The 10 biggest turn-offs for men and why men shouldn't fight them!
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Hey guys! Today we're talking about the 10 biggest turn-offs for men. These will cause the male version of the "ick". All of these are red flags, so keep paying attention/ looking for them so that you can have a healthier and happier dating life. Let me know below what other turn offs I missed!
I'm going to call the big one "denial of peace" men need their quiet time, and if they can't get it, they will want to leave to look for it.
Best comment of them all.
So true
Women violating men boundaries... Tale as old as time.
THIS!! #1 issue!
Most American women aren't worth crossing the street for. No peace and a partner that will bail at the first sign of difficulties is all you will get here. If you have the money go overseas and get you a wife that just wants to take complete care of a man that will love her.
I agree 100% with the smoking part you mentioned. If she is 10 and she smokes, I then see her as a 4. Can't stand it.
you can add in scent abuse with the smoking. I'm probably more sensitive to perfumes than average, but when everything a girl does is scented, it pretty much makes it intolerable to be around them.
Botox lips, septum piercings, sleeve tattoos, social media addiction, smoking, entitlement, etc.
I've been through all of these in one relationship not more than a year or so ago. I agree
A big turnoff for me is women who hold men to a higher standard than they hold themselves to. For example: Hi, I'm an average American woman. I'm a 5/10 in the face. I weigh 170 pounds. I'm a single mom with 3 kids from 3 different baby daddies. I'm $100k in debt. I'm of average intelligence, average achievements, and have an average personality. To date me, you need to be an 8/10 in the face, taller than 86% of the population, make more money than 90% of the population, be in shape, etc. etc. etc.
If your not washing your hair on daily basis in the shower.. you should still be using a dry shampoo. Which won't strip that stuff away, but help it smell better, comb better. Thats the correct way to to do this trend not zero washing at all.
Smoking - when I met my (future) wife, she was a smoker. We were teenagers. We kind of fell for each other very quickly. But at some point I made it pretty obvious that I was rather unenthusiastic about kissing after she smoked and I asked her to quit smoking. She did. Not saying it’s the only reason, but we’ve been married going on 47 years.
3. Yes, I love a woman’s hair to smell nice
7. I dated 23 women that smoked, never again
11. Just don’t talk all of the time
12. If you have expectations, expect to fail
Obsession with details. Yet different than a relationship with a wife or girlfriend one thing about my mom that drives me nuts is her obsession with details. The 4 wheel wagon I bought 6 years ago had the rear wheels and tires fall off because the axle bracket fall off because it rusted. My mom asked me how I would fix it? I replied with “I’ll just figure it out”. I have tools and metal sitting around and I will just gather them and fix it. I don’t need to explain it to anyone who might reply with “that’s the wrong way to do it and get intense and oppositional with me which ads stress and makes me tired.
Another turn off is a woman who expect you to remember all her appointments and to take full responsibility on her gross
The contemporary dating scene is so weird. Back when I was younger, if you didn't "sleep" with a woman by the second date (third at most, if she was hot), then you just moved on. Now that I am older (much), and free again, I don't see the need to wait. After all, we aren't getting any younger.
Just saying.
smoking is a big one for me personally. when i was a teen i dated a girl who smoked and i kissed her one night after she had been smoking and i almost hurled
Stupidity, bad manners, and no sense of humor are three big turn-offs for me.
yeah, you can't both be stupid and also give orders. that's kinda like beggars can't be choosers. I'm ok if you're not that smart. all you have to do is be pleasant. it's not rocket science. then we're good to go. be sneaky? oh, then you're not that dumb after all. ejection seat [click] 🚀
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@@mobilemcsmarty1466 \\ Goose, I can't reach the ejection handle.
You met my ex-?
It's rare to meet a woman with a sense of humour
@@EE12CSVT -- Those who haven't been infected by feminism, and live looking to be misogynistly offended, are more likely to appreciate a mature man's humor.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 5-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
Releasing your grip on someone you deeply care about can be a formidable challenge. I found myself in a comparable predicament when my 12-year relationship came to an end. Despite the odds, I couldn't bear to let her slip away. I exhausted every avenue to reunite with her, eventually turning to a spiritual advisor for guidance, whose intervention ultimately facilitated her return.
Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
Try as we might, we cannot impose our feelings on another, no matter how intense. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. To your benefit, I hear there are an incredible number of women unable to find mates. Learn, or re-learn how to flirt. Spruce up your conversation skills. Dress well. Don't expect instant results, treat it as a game. Cultivate a hobby or two. Select your hunting grounds, I would avoid bars were I you. Finally, be selective, you may have to choose...
How she treats her dog and people of lower status in general is how she's gonna treat you in the long term.
I would say a lot of women treat their dog better than they treat their men. 😂
@@thisdyingsoul76 I had a girlfriend who I realized after a while that she was letting her dog alone for the whole weekends to spend time with me. That was kind of a turn off, unfortunately. How would she treat her kids?
@@sbarmiueenl yikes.
When my wife and I first met, my dog was only 6 months old. I made it a point if we were over 3 hours to come home and check on him.
The one time I didn't, I was traveling out of town for work. Had I just gone and did the job and came back, I would have been 4 hours. She tagged along and we went for supper before coming home. Poor pup messed in his crate. At least she helped. She bathed the puppy while I cleaned the crate. 🤣
I look at how they treat pets and children. If they're attentive and caring, that's a good sign. If they're aloof or indifferent, that's a red flag. If they're overbearing or aggressive, that is a NO GO.
@@thisdyingsoul76 This one is a keeper.Hope all is well for you two.👍
You are literally the ONLY woman that I have heard say the words "A man wants to be wanted for who he is as a person and not for what he can provide." For me myself, this is something I've felt for a very long time but I've literally found ZERO women that have ever just appreciated me for who I am as a person. It's insane. I've always felt so damn alone in thinking this way. Honestly it's insane. Completely bewilders me that you're the only one I've ever heard say this...
Hi guy. As a women I felt like that for a man, I fell hard. I found out I was his side chick of 13 girlfriends he was contacting using different names. I almost married this narcissist, glad I found put what type of person he was and broke my engagement and moved to another state, excommunicated him by changing my cell no. I am single, ready to see what God has for me, someone just for me. I am patiently waiting for my king. Have not been w any other male, just working on self improvement, and living life peacefully. Have an awesome week. Thanks also to Emily.
A good woman doesn't want a man for what he can provide, but she is biologically programmed to want a man who CAN provide. That's your role as a man, so embrace it. If you're not able to provide and you can't get a woman, then fix yourself first.
@@loranndennison3793that made zero sense God does not have a single person picked out for you you need to pursue a man sitting on the sidelines waiting is not gonna do anything
@@dancleary4101it's a figure of speech, she said she's taking it easy until she meets someone nice; relax, my guy
the thing about being stuck in a labyrinth of ideology is to those mentally stuck in the matrix, they can't even see its walls - and yet, it warps and twists reality around them, even down to what kind of thoughts they can think - because that's what ideology is.
