it like constructive criticism
Yes!!! Nothing is sexier than a woman who does not need your money! My wife earns more than I. Every day when I get home from work and she is still there, I know it’s because she chooses to be with me not because she has to be with me. The difference is subtle, but important.
I have to make correction about the guy holding his eye prying girlfriend accountable. There is actually only one way to do that in this scenario, and it is to either leave her, or command your respect (not demand it). The boyfriend is confident that the guy won't come over, but this is inviting a very dangerous situation to take place. If this was the first time, what I would've done was got out, opened her door and told her to get out. When she would look at me puzzled and ask what am I doing, I would tell her that if you want him, then go after him. She would undoubtedly refuse to get out, and even secure herself in her seat. At that point I would assertively shut the door and tell her, "If you disrespect me again, I won't even ask you to get out. Do you understand?"
You said EXACTLY what I said in the comments of Emily's short of this video! Any female who refers to her man as "bro" or "dude" is an IMMATURE LITTLE GIRL and hasn't grown up, yet. LEAVE HER.
I'm 60 years old so I might be a little old-fashioned but the biggest turn-off to me is women who have claws for fingernails. I just don't get it. Why have fingernails that make your fingers darn near useless?
It's just something they do for attention, mostly from other women, as well as a flex on how much money they spend on themselves. So many of these videos from 304s expect the man who wants to date her to pay for these useless things like hair & nails. Bitch, just put on some clear nail polish, keep them no more than .2 inches past your fingertips and keep your hair clean, we REALLY don't care about the style.
Long fingernails indicate "high maintenance". She's indicating that she's not expecting to do anything (e.g. work) that will damage her nails. And if she won't work at something you can expect she'll want you to pick up the slack.
Being compared unfavorably to another guy is a sure-fire way to make a man angry. Just one time may be enough to end a relationship. "If you like him so much, go ahead. I'm done."
I'm a 44 year old man. You are 100% spot on. That first clip is an instant red flag for every single man in my friend network. Most of my friends and my own thought process to that scenario would be: Ok, so you will then do the same to me, no ty get lost because you are already unreliable and will just cause unnecessary drama and trouble down the line. The 2nd clip i think could maybe be viewed with a bit of nuance to it, depending on how long a relationship has been and what type of personality both people in the relationship has. There is a possibility that other instances of similar scenarios to that 2nd clip could be a kind of "trolling" your partner rather than making them jealous. But i think that's not the case in that clip and most men do not appreciate attempts to make us jealous. We do not want to question our woman's commitment to us. As you said, we want peace and peace of mind. Just be loyal and commit to us and there is literally nothing a real man would not do for you as a woman.
a woman trying to make a man jealous will simply make him disinterested.
facts
SMART Men are already DISINTERESTED.
Can confirm. Happened twice to me.
Any time a woman tries to make me jealous, my first thought is, "She's a manipulator!" And I drop her like a hot potato! Serious red flag that one!
I do not compete for a woman.
"A good man will happily fight for you, but he can't do that if he has to fight against you."
Exactly, the moment the man is not defending you but defending himself and his honor, is the moment he should become single and look for another woman that appreciates him and does not want to tear his feelings down just to boost hers
Fight for her against an attacker, or an animal? sure. But against other mens interests in dating you? no, you go be with them if you think that.
@@asgardian6638 against other men trying to date her, I'd still "fight" ... but against her interest in dating other men? I know the source of that problem.
@@trolleymouse Why in the world would you fight a man that she showed interest in?
@@asgardian6638 reread what I said; I wouldn't.
If she cheats WITH you, she will cheat ON you. It never fails.
Fact. HARD FACT SHE WILL!
Been there. Yes.
Bingo
Yip same been there
Not always true
A man asks a pretty girl: "Would you sleep with a complete stranger for a million?"
"Of course, right away!"
"Would you sleep with me for 15 bucks?"
"What do you think I am?"
"We've already sorted that out, now we're just negotiating the price."
That was great! I'm gonna use this, with your permission oc
That’s an old story from W.C Fields. I heard it about 50 years ago, but it’s as true then as now.
I've heard it attributed to W.C. Fields and to Winston Churchill
She said clearly, a million.
So give her the million.
@@DavidKuhn-q1i Been around since the invention of currency I suspect
I'm a 75 year-old male. She is absolutely correct; men are simply creatures we hate drama, we hate games, and we hate competition for a woman we are in a relationship with; either she's with us or she's not. Ladies, leave your egos at home.
I remember she wanted to go out and wear something really slutty, to show me off. I said ok, I'm gonna buy everybody drinks the whole night. Lets see who gets hit on first.
Honest to god I lost, got hit on by a gay guy 12 minutes in. Cost me a lot of money she had a good time. Fun, we both laughed.
@@bingojed8476 Nah bruh, you're encouraging her to behave badly, won't end well believe me!
Men of age are full of wisdom and should always be listened to, thanks for pointing out the obvious, but most younger men really don't get it and entertain this type of disrespect and behavor and it never, ever ends well for them.
@@gazsto I don't care what they do, I'm not their keeper or their babysitter.
It didn't end badly, it ended because we were both assholes, oh and we agreed on that.
Still a funny story.
She isn't making him jealous, she is showing him who she really is and disrespectful to boot.
I need to trust my woman/wife. That's a violation in my view.
Definitely a deal breaker.
Then you give her the boot.😁
If a women makes clear that there are other “options” for her, she indicates that she will leave you if she can find better
^_Red Flag_* 🚩
yeah, it's great that they are telling on themselves and exposing rather than hiding the red flags.
You usually just have to really listen and observe a bit, even when people are way less upfront with it they do always tell and show everything one needs to know. The exceptions are extremely rare, I've encountered one in my life thus far.
People don't listen and don't look though, be it due to being in love, just dense or sloppy.
Applies to both genders equally, neither one seems particularly good at it on average.
@@0biwan7
Correct! If she mentions options, its because she's been looking at them.
