Is it possible for your type to change? Like if you're a feeler constantly surrounded by thinkers, will you kinda morph into their way of thinking? Or vice versa
*How to "put in practice" the 4th function! My sister is an ENFP, therefore has Si as her inferior function... she is kinda messy, forgets some responsabilities. It's hard to see that daily
Mbti relationship talk pls! What do they usually/probably look for in a partner, what negative traits that they wouldnt mind, & what turn them off the most😂
I think my favorite part about these is Frank doesn't come across as some arrogant expert like so many others do. His expertise is undeniable but the delivery makes it feel like you're discussing it with a friend and not being lectured.
While I agree that he has a charming way of going about this, making the topic more accessible, he is far from an expert. In this video alone I've noticed multiple mistakes/misinterpretations/generalisations. It is possible to simplify the content to some extent without losing the meaning, but this overdoes it
@@vickyschewe9678 well I think this is what most people need. We learn so much with Frank, and then if someone want they can get deeper/more accurate like you said. We all have already too much serious stuff and obligations in our lifes, if this also has the tinge of boredom we wouldn't watch it in the first place.
@@vickyschewe9678 I mean, if he went into specifics about each topic with every type, the videos would be at least an hour long. I think the way he does it is good cuz it educates anyone, not just those who look into this topic deeply. I love looking at this topic deeply but I still like watching his video cuz they're fun and it feels less like I'm in a class
Is it normal to an INTP to be >confused< about what we feeling?? Cuz I have difficulties when it comes to identify what is happening to my heart so I just ignore it and go read a book or anything also not related to emotions
Thats not true tho because We do. We are not robots, we just see no sense in letting it take control over our decision making and rationality. I have exploded on people before and I have cried as an intp. It just takes a lot for me to get to that point. I'm uncomfortable to show emotion in front of others but I can still feel emotions deeply.
@@namoradadowinwin3291 this is more what its like to be an intp not the robot type mentioned above. I really don't see why an intp would lie to themselves and say they have no emotions when they do. They just don't know what or how they feel. We are not able to express it but that doesn't mean we don't process it.
@@namoradadowinwin3291 I would guess so. I needed a real long time and watching people around me (books and movies help too with studying "human emotions") to understand what I am feeling. Still not always sure about it and I usually need several days of processing, BUT I still tend to ignore it, if it's not important... it's just a hassle. If I didn't hurt anyone (meaning someone who actually means something to me), no need to do research and waste my time 😁
I’m an INTP, and I absolutely loathe talking about feelings. But I really like figuring out why I feel what I feel. I’ve never had a meltdown, and I think that’s why. When I feel strongly enough about something, I have to know WHY. Why do I care about x thing so much, that it affects me. And after I figure it out, everything is okay again. So, I think my problem is that I try to overanalyze and rationalize my emotions instead of just... feeling them.
Same! But I found that while analyzing everything you think and feel makes it easy to get through life, it also makes it boring. Emotions are what make living life so colorful. So even though it feels childish to me, I've been allowing myself to sit with my emotions for longer rather than just rationalizing and moving on. We're kind of lucky in a way, because I think it's a lot easier to learn to allow emotion into your logic compared to learning how to bring logic into your emotions, like the introverted feelers.
I do the same, except I also feel the need to justify the emotions I am feeling, if I am allowed to feel those or not. I thought it was the logical and sound thing to do but apparently it is reall not.
Went to the comment section to find fellow INFPs who talk about their feelings! When heard the description of the inner feelers, started questioning my type, myself, my life :D: Great to be not alone!
@@sashagordy943 At first I was really thinking he seemed off haha.. which was strange cause FJ is always dead accurate about me! 🤣 But eventually I got to the point where, I don't think he means we never share our feelings with others, so much as we don't bounce our feelings off others. We feel deeply, so we can often share deeply with those close to us.. but at least for myself, the depth of emotion I share is directly proportional to the depth of connection I have to the person, or at least want to have lol. And we share it to connect with someone, or to get our burden eased because we can't carry any more, or something along those lines. As opposed to how FJ was describing the extroverted feelers sharing their emotions in order to determine whether they should be feeling that in the first place, and to influence the feelings of everyone else
I'm an INTJ and the aspect about dealing with emotions only when you're forced to is so true for me, I recently talked to my parents about my future and so on and suddenly started to cry because I realized how important that actually is, thinking about it on my own I just went through it thinking logically
@@hyruleanate Not sure if I am INTJ with all them online test take, it is easy to mistype (it says INTJ, 4w5, ILI, 458). When I was dealing with an emotion first I tried to shove it aside, that didn't work. Then I started looking for ways to block them because my all attention from the external environment got cut off. I was in my head daily for hours trying to figure out what went wrong or why did it happen then it went from that into me getting anxious about my future but when I spoke to my bro about them it got easier. Fun fact I went deep into Personality and trying to know my type to some obsessive length (info over indulgence) because things weren't going as planned in real life and at least knowing my thinking pattern is something that should help me find where I could optimize in myself and I thought maybe it could explain somethings to me like wtf my memory is crappy and why I am always looking for things that I use daily like my glasses. But it made things worst because most sources say self typing in not really accurate due to biases and also the stereotypes didn't really suit me at all. So now I still don't know my type and from most sources I read they come out with different description of the cognitive functions Is it INTJ or ISFP
Omg my sister is 13 and has had an extreme anxiety attack about this exact topic.. as her INFJ older sister i was the only one in the family she could come out to and talk to about slowing down and taking things one day at a time and to not worry about the future holds, just embrace and be thankful for today. Shes doing better now.. I pray and hope you will as well. Take care of yourself, you got this❤
Same...Like i don't understand what they feel. I try to understand but i somehow failed and always got misunderstood. I understand but why do I act that way.
as an istp I say: We feel emotions, and we know how to deal with them ALONE. emotions are too personal to be discussed with anyone and even when we want, it seems complicated and the other person doesn’t understand, so it’s easier to just leave. It's just our way
I hope you get the full amount because your videos are good and you might be the first time I've seen cognitive functions discussed in tandem with MBTI.
Not rly confusing at all.ur fe function is basically why u wanna share happines.its also the same reason u don't wanna share your pain.cause u don't wanna annoy anyone.i think u should somtimes have an output for ur sadness like talking to ur friends.
As an INFJ myself, I can confirm what Anisa says. It’s our empathic nature, as in our ability to relate to other people’s emotions. We hate how we felt during hard times, so we avoid the conflict of making other’s sad or angry. Even when they deserve it, it is never vindicating to affect them negatively because we have at least an understanding of what they are feeling, which causes us to relate to it ourselves. So we spread the happier vibes and we try to make things easier for others, even going so far as to “fix” or “improve” others. Not out of arrogance, but out of anxiety. Hope that makes sense.
ENFP here. I turn my emotions into logical thoughts to figure out why I feel the way I do about a certain situation. It's a pretty productive way to understand myself and others. Also, figuring out people's intentions, biases, and motivation are good ways to turn your emotions into logic. This way, it is easy to find solutions to either cut toxic out people from your life or to keep people who are "rude" but ultimately want the best for you.
me, an ENTP trying to process my emotions: hey, brain, what are we feeling? my brain: idk lol, but I'll give you 20 answers that you don't really believe to describe it
Hmm I guess yes, can't control emotion sometimes. As INTP or INFJ ( the test result changed sometimes), I feel moody. Like angry about someone or something in the past, several hours later cry about why I get angry about it. But rarely or never talk about it to other people.
Sometimes, I do default to ignoring the existence of my emotions. They can be such a pain to sort out. Reading books is my go-to strategy for returning to baseline. -INTP
I hope you read this. I am an INTJ that has felt many thing she wished she didn't. However, in order to be balanced and stable, you must acknowledge your emotions. It sucks and is a tiring and annoying process, but it must be done in order to be happy and productive. To all of the people that think it's romantic for an INTJ to be married to an ENFP, you are dead wrong.
a sample of an INTJ (me) trying to use Fe and an INTP (my friend) being asked about Fi: He had a car accident, I asked him how he was, he only said he's ok and then he asked me to play a video game with him, so we did.
No.1: finally , I thought we were about to go extinct . No.2: I actually do talk about them , but with myself , literally. Even if not aloud, but I can hear the voice inside of my head , it's like there are several people with my same voice discussing it with each one looking at it from a different angle , some of them are very strictly logical and some are more emotional , and it actually helps. But talking about them with another person , revealing my inner self , problems and weaknesses , not in a million years, Haha 😈 but though, I feel I've become more mature about it . Before , I would be so angry about it especially if I don't want to feel it , I am angry that I can't control it , why can't I?😂 but now I accept them until I figure it out , if I feel that then I feel it even if it's silly , I DECIDE what to think and what to feel .
As an INFP I do spend a lot of time processing my emotions by myself, but within the last few years I’ve definitely opened up to a few people in my life about my feelings. I’ve been going through a lot of confusing negative emotions due to personal problems, and it was hard handling them on my own. Sometimes I feel like I talk about my feelings too much with certain people.
As an INTP, I suppress my emotions but still feel them, if that makes any sense. I don't like thinking about them but they still show up in my body language and facial expressions, so the people around me know what I'm feeling but don't know why I'm feeling them because I don't talk about it. I have trouble articulating my feelings without snapping and ruining all of my personal relationships. But that's more of my problem rather than an INTP problem.
Agreed. Luckily for you, you haven’t exploded in front of someone 🥲 I think I need better friends though cause they always seem to freak out like “wait I thought this person would listen to me and not talk… Buh byeeeee” and leave to hang out with someone else and leaves me feeling abandoned and vulnerable 😐
As an INTP, I relate to the part where people around me *knows* how I feel because of my facial expression but I actually do know why I feel like that. The problem is, I'm not feeling the emotion intensely and with my face, everyone thinks I'm pissed when really, I'm feeling something less than anger.
Yes it is INTP problem and huge one. What you said ”I suppress my emotions but still feel them” I have that same problem and imo it is because we INTPs dont want to give energy/pay too much attention into emotions because it most likely is away from thinking something that were more intrested into. Thats also why i think some people think that misfit INTPs are INFPs in their head but we actually feel so much but dont want to seem as ”loser” coz were already nerdy. I love being me ✨but i also love you too who ever sees this know that youre peace of art no matter whats your color or personality , make best out of living 🥰
ENTP processing emotions with no one else who can talk to them: Here, let me just construct a hypothetical person in my head and have a five hour long debate.
sometimes i feel crazy do that so many hours, but it’s more like i went to therapy and the psychologist listen to me saying weird things and debating about what is the thing i feel lol cuz i’m uncomfortable telling to people things i can’t process and can’t recognize,,, i just can suppose what i feel after 8 hours investigating about
Enfp is so true. I mean I mostly just joke through pain and not let myself feel it. I show surface level feelings but when it’s deeper things I don’t want to talk about it, and like I said will try and distract myself to feel better, not with logic more like replacing a bad feeling with something I know makes me feel good,
Same, also and ENFP. Tho when I'm replacing the bad feeling with something surface level good it's really cause I don't think anyone else wants to know my emotions. So I file it away until I can get some time to work through it
As an ENTP I've said for years that I don't even know what I'm feeling until I talk about it out loud. I'll even record myself and listen back, so I can quantify what I think I might be feeling. Everything you said about extraverted feeling resonated, even though it's my third function.
In the book The Body Keeps the Score, there is this one therapeutic method that is a deriviaton of what I was already doing- just writing or typing away until I wore myself down to realizing it isn't worth dealing with or what I am really upset about. But, for this one you are supposed to pick an object, study it, start writing about it and then let the thoughts flow freely as you keep writing about whatever comes into your mind. No rereading, no editing. Stop when done, as far as I know. That and just bad dancing- foot tapping, arm wiggling, flailing about- followed by more purposeful dancing- are supposed to be good for getting at the root of even heavy traumas and certainly mild angst.