1:24 Women rude to service industry workers indicates she is pretentious, better than others
3:05 She flirts with other men to make her man jealous, indicating she is still childish
4:01 Poor hygiene. Women who don't wash their hair but work out.
5:25 Always uses her phone. She is never present.
5:47 Incessant complaints
6:27 Bashes her ex, talks incessantly about her exes
7:24 Smoking it's a habit that is difficult to break, including vaping
7:55 Bad driving. unsafe
8:52 Manipulative. Plays games. Acts as if she's not incessantly on her phone. She chooses not to.
9:41 Selfishness and a lack of effort.
Find someone who loves you and appreciates your love, and if you can't find that, don't give your love to women who are not blood relatives. That's why I left my ex wife. She appreciated nothing and demanded everything.
None of these are gendered vices. Nobody should be like this.
@@matthewcaldwell8100 Nobody said they were, however that wasn't the point of the video.
@@jthomascruz4890 yeah, she literally did
The list with added commentary:
1 rude to service people. Pretentious, judgmental, INCONSIDERATE.
*The way she treats others now is the way she will treat you later.* Men know this will boomerang on them.
2 flirts with other men, to make him jealous -- phony, created drama.
3 Poor hygiene, stinky.
4 always on her phone. Can't make any decisions without consulting her posse. Has a posse.
5 ceaseless complaining. Negative energy.
6 gossip about other men, past men. Too much about her past, can't let it go.
7 Smoking. Vaping, heavy drinker, gambling, other vices. Bad habits, lack of self control.
8 bad driving. Aggressive, creates trouble, risky acts; could be a thrill seeker, poor self control again.
9 manipulative. games.
10 selfishness, lack of effort for the relationship.
also:
Doesn't ever shut up.
Needs constant attention. Super needy.
Tests you over and over. Personal problems.
Can't keep "normal secrets," doesn't understand that telling others about your intimate acts, information, is wrong. Reveals things about you to others that is damaging, personal.
Paranoid you are thinking of cheating on her, constantly assuming you are checking out and want to hit on other women.
Demonstration of lack of morals, poor or no values; petty theft, excuses immoral acts, justifies all kinds of bad behavior "She had it coming." "They are rich so stealing isn't wrong."
Delights in the suffering or troubles of others. no sense of humor. Insults others for fun, but can't take it.
There are hundreds of such things.
@@antimatters6283You’re basically describing a narcissist-
They’re definitely a boatload of trouble😢
Being super into astrology or horoscopes. Makes her instantly intolerable.
Amen brother!
I thought I could put up with it, and she jested it was just fun; but EVERY day, there was something astrolgical.
@@yitzharos god, sounds torturous
As a sagittarius, I agree.
@@allenmontrasio8962as a Sagittarius who understands way more than just sun, moon, rising, and Venus signs, why?
A big turn off for me is poor communication and a woman just expecting a man to read her mind.
I approached a woman in a pub after she had been looking at me. She straight up rejected me, then when I turned to walk away. She got angry that I didn't try and "convince her" to have a drink. Apparently "Yes means no, when she wants it to" No chance, I'm way past playing games. I told her "Sorry, I'm not looking for a woman who plays games, if I want games I play my Xbox."
a relation the woman can't adore her man will end sooner rather than later.
I had a woman pull that shit once. I told her "if I have to convince you, you're not worth it." 😂
I don’t blame you! I’ve never played games with a man.
@@thisdyingsoul76yup. It’s either she wants you or she doesn’t. Games are pointless.
Yup. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Red flags I watch for are:
1) Arrogant
2) Rude
3) Shallow
4) Materialistic
5) Selfish
6) Dishonest
7) Superficial
Any one of these red flags cause me to say goodbye.
Personality and behavioral choices are the biggest flags for me as well. Have you had the unfortunate experience to date someone who had all those?
@kawh8719 Unfortunately, so. It was about 20 years ago though. Even gave her a second chance after she cheated on me with one of my best friends. After I broke up with her, that's when I started keeping an eye out for those traits as red flags.
You just listed the same thing 7 times my dude
One of the things that turn me off/away from the woman is when she can't stop talking about when she's on the rag. I don't need to hear about it or know about it.
Caked on make up and fillers
Biggest turnoffs for me are
1. Superficial women
2. Materialistic women
3. Self absorbed women
4. Women that think they are strong and independent and don't need no man
5. Women addicted to social media
6. Women that think they are entitled and privileged
7. Women that think they are boss babes
8. Women with high body counts
9. Women that are combative
10. Women that aren't feminine
Great list!
In other words, about 90% of women...
@@tdrive398 Yup exactly
Bingo, best list award goes to 👏 👏 👏thats 93% of all women
@@tdrive39899.99% of women
A huge turn off for me is a lack of proper communication. Passive aggressiveness, mind games, shit tests, hinting around, and so on are no way to be talking to anyone, let alone your partner. Just be straightforward and have regular adult conversations. You'll be surprised how much more often you'll get what you want.
Exactly!
Mind games. That's a good one.
If she keeps talking about her ex then that's really who she wants to be with
That hits a lil bit too close to home, add no humor to that and you get my ex 😂
Yes
The wife hit 6 of the 10...waited until after we married to bring out those behaviors. It's interesting being virtually single while still married.
Yeah, had similar... not good
It is a trap when someone hides those bad things and they wait until you get married to come out. I wish those marriages could be nullified and not considered real marriage because it was a scam!
@@Jules-740yep. This is what ppl dont understand when me fell for it. Our fault is falling for it due to many reasons, but we wouldn't choose them if we would knew. Time to teach our offspring to avoid those traps and spread the word so others wont get in.
That's why you should always investigate the woman before you commit to her. Have one of your female friends go out with her, get her drunk, and then ask her questions pertaining to your relationship. Most women are most honest when they are drunk
No shit
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; they're all different. What works for one person might not work for someone else. But I've come to understand that there's always a solution to problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were close to divorcing because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was tough, but we survived.
I really understand why what you're saying matters, and I truly want to find happiness as well. I have someone special in my life, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine living without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to make things right.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is valued. I'll immediately seek her out online. Appreciate it. I'm hopeful that implementing this method will also bring me success; I miss her dearly.
You are Welcome
This is the 3rd time I have seen this exact comment. I think this is a copypaste bot.