If she talks about her options or opportunities, she belongs to the streets!
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The woman I wound up marrying 35 years ago would get irritable with other men that propositioned her when they knew she was with me. She saw that as disrespectful to both of us, like she was cheap and I was beneath them. That she would get angry with them was a BIG point for her, and led to my lifelong trust of her in marriage.
She was quite beautiful, so this really wasn’t uncommon, or unexpected. Her respect for me is still one of the reasons I love her so much, at 61 years old.
This is the way.
Have one like her.
Damn fine woman!
you are very fortunate, when i was younger i played in bands and weekends and my wife was attractive also and would be approached and she shut them down
but she was disrespectful a lot of times and when the time came i left because of that reason. most are in relationships for comfort not because of loyalty or love
and sooner or later things go to hell in a hand basked and the worst are stay at home moms and this is proven by female lawyer who talk about divorces.
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A man hitting on your girl even though he knows you’re together is major disrespect. For her to invite this is the ultimate betrayal.
It’s not proper for a man to hit on another man’s girl, in the event he knows she’s spoken for, and especially in front of him.
@@grahambrown1980 Most definitely bruh, these kinds of women lack loyalty and respect and should never be entertained in a relationship!
I was dating a woman maybe 2 years ago, who tried to make me jealous by -in her own words- “finding the ugliest guy in the room and flirting with him” to get me to pay her more attention. Because we were at a party and I was talking to my buddy about sports.
HUGE red flag. I told her that doesn’t fly with me. She did it again a couple weeks later and I ended it. Somehow she was surprised.
My wife did this to me. So I made her my ex-wife.
Smart move
W
did she got 50% of your stuff and the children???
never marry!
@@bengraham5699 we had no kids, no shared property, no shared car, no shared credit cards or bank accounts. Our local court had a self divorce program where you don't need a lawyer. Divorce cost me about $200. Made her pay half. All our friends took my side and ditched her. Her own family took my side and gave me money to move. Also, While we were together, she paid off my student loans. Tried to take the money back....to no avail.
@@bengraham5699….perhaps she got the 50/50 split, but the exposure that she gets when everyone finds out about the reasons for the divorce will be much more significant than the value of the 50/50 split. Plus, it’s a huge red flag that he did not ignore and saved himself more grief emotionally and financially down the road.
I broke up with a woman for trying to make me jealous when we were in our early twenties. Years later, she confessed that she was absolutely shocked that it didn't have the desired effect. Oh well.
Never worked on me. I actually had a girl tell me that she was trying to make me jealous with a guy that was a polar opposite of me. Hahahaha!
@@alanschmidt3460 thing is, they will actually sleep with the other guy too in the hope jealousy works. Muppets
You dodged a bullet.
Well, I’m 50 and I was talking to a woman with a good job and such who is 46 and then she said how much she loved the Taylor Swift concert she went with her adult daughter too… And I was like yeah I can’t do this
@@jamesg1974aWow. That says a lot about you but nothing about the woman in question, unless we assume.
Women need to understand that men value respect almost ahead of affection.
Correct, except without the “almost”
Not "almost".
Respect is first. Literally nothing comes before respect for men. For me personally, even if I sense a little bit of disrespect my radar goes off and I'm on it. I have a zero tolerance rule about it. Been in 6 relationships and I'm currently married almost 8 years. My wife is great but just like I'm not perfect, she isn't either. If she don't ask me for something, I take that as disrespect. She can't tell me to get something, she has to ask. 99% of the time it's "Baby can I have or can you do" she's never loud or yells even when we disagree and I told her during the dating phase that I'm not concerned with other guys trying to talk to her as she's attractive, I'm only concerned with how she handles them and it has to be in a respectful way to me. I shut women down if they get beside themselves. 1 soft rejection to be polite then hard rejection. Also, no giving social media's or phone numbers or such to "get the guy to stop".
Hard reject. My mother is a tough woman, my mother has never been badgered or disrespected by men when they try to approach her because of her demeanor even when she passes them up so when I see women acting all scary and don't know how to reject men, it sort of annoys me. My mother is the type to poke you with something if you try to be funny and grab her hand to pull her back as a stranger, it's not advisable and no man has ever tried, just talks.
@@drjonesey5…..yes, I agree with you. Setting boundaries is very important. Along with the boundaries there must also be consequences when those boundaries are violated. Respect is extremely important. Without respect there is no trust. Without trust, there is no love.
RESOECT RESPECT RESPECT
Women who genuinely stick up for men and men's rights and not just for content or subs is so rare but so appreciated
That’s true, but something to note with this crowd is that 100% of women sticking up for men in any way online, have a man meeting all their needs, or are desperately trying to get one asap.
Practically no single woman is speaking well of men in any way.
@@ThisTallI’m very single, not looking and I stick up for men. I have 4 brothers I love very much! Their wants and needs matter very much to me! I’m extremely protective of them! Two are older and two are younger ❤
After I watched a beloved relative become screwed over by a woman he loved dearly, I joined the bandwagon of women sticking up for men's rights and dignity. Not saying that men are perfect and don't cause issues, but I witnessed a faithful and loyal man have his heart broken, and mine subsequently broke over that.
You said the one thing, the biggest mistake that women make when it comes to men. And that is, thinking that we think, act and feel the same way they do. Huge huge, huge mistake. We are different, compatible, and complementary to each other. But not the same. Not by a long stretch. ✌🏽
The woman who points out "cute guys" most likely won't tolerate her guy pointing out cute girls.
@jamesq7954….true, but turn around is fair play. What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander. She doesn’t even have to make a comment, she can almost break her neck trying to watch some guy. Huge red flag. A cheater in the making, if she hasn’t already.
My wife was like that, thank god she left me 10 years ago, I have peace of mind now. By the way the family believes she is developing Alzheimer's, can't wait for her to forget completely about me, I know that sounds harsh but she tried her darndest to drive me nuts.
@@aldenfloyd5432 That would be Karma. Gotta love it.