Intp: we feel emotions but we put them into a bottle and hide them where we can't find them. until they overflow onto a random person for unknown reasons in the form of sarcastic ridicule. Which make us feel much better.
INFJ- yeah sometimes I have no idea what I feel because I have x amount of possible feelings I am feeling and I just end up getting confused. I can understand what others are feeling but sometimes I dont understand my own feelings. If that makes sense...🙃 I just can't filter...to many feels. When I found out I was INFJ I realized that's just how I'm wired...and I'm not alone! Which is very nice to know. 😊😊
@hina mars 😊😊 it is really interesting to learn about the different personalities and what makes them tick. Like I can't process how INTJ works....my brain won't let me ignore certain things or feelings. Sometimes I wish I could and sometimes you try but it goes against everything you "feel" makes you YOU.
As an INFJ I can soothe everyone else's emotions and make them feel better in a really easy and quick fashion. After feeling every emotion they are feeling 10 fold I am left with a sea of emotions with no idea what my emotion is if any other than overwhelmed and sea sick from riding everyone else's. I can be near someone and feel their energy. Someone is annoyed at the grocery store I now feel annoyed even though I have no reason to. Someone then walks by sad. Now add sad to the list. Meanwhile I don't want to be there in the first place for this very reason so I'm feeling anxiety but with the cocktail of emotions running through me subconsciously I don't even realize what I am feeling until I can leave the store and talk about it with my boyfriend on the way home. My INFP boyfriend on the other hand has been in his head the whole time with his emotions which I also feel very strongly but can't gauge who his emotion is directed at so I then add in worry I've upset him with my own subconscious actions without my knowledge. We get along amazingly but in a social setting are usual dealing with things so differently we are constantly like are you ok and don't get to what really bothered us until I have to discuss my feelings so I can understand them and move on. By the time we get home and away from everyone we are great again. Stong FE and strong FI exploding at the same moment is the most intense feeling I've ever experienced. At least with my INFJ son or my ENFJ daughter we are throwing everything out there all at the same time and then come out the other side like oh now I get it. You get to the point much faster and everyone got a chance to work it out so no one feels left out. FI is so hard to wrap my mind around sometimes. Lol
@hina mars it's not terrifying not knowing what your emotion is. It's terrifying having to feel everyone else's even though you are having a great day and now your emotionally exhausted for no reason other than being exposed to everyone else's feelings. We talk about our feelings to get to the bottom of it because our subconscious feels all this and we can only process it through consciously discussing it. The weird thing is we have to get out of our head to understand. Usually the other person is just along for the ride. We don't need them to figure it out for us. We need them to listen so we can experience everything in the conversation then it will be like a little light bulb goes off and it's like ohhhh now I get it now I feel. They may never say anything just listen. We can get past it faster by verbally expressing it so we are not stuck inside with so many distracting thoughts. I think INFJ's just have to understand why then we can let it go. That's why we ask other people so many questing if we want to understand what makes them tick. We don't mean to be annoying. We just have to be able to understand their point of view.
@@laineym515 YES!!! This is so true...I do the samething...I'll be perfectly fine and then bam! I feel anxious or annoyed...and then I'm tired and ready to go home. 🙄 I completely understand what you mean...its like you feed off of the other people...it's like I take on all this extra stuff. When I'm done running errands or at work I'm mentally exhausted!! I find sometimes I'll try to be a peacekeeper and watch out for other people...make sure everyone is cool... Because I don't like conflict...I try to be one step ahead. Talking about certain things helps...of course I'm met with them look of confusion...because not everyone quite understands. But that's okay. If we were all the same it would be boring.
@@christinam867 Agreed! People who do not have this affliction cannot understand how taxing it truly is! Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I didn't feel everyone. Seems easier but I think everyone has something that is difficult for them. There is a reason there are not very many INFJ's in this world. Most people couldn't handle it lol
I (intp) realized i can't cry on my own, it's only while talking to people that i can get to cry. I realized that i don't live through emotions of what happens to me, but i'll process them later while having empathy for fictional characters. I guess Fe is the reason i got into slice of life animes...
In my case, it seems like my emotions have a time delay, and even after they hit I can never put them into words, and I can't cry on my own either. I can only partially understand them if I try to analyze them from outside clues, but it doesn't seem like I can truly share them with anyone, so I end up talking and moping over facts when someone asks about my feelings
As an ENFP I really like writing poetry to express my emotions especially if I’m upset about something I’ll just turn it into something really dark and dramatic instead so it’s like a piece of art..I turned bad experiences into good things basically
In the hardest time of my life I took a stain glass class and poured myself into my masterpiece I designed myself and gave it away. I created half a sun ☀️ because in my home with my DV EX we had a stain glass sun. The half sun represented so much; one the fact it was half not while- with all the separation that was taking place in my life, two it was my creation we had an option to make our own or copy a template, which represents me rewriting my story or at least that chapter of my life, and third it was an exit from thinking about my issues. It honestly was one of the most therapeutic things I did during that time. As an ENFP: I couldn’t even express my emotions to others like I normally could. It was too much and too deep of wounds.
INTJ My feeling only really overwrites my thinking when I have a VERY intense emotion My focus is moving on from that feeling thinking what's next instead of feeling in the moment
@@GeekNewz Easy, the future doesn't exist if the present doesn't happen. All things I do now are definitely considering how/where I'll be later, but it's important to take in information NOW to be processed later. My feelings are unclear to me, I studied how others feel in situations to rationalize what it is that I feel in a given moment. Emotion disrupts logical decision making, so it is best to be aware of emotions and how they impact people, then realize that whatever I feel is irrelevant in solving problems. There will be time to reflect on how I feel after the problems are handled. I have already spent a lot of time generating a moral framework and understanding where I stand with my values that I am constantly trying to test new situations with and revise when needed so that my feelings aren't a surprise and can be put away and dealt with later. Ideally the rationalization will explain away a lot of the delusions that resulted in my emotion in the first place.
@@yolanda.martinez No one is unbiased, it is therefore imperative that we understand where and when our personal biases kick in, so that we can either free ourself from that bias or relieve ourself to one better suited for the task. Every step, every decision, every action that we make teaches us something, it's a shame so few people squander opportunities to learn by dismissing what they see as mundane.
Thank you!! I can now understand my family’s way of expressing emotion (and their confusing emotional outbursts). Spot on. ~INTP, with a family of INTJ INFJ ESTJ and ESFP.
@@gurshansingh6869 We're definitely different! And I love them. But we have our ups and downs! 😜 And the Myers-Briggs Type doesn't factor emotional maturity, character growth, mental health issues, and so on...
I’m an ISTP and this is how I can best describe emotions from my angle. I know I feel emotions, but I struggle to pinpoint how I am feeling at any point. Like right now, I feel stressed because I have a lot of work to do, but I’m content and I’m happy but I’m not happy. So when somebody, like my husband, wants to talk about feelings I just dismiss it because I don’t really know and I can’t really be bothered to figure it out. I do know that if people try to pull emotions from me I will shut down and seem like I don’t care, and sometimes I don’t care. Like therapy for example, there’s not a chance I’m gonna open up. Another thing is when I find people over emotional, I struggle to empathise if I think they are overreacting and in general find people that I see as over emotional annoying. So yet again I will shut down and come across cold.
@@anikom.298 I wish it were that easy for us. I know I need to go to therapy, but the thought of talking to a stranger about my feelings is literally my worst nightmare. I can't even talk to my moms about this kind of stuff.
pretty much the same as us INTPs i guess. except I as an INTPs do care about my emotions, but in a sense that I ask why am I feeling this to really know what I'm actually feeling. What just happened before this thing started and is it supposed to be like that? And then let it roll on for a few minutes and I'd end up questioning if the random nature of quantum physics is the cause of the unpredictability of human brains and if it actually predetermines anything. To me the uncertainty principle is what gives us free will. Our brains are consisted of neurons, which uses charged atoms to send signal. The atoms themselves can have quantum properties. Maybe an atom can be both positively and negatively charged, and so we have mini quantum computer in our brains. And the collapse of the atom's wave function determines our decision. Now the collapse can either be controlled by us, or the collapse can in itself be the proof of predetermination, in a sense that whichever state the atom collapsed into has been determined by a divine power, in the end giving us the illusion of free will. oops i got distracted
ENFP: I was depressed for the longest time so now when I feel ANYTHING (positive or “negative”) that doesn’t spiral me into hopelessness, I see it as a work of natural beauty that I have the privilege of experiencing. Crying is my favorite thing because it rarely happens, I can’t get it to happen, and when it does happen like once every 3 months it’s like the northern lights. Usually have to scream to get that energy out.
I think it is best to think of INTPs emotions as being fire contained in a box. A small fire can be contained, but the bigger the fire gets, it will eventually consume the box and the area around it.
And once the fire bursting out it will be hard to put down. After you put down it will be too late cause most of it burnt out already. As an INTP i often feel like this and when i rethink about it i feel like i am the stupidest person ever.
@@cindybriliana3366 dude, same. Like, if I just calm down and think about it, there's really no reason for me to ever feel that intensely about it. After realizing that, I just spent most nights trying to rethink if I have any lingering emotional issues during the day and try to reason it out. When I can't, because fucking emotions man sometimes they don't make sense, I'd just go with my favorite excuse. "It already happened. Nothing I could do about it."
I'm an infp and I always thought I'm an open book, I thought I'm sharing enough with my friends but I really wasn't. I'm always lost in thoughts, cant stay in a moment and become invisible for months... I only recently realised how difficult I've become to deal with because of my overwhelming emotions
Me, an ENFP when I have negative emotions: Baby you ain’t even here you’re just my ✨hallucinations✨ **Acts like a happy 5 year old at a birthday party**
I do the same thing except I blame it on the devil. My Ne tells my Fi “Not today devil” then proceed to act like child obsessed with Disney films. 😂😂😂😂
INTJ here. I've worked with developing my feeling functions for years. I know a few IXTP's, and I would like to tell all of you here that feelings are not that scary / dangerous. You will not betray your inner self, but rather strenghten it :)
Meh, I understand my feelings, and care about the emotional wellbeing of my immediate family. Beyond that, keep those messy feelings away, they're getting in the way of getting work done.
As an ENFP, I find people can easily talk to me about their emotions, and while I usually always engage, I almost never talk about my own emotions. It’s just much harder to get out there bc I feel like I need to process them myself, like no one will understand if I tried to let the emotional diarrhea out. Not even I understand my emotions sometimes, lol. When I’m feeling strongly about things (usually negative) I have a million thoughts bouncing around in my mind, and sometimes I feel like I’ll go crazy if I don’t let them out. So naturally instead of talking about it, I now I just keep a stress journal where I scribble down everything I’m feeling/thinking about, and it’s all so messy and random and heavy that I literally never read it ever again. After that’s done, I’m good as new (-:
Hey idk if you'll see this comment but as an ENFP myself, you're not the only one with these emotions. Believe you me, that's what I 1st thought until i looked them up. Heck it's much more common than you think, hell i expressed my emotions to my therapist and my brother (intj) and not only did it helps out but It's easier to deal with them.
I'm an INFJ and one of my best friends is (I think) an ISTP who has really shut down her emotions. When I poured out my heart to her, she just stared at me and smiled. She has told me she doesn't feel much of anything. The best thing she could do when I'm upset is to pat my hand and say, "I don't understand, but I'm sorry you're hurting."
@@arlettasloan6453😭😭😭 I already imagine how she comforts her and say that. I don't know why, but I imagined it in a creepy way.. 💀😭 But I bet she's a good friend for saying that, and trying.