A fair while back I was talking to someone who I liked and she was checking her phone a bit but nothing too bad. She mentioned that she liked Italian food and a friend of mine was front of house manager in an Italian restaurant so I took her there. Oh boy it was bad. The first half hour her nose was stuck to the screen and she did not even look at the menu. When the waiter came over to ask if we had decided what she wanted she picked up the menu for all of 30 seconds before going back to her phone. I paid for my drink and left about half an hour after that. She apparently did not even notice I had gone for 3/4 of an hour. Then the next day she tried to give me an ear bashing over it and refused to believe it was an hour, so I sent a screen shot of the receipt and blocked her.
Good. Sadly, I don’t think she’s learned her lesson about that after being ditched only once over that.
I understand that many females will mistreat a male when she realizes she is attracted to him. This is a total turn-off for me.
This this this. We both know what it is, an insecurity and natural behavior, but it's gone off the rails these days.
Seriously. It's like they can't trust that you want them until they prove to themselves a guy is so desperate he will take any abuse. Of course that makes him a simp and he is ick-listed to oblivion. Women are their own worst enemies.
When the woman is attracted to the man or when the man is attracted to the woman? E.g. I know he likes me so I'll mess around a bit. Or I like him so I get petty and jealous.
No reciprocation
I hope this doesn't sound cold. I, after all these years, now look as a partner as an investment. The biggest investment probably. What is the return. Is your partner an endless expense who contributes nothing and is just going to bleed your assets dry while constantly saying "yeah but what have you done for me today". Use you head and look at things honestly. This goes for men and women. The contribution doesn't need to be fifty/fifty, but there does have to be a contribution.
Or you could look at it under Covey's rules: Win-Win or No Deal
Let's be honest most women aren't an investment they're a liability.
Women today have become vampiric leeches who will run at the first sight of trouble. They used to line up I need somebody that's going to put money in my pocket. My response to that is "Why don't you get off your ass and get a job princess"? Are you that lazy or entitled? Are you afraid you'll break your $80 manicure?
On that note, a $5,000 handbag. Doesn’t matter who paid for it. Doesn’t matter if there was a 30% discount.
Any suggestion that you’re interested in men because of how much money they’re willing to spend on you instantly ends all further conversation.
I’m not gonna give leeway on the driving thing because she could be driving our kids around. Learn how to be a safe attentive driver. Other people can die if you aren’t.
Smoking is one of those things where people who have the same habits tend to get along. Smokers are usually fine with other smokers and non-smokers usually aren't. Personally, Smoking is one of my very few dealbreakers. If you smoke, nothing else about you matters for consideration as a potential romantic partner. I would never consider it. Just instantly and completely ruled out. I don't think most men share that view, but a significant number of non-smoker men probably do.
Smoking is my ONLY hard and fast deal-breaker. My first girlfriend smoked (we were 15-16), and I remember promising myself "never again".
As i smoke i dont mind and is positive. Smokers and non smokers dont match and i understand why. Been on both sides.
Flirting with another guy to make another jealous isn't something you should get over in your 20's...That's something you should have learned in your EARLY teen years.
It's NOT acceptable. In fact, you can even teach the earlier principles of that idea by the time they are 5.
Teasing a guy with infidelity to make him pursue you?
"Oh look at me, i'm not loyal if you don't immediately stop this."
Well, ok then. Go. You can't be disloyal to your man anymore if i'm OUT.
Two green flags: Take responsibility for your own choices; Communicate openly.
Taking responsibility, but in a healthy way, is the sign of a keeper.
In my experience women tend to blame themselves for a lot of things, but have the need to deflect that, and do so in unhealthy ways.
Those who don't tend to be openly depressed about it instead, which is also a struggle, but at least one you can face together.
And I suppose a few are actually deluded enough to fully believe it's never them.
But just owning things without stressing about them is rare.
Careful, that might be a dude.
I once had a girlfriend apologize to me for something I can't remember now but it was something sort of serious. And the thing is she looked like she really meant it. I'll never forget that part
To me, if I see somebody mistreats people in the service sector, I assume they don't care about other people.
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Narcissistic attitude. For example; always needing to be the center of attention, constantly using pronouns of self such as me, I, mine, etc., frequently blaming other for her shortcomings, getting angry if you have an opinion that is counter hers. If you call her out on this, she will first try to deny it and if that doesn't work, she will try to turn it around on you. It makes one question if she has any regard for anyone else besides herself. Major RED flag.
if we are taking things slow and waiting, that means no hook ups on the side with other people.
I totally hate smoking and no matter how attractive I find a woman that smokes, I would NEVER consider to approach her with the intention to maybe make her my GF/wife.
Any substance vice is a hard NO for me. Not sitting close to, or kissing an ash tray. Not attempting to be intelligent with a brain on alcohol. Not going to spend my life with a pot head.
I absolutely hate smoking. 🚭
Smoking is disgusting. And substance abuse in general is repulsive. I'm not gonna babysit an alcoholic or a junkie. And I'm not gonna kiss an ashtray.
Absolutely. Yuk.
I have a cousin who is married and they both smoke. In '22 he told me their cigarette budget was a combined $600/month. Sadly, he entered hospice care for lung disease and the wife is still smoking.
No compassion/empathy is a huge red flag for me, high "body count" tends to be an indicator of an inability to pair bond and high possibility of sociopathic behavior and lack of compassion.
Smoking making kissing gross. There are worse things, but it's a turn off.
A woman's hair, if clean, is a powerful attractant. One woman flirted with me by casually flipping her soft hair in my face. I was smitten and we have stayed married for 30+ years.
I loved the smell of my partners hair after she'd just washed it, so much so that when she passed away from cancer, I kept a bottle of her shampoo in the shower and evry now and then when I was really missing her would use it myself, it was just like she was back in the shower with me, something I miss.
Pretty much everything that has turned me off of a lot of women. The playing games thing is a huge one. For me, it's also passive-aggressive behavior. I have a complete, almost irrational hatred for passive-aggressiveness and I will walk away from a woman who displays it.
Tattoos, face piercings, single mom. I am at a point in my life where I no longer desire a woman in my life. And I am doing fine. And happy I am not a young man.
The MGTOW life is awesome.
Yes brothers it is ✌️
I'm with you on the piercing thing and to a lesser extent the tattoos. I know a woman that has a face piercing that I might have asked out by now if it weren't for that face piercing. On the tattoo front... I'd have to really like the girl otherwise to pursue a woman with tattoo(s). I'm not THRILLED about being with a single mom, but... I'm aware that at my age (46) if I want to be with a woman around my age I might be better off with a single mom (I'd kind of like to have a kid- a step kid is better than no kid).
If I were younger, I would tolerate a subtle - not multiple - face piercings. A small artistic tattoo - preferably not visible - OK. At my age, face piercing in an older woman says 'slut'. Tattoos say 'trailer trash'.
