I had a girl that I had talked to that came over one night . She told me I " had to behave " if she was going to come over . I was like OK , cool . She came over , we hung out , it was fun . But I didn't try anything . We didn't talk for a couple days , so I messaged her and she was snippy with me . I asked what her issue was and she was like " I'm pissed because you didn't try anything the other night " . BECAUSE YOU ASKED ME TO BEHAVE , SO I DID ! She asked when we could get together again and I told her I wasn't interested . And I flat out told her why . I'm not interested in playing games . You're an adult . Speak your mind . Be honest and straightforward . Because that's EXACTLY what I'm going to do and it's what I expect in return . She had already proven to me that a relationship with her would be a constant game of " what am I thinking " and I have no interest in it .
My wife told me when we first started dating all those years ago that she didn't like cut flowers. So I didn't give her any. Thank goodness she was being honest. Eventually she realized there were situations where she would appreciate receiving those flowers. So she defined them for me at a time when we were just sitting and talking. This is what real communication looks like and it totally works.
@@purelightapologetics4930 i have no solutions for how you get all the knots out of your panties,sounds insufferable--i could say a lot about apologetics but won't...ugh
So, on those cut flowers. is it because they're going to die soon even if you put them in water. Because I'm the guy would have brought the hole plotted plant so she can enjoy the full life cycle of the plant. Because that's a memory she can fully savor.
#3) Some women don't seem to understand that men can go TO PRISON based solely on an accusation of sexual assault. And it can ruin their life in other ways too. She said no so if he "tries", he is risking his freedom, but she wants him to do that simply to validate her ego. Doesn't get much more selfish than that.
I sadly couldn't agree more. I lost the count of how many women said "No" when I suggested to go to my place, to then receive a text message later in the night saying, "You should have been pushy". Sorry, "No" means No, and food in jail tastes horrible
When my husband and I met almost 27 years ago, we had the discussion about not buying flowers because they are a waste of money, and I was floored when a few months later, he brought me a freshly picked bouquet of wildflowers/herb/weeds on his way over to have dinner with me after work. I was so touched, especially when he said to me: “I could hardly wait for spring to come so I could pick these for you.” Every once in a while he will buy flowers for me in the winter (we live in Alaska and it’s a looooong winter), but I still love the wildflowers the best. He just left for work for 15 days in the backcountry and he had left a fresh picked weed/grass/flower bouquet sitting next to the bed when I got home from work. It’s already dead now, but it’s still there because he is gone, and it reminds me of the man I fell in love with when we were younger, and I LOVE him so much more today!
If I’m not mistaken, someone looked into #3’s social media and supposedly she’s a comedian and her video was a skit. Not sure if it’s true, but shiddy none the less.
@@gwall1789 also not funny. Women like that and mixed messages endanger other women. I mean I have a concern about that too that if women like that are too prevalent and men can't trust clear communication then men could potentially cross a line and then a woman is hurt or something. I mean I doubt men will get violent or forceful but they could not pick up that this no really means no and make a woman feel unsafe and I wouldn't want that. I wager most men don't want that. We want to be wanted back and to receive enthusiastic consent and maybe a bit of hawk tuah as well. 🤣 But we want to be wanted back as much or even more than we want. You know? But yeah it's not funny and causes problems for all of us.
not exactly, "no" means whatever the person using it wants it to mean, so sometimes it will mean no, sometimes it will mean yes, sometimes it will even mean maybe or even something else entirely, but the fact that you can't know out of the bat means that you either have to confront that person about that or just leave them be(without you, that is)
@@San-lh8us And that is what makes that kind of person so dangerous. The best thing is to leave them be; they cannot understand that they are sending mixed messages or full well know they are as part of some weird game.
@@gabem6863 the problem is that not always they are so upfront from the scratch, you often only discover what type of people they really are after a few months of seeing them every day
@@devonm042690 i'm not saying that is how it should be, just explaining that that's how it is. I agree with you, if that happens then using human languages becomes kinda pointless
Story Two: The woman is not un-attractive. No, not for me, I'm not attracted to her, she's not my type, but she is attractive. I agree, It is the Deception, it is the Lie, because that's exactly what makeup is and what filters definitely are. Using filters and/or makeup, are you showing to the world that you're one thing, and then in reality are something Completely Different.
@@pendraggon4080 I think it depends on how heavy the makeup is. If it makes you look like a totally different person, than it is a lie. If you look basically the same without makeup, then it is alright. The filters do far more than the makeup especially if they are in constant use. You can tell how high maintenance and conceited a woman is by the makeup and usage of filters that they use though. If every image has a filter on it, they are quite vain. I dated a woman that did the filter thing and everything went great until a friend introduced her to a more attractive guy and she immediately dropped me. This is the issue. If they are that worried about looks, you might not measure up to the next guy. They are also attention hounds.
@@Thor-Orionwelcome to modern feminist society, they've been told since birth how amazing and special and better than everyone else they are, hard not to get an ego when everyone's telling you you're the best thing ever
@@Green__one I must be the exception then. I know a bunch of my friends are also straight up honest & would only want to be loved for their true selves. One of the things people who know me say is that I am real & down to earth.
Had been with girlfriend for almost a year when she got pissy over something that wasn’t that deep. When I asked, “After I’m done, should I come over?” “NO!” So, I didn’t. She called me later and asked why i didn’t come over. I told her because she said not to do so. She said, “But, I wanted you to come and fight for me, like a knight…” I told her this was real life, not a fantasy, and, now, not Agincourt, and if you say no, I take that as no.
A lot of colleges/universities no longer teach "No means no" and have switched to "Only Yes means yes" (a verbal yes). At first, it sounds dumb, but it eliminates any possibility of misunderstanding. No man can say, "but she was being seductive" and it leaves no loophole for if she's unconscious, too drunk to respond, roofied, etc.
Even if it's a yes, they may change their minds to no halfway through then say you graped them. It's starting to seem like men need a signed consent form and a recording of the woman signing the consent form in case they change their mind.
Emily, More seriously, that third lady did something more dangerous for the man than you realize. What you said is true, but he also could have been charged with grape or SA if he tried something and then she 'consented' and then later because she 'didnt want to' initially she could accuse him. this woman is very very dangerous.
Fact is you could be charged for not doing anything. When the girl really wants you to, but, says no it really pisses them off if you don't go for it. It's not uncommon for girls to file s/a or rape for that reason.
From time to time, my wife wakes up and looks like a dump truck, but that's okay to me. She's all mine. I don't even want to imagine what she sees when I get up. I avoid looking in the mirror when I head to the bathroom, so I'm just thankful she'll even want to be SEEN with me.
She could of got that from the get go. But nope, gotta go for the gold, gotta get in there real deep and then try to pull the shenanigans, good thing it back fired. Now she can get the full resentment for herself for doing something real dumb.
I ran into this type back when I was 19. I drove truck and had an over night stay on this run, asked type 3 if she wanted to ride along. She said fine but I'm not sleeping with you... "fine, no problem". Next morning she was all pissed off. Come to find out that she was pissed because I didn't try anything.... Made for a LONG QUIET RIDE back home when the delivery was over with.
The push and pull right away (accusation forcing you into the "playful" yet self-deceptive Defensive stance) is not deceptive. It's abusive. It is a pattern and people should (and she probably does) say what they mean and mean what they say == honesty. THAT is what she has in her mind. Like Emily said, it is due to trauma and SHE brought it in the relationships. Once again: That is abusive.. not playful nor pleasant. She perceives it as such because she is chaos. A toddler whose never had a Dad. His response was clean and it's distressing to see how a simple compliment is turned down just cuz her mind is so sh_t. Men dont get compliments so get lost _du m bo.
In terms of the third video, I knew a guy that went home with a girl back to her apartment and she told him not to try anything. He went to sleep in her living room. She said for him to come to the bedroom. In the bedroom, he goes to get the sleeping bag, but she wants him to sleep in her bed with her, but not to try anything. The next day the girl was in tears and upset with him because, "you could've had me" according to her. That's called risking a legal problem. That's what this third girl reminded me about.
Back when I was a lad, we didn't go to jail if our intuition was wrong. The stakes are higher, and the margin for error is lower to accommodate unclear behavior.
@minot.8931 Chad generation, lol. You are literally forgotten in any talks of generations. It goes Boomer skips your ass and goes straight to Millenials. You're who zoomers think of as boomers. Gen X make some great music, that's for the 90s. But sorry guys, yall got left a the bus stop. It's old people holding wealth, millenials eating avocado toast, and zoomer being sucked in a screen. Sorry latchkey gen, that didn't have the staying power.
Ladies, here is some old man wisdom for you. Video 1 -PLEASE, accept compliments graciously. Rejecting a compliment is like rejecting the man who gave it. Video 2 - Men are not as picky about looks as you think. Most men are realists, and we know you have flaws, and will be really ugly some day. We are fine with that. What we are NOT okay with is deception or being insecure or high maintenance. Again, this is because we are realists. Video 3 - Men are people, not props for your ego. Moreover, good men are kind, self-disciplined, and want to protect you. That man resisted this woman's charms WHILE CUDDLING WITH HER because he was protecting her from both his urges and hers. There are still a lot of men with honor. Don't ever disrespect or discourage that level of kindness and care. That man is a hero your dad would pick to be your husband.
AN EVOLVED MOVIE STARRED SELF ADDICTIONS OF SKIN-SURFACED INDUSTRY SOLD MYTHOLOGIES OF BEAUUUUBUTTIES. FRECKLES ARE GENUINE FOR "TOM-BOY REALITIES OF PARTNERSHIP'S POSSIBILITIES!"
Agree with your explanation on the first one more than that of Emily. She largely gets the gist , buy yours is more on point.The second one is even more accurate. I think she misses the explanation by an even larger margin.
I dated example number 3, we cuddled and such, kept it casual, then, I went to a movie with her and some of her friends. We went for coffee after and I chatted with her friends. A few days later she told me that one of her friends was gay and he liked me. When I told her I am not into men, therefore wasn't interested in her friend she got mad. I dodged a bullet.
"psycho". Boom, you hit the nail on the head. I don't mean the "stab you in the shower" psycho from films but the genuine medical definition of someone that doesn't have empathy for others. She doesn't see that guy as a person who has feelings and opinions and respect. She just sees him as a tool to affect her own mood and idea of self worth.
God, I am so glad that i am not a young guy in this current environment. It was always similar but social media has made women Even more narcissistic or insecure
She also maybe wanted an excuse to say he graped her, so she would have dirt on him and the ability to bring up charges later in life. I've seen that happen twice.