As an INFP I just need to completely shut people out of my life to process my emotions, I absolutely cannot deal with human interaction at such time and sometimes it take me a month or two to get back to reality and converse with people again but then most of my friends just think that I am ignoring them or have some sort of problem with them and will create unnecessary arguments in which I have no energy to participate because here i am going through my own personal crisis and I cannot deal with people who think i don’t care about their “Friendship” and that i am ignoring them on “purpose “ Why can people just understand “Live and let live”
I feel like someone actually understands me for once. I’m ISTP and whenever I have deep emotions I’ll hold it in for a few days then throw everything up onto whoever’s poor soul I happen to be friends with at the time, and they never really understand me: they’ll be like “oh yeah, don’t put pressure on yourself” LIKE THAT HELPS. Thanks FJ this made me feel like I’m not completely alone- not in a creepy way 😂
UGH! I say about what they say to you. I can think of personally worse things that have been said to me by "consolers" or "listeners" but that don't put pressure on yourself, be kind to yourself, don't be so hard on yourself ... BLECH!
Intps processing emotions: Confusion Rationalizing our emotions and applying logic to not letting it take control over our decision making abilities. Alone thinking/pondering If we are offended by someone we have a delayed anger phase. We will make light of the situation at the moment but after thinking we will began to feel anger and so it builds up until we can't suppress that anger anymore.
Enfp here and I got an INFP friend just an year ago, I never shared my true emotions with anyone but ever since I've met her, it's just that everything gets out of my mouth, the personalities click so much that I really want to share. But I only share when I actually figure out what I was feeling. If I was hurt I'd share once the thing stops hurting me.
As an ENTJ, once I started giving space to my Fi to breath I was able to find some peace of mind and came in terms with myself in differents part of my life. I like to say ''I used to want an empire, now I only want a bass. I've been humbled'' Hahaha. It gives a whole new perspective to things and to whatever plans I am making. Still pretty anoying to have it most of the times, but you gotta let it shine once in a while!
Hi FJ, ENFP here, I think that of late I've realised that a lot of my feelings are universal, some of which I thought were just 'my' feelings, when I think about how this was possible in the first place I feel that for some reason there's a disconnect, an accute sense of individuality and inability to see another person as able to relate to me or vice versa, so there was no point to sharing feelings. Everytime i did i felt like it was pointless as none understands, not that it is true, just that it felt that way.
This is so spot on! I'm an ENFP, and since I was a kid, I always get pretty withdrawn when I'm feeling my feelings (to the point that I wondered if I'm introverted). I just like to write down how I'm feeling alone and think about it until I feel better. Including other people in that process feels so clunky to me? Because then I have to pay more attention to what others are feeling ABOUT my feelings instead of just paying attention to my own feelings, if that makes sense. I guess it's a little hypocritical because I'm the emotional support friend who's always ready to listen, but I rarely open up about my feelings until after I've processed them alone
Are you me? Thank you. :') Because then I have to pay more attention to what others are feeling ABOUT my feelings instead of just paying attention to my own feelings, if that makes sense. As a fellow ENFP, this makes total sense.
It's not hypocritical, unless you are making them open up when they want to process it alone. You are giving them what they need and you should get what you need, too.
Makes sense why I open up only to people whose feelings I don't need to worry about because we're so similar and because they do the same thing with me 😂
ENFJ here! I spent so much time paying attention if everyone was alright that only now I'm learning how to recognize and validate my own emotions...? It usually came all rushing in after school so I didn't understand exactly what I was feeling... Those mixed feelings only made the process harder-
As an INTJ I think, that I just know a few go to emotions very well... some that are fairly simple to detect, like excitement and anger. But others are complicated, like general sadness or lingering frustration for example. I don't like how thinking them through slows me down... and the result is not important most of the time anyway, 'cause they'll pass after a while... and I've got things to do. And I don't know if it's just me, but I don't mind shoving some feelings away. It is not unhealthy if you genuinely don't care. It's just practical.
I hope this message is received. As a seemingly more mature INTJ, emotions need to be addressed, or they are going to arrive unexpectedly. In order to gain control of them, you must feel them. It is arduous and tiring process, but necessary.
As an INTJ, I can confirm this. Emotions are okay until they slow us down so shoving them away or removing ourselves from situations that trigger them seems practical. However as time goes by, you realize that when you shove them away, they don't really go away, they are still there. What's worse is that they resurface in the ugliest forms, so yeah addressing them is really a must to increase our efficiency.
As an INTJ, I agree with the above comments. As someone who did the exact same thing, believe me they will come out. The worst part is, you won’t get to decide when or where this outburst happens. You’re a human, not a robot. Conversely, if you deflect processing emotions on a whim for the sake of practicality, then how hard could it be? I usually try to pinpoint what I’m feeling, like the internal sensation. I take time to really feel the emotion and put it into words to the best of my ability. Then I think about why I could be feeling that way. After that it’s up to you with what you do next. This way, you can be productive in life whilst not embodying a ticking emotional bomb. 🎉💙
ISFP here, I love storytelling so explaining my emotions in a relatable, funny, and accurate way is really appealing to me. Using it as a way to connect and putting on a show helps me get out of any spirals and view my emotions in a more positive lens. Even if it all happens in my brain lol. There’s an imaginary therapist living rent free in my head. 10/10 would recommend for fellow broke ppl.
I'm an ENFJ and I recognize that enormous need to share my feelings with others, but at the same time, I don't trust many people with my feelings and vulnerability, because I was bullied as a kid. So that's confusing and it feels limiting.
Yeah i do understand what do you mean but don't overthink about it you will be able to find someone who you will trust your feelings with so soon. .... [hopefully that day will come for you...]
This was actually very helpful to me, James. As an ENTP, I do notice that I understand my feelings better once I speak about them with a friend/friends. 🙏 Thanks for coming through!
I enjoy your offerings. I am an INTP and I do not like to externally express my feelings, or talk about them. When I was younger I didn't know how to deal with feelings but as I have matured I have realized that I can process my feelings and give myself permission to feel, realizing that feelings are transitory and they are not necessarily who I am but what I'm experiencing. I've also realized that I I'm not the slave to my feelings and I do not have to being miserable or upset or overly excited. It is important for me to experience but to remember that I am not that experience but I am experiencing that experience and observing that experience and using that experience to understand more about life as a human. It has really helped me to realize this, and also to realize this in relating to others. My daughter is an ENFJ and she loves to talk about her feelings. At first this was uncomfortable to me and I tried to help her resolve the situation for which she was upset. But I realized that she needed to express her feelings to come to resolution,....after experiencing resistance to my desire to help her resolve the situation. What she needed was to talk and to have me listen and validate her, as a person, who was experiencing internal conflict. This involves me going to and accessing emotions on what I call a heart level, that also integrated, let's say, thinking, with feeling on the Heart level,.... I was then willing to hear her without expressing my own opinions, hearing and validating her in dealing with and processing her inner conflict. The thing I love about being an INTP at this point in life, is that I can, through a maturing process, and learning and observing, now integrate feelings with an expanded rational and logical approach, that is more inclusive. By observing, I can understand better and come to some resolution. Instead of painful,....now my experiences are more interesting and intriguing in learning how to synthesize and integrate this Human Experience with my tendency to analyze and be more like a computer. People felt that I was cold and rejecting of their feelings. Yes, I felt misunderstood also. As I realized that I could use my T faculty to understand, others, and myself, I could thus integrate T and F, using T in it's ability to synthesize.
It's the little things in life honestly. Aa an ISTP my ENFP now fiance started our relationship by trying to take a crowbar to my emotional safe, the first years were the roughest.
@davidephrat9230 It's a slow process. Don't expect them to just open up with a flood of emotions and feelings. It's not going to happen. They are more than likely very guarded in general, and it's going to surprise you how someone that generally comes off as cool headed and a straight shooter is the most secretive and concealed person you know when it comes to their past or emotions. But as trust is built, you'll get insight. It won't be this huge and deeply emotional showing. It's going to be a story here, an anecdote there, little puzzle pieces that will build a full picture. !!!!warning!!!! If this ISTP is a guy you're in for a rough time. You can't force anything and all feelings and emotions are treated as enemies, especially if we're being asked about them. Take what they give you graciously and understand that they are letting you in, it's just a process. And don't be discouraged when and or if you find out that this amazing person isn't as deep as you had hoped for. My now wife made the mistake of projecting her fantasies on to me and had to learn it's not my fault I'm not that person.
ISTJ here: as long as my emotions are kept in my head I feel safe and sound, but as soon as someone asks me if I'm okay, or anything else to do with my emotions, I feel so awkward and uncomfortable. Especially when feelers try to pry me open and I'm like, "what is there even to see??" Seeing people freak out and cry is ultimate torture. 😭
I am also an ISTJ and I feel the same way, it is the WORST when people try to pry it out of me. And like you said I also like to keep my emotions in my head
Another ISTJ, I'll talk about how I'm feeling with my friends, but to express it to everyone else, it takes a lot. Although some emotions will always stay within me, like anxiety or sadness, things like anger and happiness I'll express freely
@@kormannn1 Not exactly force, but they try really hard to make me say something, anything, about how I'm feeling. Usually I have literally nothing to say, so it can be frustrating.
My bf does not want to take the tests and doesn't really get into psychology. So I've been trying to figure out his personality type. This video helped me narrow it down to either ISTP or INTP. Thank you, FJ!
as an istp we have strong emotions but we don't react when/how people expect and it upsets them. we can appear cold and apathetic and quite frankly sometimes we are, but we do care. generally only for a small circle of people
Exactly right. I do have strong emotions, but if you try to provoke them or pull them from me you won’t get the reaction you want because I won’t allow myself to give you want you want. If that makes sense? If somebody wants me to feel sorry, or guilty (and I might feel exactly that way, often I don’t though) you can guarantee I will be deliberately stone cold. That being said, with a very select few, four people I can think of from the top of my head, I care so much about them.
I had to explain that to my now fiance one. "I'm standing here inside a gated ring. Outside this ring are multiple expanding rings each with their own gates. I control how close people can get and the closer you get the more I care. So when I tell you you're by my side, understand that I have blood family at least 4 rings out and you're closer."
This fits me to a T. I bottle everything inside in the moment and then I bawl my eyes out when I'm alone. No wonder people can't tell whether I care about them or not, because I always try to stay logical and emotionless within the moment.
The funniest part is when you say "Let's see if UA-cam would like to show another commercial", and then no commercial starts and after a second you say "Thanks for storing through that." LOL! I don't even have ad blocking on my device.
Who else remembers frank from the personal infj vids, he’s grown his platform so much honestly even though I wanna be selfish and say “GIVE US MORE INFJ ADVICE”, really GOOD JOB FRANK!! Thanks yous🥺💟
As an INTP and an autistic person I would recommend getting interested in human psychology and sociology. Just use analysis, memory and ability to learn to understand how humans think and function. Learn how the brain works, how emotions work on the neurological level, where they come from in different people and how they affect them. It usually comes down to the basic psychological needs and how different people try to meet them. On deeper levels Myers-brigg is a good tool to understand It. When you learn It on a one-person level You can add social dynamics on both big and small scale and soon It all will start to fit. It's true that It seems like a lot of work but It's interesting and for INTP's It's what matters, I think. Being undiagnosed as autistic most of my life and trying to adapt It was a natural way of masking developed since childhood but now It's both a tool and an interest to me. Just remember to keep in mind that other people have different priorities and ways of interacting with the world and processing information, It's the key to communication. Even If You don't want to fit in anymore, It's good to understand yourself and surroundings. I think that an INTP can adapt their introverted thinking to meet the role of extroverted and introverted feeling, at least when interacting with people they know well and to deal with their own emotions, which to most of us seems to be the priority considering our lowered social needs and a preferance to interact with smaller groups of people. Not always, but very often. Also, accept Your own emotions and a fact that they affect You. They do. You are a human. It's an objective fact. Deal with It. ☕
As an ENTP, I feel like I don't understand my feelings until they come out in my behavior, and then after they do, I look back on the situation and empathize with my past self and figure myself out as if I was a different person. This lets me use Fe and Ne to figure out myself in the same way I do with other people, and then process that and figure out what to do with it.