@@brass427 face tattoos yes the too words you say; however, I know women with full sleeves, not trailer trash, very financially stable have ever priced what sleeve costs.. I guess not.
i'd add 7 huge turn-offs for me :
1 - women *expecting you to mind read* instead of saying things straight out
2 - women *unable to come to a date without having 30 confirmations* of the confirmation of the confirmation that the date will happen at the time and day we agreed, i hate this waste of time... It's like if people had no brain and couldn't keep their word for a date 7 days after if not reminded daily... wth.
3 - women *making up scenarios constantly in their head* instead of acknowledging and grasping reality
4 - this one triggers me more and more with the years : women *unable to summarize* !!! "he said... so i said... then he said... and then i thought... so i said...[etc]" OMG can't you just summarize your thoughts and tell me you met your friend and you disagree with him about the weather ??? 🤬
5 - any kind of *plastic surgery* ... bye.
6 - *wonderbras, too much perfume or makeup* , i hate fake, and the lack of subtility and dignity.
7 - and obviously, no trash : selfish, immature, high body count materialistic and superficial 304's, but that's common to any sane man, not sure it's worth mentioning
Wth is a wonder bra? I'ma Google it now
@@maverickeugene3621 maybe i did a mistake in the translation ? it's bras that are padded to fake bigger breasts (and also add a "pushup" effect most of the time). But wonderbras is the name of a brand, the first one that imported this in my country in the 2000's, so in my language we use this brand as the word for it, and i don't find another proper translation.
Please what do you call a 304? (English not my mother language, is it slang ?)
@@jige1225 On a calculator, when you turn it upside down, 304 looks like the word “hoe”, which is a garden tool, but also American slang for “whore”.
@@jige1225 304 h o e they are a lock that can be opened by many keys.
Flirting with other men - it may be to get her man's attention, or it can also just be to feed her ego.
either way, it should get your attention and be followed by "hasta la vista"
This is really a serious problem. It can get you beat up or even killed. If you think there's something better out there, you're free to go.
If I went out with a woman. And she was flirting with all the other guys, when she turned around, I would be gone.
I have done this exact thing. I went to a party where there was a girl that I had had one date with, and I think the plan was for us to start cementing things, as we were both interested in each other. But at the party she spent the entire time that I was there crawling all over every other guy there - and ignoring me completely. I am baffled to this day about what that was supposed to accomplish. So I left, and at the door she suddenly comes over and it's like "where you going?", and I'm like "bye" - and that was it.
"Kissing a smoker is like licking an ash tray". My mother said this to us long ago...😂
TBH it was so rare a girl wanted to kiss me back in the day, this never stopped me.
Today, if I became single again (I’m not so it’s moot, and wife is not a smoker), it would matter more.
My first long term relationships was with a smoker🚬. Looking back, only logical reason why I ever started dating her was for the sex. I guess I just really needed to loose my V card.
I've maintained for years that while women mature faster than men early on, they do not mature mentally & emotionally beyond their teenage years, ergo their emotionally charged & silly behaviour. Men, on the other hand, grow up no matter what.
Tbh most western women are left in an immature state until 35yo or so, people believe they are more mature because they're more obedient compared to men during teenage since they have less testosterone, but that's not a proof of maturity, there are a few hints to guess one's maturity :
1 - Ability to get out of the natural selfishness of kids that should happen between 8 and 12yo, and judge the world and people around with another point of view than oneself.
2 - Ability to stop idolizing their own parents, and acknowledge they aren't perfect, they're just human beings, that should happen at late teenage. Then accept their flaws, and deal with it, that should happen at beginning of adulthood.
3 - Ability to limit their desires and delay the rewards, self control should be taught between 4-7yo. An adult shouldn't let his impulses dictate his behavior, otherwise he become unfaithful, obese or any other problem coming from the lack of self restraint.
Just with the amount of selfish, egocentric, overweight or unfaithful, women there is in western countries, we can see they're pretty much pampered into an eternal child state, by being overprotected, indulged and letting them being entitled, it's encouraged from birth by most parents, telling their child they're special and unique, and acting like if the entire world revolved around her, while they're not and the word doesn't care, but the kids will believe their parents no matter what, and will mature very late in life, most of the time, too late.
There is a segment of the population that never matures emotionally past middle school.
There is also a segment of the female population who does grow up and continues to learn and mature emotionally throughout their lives.
👍🥇
Tbh most western women are left in an immature state until 35yo or so, people believe they are more mature because they're more obedient compared to men during teenage since they have less testosterone, but that's not a proof of maturity
there are a few hints to guess one's maturity :
1 - Ability to get out of the natural selfishness of kids that should happen between 8 and 12yo, and judge the world and people around with another point of view than oneself.
2 - Ability to stop idolizing their own parents, and acknowledge they aren't perfect, they're just human beings, that should happen at late teenage. Then accept their flaws, and deal with it, that should happen at beginning of adulthood.
3 - Ability to limit their desires and delay the rewards, self control should be taught between 4-7yo. An adult shouldn't let his impulses dictate his behavior, otherwise he become unfaithful, obese or any other problem coming from the lack of self restraint.
A big turn off for me is the lack of a vault, or even the understanding of what a vault is. If she simply cannot STFU and not talk to others about things that should remain between the two of you that is a HUGE red flag and major turn off because it's a direct confirmation she cannot be trusted. I don't care if you have a need to discuss it and get an outside opinion to try and figure out how to deal with it, you need to ask me and if I say NO then you don't talk about it. If I find you've stepped outside my boundaries and shared intimate details with someone I didn't want to have them we're done. To me this is just as bad as cheating on me and I will NOT tolerate it. Part of being in a relationship with someone is the acceptance that some things will simply just stay within the relationship irrespective of how much you want to share them. Period.
props
Yup, I agree
My feelings exactly
Agree only to a point. If what you ‘say no’ to her talking about or seeking advice from other people about (btw that ‘I don’t care if you need outside advice to deal with it you ask me first and if I say no you don’t talk about it’ sounds very aggressive and controlling) happens to involve you physically or mentally abusing her in some way then you would be the problem not that she has a red flag. If you were to ask her nicely not to talk about something private or embarrassing which is reasonable for you not to want disclosed and she ignores you and violates your privacy that would be one thing. If you are ordering her not to talk about things she truly needs help with in order to ‘deal with’ you and you give threats of dire consequences if she does so that’s a whole different animal
@@LeashMechanic "Deal with you" means . . . "deal with *you."* Not somebody *else* . . . .
For the first one: Men, as providers and protectors, are naturally in a service industry of sorts to her. If she's like that to waitstaff, she'll be that way to him.
For the second one: If we think for a moment that the person we are supposed to trust the most has us constantly watching our back lest she leave, she was never ours.
For the fifth one: Ladies, you don't like when we complain about anything, so why is it okay for you to do it?
For the sixth one: How you talk about your ex is how we expect you talk about us to others. Doubly so if you talk about your friends the same way you talk about your ex.