Absolutely she will not tolerate that.
The part that gets to me is when it's insidious from a covert narcissist and doesn't happen until YEARS have gone by. Aaaaand other things get blamed, or the blanket statement, "I'm not happy, byyyyeeee!" Or "we've grown apart". That one makes me laugh. Done with the games and false promises. Don't tell me forever, if it's more-or-less-forever-ish. I'm not even going to ask about forever again. Being burned on that one twice was enough.
The woman that played the "he is so cute" prank on her boyfriend is farrrr too immature to be in an adult level relationship.
I loved his response! Absolutely epic. Kept his cool and put her in her place with a simple roll down of the window and a shout out. Perfection!
She talks like she’s in middle school or maybe grade school , dragging out her words . Like , whaaaaaat ? Let’s goooooooo . That would do it for me , bye .
This is the exact response Tbh. Nothing is sweeter than forbidden fruit. So call the bro over and hand her to him.
The first time I sense a woman is intentionally trying to make me jealous, I just move on. I don't play mind games and I will not tolerate manipulation. Massive red flag in my book.
Same here, I just quietly disappear.
Same high school girlfriend from previous comment was going to NY with her class for 5 days . Says there will be lots of hot guys in NY . I said probably so , but there’s a lot of hot girls here that I already know , have fun . She wanted me to sign a contract stating I wouldn’t go out with anyone while she was gone ! I didn’t . Needless to say , we broke up shortly after that .
Exactly what are you competing for
My first wife was all about this. Broke my heart tbh. Looking back I feel incredibly lucky to be out of all that. Thank goodness we didn't have any kids.
A girl once asked me, if i would fight for her. I plainly said, No. She looked at me as if i were from another planet. I said, i would fight through hell, WITH you, but if i give my love unconditionally, why should i fight for your attention? You're a grown up lady, DECIDE what you want, stand by it and fight for your decision. I won't chase you, because there are more than enough girls that would gladly take me and take care of me and i of her without wasting our time and life energy on chasing. Not even talking about the hurt it does to see you flirt with other guys, when I'm out with you. Well, she got it and i moved on because of exactly this fault when she tried it anyways. I was gone in a blink.
Women don't understand that men value loyalty and exclusivity...
If she's not MY woman, to me she's not A woman.
@@Phil-For-Reel Say it again louder for the women in the back!
That doesn't Exist in Women anymore. 🙄
Women "understand" only what suits them and what benefits them...
@@roman_kofynothat sounds like the definition of a sociopath , which feminism has turned most modern women into.
I may speak just for myself but any female that try's to make me Jealous will be single very soon after
Indeed, I don't find playing games like that sexy at all.
@@Ynffy yep
Not just you.
@@rowanmeads8598 good to see i am not alone in that 🤟
Immediately, no "very soon" about it.
I had a girl I was dating tried to shame me by comparing me to her ex. I told her "he may be better but I think I'm smarter, because he was with you for two years before he couldn't put up with you anymore. Ive only know you two weeks and I know that in the next two mins I will never see you again."
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Based.
What was his name?
[She says his name]
Should be easy to look him up so you can go back to him...
Walk off.
Thermonuclear burn!
Never play the jealous card, it will backfire badly
I'm 58 and have seen this kind of behavior from women pretty much my entire life. I TRUST NO ONE! Nor in business! Not in relationships and not in friendships! To many men have forgotten the bro code and too many women have never learned the word loyalty! And if you look at the statistics of men that are raising and paying for kids that aren't theirs and they don't even know it, you would understand!
estimated 30% of kids have another mans dna
Back in my early 20’s a girl I was dating said that if she only dated me, it was like we were married and she wasn’t ready to be married. She told me that she was going to see another guy the next night. Never spoke with her again.
We need to redefine these terms. Dating means exclusivity in my mind. Dating is the track to marriage.
If you just want to fuck around and play house, that's fine, that's a totally different thing.
I date women I want kids with. I fuck around with the rest.
Boss move.
You did what had to be done.
Funny how that stuff blows up in their faces !
Dodged one there!
If you are trying to make me jealous. You are showing me that you are not loyal. So I will not be loyal. You are here to enrich my life. If you're toxic; Thank you, next.
Exactly
Perfectly stated
The only reason why she is so insecure is that she knows she does not deserve him. She is around a 5, he is closer to 9.
This is never a good idea. It just drives men away.
"I will fight for you, but I'll never fight over you."
-Unknown
Perfect
Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4-year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.
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That's not the way John Wayne would have done it.
I can't even remember how many women I have ditched because she has tried the jealousy game. First sign of this, i am out, instantly. No second chance.
Yeah. She is supposed to be my peace. If she brings more toxicity to my life then I'd rather live it alone.
Jealousy = red flag for toxicity
Women: I want to make him jealous
A woman that brews jealousy is a woman destined for the streets
2:25 spot on! We do NOT want to compete for a woman's love. 100%
Smart men don't compete with each other especially after the early stages are over, her not committing is a red flag. I got shit to do can't be wasting my time on useless competition on someone who is clearly not that into you...
That is a waste of time and energy...
The other thing they’ll do is fish for compliments. Drives most of us crazy. Women get compliments like they’re going out of style. When you’re fishing for a compliment, it reeks of desperation.
No, no. We just plain DO NOT.
Very true. Women can be very hypocritical like that.
You shouldn't have to compete for a woman's love King. Drizzle Drizzle
I have commited my love to only 2 women in my life. When I lost the first one to her cheating life, I lost 15 years to avoiding ANY other relationship. Then the second one took ten years to prove my love for her. When she was taken from me by a heart attack less than ten years later, I lost 15 more years buried in loneliness. I'm now 78 and still lonely because I fear what the loss of me will do to the next woman I love. My energy has been taken.
Live your life for yourself instead. Place women where they belong, outside of your house.