I am an ISTP yet i do have a profound sense of sensing and talking about emotions. I guess i got this from having like a lot of experiences when I was a teenager or when I was young when life exposed me early on about this. Thanks for giving insight for us IPs 👌
as an INFP with anxiety and depression ...i hate dealing with emotions but i’m used to it so it’s not too bad unless my mental health plummet...angst fanfic help a lot
ISTP, how I would process emotions would be I simply just do it in private. I do not allow my emotions to be seen by any other human being that knows me off screen.
A good piece of advice for prayer that I heard was to begin by honestly acknowledging your thoughts, feelings and desires in the present moment, as you begin the prayer. As an ISTP I found it incredibly satisfying to express my honest feelings in prayer, and they were usually varied and conflicted.
i’m scared. i’ve never related to something so much in my entire life. I’m ALWAYS looking for things to describe and relate myself (ps: i’m a ENTP) and when i find it it’s just mind blowing. Thank you so much for this videos, they’re really helping me out on knowing myself. ps pt2: Through the intire video i felt the urge to run and tell my friend about how relatable this was for me... and yes, i was blaming myself through the intire feeling.
12:17 as an ENFJ who is also a 5 on the enneagram (aka the INTJ equivalent of the enneagram), I find that this is one of the reasons I've struggled a lot with the personality I have because I am not very open about my emotions at all, I mostly express them with as little effort as I can manage and hardly EVER talk about them. I also love people and get super lonely but because of the two-faced personality I have I haven't managed to find a healthy balance whatsoever also due to my health problems. Man this comment turned out longer than I thought, maybe I do sometimes talk about my emotions but only in spaces I feel are very safe and where I can be understood, like here on this channel
If emotions are data, then you simply create a new folder eg "Garbage", put them in and make the folder unreadable. Also make sure there are no pets, kids or weak and fragile creatures around when the folder becomes too big and you activate Hulk mode to delete some of the content. It's not that we give a damn about weak and fragile things, but there are laws which protect them nowdays and you might get into trouble. INTJ advice.
That's literally how I processed my trauma (didn't know it was trauma back then), I visualised a box in my head to put that shit, closed it and never looked back. It doesn't always work, but 🙃
ENFP here, this helped me understand introverted feeling, because people think I’m open with my emotions but it’s hard for me to even really know what I’m feeling sometimes!
I get anxiety when things get emotional (I literally don't feel good, or I feel sick?)... that's why I avoid those situations at all cost... and I'm never gonna stop :) -istp
INTP here... This is how I process my emotions: Writing- When I feel down or weird, I start writing what I'm thinking at the time. It gives me the opportunity to process everything from every angle and then I come up with a conclusion, why am I feeling like this, how to make it stop and do I want to make it stop, etc. Thinking it over- It's the same as writing but more scattered. Because I can't make sense of anything when I'm feeling emotional. But I kind of try to distance myself from those feelings and think rationally. Ex. One time I was getting really angry for no reason and snapped at my mom and immediately regretted doing so. So I stopped for a minute and realised that I was very very hungry at the time and that was affecting my emotions... Got a snack and apologized while explaining why I was angry and problem solved 😅 But sometimes I get stumped at things. Like this one time I failed to get the required score for my college entrance exam and realised I won't be going to my dream college, I started looking for different career opportunities instead of looking at different colleges offering the same course and was very depressed 😔
Thank you for this. I am going through something difficult. Thank you for saying it’s okay to feel whatever it is you’re feeling and you don’t have to judge yourself for it.
Idk if this is all ISFJs but I process very much internally. I spend a lot of time thinking through my emotions and work them out in my head. I usually have a hard time expressing them out loud and to others, especially if I’m still processing
ENTP here and do the same, problem with the way it was presented on this video, is that functions never work in a vacuum, they work in an axis. Fe works in tandem with Ti, and if you have both functions in the middle, they will be working together almost all the time, in real time. So both of us, who have Fe and Ti in the middle. We will constantly process Fe through Ti, and only Fe doms will work the way Frank described it. That is why IxFJs are usually described as logical feelers, because yes you prefer feeling over thinking, but not by much. And same goes for ExTPs. Now it is different for IxTjs and ExFPs, because Te and Fi works differently, they will still work in tandem with one another, but in their case the anchor for emotional processing will be Fi, while for us it will be Ti. Because even when the extroverted function is the dominant, in its axis the introverted one will work as the anchor for introspection. So for you, even if you have Fe higher than Ti in your stack, Ti is still your anchor to process things introspectively.
i express my thoughts too slowly for people, finally it's better with my husband...but he will still interject where he thinks i'm going with the conversation, i used to overly defend the gaslighting statement, i'm older now and i calmly say, you interrupted, you made up my position, can i finish. I don't know how to articulate my thoughts faster, I will comment on both sides, and the first side is what my extrovert husband and son launch from.
Any other things you'd like to learn about the 16 Personalities? Let me know in the comments!
How do the 16 personalities deal with sudden changes?
Is it possible for your type to change? Like if you're a feeler constantly surrounded by thinkers, will you kinda morph into their way of thinking? Or vice versa
*How to "put in practice" the 4th function!
My sister is an ENFP, therefore has Si as her inferior function... she is kinda messy, forgets some responsabilities. It's hard to see that daily
the shadow functions of the 16personalities
Mbti relationship talk pls!
What do they usually/probably look for in a partner, what negative traits that they wouldnt mind, & what turn them off the most😂
INFJ: think->overthink->anxiety->therapist->cry->learn->become therapist
That’s me except not a therapist. 😆
🤣🤣😓
When an infj go to a therapist the INFJ becomes the therapist
@@thunderbirdice literally my infj mom😂😂😂
😂😂 love this
I think my favorite part about these is Frank doesn't come across as some arrogant expert like so many others do. His expertise is undeniable but the delivery makes it feel like you're discussing it with a friend and not being lectured.
That’s why I keep coming back to Frank! lol
While I agree that he has a charming way of going about this, making the topic more accessible, he is far from an expert. In this video alone I've noticed multiple mistakes/misinterpretations/generalisations. It is possible to simplify the content to some extent without losing the meaning, but this overdoes it
@@vickyschewe9678 well I think this is what most people need. We learn so much with Frank, and then if someone want they can get deeper/more accurate like you said. We all have already too much serious stuff and obligations in our lifes, if this also has the tinge of boredom we wouldn't watch it in the first place.
@@vickyschewe9678 I mean, if he went into specifics about each topic with every type, the videos would be at least an hour long. I think the way he does it is good cuz it educates anyone, not just those who look into this topic deeply. I love looking at this topic deeply but I still like watching his video cuz they're fun and it feels less like I'm in a class
@@vickyschewe9678 mbti isnt exactly the most concretely set up thing so it's not like he's completely wrong
I wonder how many times Frank laughed while taking the pictures for the thumbnail
Lol yeah
omg lafayeet how’s france?
Between 0 and 6 at least.
LAFAYETTE
Hi Laf
INFP here. I process emotions that shouldn't even exist and hide them until I get home to scream.
Yes to you both
just came to say hi and that I feel you guys and you are not alone...
Scream? I just cry like there is no tomorrow xD
Hide them?
Honestly same
“Everyone feels feelings”
_The Thinking types would like to know your location_
Yes
would like to know? WOULD LIKE? As in 'having a DESIRE to acquire something'?
@@alexeysaranchev6118 I apologize for my fatal mistake, please don’t take out your logic on me I’m but a mere ENFP I’m defenseless 😭
@@mariaf9547 people reveal just as much when they don't speak. Feelers are not devoid of logic. Thinkers are not as "smooth" as they like to think.
@@mariaf9547 also you obviously don't know any infj we are a threat to thinky thinkers.
How INTPs process emotions: *we don't*
Emotions? Put that thing away from me 🤢
Is it normal to an INTP to be >confused< about what we feeling?? Cuz I have difficulties when it comes to identify what is happening to my heart so I just ignore it and go read a book or anything also not related to emotions
Thats not true tho because We do. We are not robots, we just see no sense in letting it take control over our decision making and rationality.
I have exploded on people before and I have cried as an intp. It just takes a lot for me to get to that point. I'm uncomfortable to show emotion in front of others but I can still feel emotions deeply.
@@namoradadowinwin3291 this is more what its like to be an intp not the robot type mentioned above. I really don't see why an intp would lie to themselves and say they have no emotions when they do. They just don't know what or how they feel. We are not able to express it but that doesn't mean we don't process it.
@@namoradadowinwin3291 I would guess so. I needed a real long time and watching people around me (books and movies help too with studying "human emotions") to understand what I am feeling. Still not always sure about it and I usually need several days of processing, BUT I still tend to ignore it, if it's not important... it's just a hassle. If I didn't hurt anyone (meaning someone who actually means something to me), no need to do research and waste my time 😁
I’m an INTP, and I absolutely loathe talking about feelings. But I really like figuring out why I feel what I feel.
I’ve never had a meltdown, and I think that’s why.
When I feel strongly enough about something, I have to know WHY. Why do I care about x thing so much, that it affects me.
And after I figure it out, everything is okay again.
So, I think my problem is that I try to overanalyze and rationalize my emotions instead of just... feeling them.
Talking about feelings makes you vulnerable. (INTP)
Same! But I found that while analyzing everything you think and feel makes it easy to get through life, it also makes it boring. Emotions are what make living life so colorful. So even though it feels childish to me, I've been allowing myself to sit with my emotions for longer rather than just rationalizing and moving on. We're kind of lucky in a way, because I think it's a lot easier to learn to allow emotion into your logic compared to learning how to bring logic into your emotions, like the introverted feelers.
Yes this is what I do everytime in my life...
I do that infrequently but only talk about it with my parents
I do the same, except I also feel the need to justify the emotions I am feeling, if I am allowed to feel those or not. I thought it was the logical and sound thing to do but apparently it is reall not.
I’m an INFP
What I usually do is pretend I have none and drown my sorrows in books
Relatable 😭, I’m an INFP too 😂
I do that too lol but I'm an intp and normally I'm confused about that topic so I just ignore it
I definitely use books as an escape when I don't want to deal with feelings. Books are the best.
-INTP
Sameeeee 😭 n I'm reading a book rn. -INFP
I still don't know if I'm intp or infp🤦♀️
I'm an INFP but I love talking about my feelings, at least with people I'm confortable with.
Me too. I do they often if my sister or really close friends
Same. In fact, I'm the person who's always telling my friends how important it is to talk about emotions, so they know my feelings really well
Went to the comment section to find fellow INFPs who talk about their feelings! When heard the description of the inner feelers, started questioning my type, myself, my life :D: Great to be not alone!
@@sashagordy943 At first I was really thinking he seemed off haha.. which was strange cause FJ is always dead accurate about me! 🤣 But eventually I got to the point where, I don't think he means we never share our feelings with others, so much as we don't bounce our feelings off others.
We feel deeply, so we can often share deeply with those close to us.. but at least for myself, the depth of emotion I share is directly proportional to the depth of connection I have to the person, or at least want to have lol. And we share it to connect with someone, or to get our burden eased because we can't carry any more, or something along those lines. As opposed to how FJ was describing the extroverted feelers sharing their emotions in order to determine whether they should be feeling that in the first place, and to influence the feelings of everyone else
and me INTP and I don't like talking about emotions, it just get's too emotional than people start screaming at me for being too irrational.
Feeling for TP types be like:
Oh no! Anyway
Truuu
I'm an INTP and I laughed at this more than I should
Me as an ISTP
Oh no i forget to do my homework..
Anyway, what if the students who do their homework are fewer than the students who don't?
This me.
Freak out for a couple seconds and then I’m over it
for IxTP types*
ENTP and ESTP tend to struggle less with feeling
I'm an INTJ and the aspect about dealing with emotions only when you're forced to is so true for me, I recently talked to my parents about my future and so on and suddenly started to cry because I realized how important that actually is, thinking about it on my own I just went through it thinking logically
I'm also an INTJ and my god, I had the exact same thing play out recently.