For the ninth one: Manipulation is the attempt to supplant someone's will with your own. If you feel you must do that, then we are not compatible.
For the tenth one: We aren't looking for a straight trade of material goods and experiences for physical intimacy. We are providing the proof that we can and will hold up our end of the relationship, and are looking for proof that she will, too. Why women tend to presume that proof is physical intimacy confuses me, as I personally take sex pretty seriously. Unless, of course, it's an easy way to make us think they are as all-in as I am, when it's meaningless to them...
One of my absolute biggest pet peeves is when someone complains constantly about anything and NEVER tries to offer up any variety of solutions. If you refuse to help, you have no room to bitch all the time.
Exactly!
A woman who doesn't know what she actually wants. You know the kind, the ones that always follows the trends and listens to everyone else instead of forming her own opinion.
A woman who doesn't want to lead, but also doesn't want to be lead. Doesn't know where she wants to eat, but shoots down every single suggestion.
...and then says you are too boring to keep her entertained.
💯. The worse...
A women who still has her friends opinions in her head and uses them on you. Us men like a woman who can make a decision. Your friends won't be there forever like your relationship or marriage should be
No’9 is the big one for me. Manipulative women are a major red flag.
They’re all manipulative, though.
If that woman has EVER given it up on the first date (even decades ago) and makes you wait .... RUN AWAY NOW! She's not really interested in you (other than for your money)!
Problem is it’s very hard to get an honest answer if they have.
@@random19911004 true but over time they usually can't help themselves talk about their previous "adventures". Sadly, today the best approach is to probably just assume they have and I bet you would be correct more times than wrong.
@@brucew.willett8196 If you can call inviting a guy over to your room after browsing his tinder pics a "date".
My icks hypocrisy and being feeling like im more of a object of happiness instead of being the reason she is happy.
When a girl has all her coworkers on their insta friend list, but i get one of my coworkers to add me or vice versa im the one being shady.
Going on a vacation but i have to be in every picture to show off to her feed about “look how happy we are” knowing the day prior we just fought and it will bleed into later that evening.
The notorious “do u know how many guys i could have?” Line, men will sleep with anyone, that’s not a challenge nor feat. When a woman/girl drops this line it’s always met with, “fine, i dare you to find one that will put a ring on your finger” worst line they can play imo
The "do you know how many guys I could have" line is a power argument. She's saying that she's more powerful than you and that she's settling for you, or at least that you're not special. That would be a deal breaker for me. "If you value all these guys equally to me, perhaps it would be best for you to find someone who's really special and whom you feel grateful to be with."
Oh yeah, that one drives them nuts. I have a similar one I like. When a girl is calling a guy an i-cel or using "You're just mad because you cant get any" type language, a good comeback is "And you're just bitter because the only thing about you of any value to men is between your legs". So many ladies don't get that a lot of men do not have sky high standards for girls they'll have some bedroom fun with. Guys will sleep with some trashy girls. But for guys with self respect, there's a lot more discrepancy around choosing a girl to commit to and will be hard pressed to not try to claim a good woman if they happen across one. And when a girl is constantly being used like a toy and denied commitment, that says more about her than the men. I think even the trashiest women are to some degree aware of that last point
Hi there Emily, Agree with your list and the first one my sister was horrible towards Service Staff and I just hated going out to dinner with her and her boyfriend, as if everything wasn't spot on perfect, she would go off the deep end. This even included sending food back, and yet she could not figure out how she was always getting very sick after. She never married and died alone.
I would say the one big thing for me are tattoos. They show that she has poor judgement and is very reactionary not tinking of long term consequences that come with that lifetime decision. To me women are supposed to be beautiful and if you want to destroy your beauty to look like an old sailor, then good luck. I've had real beautiful women with long beautiful hair write me on dating sites and after I go through the photos, if I spot tats, I just respond "Thanks, but you have tattoos, and that is a hard no for me." Some men like them, but I don't think they have thought through the remifications, i.e. going to a corporate event with your spouses that is a black tie... Is he really going to feel comfortable going with her in a sleveless, bare back dress slit up the side if she is covered in tattoos? I really doubt it. The New Tattoo for 2024 & beyond are NO Tattoos... Ladies, you need to wake up to this issue and just stop it really.
Cheers!
I would stay away from a male surgeon (or lawyer) whose arms are covered with tattoos. Now imagine a tattooed judge.
@@jcrnda Yeah well oddly enough, I've seen a lot of female nurses with tattoos and considering tattoos show poor decision making skills, should you let a nurse stick you with a needle?
Wearing pajamas everywhere.
Out of all things....something this shallow is a line?
@@rhysraine2933 Means she cannot get up in the morning and dress herself. Laziness and puts very little time and energy into herself. I hate this too, my wife will not answer the door at 5 pm because she is not dressed, eats my azz up.
@billypitts6368 then get a divorce and let her go be herself. You act like PJs are the end of the world. If someone wearing pajamas all day is your biggest concern, you have an easy life and need to stfu.
@billypitts6368 must be nice to have something so small and insignificant be the worst problem your have.
100% agree with you on #2. I never liked that game and my thinking was if you flirt with someone
else when we are dating I will interpret that as YOU RATHER BE WITH HIM period no discussion!
And that would be my que to exit!
For my last few relationships, what I saw as a potential red flag after date ONE turned out to be the very thing that caused the end of the relationship about two years later.
Bad breath
Thanks for keeping me single and most importantly rich 😂😝☺️❤️
The need to announce she is "Drama Free". This tells me that if things get tough for any reason, she is going to bail. Being without drama and the need to announce it, are two different things.
I gotta push back on #8 (bad driving). All the others are sufficient grounds for a breakup because they reveal a character flaw or unhealthy habit, but driving is just a skill. How strongly one should consider her driving skills also depends greatly on how long she's had her license and been driving regularly: you shouldn't expect a teenager to be as good a driver as someone who's been driving for 20 years. I'd call it a yellow flag at worst... unless she's unwilling to try to improve, which would be a character flaw, not just a lack of skill.
Bad driving is often a sign of being prone to panicking or being unable to function under pressure.
@@trubrewman it is more often a sign of entitlement, stupidity, carelessness, and/or inability to process information. While driving is a skill, one cannot teach a fish to ride a bicycle for a reason.
The only issue I've EVER had with a woman's driving was how much she tried to do it from her side - the passenger side - of the car.
Yup went through all ten with an ex. Terrible driver, we went through all four tires on the car and the four spares in less than a year. She kept hitting the curb and popping the tires. Also missed one, gossiping. If I asked her about HER day, I’d get useless gossip about everyone she encountered that day and tell me nothing about what she did all day. I developed a way of parroting back everything she said, but I soon as I repeated it, I’d wipe my mind clean. Fortunately, she never made me repeat twice.
Wow. That's crazy. So many tires!