I too lost my lady when she was 58. Such a good wife. Warm, loving, helpful, honest and LOYAL! I know I can never replace her. My present gf does try however. But I understand exactly where you are. We had a small yorkiepoo he gravitated to me after her death. I could not have made it without him
Don't give up! Recognize you have worth & value & are worthy of respect. Be more discerning & thank God when you find out early that she plays games. Bars are not a good place to find a good woman. Focus on yourself & hobbies or outdoor activities. There are CoED MEET UP groups online for mountain biking, hiking, kayaking, etc. Just go and see them as new friends. Some meetup groups are not geared toward introductions & potential dating. That makes it easier to just have fun with no pressure. There are some very interesting people you can meet for friendships. I find there are better chances of meeting a potential partner thru friendships. Everybody seems to have a friend of a friend who is single and open to dating. I call it hanging out. Or making new friends. Just having an adventure. Every day is an adventure!
When I've gone to meet up groups that are for dating, there is a sense of pressure, and some people seem very anxious to meet someone. I have made that mistake once or twice. Awkward! Kind of desperate. That is not the kind of energy you wanna give off, of course. If you just show up to see what's going on, you might have fun if you don't feel like you have to meet someone.
I have also enjoyed deepening my faith by going to church. I make new friends by showing up a little early or staying after the service to help clean up. The best place to make friends at church is by going to regular Bible Study small groups. Baptist churches are very active. Some groups meet at church and others might meet at a married couple's home. Some Bible Studies are for young adults, others might be for couples, or a men's group that provides encouragement and support and mentorship, or women's group, or seniors, etc. Church always has something going on. Some get involved in helping the community. Like serving dinner to a battered women's shelter or a homeless shelter or helping a senior with yard work for a day. These all provide focused activities that are in becoming a better version of yourselves. Some Bible Studies will focus on a particular topic for 4 - 6wks. Others might read and study a book of the Bible. Like 1 Samuel or Luke.
I just wanted you to know that God sees you and knows what kind of woman you need. You will find her when you least expect it and when you are not looking. And when we aren't actively looking, we don't give off any kind of desperate or needy energy. That energy can turn off most people, even if they initially find you attractive.
God bless you with an amazing woman who will love and appreciate and respect you as her husband. Trust GOD. Surrender your life to Jesus...
The most dangerous woman at the bar is the one whose boyfriend is "over there, flirting with the barmaid."
A long time ago I thought that I found the love of my life, we got married and had a daughter, built a life together starting from nothing, but after 30 years of marriage I came home to an empty house. No reason was given why she left so I filed for divorce and we parted ways. It happened to me without warning. Moral of the story, everything might be good now, but things can change overnight, literally!
Mine lasted for 32 years until she decided she was not happy anymore. So much for 'death do us part'.
Happened exactly like that to an old friend of mine, came home to an empty house no furniture no bank account no nothing....
congratulation to your divorce and your new happy life. Keep on being awesome ☺👍
I remained single (my choice) but most of my mates (some men, some women) are all divorced. Very few I have known have gone the distance.... Sad but that's the way life is these days.
@@rogershore3128 Been there.
Back in the 60's when I was a teenager I saw adult men that had gotten married and had children only curse the day they ever got married. Their wife divorced them and take the house and children away from them and still make the man pay for everything. She would falsely accuse him of hitting her and s exually assaulting his own children. Try getting a job or finding a place to live with that on your record.
She would turn his children against him. They learned to hate and loathe their very own father who is paying for their well being.
He was only allowed to have government supervised visits of his children because of the false s exual assault charges filed on him by his deceitful shrew of a wife.
She took out a restraining order against him and he couldn't go within two miles of the house he was still paying for because of the false assault charge she filed against him of hitting her.
She moves her _new boyfriend_ into the house he is still paying the mortgage on.
He has to pay unreasonable child support to her.
She gets to keep the better car.
She gets half his bank accounts, his investments and property, and his retirement.
All of this based on only her word and her word alone with no proof of anything.
The family courts just believe her and don't even want to hear anything the man has to say in his defense.
I am in my seventies now, married twice, once for three years and again for one year, and been single all but four years of my life, got a vasectomy years ago, never had any children and living a very good and happy life.
Guys, do yourselves a favor and stay single, don't get married, and don't have any children.
There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.
Heck, she is encouraged to break it and rewarded when she does.
Men risk everything and have little or nothing to gain by getting married.
Women risk nothing and have much and everything to gain by getting married.
Men get divorced to get rid of something.
Women get divorced to get something.
The biggest turn off for me, before anything happens, is attitude. No matter how pretty.
No one likes to cuddle a cactus, even when they've got a flower on them.
I however have been accused of throwing attitude my whole life. And that is simply not the case.
@@KatrinaHallam maybe you should have someone video you when youre not knowing it.
A woman said to me “I'm with someone but you can take me off him if you play your cards right.”
She visibly recoiled from the look of disdain I gave her.
some women just want to be given around like a monthly trophy
I would have asked her, "What the fuck is wrong with you?" And walked away showing nothing in my expression but disgust. Not anger, not sadness. Just disgust. Women hate that more than anything. And it would really make her evaluate her life choices. Fr though, I hope she's a changed woman now.
I would look at her and say “I fold” and walk off…😂
"So you're saying I could be next?"
It’s not that we won’t fall for it, it’s that we won’t tolerate it. It’s completely disrespectful
Threats are a dangerous game, and sometimes have the opposite of the intended effect. Rather than frighten, threats can enrage. Remember Yamamoto's quote after Pearl Harbor :
“I fear all we have done is to awaken a sleeping giant and fill him with a terrible resolve.”
Who wants someone who’s constantly on the hunt for something better? No one.
Women do.
Literally no one. Exactly. I don't understand how this shit came about 😂
I have some very bad news for you but it's probably best for you to figure it out on your own...
who? About half of the adult population. We call them women.
I had one try that with me once. She admitted, eventually, that she Tried to play games to make me jealous and want her more. She had no idea how infuriating that was and how repulsive she became to me for doing that. I pity the poor bastard that ended up with her.