@@hyruleanate Not sure if I am INTJ with all them online test take, it is easy to mistype (it says INTJ, 4w5, ILI, 458).
When I was dealing with an emotion first I tried to shove it aside, that didn't work. Then I started looking for ways to block them because my all attention from the external environment got cut off. I was in my head daily for hours trying to figure out what went wrong or why did it happen then it went from that into me getting anxious about my future but when I spoke to my bro about them it got easier.
Fun fact I went deep into Personality and trying to know my type to some obsessive length (info over indulgence) because things weren't going as planned in real life and at least knowing my thinking pattern is something that should help me find where I could optimize in myself and I thought maybe it could explain somethings to me like wtf my memory is crappy and why I am always looking for things that I use daily like my glasses. But it made things worst because most sources say self typing in not really accurate due to biases and also the stereotypes didn't really suit me at all. So now I still don't know my type and from most sources I read they come out with different description of the cognitive functions
Is it INTJ or ISFP
Omg my sister is 13 and has had an extreme anxiety attack about this exact topic.. as her INFJ older sister i was the only one in the family she could come out to and talk to about slowing down and taking things one day at a time and to not worry about the future holds, just embrace and be thankful for today. Shes doing better now.. I pray and hope you will as well. Take care of yourself, you got this❤
I’m entp so I’m Fi blind so I
Well I cry when I think I’m supposed to :’3
@@darth_santos1137 I know I'm late, but I'd guess INTJ, it sounds very familiar to me
-INTJ
21 years of my life and i still refer to emotions as "human emotions" whenever i talk about it
An INTP.
Same...Like i don't understand what they feel. I try to understand but i somehow failed and always got misunderstood. I understand but why do I act that way.
Me too, also I refer to people like "This humans, why they act like they do? Why they are sad? Why they feel?" and more.
Another INTP.
Fellow INTP here, and well, technically you're not wrong ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
hey dont worry i am 17 years old and i read all about emotions on wikipedia so i will know how i feel c: -intp
I love you guys XD that was a cute read
-ENFP
as an istp I say: We feel emotions, and we know how to deal with them ALONE. emotions are too personal to be discussed with anyone and even when we want, it seems complicated and the other person doesn’t understand, so it’s easier to just leave. It's just our way
Accurate
Accurate my dude
THIS is the explanation. Expressive? Sure. But in PRIVATE. You bottle that shit up until you have time later to unpack that.
Yup. An ISTP, tried explaining my emotions once and it was awful. I don't recommend.
💯
How INFJs process emotions: *more processing*
And then still be afraid of not processing properly... (-> me)
True :)
It's either underthinking or overthinking the emotions, at least for me x)
@@JokerCrowe i choose otherthinking
@@JokerCrowe or bottle them
I hope you get the full amount because your videos are good and you might be the first time I've seen cognitive functions discussed in tandem with MBTI.
thanks so much!!
You picked the right channel then! FJ talks about cognitive functions a lot! 😊
INFJ here , I am confused on the way of how I process my emotions. I want to be sad alone but when I am happy I want to share it with someone else
Me toooo
Same
Not rly confusing at all.ur fe function is basically why u wanna share happines.its also the same reason u don't wanna share your pain.cause u don't wanna annoy anyone.i think u should somtimes have an output for ur sadness like talking to ur friends.
As an INFJ myself, I can confirm what Anisa says. It’s our empathic nature, as in our ability to relate to other people’s emotions. We hate how we felt during hard times, so we avoid the conflict of making other’s sad or angry. Even when they deserve it, it is never vindicating to affect them negatively because we have at least an understanding of what they are feeling, which causes us to relate to it ourselves. So we spread the happier vibes and we try to make things easier for others, even going so far as to “fix” or “improve” others. Not out of arrogance, but out of anxiety. Hope that makes sense.
I'm an ISFJ but I relate to this.
ENFP here. I turn my emotions into logical thoughts to figure out why I feel the way I do about a certain situation. It's a pretty productive way to understand myself and others. Also, figuring out people's intentions, biases, and motivation are good ways to turn your emotions into logic. This way, it is easy to find solutions to either cut toxic out people from your life or to keep people who are "rude" but ultimately want the best for you.
ENFP goals...🙌🏼🙌🏼😁
It’s that fi and te mix, rlly cool combo
Jesus, 100% on point
Same lol, ENFPs have Fi and Te as their 2nd and 3rd function respectively, so yeah-
yesss!!! ENFP here, and you phrased my process perfectly :))
Him every video: "Let's see if youtube would like to show a commercial."
UA-cam every video: No I don't think I will
It showed me a video many times...
It showed me an ad the second time
Me with a Premium account:
@@emmanuel8582 me too and for some reason i got so excited
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___Ree ___ WHAT THE WHAT??? I just want to get through the video and then those ads show up.
Next do 16 personalities:
As Coaches
At Funeral
At Gradation
As sports fans
who hurt you, thate you want to see intj, infj and entj at funeral
16 personalities playing chess
and stone age
As pet owners
Funerals+ me= awkward
Entp
B.t.w - In my funeral everybody will be dressed like ducks and have a food fight over the inheritance
*me, an INTP trying to process my emotions:* hey, brain, what are we feeling?
*my brain:* idk lol
Same for ISTPs. We are insensitive and also called loners.
Every time when people ask me "how are you feeling?"
My brain: *thinks about how I'm feeling*
Me: well, i'm ok I guess.:-)
@ミヤ yeah it's like i had 3 moods: positive, negative, tired.
me, an ENTP trying to process my emotions: hey, brain, what are we feeling?
my brain: idk lol, but I'll give you 20 answers that you don't really believe to describe it
“How are you today?”
*my istj brain* yes.
INTJ : Eating emotions is our thing
well... what do you count as eating emotions?
So true!!! I am constantly trying not to eat my stress!!!! Ugh.
@@GeekNewz Never try to feel our own feelings and never express it
@@ahhh4626 then i would agree with you if i would aknolege their existence
Yep! I'm an INTJ Virgo and would rather chew off my right arm than to show emotion in front of anyone.
I don't process my feelings, my feelings process me
What a gem, this made me laugh so hard😂
😂😂😂😂
Hmm I guess yes, can't control emotion sometimes. As INTP or INFJ ( the test result changed sometimes), I feel moody. Like angry about someone or something in the past, several hours later cry about why I get angry about it. But rarely or never talk about it to other people.
All the IxTx's saying they simply don't process their emotions LMAOOOOO
I do process my emotions, but I try to suffocate them because honestly they're pretty much useless / harmful in most situations
Then they blow up in our faces. True fact XD
Sometimes, I do default to ignoring the existence of my emotions. They can be such a pain to sort out.
Reading books is my go-to strategy for returning to baseline.
-INTP
@@ceilinh6004 Ambience/music and walkkng do that for me. I need to feel grounded to the earth (Taurus thing)
@@darkwynggryph not a fact
Me an INTJ ignoring my emotions until I go into a breakdown point 😃
That's why you need ENFP
Just recently I came to that realization and hard to deal with all that. 😶 Also, this video really exposed me right there
I hope you read this. I am an INTJ that has felt many thing she wished she didn't. However, in order to be balanced and stable, you must acknowledge your emotions. It sucks and is a tiring and annoying process, but it must be done in order to be happy and productive. To all of the people that think it's romantic for an INTJ to be married to an ENFP, you are dead wrong.
A wise person once said: "Suppress the emotion until it forms into a mental illness, then suppress the mental illness until you break DOWN"
As an INTJ, i can relate
INTJ: I don't have time for feelings I shove them in a box with a timed lock so I can effectively schedule breakdowns.
INTJ woman here, this is hilarious 😂 scheduling effective breakdowns 🤣
a sample of an INTJ (me) trying to use Fe and an INTP (my friend) being asked about Fi:
He had a car accident, I asked him how he was, he only said he's ok and then he asked me to play a video game with him, so we did.
oh wow good for him
A smooth logical discussion ending with what is important.
Uh yea
What else?
My friends: sis, talk about your emotions.
Me, an ISTP: We don't do that here
Same
Hello, other ISTP!
trueee lol
No.1: finally , I thought we were about to go extinct .
No.2: I actually do talk about them , but with myself , literally. Even if not aloud, but I can hear the voice inside of my head , it's like there are several people with my same voice discussing it with each one looking at it from a different angle , some of them are very strictly logical and some are more emotional , and it actually helps. But talking about them with another person , revealing my inner self , problems and weaknesses , not in a million years, Haha 😈 but though, I feel I've become more mature about it . Before , I would be so angry about it especially if I don't want to feel it , I am angry that I can't control it , why can't I?😂 but now I accept them until I figure it out , if I feel that then I feel it even if it's silly , I DECIDE what to think and what to feel .
I process my emotions by going on a bike ride and arguing with me myself and I for about an hour. I'm glad I'm not the only one
As an INFP I do spend a lot of time processing my emotions by myself, but within the last few years I’ve definitely opened up to a few people in my life about my feelings. I’ve been going through a lot of confusing negative emotions due to personal problems, and it was hard handling them on my own. Sometimes I feel like I talk about my feelings too much with certain people.
this
Samee
As an INTP, I suppress my emotions but still feel them, if that makes any sense. I don't like thinking about them but they still show up in my body language and facial expressions, so the people around me know what I'm feeling but don't know why I'm feeling them because I don't talk about it. I have trouble articulating my feelings without snapping and ruining all of my personal relationships. But that's more of my problem rather than an INTP problem.
Same for me. I can't really deal with my emotions and always ended up letting it all out like a craziest person
Agreed. Luckily for you, you haven’t exploded in front of someone 🥲
I think I need better friends though cause they always seem to freak out like “wait I thought this person would listen to me and not talk… Buh byeeeee” and leave to hang out with someone else and leaves me feeling abandoned and vulnerable 😐
As an INTP, I relate to the part where people around me *knows* how I feel because of my facial expression but I actually do know why I feel like that. The problem is, I'm not feeling the emotion intensely and with my face, everyone thinks I'm pissed when really, I'm feeling something less than anger.
As an INTP, I feel the same...
Yes it is INTP problem and huge one.
What you said ”I suppress my emotions but still feel them”
I have that same problem and imo it is because we INTPs dont want to give energy/pay too much attention into emotions because it most likely is away from thinking something that were more intrested into.
Thats also why i think some people think that misfit INTPs are INFPs in their head but we actually feel so much but dont want to seem as ”loser” coz were already nerdy.
I love being me ✨but i also love you too who ever sees this know that youre peace of art no matter whats your color or personality , make best out of living 🥰
INFP here. Many emotions make me overthink which causes disappointment from the whole universe at last.
Haha I get that... and I love your name :)) I’m actually listening to a HP audiobook atm
Yes
"Get depressed bc do notingh. Do notingh bc the universe ruins everyting"xxFJ's
I love your Mei pfp. I am INFP too and I get emotional so easily
People's words can hurt me very much, but i don't seem to show that I'm hurt. I have practiced keeping my emotions hidden.
ENTP processing emotions with no one else who can talk to them:
Here, let me just construct a hypothetical person in my head and have a five hour long debate.
Or as my father does it: Call anyone and start a debate with them.
Ohmygod that makes sense. I've done that my entire life haha
I feel incredibly seen 😭
Wait, everyone doesn’t do this? Haha.
sometimes i feel crazy do that so many hours, but it’s more like i went to therapy and the psychologist listen to me saying weird things and debating about what is the thing i feel lol cuz i’m uncomfortable telling to people things i can’t process and can’t recognize,,, i just can suppose what i feel after 8 hours investigating about
Enfp is so true. I mean I mostly just joke through pain and not let myself feel it. I show surface level feelings but when it’s deeper things I don’t want to talk about it, and like I said will try and distract myself to feel better, not with logic more like replacing a bad feeling with something I know makes me feel good,
Same, also and ENFP. Tho when I'm replacing the bad feeling with something surface level good it's really cause I don't think anyone else wants to know my emotions. So I file it away until I can get some time to work through it
As an ENTP I've said for years that I don't even know what I'm feeling until I talk about it out loud. I'll even record myself and listen back, so I can quantify what I think I might be feeling. Everything you said about extraverted feeling resonated, even though it's my third function.