@@LGDarksteed sadly we had the same type of car, PT Cruiser as her parents, so since her dad put custom wheels and better tires on theirs we bought the tires/wheels to have spares. Never expected to use all of them and buy more in a year. SMMFH!
Great solid advice. I've walked away from several relationships when the girl I was seeing met quite a few of those things. In a relationship, the mind can not only be in the "honeymoon" phase. You have to think and look beyond it...Also, I loved the "Energy Vampire" quote. It's a winner😅
You are absolutely correct...smoking is a huge turn-off.
Completely agree. I dated one girl who smoked when I was around 19. I got really tired of kissing an ashtray goodnight. Disgusting! Never again.
unless you yourself smoke and then it's not.
@@Qingeaton Understandable. One nasty tasting mouth meeting another...ecstacy!
Girls who smoke are hot ❤
It doesnt bother me if she smokes or not, but thats me
Another turn off for me, a woman that wants to sleep with me after or even before the first date. Very well could be a possible manipulation tactic.
Hmmm, the women I've known don't even want to sleep with me after the tenth date! I guess they believe the "rumors". :/
How she treats her father... I missed this one.. Her Mother took priority in the family hierarchy over the years of the marriage. The ex didn't cut the apron strings...
I quit dating long ago. But one of my big turnoffs was belittling someone’s occupation, avocations, or interests. The biggest one for me was cycling. The moment a woman made a derisive comment about bicycles, cycling or cyclists, I mentally crossed her off. I was never again going to be the perfect man, except for _________________. I knew from experience the woman had just started her mission to take that out of my life.
My favorite is when people claim that guys who play video games are "losers." This is usually said by people who binge Netflix in their spare time or spend hours on social media every day. How is that any better than playing video games?? Yes, it's possible for someone to have a problem with excessive gaming, but it's also possible to do ANYTHING in excess.
@@kylemacdougall8355 Except cycling. It's impossible to cycle too much. 😂
But cyclists can be so annoying on the road. 🚴♀️
@@Jules-740 You were aware when you asked the government for a driver license there were bicycles legally on roadways. Your annoyance is completely a you problem.
@@Cathmoytura I'm just saying...🤣🤣🤣
Hygiene is definitely a big one. If I can know where you are in a dark room without seeing or hearing you, we got problems. And don't think a guy is going down there for a personal conversation if you can't keep hair in your head clean. Smoking, definitely. Cannot stand smokers breath. Thankfully, my wife quit for our son when she found out she was pregnant. And my wife's driving is atrocious. I can say that as a million mile over the road safe driver. I can't be a passenger of my wife's. I'd rather walk. The lack of effort is a new one. My wife has a chronic illness and still tries. No excuses, ladies. So, yeah. I would also add a lady who's too eager to sleep with you right off the bat or says things like "I'm on birth control" or "We don't need protection." My ass. That's Barracks Rat behavior. Straight up Dependapotomous's.
No, I don't like the smell of cigarette smoke or too much perfume.
Tell me your prior profession without telling me. CIF still waiting on you to bring your wooby in.
Yeah. Smoking is gross but not a dealbreaker to me.
Oh the things I could say about my relationship with my ex wife could give you content for years; I even thought of writing a book.
I never dated a woman who smoked more than once. It's like licking an ashtray.
Ew, ew, ew! 😎
Biggest turn-off, a bitter attitude towards any aspect of life. Angry, fine. What a prolonged negativity and contempt. That's a whole different thing.
SMOKING: first date learned she smoked, I said no second date. She quit while with me and later quit smoking. We dated for 3 years, now married 40 years!
My lady asked if I smoked after sex. I told her, "I don't know, I've never checked!"
Tattoos, metal in the face, mouth enlargement procedure, swearing, spitting, pink, blue and green hair, saying 'patriarchy' even once.
or "pronouns" lolo
@@Qingeaton Cheers.
mouth enlargement ? :O
To build on your point around the service industry, it's not just knowing their is a value hierarchy but also indicates that you are going or could be perceived as lesser than others. How loyal is a mercenary if someone wealthier comes along.
Fot me a woman who just wants to spend money if you have.some extra money like if you.get a bonus and she wants to waste it instead of paying extra on bills do that you are debt free and can save for.something.
My biggest turn offs are: 1= ugly nails, to include designs, colors I especially hate are: red, black, purple, brown, yellow, orange, gray, blue, green, etc; 2=too much make-up & especially ugly make-up; 3= big boobs, especially fake looking; 4= big butts that do not look natural; 5= stupid hair, ex: more than a natural color hair.; 6= lipstick that looks unnatural, ex: reds, blacks,stupid colors too many to list.. you did mention a few in your vid today. ex: smoking, rude,poor treating of service people. one final is woman who think every they say is funny( when it is NOT).
In other words, if you want to date a clown, you will go to a circus.
Sadly women are taught that these things are attractive possibly by other women never thought that sticking plastic to myself was taking care of myself.
@@janechapman7801 Dear Jane, so cool u answered me. for 33+ yrs, I have a wife who never wears any make-up & I often tell her how much I still love her for it. got her to stop smoking many yrs ago too. 1 super turn off I did not mention was tats. I have seen too many women having them and they all look like $hit. I just do not get anyone wanting them, but especially woman. if my wife would have had one, we would not be married. I hate them that much. I think most guys care less as long as they think they will score. good luck, keep making enjoyable vids.
@@janechapman7801 Jane, oh, I forgot to mention one of the hugest turnoff's, fake enhanced features, EX: lips, boobs, hips, etc. I even knew a girl who made her entry hole smaller to please a guy, how stupid was that. he left her so soon after that too.
@@michaelt.d.blasting8705 I was always tempted to get my itty bitty boobs done but never did; my little sister did at barely 18 and has also got many piercings and some small tattoos and the long fake nails; it's a little hard to believe we were raised by the same conservative, religious parents and went to a private Christian school K-12. Some guys in the comments say no plastic surgery but on the flip side, would they realistically be attracted to a woman who is a 32A/AA?
Both of the phone things for sure. I was seeing a girl who would respond to other people's snaps right away when she was with me but then would take hours or sometimes even a full day to respond to me. Quickly lost interest in that one
Watching someone reply to every notification they get, but not getting replies for a day, that shits irritating and never worth it. Those people are more interested in social media relationships than real relationships.
Respect, men need respect. A man will do whatever he has to do within his means to provide his woman the best life possible. We all know the honeymoon stage slowly fades away but love and affection will get us through but getting disrespected will kill even that.
Add #11: Dishonesty. Several of these are spot-on for my ex, but one that Emily left out is simple dishonesty. If she can't be trusted, if her word isn't good, I've learned (painfully) that it's a character trait that doesn't go away or get better. It just gets worse.
Same with cheating. If you ever find that someone wasn't actually single when you got involved with them, don't make the mistake to tell yourself it will be different with you.
