Question. Pourquoi les evitants sont ils cruels avec ceux qui les aiment ? On dirait que plus la personne est proche et plus l'evitant devient particulièrement odieux. Même avec les gens secures ils ont toujours cette haine de l'autre comme si sa simple présence était intolérable.
a fearful avoidant will sometimes test to see how serious you are about them. for instance, my ex would say things like "you should see other people, I dont want to get into anything serious, i have my kids I dont need anythng else." but then when i said "i am seeing other people" she looked incredibly hurt and shocked. I actually wasnt seeing anyone else I just thought thats what she wanted to hear... ps alex i sent ya an email. (lonnie burnside)
…yep, that’s what I did recently. I saw what was happening and nipped it in the bud, walked away from what I considered was a very beautiful relationship. She shut down emotionally after 3 months and I have zero tolerance. These are impossible relationships unless you are equally sociopathic and narcissistic. Avoid the avoidant at all costs. I’m here to figure out how the hell I attracted such a person.
@@0Demiyah0 ....such is the dissonance between the so-called 'honeymoon period' and the moment they reveal their true character. I'm a pretty smart guy, self aware and very experienced in some very nice relationships over a lot of years,even with an avoidant for 12 years, who I still remain relatively close to by the way. The point being, I never saw it, the only thing I could say about those 3 months is that is seemed too perfect. Also, I am not suggesting these people are sociopaths or narcissists, I don't beliebe they are, however, they do have strong tendencies in both. You state it perfectly yourself...."Crazy" !
@@cspace1234nz why did you think that? how you attracted her? Because they appear secure and just like any other person initially. One thing i realised is they are attracted to you very much based on physical looks and mirror your interests to give an impression of a personality/character compatibility.
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Pourquoi les evitants sont ils cruels avec ceux qui les aiment ? On dirait que plus la personne est proche et plus l'evitant devient particulièrement odieux. Même avec les gens secures ils ont toujours cette haine de l'autre comme si sa simple présence était intolérable.
a fearful avoidant will sometimes test to see how serious you are about them. for instance, my ex would say things like "you should see other people, I dont want to get into anything serious, i have my kids I dont need anythng else." but then when i said "i am seeing other people" she looked incredibly hurt and shocked. I actually wasnt seeing anyone else I just thought thats what she wanted to hear... ps alex i sent ya an email. (lonnie burnside)
@@therealkeinemoniker no one would want you anyway🤣🤣🤣
@@michaelvideos4672 tell that to your mother, she wont leave me alone.
@@michaelvideos4672 not what your mom says.
How would monkey branching affect this process?
Same question…
What if I broke up with them?
…yep, that’s what I did recently. I saw what was happening and nipped it in the bud, walked away from what I considered was a very beautiful relationship. She shut down emotionally after 3 months and I have zero tolerance. These are impossible relationships unless you are equally sociopathic and narcissistic. Avoid the avoidant at all costs. I’m here to figure out how the hell I attracted such a person.
I also recently broke up with them, same questions on my mind 🤔 would it be different?
@@cspace1234nzwow, there's a huge dissonance between "very beautiful relationship" and words like "sociopathic and narcissistic". Crazy.
@@0Demiyah0 ....such is the dissonance between the so-called 'honeymoon period' and the moment they reveal their true character. I'm a pretty smart guy, self aware and very experienced in some very nice relationships over a lot of years,even with an avoidant for 12 years, who I still remain relatively close to by the way. The point being, I never saw it, the only thing I could say about those 3 months is that is seemed too perfect. Also, I am not suggesting these people are sociopaths or narcissists, I don't beliebe they are, however, they do have strong tendencies in both. You state it perfectly yourself...."Crazy" !
@@cspace1234nz why did you think that? how you attracted her? Because they appear secure and just like any other person initially. One thing i realised is they are attracted to you very much based on physical looks and mirror your interests to give an impression of a personality/character compatibility.