Your comments on the first one were a real eye opener for me, in the fact that you showed me areas I need to work on. I find it extremely difficult to find value in myself and to accept compliments. While I don't find it disingenuous when people pay me compliments, I just find it extremely difficult to be accepting of them. Thank you ❤.
I am grateful to every female that rejected me because of my height and thinning hair! Because their attitude let me be free to find my drop dead gorgeous model wife, who I've been married to for over 26 years. And I'm a recording artist which was not the case over 26 years ago. My now wife, loved me and accepted me and she now gets to enjoy the good stuff!
I have a friend from high school that was a model, Who is happily married now for many years. Stories I heard from her mom is she dressed down and no make up with sweatpants ,for her first dates because she didn’t want to be recognized.
My husband's hair was thinning and he had a receding hair line when we first started dating. Some women found that unattractive. Their loss and my gain. He is the most wonderful man and has the best personality and attitude. And when he started shaving his head, my physical attraction for him increased. He looks hot as a completely bald man!
Great video! My father gave each of his five sons the same advice. "Marry someone who would do well on a wagon train." Our mother was a beautiful lady who avoided makeup like the plague. She instilled this thinking into our three sisters. So simple.
@@0biwan7 Most women won't show themselves in heavy makeup then show up with no makeup. And, makeup is physically real when filters are literally fake.
Thinking back to myself 20 years ago, On number 2, I'd probably have gone through the date after the honest entrance. One of the best dates I've ever had was with a beautiful girl named Tracy. We realized in the first 1 minute it wasn't gonna be worth a "date" thing. Went to dinner and a movie as friends, and she became one of the best friends and resources I had for several years. I got to take pictures for them at their wedding, and never regret that "blind date" as a freshman in college. We were absolutely incompatible as partners. But spending those few hours just chatting and connecting as humans made a life-long bond that was worth forging. Take-away: be human, be real.
I had a similar encounter and we have remained friends 20+ years. This woman (I say that with the utmost respect) taught me the value of returning something you borrow in better shape than when you received it. We have also cried together and laughed over various ‘partners’ along the way. She is happily married with children and lives on the other coast. When in town, her husband and I enjoy hanging out while she visits her family. It all goes back to we respected each other and had honest expectations when we met for that first date. And after seeing that we had different aspirations we didn’t throw the relationship in the garbage, we recycled it into something of value.
Thank you for these videos. I am a female (19) who doesn’t have a good mother role model when it comes to marriages. My mother has been divorced 2 times and is on her 3rd marriage. I am a child from the first marriage and her second kid. She (my mother) is a cheater. My grandmother on my mom side is a cheater. On the marriage day for my mom and dad my grandmother told my mom that “If He(my dad) doesn’t make her happy she can always get a divorce.” This was in-front of my father. My parents were married for 10 years and I have been told of my moms cheating, gaslighting, and manipulation (I have also witnessed it.) So thank you, I have been debating dating but I want to date for the goal of marriage. These videos have helped educate and explain things that my mother refuses to and my father has tried to.
Yes, you are doing great, trying to compensate for what you didn't get as a maternal tradition. It is a great step forward to decide that bad heritage stops with you. As soon as you can afford it, try personal therapy, to help you handle 'issues', because things like these go deep. It is a difficult thing to grow up with deceptive people, it affects one's perception of reality. One needs practice in positive and self-respecting behaviour, not just increased awareness of what is negative. So I support your insight and honesty 100%. Start with always trying being very honest in your communications in a constructive manner, for example, pick up words, lines, phrases, that people you admire use, to tell their truths in a way that was not meant to be offensive. How would they have told/handled that Grandmother when she was negative to your father on his wedding day? By reliving and redacting in our minds (or diaries) we can learn a lot. I absolutely wish you all the best in every respect! I too think Emily has many good points in her videos. There are also many good books, and for example Thomas Gordon on communication has been very effective for me. I've studied his books thoroughly, trying to get rid of patterns I did learn negatively in the family/kin/school setting when I grew up. (Once upon a time I, too, could not take a compliment seriously as in example 3, I was so used to criticism, and sarcasm, and putting down in an inversed way... but I've gotten less self-centered around that, and braver to put up boundaries: like my hubby knows, that I don't like to be teased at all and that I can't "take a joke" - I'm damaged goods in that sense. He can accept that.) An imaginary encouraging hug from a grandmother in Sweden.
Be glad you have/had father figure that played a role in teaching you all that. As you see, not every one has and it is being passed on generation to generation.
Yes, listen to Emily, but also protect yourself. There are plenty of men out there with big red flags, too - not the false accusations by bitter women, but the genuine ones in the F-boys, bad boys and players.
That's a tragedy, and I can only hope you find your happiness. Remember: Communication is king. Being afraid of talking out your problems in a relationship is how you end up unhappy and miserable.
Went on a date from hinge. She showed up not looking even a little bit like her photos, and she had on a ton of make up - and it didn’t look good. I gave her a chance to be cool and get along with me because I was hoping she could salvage with a good personality. At a certain point she described how if we start dating she will eventually go through my things because she’s a snoop. This made me really uncomfortable because my mom would do shit like that and it was so invasive and weird. I don’t even have anything to hide, it’s just creepy and strange.
@GaryH-pw9cm We all gotta learn sooner or later. It's just a shame that it often takes PERSONAL pain and suffering to learn the lesson. Stay strong, bruv
@@GaryH-pw9cm You're not alone, there's even a name for it...The Angel Effect. This is where good looking people get away with shit/bad behavior because we ascribe positive values to their looks while ignoring all they crap they actually do.
@@freespeechisdead202 you're 💯🎯👍.. I fully agree that using any filter makes a woman fake by using a "cheat code" to win a man. My initial comment implied that if women insist on cheating via filters, it's the personality filter that would make her much more attractive than a cosmetic filter.
Coming from a man in mid-50's. My EX, when I met her she was loaded with makeup and the messed up part was, she was very nice looking without makeup. But, that same girl wanted to go at it on the first date, and second, and third and so on. Well, I was 21 and just got out of the military, so I wasn't turning it down. Married a year later, caught her with another dude 6 years later and I filed for divorce. But, a year later I met a 26 yr old that had never been married, no kids, no serious relationships (before dating apps, filters, photo shop) through a meeting ad in the newspaper. We talked a few times on the phone prior to meeting. On the first date, she looked exactly like she had described. She may have had a touch of eyeliner on, no other makeup. My first thought was awesome, she is beautiful and don't think she needs to cover her face 100% with makeup to look good. BTW, many girls look ridiculous covered in makeup! We dated for months, never discussed sex, I did it on purpose, I know how the first date bed hopping turn out! We dated for over 5 months before doing anything. Married 18 months later and now extremely happily married 26 years. She still rarely wears any makeup and I prefer she does not wear any. It's a shame for a beautiful woman to cover her beauty with makeup. I don't know how the young dudes deal with the women on dating apps these days. See videos where women complain about men don't look the same as their app profile, yet they are covering themselves in makeup and using filters, looking like a completely different person, it their mind that's different!
Bit of makeup is ok. It is like wearing nice outfit. Each has its own preference. But nowdays a lot put a literal mask on. And filters on social make it even worse. To further to this, make up is like outfit. You put a nice top on or put a clown suit. Not many want to date clowns 😂
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6 year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
I know I'm old but I'll give you my story. Before the internet we did personal ads in the news paper. A girl called me and we were on the phone talking for 4 and half hours and clicked on everything. We agreed to me and she asked, what if we don't like what we see? I said then say, it was nice talking to you and I wish you the best. Fast forward to the next day. She comes over at noon we are together for 7 hours and now we are married for 28 years
I have this thing of mine I've cultivated for many years now. I call it,, " The Mona Lisa Complex". If you know of this famous piece of artwork, then you know. Is Mona Lisa beautiful?? Maybe a bit 🤏. Stunning?? Obviously not. Compelling,, definitely!! She has an Alure that is almost mesmerizing. That said,, a woman doesn't have to be a 8, 9, or 10. No thanks. But she does have to have that Allure. That little something that pulls your attention. Intelligent, compassionate, empathy and a good bit of cute doesn't hurt. No one is perfect.. Myself included,, and still learning at 65. Take care , G. ✌️
A few years ago, when I was doing the dating app thing (which I no longer do) I agreed to meet this woman in Tucson, AZ. I live in AZ and it was a 2.5 hour drive. When I got to the place where we were to meet, I was a bit early and when the woman showed up she looked nothing like her picture. There was no resemblance. I got up and said to her that she looked nothing like her picture and I left. I never used an app again. These days I have 2 priorities. My peace of mind and my money!
I'm 70, single and divorced since 1989. I guess in some ways I am a hopeless romantic. On the way to this point in my life I have dated several women of various ages over the years and actually considered marrying a couple of them. Fortunately, experience and common sense took charge and I split from them. Long story short, I tell people who think that I'm lonely or try to fix me up with someone they know that I am happy living alone and doing whatever I please when I please and that I don't have the time or patience to deal with dating." When I get bored or lonely, a short trip to the local Walmart and I am ready to come home and stare at the walls or listen to a clock tick. I simply don't have the patience to deal with the nonsense that some women spew. I'm healthy, financially secure and enjoying a drama-free life for a change.
73 here, widowed in 1991 (wife drowned in A pool.) I was not there. I Loved her soo much. In A wheelchair now, but financilly secure, & i'm with you on your points
So a good woman like me is robbed of meeting a truly good man. Feminists and idiot women who don't appreciate men are my worst enemy. I am 62, stable, happy, and looking for a good man. Not to be found. I'll probably die alone because all men will put me in the same basket as these selfish vacuous women.
LOL! I'm 67. I was married to my ex for 30 years. I did everything I could to make it work, but, for her it was a marriage of convenience. Always had been, always would be. It's been 21 months since I divorced her and my best friend keeps pushing me to get out and start dating. He just doesn't get it. I'm fine. I get to sit around playing video games, I go out to eat or a movie when I want to, hell, I actually have money in my account now. I wouldn't mind hooking up now and then, but I have no intention of getting into another relationship any time soon. I like my new found freedom!
Your assessment of "example #3" is spot on. This woman will manipulate you till hell freezes over, if by doing so she can get even the smallest crumb of validation.