When im flipping thru profiles and I spot an attractive woman hugging a big dog or hugging all her dogs, I move on. You know youll always play second Fiddle to a dog
From my point of view, you only need one green flag: she sees you as a wonder from another plantet and she proves it.
if a woman delay an answer on purpose without giving a valid reason, i cut coms, straight out. She's living in an imaginary world with delusional plays... i'm out.
Regarding driving, I have come to believe (strongly) that a fast way to see what a person is really like is to go for a ride with them in their car with them driving. The real person comes out when they get behind the wheel. If someone is a bad driver, that likely reflects a mindset that permeates everything else they do.
Smoking is definitely a turn off. If she's perfect but smokes that's a no for me
Also tattoos
I have a long list of red flags and deal-breakers, but here's a random, non-exhaustive list to complement what the video and some comments have already said:
- Women who *can't have a conversation,* or at the very least listen to your thoughts
- Women who *don't ask questions* / *don't show interest* in your person and your life
- Women who *don't have hobbies and passions,* or have shallow interests (we don't need to like the same things, but when your only interests are TikTok and make-up, you're too shallow)
- Women who *never, ever initiate* (I don't want to be the one who always initiates, because it requires effort, and it also tells me that you're not really interested)
- Women with *double standards,* e.g. women who set the bar higher for the man but lower for herself
- Women who *dress immodestly* / revealingly
- Women who *drink alcohol regularly*
- Women who *like to party* and go out to night clubs
Also some icks of mine in particular:
- Excessive make-up
- Tattoos
- Piercings
I will not date a smoker or Vaper, complete turnoff in a woman
Eeŵwww smoking . ...such a turn off
When it come to how people treat people in the service fields it's not just about position in society, it's also shows a lot about personality. People that are rude to service people are not nice people, it will eventually come around and they will treat you the same.
My Ten biggest turn offs.
1. Women that smoke.
2. Women whose bodies are covered with tatoos.
3. Women with body piercings anywhere but one hole in each ear for an earring.
3.5. Women with fake bodies - breast enlargement, breast reduction, silicon butts, hair dye and contact lens to change the eye color - if she is a brown eyed brunette - and no paint brush eye lashes.
4. Women that text instead of calling.
5. Women that are rude.
6. Women that flirt.
7. Women that are promiscuous.
8. Women that wear jeans and t-shirts, sweats and hoodies, exercise wear, Lululemon and bike shorts. Women that won’t wear a dress and heels and makeup and nail polish.
9. Women that will not talk over arguments in private if they won’t talk about it in public.
10. Women that don’t like K-pop.
My wife only sees me as a paycheck she can use. It's never been "our" money, it's always been "hers"
You basically red flagged my wife... she fits every single point you stated.
My ex was the same way
She controlled the money
Time to cut your losses and RUN
Well, fool me once...
The 'we totally need 3,000 dollar new drapes' but you want to buy something new for one of your hobbies 'you just wasted 300 dollars' ?
Change your deposit to an account that she does not have access to and give her an allowance to spend.
Ya left out option #3, she’s flirting with a guy because she just loves attention from other men. By far the worst.
As to #10, I don’t want a lot of effort nor a little. Just be yourself, if your chill, be chill, can’t we try and see how our default energy meshes? Because that’s what the future will be built on and not some crazy effort. Loving you for you, for the vibe, how our minds click and effortlessly. It should feel right as base ourselves.
Flirting for validation with other men.
Feminists, lack of communication, female drama....I'm out!!
I agree with all of these, but especially with SMOKING. The most disgusting habit and I absolutely would never date a smoker.
Anyone being rude to people in the service industry, male or female, is a huge red flag. The flirting with other guys to get my attention should have been outgrown in their tweens, not their twenties. Intentional manipulation is an automatic bounce, they're gone. Selfish is another basic character flaw, they're gone. Life is too short for nonsense.
Women who are liars and disrespectful, have no sense of humor, and are arrogant and selfish are huge turn offs to me.
Finally, life can be a battle and for this reason I do not want a battle when I get home. I want a woman who brings a great atmosphere to my home
How’s this for a red flag:
I met one of my neighbors (let’s call her Becky) because both of our dogs wanted to play together. We got to talking for a bit and decided to hang out. At the time, I just wanted to be friends with Becky because she was dating a guy who was twice her age. Anyway, the second time I hung out with her, we were just chatting and then she tells me about how her ex-fiancé gave her AIDS and how that experience made her self conscious and afraid of being alone. At first, I had no idea why she was telling me such personal details when we haven’t known each other that long, but I chose to keep listening. The third time I saw her, things were okay. Just walking our dogs, talking about life, etc. But THEN, one night she calls me at 4:30 AM and tells me she injured her fingers because she slammed the door on her boyfriend that she had broken up with! So, me being the neighbor who’s too nice for his own good, I go to her place to make sure she’s okay. Her fingers were swollen, she was CLEARLY intoxicated and she called the police because “she wanted to file an incident report but didn’t want to press charges.” So after she wasted their time, she called her mother to tell her about the breakup. Her MOTHER apologized to ME for her daughter dragging me into that drama!! At this point, I was ready to bail out the window, but didn’t say anything yet. So, Becky was able to relax after a bit and then tells me that she has a crush on me and ambushes me with a kiss right the hell out of nowhere! (Although, it’s possible I sent her the wrong signals by mistake without realizing it, but still!) I turned her down as politely as I could and left. She never got violent or anything, but she was surprised and very upset!🤦♂️A few days later, I see her ex’s truck outside her house which tells me she must’ve taken him back. I’ve been avoiding her for months.
If you made it to the end of this, you have my respect!😅😅
Competitive woman. That one who always wants to be in charge of everything, being "the male" of the relationship.
I was gonna add to your comment.... but she won't let me :(
1. I guarantee you that your career path will take unexpected turns in the course of your adult life. At some point, you do realize the futility in "the rat race" and how little it truly matters in life. Ambitions and goals? Absolutely. I don't want laziness or sitting on the couch every night. Let's achieve some goals. But let's not gauge our worth my the size of our paycheck or the illusory "prestige" of a job title. Those jobs can, and will, disappear in a flash. I would rather be madly in love with my true love and struggle to barely make ends meet than live comfortably with someone who is cold, distant, aloof, or unloving.
2. Flirting with other people under any circumstances is flatly unacceptable and will be considered an immediate FIRING OFFENSE. I have been burned, toyed with, stood up, and cheated on. To quote Frank Sinatra: "A lady doesn't leave her escort. It isn't fair. It isn't nice. A lady doesn't wander all over the room and blow on some other guy's dice."
Oh, and ladies? Any man who flirts or even looks at another woman deserves to get the nearest drink thrown in his face. You shall not tolerate one second of that. That stupid meme with the guy looking over his shoulder at the other girl? You have full permission to bloody his nose and leave him crying for his mommy.