Omg that’s so true. I usually just kinda talk with myself, but it’s more like a monologue about my feelings
Lmao I can relate!
-INFJ
In the book The Body Keeps the Score, there is this one therapeutic method that is a deriviaton of what I was already doing- just writing or typing away until I wore myself down to realizing it isn't worth dealing with or what I am really upset about. But, for this one you are supposed to pick an object, study it, start writing about it and then let the thoughts flow freely as you keep writing about whatever comes into your mind. No rereading, no editing. Stop when done, as far as I know. That and just bad dancing- foot tapping, arm wiggling, flailing about- followed by more purposeful dancing- are supposed to be good for getting at the root of even heavy traumas and certainly mild angst.
Intp: we feel emotions but we put them into a bottle and hide them where we can't find them. until they overflow onto a random person for unknown reasons in the form of sarcastic ridicule. Which make us feel much better.
Or regret several hours later and start asking why I'm angry. INTP or INFJ here
"how the TP types process emotion"
INTP & ISTP: *no*
yup as in no
INFJ- yeah sometimes I have no idea what I feel because I have x amount of possible feelings I am feeling and I just end up getting confused. I can understand what others are feeling but sometimes I dont understand my own feelings. If that makes sense...🙃 I just can't filter...to many feels. When I found out I was INFJ I realized that's just how I'm wired...and I'm not alone! Which is very nice to know. 😊😊
@hina mars 😊😊 it is really interesting to learn about the different personalities and what makes them tick. Like I can't process how INTJ works....my brain won't let me ignore certain things or feelings. Sometimes I wish I could and sometimes you try but it goes against everything you "feel" makes you YOU.
As an INFJ I can soothe everyone else's emotions and make them feel better in a really easy and quick fashion. After feeling every emotion they are feeling 10 fold I am left with a sea of emotions with no idea what my emotion is if any other than overwhelmed and sea sick from riding everyone else's. I can be near someone and feel their energy. Someone is annoyed at the grocery store I now feel annoyed even though I have no reason to. Someone then walks by sad. Now add sad to the list. Meanwhile I don't want to be there in the first place for this very reason so I'm feeling anxiety but with the cocktail of emotions running through me subconsciously I don't even realize what I am feeling until I can leave the store and talk about it with my boyfriend on the way home. My INFP boyfriend on the other hand has been in his head the whole time with his emotions which I also feel very strongly but can't gauge who his emotion is directed at so I then add in worry I've upset him with my own subconscious actions without my knowledge. We get along amazingly but in a social setting are usual dealing with things so differently we are constantly like are you ok and don't get to what really bothered us until I have to discuss my feelings so I can understand them and move on. By the time we get home and away from everyone we are great again. Stong FE and strong FI exploding at the same moment is the most intense feeling I've ever experienced. At least with my INFJ son or my ENFJ daughter we are throwing everything out there all at the same time and then come out the other side like oh now I get it. You get to the point much faster and everyone got a chance to work it out so no one feels left out. FI is so hard to wrap my mind around sometimes. Lol
@hina mars it's not terrifying not knowing what your emotion is. It's terrifying having to feel everyone else's even though you are having a great day and now your emotionally exhausted for no reason other than being exposed to everyone else's feelings. We talk about our feelings to get to the bottom of it because our subconscious feels all this and we can only process it through consciously discussing it. The weird thing is we have to get out of our head to understand. Usually the other person is just along for the ride. We don't need them to figure it out for us. We need them to listen so we can experience everything in the conversation then it will be like a little light bulb goes off and it's like ohhhh now I get it now I feel. They may never say anything just listen. We can get past it faster by verbally expressing it so we are not stuck inside with so many distracting thoughts. I think INFJ's just have to understand why then we can let it go. That's why we ask other people so many questing if we want to understand what makes them tick. We don't mean to be annoying. We just have to be able to understand their point of view.
@@laineym515 YES!!! This is so true...I do the samething...I'll be perfectly fine and then bam! I feel anxious or annoyed...and then I'm tired and ready to go home. 🙄 I completely understand what you mean...its like you feed off of the other people...it's like I take on all this extra stuff. When I'm done running errands or at work I'm mentally exhausted!! I find sometimes I'll try to be a peacekeeper and watch out for other people...make sure everyone is cool... Because I don't like conflict...I try to be one step ahead. Talking about certain things helps...of course I'm met with them look of confusion...because not everyone quite understands. But that's okay. If we were all the same it would be boring.
@@christinam867 Agreed! People who do not have this affliction cannot understand how taxing it truly is! Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I didn't feel everyone. Seems easier but I think everyone has something that is difficult for them. There is a reason there are not very many INFJ's in this world. Most people couldn't handle it lol
I (intp) realized i can't cry on my own, it's only while talking to people that i can get to cry. I realized that i don't live through emotions of what happens to me, but i'll process them later while having empathy for fictional characters. I guess Fe is the reason i got into slice of life animes...
In my case, it seems like my emotions have a time delay, and even after they hit I can never put them into words, and I can't cry on my own either. I can only partially understand them if I try to analyze them from outside clues, but it doesn't seem like I can truly share them with anyone, so I end up talking and moping over facts when someone asks about my feelings
Yeah, slice of life really does hit the spot. I prefer angst tho because it's designed to invoke emotions out of you.
As an ENFP I really like writing poetry to express my emotions especially if I’m upset about something I’ll just turn it into something really dark and dramatic instead so it’s like a piece of art..I turned bad experiences into good things basically
In the hardest time of my life I took a stain glass class and poured myself into my masterpiece I designed myself and gave it away. I created half a sun ☀️ because in my home with my DV EX we had a stain glass sun. The half sun represented so much; one the fact it was half not while- with all the separation that was taking place in my life, two it was my creation we had an option to make our own or copy a template, which represents me rewriting my story or at least that chapter of my life, and third it was an exit from thinking about my issues. It honestly was one of the most therapeutic things I did during that time.
As an ENFP: I couldn’t even express my emotions to others like I normally could. It was too much and too deep of wounds.
Also an ENFP. Songwriter here and I'm just the same. - (Almost?) every one of my songs starts hopeless and ends inspirational 😅
I used to write poems a lot, when I had time to process things.
Man I'm the same. I was thinking, am I an ENFP if I like dark music? Well there's always a ray of light in mine @@tessfairbridge
INTJ
My feeling only really overwrites my thinking when I have a VERY intense emotion
My focus is moving on from that feeling thinking what's next instead of feeling in the moment
how can you be an intj and be in the moment?
i'm an intj and i'm a man of EVERYTHING BUT the moment
@@GeekNewz 👁👄👁
I wrote that wrong I edited it so it should be fine now
@@GeekNewz Easy, the future doesn't exist if the present doesn't happen. All things I do now are definitely considering how/where I'll be later, but it's important to take in information NOW to be processed later.
My feelings are unclear to me, I studied how others feel in situations to rationalize what it is that I feel in a given moment. Emotion disrupts logical decision making, so it is best to be aware of emotions and how they impact people, then realize that whatever I feel is irrelevant in solving problems. There will be time to reflect on how I feel after the problems are handled.
I have already spent a lot of time generating a moral framework and understanding where I stand with my values that I am constantly trying to test new situations with and revise when needed so that my feelings aren't a surprise and can be put away and dealt with later. Ideally the rationalization will explain away a lot of the delusions that resulted in my emotion in the first place.
@@jhemp I love your brain.
@@yolanda.martinez No one is unbiased, it is therefore imperative that we understand where and when our personal biases kick in, so that we can either free ourself from that bias or relieve ourself to one better suited for the task.
Every step, every decision, every action that we make teaches us something, it's a shame so few people squander opportunities to learn by dismissing what they see as mundane.
Thank you!! I can now understand my family’s way of expressing emotion (and their confusing emotional outbursts).
Spot on.
~INTP, with a family of INTJ INFJ ESTJ and ESFP.
You got a cool family
@@gurshansingh6869 We're definitely different! And I love them. But we have our ups and downs! 😜
And the Myers-Briggs Type doesn't factor emotional maturity, character growth, mental health issues, and so on...
I’m an ISTP and this is how I can best describe emotions from my angle. I know I feel emotions, but I struggle to pinpoint how I am feeling at any point. Like right now, I feel stressed because I have a lot of work to do, but I’m content and I’m happy but I’m not happy. So when somebody, like my husband, wants to talk about feelings I just dismiss it because I don’t really know and I can’t really be bothered to figure it out. I do know that if people try to pull emotions from me I will shut down and seem like I don’t care, and sometimes I don’t care. Like therapy for example, there’s not a chance I’m gonna open up. Another thing is when I find people over emotional, I struggle to empathise if I think they are overreacting and in general find people that I see as over emotional annoying. So yet again I will shut down and come across cold.
I've never related to a person more.
HO! you sound like my husband!
believe me, you can open up :)
@@anikom.298 I wish it were that easy for us. I know I need to go to therapy, but the thought of talking to a stranger about my feelings is literally my worst nightmare. I can't even talk to my moms about this kind of stuff.
pretty much the same as us INTPs i guess.
except I as an INTPs do care about my emotions, but in a sense that I ask why am I feeling this to really know what I'm actually feeling. What just happened before this thing started and is it supposed to be like that? And then let it roll on for a few minutes and I'd end up questioning if the random nature of quantum physics is the cause of the unpredictability of human brains and if it actually predetermines anything. To me the uncertainty principle is what gives us free will. Our brains are consisted of neurons, which uses charged atoms to send signal. The atoms themselves can have quantum properties. Maybe an atom can be both positively and negatively charged, and so we have mini quantum computer in our brains. And the collapse of the atom's wave function determines our decision. Now the collapse can either be controlled by us, or the collapse can in itself be the proof of predetermination, in a sense that whichever state the atom collapsed into has been determined by a divine power, in the end giving us the illusion of free will.
oops i got distracted
ENFP: I was depressed for the longest time so now when I feel ANYTHING (positive or “negative”) that doesn’t spiral me into hopelessness, I see it as a work of natural beauty that I have the privilege of experiencing. Crying is my favorite thing because it rarely happens, I can’t get it to happen, and when it does happen like once every 3 months it’s like the northern lights. Usually have to scream to get that energy out.
hi am ENFP your friend sending love and support !
I understand you so well!!!!! Same situation. I love my negative emotions for existing
I think it is best to think of INTPs emotions as being fire contained in a box. A small fire can be contained, but the bigger the fire gets, it will eventually consume the box and the area around it.
And once the fire bursting out it will be hard to put down. After you put down it will be too late cause most of it burnt out already. As an INTP i often feel like this and when i rethink about it i feel like i am the stupidest person ever.
@@cindybriliana3366 dude, same. Like, if I just calm down and think about it, there's really no reason for me to ever feel that intensely about it.
After realizing that, I just spent most nights trying to rethink if I have any lingering emotional issues during the day and try to reason it out. When I can't, because fucking emotions man sometimes they don't make sense, I'd just go with my favorite excuse.
"It already happened. Nothing I could do about it."
Yup, I feel that.
B-But a fire in a box(closed) would extinguish for lack of oxygen...
A mildly anxious INTP.
@@vittoriobindi7099 I never specified if it was completely sealed, or open.
I'm an infp and I always thought I'm an open book, I thought I'm sharing enough with my friends but I really wasn't. I'm always lost in thoughts, cant stay in a moment and become invisible for months... I only recently realised how difficult I've become to deal with because of my overwhelming emotions
Yes easy to read, like your emotions are in your sleeves even if you try to hide it, because you can't just lie to yourself about how you feel.