It's like, you HAVE me, you can't get me MORE. It's a binary thing, not a percentage.
2nd clip: I would have told the dude to come over... pushed her out of the car, tell him "you can keep her" and drove out of her life completely.
I thought her lame excuse of "It was a joke!" to back track on her SNAFU was funny. Then try to take control over her FU by ordering him to drive off. I hope this dude had the good sense to dump her as soon as she was safely out of his car. And if she sic's her friends on him (which they always do), cuss them all out, and threaten them with a Restraining Order for harassment if they continue.
I'd not dump her instantly without being sure she had a safe way to get home. But, once out of my car when I got her home (or to her friends) it would be the last time together (except possibly if she has stuff at my place and there is a trip to get it).
@@perryallan3524 If she acts like that: WHO GiVE$ A F@$k if she gets home safely?
The one and only solution. Men that accept these kind of women are not better.
And how would you have felt if later he assaulted her? Not a good behavior choice.
Women will prefer being in Chad's harem for the chance to prove she is special and the hope she will be picked. Men never choose the to be in some girl's harem. Ever.
He called her bluff in the best way. 👍
If a woman approaches with that engaged line, the online proper thing to do is tell her you know her fiancé, and will be telling him about this tomorrow, so she’s got until then to come clean to him.
Actually knowing the fiancé is not required.
Nah, ask her name at first. Chat to her abit.
Then say I'd never be interested in someone who wants to cheat. Thanks for your name so I can track down your fiance and let him know. She won't tell him almost certain. Better to let him know yourself.
This is the way, men!
@@jake8748 Bros before hoes
That’s brilliant! 👍👏
I have a bad luck of attracting women who are already in relationships. If they hit on me, I walk away. I won't be part of the problem even if I'm single.
Same here. Walking away will keep you alive. A lot of these types of women date the most toxic guys ever, and they can get violent out of jealousy. Lots of guys in prisons and cemeteries because of this. Stay safe.
@@TheHighwinder I was going to comment something similar. Few women understand the potential danger they put men in when they do this.
Same here. I've been physically attacked by boyfriends whose girlfriends made them jealous by flirting with me. Disgusting women.
Big facts. To think that King Solomon in the Bible had a lengthy section of Proverbs he wrote down about adulterous women and how they lead to the grave. Sorry if you aren't Christian just making an observation.
22 here. If a woman did this to me, she’d be immediately single.
We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are OUR rules:
Please note… these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!
1. Breasts are for looking at and that is why we do it. Don’t try to change that.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Saturday = sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one:
* Subtle hints do not work!
* Strong hints do not work!
* Obvious hints do not work!
* JUST SAY IT!
1. ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days
1. If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done, not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colours, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a colour. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, expect an answer you don’t want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine, Really
1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as:
* Sex,
* Sport,
* Cars,
* or Computers
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round is a shape.
AND ; when you ask a woman how she is , and you know something is wrong , if she says fine ! What that means is :
F - fucked up .
I - insecure
N - neurotic
E - emotional
That’s just the way it is !
Hahaha I mostly agree, or should I say I can add some to this simple MANual.
BRILLIANT !! 👍👍
I agree with most of these, There are a few I don't, though. I'm not interested in sports, she's _way_ into baseball. I didn't like it when we were first going out; now years later, I like it for itself, although it still annoys her that I'm not a fan of any team. I've learned that when she complains, I should just listen and agree with her on how bad the situation is, unless she specifically asks for help. It helps the relationship, and raises the chance that I'll get what _I_ want. Finally, I know the names of obscure colors, but that's because 1. I used to work in a men's clothing department, and knowing things like that came in handy, 2. it helps me win arguments about things like what color to paint the walls, and 3. I like knowing obscure things.
I am a nerd. So, I might be thinking, "I wonder how slavery worked in the Byzantine Empire?", or "Multiverse can't exist, can it?", or "What was the best joke in Airplane? Let me think about that."
As a 38yr old man, im done with games.. the hinting game, the jealous game, the flirting game, the reverse psycholigy, no acountability for these stupid games.. STOP IT! Tell me what the F*** you want or get out of my way. Period.
Emily, you rool girl! 👏👏👏👏
100% Agree , I'm 48 and had that life to man, now I'm thinking just like you bro🤛 and yes Emily you rule!! And are qiet cute yourself😊
A few years ago, I went to the mermaid parade in Coney Island. I met a girl. We hung out all day. After the parade, she was getting really touchy feely and asked me if I wanted to go out with her. I said sure. As we were leaving the parade to go do something, 2 of her girlfriends showed up, reminded her that she was engaged to be married, and took her away.
I hope someone clued the fiancé in on what he was getting himself into before he tied the knot. Yeah, her friends kept from cheating this time, but the odds are high she'll cheat on her husband after the ceremony later on.
A ha -- bet you anything the girl is considered by her friends to be the screwup of the group, because most of the time they won't intervene.
The last time I went to the mermade perade, a girl I had just started hanging out with announced the we were going to have sex that night. Some women do this -- I hate it because I need space, yo.
@@jessejordache1869…yes, I agree with you. When you’re in your 20’s, hookups and 1 nighters are very common. But when a girl makes a statement like the 1 did to you, I’d walk away telling her, “thanks, but no thanks”, as I don’t want any left over surprises from her, period.
I just recently had a girl at work wanting to get with me and she was living with a guy she had been dating for almost 4 years. Helps take care of his kids when he gets them on the weekend. I was like nope, no thanks. I’m engaged, but even if I was single I would have let her pass on by.
@@davidj.leavitt7176 To be fair, I had already decided I really liked her, although it was only our second time hanging out (I think).
But you might be right anyway: she had borderline personality disorder and it took me a long time to get over the whole thing, because we went out for five years. Either way, things are better spontaneous: when hooking up, I'd prefer it not be on a date certain.
Chads don't commit because they know how flexible women's commitments reliably become for them.
They don't commit because they can fuck dozens of other 8s, 9s, and 10s, why would they settle for just one?