The last one ha ha. My wife (at the time) and I were going through a rough time financially and mutually decided not to waste money we didn't have on Valentines I asked multiple times are you sure you're ok with this.. yes. Valentines comes and she is obviously upset, I told her I didn't get her anything because we both decided that and she says "Yes, but I really thought you would anyway" OMG, so now I'm feeling bad, so I had to work that day, but took the day off to drive 1.5 hrs to a jewelry store where they had a necklace I couldn't afford but I knew she wanted (I know I'm an idiot) I get home and apologise, then give her the necklace. She throws it in the garbage and says she doesn't want it because the feelings aren't there, that I only got it because she guilted me into it, not because I really love her. She is my EX now. True Story, women be insane :)
I learned this one very early on. I was 17 or 18, and there were these stuffed monkeys with their arms around each other that my 16 year old girlfriend and I saw at the mall. And she wanted me to buy them for her. Then no, no. It's OK. She doesn't want me to. Except then we get home, and actually she DID want me to. What she didn't want to do was have to TELL me that she wanted them. She wanted to tell me not to buy them for her, but then have me buy them for her anyway. Confusing at the time, but I took the lesson - and fortunately it was a trivial matter - nothing that I could go to jail for.
@@fredhughes4115 I learned it early on too ha ha, I just assumed, marriage, maturity, joint finances and a lengthy discussion would somehow make it different. like I said, I'm an idiot. Turned out for the best though.
@@OldTechNerd Yeah, I get it. It's amazing that that behavior has that kind of staying power. It's understandable that one might just think that the behavior of an older, more mature married woman - under the influence of a real life situation and a lengthy discussion - would have evolved beyond that of a 16 year old schoolgirl, but ...no.
I was very lonely all the time. So I got a stuffed dog and told it to Stay!. Been there for me ever since. Not against women, just against the average American woman who brings drama and hypergamy.
Re: number 2. I worked with a woman. I considered her very pretty. I followed her on Instagram and the person I saw looked very little like the woman I worked with. She was always using a specific filter. I honestly found her real appearance more attractive.
Most are more attractive in real life, pics are almost always really overproduced and cover up little feminine features and quirks that they have no idea are actually a lot more attractive than the porcelain mask they put out there.
You nailed it, Emily. Just put your real self out there from the start. Don't sugar coat anything... your looks... your personality... your finances. If you start off lying from the get go, you paint yourself into a corner where continuing to lie is your only option. You are guaranteeing the relationship will ultimately fail. Why put yourself through the heartache of 99 bad dates hoping to find the one good one. That's far worse than not being approached at all by the wrong women. Put your real self out there. Then the trash will take itself out. Embrace that as a good thing.
My last ex pulled that same crap the last girl pulled. I definitely took me a while to get over the "dazed and confused" as you put it. One of the reasons I've been single for 10 years straight
I remember years ago I was making a move on a woman and she said politely said "No". So I stopped! Then she got mad at me because I stopped. I told her if thats her foreplay, I don't play those type games, because where I'm from No means No. The next occasions the word "No" never came out her mouth again....😂
2) With social media these days the person you meet is very rarely the “image” you see in the screen. I go for energy over looks and there is no way to gauge energy without meeting. Are they scanning the room while we sit, are they listening, are they looking at their phone constantly. These are the type of things that show me she is there to really meet me.
The third video is the worst one. How many decades have men been beaten over the head with "no means no"?! If he had tried something, she could have accused him of SA days, weeks or months after the date and claim she told him no. Don't play games like this
I wouldn't have at my house unless I had a video camera filming us while she was their because she is the one that would accuse you of something to get more attention
I once knew a girl who was a total drunk party girl. She took a guy home from a bar, had some bang bang time, woke up in the morning and regretted it. Called the cops and said she had been graped. The guy did 20 years!!!
To be fair, girl 3 was pretty common years back and guys knew how to handle them. I certainly wouldn’t have had any problem with her... that was a hand job for sure.. and then she’s left frustrated, so next time she’s a dead cert. Guys, you need to up your game.. don’t be feminised with the “no means no” bull. “No” means “no... but keep trying...”😂
The dont try anything girl would have been an instant do not pass go flag. Dont even waste your time. Women love sex (good sex) as much as any man but that qualifier on how hard are you going to work for it is a no go.
On the third example... Ladies, how are men supposed to handle this?! Seriously! The guy didn’t even reject her in any way at all. He abides by her wishes (not sleeping together), then she’s upset that he didn’t try so she makes him out to be the bad guy. Very much a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation. This is the stuff that men hear about and decide to not even bother with women any more...
HOW CAN FEMALES TRUST THEM SELVES WHEN THEY ADMIT TO LYING FOR FEMALE GAMESWOMAN SHITS? EVOLUTION EXPRESSES FEMALE HUMAN REALITIES IN TERM -ELIMINITING SURFACE ATTRACTIVENESS.
She didn't want him, she's messed up. We're just people at the end of the day, but setting such a clear a boundary and then acting differently is dangerous for him and her when they're in an obvious location for sex.
I haven't gotten to that example yet, but a pre-emptive comment (I'll add another if my thoughts change after seeing the third example). As a woman, if i say that I just want to snuggle, then that is what I should expect. If it changes from that, it's 100% in me to be direct in what I want from there. Don't change the action from the last consentual action and immediately stop if she says to. Any female that respects you as an individual won't get upset when you do precisely what she asks. If she does, walk away since it isn't worth it. And the obligatory: The same goes if the roles were reversed.
Update: 100% walk away from someone like this. They need to work on loving themselves before putting themselves out there for someone else. If you do this, please be kind to not only her, but yourself too.
It is called "playing hard to get" and was totally normal before Feminism hit mankind. Now it is dangerous to play this game as a man bc jail might easily be your future.
Absolutely spot on!!! Listen up guys, I'm 57, I have been married to my soulmate for 31 years. All 3 of these analyses are spot on. I went thru these types of dates years ago and this is still the same song and dance, just a different setting that it takes place in.
Number three... so common unfortunately. In my previous experience of dating over several years I would say about 20% or more of the women I met did this exact type of thing. It was especially noticeable from women who were used to being regarded as beautiful and attractive. If they stated their boundaries around sex and I respected them (as I always do), they were often highly offended and in a few cases this was the explicitly stated reason that they didn't want to continue with me. I got used to it after a while, but still always respected their stated boundaries anyway. Better to be a gentleman and not "get the girl" than to abdicate one's humanity for the sake of short-term validation and weird games.
@@BryceShamwow Was definitely being conservative, thinking about it more I observe that the more they had been told by men that they were beautiful / hot etc (ie the more they looked like a runway model) the more likely that this would happen. And, yes, staying out of jail is a useful thing :) After a few times I really wanted to let them know how they were filtering in the worst kind of men, while filtering out the best kind of men with this tactic - but never did in case I came across as jaded, defensive etc, so just let it go and try to find people who don't do weird stuff...
Hell yeah. It should be subtle enough that you don't notice it but accentuates her own beauty. Too much make up and it can start to look a bit clownish.
Zero tats. Simple single-piercing per ear, no piercings anywhere else at all. Simple necklace. Zero hair coloring. Tasteful classic feminine hairstyle. No fake lashes. No fake brows. In other words, protect and take care of your natural beauty. Put that beauty on display, not mask it, not deck it with distraction.
I met a girl like number 3 a few months ago. I am not a mind reader...we lasted a month or so. Learnt some valuable lessons for both of us. Keep up the good work ❤❤❤
So, when I finalized my divorce last year, I took 3-4 months to find myself and rebuild my self-esteem. There was 1 girl at my work that we had been friends with for 5 years and I always had an attraction to just never acted on anything as I was married, happy or not I respected the vows I took. I asked her out, she said yes, I took her on a date and I know what I want in life at 38 y/o. I asked her right away about kids, political views, financial goals, etc… we agree on literally every core and common core value. Since then almost a year ago into our relationship and it has been the most amazing time of my life and hers. We’ve discussed marriage, buying a home afterwards, kids, and although that is all the goals we aren’t in a rush. We enjoy building our life together. I’ve never been happier. Ever.
When I was younger, my go to date to see if a woman was confident about being with me was to take her camping. If the young lady wouldn’t let me see her until she was fully made up, I didn’t see her beyond that date. If she kept her looks more natural, it made her much more beautiful in my eyes. To this day, I tell my wife of over 40 years that I think she’s beautiful without any make up on. Why? Because she is.
I really liked all three videos, and the points drawn from them. About the third girl, when she says, “I feel ugly”, I would respond with, “Yes, and that's good, because you ARE ugly-ugly on the inside where you think no one sees. But now that you have revealed yourself, the only question is, will you double down on the hiding, or begin seeking and working to develop INNER beauty?”
I like the second woman's personality and how she rolls with the punches. I hope she's honest when she says she got humbled about the filters. She could be a good catch, but catfishing is holding her back.
The last one drives me a bit nuts. We all know there's this game where No might mean Yes, or it might not. Making the wrong move in this game can ruin a man's life. Nope. Here, ladies, is the result of Me Too.
@@Saavik256 I am in Australia and it much the same here. There is channel called "Hoe_math" where he does an extended analysis of this video. His conclusion was if you guess one way, you get unsatisfactory sex with a person who it's best to forget. He said that if you get the guess wrong, "you have ruined the rest of your life." He finished by saying that being called "gay" is really not a problem. Have a really lovely day.
These videos keep on validating the reasons why I don’t bother doing dating until further notice. I decided to take a break five years ago. I’m so glad I’m not in the dating game because the types of women in these three sample videos are pretty much the ones that I had been dealing with.
I like the second girl’s attitude. She’s not giving him crap for rejecting her; she realizes that this does happen sometimes. She probably needs to be more honest with her pictures though. I have used a filter just a couple of times and I did it for fun. When I posted the pics on Facebook I said they were filtered. They had quite a bit more makeup than I would personally use but they did look nice. Those filters can give you ideas for makeup techniques and such but to use filters constantly is ridiculous.
PUTTING YOU BEST FOOT FOREWARD IS STANDARD FEMINE LYING? #2 PUT HER FOOT IN HER MOUTH, AND MAYBE HAVE "SAVED" THEIR TOGETHER TIMES IF: SHE COULD SELF ADMIT TO HIM HER INSECURITIES OF SELF DOUBTS? NA!
Here is a funny story. I am an older man, but everyone says I look much younger than I am. My woman says she is robbing the cradle when I dye my beard. Before I met her, I decided to put some foundation on just to see how much of a difference it would make. I was astonished. Just foundation made me look like I was in my early 30's. So, being a bit devious, I took a face pic and posted it on my dating profile. I got a ton of matches, and immediately, women were either saying I was using an old picture or I was lying about my age. I just laughed. I even met a couple of the women and they just couldn't believe how young I looked. So I fessed up and told them I was wearing foundation. They actually got mad but I just laughed and asked them how does it feel to be deceived?