Me, an ENFP when I have negative emotions: Baby you ain’t even here you’re just my ✨hallucinations✨ **Acts like a happy 5 year old at a birthday party**
@natsume In this joke, yes In real life, no
I feel that haha
Idk bro if you dont suffer from a serious debilitating illness then you dont get to make fun of it & use it as jokes to your benefit
@@TheGong00zler People use schizophrenia In jokes quite a bit It’s really not that serious with how much people use mental illnesses for jokes
I do the same thing except I blame it on the devil. My Ne tells my Fi “Not today devil” then proceed to act like child obsessed with Disney films. 😂😂😂😂
I’m processing my emotions rn because this UA-cam guy has the audacity to make me wait for a premier of this MBTI video.
INTJ here. I've worked with developing my feeling functions for years. I know a few IXTP's, and I would like to tell all of you here that feelings are not that scary / dangerous. You will not betray your inner self, but rather strenghten it :)
*they r awkward
Meh, I understand my feelings, and care about the emotional wellbeing of my immediate family. Beyond that, keep those messy feelings away, they're getting in the way of getting work done.
being a INTP dealing with emotions it's the most scary and uncomfortable thing ever cuz you don't want to have them but they are there at the surface
Me, an INTJ going through a break up atm : "What is the pain but a data i have to add to my daily plan ?"
Second that
Third that
Fourth that
Fifth that
Yes
As an ENFP, I find people can easily talk to me about their emotions, and while I usually always engage, I almost never talk about my own emotions. It’s just much harder to get out there bc I feel like I need to process them myself, like no one will understand if I tried to let the emotional diarrhea out. Not even I understand my emotions sometimes, lol.
When I’m feeling strongly about things (usually negative) I have a million thoughts bouncing around in my mind, and sometimes I feel like I’ll go crazy if I don’t let them out. So naturally instead of talking about it, I now I just keep a stress journal where I scribble down everything I’m feeling/thinking about, and it’s all so messy and random and heavy that I literally never read it ever again. After that’s done, I’m good as new (-:
I totally get you. It's easier to show it in my face, posture, etc. It's difficult for me to put them into words... Super difficult
Hey idk if you'll see this comment but as an ENFP myself, you're not the only one with these emotions. Believe you me, that's what I 1st thought until i looked them up. Heck it's much more common than you think, hell i expressed my emotions to my therapist and my brother (intj) and not only did it helps out but It's easier to deal with them.
I'm an INFJ and one of my best friends is (I think) an ISTP who has really shut down her emotions. When I poured out my heart to her, she just stared at me and smiled. She has told me she doesn't feel much of anything. The best thing she could do when I'm upset is to pat my hand and say, "I don't understand, but I'm sorry you're hurting."
Maybe she's a psychopath. They aren't all creepy and dangerous, you know? And, no, I am not trying to be insulting. Just saying, it happens.
@@arlettasloan6453she might be a shape shifter 😂 it happens
@@arlettasloan6453😭😭😭 I already imagine how she comforts her and say that. I don't know why, but I imagined it in a creepy way.. 💀😭
But I bet she's a good friend for saying that, and trying.
As an INFP I just need to completely shut people out of my life to process my emotions, I absolutely cannot deal with human interaction at such time and sometimes it take me a month or two to get back to reality and converse with people again but then most of my friends just think that I am ignoring them or have some sort of problem with them and will create unnecessary arguments in which I have no energy to participate because here i am going through my own personal crisis and I cannot deal with people who think i don’t care about their “Friendship” and that i am ignoring them on “purpose “
Why can people just understand “Live and let live”
How relatable, I am just going through this crisis.
I relate to this SO much.
I feel like someone actually understands me for once. I’m ISTP and whenever I have deep emotions I’ll hold it in for a few days then throw everything up onto whoever’s poor soul I happen to be friends with at the time, and they never really understand me: they’ll be like “oh yeah, don’t put pressure on yourself” LIKE THAT HELPS. Thanks FJ this made me feel like I’m not completely alone- not in a creepy way 😂
UGH! I say about what they say to you. I can think of personally worse things that have been said to me by "consolers" or "listeners" but that don't put pressure on yourself, be kind to yourself, don't be so hard on yourself ... BLECH!
Intps processing emotions:
Confusion
Rationalizing our emotions and applying logic to not letting it take control over our decision making abilities.
Alone thinking/pondering
If we are offended by someone we have a delayed anger phase. We will make light of the situation at the moment but after thinking we will began to feel anger and so it builds up until we can't suppress that anger anymore.
Frank has a friendly way of explaining everything
As an ENTJ, my feelings are so deep, that you'd have to drill through earth to actually find them.
In short, do not try to find them. Abort mission.
Haha 😄
idk i think entj have care for you just make sure you do what you should need then they will be ok with you xD -intp
Lol, I tell my husband that he can do whatever he wants, as long as he doesn't get in my way 😂 entj female
xxFP on the bed: "This feeling is so important to me, that's why I can't move it"
“Don’t let it pile up” is simultaneously the best advice I’m given and the most unfollowed advice I’m given when it comes to emotion.
I'm ISTP. It really is like that. Emotions only felt real if I try to talk about it with someone.
It surprises me how deeply you seem to understand the different types.
Enfp here and I got an INFP friend just an year ago, I never shared my true emotions with anyone but ever since I've met her, it's just that everything gets out of my mouth, the personalities click so much that I really want to share. But I only share when I actually figure out what I was feeling. If I was hurt I'd share once the thing stops hurting me.
Same story with the INFP friend, except I do share as I'm hurting in the process
As an ENTJ, once I started giving space to my Fi to breath I was able to find some peace of mind and came in terms with myself in differents part of my life. I like to say ''I used to want an empire, now I only want a bass. I've been humbled'' Hahaha. It gives a whole new perspective to things and to whatever plans I am making. Still pretty anoying to have it most of the times, but you gotta let it shine once in a while!
I’m so glad you’ve been going over cognitive functions; it’s really helping me as a writer to get into the heads of my characters!
Hi FJ, ENFP here, I think that of late I've realised that a lot of my feelings are universal, some of which I thought were just 'my' feelings, when I think about how this was possible in the first place I feel that for some reason there's a disconnect, an accute sense of individuality and inability to see another person as able to relate to me or vice versa, so there was no point to sharing feelings. Everytime i did i felt like it was pointless as none understands, not that it is true, just that it felt that way.
This is so spot on! I'm an ENFP, and since I was a kid, I always get pretty withdrawn when I'm feeling my feelings (to the point that I wondered if I'm introverted). I just like to write down how I'm feeling alone and think about it until I feel better. Including other people in that process feels so clunky to me? Because then I have to pay more attention to what others are feeling ABOUT my feelings instead of just paying attention to my own feelings, if that makes sense. I guess it's a little hypocritical because I'm the emotional support friend who's always ready to listen, but I rarely open up about my feelings until after I've processed them alone
Are you me? Thank you. :')
Because then I have to pay more attention to what others are feeling ABOUT my feelings instead of just paying attention to my own feelings, if that makes sense.
As a fellow ENFP, this makes total sense.
It's not hypocritical, unless you are making them open up when they want to process it alone. You are giving them what they need and you should get what you need, too.
Makes sense why I open up only to people whose feelings I don't need to worry about because we're so similar and because they do the same thing with me 😂
ENFJ here! I spent so much time paying attention if everyone was alright that only now I'm learning how to recognize and validate my own emotions...? It usually came all rushing in after school so I didn't understand exactly what I was feeling... Those mixed feelings only made the process harder-
I'm ENTJ and this perfectly explains why I now deal with my feelings bit by bit, rather than waiting for them to explode into regrettable decisions!
Wait, you are an ENTJ and have human feelings? You are not a robot? ;-P
As an INTJ I think, that I just know a few go to emotions very well... some that are fairly simple to detect, like excitement and anger. But others are complicated, like general sadness or lingering frustration for example. I don't like how thinking them through slows me down... and the result is not important most of the time anyway, 'cause they'll pass after a while... and I've got things to do. And I don't know if it's just me, but I don't mind shoving some feelings away. It is not unhealthy if you genuinely don't care. It's just practical.
I hope this message is received. As a seemingly more mature INTJ, emotions need to be addressed, or they are going to arrive unexpectedly. In order to gain control of them, you must feel them. It is arduous and tiring process, but necessary.
As an INTJ, I can confirm this. Emotions are okay until they slow us down so shoving them away or removing ourselves from situations that trigger them seems practical. However as time goes by, you realize that when you shove them away, they don't really go away, they are still there. What's worse is that they resurface in the ugliest forms, so yeah addressing them is really a must to increase our efficiency.
As an INTJ, I agree with the above comments. As someone who did the exact same thing, believe me they will come out. The worst part is, you won’t get to decide when or where this outburst happens. You’re a human, not a robot.
Conversely, if you deflect processing emotions on a whim for the sake of practicality, then how hard could it be?
I usually try to pinpoint what I’m feeling, like the internal sensation. I take time to really feel the emotion and put it into words to the best of my ability. Then I think about why I could be feeling that way. After that it’s up to you with what you do next.
This way, you can be productive in life whilst not embodying a ticking emotional bomb.
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ISFP here, I love storytelling so explaining my emotions in a relatable, funny, and accurate way is really appealing to me. Using it as a way to connect and putting on a show helps me get out of any spirals and view my emotions in a more positive lens. Even if it all happens in my brain lol. There’s an imaginary therapist living rent free in my head. 10/10 would recommend for fellow broke ppl.
I'm an ENFJ and I recognize that enormous need to share my feelings with others, but at the same time, I don't trust many people with my feelings and vulnerability, because I was bullied as a kid. So that's confusing and it feels limiting.
Yeah i do understand what do you mean but don't overthink about it you will be able to find someone who you will trust your feelings with so soon. .... [hopefully that day will come for you...]
Fellow ENFJ here 😊
This was actually very helpful to me, James. As an ENTP, I do notice that I understand my feelings better once I speak about them with a friend/friends. 🙏 Thanks for coming through!
I enjoy your offerings. I am an INTP and I do not like to externally express my feelings, or talk about them. When I was younger I didn't know how to deal with feelings but as I have matured I have realized that I can process my feelings and give myself permission to feel, realizing that feelings are transitory and they are not necessarily who I am but what I'm experiencing. I've also realized that I I'm not the slave to my feelings and I do not have to being miserable or upset or overly excited. It is important for me to experience but to remember that I am not that experience but I am experiencing that experience and observing that experience and using that experience to understand more about life as a human. It has really helped me to realize this, and also to realize this in relating to others. My daughter is an ENFJ and she loves to talk about her feelings. At first this was uncomfortable to me and I tried to help her resolve the situation for which she was upset. But I realized that she needed to express her feelings to come to resolution,....after experiencing resistance to my desire to help her resolve the situation. What she needed was to talk and to have me listen and validate her, as a person, who was experiencing internal conflict. This involves me going to and accessing emotions on what I call a heart level, that also integrated, let's say, thinking, with feeling on the Heart level,.... I was then willing to hear her without expressing my own opinions, hearing and validating her in dealing with and processing her inner conflict. The thing I love about being an INTP at this point in life, is that I can, through a maturing process, and learning and observing, now integrate feelings with an expanded rational and logical approach, that is more inclusive. By observing, I can understand better and come to some resolution. Instead of painful,....now my experiences are more interesting and intriguing in learning how to synthesize and integrate this Human Experience with my tendency to analyze and be more like a computer. People felt that I was cold and rejecting of their feelings. Yes, I felt misunderstood also. As I realized that I could use my T faculty to understand, others, and myself, I could thus integrate T and F, using T in it's ability to synthesize.
Whenever I can get my ISTP husband to simply say "I feel upset" I consider it an absolute win.