3. Weeks without washing her hair? What?! Who does that?
4. Stupid phone addiction is a real problem. At my age, I am more sympathetic and understand the nature of the addiction, but, still, put the damned thing down. That is, unless you're using your phone or tablet to look at my art/photography ebooks. In that case, thank you so much, you're a sweetheart! Hah.
5. Complaining about things sometimes can be good, I'm Generation X, after all. But nobody likes a Negative Creep. Let's all work together to be positive and find the goodness in life. Indeed, we ought to inspire one another to heal our respective wounds, confront our traumas and grow together every single day.
6. Bashing one's ex doesn't sound very good. In fact, I'll go one further and strongly suggest that you mention your ex as seldom as possible. If you must mention an ex (especially an ex-spouse where children are involved), please be as diplomatic and non-judgmental as possible. Women will not tolerate men who complain about past lovers, and for good reason. Please do likewise.
7. Smoking is a personal choice, and I grew up in an age where cigarette smoke was everywhere. But that's still a terrible habit and murder on your breath. Also, cancer and lung disease are horrible ways to die. I had a grandmother who died this way, and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Like Bill Hicks once said, there are better drugs for you. Hah.
8. Don't be a terrible driver. Again, let's avoid the terrible deaths if at all possible. I would suppose this is a concern if "road rage" is present, or if driving brings out an angrier, more vulgar side to your personality. If that is the case, please, let's just take the bus or train and save ourselves the stress.
9. Don't play manipulative little games in any situation, and that goes double with the stupid phones. In fact, and this does reveal my age, I would prefer a phone call instead of text messages. I'm kind of done with texting, to be honest. Obviously, staying in touch and letting me know when you're coming or going is very considerate, thank you. But I don't want the long text messages anymore. I want you here in person. I can't snuggle a stupid phone.
As a personal note, I should add that I have great ambivalence towards online dating (Tinder, Bumble, Yadda Yadda) and much of that has to do with text messaging, sending and receiving little notes like we're kids in school, having to wait to see if someone ever responds, hoping that they won't just disappear without a trace. Ugh. Can we all agree that those websites are terrible and just go back to speaking to one another in person? Like, as in talking to people you see outside every day? Can we please do that again?
10. Selfishness, laziness and self-absorbed behavior is lethal for anyone. And that is something where I have burned out all my patience years ago. I will not tolerate childish or cruel behavior. If you are in my life, I am looking for a partner who will also play a major role in the life of my daughter. I need a positive female role model for her. I need someone that she can look up to, someone to aspire to. I don't need another child to raise. My hands are full.
In addition, I need to say this: waiting a period of time before we sleep together is a GOOD THING. I have no problems with this whatsoever. Indeed, ladies, any man who does object should be immediately thrown out the door. Most guys are only after That Thing, That Thing, That Thiiing...You need to show your strength and power as a woman and keep those wolves at bay. And don't get me started on that whole "body count" nonsense. It's terrible for everyone.
ProTip: There are two types of people out there in the dating world: the one with whom you want to Settle Down, and the Village Bicycle. This goes for BOTH men and women. The Fonz (oy froynlavin, this is really dating me) is never going to have a wife and family. I'm an old-fashioned romantic who believes in that silly fairy tale about True Love and The One. I would much rather have that in my life than anything else. It really is true that at some point in life, all you really want is peace. Sitting in your favorite chair, reading books, watching movies or playing videogames, tending to your garden, those sound very nice. All that's needed is that perfect partner to share those days.
Go and do likewise. I hope this helps a little. Good luck.
1. I jump at the opportunity to help others. I helped someone put away a pop-up camper, but when I returned to my gf, she jumped all over me for not being there with her. I ended the relationship that day! She was stressed out, but not independent enough to work by herself.
2. The biggest turn off is the laugh. If they laugh all through dating, then never again after the honeymoon, you feel trapped. This is one emotion that is required for a relationship! If you don't laugh but for show, Hollywood is your next option. We don't like actors!
3. Big turn off are fake nails, eyelashes, flip-flops, designer clothes and bag, fake voice, and the need to show off money. There is nothing more fake than a money pit.
4. It is funny, I am not attracted to what I see, but what I hear. So someone that dresses sexy, tends to be a turn off. Modest dress says they aren't wanting to attract every man in sight. Showing off body parts is a turn off. I work in front of people, so I don't want her to have issues with the public, more than normal.
5. The car she drives is a tell on who she is. A Mini Cooper is a red flag. A sports car is okay. A truck is a green flag. A mini van means run!!!! A Jeep Wrangler means watch out, if she has ever rolled it. The color of the car is a major statement! Run from green, gray, and brown. If she has no car, she could be an opportunist, so run.
6. Grandkids that want to split up the relationship, is a turn off. When you hit 45, this becomes an issue. Those little kids are selfish to the core, and they will try to separate you from your date. It looks harmless, but this turn off has weight.
7. French kissing while she has her false teeth in! I had to gross you out! I have had this problem before, and it is a turn off.
8. Pets with ownership issues are a turn off. I got bit by an ankle biter, and I nearly turned him into a field goal. I am a horse and dog person, so when this tiny dog turned on me, I was shocked!
9. Giving bad examples in a conversation, is a turn off. This shows you can't relate to the subject.
10. Timing! If a woman calls me every time I am in the shower, she isn't going to get a return call. Calling me 20 minutes after I go to bed, is a great way to end a relationship.
11. The Clingy turn off. Only bullies like clingy women. If she is that insecure, she will never make it in the music industry!
I'm sorry but #5 seems quite ridiculous to me, I'd like to know more to potentially get insight on your reasonings and change my mind.
@@brandondeese8073 The car gives you an idea of their character. The Mini Cooper attracts women that like sporty but low cost, this is one step up from a Honda. A Honda is a money pit if you use dealership maintenance. Anything Japanese is a death trap for the aggressive drivers. The minivan says troop hauler, so if she says she has an empty nest, look out! A Mercedes is a large red flag as the cars love the mechanic. If drives a Corvette with a V8, keep her! There is a good chance she knows more than shoes and nails.
About number 10.
When or how do you know if you give more than you receive?
Example: You are seing a girl now and then, and you live like 2 h drive apart, you have been intimate and both shared that you enjoy spending time with eachother, however you do not text all the time or being suffocating and such. You do enjoy the time being together and when so, none of you are on your phones. Also she did tell you that she enjoy spending time with you, and everything will fall into place withing it`s time. However, you don`t feel that you are geting back as much as you are giving, hence the first point, BUT we are supposed to give as men.
Do those thing that I mentioned from the woman side count as "interest" torwards you, ot I`m just delusional? I`ll appreciate if a lady can share her point of view.
Regards,
Tony.