They don't necessarily look for commitments, as they might not feel they need them and might feel they love leading exciting love lives running through woman after woman. They don't commit because they don't have to.
They are the masters of the "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" school of thought.
@nobodyknows3180 I think they just understand that cow ownership isn't recognised by cows.
My point is that you can only get hit on by so many women in committed, supposedly happy relationships before you get too jaded about such relationships to want one yourself.
@@jeffjones7108 I know the many unpleasant and sometimes outright nasty relationships, marriages, and divorces I saw as a kid made me very wary.
Loyalty is without comparison the most important character of a woman. Even if she looks and smells like a swamp toad, that comes second to loyalty
wow, i just found your channel, your intuity is phenomenal. Been single for 21 years now for the very reasons you talk about. First marriage i was cheated on, put me off relationships for life.
There are some things that you just don't joke about, and that is one of them. Women need to understand that a man's world is a world of respect. When you show us disrespect, or a lack of loyalty, you're gone. Your value to us greatly decreases.
"...Your value to us VANISHES".
There, I fixed it for you, you're welcome.
"omg how could you embarrass me like that" said the girl, actively attempting to embarrass her bf on the internet
Irony
She needs to do some serious soul searching 😂
Well, if her boyfriend drops her, as he should, she'll have plenty of time to self-examine and reflect. Although that might not be one of her strong suits.
If we are competing, then she is not loyal.
And if women are competing then the men are not loyal either.
Emily, you're spot on. If a woman does this, she will be history, for eternity, right on the spot.
Video #2 was absolute pure gold. His response is amazing. And yes only toxic people do this kind of thing.
"im engaged....change my mind".....I literally could not think of a worse opening from a woman....
I'd immediately respond with "nah im good...hope you have a nice wedding"
I would not probably come with such an answer on the spot but it could, or should sound like that: 'Nope, you're not engaged too much. There is nothing to change because your mind is not set. Grow up.'
That second video is a PERFECT example of how women play games.
Some are neurodivergent and can say innocent stuff. Make sure you know the difference. Some women point stuff because it's interesting to them. Doesn't mean they are playing games. I know I make comments on people while being out doesn't mean anything but how I like to share what I find interesting. Some people are wired differently.
@@inexpertxennial6067 Using your personal experience does not validate your opinion.
Some women play games.
Some women say what they see. If my GF said 'he's cute' to me I'd ask 'which one' and then have a conversation about what makes him cute.
We do the same with dogs and cars - it's just a converation, but we might actually get a car or dog. Coming home with a cute guy is in a league which I'm not playing in.
Are we not allowed to have opinions and share them honestly?
(theoretically........yes. But we all know that humans have feelings, so take care of those too)
It doesn't kill our attraction. It just makes her a poor investment. Also women don't understand that men are programmed and raised to honor women's choices. If she chooses another man the programmed response is to walk away and let her do whatever she wants. Furthermore, the more she hurts you by doing this, the better the chance you are going to immediately withdraw your emotions from her completely, and kill her in your mind, so that she can't do this to you again. I've had women put me into competition with other men and my response is always the same "They can have you. Goodbye forever".
"withdraw your emotions from her completely, and kill her in your mind, so that she can't do this to you again"
THAT is something they're very ignorant about. We do that. It's why we don't talk to other women about our exes, they all died tragically. "But what about so and so, I saw her yesterday" Nope, dead, in my world, and it was a tragic painful event, don't ask me to describe it, it's too horrible. lol.
Very true about the first one. Men don't care to play these games. It goes one step further, too: This is so basic that if a woman still does it she is disqualified because she either does not care what men want and does it anyway or she does not know because she has not put even the tiniest amount of thought into it.
My father told me long time ago if you meet them at the bar leave them at the bar.. and yep he was so correct.. i learned the hard way but i definitely told him thanks for trying to save me from misery
You are ABSOLUTELY correct.
When a woman makes it obvious that no other man has a chance with her, we couldn’t be more proud to have her, and treat her like a princess.
Part 2.
She ALWAYS flips it back on me when I (rarely) call her out in the slightest, and try to hold her accountable for her actions. She has apologized maybe twice in 12 years. And both times it was like an amazing relief, and weight lifted off my shoulders, instant respect and appreciation for her.
Yes. These women are a no no. Once they are figured, they are Instantly out.
play stupid games, win stupid prizes
I got a puppy called NoNo..😊
I dated a woman once , sent her number to me , I called 3 times , got no , so I dropped it . A few months later she asked our mutual friend how I was doing . She was told to forget it , I got a puppy ! I loved that dog dearly !
Nailed it.
I told my ex that I'm not into competition, after suspecting there were others. I stated quite frankly, "I'm not going to be one of several dudes on your tryouts bench."
So she began hiding her other male interests from me instead.
One thing I believe you get wrong is the whole “men seek a high value woman” thing. We are not that mercenary. We seek someone who we love to be with. We don’t rank women and choose the one with the highest value on a scorecard. Attraction doesn’t work that way. Seeking high value is reserved for our careers.
I mostly agree, but I'd say we just define 'high value' differently.
“High value” is what the woman offers to a relationship. Is she someone who is compatible, wants to build a relationship and family. Will she support you with your career? Will she be a good mother to your children, or does she have a past that will embarrass you and your kids one day?
Men have a different definition of "value."
Value for women "Height. Looks. Career."
Value for men: "Peace. Trust. Solace."
most men don't seek "the one most high value woman". men f*ck most women from 4 to 10 😆 (but don't want them as girlfriend)
High value men seek high value women.
Passion is the most important trait to me so playing "hard to get" can defuse any feelings I was developing
Thank you Emily for showing us so much about having healthy relationships and letting us know what is unhealthy! I appreciate you for doing this!
"Men think very differently than women". Thats just the start..