@@RobChurch-s6s Yeah women do that every single day. I don't like foundation but thankfully at 58 years old my skin doesn't need it. But most women do wear foundation and think nothing of it. How can it be different for you?
@@AngelaVEdwards I wish someone could have been there on the two dates I went on with foundation on. There reaction was like I had taken away their birthday or something. They were really mad. I am still laughing about it.
You should have seen the rest of the video. Video #2 woman is a deceiver. I'm not sure why Emily cut it short, but as it, it seems innocuous. The woman is a fraud and makes excuses.
I don't date any longer, and it's been so long since I've even had a date, that I don't ever think about it. But honestly, if a woman is using a filter to enhance her appearance, I consider that person to be disingenuous, and potentially duplicitous.
11:40 nonononono ... she wanted him to cross her very clear and explicit line in the sand which wouldn't set him up for REJECTION .. it would set him up for SA accusaitions which could ruin his life
She wants a linguini-spined man. That's the only kind of man that will ever stay with her. She has no interest in him; she wants someone she has complete power over. He won't respect her or love her; he does what she wants out of fear. He'll give up on ever having what he wants, and will live a miserable life with zero self esteem. She'll cheat on him, and eventually leave him -- and blame him for it.
The third one was literally saying she wanted him to force himself on her so she could be mad at him and tell him off (or call the cops) and she was angry that he didn’t do it. Ladies when men thought “no” means “yes” it is these women that did it. You have to get women like this on side because men like honesty and clear lines.
My wife had a friend over to our home in California (cc: 1983). My wife was busy in another part of the house. So, her "friend" (from Texas) made a pass at me. She was not prepared for my response, which was: "leave our home, NOW!!" My point is this: woman are, and have been, and (probably) always will be: untrustworthy. As far back as Eve (in the garden of Eden), women have been scheming and plotting to assume power in any and every relationship with a man.
7:30 she’s lying if she says she doesn’t look that different. There’s a reason she uses all these filters and it’s because she doesn’t like how she looks without them.
Spot on and thank you for the insight Emily 💕 very helpful even as good reminders on both sides of the fence. And what you pointed out limits the amount of drama and strengthens a relationship
That last girl is dangerous. A young guy might be drawn in by her insecurities. But going back to his place means one thing: Sex. But there's a serious communication problem there. If the woman goes back to your place and then changes her mind, a man has to respect that, but she's putting herself in a physically dangerous position for herself. I mean, she's blaming the guy for not validating her, but she was in a potentially way more dangerous position by doing what she did. Poor judgment shown by both parties.
A girl going with a guy back to his place after a date does not automatically mean sex. Thoughts like that are the root of the erroneous idea that men only care about sex, but considering your handle I'm not surprised you think this outlanding, outdated idea.
@@devonm042690 The girl can change her mind at any time, but it's an indicator that sex will take place. If you rule out having sex with a girl, then don't take her back to your place, simple. But, be honest with yourself and her and keep the communication good. It has nothing to do with the idea that men only want sex, I don't know how you've come to that conclusion from what I've said.
I have learnt a great deal, especially the first one; been there and will definitely do the straight off rejection as have been down the rocky road that comes after
2. He saw her not only without skin tone and smoothness filters, but her IRL looks (which could sometime drastically differ from photo/video), and in different illumination. So we can't see what he saw. Even fiter removes 5+ year from her looks. He could, literally, saw his mom in her face.
She simply didn't look as good as he wanted her to look. She dodged a bullet, cause that guy was extremely rude and wil leave any woman that ages, goes through menopauze, gets health issues etc. cause he didn't give a shit about her personality or her feelings. And she took it extremely well. She looks fine. Seems easy going, not resentful, no drama and with a positive outlook on life. Good for her that guy showed his true colors within 5 seconds. If she would have looked way better than her pictures he wouldn't have felt mislead one bit.
I think the point about having unfiltered photos is more important than woman realize. From my male perspective attractiveness is multi layered and is beyond physical only. There is an old song that has the "If you want to happy make an ugly woman your wife", the idea of real beauty is internal not external.
Being an amateur photographer, I just filter out the filters/photoshop in my head, as well as the makeup. Then I can imagine what she looks like. If you study photos and take good looks at people, you'll figure it out. It's a learnable skill.
@@svr5423not for us who dont know what filters are capable of. Some are so good that it literally changes you to another person. To figure out the real would need to substitute for multiple ppl. Ill pass off the bat. 😅 Just the need to use filters on every photo is enough
What a great guide for young men! I wish this sort of advice was around when I was a younger man. In this modern era though it's even more pronounced/worrying. This video needs to be shared with as many young men as possible especially the third example!!
Number 3 is a nut case. She tells him No up front, but secretly wants him to try? Try what? You told him No. She needs something tatoo'd on her forehead like "player"? Geeze, why the crazy act? Women are best avoided these days as you have no idea what craziness they might pull. So glad I am past all this.
This behaviour is as old as dating itself. Maybe these days it's often seen as strange, but 30+ years ago it was almost a rule. The woman was expected to resist the man's advances and indignantly decline all his attempts to initiate sex (for the 1st time, at least). The man was expected to coerce and pressure her, sometimes even to use a little force in order to overcome her ritualistic resistance. Most of the time, it was merely a game on the woman's part (if not, it was often hard to determine). If a woman refused to play this game altogether, she was deemed easy and untrustworthy.
I had a girl that I had talked to that came over one night . She told me I " had to behave " if she was going to come over . I was like OK , cool . She came over , we hung out , it was fun . But I didn't try anything . We didn't talk for a couple days , so I messaged her and she was snippy with me . I asked what her issue was and she was like " I'm pissed because you didn't try anything the other night " . BECAUSE YOU ASKED ME TO BEHAVE , SO I DID ! She asked when we could get together again and I told her I wasn't interested . And I flat out told her why . I'm not interested in playing games . You're an adult . Speak your mind . Be honest and straightforward . Because that's EXACTLY what I'm going to do and it's what I expect in return . She had already proven to me that a relationship with her would be a constant game of " what am I thinking " and I have no interest in it .
1000%
If you are looking for a long-lasting relationship communication is the key.
If you don't have that, then all the other stuff doesn't matter.
❤read my post about #3 you would have been miserable with her
My man!
Hilarious story
My wife told me when we first started dating all those years ago that she didn't like cut flowers. So I didn't give her any. Thank goodness she was being honest. Eventually she realized there were situations where she would appreciate receiving those flowers. So she defined them for me at a time when we were just sitting and talking. This is what real communication looks like and it totally works.
my wife told me she was a virgin,she lied thank god
@@dethray1000 Why are you glad that your wife lied to you about being a virgin?
@@purelightapologetics4930 i have no solutions for how you get all the knots out of your panties,sounds insufferable--i could say a lot about apologetics but won't...ugh
So, on those cut flowers. is it because they're going to die soon even if you put them in water. Because I'm the guy would have brought the hole plotted plant so she can enjoy the full life cycle of the plant. Because that's a memory she can fully savor.
@@mrt5187 Yep that was it exactly. So that's the kind of flowers I normally got her. They all eventually died, but she enjoyed them much longer.
#3) Some women don't seem to understand that men can go TO PRISON based solely on an accusation of sexual assault. And it can ruin their life in other ways too. She said no so if he "tries", he is risking his freedom, but she wants him to do that simply to validate her ego. Doesn't get much more selfish than that.
They don’t care because it’s like a game to them.
@@richparise5753 if they had to deal with repercussions of false accusations, that shit would drop REAL fast
That woman is a terrible "comedian" I went to her IG to tell her. "Hoe Math" said her name.
I sadly couldn't agree more. I lost the count of how many women said "No" when I suggested to go to my place, to then receive a text message later in the night saying, "You should have been pushy". Sorry, "No" means No, and food in jail tastes horrible
People like this NEED TO BE "ON A LIST" ...
When my husband and I met almost 27 years ago, we had the discussion about not buying flowers because they are a waste of money, and I was floored when a few months later, he brought me a freshly picked bouquet of wildflowers/herb/weeds on his way over to have dinner with me after work.
I was so touched, especially when he said to me: “I could hardly wait for spring to come so I could pick these for you.”
Every once in a while he will buy flowers for me in the winter (we live in Alaska and it’s a looooong winter), but I still love the wildflowers the best. He just left for work for 15 days in the backcountry and he had left a fresh picked weed/grass/flower bouquet sitting next to the bed when I got home from work. It’s already dead now, but it’s still there because he is gone, and it reminds me of the man I fell in love with when we were younger, and I LOVE him so
much more today!
When are women going to learn that "No" means "No"?
Not until they get equal consequences
#DizzleDizzle my bruh...
haha, good one.
If I’m not mistaken, someone looked into #3’s social media and supposedly she’s a comedian and her video was a skit. Not sure if it’s true, but shiddy none the less.
@@gwall1789 also not funny. Women like that and mixed messages endanger other women. I mean I have a concern about that too that if women like that are too prevalent and men can't trust clear communication then men could potentially cross a line and then a woman is hurt or something. I mean I doubt men will get violent or forceful but they could not pick up that this no really means no and make a woman feel unsafe and I wouldn't want that. I wager most men don't want that. We want to be wanted back and to receive enthusiastic consent and maybe a bit of hawk tuah as well. 🤣 But we want to be wanted back as much or even more than we want. You know?
But yeah it's not funny and causes problems for all of us.
Putting out "filtered" pics and videos is DISHONEST. That is a BIG red flag.
Wait! It has been pounded into us that "No means no" and now we realize it means "I want you to try so I can tell you no again." Run away, run away.
not exactly, "no" means whatever the person using it wants it to mean, so sometimes it will mean no, sometimes it will mean yes, sometimes it will even mean maybe or even something else entirely, but the fact that you can't know out of the bat means that you either have to confront that person about that or just leave them be(without you, that is)
@@San-lh8us And that is what makes that kind of person so dangerous. The best thing is to leave them be; they cannot understand that they are sending mixed messages or full well know they are as part of some weird game.
@@gabem6863 the problem is that not always they are so upfront from the scratch, you often only discover what type of people they really are after a few months of seeing them every day
@@San-lh8us What's the point of language anymore if words mean whatever the speaker wants them to mean? We might as well be chirping like chimps.
@@devonm042690 i'm not saying that is how it should be, just explaining that that's how it is. I agree with you, if that happens then using human languages becomes kinda pointless
With example #2, what would irritate me isn’t necessarily her looks, but the deception.
That and I would like to see the actual photos of her on her social media. I have a suspicion that it is far more than she is making it out to be.
Yes. I think Emily missed the real problem here. Not the lack of attraction, but the deception.