It's the little things in life honestly. Aa an ISTP my ENFP now fiance started our relationship by trying to take a crowbar to my emotional safe, the first years were the roughest.
@@CMDRZero01 Do you wish they had gone slower? I ask because I have an ISTP (I think) friend who I want to understand better.
@davidephrat9230
It's a slow process. Don't expect them to just open up with a flood of emotions and feelings. It's not going to happen. They are more than likely very guarded in general, and it's going to surprise you how someone that generally comes off as cool headed and a straight shooter is the most secretive and concealed person you know when it comes to their past or emotions.
But as trust is built, you'll get insight. It won't be this huge and deeply emotional showing. It's going to be a story here, an anecdote there, little puzzle pieces that will build a full picture.
!!!!warning!!!!
If this ISTP is a guy you're in for a rough time. You can't force anything and all feelings and emotions are treated as enemies, especially if we're being asked about them. Take what they give you graciously and understand that they are letting you in, it's just a process. And don't be discouraged when and or if you find out that this amazing person isn't as deep as you had hoped for. My now wife made the mistake of projecting her fantasies on to me and had to learn it's not my fault I'm not that person.
ISTJ here: as long as my emotions are kept in my head I feel safe and sound, but as soon as someone asks me if I'm okay, or anything else to do with my emotions, I feel so awkward and uncomfortable. Especially when feelers try to pry me open and I'm like, "what is there even to see??"
Seeing people freak out and cry is ultimate torture. 😭
I am also an ISTJ and I feel the same way, it is the WORST when people try to pry it out of me. And like you said I also like to keep my emotions in my head
@@HI-zl7hw The internal pain when people force you to speak your emotions.
Another ISTJ, I'll talk about how I'm feeling with my friends, but to express it to everyone else, it takes a lot. Although some emotions will always stay within me, like anxiety or sadness, things like anger and happiness I'll express freely
@@missgreen2784 they can force? Who? I'd just tell I don't know
@@kormannn1 Not exactly force, but they try really hard to make me say something, anything, about how I'm feeling. Usually I have literally nothing to say, so it can be frustrating.
My bf does not want to take the tests and doesn't really get into psychology. So I've been trying to figure out his personality type. This video helped me narrow it down to either ISTP or INTP. Thank you, FJ!
Hmmm..same... My bf isnt really into this....abit frustrating for me xD thinking it could be ISTP or INTP too
as an istp we have strong emotions but we don't react when/how people expect and it upsets them. we can appear cold and apathetic and quite frankly sometimes we are, but we do care. generally only for a small circle of people
Exactly right. I do have strong emotions, but if you try to provoke them or pull them from me you won’t get the reaction you want because I won’t allow myself to give you want you want. If that makes sense? If somebody wants me to feel sorry, or guilty (and I might feel exactly that way, often I don’t though) you can guarantee I will be deliberately stone cold. That being said, with a very select few, four people I can think of from the top of my head, I care so much about them.
I had to explain that to my now fiance one. "I'm standing here inside a gated ring. Outside this ring are multiple expanding rings each with their own gates. I control how close people can get and the closer you get the more I care. So when I tell you you're by my side, understand that I have blood family at least 4 rings out and you're closer."
This fits me to a T. I bottle everything inside in the moment and then I bawl my eyes out when I'm alone. No wonder people can't tell whether I care about them or not, because I always try to stay logical and emotionless within the moment.
The funniest part is when you say "Let's see if UA-cam would like to show another commercial", and then no commercial starts and after a second you say "Thanks for storing through that." LOL! I don't even have ad blocking on my device.
Who else remembers frank from the personal infj vids, he’s grown his platform so much honestly even though I wanna be selfish and say “GIVE US MORE INFJ ADVICE”, really GOOD JOB FRANK!! Thanks yous🥺💟
As an INTP and an autistic person I would recommend getting interested in human psychology and sociology. Just use analysis, memory and ability to learn to understand how humans think and function. Learn how the brain works, how emotions work on the neurological level, where they come from in different people and how they affect them. It usually comes down to the basic psychological needs and how different people try to meet them. On deeper levels Myers-brigg is a good tool to understand It. When you learn It on a one-person level You can add social dynamics on both big and small scale and soon It all will start to fit. It's true that It seems like a lot of work but It's interesting and for INTP's It's what matters, I think. Being undiagnosed as autistic most of my life and trying to adapt It was a natural way of masking developed since childhood but now It's both a tool and an interest to me. Just remember to keep in mind that other people have different priorities and ways of interacting with the world and processing information, It's the key to communication. Even If You don't want to fit in anymore, It's good to understand yourself and surroundings. I think that an INTP can adapt their introverted thinking to meet the role of extroverted and introverted feeling, at least when interacting with people they know well and to deal with their own emotions, which to most of us seems to be the priority considering our lowered social needs and a preferance to interact with smaller groups of people. Not always, but very often. Also, accept Your own emotions and a fact that they affect You. They do. You are a human. It's an objective fact. Deal with It. ☕
hey, I'm undiagnosed autistic and I (INFJ) love studying sociology and psyc as well!
Other peoples' emotion's? Yeah they're easy to understand.
But *my* emotions? Nah, no clue how to process those, they aren't important anyways, lol
Let me guess, INTP.
@@ashinjoy9368 in the opposite side, INTPs can deal with their emotions better than others emotions, this is the Fe inferior
@@lujinzaki2000 oh ok
I'm INFJ :)
@@breeeeeaaathofthewild boom! I guessed it!!!!😂😂😂 same here
As an ENTP, I feel like I don't understand my feelings until they come out in my behavior, and then after they do, I look back on the situation and empathize with my past self and figure myself out as if I was a different person. This lets me use Fe and Ne to figure out myself in the same way I do with other people, and then process that and figure out what to do with it.
I am an ISTP yet i do have a profound sense of sensing and talking about emotions. I guess i got this from having like a lot of experiences when I was a teenager or when I was young when life exposed me early on about this. Thanks for giving insight for us IPs 👌
as an INFP with anxiety and depression ...i hate dealing with emotions but i’m used to it so it’s not too bad unless my mental health plummet...angst fanfic help a lot
@carinyaa those are the best
ISTP, how I would process emotions would be I simply just do it in private. I do not allow my emotions to be seen by any other human being that knows me off screen.
IK that cause I have an ISTP IK very well XD
Yeah this sounds like an ISTP, my brother's an ISTP.
ISTP here. I feel you. At times, the feelings are overwhelming and when I share it, I feel like I lost my cool for talking about emotions. 😬
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I have never in my life sounded more like and unhinged lunatic or sociopath than when my fiance trys to get to to explain my emotions.
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“Interesting” is just the word that I say when I feel something, so u better stop reading my mind
-INTJ
I need to talk it out because often I don't know why I am feeling what I am feeling. Talking it out helps to clarify it.
A good piece of advice for prayer that I heard was to begin by honestly acknowledging your thoughts, feelings and desires in the present moment, as you begin the prayer. As an ISTP I found it incredibly satisfying to express my honest feelings in prayer, and they were usually varied and conflicted.
i’m scared. i’ve never related to something so much in my entire life. I’m ALWAYS looking for things to describe and relate myself (ps: i’m a ENTP) and when i find it it’s just mind blowing. Thank you so much for this videos, they’re really helping me out on knowing myself.
ps pt2: Through the intire video i felt the urge to run and tell my friend about how relatable this was for me... and yes, i was blaming myself through the intire feeling.
12:17 as an ENFJ who is also a 5 on the enneagram (aka the INTJ equivalent of the enneagram), I find that this is one of the reasons I've struggled a lot with the personality I have because I am not very open about my emotions at all, I mostly express them with as little effort as I can manage and hardly EVER talk about them. I also love people and get super lonely but because of the two-faced personality I have I haven't managed to find a healthy balance whatsoever also due to my health problems. Man this comment turned out longer than I thought, maybe I do sometimes talk about my emotions but only in spaces I feel are very safe and where I can be understood, like here on this channel
If emotions are data, then you simply create a new folder eg "Garbage", put them in and make the folder unreadable. Also make sure there are no pets, kids or weak and fragile creatures around when the folder becomes too big and you activate Hulk mode to delete some of the content. It's not that we give a damn about weak and fragile things, but there are laws which protect them nowdays and you might get into trouble.
INTJ advice.
That's literally how I processed my trauma (didn't know it was trauma back then), I visualised a box in my head to put that shit, closed it and never looked back. It doesn't always work, but 🙃
True ENTP here
ESTJ here.
"Circumvent the feeling."
This is the life motto I didn't know I had.
Thank you, Frank James.
ENFP here, this helped me understand introverted feeling, because people think I’m open with my emotions but it’s hard for me to even really know what I’m feeling sometimes!
I get anxiety when things get emotional (I literally don't feel good, or I feel sick?)... that's why I avoid those situations at all cost... and I'm never gonna stop :) -istp
as an ISTP i can agree with that, we don't like to deal with emotions.
Pretty much, but sometimes I realize that it’s getting in my way to do things, so I occasionally stop to understand it
@@guilhermefonsecaribeiro1561 I often feel that other people's emotions are getting in my way of getting stuff done.
INTP here...
This is how I process my emotions:
Writing- When I feel down or weird, I start writing what I'm thinking at the time. It gives me the opportunity to process everything from every angle and then I come up with a conclusion, why am I feeling like this, how to make it stop and do I want to make it stop, etc.
Thinking it over- It's the same as writing but more scattered. Because I can't make sense of anything when I'm feeling emotional. But I kind of try to distance myself from those feelings and think rationally.
Ex. One time I was getting really angry for no reason and snapped at my mom and immediately regretted doing so. So I stopped for a minute and realised that I was very very hungry at the time and that was affecting my emotions... Got a snack and apologized while explaining why I was angry and problem solved 😅
But sometimes I get stumped at things. Like this one time I failed to get the required score for my college entrance exam and realised I won't be going to my dream college, I started looking for different career opportunities instead of looking at different colleges offering the same course and was very depressed 😔
I've watched the whole educational playlist ( and noted some things), I FEEL SO EDUCATED! Please don't stop making these, FJ. 🥺❤️
Thank you for this. I am going through something difficult. Thank you for saying it’s okay to feel whatever it is you’re feeling and you don’t have to judge yourself for it.
Thinkers prefer 82%thinking and 18%feeling but that 18% is very strong
Idk if this is all ISFJs but I process very much internally. I spend a lot of time thinking through my emotions and work them out in my head. I usually have a hard time expressing them out loud and to others, especially if I’m still processing
Yes! I’m an ISFJ and I’m exactly the same lol, I rarely express myself because I don’t know how to.
Same, especially when I feel too many emotions at once.
Releatable 100% Usually I am processing what I am feeling, and sometimes it makes me overthink too much ;w;
ENTP here and do the same, problem with the way it was presented on this video, is that functions never work in a vacuum, they work in an axis. Fe works in tandem with Ti, and if you have both functions in the middle, they will be working together almost all the time, in real time. So both of us, who have Fe and Ti in the middle. We will constantly process Fe through Ti, and only Fe doms will work the way Frank described it. That is why IxFJs are usually described as logical feelers, because yes you prefer feeling over thinking, but not by much. And same goes for ExTPs.
Now it is different for IxTjs and ExFPs, because Te and Fi works differently, they will still work in tandem with one another, but in their case the anchor for emotional processing will be Fi, while for us it will be Ti. Because even when the extroverted function is the dominant, in its axis the introverted one will work as the anchor for introspection. So for you, even if you have Fe higher than Ti in your stack, Ti is still your anchor to process things introspectively.
i express my thoughts too slowly for people, finally it's better with my husband...but he will still interject where he thinks i'm going with the conversation, i used to overly defend the gaslighting statement, i'm older now and i calmly say, you interrupted, you made up my position, can i finish. I don't know how to articulate my thoughts faster, I will comment on both sides, and the first side is what my extrovert husband and son launch from.