“If she’s taking on a lot of different efforts from a lot of different men…” Yikes. “Efforts” is quite the euphemism
Met a woman for coffee one time and when she sat down immediately put her phone on the table in front of her, mine was clear off to the side. Then says, okay, I’m here. Tell me why I should agree to a second date with you. I said, you know how people can give off certain vibes and right away you know they aren’t the one for you? There’s no point in going any further with this meeting, have yourself a good day. Buh bye. Her mouth dropped open and didn’t say anything as I walked away. Women at the next table gave me a thumbs up…😅
Obvious guess - women at the next table were older.
Perhaps wiser for that reason, although they may just have had good strong fathers.
Excellent! 👍NO 666 💩tests!
You should of started chatting with the other woman... 🔥
@@arthurchadwell9267 "You should of started" - you should HAVE paid more attention in school.
I once dated a girl (blond, outspoken not really my type) who turned heads whenever we went out. One Friday evening after a long hard week (I was in the commercial asphalt business at the time) I took a shower, hopped in my car (I had a black Vette) and arrived about 20 minutes late. I knocked on her front door, the door swings open, she said "you're late" and turned around and walked back towards her kitchen. So, I allowed myself in, apologized and did my best to make her laugh. 1st attempt, no luck so we left to go to dinner at a very nice place that she had chosen. We aren't even 8 minutes from her house cruising around 50 mph and she's complaining once again about me being late and that she doesn't like waiting. At this point, I'm tired, I'm burned from working in the sun all week and I wasn't having it so, I looked in my rearview mirror (no immediate traffic in front of me or behind me) braked hard, swung a u-turn and drove her back to her house, reached across her, pushed her door open and said, lets try again next week and I left. A few days later, she shows up at my house on a Wednesday evening in a fur coat and a teddy (lingerie) underneath and a bottle of wine.She told me that nobody has ever treated her like that and it turned her on even more. LOL We ended up hanging out together for another few months until the novelty of dating a shallow, superficial model type wore off. I'm a brunette man but at this point in my life, I like being single.
As a woman, I am completely disgusted by this behavior. This is the epitome of F around and find out!
Thankyou for stating this and making it seemingly only a general thing and not an absolute truth (same with men being assholes as those definitely exist)
(Sorry for the wording with 'seemingly'
As I/we honestly can barely trust women anymore on any level whatsoever, it's too bad/it's a pity (idk english is not main language) but partially this is why men consciously/purposefully evade interaction with women of all metrics
Getting sexist degrading like this on a regular basis where if we speak up, we are apparently awful
We'd rather live and die alone than endure the mindgames and standardised(as it is standard in western society to be sexist towards men) emotional abuse gaslighting etc
So thankyou for speaking out as there are not a lot of women who react (positively) on men's advocate channels
It’s very hard to find a good woman anymore . I imagine a good man too . If you’re lucky enough to find one , don’t fuck it up !
Accountability on your ideas, speaking slow and word by word, no bad intention...That's few of the things why i like you.👍 Hail from Istanbul, with all the best.🙏✨
Emily is spot on target. Loyalty is essential to a good man.
Women had been told again and again, that they have no idea how difficult it is for a guy to even approach women. Approaching and getting into a relationship itself is ALREADY a brutal competition, men shouldn't need to waste more time and effort in competition to KEEP the relationships.
Once a relationship is established, the competition is over for men, so they don't want to waste more time and energy on more useless competitions. Men are willing to use their time and energy to keep a relationship, not more competition. If a woman still
makes a man compete after relationship is already established, what she's telling him is that they're not in a real relationship, or he's not good enough to keep her.
I mean I could get into the competition, but it uses criminal force to get in there. I’d rather not make it worth it to myself, it’s too much work
I never knew a man that tried to make a woman jealous. But many women do this thinking jealousy will force him to make a move. I always found it more attractive when a woman was straight up with me about her intentions or feelings.
The move there is "If he'd make you happy, go to him, my only goal is making you happy..."
Because if she wants to leave, she'll leave, so let her.
Just be sure to allow another better woman to outcompete her for you.
Both do it, I've definitely known guys that throw the engaged thing aswell, which for me just screams that he'll cheat on anyone in the end 😂. But it's more a flex to see in woman (imo)
Argumentative, dirty women are the biggest turn offs. That's all.
a woman throwing F bombs. bye
Yeah, a foul mouthed woman is NOT attractive.
Literally embarrasses him by saying out loud that another man is cute, but when he responds to it by calling the guy over it's "Stop, you're embarrassing me."
About the women who want men to compete for them. I think its ironic when younger women think its insecure when men dont want to compete when i find the people who often compete for the women the most insecure because they have a need to prove themselves
First example...that's a woman of the night, not wife material. The second example...that guy played it perfectly. As for the points made...valid.
Modern feminism teaches these women that they're never wrong, any behavior is acceptable, and it's ALWAYS the guy's fault.
they get indoctrinated with this toxic stuff. And people don't change their worldview anymore after ~20 years. They r stuck with that toxic worldview for the rest of their lives.
My mother taught me from a very young age to always believe what women say and, unfortunately for me as an impressionable child, I did. This lead to a painful struggle of trying to reconcile her words with her actions.
Unstable people, but especially women (and they are the many), cannot stand when you watch what they do and value it over what they say. You want to find out the kind of woman a woman is? Watch her closely and observe what her actions tell you. Do this long enough and she herself will be unable to help but tell you who she really is. It's like some kind of unwritten rule that the unhinged, after exhausting all pretense, will admit to their delusion as a means of justifying their behavior.
"I love you, I love you" eventually turns into "I never loved you, in fact I hate you and I always have" if you simply stand your ground long enough.
That unhealthy delusion is the root of the majority of relationship problems today
@mpclepto182
5 why’s to get to the root. Once you’ve annoyed them with the same question they finally give the real answer. The trick is asking the same question differently so they don’t catch on they just fire off at the hip the real answer.
@@jamesg1974a Its not a delusion though. Totally accurate for todays society of women
The women that try to make guys jealous do it to feel more desirable. Narcissistic, immature behavior.