Story Two: The woman is not un-attractive. No, not for me, I'm not attracted to her, she's not my type, but she is attractive. I agree, It is the Deception, it is the Lie, because that's exactly what makeup is and what filters definitely are.
Using filters and/or makeup, are you showing to the world that you're one thing, and then in reality are something Completely Different.
@@pendraggon4080 I think it depends on how heavy the makeup is. If it makes you look like a totally different person, than it is a lie. If you look basically the same without makeup, then it is alright. The filters do far more than the makeup especially if they are in constant use. You can tell how high maintenance and conceited a woman is by the makeup and usage of filters that they use though. If every image has a filter on it, they are quite vain. I dated a woman that did the filter thing and everything went great until a friend introduced her to a more attractive guy and she immediately dropped me. This is the issue. If they are that worried about looks, you might not measure up to the next guy. They are also attention hounds.
@@pendraggon4080
She's not attractive...
When their vanity is greater than their honesty, a relationship is impossible.
Narcissism is highly toxis and her being that way can put you in jail.
That rules out most women, considering they have sky high vanity and rock bottom honesty.
@@Thor-Orion Correct. Be very selective.
@@Thor-Orionwelcome to modern feminist society, they've been told since birth how amazing and special and better than everyone else they are, hard not to get an ego when everyone's telling you you're the best thing ever
@@Green__one I must be the exception then. I know a bunch of my friends are also straight up honest & would only want to be loved for their true selves. One of the things people who know me say is that I am real & down to earth.
Had been with girlfriend for almost a year when she got pissy over something that wasn’t that deep. When I asked, “After I’m done, should I come over?” “NO!”
So, I didn’t. She called me later and asked why i didn’t come over. I told her because she said not to do so. She said, “But, I wanted you to come and fight for me, like a knight…”
I told her this was real life, not a fantasy, and, now, not Agincourt, and if you say no, I take that as no.
Remember men, if it's not an absolute yes, it's a no. That last girl set him up for potential grape charges. NEVER play their mind games.
Potential? She was setting the trap.
A lot of colleges/universities no longer teach "No means no" and have switched to "Only Yes means yes" (a verbal yes). At first, it sounds dumb, but it eliminates any possibility of misunderstanding. No man can say, "but she was being seductive" and it leaves no loophole for if she's unconscious, too drunk to respond, roofied, etc.
That’s including if you’re in a sexless relationship, she keeps saying no it also means no at that point trying to get a divorce
Modern culture has embraced victimhood; seems especially true of young single women, unfortunately.
Even if it's a yes, they may change their minds to no halfway through then say you graped them. It's starting to seem like men need a signed consent form and a recording of the woman signing the consent form in case they change their mind.
Third one is a huge red flag. If he would tried more she would have accused him of S/A & his life would be over . Love your videos Emily.
Emily, More seriously, that third lady did something more dangerous for the man than you realize. What you said is true, but he also could have been charged with grape or SA if he tried something and then she 'consented' and then later because she 'didnt want to' initially she could accuse him. this woman is very very dangerous.
Fact is you could be charged for not doing anything. When the girl really wants you to, but, says no it really pisses them off if you don't go for it. It's not uncommon for girls to file s/a or rape for that reason.
Tells you not to get flowers then is angry that you didn't. Damn, that hit home. I've lived through almost exactly that. Never again.
First time I meet my wife 43 years ago. She was wearing sneakers, no makeup, and overalls. Most beautiful women I saw. Still see her that way
From time to time, my wife wakes up and looks like a dump truck, but that's okay to me. She's all mine. I don't even want to imagine what she sees when I get up. I avoid looking in the mirror when I head to the bathroom, so I'm just thankful she'll even want to be SEEN with me.
why are you here? lol
@@PremiumUserUltra Did your dad not give you the birds and the bees talk? There's only one way any of us are here.
I love that.
Good for you. A woman's smile is more important than implants,
I am very thankful to all of the girls who have rejected me because they have saved me time and years
The third woman wants all the power to reject a man. Her insecurities are raging.
She could of got that from the get go. But nope, gotta go for the gold, gotta get in there real deep and then try to pull the shenanigans, good thing it back fired. Now she can get the full resentment for herself for doing something real dumb.
Lol or the next day they say you could have had me last night. Get ..the F out... Best words said ever
Yes, ugg !
I ran into this type back when I was 19. I drove truck and had an over night stay on this run, asked type 3 if she wanted to ride along. She said fine but I'm not sleeping with you... "fine, no problem". Next morning she was all pissed off. Come to find out that she was pissed because I didn't try anything.... Made for a LONG QUIET RIDE back home when the delivery was over with.
The push and pull right away (accusation forcing you into the "playful" yet self-deceptive Defensive stance) is not deceptive. It's abusive. It is a pattern and people should (and she probably does) say what they mean and mean what they say == honesty. THAT is what she has in her mind. Like Emily said, it is due to trauma and SHE brought it in the relationships. Once again: That is abusive.. not playful nor pleasant. She perceives it as such because she is chaos. A toddler whose never had a Dad. His response was clean and it's distressing to see how a simple compliment is turned down just cuz her mind is so sh_t. Men dont get compliments so get lost _du m bo.
In terms of the third video, I knew a guy that went home with a girl back to her apartment and she told him not to try anything. He went to sleep in her living room. She said for him to come to the bedroom. In the bedroom, he goes to get the sleeping bag, but she wants him to sleep in her bed with her, but not to try anything. The next day the girl was in tears and upset with him because, "you could've had me" according to her. That's called risking a legal problem. That's what this third girl reminded me about.
As soon as she said "...but don't try anything", he should have said "OK, I'll call you tomorrow," and left. Period. Let her stew on that.
@@MrFox-rf3cu Amen
Must be a Youth of Today thing.. back when I was a lad, guys could handle this situation by intuition. Gen-X.. the Chad generation. 😂
Back when I was a lad, we didn't go to jail if our intuition was wrong. The stakes are higher, and the margin for error is lower to accommodate unclear behavior.
@minot.8931 Chad generation, lol. You are literally forgotten in any talks of generations. It goes Boomer skips your ass and goes straight to Millenials. You're who zoomers think of as boomers. Gen X make some great music, that's for the 90s. But sorry guys, yall got left a the bus stop. It's old people holding wealth, millenials eating avocado toast, and zoomer being sucked in a screen. Sorry latchkey gen, that didn't have the staying power.
Ladies, here is some old man wisdom for you.
Video 1 -PLEASE, accept compliments graciously. Rejecting a compliment is like rejecting the man who gave it.
Video 2 - Men are not as picky about looks as you think. Most men are realists, and we know you have flaws, and will be really ugly some day. We are fine with that. What we are NOT okay with is deception or being insecure or high maintenance. Again, this is because we are realists.
Video 3 - Men are people, not props for your ego. Moreover, good men are kind, self-disciplined, and want to protect you. That man resisted this woman's charms WHILE CUDDLING WITH HER because he was protecting her from both his urges and hers. There are still a lot of men with honor. Don't ever disrespect or discourage that level of kindness and care. That man is a hero your dad would pick to be your husband.
AN EVOLVED MOVIE STARRED SELF ADDICTIONS OF SKIN-SURFACED INDUSTRY SOLD MYTHOLOGIES OF BEAUUUUBUTTIES. FRECKLES ARE GENUINE FOR "TOM-BOY REALITIES OF PARTNERSHIP'S POSSIBILITIES!"
Agree with your explanation on the first one more than that of Emily. She largely gets the gist , buy yours is more on point.The second one is even more accurate. I think she misses the explanation by an even larger margin.
@@georgedunkelberg5004human imprefection generates the world of indiviuality.
@@kevinerbs2778 I think that is remarkably well said. Thanks.
Nailed it, Marcus!
I dated example number 3, we cuddled and such, kept it casual, then, I went to a movie with her and some of her friends. We went for coffee after and I chatted with her friends. A few days later she told me that one of her friends was gay and he liked me. When I told her I am not into men, therefore wasn't interested in her friend she got mad. I dodged a bullet.
Number 3 feels ugly because he respected her boundaries 😂😂😂 Psycho 😂
"psycho". Boom, you hit the nail on the head. I don't mean the "stab you in the shower" psycho from films but the genuine medical definition of someone that doesn't have empathy for others. She doesn't see that guy as a person who has feelings and opinions and respect. She just sees him as a tool to affect her own mood and idea of self worth.
Women like to be degraded and dominated.
If more boys knew this, they could become men faster.
PS: Not in a hostile way.
@@alexhanson6577It's scary to think about when you lay it all out like that LOL but you're spot on.
God, I am so glad that i am not a young guy in this current environment. It was always similar but social media has made women Even more narcissistic or insecure
She also maybe wanted an excuse to say he graped her, so she would have dirt on him and the ability to bring up charges later in life. I've seen that happen twice.
Your comments on the first one were a real eye opener for me, in the fact that you showed me areas I need to work on. I find it extremely difficult to find value in myself and to accept compliments. While I don't find it disingenuous when people pay me compliments, I just find it extremely difficult to be accepting of them. Thank you ❤.
I am grateful to every female that rejected me because of my height and thinning hair! Because their attitude let me be free to find my drop dead gorgeous model wife, who I've been married to for over 26 years. And I'm a recording artist which was not the case over 26 years ago. My now wife, loved me and accepted me and she now gets to enjoy the good stuff!
That is the best feeling ever knowing this person loves me what ever come what may, and 100% what it’s all about.
I have a friend from high school that was a model,
Who is happily married now for many years.
Stories I heard from her mom is she dressed down and no make up with sweatpants ,for her first dates because she didn’t want to be recognized.
Nice! Congrats on finding happiness.
My husband's hair was thinning and he had a receding hair line when we first started dating. Some women found that unattractive. Their loss and my gain. He is the most wonderful man and has the best personality and attitude. And when he started shaving his head, my physical attraction for him increased. He looks hot as a completely bald man!
I remember thinning hair. I was 12. Only shallow people care about your hair line.
Great video! My father gave each of his five sons the same advice. "Marry someone who would do well on a wagon train." Our mother was a beautiful lady who avoided makeup like the plague. She instilled this thinking into our three sisters. So simple.
You cannot get upset if you get rejected after using a filter online. Using a filter is essentially lying.
how is it different from makeup?
@@0biwan7 Most women won't show themselves in heavy makeup then show up with no makeup. And, makeup is physically real when filters are literally fake.
@@0biwan7 it isnt
thats also lying and you shouldnt do it
@@0biwan7Makeup can change a woman, but a filter is fraud.
@@0biwan7 - 0ne reaches earlier & makes up where the Other0ne fails to makeup enough in it's makeup. 😀
"Get Out" LMAO That guy is my New Hero! 😂🤣👊
This guy was really good and did not waste any time. Better to find out now than later.
Girl is insanely rude: haha girl boss
Guy: I'm not playing that game, get out
Girl: wow that's roode, me is victim
Me call police 😂
Me call police 😂
@@L6901Malice Me Grimock not feel sorry, me Grimlock laugh.
Me offended me call police😂
Thinking back to myself 20 years ago, On number 2, I'd probably have gone through the date after the honest entrance. One of the best dates I've ever had was with a beautiful girl named Tracy. We realized in the first 1 minute it wasn't gonna be worth a "date" thing. Went to dinner and a movie as friends, and she became one of the best friends and resources I had for several years. I got to take pictures for them at their wedding, and never regret that "blind date" as a freshman in college.
We were absolutely incompatible as partners. But spending those few hours just chatting and connecting as humans made a life-long bond that was worth forging.
Take-away: be human, be real.
I had a similar encounter and we have remained friends 20+ years. This woman (I say that with the utmost respect) taught me the value of returning something you borrow in better shape than when you received it. We have also cried together and laughed over various ‘partners’ along the way. She is happily married with children and lives on the other coast. When in town, her husband and I enjoy hanging out while she visits her family. It all goes back to we respected each other and had honest expectations when we met for that first date. And after seeing that we had different aspirations we didn’t throw the relationship in the garbage, we recycled it into something of value.
Thank you for these videos. I am a female (19) who doesn’t have a good mother role model when it comes to marriages. My mother has been divorced 2 times and is on her 3rd marriage. I am a child from the first marriage and her second kid. She (my mother) is a cheater. My grandmother on my mom side is a cheater. On the marriage day for my mom and dad my grandmother told my mom that “If He(my dad) doesn’t make her happy she can always get a divorce.” This was in-front of my father. My parents were married for 10 years and I have been told of my moms cheating, gaslighting, and manipulation (I have also witnessed it.) So thank you, I have been debating dating but I want to date for the goal of marriage. These videos have helped educate and explain things that my mother refuses to and my father has tried to.
Best of luck to you, @Onanewjob! As a man, I say: Listen to Emily -- she is right 99.9% of the time in what she says.
Yes, you are doing great, trying to compensate for what you didn't get as a maternal tradition. It is a great step forward to decide that bad heritage stops with you. As soon as you can afford it, try personal therapy, to help you handle 'issues', because things like these go deep. It is a difficult thing to grow up with deceptive people, it affects one's perception of reality. One needs practice in positive and self-respecting behaviour, not just increased awareness of what is negative. So I support your insight and honesty 100%. Start with always trying being very honest in your communications in a constructive manner, for example, pick up words, lines, phrases, that people you admire use, to tell their truths in a way that was not meant to be offensive. How would they have told/handled that Grandmother when she was negative to your father on his wedding day? By reliving and redacting in our minds (or diaries) we can learn a lot. I absolutely wish you all the best in every respect! I too think Emily has many good points in her videos. There are also many good books, and for example Thomas Gordon on communication has been very effective for me. I've studied his books thoroughly, trying to get rid of patterns I did learn negatively in the family/kin/school setting when I grew up. (Once upon a time I, too, could not take a compliment seriously as in example 3, I was so used to criticism, and sarcasm, and putting down in an inversed way... but I've gotten less self-centered around that, and braver to put up boundaries: like my hubby knows, that I don't like to be teased at all and that I can't "take a joke" - I'm damaged goods in that sense. He can accept that.) An imaginary encouraging hug from a grandmother in Sweden.
Be glad you have/had father figure that played a role in teaching you all that. As you see, not every one has and it is being passed on generation to generation.
Yes, listen to Emily, but also protect yourself. There are plenty of men out there with big red flags, too - not the false accusations by bitter women, but the genuine ones in the F-boys, bad boys and players.
That's a tragedy, and I can only hope you find your happiness. Remember: Communication is king. Being afraid of talking out your problems in a relationship is how you end up unhappy and miserable.
Went on a date from hinge. She showed up not looking even a little bit like her photos, and she had on a ton of make up - and it didn’t look good. I gave her a chance to be cool and get along with me because I was hoping she could salvage with a good personality. At a certain point she described how if we start dating she will eventually go through my things because she’s a snoop. This made me really uncomfortable because my mom would do shit like that and it was so invasive and weird. I don’t even have anything to hide, it’s just creepy and strange.
The third girl doesn't know she is "ugly" on the inside.
That word didn't need quotes, TBH
My Ex-wife was like that. Pretty on the outside but ugly on the inside.
I was blinded by her beauty. Dummy me.
@GaryH-pw9cm We all gotta learn sooner or later. It's just a shame that it often takes PERSONAL pain and suffering to learn the lesson. Stay strong, bruv
That's ridiculous. She's insecure. You have a low threshold for "ugly."
@@GaryH-pw9cm You're not alone, there's even a name for it...The Angel Effect. This is where good looking people get away with shit/bad behavior because we ascribe positive values to their looks while ignoring all they crap they actually do.
Instead of "beauty"filters, they should use"personality" filters.
Average looks with a great personality is what makes a woman beautiful and a keeper.
But its still a filter meaning their personality is fake. Any type of filter is just the same as a cheat code in a game. It makes it easier to win.
@@freespeechisdead202 you're 💯🎯👍.. I fully agree that using any filter makes a woman fake by using a "cheat code" to win a man.
My initial comment implied that if women insist on cheating via filters, it's the personality filter that would make her much more attractive than a cosmetic filter.
Coming from a man in mid-50's.
My EX, when I met her she was loaded with makeup and the messed up part was, she was very nice looking without makeup. But, that same girl wanted to go at it on the first date, and second, and third and so on. Well, I was 21 and just got out of the military, so I wasn't turning it down. Married a year later, caught her with another dude 6 years later and I filed for divorce.
But, a year later I met a 26 yr old that had never been married, no kids, no serious relationships (before dating apps, filters, photo shop) through a meeting ad in the newspaper. We talked a few times on the phone prior to meeting. On the first date, she looked exactly like she had described. She may have had a touch of eyeliner on, no other makeup. My first thought was awesome, she is beautiful and don't think she needs to cover her face 100% with makeup to look good. BTW, many girls look ridiculous covered in makeup!
We dated for months, never discussed sex, I did it on purpose, I know how the first date bed hopping turn out! We dated for over 5 months before doing anything. Married 18 months later and now extremely happily married 26 years. She still rarely wears any makeup and I prefer she does not wear any. It's a shame for a beautiful woman to cover her beauty with makeup.
I don't know how the young dudes deal with the women on dating apps these days. See videos where women complain about men don't look the same as their app profile, yet they are covering themselves in makeup and using filters, looking like a completely different person, it their mind that's different!
Bit of makeup is ok. It is like wearing nice outfit. Each has its own preference. But nowdays a lot put a literal mask on. And filters on social make it even worse.
To further to this, make up is like outfit. You put a nice top on or put a clown suit. Not many want to date clowns 😂
"...in their mind that's different." That's chick logic for you!
That last girl is precisely the kind of girl that gets guys put in jail for grape just to not be embarrassed.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6 year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this valuable information.
psychhacks has a great video about dealing with hearbreak. it might help.
I know I'm old but I'll give you my story. Before the internet we did personal ads in the news paper. A girl called me and we were on the phone talking for 4 and half hours and clicked on everything. We agreed to me and she asked, what if we don't like what we see? I said then say, it was nice talking to you and I wish you the best. Fast forward to the next day. She comes over at noon we are together for 7 hours and now we are married for 28 years
THAT WAS HUMAN CONNECTION MORE THAN PHONE DEEP!
Connecting on mental level with me actually comes before physical attraction.
I have this thing of mine I've cultivated for many years now.
I call it,, " The Mona Lisa Complex".
If you know of this famous piece of artwork, then you know.
Is Mona Lisa beautiful?? Maybe a bit 🤏.
Stunning?? Obviously not.
Compelling,, definitely!!
She has an Alure that is almost mesmerizing.
That said,, a woman doesn't have to be a 8, 9, or 10.
No thanks.
But she does have to have that Allure. That little something that pulls your attention.
Intelligent, compassionate, empathy and a good bit of cute doesn't hurt.
No one is perfect..
Myself included,, and still learning at 65.
Take care , G. ✌️
@@kevinerbs2778physical pass. Mental lasts.
If you like pina colada getting caught in the rain! That song hit me when I read your post.😂
A few years ago, when I was doing the dating app thing (which I no longer do) I agreed to meet this woman in Tucson, AZ. I live in AZ and it was a 2.5 hour drive. When I got to the place where we were to meet, I was a bit early and when the woman showed up she looked nothing like her picture. There was no resemblance. I got up and said to her that she looked nothing like her picture and I left. I never used an app again. These days I have 2 priorities. My peace of mind and my money!
I'm 70, single and divorced since 1989. I guess in some ways I am a hopeless romantic. On the way to this point in my life I have dated several women of various ages over the years and actually considered marrying a couple of them. Fortunately, experience and common sense took charge and I split from them. Long story short, I tell people who think that I'm lonely or try to fix me up with someone they know that I am happy living alone and doing whatever I please when I please and that I don't have the time or patience to deal with dating." When I get bored or lonely, a short trip to the local Walmart and I am ready to come home and stare at the walls or listen to a clock tick. I simply don't have the patience to deal with the nonsense that some women spew. I'm healthy, financially secure and enjoying a drama-free life for a change.
73 here, widowed in 1991 (wife drowned in A pool.) I was not there. I Loved her soo much. In A wheelchair now, but financilly secure, & i'm with you on your points
So a good woman like me is robbed of meeting a truly good man. Feminists and idiot women who don't appreciate men are my worst enemy. I am 62, stable, happy, and looking for a good man. Not to be found. I'll probably die alone because all men will put me in the same basket as these selfish vacuous women.
@@GumbyPW So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you went through.
LOL! I'm 67. I was married to my ex for 30 years. I did everything I could to make it work, but, for her it was a marriage of convenience. Always had been, always would be. It's been 21 months since I divorced her and my best friend keeps pushing me to get out and start dating. He just doesn't get it. I'm fine. I get to sit around playing video games, I go out to eat or a movie when I want to, hell, I actually have money in my account now. I wouldn't mind hooking up now and then, but I have no intention of getting into another relationship any time soon. I like my new found freedom!
I can very mush relate
Your assessment of "example #3" is spot on. This woman will manipulate you till hell freezes over, if by doing so she can get even the smallest crumb of validation.