Had a friend in my 20’s that had a gf like that. She got upset he talked to another girl in front of her - who was the gf of another friend - so she tried to get me to sleep with her to make him jealous. Bros before 304’s and I told him immediately what she did and why, and that he should dump her immediately. He did. Several months later we find out she got knocked up by an acquaintance she hooked up with still trying to make him jealous.
NEVER break the bro code.
😮
It's literally like HAHA face, what now! as they slice their own nose off.
How does degrading yourself make you more attractive?
Do a video on a woman saying, in defending being caught in a lie,."Well, if you didn't know the truth, why does it matter?" This has happened with two different couples, both in serious relationships until caught in a lie, and the lie did not involve other men. Both situations dissolved the relationship due to a lack of trust, or even why it was important. In both cases, the women were heartbroken but still could not understand why it mattered.
Yup no iv'e been through that and say hey go for it, goodbye...
I'd be gone the second i found out. If I was put into a competition like that to begin with I wasn't good enough then. If my efforts were never enough in the past, they'll never be enough in the future.
I've had a hard and fast rule: Dump me, or play jealousy games with me, even once, and it is totally, irrevocably and completely over.
In exchange, I hold myself to the same standard.
It's served me well.
When your SO flirts with others in front of you, it's a blatant sign of discrespect! And yes, we don't want to compete for one that supposedly chose us in the beginning! Perfect message Emily!
Men don't like competition, ever.
I have seen a lot of your vids and shorts, you have got nothing wrong.
I find it amazing you understand men so well, most women don't get these things even into old age.
My ex wife is exactly like the second woman, even when she was having an ongoing affair it was all my fault. I worked too much and didn't show her enough attention... now she's also trying to keep my kids from me. Stay single fella's!!!
My first wife did that but after five months separated, she asked me to take custody of the kids, two pre schoolers. That was forty years ago and I got the better of the deal for sure. Raising those two were the joy of my life. With any luck you will get the same as she finds out how hard it is and bails out. I never got child support and it was hard, but so worth it. I required her to put in the papers and the court record that I was better able to raise the kids so she could not go back later trying to change it.
Sounds like my ex, but I later pieced together clues (I had chosen to overlook at the times) of not the 2 BFs she had when we broke up, but at least 3 others during the 12 yr marriage.
Women do want to feel important.
Making a man jealous this way and expecting him to pursuing her harder is like rudely insulting someone and expecting them to take it like constructive criticism
I had a woman play the jealousy game with me once and was shocked when I dumped her. I didn't get mad, I just dumped her and wow did she get upset.
No, change your thinking, you didn't dump her, you allowed better women to outcompete her.
I'm a stay-at-home dad, the biggest turn on for me is when she makes more money than me and can take care of me and our child.
Yes!!! Nothing is sexier than a woman who does not need your money! My wife earns more than I. Every day when I get home from work and she is still there, I know it’s because she chooses to be with me not because she has to be with me. The difference is subtle, but important.
I have to make correction about the guy holding his eye prying girlfriend accountable. There is actually only one way to do that in this scenario, and it is to either leave her, or command your respect (not demand it).
The boyfriend is confident that the guy won't come over, but this is inviting a very dangerous situation to take place.
If this was the first time, what I would've done was got out, opened her door and told her to get out. When she would look at me puzzled and ask what am I doing, I would tell her that if you want him, then go after him. She would undoubtedly refuse to get out, and even secure herself in her seat. At that point I would assertively shut the door and tell her, "If you disrespect me again, I won't even ask you to get out. Do you understand?"
Calling your BF "bro" 🙄
You said EXACTLY what I said in the comments of Emily's short of this video! Any female who refers to her man as "bro" or "dude" is an IMMATURE LITTLE GIRL and hasn't grown up, yet. LEAVE HER.
Or dude. Basically any guy to guy speak it's over.
Bros before hoes, right?
Omg that’s such a turn off
@@guitarman0365 nah, depends. Bro is red flag, but dude is a turnon.
Then again, I'm into tomboys, so guy to guy style from GF is generally welcomed.
Thank you for all your hard work. I'm a single dad. I work 7 days a week. I hardly date anymore 😂 you basically hit the nail on the head imo
I'm 60 years old so I might be a little old-fashioned but the biggest turn-off to me is women who have claws for fingernails. I just don't get it. Why have fingernails that make your fingers darn near useless?
I agree...
It's just something they do for attention, mostly from other women, as well as a flex on how much money they spend on themselves. So many of these videos from 304s expect the man who wants to date her to pay for these useless things like hair & nails. Bitch, just put on some clear nail polish, keep them no more than .2 inches past your fingertips and keep your hair clean, we REALLY don't care about the style.
I'm a woman and I don't understand it either
Long fingernails indicate "high maintenance". She's indicating that she's not expecting to do anything (e.g. work) that will damage her nails. And if she won't work at something you can expect she'll want you to pick up the slack.
Simple:
It's a status symbol.
Those fingernails indicates ''I do not need to work, someone pays for me.''
Being compared unfavorably to another guy is a sure-fire way to make a man angry. Just one time may be enough to end a relationship.
"If you like him so much, go ahead. I'm done."
I'm a 44 year old man.
You are 100% spot on.
That first clip is an instant red flag for every single man in my friend network.
Most of my friends and my own thought process to that scenario would be: Ok, so you will then do the same to me, no ty get lost because you are already unreliable and will just cause unnecessary drama and trouble down the line.
The 2nd clip i think could maybe be viewed with a bit of nuance to it, depending on how long a relationship has been and what type of personality both people in the relationship has.
There is a possibility that other instances of similar scenarios to that 2nd clip could be a kind of "trolling" your partner rather than making them jealous.
But i think that's not the case in that clip and most men do not appreciate attempts to make us jealous.
We do not want to question our woman's commitment to us.
As you said, we want peace and peace of mind.
Just be loyal and commit to us and there is literally nothing a real man would not do for you as a woman.