Or maybe, if she feels like it this day, she may put you in jail and destroy your whole life.
@@nathanielguggenheim5522 A woman like that is danger for any man.
The last one ha ha. My wife (at the time) and I were going through a rough time financially and mutually decided not to waste money we didn't have on Valentines I asked multiple times are you sure you're ok with this.. yes. Valentines comes and she is obviously upset, I told her I didn't get her anything because we both decided that and she says "Yes, but I really thought you would anyway" OMG, so now I'm feeling bad, so I had to work that day, but took the day off to drive 1.5 hrs to a jewelry store where they had a necklace I couldn't afford but I knew she wanted (I know I'm an idiot) I get home and apologise, then give her the necklace. She throws it in the garbage and says she doesn't want it because the feelings aren't there, that I only got it because she guilted me into it, not because I really love her. She is my EX now. True Story, women be insane :)
I learned this one very early on. I was 17 or 18, and there were these stuffed monkeys with their arms around each other that my 16 year old girlfriend and I saw at the mall. And she wanted me to buy them for her. Then no, no. It's OK. She doesn't want me to. Except then we get home, and actually she DID want me to. What she didn't want to do was have to TELL me that she wanted them. She wanted to tell me not to buy them for her, but then have me buy them for her anyway. Confusing at the time, but I took the lesson - and fortunately it was a trivial matter - nothing that I could go to jail for.
You are better off. I suspect she was really just angry because she resented having to struggle. She thought she deserved easy street. Ingratitude!
@@fredhughes4115 Been there done that. It can be confusing.
@@fredhughes4115 I learned it early on too ha ha, I just assumed, marriage, maturity, joint finances and a lengthy discussion would somehow make it different. like I said, I'm an idiot. Turned out for the best though.
@@OldTechNerd Yeah, I get it. It's amazing that that behavior has that kind of staying power. It's understandable that one might just think that the behavior of an older, more mature married woman - under the influence of a real life situation and a lengthy discussion - would have evolved beyond that of a 16 year old schoolgirl, but ...no.
I was very lonely all the time. So I got a stuffed dog and told it to Stay!. Been there for me ever since. Not against women, just against the average American woman who brings drama and hypergamy.
Re: number 2. I worked with a woman. I considered her very pretty. I followed her on Instagram and the person I saw looked very little like the woman I worked with. She was always using a specific filter. I honestly found her real appearance more attractive.
Most are more attractive in real life, pics are almost always really overproduced and cover up little feminine features and quirks that they have no idea are actually a lot more attractive than the porcelain mask they put out there.
Most men find a natural look more beautiful. Women don’t get that.
@@mrquatchcause they are secretly bi sexual.. women can sleep with other women like it’s no big deal..
5:30 Men are very visual and this woman showed him one thing but delivered another.
Women never get good results with that strategy.
Do I have to be the asshole to say it? She also had a slight trans vibe. Even if he didn't think that, the idea would put off a lot of dudes.
You nailed it, Emily. Just put your real self out there from the start. Don't sugar coat anything... your looks... your personality... your finances. If you start off lying from the get go, you paint yourself into a corner where continuing to lie is your only option. You are guaranteeing the relationship will ultimately fail.
Why put yourself through the heartache of 99 bad dates hoping to find the one good one. That's far worse than not being approached at all by the wrong women.
Put your real self out there. Then the trash will take itself out. Embrace that as a good thing.
Ya know they now make 11’ poles for people that you won’t touch with a 10’ pole.
Alfred E Newman
They also made it possible to care less, whereas before people couldn't.
HERE'S YOUR SIGN! AND WHAT-ME? WORRY!
🤣
I am Impressed with #2. She IS VERY Close to finding her great guy ...😊
#3.... Run.. do not walk. RUN the other direction.
My last ex pulled that same crap the last girl pulled. I definitely took me a while to get over the "dazed and confused" as you put it. One of the reasons I've been single for 10 years straight
I remember years ago I was making a move on a woman and she said politely said "No". So I stopped! Then she got mad at me because I stopped. I told her if thats her foreplay, I don't play those type games, because where I'm from No means No. The next occasions the word "No" never came out her mouth again....😂
This is gold! Boundaries respected in both directions.
You Emily are the best and nicest advocate for men, as women are often in divorce cases, while men are sometimes the best advocate for women.
"God gives you one face and you paint yourselves another" , Hamlet to Ophelia in Hamlet by William Shakespeare.
An erudite reference.
Thank you.
Some things never change.
2) With social media these days the person you meet is very rarely the “image” you see in the screen. I go for energy over looks and there is no way to gauge energy without meeting. Are they scanning the room while we sit, are they listening, are they looking at their phone constantly. These are the type of things that show me she is there to really meet me.
The third video is the worst one. How many decades have men been beaten over the head with "no means no"?! If he had tried something, she could have accused him of SA days, weeks or months after the date and claim she told him no. Don't play games like this
I wouldn't have at my house unless I had a video camera filming us while she was their because she is the one that would accuse you of something to get more attention
I once knew a girl who was a total drunk party girl. She took a guy home from a bar, had some bang bang time, woke up in the morning and regretted it. Called the cops and said she had been graped. The guy did 20 years!!!
To be fair, girl 3 was pretty common years back and guys knew how to handle them. I certainly wouldn’t have had any problem with her... that was a hand job for sure.. and then she’s left frustrated, so next time she’s a dead cert. Guys, you need to up your game.. don’t be feminised with the “no means no” bull. “No” means “no... but keep trying...”😂
The dont try anything girl would have been an instant do not pass go flag. Dont even waste your time. Women love sex (good sex) as much as any man but that qualifier on how hard are you going to work for it is a no go.
Lacking in todays world is authenticity. I appreciate you being real with us. What a breath of fresh air.
On the third example... Ladies, how are men supposed to handle this?! Seriously!
The guy didn’t even reject her in any way at all. He abides by her wishes (not sleeping together), then she’s upset that he didn’t try so she makes him out to be the bad guy.
Very much a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation. This is the stuff that men hear about and decide to not even bother with women any more...
HOW CAN FEMALES TRUST THEM SELVES WHEN THEY ADMIT TO LYING FOR FEMALE GAMESWOMAN SHITS? EVOLUTION EXPRESSES FEMALE HUMAN REALITIES IN TERM -ELIMINITING SURFACE ATTRACTIVENESS.
She didn't want him, she's messed up. We're just people at the end of the day, but setting such a clear a boundary and then acting differently is dangerous for him and her when they're in an obvious location for sex.
I haven't gotten to that example yet, but a pre-emptive comment (I'll add another if my thoughts change after seeing the third example).
As a woman, if i say that I just want to snuggle, then that is what I should expect. If it changes from that, it's 100% in me to be direct in what I want from there.
Don't change the action from the last consentual action and immediately stop if she says to. Any female that respects you as an individual won't get upset when you do precisely what she asks. If she does, walk away since it isn't worth it.
And the obligatory: The same goes if the roles were reversed.
Update: 100% walk away from someone like this. They need to work on loving themselves before putting themselves out there for someone else.
If you do this, please be kind to not only her, but yourself too.
It is called "playing hard to get" and was totally normal before Feminism hit mankind. Now it is dangerous to play this game as a man bc jail might easily be your future.
Absolutely spot on!!! Listen up guys, I'm 57, I have been married to my soulmate for 31 years. All 3 of these analyses are spot on. I went thru these types of dates years ago and this is still the same song and dance, just a different setting that it takes place in.
Youre a gem among women today. You dont pretend to be someone you're not. Your man is very lucky indeed.
I was advised, if someone accuses you of lying, are usually a liar.
You're lying about that
Number three... so common unfortunately. In my previous experience of dating over several years I would say about 20% or more of the women I met did this exact type of thing. It was especially noticeable from women who were used to being regarded as beautiful and attractive. If they stated their boundaries around sex and I respected them (as I always do), they were often highly offended and in a few cases this was the explicitly stated reason that they didn't want to continue with me. I got used to it after a while, but still always respected their stated boundaries anyway. Better to be a gentleman and not "get the girl" than to abdicate one's humanity for the sake of short-term validation and weird games.
20% isn't too bad. Furthermore, it's not about abdicating your humanity, it's about staying out of jail.
@@BryceShamwow Was definitely being conservative, thinking about it more I observe that the more they had been told by men that they were beautiful / hot etc (ie the more they looked like a runway model) the more likely that this would happen. And, yes, staying out of jail is a useful thing :) After a few times I really wanted to let them know how they were filtering in the worst kind of men, while filtering out the best kind of men with this tactic - but never did in case I came across as jaded, defensive etc, so just let it go and try to find people who don't do weird stuff...
"I don't wanna be rude, just wanna be happy."
OOOUF.
I felt that. Protect yourself gentlemen. Because we've learned absolutely no one else will.
I ❤ a woman who uses minimal makeup 💄 🔥
Lippy 💄
Eyeliners
Eyebrows
Eyelashes
Smile 😊
Hell yeah. It should be subtle enough that you don't notice it but accentuates her own beauty. Too much make up and it can start to look a bit clownish.
Zero tats. Simple single-piercing per ear, no piercings anywhere else at all. Simple necklace. Zero hair coloring. Tasteful classic feminine hairstyle. No fake lashes. No fake brows.
In other words, protect and take care of your natural beauty. Put that beauty on display, not mask it, not deck it with distraction.
WHO WAS THAT MASKED????? TAMMY FAE B?
Yeah, just wait.
IT'S CALLED 'I want you to want me so it will boost my ego, but I don't really want you." Which is about 50% of the women I've known.
Emily: just wanted to encourage you. Thank you for the logical messages. Keep up the good work. 💯👍🏿
I met a girl like number 3 a few months ago. I am not a mind reader...we lasted a month or so. Learnt some valuable lessons for both of us. Keep up the good work ❤❤❤
So, when I finalized my divorce last year, I took 3-4 months to find myself and rebuild my self-esteem. There was 1 girl at my work that we had been friends with for 5 years and I always had an attraction to just never acted on anything as I was married, happy or not I respected the vows I took. I asked her out, she said yes, I took her on a date and I know what I want in life at 38 y/o. I asked her right away about kids, political views, financial goals, etc… we agree on literally every core and common core value. Since then almost a year ago into our relationship and it has been the most amazing time of my life and hers. We’ve discussed marriage, buying a home afterwards, kids, and although that is all the goals we aren’t in a rush. We enjoy building our life together. I’ve never been happier. Ever.
Yes, building a life together is what it's all about. The rest is trivial.
@@neilreynolds3858 *together* is the only word that matters here.
Having the right attitude wins every time.
Really appreciate your insights in all your videos, and being one of the few that brings light to men’s perspectives.
I can remember back in my dating app days that EVERY picture on EVERY girls profile was obviously filtered
When I was younger, my go to date to see if a woman was confident about being with me was to take her camping. If the young lady wouldn’t let me see her until she was fully made up, I didn’t see her beyond that date. If she kept her looks more natural, it made her much more beautiful in my eyes.
To this day, I tell my wife of over 40 years that I think she’s beautiful without any make up on. Why? Because she is.
I really liked all three videos, and the points drawn from them. About the third girl, when she says, “I feel ugly”, I would respond with, “Yes, and that's good, because you ARE ugly-ugly on the inside where you think no one sees. But now that you have revealed yourself, the only question is, will you double down on the hiding, or begin seeking and working to develop INNER beauty?”
Number 3 needs to work on her inner beauty. In her case a crash program.
Emily’s videos are a guilty pleasure every time I start thinking maybe I watch these and I’m like nah I’m ok
May the red flags always fly high and proud.
Make a list of deal breakers and checklist them ruthlessly.
I like the second woman's personality and how she rolls with the punches. I hope she's honest when she says she got humbled about the filters. She could be a good catch, but catfishing is holding her back.
I love how you speak the truth -most people don’t like playing games.
The last one drives me a bit nuts. We all know there's this game where No might mean Yes, or it might not. Making the wrong move in this game can ruin a man's life. Nope. Here, ladies, is the result of Me Too.
This guy was lucky nothing happened. It's a jungle out there.
It’s people like that last female in the video are the reason many men are going to other countries to find true love and happiness.
Love your videos.
Hello Emily: The last woman is intensely dangerous.
That's putting it mildly. In the US legal system, that's the kind of woman who puts innocent men behind bars.
@@Saavik256 I am in Australia and it much the same here. There is channel called "Hoe_math" where he does an extended analysis of this video. His conclusion was if you guess one way, you get unsatisfactory sex with a person who it's best to forget. He said that if you get the guess wrong, "you have ruined the rest of your life." He finished by saying that being called "gay" is really not a problem. Have a really lovely day.
These videos keep on validating the reasons why I don’t bother doing dating until further notice. I decided to take a break five years ago. I’m so glad I’m not in the dating game because the types of women in these three sample videos are pretty much the ones that I had been dealing with.
I like the second girl’s attitude. She’s not giving him crap for rejecting her; she realizes that this does happen sometimes. She probably needs to be more honest with her pictures though. I have used a filter just a couple of times and I did it for fun. When I posted the pics on Facebook I said they were filtered. They had quite a bit more makeup than I would personally use but they did look nice. Those filters can give you ideas for makeup techniques and such but to use filters constantly is ridiculous.
PUTTING YOU BEST FOOT FOREWARD IS STANDARD FEMINE LYING? #2 PUT HER FOOT IN HER MOUTH, AND MAYBE HAVE "SAVED" THEIR TOGETHER TIMES IF: SHE COULD SELF ADMIT TO HIM HER INSECURITIES OF SELF DOUBTS? NA!
Here is a funny story. I am an older man, but everyone says I look much younger than I am. My woman says she is robbing the cradle when I dye my beard. Before I met her, I decided to put some foundation on just to see how much of a difference it would make. I was astonished. Just foundation made me look like I was in my early 30's. So, being a bit devious, I took a face pic and posted it on my dating profile. I got a ton of matches, and immediately, women were either saying I was using an old picture or I was lying about my age. I just laughed. I even met a couple of the women and they just couldn't believe how young I looked. So I fessed up and told them I was wearing foundation. They actually got mad but I just laughed and asked them how does it feel to be deceived?
@@RobChurch-s6s Yeah women do that every single day. I don't like foundation but thankfully at 58 years old my skin doesn't need it. But most women do wear foundation and think nothing of it. How can it be different for you?
@@AngelaVEdwards I wish someone could have been there on the two dates I went on with foundation on. There reaction was like I had taken away their birthday or something. They were really mad. I am still laughing about it.
You should have seen the rest of the video. Video #2 woman is a deceiver. I'm not sure why Emily cut it short, but as it, it seems innocuous. The woman is a fraud and makes excuses.
I don't date any longer, and it's been so long since I've even had a date, that I don't ever think about it. But honestly, if a woman is using a filter to enhance her appearance, I consider that person to be disingenuous, and potentially duplicitous.
11:40 nonononono ... she wanted him to cross her very clear and explicit line in the sand which wouldn't set him up for REJECTION .. it would set him up for SA accusaitions which could ruin his life
She wants a linguini-spined man. That's the only kind of man that will ever stay with her. She has no interest in him; she wants someone she has complete power over. He won't respect her or love her; he does what she wants out of fear. He'll give up on ever having what he wants, and will live a miserable life with zero self esteem.
She'll cheat on him, and eventually leave him -- and blame him for it.
Thanks to videos like these. It just makes me feel even more confident in my reason to be single. Amen Sister.
The third one was literally saying she wanted him to force himself on her so she could be mad at him and tell him off (or call the cops) and she was angry that he didn’t do it.
Ladies when men thought “no” means “yes” it is these women that did it. You have to get women like this on side because men like honesty and clear lines.
My wife had a friend over to our home in California (cc: 1983). My wife was busy in another part of the house. So, her "friend" (from Texas) made a pass at me. She was not prepared for my response, which was: "leave our home, NOW!!" My point is this: woman are, and have been, and (probably) always will be: untrustworthy. As far back as Eve (in the garden of Eden), women have been scheming and plotting to assume power in any and every relationship with a man.
The second girl goes from looking 30 to looking 50 in a split second, that was scary
My wife rarely wears make up and that is how I like it. I have been in love with her beautiful face for 33 years.
7:30 she’s lying if she says she doesn’t look that different. There’s a reason she uses all these filters and it’s because she doesn’t like how she looks without them.
Spot on and thank you for the insight Emily 💕 very helpful even as good reminders on both sides of the fence.
And what you pointed out limits the amount of drama and strengthens a relationship
That last girl is dangerous. A young guy might be drawn in by her insecurities. But going back to his place means one thing: Sex. But there's a serious communication problem there. If the woman goes back to your place and then changes her mind, a man has to respect that, but she's putting herself in a physically dangerous position for herself. I mean, she's blaming the guy for not validating her, but she was in a potentially way more dangerous position by doing what she did. Poor judgment shown by both parties.
A girl going with a guy back to his place after a date does not automatically mean sex. Thoughts like that are the root of the erroneous idea that men only care about sex, but considering your handle I'm not surprised you think this outlanding, outdated idea.
@@devonm042690 The girl can change her mind at any time, but it's an indicator that sex will take place. If you rule out having sex with a girl, then don't take her back to your place, simple. But, be honest with yourself and her and keep the communication good. It has nothing to do with the idea that men only want sex, I don't know how you've come to that conclusion from what I've said.
I have learnt a great deal, especially the first one; been there and will definitely do the straight off rejection as have been down the rocky road that comes after
2. He saw her not only without skin tone and smoothness filters, but her IRL looks (which could sometime drastically differ from photo/video), and in different illumination.
So we can't see what he saw. Even fiter removes 5+ year from her looks. He could, literally, saw his mom in her face.
She simply didn't look as good as he wanted her to look.
She dodged a bullet, cause that guy was extremely rude and wil leave any woman that ages, goes through menopauze, gets health issues etc. cause he didn't give a shit about her personality or her feelings.
And she took it extremely well.
She looks fine. Seems easy going, not resentful, no drama and with a positive outlook on life.
Good for her that guy showed his true colors within 5 seconds.
If she would have looked way better than her pictures he wouldn't have felt mislead one bit.
@@estherdoggen4105She’ll be okay and has probably ghosted and rejected plenty of men for stupid and shallow reasons.
Hi Emily ! ! .....I love your reaction At 6:25 of your video ! ! 😅🤣😂🙃 I was literally LMAO
Thank you for posting❤
Monk mode is the best thing for men. The few seconds of pleasure doesn't worth the hassle.
Terrific video Emily thankyou very much for sharing it we really appreciate it.😁Your doing an amazing job with your videos and channels!🙏❤
I think the point about having unfiltered photos is more important than woman realize. From my male perspective attractiveness is multi layered and is beyond physical only. There is an old song that has the "If you want to happy make an ugly woman your wife", the idea of real beauty is internal not external.
THE FOUND BEAUTY IS BONE DEEP! UGLY IS MANDATED SKIN DEEP IMITATIONS OF THE BEAUTY-SALES FOR PROFIT MYTHS, OF INDUSTRIES.
Never make a pretty woman your wife
100%
Being an amateur photographer, I just filter out the filters/photoshop in my head, as well as the makeup. Then I can imagine what she looks like.
If you study photos and take good looks at people, you'll figure it out. It's a learnable skill.
@@svr5423not for us who dont know what filters are capable of. Some are so good that it literally changes you to another person. To figure out the real would need to substitute for multiple ppl. Ill pass off the bat. 😅 Just the need to use filters on every photo is enough
I absolutely love your videos and it has made me feel better about past relationships. Again, Thank you for being you.
Number 3 is a sexual assault charge or constant mind games.
What a great guide for young men! I wish this sort of advice was around when I was a younger man. In this modern era though it's even more pronounced/worrying. This video needs to be shared with as many young men as possible especially the third example!!
Number 3 is a nut case. She tells him No up front, but secretly wants him to try? Try what? You told him No. She needs something tatoo'd on her forehead like "player"? Geeze, why the crazy act? Women are best avoided these days as you have no idea what craziness they might pull. So glad I am past all this.
This behaviour is as old as dating itself. Maybe these days it's often seen as strange, but 30+ years ago it was almost a rule.
The woman was expected to resist the man's advances and indignantly decline all his attempts to initiate sex (for the 1st time, at least). The man was expected to coerce and pressure her, sometimes even to use a little force in order to overcome her ritualistic resistance. Most of the time, it was merely a game on the woman's part (if not, it was often hard to determine).
If a woman refused to play this game altogether, she was deemed easy and untrustworthy.
She’s a psychopath honestly, she’s the type of woman who will F up your life
@@pasheg4345 Right.Like you said, it was culturally expected. But nowadays it can easily mean jail time for the man.
@@pasheg4345 It is not 1980 anymore.
Great show today! Very informative!! Thanks for sharing!!!
Ive been on dates with all 3 of these types in the past......and all 3 are walking RED FLAGS
Really like your videos. Such a great thing to hear a woman call out the insanity modern women have bought into.